Yes as an INFP that holds in feelings for long periods of time, when I do share myself with someone new, I get that vulnerable feeling you talked about and I feel kinda embarrassed the next day for being so open.
Haha I get that as well, but as an ENTP. Maybe for different reasons though. In the morning after Ill ask myself "wtF!! Was I talking about?? I need to chill"
Sometimes I don't tell a person I am mad at them because I want to avoid conflict, but it's often because I am still trying to figure out if my anger is logical or not. I have to give myself time to calm down and ride out the initial wave of anger, because the Fi is so strong that my Te doesn't get a chance, and I don't want to say something I will regret later. The problem is people can tell I am being quiet and moody while I am doing this, and they force me to tell them why I am upset, which makes it worse. If people left me alone long enough to figure it out thenI would usually realise I didn't need to be upset and there would be no conflict.
teddie552 I can relate to this 100%. :) I also prefer to give it some time, before speaking my mind. Otherwise I might overreact.. which I of course don't want to. :)
Goodness you just explained my line of thinking 200% lol! I usually try to take time to think before I let my anger out the problem is I end up letting it out in other ways lol Im still working on that though :D
I'm an INFP, and I absolutely agree that we protect our feelings by not sharing it. It's actually easier for me to to pursue a career that I'm not very emotionally attached to, because when other people meddle in things that are actually important to me, I just turn into an absolute wreck. I tend to keep the things that are most important to me away from my public life.
Moua Vang As an INFP, you will find purpose in your life doing work that has meaning to you. That means being invested in what we you’re doing, and making sure it aligns with your values. If you take on a dull, unfurling job, it’s very likely that you’ll be miserable. Don’t do that. Fight for the things that you believe in.
"When other people meddle in things that are actually important to me, I just turn into an absolute wreck," This is sometime that not a lot of people understand about me.
I’m an INFP and I have a really hard time being open with people because I’m scared people will think I’m too weird. Also whenever I do something out of my comfort zone I’ll question and belittle myself for doing it
I am INFP. Honestly, people don't know when I'm angry with them because I don't always know when I'm angry with someone. I try to hide my emotions even to myself sometimes.
Sarah C People usually don't know when I'm angry with them either ^^ lol. I actually do know when I'm angry with someone.. although I always try to make sense of it.. look at it from different perspectives.. and at the end of the day I'm confused just like you (if that makes sense) 😜
If you're anything like me, you'll find that anger causes such chaos inside you that you have trouble working out exactly what you're angry at, and you usually end up angry at yourself by default, just to keep the peace :)
Wow. That's profound. I find there are so many feelings going on about one incident, that sometimes it's hard to parse out what is really going on. Or I can move from anger to pitty, to compassion, to wanting them out of my life, period. Currently, I am working on total acceptance of this and taking things on a case by case basis, while also mindfully developing and maintaining some functional boundaries. That seems to take a thinking and judging skill that I don't really have, but am willing to develop.
Every other INFP I have met is much like you, so chill and selective in how they speak. I myself am an INFP but being from America I am very loud at times HOWEVER being like that for too long definitely drains me and I go between being extremely extroverted to extremely introverted.
haha I know what you're talking about - I can go between being extroverted and introverted as well, especially if I'm somewhat out of balance/stressed :)
Michael, I'm also INFP and in the UK, but grew up in America - so it took a while to understand the E/I bit. There is a slightly different flavour to Introversion in the UK compared to the US, it seems.
Christine Rigden Surroundings/places definitely play a role, but I would say it's also genetics and the experiences we made - especially as children. I'm neither American nor British.. my parents both grew up in a country where people are extremely extroverted. Yet I'm an introvert. My Dad too.
I am a unintentionally loud American as well. However, I do consciously behave in a cheerful, exuberant and passionate manner in the public sector to combat all the bland unhappiness I see in this world. It brings me to actual tears of despair when I am criticized for my personality traits. This week I was actually told to stop being such a passionate and driven person by the company president.
Ah. The impostor syndrome. I've tried so hard to "fit in" with other extroverts but it drains me so much plus I end up feeling bad about myself for "faking it". Now, I've just come to embrace my introversion.
I am INFP woman..I don’t share my emotions often towards friends including my family members and relatives ..I like to bottle up all my feelings for myself..I like to be alone and really really enjoy being my own company..if I angry, I will always keep quiet and keep it to myself but I don’t held my anger for a long time..the longest time I can keep angry is 10 minutes..and just let it go..my friends having really hard time to get to know me..and sometimes I can feel they talk behind my back..i’m very emphatic person..easily in tears when watched sad scene in movies..people think of me being too quiet and likes to be secluded..thanks so much for this video :)
Any INFP here constantly get asked "are you alright?" That's the one question I used to dread until I was enlightened of the INFP personality traits. Now I just smile and respond by saying "have you got a problem? "
mojoe367 ooohhhh my blood boils every time someone asks me that. God. I usually just laugh it off and say yeah or sarcastically say no but it really (fkn) ruins my day.
I personally have no idea how I would answer that other than the fact that my answer is always "Yep!" Despite whatever I am actually feeling. I personally feel very empathetic towards people I know, and everytime I be with them for awhile I can generally tell if something has happened that is draining or stressing them, or if they are hiding their feelings from me. I ask my friends that question A LOT off of reflex if they get slightly hurt or if I get a feeling about something that is off. I don't like being asked this question, but do you think I should completely stop or rephrase it? Please tell me, I really do want your opinion on this.
Hah! That definitely seems to be an issue for ENTP's as well at times. Probably for different reasons though.. But the response to "are you all right" will probably be the same as ill be thinking "Wtf!! No now I'm uncomfortable because you asked me that" ..though ill just say "yeh"
ISTJ - INTJ and other practical cold blooded types, can't stand me, and prefer labeling me as an "Unlogic weirdo", but as well, I can label them as " Emotionless robots" , joking around with them " don't forget to recharge your unit pal!"
i defo have always hidden my feelings , to the point where people think i am emotion-less, little do they know lololollll but i think as ive gotten older and been working on character development i have become more expressive and extroverted
you heard I wish! I have too much pride to talk about my feelings. As I got older, I feel like there's one or two ppl that I can trust with my feelings, but there's absolutely no one that I can tell everything too. If you group my close friends together with a few family members, then that'll cover about 82% of everything I'm willing to talk about, that's as close as it gets. It has nothing to do w/shame, regret, etc.. it's just that there's not too many ppl on my level. I'm a male Sagittarius whose INFP with a lot of INFJ tendacies, I'm as unique as it gets!
Not meaning to argue, but appearing emotionless doesnt sound particularly INFP like. In fact an INFP is a fairly emotional personality type. What they are very introverted and guarded about is revealing their personal emotions. Theyre pretty quick to, and almost feel obligated to try to help others they hold dear when others are having an emotional crisis due to being extremely emotionally insightful, and a strong moral compass. It's very draining, but morality wins out almost always (until the tank runs empty, in which case God help anyone trying to push them. It's like trying to get a wall to interact. Pointless.)
I got speechless during that vid...im INFP and watching u was like seeing myself in the mirror ..the way u talk, express ur thoughts, body language...its like me in other person's body :D lol
I'm an INFP and this is dead on. I wish I looked like you :( you look like a model edit: Forgot to mention, but the masking of feelings things is scarily accurate. I found myself doing this in new situations (at work) or in uncomfortable situations just as a defense mechanism and also because it feels safer to adopt a certain persona that certain people may respond to better. Sorta like molding into the person's interests that u date, but in this case the type of person u think will impress or just sit well with ur colleague or potential partner. It is more deeper and not just about that, however. Like I said before I've used the mask as a defense mechanism when I'm not comfortable, and it gives me a false sense of security because I'm not being vulernable. In a way it gives me a sense of power because the other person doesn't truly know me or my intentions (they can't use anything against me) but it's a double edged sword because I do want people to love and know the true me- well people worth my time. I'm also really insecure so this makes it harder as I constantly question my personality and wonder if I should be more mysterious or less impulsive and stick to dry humor over silly childlike humor etc etc. Idkman
I am INFP-A and I can tell everyone that you can get stronger. You can express your feelings and also be able to confront someone when needed. You only need to raise your confident and also get into unconfortable situations where you push yourself to the limit. Hidding in your shell and avoiding conflict will only make you weaker. Its not easy and you will suffer on the way, but the result is so satisfying :) BTW you are absolutely georgeous. Love your eyes and hair
Love your words.. pushing ourselves through these uncomfortable situations is a great way to challenge ourselves and grow as sensitive souls. It takes a bit of courage though 😊 Thank you 💜
Finally an INFP I can relate to, we really do understand the emotions of others quite well, but we're not very good at acting on that, because we have Fi not Fe in our top four. Also, a lot of INFP's on UA-cam seem to think out loud when they speak or float around, but I relate more to your slow and decisive style of speech.
Olivia Maloney Yayy 😊 I'm a quite reserved and chill infp :P The floating around makes me nervous. Although I have to say ..when I'm stressed or kind of imbalanced.. I can turn into a "floater" too lol
amt If you don’t contribute to their rich inner (dream) world, they will miss the value in their relationship. As a partner for INFP, You will have to make the effort to know them in this way. Like how it also is with INFJ, Many people just can’t fathom INFP’s rich inner being.
All my life I wondered if I was the only one who ever felt like this. Thank God for the internet where I can see and hear from so many individuals and beautiful souls who aren't really different from me at all, who always felt the way I did, and also for the people who are different but try to understand so we can learn about each other and all grow into better people from it. Becoming the best version of myself has always been my drive. You have beautiful hair also. Your curls compliment you and add to your gentle aura you give off.
Becoming the vest version of ourselves is the ultimate goal :) It gives us sense and purpose. It is indeed comforting to see there are so many adorable people out there feeling the same way I do! Thank you very much! You're sweet :))
Quite funny, you talk exactly like I do. It's like you're thinking and contemplating at the same time as talking, trying to find the best way of describing things and getting a little distracted by your thoughts along the way. I often think this is why I get so exhausted just talking to someone, and I can't engage in small talk at all. I prefer to just smile and listen and absorb. It sometimes comes across as rude or like I'm an idiot that can't hold a conversation, but there's ideas soaring around my mind. I only recently started to read into personality as I've always thought something was "wrong" with me, but didn't know what. Anxiety? Depression? Maybe on the Autism spectrum? I realise now that there's millions of others just like me, that our outlook and thinking is just... different. My partner is an INFP, too. We've been together for 11 years, been together since we were 15. I think we love each other so much because we can truly be ourselves, we're the only ones that really understand each other. God knows what people would think if they saw us together privately, a couple of little weirdos! Thanks for sharing.
So funny to read about other infps experience,.. yes I'm thinking and contemplating at the same time. Makes it sometimes hard in the real world out there :) Cool, did you face any challenges being with another infp?
Well, all I can say is where have you been all my life. As an INFP male I'm "disarmed" by your famine nature, yet within my heart I've always wanted to meet a woman that understands my deep inner feelings and need for expression of love.
I don't like ppl finding out many things about me as I know they will use it against me sooner or later... they always do!! But I always have yo listen to them and their lives (usually problems) because they just love to offload on to someone but maybe don't like to visit psychologist.... I guess 😂😂😂
I am just like you :) Very private! I don't like talking about my weaknesses. People only use it against you - as you said :). However I don't like talking about my strengths either. I prefer being low-key. Yeah - we can be living magnets for people with issues/problems. :P That's where we have to learn to set boundaries.
I'm a male INFP, and I completely relate to your point of view. I haven't thought about this so far, but I agree with you in that if I had to label myself from the outside, it would be easy to state that I'm an introvert, and a perceiver, but not that easy to guess whether I'm a sensor or an intuitor unless you get to know my knowledge interests, and definitely quite hard to know I'm a feeler rather than a thinker, unless you hear my reasons involved in certain decisions. Anyway, congratulations for your flawless first video! It's quite hilarious to see you reminding adventures as you talk, and smiling because of them... It also happens to me very often haha. Take care, bye!
Yes I agree.. even though I think INFPs are capable of stepping into the shoes of an extravert from time to time.. the introvert thing is usually obvious :) haha aw and this makes me smile.. :) thank you!
Great video, Lyla. You teach even more by your magnetic and ineluctable presence than mere words alone. I used to be an INFP then I turned into an ENFP after puberty (a natural process helped by HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie). INFP's tend to exude a quality of distant magnetism, like a deer on the horizon. But with great radar, like they're picking up everything about you even though they don't want to intrude. Also, they are one of the rarest types. Very radioactively unstable -- they find balance in one person whom they love but whose limitations may drive them crazy. Learning to dialogue is their life's task, to share but not to be emptied; to receive but not to unduly adopt or reject the content shared with them. Practical grounding is vital. It is hard for an angel to hover halfway between heaven and earth. They need to maintain their ideals but manifest them somewhat into the world of form, like a highflying balloon with a strong anchor in reality.
Joseph Barclay Ross Thank you Joseph! I'm totally impressed by your talent for words. You have expressed the nature of Infps so beautifully.. in a metaphoric/abstract way. It's interesting to see that personality types can change over time as well. I definitely have my extrovert moments too.. but it doesn't come naturally. Most of the time I feel it's a form of compensation for actually being socially awkward deep down. You're totally right about the practical ground that a lot of us are missing. That's probably the reason why we're looking for these traits in our partners/friends.
You're absolutely beautiful mademoiselle. What you've said it is absolutely accurate. My girlfriend, doesn't really express her feelings, she prefer do 'hide' and not confront if we got a problem and so on. And I always try to 'train' her, to let me know, how she's feeling, what she's thinking, so we can have better communication. Btw, one of the most genuine people I've ever met are INFP, including my girlfriend. Best regards, ENTP.
Thank you! I love that you're working on your relationship! A sweet Infp girl deserves a prince who doesn't give up on her ;P I can imagine it's not always easy with us,.. communication is a challenge. Happy for you! Entps are super cool and interesting!
I'm an INFJ but I feel really drawn to INFP and I totally understand and also see what you're saying. My girlfriend is an INFP and she has so much trouble with showing her feelings and herself but me as an INFJ.. we want to figure you out so she kinda only needs to express half of it and the other half is already understood. Also we really reach a deep deep connection far deeper than the surface and it's just super exciting interesting scary and lovely at the same time.
Ok but...can we appreciate her amazing accent and the fact she's taking her time to do this for us? Also why is this whole comment section a big mood along with the video, I ain't complaining...I absolutely love how I find of this all relatable!
For years I tried to understand how I think and function. I took the personality test on line three times with the results Infp. I really didn’t quite understand until I found your video👏You put into words in such a short amount of time what I now understand.
Holy wow, couldn't be more proud to be an INFP girl along with you, you are SO BEAUTIFUL. And amazing with your words I could listen to you talk all day wow. Literally
I took the 16 personalities test today and it said I’m an INFP. I can relate to everything it said it was quite shocking! I tend to conceal my emotions a lot, feel embarrassed to open up to people I don’t know so well.. I’m constantly analysing my relationship with my partner and dreaming how it could be better. I also discovered that I’m completely incompatible with my partner despite being with him for 18 years, as he’s a ESTJ so he’s a very straight forward logical person and doesn’t take well to my more philosophical romantic ideas about life. I find it very lonely being an INFP, but thankfully my middle daughter is also one. My eldest is the same as her dad ESTJ and she’s the carbon copy of him and we disagree a lot!. I wish this test was around 20 years ago!
ESTP here. Imo, it’s not stubborn for not wanting to change your belief system if you believe in it for your reasons. You should have a solid foundation for yourself. Thanks for this!
Being an INFP is hard and exhausting sometimes but you can do it! This is just a little reminder that you’re loved and a very special and wonderful person ❤️
Hey Lejla, I was referred to your channel through a wonderful INFJ moderator and couldn't have been more pleased with your description of our type. I especially appreciate the pulling of the curtain on the sweet, innocent INFP collective perception. We can be jaded, sarcastic, and very dark if unhealthy. It seems like you have begun integrating the shadow aspects. As a woman INFP, you remind me of a very similar embodiment to myself, in terms of, expressing ideas and concepts in a clear, yet unorthodox manner. It's almost impossible to make my face match the expressiveness I feel within- and my intuition is that you feel along similar lines. Warmly, Nicholas
Turned the sound off and just watched while you explained yourself. Your emotional gestures are breathtakingly beautiful. Listened to you afterwards and your thoughts are devastatingly insightful. Thank you for posting🙂
Hi, fellow INFP! I love your channel! ^.^ Awesome first video! I relate so much to you especially when you said that INFPs can never be talked into something they do not personally believe in! So true! I need to believe in a cause 120% before I will defend it!
LYLA Hi! ^.^ You are so kind! Thank you for answering my comment! :) It is our greatest strength because we can never do anything that isn't us because we are always doing what we believe in! Which means we are always genuine!
ENTP here.. What's up! I rarely ever consciously think about putting on a "mask" of sorts. For example when I'm uncomfortable it's really hard to "hide" that discomfort, or so I've been told. I think that's the weird combo of extraverted feeling and introverted thinking. I'm pretty good at being collected and patient say when I'm upset, but its tough for me to have a "happy" demeanor in those situations. For example I can never pull off forced smiles, thus my RBS. Ive been told by friend that I looked intimidating at times when first meeting them, though I never had any ill will. To get around not having a good "mask" I need to reason with myself whether or not if in the broader context it's worth being upset in the first place. Depending on how that goes I can "talk" myself into being "happy." I know an INFP really well and she is really good with the mask though. Since I'm closer to her now I can see past the layers at times and cut through the bs, but that took time. Lots of time. And yeah there were moments where I thought she was being very prideful. Even still she can be really guarded, but she can be super "squishy" past the layers haha. She also talk about her feelings a lot in more private moments, which is something I rarely do. A lot of times I'm trying to intuit what others might be "feeling," not that I'm always successful, but she (INFP) reminds me at times that I need to pay attention to and take care of my own. As an ENTP I feel its great to have INFP's in your social circle as they can really balance you out. To me, INFP's are truly like onions.
Hi there.. sorry I overlooked your comment somehow. Oh yeah.. you entps can be very blunt and straight forward. :) There is some air of badassery about you guys. I find it cool to be honest.. it's something I just can't do - unless I get to know you better and feel comfortable around you. As an infp I can say.. I can pull of these "forced smiles" as you say.. although it exhausts me at the end of the day. It's extremely draining. The reason why we as infps put on these masks is because we don't want people to think there is something wrong with us - "oh why is she so silent?" If I would show the level of disinterest I feel in many situations/conversations.. people probably wouldn't turn to me anymore. Why talk to someone who actually doesn't bother about most things (you know.. mundane topics.. small talk etc.)? We don't want to make ourselves outcasts. So we actually feel forced to put on these masks.. it's not because we like to do it. You get me? :) I find it sweet how you try to "intuit" what others might be feeling.. for an entp that's not an easy task I think :) I always had the feeling that infps can get somewhat exhausting for entps.. since you guys feel kind of forced to read our minds & feelings and look for some underlying hints to understand us. Thank you.
I agree with the conflict avoidance I avoid them like the plague I also feel that not only to protect my feeling but I like to be in control of my feelings and emotions. that internalizing masks the emotions are buzzing around under that mask but I like to make sure I make my choices or reaction not just on my emotions but on the situation, info or circumstance
Yesss I can totally relate. I prefer to be in control of my emotions as well.. and even though I lead with my heart, I still prefer to use my mind/rational side when making major decisions :)
This resonates with me as I've been mistyped all the time. And yes, we have 'mask' to protect our feelings. I wish one day to just be real me, but some people are just not worth it.
Thanks for this video :) I can relate to this so hard, it's almost scary. In the past, I tried to put on lots of different masks, just to feel safe and protected and I couldn't stand the fact that someone would know how sensitive I am. Now, I found my few friends who understand me and know how to cope with my sensitivity. I'm so thankful for them and this really made my image of humanity become more positive. I hope that other INFPs (and of course other people who have the same problems) will find themselves and don't feel the need to hide their true personalities. ♡☆
Thank you for this video. I've only understood in the last year that I'm a highly sensitive INFP man. Values are so important and I'm only coming to understand that now. Trouble has come in my career when I'm put under pressure to act against them and rebel
I'm an INFP but conflict doesn't necessarily bother me, well atleast not when its conflict between myself and another person or group. But when its conflict between others it bothers me to an incredible extent. I dont understand why that is, I always try to be the 'mediator' (ironic but accurate tbh) but if the conflict is too deep to be rectified then I need to get away and be by myself for a while, it gets overwhelming. I used to hide my emotions a lot to protect myself, it's a defence mechanism and let's be honest, not the healthiest of them. When I started sharing a bit more, I noticed that theres always atleast one other person that can relate and (based on their reaction) it's as though they have been waiting ages to find someone else that understands and knows what it's like. That's special and shouldnt be thought of as something that should be repressed or kept to oneself.
I am an INFP and yes, I don't like to argue with other people. I tend to just keep quiet to avoid conflict. But i think the reason is because I already argue too much with my sister at home. We are not good at all and we only ever "talk" when we fight and that often involves yelling. I also love to defend my stand to my parents. But outside our home, I simply don't involve myself in arguments. I'm tired and I just want to leave them alone to think and act the way they want.
When someone somehow hurts me or in a way gets to me I sit and think "should i be mad at them right now ?" lol this is funny when i think about it but that's who i am
This is a really good video on the infp. Twfp typed me esfp which I wanted to believe for a while. Before that I typed myself infp & deep down didn’t like the description & didn’t like myself because I felt rejected by the world. The world is hard on infps even though infps contribute so much to society. Now I feel I have people in my life who accept & appreciate me therefore I accept being infp. Thanks for this video
Funny that I'm also an INFP and your eye movement is similar to mine when it comes to speak in front of camera. Sometimes we look at many ways instead of focusing on the camera. The way your eyes down when you talk also reminds me of Lady Diana. Sorry if this sounds creepy. I was just so surprised of the striking similarity.
Lolita Park Infps have that certain aloofness in their eyes I think. Like they are actually somewhere else. And you can see their sensitivity in their eyes.. can't hide it :) Not at all.. I'm so in awe of Diana. She's truly been a princess of hearts 💓
Nameless Yes that's a good point..and in order to know you're wearing a mask at all..you have to know who you are :) I think many - especially younger - infps loose themselves in that process and experience something like an identity crisis.
Hey girl. Im INFJ, but i wish im INFP like you. Its very hard you try to help people but they always take chances of hurting you or taking advantage of you.
Hey girl - oh I love Infjs and even though we have different functions.. we still have a lot in common :) Well I guess that's a problem we share.. sometimes it really feels like the more you offer, the more they take. We can't control or change people .. but we can control ourselves and set boundaries whenever we notice someone behaving like that.
I'm an INFP and that thing about opening up about feelings is really hard for me. There are a lot of things in my life that bother me but not many people will know what I'm going through and what exactly I'm feeling. I met this guy that now is my boyfriend and I feel confortable with gim because he can handle well when I'm talking to him about things that makes me sentimental and as an example, whenever I'm talking to him about what I think is not working for me and that's bothering me in the relationship, or maybe something inside me that has nothing to so with him, just my fear of something, this is so personal that when I start voicing everything that's on my mind, I start crying.. I feel like shit because I guess that's something so true to me and that makes me sooo afraid that when I say it, I feel so vulnerable, like anyone could break me into little pieces at any moment. I've been to a psychologist and that helps me a lot, and when I'm there, talking about everything that's inside me, I cry and cry and cry LOL I just can't help it.. I feel stupid 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Whatever feeling I have I mostly deal with it within myself. My interactions with people tend to be very friendly and harmony oriented so that my sensitive core is at peace.
It is so nice to be able to relate to fellow INFP girls! This video perfectly articulated thoughts that I didn't realize other people shared, and it is so nice to know I am not alone! Thank you! 💕
Pride? Dont like conflicts? You nailed me lmao, i have to keep up the "nothing affects me" mask , i even parade as an ISFP, even at some point believing that i was an ISFP, but im an INFP through and through, great video
I am enfj and even before I know about mbti I always feel strong desire for infp girls. I see them by style of moving, body language and even I belive I can see it in facial feautres etc
I discovered MBTI not long ago, maybe 2 years ago. At first, I was dubitative, but I tried this test. Waited for the results, and discovered that i'm INFP. That was like " Boom" ok! That answered to all my behaviors!" It was wonderful to be understood like that. Ok I admit, I cried. All this years, I needed a mask ( yes that chameleon mask ) to be accepted by others. Without mask, i was mistaken for a weirdo, and wasn't able to talk with girls only with boys, so you can guess, that I was sometimes also mistaken for a gay. With a mask, I was able to live, and grow "normally" - having girlfriends etc...And that's a thing that not everyone can afford. I also take my energy from arts ( graphical arts - drawing... etc ) and sometimes needs to be lonely, to recharge. My sensibility helps me at work, as I work as a Cargiver. I' m a male INFP in a ESTJ world, and i'm Cancer haha, that's make me the in the most sensitive category of mens. Sometimes mistaken for a weak, I can be stronger in dangerous situation and take the lead. I've actually have a mask on me as I write this, trying to hide my sensibility, fear of being judged. But I take my courage, to share with all of Us. I'm glad to see people like me, as where I live we are rare, or very rare. ( Reunion Island) - Continue making those videos and thanks Lejla :)
Interesting and astute set of observations here. Brava. Other than not being a woman (56YO man) , I felt as if you were describing me specifically. I appreciate the way that you articulated your impressions. Very insightful.
Just about to watch this...I recently discovered that I am an INFP and that they make up only 4% of the population (1 and a half percent being male) and it makes SO much sense to me as to why I am the way I am. Right, on with the video...
Yep, pretty much agree with what you said there, especially the well known trait of us being conflict-avoiders (I really am, both physical and verbal). It literally makes me sick with anxiety at any flare up, especially in public scenarios. We just want everyone to be settled and happy, including ourselves :-)
I took that test and scored as an INFP. Yes I don't like fighting. I love communicating- after all what is wrong with getting real? I definately have a hard time with conflict. Although I love people I just don't think that there has to always be an argument lol.
I met an INFP girl. I still like her, I feel like I understand her but I really don't, I've settled to one conclusion. That, I like her and just be there for her. Ever since I stopped trying to understand her, I truly started to understand her...
I am an extreme example of INFP type, and I have kind of "problem" in my "love life". It is because mostly every women who see me attractive, and interesting are ISTJ... And I don't know why, because they are totally opposite. At first they love my dreamer personality, and so on, but in "everyday life" we can not bear each other. I don't know how to explain it to myself, because women who I met in my life and I think they might be INFP, are not thinking about me as a partner, but ISTJ girls (and other similiar) who really wants pragmatics, fall in love in idealist dreamer like me. Later they say things like "oh men need to do... and be like bla bla bla" and etc. so the question is why they want relationship with me if they know from the beginning that I am like this. The other part of that, is the thing that women which want to be with me are EVERYTIME the ones with many problems and which want my 24/7 attention, and want to consume my emotions everytime, even if im depressed or something they want me to be kind, and silly.
Antiselfism Hey there.. I attract a lot of isfjs and esfjs into my life. :) They are the ones who are more likely to make the first step than infps. Istjs are definitely more assertive than we are. But honestly, most people in relationships challenge each other with time. There will always be something we don't know how to deal with in our partners. I can relate to your situation and all I can say is - if there's someone who thinks you're "too" emotional for them, believe them :) You are probably too emotional for them.. but perfect for someone else. Appreciate your own sensitivity and emotions and I'm sure you'll start attracting people who will do so as well. (whether istjs or not ^^)
U r right.It's difficult to spot an INFP,even a fictional one I noticed,because of that.Before my friends became my friends,they were all scared of me because I looked cold and aloof.But after they got to know me,they knew that I'm not like that all.As an Fi-dom,we always have that front.I noticed Fi users are like that,seemingly cold until they open ur hearts to u.But this front is even stronger with the INFP,that u may have no idea what the INFP's type is just by knowing them as an acquaintance.
Yes I agree :) I think old Hollywood actor Marlon Brando is a good example.. he gives the impression to be ESTP (also due to the dominant characters he played) He was known as "l'enfant terrible" :) But if we listen to his interviews and other documentaries.. it's obvious how sensitive/emotional and deep he was in real life. He is typed as INFP :)
As an INFP, I don't think romantic love exists. I was a very hopeless romantic person and believed that love conquered everything, and all other bullshit things. But now for me, romantic love is just an illusion. I prefer just imagining falling in love than making it happen in real life and risking another heartbreak. I think it's just a waste of time fighting for love, I better use my precious time and energy to fight for other important things in life.
I'm infp. A lot of what you said is true. I don't like conflicts, but I know as an adult it's a part of life. I personally don't tell people how I am feeling or thinking unless I'm 100% sure about bringing it up. If I'm angry or sad I wait a few days before talking about it. Get my thoughts together. People always say their infp friends are angels and I'm just sat like: You're obviously not that close to them if you think they don't have a dark side. People either think infp's are just constantly happy with zero problems or that they lack emotions. I had one situation where this girl didn't want to be friends with me anymore cuz she said I am never serious. But the thing is she never actually hung out with me outside of college. She never got to know me. I had offered her to hang out so many times, but she declined. I have an Esfp best friend and he knows about my dark side. It scares him but he accepts it and still loves me. If I fell off a cliff I'd trust him to help me.
Hi Leija, just wanted to say I love your videos and they really resonate with this fellow infp. Hopefully you make more someday! (I also love your purple top. May i ask where you got it lol?)
Here's an example of an IFTP thought: "That person over there looks so sad! I should tell them that they're loved and that everything will be ok". We're too damned compassionate
I'm an INFP male. I always feel like my personality makes more sense on a woman. Kind, patient, creative, caring, sensitive, etc. Are female traits. I often got told to "man up" when I was younger, because men don't show emotion. I never stopped being who I was I just got better at hiding my emotions. I don't get angry much at all. I rationalize why people say or do what they do and often understanding why placates much of my anger. The only people who anger me are the ones who I can't find a good excuse for their bad behavior. And many of the times I show my anger, it's exaggerated. I am only making my anger known because I don't want the thing making me angry to progress any further so I draw attention to it by showing a glimpse of anger. And I can turn off my anger right away. I do struggle more with showing affection and I am unsure whether it's my INFP doing it's natural thing or if it's the depression kicking in. I'm either showing too much affection and it makes the other person uncomfortable or not enough and it's confusing the other person. Dating can be really awkward for me because I see the signs and cues, I just don't know how to react properly. Lastly, are INFP people more gifted at comedy? Most of the famous INFP people are writers or philanthropists but I don't see any of them being known for comedy. I'm only asking because I get told that I am funny but I don't think I am much funnier than the average person. I wanted to know if any other INFP people are known for their humor or if I am a black sheep in this.
Hi! I think Infps are more likely to be a bit imbalanced when it comes to their emotional state. Fi-Ne is not easy. If people push us in a corner, we tend to react with emotional outbursts. It's terrible and I hate it when I have to react like that, but it's usually when I feel there's no other way. Don't be worried about the "female traits". I honestly wish more males out there could have more of these traits. Who doesn't want a kind, sensitive person with good listening skills? Think of Johnny Depp, Marlon Brando. Infp males have a mysterious aura,.. and I'm quite sure a lot of women fall for that type of guy. Infp males aren't less male than other types, they are just very misunderstood. Most people are too shallow to take the time and think about it. I honestly believe that the only thing an Infp truly needs to work on is their self confidence. Positive self affirmation... & not let the outside world irritate them so easily. I think the infp humour is a bit random, childlike.. think of Tim Burton movies. We're funny in a different way. I, for example, tend to act silly. People find it strange and amusing at the same time I think. :)
Friend, I'm an INFP male too, I have a ISTJ father with military morality, but with an INFP mother too. I grown with a strong personality that doesn't fit in this world, I was considered as a weirdo "man", a weak, and sometime even as a gayboy. My mother tried to protect me, but gave me over-protection because she was afraid herself as an INFP. I grew suppressed in all ways, talking, socialisation ( as other guys and girls too rejected me ), man teachings ( as my fathers hasn't patience to make me learn with him, and too harsh towards me, to man up too.) INFP can't grow in that patern, they need to be " deeply understood" and needs authentical relations, they need to love and be loved for what they really are. They need strong connection with ( The Force? No Joking )their emotions and other's emotions, they seek HARMONY and LOVE, while others can seek for POWER and DOMINATION. But it's not that simple, as INFP even J are the most complex personality ever made by God. An INFP can be evil or good like other personality types, it's their goals, that will determine their side. Good or Evil. If you can't have support for years, you will tend to accept yourself as a "weirdo" and actually acting like it. But NO you're just special, a special being connected to the invisible, and ideas comes from that!. I agree that lot of woman doesn't like INFP/J mens, and I talk with experiences. However, I will not change for them, I will staying myself, even If it implies to stay alone the rest of my life This world will not change my essence, because without it i'm nothing, it's that I am and will always be. I prefer to be alone to be nothing... Take care :) With you INFP I can be myself without being judged, SO ... SHARE THE LOVE AROUND YOU !!! Yes Hippies style ;)
Have you done the MBTI test? Of course, Infps can be expressive as well when it comes to their thoughts/feelings - especially if the feel they are treated unfairly. There are always exceptions - not all infps are the same :)
Katie Tests,especially 16 personalities,are not accurate in general.If u wanna get closer and closer and have a better idea of ur type,first and foremost,delve into the cognitive functions.Next,u can watch youtube videos that allow u to differentiate between certain types.
I'm INFP (according to MBTI test and several similar tests) and have no ability or desire to hide my emotions. I don't think that part of her analysis was accurate at all.
I don't even get really angry - I isolate myself from the people who do me wrong. Sometimes they text me and ask me to hang out again, because they still think I am their friend. But they are not mine anymore...
If i am angry i show it, but only to people who are very close to me. But if somebody hurts me, i don't show it to anyone. Because if they didn't do it on purpose i don't want them to feel bad about it and if they did it on purpose i don't want them to think they were successful... And i don't want them to see that i am sensitive 🙈
Yes, mistyped. This is what I am. When I do the MBTI Test my result is INTJ again and again. After researching (A LOT) because of being naturally sceptic about my results, I am becoming convinced that deep down I am an INFP that trained itself to become INTJ... The reason is... tragically... that being hyper-sensitive and truly goodhearted altruistic does you a lot more harm than good in this world. It is a big weakness. Not a quality. Which certainly demonstrates a fucked up aspect of society. But hey, life is not fair. And not meant to be. Nobody owes you anything. You gotta play by the rules, I thought and still think. So, for example: the extreme conflict avoiding nature. It used to describe me extremely well, will sooner or later make you a doormat for people to step on you. Not taking you serious, disrespecting you. I already got hurt alot about this, I cried a lot alone in the bathroom. Nobody values peace-makers (in my lited experience). You MUST learn to confront. Which is just what I learned, now I do this all the time. Even to friends if they did (rarely) something very disrespectful, I privately, rationally explained it to them. It literally in the beginning to everything in me to train this skill. My friend respected me even more after I confronted him and the energy around is cleansed. Which would not have happened if I hold my feelings in. This is just one aspect, I could talk about this for hours and don't want to bore anyone who is so kind to read this.... If this gets read. Please please tell me your opinions and experiences about this :))
I’m an INFP, and I thought I was an INTP till I realized I feel more than I think. Im also a Pisces, and I get hurt really easily. I hate interacting with people when I feel like they do it for upkeeping face. It really hurts, especially when no one else notices. I feel so alone all the time but I love helping people. There’s just no one that can help me.
Def pride. Also yes i dont want my feelings analyzed. I feel my stances or reactions are generally criticised. And i don't like that at all. Its not okay. If i tell you my viewpoint and or my feelings. Disagree. Tell me im wrong and why okay. But dismiss me and criticise? No. No way. I just don't want to subject myself to that all the time. I am currently learning to open up more. (I'm 40). And i am learning things i want to change about myself. I'm also more tolerant when people say bad things. I am able to be strong about my stances now. I still get pissed. But I need to learn to deal with that. I want to grow. I don't want to hide myself.
Yes as an INFP that holds in feelings for long periods of time, when I do share myself with someone new, I get that vulnerable feeling you talked about and I feel kinda embarrassed the next day for being so open.
Darius Zica Yupp every single time, I hate it.
Haha I get that as well, but as an ENTP. Maybe for different reasons though. In the morning after Ill ask myself "wtF!! Was I talking about?? I need to chill"
Me too. Always because I have so many shades of various feelings going on at once a lot of the time.
Relatable!
I've become so self-conscious about this it is umcomfortable by now. I need to figure out a way to relax and have less social anxiety.
A very infp way to end your video... "and yeah" lol love it
Literally 😂 with an infp there's never a conclusion, just more to look into haha
True, I say it so often. Just in german "Und ja..."
komfyk Shut the front door I said that about 10 times in a class presentation😟😟😭😭
we struggle to finish creative projects....and sentences
Sometimes I don't tell a person I am mad at them because I want to avoid conflict, but it's often because I am still trying to figure out if my anger is logical or not. I have to give myself time to calm down and ride out the initial wave of anger, because the Fi is so strong that my Te doesn't get a chance, and I don't want to say something I will regret later. The problem is people can tell I am being quiet and moody while I am doing this, and they force me to tell them why I am upset, which makes it worse. If people left me alone long enough to figure it out thenI would usually realise I didn't need to be upset and there would be no conflict.
teddie552 I can relate to this 100%. :) I also prefer to give it some time, before speaking my mind. Otherwise I might overreact.. which I of course don't want to. :)
Goodness you just explained my line of thinking 200% lol! I usually try to take time to think before I let my anger out the problem is I end up letting it out in other ways lol Im still working on that though :D
My wife makes me talk all the time when I want to avoid the conflict.
This was so freaking well said, it’s so nice to better understand my personality, thank you 🙏🏼🙌🏼
i really get this
I'm an INFP, and I absolutely agree that we protect our feelings by not sharing it. It's actually easier for me to to pursue a career that I'm not very emotionally attached to, because when other people meddle in things that are actually important to me, I just turn into an absolute wreck. I tend to keep the things that are most important to me away from my public life.
This sounds like a good idea! :) "I tend to keep the things that are most important to me away from my public life."
What is a career you don’t get attached to? Need help...
Moua Vang
As an INFP, you will find purpose in your life doing work that has meaning to you. That means being invested in what we you’re doing, and making sure it aligns with your values. If you take on a dull, unfurling job, it’s very likely that you’ll be miserable. Don’t do that. Fight for the things that you believe in.
"When other people meddle in things that are actually important to me, I just turn into an absolute wreck,"
This is sometime that not a lot of people understand about me.
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I’m an INFP and I have a really hard time being open with people because I’m scared people will think I’m too weird. Also whenever I do something out of my comfort zone I’ll question and belittle myself for doing it
I am INFP. Honestly, people don't know when I'm angry with them because I don't always know when I'm angry with someone. I try to hide my emotions even to myself sometimes.
Sarah C People usually don't know when I'm angry with them either ^^ lol. I actually do know when I'm angry with someone.. although I always try to make sense of it.. look at it from different perspectives.. and at the end of the day I'm confused just like you (if that makes sense) 😜
Omg me too, I will think that my husband and I are fighting and he doesn't even know I'm mad at him lol.
If you're anything like me, you'll find that anger causes such chaos inside you that you have trouble working out exactly what you're angry at, and you usually end up angry at yourself by default, just to keep the peace :)
Wow. That's profound. I find there are so many feelings going on about one incident, that sometimes it's hard to parse out what is really going on. Or I can move from anger to pitty, to compassion, to wanting them out of my life, period. Currently, I am working on total acceptance of this and taking things on a case by case basis, while also mindfully developing and maintaining some functional boundaries. That seems to take a thinking and judging skill that I don't really have, but am willing to develop.
You're not an INFP of you cant even understand your own feeling, it's one of the huge things that makes an INFP a INFP
Every other INFP I have met is much like you, so chill and selective in how they speak. I myself am an INFP but being from America I am very loud at times HOWEVER being like that for too long definitely drains me and I go between being extremely extroverted to extremely introverted.
haha I know what you're talking about - I can go between being extroverted and introverted as well, especially if I'm somewhat out of balance/stressed :)
Michael, I'm also INFP and in the UK, but grew up in America - so it took a while to understand the E/I bit. There is a slightly different flavour to Introversion in the UK compared to the US, it seems.
Christine Rigden Surroundings/places definitely play a role, but I would say it's also genetics and the experiences we made - especially as children. I'm neither American nor British.. my parents both grew up in a country where people are extremely extroverted. Yet I'm an introvert. My Dad too.
I am a unintentionally loud American as well. However, I do consciously behave in a cheerful, exuberant and passionate manner in the public sector to combat all the bland unhappiness I see in this world. It brings me to actual tears of despair when I am criticized for my personality traits. This week I was actually told to stop being such a passionate and driven person by the company president.
Ah. The impostor syndrome. I've tried so hard to "fit in" with other extroverts but it drains me so much plus I end up feeling bad about myself for "faking it". Now, I've just come to embrace my introversion.
I am INFP woman..I don’t share my emotions often towards friends including my family members and relatives ..I like to bottle up all my feelings for myself..I like to be alone and really really enjoy being my own company..if I angry, I will always keep quiet and keep it to myself but I don’t held my anger for a long time..the longest time I can keep angry is 10 minutes..and just let it go..my friends having really hard time to get to know me..and sometimes I can feel they talk behind my back..i’m very emphatic person..easily in tears when watched sad scene in movies..people think of me being too quiet and likes to be secluded..thanks so much for this video :)
Wow... You just describe me... It’s so incredibly liberating 🥺
Every INFP video ever: Play at 1.5 speed to get the normal rate of information flow
hejmRage haha lol.. love this!
Hahaha, yup
Yes, that’s how I role. Slower and deeper.
So true haha
It work, thank you. What a relief.
As a fellow INFP, I totally agree with you. Putting on an act to protect my feelings is something I do a lot.
Anna Beer especially during an 8 hour shift right? Lol
I literally go to work with a completely different 'personality' and if I let myself be myself for even an instant, I feel weird and question it.
Any INFP here constantly get asked "are you alright?"
That's the one question I used to dread until I was enlightened of the INFP personality traits.
Now I just smile and respond by saying "have you got a problem? "
All. The. Time. I try to ignore it :x
mojoe367 ooohhhh my blood boils every time someone asks me that. God. I usually just laugh it off and say yeah or sarcastically say no but it really (fkn) ruins my day.
mojoe367 I should probably stop asking that problem out of worry and rephrase it.... huh
I personally have no idea how I would answer that other than the fact that my answer is always "Yep!" Despite whatever I am actually feeling. I personally feel very empathetic towards people I know, and everytime I be with them for awhile I can generally tell if something has happened that is draining or stressing them, or if they are hiding their feelings from me. I ask my friends that question A LOT off of reflex if they get slightly hurt or if I get a feeling about something that is off. I don't like being asked this question, but do you think I should completely stop or rephrase it? Please tell me, I really do want your opinion on this.
Hah! That definitely seems to be an issue for ENTP's as well at times. Probably for different reasons though.. But the response to "are you all right" will probably be the same as ill be thinking "Wtf!! No now I'm uncomfortable because you asked me that" ..though ill just say "yeh"
INFPs are soo intriguing and interesting
I am, it's true ^_
No not really go watch southpark with edgar allen poe. There ya go hajaj
I am.its true :)
You are stunning! I'm so glad I've found a community of other INFPs. It's insane how much we can all relate to each other.
Absolutely. Male infp here and I fit the "stereotype"...musician, psychotherapist, writer...
Oh music, psychotherapy, writing, these are actually my passions but right now i got zero motivation to follow these things.
Negar Soleymanifar
Don’t stop! You may find variety within these topics more fulfilling. Do different things.
An INFP female here, final yr student nurse, thinking of opting psychiatry for masters and a deep, mad fond of music...is music a thing with us idk..
Infp female here..first year computer science undergraduate lol
I'm an INFP and I despise it when people use the stereotype that we're overly emotional and we just gush out our emotions everywhere, but we don't!
Yep..me too! Terribly annoying
ISTJ - INTJ and other practical cold blooded types, can't stand me, and prefer labeling me as an "Unlogic weirdo", but as well, I can label them as " Emotionless robots" , joking around with them " don't forget to recharge your unit pal!"
Shoutout to my INFP homies.
i defo have always hidden my feelings , to the point where people think i am emotion-less, little do they know lololollll but i think as ive gotten older and been working on character development i have become more expressive and extroverted
I know what you're talking about :) Self awareness definitely helps with being more real and brave with our true nature
When we hide our loving hearts, we aren't truly living at all.
you heard I wish! I have too much pride to talk about my feelings. As I got older, I feel like there's one or two ppl that I can trust with my feelings, but there's absolutely no one that I can tell everything too. If you group my close friends together with a few family members, then that'll cover about 82% of everything I'm willing to talk about, that's as close as it gets. It has nothing to do w/shame, regret, etc.. it's just that there's not too many ppl on my level. I'm a male Sagittarius whose INFP with a lot of INFJ tendacies, I'm as unique as it gets!
Not meaning to argue, but appearing emotionless doesnt sound particularly INFP like. In fact an INFP is a fairly emotional personality type. What they are very introverted and guarded about is revealing their personal emotions. Theyre pretty quick to, and almost feel obligated to try to help others they hold dear when others are having an emotional crisis due to being extremely emotionally insightful, and a strong moral compass. It's very draining, but morality wins out almost always (until the tank runs empty, in which case God help anyone trying to push them. It's like trying to get a wall to interact. Pointless.)
I got speechless during that vid...im INFP and watching u was like seeing myself in the mirror ..the way u talk, express ur thoughts, body language...its like me in other person's body :D lol
You are absolutely stunning! -Fellow INFP woman ❤️
I'm an INFP and this is dead on. I wish I looked like you :( you look like a model
edit: Forgot to mention, but the masking of feelings things is scarily accurate. I found myself doing this in new situations (at work) or in uncomfortable situations just as a defense mechanism and also because it feels safer to adopt a certain persona that certain people may respond to better. Sorta like molding into the person's interests that u date, but in this case the type of person u think will impress or just sit well with ur colleague or potential partner. It is more deeper and not just about that, however. Like I said before I've used the mask as a defense mechanism when I'm not comfortable, and it gives me a false sense of security because I'm not being vulernable. In a way it gives me a sense of power because the other person doesn't truly know me or my intentions (they can't use anything against me) but it's a double edged sword because I do want people to love and know the true me- well people worth my time. I'm also really insecure so this makes it harder as I constantly question my personality and wonder if I should be more mysterious or less impulsive and stick to dry humor over silly childlike
humor etc etc. Idkman
cherryontop you're a sweetheart
I am INFP-A and I can tell everyone that you can get stronger. You can express your feelings and also be able to confront someone when needed. You only need to raise your confident and also get into unconfortable situations where you push yourself to the limit. Hidding in your shell and avoiding conflict will only make you weaker. Its not easy and you will suffer on the way, but the result is so satisfying :) BTW you are absolutely georgeous. Love your eyes and hair
Love your words.. pushing ourselves through these uncomfortable situations is a great way to challenge ourselves and grow as sensitive souls. It takes a bit of courage though 😊 Thank you 💜
Love it!! Thanks for the inspiration buddy 💜💜
Finally an INFP I can relate to, we really do understand the emotions of others quite well, but we're not very good at acting on that, because we have Fi not Fe in our top four. Also, a lot of INFP's on UA-cam seem to think out loud when they speak or float around, but I relate more to your slow and decisive style of speech.
Olivia Maloney Yayy 😊 I'm a quite reserved and chill infp :P The floating around makes me nervous. Although I have to say ..when I'm stressed or kind of imbalanced.. I can turn into a "floater" too lol
I know how much love u infps need.......for me its very easy to make infp happy.......i know the trick..just appreciate them....then u r in their life
Haha you just put it all together in one word! perfect..
thank you
Do you have a sister? :-)
Yes, but mine does not show any appreciation to me back - married 40 years to one.
amt If you don’t contribute to their rich inner (dream) world, they will miss the value in their relationship. As a partner for INFP, You will have to make the effort to know them in this way. Like how it also is with INFJ, Many people just can’t fathom INFP’s rich inner being.
All my life I wondered if I was the only one who ever felt like this. Thank God for the internet where I can see and hear from so many individuals and beautiful souls who aren't really different from me at all, who always felt the way I did, and also for the people who are different but try to understand so we can learn about each other and all grow into better people from it. Becoming the best version of myself has always been my drive. You have beautiful hair also. Your curls compliment you and add to your gentle aura you give off.
Becoming the vest version of ourselves is the ultimate goal :) It gives us sense and purpose. It is indeed comforting to see there are so many adorable people out there feeling the same way I do! Thank you very much! You're sweet :))
Quite funny, you talk exactly like I do. It's like you're thinking and contemplating at the same time as talking, trying to find the best way of describing things and getting a little distracted by your thoughts along the way. I often think this is why I get so exhausted just talking to someone, and I can't engage in small talk at all. I prefer to just smile and listen and absorb. It sometimes comes across as rude or like I'm an idiot that can't hold a conversation, but there's ideas soaring around my mind. I only recently started to read into personality as I've always thought something was "wrong" with me, but didn't know what. Anxiety? Depression? Maybe on the Autism spectrum? I realise now that there's millions of others just like me, that our outlook and thinking is just... different. My partner is an INFP, too. We've been together for 11 years, been together since we were 15. I think we love each other so much because we can truly be ourselves, we're the only ones that really understand each other. God knows what people would think if they saw us together privately, a couple of little weirdos! Thanks for sharing.
So funny to read about other infps experience,.. yes I'm thinking and contemplating at the same time. Makes it sometimes hard in the real world out there :) Cool, did you face any challenges being with another infp?
Well, all I can say is where have you been all my life. As an INFP male I'm "disarmed" by your famine nature, yet within my heart I've always wanted to meet a woman that understands my deep inner feelings and need for expression of love.
I don't like ppl finding out many things about me as I know they will use it against me sooner or later... they always do!! But I always have yo listen to them and their lives (usually problems) because they just love to offload on to someone but maybe don't like to visit psychologist.... I guess 😂😂😂
I am just like you :) Very private! I don't like talking about my weaknesses. People only use it against you - as you said :). However I don't like talking about my strengths either. I prefer being low-key. Yeah - we can be living magnets for people with issues/problems. :P That's where we have to learn to set boundaries.
LYLA Yeah, we infps easily attract narcs, sadly :/
GameRealityn Pelivideot Oh yeah ^^ unfortunately!...
Wow that's so true! People tend to tell me just about everything like the first time I'll ever meet them!
@@GRORGvideot at least you introverts attract narcs I think no attracts to an introverts.
Your eyes are so expressive, and spot on for INFP. Married to one for 40 years. What you said sounds very familiar.
It's the first time I see another INFP talking with my awareness of his/her type
you're good and nice
thank you
hnatiq moh I'm glad you are able to identify with it.. means a lot! Thank you
I'm a male INFP, and I completely relate to your point of view. I haven't thought about this so far, but I agree with you in that if I had to label myself from the outside, it would be easy to state that I'm an introvert, and a perceiver, but not that easy to guess whether I'm a sensor or an intuitor unless you get to know my knowledge interests, and definitely quite hard to know I'm a feeler rather than a thinker, unless you hear my reasons involved in certain decisions.
Anyway, congratulations for your flawless first video! It's quite hilarious to see you reminding adventures as you talk, and smiling because of them... It also happens to me very often haha.
Take care, bye!
Yes I agree.. even though I think INFPs are capable of stepping into the shoes of an extravert from time to time.. the introvert thing is usually obvious :) haha aw and this makes me smile.. :) thank you!
You are welcome!
Into the shoes of an extrovert, or into anything needed if they believe it's worth the while :)
Great video, Lyla. You teach even more by your magnetic and ineluctable presence than mere words alone. I used to be an INFP then I turned into an ENFP after puberty (a natural process helped by HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie). INFP's tend to exude a quality of distant magnetism, like a deer on the horizon. But with great radar, like they're picking up everything about you even though they don't want to intrude. Also, they are one of the rarest types. Very radioactively unstable -- they find balance in one person whom they love but whose limitations may drive them crazy. Learning to dialogue is their life's task, to share but not to be emptied; to receive but not to unduly adopt or reject the content shared with them. Practical grounding is vital. It is hard for an angel to hover halfway between heaven and earth. They need to maintain their ideals but manifest them somewhat into the world of form, like a highflying balloon with a strong anchor in reality.
Joseph Barclay Ross Thank you Joseph! I'm totally impressed by your talent for words. You have expressed the nature of Infps so beautifully.. in a metaphoric/abstract way. It's interesting to see that personality types can change over time as well. I definitely have my extrovert moments too.. but it doesn't come naturally. Most of the time I feel it's a form of compensation for actually being socially awkward deep down. You're totally right about the practical ground that a lot of us are missing. That's probably the reason why we're looking for these traits in our partners/friends.
You're absolutely beautiful mademoiselle.
What you've said it is absolutely accurate.
My girlfriend, doesn't really express her feelings, she prefer do 'hide' and not confront if we got a problem and so on.
And I always try to 'train' her, to let me know, how she's feeling, what she's thinking, so we can have better communication.
Btw, one of the most genuine people I've ever met are INFP, including my girlfriend.
Best regards, ENTP.
Thank you! I love that you're working on your relationship! A sweet Infp girl deserves a prince who doesn't give up on her ;P I can imagine it's not always easy with us,.. communication is a challenge. Happy for you!
Entps are super cool and interesting!
I'm an INFJ but I feel really drawn to INFP and I totally understand and also see what you're saying. My girlfriend is an INFP and she has so much trouble with showing her feelings and herself but me as an INFJ.. we want to figure you out so she kinda only needs to express half of it and the other half is already understood. Also we really reach a deep deep connection far deeper than the surface and it's just super exciting interesting scary and lovely at the same time.
That's a real connection... :)
Ok but...can we appreciate her amazing accent and the fact she's taking her time to do this for us? Also why is this whole comment section a big mood along with the video, I ain't complaining...I absolutely love how I find of this all relatable!
For years I tried to understand how I think and function. I took the personality test on line three times with the results Infp. I really didn’t quite understand until I found your video👏You put into words in such a short amount of time what I now understand.
Holy wow, couldn't be more proud to be an INFP girl along with you, you are SO BEAUTIFUL. And amazing with your words I could listen to you talk all day wow. Literally
And I couldn't be more proud to get to know so many gorgeous INFPs here..along with you! Thank you, beautiful!
I took the 16 personalities test today and it said I’m an INFP. I can relate to everything it said it was quite shocking!
I tend to conceal my emotions a lot, feel embarrassed to open up to people I don’t know so well.. I’m constantly analysing my relationship with my partner and dreaming how it could be better. I also discovered that I’m completely incompatible with my partner despite being with him for 18 years, as he’s a ESTJ so he’s a very straight forward logical person and doesn’t take well to my more philosophical romantic ideas about life.
I find it very lonely being an INFP, but thankfully my middle daughter is also one. My eldest is the same as her dad ESTJ and she’s the carbon copy of him and we disagree a lot!.
I wish this test was around 20 years ago!
Hi-NFP!!!! Fellow INFP, here. Thank you SO MUCH for posting this.
ESTP here. Imo, it’s not stubborn for not wanting to change your belief system if you believe in it for your reasons. You should have a solid foundation for yourself. Thanks for this!
Being an INFP is hard and exhausting sometimes but you can do it! This is just a little reminder that you’re loved and a very special and wonderful person ❤️
ENTP here my jaw dropped just because how beautiful you are! :)
ENFJ male here trying to study his future princess!
I am a princess infp to my prince enfj..study well,you will become her King once you master her...she will love u eternally
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Hey Lejla, I was referred to your channel through a wonderful INFJ moderator and couldn't have been more pleased with your description of our type. I especially appreciate the pulling of the curtain on the sweet, innocent INFP collective perception. We can be jaded, sarcastic, and very dark if unhealthy. It seems like you have begun integrating the shadow aspects.
As a woman INFP, you remind me of a very similar embodiment to myself, in terms of, expressing ideas and concepts in a clear, yet unorthodox manner. It's almost impossible to make my face match the expressiveness I feel within- and my intuition is that you feel along similar lines.
Warmly,
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Turned the sound off and just watched while you explained yourself. Your emotional gestures are breathtakingly beautiful.
Listened to you afterwards and your thoughts are devastatingly insightful.
Thank you for posting🙂
Im very introverted, love writing, and an hsp. Thats how i discovered being an INFP ❤️
Lol this is me
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Hi, fellow INFP! I love your channel! ^.^ Awesome first video! I relate so much to you especially when you said that INFPs can never be talked into something they do not personally believe in! So true! I need to believe in a cause 120% before I will defend it!
Angelica Gutierrez Hi my sweet Infp :) thank you! Yesss.. I think that's one of our greatest strengths :)
LYLA Hi! ^.^ You are so kind! Thank you for answering my comment! :) It is our greatest strength because we can never do anything that isn't us because we are always doing what we believe in! Which means we are always genuine!
Angelica Gutierrez Yes, you're so right..! Infps are definitely original :)
ENTP here.. What's up! I rarely ever consciously think about putting on a "mask" of sorts. For example when I'm uncomfortable it's really hard to "hide" that discomfort, or so I've been told. I think that's the weird combo of extraverted feeling and introverted thinking. I'm pretty good at being collected and patient say when I'm upset, but its tough for me to have a "happy" demeanor in those situations. For example I can never pull off forced smiles, thus my RBS. Ive been told by friend that I looked intimidating at times when first meeting them, though I never had any ill will. To get around not having a good "mask" I need to reason with myself whether or not if in the broader context it's worth being upset in the first place. Depending on how that goes I can "talk" myself into being "happy." I know an INFP really well and she is really good with the mask though. Since I'm closer to her now I can see past the layers at times and cut through the bs, but that took time. Lots of time. And yeah there were moments where I thought she was being very prideful. Even still she can be really guarded, but she can be super "squishy" past the layers haha. She also talk about her feelings a lot in more private moments, which is something I rarely do. A lot of times I'm trying to intuit what others might be "feeling," not that I'm always successful, but she (INFP) reminds me at times that I need to pay attention to and take care of my own. As an ENTP I feel its great to have INFP's in your social circle as they can really balance you out. To me, INFP's are truly like onions.
Hi there.. sorry I overlooked your comment somehow. Oh yeah.. you entps can be very blunt and straight forward. :) There is some air of badassery about you guys. I find it cool to be honest.. it's something I just can't do - unless I get to know you better and feel comfortable around you. As an infp I can say.. I can pull of these "forced smiles" as you say.. although it exhausts me at the end of the day. It's extremely draining. The reason why we as infps put on these masks is because we don't want people to think there is something wrong with us - "oh why is she so silent?" If I would show the level of disinterest I feel in many situations/conversations.. people probably wouldn't turn to me anymore. Why talk to someone who actually doesn't bother about most things (you know.. mundane topics.. small talk etc.)? We don't want to make ourselves outcasts. So we actually feel forced to put on these masks.. it's not because we like to do it. You get me? :) I find it sweet how you try to "intuit" what others might be feeling.. for an entp that's not an easy task I think :) I always had the feeling that infps can get somewhat exhausting for entps.. since you guys feel kind of forced to read our minds & feelings and look for some underlying hints to understand us. Thank you.
I just found out a week ago that I too have this personality INFP!
I agree with the conflict avoidance I avoid them like the plague I also feel that not only to protect my feeling but I like to be in control of my feelings and emotions. that internalizing masks the emotions are buzzing around under that mask but I like to make sure I make my choices or reaction not just on my emotions but on the situation, info or circumstance
Yesss I can totally relate. I prefer to be in control of my emotions as well.. and even though I lead with my heart, I still prefer to use my mind/rational side when making major decisions :)
This resonates with me as I've been mistyped all the time. And yes, we have 'mask' to protect our feelings. I wish one day to just be real me, but some people are just not worth it.
Thanks for this video :) I can relate to this so hard, it's almost scary.
In the past, I tried to put on lots of different masks, just to feel safe and protected and I couldn't stand the fact that someone would know how sensitive I am.
Now, I found my few friends who understand me and know how to cope with my sensitivity. I'm so thankful for them and this really made my image of humanity become more positive.
I hope that other INFPs (and of course other people who have the same problems) will find themselves and don't feel the need to hide their true personalities. ♡☆
Thank you for this video. I've only understood in the last year that I'm a highly sensitive INFP man. Values are so important and I'm only coming to understand that now. Trouble has come in my career when I'm put under pressure to act against them and rebel
I'm an INFP but conflict doesn't necessarily bother me, well atleast not when its conflict between myself and another person or group. But when its conflict between others it bothers me to an incredible extent. I dont understand why that is, I always try to be the 'mediator' (ironic but accurate tbh) but if the conflict is too deep to be rectified then I need to get away and be by myself for a while, it gets overwhelming. I used to hide my emotions a lot to protect myself, it's a defence mechanism and let's be honest, not the healthiest of them. When I started sharing a bit more, I noticed that theres always atleast one other person that can relate and (based on their reaction) it's as though they have been waiting ages to find someone else that understands and knows what it's like. That's special and shouldnt be thought of as something that should be repressed or kept to oneself.
I am an INFP and yes, I don't like to argue with other people. I tend to just keep quiet to avoid conflict. But i think the reason is because I already argue too much with my sister at home. We are not good at all and we only ever "talk" when we fight and that often involves yelling. I also love to defend my stand to my parents. But outside our home, I simply don't involve myself in arguments. I'm tired and I just want to leave them alone to think and act the way they want.
When someone somehow hurts me or in a way gets to me I sit and think "should i be mad at them right now ?"
lol this is funny when i think about it but that's who i am
You are stunning! Infp represents!
This is a really good video on the infp. Twfp typed me esfp which I wanted to believe for a while. Before that I typed myself infp & deep down didn’t like the description & didn’t like myself because I felt rejected by the world. The world is hard on infps even though infps contribute so much to society. Now I feel I have people in my life who accept & appreciate me therefore I accept being infp.
Thanks for this video
Thank you soo much... I'm an INFP and your video resonates with me... I'm trying to understand myself better...Thank you again ♥️
Funny that I'm also an INFP and your eye movement is similar to mine when it comes to speak in front of camera. Sometimes we look at many ways instead of focusing on the camera. The way your eyes down when you talk also reminds me of Lady Diana. Sorry if this sounds creepy. I was just so surprised of the striking similarity.
Lolita Park Infps have that certain aloofness in their eyes I think. Like they are actually somewhere else. And you can see their sensitivity in their eyes.. can't hide it :) Not at all.. I'm so in awe of Diana. She's truly been a princess of hearts 💓
I like watching other INFPs' body language and other non-verbal communication. it's all over the place, like myself haha
Great video Lyla, and this really relates to me as well as an INFP. About the mask, you couldn't be more right. Looking forward to more videos.
Thank you for watching! Yeah the "mask" is definitely an interesting part of infps, right? ;) :) :)
LYLA Yes haha. I think the first part is in admitting that we all wear one from time to time...
Nameless Yes that's a good point..and in order to know you're wearing a mask at all..you have to know who you are :) I think many - especially younger - infps loose themselves in that process and experience something like an identity crisis.
LYLA Happened to me!...
What is your take on the difference between INFP and ISFP? ~ ISFP-T
Hey girl. Im INFJ, but i wish im INFP like you. Its very hard you try to help people but they always take chances of hurting you or taking advantage of you.
Hey girl - oh I love Infjs and even though we have different functions.. we still have a lot in common :) Well I guess that's a problem we share.. sometimes it really feels like the more you offer, the more they take. We can't control or change people .. but we can control ourselves and set boundaries whenever we notice someone behaving like that.
Hey. Thanks! :) Im a new subscriber I guess. Proud of ya.
Юлия Воскресенская You're a sweetheart.. thank you :*
I'm an INFP and that thing about opening up about feelings is really hard for me. There are a lot of things in my life that bother me but not many people will know what I'm going through and what exactly I'm feeling. I met this guy that now is my boyfriend and I feel confortable with gim because he can handle well when I'm talking to him about things that makes me sentimental and as an example, whenever I'm talking to him about what I think is not working for me and that's bothering me in the relationship, or maybe something inside me that has nothing to so with him, just my fear of something, this is so personal that when I start voicing everything that's on my mind, I start crying.. I feel like shit because I guess that's something so true to me and that makes me sooo afraid that when I say it, I feel so vulnerable, like anyone could break me into little pieces at any moment. I've been to a psychologist and that helps me a lot, and when I'm there, talking about everything that's inside me, I cry and cry and cry LOL I just can't help it.. I feel stupid 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Whatever feeling I have I mostly deal with it within myself. My interactions with people tend to be very friendly and harmony oriented so that my sensitive core is at peace.
It is so nice to be able to relate to fellow INFP girls! This video perfectly articulated thoughts that I didn't realize other people shared, and it is so nice to know I am not alone! Thank you! 💕
Aw I'm glad you stumbled across my channel.. and even more glad that you can relate to my thoughts. Thank you! You are never alone :) 💕
You are so charming!
Harry S Thank you! :)
I'm also an INFP Guy these kinda videos makes me feel good ! Thanks !
Used to date an INFP (I'm an ENTP), and you fit the bill perfectly!
Pride? Dont like conflicts? You nailed me lmao, i have to keep up the "nothing affects me" mask , i even parade as an ISFP, even at some point believing that i was an ISFP, but im an INFP through and through, great video
I am enfj and even before I know about mbti I always feel strong desire for infp girls. I see them by style of moving, body language and even I belive I can see it in facial feautres etc
I discovered MBTI not long ago, maybe 2 years ago. At first, I was dubitative, but I tried this test.
Waited for the results, and discovered that i'm INFP.
That was like " Boom" ok! That answered to all my behaviors!" It was wonderful to be understood like that.
Ok I admit, I cried. All this years, I needed a mask ( yes that chameleon mask ) to be accepted by others.
Without mask, i was mistaken for a weirdo, and wasn't able to talk with girls only with boys, so you can guess, that I was sometimes also mistaken for a gay.
With a mask, I was able to live, and grow "normally" - having girlfriends etc...And that's a thing that not everyone can afford.
I also take my energy from arts ( graphical arts - drawing... etc ) and sometimes needs to be lonely, to recharge.
My sensibility helps me at work, as I work as a Cargiver.
I' m a male INFP in a ESTJ world, and i'm Cancer haha, that's make me the in the most sensitive category of mens.
Sometimes mistaken for a weak, I can be stronger in dangerous situation and take the lead.
I've actually have a mask on me as I write this, trying to hide my sensibility, fear of being judged.
But I take my courage, to share with all of Us.
I'm glad to see people like me, as where I live we are rare, or very rare. ( Reunion Island) - Continue making those videos and thanks Lejla :)
When you mentioned conflict avoidance, you nailed it.
Interesting and astute set of observations here. Brava.
Other than not being a woman (56YO man) , I felt as if you were describing me specifically. I appreciate the way that you articulated your impressions. Very insightful.
Just about to watch this...I recently discovered that I am an INFP and that they make up only 4% of the population (1 and a half percent being male) and it makes SO much sense to me as to why I am the way I am.
Right, on with the video...
Yep, pretty much agree with what you said there, especially the well known trait of us being conflict-avoiders (I really am, both physical and verbal). It literally makes me sick with anxiety at any flare up, especially in public scenarios. We just want everyone to be settled and happy, including ourselves :-)
love your calmness
I took that test and scored as an INFP. Yes I don't like fighting. I love communicating- after all what is wrong with getting real? I definately have a hard time with conflict. Although I love people I just don't think that there has to always be an argument lol.
Seriously all infp:s have such a gentle, soft voice. I should make a video compilation of all of you to demonstrate this.
I'm so glad that I have found this video. I'm an infp and knowing that I can relate so much to you makes me happy :) Thank you!
RandomxNerd123 I'm happy you liked it! Much love 🤗❤
You're a very insightful and beautiful person speaking as a fellow infp
I met an INFP girl. I still like her, I feel like I understand her but I really don't, I've settled to one conclusion. That, I like her and just be there for her. Ever since I stopped trying to understand her, I truly started to understand her...
I am an extreme example of INFP type, and I have kind of "problem" in my "love life". It is because mostly every women who see me attractive, and interesting are ISTJ... And I don't know why, because they are totally opposite. At first they love my dreamer personality, and so on, but in "everyday life" we can not bear each other. I don't know how to explain it to myself, because women who I met in my life and I think they might be INFP, are not thinking about me as a partner, but ISTJ girls (and other similiar) who really wants pragmatics, fall in love in idealist dreamer like me. Later they say things like "oh men need to do... and be like bla bla bla" and etc. so the question is why they want relationship with me if they know from the beginning that I am like this. The other part of that, is the thing that women which want to be with me are EVERYTIME the ones with many problems and which want my 24/7 attention, and want to consume my emotions everytime, even if im depressed or something they want me to be kind, and silly.
Antiselfism Hey there.. I attract a lot of isfjs and esfjs into my life. :) They are the ones who are more likely to make the first step than infps. Istjs are definitely more assertive than we are. But honestly, most people in relationships challenge each other with time. There will always be something we don't know how to deal with in our partners. I can relate to your situation and all I can say is - if there's someone who thinks you're "too" emotional for them, believe them :) You are probably too emotional for them.. but perfect for someone else. Appreciate your own sensitivity and emotions and I'm sure you'll start attracting people who will do so as well. (whether istjs or not ^^)
U r right.It's difficult to spot an INFP,even a fictional one I noticed,because of that.Before my friends became my friends,they were all scared of me because I looked cold and aloof.But after they got to know me,they knew that I'm not like that all.As an Fi-dom,we always have that front.I noticed Fi users are like that,seemingly cold until they open ur hearts to u.But this front is even stronger with the INFP,that u may have no idea what the INFP's type is just by knowing them as an acquaintance.
Yes I agree :) I think old Hollywood actor Marlon Brando is a good example.. he gives the impression to be ESTP (also due to the dominant characters he played) He was known as "l'enfant terrible" :) But if we listen to his interviews and other documentaries.. it's obvious how sensitive/emotional and deep he was in real life. He is typed as INFP :)
Nice video, your explanation is understandable and very comforting to listen to. I'm an ISTJ, maybe you could do something on that.....
Brody S Finally some istjs here! :) thank you for watching
Your video is wonderful, keep it up!
As an INFP, I don't think romantic love exists. I was a very hopeless romantic person and believed that love conquered everything, and all other bullshit things. But now for me, romantic love is just an illusion. I prefer just imagining falling in love than making it happen in real life and risking another heartbreak. I think it's just a waste of time fighting for love, I better use my precious time and energy to fight for other important things in life.
As a fellow INFP, I can really relate to this video. Especially the conflict avoidance and the importance of emotions.
Your statement a good actress is very true,,a good act is hard to follow
I just found you. I hope you are well. Sad that you don’t have many more videos. You’re descriptions are amazing I believed an infp woman. 💚
I'm infp. A lot of what you said is true. I don't like conflicts, but I know as an adult it's a part of life. I personally don't tell people how I am feeling or thinking unless I'm 100% sure about bringing it up. If I'm angry or sad I wait a few days before talking about it. Get my thoughts together. People always say their infp friends are angels and I'm just sat like: You're obviously not that close to them if you think they don't have a dark side. People either think infp's are just constantly happy with zero problems or that they lack emotions.
I had one situation where this girl didn't want to be friends with me anymore cuz she said I am never serious. But the thing is she never actually hung out with me outside of college. She never got to know me. I had offered her to hang out so many times, but she declined.
I have an Esfp best friend and he knows about my dark side. It scares him but he accepts it and still loves me. If I fell off a cliff I'd trust him to help me.
Hi Leija, just wanted to say I love your videos and they really resonate with this fellow infp. Hopefully you make more someday! (I also love your purple top. May i ask where you got it lol?)
Thank you! It's a very old one from Mango
Here's an example of an IFTP thought: "That person over there looks so sad! I should tell them that they're loved and that everything will be ok". We're too damned compassionate
I'm an INFP male. I always feel like my personality makes more sense on a woman. Kind, patient, creative, caring, sensitive, etc. Are female traits. I often got told to "man up" when I was younger, because men don't show emotion. I never stopped being who I was I just got better at hiding my emotions.
I don't get angry much at all. I rationalize why people say or do what they do and often understanding why placates much of my anger. The only people who anger me are the ones who I can't find a good excuse for their bad behavior. And many of the times I show my anger, it's exaggerated. I am only making my anger known because I don't want the thing making me angry to progress any further so I draw attention to it by showing a glimpse of anger. And I can turn off my anger right away.
I do struggle more with showing affection and I am unsure whether it's my INFP doing it's natural thing or if it's the depression kicking in. I'm either showing too much affection and it makes the other person uncomfortable or not enough and it's confusing the other person. Dating can be really awkward for me because I see the signs and cues, I just don't know how to react properly.
Lastly, are INFP people more gifted at comedy? Most of the famous INFP people are writers or philanthropists but I don't see any of them being known for comedy. I'm only asking because I get told that I am funny but I don't think I am much funnier than the average person. I wanted to know if any other INFP people are known for their humor or if I am a black sheep in this.
Hi! I think Infps are more likely to be a bit imbalanced when it comes to their emotional state. Fi-Ne is not easy. If people push us in a corner, we tend to react with emotional outbursts. It's terrible and I hate it when I have to react like that, but it's usually when I feel there's no other way. Don't be worried about the "female traits". I honestly wish more males out there could have more of these traits. Who doesn't want a kind, sensitive person with good listening skills? Think of Johnny Depp, Marlon Brando. Infp males have a mysterious aura,.. and I'm quite sure a lot of women fall for that type of guy. Infp males aren't less male than other types, they are just very misunderstood. Most people are too shallow to take the time and think about it. I honestly believe that the only thing an Infp truly needs to work on is their self confidence. Positive self affirmation... & not let the outside world irritate them so easily. I think the infp humour is a bit random, childlike.. think of Tim Burton movies. We're funny in a different way. I, for example, tend to act silly. People find it strange and amusing at the same time I think. :)
Friend, I'm an INFP male too, I have a ISTJ father with military morality, but with an INFP mother too. I grown with a strong personality that doesn't fit in this world, I was considered as a weirdo "man", a weak, and sometime even as a gayboy.
My mother tried to protect me, but gave me over-protection because she was afraid herself as an INFP.
I grew suppressed in all ways, talking, socialisation ( as other guys and girls too rejected me ), man teachings ( as my fathers hasn't patience to make me learn with him, and too harsh towards me, to man up too.)
INFP can't grow in that patern, they need to be " deeply understood" and needs authentical relations, they need to love and be loved for what they really are. They need strong connection with ( The Force? No Joking )their emotions and other's emotions, they seek HARMONY and LOVE, while others can seek for POWER and DOMINATION. But it's not that simple, as INFP even J are the most complex personality ever made by God.
An INFP can be evil or good like other personality types, it's their goals, that will determine their side. Good or Evil.
If you can't have support for years, you will tend to accept yourself as a "weirdo" and actually acting like it.
But NO you're just special, a special being connected to the invisible, and ideas comes from that!.
I agree that lot of woman doesn't like INFP/J mens, and I talk with experiences.
However, I will not change for them, I will staying myself, even If it implies to stay alone the rest of my life
This world will not change my essence, because without it i'm nothing, it's that I am and will always be.
I prefer to be alone to be nothing...
Take care :) With you INFP I can be myself without being judged, SO ...
SHARE THE LOVE AROUND YOU !!! Yes Hippies style ;)
I think I'm an INFP but I'm very direct about how I'm feeling (unless I don't know you or don't want to disturb the peace)
Have you done the MBTI test? Of course, Infps can be expressive as well when it comes to their thoughts/feelings - especially if the feel they are treated unfairly. There are always exceptions - not all infps are the same :)
LYLA not the real test, but the 16personalities one, and my results alternate between INFP and INFJ. Thanks for the response!
Katie Tests,especially 16 personalities,are not accurate in general.If u wanna get closer and closer and have a better idea of ur type,first and foremost,delve into the cognitive functions.Next,u can watch youtube videos that allow u to differentiate between certain types.
Didier Goh thanks! I ended up diving into all the a couple weeks ago and it really helped me figure it out!
I'm INFP (according to MBTI test and several similar tests) and have no ability or desire to hide my emotions. I don't think that part of her analysis was accurate at all.
I don't even get really angry - I isolate myself from the people who do me wrong. Sometimes they text me and ask me to hang out again, because they still think I am their friend. But they are not mine anymore...
If i am angry i show it, but only to people who are very close to me.
But if somebody hurts me, i don't show it to anyone. Because if they didn't do it on purpose i don't want them to feel bad about it and if they did it on purpose i don't want them to think they were successful... And i don't want them to see that i am sensitive 🙈
Yes, mistyped. This is what I am. When I do the MBTI Test my result is INTJ again and again.
After researching (A LOT) because of being naturally sceptic about my results, I am becoming convinced that deep down I am an INFP that trained itself to become INTJ...
The reason is... tragically... that being hyper-sensitive and truly goodhearted altruistic does you a lot more harm than good in this world. It is a big weakness. Not a quality. Which certainly demonstrates a fucked up aspect of society. But hey, life is not fair. And not meant to be. Nobody owes you anything. You gotta play by the rules, I thought and still think.
So, for example: the extreme conflict avoiding nature. It used to describe me extremely well, will sooner or later make you a doormat for people to step on you. Not taking you serious, disrespecting you. I already got hurt alot about this, I cried a lot alone in the bathroom. Nobody values peace-makers (in my lited experience). You MUST learn to confront. Which is just what I learned, now I do this all the time. Even to friends if they did (rarely) something very disrespectful, I privately, rationally explained it to them. It literally in the beginning to everything in me to train this skill. My friend respected me even more after I confronted him and the energy around is cleansed. Which would not have happened if I hold my feelings in.
This is just one aspect, I could talk about this for hours and don't want to bore anyone who is so kind to read this.... If this gets read. Please please tell me your opinions and experiences about this :))
Hi, I'm an INFP too. Thank you very much for your insights.
I’m an INFP, and I thought I was an INTP till I realized I feel more than I think. Im also a Pisces, and I get hurt really easily. I hate interacting with people when I feel like they do it for upkeeping face. It really hurts, especially when no one else notices. I feel so alone all the time but I love helping people. There’s just no one that can help me.
Def pride. Also yes i dont want my feelings analyzed. I feel my stances or reactions are generally criticised. And i don't like that at all. Its not okay. If i tell you my viewpoint and or my feelings. Disagree. Tell me im wrong and why okay. But dismiss me and criticise? No. No way. I just don't want to subject myself to that all the time.
I am currently learning to open up more. (I'm 40). And i am learning things i want to change about myself. I'm also more tolerant when people say bad things. I am able to be strong about my stances now. I still get pissed. But I need to learn to deal with that.
I want to grow.
I don't want to hide myself.