My boyfriend of 7 years had a really great thing! He’s a recovering alcoholic. 10 years sober but still impulsive and still finds the bright and shiny new thing more exciting than our daily life. So he left. I’ve been devastated for 3 months. But this week with these kinds of videos and especially all your comments, I’m feeling better. Because it’s only recently I looked back objectively and saw the Truth. I really was an excellent partner who gave all I could but he just couldn’t receive that love. He’s also incredibly selfish and manipulative to a degree that boggles the mind. Having said all that I also can see that I had bad vibes on DAY 1. Something was “off”. He talked all about himself. No questions for me. He TOLD ME IN WORDS that he’s an alcoholic and therefore selfish and manipulative. He stopped showing real affection 3 months in ( once I was in) and then MOVED 6 hours away after just one year in. I agreed to a long distance relationship. Never could bring myself to move bc of that “vibe” I mentioned earlier. I KNEW. Somewhere inside myself I knew but I did not know myself very well. Always putting my attention totally on my partner and not my wants, joys, and needs. I do not blame myself bc you only can do what you’re conscious enough to do. And now I see that applies to him as well. So my heart has softened and I’m praying for all of yours. Yes, I did far more in this relationship than he did. I allowed that bc I was deathly afraid he would leave if I asked for too much from him. But today I can see that clearly. I will not do that again. Ever. Next time, it will be more even. And next time I will not be afraid to walk away early on if need be. All of you here have been my lifeline these past few months. I mean that with everything I have. I’m wishing and praying for everyone’s healing. You are loved. You are amazing. And you are a child of God🙏🩷🙏🩷
Hi! thanks for sharing your story. Relationships teaches us a lot about other people and especially about yourself. And like they say, hindsight is 20/20. The only takeaway here is you learn more about what you want and don't want and establish stronger boundaries next time, whether that's with your ex or with someone new. With that said, please like and share my vids to anyone who needs it. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
@@BradBrowning thanks for the comment! Yes, I’ve learned so much in just 3 months. I’ll do much better next time with my own behaviors. You’ve helped me so much these past few months. You save people daily and it means the world❤️❤️. Definitely will like and share❣️
I'm going through a similar thing. When I first met him, I knew it was weird that he never asked any questions about me. He spoke about himself and actually just always kept it very surface level. So I pushed on, we wound up in a relationship and we did a lot of fun things together, but beyond that, there was not a lot of intimacy, he was still holding me at Bay. I started to complain that I felt like I wasn't a priority, and I felt like I wasn't valued, which to him like I was attacking him and nagging him. Now we are broken up it's only a week, but it's horrible. He says he is stress free without me telling him how I feel, but was trying to keep me around saying that he wanted to see me but didn't want to be committed to me. I stood up for myself and said as much as I wanted to see him that I wasn't going to allow that to happen. I wasn't going to allow access to me without full commitment. He still didn't want to commit. We wound up getting angry at each other and fully breaking up and now we're just on texting terms. I wasn't talking to him for 6 days and he sent me things here and there saying that he still cares about me. So I finally reached out again, asking what it is that he wants, and if he wants to fix things, he ghosted me, so I guess not.
What if x leave for his family n don't want to givee me more pain he said hes done n dont want to giveee me pain as im married n his family not accepting this from him as he knew everything when we met je knew im married still we love each other he knew my Morris life is painfull horrible n he wanted to give me happiness n now bvz of his family he left me..... Now wht to do kindly tell
Time is a healer and a game changer especially if they ended it on an impulse. You dont just forget someone you were in a relationship with. Initially they feel they have the upper hand because they made the final desicion and then they start to wonder what you're doing and why you arent contacting them. They forget the bad as the good stacks up higher. They feel alone. Even if a 3rd party gets involved no one can replace you. We are all very special people and every ex has regrets. Trust me 😉
It hurts to imagine life without my man. I never thought it would come to this point where I might have to let go. I know this may not be the right place to share this, but I feel like I’m gradually losing myself, and I don’t know what to do. I’m holding tightly to the beautiful moments we shared, and I sincerely hope he finds happiness.
Watched these videos for a year, followed the advice, we stayed no contact for months and months, seemed like I would never have a chance with them again, but I got better just by following this advice. Now my ex is texting me begging me for another chance 😅 Stay strong everyone, you will find a way through this!
Nice! However, if you wanna give it a shot and to not wait a year, you're supposed to reach out first after the 30-day rule. :-) Thanks for sharing your story, regardless!
@Drebin-hq1wn what's this 3p day take does this apply to having kids together he sees kids monday night and every second Sunday his confused weather he wants me or this new girl his been seeing behind my back. Currently have cancer too and he says he will leave her and the stays with her like his a big player... bur says he lives me but scared.....
Happy for you, but please understand that not all of us are living life with the same difficulty setting. I've never once, in my entire life, had a girl come back or try reaching out to me after leaving me. Not once, and I'm in my late 30's, so it's safe to say it will probably never happen for me.
Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.
Im sorry for your pain, Im in the same position, but 4 months on - its horrible but you will be stronger in the end, and happier - you will. Take care x
My wife left after 17 years of marriage. I grew complacent and I exhibited narcissistic behaviors which made her feel horrible. She now has a boyfriend and I miss her so much. I’d do anything to be a family again with her and our two girls. I am really working on my self with several courses, podcasts, videos and therapy but I don’t think she will ever come back to me. I failed her and I will regret it for the rest of my life.
Sorry to hear that. How long have you two been separated though?If your only issue is complacency, it may not be too late, consider you didn't wait too long to try and save your marriage. Anyway you can take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning We separated last September and the divorce was final in may. My narcissistic behavior caused me to emotionally abuse her without really understanding the harm I was causing. I am a changed man but she treats me like a complete stranger and refuses to have a conversation with me outside of it being about the children and she doesn’t even look at me when we exchange the children. It’s horrible. I still see her with my heart and she sees right through me.
@CraniacStudios just move on. But you have to fix yourself first before entering a new one. Just focus on your kids. Spend more time having friends of girls instead of guys.
@@CraniacStudiosLook inside to see why you beleive she will not want you ever again. All beliefs seem true, or we wouldn't believe them, but it's just a belief. Just because it's a belief, dosnt make it true...... But,,,,, our beliefs creates our individual inner and outer reality. Forget what you see, forget what you feel, forgst what you think, because obviously, all these norms are your norms which give you the belief that you will never be together again. Let go....and beleive in what you want, trust the creation that your want is already created, or you wouldn't have it as a want. You just have to let go, and trust creation to deliver it to you, by letting go, and putting faith into your want, your allowing creation to put it into form. Seeing is not believing, believing is seeing. My wife kicked me out on the 23rd of December, after 22yrs of marriage, we have 4 boys together, she has ghosted me, been very hostile towards me, and is in a new relationship. But I am the creator of my experience, my own reality, I now feel worthy of her love, i now feel and beleive I am enough, and i am in love with life, I feel grateful for this experience of life. I accept what is, and i trust in Creation that my hearts desire is on the process of being. Faith starts at the beginning, faith allows you to have your desire, and faith allows creation to bring it into this form. Put your desire to creation with love, allow it to maje you smile while you do it, then leave it with faith. No more thinking, no more doubt, no more pain in any loss or pain in self hurt about yourself..... Just allow.....your desire is like a seed in your garden of Eden, once planted, the worst think you can do, which will prevent your seed to establish and grow, is dig it up to check it is growing, just because you don't trust it is.... I have faith in Creation, I have faith in you brother.... (my wife and I actually met in a nightclub, called Creation!!!) Life is the journey, not the destination 🙏🏻
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I've been successful for the last 4 years in every category and things keep getting better for me I love manifestation videos I'm on top of the world this is so awesome
Been there. One day I felt ok then the next day I will cry all of a sudden. But you'll get through it. Feel the pain. Don't deny yourself to feel the hurt. It's part of the journey to healing
It's difficult, but keep your head held high even if you die within! This sense of emptiness and unworthiness will disappear within a month. I know the feeling too well. Been there, done that, but your body requires cleaning, not only your mind. After you get over that period, you will feel better and freer. Be patient with yourself; give yourself a chance. You will succeed!
Sorry to hear you're going through this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com Here are some additional tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
It's been 8 months no contact. We were together for 7 and a half years. She broke up with me by leaving a note on the kitchen table. I don't think she's coming back.
I am no expert but that sounds a bit erratic. Unless you are a real threat/ abusive etc. Its not a normal way to leave a 7yr relationship so I think she will be coming back at some point.
Mine did it by a text. 8yrs together. Never any physical abuse. She was just a coward! We had even had sex same day and night prior. Was out blue dumping. She had new guy monkeybranched to. She is a real POS.
He didn‘t even leave a note after 10 years. We were married for 6 years. It‘s been over 8 months. His lawyer called me to tell me he want a divorce. He even left the keys at the lawyers office. I didn‘t cheat or abused him. His parents wanted this divorce. I‘ve never felt so bad. Literally tried to end my life I know how you are feeling. I‘m so sorry
@@Ella89zxx Everything was fine. We moved down to Florida, and 3 weeks later she left the note and broke up with me. I was never a threat or abusive. I thought we had a loving relationship. I feel like I was blindsided.
That's true, but some folks are hellbent on making their ex regret the breakup, regardless of whether they come back or not. If you think your relationship and/or is worth it, youcan reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
100%. Most don't regret leaving, even if you put your nose to the grindstone and start improving yourself. They just don't care, especially if they left you for another guy or started dating the day after breaking up with you. Most girls will just move on and probably never think about you again, even if you were together for years and had what you thought was a strong bond and connection. That's just how women are. I've never had a girl come back to me or even reach out after leaving me. Not once, and I'm in my late 30's.
im improving myself by being the best version of myself not needing no one anymore and being okay without love and not being a puppy of no one and prioritize myself and making them respect me
If there’s no contact. No social media nothing. How would they know that you are the same person. Not friends on any social media. No common friends ??
Hi Brad love the content! I recently walked away from a woman after 1 month of talking EVERYDAY.. we got very close but I noticed a change in her recently due to me becoming a bit distant because of the business I own, can get very hectic at times and I can’t always reach her. She told me I pushed her away by not always being there when she called, because she’s just “protecting her heart” and always thinks the worst. I took some time to explain to her that my work can get busy and I didn’t intentionally ignore her. Since then she has acted different.. So I decided to walk away. Sent her a text “Sorry it has come down to this, there’s so much about you I’m gonna miss. Take care” It’s been hard man I have to admit. I feel like with this approach though I leave the situation with respect, and dignity. Never argumentative, emotional etc. Also may be the best way to get her to come correct next time around if it’s meant to be. Thoughts? Thanks!
Also would like to mention she keeps liking my instagram stories, specifically the ones of me at the gym. But admitted having too much pride to directly reach out
Sounds like she has trust issues which is understandable for now because you're in the earlier stages of dating. If you want to give this another try, then when you're ready, do the opposite of the "no contact" rule and see if your ex is receptive to contact at this point. If your ex isn't, then it's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thank you for getting back to me Brad! You do amazing work. Lastly I’d like to say that this was my first time dealing with a woman like her. She was very big on “signs from god” and also astrology stuff.. and sometimes it would be too much and confuse me. Then I’d even question is this really meant to be and she is who’s for me? I went along with it for the sake of us, for a while. I’ve just kinda fell back recently man, I feel like continuing to be my best self and letting things play out naturally is ideal. Especially since I was always respectful, treated her well and walked away with dignity instead of burning any bridges.
I usually don’t ever comment on these things, and if the person I’m referring to saw this he’d probably run away even more! 😂 I had a very incredible man (younger than me too - 32 and he’s 29) walk away from me after about 5/6 weeks. I’d say we went fast but while establishing we were exclusive and in a relationship- we built a great friendship too. I truly felt when with him - that I was with my best friend who I also was super attracted to. He was actually probably good and perfect for me, though I was not good or perfect for him. I have a lot of unresolved trauma and I need a lot of self discovery and therapy … I assume the worst about everything. Every man I’ve been with (not exaggerating) has abused me to some extent or cheated or lied … gas lit me, etc. except this guy! And what sucks is that I screwed it it up and now fully regretting my actions and wishing I had healed it at least recognized my issues before. He just decided if was too much I guess. My mother plays a big part in bringing MY mood down which brought HIS mood down, and I just always thought there was some underlying meaning behind everything he said, I’d assume he was lying or over think, I could t accept his compliments though I’d drown him in complimenting him, told him he was too good for me … yada yada. Which isn’t attractive. But I also throughly explained WHY I had these triggers and thoughts and he was always reassuring and told me when I was fighting/flighting. Then one day it was just too much. Broke up with me, told me he didn’t want to, I needed to finish healing, how pained he was … blah blah and how he very much wanted to stay friends (gym buddies, etc). I like the guy way too much emotionally to just be friends. I panicked when he broke up with me, probably some would say beg - but I wouldn’t. The day he broke up with me I knew he was going to - but that same day I felt a genuine shift change. Since - I’ve been feeling great! I’m not overthinking, I’m recognizing things in the day to be thankful and hopeful for, I’m glad I know my issues and I’ve been meditating, signed up for a support group, I’m truly excited to work on these things he’s pointed out. And I have to say for the first time in my life I met a guy who was genuinely good and I let all the men before him cloud my judgement by holding onto their abuse and staying the victim. I’m not a victim, I’m a warrior and I so badly want to let go of all the pain and learn to accept love without thinking it’s fake or a lie. I miss this dude so much, I told him I thought I’d have to block him. We ended things in a good note though obviously not good terms if we broke up but it ended overall well. I cried for a day … he broke it off right before my birthday so that really hit even harder but then - I’m ok!!!! Like weirdly ok!!!! It stings when I see him watching my stories and keeping tabs but I guess that’s to be expected. I don’t watch these videos in hope he’ll come back - though it’s crossed my mind. I watch these to calm my anxiety and and honestly - theyve helped a lot. If any guys in here want to give me some advice or suggestions .. that’d be nice. I also want to clarify too that I’m NOT posting anything about him, the break up or being sad … I’m literally just normal posting my every day things that I normally would. I’m not sad. I’m bummed. I miss him and wish we could start over or at least pick up where we were but heal together and grow. If he doesn’t - then at least I’m still excited for the future and bettering myself.
I am freshly separated from my wife after 14 years. After she cheated on me. I left all the decisions to her and gave her a chance to end the affair, and she decided against me and our family. That was a week ago. I reduce the communication to the main topics, children and their movement to another place and set a ban on contacting me, exception regarding the children.This is difficult because we still live in the same rooms, but I only communicate urgent things. and nothing about our relationship. She wanted it that way. And inside, I'm really trying to put it at a close. So that it can go on for me. I would find it satisfaction if she regretted it. but in the end, the goal is not to win her back. But she should understand what she has done and feel it with every fiber of her body. i wish all those two-timed people strenght and power to go through that rough times.
Hey man, it's indeed a shame when a long term relationship ends via infidelity and sorry to hear you're going through this. I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ua-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/v-deo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com but if you want to take a shot at trying to fix your relationship, get my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
That's some great advice what some ladies will never admit their wrong and they'll never get back with you I've seen it happen already then they move on with some other guy
Men and women alike. This isn't dependent on gender but more so on your history with them, how strong the relationship was before it fell apart (yes, breakups are a common occurrence even in strong/long-term relationships), as well as other factors at play!
Very good advice. My specific person had scolded me badly yesterday and told me that hes not going to see my face ever. Wont talk to me ever. Hope this feeling changes and soon he realise that he still loves me
It's a highly emotional period not just for you but for your ex, too. This is one of the main reasons why cutting off contact is crucial. So start playing your cards right first and stop trying to see him or reach out to him, all right? Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
I lost my ex twice now. Doing what I thought was the right thing to bring us closer. Unfortunately she did not see it that way. I am continuing to try to get her back
My ex came back after 4 months. 3 weeks after hanging out, he's not interested anymore. His behavior didn't change & it triggered my bad behaviors. If he's not working on himself but I am, is it better to move on?
In my opinion and it is just that so take with a grain of salt. If you work on yourself (because you can't work on others) to make yourself more secure then you will be more accepting of another person. Now obviously this has some asterisks. If that person's bad behaviors are abusive either physically or emotionally then moving on is the right choice or if they cheat on you and its not something you can forgive to regain trust also move on. My point is if you are secure you might see the bad behaviors as relatively minor and not a reflection of you. You just accept and love them for who they are as a person good and bad.
Hi. I just wanted to reply to you. I'd say it's definitely better to move on. You spent some time and depth to work on yourself, improve your worth, be the better person, but your ex triggers your responses, and elevates your negative behaviours because of his attitude towards you. You're a better person now, you have the insight to understand that you deserve better. Let it go. You'll find someone that values you for you.
Space does give you clarity. If he's not growing and you're not happy with your relationship, the breakup may have been for the best. It also helps to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself these very important questions before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Thanks Brad there was no signs she was very loving and attentive day after we came back from our break she went into shutdown mode then hit me with the text breaking up then said keep my chin up after 7 years wow
Just like that? That's odd, indeed. Has she done that (where she shuts down) before though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yes, valid reason! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
I been in the same situation, I couldn't stomach the fact that my ex broke up with me! I gave all of me ,all to find out that I was told I was downplaying his flaws and weaknesses without knowing, but I was giving constructive criticism because I loved him he was going to propose to me, so I tried fighting for his love back, but hounding him because I still loved him..love and breakup hurts.
Could be just a case of miscommunication/misunderstanding or something deeper and/or you may have to change your approach when trying to give your feedback because that obviously had a negative effect on him. Something in what you said to him struck and chord and let's find out which ones and how to proceed, so hire me as you coach so we can discuss, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I was with a man for 14 years and we were friends for 4 years before that so that's a total of 18 years. We didnt live together, we suited us to be honest. I had a feeling something wasn't right and after asking him several times he admitted he had interest in another women, why would he miss me now ?
Let time do its job. Have you both become complacent though? It's one of the killers in a long-term relationship as far as I can tell. Remember she's not you but at the same time you do ought to take a look at the role you played in the breakup too. Please watch this: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning I have just purchased your ex factor guide which I have found very good. There's on bit in the guide that says let them know you are socialising etc I cant really do that a he doesnt do social media and I decided in the beginning to unfriend his family on my Facebook as it was too painful
I know him all my life ..27 years .we are in our 50’s, 4 years we loved each other .now it’s almost a year of no contact .we were planning a life together but every time he felt pressure he backed out .childhood trauma .😢a very bad mother .i m sorry for him .wish I could help him .wish he could overcome his fears of commitment..
Good luck! Just in case you didn't know, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Was in a 24 year relationship.You are so right.Until I really look back on it.He was very disrespectful and distracted easily with other women.I constantly corrected him on his behavior,but it got worst.Exhausted myself.Finally snapped.Then he thought I was crazy.The End.
That's tough. 24 years is a really long time to be spending with someone though. But if it's really that bad because of his infidelity, then the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
My ex broke up with me a few days ago and i really want to ask someone a question that has been bothering me for the past few days, when my ex broke up with me she said that I was still a really important person to her and that she does not want to cut the contact because she wants to be friends. The thing is I still love her and really want her back more than just a friend what should I do? I will appreciate any insight on my situation and I wish everyone going through a breakup contentment and peace you are not alone I know it hurts stay strong.
Hi! You're in luck because this is something I've covered in-depth on why it happens, including what to do, here: ua-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/v-deo.html Also read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Mine just broke up with me,telling ma cousin he is finally done.. this is the second time he's breaking up with me.. he said he has moved on and he has seen another girl he likes
Do the changes for yourself first and foremost. Your ex knowing about it is a bonus. In reference to social media...I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html Best of luck!
I instinctively started no-contact, before I even knew it was a thing, after I finished a really lovely relatively new relationship with what I now to be an avoidant the first time she shut down emotionally. Strange because I’ve never ended a relationship where there was not a single argument, let alone a cross word. I just have zero tolerance for that kind of behaviour in a relationship. 7 weeks no contact I have not thought for a moment she would come back at all because she know that with me she would have no choice but to face up to herself. There’s a perfect opportunity there for her to heal and grow and I would support that, but I don’t see that happening. It’s why I ended it so abruptly as I did. They don’t take personal responsibility and they don’t ’do the work’. It’s been heartbreaking because it was the most amazing 3 months but in so many ways I feel the entire thing was a lie anyway. Avoid the avoidant at all costs I say. I’m here to learn how to spot them at the start, there was not a hint of it at all for 3 months, they are so good at hiding it for a time.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story! A short term relationship is tricky to determine which attachment style one has because while it's possible she has an avoidant attachment style, it's also possible she's just not that into you or simply not ready for a full blown commitment yet. And for this reason, although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning ….yeah I’m pretty clear, she was happy to set up a home office in my house out in the country and very excited to book an overseas trip, both of which were her wishes. I am ok with that as I am emotionally adventurous at the best of times. I have an amazing life and am emotionally available, she fell to bits under the weight of it all getting way more than she bargained for. I’ve seen this sort of thing before where the dreams, the fantasies, carry with them way more personal responsibility than most people realise. I appreciate your response, thank you.
Coz you are valuable, so be sure to accept less than nothing good treatment, yeah? Respect your ex's decision to break up by giving him space but if you want to try to fix things with him, employ the tips from my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help you along that journey, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Take care!
I feel when no contact, no texting please don't expect anything in return from your ex just be yourself and if she's gonna call you or text you it's for her.' to do that but don't easy moved even when you love her and maybe she is testing you. Show her that you're not easily move by words because it's not every ex is going to call you back or text, other ex they go for good.
You two are still on a lease? It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I brake up with my man today and he asks me to move .which i accept so that he can't see as if am begging him .but i noticed he has another woman. What can I do
Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Get my Beat the Breakup guide if you're having a really tough time moving on from this, at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
So my ex broke up with me over text. Claiming my sons behaviour was an issue. If asking a few times when we going fishing. He then said he can't play happy families yet knew I had a child and was OK with it he said. Then he said I've been alone for too long and want a single man's life. He blocked me on all platforms. I've messaged him a few times on another fb page and he sees the messages but won't reply. We never faught, we laughed daily and were always holding hands and cuddling. Im so confused and can't go back to work this week. I can't eat as I throw up. Vodka isn't helping either HELP
If things still struck a chord with you, then it may not be the healthy thing to do to think about going back. A lot of things also change after all these years and chances are, for better or for worse, you both were not the same people you once were.
You're welcome! It’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining days of the 30-day "no contact" rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.
I respect the time and effort you put into this video. I am grateful. However, I am not so sure if time and space works. It is like taking a sheet of white printer paper and making a black dot in the very center of it. Some only see the black dot and none of the wonderful qualities you all possess. I don't think neither time nor space makes any difference if all they see is your character defects. Have a wonderful day all of you, and I hope you'll find the one who respects and appreciates you!
As a relationship coach of 15 years and counting, I can attest time and space helps. But like they say, in every rule there is an exception and one of the exemptions is if there's repeated instances of cheating involved or something similar. i.e.: if you have just become an overall very toxic person to your partner on which case some will likely forgive but never forget. Discussed more in-depth explanation of how time and space works, here: www.breakupbrad.com
just a little over a month of no contact - its been terrible! however it did force me to open up the hood and see where i can start to make some simple changes - an oil change was needed right off the bat... realistically though I realized there were a lot of disconnects within me that needed work. Focusing on understanding and fixing that made me more happier with myself and be able to cope with the distance. But by all means i feel i am still a WIP and maybe will always be..? I do miss her :)
Yep. Relationships help you grow. Although sometimes the growth comes once the relationship ends and couples don't necessarily grow together, only a few do so consistently. Whatever the case, it's best to focus on yourself. When you're ready to try and mend things with your ex, take the free quiz first and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
10 days no contact blocked everywhere I mean I don’t even know if she will ever speak to me again I am going on 11 days right now I should be with her in person we had plans
11 days isn't even halfway yet. I recommend 30 days straight of the no contact rule. It's best not to panic so as not to make things worse between you two. Anyway here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hey Brad we have been together for 6 months he broke up with me due to my really bad retroactive jealousy and last night he told me it’s over but this morning he said he needs time and space I just want him back I love him so much
So you kept bringing up the past/his past mistakes? What steps have you taken to build trust? Anyway it's a highly emotional time for you both right now so I suggest you give each other that long overdue space first to get your heads straight, yeah? If you've accused him especially without proof, then you're acting toxic as well, which is not good and explains why your relationship ended abruptly. But as it is, it's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
My partner of 10 years 3 kids has said shes had enough, we still live together but treats me like im not there. Its horrific. We do this alot and then end back together but i suffer Everytime. I just want a happy healthy relationship with her. I truly believe we are soul mates
Having 3 kids and lasting 10 years, that's a very significant relationship... but what are your issues you both encounter, individually and as a couple? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning communication wasnt great, I would see her feelings as personal attacks and dismiss them. An she's done waiting for me to change. Ultimately I want her to be happy but at the same time I don't want to give up on my soul mate.
Oh now that's something you ought to change. Invalidating feelings can only go on for so long. Consider hiring me as your coach so I can help take a look and possibly, help you find ways to try to get her back, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Im going to try these tips my ex offered me friendship but i cant be friends with him because i still love him i try to make things work over and over again but he still wnats to go and see if the grass is greener .i give up alot for him did a whole for him i was really needy and pushy i acknowledged my mistakes in the relationship to him and he still wants to go and leave the relationship i have a feelings he was cheating on me throughout the entire relationship that is why walking away was so easy for him .i hope no contact can help me move on and possibly find someone who will love me and not disappear when things gets difficult
You definitely deserve better. As it is, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I'm the one who left two weeks ago. I want him to realize his mistakes, and go back. I love him, but he took me for granted. He hasn't sent a single message since then.
What were his mistakes and have you tried communicating with him about it? There's a chance he thinks the breakup was your fault though, so watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
I think this is the last straw when he didnt call as he promised me when he was out partying with co workers and when he got home after two days away because of "work". I mean he could have excused himself and called me even for a minute. He gets mad when i ask him questions. When i told him that partying isnt work, he walked out and mumbled curses at me. If we break up, i dont even think i want him to come around and get back with me. The only thing is we bought a home, moved to this county to be with him because he asked and talked me out of getting my own apartment to move in with him. Which i think was a big mistake looking back. I became a maid being with this man. He almost always made me feel unappreciated.
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. Has he ever tagged you along in one of these parties with coworkers? It is indeed a tad disrespectful on his part to back out on a promise, especially if this has become a regular occurrence. I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. They key is to regain confidence and in due time, you WILL feel better. It's important to experience some sense of progress in your life to make things somewhat bearable after a life-altering and excruciatingly painful event such as a breakup. So try as much to set personal life goals and start small to make sure it's attainable, such as going to the gym, planning a healthier diet, etc. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process and help you live a more fruitful life without your ex. Take care!
He's gay? Oh gee if that's the case then you may want to take steps towards moving on. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise anyway and it's never going to work out between you two. Anyway this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Hey Brad my fiance of 11 months left me recently...we had plans to move to texas but she left first because her mom is sick...turns out her mom is dying, I only found out because I kept calling & calling, she told me everything...she said that she doenst love me anymore & that she hates me, that she doesnt have time for a relationship rn because of all her fam drama as well, she said that i hurt her bad(my lies/never cheated) and that when she went back home(texas) that she felt like her old self again, she said that i have brought het alot of problems, but i was always trying to fix everything...we txted the next day n she told me she doesnt hate me & that we could still be friends & I asked if down the line we could pick back up, she said yes but idk...what should I do? Will I be able to win her back...its been 8 days of no contact so far
Have you lied? If yes, then what about? It's best to look into that because that clearly put her off and the death in her family only fueled things up for her and now she's understandably overwhelmed. So try to give me the missing piece/s and let's see what else can be done, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Also take the free quiz first to see what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Talk soon?
That's just harsh. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. How long has it been since the breakup though? Unless you've done something to cause him to disrespect you (i.e: cheated on him), that's just bad behaviour on his part. Most people will still have respect for their ex even after a breakup but if it's now at a point where he's that inconsiderate of your feelings, then you may want to move out as soon as possible. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I started my no contact yesterday but accidentally sent a draft text msg that wasn't even completed so I know he had to have been tripping when he saw that. He probably sees me as a loser 😔 My story is different though. Our relationship ended before it even started 😢
How long should «no-contact» last for? I did all the things i shouldn’t do like beg, spamcalling, but since yesterday i have Been silent. Its hard but i must trust the prosess and move on. I must say i had value before her, and in the starting-face but in the end it got worse
Sometimes it's just over man. If they don't contact you for months or years, you were just the last option. Just focus on yourself and moving forward and you'll be OK.
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning i didn’t take the hint for about 3/4 weeks, and it was pretty extreme begging and, sending letters, gifts, flower, telling her i can’t live without her and so on.. i wished that i had taken the hint sooner, and started to know what i know now. Anyways i hope that there still is hope, i scored 69 on your quiz. And i have used nocontact for 2 days now. I also believe that she at some point is going to Message/Call me but i dont know what to say then
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad i had to walk away because he kept disregarding my boundries . I walked away aware thaf he may not change . He blockec me next day and i guess i am wondeting do men come back and want to work on things even though you made the decision to walk away
Some men are too prideful when dumped and would rather move on. But if it's a hopeless situation like you said, consider moving on from this. I know it's tough even if you were the one to end things and especially if it was a significant relationship. In the long run though the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com On the flip side, if you think the breakup was a mistake and/or there's some silver lining, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/Y5jwPaxmJUM/v-deo.html
I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago I did the normal begging and pleading it made me feel pathetic so I stopped texting her for 2 days and she texted me have a good day and it really threw me off ….. I dunno how to handle when and if she does it again ?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
I'm sorry to hear that, man... but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Can you do a video about messing up (after the breakup), realising your mistakes and how to fix it if she doesn't want to see me, talk to me and hates me? And is trying to move on?
Give her space and don't push it... or since you've already messed up, it's best to redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
My GF told me a few things that hurt badly, but I can fix them all. She didn't take the time to look at anyone else's perspective. She sends me pics of her in something sexy and tells me she's just in a flirty mood. She says she's moved on, but I still have a chance. She's "really falling for Mike because he's just good to me". Ok, I said we're just friends then, I won't be an asshole. She says he's threatened by me, etc, but she wants to stay friends. All of this messed with my head until I heard Brad talking about something and I realized "She wants me back, but she needs me to change those bad habits I have into good ones". It's not unreasonable. So now I'm dieting, lifting and if she's around ok, if not ok. But if she doesn't move and someone else does, then sorry. You should have talked it out like a mature adult instead of throwing a tantrum like a spoiled brat and screaming at me. Oh the drama... lol
Nice! Keep it up! You got the gist. These changes and getting an ex back won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my Ex Factor guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of the steps that needed to happen to get things to continue to work in your favour: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html Let me know how it goes. Wishing you the best of luck, man!
No, don't. I noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
i keep telling myself she did not see my value and only saw what I could give her. Im not even going to try with her anymore. I'll do the things that I didn't want to do with her and make her realize she lost me and I did not lose her.
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Moreover, During the time of our breakup, I was just trying to check if she had unblocked me, so I called her, and I found that she unblocked me. I texted her immediately, saying, that I was not trying to contact her, but was just checking out. She blocked me again. Have I made it worse, I think she won't unblock me ever again. Please help me, I want her back, she was very nice, and loved me a lot, my regrets on my mistakes didn't make any changes to her decision. Her birthday is on 23 Nov, should I wish her, as it was my mistake not her, If I don't, she might think, after hurting her so much, I'm showing my ego. Please reply I'm getting really frustrated right now
Try to stay calm and not do the same mistakes. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hi Brad, you make a lot of content about how to get back together with your ex. But for cases that we were cheated on, how do we know if we should accept them back? Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.
Since that's a devastating experience, the desire/intention to fix that particular relationship then becomes a purely subjective experience. There are many causes of one partner going astray and while some cases can be worked on, other cases deserve to be left in oblivion. So use your discernment if the situation you describe happens, all right? If you need my help on that, then I need a ton of details to your situation but this is what I'm here for so hire me as your coach at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
That's right. If you're determined to try to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
hi i need you're help i break up with myboyfriend after 4 years of dating and we love each other he broke up with me because of my attitude he said that sometimes i say mean things to him he was holding it for 4 years but can't handle it anymore i still love him even when he said he wants to end things with me he was confused and sad but he said now he can't be with me like before i don't know what to do i feel lost i miss that person
Hi guys I guess I just really need help understanding things My ex of 3 years broke up with me Because she couldn't give me time? Or what I wanted I feel like those are just excuses especially since after 3 weeks she's now on tinder? (I was told by a friend and saw her on there) not sure if I want to even move on... So If she couldn't give me the time why can she now give it to someone else? She didn't answer any of my questions she basically just said we're over and blocked me on everything but I feel like I need closure I hate not knowing what and why? I feel like a relationship needs communication... and I was always the one communicating I'm so lost I'm so hurt all I want to do is reach out all I want is to know why? 3 years to be over and looking for someone new in 3 weeks :( heart breaking I just don't know what to do...
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuil d the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I ended my relation ship lastday because he is not communicative me more than a week and he always saying nothing change he want me but in nxt week he do thesame thing hes not contacting me more than a week so i told him to separate ways and he respect my dicisions.and he told me he will miss me and i responce i wish this time you mean it.and his agry to me because he never lie to me but my guts says yes you are.is that his way to make me leave him?
Yes, sometimes people act in ways so their partners would leave them, but as it is, they don't have the guts to end the relationship. A solution would be to pick a good time to talk and see if you agree where you see the relationship is heading and if you both agree or butt heads. Whatever the case, it's definitely time to take a break and give each other space first and see how you both feel afterwards.
She's angry and is taking it out on you. The question now is: is it warranted? If there's truth to it, then you can apologize and empathize with your ex. This vid is for you and talks exactly about that, including what to do: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
Hi brad ,,im not getting any answer from my lil princes ,,while emotion hitting me really hard ,the person who use to say im all yours that person chose someone over me while i reject alot purposal for her, and when i broke with her i spend whole night on the raod the and chain smoking ,i walking and walking.......i thought im safe and secure couse she this is what she use to say and i felt invincinble ,your heart in my hands rest assure im on your side ,but she is no more im doing this telepathy mediatation but not getting answer im heaer broken really heart broken ,can anybody tell her, her kiddo is crying yelling , deep in pain seriouse cuts,in trauma ,please can one do this for me .
What is your take on this situation? I have a friend who says he still cares and loves his ex very much even though they split over a year ago. He's currently going to therapy for this. He was ambivalent towards her in the relationship and they constantly fought. He said he would never get back together with her again but he misses her. Is it her the person he misses or the challenge that she presented in the relationship?
It could be both. People bond over trauma unfortunately and the person itself especially if they've been together in a relationship for a significant period of time (over 6 months). It's important to give themselves time to see if the relationship is worth the repair, especially your friend needs to sort this out with a clear head.
almost 2 months of no contact 5 year long relationship ended I was suffering from depression and thats why sometimes got angry before that we have a lovely relationship I dont think she will come back just need power to move on and can focus on my career
I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out and move forward in life without your ex. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I will bet that she’s actually not the love of your life and that you will find the love of your life once you get through this and then you’ll look back and wonder why you even thought that. It happened to me. It will happen to you too. Give it time.
Well, if it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Me and my wife have a fight and she left in last year november and open cases against me we in july but she didnt come back yet. But her all faimly in envolved here. Is she still coming back?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hmmm... I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html
Brad my partner just dumped me after having a romantic 2 days together clisest we have ever been. We have beem together 7 years i got a text this morning saying its not me but her and finished by sayimg hold your head up 😮😮 really confused she has always disappeared for days emotionally before i put this down to her being on the spectrum and allowed her space Going no contact as i know ive doney very best way more than she has invested
That's quite a tricky situation you're in. Has she always been that way though? If yes, then these vids might apply to you and your situation: ua-cam.com/video/4gTXF42Vnhw/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/v-deo.html
And who tells me when she does come back that she's not gonna repeat the same behaviour? The disrespect and the manipulation. One shouldn't just accept them back light-heartedly.
No one can guarantee that. This is why, if you've watched my other vids, I always advise to take things slow and not show too much eagerness when it comes to exes. For the full gist on what to do on your end, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 and be guided accordingly. Good luck!
Does this work if you leave them? My friend is doing this with a guy she left because he wanted to go on a party trip without her with known cheaters and he said she needs to trust him cause he hasnt cheated but she cant understand why he needs to put himself in this position to be tempted and travel for weeks going to clubs and parties. She wants him to realise thats wrong. Should she do no contact if she broke up and he said ok we are over you cant control me and isnt contacting her? She is devastated and doesnt want to lose him but doesn't want to tolerate that behavior either.
I'm afraid the problem here is lack of trust and compromise. The best she can do, instead of breaking up, is to get busy in her own life. But there seems to be some innate incompatibility between them here. Her man is fiercely independent and she ought to be the same and be busy with her own life too, but she seems to be the anxious type. Unfortunately no amount of silencing each other out can work in this case. If he loves to travel with his buddies, as long as it's not happening too often where he rarely gets to spend time with her, and she remains anxious, then they will run into the same cycle over and over again...especially if he doesn't include her in his future travels. Cut off contact and move on to find better suited partners, is ultimately my suggestion.
my ex-girlfriend left me 3 months ago, she blocked me everywhere, she unblocked me on whatsapp a few weeks ago, first she had a picture of herself, now she has a picture with a new guy, what does that mean, please Brad answer (she claims she was pregnant and had a miscarriage before we broke up and I'm still blocked everywhere except WhatsApp)
This really depends on what happened between you two. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
I just filed for legal separation because of the price of the housing market out there right now we’ve decided to stay in the same house. But we are legally separated. Something happens to me and I’m 64 years old right now she doesn’t automatically get the house. She only gets her half of the house and my life insurance I have changed the beneficiary. She doesn’t know about that so if I pass, she will be surprised to find out I have changed my will and somebody else gets everything that’s in my name I will go to my grave with smile on my face
Looks like a win for you. Did it get that bad between you two? If so, then the breakup/divorce looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Okay so ex and I been together 6years, and had a child (3 yr old) since he was born she said she was unhappy, but never really showed it. Eveerymorning we both said goodmorning I love you. The 6th year together, I had been paying for all financial things, house etc... I needed help with bills. She couldn't. I said if you can't help me then move the f out, or if you don't want spend time together then move the f out. Which I honestly didn't mean it, but was trying to get her attention the wrong way. 3 months ago she started staying at her friend's house, says she needed space. I love bombed... then she says I'm moving out it's not my safe place... now it's "I have been miserable for 3 years". " leave me alone, unless has to do with our child". Now she says she'd rather be alone than together. It's been 3 months broke up, I love bombed almost everyday, lasted a week tops. I feel like no matter what I do I'm kicking a dead horse. Am I wrong. Or if I go no contact could something change? I'd rather fight for her and wait for her over going to find someone else, which is the easiest choice. Any thoughts?
I understand your frustration in having to take care of everything financially but words do have impact. Looking at your case, she may have had a valid reason why she couldn't go to work/contribute financially. Your other option which you should've discussed with her is this scenario: Both of you had to get a career/job so she could contribute financially but then you'll have to hire a nanny to take care of your child together. Does that option sound good to you? If you, communicate it with her in a kind manner instead of downright attacking her, man. Anyway moving forward, apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/7t2fqkGVInI/v-deo.html You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning no my wife separated after 21 years of marriage but she is doing hot and cold behavior she saying she not in a relationship but we been separated for 8 months but wants to be friends but not failing for a divorce but says she wants one
I'm sorry to hear that, man... but you're right. Moving in with someone is a pretty big deal and chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
My wife doesn't care about any of my improvementa, she still left me. Will space and time help in this kind of situation too? We are married 22 years. She says maybe one day she'll find the love of her life😢
Wow. Unless you've done something big to make her that upset, I think she may be a little lost there. How long has your marriage been rocky though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
she broke up on me after a cheat on her after one month no speaking. l would like just to say her thanks to make me understand l was lost and invite her in a dinner with his father but actually will be with me.where she doesn't know l will be there what do you think? is a bad idea l already made peace that l lost her l won't beg her just make peace
Yes, of course. Having shared responsibilities with an ex makes your case one of the exceptions to the no contact rule. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html
i loved her so much said that some things i said were mean and made her feel insecure but i never wanted to hurt her and she knows we were once meant to be she broke up with me and at first said maybe in the future then 1 day later she said 100 percent want to make this work then the next day she said she no longer knows if she wants to make it work then again she changed her mind and said their is no longer a chance of us getting back together im so confused have now have zero clue if she will get back with me or if i should just move on she also checks up on me and says she is worried about me sometimes and also she is ok with beaing friends
That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
She left me after almost 2 years on a decision within a day. From what I hear, she's getting antsy and processing thing but in not a good or healthy way.
You have no control over your ex or her actions, so focus on yourself. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
my ex and I have been hot and cold since our breakup on 10/10/24 he has moved on alr but has been calling me and I ignored him. just this monday I answered him and we had great conversations while on facetime while hes at work and on his way back home. he tells me what he expects of me in order for us to be back together but gets jealous bc I’m talking to men and going out. Again he’s alr in a rebound relationship. Yesterday he had a change of heart bc I mentioned that my ex wanted to see me. Well recent ex went in to say things won’t change he’s not investing energy into this he’ll continue to focus on what he has going on and I should focus on my own shiii!! I’m si confused but ok I’m a hugh value woman wanted and desired. Oh and he says yesterday morning on facetime before he flipped out again lol, “damn Shanta every time I see you I get mad bc why did you leave?”
That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
My boyfriend of 7 years had a really great thing! He’s a recovering alcoholic. 10 years sober but still impulsive and still finds the bright and shiny new thing more exciting than our daily life. So he left. I’ve been devastated for 3 months. But this week with these kinds of videos and especially all your comments, I’m feeling better. Because it’s only recently I looked back objectively and saw the Truth. I really was an excellent partner who gave all I could but he just couldn’t receive that love. He’s also incredibly selfish and manipulative to a degree that boggles the mind. Having said all that I also can see that I had bad vibes on DAY 1. Something was “off”. He talked all about himself. No questions for me. He TOLD ME IN WORDS that he’s an alcoholic and therefore selfish and manipulative. He stopped showing real affection 3 months in ( once I was in) and then MOVED 6 hours away after just one year in. I agreed to a long distance relationship. Never could bring myself to move bc of that “vibe” I mentioned earlier. I KNEW. Somewhere inside myself I knew but I did not know myself very well. Always putting my attention totally on my partner and not my wants, joys, and needs. I do not blame myself bc you only can do what you’re conscious enough to do. And now I see that applies to him as well. So my heart has softened and I’m praying for all of yours. Yes, I did far more in this relationship than he did. I allowed that bc I was deathly afraid he would leave if I asked for too much from him. But today I can see that clearly. I will not do that again. Ever. Next time, it will be more even. And next time I will not be afraid to walk away early on if need be. All of you here have been my lifeline these past few months. I mean that with everything I have. I’m wishing and praying for everyone’s healing. You are loved. You are amazing. And you are a child of God🙏🩷🙏🩷
Hi! thanks for sharing your story. Relationships teaches us a lot about other people and especially about yourself. And like they say, hindsight is 20/20. The only takeaway here is you learn more about what you want and don't want and establish stronger boundaries next time, whether that's with your ex or with someone new. With that said, please like and share my vids to anyone who needs it. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
@@BradBrowning thanks for the comment! Yes, I’ve learned so much in just 3 months. I’ll do much better next time with my own behaviors. You’ve helped me so much these past few months. You save people daily and it means the world❤️❤️. Definitely will like and share❣️
I'm going through a similar thing. When I first met him, I knew it was weird that he never asked any questions about me. He spoke about himself and actually just always kept it very surface level. So I pushed on, we wound up in a relationship and we did a lot of fun things together, but beyond that, there was not a lot of intimacy, he was still holding me at Bay. I started to complain that I felt like I wasn't a priority, and I felt like I wasn't valued, which to him like I was attacking him and nagging him. Now we are broken up it's only a week, but it's horrible. He says he is stress free without me telling him how I feel, but was trying to keep me around saying that he wanted to see me but didn't want to be committed to me. I stood up for myself and said as much as I wanted to see him that I wasn't going to allow that to happen. I wasn't going to allow access to me without full commitment. He still didn't want to commit. We wound up getting angry at each other and fully breaking up and now we're just on texting terms. I wasn't talking to him for 6 days and he sent me things here and there saying that he still cares about me. So I finally reached out again, asking what it is that he wants, and if he wants to fix things, he ghosted me, so I guess not.
What if x leave for his family n don't want to givee me more pain he said hes done n dont want to giveee me pain as im married n his family not accepting this from him as he knew everything when we met je knew im married still we love each other he knew my Morris life is painfull horrible n he wanted to give me happiness n now bvz of his family he left me..... Now wht to do kindly tell
Time is a healer and a game changer especially if they ended it on an impulse. You dont just forget someone you were in a relationship with. Initially they feel they have the upper hand because they made the final desicion and then they start to wonder what you're doing and why you arent contacting them. They forget the bad as the good stacks up higher. They feel alone. Even if a 3rd party gets involved no one can replace you. We are all very special people and every ex has regrets. Trust me 😉
I agree. Thanks for dropping by!
I really needed to read this!! Thank you 😊🙏
Me too
Thanks
I needed this. Really suffering two months in (and a third party now involved). Thanks
It hurts to imagine life without my man. I never thought it would come to this point where I might have to let go. I know this may not be the right place to share this, but I feel like I’m gradually losing myself, and I don’t know what to do. I’m holding tightly to the beautiful moments we shared, and I sincerely hope he finds happiness.
Watched these videos for a year, followed the advice, we stayed no contact for months and months, seemed like I would never have a chance with them again, but I got better just by following this advice. Now my ex is texting me begging me for another chance 😅 Stay strong everyone, you will find a way through this!
Nice! However, if you wanna give it a shot and to not wait a year, you're supposed to reach out first after the 30-day rule. :-) Thanks for sharing your story, regardless!
Yeah did that with no reply, so I’m done reaching out it’s been 2 1/2 years…no contact so it’s definitely hopeless and over.
@Drebin-hq1wn what's this 3p day take does this apply to having kids together he sees kids monday night and every second Sunday his confused weather he wants me or this new girl his been seeing behind my back. Currently have cancer too and he says he will leave her and the stays with her like his a big player... bur says he lives me but scared.....
@@DutchDillion we been together for 9 years .
Happy for you, but please understand that not all of us are living life with the same difficulty setting. I've never once, in my entire life, had a girl come back or try reaching out to me after leaving me. Not once, and I'm in my late 30's, so it's safe to say it will probably never happen for me.
I’m an alcoholic I’ve been in group meetings trying to kick this addiction. Alcohol ruined my marriage and I’m working on myself
Proud of you man! keep going !
God blessed u for realizing ur fault. Peace ✌
It takes a lot of courage to admit that and more so the courage to work on it. Good on you! Keep it up! :-)
Same to me. You have any advice to share?
I wish u all The best stay strong 😢❤
I don’t know why it matters but I learning to not take myself for granted
That's great! Never settle.
Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.
Im sorry for your pain, Im in the same position, but 4 months on - its horrible but you will be stronger in the end, and happier - you will. Take care x
This is the most straight forward honest advice I’ve heard so far
Hello! Thanks for the support. I appreciate you!
My wife left after 17 years of marriage. I grew complacent and I exhibited narcissistic behaviors which made her feel horrible. She now has a boyfriend and I miss her so much. I’d do anything to be a family again with her and our two girls. I am really working on my self with several courses, podcasts, videos and therapy but I don’t think she will ever come back to me. I failed her and I will regret it for the rest of my life.
Sorry to hear that. How long have you two been separated though?If your only issue is complacency, it may not be too late, consider you didn't wait too long to try and save your marriage. Anyway you can take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning We separated last September and the divorce was final in may. My narcissistic behavior caused me to emotionally abuse her without really understanding the harm I was causing. I am a changed man but she treats me like a complete stranger and refuses to have a conversation with me outside of it being about the children and she doesn’t even look at me when we exchange the children. It’s horrible. I still see her with my heart and she sees right through me.
@CraniacStudios just move on. But you have to fix yourself first before entering a new one. Just focus on your kids. Spend more time having friends of girls instead of guys.
@@CraniacStudiosLook inside to see why you beleive she will not want you ever again. All beliefs seem true, or we wouldn't believe them, but it's just a belief. Just because it's a belief, dosnt make it true...... But,,,,, our beliefs creates our individual inner and outer reality. Forget what you see, forget what you feel, forgst what you think, because obviously, all these norms are your norms which give you the belief that you will never be together again. Let go....and beleive in what you want, trust the creation that your want is already created, or you wouldn't have it as a want. You just have to let go, and trust creation to deliver it to you, by letting go, and putting faith into your want, your allowing creation to put it into form. Seeing is not believing, believing is seeing. My wife kicked me out on the 23rd of December, after 22yrs of marriage, we have 4 boys together, she has ghosted me, been very hostile towards me, and is in a new relationship. But I am the creator of my experience, my own reality, I now feel worthy of her love, i now feel and beleive I am enough, and i am in love with life, I feel grateful for this experience of life. I accept what is, and i trust in Creation that my hearts desire is on the process of being.
Faith starts at the beginning, faith allows you to have your desire, and faith allows creation to bring it into this form.
Put your desire to creation with love, allow it to maje you smile while you do it, then leave it with faith.
No more thinking, no more doubt, no more pain in any loss or pain in self hurt about yourself.....
Just allow.....your desire is like a seed in your garden of Eden, once planted, the worst think you can do, which will prevent your seed to establish and grow, is dig it up to check it is growing, just because you don't trust it is....
I have faith in Creation, I have faith in you brother....
(my wife and I actually met in a nightclub, called Creation!!!)
Life is the journey, not the destination 🙏🏻
So proud of you for taking accountability
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I've been successful for the last 4 years in every category and things keep getting better for me I love manifestation videos I'm on top of the world this is so awesome
Hey, thanks for dropping by!
Followed ur steps nd now I'm with much better person than my ex
Awesome! :-)
Day 4 of no contact. Today is awful 💔
Prayers for u..my ex left mid march.itd been so very difficult ..yet we must have faith better life is waiting for us..
You can do it!! Breakups are meant for self discovery, self growth and a glow up! Don’t give up ❤
Been there. One day I felt ok then the next day I will cry all of a sudden. But you'll get through it. Feel the pain. Don't deny yourself to feel the hurt. It's part of the journey to healing
It's difficult, but keep your head held high even if you die within! This sense of emptiness and unworthiness will disappear within a month. I know the feeling too well. Been there, done that, but your body requires cleaning, not only your mind. After you get over that period, you will feel better and freer. Be patient with yourself; give yourself a chance. You will succeed!
Sorry to hear you're going through this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com Here are some additional tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
It's been 8 months no contact. We were together for 7 and a half years. She broke up with me by leaving a note on the kitchen table. I don't think she's coming back.
That's a horrible way to break up with you. I'm so sorry
I am no expert but that sounds a bit erratic. Unless you are a real threat/ abusive etc. Its not a normal way to leave a 7yr relationship so I think she will be coming back at some point.
Mine did it by a text. 8yrs together. Never any physical abuse. She was just a coward! We had even had sex same day and night prior. Was out blue dumping. She had new guy monkeybranched to. She is a real POS.
He didn‘t even leave a note after 10 years. We were married for 6 years. It‘s been over 8 months. His lawyer called me to tell me he want a divorce. He even left the keys at the lawyers office. I didn‘t cheat or abused him. His parents wanted this divorce. I‘ve never felt so bad. Literally tried to end my life
I know how you are feeling. I‘m so sorry
@@Ella89zxx Everything was fine. We moved down to Florida, and 3 weeks later she left the note and broke up with me. I was never a threat or abusive. I thought we had a loving relationship. I feel like I was blindsided.
Not all ex’s regret leaving. Moreover, even for those who have regretted, they can also heal and move on, and yet never come back.
That's true, but some folks are hellbent on making their ex regret the breakup, regardless of whether they come back or not. If you think your relationship and/or is worth it, youcan reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
100%. Most don't regret leaving, even if you put your nose to the grindstone and start improving yourself. They just don't care, especially if they left you for another guy or started dating the day after breaking up with you. Most girls will just move on and probably never think about you again, even if you were together for years and had what you thought was a strong bond and connection. That's just how women are.
I've never had a girl come back to me or even reach out after leaving me. Not once, and I'm in my late 30's.
Why reach out to the one who discarded you? Let them come back of their own volition i say.
im improving myself by being the best version of myself not needing no one anymore and being okay without love and not being a puppy of no one and prioritize myself and making them respect me
Good! That's a healthy way of coping and looking at things. You can never go wrong if you love and focus on yourself first.
If there’s no contact. No social media nothing. How would they know that you are the same person. Not friends on any social media. No common friends ??
Hi Brad love the content! I recently walked away from a woman after 1 month of talking EVERYDAY.. we got very close but I noticed a change in her recently due to me becoming a bit distant because of the business I own, can get very hectic at times and I can’t always reach her. She told me I pushed her away by not always being there when she called, because she’s just “protecting her heart” and always thinks the worst. I took some time to explain to her that my work can get busy and I didn’t intentionally ignore her. Since then she has acted different.. So I decided to walk away. Sent her a text “Sorry it has come down to this, there’s so much about you I’m gonna miss. Take care” It’s been hard man I have to admit. I feel like with this approach though I leave the situation with respect, and dignity. Never argumentative, emotional etc. Also may be the best way to get her to come correct next time around if it’s meant to be. Thoughts? Thanks!
Also would like to mention she keeps liking my instagram stories, specifically the ones of me at the gym. But admitted having too much pride to directly reach out
Sounds like she has trust issues which is understandable for now because you're in the earlier stages of dating. If you want to give this another try, then when you're ready, do the opposite of the "no contact" rule and see if your ex is receptive to contact at this point. If your ex isn't, then it's very important to give it time to let whatever anger there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thank you for getting back to me Brad! You do amazing work. Lastly I’d like to say that this was my first time dealing with a woman like her. She was very big on “signs from god” and also astrology stuff.. and sometimes it would be too much and confuse me. Then I’d even question is this really meant to be and she is who’s for me? I went along with it for the sake of us, for a while. I’ve just kinda fell back recently man, I feel like continuing to be my best self and letting things play out naturally is ideal. Especially since I was always respectful, treated her well and walked away with dignity instead of burning any bridges.
I usually don’t ever comment on these things, and if the person I’m referring to saw this he’d probably run away even more! 😂
I had a very incredible man (younger than me too - 32 and he’s 29) walk away from me after about 5/6 weeks. I’d say we went fast but while establishing we were exclusive and in a relationship- we built a great friendship too. I truly felt when with him - that I was with my best friend who I also was super attracted to. He was actually probably good and perfect for me, though I was not good or perfect for him. I have a lot of unresolved trauma and I need a lot of self discovery and therapy … I assume the worst about everything. Every man I’ve been with (not exaggerating) has abused me to some extent or cheated or lied … gas lit me, etc. except this guy! And what sucks is that I screwed it it up and now fully regretting my actions and wishing I had healed it at least recognized my issues before.
He just decided if was too much I guess. My mother plays a big part in bringing MY mood down which brought HIS mood down, and I just always thought there was some underlying meaning behind everything he said, I’d assume he was lying or over think, I could t accept his compliments though I’d drown him in complimenting him, told him he was too good for me … yada yada. Which isn’t attractive. But I also throughly explained WHY I had these triggers and thoughts and he was always reassuring and told me when I was fighting/flighting. Then one day it was just too much. Broke up with me, told me he didn’t want to, I needed to finish healing, how pained he was … blah blah and how he very much wanted to stay friends (gym buddies, etc). I like the guy way too much emotionally to just be friends. I panicked when he broke up with me, probably some would say beg - but I wouldn’t. The day he broke up with me I knew he was going to - but that same day I felt a genuine shift change. Since - I’ve been feeling great! I’m not overthinking, I’m recognizing things in the day to be thankful and hopeful for, I’m glad I know my issues and I’ve been meditating, signed up for a support group, I’m truly excited to work on these things he’s pointed out. And I have to say for the first time in my life I met a guy who was genuinely good and I let all the men before him cloud my judgement by holding onto their abuse and staying the victim. I’m not a victim, I’m a warrior and I so badly want to let go of all the pain and learn to accept love without thinking it’s fake or a lie. I miss this dude so much, I told him I thought I’d have to block him. We ended things in a good note though obviously not good terms if we broke up but it ended overall well. I cried for a day … he broke it off right before my birthday so that really hit even harder but then - I’m ok!!!! Like weirdly ok!!!! It stings when I see him watching my stories and keeping tabs but I guess that’s to be expected.
I don’t watch these videos in hope he’ll come back - though it’s crossed my mind. I watch these to calm my anxiety and and honestly - theyve helped a lot.
If any guys in here want to give me some advice or suggestions .. that’d be nice. I also want to clarify too that I’m NOT posting anything about him, the break up or being sad … I’m literally just normal posting my every day things that I normally would. I’m not sad. I’m bummed. I miss him and wish we could start over or at least pick up where we were but heal together and grow. If he doesn’t - then at least I’m still excited for the future and bettering myself.
I am freshly separated from my wife after 14 years. After she cheated on me. I left all the decisions to her and gave her a chance to end the affair, and she decided against me and our family. That was a week ago. I reduce the communication to the main topics, children and their movement to another place and set a ban on contacting me, exception regarding the children.This is difficult because we still live in the same rooms, but I only communicate urgent things. and nothing about our relationship. She wanted it that way. And inside, I'm really trying to put it at a close. So that it can go on for me. I would find it satisfaction if she regretted it. but in the end, the goal is not to win her back. But she should understand what she has done and feel it with every fiber of her body. i wish all those two-timed people strenght and power to go through that rough times.
Hey man, it's indeed a shame when a long term relationship ends via infidelity and sorry to hear you're going through this. I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ua-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/v-deo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com but if you want to take a shot at trying to fix your relationship, get my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I am experincing the same. It sucks!!
@@Cameraman30no of course Bro, where are you now in this process? Did you had the chance to go your way?
That's some great advice what some ladies will never admit their wrong and they'll never get back with you I've seen it happen already then they move on with some other guy
Men and women alike. This isn't dependent on gender but more so on your history with them, how strong the relationship was before it fell apart (yes, breakups are a common occurrence even in strong/long-term relationships), as well as other factors at play!
Very good advice. My specific person had scolded me badly yesterday and told me that hes not going to see my face ever. Wont talk to me ever. Hope this feeling changes and soon he realise that he still loves me
It's a highly emotional period not just for you but for your ex, too. This is one of the main reasons why cutting off contact is crucial. So start playing your cards right first and stop trying to see him or reach out to him, all right? Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
You teaching makes me a more confident person, thank you
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I lost my ex twice now. Doing what I thought was the right thing to bring us closer. Unfortunately she did not see it that way. I am continuing to try to get her back
My ex came back after 4 months. 3 weeks after hanging out, he's not interested anymore. His behavior didn't change & it triggered my bad behaviors. If he's not working on himself but I am, is it better to move on?
In my opinion and it is just that so take with a grain of salt. If you work on yourself (because you can't work on others) to make yourself more secure then you will be more accepting of another person. Now obviously this has some asterisks. If that person's bad behaviors are abusive either physically or emotionally then moving on is the right choice or if they cheat on you and its not something you can forgive to regain trust also move on. My point is if you are secure you might see the bad behaviors as relatively minor and not a reflection of you. You just accept and love them for who they are as a person good and bad.
Hi. I just wanted to reply to you. I'd say it's definitely better to move on. You spent some time and depth to work on yourself, improve your worth, be the better person, but your ex triggers your responses, and elevates your negative behaviours because of his attitude towards you. You're a better person now, you have the insight to understand that you deserve better. Let it go. You'll find someone that values you for you.
Space does give you clarity. If he's not growing and you're not happy with your relationship, the breakup may have been for the best. It also helps to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself these very important questions before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Prob a narcissist..mine of 3 kids and 9 yrs left me on a whim,i tried for months to no avail,toxic..
Thanks Brad there was no signs she was very loving and attentive day after we came back from our break she went into shutdown mode then hit me with the text breaking up then said keep my chin up after 7 years wow
Just like that? That's odd, indeed. Has she done that (where she shuts down) before though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
You was so right my guy ..my Ex Iis reaching out. Im happiest man in the world..ty for everything
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Best bet, send her down the road like a used car with high mileage and let the next owner deal with all of her problems!👍🏻
More a like you are the old wreck now.
Yes, valid reason! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
i don't think ur mature... soon you will start to miss her
She was never yours.. It was just your turn...Sad but true.
@@garyaction7106 pimp talk and not grown man talk…if that’s the case you were just a walking sex toy
I been in the same situation, I couldn't stomach the fact that my ex broke up with me! I gave all of me ,all to find out that I was told I was downplaying his flaws and weaknesses without knowing, but I was giving constructive criticism because I loved him he was going to propose to me, so I tried fighting for his love back, but hounding him because I still loved him..love and breakup hurts.
Could be just a case of miscommunication/misunderstanding or something deeper and/or you may have to change your approach when trying to give your feedback because that obviously had a negative effect on him. Something in what you said to him struck and chord and let's find out which ones and how to proceed, so hire me as you coach so we can discuss, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I was with a man for 14 years and we were friends for 4 years before that so that's a total of 18 years. We didnt live together, we suited us to be honest. I had a feeling something wasn't right and after asking him several times he admitted he had interest in another women, why would he miss me now ?
Let time do its job. Have you both become complacent though? It's one of the killers in a long-term relationship as far as I can tell. Remember she's not you but at the same time you do ought to take a look at the role you played in the breakup too. Please watch this: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning I have just purchased your ex factor guide which I have found very good. There's on bit in the guide that says let them know you are socialising etc I cant really do that a he doesnt do social media and I decided in the beginning to unfriend his family on my Facebook as it was too painful
I know him all my life ..27 years .we are in our 50’s, 4 years we loved each other .now it’s almost a year of no contact .we were planning a life together but every time he felt pressure he backed out .childhood trauma .😢a very bad mother .i m sorry for him .wish I could help him .wish he could overcome his fears of commitment..
Iam starting no contact today.Wish me luck
Good luck! Just in case you didn't know, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Was in a 24 year relationship.You are so right.Until I really look back on it.He was very disrespectful and distracted easily with other women.I constantly corrected him on his behavior,but it got worst.Exhausted myself.Finally snapped.Then he thought I was crazy.The End.
That's tough. 24 years is a really long time to be spending with someone though. But if it's really that bad because of his infidelity, then the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
My ex broke up with me a few days ago and i really want to ask someone a question that has been bothering me for the past few days, when my ex broke up with me she said that I was still a really important person to her and that she does not want to cut the contact because she wants to be friends. The thing is I still love her and really want her back more than just a friend what should I do? I will appreciate any insight on my situation and I wish everyone going through a breakup contentment and peace you are not alone I know it hurts stay strong.
Hi! You're in luck because this is something I've covered in-depth on why it happens, including what to do, here: ua-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/v-deo.html Also read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Mine just broke up with me,telling ma cousin he is finally done.. this is the second time he's breaking up with me.. he said he has moved on and he has seen another girl he likes
How do they see your improvement when there's not contact and they don't use social media etc
Do the changes for yourself first and foremost. Your ex knowing about it is a bonus. In reference to social media...I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html Best of luck!
I instinctively started no-contact, before I even knew it was a thing, after I finished a really lovely relatively new relationship with what I now to be an avoidant the first time she shut down emotionally.
Strange because I’ve never ended a relationship where there was not a single argument, let alone a cross word. I just have zero tolerance for that kind of behaviour in a relationship.
7 weeks no contact I have not thought for a moment she would come back at all because she know that with me she would have no choice but to face up to herself. There’s a perfect opportunity there for her to heal and grow and I would support that, but I don’t see that happening. It’s why I ended it so abruptly as I did. They don’t take personal responsibility and they don’t ’do the work’.
It’s been heartbreaking because it was the most amazing 3 months but in so many ways I feel the entire thing was a lie anyway. Avoid the avoidant at all costs I say. I’m here to learn how to spot them at the start, there was not a hint of it at all for 3 months, they are so good at hiding it for a time.
Hey man, thanks for sharing your story! A short term relationship is tricky to determine which attachment style one has because while it's possible she has an avoidant attachment style, it's also possible she's just not that into you or simply not ready for a full blown commitment yet. And for this reason, although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning ….yeah I’m pretty clear, she was happy to set up a home office in my house out in the country and very excited to book an overseas trip, both of which were her wishes. I am ok with that as I am emotionally adventurous at the best of times. I have an amazing life and am emotionally available, she fell to bits under the weight of it all getting way more than she bargained for. I’ve seen this sort of thing before where the dreams, the fantasies, carry with them way more personal responsibility than most people realise. I appreciate your response, thank you.
I work on myself, make them regret for the rest of their life and never take them back.
Hi. Thanks for dropping by!
Evweytime I watch your video, it makes me feel motivated that I am ok and valuable. Thank u ❤❤
Coz you are valuable, so be sure to accept less than nothing good treatment, yeah? Respect your ex's decision to break up by giving him space but if you want to try to fix things with him, employ the tips from my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help you along that journey, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Take care!
I feel when no contact, no texting please don't expect anything in return from your ex just be yourself and if she's gonna call you or text you it's for her.' to do that but don't easy moved even when you love her and maybe she is testing you.
Show her that you're not easily move by words because it's not every ex is going to call you back or text, other ex they go for good.
Yes but what if you are stuck living together for 2-3 months after!? How do you do absence and space or even no contact?
You two are still on a lease? It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I brake up with my man today and he asks me to move .which i accept so that he can't see as if am begging him .but i noticed he has another woman. What can I do
Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with him if you can see he no longer wants to try. Get my Beat the Breakup guide if you're having a really tough time moving on from this, at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
My Ex deleted me everywhere on the same day, He can't see anything. How long to wait that He will message maybe?
Always apply the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Watch this, too, to help guide you: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html
So my ex broke up with me over text. Claiming my sons behaviour was an issue. If asking a few times when we going fishing. He then said he can't play happy families yet knew I had a child and was OK with it he said. Then he said I've been alone for too long and want a single man's life. He blocked me on all platforms. I've messaged him a few times on another fb page and he sees the messages but won't reply. We never faught, we laughed daily and were always holding hands and cuddling. Im so confused and can't go back to work this week. I can't eat as I throw up. Vodka isn't helping either HELP
It's been 2 months I had breakup I tried connecting and had a big argument I called again then she is like she doesn't want me what should I do ?
After 39 years you still think it will work, the hell and damage she left behind in me is still active
If things still struck a chord with you, then it may not be the healthy thing to do to think about going back. A lot of things also change after all these years and chances are, for better or for worse, you both were not the same people you once were.
Yes it will work....
Thank you Brad for your response, Should I wish on her Birthday, I'm so confused
You're welcome! It’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining days of the 30-day "no contact" rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.
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4 days no contact now he contacted me blasted me bash me on fb hes in pain. I didnt react. I went back not contacting
I respect the time and effort you put into this video. I am grateful. However, I am not so sure if time and space works. It is like taking a sheet of white printer paper and making a black dot in the very center of it. Some only see the black dot and none of the wonderful qualities you all possess. I don't think neither time nor space makes any difference if all they see is your character defects. Have a wonderful day all of you, and I hope you'll find the one who respects and appreciates you!
As a relationship coach of 15 years and counting, I can attest time and space helps. But like they say, in every rule there is an exception and one of the exemptions is if there's repeated instances of cheating involved or something similar. i.e.: if you have just become an overall very toxic person to your partner on which case some will likely forgive but never forget. Discussed more in-depth explanation of how time and space works, here: www.breakupbrad.com
just a little over a month of no contact - its been terrible! however it did force me to open up the hood and see where i can start to make some simple changes - an oil change was needed right off the bat... realistically though I realized there were a lot of disconnects within me that needed work. Focusing on understanding and fixing that made me more happier with myself and be able to cope with the distance. But by all means i feel i am still a WIP and maybe will always be..? I do miss her :)
Yep. Relationships help you grow. Although sometimes the growth comes once the relationship ends and couples don't necessarily grow together, only a few do so consistently. Whatever the case, it's best to focus on yourself. When you're ready to try and mend things with your ex, take the free quiz first and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
girl friend hurt much more, so i deleted she's number, after i moved on she's come back again 2 times after 5month, i not respond, after 8 months i contact him, now she's deleted my number, what will happen next, this is healthy love? She's come back again?
This happened after 8 months apart? Sorry but it may be time to move on from this. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
10 days no contact blocked everywhere I mean I don’t even know if she will ever speak to me again I am going on 11 days right now I should be with her in person we had plans
11 days isn't even halfway yet. I recommend 30 days straight of the no contact rule. It's best not to panic so as not to make things worse between you two. Anyway here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hey Brad we have been together for 6 months he broke up with me due to my really bad retroactive jealousy and last night he told me it’s over but this morning he said he needs time and space I just want him back I love him so much
So you kept bringing up the past/his past mistakes? What steps have you taken to build trust? Anyway it's a highly emotional time for you both right now so I suggest you give each other that long overdue space first to get your heads straight, yeah? If you've accused him especially without proof, then you're acting toxic as well, which is not good and explains why your relationship ended abruptly. But as it is, it's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
My partner of 10 years 3 kids has said shes had enough, we still live together but treats me like im not there. Its horrific. We do this alot and then end back together but i suffer Everytime. I just want a happy healthy relationship with her. I truly believe we are soul mates
Having 3 kids and lasting 10 years, that's a very significant relationship... but what are your issues you both encounter, individually and as a couple? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning communication wasnt great, I would see her feelings as personal attacks and dismiss them. An she's done waiting for me to change. Ultimately I want her to be happy but at the same time I don't want to give up on my soul mate.
Oh now that's something you ought to change. Invalidating feelings can only go on for so long. Consider hiring me as your coach so I can help take a look and possibly, help you find ways to try to get her back, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Im going to try these tips my ex offered me friendship but i cant be friends with him because i still love him i try to make things work over and over again but he still wnats to go and see if the grass is greener .i give up alot for him did a whole for him i was really needy and pushy i acknowledged my mistakes in the relationship to him and he still wants to go and leave the relationship i have a feelings he was cheating on me throughout the entire relationship that is why walking away was so easy for him .i hope no contact can help me move on and possibly find someone who will love me and not disappear when things gets difficult
You definitely deserve better. As it is, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I'm the one who left two weeks ago. I want him to realize his mistakes, and go back. I love him, but he took me for granted. He hasn't sent a single message since then.
What were his mistakes and have you tried communicating with him about it? There's a chance he thinks the breakup was your fault though, so watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
I think this is the last straw when he didnt call as he promised me when he was out partying with co workers and when he got home after two days away because of "work". I mean he could have excused himself and called me even for a minute. He gets mad when i ask him questions. When i told him that partying isnt work, he walked out and mumbled curses at me. If we break up, i dont even think i want him to come around and get back with me. The only thing is we bought a home, moved to this county to be with him because he asked and talked me out of getting my own apartment to move in with him. Which i think was a big mistake looking back. I became a maid being with this man. He almost always made me feel unappreciated.
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. Has he ever tagged you along in one of these parties with coworkers? It is indeed a tad disrespectful on his part to back out on a promise, especially if this has become a regular occurrence. I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. They key is to regain confidence and in due time, you WILL feel better. It's important to experience some sense of progress in your life to make things somewhat bearable after a life-altering and excruciatingly painful event such as a breakup. So try as much to set personal life goals and start small to make sure it's attainable, such as going to the gym, planning a healthier diet, etc. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process and help you live a more fruitful life without your ex. Take care!
12 years and no marriage.....then he says he just wants to be friends...or maybe he is gay?.......he is abusive......and arrogant....I am running
He's gay? Oh gee if that's the case then you may want to take steps towards moving on. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise anyway and it's never going to work out between you two. Anyway this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Hey Brad my fiance of 11 months left me recently...we had plans to move to texas but she left first because her mom is sick...turns out her mom is dying, I only found out because I kept calling & calling, she told me everything...she said that she doenst love me anymore & that she hates me, that she doesnt have time for a relationship rn because of all her fam drama as well, she said that i hurt her bad(my lies/never cheated) and that when she went back home(texas) that she felt like her old self again, she said that i have brought het alot of problems, but i was always trying to fix everything...we txted the next day n she told me she doesnt hate me & that we could still be friends & I asked if down the line we could pick back up, she said yes but idk...what should I do? Will I be able to win her back...its been 8 days of no contact so far
Have you lied? If yes, then what about? It's best to look into that because that clearly put her off and the death in her family only fueled things up for her and now she's understandably overwhelmed. So try to give me the missing piece/s and let's see what else can be done, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Also take the free quiz first to see what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Talk soon?
So, I’m living with my ex. He’s my roomate. What do I do? He’s constantly hooking up with other people
Move on or move out. You dont matter to your ex anymore. Im living it. Trust me.
That's just harsh. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. How long has it been since the breakup though? Unless you've done something to cause him to disrespect you (i.e: cheated on him), that's just bad behaviour on his part. Most people will still have respect for their ex even after a breakup but if it's now at a point where he's that inconsiderate of your feelings, then you may want to move out as soon as possible. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
I started my no contact yesterday but accidentally sent a draft text msg that wasn't even completed so I know he had to have been tripping when he saw that. He probably sees me as a loser 😔
My story is different though. Our relationship ended before it even started 😢
How long should «no-contact» last for? I did all the things i shouldn’t do like beg, spamcalling, but since yesterday i have Been silent. Its hard but i must trust the prosess and move on. I must say i had value before her, and in the starting-face but in the end it got worse
Sometimes it's just over man. If they don't contact you for months or years, you were just the last option. Just focus on yourself and moving forward and you'll be OK.
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning i didn’t take the hint for about 3/4 weeks, and it was pretty extreme begging and, sending letters, gifts, flower, telling her i can’t live without her and so on.. i wished that i had taken the hint sooner, and started to know what i know now. Anyways i hope that there still is hope, i scored 69 on your quiz. And i have used nocontact for 2 days now. I also believe that she at some point is going to Message/Call me but i dont know what to say then
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
If it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Same here😢
Brad i had to walk away because he kept disregarding my boundries . I walked away aware thaf he may not change . He blockec me next day and i guess i am wondeting do men come back and want to work on things even though you made the decision to walk away
Some men are too prideful when dumped and would rather move on. But if it's a hopeless situation like you said, consider moving on from this. I know it's tough even if you were the one to end things and especially if it was a significant relationship. In the long run though the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com On the flip side, if you think the breakup was a mistake and/or there's some silver lining, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/Y5jwPaxmJUM/v-deo.html
Does this work in situationships or just dating in general?
Although it works in all dating scenario, it tends to be really effective if you've had quite a history with your ex, whether good or bad.
I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago I did the normal begging and pleading it made me feel pathetic so I stopped texting her for 2 days and she texted me have a good day and it really threw me off ….. I dunno how to handle when and if she does it again ?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ua-cam.com/video/tev2-lrJq7o/v-deo.html
I disappeared and she got married to someone else in 1 week now what?
I'm sorry to hear that, man... but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Can you do a video about messing up (after the breakup), realising your mistakes and how to fix it if she doesn't want to see me, talk to me and hates me? And is trying to move on?
Give her space and don't push it... or since you've already messed up, it's best to redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
My GF told me a few things that hurt badly, but I can fix them all. She didn't take the time to look at anyone else's perspective. She sends me pics of her in something sexy and tells me she's just in a flirty mood. She says she's moved on, but I still have a chance. She's "really falling for Mike because he's just good to me". Ok, I said we're just friends then, I won't be an asshole. She says he's threatened by me, etc, but she wants to stay friends. All of this messed with my head until I heard Brad talking about something and I realized "She wants me back, but she needs me to change those bad habits I have into good ones". It's not unreasonable. So now I'm dieting, lifting and if she's around ok, if not ok. But if she doesn't move and someone else does, then sorry. You should have talked it out like a mature adult instead of throwing a tantrum like a spoiled brat and screaming at me. Oh the drama... lol
Nice! Keep it up! You got the gist. These changes and getting an ex back won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my Ex Factor guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of the steps that needed to happen to get things to continue to work in your favour: ua-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/v-deo.html Let me know how it goes. Wishing you the best of luck, man!
Should I block them - they aren’t texting but I just want to stop wanting them to
No, don't. I noticed a bunch of people having some problems reaching out later on because they've either deleted their ex, blocked (especially everywhere) or unfriended them, which creates an unnecessary dilemma really, if you ask me. The only reason why I suggest NOT to unfollow/block or delete an ex (that you want to get back with) is because you can, in fact, leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
i keep telling myself she did not see my value and only saw what
I could give her. Im not even going to try with her anymore. I'll do the things that I didn't want to do with her and make her realize she lost me and I did not lose her.
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Moreover, During the time of our breakup, I was just trying to check if she had unblocked me, so I called her, and I found that she unblocked me. I texted her immediately, saying, that I was not trying to contact her, but was just checking out. She blocked me again. Have I made it worse, I think she won't unblock me ever again. Please help me, I want her back, she was very nice, and loved me a lot, my regrets on my mistakes didn't make any changes to her decision. Her birthday is on 23 Nov, should I wish her, as it was my mistake not her, If I don't, she might think, after hurting her so much, I'm showing my ego. Please reply I'm getting really frustrated right now
Try to stay calm and not do the same mistakes. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hi Brad, you make a lot of content about how to get back together with your ex. But for cases that we were cheated on, how do we know if we should accept them back? Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.
Since that's a devastating experience, the desire/intention to fix that particular relationship then becomes a purely subjective experience. There are many causes of one partner going astray and while some cases can be worked on, other cases deserve to be left in oblivion. So use your discernment if the situation you describe happens, all right? If you need my help on that, then I need a ton of details to your situation but this is what I'm here for so hire me as your coach at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I can’t completely cut contact we have 2 kids together
That's right. If you're determined to try to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning ok I cussed him out yesterday but today is my start lol
hi i need you're help i break up with myboyfriend after 4 years of dating and we love each other he broke up with me because of my attitude he said that sometimes i say mean things to him he was holding it for 4 years but can't handle it anymore i still love him even when he said he wants to end things with me he was confused and sad but he said now he can't be with me like before i don't know what to do i feel lost i miss that person
Which steps have you done so far? Try to apply the tips from this vid: ua-cam.com/video/7t2fqkGVInI/v-deo.html
Hi guys I guess I just really need help understanding things
My ex of 3 years broke up with me
Because she couldn't give me time?
Or what I wanted I feel like those are just excuses especially since after 3 weeks she's now on tinder? (I was told by a friend and saw her on there) not sure if I want to even move on...
So If she couldn't give me the time why can she now give it to someone else?
She didn't answer any of my questions she basically just said we're over and blocked me on everything but I feel like I need closure I hate not knowing what and why?
I feel like a relationship needs communication... and I was always the one communicating I'm so lost I'm so hurt all I want to do is reach out all I want is to know why?
3 years to be over and looking for someone new in 3 weeks :( heart breaking
I just don't know what to do...
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuil d the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I ended my relation ship lastday because he is not communicative me more than a week and he always saying nothing change he want me but in nxt week he do thesame thing hes not contacting me more than a week so i told him to separate ways and he respect my dicisions.and he told me he will miss me and i responce i wish this time you mean it.and his agry to me because he never lie to me but my guts says yes you are.is that his way to make me leave him?
Yes, sometimes people act in ways so their partners would leave them, but as it is, they don't have the guts to end the relationship. A solution would be to pick a good time to talk and see if you agree where you see the relationship is heading and if you both agree or butt heads. Whatever the case, it's definitely time to take a break and give each other space first and see how you both feel afterwards.
What if your ex call you to tell you how you screwed it up? 😔
She's angry and is taking it out on you. The question now is: is it warranted? If there's truth to it, then you can apologize and empathize with your ex. This vid is for you and talks exactly about that, including what to do: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning I’m watching the video as we speak. Thank you Brad 🙏🏼💯
Hi brad ,,im not getting any answer from my lil princes ,,while emotion hitting me really hard ,the person who use to say im all yours that person chose someone over me while i reject alot purposal for her, and when i broke with her i spend whole night on the raod the and chain smoking ,i walking and walking.......i thought im safe and secure couse she this is what she use to say and i felt invincinble ,your heart in my hands rest assure im on your side ,but she is no more im doing this telepathy mediatation but not getting answer im heaer broken really heart broken ,can anybody tell her, her kiddo is crying yelling , deep in pain seriouse cuts,in trauma ,please can one do this for me .
What is your take on this situation? I have a friend who says he still cares and loves his ex very much even though they split over a year ago. He's currently going to therapy for this. He was ambivalent towards her in the relationship and they constantly fought. He said he would never get back together with her again but he misses her. Is it her the person he misses or the challenge that she presented in the relationship?
It could be both. People bond over trauma unfortunately and the person itself especially if they've been together in a relationship for a significant period of time (over 6 months). It's important to give themselves time to see if the relationship is worth the repair, especially your friend needs to sort this out with a clear head.
Hey brad, is it more difficult if they are a client of yours and you see them a couple of times a week? Any advice?
That's a tricky situation you're in. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/7iJ9l2055hk/v-deo.html
almost 2 months of no contact 5 year long relationship ended I was suffering from depression and thats why sometimes got angry before that we have a lovely relationship I dont think she will come back just need power to move on and can focus on my career
I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out and move forward in life without your ex. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I will bet that she’s actually not the love of your life and that you will find the love of your life once you get through this and then you’ll look back and wonder why you even thought that.
It happened to me. It will happen to you too. Give it time.
Well, if it's only been a month and you still want to try with your ex, then you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ua-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/v-deo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ua-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/v-deo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Me and my wife have a fight and she left in last year november and open cases against me we in july but she didnt come back yet. But her all faimly in envolved here.
Is she still coming back?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Some people may have to experience, " the one that got away" for real. ❤
True!
How she gonna know if I’m better now if she doesn’t bloom my insta or other social media
Hmmm... I'm sure you have mutual friends who have social media, right? Assuming you've been together long enough to have mutual friends. Anyway this is a very common question, I decided to include it in my video here, around the 4-minute mark: ua-cam.com/video/XodgaAi8EbM/v-deo.html
She and I broke up 11 days ago and she's pregnant. I'm so confused about what I did wrong.
It could be hormones or something I mentioned on this vid, so please watch from start to end: ua-cam.com/video/M4h7in9dtxI/v-deo.html
Brad my partner just dumped me after having a romantic 2 days together clisest we have ever been. We have beem together 7 years i got a text this morning saying its not me but her and finished by sayimg hold your head up 😮😮 really confused she has always disappeared for days emotionally before i put this down to her being on the spectrum and allowed her space
Going no contact as i know ive doney very best way more than she has invested
That's quite a tricky situation you're in. Has she always been that way though? If yes, then these vids might apply to you and your situation: ua-cam.com/video/4gTXF42Vnhw/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/v-deo.html
And who tells me when she does come back that she's not gonna repeat the same behaviour? The disrespect and the manipulation. One shouldn't just accept them back light-heartedly.
No one can guarantee that. This is why, if you've watched my other vids, I always advise to take things slow and not show too much eagerness when it comes to exes. For the full gist on what to do on your end, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 and be guided accordingly. Good luck!
Does this work if you leave them? My friend is doing this with a guy she left because he wanted to go on a party trip without her with known cheaters and he said she needs to trust him cause he hasnt cheated but she cant understand why he needs to put himself in this position to be tempted and travel for weeks going to clubs and parties. She wants him to realise thats wrong. Should she do no contact if she broke up and he said ok we are over you cant control me and isnt contacting her? She is devastated and doesnt want to lose him but doesn't want to tolerate that behavior either.
I'm afraid the problem here is lack of trust and compromise. The best she can do, instead of breaking up, is to get busy in her own life. But there seems to be some innate incompatibility between them here. Her man is fiercely independent and she ought to be the same and be busy with her own life too, but she seems to be the anxious type. Unfortunately no amount of silencing each other out can work in this case. If he loves to travel with his buddies, as long as it's not happening too often where he rarely gets to spend time with her, and she remains anxious, then they will run into the same cycle over and over again...especially if he doesn't include her in his future travels. Cut off contact and move on to find better suited partners, is ultimately my suggestion.
my ex-girlfriend left me 3 months ago, she blocked me everywhere, she unblocked me on whatsapp a few weeks ago, first she had a picture of herself, now she has a picture with a new guy, what does that mean, please Brad answer (she claims she was pregnant and had a miscarriage before we broke up and I'm still blocked everywhere except WhatsApp)
This really depends on what happened between you two. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
I just filed for legal separation because of the price of the housing market out there right now we’ve decided to stay in the same house. But we are legally separated. Something happens to me and I’m 64 years old right now she doesn’t automatically get the house. She only gets her half of the house and my life insurance I have changed the beneficiary. She doesn’t know about that so if I pass, she will be surprised to find out I have changed my will and somebody else gets everything that’s in my name I will go to my grave with smile on my face
Looks like a win for you. Did it get that bad between you two? If so, then the breakup/divorce looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ua-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/v-deo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Okay so ex and I been together 6years, and had a child (3 yr old) since he was born she said she was unhappy, but never really showed it. Eveerymorning we both said goodmorning I love you. The 6th year together, I had been paying for all financial things, house etc... I needed help with bills. She couldn't. I said if you can't help me then move the f out, or if you don't want spend time together then move the f out. Which I honestly didn't mean it, but was trying to get her attention the wrong way. 3 months ago she started staying at her friend's house, says she needed space. I love bombed... then she says I'm moving out it's not my safe place... now it's "I have been miserable for 3 years". " leave me alone, unless has to do with our child". Now she says she'd rather be alone than together. It's been 3 months broke up, I love bombed almost everyday, lasted a week tops. I feel like no matter what I do I'm kicking a dead horse. Am I wrong. Or if I go no contact could something change? I'd rather fight for her and wait for her over going to find someone else, which is the easiest choice. Any thoughts?
I understand your frustration in having to take care of everything financially but words do have impact. Looking at your case, she may have had a valid reason why she couldn't go to work/contribute financially. Your other option which you should've discussed with her is this scenario: Both of you had to get a career/job so she could contribute financially but then you'll have to hire a nanny to take care of your child together. Does that option sound good to you? If you, communicate it with her in a kind manner instead of downright attacking her, man. Anyway moving forward, apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/7t2fqkGVInI/v-deo.html You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Why do I want to chase someone who will leave you again
Are you saying this was an on and off relationship?
@BradBrowning no my wife separated after 21 years of marriage but she is doing hot and cold behavior she saying she not in a relationship but we been separated for 8 months but wants to be friends but not failing for a divorce but says she wants one
7 days broken up now i find out she moved in with someone else as soon as she lrft. guess there is no hope
I'm sorry to hear that, man... but you're right. Moving in with someone is a pretty big deal and chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
My wife doesn't care about any of my improvementa, she still left me. Will space and time help in this kind of situation too? We are married 22 years. She says maybe one day she'll find the love of her life😢
Try to move on
Did you hurt her first?
Wow. Unless you've done something big to make her that upset, I think she may be a little lost there. How long has your marriage been rocky though? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
52 days of No Contact i don’t even know if he will come back or not😢
she broke up on me after a cheat on her after one month no speaking. l would like just to say her thanks to make me understand l was lost and invite her in a dinner with his father but actually will be with me.where she doesn't know l will be there what do you think?
is a bad idea l already made peace that l lost her l won't beg her just make peace
If there's cheating involved on your end, this is the vid to follow: ua-cam.com/video/hMbzWr3QsjE/v-deo.html
In no contact for 3 weeks, but there is a bill which I need him to settle. Can I send him a message to pay for the outstanding?
Yes, of course. Having shared responsibilities with an ex makes your case one of the exceptions to the no contact rule. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html
Bruh.
The point of her being an ex is that it's no longer about her. It all goes to the New Queen now.
And the decision is final.
i loved her so much said that some things i said were mean and made her feel insecure but i never wanted to hurt her and she knows we were once meant to be she broke up with me and at first said maybe in the future then 1 day later she said 100 percent want to make this work then the next day she said she no longer knows if she wants to make it work then again she changed her mind and said their is no longer a chance of us getting back together im so confused have now have zero clue if she will get back with me or if i should just move on she also checks up on me and says she is worried about me sometimes and also she is ok with beaing friends
That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
She left me after almost 2 years on a decision within a day. From what I hear, she's getting antsy and processing thing but in not a good or healthy way.
You have no control over your ex or her actions, so focus on yourself. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: ua-cam.com/video/STLjybyiaBQ/v-deo.html
my ex and I have been hot and cold since our breakup on 10/10/24 he has moved on alr but has been calling me and I ignored him. just this monday I answered him and we had great conversations while on facetime while hes at work and on his way back home. he tells me what he expects of me in order for us to be back together but gets jealous bc I’m talking to men and going out. Again he’s alr in a rebound relationship. Yesterday he had a change of heart bc I mentioned that my ex wanted to see me. Well recent ex went in to say things won’t change he’s not investing energy into this he’ll continue to focus on what he has going on and I should focus on my own shiii!! I’m si confused but ok I’m a hugh value woman wanted and desired. Oh and he says yesterday morning on facetime before he flipped out again lol, “damn Shanta every time I see you I get mad bc why did you leave?”
That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html