Same here I discovered this about me under a month ago and I'm more amused and relatable than ever. Is like I been on a journey for a few years to understand why I couldn't relate to anyone and now knowing I'm infp I feel I found the people who would understand me.
"I probably didn't say anything revolutionary." What you said in this video was revolutionary for me. It is absolutely fascinating/scary how everything you said about infps hit so so directly home for me. I am 22, most of my life have been rejecting being more sensitive and intuitive than others, and saw it as a weakness... feeling emotions so strongly. When others said negative things about my character, I looked at their opinions and formulated it into my own about myself. Looking for outside sources hoping to be accepted.. and recently i have started to look inward and am on a journey to self love. And to see these traits as powerful tools. Thank you so much for this video :)
Do any other infp's like learning about everything? I'm almost addicted to learning. I've been doing it my entire life. When I was a kid I would read books in the library during recess. I'm not a true expert on anything but I have knowledge about more topics than anyone I've ever met. A bad habit I've had because of this is correcting people when they're totally wrong about something. I've had people tell me I have a big ego because of it, Maybe ego is a part of it but mostly I don't want people to spread misinformation. On the one hand, it feels very liberating to have such a vast understanding of things, but on the other hand, it holds me back because I don't stick with any one thing long enough do something with it.
I'm one of these infps too:) I'm bad when it comes to focusing on one topic for toooo long. I rather prefer learning a little bit about everything (well except technical stuff - I'm really not so much into these things). I guess that's the infp's short attention span.
I relate to this so much, and I always overload my mind with information... So I have all tools I need at 14 right now, but I can't seem to stick to one thing for too long. And just seem to want new shit to study when I get bored of all concepts easily
Otis Tyson Boris I can truly relate to what you are experiencing. I'm in a state right now where I just wanted to learn/study and quit my job. I've been wanting to study in Australia for my postgraduate course and hoping that I could find myself and get a sense about my life.
as a 24 year old INFP, I definitely disagree with the not changing location part.. this might be exactly what most INFPs need.. travelling the world or in countries nearby, experiencing the global goodness that exists, as everyone on a similar journey/in hostels are very open and interested in other people. plus generally, changing one's environment by moving elsewhere can be so healing.. of course it is possible to face your fears where you are, but so much harder.. and unnecessarily I feel. getting away from the past for a bit, not dwelling in same throughts, experiencing smth new and finding out more about youself.. I've been living abroad for 1.5years now and never felt so grateful and at ease.. constantly find myself thinking daily how happy I actually am. of course, the general mentality of the new place has to fit as well.. Copenhagen has proven to be awesome for me for example. so yeah.. young INFPs.. I urge you to change your enviroment.. definitely changes your perception of life & rises self esteem a lot.
Thanks for bringing up that point! I think I should have explained that part better. Hmm first of all I think there's a difference between a tourist and a true explorer. A tourist in my opinion makes pics of Tour Eiffel, Golden Gate Bridge, etc... and goes back home. lol. A true explorer seeks connection.. travels with purpose…. with a motive deeper than just "God I can't stand this city and these annoying people, I need to go somewhere else." Time also plays an important role. Do you spend 5 days somewhere else or let's say..two years? I did not intend to say that changing location is a complete waste of time. Of course it's not. What I personally love about travelling is that it distracts me a little bit from daily life here. Getting to know new people, maybe even making friends is great too. Experiencing other countries is always great..new stuff everyday.. Things are exciting and we collect cool memories. But we still have to go back to daily life and deal with it again. Of course some people might even experience "spiritual enlightenment" somewhere out there. But I honestly doubt that changing locations is THE secret. I always experienced a boost in mood/energy when I travelled. I usually come back home feeling really good and inspired. But then I go back to my old "routine" after a while. So my conclusion is, I personally love travelling if I have the money,.. but so far I did not experience it as life-transforming :)
Hi Dazed! 23 year old infp here. Graduated college in December, I would like to travel when Corona virus is over. What programs did you apply to to study abroad??
Like a seed planted in stardust grown in the darkest depths Insp brings light and warmth unto all whom may perceive us by absorbing the darkness they find!
I ran away from myself for decades and the identity crisis caught up with me in my 40's. I guess there's no escaping it for INFPs that don't accept who they really are. Take it from me, Lyla's message is sound: don't fight, accept who you are. Go on a journey of inner-discovery. It may be painful, but it'll also be the best voyage of your life. There's no alternative for us, the only way to be truly happy is to accept our true nature. But sometimes this requires hardships and heartbreak and our sensitivity makes us afraid of that, so we hide and build up walls. Don't. Everything is worth experiencing once. For me it was the end of a disastrous marriage. This is what set me on the right path. In the end, traumatic events don't chip away at who you are, they make you better, more experienced. The pain is just the price you have to pay. It's temporary. What you get out of it will last you a lifetime. Thank you for your testimony Lyla :) Break the bonds. Shed the fake.
What you said here resonates with me. I had the same experience, the broken and wrong marriage that I think is now a blessing because I’m forced to look at myself and truly understand who I am. It’s scary because I also have been running away from who I am and I’ve always wondered why I couldn’t be like my friends. I hope that I can also figure it all out my truth like you have. Thanks for sharing and thanks Lyla.
This made me cry. I have let people's opinions affect me. I have felt intimidated and insignificant. I have called myself pathetic for being so overIy sensitive. But I'm on my way to self realization now. I know this sensitivity is my greatest gift. It really is less lonely to know that there are people like me out there. Thank you so much for reaching out xx
Nitasha 93 You will never be insignificant.. Don't work against yourself,.. against your nature. Use the gift that you have, even if nobody else would see it as a gift. You know 😊💓
Being emotional has caused me pain and isolation and most people don't get it. They say your too sensitive and stop crying all the time or feeling sorry for yourself. It's comforting to know others are similar to me. We sensitive types. We'd die without tissues within arms length. 😊
Your words are so beautiful!! As a 16 year old INFP, this makes PERFECT SENSE TO ME!!! I really needed to hear this. Right now, in my junior year of high school, i feel like so much has changed. Not necessarily in a bad way, but nothing seems familiar anymore. It’s hard to describe, but nothing feels “right”, I’m growing up so fast and nothing seems to make sense. With love and loneliness, I feel like no matter how many people are around me, I feel like very deep deep deep inside, at the end of the day, I feel a little bit alone. It’s not always a bad thing but it’s not alway a great thing either. I haven’t had a crush on anyone in years, and my one relationship I’ve ever had I wasn’t into, and I want to feel the sensation of dedication to someone... I want to feel that childish crush on someone again (if that makes sense haha). I’m trying to not care what people think of me, but it’s so hard because I care so deeply about my friends and those around me, I feel like I can’t live up to the person they need me to be. I feel mean sometimes, selfish, or like a hypocrite, and i feel annoying or obnoxious with my views or emotions. I want to help everyone in the world and it breaks my heart to know I can’t, and to know I’m not good enough. I’m still very proud to be an INFP. We are awesome :) thank you for this video!
Sarah G once upon a time, I was a 16 year old young woman with many of those same feelings. Those thoughts and feelings you're experiencing are, practically, universelly true for most INFP'S. It does get better through the years and it helps (a lot) if you remind yourself, you are NOT alone, that you feel different because of your heightened awareness and that's OK! It really is okay. We, as INFP'S, are exceptionally empathetic. It really is a gift, one the world needs more of, so allow yourself to be authentic. Give yourself permission to have a good cry, once in a while, also to laugh with joy, every chance you get! Teenage years are still the hardest to get through, so remember time flies, even when we're not having fun. Most importantly, you are enough! I'll say it again, you - all the parts that create your individual being - Are Enough!! If you have the tenderness of heart to have compassion for the needy of the world, I hope you will soon learn to turn that compassion inward and be kind to yourself in your self-talk. I will not say this is easy, or just something you do once in a while. It's necessary everyday! Take good care of your physical body and good care of your emotional self, too. It totally pays off in the long run! Be well, Sarah, you're going to make a difference for many people over your lifetime. It's just who you are... God bless you, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes!
Sarah G , your welcome! I'm so encouraged by you! 🤗Thank you for reading and replying to my comment. I hope you're doing well. Keep living well and being kind, it's completely worth it in the long run! Lyla has great insight and the boldness to speak her truth to viewers, at large, so I hope you're still subscribed to her channel. I think she's a positive influence for us INFP'S. God bless you, sweetie!🙏
I don't know why but I feel that all INFPs are me from another dimension. We are all the same, but yet we are different, and I like that about us INFPs. We are unique. Love you all INFPs 💜
@Lejla OK This confession is going to hurt. Watching you in this video is terrifying and bizarre. I have had this exact conversation with myself countless times. Even the way you pause to think, to try and find the right word to describe your thoughts and feelings is eery. Imagine being a young boy with these feelings. Feeling alone, weird, stupid and odd. I use to watch Sci/fi and hope that I was from another planet and that I was here to observe people and one day I could go home again and be understood finally. I did something strange at 10. I needed a stronger personality to help me cope with life. I was suicidal and depressed. I created a fake persona of an ESTJ (executive) to deal with the stress of life and the people in my life that seemed to be assaulting me. So when people called me too soft or sensitive, or nice or a dreamer I could become an ESTJ and show them. This worked and helped me survive but it made me feel more isolated and misunderstood. Quick anecdote because you mentioned finding this special person. My special person was named "Maria". She was going to understand me, allow me to finally express my feelings without judgement and then our lives together would be one giant inside joke that only the 2 of us would understand. i remember when I gave up on her. I was 28 and I moved from NY state to San Diego. I envisioned that once I arrived to San Diego there would be a beautiful woman at the airport with a sign that had my name on it. I would walk up to her and smile and the only thing she would say is "Where the F*ck have you been?" . I went to the airport when I arrived in San Diego looking for Maria. I remember hoping so much and then after a few minutes realizing that I was the strangest, most broken brain man on Earth. I laughed at myself and became the ESTJ for a few days to deal with the heartache and loss of the dream. It's been 37 yrs since I created my 2nd persona. I used to think I was the only one who struggled with life like this. I still hide behind the ESTJ when needed and at this point he is a part of me. I have had several amazing but short lived relationships. No marriage and no kids. Sometimes I feel like my true personality is an affliction or a curse. I feel and care for others but I rarely seem to get people to care about me. If they do it always seems to be transactional or conditional. Lejla, I look at you and smile. If someone told me to draw my "Maria" I think she would look and talk exactly like you. I did not think super beautiful women could be INFP's. I can recognize most IN** women in about 30 seconds now. Unfortunately for me they are always in relationships or not interested in me. I have been seriously thinking about living into my ESTJ persona just for the pure pleasure of dating Ms. Wrong or Ms Right now but seeing you makes me pause. Unicorns do actually exist.
Hi Joe, I have to say I enjoyed reading your comment :) I really appreciate it when people tell me personal stories like these. You're a special soul. I can feel you "through the lines" :) The ESTJ part makes me laugh - I can relate to it. Did it ever cross your mind that Maria might actually be a part of you? I believe we all have a masculine & feminine side. Few months ago I read a book from Hermann Hesse, where the protagonist draw a picture of his dream girl.. Beatrice. He described her as looking unusual, but beautiful.. with kind of masculine facial features. He would imagine her as confident/strong, kind and intelligent. After a while he realized she is actually an unfulfilled, hidden part of himself. A part he questioned a lot. I have this idea about our masculine/feminine (rational/emotional) side - imagine the Yin and Yang symbol. Once you create balance, you have a more natural flow of emotions. The mind and the heart are connected. A lot of people believe one partner should ideally be the Yin and the other the Yang part. However, I think we have to strive to create harmony between both sides - by ourselves. That's when we feel complete. I believe anything is possible if we wish hard enough and take a deep look within. We have to be patient with ourselves. I wish you all the best and hope you'll find your beautiful Maria one day. Who knows, she might be just around the corner :P I'd love to hear from you again. Byeee
@@lejla9358 I am a Gemini and I do know that there are 2 very different and separate parts of me. I do think that there is a duality to all of us. The answers that we look for in others can truly only be answered by ourselves. However I would of loved if she had been at the airport. My life now is about trying to be at peace with myself. trying to embrace who I am and using what I have to the best of my ability. I know it sounds a little cliche but I think for me there was a period of trying to acquire more skills and not necessarily using the ones I already have mastered. If you want to chat offline let me know. Facebook, or email works. I like the way your mind works. It's so interesting seeing how someone else experiences the world.
J R Thank you for sharing your story. I can related to a number of your experiences, as boys we are often expected to be a certain way. At first my thoughts were to run away, to get out of the hell that was my “parent’s” house and go back to my granny...that was until my mother convinced me if I were to continue calling the police on my step-father I’d end up an orphanage. That’s when I thoiught the only way out was through death, but physical pain of committing the act kept me from carrying it out. So like you I had to change who I was, but thankfully my granny raised me during my early childhood and she nurtured my nature, so I adopted an INTP personality (not that different, but thnking more allowed me to try to figure out ways around my “parents”). To make a long story short, after moving out on my 18th birthday life didn’t get much better (and more than 15 years since then it still hasn’t), but I’m hoping to turn it around now that I have picked my mind and heart up from the drawer in which it was locked all these years. I’ve realized now that I do have some power to define and create my own life without fear or expectation that I should I should try to please someone else. I know this doesn’t all relate to your life, but what I’m also trying to get at is the point Leijla brought up about the heart being stronger than any muscle, after numerous hearbreaks (and the aftermath), a small part of me still has hope I’ll find someone to love that will love me equally and wholly. I’m no clairvoyant, but I believe you can find your Maria, just take your time and use your intuitiion as way of weeding out those that aren’t on the same page as you. Wishing you all the best!
Jeez. That made me cry a lot. I always feel like if I had an INFP daughter...... I would know exactly what to tell her. "Stay the hell away from men... paint, make music, draw, write, dream, be amazing and literally tell everyone else to stay the HELL away from you and to have no opinion of you or your work, other people need to sort themselves out and stop leaning on you, and tell them also you could not give a shit what they think at all and to also just yeah. Stay the hell away. All of you." If I ever have an INFP child, I will defend them at all costs from anyone that comes near them. And tell my child to simply keep doing their own thing and believe in themselves.
@@lejla9358 yes. They actually need someone to provide a safe structure just for them to able to focus on their creative work. Almost like a patron. And nobody realises how much criticism and lack of faith destroy their motivation. So much potential must be lost by INFPs trying to live in this world. It's tragic.
The depth in your eyes, seems like you are an old soul so to speak. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in this authentic way, I know from experience it can take a lot for an INFP!
I’m almost turning 14, and this video really helped me. My mom always criticises me, and I ALWAYS take it to heart. For example she says: “You’re so irritating” and I’d take it as a “I’m such a burden to other people, i’m a waste of space” or like “I dont want to take care of you anymore” I’d take it as “I’m worthless, even my mom doesn’t want me, cant blame her tho” And then I get hurt, and that hurt turned to anger because i dont want to be “vulnerable” and I would talk back, then she would say even hurtful things and then I would yell at her (i hate myself🤦🏻♀️) and it just becomes one huge cycle. Then I would cry at my room, and hurt myself and then bottle up my feelings because I certainly can’t talk to my parents, and I worry that my friends will judge me. (That’s why Im expressing this here? XD) Right now, I’m still working on not taking everything negative comment to heart but its just so damn hard. Everything you said in this video was so true. Like when you said nobody can save you from your own problems. I have a crush (that certainly doesn’t like me) and I’d fantasise about how he would save me from my worries, my insecurities. how he would basically “save me” from everything. (Just because all of the cliche romantic novels and movies) Recently, with the help of youtube videos and also your advices, I came to the realisation of how pathetic I sounded. So now, I’m also working on gaining self confidence and self acceptance instead of wanting someone to save me from my problems. Albeit Im still slowing working on these stuff But yea :), idk why I made this pointless rant
Wow okay hello past self, chill dude 😂 it’s really funny and interesting to read the thoughts I had when i was younger. (Idk if anyone will read this but eh whatever im gonna ramble anyways) Wow i was so negative XD I’m glad Im going past that phase. I’m currently turning 15 in one month. Things are a lot better now, I learnt a lot in just one year, I’m not the best that i can be but im better XD My mom is still my mom, always having her emotional outbursts. It might sound obvious to most of you guys but i just fully realised that my mom is human too, she’s not perfect, she’s never going to be perfect, and neither is anyone in this world. So i guess I just have to accept that part of her since i dont see how she can change anymore (i tried talking to her but she gets defensive) Though, we still do get in arguments and one thing about me is that I’m ALSO hot headed and stubborn lol so it’s hard to be patient and remain calm when she yells at me and keeps ranting on and on, lecturing me. So that’s the thing i’ll work on this year. I also HAVENT moved on from that crush HAHAHA wow, i didnt want to confess because i dont see the point in it anyways cause im too young, still a kid i dont want a boyfriend or anything. But what i have moved on from is the feeling of wanting to be ‘saved’ or ‘noticed’ by someone. It’s a very embarrassing and shameful thing to admit but i think my self harming stemmed from that, wanting attention (other than a release from all the pent up emotions) Anyways, I’m not as negative and self loathing as before, i havent self harmed since and SWEAR to never ever do that again. It’d be cool if I updated one year later haha
@Sushiplate Yumyum thanks for the advice! A lot has changed since writing that comment, I was really bitter haha. Yea I definitely agree to that quote, I feel like most of the time, it's hard to express how I really feel sometimes and I would mentally face palm myself when I say something I didn't mean. Even now, it's hard to explain my emotions, English isn't my first language haha Yes I'm pulling that card out. I've started journalling almost a year ago but I don't journal consistently, only when I feel like it, which is only about once every few weeks.(I'm pretty sure you don't have to nessasarily be consistent for journalling) Technically, I've journalled since I was seven haha My English was so much worse back than. It's also kind of depressing to see the topic of my diaries drastically change from "yay I am happy that I can go to ____" to insecurities, mental health issues and depressing stuff. But I guess that's just life. Things are still as bad (if not, worse) than a year ago, and I am still insecure and frustrated with my mom but at least I understand more about myself now than a year ago which is what truly matters in the end right haha
As a 36 year old infp I say fuck em be you and don't be ashamed of who you are. Nobody told me that at your age i was always told it was weird to be shy or they tell me i am annoyed and yes i had fantasies about girls and we be married and love one another forever. But that is life i knownyou are a sweet soul and have lots to offer. Just be you.
as an infp that dealt with lots of depression the past couple of months, I can say no matter how many people you confide in, there’s a very good chance they won’t understand you and what you’re going through. All of the things other people say can seem like routine and recycled speeches. As infps, we crave thoughtfulness and consideration in our conversations with others because it takes so much energy to converse with others. In other words, we try to make the most of every conversation. The one thing that got me through this hard time was my faith. If you’re an infp dealing with depression (or anyone for this matter), I strongly encourage you to open up the Bible to either Job, Psalms or Proverbs. Job is a man I can relate to on so many levels and for that I am so grateful. On another note, I love you Lyla. I’m so glad I’ve found someone who shares the same personality type as me! Your words of encouragement are just what I need to hear!
Chloe Fischer I can SO relate.. trying to explain these things to people who lack a sense of depth/sensitivity.. is exhausting. There are only a few ones who understand. And oh yes faith.. how could I forget to mention this. It played such an important role for me too.. It helped me to let go of a big portion of anxiety/negativity and restore the faith in myself too. I love you too 💓 thank you!
Dear Lyla! I've cried while watching it you're amazing,beautiful soul and I want to thank you!! As an infp I felt like somebody is finally understanding me 💛 sending much love Katherine
Interesting video...I'm 21 and I feel that it is important not to let your personality type limit yourself, but to use it to your advantage. The key is to adapt and use your weak cognitive abilities (i.e. use of logic, planning and etc.) to make you a well rounded individual. Obviously you want to maintain individuality and be authentic but you need to test the waters also. An infp with a purpose has no limits. Bless.
Ali Fida Good point. You are totally right - we need our other functions as well.. for a good reason. The only thing we have to take care of is not to overuse our less dominant functions. I think the older we become, the better we understand ourselves,..our feelings. Finding balance is important - but not always easy to maintain. Especially when you're younger. I was not saying all you should rely on is your Fi function. That would look a bit crazy. 😜
Is crazy that you sound like me when I want to talk about something very important. Thing is I don't, because when I try to converse with someone else, either their patience runs out or they force understanding by trying to finish my words. It gets very frustrating to speak to anyone about important topics. I can't ever do so with my own mother. I subconsciously make a persona that trys to crack jokes most of the time or make extremely short small talk about an easy topic, that gets very exhausting because is like I'm forcing an extrovert out of me being an introvert. Like I've mentioned in someone's comment, I just learned about me being an infp very recent and I've never felt more understood and amused than ever before to know people out there have my same personality, and almost an equal mental wavelength. It came to me way late in the game just turning 37, something I wish I knew earlier about. I could have avoided a lot of mental confusion, heartache, frustration, etc. But now I'm here and in this new journey, I can be a bit more at ease knowing there's people out there with my uniqueness.
Hi :) I can relate to you. The extrovert/introvert part. It can be truly exhausting, that's why I crave authenticity so much. If I'm solid with my Fi.. I'm more likely to stay true to myself - my introverted self. If people like it or not. Don't know if you can relate :) I wish you ALL the best on your new journey 😎🤘
I'm 22, recently found out I am an INFP T , I live in my own world - where there is peace, tranquility, harmony, altruism , righteousness. I talk less but when I'm with people whom I love I talk a lot . It was great hearing you as I felt a connection & got to know I'm not alone. In adolescent I was so terrible & wicked , but as I grew up don't from where this sense of nobility came in , I became so self critical of myself - that I can't even think of hurting an ant. I do self loathe a lot for my past . I've developed a moral compass myself which guides me to be virtuous & a scrupulous person . Once again thank you for sharing your thoughts. Lots of love❤️ & good wishes to my fellow INFPs , y'all are great
I won't lie, I cried a few times during this video haha. Especially when she mentioned how knowing that there are other people out there that feel like her makes her feel less lonely.
I have never felt such relief hearing about someone's else's experience and life that is so similar to my own. I was always told since I was young my parents, adults, friends that I am too sensitive. Even to the point of them being angry at me for feeling so deeply. I think they thought they were preparing me for the harsh world out there, that I had to be stronger and change. But it wasn't me that had to change. And Oh God, the part where you talked about daydreaming. Too real. I create a world of my own where I'm in control so I never get hurt and people accept me and love me. But you're right, no one can heal you or be the propellant for your happiness. We are in charge of that. I've always been ashamed of who I am, that I am so different from everyone around me. But I'm trying to love myself now and discover who I've been suppressing all this time. I'm only 21 so I'll give myself time to grow :) I would normally apologize for rambling but you're an INFP too so you get it hahaha
4:45 every bit of what you said there about wanting to feel that wholeness and sense of self you had in younger years so bad that you can worry yourself sick wanting to achieve that. I'm 21 and have been dealing with that for the last 3 years (so basically everything you are describing). I think I'm starting to figure things out and just live life and let things happen, instead of trying to control my outcome so much. I've definitely learned that no one can control the route their lives take, but just live life to the best of their ability and embrace what we experience along the way.
StaciMay oh yeah..letting things happen is probably the best strategy to do it :) If we force things - we want it too much..we become attached to the outcome.
This is the type of message I would had loved to receive when I was 14 year old because it is at that age that I had a huge identity crisis due to other people judgements now I am 20 and I had arrived at an age where I don't need people point of view anymore because I learned to trust myself. As an Infp the main advice I will give is to learn to trust your intuition because other people point of view do not define who we are. You are amazing people with big heart hence never let anybody devalue your worth
hey, im 16 years old and i want to say I'm a turbulent infp. I feel extremely lost to be honest right now, I know a lot of infps close off, but my issue is with being to open, and I let someone in my life determine who I was and it broke me, and now I genually don't know how to feel about anything. I used to feel so strongly about helping my friends, I would always have something to say, but now I have no words. Not letting people push me around is something I've never been able to not do, I overthink and doubt my own self constantly without any remorse, or mercy for who I am. I don't feel lonely sometimes, I feel it all the time. there's still pain in life and knowing I've tried everything, yet nothing works, makes me think "what am I even doing here", where do I as a being fit into this world, with others who never show mercy, gratitude, or even love anymore. Why am I the only one who when I care, I care deeply and am willing to make a change, yet no one else sees that point of view? You and others say the heart heals, or time heals, but it doesn't. it covers your wounds yet you still live with your inner self, excuse me if I'm being to harsh, I hope that no one sees me as if I'm being hateful. I have depression and really bad anxiety, and tbh I truly cannot cope with being an infp at all. or even living like this at all. And yet just because I'm saying this doesn't mean anything will change. Because it ever does. Nothing lasts. Humans die, we pass away, and if to pass away, and everything is temporary, why do I exist, yet to be a ghost. I'm temporary, a garbage pedestole left to be thrown away by others including myself, yes I run away from myself, yet being myself is the hardest thing iv'e ever had to accept, because id rather physically cut off my arms and legs than to be alive as an infp. I see no good within myself, just an evil heart always crushed over and over again till nothing can co-exist. Because I do not, I just exist, nothing to be gained, received except my own torment.
You're not the only one feeling this way. We all go through different seasons in life. But why do you assume that no one cares? :) Right now in this moment I checked your comment and.. I cared. Everything around you.. even the way you see yourself is really just an assumption. What if you started to assume that people care? What if you started to assume that you matter? You know that feeling when you text someone and it takes them a lot of time to reply? And you feel like.. ugh God, they probably think I'm annoying, or they don't like me etc.! But the truth is - it's just your assumption. You don't know the truth. What if they read your message with a smile on their face - but decided to text later because they're busy at the moment? You're not a little piece of garbage! You're special - but if you don't believe it, you'll keep inviting negative things into your life. If you don't believe it - who will? Try some positive thinking. Get yourself a pretty journal where you write down ALL the reasons why you are God damn amazing???!!! ;) It takes practice & time.. you need to have faith. What helps me is definitely my faith in God. This is where I get my hope and strength from. I know.. doesn't sound too practical right? Another thing I've learned is that you can't always rely on your emotions. I used to make impulsive decisions based on my current emotions, but I've understood that emotions are nothing but a result of my thoughts (99% of the time). They come and go all the time. I've learned to allow myself to sit in unpleasant emotions without feeling the need to react immediately.. or run away.. whatever. Accept it, don't fight it, don't resist. Feel what you have to feel, but be good to yourself. Positive thinking changed a LOT for me! You mentioned you have a hard time to not let people push you around. Basically, you have a hard time creating boundaries. You know what? It was not until the age of 27 that I started developing boundaries. And I'm still learning. Every lesson will come to you at the right time. Hearts do heal, but beautiful things take time. You need to have faith.
Late comment but I need to speak my mind here. As a 21 year old INFP male, living in a society with toxic masculinity (I live in rural Oklahoma so it 10x worse at least) it gets difficult to live up to standards. It's worth realizing, especially for INFPs, that the only standards that truly matter are your own. I can relate to wanting to be someone else but i dont really want that, i want to be me and just be loved and appreciated all the more for it. I wont lie, at times I breakdown and ask why I am the way I am. I realize I am who I am, the reason we are the way we are is because the world needs more people like us to balance things out. We're all unique in our own ways and INFPs are no exception. We are outstanding in our own way and no one of any type of personality really needs anyone to tell them that. We all have the ability to be ourselves, that's the one thing each person can do that no one else can replicate perfectly.
She hit the nail right on the head. I"m an INFP male and it can be a bitch being one and trying to live in this world. Sometimes though I do feel that underneath it all, we are the last hope for world peace, authenticity, & someone who would rather listen to someone than mess with their phone. Let's all stick together.
I really needed to hear that. I'll be 30 next year and I've really felt lost lately. I had a lot of changes happen in my life over the past two years that have caused me to question who I thought I was. Now I'm completely lost and did wind up going home to have some stability while I try to figure myself out. Thank you for sharing this message.
To feel cursed or damned is never something I get used too. It manifests in fatigue, slowed speech and thought, all out torpor and paralysis. There are times where I am shocked how much the mind can take. I dont know how I am still alive, its like the game is over but my heart has to put in the beats out of duty but nothing more.
So close to the bone Though I wouldn't say I'm looking for someone to save me - I just want to see the true reflection of myself in someone's eyes With all downsides glaring, yet accepted in a whole
Thank you my beautiful fellow INFP soul, you described my life as a teenager to a tee! At 20 I ended up having a nervous breakdown and in a outpatient program at the mental hospital, I felt lonely and anxious and weird and not validated for any feeling or thought I had bc I was TO emotional TO intense, TO much but yet not enough att the same time, at 33 I'm finally learning to love ME and not now I have a 9 year old INFP child whose starting to go though the confusion and anxiety of all his emotions, thank you so much for letting me know I'm not alone. 💖💖💖
I don’t usually leave comments but idk why but when you said “INFPs are stronger than they think they are.” (something I should remember.) I unexpectedly started to tear up a bit. I would not consider myself strong at all, I’m so intimidated by others, even though I know I shouldn’t be. Whenever I try to “act confident” I feel like such a phoney and people can see right through my act so I naturally go back into my shell. I do that thing where I try to see myself in someone else’s eyes and all I can see are the negative/awkward aspects of myself... But your words have given me strength for today ☺️ I think I should be less harsh on myself..? Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! 💕 I really enjoy your content on both UA-cam and Instagram, they really touch me. It is comforting to know there are others out there that might feel similar to how we feel. Thank you! Much love to you ❤️
E Win You're such a sweetheart! Thank you hun 💜 I really do believe infps are stronger than they think they are.. they have a lot resilience actually. Oh and believe me.. I feel like a phoney a lot of times. But as you say.. we expect ourselves to be perfect. To know it all. And it's impossible. Sometimes we need to tell ourselves how great we are - just for trying,.. for not giving up. Much love back to you!!!
LYLA thank you for your kind words :) since I left my last comment I have kept one of your quotes on IG as my background and sometimes whenever I’m feeling a down, unsure, scared or not myself I remember your words and feel a bit lighter ☺️
Just coming across your page and this video has been more helpful than almost any other INFP video I’ve seen. Not sure if I’m off, but it seemed like you were encouraging both us and yourself, and that made it even more powerful. Your meaningful and heartfelt words of encouragement have done more for me than just about anything I’ve heard from anyone I actually know. You spoke to a number of my situations and given me hope and solace. Thank you! 💜
Thank God I'm not the only one always grasping for the right words :) INFPs, once found their solid ground and secure stand or stance, become the most powerful, terrifying but also forgiving, gentle and loving beings of all. But it's a long journey.
Its wonderful to hear you talking, its like you know me, this is the kind of connection that every infp yearns to have each day in our lives, bless you where ever you are right now
For the longest time in my life, I felt like I’ve been trying to prove my self worth, to myself, by getting validation from others. During the times where I can’t achieve that recognition, I feel extremely useless and depressed to the point where I hate myself. I’d think that I’m absolutely trash and can never succeed anything in life no matter how hard I try.
I was just randomly watching videos about INFPs personality traits through testimonies like yours. I finished by watching your video here. And I deeply felt every word from you. And not only every word, but also every silence between each word. Particularly strong and deep testimony here (to my emotion's opinion). I'm not the kind to let comments or likes, or anything even if I appreciate contents and I actually didn't know what to say here, but I had to comment something to let you know how I did experiment your testimony. Thanks to you.
When i was a young soldier in Afghanistan a long time ago. I would fantasize i would find a beutiful latina women and we would sail the world together and she would wrap her arms around me while i would be sailing the boat. I mean i would think about this all the time. I came home and found a latina women and it didn't work out the way i thought it would and it crushed me. It still hurts to think about it. But i have been single for a long time and am just now coming around to this way of thinking. I am 36 and have hid my true self . I am no longer going to do this. Ps i know it isnhard for you to make these video's i bet you have made like 4 before you posted this . I just want you to know you are doing a great job!
I know it would help this INFP to accept myself better if I was better accepted by others. I really don't need or care about getting their acceptance but it would make me feel a little less useless. I really like your videos, I wish you were still making them. You have a lot of insight on us INFP's. Really nice to look at too. ☮❤♾
Sometimes it nice to know there' people out there going through the same daily struggles that can relate. I appreciate your courage to talk about such sensitive topics to complete strangers like me. Thanks for your wisdom.
Holy shit this was good!!! I've recently turned 20 years old, and these fears you are describing, about ending up like these crazy people on the street, because you had changed trough the years, is exactly, like verbatim what I have been thinking and fighting against (those fears) for the past half year. Almost every single sentence in the whole video speaks right trough my soul. And are scarily accurate. I'm not kidding. And so philosophically too! I love it when self help videos contain that type of philosophy, but is so hard to find. So much life-wisdom in a 15 minute video, I haven't stumbled upon in a long long time!! I didn't expect it to be this good. Thank you so much!!! This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear now. I will watch it again and again.
I kinda have to speed up your videos as beautiful as your thought process is I just want you to spit it out. Which makes me laugh bc it’s probably how people feel when they speak to me 😂♥️ Leyla, this message was everything I neede. I’ve been running away from myself for years since I lost myself at the age of 18 I now 27 and living on the other side of the world. When I first moved I thought everything was great but slowly after a year it got worse an my soul caught up with me. I still feel like no one understands and I’m always looking for that person to “save me” always lying to myself that maybe this guy is him (to any guy that shows me slightest interest) frankly, I’m tired. I’m tired of running away from myself. So I’m trying now to focus on myself. I’m thinking of getting back to my studies and complete my masters. I’m also working to be unapologetically myself. Thank you for this video ❤️
Thank you I really needed this, I tend to feel like a horrible person, I feel like too many people try to manipulate me emotionally and when I reject their negativity I end up feeling guilty, even for people who have hurt me I tend to try to see their best. I feel emotionally numb too often.
To anyone not INFP maybe you didn't say anything revolutionary...the words you said (to be honest some I jotted down in quotations...they helped to open myself up on paper and it prompted me to journal a little bit--something I feel I've really been needing to do lately but somehow have felt unable) but the feelings that this has evoked are incredible, just before halfway through the video it suddenly got very hard to watch. When you said the thing about feeling that you had lost who you were as a child and wanting to find that again...I have absolutely felt that in the past and never really verbalized it in my mind before. It feels so sad and strange to miss someone that you love so deeply when it's yourself and you don't know if you'll ever find that [person] again. INFPs need to know that they can call someone for the kindness they need to hear. I would have had an easier adolescence, and 2nd adolescence (when I was 20 or so), if I had someone in my life at those times, that I trusted with my feelings enough to call up at moments when I needed courage and to know that I was going to be ok.
As a 21 year old INFP gal, this is exactly what I needed. MY HEART. Thank you for stepping out and doing this video. I hope one day I can do the same for others in whatever area I have influence. Much love.
Hahahahahah it’s like looking to myself talking but in another body. The gestures and the pauses to find the true words. And although I’m 37 I don’t understand what growing up means too. It’s like all along the way since I was a child up to these days I’m the same person and have the same eyes but with more stories to remember that help me guiding myself on my path. Like being in the Wizard Of Oz going to see the magician like he’ll tell me the right manner of how to come back home. But the many experiences all along the way IS the actual home. And you’re right, nobody can be me for myself. Thank you 🌻
I actually am an INFJ, here listening from and about an INFP's perspective and advice, but it's just too good and wise to not listen to your message. I sincerely and humbly want to say "Thank you." Thanks you for this soo so much!! :)
Hi Lyla, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us! I wish I had a time machine to travel back in time and show my younger self this video. I am an INFP myself but it took me quite a while to start to embrace who I am and appreciate my talents and the gifts, I was born with. A very difficult separation and the pain which it caused forced me to change my life - from ignoring myself completely (and trying to please everyone else instead) to nurturing myself, to searching my true inner self, to sticking to my values while appreciating my individuality. I feel as if I am a healer: I seem to have the ability to heal difficult situations, heal wounded hearts and heal people. I don't know yet, how I will use this ability to make our world a little bit more worth living. But I intend to find out :) I must admit: the life I had before was foreseeable, somehow stable, boring and I wasn't really happy. This changed completely - I just feel like a phenix from the ashes ... my life is no longer predictable, not so safe any more. But now at least I feel life flowing through my vains instead of the emptiness of my heart before - and that feels great! I sometimes feel lonely (as most INFP do probably), but knowing that there is a community out there, which thinks and feels similar is of great value to me. Thank you all - Thank you Lyla!
Enfj here. Thats so weird how you say the infp wants to know what the other personality types see them as so they don't get judged. Because the enfj kinda embodies all the other personality types for a few moments when interacting with others and we know how they feel and think like from a glance and how to motivate and direct them to make good decisions in life while moving them forward in the social world. Seems like enfj and infp truly are a match. We give you guys extroverted insights and you guys give us knowledge
I love the song you are quietly playing in the background. I believe it is a song called "Return to Innocence" by Enigma. That song like your message is empowering. Thank you.
I feel like everything I've done and every decision I've made in life, was me following in someone else's footsteps, just because I don't ever know what I should be doing - be it getting a driver's licence or even choosing a college (luckily I managed to really like it, but I feel majorly insecure and not sure in my abilities). I feel like life would be so easy for me if I knew what thing I should be doing, like a manual for life. What is weird to me is that this behavior started in the last year of highschool with an existential crisis and what seemed to me as an depression. I wasn't this intense infp as a child especially as a teenager (I was always extremely shy but I kind of knew what I was supposed to do - I did things that I believed in and that I liked, not searching for that in others and that is what I miss the most about myself). P.s. It cracked me up when you said that you asked your mum to tell you that you'll do well in an exam - I did the exact same thing. Now I'm ok and fairly content with my life, but it's really hard to make new friends - it always feels really shallow... hvala za ovaj video Lejla! :)
Thank you for sharing your story with us - I can feel & understand you 💜 For me it was also the last year of high school/first year of college that would become the beginning of a crazy ride. Since I can relate a lot to your words, let's share some of my thoughts :) What I realized about my personal struggle with confusion/lack of vision or direction is that the root cause is probably anxiety. Where there is a lot of anxiety, there is no peace. And where there is no peace, there is no clarity either. I could literally feel the tension in my gut for many years, but I guess I was too stubborn to pay attention, until my body started shutting down lol. I was always acting like it's not a big deal - "I'm strong. Just keep pushing". I was plagued by social anxiety and fear of failure for years - and I thought I could cope with it by putting on a "mask". But it's that mask that makes things worse - it eventually leads to disconnection from your true self and I kind of "burned out". I finally started paying attention to my body, and let go of literally everything. My BIGGEST priority at that time was just PEACE!!! I don't need to become the next Picasso (just an example lol) - I want to master a simple life :) You know like going out into the woods and enjoying the present moment. Ask yourself - when was the last time you did something just for the sake of having a good time/fun? And once you master a simple life, become more grounded & peaceful.. your answers might come to you unexpectedly :) Our heart is the best compass. 🌍💜 But first we need to let go of all these voices in our head. I could say/write so much more, but that would turn into a book lol. Saljem ti veliki hug-ić i najljepse zelje 🌹
I've only just come across this channel and have been browsing around a little bit of the videos on UA-cam about this kind of stuff. As a INFP 19 year old male this video was a pleasant surprise as you conveyed in a very relatable way some of these more difficult feelings. A lot of the other videos on UA-cam on this topic just sound like the same recycled phrases over and over but in this video I hear original insight. Best of luck to you and your channel xx
19 y/o infp here...this video brought tears to my eyes. i didnt know there were actually people going through the same things i was going through mentally...so thank you for this video!!!
@Lejla. Coming home to myself is a journey. Allowing myself to be sensitive and intuitive as my nature is; is the most beautiful, powerful and scary gut wrenching experience of my life. You mentioned being authentic. If I am nothing else in this life I will be authentic. It’s the key. To everything. Thank you for sharing. I feel you.
I wish you were in my life. I could use someone like you. Thank you so much for the video. You're so damn beautiful, I love the depth and sadness of your eyes, you seem so mystical. Thanks for helping us INFP's.
I had an existential crisis this year, finally decided to be who i am and restarted my college education and switched from commerce to arts.... I'm aspiring to be a Clinical Psychologist ...... i feel much much better now, commerce was literally not a right environment for me.... for the first time in a long time i feel alive soo yea I'm pursuing my goal . I'm still struggling with depression and anxiety but I'm still fighting
I don’t know what to say but I relate to this so much to this. When I experienced my existential crisis, I think I died in the process but I also gain a new me. Like I reborn from the dead, so my mind and body became much colder unfortunately, but my heart feels much warmer and stronger with a new breath of life. Also, I realized that we are not on this earth to live a life, more so fight for one. So to live is really to suffer. Thanks for the video. Much appreciated :)
Teen years not a good time at all. So lost and am still but teen years was a black hole. Not only did I shy away from comforming or participating but I hid in the library and just stayed in the background observing. I felt like a real life alien. Everyone was doing things and being sociable and I was like why am I not normal.
I can relate myself to the whole video. I have recently aknowleged that my traits fall very accurate In the description of INFP, HSP and pretty developed empath. I’d like to share a bit of my story. My childhood was not an easy one but destpite many family related problems I remember myself as a whole person and not remember to be ever lonely even if I had to play only with myself what I even liked to do. When school came into the play I have no good memories of school to be honest despite the fact I have almost no problems with my education(my biggest struggle was to write essays in my native language). I remember an episode when I hated myself so much for being sensitive that I wanted to become a mechanized robot or something like that to stop feeling anything. I believe that was the beginning to my existential issues and there were many more things attached during high school as I felt overwhelmed by overall societal demands of what you should do/be after it but I was unable to be any kind of proffesion as they say become a doctor or an engenieer. So I helplessly went to a university and tried a field of studies connected to on of my previous hobbies but I dropped out after a few years of struggle with motivation. I had many suicidal thoughts and images to be honest with you but never attempted one as I couldn't let myself do it because of it bringing so much sorrow on my closest ones. I believe that during the whole process of losing my wholeness I built this tension for the one as you say to save me(and also an ideal dream partner that will know all my needs) and finally unloaded it on a female that I know since I was 2 years old and of course she rejected it and almost dissapeared from my life. And it happened the worse nightmare I feared I was rejected so badly. The next thing happening simultaneuesly with that was as I was attending so called ‘spiritual classes’ teacher and in the end it became obvious that she is very manipulative person( however she gave me a book for my birthday that I believe played a big role during this crysis times.) The outcome was that I have noticed that I do the worst things to myself, punishing for the smallest mistakes( especially on morality and ethics fields when violating my own rules) denaying self love, care and acceptance. When all of those things showed up the question emerged: Will I continue doing all of those things to myself even thou it seems to lead to nowhere? I compared myself also to other people and noticed that some of them do not even consider hurting others a bad thing if it fullfils they needs. And that was a breakthrough in me approaching myself to never hurt me again and love , accept myself as best as I can (I’m crying of joy every time I recall this feeling). I can even hug myself when I’m relaxed and it gives me a great warmth and comfort. I have to admit that knowing that there is so many fellow people with INFP type personality that have similar approach to the world and life gave me sense that I’m not alone in that. I hope that what I have written is possible to understand as my native language isn’t English, thanks to everyone who read that and I hope it can help someone at least a bit. Edit: I would like to add that music helped me a lot. I post the companies here so you can go and do some research yourself if you want. Immediate music, Fired Earth Music, Two Steps From Hell, Position Music, Audiomachine, Future World Music, Really Slow Motion
Beautifully stated Lyla. I couldn't agree more with what you said! It has been very interesting doing this research on my personality type, and you helped confirm a lot of what I've read about, which is cool because it's coming from someone who has been there, done that. Lots of wisdom encapsulated in this video! :) Thanks!
You're such an amazing person with a beautiful soul. I just cried while watching your video and the thing in your eyes, that deep deep thing, reminds me my own thing. I just would like to meet you and have conversations about life, emotions and other things. You're such a good person and you deserve so much things.
Wow Lyla...You described that so beautifuly. I just learned that I am INFP....and high sensitive.... Please keep sharing your experiences and thougts with the world! Ben, The Netherlands
13:00 yeah I used to, and still do that at times... trying to figure out how i can best remain in harmony with the person im interacting with, knowing their type and how i think i should modify my behaviour to get along... not that its always wrong, its useful to be aware of, but its really sad how it sometimes completely controls me to the point where im not myself anymore and it becomes increasingly hard to get free. At least that what i assume u meant.
You may not have said anything revolutionary, but certain things you said so steadily were so deep, so felt, that were punches which would break any shield someone non-insensitive may have... 💞 Maaan, I said exactly what you said about what makes you feel less lonely just as you were saying it 😵 It's a paradox for me to know there are certain INFPs out there, because it makes me feel less lonely knowing there are people I can relate to so much, but at the same time it makes me feel super sad, because I miss them a lot, as I haven't come across any yet. We are like mushrooms, you know we can grow anywhere, but can't go to a certain place to grab some, as you never know where we can be... 🙁 Whenever I feel so inspired from someone's words I'd like to hug that person forever, and that he/she was air, to be able to breath and carry him/her within me... Yess, I knew you weren't a native english speaker 😁 The way you say "Lyla" feels so natural to me (spanish speaker), that I'd bet for it, despite I wouldn't know what's your mother tongue haha. I'd say hello to you on Instagram, but I haven't got an account in any social network apart from UA-cam... If I ever sign up there, take it for granted 😉😊 Byye!
Hey Lyla! thank you so much for this video! It´s funny cause a couple of days ago, i tried filming my self, cause i was curious to see what i look like when i talk about stuff. And now i´m realizing the way we speak is very similar, from the tone to the gesture and facial expressions, we even use a lot of similar words and i´m a guy! I´ve noticed that with a lot of INFP on UA-cam already. Anyway, you say great and true things about us INFP´s and some of it really made me think about us in alot new ways. I´m looking forward to more videos from you. Always amazing to discover a beautiful INFP gril from the in and outside. All the best from Germany
Hi there! Aw thank you so much :) It's funny.. we always try to understand ourselves through the eyes of others. How do they perceive me, right? But I noticed - every time I was doing that.. I was existing outside of myself. Disconnected from who I am. Well and then I realized how senseless it actually is :P All the best to you!
You do a really great job on your videos, I have to say. Even without any fancy bells and whistles like a lot of channels have, you are very succinct and clear in what you're trying to say, despite the fact you're discussing these nebulous concepts... it makes for a captivating and enjoyable watching experience. Please continue making videos!
People say INFP's want the world to work on their terms and people to follow their ideals but they're wrong. My entire 29 years of life as an INFP was to find answers as to why things are as it is. Seeking answers to many questions, knowing that I might never get the answers caused me to end up in an endless loop of discovery.
Hey Lyla, I just want to say...I love this video!... Even the way that you overthink everything you want to bring accross..... this "overthinking time" is a thing that gives a lot of trouble in "normal conversation" for me....They don"t give me time to Think! Love ....Ben
You are so right! It makes me feel less lonely knowing that I’m not the only INFP out there. Knowing that I’m not the only one feeling lost, like I don’t know who I am even though I’m 19. And because of the way I am I would always wish I was different, but your words have made me feel 10X better! I will always remember I am stronger than what I feel I am :)
The more I navigate through those INFP videos, the more I realize that I ain't alone. This is by far the best discovery I made in months.
Same here I discovered this about me under a month ago and I'm more amused and relatable than ever. Is like I been on a journey for a few years to understand why I couldn't relate to anyone and now knowing I'm infp I feel I found the people who would understand me.
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"I probably didn't say anything revolutionary."
What you said in this video was revolutionary for me. It is absolutely fascinating/scary how everything you said about infps hit so so directly home for me. I am 22, most of my life have been rejecting being more sensitive and intuitive than others, and saw it as a weakness... feeling emotions so strongly. When others said negative things about my character, I looked at their opinions and formulated it into my own about myself. Looking for outside sources hoping to be accepted.. and recently i have started to look inward and am on a journey to self love. And to see these traits as powerful tools. Thank you so much for this video :)
Do any other infp's like learning about everything?
I'm almost addicted to learning. I've been doing it my entire life. When I was a kid I would read books in the library during recess. I'm not a true expert on anything but I have knowledge about more topics than anyone I've ever met.
A bad habit I've had because of this is correcting people when they're totally wrong about something. I've had people tell me I have a big ego because of it, Maybe ego is a part of it but mostly I don't want people to spread misinformation.
On the one hand, it feels very liberating to have such a vast understanding of things, but on the other hand, it holds me back because I don't stick with any one thing long enough do something with it.
I'm one of these infps too:) I'm bad when it comes to focusing on one topic for toooo long. I rather prefer learning a little bit about everything (well except technical stuff - I'm really not so much into these things). I guess that's the infp's short attention span.
Automobile History, omg you just described my life!!! 😮
I relate to this so much, and I always overload my mind with information...
So I have all tools I need at 14 right now, but I can't seem to stick to one thing for too long. And just seem to want new shit to study when I get bored of all concepts easily
Otis Tyson Boris I can truly relate to what you are experiencing. I'm in a state right now where I just wanted to learn/study and quit my job. I've been wanting to study in Australia for my postgraduate course and hoping that I could find myself and get a sense about my life.
Yes ive had so many phases in my life but i would always want to learn about that one thing as much and often as i could.
as a 24 year old INFP, I definitely disagree with the not changing location part.. this might be exactly what most INFPs need.. travelling the world or in countries nearby, experiencing the global goodness that exists, as everyone on a similar journey/in hostels are very open and interested in other people. plus generally, changing one's environment by moving elsewhere can be so healing.. of course it is possible to face your fears where you are, but so much harder.. and unnecessarily I feel. getting away from the past for a bit, not dwelling in same throughts, experiencing smth new and finding out more about youself.. I've been living abroad for 1.5years now and never felt so grateful and at ease.. constantly find myself thinking daily how happy I actually am. of course, the general mentality of the new place has to fit as well.. Copenhagen has proven to be awesome for me for example. so yeah.. young INFPs.. I urge you to change your enviroment.. definitely changes your perception of life & rises self esteem a lot.
Thanks for bringing up that point! I think I should have explained that part better. Hmm first of all I think there's a difference between a tourist and a true explorer. A tourist in my opinion makes pics of Tour Eiffel, Golden Gate Bridge, etc... and goes back home. lol. A true explorer seeks connection.. travels with purpose…. with a motive deeper than just "God I can't stand this city and these annoying people, I need to go somewhere else." Time also plays an important role. Do you spend 5 days somewhere else or let's say..two years? I did not intend to say that changing location is a complete waste of time. Of course it's not. What I personally love about travelling is that it distracts me a little bit from daily life here. Getting to know new people, maybe even making friends is great too. Experiencing other countries is always great..new stuff everyday.. Things are exciting and we collect cool memories. But we still have to go back to daily life and deal with it again. Of course some people might even experience "spiritual enlightenment" somewhere out there. But I honestly doubt that changing locations is THE secret. I always experienced a boost in mood/energy when I travelled. I usually come back home feeling really good and inspired. But then I go back to my old "routine" after a while. So my conclusion is, I personally love travelling if I have the money,.. but so far I did not experience it as life-transforming :)
Hi Dazed! 23 year old infp here. Graduated college in December, I would like to travel when Corona virus is over. What programs did you apply to to study abroad??
INFP comments sections are wonderful. We write so well! It'so deep, meaningful and eloquent, yet it reflects our soft and calm speech. ♥
Yes, true! That's exactly why I love it. Personal stories, honest feelings, kindness.. 💜
Like a seed planted in stardust grown in the darkest depths Insp brings light and warmth unto all whom may perceive us by absorbing the darkness they find!
I ran away from myself for decades and the identity crisis caught up with me in my 40's.
I guess there's no escaping it for INFPs that don't accept who they really are.
Take it from me, Lyla's message is sound: don't fight, accept who you are. Go on a journey of inner-discovery. It may be painful, but it'll also be the best voyage of your life.
There's no alternative for us, the only way to be truly happy is to accept our true nature.
But sometimes this requires hardships and heartbreak and our sensitivity makes us afraid of that, so we hide and build up walls. Don't. Everything is worth experiencing once. For me it was the end of a disastrous marriage. This is what set me on the right path.
In the end, traumatic events don't chip away at who you are, they make you better, more experienced. The pain is just the price you have to pay. It's temporary. What you get out of it will last you a lifetime.
Thank you for your testimony Lyla :)
Break the bonds. Shed the fake.
Francois Lapikas Thank you Francois for your testimony !!💗 A good piece of advice we all can learn from!
Damn it dude, what you said here helps more than the video. Not that there's anything wrong with the video.
What you said here resonates with me. I had the same experience, the broken and wrong marriage that I think is now a blessing because I’m forced to look at myself and truly understand who I am. It’s scary because I also have been running away from who I am and I’ve always wondered why I couldn’t be like my friends.
I hope that I can also figure it all out my truth like you have.
Thanks for sharing and thanks Lyla.
“If that make sense?Yeah that makes sense” Soooo INFP. Half a sec of uncertainty then you realize you’re talking to other INFPs.
"You are the person you keep running away from." Powerful. Thanks for sharing Lyla, I support you!
How to work with this INFP toward a true loving relationship:
1. Authenticity
2. Friendship
3. Love, Faith, Hope
4. Peace
Time :)
@@martink3685 naw.. Got no time
Hella patience too jaja
This made me cry. I have let people's opinions affect me. I have felt intimidated and insignificant. I have called myself pathetic for being so overIy sensitive. But I'm on my way to self realization now. I know this sensitivity is my greatest gift.
It really is less lonely to know that there are people like me out there. Thank you so much for reaching out xx
Nitasha 93 You will never be insignificant.. Don't work against yourself,.. against your nature. Use the gift that you have, even if nobody else would see it as a gift. You know 😊💓
Being emotional has caused me pain and isolation and most people don't get it. They say your too sensitive and stop crying all the time or feeling sorry for yourself. It's comforting to know others are similar to me. We sensitive types. We'd die without tissues within arms length. 😊
Your words are so beautiful!! As a 16 year old INFP, this makes PERFECT SENSE TO ME!!! I really needed to hear this. Right now, in my junior year of high school, i feel like so much has changed. Not necessarily in a bad way, but nothing seems familiar anymore. It’s hard to describe, but nothing feels “right”, I’m growing up so fast and nothing seems to make sense. With love and loneliness, I feel like no matter how many people are around me, I feel like very deep deep deep inside, at the end of the day, I feel a little bit alone. It’s not always a bad thing but it’s not alway a great thing either. I haven’t had a crush on anyone in years, and my one relationship I’ve ever had I wasn’t into, and I want to feel the sensation of dedication to someone... I want to feel that childish crush on someone again (if that makes sense haha). I’m trying to not care what people think of me, but it’s so hard because I care so deeply about my friends and those around me, I feel like I can’t live up to the person they need me to be. I feel mean sometimes, selfish, or like a hypocrite, and i feel annoying or obnoxious with my views or emotions. I want to help everyone in the world and it breaks my heart to know I can’t, and to know I’m not good enough. I’m still very proud to be an INFP. We are awesome :) thank you for this video!
You're exactly like me😭 but I really hate being INFP cuz it stops me from doing a lot of things that I want to do so badly💔💔💔
intx123 that’s a good point, thank you!
Sarah G once upon a time, I was a 16 year old young woman with many of those same feelings. Those thoughts and feelings you're experiencing are, practically, universelly true for most INFP'S. It does get better through the years and it helps (a lot) if you remind yourself, you are NOT alone, that you feel different because of your heightened awareness and that's OK! It really is okay. We, as INFP'S, are exceptionally empathetic. It really is a gift, one the world needs more of, so allow yourself to be authentic. Give yourself permission to have a good cry, once in a while, also to laugh with joy, every chance you get! Teenage years are still the hardest to get through, so remember time flies, even when we're not having fun. Most importantly, you are enough! I'll say it again, you - all the parts that create your individual being - Are Enough!! If you have the tenderness of heart to have compassion for the needy of the world, I hope you will soon learn to turn that compassion inward and be kind to yourself in your self-talk. I will not say this is easy, or just something you do once in a while. It's necessary everyday! Take good care of your physical body and good care of your emotional self, too. It totally pays off in the long run! Be well, Sarah, you're going to make a difference for many people over your lifetime. It's just who you are... God bless you, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes!
Ramona Schober that is so sweet and kind, it feels so nice to have other people understand. Thank you!
Sarah G , your welcome! I'm so encouraged by you! 🤗Thank you for reading and replying to my comment. I hope you're doing well. Keep living well and being kind, it's completely worth it in the long run! Lyla has great insight and the boldness to speak her truth to viewers, at large, so I hope you're still subscribed to her channel. I think she's a positive influence for us INFP'S. God bless you, sweetie!🙏
I don't know why but I feel that all INFPs are me from another dimension. We are all the same, but yet we are different, and I like that about us INFPs. We are unique.
Love you all INFPs 💜
@Lejla OK This confession is going to hurt.
Watching you in this video is terrifying and bizarre. I have had this exact conversation with myself countless times. Even the way you pause to think, to try and find the right word to describe your thoughts and feelings is eery. Imagine being a young boy with these feelings. Feeling alone, weird, stupid and odd. I use to watch Sci/fi and hope that I was from another planet and that I was here to observe people and one day I could go home again and be understood finally.
I did something strange at 10. I needed a stronger personality to help me cope with life. I was suicidal and depressed. I created a fake persona of an ESTJ (executive) to deal with the stress of life and the people in my life that seemed to be assaulting me. So when people called me too soft or sensitive, or nice or a dreamer I could become an ESTJ and show them. This worked and helped me survive but it made me feel more isolated and misunderstood.
Quick anecdote because you mentioned finding this special person. My special person was named "Maria". She was going to understand me, allow me to finally express my feelings without judgement and then our lives together would be one giant inside joke that only the 2 of us would understand. i remember when I gave up on her. I was 28 and I moved from NY state to San Diego. I envisioned that once I arrived to San Diego there would be a beautiful woman at the airport with a sign that had my name on it. I would walk up to her and smile and the only thing she would say is "Where the F*ck have you been?" . I went to the airport when I arrived in San Diego looking for Maria. I remember hoping so much and then after a few minutes realizing that I was the strangest, most broken brain man on Earth. I laughed at myself and became the ESTJ for a few days to deal with the heartache and loss of the dream.
It's been 37 yrs since I created my 2nd persona. I used to think I was the only one who struggled with life like this. I still hide behind the ESTJ when needed and at this point he is a part of me. I have had several amazing but short lived relationships. No marriage and no kids. Sometimes I feel like my true personality is an affliction or a curse. I feel and care for others but I rarely seem to get people to care about me. If they do it always seems to be transactional or conditional.
Lejla, I look at you and smile. If someone told me to draw my "Maria" I think she would look and talk exactly like you. I did not think super beautiful women could be INFP's. I can recognize most IN** women in about 30 seconds now. Unfortunately for me they are always in relationships or not interested in me. I have been seriously thinking about living into my ESTJ persona just for the pure pleasure of dating Ms. Wrong or Ms Right now but seeing you makes me pause. Unicorns do actually exist.
Hi Joe, I have to say I enjoyed reading your comment :) I really appreciate it when people tell me personal stories like these. You're a special soul. I can feel you "through the lines" :) The ESTJ part makes me laugh - I can relate to it.
Did it ever cross your mind that Maria might actually be a part of you? I believe we all have a masculine & feminine side. Few months ago I read a book from Hermann Hesse, where the protagonist draw a picture of his dream girl.. Beatrice. He described her as looking unusual, but beautiful.. with kind of masculine facial features. He would imagine her as confident/strong, kind and intelligent. After a while he realized she is actually an unfulfilled, hidden part of himself. A part he questioned a lot.
I have this idea about our masculine/feminine (rational/emotional) side - imagine the Yin and Yang symbol. Once you create balance, you have a more natural flow of emotions. The mind and the heart are connected. A lot of people believe one partner should ideally be the Yin and the other the Yang part. However, I think we have to strive to create harmony between both sides - by ourselves. That's when we feel complete.
I believe anything is possible if we wish hard enough and take a deep look within. We have to be patient with ourselves. I wish you all the best and hope you'll find your beautiful Maria one day. Who knows, she might be just around the corner :P I'd love to hear from you again. Byeee
@@lejla9358 I am a Gemini and I do know that there are 2 very different and separate parts of me. I do think that there is a duality to all of us. The answers that we look for in others can truly only be answered by ourselves. However I would of loved if she had been at the airport. My life now is about trying to be at peace with myself. trying to embrace who I am and using what I have to the best of my ability. I know it sounds a little cliche but I think for me there was a period of trying to acquire more skills and not necessarily using the ones I already have mastered.
If you want to chat offline let me know. Facebook, or email works. I like the way your mind works. It's so interesting seeing how someone else experiences the world.
Ohh god unicorns .. Have u seen them..
Oh, man. You're not the only one. Guess I fucked things up in a similar way. Keep strong :)
J R Thank you for sharing your story. I can related to a number of your experiences, as boys we are often expected to be a certain way. At first my thoughts were to run away, to get out of the hell that was my “parent’s” house and go back to my granny...that was until my mother convinced me if I were to continue calling the police on my step-father I’d end up an orphanage. That’s when I thoiught the only way out was through death, but physical pain of committing the act kept me from carrying it out. So like you I had to change who I was, but thankfully my granny raised me during my early childhood and she nurtured my nature, so I adopted an INTP personality (not that different, but thnking more allowed me to try to figure out ways around my “parents”). To make a long story short, after moving out on my 18th birthday life didn’t get much better (and more than 15 years since then it still hasn’t), but I’m hoping to turn it around now that I have picked my mind and heart up from the drawer in which it was locked all these years. I’ve realized now that I do have some power to define and create my own life without fear or expectation that I should I should try to please someone else. I know this doesn’t all relate to your life, but what I’m also trying to get at is the point Leijla brought up about the heart being stronger than any muscle, after numerous hearbreaks (and the aftermath), a small part of me still has hope I’ll find someone to love that will love me equally and wholly. I’m no clairvoyant, but I believe you can find your Maria, just take your time and use your intuitiion as way of weeding out those that aren’t on the same page as you. Wishing you all the best!
Jeez. That made me cry a lot. I always feel like if I had an INFP daughter...... I would know exactly what to tell her. "Stay the hell away from men... paint, make music, draw, write, dream, be amazing and literally tell everyone else to stay the HELL away from you and to have no opinion of you or your work, other people need to sort themselves out and stop leaning on you, and tell them also you could not give a shit what they think at all and to also just yeah. Stay the hell away. All of you." If I ever have an INFP child, I will defend them at all costs from anyone that comes near them. And tell my child to simply keep doing their own thing and believe in themselves.
Yes! :) Infps need protection and a safe place in order to fully use their potential.
@@lejla9358 yes. They actually need someone to provide a safe structure just for them to able to focus on their creative work. Almost like a patron. And nobody realises how much criticism and lack of faith destroy their motivation. So much potential must be lost by INFPs trying to live in this world. It's tragic.
@@amytiffanyhemingway Well said! 👏
The depth in your eyes, seems like you are an old soul so to speak. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in this authentic way, I know from experience it can take a lot for an INFP!
I’m almost turning 14, and this video really helped me.
My mom always criticises me, and I ALWAYS take it to heart. For example she says: “You’re so irritating” and I’d take it as a “I’m such a burden to other people, i’m a waste of space” or like “I dont want to take care of you anymore” I’d take it as “I’m worthless, even my mom doesn’t want me, cant blame her tho”
And then I get hurt, and that hurt turned to anger because i dont want to be “vulnerable” and I would talk back, then she would say even hurtful things and then I would yell at her (i hate myself🤦🏻♀️) and it just becomes one huge cycle.
Then I would cry at my room, and hurt myself and then bottle up my feelings because I certainly can’t talk to my parents, and I worry that my friends will judge me. (That’s why Im expressing this here? XD)
Right now, I’m still working on not taking everything negative comment to heart but its just so damn hard.
Everything you said in this video was so true.
Like when you said nobody can save you from your own problems.
I have a crush (that certainly doesn’t like me) and I’d fantasise about how he would save me from my worries, my insecurities. how he would basically “save me” from everything. (Just because all of the cliche romantic novels and movies)
Recently, with the help of youtube videos and also your advices, I came to the realisation of how pathetic I sounded.
So now, I’m also working on gaining self confidence and self acceptance instead of wanting someone to save me from my problems.
Albeit Im still slowing working on these stuff
But yea :), idk why I made this pointless rant
Wow okay hello past self, chill dude 😂 it’s really funny and interesting to read the thoughts I had when i was younger. (Idk if anyone will read this but eh whatever im gonna ramble anyways) Wow i was so negative XD I’m glad Im going past that phase. I’m currently turning 15 in one month. Things are a lot better now, I learnt a lot in just one year, I’m not the best that i can be but im better XD My mom is still my mom, always having her emotional outbursts. It might sound obvious to most of you guys but i just fully realised that my mom is human too, she’s not perfect, she’s never going to be perfect, and neither is anyone in this world. So i guess I just have to accept that part of her since i dont see how she can change anymore (i tried talking to her but she gets defensive) Though, we still do get in arguments and one thing about me is that I’m ALSO hot headed and stubborn lol so it’s hard to be patient and remain calm when she yells at me and keeps ranting on and on, lecturing me. So that’s the thing i’ll work on this year. I also HAVENT moved on from that crush HAHAHA wow, i didnt want to confess because i dont see the point in it anyways cause im too young, still a kid i dont want a boyfriend or anything. But what i have moved on from is the feeling of wanting to be ‘saved’ or ‘noticed’ by someone. It’s a very embarrassing and shameful thing to admit but i think my self harming stemmed from that, wanting attention (other than a release from all the pent up emotions) Anyways, I’m not as negative and self loathing as before, i havent self harmed since and SWEAR to never ever do that again. It’d be cool if I updated one year later haha
@Sushiplate Yumyum thanks for the advice! A lot has changed since writing that comment, I was really bitter haha. Yea I definitely agree to that quote, I feel like most of the time, it's hard to express how I really feel sometimes and I would mentally face palm myself when I say something I didn't mean. Even now, it's hard to explain my emotions, English isn't my first language haha Yes I'm pulling that card out.
I've started journalling almost a year ago but I don't journal consistently, only when I feel like it, which is only about once every few weeks.(I'm pretty sure you don't have to nessasarily be consistent for journalling)
Technically, I've journalled since I was seven haha My English was so much worse back than. It's also kind of depressing to see the topic of my diaries drastically change from "yay I am happy that I can go to ____" to insecurities, mental health issues and depressing stuff. But I guess that's just life.
Things are still as bad (if not, worse) than a year ago, and I am still insecure and frustrated with my mom but at least I understand more about myself now than a year ago which is what truly matters in the end right haha
As a 36 year old infp
I say fuck em be you and don't be ashamed of who you are. Nobody told me that at your age i was always told it was weird to be shy or they tell me i am annoyed and yes i had fantasies about girls and we be married and love one another forever. But that is life i knownyou are a sweet soul and have lots to offer. Just be you.
This is so valueble you know this at such a young age!
@@themadlad8540 thank you! I will :)
as an infp that dealt with lots of depression the past couple of months, I can say no matter how many people you confide in, there’s a very good chance they won’t understand you and what you’re going through. All of the things other people say can seem like routine and recycled speeches. As infps, we crave thoughtfulness and consideration in our conversations with others because it takes so much energy to converse with others. In other words, we try to make the most of every conversation.
The one thing that got me through this hard time was my faith. If you’re an infp dealing with depression (or anyone for this matter), I strongly encourage you to open up the Bible to either Job, Psalms or Proverbs. Job is a man I can relate to on so many levels and for that I am so grateful.
On another note, I love you Lyla. I’m so glad I’ve found someone who shares the same personality type as me! Your words of encouragement are just what I need to hear!
Chloe Fischer I can SO relate.. trying to explain these things to people who lack a sense of depth/sensitivity.. is exhausting. There are only a few ones who understand. And oh yes faith.. how could I forget to mention this. It played such an important role for me too.. It helped me to let go of a big portion of anxiety/negativity and restore the faith in myself too. I love you too 💓 thank you!
"I'm pretty tired, think I'll go home now". I say that line all the time. That's crazy.
Dear Lyla!
I've cried while watching it
you're amazing,beautiful soul and I want to thank you!! As an infp I felt like somebody is finally understanding me 💛
sending much love
Katherine
Dear Katherine, this touched my heart. Thank you!! Loads of love back to you
Interesting video...I'm 21 and I feel that it is important not to let your personality type limit yourself, but to use it to your advantage. The key is to adapt and use your weak cognitive abilities (i.e. use of logic, planning and etc.) to make you a well rounded individual. Obviously you want to maintain individuality and be authentic but you need to test the waters also. An infp with a purpose has no limits. Bless.
Ali Fida Good point. You are totally right - we need our other functions as well.. for a good reason. The only thing we have to take care of is not to overuse our less dominant functions. I think the older we become, the better we understand ourselves,..our feelings. Finding balance is important - but not always easy to maintain. Especially when you're younger. I was not saying all you should rely on is your Fi function. That would look a bit crazy. 😜
Ali Fida so much truth in your comment
I just realised almost all the comments are in long paragraphs 😆 INFP rants XD
Is crazy that you sound like me when I want to talk about something very important. Thing is I don't, because when I try to converse with someone else, either their patience runs out or they force understanding by trying to finish my words. It gets very frustrating to speak to anyone about important topics. I can't ever do so with my own mother. I subconsciously make a persona that trys to crack jokes most of the time or make extremely short small talk about an easy topic, that gets very exhausting because is like I'm forcing an extrovert out of me being an introvert.
Like I've mentioned in someone's comment, I just learned about me being an infp very recent and I've never felt more understood and amused than ever before to know people out there have my same personality, and almost an equal mental wavelength. It came to me way late in the game just turning 37, something I wish I knew earlier about. I could have avoided a lot of mental confusion, heartache, frustration, etc. But now I'm here and in this new journey, I can be a bit more at ease knowing there's people out there with my uniqueness.
Hi :) I can relate to you. The extrovert/introvert part. It can be truly exhausting, that's why I crave authenticity so much. If I'm solid with my Fi.. I'm more likely to stay true to myself - my introverted self. If people like it or not. Don't know if you can relate :)
I wish you ALL the best on your new journey 😎🤘
I'm 22, recently found out I am an INFP T , I live in my own world - where there is peace, tranquility, harmony, altruism , righteousness. I talk less but when I'm with people whom I love I talk a lot . It was great hearing you as I felt a connection & got to know I'm not alone.
In adolescent I was so terrible & wicked , but as I grew up don't from where this sense of nobility came in , I became so self critical of myself - that I can't even think of hurting an ant. I do self loathe a lot for my past . I've developed a moral compass myself which guides me to be virtuous & a scrupulous person .
Once again thank you for sharing your thoughts. Lots of love❤️ & good wishes to my fellow INFPs , y'all are great
Thank you for sharing :) 🌷
I cried when you started talking about our hearts
I won't lie, I cried a few times during this video haha. Especially when she mentioned how knowing that there are other people out there that feel like her makes her feel less lonely.
I have never felt such relief hearing about someone's else's experience and life that is so similar to my own. I was always told since I was young my parents, adults, friends that I am too sensitive. Even to the point of them being angry at me for feeling so deeply. I think they thought they were preparing me for the harsh world out there, that I had to be stronger and change. But it wasn't me that had to change. And Oh God, the part where you talked about daydreaming. Too real. I create a world of my own where I'm in control so I never get hurt and people accept me and love me. But you're right, no one can heal you or be the propellant for your happiness. We are in charge of that. I've always been ashamed of who I am, that I am so different from everyone around me. But I'm trying to love myself now and discover who I've been suppressing all this time. I'm only 21 so I'll give myself time to grow :) I would normally apologize for rambling but you're an INFP too so you get it hahaha
4:45 every bit of what you said there about wanting to feel that wholeness and sense of self you had in younger years so bad that you can worry yourself sick wanting to achieve that. I'm 21 and have been dealing with that for the last 3 years (so basically everything you are describing). I think I'm starting to figure things out and just live life and let things happen, instead of trying to control my outcome so much. I've definitely learned that no one can control the route their lives take, but just live life to the best of their ability and embrace what we experience along the way.
StaciMay oh yeah..letting things happen is probably the best strategy to do it :) If we force things - we want it too much..we become attached to the outcome.
This is the type of message I would had loved to receive when I was 14 year old because it is at that age that I had a huge identity crisis due to other people judgements now I am 20 and I had arrived at an age where I don't need people point of view anymore because I learned to trust myself. As an Infp the main advice I will give is to learn to trust your intuition because other people point of view do not define who we are. You are amazing people with big heart hence never let anybody devalue your worth
Are you kidding me? I had the biggest identity crisis age 18-21... you put my feelings into words basically perfectly... omg God bless you
hey, im 16 years old and i want to say I'm a turbulent infp. I feel extremely lost to be honest right now, I know a lot of infps close off, but my issue is with being to open, and I let someone in my life determine who I was and it broke me, and now I genually don't know how to feel about anything. I used to feel so strongly about helping my friends, I would always have something to say, but now I have no words. Not letting people push me around is something I've never been able to not do, I overthink and doubt my own self constantly without any remorse, or mercy for who I am. I don't feel lonely sometimes, I feel it all the time. there's still pain in life and knowing I've tried everything, yet nothing works, makes me think "what am I even doing here", where do I as a being fit into this world, with others who never show mercy, gratitude, or even love anymore. Why am I the only one who when I care, I care deeply and am willing to make a change, yet no one else sees that point of view? You and others say the heart heals, or time heals, but it doesn't. it covers your wounds yet you still live with your inner self, excuse me if I'm being to harsh, I hope that no one sees me as if I'm being hateful. I have depression and really bad anxiety, and tbh I truly cannot cope with being an infp at all. or even living like this at all. And yet just because I'm saying this doesn't mean anything will change. Because it ever does. Nothing lasts. Humans die, we pass away, and if to pass away, and everything is temporary, why do I exist, yet to be a ghost. I'm temporary, a garbage pedestole left to be thrown away by others including myself, yes I run away from myself, yet being myself is the hardest thing iv'e ever had to accept, because id rather physically cut off my arms and legs than to be alive as an infp. I see no good within myself, just an evil heart always crushed over and over again till nothing can co-exist. Because I do not, I just exist, nothing to be gained, received except my own torment.
You're not the only one feeling this way. We all go through different seasons in life.
But why do you assume that no one cares? :) Right now in this moment I checked your comment and.. I cared. Everything around you.. even the way you see yourself is really just an assumption. What if you started to assume that people care? What if you started to assume that you matter? You know that feeling when you text someone and it takes them a lot of time to reply? And you feel like.. ugh God, they probably think I'm annoying, or they don't like me etc.! But the truth is - it's just your assumption. You don't know the truth. What if they read your message with a smile on their face - but decided to text later because they're busy at the moment?
You're not a little piece of garbage! You're special - but if you don't believe it, you'll keep inviting negative things into your life. If you don't believe it - who will? Try some positive thinking. Get yourself a pretty journal where you write down ALL the reasons why you are God damn amazing???!!! ;) It takes practice & time.. you need to have faith.
What helps me is definitely my faith in God. This is where I get my hope and strength from. I know.. doesn't sound too practical right? Another thing I've learned is that you can't always rely on your emotions. I used to make impulsive decisions based on my current emotions, but I've understood that emotions are nothing but a result of my thoughts (99% of the time). They come and go all the time. I've learned to allow myself to sit in unpleasant emotions without feeling the need to react immediately.. or run away.. whatever. Accept it, don't fight it, don't resist. Feel what you have to feel, but be good to yourself. Positive thinking changed a LOT for me!
You mentioned you have a hard time to not let people push you around. Basically, you have a hard time creating boundaries. You know what? It was not until the age of 27 that I started developing boundaries. And I'm still learning. Every lesson will come to you at the right time.
Hearts do heal, but beautiful things take time. You need to have faith.
Late comment but I need to speak my mind here. As a 21 year old INFP male, living in a society with toxic masculinity (I live in rural Oklahoma so it 10x worse at least) it gets difficult to live up to standards. It's worth realizing, especially for INFPs, that the only standards that truly matter are your own. I can relate to wanting to be someone else but i dont really want that, i want to be me and just be loved and appreciated all the more for it. I wont lie, at times I breakdown and ask why I am the way I am. I realize I am who I am, the reason we are the way we are is because the world needs more people like us to balance things out. We're all unique in our own ways and INFPs are no exception. We are outstanding in our own way and no one of any type of personality really needs anyone to tell them that. We all have the ability to be ourselves, that's the one thing each person can do that no one else can replicate perfectly.
She hit the nail right on the head. I"m an INFP male and it can be a bitch being one and trying to live in this world. Sometimes though I do feel that underneath it all, we are the last hope for world peace, authenticity, & someone who would rather listen to someone than mess with their phone. Let's all stick together.
"There is nothing that can break a beating heart ❤"
I really needed to hear that. I'll be 30 next year and I've really felt lost lately. I had a lot of changes happen in my life over the past two years that have caused me to question who I thought I was. Now I'm completely lost and did wind up going home to have some stability while I try to figure myself out.
Thank you for sharing this message.
I feel like I went through the same things, feels quite reassuring to hear from others. Thank you.
To feel cursed or damned is never something I get used too. It manifests in fatigue, slowed speech and thought, all out torpor and paralysis. There are times where I am shocked how much the mind can take. I dont know how I am still alive, its like the game is over but my heart has to put in the beats out of duty but nothing more.
So close to the bone
Though I wouldn't say I'm looking for someone to save me - I just want to see the true reflection of myself in someone's eyes
With all downsides glaring, yet accepted in a whole
Thank you my beautiful fellow INFP soul, you described my life as a teenager to a tee! At 20 I ended up having a nervous breakdown and in a outpatient program at the mental hospital, I felt lonely and anxious and weird and not validated for any feeling or thought I had bc I was TO emotional TO intense, TO much but yet not enough att the same time, at 33 I'm finally learning to love ME and not now I have a 9 year old INFP child whose starting to go though the confusion and anxiety of all his emotions, thank you so much for letting me know I'm not alone. 💖💖💖
Thanks Lyla! I'm going to work on not being intimidated along with being authentic with myself. You're the INFP angel we all need
cherryontop You're such a sweetheart! Be strong & bold 💗💕
I don’t usually leave comments but idk why but when you said “INFPs are stronger than they think they are.” (something I should remember.) I unexpectedly started to tear up a bit. I would not consider myself strong at all, I’m so intimidated by others, even though I know I shouldn’t be. Whenever I try to “act confident” I feel like such a phoney and people can see right through my act so I naturally go back into my shell. I do that thing where I try to see myself in someone else’s eyes and all I can see are the negative/awkward aspects of myself...
But your words have given me strength for today ☺️ I think I should be less harsh on myself..? Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! 💕 I really enjoy your content on both UA-cam and Instagram, they really touch me. It is comforting to know there are others out there that might feel similar to how we feel. Thank you! Much love to you ❤️
E Win You're such a sweetheart! Thank you hun 💜 I really do believe infps are stronger than they think they are.. they have a lot resilience actually. Oh and believe me.. I feel like a phoney a lot of times. But as you say.. we expect ourselves to be perfect. To know it all. And it's impossible. Sometimes we need to tell ourselves how great we are - just for trying,.. for not giving up. Much love back to you!!!
LYLA thank you for your kind words :) since I left my last comment I have kept one of your quotes on IG as my background and sometimes whenever I’m feeling a down, unsure, scared or not myself I remember your words and feel a bit lighter ☺️
E Win This is so sweet..My heart is full ..💓😊
Just coming across your page and this video has been more helpful than almost any other INFP video I’ve seen. Not sure if I’m off, but it seemed like you were encouraging both us and yourself, and that made it even more powerful. Your meaningful and heartfelt words of encouragement have done more for me than just about anything I’ve heard from anyone I actually know. You spoke to a number of my situations and given me hope and solace. Thank you! 💜
Thank God I'm not the only one always grasping for the right words :)
INFPs, once found their solid ground and secure stand or stance, become the most powerful, terrifying but also forgiving, gentle and loving beings of all. But it's a long journey.
Its wonderful to hear you talking, its like you know me, this is the kind of connection that every infp yearns to have each day in our lives, bless you where ever you are right now
You made me cry, your words just touched my heart
For the longest time in my life, I felt like I’ve been trying to prove my self worth, to myself, by getting validation from others. During the times where I can’t achieve that recognition, I feel extremely useless and depressed to the point where I hate myself. I’d think that I’m absolutely trash and can never succeed anything in life no matter how hard I try.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You are perfect the way you are 💜
I was just randomly watching videos about INFPs personality traits through testimonies like yours. I finished by watching your video here. And I deeply felt every word from you. And not only every word, but also every silence between each word. Particularly strong and deep testimony here (to my emotion's opinion). I'm not the kind to let comments or likes, or anything even if I appreciate contents and I actually didn't know what to say here, but I had to comment something to let you know how I did experiment your testimony. Thanks to you.
Vbs Léna And I really appreciate your comment! Thanks a lot! 💜
"People don't have enough will to change for themselves and they won't have enough will to cahnge for somebody else" that is a really good point
When i was a young soldier in Afghanistan a long time ago. I would fantasize i would find a beutiful latina women and we would sail the world together and she would wrap her arms around me while i would be sailing the boat. I mean i would think about this all the time. I came home and found a latina women and it didn't work out the way i thought it would and it crushed me. It still hurts to think about it. But i have been single for a long time and am just now coming around to this way of thinking. I am 36 and have hid my true self . I am no longer going to do this. Ps i know it isnhard for you to make these video's i bet you have made like 4 before you posted this . I just want you to know you are doing a great job!
I know it would help this INFP to accept myself better if I was better accepted by others. I really don't need or care about getting their acceptance but it would make me feel a little less useless. I really like your videos, I wish you were still making them. You have a lot of insight on us INFP's. Really nice to look at too. ☮❤♾
Sometimes it nice to know there' people out there going through the same daily struggles that can relate. I appreciate your courage to talk about such sensitive topics to complete strangers like me. Thanks for your wisdom.
Holy shit this was good!!! I've recently turned 20 years old, and these fears you are describing, about ending up like these crazy people on the street, because you had changed trough the years, is exactly, like verbatim what I have been thinking and fighting against (those fears) for the past half year. Almost every single sentence in the whole video speaks right trough my soul. And are scarily accurate. I'm not kidding. And so philosophically too! I love it when self help videos contain that type of philosophy, but is so hard to find. So much life-wisdom in a 15 minute video, I haven't stumbled upon in a long long time!!
I didn't expect it to be this good. Thank you so much!!!
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear now. I will watch it again and again.
I kinda have to speed up your videos as beautiful as your thought process is I just want you to spit it out. Which makes me laugh bc it’s probably how people feel when they speak to me 😂♥️
Leyla, this message was everything I neede. I’ve been running away from myself for years since I lost myself at the age of 18 I now 27 and living on the other side of the world. When I first moved I thought everything was great but slowly after a year it got worse an my soul caught up with me. I still feel like no one understands and I’m always looking for that person to “save me” always lying to myself that maybe this guy is him (to any guy that shows me slightest interest) frankly, I’m tired. I’m tired of running away from myself. So I’m trying now to focus on myself. I’m thinking of getting back to my studies and complete my masters. I’m also working to be unapologetically myself. Thank you for this video ❤️
Thank you I really needed this, I tend to feel like a horrible person, I feel like too many people try to manipulate me emotionally and when I reject their negativity I end up feeling guilty, even for people who have hurt me I tend to try to see their best. I feel emotionally numb too often.
To anyone not INFP maybe you didn't say anything revolutionary...the words you said (to be honest some I jotted down in quotations...they helped to open myself up on paper and it prompted me to journal a little bit--something I feel I've really been needing to do lately but somehow have felt unable) but the feelings that this has evoked are incredible, just before halfway through the video it suddenly got very hard to watch. When you said the thing about feeling that you had lost who you were as a child and wanting to find that again...I have absolutely felt that in the past and never really verbalized it in my mind before. It feels so sad and strange to miss someone that you love so deeply when it's yourself and you don't know if you'll ever find that [person] again.
INFPs need to know that they can call someone for the kindness they need to hear. I would have had an easier adolescence, and 2nd adolescence (when I was 20 or so), if I had someone in my life at those times, that I trusted with my feelings enough to call up at moments when I needed courage and to know that I was going to be ok.
I did not even know you were an infp until I looked at your other videos. That just speaks to how selfless and life-giving you are.
As a 21 year old INFP gal, this is exactly what I needed. MY HEART. Thank you for stepping out and doing this video. I hope one day I can do the same for others in whatever area I have influence. Much love.
KristinaBrookWilson I'm sure you will 💜
Hahahahahah it’s like looking to myself talking but in another body. The gestures and the pauses to find the true words. And although I’m 37 I don’t understand what growing up means too. It’s like all along the way since I was a child up to these days I’m the same person and have the same eyes but with more stories to remember that help me guiding myself on my path. Like being in the Wizard Of Oz going to see the magician like he’ll tell me the right manner of how to come back home. But the many experiences all along the way IS the actual home. And you’re right, nobody can be me for myself. Thank you 🌻
Wow. Darlin’, you hit that nail on the head. So many points you’ve made are spot on.
I actually am an INFJ, here listening from and about an INFP's perspective and advice, but it's just too good and wise to not listen to your message. I sincerely and humbly want to say "Thank you." Thanks you for this soo so much!! :)
Hi Lyla, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us! I wish I had a time machine to travel back in time and show my younger self this video.
I am an INFP myself but it took me quite a while to start to embrace who I am and appreciate my talents and the gifts, I was born with. A very difficult separation and the pain which it caused forced me to change my life - from ignoring myself completely (and trying to please everyone else instead) to nurturing myself, to searching my true inner self, to sticking to my values while appreciating my individuality. I feel as if I am a healer: I seem to have the ability to heal difficult situations, heal wounded hearts and heal people. I don't know yet, how I will use this ability to make our world a little bit more worth living. But I intend to find out :)
I must admit: the life I had before was foreseeable, somehow stable, boring and I wasn't really happy. This changed completely - I just feel like a phenix from the ashes ... my life is no longer predictable, not so safe any more. But now at least I feel life flowing through my vains instead of the emptiness of my heart before - and that feels great!
I sometimes feel lonely (as most INFP do probably), but knowing that there is a community out there, which thinks and feels similar is of great value to me. Thank you all - Thank you Lyla!
Hi - thank you so much! Oh I'm totally convinced you're a healer .. we healers just know - right? :) Follow your heart! I'm sure you'll find your way.
Enfj here. Thats so weird how you say the infp wants to know what the other personality types see them as so they don't get judged. Because the enfj kinda embodies all the other personality types for a few moments when interacting with others and we know how they feel and think like from a glance and how to motivate and direct them to make good decisions in life while moving them forward in the social world. Seems like enfj and infp truly are a match. We give you guys extroverted insights and you guys give us knowledge
I love the song you are quietly playing in the background. I believe it is a song called "Return to Innocence" by Enigma. That song like your message is empowering. Thank you.
Can you do a video on the highs and lows of being a infp in a relationship?
ayyyeee Hi sweetie.. I'll probably talk about that topic once.. but I'm definitely not a relationship guru 😜😘
Thank you. I've been watching a lot of self help videos for awhile now and I think this is exactly the message I've been needing to hear.
I feel like everything I've done and every decision I've made in life, was me following in someone else's footsteps, just because I don't ever know what I should be doing - be it getting a driver's licence or even choosing a college (luckily I managed to really like it, but I feel majorly insecure and not sure in my abilities). I feel like life would be so easy for me if I knew what thing I should be doing, like a manual for life. What is weird to me is that this behavior started in the last year of highschool with an existential crisis and what seemed to me as an depression. I wasn't this intense infp as a child especially as a teenager (I was always extremely shy but I kind of knew what I was supposed to do - I did things that I believed in and that I liked, not searching for that in others and that is what I miss the most about myself).
P.s. It cracked me up when you said that you asked your mum to tell you that you'll do well in an exam - I did the exact same thing. Now I'm ok and fairly content with my life, but it's really hard to make new friends - it always feels really shallow... hvala za ovaj video Lejla! :)
Thank you for sharing your story with us - I can feel & understand you 💜 For me it was also the last year of high school/first year of college that would become the beginning of a crazy ride. Since I can relate a lot to your words, let's share some of my thoughts :) What I realized about my personal struggle with confusion/lack of vision or direction is that the root cause is probably anxiety. Where there is a lot of anxiety, there is no peace. And where there is no peace, there is no clarity either.
I could literally feel the tension in my gut for many years, but I guess I was too stubborn to pay attention, until my body started shutting down lol. I was always acting like it's not a big deal - "I'm strong. Just keep pushing". I was plagued by social anxiety and fear of failure for years - and I thought I could cope with it by putting on a "mask". But it's that mask that makes things worse - it eventually leads to disconnection from your true self and I kind of "burned out". I finally started paying attention to my body, and let go of literally everything. My BIGGEST priority at that time was just PEACE!!!
I don't need to become the next Picasso (just an example lol) - I want to master a simple life :) You know like going out into the woods and enjoying the present moment. Ask yourself - when was the last time you did something just for the sake of having a good time/fun? And once you master a simple life, become more grounded & peaceful.. your answers might come to you unexpectedly :) Our heart is the best compass. 🌍💜 But first we need to let go of all these voices in our head. I could say/write so much more, but that would turn into a book lol. Saljem ti veliki hug-ić i najljepse zelje 🌹
"If you give someone the power to validate you, you also give them the power to invalidate you"
John Eldridge, Wild at Heart.
Learned the hard way.
Glad to see you back Lyla :) Even though I do not know you personally, I can feel you are a lovely person.
Romulo Oliveira You're so sweet 💕 thank you, Romulo!
I've only just come across this channel and have been browsing around a little bit of the videos on UA-cam about this kind of stuff. As a INFP 19 year old male this video was a pleasant surprise as you conveyed in a very relatable way some of these more difficult feelings. A lot of the other videos on UA-cam on this topic just sound like the same recycled phrases over and over but in this video I hear original insight. Best of luck to you and your channel xx
thecsslife I'm glad you came across my channel - thank you for watching! 🤓
19 y/o infp here...this video brought tears to my eyes. i didnt know there were actually people going through the same things i was going through mentally...so thank you for this video!!!
hiii fellow infp here , we should be friends ☺️
Thank you friend💚 I hope these years have been nice to you.
@Lejla. Coming home to myself is a journey. Allowing myself to be sensitive and intuitive as my nature is; is the most beautiful, powerful and scary gut wrenching experience of my life.
You mentioned being authentic. If I am nothing else in this life I will be authentic. It’s the key. To everything. Thank you for sharing. I feel you.
Great video, i'm an 22 INFP that just discovered your channel today. Keep up the good work!!!
Powwowpie Thank you! I'm glad you stumbled upon my channel 😊
I wish you were in my life. I could use someone like you. Thank you so much for the video. You're so damn beautiful, I love the depth and sadness of your eyes, you seem so mystical. Thanks for helping us INFP's.
Thank you, this the best advice for infps that I have heard yet!
I had an existential crisis this year, finally decided to be who i am and restarted my college education and switched from commerce to arts.... I'm aspiring to be a Clinical Psychologist ...... i feel much much better now, commerce was literally not a right environment for me.... for the first time in a long time i feel alive soo yea I'm pursuing my goal . I'm still struggling with depression and anxiety but I'm still fighting
I don’t know what to say but I relate to this so much to this. When I experienced my existential crisis, I think I died in the process but I also gain a new me. Like I reborn from the dead, so my mind and body became much colder unfortunately, but my heart feels much warmer and stronger with a new breath of life.
Also, I realized that we are not on this earth to live a life, more so fight for one. So to live is really to suffer. Thanks for the video. Much appreciated :)
I love your perspective
You’re wonderful Lyla. Thank you so much for the helpful advice. You’re 100% right and I honestly really needed this.
every word you said is soooo relatable..😳thank you, you helped me understanding myself.
This video is so important. Thank you Lejla. And btw, this is not just for young INFPs, I am 32 and still learning this things.
Teen years not a good time at all. So lost and am still but teen years was a black hole. Not only did I shy away from comforming or participating but I hid in the library and just stayed in the background observing. I felt like a real life alien. Everyone was doing things and being sociable and I was like why am I not normal.
its lovely to hear your words
I cried my eyes out🥺🥺 so much love to you. Such a peaceful video
I can relate myself to the whole video. I have recently aknowleged that my traits fall very accurate In the description of INFP, HSP and pretty developed empath.
I’d like to share a bit of my story.
My childhood was not an easy one but destpite many family related problems I remember myself as a whole person and not remember to be ever lonely even if I had to play only with myself what I even liked to do. When school came into the play I have no good memories of school to be honest despite the fact I have almost no problems with my education(my biggest struggle was to write essays in my native language).
I remember an episode when I hated myself so much for being sensitive that I wanted to become a mechanized robot or something like that to stop feeling anything.
I believe that was the beginning to my existential issues and there were many more things attached during high school as I felt overwhelmed by overall societal demands of what you should do/be after it but I was unable to be any kind of proffesion as they say become a doctor or an engenieer. So I helplessly went to a university and tried a field of studies connected to on of my previous hobbies but I dropped out after a few years of struggle with motivation.
I had many suicidal thoughts and images to be honest with you but never attempted one as I couldn't let myself do it because of it bringing so much sorrow on my closest ones.
I believe that during the whole process of losing my wholeness I built this tension for the one as you say to save me(and also an ideal dream partner that will know all my needs) and finally unloaded it on a female that I know since I was 2 years old and of course she rejected it and almost dissapeared from my life. And it happened the worse nightmare I feared I was rejected so badly.
The next thing happening simultaneuesly with that was as I was attending so called ‘spiritual classes’ teacher and in the end it became obvious that she is very manipulative person( however she gave me a book for my birthday that I believe played a big role during this crysis times.)
The outcome was that I have noticed that I do the worst things to myself, punishing for the smallest mistakes( especially on morality and ethics fields when violating my own rules) denaying self love, care and acceptance.
When all of those things showed up the question emerged: Will I continue doing all of those things to myself even thou it seems to lead to nowhere? I compared myself also to other people and noticed that some of them do not even consider hurting others a bad thing if it fullfils they needs.
And that was a breakthrough in me approaching myself to never hurt me again and love , accept myself as best as I can (I’m crying of joy every time I recall this feeling).
I can even hug myself when I’m relaxed and it gives me a great warmth and comfort.
I have to admit that knowing that there is so many fellow people with INFP type personality that have similar approach to the world and life gave me sense that I’m not alone in that.
I hope that what I have written is possible to understand as my native language isn’t English, thanks to everyone who read that and I hope it can help someone at least a bit.
Edit: I would like to add that music helped me a lot. I post the companies here so you can go and do some research yourself if you want.
Immediate music, Fired Earth Music, Two Steps From Hell, Position Music, Audiomachine, Future World Music, Really Slow Motion
Beautifully stated Lyla. I couldn't agree more with what you said! It has been very interesting doing this research on my personality type, and you helped confirm a lot of what I've read about, which is cool because it's coming from someone who has been there, done that. Lots of wisdom encapsulated in this video! :) Thanks!
Totally feel you girl,
I've experienced very similar things
You're such an amazing person with a beautiful soul. I just cried while watching your video and the thing in your eyes, that deep deep thing, reminds me my own thing. I just would like to meet you and have conversations about life, emotions and other things. You're such a good person and you deserve so much things.
Thank you sweet soul 💜
Wow Lyla...You described that so beautifuly. I just learned that I am INFP....and high sensitive....
Please keep sharing your experiences and thougts with the world!
Ben, The Netherlands
Thank you :) Greetings and best wishes to The Netherlands!!
you're so unbelievably authentic
Thank you for your advice 💫 Your video is one of the best INFP videos . You are so sweet ✨🍑
Keiko Kitamura you are sweet too.. thank you :)
13:00 yeah I used to, and still do that at times... trying to figure out how i can best remain in harmony with the person im interacting with, knowing their type and how i think i should modify my behaviour to get along... not that its always wrong, its useful to be aware of, but its really sad how it sometimes completely controls me to the point where im not myself anymore and it becomes increasingly hard to get free. At least that what i assume u meant.
You may not have said anything revolutionary, but certain things you said so steadily were so deep, so felt, that were punches which would break any shield someone non-insensitive may have... 💞
Maaan, I said exactly what you said about what makes you feel less lonely just as you were saying it 😵
It's a paradox for me to know there are certain INFPs out there, because it makes me feel less lonely knowing there are people I can relate to so much, but at the same time it makes me feel super sad, because I miss them a lot, as I haven't come across any yet. We are like mushrooms, you know we can grow anywhere, but can't go to a certain place to grab some, as you never know where we can be... 🙁
Whenever I feel so inspired from someone's words I'd like to hug that person forever, and that he/she was air, to be able to breath and carry him/her within me...
Yess, I knew you weren't a native english speaker 😁 The way you say "Lyla" feels so natural to me (spanish speaker), that I'd bet for it, despite I wouldn't know what's your mother tongue haha.
I'd say hello to you on Instagram, but I haven't got an account in any social network apart from UA-cam... If I ever sign up there, take it for granted 😉😊
Byye!
Hey Lyla!
thank you so much for this video! It´s funny cause a couple of days ago, i tried filming my self, cause i was curious to see what i look like when i talk about stuff. And now i´m realizing the way we speak is very similar, from the tone to the gesture and facial expressions, we even use a lot of similar words and i´m a guy! I´ve noticed that with a lot of INFP on UA-cam already. Anyway, you say great and true things about us INFP´s and some of it really made me think about us in alot new ways. I´m looking forward to more videos from you.
Always amazing to discover a beautiful INFP gril from the in and outside.
All the best from Germany
Hi there! Aw thank you so much :) It's funny.. we always try to understand ourselves through the eyes of others. How do they perceive me, right? But I noticed - every time I was doing that.. I was existing outside of myself. Disconnected from who I am. Well and then I realized how senseless it actually is :P All the best to you!
You do a really great job on your videos, I have to say. Even without any fancy bells and whistles like a lot of channels have, you are very succinct and clear in what you're trying to say, despite the fact you're discussing these nebulous concepts... it makes for a captivating and enjoyable watching experience. Please continue making videos!
Josiah T. Thank you so much! :)
I'm 27 and this even helped me :):)
People say INFP's want the world to work on their terms and people to follow their ideals but they're wrong. My entire 29 years of life as an INFP was to find answers as to why things are as it is. Seeking answers to many questions, knowing that I might never get the answers caused me to end up in an endless loop of discovery.
Hey Lyla, I just want to say...I love this video!... Even the way that you overthink everything you want to bring accross.....
this "overthinking time" is a thing that gives a lot of trouble in "normal conversation" for me....They don"t give me time to Think!
Love ....Ben
Not to be intimidated by anyone - I really, really, really needed to hear that. Thanks.
You are so right! It makes me feel less lonely knowing that I’m not the only INFP out there. Knowing that I’m not the only one feeling lost, like I don’t know who I am even though I’m 19. And because of the way I am I would always wish I was different, but your words have made me feel 10X better! I will always remember I am stronger than what I feel I am :)
I experienced my existential/identity crisis quite young, around 15 and 16. I learned a lot from it, and happy to say I have healed my numbness.
okay but where ARE you?? more videos please - you're such a light