I wish I weren’t an INFP... Procrastination- having to feel ok before taking action is excruciating and frustrating for me. Self doubt sucks. I feel inept to function in this world. I want to go back to the mothership.
Terra Jennings I will pray for you! I just discovered this whole personality thing and everything makes sense now. I literally didn’t understand why I have so few friends when I’m so sincere and try to help people... I became a Christian and this personality trait of going all in has literally changed my life completely. I still spend much time alone but now it’s in prayer and enjoyingGifs love. I pray you will encounter this for yourself right now! It will deal with the loneliness immediately! Bless you Justin
I'm an INFP. I don't really want to be an INFP because feeling everything is pretty terrible. My feelings change my life on a daily basis. I would rather disappear than actively hurt someones feelings.
INFP: I feel like as I mature, my Fi becomes increasingly able to control my feelings if I want to. Usually, I don't see any reason to interfere with my feelings, but I know that if I want/need to, I can. However, when I was younger, my feelings were super intense and uncontrollable.
I hurt sometimes other people feelings and i feel terible. I isolate myself for 2 days then try to get out again. Is horibble when you see that whaterver you do, people will still be negative
I loved finding out I was an infp bc it's the first time I ever felt like I belonged somewhere. I always felt out of place in the world and it made me finally see that there are people who feel the same way.
I am glad to here I'm not the only INFP to question their type, I've taken the test dozens of times on different sites but the result is always the same. The way the profiles are written I feel like Im supposed to be some manic fairy person trapped in another reality. So thank you for the video
i sometimes get INTP. i don't like poems that much. so much of them trying too hard to be so "incognito". But don't get me started on advwnture novels and bromance stories. i love them
INFP here. Actually, i would take the test several times, ask people to type me, take other tests because i doubt myself. Some tests type me as INFJ-i would have liked that but INFP description works more for me than INFJ. I’m also always sorry about stuff. I’m disappointed in myself most of the time.
@@zephdo2971 Also get INTP frequently. Specialized tests place it usually around 50/50 (with 2-8% difference). I don't like poetry either, but I they've found an outlet of me loving songs with rich, meaningful lyrics with several levels. So I guess that statement counts in spirit. :)
We got to remember no INFP is the same. This 16 personality system, after all, is only one theory to understand ourselves better, but it's already an abstract concept and not accurate science. I have found that I'm an INFP and was pretty confident about it early on. Though I have played mind games and hypothesised if I'd be something else...so, in a way questioned it, I've still felt I know I'm really an INFP. We all grow in different environments with different people and it affects us. Not every INFP will like to read poems... Like I don't... But I still like to write poems, occasionally. Somewhat an outlet. But it varies. We have different outlets and ways to be those "fairies" (if we really are that). I find the best way to recognise your personality is by comparing your behaviour with people who are different, but lived in a similar environment (like siblings). Because some INFP who lived among ENFPs sees other sides of herself than someone who lived with ISTJs. As I see these personality things, is that you should not try to fit yourself into any of them. Rather just find what fits you the best and helps you understand what you are. Humans can't be put into a box... but boxes can be put into a human , eh? Heh... I don't how this turned into an essay. Just some thoughts. But Hello fellow INFPs 😊
I'm an INFP and I can't almost never relate to the mbti memes bc its always something like *feelings are beautiful, forest fairy, crying all the time, so empathetic and pure* and I'm not really any of that :/
Most ones that I've seen are like "introvert, doesn't open up, never talks to anyone". I love talking to people. I might be shy, but that doesn't stop me...
MBTI goes mostly for the general, it doesn't mean that you should REALLY relate to it literally, I'm INFP and yep I am very quiet and some times keep inside of my head, but I can also be very loud, speak too much or even focusing in details of people or the real world, I do cry a lot but not all the time, like, a few years ago I didn't cried at all... But Idk, some memes goes for the stereotype, but I think that if you guys are confused, try to do different tests or search by yourselves...
If I don't like something, I don't want to read and hear about it. If I am forced to, I will do so with a filter, and constantly on guard so that none of it influences me.
The dream Journal comment haha :D The INFP would have crumbled paper next to the bed, try to do the journal thing for 2 days and then switch to something more interesting afterwards I think 😁
True lol I'm an infp & I go through phases of different kinds of visual arts. I've probably tried everything but can't stick with something long enough to get good at it.
The stereotype of INFP's being over-emotional and irrational can be so frustrating because it gives no recognition of self-awareness and self-control. If the situation calls for me to be logical then logical I will be! I find that Fi being my dominant function I am so aware of it's weaknesses, and that is why I can recognise the benefits of Te and using it can make me feel so powerful. Ironically, at times when I've probably felt most vulnerable to my Fi is when I've been the most reserved and cold on the exterior. Also, any perceived external irrationality is more likely to be coming from my Ne when I'm over-excited or comfortable than "having too many emotions". Anyway... loved the video again guys! ❤ And keep breaking those stereotypes INFP's! ✌
Raelle Pickton yes! Ne excitement. Soo yes. Last two days i have wondered if the world is actually responsible for at least a few of infp's contradictions. Or at least for expanding them. In this example its when im reserved or impartial people are like 'ur so unemotional'. Wanting me to share. But as soon as i go Ne excited they are immediately like oh, whoa... Emotion.. As if im a freaking alien for having those suddenly and then im like okay i honor your observation/opinion.. Wait! But I'm not doing that tho. And they're all mmhmm, okay thats okay. We already saw you. Don't go back on it and try to say ur not it wont work for us. We're just going to cut you out now mkay cuz we love you but we cant handle your emotions. And literally tell me that. How many times do i get to hear this... Omg. Ugh, the curse/constant hampster wheel of being an infp. Frack my life😀😄😄😂 And then the world blames us for 'not having friends'. Yet another irony to us , considering ourselves friends to world at all times. Everywhere i walk and go. Face palm 😄. Its almost infp for dummies: a guide on how to be the operating system that just does not work with the world 👍awesome✌ And then ppl think i am soooo dissatisfied in life with myself. When i am extremely satisfied with myself (but for wishing i culd get more done). Its y'all that makes me wish things were different😄😀🙏
Agreed. So many people label us under these things, and they are really just so clueless about our type. Just because I have F, doesn't mean I don't make logical, rational decisions. And what annoys me more than anything is seeing the desperate cry for attention that the people who EMBRACE those stereotypes give off. They are (in my experience.) Romanticizing the INFP type, and thereby swallowing all of the false garbage that the internet spews out about us. They choose it because they idealize how virtuous we sound, instead of looking further, definitely glad to meet another INFP busting the myths and stereotypes. Keep being your beautiful selves guys!
Everyone is logical/rational. A feeler's logic is more fuzzy and allows more flexibility in certain areas (which has downsides), but because your mind works on a system, you use logic. If someone wasn't logical, their actions would be random and they wouldn't be conscious. I'm not saying you're an INFP, though; most people are mistyped. You look more like an ENTJ or ISTP, but I don't know.
@@krustykraken9331 for an estj, or istp she sure described my experience and it'ld be a rough road for anyone to even try and claim me as any other type
@@mjade1673 People mistype all the time, especially women (because they are less decisive and their nature is more vague because they don't clarify their desires in their head as well as men). I would bet that more people are typed incorrectly than correctly. The tests people take are very simple, and because the people making the tests don't understand what psychological functions are, they can't make tests that test for them. Well, eNtj, she's a dominant logic user and she has Introverted Intuition/Extroverted Sensing. What she said is true, but she's repeating the public consensus, she didn't make that idea herself from the perspective of that type.
I think INFPs get the "healer" title because we're really good at helping people heal themselves emotionally. Listening without judging, helping people get clarity on their feelings and why they're feeling the way they are. We're experts at the internal structure of the human psyche (thank you Fi), so we can help other people map their own inner world and be honest with themselves and true to themselves-- which is very healing and resolving in general. We're good therapists-- we listen and soundboard in a handsoffish Fi fashion, until the person solves their own problem. Then people are like, omg you magical healing fairy, and we're like, um I didn't do anything. I think ISFJ is better as a physical healer though. Unquestionably.
I can't imagine that Fi-doms listen without judging - in fact, a whole section of the video was dedicated to how INFPs will tune out if they've already made their judgement as opposed to ENFPs who always have an open ear.
Nice comment. :) I tend to provide a similar type of "guidance", but with people's Te (i.e how they can reach their set/future goals), not Fi. It seems to me that ANY *mature* and *healthy* person who excels in one area can help others become adept/grow in that specific area. INTPs are great at teaching me Ti, ISFPs rock when it comes to teaching me Se and INFJs are awesome at briefing me in Fe. And I'm an INTx.
mr. moodle I was talking about a different kind of judging. Yes, INFPs tune out if things don't interest them, so I guess that's a kind of judgment because they're judging something as being uninteresting or irrelevant to them-- but that's not the kind of judgment I was referring to. I meant *when we're listening and interested,* such as to a friend we care about, we listen completely and comprehensively and we naturally suspend judgment and projection and personal response until we understand something fully on its own terms--- To a fault at times.
I think most people forget that INFP’s trip up on their own emotions, and find it hard to process others sometimes. Also, we are very intelligent, but we are NOT Thinkers.
As an INFP, I've always loved having journals and collecting stationeries and I've tons of them sitting in my room. I guess it's the Te in me wanting some organization of my thoughts and plans. However, I end up writing on it only whenever I feel like it that sometimes the gap from the last entry are months lol I do write in a very disorganized manner when I have ideas like tissue or scratch papers or notes in phones but most of the time I only commit them to memory 😅
Same. Whenever I should be studying for Maths (like right now, which I'm clearly not doing) I unconsciously start doodling on a piece of paper then before I know it, I'm too caught up in art and have forgotten about my study work completely by then 😂
I took the test 5 damn times and still wondered if I was INFP. Believe me I am an INFP, partnered with INTJ. You will know you're INFP with an INTJ. They will make you know!
My learned behaviors are: dont say everything you think, especially mean things, dont roll your eyes, try to help others, be responsible, stop judging others, think before you speak/act. etc. While all being naturally inclined to do the opposite 🙃
I roll my eyes so much I do it even when I'm not annoyed lol like my mom says something like do you wanna eat this for dinner and i say sure and my moms like y u rollin your eyes and i'm like what I didn't mean to do that mom. I do all of the other things you've stated tho
Yes, I had been thinking I was an Fe user because of these behaviours but they seem like learned behaviours especially due to living in a strict household but I don't do them naturally, I pay effort to them.
Oh my God the INFP’s body language in this video is SO me. Kind of self-conscious, always nodding and smiling, some lip biting, arms in front of you, hair and face touching. Besides everything else that confirmed my type, that was the cherry on top lol. I’m always confused about my type btw, this sort of helped (I never totally feel sure of my type). I think I might be INTP... wait so I’m not sure. Lol thanks anyway
INFP - Forgetting their own birthday and being reminded of it by some completely unrelated event and randomly associating towards it. Been there, done that.
I wouldn't call myself a 'Healer' nor a 'Mediator', because am often preoccupied with how other people have wronged me, with how they don't fit into my value system. However, it's easy to tug at my heartstrings, and when I really want to heal someone, I need that intimacy first. Many INFP descriptions think that we can see something good even in the worst of people, how we can love even the most unlovable. For me, that's true and not true. True, in the sense that the person can be objectionable by society's standards, but if there are things in their character that resonate with my personal values, I can sympathize with them to a degree. Not true, because if they are unlovable in ways that happen to go against my beliefs as well as society's, I will have no sympathy for them. On the other hand, someone can be 'good' by society's standards, but if their core character does not resonate with my personal values, I will be, at best, neutral or indifferent towards them. It's also much easier for me to burn bridges than build bridges, at least for now. For an example of what I have mentioned above, if someone went on a streak of destructive vengeance after the loss of his wife and children due to that opposing force, I would sympathize fully with his loss and what led him to his actions, though I wouldn't necessarily agree with all of his methods. If someone was successful, capable, popular, rich or whatever, but a monster to those who know him in private, I would have no respect for that person. I'd have more respect and sympathy for Person A, what people view to be a sociopath, than for Person B.
I understand that, but Person B probably felt that way for a reason. What if they want to change, but something inside them kept pushing them to act aggressively and as monsters? Whichever the person, they all need help. Sorry, I can't really relate with you, but that's okay. I just wanted to state my opinion, even if it probably doesn't maatter anyway. Thanks to everyone who took their time to read this.
I can sympathize with people but I don't forgive their actions either. like many serial killers had awful family lives, and I sympathize with that, but I don't excuse their actions cause they still killed people. sometimes even when a character is an absolute scumbag I can't hate them because I see their point of view too. its rough cause other people are like ughhh I hate them and I'm like well... yes, but actually no.
Yes. I thought I was INFJ for several years before realizing that I am actually INFP. I always related to both. More to INFPs than INFJs... but always tested as an INFJ. I figured out that I tried to fit into the INFJ box because, ironically, it's slightly more acceptable to my family of origin than INFP in terms of traits, habits, and behaviors.
I’m definitely an INFP, I’ve done so many tests watched so many videos so I’m pretty sure now, but when I acted like an INFP in primary school (eg. Was more shy and reserved) I was always bullied and made fun of for being so quiet, so now when I’m at school with friends i always try to act more extroverted but by the time i get home I’m so drained and don’t talk to anyone or interact with anything for the rest of the night. I remember once when I went out with my friends and then back to their place for a sleepover, I kept up my extroverted front and in the morning when we had to go to school I couldn’t even find the energy to put up my front, all my friends were wondering what was up with me and kept poking me and asking me what was wrong Which just made me more drained. I know that not being myself around them isn’t good but I think I’m still way too scared to let go and not be so bubbly smiley and happy all the time. Cause not gonna lie most of the time I am really sad, I can’t be bothered to talk to my friends even though I love them, but if I don’t talk to them like I normally do when I’m pretending to be super happy all the time then they start bugging me with questions and it makes it even worse. Then they joke that I’m PMsing and I just want to lock myself in the bathroom forever. I’m the one in the friend group who always plays therapist but when I need to talk about something it gets played off by people as not that important and that I’m just being dramatic. I care way too much about what people think of me, sometimes months or even years after a conversation has ended I wonder what would’ve happened if I said the thing that I actually wanted to say and then I get mad at myself and then I’m in a bad mood, but I act like I’m fine cause if people find out I’m sad they’ll ask questions and when I answer questions I have to open up and talk even more than I already make myself so I just keep my mouth shut.
I guess they are not that good of a friends if they can't accept you for who you are. I was blessed with good friends who understand me and accept the fact that I can be cold or not want to hang out, etc, but in uni I used to do just what you described, putting up that front, and I came home feeling completely drained. As a result once I graduated I basically stopped almost all human interaction because I felt infinitely tired of it. You shouldn't exhaust yourself like that, it drains you more than you think. You need time to heal from that. It's ok if you don't have many friends, it can only be one friend, the important part is to find someone how understands you and is there for you. If you feel that one of your current friends could be that, you could try explaining how you feel to her or start acting more like yourself overall. I hope your situation gets better 💙 and try not to think too much about opinions of others, I know it can be hard, but your mental health is what's most important.
Kanity - One Piece Chill Channel thank you so much for the advice, to be honest I’ve been looking into my personality a lot recently and realised that being an introvert is perfectly fine. But I don’t want to just completely change at like the drop of a hat, i know that my friends care about me or else they wouldn’t prod me so much when I seem off 😂 it’s just that their ways of trying to make me feel more energetic aren’t going to work but they haven’t seemed to figure that out yet. I’m going to start trying to become more like myself, though gradually. I feel as though if I transition into being more closed off then they won’t take it so badly. But who knows?
I'm an INFP and a nurse! But I work in mental health and addictions and my moral and ethical convictions play a huge part in the relationships I form with my clients;) I do notice that my Te is pretty awesome and I think it's because of the job and having to multitask and organize so much--- thx
JaponicaGemini wow great! Good for you. I'm an INFP too and I've always struggled with developing Te. Despite my inconsistency in many areas, I've always admired those who can organize their time and stuffs well and could focus at the task at hand. I'm personally working on this area for quite sometime now 😊
Idk if im a infp I feel i am but wonder if im still good enough to be one. I felt yes for many of these points but one I wasn't sure of... Yes to emotional healer. I believe..🙄
Happy Birthday Calypso!! The difference between perceiver doms versus judging ones is spot on between INFP and ENFP. I've heard from INFPs that they also tune off after judging the content of the discussion quickly, whereas as an ENFP I'm all ears even if I don't believe in the content.
YappingWarrior umm if i dont believe something I'm still listening to be nice but i dont take the belief in. I have my opinion and I stick to it. I try to be open minded but I'm a believer in the bible and always
INFP: Thanks! Charles, judging doms tend to form their opinion quickly and might still listen out of politeness, but perceiving doms tend to form their opinion after listening to all the fresh perspectives, taking them into account in order to form their opinion.
INTJ & INFP Coffee is it common for INFPs to enjoy playing devils advocate? Like we secretly know what our stance is but we just like messing with someone else's argument to explore our own opinions on the issue more?
poppies128 Very good point. I don’t like debating but I do enjoy asking questions to try and get people to think and explore an alternative topic I am passionate about.
I appreciate videos like this, because I thought I was (and tested as) an INFP for like, ten years or so! Until I met an actual INFP and discovered we thought in radically different ways. Literally so. Then i went back to the drawing board, and the core issue was that I didn't identify as 'judging', or even 'structured/organized', because as it turns out, INFJ is a perceiving type and can also be prone to disorganized thought. So I found it all very misleading at first. And I still sometimes question it and get confused, so even being pretty settled on one type, I still like to watch videos like these. =) Thanks!
Dude ever since I watched y'all's videos on spotting the functions through body language, eye movements, smiles, etc. I can see your types soooo much throughout this video it's insane haha
alexandra Iltanen I did too, but seeing what mtbi types we slip into when wanting to fit in, in times of great stress or aspire to be like the inconsistencies actually finally made sense.
Im so glad you INFPs exist. The world is already better because you all are alive. As an ENTP socionics recommend I partner up with INFJ but i refuse. INFPs are empaths without being dark. Your guys energy is so innocent and pure that more often than not i myself wish i were an INFP. I love you all. Best of wishes. Yall rock!
ISFJ: physical Healer (nurse/caretaker)? INFP: empathetic Healer (counselor)? No, I'm neither of these types. But I CAN aspire to making people feel better about themselves as a seemingly actual nice guy w/o unintentionally offending them & w/o masquerading the so-called 'nice guy' persona masking whatever manipulative douchebaggery. (Yes!) And I usu like to aspire for a humorous bent when interacting w/ others as well. - Signed, a 16personalities "Logician"
That INFPs are self-referential in making judgements is spot on. I am aware of this now and try to corroborate or reevaluate my judgements by getting other perspectives either in person or more often books.
As an Si Dominant INFP, I love these videos so much. So glad you properly delve into the cognitive functions instead of skimming the MBTI surface. As a sidenote, I feel like the INTJ & INFP is such a perfect friendship. You guys are awesome. Any INTJs here? I want to meet you so badly. Edit: I wrote this just before you started talking about Ne skimming the surface. Such perfect timing. Edit 2: I see what you're saying about the ISTJ mistying. Had to pause the video to properly think about it again. This was something I spent days on. I was convinced that I was ISTJ for quite a while. For me at least, the key to figuring it out was that I highly value my Si, but I'm really not as good at it as my Ne. I spend most of my time weighing the two up conciously while my Fi is the primary unconcious driving force. I've also always been highly Te aspirational. I so desperately want to be effective and useful, and I put a lot of tiring effort into it, but it takes the greatest toll on me of all four functions.
I have a friend who I suspect is ISTJ, and I'm frequently in awe of them. The way they can rattle off the facts and step-by-step events is incredible. It is pretty funny to see him pull a face when I ask him some absurd Ne What-If question, too. The way he tears it to pieces is something I don't think I'll ever get tired of.
Hahaha, could totally relate. When I use my Te effectively, i feel so proud of myself. Like today decluttering the house hahah. Guess I'm really an INFP!! Love your channel!
Thank you for posting this! I'm not an INFP and this just confirmed it haha. I can imagine how annoying it would be to make these videos and then have people telling you you're mistyped. I really appreciate your videos and I've learned a lot from your channel, especially from your physical typing vids like J vs P. Hope you're both enjoying your weekend! :)
I think I'm ISFP. It's hard to be sure of though because there aren't as many resources on this type as there are for other types available on the internet. I've been studying cognitive functions for a year now and I'm just starting to think I know my type. Know any ISFPs? What type are you?
@@peaceshallnotbebroke yes i know isfp's :) very well I'ld say. Are you reserved? Enjoy caring for others? Enjoy peace at home and highly value peace in general? Are you sort of the official at work? Efficient at work. Always knows the best ways to do things. If you don't, you will learn once and forever execute and know from then on out? Can u put your "foot down" at work when necessary but don't throw it about? Do your needs tend to get lost in a relationship without someone who knows this about you and wants to make it different? Are you a procrastinator on personal things? Do you avoid sharing your innermost feelings and take awhile to process complex emotional situations. Preferring to process them privately and then move on? I'll stop at this for now 😊 Ooh wait.. Inspired by your surroundings or art or people or 1,2, or 3 of those. Enjoys food and drink as a relaxing sensory part of life you'ld rather not go without enjoying?
Ahh , this explains my boyfriend and also explains maybe why i feel i need to be with an 💘isfp because i know i prefer s types. Thanks for the insight ✌😌. Due to the fact we know we won't be having kids together and because other life circumstantial stuff as well we wont be together forever so i was thinking of actually dating an esfj next 😌👌✌. I have 3 esfj friends and i love them so much too. They have a really bold naughty side. They can make me laugh at max in split second and its awesome😌😌😌💖
Happy Birthday Calypso! I wanna say this video was very helpful, there's many great points covered here. If anything, this has made me absolutely sure i use Ne. i've considered like maybe 5 types i could have been in the past 2 months( including ISFP and ENFP). I tend to be unaware of my surroundings because i'm constantly thinking and not looking around as much. Makes me fail to notice objects if i'm in my head too much. That was one point that you did not cover in this video, the whole Se vs Ne thing(although i know you did a video on Se). I have a strong penchant for Fi. I mean, just earlier i was shopping for groceries and i was seeking to save money on a produce that is both organic and certified fairtrade. I contemplated the option to go buy the non-certified one for money reasons but was like "Can i really stop supporting those poor farmers?" and i couldn't do it. I also realized i use Te for determining if i should use a machine in my house based on what the readings are on it( that counts as an external source as far as i know). So as of now i'm more certain i am INFP.
Hey, I've been teetering between ENFP, INFP, and ISFP too! Something that's really clarified it for me is watching Spasigma's videos on Facebook- it's a page that has Heidi Priebe (ENFP) and Denzel Mensah (ENFJ) and in their Ne vid they talk about Ne and they also have an Se video on there. The videos are 40 minutes but relatively in depth, and they go into things most other Se/Ne videos don't talk about. There are a lot of ideas attributed to Ne that are actually Se.
That's very good to know. I follow these two on FB but my mind is so scattered i might have missed the video itself! I know for sure i absolutely hate to limit my options and would rather not narrow things down too much because it can be stressful.
In my understanding, both Ne and Se do that. In those videos on FB they give an example of someone planning out a presentation, and oh man this isn't very helpful haha but they compared the difference of an Se and an Ne user on the day of the presentation. Both types would likely go off track and throw out the plan, but for different reasons and with a different method. I think the Se user would just want to see what happened and the Ne user would want to see what ideas could come out of that in-the-moment performance. That's not exactly it, but it's one of the instances they discussed. Something that clarified it for me is also DaveSuperPowers recent video on Ne and Ni, where he describes Ne and Se in the caveman situation as being the hunter-gatherers and Ni as being the one that wants to stay home and organize everything Se and Ne users bring back. I'm not sure if any of this was clarifying or if it was just a jumbled mess. I just thought I'd add this here in case it makes sense for you! :)
A lot of ENFPs mistype themselves for INFPs (these two types are extremely similar, and I'm surprised there was no mention of it in this video - they have the same cognitive functions in a slightly different order, and it's so easy for ENFPs to mistype as INFPs since ENFPs are known to be "the most introverted extrovert of all MBTI types.") Secondly, for the INFP-INFJ mistyping, it's usually INFPs mistyping themselves as INFJs, not the other way around.
@@barb7124 they say if you learn the cognitive functions very well no one comes out of that still feeling they are multiple types or combos .. Just what im hearing everywhere up to this date. Idk
I take the test 3 times and it was info, enfp, infp. But it makes sense cuz my introvert for info was 46% only😳🙈 and when i ended as enfp my extrovert was 46% uwu 🙈🙈
I'm a male INFP. I don't really think much about it and debate the intricacies of what I am at this point, I just 'know.' Well, there's more to it I suppose. I first took the test around 2005 in a psychology class. There were no UA-cam videos on MBTI, no 'glorification' so to speak. It just seemed right to me then. The funny thing is that many years later I started paying attention to MBTI again (try 13 years later), and I took the test a few times to see if I'd have changed in some way, since as a person I have changed quite a bit. But I've scored INFP every time. Of course, we all know the tests are flawed, but it just feels right despite what life has brought. Doubting the reading is not inherently an INFP thing, as I've seen this happen across the board, at least reading comments. My wife, on the other hand, has scored something different every time. We ended up settling on ENFP for her based on what feels right. This could change though depending on if we continue to study it, but she feels confident about it. It's hard to get a read, and she also speaks English as a second language (technically third) which adds some complications, but I think it closely fits her. We work pretty well together, though her emotional needs can be really intense, when sometimes I just want to push away and go into my corner and escape this demand. But we talk about it a lot, and MBTI actually helps me organize my thoughts and able to describe my feelings, because often she asks me how I feel about things and it's really difficult to express it. Partly for me about knowing my type is also just a recognition of behaviors. I definitely do things based on feel instead of thinking. I think a lot, but in general thinking does bog me down and I often get a rush from feeling about something. It's a double-edged sword, because this strong sense can get me into trouble. Feelings can also be incredibly painful. There are some generic INFP things that get listed that I feel are pretty superficial in their understanding. However, some of them are actually pretty spot on, and it makes me laugh. For example, I don't cry often. But when I do, it hits, and feels like a release. The same happens with the release of other emotions. For most of my life I was worried about releasing any type of emotion. But I have found that my wife actually likes it when I express what I am feeling, even if it can be a bit ugly, because she can get a reading on me and understand me better. This was somehow conflicting, but also relieving to realize. I am also incredibly avoidant of conflict, because even a slight difference leaves me mentally spinning for a long time. Emotions and feelings are too strong and I have to build a barrier, otherwise it can be overwhelming. In my teenage years I used to doodle and make drawings, and experimented with poetry and spirituality alone in my room, listening to my favorite music over and over. Pretty stereotypical, but I was in full discovery mode. I was indulging in these senses that I felt deprived from from a societal standpoint. Lately, I have become an editor, and a creative writer, and I practice yoga. I feel like writing is one of the few outlets where I can express creativity in a fulfilling way, while also having full control over it. I think as an editor, though, the job has made me more analytical, and I realized that it has put me out of touch with my more emotional side, so I've been trying to get back to that. I miss it. And it's important for my marriage, relationships, and my writing. It can be hard though, as a male, because of how we are expected to be in society. Responsibility calls and I just want to shut off the world and float in my own dimension. Anyway, I'm not particularly sure why I wrote this, I just felt like dumping it here. This probably reads more like a day-to-day diary entry, but instead in the UA-cam comments section, ha ha. Maybe someone will connect with it, or they won't.
my biggest pitfall was taking my first test at a certain site (cough 16personalites cough) and I'm not convinced it spews out anything other than infp if you so much as mention identifying with having feelings. and like you both mentioned, I prided on when I was able to use my inferior Fe successfully (not that I knew what Fe was, or that the site even explained the differing cognitive functions), and made the concept of 'feelings' my identity, so I believed in infp for a long time. But I just could not get on the same level with other INFPs, or really anyone who made decisions based on vague or emotional leaps of conclusions, and that's when I realized how much I use...or maybe rather EXPECT rational judgment. I didn't know Ti was what I was using, because that's just... how I work, by default. Like you said, I fell into the stereotyping lure of infp. I wanted to be a caring loving healing woman, all of which I typically suck at, and those hyped up positive generalizations of infp were a golden standard. (Also they are noted for being very creative, which I also am.) Now I've learned more in-depth about the subject, and your video has confirmed a great deal of my conclusions. Thank you, I'm even more certain I am INTP, as much as I can be certain about anything, lol. Great job as always. Thumbs up for you both, and the cat.
I have tested as an infp twice. I do doubt it, but when I read memes for infp I almost died laughing because I related on such a deep level. Stay at home club too.
I'm INTJ but I once typed myself as INFP (I thought the cognitive functions were based on strength, so I automatically tossed out Fe and Se types). ISTJ was an option, but N-ness seemed to describe a major aspect on why I think so differently from most people around me. Once I got more acquainted with preference vs strength I reevaluated the types I initially "liked" the most : INTJ and ISFP. INTJ has Te and Fi in the middle, where they should be because as an "INFP" I couldn't justify an inferior Te. Internally I see myself as half Te and half Fi, but compared to other people I'm TJish. I agree with what you said about judging-doms and perceiving-doms: I will always observe--usually more than most--before making a decision on that subject. However, I do analyze my feelings in various, ordinary circumstances, which was something Alex said she didn't do (and I don't think my ISTJ mom does either). It's not usual for me to hear things that make me question INTJ because I'm too Fi, or people INTP and INTJ groups will say things that make me think I'm Ti and Ne, but ultimately I know I have the right functions, Se makes a perfect inferior function, yet I think I idealize myself as an ISFP, so my hidden agenda and aspiration functions add up. So what if I don't fit the INTJ internet stereotype? Arrogant criminal mastermind is a very niche stereotype to fit. I also most frequently test as INTP. Go figure.
I think the dead give away would be how do go about your goals? Intj are very goal oriented and they have unique ways of dealing with this (in contrast to other highly goal oriented types. Entj, and estj come to mind). Their goals are very much cherished pieces of themselves, of their identity. So its like an inward version of entj, estj. Imo with the comparison types maybe but these are well knowns on the intj itself. 😊✌👍
Very good video, I love the quality of the image, microphone... Perfect!! And you explained very well, how INFP's functions work. Thank you and good luck! :)
This video helped me out so much. I was honestly kind of expecting to hear things that disproved I was infp, because I doubt my type all the time. I've taken so many different tests to try and narrow it down, and have come to either intp, infj, even possibly enfp, or that I am actually infp. After this video though, I do believe more now that I'm infp just because I basically went, "oh I relate to that completely" after every statement. The one statement that also really struck me was being inferior functioned aspirational. For the absolute longest time I've always sort of envied efficient, logical people, and strive to be that way because I feel it's a "flaw" of mine. Not to say that infp's can't be efficient and logical. I just don't feel it's something that comes naturally. This aspiration though made me feel I was possibly intp or infj though, as I see both types with the qualities I frequently try to improve in myself, and I guess acting more on making me think I wasn't infp - the thinking function being I frequently try to be logical about my decision making, because I strive to be more objective and efficient, and I guess infj being stereotyped as a more organized infp. I used to think I was possibly enfp only because some profiles make infp, and introversion in general, sound antisocial. I love getting to know people, and this being paired with I guess flitty Ne, made me think oh. Maybe I am enfp, though I can't confidently say I'm extraverted. I used to also think isfp, but I feel I care way too much about future possibilities than I do about being nostalgic. Anyway, I'm ranting. Thank you so much for this video!!! You guys are awesome~
This is very very helpful in solidifying my feelings of being an INFP. I've read so many articles from Personality Hacker, Introvert, Dear, and numerous other introvert resources and felt like I was mostly likely an INFP but juggled between INFP and INTJ lol and the points you guys brought up like having preferences that aren't justified logically, being very perceptive and the rest of the stuff, were really relatable and described me pretty well I felt. I'm definitely subscribing and just wanted to thank you guys for your content and insight.
Is it INFP to not listen to half the words and understand them but just feel the vibe these ladies were bringing through, and just basking my feelings in how good looking, enchanting and witchy they look? It’s like a Halloween fantasy. 😍🧚🏼♂️
Well, I suppose I agree, because like the INFP once I felt that I had no interest in mistyping I kinda tuned the rest of the conversation out. I've found that most INFP descriptions are off, including whatever it was I heard here...shrug. The thing I've found amongst my fellow INFPs is that we are pretty damn diverse...I feel like this is because each one of us has our own unique inner universe...and in my inner universe INFPs don't really care whether they are INFP or not and don't question it.
I think that INFPs got the Healer because they can immediately get to the root of things, and thus heal them more quickly. And of course, that's healing others, not ourselves. Thanks for reinforcing my type! :)
Infpish... the “ish” gives wiggle room.:).. relate to not being 100%.... every once in a while it is like I hear this little voice “ but what if?????? And I find myself taking yet another test :)!!!!!
Hey fella INFP. I used to think the same way about our feel and still sometimes it clicks me when it happened. I found out that our personalities are often imagine thing or feeling things make us a great story teller in basis art ex: writing, drawing, animating , editing film, or be a producer of your own. Our personality somehow are likely to do things by ourself. Which is good for all you fella INFP to find a work or things that actually you feel and enjoy the most through the process. The key for me is "Imagination" and writing is actually quite compelling things that i actually enjoy eventhough i don't really quite like to read or study things.
Why does this all have to be so complicated. Why do I myself make it so complicated too. I was typed as INFP, went through a long phase of doubting, then I just accepted it. I think honestly we shouldn't question it so much, the first time you take the test you're being your most honest (I guess). But idk. I don't understand the Fi Fe bla bla bla stuff. I see people arguing over someones type on the internet forums.
Male INFP and I did not want to be. It took me decades to type myself because it's the bottom rung of what a guy is supposed to be, at least externally
I strongly disagree with the things you said about the discriptions of INFP's sounding a lot more like ISFJ's. Like the journaling part, and same with the "healer" aspect. ISFJ's sure- they seem like they always want to help and do well to others (very stereotypical obviously)- but INFP's can really "heal" to the core, as they will not get to know people briefly. It's either they understand them or they don't. (Again, a generalization :p) I dunno. Great video though, you're two of my favourite people when it comes to this whole MBTI thing :) Also,- socionics. Go!
Erik Hedberg Karlsson I agree with you. I think ISFJs are nurses. But I think infp's are the healers. In terms of emotional wounding and uplifting spirits, infps have a gift of relating and connecting with others that some types can only do in small amounts. We have extreme amounts of empathy. I think what she realizes is actually sympathy in this video. I don't have as much sympathy, like ISFJs do. Yet if someone is suffering I'm one of the first ones to take action. Talking to people about what's going on with them emotionally. And being there for them that way. I also think Infps want to heal the world and make it a better place, not necessarily heal people. Infps have huge hearts and long for a Cause to help or heal. That is true healing knowing someone sees AND hears you, and can see your perspective. I think that can definitely effect your health!
Happy much belated birthday! What tipped me off that I am not an INFP is that even when I am thinking of myself, it is in the framework of how can I share my story so other people can find it to help understand themselves with what I share. (otherwise there's little point saying it or putting it in type.) Which is kind of INFP like, but not the same. It's like I have my values, but I want the group to see those values too, but I don't want to pressure or change anyone (except for hoping they will come to see that being open and kind is a much better idea than not being open and kind). My values go towards encouraging people be open and kind to one another. I looked up at the functions of FeNi and it kind of makes sense, though I'm about 50-55% on the extroverted/ introverted axis and still only slight preference for Judging over perceiving and slight preference for feeling over thinking. I'm kind of a mix. I like it when I am writing because I can really get into the heads of my story characters and hopefully understand a lot of people too. I suspect my intuition is Ni, but it does have Ne like tendencies, but not quite. I don't jump from topic to topic, but more jump around within a single topic at a time. (think of it like branches off a single tree) When discussing whatever captivates my interest, I suspect it is really hard to tell me apart from an Ne user, other than you'll eventually get a near complete understanding of whatever I was talking about if you let me go unchecked. (A branch from the tree.) The exception of this is if you change subject on me and it isn't anything on my "tree" then I'll likely just listen and ask questions to form a tree of understanding to understand your ideas and help me to carry a conversation with you.
I'm pretty sure that I am an INFP. I may not be 100%, then again most people don't fit the molds of their types exactly, right? However, I am really confused as to how I am the way that I am in general, because when I was a child (probably about 8 and under) I was VERY VERY outgoing and energetic. I have no idea what happened, there was no big event or any sort of trauma, but all of a sudden I became very introverted, quite, and laid back and have since basically been what i am now, which I've typed through several different MBTI tests (and a lot of your videos lol) as an INFP, though I was much more socially anxious and shy back then than I am now (though I still struggle with social anxiety). I'm not sure if this mean I changed types somehow, which many people say isn't even possible, or if this means I'm not actually an INFP or something??? I don't know. I feel like I really identify with the descriptions of INFP, though I think I can be more logical and grounded when I need to be than is depicted in the typical INFP stereotype, and it honestly kind of scares/saddens me to think I might not be one :'D Do you have any possible explanations maybe?
i'm not the person your asking, but when you say it just happened and there weren't any traumatic experiences, were there any social reasons, like others telling you you should be quiet? Or perhaps some internal realization about the world? another thought is maybe you just didn't feel the need to be outgoing, and became more adept to introverted calmness as you matured? Just random information to keep in mind but when you turn 8-7 that is when your mind begins to develop more awareness and adult maturity. I feel this isn't uncommon for people in general. Its a major jump in your growth mentally and physically at this age before puberty.
Well.. by the way you write (with so many statemnts ending in ??? or 'is that possible??') Id say you were clearly an Ne user. If you were more outgoing earlier in life and also feel more logical and grounded... you could even consider ENFP.. as they are claimed to be the most introverted of extraverts. Fi in aux could explain how you're becoming more introverted over time..By the amount of open ended questions and statements in your post it would point to a strong Ne.. either Dom or Aux. Also.. being scared to not be an INFP is not a very INFP quality in my experience haha... sounds like ideational attachment.. which is more ENFP that INFP. ENFP would want their idea of themselves to be true... wheras INFP would be quick to move on if a description didnt feel right. Also, ENFP has Te logic in the third slot, so they tend to be more evenly balance in being practical / logical and idealistic. anyway! just my thoughts! take it with a grain or two of salt.
My mom says I was outgoing and wanted to be the center of attention before I started school then something happened and I became painfully shy and withdrawn.
INFP here and I had the big change as well... but i know it's because I let society get to me, I started realizing I didn't fit in to normal society and started being/feeling extremely self-conscious and retreated inward... it's been very very difficult to try to break out of that ever since... once you red-pill it's hard to have that past innocent blissful mindset again because you're hyper aware of everything... that's where I've been at since
I cant remember of you touched on this or not. As infps develop, you will begin using some of your shadow functions depending on your career, life experiences or to help you function socially. Which can be confusing. I just commented on another video about this. As I stopped being overly conscientious and learned to trust myself more, I ended up developing Ni and Fe and leaning on it more often. I am still very much an infp. I no longer doubt myself though unless I'm thrown into change or a transition I didn't anticipate. Also wearing my infp loud and clear for everyone to see can turn me into a target and in some situations it's best for me to wear a mask
INFP here… i prefer one on one or small crowds and alone time. Making friends isn’t hard for me it’s just i don’t seek having them, nor do i need them. Quality over quantity. If we share similar interests and passions that is the easiest way for me to open up and express and communicate or else i am quiet, reserved and observant listening to everyone else learning their state of mind and how they tick and are who they are. This helps me to internalize and develop my own inner world and who i am from many perceptions, but creating who i am by the values that i cultivate and hone to harmonize my authentic identity with integrity. Due to a Deep wish to learn, grow, become the best i can be? Integrity and building strong moral values is very important to i so that i can be my best self and have a more secure and strong Truth of who i am and my convictions. The shadows that i courageously move through help i to understand others and put myself in their shoes to hold empathy and compassion… i will be kind because it is who i am, but when i feel like i am being taken advantage of or not taken seriously i tend to assert myself in a more blunt and cold way…either way i am genuine in my expression and i truly desire to be an example of what is morally correct…i Am open to broadening my value system IF it Feels correct… This doesn’t mean other’s have to be how i am or see it my way, but for me to change my views and values they have to have a strong meaning and moral integrity for me to grow and embrace them or else GodSpeed and Much Love to another view point, ill agree to disagree, namaste
I’m curious on what you think of these definitions of introversion vs extroversion. I have two definitions, which do you agree most with and are either of them actually good to determine if you’re more extroverted or introverted. Extroversion is focusing your attention outward. Introversion is focusing your attention inward. That’s my first one, here’s my second. Extroversion is focusing on the external world. Introversion is focusing on your inner world. Yeah they’re basically the same thing.... what do you think of them though?
firstly when I found out I'm an INFP ,I was happy finding out where I belong... before i was just trying to find out who I was and finding out made me really proud of myself
I'm pretty sure that I'm an INFP, and I fully agree that I can't actually relate to a lot of the INFP descriptions that we are all rainbows and unicorns. I can be really idealistic when it comes to the few things I care about, believing that I'll have it my way and needing to have an absolute sense of certainty, but I'm extremely cynical in many other ways, and can turn people off by my cynicism. I generally don't share many of my feelings easily, unless I'm in a desperate situation and just feel the need to talk for the sake of it. I definitely tend to view things from the way I feel about them and how they fit into my own system of values (no matter how lacking they may be in justification / realism), rather than how they actually are. As an Introverted feeler, it's actually hard for me to become emotional unless I can personally relate to it. I also have no trouble cutting people off when I view them as incompatible with me, when I don't see much long-term potential in engaging with them, and when I've been repeatedly hurt / offended / abused. I won't cause a scene, I will quietly slip out the door without them knowing. I don't like conflict and drama, which is why I tend to ghost. I grew up in a very difficult and morally devoid environment, but the few who have gotten to know me are surprised, and intrigued at how I've managed to maintain such a strong sense of right and wrong despite not having any real role models. I can't tell you why, I just know, I just feel. As a guy, I'm also very upset at how society measures so-called masculinity in ways that I know, go against who I fundamentally am. I hate being told 'because you are a guy, you should be so and so.' As a kid, I liked spending time around adults more than other children, and some of my teachers thought I was 'anti-social' (note, not the personality disorder). I liked lecturing adults on right and wrong, and was sometimes called a 'little adult.' I tend to have strong repulsion towards certain foods, smells, sounds, and other things, but I can't come up with a reason for why I feel the way I do about those things. I cried a lot when I was younger, even when subjected to just a bit of criticism from anyone. As I grew older and started finding myself, I've replaced this tendency to shed tears with an internally cold indifference. I know who I am, and I don't need to be told what to do. You have no right to change me before you even understand me, and even when you do, I won't necessarily listen to anything you're saying, though I have a hard time expressing disagreement for the sake of conflict avoidance and unnecessary drama. My mind's all over the place, and I like think a lot more about things rather than getting anything done. Some have commented that I seem to be off in my own world, rather than being in touch with the real world. However, it's not like I will let just about anyone into the depths of my inner world. I may share bits, or I may share nothing. Very few people will ever have anything resembling a full picture.
This was a fascinating video. I remember taking the test for the first time in psych class in 2004 (studying Please Understand Me.. had to look up the title of the book because I forgot). The instructor insisted the type we got that day will ALWAYS be our type. I didn't accept that and over the years re-took it several times to check that I still got the same. INFP. I've always felt like maybe I didn't truly understand myself enough to answer the questions right. Haha In the last few years as I've finally really gotten more interested in truly studying the cognitive functions (not just taking the test), I've seriously considered I might be an ISFP. I can't decide on Ne/Si or Se/Ni. But I enjoyed this video. Some examples you gave really hit home - the "pretty dream journal" example (I love the IDEA of beautiful planning and Journaling but never can get to carrying it out.. And it kills me because I feel creative & capable and I want to, but I just don't stick with it). Also how you described what could be perceived as "empathy" really just being me feeling bad for causing a problem for someone (I think it actually may be out of selfish need to be liked/appear good). Also always trying to re-type myself. Among other things. Fascinating video!
Most of the time I think I have empathy but I started to realize it's just overwhelming guilt about everything lmao. I can feel guilty for breathing sometimes. Most people describe me as sweet and reserved or sometimes even cold so I don't really understand what people see in me anymore haha
This is a great video. I actually have questioned the first letter in particular. Actually the Fi is more prominent than the Ne for me. Another interesting misconception is that an I personality won’t talk much. I do to particular people. Throw me in a gathering with few people I know and watch me die on the inside. I hate small talk, preferring deeper conversations with people. We are an awkward fit in so many professions. I hate the need to document and produce/manufacture silly evidence for things.
People sometimes see introverts acting in an extroverted way. The difference is that INFP are so aware others are watching them and they hate the attention. Like they feel morally wrong for stealing the show and actively look for ways to shift the attention to others. As if the extroversion was simply a way to help others open up.
That Ne hits _hard_ Throughout the years, I thought I was: INFP INTP ENTP ENFP INFP again INFJ INTJ ENTJ ESFP INFP again ENFP again ENTP again INFP _again_ ISTJ ESTJ INFP _agAIN_ ISFP ...and now I'm back to INFP... already the start of this video was super relatable
INFP 4w5 here. Have questioned my type before, but have taken several different tests and always get the same result... honestly don't understand why you would WANT to be an INFP. Sometimes feels like a curse
When I first started getting into MBTI, I figured I was an ISFP and my little brother was an INFP, but when we’d take MBTI tests, the results were always the other way around. I thought that was weird because I never considered myself as kind and idealistic as an INFP, I figured my brother fit that role much better. A good example of this is, back in high school, the lunch lines were too long and lunch breaks were too short, so I always ran to lunch as fast as I could so I wouldn’t have to wait as long, after I graduated and my brother started high school, I heard that every day he held the lunch door open for everyone else. I was proud of him, because he was being nicer than I ever was. Sorry, I got off topic. Anyway, a lot of the stuff said in this video does sound kinda accurate to me in some way so I might be an INFP. I once had an old friend of mine take the MBTI test a few times and he always got ENFJ, I’m pretty sure that can’t be right because ENFJs are always described as generous, caring and motherly, while said friend of mine was more of a manipulative cocky jackass with a superiority complex. (Suffice it to say I don’t hang out with him as much as I used to, nor do I agree that my type is in any way compatible to his.) Another friend, I was able to guess easily, but she’s an ENFP and those tend to be easier to recognize.
I came across this video thinking I was an ESTJ and still think I'm an ESTJ, but I'm looking at my tertiary Ne through a different lens now. I used to think I was an ESTJ with really strong Ne, but what you said about mistaking my Si for Ne seems to make way more sense and is really quite relatable. Thanks so much for that insight.
Great video, the way I know I'm an INFP is because everything I do is done through my subjective Fi lens and it goes straight to my values. If I don't care about something you are going to have to convince me to care. I won't show it visibly on my face because I've learned its better to hide it (so I don't hurt their feelings too much) but I will tune out and just say "that's great..." and move on. If ou have a strong developed Te you are literally a force to be reckoned with, you will be extremely opinionated and willing to back it up through action and making a project happen. I developed mine through the military and so that Fi - Te axis is what convinced my I was an INFP.
That cat randomly being in the image caused me to laugh inwardly. Its so random XD It obviously has meaning behind it though. Like cats chase yarn like the Ne chases ideas. And the rolling of a yarn ball can symbolize the rolling around of thoughts in the INFP mind. The wool can symbolize connections. The cat chases these ideas and connections that would be reflected in the symbol of a yarn ball. @Causal Cognition
Its pretty frustrating really. Like in creative works, burn out is terrible. I have to pump up all the work i can because one day something doesn't feel right and completely destroys my productivity.
I have a theory that INFP and ENFP are mostly libras, but it depends on what you have more in your natal chart, as water and earth signs make you introverted, while fire and air signs can make you extroverted. INFPs being procrastinators, trying to please others, kind of matches the description of libra (moon, sun, or any other personal planet).
Happy Birthday! Enjoyable and helpful video. Look forward to your others in this series and your Fi Fe one. Since your video last week on Prince I have been going though lots of Prince videos of performances and interviews to the point that I have turned into an INTJ. I am constantly questioning my type. Your videos are a lot of fun for me!
When I first took the MBTI my result was INFJ, and recently I took some other tests just for conformation; and I tested INFP. I do feel like mistyping can happen alot, you have to research quite a bit to gather an idea of what fits. I relate so much to both, but when it comes to functions I feel like I relate more to INFJ. I love the videos you guys make about micro-expressions and body language. Having the visuals definitely helps.!
ISFP previously considered myself ENFP(sometimes INFP). I am a master at procrastination. But there is One thing being absent minded and being an actual INFP. I have add so me being absent minded is something common. But my best friend is INTP and The difference between her an actual intuitive and me an absent minded dreamy sensor is huge. Like she asked me where do i plan to live when grow up(We’re 16) i’m like “on earth”. She knew since kindergarten she wants to be a doctor and still wants. I had 10 different career options. I feel like i worry too much she worries 10 times as much as me. Actually all my worries and doubts are induced by her and my ENFJ mother and my INTJ father.We were once on a school trip One month before Maths exam. Our Math teacher brought us on a study trip. I Stayed in room with her and two ESFJ friends. We partied the whole night like there was no tommorrow and we paid no attention to classes. She was very cautious and slept on time. She also uses a much more complex language than i do. I do engage in conversation about theories and abstract but she is The One that actually initiates those things. I’m more like “What did Kardashian did today” and “what song did i learn”(i’m a huge artist). Also while i’m sensitive and love helping people i’m not empathetic and i actually give good advice though Even if i prefer distracting people from their problems. Like once a friend broke up with her ex and i suggested her to go to the club and have fun(i like playing the therapist sometimes but too much drains me) I am actually too materialistic and drawn to aesthetic to be an INFP I do read too much about things and then decide on them though. At least that’s how i feel as an ISFP who hates theory😂😂
I know I'm infp because when I saw the description the inner critical voice telling me to be rational and strong that I developed over the years tried to convince me that I wasn't/shouldn't be infp because it makes me "weak". Now I'm realizing that this is the key to develop my strengths and accept who I am
A part of being INFP is to know that it is not easy and not something to be proud of...we are happy to meet people who are the same and don't hope that they will learn (through our judging), that they are actually not INFP...we trust them!!
I just did another type test today because I was sure I wasn't an INFP but sure enough, the results came back INFP. OK, that is about 10 in a row. So hard to believe that some people actually want to be this type.
I cant imagine enjoying having all the emotions and feelings and ACTING on them. They are there, in the background, and I have them, but as an INFP, I dont enjoy having them, especially living with and INTJ, I would love to be more focused in the logic, but it just doesn't work...
I doubt my type thinking i am intp idk why i question alot also 1 question i can feel pain deeply of someone like i can't control my tears and imagine to help them irl...but sometimes i feel like i wasn't able to feel pain of others if i don't feel emotional you know Why though ...?
It seems like INTPs actually fit the stereotype of the INFP a lot. Opposing Fe dosen't mean we are emotionless, quite the opposite. It means we try, and often fail, to be mediators and empaths. It's why we can often be so bashful and often shy. Its almost as if we use Fe to esxape it. We play to outside expectations in order to be ourselves, all without giving any semblance of care to Te structures. Often times, we favor our personal logic over our desire to connect with and serve others. Not to mention, considering our Fe is connected with Ne, we may actually have a very large, interconnected perception of the objective emotional and moral world if others, just like how To is connected with Si, which is like the Eye of Sauron gazing at a single point in our internal world, which contributed to our fiercely logical side.
I always thought The Healer was such a weird name for us... I can't even heal myself bro
We can heal everyone BUT us lol
Ahah made me laugh so hard! So true though ^^
*being everyone’s therapist when you really need one yourself*
So relate
use a bandage or herbs
I wish I weren’t an INFP... Procrastination- having to feel ok before taking action is excruciating and frustrating for me. Self doubt sucks. I feel inept to function in this world. I want to go back to the mothership.
oof youre hittin me right in the heart fellow INFP 😭
Terra Jennings BACK TO THE MOTHERSHIP
Fer reallllll😄👌✌
Totally understand.
Terra Jennings I will pray for you!
I just discovered this whole personality thing and everything makes sense now. I literally didn’t understand why I have so few friends when I’m so sincere and try to help people...
I became a Christian and this personality trait of going all in has literally changed my life completely. I still spend much time alone but now it’s in prayer and enjoyingGifs love. I pray you will encounter this for yourself right now! It will deal with the loneliness immediately!
Bless you
Justin
I'm an INFP. I don't really want to be an INFP because feeling everything is pretty terrible. My feelings change my life on a daily basis. I would rather disappear than actively hurt someones feelings.
INFP: I feel like as I mature, my Fi becomes increasingly able to control my feelings if I want to. Usually, I don't see any reason to interfere with my feelings, but I know that if I want/need to, I can. However, when I was younger, my feelings were super intense and uncontrollable.
@@adamagustus1316 kinda right, tho
I hurt sometimes other people feelings and i feel terible. I isolate myself for 2 days then try to get out again.
Is horibble when you see that whaterver you do, people will still be negative
aw, that's sad, I like feeling everything, I'm super romantic and like to fantasize so it's more material for my thoughts
As an intp having no feeling is terrible too
I loved finding out I was an infp bc it's the first time I ever felt like I belonged somewhere. I always felt out of place in the world and it made me finally see that there are people who feel the same way.
Same here!
That’s the exact same for me. I always thought I’d never be like anyone else
Me too 😁 I can relate to a lot of infp UA-cam comments so I guess I may be an infp.
It give you a feeling of home.
I am so glad to know that I am not crazy.
I am glad to here I'm not the only INFP to question their type, I've taken the test dozens of times on different sites but the result is always the same. The way the profiles are written I feel like Im supposed to be some manic fairy person trapped in another reality. So thank you for the video
i sometimes get INTP. i don't like poems that much. so much of them trying too hard to be so "incognito".
But don't get me started on advwnture novels and bromance stories. i love them
INFP here. Actually, i would take the test several times, ask people to type me, take other tests because i doubt myself. Some tests type me as INFJ-i would have liked that but INFP description works more for me than INFJ. I’m also always sorry about stuff. I’m disappointed in myself most of the time.
@@zephdo2971 Also get INTP frequently. Specialized tests place it usually around 50/50 (with 2-8% difference). I don't like poetry either, but I they've found an outlet of me loving songs with rich, meaningful lyrics with several levels. So I guess that statement counts in spirit. :)
this is the way my brother described me recently lol
We got to remember no INFP is the same. This 16 personality system, after all, is only one theory to understand ourselves better, but it's already an abstract concept and not accurate science. I have found that I'm an INFP and was pretty confident about it early on. Though I have played mind games and hypothesised if I'd be something else...so, in a way questioned it, I've still felt I know I'm really an INFP. We all grow in different environments with different people and it affects us. Not every INFP will like to read poems... Like I don't... But I still like to write poems, occasionally. Somewhat an outlet. But it varies. We have different outlets and ways to be those "fairies" (if we really are that). I find the best way to recognise your personality is by comparing your behaviour with people who are different, but lived in a similar environment (like siblings). Because some INFP who lived among ENFPs sees other sides of herself than someone who lived with ISTJs.
As I see these personality things, is that you should not try to fit yourself into any of them. Rather just find what fits you the best and helps you understand what you are. Humans can't be put into a box... but boxes can be put into a human , eh?
Heh... I don't how this turned into an essay. Just some thoughts.
But Hello fellow INFPs 😊
I'm an INFP and I can't almost never relate to the mbti memes bc its always something like *feelings are beautiful, forest fairy, crying all the time, so empathetic and pure* and I'm not really any of that :/
Most ones that I've seen are like "introvert, doesn't open up, never talks to anyone". I love talking to people. I might be shy, but that doesn't stop me...
Same!!! Like idk i can't relate
Same
Me questioning my mbti bc i dont cry 24/7 ://
MBTI goes mostly for the general, it doesn't mean that you should REALLY relate to it literally, I'm INFP and yep I am very quiet and some times keep inside of my head, but I can also be very loud, speak too much or even focusing in details of people or the real world, I do cry a lot but not all the time, like, a few years ago I didn't cried at all... But Idk, some memes goes for the stereotype, but I think that if you guys are confused, try to do different tests or search by yourselves...
If I don't like something, I don't want to read and hear about it. If I am forced to, I will do so with a filter, and constantly on guard so that none of it influences me.
YES!!!
Yes. This!
💓Ditto✌
Soooooo true
Too true
The dream Journal comment haha :D The INFP would have crumbled paper next to the bed, try to do the journal thing for 2 days and then switch to something more interesting afterwards I think 😁
I've actually done that before lol!
Me 😂
yeap totally me xD
True lol I'm an infp & I go through phases of different kinds of visual arts. I've probably tried everything but can't stick with something long enough to get good at it.
I do it on text on occasion but I can't keep it up
The stereotype of INFP's being over-emotional and irrational can be so frustrating because it gives no recognition of self-awareness and self-control. If the situation calls for me to be logical then logical I will be!
I find that Fi being my dominant function I am so aware of it's weaknesses, and that is why I can recognise the benefits of Te and using it can make me feel so powerful.
Ironically, at times when I've probably felt most vulnerable to my Fi is when I've been the most reserved and cold on the exterior.
Also, any perceived external irrationality is more likely to be coming from my Ne when I'm over-excited or comfortable than "having too many emotions".
Anyway... loved the video again guys! ❤
And keep breaking those stereotypes INFP's! ✌
Raelle Pickton yes! Ne excitement. Soo yes. Last two days i have wondered if the world is actually responsible for at least a few of infp's contradictions. Or at least for expanding them. In this example its when im reserved or impartial people are like 'ur so unemotional'. Wanting me to share. But as soon as i go Ne excited they are immediately like oh, whoa... Emotion.. As if im a freaking alien for having those suddenly and then im like okay i honor your observation/opinion.. Wait! But I'm not doing that tho. And they're all mmhmm, okay thats okay. We already saw you. Don't go back on it and try to say ur not it wont work for us. We're just going to cut you out now mkay cuz we love you but we cant handle your emotions. And literally tell me that. How many times do i get to hear this... Omg. Ugh, the curse/constant hampster wheel of being an infp. Frack my life😀😄😄😂
And then the world blames us for 'not having friends'. Yet another irony to us , considering ourselves friends to world at all times. Everywhere i walk and go. Face palm 😄. Its almost infp for dummies: a guide on how to be the operating system that just does not work with the world
👍awesome✌
And then ppl think i am soooo dissatisfied in life with myself. When i am extremely satisfied with myself (but for wishing i culd get more done). Its y'all that makes me wish things were different😄😀🙏
Agreed. So many people label us under these things, and they are really just so clueless about our type. Just because I have F, doesn't mean I don't make logical, rational decisions. And what annoys me more than anything is seeing the desperate cry for attention that the people who EMBRACE those stereotypes give off. They are (in my experience.) Romanticizing the INFP type, and thereby swallowing all of the false garbage that the internet spews out about us. They choose it because they idealize how virtuous we sound, instead of looking further, definitely glad to meet another INFP busting the myths and stereotypes. Keep being your beautiful selves guys!
Everyone is logical/rational.
A feeler's logic is more fuzzy and allows more flexibility in certain areas (which has downsides), but because your mind works on a system, you use logic.
If someone wasn't logical, their actions would be random and they wouldn't be conscious.
I'm not saying you're an INFP, though; most people are mistyped. You look more like an ENTJ or ISTP, but I don't know.
@@krustykraken9331 for an estj, or istp she sure described my experience and it'ld be a rough road for anyone to even try and claim me as any other type
@@mjade1673 People mistype all the time, especially women (because they are less decisive and their nature is more vague because they don't clarify their desires in their head as well as men). I would bet that more people are typed incorrectly than correctly.
The tests people take are very simple, and because the people making the tests don't understand what psychological functions are, they can't make tests that test for them. Well, eNtj, she's a dominant logic user and she has Introverted Intuition/Extroverted Sensing. What she said is true, but she's repeating the public consensus, she didn't make that idea herself from the perspective of that type.
I think INFPs get the "healer" title because we're really good at helping people heal themselves emotionally. Listening without judging, helping people get clarity on their feelings and why they're feeling the way they are. We're experts at the internal structure of the human psyche (thank you Fi), so we can help other people map their own inner world and be honest with themselves and true to themselves-- which is very healing and resolving in general. We're good therapists-- we listen and soundboard in a handsoffish Fi fashion, until the person solves their own problem. Then people are like, omg you magical healing fairy, and we're like, um I didn't do anything.
I think ISFJ is better as a physical healer though. Unquestionably.
Paloma Birde Good point! :D
I can't imagine that Fi-doms listen without judging - in fact, a whole section of the video was dedicated to how INFPs will tune out if they've already made their judgement as opposed to ENFPs who always have an open ear.
Nice comment. :)
I tend to provide a similar type of "guidance", but with people's Te (i.e how they can reach their set/future goals), not Fi. It seems to me that ANY *mature* and *healthy* person who excels in one area can help others become adept/grow in that specific area.
INTPs are great at teaching me Ti, ISFPs rock when it comes to teaching me Se and INFJs are awesome at briefing me in Fe.
And I'm an INTx.
very true! I agree we all have something valuable to offer. Fi helps find inner healing, but Te... equips and supports you to accomplish your dreams!
mr. moodle I was talking about a different kind of judging. Yes, INFPs tune out if things don't interest them, so I guess that's a kind of judgment because they're judging something as being uninteresting or irrelevant to them-- but that's not the kind of judgment I was referring to. I meant *when we're listening and interested,* such as to a friend we care about, we listen completely and comprehensively and we naturally suspend judgment and projection and personal response until we understand something fully on its own terms--- To a fault at times.
I think most people forget that INFP’s trip up on their own emotions, and find it hard to process others sometimes. Also, we are very intelligent, but we are NOT Thinkers.
*flashbacks to when it took me like five years to figure out I was in love with someone lmao*
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I know my planning skills are horrendous
INFPs CAN be very intelligent, doesnt mean they absolutely are, intelligente is not related to type and any type can be stupid if uneducated.
@@shambles-v9d same💀
As an INFP, I've always loved having journals and collecting stationeries and I've tons of them sitting in my room. I guess it's the Te in me wanting some organization of my thoughts and plans. However, I end up writing on it only whenever I feel like it that sometimes the gap from the last entry are months lol I do write in a very disorganized manner when I have ideas like tissue or scratch papers or notes in phones but most of the time I only commit them to memory 😅
Carat Noona lmao this is literally me
Sama here 🤣🤣
This is me exactly!! 😄👌👍
MY ENTIRE LIFE EEEE!!!!
Exactly what I do and did my entire life😂
Male Scorpio INFP... I just want to do artistic/creative things all day long and not worry about anything else.
Same dude
I’m female and INFP. Same for me. I could disappear into my projects and not desire any human contact.
Same. Whenever I should be studying for Maths (like right now, which I'm clearly not doing) I unconsciously start doodling on a piece of paper then before I know it, I'm too caught up in art and have forgotten about my study work completely by then 😂
Female scorpio infp here
Female scorpio infp here
I took the test 5 damn times and still wondered if I was INFP. Believe me I am an INFP, partnered with INTJ. You will know you're INFP with an INTJ. They will make you know!
A partnership that works despite that adversity.
you can't really look at yourself fully, it's impossible. there's too much data in your life, so you will always have doubts
Hahaha same here ! INFP with intj partner =D
Omg so true!!!!
Hahahaha Dude that's so true!!
My learned behaviors are: dont say everything you think, especially mean things, dont roll your eyes, try to help others, be responsible, stop judging others, think before you speak/act. etc.
While all being naturally inclined to do the opposite 🙃
isajay12 J We are living contradictions. 😜💜
I roll my eyes so much I do it even when I'm not annoyed lol
like my mom says something like do you wanna eat this for dinner and i say sure and my moms like y u rollin your eyes and i'm like what I didn't mean to do that mom. I do all of the other things you've stated tho
Lmao same
Yes, I had been thinking I was an Fe user because of these behaviours but they seem like learned behaviours especially due to living in a strict household but I don't do them naturally, I pay effort to them.
Oh my God the INFP’s body language in this video is SO me. Kind of self-conscious, always nodding and smiling, some lip biting, arms in front of you, hair and face touching. Besides everything else that confirmed my type, that was the cherry on top lol. I’m always confused about my type btw, this sort of helped (I never totally feel sure of my type). I think I might be INTP... wait so I’m not sure. Lol thanks anyway
Exactly!
LOL me too I was just thinking that
I still think I might be ISFP or ISFJ. But, the ISFJ might be ,as she explained, mixing being nice to people with Fe.
PIppi always try to hide myself when I’m talking to someone because I feel like people are judging me. But I’m only judging myself.
INFP - Forgetting their own birthday and being reminded of it by some completely unrelated event and randomly associating towards it. Been there, done that.
I wouldn't call myself a 'Healer' nor a 'Mediator', because am often preoccupied with how other people have wronged me, with how they don't fit into my value system. However, it's easy to tug at my heartstrings, and when I really want to heal someone, I need that intimacy first. Many INFP descriptions think that we can see something good even in the worst of people, how we can love even the most unlovable. For me, that's true and not true. True, in the sense that the person can be objectionable by society's standards, but if there are things in their character that resonate with my personal values, I can sympathize with them to a degree. Not true, because if they are unlovable in ways that happen to go against my beliefs as well as society's, I will have no sympathy for them. On the other hand, someone can be 'good' by society's standards, but if their core character does not resonate with my personal values, I will be, at best, neutral or indifferent towards them. It's also much easier for me to burn bridges than build bridges, at least for now.
For an example of what I have mentioned above, if someone went on a streak of destructive vengeance after the loss of his wife and children due to that opposing force, I would sympathize fully with his loss and what led him to his actions, though I wouldn't necessarily agree with all of his methods. If someone was successful, capable, popular, rich or whatever, but a monster to those who know him in private, I would have no respect for that person. I'd have more respect and sympathy for Person A, what people view to be a sociopath, than for Person B.
I understand that, but Person B probably felt that way for a reason. What if they want to change, but something inside them kept pushing them to act aggressively and as monsters? Whichever the person, they all need help. Sorry, I can't really relate with you, but that's okay. I just wanted to state my opinion, even if it probably doesn't maatter anyway. Thanks to everyone who took their time to read this.
Maybe you’re INTP
Maybe you're an INFJ
I personally prefer the title "idealist".
I can sympathize with people but I don't forgive their actions either. like many serial killers had awful family lives, and I sympathize with that, but I don't excuse their actions cause they still killed people. sometimes even when a character is an absolute scumbag I can't hate them because I see their point of view too.
its rough cause other people are like ughhh I hate them
and I'm like well... yes, but actually no.
Yes. I thought I was INFJ for several years before realizing that I am actually INFP.
I always related to both. More to INFPs than INFJs... but always tested as an INFJ. I figured out that I tried to fit into the INFJ box because, ironically, it's slightly more acceptable to my family of origin than INFP in terms of traits, habits, and behaviors.
I’m definitely an INFP, I’ve done so many tests watched so many videos so I’m pretty sure now, but when I acted like an INFP in primary school (eg. Was more shy and reserved) I was always bullied and made fun of for being so quiet, so now when I’m at school with friends i always try to act more extroverted but by the time i get home I’m so drained and don’t talk to anyone or interact with anything for the rest of the night.
I remember once when I went out with my friends and then back to their place for a sleepover, I kept up my extroverted front and in the morning when we had to go to school I couldn’t even find the energy to put up my front, all my friends were wondering what was up with me and kept poking me and asking me what was wrong Which just made me more drained.
I know that not being myself around them isn’t good but I think I’m still way too scared to let go and not be so bubbly smiley and happy all the time.
Cause not gonna lie most of the time I am really sad, I can’t be bothered to talk to my friends even though I love them, but if I don’t talk to them like I normally do when I’m pretending to be super happy all the time then they start bugging me with questions and it makes it even worse. Then they joke that I’m PMsing and I just want to lock myself in the bathroom forever.
I’m the one in the friend group who always plays therapist but when I need to talk about something it gets played off by people as not that important and that I’m just being dramatic. I care way too much about what people think of me, sometimes months or even years after a conversation has ended I wonder what would’ve happened if I said the thing that I actually wanted to say and then I get mad at myself and then I’m in a bad mood, but I act like I’m fine cause if people find out I’m sad they’ll ask questions and when I answer questions I have to open up and talk even more than I already make myself so I just keep my mouth shut.
I guess they are not that good of a friends if they can't accept you for who you are. I was blessed with good friends who understand me and accept the fact that I can be cold or not want to hang out, etc, but in uni I used to do just what you described, putting up that front, and I came home feeling completely drained. As a result once I graduated I basically stopped almost all human interaction because I felt infinitely tired of it. You shouldn't exhaust yourself like that, it drains you more than you think. You need time to heal from that. It's ok if you don't have many friends, it can only be one friend, the important part is to find someone how understands you and is there for you. If you feel that one of your current friends could be that, you could try explaining how you feel to her or start acting more like yourself overall. I hope your situation gets better 💙 and try not to think too much about opinions of others, I know it can be hard, but your mental health is what's most important.
Kanity - One Piece Chill Channel thank you so much for the advice, to be honest I’ve been looking into my personality a lot recently and realised that being an introvert is perfectly fine. But I don’t want to just completely change at like the drop of a hat, i know that my friends care about me or else they wouldn’t prod me so much when I seem off 😂 it’s just that their ways of trying to make me feel more energetic aren’t going to work but they haven’t seemed to figure that out yet.
I’m going to start trying to become more like myself, though gradually. I feel as though if I transition into being more closed off then they won’t take it so badly. But who knows?
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I'm an INFP and a nurse! But I work in mental health and addictions and my moral and ethical convictions play a huge part in the relationships I form with my clients;) I do notice that my Te is pretty awesome and I think it's because of the job and having to multitask and organize so much--- thx
JaponicaGemini wow great! Good for you. I'm an INFP too and I've always struggled with developing Te. Despite my inconsistency in many areas, I've always admired those who can organize their time and stuffs well and could focus at the task at hand. I'm personally working on this area for quite sometime now 😊
I’m an INFP mental health nurse too
Omg we can be nurses! Being a nurse is my dream, but I thought our type too sensitive to deal with the harsh reality of nursing
I adore nurses. They’ve been so helpful. It’s such a wonderful career path to take:)
Favourite mbti channel. Really appreciate the effort you clearly put into your videos
"ISFJ is healer instead of INFP"
Yesss👌👏👏👏. Exactly!
Idk if im a infp I feel i am but wonder if im still good enough to be one. I felt yes for many of these points but one I wasn't sure of...
Yes to emotional healer.
I believe..🙄
That makes a lot of sense. I was the emotional healer for some of the people in my life.
Happy Birthday Calypso!! The difference between perceiver doms versus judging ones is spot on between INFP and ENFP. I've heard from INFPs that they also tune off after judging the content of the discussion quickly, whereas as an ENFP I'm all ears even if I don't believe in the content.
YappingWarrior umm if i dont believe something I'm still listening to be nice but i dont take the belief in. I have my opinion and I stick to it. I try to be open minded but I'm a believer in the bible and always
INFP: Thanks! Charles, judging doms tend to form their opinion quickly and might still listen out of politeness, but perceiving doms tend to form their opinion after listening to all the fresh perspectives, taking them into account in order to form their opinion.
INTJ & INFP Coffee is it common for INFPs to enjoy playing devils advocate? Like we secretly know what our stance is but we just like messing with someone else's argument to explore our own opinions on the issue more?
Charles Benson Same!! :)
poppies128 Very good point. I don’t like debating but I do enjoy asking questions to try and get people to think and explore an alternative topic I am passionate about.
I appreciate videos like this, because I thought I was (and tested as) an INFP for like, ten years or so! Until I met an actual INFP and discovered we thought in radically different ways. Literally so. Then i went back to the drawing board, and the core issue was that I didn't identify as 'judging', or even 'structured/organized', because as it turns out, INFJ is a perceiving type and can also be prone to disorganized thought. So I found it all very misleading at first. And I still sometimes question it and get confused, so even being pretty settled on one type, I still like to watch videos like these. =) Thanks!
I’m glad to be an INFP. I am who I am and to me there’s no point to dwell on who I am. Thanks for the video!
Dude ever since I watched y'all's videos on spotting the functions through body language, eye movements, smiles, etc. I can see your types soooo much throughout this video it's insane haha
This was very helpful bc as an infp i'm never sure if i really am an infp:^^^D
alexandra Iltanen same I guess it’s the ne
alexandra Iltanen Saaaame here
Honestly, I agree with things she was saying about infp but I'm still like " am I really an infp? 🤔 "
Elisa, The Mediator are you intp? ☺
alexandra Iltanen I did too, but seeing what mtbi types we slip into when wanting to fit in, in times of great stress or aspire to be like the inconsistencies actually finally made sense.
Im so glad you INFPs exist. The world is already better because you all are alive. As an ENTP socionics recommend I partner up with INFJ but i refuse. INFPs are empaths without being dark. Your guys energy is so innocent and pure that more often than not i myself wish i were an INFP. I love you all. Best of wishes. Yall rock!
INFP and male right here. Rare combination.
David Vidanes hey that's cool. I'm friends with a male infp
Same! I guess we're unicorns.
Female Gemini INFP.
same
Same, be proud bro
ISFJ: physical Healer (nurse/caretaker)?
INFP: empathetic Healer (counselor)?
No, I'm neither of these types. But I CAN aspire to making people feel better about themselves as a seemingly actual nice guy w/o unintentionally offending them & w/o masquerading the so-called 'nice guy' persona masking whatever manipulative douchebaggery. (Yes!) And I usu like to aspire for a humorous bent when interacting w/ others as well.
- Signed, a 16personalities "Logician"
That INFPs are self-referential in making judgements is spot on. I am aware of this now and try to corroborate or reevaluate my judgements by getting other perspectives either in person or more often books.
As an Si Dominant INFP, I love these videos so much. So glad you properly delve into the cognitive functions instead of skimming the MBTI surface.
As a sidenote, I feel like the INTJ & INFP is such a perfect friendship. You guys are awesome. Any INTJs here? I want to meet you so badly.
Edit: I wrote this just before you started talking about Ne skimming the surface. Such perfect timing.
Edit 2: I see what you're saying about the ISTJ mistying. Had to pause the video to properly think about it again.
This was something I spent days on. I was convinced that I was ISTJ for quite a while. For me at least, the key to figuring it out was that I highly value my Si, but I'm really not as good at it as my Ne. I spend most of my time weighing the two up conciously while my Fi is the primary unconcious driving force. I've also always been highly Te aspirational. I so desperately want to be effective and useful, and I put a lot of tiring effort into it, but it takes the greatest toll on me of all four functions.
I have a friend who I suspect is ISTJ, and I'm frequently in awe of them. The way they can rattle off the facts and step-by-step events is incredible. It is pretty funny to see him pull a face when I ask him some absurd Ne What-If question, too. The way he tears it to pieces is something I don't think I'll ever get tired of.
Hahaha, could totally relate. When I use my Te effectively, i feel so proud of myself. Like today decluttering the house hahah. Guess I'm really an INFP!!
Love your channel!
When I make a Te style articulate formal presentation of a finished project, I party afterwards lol.
No matter how much I study MBTI, I can’t be sure of my type lol. I just like to believe it’s all artificial dichotomization.
I'm slowly losing interest because I'm always running from website to website, video to video to learn my innate type.
Thank you for posting this! I'm not an INFP and this just confirmed it haha. I can imagine how annoying it would be to make these videos and then have people telling you you're mistyped. I really appreciate your videos and I've learned a lot from your channel, especially from your physical typing vids like J vs P. Hope you're both enjoying your weekend! :)
Marley Keyes So what type are you?
I think I'm ISFP. It's hard to be sure of though because there aren't as many resources on this type as there are for other types available on the internet. I've been studying cognitive functions for a year now and I'm just starting to think I know my type. Know any ISFPs? What type are you?
Marley Keyes I'm the Alien INTP™.
@@peaceshallnotbebroke yes i know isfp's :) very well I'ld say. Are you reserved? Enjoy caring for others? Enjoy peace at home and highly value peace in general? Are you sort of the official at work? Efficient at work. Always knows the best ways to do things. If you don't, you will learn once and forever execute and know from then on out? Can u put your "foot down" at work when necessary but don't throw it about? Do your needs tend to get lost in a relationship without someone who knows this about you and wants to make it different? Are you a procrastinator on personal things? Do you avoid sharing your innermost feelings and take awhile to process complex emotional situations. Preferring to process them privately and then move on?
I'll stop at this for now 😊
Ooh wait.. Inspired by your surroundings or art or people or 1,2, or 3 of those. Enjoys food and drink as a relaxing sensory part of life you'ld rather not go without enjoying?
I'm ISFP. We are the most intuitive of the Sensors.
Ahh , this explains my boyfriend and also explains maybe why i feel i need to be with an 💘isfp because i know i prefer s types. Thanks for the insight ✌😌.
Due to the fact we know we won't be having kids together and because other life circumstantial stuff as well we wont be together forever so i was thinking of actually dating an esfj next 😌👌✌. I have 3 esfj friends and i love them so much too. They have a really bold naughty side. They can make me laugh at max in split second and its awesome😌😌😌💖
@@mjade1673 umm thanks for the info lady
MJade
Agreed! ISFPs are so wholesome:)
Best of luck in future relationships.
I thought you were INFP 🙄
I'm not sure whether I'm INFP or ISFP.
Happy Birthday Calypso! I wanna say this video was very helpful, there's many great points covered here. If anything, this has made me absolutely sure i use Ne. i've considered like maybe 5 types i could have been in the past 2 months( including ISFP and ENFP). I tend to be unaware of my surroundings because i'm constantly thinking and not looking around as much. Makes me fail to notice objects if i'm in my head too much. That was one point that you did not cover in this video, the whole Se vs Ne thing(although i know you did a video on Se).
I have a strong penchant for Fi. I mean, just earlier i was shopping for groceries and i was seeking to save money on a produce that is both organic and certified fairtrade. I contemplated the option to go buy the non-certified one for money reasons but was like "Can i really stop supporting those poor farmers?" and i couldn't do it. I also realized i use Te for determining if i should use a machine in my house based on what the readings are on it( that counts as an external source as far as i know).
So as of now i'm more certain i am INFP.
Hey, I've been teetering between ENFP, INFP, and ISFP too! Something that's really clarified it for me is watching Spasigma's videos on Facebook- it's a page that has Heidi Priebe (ENFP) and Denzel Mensah (ENFJ) and in their Ne vid they talk about Ne and they also have an Se video on there. The videos are 40 minutes but relatively in depth, and they go into things most other Se/Ne videos don't talk about. There are a lot of ideas attributed to Ne that are actually Se.
That's very good to know. I follow these two on FB but my mind is so scattered i might have missed the video itself! I know for sure i absolutely hate to limit my options and would rather not narrow things down too much because it can be stressful.
In my understanding, both Ne and Se do that. In those videos on FB they give an example of someone planning out a presentation, and oh man this isn't very helpful haha but they compared the difference of an Se and an Ne user on the day of the presentation. Both types would likely go off track and throw out the plan, but for different reasons and with a different method. I think the Se user would just want to see what happened and the Ne user would want to see what ideas could come out of that in-the-moment performance. That's not exactly it, but it's one of the instances they discussed. Something that clarified it for me is also DaveSuperPowers recent video on Ne and Ni, where he describes Ne and Se in the caveman situation as being the hunter-gatherers and Ni as being the one that wants to stay home and organize everything Se and Ne users bring back. I'm not sure if any of this was clarifying or if it was just a jumbled mess. I just thought I'd add this here in case it makes sense for you! :)
I get infp every single time on the test but I keep feeling like I'm not bc sometimes I can't relate to other infp's...
A lot of ENFPs mistype themselves for INFPs (these two types are extremely similar, and I'm surprised there was no mention of it in this video - they have the same cognitive functions in a slightly different order, and it's so easy for ENFPs to mistype as INFPs since ENFPs are known to be "the most introverted extrovert of all MBTI types.") Secondly, for the INFP-INFJ mistyping, it's usually INFPs mistyping themselves as INFJs, not the other way around.
I fall in the middle.
Also isfp i hear mistypes as infp. And possibly vice versa?
@@barb7124 they say if you learn the cognitive functions very well no one comes out of that still feeling they are multiple types or combos .. Just what im hearing everywhere up to this date. Idk
I take the test 3 times and it was info, enfp, infp. But it makes sense cuz my introvert for info was 46% only😳🙈 and when i ended as enfp my extrovert was 46% uwu 🙈🙈
Number one 😂 I'm always taking different test and I always get INFP, but I keep doubting
I distrust tests.
I'm a male INFP. I don't really think much about it and debate the intricacies of what I am at this point, I just 'know.'
Well, there's more to it I suppose. I first took the test around 2005 in a psychology class. There were no UA-cam videos on MBTI, no 'glorification' so to speak. It just seemed right to me then. The funny thing is that many years later I started paying attention to MBTI again (try 13 years later), and I took the test a few times to see if I'd have changed in some way, since as a person I have changed quite a bit. But I've scored INFP every time. Of course, we all know the tests are flawed, but it just feels right despite what life has brought. Doubting the reading is not inherently an INFP thing, as I've seen this happen across the board, at least reading comments. My wife, on the other hand, has scored something different every time. We ended up settling on ENFP for her based on what feels right. This could change though depending on if we continue to study it, but she feels confident about it. It's hard to get a read, and she also speaks English as a second language (technically third) which adds some complications, but I think it closely fits her. We work pretty well together, though her emotional needs can be really intense, when sometimes I just want to push away and go into my corner and escape this demand. But we talk about it a lot, and MBTI actually helps me organize my thoughts and able to describe my feelings, because often she asks me how I feel about things and it's really difficult to express it.
Partly for me about knowing my type is also just a recognition of behaviors. I definitely do things based on feel instead of thinking. I think a lot, but in general thinking does bog me down and I often get a rush from feeling about something. It's a double-edged sword, because this strong sense can get me into trouble. Feelings can also be incredibly painful.
There are some generic INFP things that get listed that I feel are pretty superficial in their understanding. However, some of them are actually pretty spot on, and it makes me laugh. For example, I don't cry often. But when I do, it hits, and feels like a release. The same happens with the release of other emotions. For most of my life I was worried about releasing any type of emotion. But I have found that my wife actually likes it when I express what I am feeling, even if it can be a bit ugly, because she can get a reading on me and understand me better. This was somehow conflicting, but also relieving to realize. I am also incredibly avoidant of conflict, because even a slight difference leaves me mentally spinning for a long time. Emotions and feelings are too strong and I have to build a barrier, otherwise it can be overwhelming.
In my teenage years I used to doodle and make drawings, and experimented with poetry and spirituality alone in my room, listening to my favorite music over and over. Pretty stereotypical, but I was in full discovery mode. I was indulging in these senses that I felt deprived from from a societal standpoint. Lately, I have become an editor, and a creative writer, and I practice yoga. I feel like writing is one of the few outlets where I can express creativity in a fulfilling way, while also having full control over it. I think as an editor, though, the job has made me more analytical, and I realized that it has put me out of touch with my more emotional side, so I've been trying to get back to that. I miss it. And it's important for my marriage, relationships, and my writing. It can be hard though, as a male, because of how we are expected to be in society. Responsibility calls and I just want to shut off the world and float in my own dimension.
Anyway, I'm not particularly sure why I wrote this, I just felt like dumping it here. This probably reads more like a day-to-day diary entry, but instead in the UA-cam comments section, ha ha. Maybe someone will connect with it, or they won't.
I'm an INFP that is a water scientist by trade. A lot of people type me as an INTJ or INTP for obvious reasons.
I was typed as INTJ, INTP, ISFP by others, I'm still unsure about my type.
What is a water scientists?
my biggest pitfall was taking my first test at a certain site (cough 16personalites cough) and I'm not convinced it spews out anything other than infp if you so much as mention identifying with having feelings. and like you both mentioned, I prided on when I was able to use my inferior Fe successfully (not that I knew what Fe was, or that the site even explained the differing cognitive functions), and made the concept of 'feelings' my identity, so I believed in infp for a long time.
But I just could not get on the same level with other INFPs, or really anyone who made decisions based on vague or emotional leaps of conclusions, and that's when I realized how much I use...or maybe rather EXPECT rational judgment. I didn't know Ti was what I was using, because that's just... how I work, by default.
Like you said, I fell into the stereotyping lure of infp. I wanted to be a caring loving healing woman, all of which I typically suck at, and those hyped up positive generalizations of infp were a golden standard. (Also they are noted for being very creative, which I also am.) Now I've learned more in-depth about the subject, and your video has confirmed a great deal of my conclusions. Thank you, I'm even more certain I am INTP, as much as I can be certain about anything, lol. Great job as always. Thumbs up for you both, and the cat.
I have tested as an infp twice. I do doubt it, but when I read memes for infp I almost died laughing because I related on such a deep level. Stay at home club too.
I give up. Now I'm an INFP/INTP/INFJ/ENFP/ISFP/INTJ/ISTJ.
I'm INTJ but I once typed myself as INFP (I thought the cognitive functions were based on strength, so I automatically tossed out Fe and Se types). ISTJ was an option, but N-ness seemed to describe a major aspect on why I think so differently from most people around me. Once I got more acquainted with preference vs strength I reevaluated the types I initially "liked" the most : INTJ and ISFP. INTJ has Te and Fi in the middle, where they should be because as an "INFP" I couldn't justify an inferior Te. Internally I see myself as half Te and half Fi, but compared to other people I'm TJish.
I agree with what you said about judging-doms and perceiving-doms: I will always observe--usually more than most--before making a decision on that subject. However, I do analyze my feelings in various, ordinary circumstances, which was something Alex said she didn't do (and I don't think my ISTJ mom does either). It's not usual for me to hear things that make me question INTJ because I'm too Fi, or people INTP and INTJ groups will say things that make me think I'm Ti and Ne, but ultimately I know I have the right functions, Se makes a perfect inferior function, yet I think I idealize myself as an ISFP, so my hidden agenda and aspiration functions add up. So what if I don't fit the INTJ internet stereotype? Arrogant criminal mastermind is a very niche stereotype to fit.
I also most frequently test as INTP. Go figure.
I think the dead give away would be how do go about your goals? Intj are very goal oriented and they have unique ways of dealing with this (in contrast to other highly goal oriented types. Entj, and estj come to mind). Their goals are very much cherished pieces of themselves, of their identity. So its like an inward version of entj, estj. Imo with the comparison types maybe but these are well knowns on the intj itself. 😊✌👍
You do seem very interesting and complex if i may say so myself ✌😊
Very good video, I love the quality of the image, microphone... Perfect!! And you explained very well, how INFP's functions work. Thank you and good luck! :)
This video helped me out so much. I was honestly kind of expecting to hear things that disproved I was infp, because I doubt my type all the time. I've taken so many different tests to try and narrow it down, and have come to either intp, infj, even possibly enfp, or that I am actually infp. After this video though, I do believe more now that I'm infp just because I basically went, "oh I relate to that completely" after every statement. The one statement that also really struck me was being inferior functioned aspirational. For the absolute longest time I've always sort of envied efficient, logical people, and strive to be that way because I feel it's a "flaw" of mine. Not to say that infp's can't be efficient and logical. I just don't feel it's something that comes naturally. This aspiration though made me feel I was possibly intp or infj though, as I see both types with the qualities I frequently try to improve in myself, and I guess acting more on making me think I wasn't infp - the thinking function being I frequently try to be logical about my decision making, because I strive to be more objective and efficient, and I guess infj being stereotyped as a more organized infp. I used to think I was possibly enfp only because some profiles make infp, and introversion in general, sound antisocial. I love getting to know people, and this being paired with I guess flitty Ne, made me think oh. Maybe I am enfp, though I can't confidently say I'm extraverted. I used to also think isfp, but I feel I care way too much about future possibilities than I do about being nostalgic. Anyway, I'm ranting. Thank you so much for this video!!! You guys are awesome~
I thought I was a INFJ until I took the test. Then found out I am INFP.
Lady on the left is definitely an INFP!! Lol so INFP it was fun watching you.
This is very very helpful in solidifying my feelings of being an INFP. I've read so many articles from Personality Hacker, Introvert, Dear, and numerous other introvert resources and felt like I was mostly likely an INFP but juggled between INFP and INTJ lol and the points you guys brought up like having preferences that aren't justified logically, being very perceptive and the rest of the stuff, were really relatable and described me pretty well I felt. I'm definitely subscribing and just wanted to thank you guys for your content and insight.
Is it INFP to not listen to half the words and understand them but just feel the vibe these ladies were bringing through, and just basking my feelings in how good looking, enchanting and witchy they look? It’s like a Halloween fantasy. 😍🧚🏼♂️
Ever since I learned of my type and have been looking more into it, the more I'm certain I'm an INFP. By the way, Happy Birthday, Calypso!
Well, I suppose I agree, because like the INFP once I felt that I had no interest in mistyping I kinda tuned the rest of the conversation out. I've found that most INFP descriptions are off, including whatever it was I heard here...shrug. The thing I've found amongst my fellow INFPs is that we are pretty damn diverse...I feel like this is because each one of us has our own unique inner universe...and in my inner universe INFPs don't really care whether they are INFP or not and don't question it.
I think you're being the rebellious infp :). Those are well known. 👍rock on 😊😊
I think that INFPs got the Healer because they can immediately get to the root of things, and thus heal them more quickly. And of course, that's healing others, not ourselves.
Thanks for reinforcing my type! :)
Infpish... the “ish” gives wiggle room.:).. relate to not being 100%.... every once in a while it is like I hear this little voice “ but what if?????? And I find myself taking yet another test :)!!!!!
Hey fella INFP. I used to think the same way about our feel and still sometimes it clicks me when it happened. I found out that our personalities are often imagine thing or feeling things make us a great story teller in basis art ex: writing, drawing, animating , editing film, or be a producer of your own. Our personality somehow are likely to do things by ourself. Which is good for all you fella INFP to find a work or things that actually you feel and enjoy the most through the process. The key for me is "Imagination" and writing is actually quite compelling things that i actually enjoy eventhough i don't really quite like to read or study things.
Why does this all have to be so complicated. Why do I myself make it so complicated too. I was typed as INFP, went through a long phase of doubting, then I just accepted it. I think honestly we shouldn't question it so much, the first time you take the test you're being your most honest (I guess). But idk. I don't understand the Fi Fe bla bla bla stuff. I see people arguing over someones type on the internet forums.
The cognitive functions are actually a bit more important than the letters, but if it doesn’t matter to you, np
Male INFP and I did not want to be. It took me decades to type myself because it's the bottom rung of what a guy is supposed to be, at least externally
I've been so convinced for the longest time that I was an INFP because I related to most of the stereotypes and cognitives but now I'm just confused 😭
I strongly disagree with the things you said about the discriptions of INFP's sounding a lot more like ISFJ's. Like the journaling part, and same with the "healer" aspect. ISFJ's sure- they seem like they always want to help and do well to others (very stereotypical obviously)- but INFP's can really "heal" to the core, as they will not get to know people briefly. It's either they understand them or they don't. (Again, a generalization :p)
I dunno. Great video though, you're two of my favourite people when it comes to this whole MBTI thing :)
Also,- socionics. Go!
Erik Hedberg Karlsson I agree with you. I think ISFJs are nurses. But I think infp's are the healers. In terms of emotional wounding and uplifting spirits, infps have a gift of relating and connecting with others that some types can only do in small amounts. We have extreme amounts of empathy. I think what she realizes is actually sympathy in this video. I don't have as much sympathy, like ISFJs do. Yet if someone is suffering I'm one of the first ones to take action. Talking to people about what's going on with them emotionally. And being there for them that way. I also think Infps want to heal the world and make it a better place, not necessarily heal people. Infps have huge hearts and long for a Cause to help or heal. That is true healing knowing someone sees AND hears you, and can see your perspective. I think that can definitely effect your health!
Happy much belated birthday! What tipped me off that I am not an INFP is that even when I am thinking of myself, it is in the framework of how can I share my story so other people can find it to help understand themselves with what I share. (otherwise there's little point saying it or putting it in type.) Which is kind of INFP like, but not the same. It's like I have my values, but I want the group to see those values too, but I don't want to pressure or change anyone (except for hoping they will come to see that being open and kind is a much better idea than not being open and kind). My values go towards encouraging people be open and kind to one another. I looked up at the functions of FeNi and it kind of makes sense, though I'm about 50-55% on the extroverted/ introverted axis and still only slight preference for Judging over perceiving and slight preference for feeling over thinking. I'm kind of a mix. I like it when I am writing because I can really get into the heads of my story characters and hopefully understand a lot of people too.
I suspect my intuition is Ni, but it does have Ne like tendencies, but not quite. I don't jump from topic to topic, but more jump around within a single topic at a time. (think of it like branches off a single tree) When discussing whatever captivates my interest, I suspect it is really hard to tell me apart from an Ne user, other than you'll eventually get a near complete understanding of whatever I was talking about if you let me go unchecked. (A branch from the tree.) The exception of this is if you change subject on me and it isn't anything on my "tree" then I'll likely just listen and ask questions to form a tree of understanding to understand your ideas and help me to carry a conversation with you.
I'm pretty sure that I am an INFP. I may not be 100%, then again most people don't fit the molds of their types exactly, right? However, I am really confused as to how I am the way that I am in general, because when I was a child (probably about 8 and under) I was VERY VERY outgoing and energetic. I have no idea what happened, there was no big event or any sort of trauma, but all of a sudden I became very introverted, quite, and laid back and have since basically been what i am now, which I've typed through several different MBTI tests (and a lot of your videos lol) as an INFP, though I was much more socially anxious and shy back then than I am now (though I still struggle with social anxiety). I'm not sure if this mean I changed types somehow, which many people say isn't even possible, or if this means I'm not actually an INFP or something??? I don't know. I feel like I really identify with the descriptions of INFP, though I think I can be more logical and grounded when I need to be than is depicted in the typical INFP stereotype, and it honestly kind of scares/saddens me to think I might not be one :'D Do you have any possible explanations maybe?
i'm not the person your asking, but when you say it just happened and there weren't any traumatic experiences, were there any social reasons, like others telling you you should be quiet? Or perhaps some internal realization about the world?
another thought is maybe you just didn't feel the need to be outgoing, and became more adept to introverted calmness as you matured?
Just random information to keep in mind but when you turn 8-7 that is when your mind begins to develop more awareness and adult maturity. I feel this isn't uncommon for people in general. Its a major jump in your growth mentally and physically at this age before puberty.
Well.. by the way you write (with so many statemnts ending in ??? or 'is that possible??') Id say you were clearly an Ne user. If you were more outgoing earlier in life and also feel more logical and grounded... you could even consider ENFP.. as they are claimed to be the most introverted of extraverts. Fi in aux could explain how you're becoming more introverted over time..By the amount of open ended questions and statements in your post it would point to a strong Ne.. either Dom or Aux.
Also.. being scared to not be an INFP is not a very INFP quality in my experience haha... sounds like ideational attachment.. which is more ENFP that INFP. ENFP would want their idea of themselves to be true... wheras INFP would be quick to move on if a description didnt feel right. Also, ENFP has Te logic in the third slot, so they tend to be more evenly balance in being practical / logical and idealistic.
anyway! just my thoughts! take it with a grain or two of salt.
My mom says I was outgoing and wanted to be the center of attention before I started school then something happened and I became painfully shy and withdrawn.
The childhood change happened to me as well
INFP here and I had the big change as well... but i know it's because I let society get to me, I started realizing I didn't fit in to normal society and started being/feeling extremely self-conscious and retreated inward... it's been very very difficult to try to break out of that ever since... once you red-pill it's hard to have that past innocent blissful mindset again because you're hyper aware of everything... that's where I've been at since
I cant remember of you touched on this or not. As infps develop, you will begin using some of your shadow functions depending on your career, life experiences or to help you function socially. Which can be confusing. I just commented on another video about this. As I stopped being overly conscientious and learned to trust myself more, I ended up developing Ni and Fe and leaning on it more often. I am still very much an infp. I no longer doubt myself though unless I'm thrown into change or a transition I didn't anticipate. Also wearing my infp loud and clear for everyone to see can turn me into a target and in some situations it's best for me to wear a mask
Any INFPs out there who is the therapist for everyone?
I feel SO MUCH MORE like an infp after watching this video. Your guys views make much more sense to me
INFP here… i prefer one on one or small crowds and alone time. Making friends isn’t hard for me it’s just i don’t seek having them, nor do i need them. Quality over quantity. If we share similar interests and passions that is the easiest way for me to open up and express and communicate or else i am quiet, reserved and observant listening to everyone else learning their state of mind and how they tick and are who they are. This helps me to internalize and develop my own inner world and who i am from many perceptions, but creating who i am by the values that i cultivate and hone to harmonize my authentic identity with integrity. Due to a Deep wish to learn, grow, become the best i can be? Integrity and building strong moral values is very important to i so that i can be my best self and have a more secure and strong Truth of who i am and my convictions. The shadows that i courageously move through help i to understand others and put myself in their shoes to hold empathy and compassion… i will be kind because it is who i am, but when i feel like i am being taken advantage of or not taken seriously i tend to assert myself in a more blunt and cold way…either way i am genuine in my expression and i truly desire to be an example of what is morally correct…i Am open to broadening my value system IF it Feels correct… This doesn’t mean other’s have to be how i am or see it my way, but for me to change my views and values they have to have a strong meaning and moral integrity for me to grow and embrace them or else GodSpeed and Much Love to another view point, ill agree to disagree, namaste
I’m curious on what you think of these definitions of introversion vs extroversion. I have two definitions, which do you agree most with and are either of them actually good to determine if you’re more extroverted or introverted.
Extroversion is focusing your attention outward.
Introversion is focusing your attention inward.
That’s my first one, here’s my second.
Extroversion is focusing on the external world.
Introversion is focusing on your inner world.
Yeah they’re basically the same thing.... what do you think of them though?
Omg I knew you were the INFP because you kept looking at the kittykins ^_^ 😸 cuz I do that same sorta eye movement in conversation. I love animals ❤
firstly when I found out I'm an INFP ,I was happy finding out where I belong... before i was just trying to find out who I was and finding out made me really proud of myself
I'm pretty sure that I'm an INFP, and I fully agree that I can't actually relate to a lot of the INFP descriptions that we are all rainbows and unicorns. I can be really idealistic when it comes to the few things I care about, believing that I'll have it my way and needing to have an absolute sense of certainty, but I'm extremely cynical in many other ways, and can turn people off by my cynicism.
I generally don't share many of my feelings easily, unless I'm in a desperate situation and just feel the need to talk for the sake of it. I definitely tend to view things from the way I feel about them and how they fit into my own system of values (no matter how lacking they may be in justification / realism), rather than how they actually are. As an Introverted feeler, it's actually hard for me to become emotional unless I can personally relate to it. I also have no trouble cutting people off when I view them as incompatible with me, when I don't see much long-term potential in engaging with them, and when I've been repeatedly hurt / offended / abused. I won't cause a scene, I will quietly slip out the door without them knowing. I don't like conflict and drama, which is why I tend to ghost.
I grew up in a very difficult and morally devoid environment, but the few who have gotten to know me are surprised, and intrigued at how I've managed to maintain such a strong sense of right and wrong despite not having any real role models. I can't tell you why, I just know, I just feel. As a guy, I'm also very upset at how society measures so-called masculinity in ways that I know, go against who I fundamentally am. I hate being told 'because you are a guy, you should be so and so.'
As a kid, I liked spending time around adults more than other children, and some of my teachers thought I was 'anti-social' (note, not the personality disorder). I liked lecturing adults on right and wrong, and was sometimes called a 'little adult.' I tend to have strong repulsion towards certain foods, smells, sounds, and other things, but I can't come up with a reason for why I feel the way I do about those things.
I cried a lot when I was younger, even when subjected to just a bit of criticism from anyone. As I grew older and started finding myself, I've replaced this tendency to shed tears with an internally cold indifference. I know who I am, and I don't need to be told what to do. You have no right to change me before you even understand me, and even when you do, I won't necessarily listen to anything you're saying, though I have a hard time expressing disagreement for the sake of conflict avoidance and unnecessary drama.
My mind's all over the place, and I like think a lot more about things rather than getting anything done. Some have commented that I seem to be off in my own world, rather than being in touch with the real world. However, it's not like I will let just about anyone into the depths of my inner world. I may share bits, or I may share nothing. Very few people will ever have anything resembling a full picture.
This was a fascinating video. I remember taking the test for the first time in psych class in 2004 (studying Please Understand Me.. had to look up the title of the book because I forgot). The instructor insisted the type we got that day will ALWAYS be our type. I didn't accept that and over the years re-took it several times to check that I still got the same. INFP. I've always felt like maybe I didn't truly understand myself enough to answer the questions right. Haha In the last few years as I've finally really gotten more interested in truly studying the cognitive functions (not just taking the test), I've seriously considered I might be an ISFP. I can't decide on Ne/Si or Se/Ni. But I enjoyed this video. Some examples you gave really hit home - the "pretty dream journal" example (I love the IDEA of beautiful planning and Journaling but never can get to carrying it out.. And it kills me because I feel creative & capable and I want to, but I just don't stick with it). Also how you described what could be perceived as "empathy" really just being me feeling bad for causing a problem for someone (I think it actually may be out of selfish need to be liked/appear good). Also always trying to re-type myself. Among other things. Fascinating video!
Most of the time I think I have empathy but I started to realize it's just overwhelming guilt about everything lmao. I can feel guilty for breathing sometimes.
Most people describe me as sweet and reserved or sometimes even cold so I don't really understand what people see in me anymore haha
This is a great video. I actually have questioned the first letter in particular. Actually the Fi is more prominent than the Ne for me. Another interesting misconception is that an I personality won’t talk much. I do to particular people. Throw me in a gathering with few people I know and watch me die on the inside. I hate small talk, preferring deeper conversations with people. We are an awkward fit in so many professions. I hate the need to document and produce/manufacture silly evidence for things.
People sometimes see introverts acting in an extroverted way. The difference is that INFP are so aware others are watching them and they hate the attention. Like they feel morally wrong for stealing the show and actively look for ways to shift the attention to others. As if the extroversion was simply a way to help others open up.
That Ne hits _hard_
Throughout the years, I thought I was:
INFP
INTP
ENTP
ENFP
INFP again
INFJ
INTJ
ENTJ
ESFP
INFP again
ENFP again
ENTP again
INFP _again_
ISTJ
ESTJ
INFP _agAIN_
ISFP
...and now I'm back to INFP... already the start of this video was super relatable
INFP 4w5 here. Have questioned my type before, but have taken several different tests and always get the same result... honestly don't understand why you would WANT to be an INFP. Sometimes feels like a curse
When I first started getting into MBTI, I figured I was an ISFP and my little brother was an INFP, but when we’d take MBTI tests, the results were always the other way around. I thought that was weird because I never considered myself as kind and idealistic as an INFP, I figured my brother fit that role much better.
A good example of this is, back in high school, the lunch lines were too long and lunch breaks were too short, so I always ran to lunch as fast as I could so I wouldn’t have to wait as long, after I graduated and my brother started high school, I heard that every day he held the lunch door open for everyone else. I was proud of him, because he was being nicer than I ever was.
Sorry, I got off topic. Anyway, a lot of the stuff said in this video does sound kinda accurate to me in some way so I might be an INFP.
I once had an old friend of mine take the MBTI test a few times and he always got ENFJ, I’m pretty sure that can’t be right because ENFJs are always described as generous, caring and motherly, while said friend of mine was more of a manipulative cocky jackass with a superiority complex. (Suffice it to say I don’t hang out with him as much as I used to, nor do I agree that my type is in any way compatible to his.)
Another friend, I was able to guess easily, but she’s an ENFP and those tend to be easier to recognize.
i like being an infp... i’ve learned to not let others control me (emotionally and physically) so i’m totally content with how i am haha
When you don't want to be an INFP....then you know you're an INFP
I came across this video thinking I was an ESTJ and still think I'm an ESTJ, but I'm looking at my tertiary Ne through a different lens now. I used to think I was an ESTJ with really strong Ne, but what you said about mistaking my Si for Ne seems to make way more sense and is really quite relatable. Thanks so much for that insight.
Learned a lot. Thank you. Comfortable being an INFP! Great vids!
Great video, the way I know I'm an INFP is because everything I do is done through my subjective Fi lens and it goes straight to my values. If I don't care about something you are going to have to convince me to care. I won't show it visibly on my face because I've learned its better to hide it (so I don't hurt their feelings too much) but I will tune out and just say "that's great..." and move on. If ou have a strong developed Te you are literally a force to be reckoned with, you will be extremely opinionated and willing to back it up through action and making a project happen. I developed mine through the military and so that Fi - Te axis is what convinced my I was an INFP.
That cat randomly being in the image caused me to laugh inwardly. Its so random XD
It obviously has meaning behind it though.
Like cats chase yarn like the Ne chases ideas.
And the rolling of a yarn ball can symbolize the rolling around of thoughts in the INFP mind.
The wool can symbolize connections.
The cat chases these ideas and connections that would be reflected in the symbol of a yarn ball.
@Causal Cognition
Its pretty frustrating really. Like in creative works, burn out is terrible. I have to pump up all the work i can because one day something doesn't feel right and completely destroys my productivity.
I got infp-t and this video is highly confusing but I'm willing to learn everything about this now. I'm invested so there's no going back lol
I have a theory that INFP and ENFP are mostly libras, but it depends on what you have more in your natal chart, as water and earth signs make you introverted, while fire and air signs can make you extroverted.
INFPs being procrastinators, trying to please others, kind of matches the description of libra (moon, sun, or any other personal planet).
I don't follow horoscopes, but I'm a fire sign, I'm an infp, and I'm really introverted.
Happy Birthday! Enjoyable and helpful video. Look forward to your others in this series and your Fi Fe one. Since your video last week on Prince I have been going though lots of Prince videos of performances and interviews to the point that I have turned into an INTJ. I am constantly questioning my type. Your videos are a lot of fun for me!
Is it weird that I LOVE *ME BEFORE YOU* movie. GOSH. SO MUCH *HEARTWHELMING* emotion
Zephdo TV I suggest you read the book! It’s even better!
When I first took the MBTI my result was INFJ, and recently I took some other tests just for conformation; and I tested INFP. I do feel like mistyping can happen alot, you have to research quite a bit to gather an idea of what fits. I relate so much to both, but when it comes to functions I feel like I relate more to INFJ. I love the videos you guys make about micro-expressions and body language. Having the visuals definitely helps.!
ISFP previously considered myself ENFP(sometimes INFP). I am a master at procrastination. But there is One thing being absent minded and being an actual INFP. I have add so me being absent minded is something common. But my best friend is INTP and The difference between her an actual intuitive and me an absent minded dreamy sensor is huge. Like she asked me where do i plan to live when grow up(We’re 16) i’m like “on earth”. She knew since kindergarten she wants to be a doctor and still wants. I had 10 different career options. I feel like i worry too much she worries 10 times as much as me. Actually all my worries and doubts are induced by her and my ENFJ mother and my INTJ father.We were once on a school trip One month before Maths exam. Our Math teacher brought us on a study trip. I Stayed in room with her and two ESFJ friends. We partied the whole night like there was no tommorrow and we paid no attention to classes. She was very cautious and slept on time. She also uses a much more complex language than i do. I do engage in conversation about theories and abstract but she is The One that actually initiates those things. I’m more like “What did Kardashian did today” and “what song did i learn”(i’m a huge artist).
Also while i’m sensitive and love helping people i’m not empathetic and i actually give good advice though Even if i prefer distracting people from their problems. Like once a friend broke up with her ex and i suggested her to go to the club and have fun(i like playing the therapist sometimes but too much drains me)
I am actually too materialistic and drawn to aesthetic to be an INFP
I do read too much about things and then decide on them though. At least that’s how i feel as an ISFP who hates theory😂😂
I know I'm infp because when I saw the description the inner critical voice telling me to be rational and strong that I developed over the years tried to convince me that I wasn't/shouldn't be infp because it makes me "weak".
Now I'm realizing that this is the key to develop my strengths and accept who I am
A part of being INFP is to know that it is not easy and not something to be proud of...we are happy to meet people who are the same and don't hope that they will learn (through our judging), that they are actually not INFP...we trust them!!
I just did another type test today because I was sure I wasn't an INFP but sure enough, the results came back INFP. OK, that is about 10 in a row. So hard to believe that some people actually want to be this type.
I cant imagine enjoying having all the emotions and feelings and ACTING on them. They are there, in the background, and I have them, but as an INFP, I dont enjoy having them, especially living with and INTJ, I would love to be more focused in the logic, but it just doesn't work...
"oh i can definitely see that" thats INFP 😂 self doubters sometimes but when you know you know and it can seem like an extroverts confidence.
Girl on the left: One can not understand you very good.
I doubt my type thinking i am intp idk why i question alot
also 1 question i can feel pain deeply of someone like i can't control my tears and imagine to help them irl...but sometimes i feel like i wasn't able to feel pain of others if i don't feel emotional you know
Why though ...?
It seems like INTPs actually fit the stereotype of the INFP a lot. Opposing Fe dosen't mean we are emotionless, quite the opposite. It means we try, and often fail, to be mediators and empaths. It's why we can often be so bashful and often shy. Its almost as if we use Fe to esxape it. We play to outside expectations in order to be ourselves, all without giving any semblance of care to Te structures. Often times, we favor our personal logic over our desire to connect with and serve others. Not to mention, considering our Fe is connected with Ne, we may actually have a very large, interconnected perception of the objective emotional and moral world if others, just like how To is connected with Si, which is like the Eye of Sauron gazing at a single point in our internal world, which contributed to our fiercely logical side.