I stopped talking, and they moved on to someone else. They dont miss me. Im the good luck Chuck. I help them heal, build their self confidence, make them feel good about their looks. They get hit on, we break up, they date new person and im cut out forever. Its just the way it is.
That's harsh and I'm sorry you went through that. And no, not all relationships are that way. Anyway s tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. Just to clarify, you doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html but looking at your situation, I suggest to consider moving on from this. Take care!
Make it a personal challenge of yours to overcome, especially at times like these when you both really could benefit to some quiet time apart. This can naturally happen if you find other important things to keep busy on. This vid may help, too: ua-cam.com/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/v-deo.html Best of luck!
@BradBrowning it stems from my PTSD and I can honestly say I have gotten better relationships advice from your videos than years in therapy. You helped me learn that i have an anxious attachment, and I'm working on that. I'm on my 10th of no contact (again). The longer I'm in no contact, the better I feel. I'm working on a novel and going to the gym 3 times a week when it used to be none. You're helping people find themselves again. Thank you
Me too. That's why I got blocked. Oh well. I wish her well. Hopefully one day she will unblock me so I can apologize. I don't even want to get back together. I just want to apologize.
Same with me,but when if you pull your energy and invest in yourself.I tried no contact for 2 months,it was a struggle every minute but to tell you,even how stubborn he is,he will come back rushing.
Guys, I just had a break up after a two year healthy relationship. I have been breaking the no contact rule severally but 4 months into the break-up I have found my purpose, I have done some serious introspection to my life, and I have also come to the realization she wasn't that special. (I had several attempted suicides during the shock, and sorrow stage I deeply loved her). I'm actually ready to date again
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I’m in the same boat. We were together for 5 years. Broke up and she moved out of state but we stayed friends. After 9 months I went to visit her for her birthday. After the visit I regretting leaving her and we actually started to communicate a little bit on how we were feeling before the breakup. I started trying to talk to her more but after a month she tells me she’s got a date with a guy she’s been friends with for the last few months. I kind of panicked and poured my heart out to her telling her all my regrets and how much I love her. But she just said she’s finally starting to feel like herself again and still trying to figure it out but that we need space. She hasn’t talked to me for a week now. Not sure if I should reach out after a month or just wait longer than that till she responds. She just started to date this guy and he’s been playing the long game but with the holidays coming up I’m worried he’ll start to move fast and lock her down. I don’t want to lose her.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
She may surprise you & come back to you. Just coz she's met someone else it doesn't mean it's gonna work out. The grass isn't always greener. Just try & remain friends & tell her that you'd like to stay friends. You'd rather be friends with her than nothing atall. But don't bug her, give her space & try & get on with your life (easier said than done I know, been there & still going through it) but don't stop living in hope. Don't give up. Improve on yourself, whether that's getting fitter, losing weight, improving your sexual technique, taking up a new hobby/interest, travelling etc. Do what you wanna do now you have more time. Meet new & interesting people. Join clubs that interest you. Distract yourself so you're not thinking about her every waking moment. Once she knows you're OK without her, it'll make her sit up & notice & she may start to reconnect. I wish you all the luck in the world. Don't give up.😘🤗❤️
Same. 18months relationship and he monkey branched to anther girl. And they together 5 months now. I couldn’t eat, sleep, cried all day, I can’t live without him right.. so I was begging, gave him time I did everything I can but he really cold to me now. No contact only 9days it feels like 9months. Idk if i can do this over 30 days with this pain.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I've been through that. She eventually moved on. And after about 7 months I moved on. I felt great after that. Was grateful for the memories. And found new purpose in life. Realized there's many other interesting people out there to meet. Eventually my ex unblocked me to wish me for Xmas then we made amends and became friends. And sometimes that's the best thing. We all have to move on. But it's unnecessary to have animosity.
I was always the needy clingy one. I tend to make it 3 weeks then I start to miss him. We broke up and started talking again after a year apart. This last time he told me he loved me haha but couldn't commit to me and I didn't really want to share so I told him to go be happy. It appears he's already working on someone new. I guess what I learned from all this is if they leave your life once just be done. It's not worth reopening the wound once you started to heal. I spent so much time hoping he would come back and after a year he did only to break my heart again. 😢❤
Time can be your ally or it can be a hindrance. But in your particular case, the fact that he's entertaining someone else even after a lot of time away from you is a huge red flag you best not ignore next time. Anyway yes, I would agree. Move on from this as you deserve someone better.
Here I am watching this videos again! This guy helped me years ago like 14 years ago! Get an X back! But now I’m in a new relationship that has recently broken up, and I waunt her back!
Hi, welcome back! Glad I've helped. What happened this time? Watch my other vids to help you out and/or apply the same principles from my Ex Factor Guide. If you haven't gotten your copy yet, here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck, man!
My ex and I have a house together and still live with each other she said she’s been grieving the break up for months now. So she is upset but not like I am cause I thought we were just going through a bad rough patch but thought we woood get through it. She said she wants me to take more initiative and do what a man Is suppose to do. So I’ve been trying to do whatever I gotta do around the house to show her I can be the man she needs me to be. I can see in her eyes when I tell her I wanna be better she wants to believe me but she wishes I did it a few months ago and says this is a slap in the face and why now the change since she’s done. But i can’t give up on our life and family together I know I can be a better man for her and make her happy. I was neglecting her and was blind but things been a huge wake up call
It's a risk because depending on how long you've been acting that way towards her, she may not be wanting to give you another chance. I've coached a few clients who've been in a really rough patch with their ex and while some have managed to get back together, others haven't. Hire me as your coach so I can take a closer look at your situation and what's really going on, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad, I’m 61 years old and have been through a plethora of relationships and I can tell you a good looking woman will be dating somebody within two weeks and probably has one or several guys she is communicating with while she is with you. Your advice may work for average to low value women but high-value women you will never see them again except if they want something, not to be back with you.
Hi, thanks for dropping by. In my 15 years as a relationship coach, I can attest that looks are not everything. Sure, it helps but a person of high value will also be looking at other aspects and is not always superficial because they know looks fade and when that happens, they could be back to square one if they put great emphasis on that.
After I broke up with my boyfriend during my 2-month relationship and he blocked me everywhere, I went to him and made up with him again, but it was short-lived. After about a week, he blocked me everywhere again, and this time I begged him, but it didn't help. I can't reach him now, but I'm still very much in love, I don't know what to do. 😔😔😔
Begging never helps. But are you saying you dumped him first? If so, what was your reason? This vid may still apply to your situation: ua-cam.com/video/Y5jwPaxmJUM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning No i had 2 broke ups with my boyfriend.At first he blocked me in every social media saying ''he wanted a simple relationship and i was too clingy and needy'' then i cannot find a way to reach him then i went to his office and said ''please can we try once more i missed you so much''We made up that day. Then week after he texted me saying once more again he wants to break up and never wants to see me face to face ,then blocked me from everysocial media again.Now i am waiting with patience during no contact rule.I feel like he is with another woman 😑
You can take a break for a bit. This is for your own good, though. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html Good luck!
she told me to leave her alone haven't said nothing for long time 11.5 years gone oh well she is in a happy better place she dont care or miss me so oh well still love watching your videos
Hey man, thanks for the support but sorry to hear you're going through this. 11 years is a long time to be spending with someone for it not to be significant, so what happened and what were the issue/s in your relationship? I suggest you start with this to give you an overview or condensed version on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html but you're also welcome to get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy or sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
It could be due to a lot of factors ranging from genuine interest to him trying to get an ego boost. I can't predict without knowing more about your situation. There's also the possibility that he could be trying to be friends with you right after the breakup. If that's the case, apply the tips from this vid: ua-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/v-deo.html
Some of the so called dating coaches are saying you have to make allowances for the poor avoidants because they probably won't reach out regardless of whether they miss you. Therefore, you will probably be needing to do the reaching out. This advice makes me mad. When do they ever face the consequences?
As a general rule, the one who wants to give it one last shot does the reaching out. The positive side of this is it, for one, it allows the dumpee get rid of the what-ifs down the line. Like the saying goes from one philosopher: it's better to tried and have lost than never to have tried at all! You have nothing to lose in reaching out anyways. As to avoidants, that is how they operate and they do need therapy and would need someone who truly understands them and has the patience to see it through because they are tough to deal with. Discussed that further here: ua-cam.com/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/v-deo.html
My ex broke up with me because she’s emotionally immature and I called her out on it. It’s been a week and when she said she was breaking up I said ok then I’m done too. I’m in no contact as of a week. Since then she has blocked me and then deactivated her accounts then reactived them to unblocking me on everything except WhatsApp. We work together and I’ve been quiet there too. I don’t plan on ever contacting her again. She broke it off and has been threatening that for a month. She got what she wanted. A life without me
I see. Some people are better off apart. If things hadn't been working out with you two especially if it was a short-term relationship (less than six months), then it's best to move on from this for good and find someone more compatible. Take care!
She broke up with me just 4 days ago which was a 5 years relationship . We were so happy even though it’s a long distance relationship. Small fights and problems would occur here and there which we used to sort out easily and get together again, but never went this worse like ever due to some wrong manipulations from people around her. So she broke up with me. And now that space is filled by another guy. She’s trying to hold him so strong and be with him. I can’t remain quiet. I’m so hurt and so desperate now. I can’t do my regular chores and concentrate on anything. I’ve been blocked in all the social media apps and I have no any other choice to contact her. I really miss her so badly. I need her back with me. But I don’t know what to do right now. 😢😢😭😭
Sorry to hear that. The distance has clearly taken its toll here and your ex could be rebounding and the other person is providing the physical companionship which you couldn't offer at the moment. However, you should not, under any circumstances, wait to find out whether their relationship works out or not. Focus on yourself instead and love yourself first. Watch and apply the pointers here, too: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However if you want to do something because you firmly believe there's still a chance between you two. but not sure how to go about it, then this is where I come in. Sign up for my coaching program so I get to know more about your situation and therefore be in a more competent position to advise accordingly, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I’m sorry to hear that brother. Trust me when I say I know exactly how you feel. It’s this process where you will learn how to adapt to such a traumatic experience and grow. You’ll be wiser, thoughtful, and stronger in a mental sense…perhaps even stronger on a physical level if you decide to workout. You must learn how to build new habits starting forward and try to distract yourself from her. I promise you, not only is this a healthier decision for your mental sake, but you might even attract a better lady which was my case exactly. Keep it strong brother :) ❤️
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My ex as not spoke to me for a month and said its over. He blockex me off one account but not on the other I sent him text messages about 5 weeks ago on the account that I am not blocked on And he's not even looked at them we where together for 7 years x
My gf left me for second time and get into a new relationship just 15 days after break up and we were together for 2 years....she seems very happy in her new relationship and idk what to do its killing me everyday 😞
When ppl go into a relationship right away its bc they cant handle being alone. And if she left you for the 2nd time then shes using you cause if she comes back again shell love you a 3rd time. I promise if you go silent, and not reply to her itll drive her completely insane. Let her know what its like to live without you
In this case, wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
You're not alone. Most people who are emotionally invested tend to do mistakes but this is what my channel is about, to hopefully help bring balance back to the mistakes. Anyway redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Best of luck!
No this is only your perspective.....no one can decide that they will never come.....if you rebuild your connnection then they were surely attracted....you have understand the dynamics of breakup....dont worry....stay motivated
If you two really aren't compatible anymore or is predominantly negative to a point where you've grown apart, then stop wasting your time. It may be best to be free of this. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
If a woman dump you they never miss you, They move on fast. They don`t care. My experience. I had a gf. 50 yo. We had a very lovely relationship. One day she asked would we marry. I said I`m not ready. Then she just disappeared. Did not answer etc Later she wrote that she had met a man who agreed to marry her. So they did. Several years later I contacted her. And it appeared she did not know anything about me. We live in te same district but I never met her again. She was NEVER interested in my life after dumping me.
A breakup does change things and only a minority stay friends afterwards. In your case, it looks like you two aren't on the same page when it comes to the future. She's looking to marry and you aren't ready, so you two simply aren't a match. Consider moving on from this. Take care!
Unless he thought the breakup was a mistake and he's asking to get back together, it's best to focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
The no contact rule wouldn't be as potent compared to when it's applied immediately. Anyway this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/gSKVGwmD73U/v-deo.html
The 30-day no contact rule is named that way for a reason. It's not supposed to go way past the 30-day period if your aim is still to try to win your ex back. So let me clarify: you can reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Not really sure why you waited 90 days instead of 30. Anyway you can actually reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
We were in a relationship for only 6 months, and during the first 3 months, we had a lot of fun together. However, due to some personal reasons, we had to limit our contact for the following three months. She asked me to wait until everything got better, but just a few days ago, she told me she lost feelings for me. I pleaded with her the day after our breakup, asking for one last chance, but she said she didn't want to feel forced into it. She lost her feelings suddenly for no reason, I did everything I could in our relationship!! We've planned to meet for a movie in 12 days to discuss what to do about our future together. Brad, I'm really struggling with this. Can you please help me figure out what to do?
Maybe you've done too much? Giving and showing her love is good, but if you do it way too much and she's barely reciprocating, it's best to balance it off and back off or calm down a bit. Also communication is very important if you're supposed to be in a relationship with someone. Why did that broke down? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex recently finished with me last month. We're going to a concert on Tuesday )which we booked last year). I want to start no contact the day after. How should i act on tuesday? Should i be fun and happy to leave that memory or should I be quiet and standoffish to show im disconnected?
I have a Nervous System Disorder. My wife felt, I was needy and controlling. We have separated, and I'm currently going through "no contact". I feel like a major part of our 24 year marriage and separation. I take full responsibility for what I've done, or not done. However, she stated to another, "I'm not his backpack." I'm having a problem with how to be this High Value man, with this disability. Any advice, please . Thank you!
You can have a disability and still have a lot to offer in relationships. What happened to you two though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning , thank you tremendously for your offer. However, being new to the disabled life, I unfortunately cannot at this time. I'm truly between a rock and a hard space. Thanks again! God bless!
Hi brad! I know we shouldn’t ignore our ex when they call or text. But what should we do if they make it clear that they don’t want to get back together, but keep calling and staying in contact because they’re lonely and miss me. After hanging out having a great time as if we are dating, she says “we’re not together” (we broke up 3 months ago, and were together for almost 9 years).
You can use this to your advantage if you're confident enough to be on your own and really give your ex the space she needs. What you do is put some boundaries and prioritize yourself first and what you need during this time, which is healing and acceptance and you can't do that if your ex keeps contacting you for her own needs. If you don't set boundaries, you'll end up becoming your ex's backup plan. So I need to reiterate this: it's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon?
I had one sided love from last two years. I loved the guy. We met virtually. We met only twice in these two years. The guy was confused sometimes he showed interest and sometimes he disappeared not sure why. But he was not in relationship with anyone. We used to talk over call for hours. Yesterday i met him and he wanted to end everything. Will silence be a way to bring him back?
A long distance relationship can be too much for most people and it's particularly challenging, if not impossible to sustain it especially if there wasn't any solid foundation built. So is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Take care!
@@BradBrowning it was long distance. But he recently shifted. And he was still confused most of the time. It has been one week since i met him. And i don’t know how to make things better. Because i can feel he had feelings for me. But he never said that. And he always knew that i had feelings for him. Still he didn’t take backstep. Can you please guide me on how to make things work. And also regarding the coaching if i would be able to discuss and talk to you directly
But what if that’s why my now ex is mad at me to begin with because I ignored her when she was trying to communicate? We aren’t together but she still texts me daily.
There shouldn't have been a breakup if the issues in your relationship can be communicated over in the first place. Why didn't you do that when you were still together? But, as it is, if you've been dumped or your ex gave up, then unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
You don't go in a relationship with someone to change them. Instead, you accept them and learn to understand them on a deeper level. They can only change if they want to and seek therapy, but that's your ex's task to do.
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Coach. My ex dumped me one year ago and did no contact 6 months. After 6 months i reached out to get some advice and he politely answered for that. My friends said to me now somedays he staring at me when she looked him. He watched all other status except me. Why is that? But he never reached out to me after no contact
You both may either be really shy or ego driven. However, if you wanna take on a more active approach and figure this out once and for all, then you can actually try to reach out to your ex instead of trying to decode his behaviour, because obviously you still care after all this time? Are you both single, though? Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@BradBrowning coach I reached out to him and I told him I saw some memories of us and I'm not angry with him. I asked him is he angry with me he told me he stopped thinking about that and he has some regrets but he doesn't want to share it
I never do and i feel i just lose her. We become living together 6 months ago and for the last 3 we work at same place. Now shes decided to go and leave me, in 3 weeks shes go away. 2 weeks She brokes up with me and canceled the marriage. This broke my heart and i feel loosing my mind
Sorry to hear that. Spouses getting cold feet are more common than you think. Just try to chill and give her the space she needs, yeah? How long have things been rocky and what are the issues in your relationship though? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
That's not good. Never wait around for anyone. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/v-deo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
He asked me if I’m seeing someone now, I asked why he asked and he said he is interested. This is after few months NC. He also said he wanted to come see me. And this was on FaceTime
I feel you and I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. A breakup doesn't just affect people on an emotional level but on a mental and sometimes, on a physical aspect too. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Hey Brad. Me and my ex had a long distance relationship. We have known eachother for Almost 2 years. We have Planned to Meet up a few times she lives 3 hours from me. We have broke up before or stopped talking. And everytime after a period of time she has reached out to me and Wanted to work things out. This time we broke up because we argued sometimes. How do you thing this Will work with no contact?
It'll work to clear your minds and decide if it's really worth continuing this kind of dynamic. However, a long distance relationship requires a solid foundation for it to work, not to mention an enormous amount of trust with each other. The former always precedes the latter. Fighting, when you’re already miles away from each other doesn’t help, especially if it happens frequently. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
My ex-girlfriend unfriended me on Facebook this week randomly. But she was watching like all my stories. I unfollowed her but wasn’t going to remove her. Is it because she was missing me a lot that she did that? Can I still get her back?
She could be trying to get less of you but that's not really reveal her true feelings. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning Yeah I really don’t know. I’ve been doing no contact and we haven’t been talking. It just felt random. I wasn’t bothering her. I have seen that video. She’s not dating or in a rebound relationship. She’s still single. I’ve been waiting for her to reach out. I feel like she was curious and thinking about me because she as watching like all my stories. I know it usually takes 3 to 4 months for an ex to reach out and feel diffeent about their decision. And I have taken that quiz before and my email is already registered in your system. So it won’t let me take it again.
Hi! Sadly, no. The best you can do is live your best life. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html Is it possible you're blocked or put on spam on his email too? But in most cases where an ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed (i.e: more than 6 months), then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it's likely over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html
How do i do 30 days when shes 12 weeks pregnant with my child and isnt sure what she feels anymore... we have baby appointments so how do i do no contact
You don't, as your case is one of the exceptions to the no contact rule. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Hi after 4 weeks of no contact i contacted my ex. And the contact was quite positive and i was abled to let her laugh multiple times on the chat. After a few days of doing this i aaked her to meetup and she agreed. Shortly after she even sent me a needy text message in the night. But after that she became more distanced and takes a lot of time to reply. She told me that she wasnt able to meetup at the date we arranged and asked for another date. Now i try to find a new date but she is not really incorporating with it. What should i do from now on?
Sorry to say. You messed up reaching out. And you messed up trying to rescheduled after she canceled. This doesn’t mean the interaction wasn’t positive. But she left you. The dumper has to reach out to you. They have to do the work. The more you pull, the further they go away. If she wants to hang out with you, she will put the effort in. She will either reach out or not. If she doesn’t, you should already be moving on. Forget her. Grow yourself. If she does, keep it short and play it cool. Like you would talk to anyone. Keep your feelings unknown. The girl needs to do most the pulling in relationships anyway. Start NC again. And DO NOT REACH OUT. Good luck.
Try to chill, man. If you appear too eager, that will turn your ex off but if you appear indifferent, she will be discouraged. So try to find a balance, yeah? Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Sorry to hear that. I suggest you start with this to give you an overview on how to go about this: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Can this still work after a month of being in contact? Edit: After breakup there was a pause for two weeks and after that we tried to be friends but I broke down a tried to get her back (and she obviously refused me and asked to stop)
It's your best bet to cut off contact and give each other space. Going your way and forcing things to work when they're clearly not working will only alienate your ex further. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
I adjusted the advice in your various videos to my situation, but I generally did two weeks of no contact, then two weeks of begging essentially because I didn't really have a plan back then. Then I did like 27 ish days of no contact except for giving each other our stuff back and so on. After that she texted me she missed me, we met up and got back together. It may not work for everyone, but it worked for me. Thanks for your part.
Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago because he wanted to “have a break and feel independence” but I refused to have my life on pause for him. He was really sad and moved out and now we’re on this break/breakup. We’re still friends and we text but I’ve been trying to be cold. The thing is we have a lot mutual friends (6 years together!) and we still go to the same coworking space on weekdays. How can I leverage this situation to my advantage if I want him to crawl back to me? Thank you
If he's been feeling unsure about the relationship, taking a break was a good call. You may find more helpful stuff on this vid, too: ua-cam.com/video/QPJprJuf-iU/v-deo.html
Help my ex we were together for over a year she went back to her ex so maybe I was th me rebound she asked to be exclusive and I did not want that I care much for her she has texted me from her mother phone called and said she need help I went to find she did not want anything I told her I do not want a friendship she called but now nothing I want to keep up no contact I know Monday we have the same friend she suppose to be at a cookout what to do I just do not want anything I feel like she lied to me about so much
Is she still with her ex now? I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
Cutting off contact is still your best bet because continuing to push it is only guaranteed to take you nowhere. So cut off contact but consider letting go because your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
Hi Brad me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago now, I was thinking to message her in another 2 weeks after the no contact phase and tell her I’ve got tickets for a football match she’s always wanted to go to watch them with her son, my friend sorts me tickets for cheap and she knows this so I thought i would say something like “Hiya hope everything’s good with you, my mates sorted me 2 tickets for the United game but I can’t make it so I thought of you and Josh, do you want them and just sort me the money whenever you can? X” Let me know your thoughts I thought it would be something thoughtful to offer for her to break the ice, she’s always wanted to go to the game with her son let me know
Just wait until you reach the 30-day period before contacting and yes, that's a good message. Be careful of being too nice though. Remember she's your ex and not your girlfriend anymore but if you feel this is something you must do, then just make it clear whether those tickets are a gift or something she has to pay back at a later date. But also be prepared for the possibility to never get the money back. I'm only emphasizing this bit because I've seen cases where folks use that kind of scenario as an excuse to maintain contact with an ex when the ex is barely reciprocating the message. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/xolqJVty-PA/v-deo.html You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning the game is on Wednesday it’s the last game of the season so I won’t be able to get any more if I don’t tell her on Tuesday, which will be just over 3 weeks of no contact, I recall you said if the relationship was a bit shorter term then 3 weeks could be enough? We were together for 4 months, I wouldn’t mind waiting the full 30 days but this is a genuine reason to break the ice and contact her, if I don’t ask her about the tickets Tuesday then I won’t get the chance to do it again… what are your thoughts
In general, the more mistakes you do, the more you chip away your chances of ever fixing the relationship. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Only been 2 weeks with no contact, but 2 nights ago I got a message saying she hoped I was okay, sorry for not replying to what I wrote on whatsapp (last time we exchanged messages briefly) and that she appreciated how maturely I handled it and thanked me for it, then ended the message with "just wanted to say that". To me it Felt unnecessary for her to send me a message like that, idk why she did to be honest. I replied the day after that I appreciate it, its going up and down and I hope you're doing okay too. I'm not really into chasing or playing games, but I'm also tempted to just delete the message as I don't owe her anything and I'm starting to feel more resentment towards her.
Feel free to ignore her if your emotions are running high, which is understandably so. This is why it's important to give each other space. This goes for you and your ex. So unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
i am in a possibly terrible situation, she broke up with me 4 months ago and since then we have seen each other daily bc we go to college together, share classes, and have all the same friends. i have also done all the begging and stuff for the first few weeks and i know that that wasn’t good. i have also started some deep conversations where i have asked emotional questions and apologised a lot. we both graduate next week and that worries me bc i am very easily cut off after that. she is very cold and distant with me now, however she did say that things could be fixed the day after we broke up. i scored a 68 on your quiz. what should i do now?
I was blocked by my ex 8 months ago on my birthday august 3rd for absolutely no reason at all I reached out last week and then was blocked again for no particular reason I moved on now
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 but since it's been more than 6 months, it may be time to consider moving on from this but you can also take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Take care!
What happened? If your ex is in the right age to make her own decisions that’s independent from their parents, then there may still be a chance. Otherwise, it's best to consider moving on from this, okay? I’m not quite sure why parents had to get involved in the first place. It's either you're both too young to date or it has something to do with culture. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
I revealed our secret relationship in whatsapp(shared our normal photo taken by outing)as a punishment in angry mood since she ignored to marry me.then after one oneweek I got missed call which is name of her brother.i recall that number answered but not speaking.then I just leave it. After one month I sent msg to her whatsapp number but single tick. Next what i do. Any possible she come back?
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
I'm sure you have mutual friends? Chances are if you're both still single, news about you will reach your ex, assuming it was a significant relationship. Also self improvement is mainly for yourself. And lastly, here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hello I am in no contact however my Instagram is public as I am influencer And my ex’s brother in law is following me on social media. Should i unfollow his relatives and make Instagram private?
There's really no need to do that especially since leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Don't forget to check out my other videos too, especially this: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html and/or check out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/ so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview explained in greater detail on my other channel: ua-cam.com/video/ddnp-83TzMk/v-deo.html Best of luck!
We broke up 8 months ago, and we talked after for alil while, then stop she messing with another dude 4 months later, I found out apr14 did no contact until may 6 she dms me with hi i was notified she was drinking so I waited until the morning to respond wasup. P.s. she been saying she miss, love, and care about me for months we been together for 7year
So what happened? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning I just did the 1on1 she just recently sent me a dm explaining how she feels bad about our situation. She thinks I hate her and that nvr wants to speak to her again, but days the opposite, I didn't respond because idk wat to say my b-day coming up. I was going to see if she was gunna to wish me a happy one, and then I'll respond to that she said she wants to be cordial at least and she still love and care about me and that will nvr change she said she always asking ppl about me and telling dem she miss me
So happens when you reach after 2 weeks not talking to each other and apologize and give them want they want after begging to fix things and get back together. But you apologize and wish them well in their journey in life. But they find out your talking to another woman and she message you telling you “I’m never gonna change, always gonna be the same, she doesn’t want to see me, and will find someone better? But you reach out again and they finally says it’s officially over. Then they block you.
Man, how can break up with a depressive person? I tried hard to change and was giving extremely efforts but nothing changed stayed the same and this is ruining my mental health. But, the problem is that she hurt herself.. I mean, cut arm and these thing.. She stopped, but, said that if leave will do much worse than did before and I don't wanna have that "guilty" on me. (never date a broken person)
If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex used to do the same things, but stopped over 10 years ago (we were in a relationship for 15 years), she had a HUGE drinking problem + ex-addict (like me), she was also suicidal - right around this time in 2010 she was briefly in a mental hospital due to suicide threats. She said that she would never forget that I came to visit her, because of the social stigma and because her previous boyfriend didn't want to visit her when she was in the hospital few years before that. She healed in the meantime, stopped drinking daily and uncontrollably, got a job where she was promoted, and then she dumped me after everything. All I have left is the Hepatitis C I got from her. I don't know how long you've been together, but Brad's right - you're going to end up scarred after everything.
Brad , she is saying she is starting to hate boys nowadays is it because of me ? .. she left me and said i have no intrest in boys .. but we had a relationship for 2 years ..and she wasn't like this.. is she saying this to just get over me ??
Could be anything. It could be you or could be one of her male friends or just men in general if she's shifting her sexual orientation. Have you done something to hurt or offend her? If you haven't, then it could be her way to tap out of the relationship. Unless she's discovered a newfound attraction to similar sex, your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
My partner cheated for a year. We were together for 19. He broke up with both of us ( we have a son). He was relieved when the affair blew up as he began to feel trapped there. We had intimacy issues prior to me finding out but sadly before we reconnected we discovered intense sexual passion for each other. He wanted to do no contact for 7days and see each other every Tuesday to talk. I said no because we always end up getting physical. I do love him and want to make things work but when I expressed these feelings it pushed him away. He moved a few houses down which is horrible but she also lives half a block away. I just don’t know what to do.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. This is a tough question but is he still with the other woman? Watch these first to know how to handle it: ua-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/v-deo.html
Dont bother about it. For you there shouldnt be any difference if they are watching or not. And how do you know they are not checking? There is spy apps where you are not seen watching other accounts. I found out my ex is watching me secretly. I think she wanted me to know, because she answered with pictures and signs on pictures I posted. And she is an famous artist drawing even paintings about me and selling them worlwide. But if she dont reach out, she dont miss me enough to come back. Really messed up games they play with your mind. Dont let them. ..
Start by having a life outside your relationship with your ex and since you've broken up, your interaction with your ex takes lesser priority. It's still equally important to not be too nice or be rude with your ex though. Please refer to this vid: ua-cam.com/video/xolqJVty-PA/v-deo.html Here are additional tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
It’s hard not to talk to them when you have kids. We are about to separate and I feel my life is ending. Pure devastation. I will give her space but how I not see her when I see my kids.
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
No contact is super easy for me because my ex blocked me on socials and even my number 2 days ago. We had our first disagreement and she completely melted down and ran away without even telling me we were done. We'll see if her feelings change with time but idk if I even want someone back that would react this way.
Has she always been like this? She has quite a temper, then. Sometimes, that can be destructive for relationships but yes, give her space to think clearly first and calm down.
@@BradBrowning Never knew about it Brad this is the first time I've ever experienced this. I knew she blocked exes in the past because she claims they were toxic, cheated, abusive etc so I thought nothing of it. All I did was tell her I felt she was taking me for granted and she literally had a meltdown blowing my phone up paragraph after paragraph basically saying "how dare you feel that way". I'm still blocked it's been 2 weeks 🤣
@@davidhoward5687 I just learned about the avoidant attachment style because of her. It's crazy man idk if I can be with someone that runs away from every dispute that's not how relationships grow or resolve things
hi. me and my ex were 12 years together. we broke up by both agreeing that we should move on. we still lived happily together months cause there was no place for her to go and i didnt want to be mean to him and rush it or kick him out. during that time she started dating a guy and i told him to take his stuff and move there (im rly jealous and just now i realise i have huge feelings still....) Shes coming to pick her last stuff next week. do u think its good idea to ask then if she wants to see about 1month from now and catch up how life is going. we are both big part of our lives and good friends still. mby by then i rly know what im feeling..
Sorry to hear. It's never easy when you still have to see them too soon after a breakup. Were you doing anything to try and rebuild attraction though? This really depends on how long you've tried to get her back and what your steps were to make it happen. If she's moving in with the new guy? If so then it's obvious she chose him and it's not a good idea for you to wait around for anyone. as you may end up putting your life on hold. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/v-deo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning i didnt try to rebuild attraction during when we still lived together after the breakup (about 5 months we still lived together, she tried to find new apartment). she lived here about half weeks and half with her friends and time to time at the guys place. still all her stuff here in my apartment. and she is moving there cause i told him to get her stuff. other her friends apartments are too small (she told me. dunno if thats the case).. After she started picking her stuff from here i kinda realised my feelings are still there...mby jealous...mby its just fear to being alone in this apartment i dunno. during the first time when she came to pick her stuff i asked her is she with the new guy and she told me "i dont know if im rdy"... thats why i tought would it be good or bad thing to ask a meetup like after 1 month to just catch up how life is going?
That would be a bad idea. I noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
Start by applying the tips for this vid unless she makes up her mind and decides to get back together with you. Here's a quick overview on what to do AFTER the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html and what needs to happen in between so be sure to watch the vid to the end. For specific advice that’s tailored to your situation, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
Yes, give him time and space but he should be low priority the moment he's seeing someone else. Be sure to open your dating pool and explore other options well (because your ex is clearly doing the same) and don't be stuck on your ex, yeah? Apply the tips here, too: ua-cam.com/video/ETkR-mh9-LA/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hi sir..our relationship was of 2 years nd she cane to know that its bot going to work further after 1 year itself due to caste issues nd family prblms but even then she tried nd we completed 2 years but 1.5 month ago her father came to know about our relationship which made it difficult she stopped talking with her nd she said that we need a break for 1 year after this we had many many more arguments fights which made her hurt at great extent... Nd now she is saying she don't know if we will continue after 1 year... Mayve she is moving on know but after the break up she suffered very much she cried alone.. but now i really wanna her back ASAP but she is making distance from me ... She says its better we will be friends what should i do sir ?? Plzz help
Hi there! I don't know a ton about your culture but from what I've gathered, these strict rules of marriage you have and who to marry are unbreakable, right? In this case, I'm sorry but this is beyond a relationship counsellor's reach. We don't make or bend these laws as it's strictly your own. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
I understand what you mean. In this instance you've mentioned, it may not work to get your ex back but no contact/giving space as opposed to chasing an ex down who cheated is still the better option overall. This is why this is often the first step I recommend in many of my videos regardless of how or why the relationship ended.
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
The changes you make are for yourself and not anybody else. Anyway with that said, word gets around. I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html
All these issues within yourself are more often than not, unresolved trauma from childhood and it's best to resolve that once you're ready to face them and really work on yourself. It's best to get out of the victim mentality though and remember you have a choice. Seek the help you need when needed.
Although I hate to admit it, that kind of needy, borderline creepy behaviour coming from you does have an impact to your chances. You'll likely see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you and you may have to move on yourself. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
@@BradBrowning Ok let's say we've been hanging out more often, doing things together again, and she's confirmed she isn't looking for other guys and prefers to make plans with me?
See my comment above. No there's no time limit. Don't go by the 30 day no contact rule. That's just a guide. It may take months or even years for you to rekindle your relationship. It depends ultimately if your ex wants the same as you. Good luck. Hope it works out however long it takes.🙏🏻😉🤗
That's right, there's no magic number. I also agree with Sharon, the above commenter. All this is just a guide and 30 days is the benchmark. If you guys are wondering why it has to be 30 days, I've posted an in-depth explanation on my website. Feel free to check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Is this your first breakup? The "no contact" rule comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Is not working he gets a patern of 2-3years on different relationship and between those getting back to the same woman … that is happening over 26years … Thanks ❤
Was there domestic abuse involved? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Yes, it’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining days of the 30-day no contact rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.
You bet! The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. I often like to say it's best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end...but 300 days is more than enough time to do that! The decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision. Thanks for dropping by!
I stopped talking, and they moved on to someone else. They dont miss me. Im the good luck Chuck. I help them heal, build their self confidence, make them feel good about their looks. They get hit on, we break up, they date new person and im cut out forever. Its just the way it is.
That's harsh and I'm sorry you went through that. And no, not all relationships are that way. Anyway s tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. Just to clarify, you doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html but looking at your situation, I suggest to consider moving on from this. Take care!
I'm sorry you had some crappy relationships by the sounds of it. I wish you all the very best in any future relationships you have in the future. 5:19
Brad is the man, I listen to him all the time❤ It really helps me...
Hey man, I appreciate your support! Thank you.
Well, my biggest problem is literally never knowing when to shut it 😅
Same
Make it a personal challenge of yours to overcome, especially at times like these when you both really could benefit to some quiet time apart. This can naturally happen if you find other important things to keep busy on. This vid may help, too: ua-cam.com/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/v-deo.html Best of luck!
@BradBrowning it stems from my PTSD and I can honestly say I have gotten better relationships advice from your videos than years in therapy. You helped me learn that i have an anxious attachment, and I'm working on that. I'm on my 10th of no contact (again). The longer I'm in no contact, the better I feel. I'm working on a novel and going to the gym 3 times a week when it used to be none. You're helping people find themselves again. Thank you
Me too. That's why I got blocked. Oh well. I wish her well. Hopefully one day she will unblock me so I can apologize. I don't even want to get back together. I just want to apologize.
Same with me,but when if you pull your energy and invest in yourself.I tried no contact for 2 months,it was a struggle every minute but to tell you,even how stubborn he is,he will come back rushing.
Guys, I just had a break up after a two year healthy relationship. I have been breaking the no contact rule severally but 4 months into the break-up I have found my purpose, I have done some serious introspection to my life, and I have also come to the realization she wasn't that special. (I had several attempted suicides during the shock, and sorrow stage I deeply loved her). I'm actually ready to date again
That's nice to hear. Happy for you! :-)
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.
A woman's never yours just your turn
False @@Carson-pv4hr
If she loved u like you loved her ..she never would have left. Period. Move on. Heal.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process:
ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I’m in the same boat. We were together for 5 years. Broke up and she moved out of state but we stayed friends. After 9 months I went to visit her for her birthday. After the visit I regretting leaving her and we actually started to communicate a little bit on how we were feeling before the breakup. I started trying to talk to her more but after a month she tells me she’s got a date with a guy she’s been friends with for the last few months. I kind of panicked and poured my heart out to her telling her all my regrets and how much I love her. But she just said she’s finally starting to feel like herself again and still trying to figure it out but that we need space. She hasn’t talked to me for a week now. Not sure if I should reach out after a month or just wait longer than that till she responds. She just started to date this guy and he’s been playing the long game but with the holidays coming up I’m worried he’ll start to move fast and lock her down. I don’t want to lose her.
I don’t fully agree. Even they miss, but if the issues between each other were never solved or no solution, most of them won’t come back.
This is something I've mentioned here: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
She may surprise you & come back to you. Just coz she's met someone else it doesn't mean it's gonna work out. The grass isn't always greener. Just try & remain friends & tell her that you'd like to stay friends. You'd rather be friends with her than nothing atall. But don't bug her, give her space & try & get on with your life (easier said than done I know, been there & still going through it) but don't stop living in hope. Don't give up. Improve on yourself, whether that's getting fitter, losing weight, improving your sexual technique, taking up a new hobby/interest, travelling etc. Do what you wanna do now you have more time. Meet new & interesting people. Join clubs that interest you. Distract yourself so you're not thinking about her every waking moment. Once she knows you're OK without her, it'll make her sit up & notice & she may start to reconnect. I wish you all the luck in the world. Don't give up.😘🤗❤️
Same. 18months relationship and he monkey branched to anther girl. And they together 5 months now. I couldn’t eat, sleep, cried all day, I can’t live without him right.. so I was begging, gave him time I did everything I can but he really cold to me now. No contact only 9days it feels like 9months. Idk if i can do this over 30 days with this pain.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process:
ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I've been through that. She eventually moved on. And after about 7 months I moved on. I felt great after that. Was grateful for the memories. And found new purpose in life. Realized there's many other interesting people out there to meet. Eventually my ex unblocked me to wish me for Xmas then we made amends and became friends. And sometimes that's the best thing. We all have to move on. But it's unnecessary to have animosity.
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I was always the needy clingy one. I tend to make it 3 weeks then I start to miss him. We broke up and started talking again after a year apart. This last time he told me he loved me haha but couldn't commit to me and I didn't really want to share so I told him to go be happy. It appears he's already working on someone new. I guess what I learned from all this is if they leave your life once just be done. It's not worth reopening the wound once you started to heal. I spent so much time hoping he would come back and after a year he did only to break my heart again. 😢❤
Time can be your ally or it can be a hindrance. But in your particular case, the fact that he's entertaining someone else even after a lot of time away from you is a huge red flag you best not ignore next time. Anyway yes, I would agree. Move on from this as you deserve someone better.
Being anxious perhaps not assuming he didn't love you enough and examining whether you gave him the space to come forward would be worth doing.
Excellent advice Brad - its helping me through a difficult breakup…so many thanks
Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ua-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
@@BradBrowning Yep already done! 👍
Here I am watching this videos again! This guy helped me years ago like 14 years ago! Get an X back! But now I’m in a new relationship that has recently broken up, and I waunt her back!
Hi, welcome back! Glad I've helped. What happened this time? Watch my other vids to help you out and/or apply the same principles from my Ex Factor Guide. If you haven't gotten your copy yet, here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck, man!
100% needed this at this very moment!
Thank you!
You're welcome! Please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ua-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
My ex and I have a house together and still live with each other she said she’s been grieving the break up for months now. So she is upset but not like I am cause I thought we were just going through a bad rough patch but thought we woood get through it. She said she wants me to take more initiative and do what a man Is suppose to do. So I’ve been trying to do whatever I gotta do around the house to show her I can be the man she needs me to be. I can see in her eyes when I tell her I wanna be better she wants to believe me but she wishes I did it a few months ago and says this is a slap in the face and why now the change since she’s done. But i can’t give up on our life and family together I know I can be a better man for her and make her happy. I was neglecting her and was blind but things been a huge wake up call
It's a risk because depending on how long you've been acting that way towards her, she may not be wanting to give you another chance. I've coached a few clients who've been in a really rough patch with their ex and while some have managed to get back together, others haven't. Hire me as your coach so I can take a closer look at your situation and what's really going on, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Be the man? You mean cater to her like a servant? Gender roles involve little intimacy.
Brad,
I’m 61 years old and have been through a plethora of relationships and I can tell you a good looking woman will be dating somebody within two weeks and probably has one or several guys she is communicating with while she is with you. Your advice may work for average to low value women but high-value women you will never see them again except if they want something, not to be back with you.
Hi, thanks for dropping by. In my 15 years as a relationship coach, I can attest that looks are not everything. Sure, it helps but a person of high value will also be looking at other aspects and is not always superficial because they know looks fade and when that happens, they could be back to square one if they put great emphasis on that.
After I broke up with my boyfriend during my 2-month relationship and he blocked me everywhere, I went to him and made up with him again, but it was short-lived. After about a week, he blocked me everywhere again, and this time I begged him, but it didn't help. I can't reach him now, but I'm still very much in love, I don't know what to do.
😔😔😔
Begging never helps. But are you saying you dumped him first? If so, what was your reason? This vid may still apply to your situation: ua-cam.com/video/Y5jwPaxmJUM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning No i had 2 broke ups with my boyfriend.At first he blocked me in every social media saying ''he wanted a simple relationship and i was too clingy and needy'' then i cannot find a way to reach him then i went to his office and said ''please can we try once more i missed you so much''We made up that day. Then week after he texted me saying once more again he wants to break up and never wants to see me face to face ,then blocked me from everysocial media again.Now i am waiting with patience during no contact rule.I feel like he is with another woman 😑
Hi Brad! How do you maintain no contact if you’re in the same friend group/ group chats as your ex?
You can take a break for a bit. This is for your own good, though. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html Good luck!
she told me to leave her alone haven't said nothing for long time 11.5 years gone oh well she is in a happy better place she dont care or miss me so oh well still love watching your videos
Hey man, thanks for the support but sorry to hear you're going through this. 11 years is a long time to be spending with someone for it not to be significant, so what happened and what were the issue/s in your relationship? I suggest you start with this to give you an overview or condensed version on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html but you're also welcome to get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy or sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad.. why does my ex keep contacting me without any plans of reconciliation? I am genuinely tired of this and want him back
It could be due to a lot of factors ranging from genuine interest to him trying to get an ego boost. I can't predict without knowing more about your situation. There's also the possibility that he could be trying to be friends with you right after the breakup. If that's the case, apply the tips from this vid: ua-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/v-deo.html
Hi Brad should I delete her number?
Some of the so called dating coaches are saying you have to make allowances for the poor avoidants because they probably won't reach out regardless of whether they miss you. Therefore, you will probably be needing to do the reaching out. This advice makes me mad. When do they ever face the consequences?
As a general rule, the one who wants to give it one last shot does the reaching out. The positive side of this is it, for one, it allows the dumpee get rid of the what-ifs down the line. Like the saying goes from one philosopher: it's better to tried and have lost than never to have tried at all! You have nothing to lose in reaching out anyways. As to avoidants, that is how they operate and they do need therapy and would need someone who truly understands them and has the patience to see it through because they are tough to deal with. Discussed that further here: ua-cam.com/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/v-deo.html
My ex broke up with me because she’s emotionally immature and I called her out on it. It’s been a week and when she said she was breaking up I said ok then I’m done too. I’m in no contact as of a week.
Since then she has blocked me and then deactivated her accounts then reactived them to unblocking me on everything except WhatsApp. We work together and I’ve been quiet there too.
I don’t plan on ever contacting her again. She broke it off and has been threatening that for a month. She got what she wanted. A life without me
I see. Some people are better off apart. If things hadn't been working out with you two especially if it was a short-term relationship (less than six months), then it's best to move on from this for good and find someone more compatible. Take care!
She broke up with me just 4 days ago which was a 5 years relationship . We were so happy even though it’s a long distance relationship. Small fights and problems would occur here and there which we used to sort out easily and get together again, but never went this worse like ever due to some wrong manipulations from people around her. So she broke up with me. And now that space is filled by another guy. She’s trying to hold him so strong and be with him. I can’t remain quiet. I’m so hurt and so desperate now. I can’t do my regular chores and concentrate on anything. I’ve been blocked in all the social media apps and I have no any other choice to contact her. I really miss her so badly. I need her back with me. But I don’t know what to do right now. 😢😢😭😭
Sorry to hear that. The distance has clearly taken its toll here and your ex could be rebounding and the other person is providing the physical companionship which you couldn't offer at the moment. However, you should not, under any circumstances, wait to find out whether their relationship works out or not. Focus on yourself instead and love yourself first. Watch and apply the pointers here, too: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However if you want to do something because you firmly believe there's still a chance between you two. but not sure how to go about it, then this is where I come in. Sign up for my coaching program so I get to know more about your situation and therefore be in a more competent position to advise accordingly, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I’m sorry to hear that brother. Trust me when I say I know exactly how you feel.
It’s this process where you will learn how to adapt to such a traumatic experience and grow.
You’ll be wiser, thoughtful, and stronger in a mental sense…perhaps even stronger on a physical level if you decide to workout.
You must learn how to build new habits starting forward and try to distract yourself from her.
I promise you, not only is this a healthier decision for your mental sake, but you might even attract a better lady which was my case exactly.
Keep it strong brother :) ❤️
I’ll have to get your book. Any advice on long distance?
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My ex as not spoke to me for a month and said its over. He blockex me off one account but not on the other I sent him text messages about 5 weeks ago on the account that I am not blocked on And he's not even looked at them we where together for 7 years x
Waiting for your new Video and here it Comes thankyou Sir ❤
Hey, you're welcome! :-) And thanks so much for your support, too. Best of luck!
Thank you brother
You're more than welcome!
Im blocked almost a year, how can i get her back??? As my post wasn't replied to
Thank you sir
You're welcome! I'd appreciate it if you'd like and subscribe to my channel so you'll know when a new vid is out. Take care!
@@BradBrowning done
My gf left me for second time and get into a new relationship just 15 days after break up and we were together for 2 years....she seems very happy in her new relationship and idk what to do its killing me everyday 😞
When ppl go into a relationship right away its bc they cant handle being alone. And if she left you for the 2nd time then shes using you cause if she comes back again shell love you a 3rd time. I promise if you go silent, and not reply to her itll drive her completely insane. Let her know what its like to live without you
Rebound relationship. Won't last. Keep your head up. Things will get better - whether she comes back or not. You will be ok!!
In this case, wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB
I wish I learned this info sooner. I feel like I already ruined things by doing literally all the opposite of what you said.
You're not alone. Most people who are emotionally invested tend to do mistakes but this is what my channel is about, to hopefully help bring balance back to the mistakes. Anyway redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Best of luck!
If they miss you, but made conscious decision you aren’t right for them they will never come back
No this is only your perspective.....no one can decide that they will never come.....if you rebuild your connnection then they were surely attracted....you have understand the dynamics of breakup....dont worry....stay motivated
If you two really aren't compatible anymore or is predominantly negative to a point where you've grown apart, then stop wasting your time. It may be best to be free of this. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
What If my ex IS the One reaching friends for help? How she Will miss me If she is always making her time busy?
Thats how they feel at that time but could miss you enough to come back.
If a woman dump you they never miss you, They move on fast. They don`t care.
My experience. I had a gf. 50 yo. We had a very lovely relationship. One day she asked would we marry. I said I`m not ready. Then she just disappeared. Did not answer etc
Later she wrote that she had met a man who agreed to marry her. So they did.
Several years later I contacted her. And it appeared she did not know anything about me. We live in te same district but I never met her again. She was NEVER interested in my life after dumping me.
A breakup does change things and only a minority stay friends afterwards. In your case, it looks like you two aren't on the same page when it comes to the future. She's looking to marry and you aren't ready, so you two simply aren't a match. Consider moving on from this. Take care!
@@BradBrowning I moved on already but I mentioned it bc it turned out that she did not care what has happened to me at all meanwhile.
Problem i have is tht my x contiues to call nd is asking me out it hasnt been in a week
Unless he thought the breakup was a mistake and he's asking to get back together, it's best to focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning i will be checking those links Brad , thnk you so much .
And No it has been a 3 weeks only
What if I just started the no contact 4 months since the break up after I fell into the friend zone?
The no contact rule wouldn't be as potent compared to when it's applied immediately. Anyway this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/gSKVGwmD73U/v-deo.html
@BradBrowning Thank you. I purchased your audio book ExFactor and have listened to it 10 times. It's really great.
If both people are not talking to eachother thinking the other person will break the silence, it
may be a 10- 20 year showdown.
The 30-day no contact rule is named that way for a reason. It's not supposed to go way past the 30-day period if your aim is still to try to win your ex back. So let me clarify: you can reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
It been 90 days for me i still feel like reaching out. I just have a feeling its done what next
He makes videos but doesn’t respond?
Not really sure why you waited 90 days instead of 30. Anyway you can actually reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
We were in a relationship for only 6 months, and during the first 3 months, we had a lot of fun together. However, due to some personal reasons, we had to limit our contact for the following three months. She asked me to wait until everything got better, but just a few days ago, she told me she lost feelings for me. I pleaded with her the day after our breakup, asking for one last chance, but she said she didn't want to feel forced into it. She lost her feelings suddenly for no reason, I did everything I could in our relationship!! We've planned to meet for a movie in 12 days to discuss what to do about our future together. Brad, I'm really struggling with this. Can you please help me figure out what to do?
Also she's rude and arrogant to me now suddenly after the breakup
Even I'm in the same state
Maybe you've done too much? Giving and showing her love is good, but if you do it way too much and she's barely reciprocating, it's best to balance it off and back off or calm down a bit. Also communication is very important if you're supposed to be in a relationship with someone. Why did that broke down? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex recently finished with me last month. We're going to a concert on Tuesday )which we booked last year). I want to start no contact the day after. How should i act on tuesday? Should i be fun and happy to leave that memory or should I be quiet and standoffish to show im disconnected?
This video is for you: ua-cam.com/video/2OfUA9o2Opw/v-deo.html
And if you’re blocked?
I have a Nervous System Disorder. My wife felt, I was needy and controlling. We have separated, and I'm currently going through "no contact". I feel like a major part of our 24 year marriage and separation. I take full responsibility for what I've done, or not done. However, she stated to another, "I'm not his backpack." I'm having a problem with how to be this High Value man, with this disability. Any advice, please . Thank you!
You can have a disability and still have a lot to offer in relationships. What happened to you two though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning , thank you tremendously for your offer. However, being new to the disabled life, I unfortunately cannot at this time. I'm truly between a rock and a hard space. Thanks again! God bless!
Hi brad! I know we shouldn’t ignore our ex when they call or text. But what should we do if they make it clear that they don’t want to get back together, but keep calling and staying in contact because they’re lonely and miss me.
After hanging out having a great time as if we are dating, she says “we’re not together” (we broke up 3 months ago, and were together for almost 9 years).
You can use this to your advantage if you're confident enough to be on your own and really give your ex the space she needs. What you do is put some boundaries and prioritize yourself first and what you need during this time, which is healing and acceptance and you can't do that if your ex keeps contacting you for her own needs. If you don't set boundaries, you'll end up becoming your ex's backup plan. So I need to reiterate this: it's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon?
I had one sided love from last two years. I loved the guy. We met virtually. We met only twice in these two years. The guy was confused sometimes he showed interest and sometimes he disappeared not sure why. But he was not in relationship with anyone. We used to talk over call for hours. Yesterday i met him and he wanted to end everything. Will silence be a way to bring him back?
A long distance relationship can be too much for most people and it's particularly challenging, if not impossible to sustain it especially if there wasn't any solid foundation built. So is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Take care!
@@BradBrowning it was long distance. But he recently shifted. And he was still confused most of the time. It has been one week since i met him. And i don’t know how to make things better. Because i can feel he had feelings for me. But he never said that. And he always knew that i had feelings for him. Still he didn’t take backstep. Can you please guide me on how to make things work. And also regarding the coaching if i would be able to discuss and talk to you directly
But what if that’s why my now ex is mad at me to begin with because I ignored her when she was trying to communicate? We aren’t together but she still texts me daily.
There shouldn't have been a breakup if the issues in your relationship can be communicated over in the first place. Why didn't you do that when you were still together? But, as it is, if you've been dumped or your ex gave up, then unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
didnt watch this video and shes blocked me on facebook and the phone... I begged to be more patient sigh.
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Okh but How can we change an avoidant person how can we make them stop this behavior?
You don't go in a relationship with someone to change them. Instead, you accept them and learn to understand them on a deeper level. They can only change if they want to and seek therapy, but that's your ex's task to do.
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Coach. My ex dumped me one year ago and did no contact 6 months. After 6 months i reached out to get some advice and he politely answered for that. My friends said to me now somedays he staring at me when she looked him. He watched all other status except me. Why is that? But he never reached out to me after no contact
You both may either be really shy or ego driven. However, if you wanna take on a more active approach and figure this out once and for all, then you can actually try to reach out to your ex instead of trying to decode his behaviour, because obviously you still care after all this time? Are you both single, though? Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ua-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/v-deo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@BradBrowning coach I reached out to him and I told him I saw some memories of us and I'm not angry with him. I asked him is he angry with me he told me he stopped thinking about that and he has some regrets but he doesn't want to share it
I never do and i feel i just lose her. We become living together 6 months ago and for the last 3 we work at same place. Now shes decided to go and leave me, in 3 weeks shes go away. 2 weeks She brokes up with me and canceled the marriage. This broke my heart and i feel loosing my mind
Sorry to hear that. Spouses getting cold feet are more common than you think. Just try to chill and give her the space she needs, yeah? How long have things been rocky and what are the issues in your relationship though? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Been 9 months since she left. 3 months NC for a third time, been removed from socials so doubt she’s missing me or going to reach out.
That's not good. Never wait around for anyone. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/v-deo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
He asked me if I’m seeing someone now, I asked why he asked and he said he is interested. This is after few months NC. He also said he wanted to come see me. And this was on FaceTime
Discussed that here and how to handle it, so please make sure to watch from start right to the end: ua-cam.com/video/6AsawxKX2dg/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning thank you, seen the video and it was really helpful
I am leaving with my ex what should I do I am get crazy I don’t even sleep good at night time not even eating I get so skinny 😢
I feel you and I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. A breakup doesn't just affect people on an emotional level but on a mental and sometimes, on a physical aspect too. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Hey Brad. Me and my ex had a long distance relationship. We have known eachother for Almost 2 years. We have Planned to Meet up a few times she lives 3 hours from me. We have broke up before or stopped talking. And everytime after a period of time she has reached out to me and Wanted to work things out.
This time we broke up because we argued sometimes. How do you thing this Will work with no contact?
It'll work to clear your minds and decide if it's really worth continuing this kind of dynamic. However, a long distance relationship requires a solid foundation for it to work, not to mention an enormous amount of trust with each other. The former always precedes the latter. Fighting, when you’re already miles away from each other doesn’t help, especially if it happens frequently. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
My ex-girlfriend unfriended me on Facebook this week randomly. But she was watching like all my stories. I unfollowed her but wasn’t going to remove her. Is it because she was missing me a lot that she did that? Can I still get her back?
She could be trying to get less of you but that's not really reveal her true feelings. As to your chances, I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning Yeah I really don’t know. I’ve been doing no contact and we haven’t been talking. It just felt random. I wasn’t bothering her. I have seen that video. She’s not dating or in a rebound relationship. She’s still single. I’ve been waiting for her to reach out. I feel like she was curious and thinking about me because she as watching like all my stories. I know it usually takes 3 to 4 months for an ex to reach out and feel diffeent about their decision. And I have taken that quiz before and my email is already registered in your system. So it won’t let me take it again.
@@BradBrowning She also has a lot of our pictures still up on her Facebook.
I was blocked almost a year and tried to reach out via email. I feel hopeless right now. If there is anything I can do to increase my chance?
Hi! Sadly, no. The best you can do is live your best life. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html Is it possible you're blocked or put on spam on his email too? But in most cases where an ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed (i.e: more than 6 months), then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it's likely over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ua-cam.com/video/FP8YmErEOW8/v-deo.html
Can you go into no contact for a second time?
Yes but what happened the first time?
How do i do 30 days when shes 12 weeks pregnant with my child and isnt sure what she feels anymore... we have baby appointments so how do i do no contact
You don't, as your case is one of the exceptions to the no contact rule. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Hi after 4 weeks of no contact i contacted my ex. And the contact was quite positive and i was abled to let her laugh multiple times on the chat. After a few days of doing this i aaked her to meetup and she agreed. Shortly after she even sent me a needy text message in the night. But after that she became more distanced and takes a lot of time to reply. She told me that she wasnt able to meetup at the date we arranged and asked for another date. Now i try to find a new date but she is not really incorporating with it. What should i do from now on?
Sorry to say. You messed up reaching out. And you messed up trying to rescheduled after she canceled. This doesn’t mean the interaction wasn’t positive. But she left you. The dumper has to reach out to you. They have to do the work. The more you pull, the further they go away. If she wants to hang out with you, she will put the effort in. She will either reach out or not. If she doesn’t, you should already be moving on. Forget her. Grow yourself. If she does, keep it short and play it cool. Like you would talk to anyone. Keep your feelings unknown. The girl needs to do most the pulling in relationships anyway. Start NC again. And DO NOT REACH OUT. Good luck.
Try to chill, man. If you appear too eager, that will turn your ex off but if you appear indifferent, she will be discouraged. So try to find a balance, yeah? Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Hey brad my ex has unblocked me but she says that she is not here to give me hope etc. But I want her back what should I do?
Sorry to hear that. I suggest you start with this to give you an overview on how to go about this: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but you're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Can this still work after a month of being in contact? Edit: After breakup there was a pause for two weeks and after that we tried to be friends but I broke down a tried to get her back (and she obviously refused me and asked to stop)
It's your best bet to cut off contact and give each other space. Going your way and forcing things to work when they're clearly not working will only alienate your ex further. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
I adjusted the advice in your various videos to my situation, but I generally did two weeks of no contact, then two weeks of begging essentially because I didn't really have a plan back then. Then I did like 27 ish days of no contact except for giving each other our stuff back and so on. After that she texted me she missed me, we met up and got back together. It may not work for everyone, but it worked for me. Thanks for your part.
Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago because he wanted to “have a break and feel independence” but I refused to have my life on pause for him. He was really sad and moved out and now we’re on this break/breakup. We’re still friends and we text but I’ve been trying to be cold. The thing is we have a lot mutual friends (6 years together!) and we still go to the same coworking space on weekdays. How can I leverage this situation to my advantage if I want him to crawl back to me? Thank you
If he's been feeling unsure about the relationship, taking a break was a good call. You may find more helpful stuff on this vid, too: ua-cam.com/video/QPJprJuf-iU/v-deo.html
Stop contacting him
Help my ex we were together for over a year she went back to her ex so maybe I was th me rebound she asked to be exclusive and I did not want that I care much for her she has texted me from her mother phone called and said she need help I went to find she did not want anything I told her I do not want a friendship she called but now nothing I want to keep up no contact I know Monday we have the same friend she suppose to be at a cookout what to do I just do not want anything I feel like she lied to me about so much
Is she still with her ex now? I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
can no contact work 2 months after the break up , after begging and pleading with them to take u back?
Cutting off contact is still your best bet because continuing to push it is only guaranteed to take you nowhere. So cut off contact but consider letting go because your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
Hi Brad me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago now, I was thinking to message her in another 2 weeks after the no contact phase and tell her I’ve got tickets for a football match she’s always wanted to go to watch them with her son, my friend sorts me tickets for cheap and she knows this so I thought i would say something like “Hiya hope everything’s good with you, my mates sorted me 2 tickets for the United game but I can’t make it so I thought of you and Josh, do you want them and just sort me the money whenever you can? X”
Let me know your thoughts I thought it would be something thoughtful to offer for her to break the ice, she’s always wanted to go to the game with her son let me know
Just wait until you reach the 30-day period before contacting and yes, that's a good message. Be careful of being too nice though. Remember she's your ex and not your girlfriend anymore but if you feel this is something you must do, then just make it clear whether those tickets are a gift or something she has to pay back at a later date. But also be prepared for the possibility to never get the money back. I'm only emphasizing this bit because I've seen cases where folks use that kind of scenario as an excuse to maintain contact with an ex when the ex is barely reciprocating the message. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/xolqJVty-PA/v-deo.html You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning the game is on Wednesday it’s the last game of the season so I won’t be able to get any more if I don’t tell her on Tuesday, which will be just over 3 weeks of no contact, I recall you said if the relationship was a bit shorter term then 3 weeks could be enough? We were together for 4 months, I wouldn’t mind waiting the full 30 days but this is a genuine reason to break the ice and contact her, if I don’t ask her about the tickets Tuesday then I won’t get the chance to do it again… what are your thoughts
My question is… is it already too late if I’ve been chasing them for a month after we’ve broken up? Can I start now?
In general, the more mistakes you do, the more you chip away your chances of ever fixing the relationship. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Only been 2 weeks with no contact, but 2 nights ago I got a message saying she hoped I was okay, sorry for not replying to what I wrote on whatsapp (last time we exchanged messages briefly) and that she appreciated how maturely I handled it and thanked me for it, then ended the message with "just wanted to say that".
To me it Felt unnecessary for her to send me a message like that, idk why she did to be honest. I replied the day after that I appreciate it, its going up and down and I hope you're doing okay too.
I'm not really into chasing or playing games, but I'm also tempted to just delete the message as I don't owe her anything and I'm starting to feel more resentment towards her.
Feel free to ignore her if your emotions are running high, which is understandably so. This is why it's important to give each other space. This goes for you and your ex. So unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
i am in a possibly terrible situation, she broke up with me 4 months ago and since then we have seen each other daily bc we go to college together, share classes, and have all the same friends. i have also done all the begging and stuff for the first few weeks and i know that that wasn’t good. i have also started some deep conversations where i have asked emotional questions and apologised a lot. we both graduate next week and that worries me bc i am very easily cut off after that. she is very cold and distant with me now, however she did say that things could be fixed the day after we broke up. i scored a 68 on your quiz. what should i do now?
Chances will never go offf.....the matter of fact is that....she is taken you as a granted.....no contact rule works here in your case also
Do the thing that you failed to do and hope it's not too late yet. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/v-deo.html
I was blocked by my ex 8 months ago on my birthday august 3rd for absolutely no reason at all I reached out last week and then was blocked again for no particular reason I moved on now
Brad what do you think
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 but since it's been more than 6 months, it may be time to consider moving on from this but you can also take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Take care!
Brad, my ex blocked my num with force of her parents. Next what wil do.
What happened? If your ex is in the right age to make her own decisions that’s independent from their parents, then there may still be a chance. Otherwise, it's best to consider moving on from this, okay? I’m not quite sure why parents had to get involved in the first place. It's either you're both too young to date or it has something to do with culture. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
I revealed our secret relationship in whatsapp(shared our normal photo taken by outing)as a punishment in angry mood since she ignored to marry me.then after one oneweek I got missed call which is name of her brother.i recall that number answered but not speaking.then I just leave it. After one month I sent msg to her whatsapp number but single tick. Next what i do. Any possible she come back?
We have kids so i have to make contact any advice
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
How will I get my ex back or show her I’ve been improving on myself if I’m blocked in every way shape or form aside from letter writing?
I'm sure you have mutual friends? Chances are if you're both still single, news about you will reach your ex, assuming it was a significant relationship. Also self improvement is mainly for yourself. And lastly, here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hello I am in no contact however my Instagram is public as I am influencer
And my ex’s brother in law is following me on social media. Should i unfollow his relatives and make Instagram private?
There's really no need to do that especially since leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Don't forget to check out my other videos too, especially this: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html and/or check out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/ so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview explained in greater detail on my other channel: ua-cam.com/video/ddnp-83TzMk/v-deo.html Best of luck!
We broke up 8 months ago, and we talked after for alil while, then stop she messing with another dude 4 months later, I found out apr14 did no contact until may 6 she dms me with hi i was notified she was drinking so I waited until the morning to respond wasup. P.s. she been saying she miss, love, and care about me for months we been together for 7year
So what happened? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning I just did the 1on1 she just recently sent me a dm explaining how she feels bad about our situation. She thinks I hate her and that nvr wants to speak to her again, but days the opposite, I didn't respond because idk wat to say my b-day coming up. I was going to see if she was gunna to wish me a happy one, and then I'll respond to that she said she wants to be cordial at least and she still love and care about me and that will nvr change she said she always asking ppl about me and telling dem she miss me
So happens when you reach after 2 weeks not talking to each other and apologize and give them want they want after begging to fix things and get back together. But you apologize and wish them well in their journey in life. But they find out your talking to another woman and she message you telling you “I’m never gonna change, always gonna be the same, she doesn’t want to see me, and will find someone better? But you reach out again and they finally says it’s officially over. Then they block you.
2 weeks is way too soon to be reaching out to an ex though. What were you apologizing for? "I’m never gonna change, always gonna be the same"
Man, how can break up with a depressive person? I tried hard to change and was giving extremely efforts but nothing changed stayed the same and this is ruining my mental health. But, the problem is that she hurt herself.. I mean, cut arm and these thing.. She stopped, but, said that if leave will do much worse than did before and I don't wanna have that "guilty" on me.
(never date a broken person)
If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex used to do the same things, but stopped over 10 years ago (we were in a relationship for 15 years), she had a HUGE drinking problem + ex-addict (like me), she was also suicidal - right around this time in 2010 she was briefly in a mental hospital due to suicide threats. She said that she would never forget that I came to visit her, because of the social stigma and because her previous boyfriend didn't want to visit her when she was in the hospital few years before that. She healed in the meantime, stopped drinking daily and uncontrollably, got a job where she was promoted, and then she dumped me after everything. All I have left is the Hepatitis C I got from her. I don't know how long you've been together, but Brad's right - you're going to end up scarred after everything.
Brad , she is saying she is starting to hate boys nowadays is it because of me ? .. she left me and said i have no intrest in boys .. but we had a relationship for 2 years ..and she wasn't like this.. is she saying this to just get over me ??
Could be anything. It could be you or could be one of her male friends or just men in general if she's shifting her sexual orientation. Have you done something to hurt or offend her? If you haven't, then it could be her way to tap out of the relationship. Unless she's discovered a newfound attraction to similar sex, your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
My partner cheated for a year. We were together for 19. He broke up with both of us ( we have a son). He was relieved when the affair blew up as he began to feel trapped there. We had intimacy issues prior to me finding out but sadly before we reconnected we discovered intense sexual passion for each other. He wanted to do no contact for 7days and see each other every Tuesday to talk. I said no because we always end up getting physical. I do love him and want to make things work but when I expressed these feelings it pushed him away. He moved a few houses down which is horrible but she also lives half a block away. I just don’t know what to do.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. This is a tough question but is he still with the other woman? Watch these first to know how to handle it: ua-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning he is not with the other woman. When it comes to me he said he’s not able to “resist” me. The chemistry is intense.
What if he/ she is not checking for you on social media. How can you know he/ she wants you
Please watch the 12 signs here posted on my new (podcast style) channel: ua-cam.com/video/Paceg_3GHjQ/v-deo.html
Dont bother about it. For you there shouldnt be any difference if they are watching or not. And how do you know they are not checking? There is spy apps where you are not seen watching other accounts. I found out my ex is watching me secretly. I think she wanted me to know, because she answered with pictures and signs on pictures I posted. And she is an famous artist drawing even paintings about me and selling them worlwide. But if she dont reach out, she dont miss me enough to come back. Really messed up games they play with your mind. Dont let them. ..
and how do you make your ex miss you if you live together because you have kids and she has no money to move out?
Start by having a life outside your relationship with your ex and since you've broken up, your interaction with your ex takes lesser priority. It's still equally important to not be too nice or be rude with your ex though. Please refer to this vid: ua-cam.com/video/xolqJVty-PA/v-deo.html Here are additional tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
I don't talk to my exes anymore
It’s hard not to talk to them when you have kids. We are about to separate and I feel my life is ending. Pure devastation.
I will give her space but how I not see her when I see my kids.
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
No contact is super easy for me because my ex blocked me on socials and even my number 2 days ago. We had our first disagreement and she completely melted down and ran away without even telling me we were done.
We'll see if her feelings change with time but idk if I even want someone back that would react this way.
Even I'm in the same state brother can we talk abt it
Has she always been like this? She has quite a temper, then. Sometimes, that can be destructive for relationships but yes, give her space to think clearly first and calm down.
Absolutely the first sign of an avoidant. She shutdown after a disagreement.
@@BradBrowning Never knew about it Brad this is the first time I've ever experienced this. I knew she blocked exes in the past because she claims they were toxic, cheated, abusive etc so I thought nothing of it.
All I did was tell her I felt she was taking me for granted and she literally had a meltdown blowing my phone up paragraph after paragraph basically saying "how dare you feel that way".
I'm still blocked it's been 2 weeks 🤣
@@davidhoward5687 I just learned about the avoidant attachment style because of her. It's crazy man idk if I can be with someone that runs away from every dispute that's not how relationships grow or resolve things
hi. me and my ex were 12 years together. we broke up by both agreeing that we should move on. we still lived happily together months cause there was no place for her to go and i didnt want to be mean to him and rush it or kick him out. during that time she started dating a guy and i told him to take his stuff and move there (im rly jealous and just now i realise i have huge feelings still....) Shes coming to pick her last stuff next week. do u think its good idea to ask then if she wants to see about 1month from now and catch up how life is going. we are both big part of our lives and good friends still. mby by then i rly know what im feeling..
Sorry to hear. It's never easy when you still have to see them too soon after a breakup. Were you doing anything to try and rebuild attraction though? This really depends on how long you've tried to get her back and what your steps were to make it happen. If she's moving in with the new guy? If so then it's obvious she chose him and it's not a good idea for you to wait around for anyone. as you may end up putting your life on hold. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/v-deo.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning i didnt try to rebuild attraction during when we still lived together after the breakup (about 5 months we still lived together, she tried to find new apartment). she lived here about half weeks and half with her friends and time to time at the guys place. still all her stuff here in my apartment. and she is moving there cause i told him to get her stuff. other her friends apartments are too small (she told me. dunno if thats the case).. After she started picking her stuff from here i kinda realised my feelings are still there...mby jealous...mby its just fear to being alone in this apartment i dunno. during the first time when she came to pick her stuff i asked her is she with the new guy and she told me "i dont know if im rdy"... thats why i tought would it be good or bad thing to ask a meetup like after 1 month to just catch up how life is going?
Can I block my ex and unblock them after 30 days
That would be a bad idea. I noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
my ex said she still has feelings for me but it may hurt both of us
what should i do ?
Start by applying the tips for this vid unless she makes up her mind and decides to get back together with you. Here's a quick overview on what to do AFTER the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html and what needs to happen in between so be sure to watch the vid to the end. For specific advice that’s tailored to your situation, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
Me and ex are slowly coming back together but since his gf broke up with him i wanted to be silence with him for a bit🥺🥺😊😊
Yes, give him time and space but he should be low priority the moment he's seeing someone else. Be sure to open your dating pool and explore other options well (because your ex is clearly doing the same) and don't be stuck on your ex, yeah? Apply the tips here, too: ua-cam.com/video/ETkR-mh9-LA/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hi sir..our relationship was of 2 years nd she cane to know that its bot going to work further after 1 year itself due to caste issues nd family prblms but even then she tried nd we completed 2 years but 1.5 month ago her father came to know about our relationship which made it difficult she stopped talking with her nd she said that we need a break for 1 year after this we had many many more arguments fights which made her hurt at great extent... Nd now she is saying she don't know if we will continue after 1 year... Mayve she is moving on know but after the break up she suffered very much she cried alone.. but now i really wanna her back ASAP but she is making distance from me ... She says its better we will be friends what should i do sir ?? Plzz help
Hi there! I don't know a ton about your culture but from what I've gathered, these strict rules of marriage you have and who to marry are unbreakable, right? In this case, I'm sorry but this is beyond a relationship counsellor's reach. We don't make or bend these laws as it's strictly your own. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
no contact doesnt work if they were cheating or already found someone the whole time
I understand what you mean. In this instance you've mentioned, it may not work to get your ex back but no contact/giving space as opposed to chasing an ex down who cheated is still the better option overall. This is why this is often the first step I recommend in many of my videos regardless of how or why the relationship ended.
How does it work if you still live together?
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
@@BradBrowning Thank you very much!
Brad he block unblocked me everywhere how can he watch me?
The changes you make are for yourself and not anybody else. Anyway with that said, word gets around. I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html
If im.a cheater i dont deserve happiness or love im no use to anybody all i do is screw up and hurt everyone
All these issues within yourself are more often than not, unresolved trauma from childhood and it's best to resolve that once you're ready to face them and really work on yourself. It's best to get out of the victim mentality though and remember you have a choice. Seek the help you need when needed.
Im using no contact for 2 months?? But my ex caught me using dummy account i feel all my hardwork are gone
Although I hate to admit it, that kind of needy, borderline creepy behaviour coming from you does have an impact to your chances. You'll likely see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you and you may have to move on yourself. Here's the vid: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
So let’s say we live together…then what?
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
@@BradBrowning Ok let's say we've been hanging out more often, doing things together again, and she's confirmed she isn't looking for other guys and prefers to make plans with me?
What if it takes more than 30 days. There's no magic number.
See my comment above. No there's no time limit. Don't go by the 30 day no contact rule. That's just a guide. It may take months or even years for you to rekindle your relationship. It depends ultimately if your ex wants the same as you. Good luck. Hope it works out however long it takes.🙏🏻😉🤗
That's right, there's no magic number. I also agree with Sharon, the above commenter. All this is just a guide and 30 days is the benchmark. If you guys are wondering why it has to be 30 days, I've posted an in-depth explanation on my website. Feel free to check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
What if you've been ghosted by your ex, like she won't talk.
Is this your first breakup? The "no contact" rule comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Is not working he gets a patern of 2-3years on different relationship and between those getting back to the same woman … that is happening over 26years …
Thanks ❤
That's a huge red flag! Move on from this and chalk it up to experience, yeah? Take care!
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Was there domestic abuse involved? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
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lol thanks for dropping by!
she blocked me on everything but I told her to. Soooo kinda forced into NC😂
Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
My ex birthday is comin' up soon.
Should I send him a Happy Birthday 🎂🎉🍷 text?
No
No
Absolutely No
Yes, it’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining days of the 30-day no contact rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.
i just did a 300 day no contact
You bet! The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route. I often like to say it's best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end...but 300 days is more than enough time to do that! The decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision. Thanks for dropping by!