I am literally crying here at work watching this! Finally people that understand me. I am 28 and my whole life I have been shamed and laughed at for my INFP traits. Especially for my sensitivity and caring to much. I been shoved into the mold of an unfeeling clone that is just average and ordinary like everyone else, because and I quote "you have to fit in with the rest of the world". I always thought there was something wrong with me. Thank you for your guys understanding comments, I feel like you guys are my brothers and sisters in the troubles of the INFPs of the world.
Whoa I'm sorry you've had to endure that! I feel the same -- it can be so frustrating at times knowing I feel different than the everyday person. I get overwhelmed with these things so easily. When I feel this way, I focus on what two very iconic INFPs would think, Kurt Cobain and Johnny Depp. They certainly had and do embrace their interesting characteristics
I know it's been 7 months but I just wanna say something: Don't ever try to fit into anything. Don't let society or people destroy your individuality. You're yourself and... well... You're an INFP and that makes you pretty special and quirky. Don't let people tell you what you should be. Even if it's hard, even if it's REALLY hard. There are people out there who will understand you and it's just a matter of time before you find them.
Procrastinating..... yep that’s me and it sucks. What also sucks is not being able to draw because I suck at drawing but got so many ideas and creativity that I can’t express by drawing
Look u get me. I get so scared drawing bc it looks horrible but I follow all these art accounts and think about ways I would improve their art but knowing I cant bc I cant make beautiful art
dude I am the exact same. I guess the best way to express our creativity is by something else. By that it may not be painting, but like building, designing, music. I am pretty useless with most of them, except building, which mainly involves being outside with the flowers :P
Concerning conflict: sometimes we don't avoid. Sometimes we just explode (after taking a lot of crap). And people seem to be surprised because we never behaved before in such a way.// Regarding self-exposure: many, many years ago what I wanted was to be famous - as long no one knew who I was, lol. Weird, right? Took a lot for me to make a youtube channel as well.
@dunyazade, Haha! In the past, I was performing in front of people and as they got excited and gave me praise, it always felt awkward, almost embarrassing (like: oh really, it was not THAT special, but well... thanks anyway - I suppose). I then came to the conclusion that this could all be great, as long as nobody ever recognised me. I also think about writing, but I doubt that what I write would be of big relevance. I even tend to think about deleting this very comment right now. xD
Yes we do explode. But it takes alot to get us to that point. U have behave really cruel to us(feelings wise) and hurt us deeply to the point we feel were backed against a wall
Yes! We can explode! I was a performer in my late teens and early 20's. Wanted to be famous to and I was well on my way until I had a fall out with my dance partner. Resulted in heavy depression...never been on a stage since then.
Trice M jeez, yes I had a thing where someone was mad for loosing some games and somehow thought it was a good idea to piss me off because I almost NEVER speak back and just let it be and we'll he did it so long to the point where I just raised my voice and just said: 'dude you're really pissing me off atm' and that was that. It is literally the only moment I can remember where I got loud 😂😂
stephen mentze Oh you're not alone, that is very relateable. I had a friend who did so much crap to our other friend and i and even after I said I'd stop holding a grudge (she decided to come back and hit our friend with all this crap and rudeness) I completely blew up on her. Every time I even think about or see her my blood starts boiling and my heart beats faster than ever. I almost feel like some kind of rabid animal.
Literally me, I've said some horrible things in highschool because i was generally a mean natured person but people found my mean comments okay, maybe even funny, I've changed since highschool but sometimes i slip a mean comment here amd there and it shocks people
As an INTJ, I admire INFPs for their desire to make absolutely everyone happy but at the same time having the courage to draw a line in the sand and stand up for their values when push comes to shove. I try to make everyone happy until someone tries to hurt my friends then it’s insta game over for that person. The few INFPs I know feel similarly. I dunno if mebbe they are just abnormal INFPs but that is a quality I admire in anyone and from my experience it is prevalent in INFPs.
You are great, self promotion is a hard one. The biggest turn off is fake people I feel fake when I self promote. Getting over it I want people to see my work.
Sarah E Welty Good on you!! That's actually a really amazing thing you're doing. I'm right there with you with my feelings, but I assure you, you're definitely not fake ❤
I think all the types expect other types to be able to do the things we do for others and we are always hoping for this validation from other people no matter what our strengths but the reality is no one is going to be able to know how amazing you are as yourself! NO one can compete with how INFPs make others feel, so I would not so humbly suggest you guys practice making yourself the protagonist in your imagination and just treating yourself as well as you treat others. You are so modest it comes across as fake because most people don't understand that as a possibility.
The hardest part of being and INFP for me always feeling like I’m misunderstood. It’s greatly my fault because I don’t really speak my truth upfront and then end up resenting people for situations I put myself in because of my “go with the flow” nature, just to avoid conflict. I’m working on that now that I’m aware. Thanks for sharing 😆
Humility is not a weakness, arrogance is. Arrogance and confidence are also not one and the same, period. Confidence and humility are not mutually exclusive, so do not listen to anyone who says otherwise. It is always better to be humble in your approach to something, and confident about the process. I'd say you do exactly that in each video you share with us. You've much to be proud of; you have a family, you've a solid grasp on *who* you are and what you want to do in life, and you regularly reach out to share your experiences and connect with those like you around the world. This speaks volumes about you as a person and I appreciate your perspective greatly, as it illuminates my own as a male INFP. You not only describe each major obstacle I've seemed to face, exactly... But you've made strides towards overcoming them and offer insight to those of us who may struggle. Please continue to share at your leisure, as this was a very uplifting video.
Disco Swigginz Thank you for your very positive message. It's a challenge in itself to be able to take my walls down and show the world. After doing this video I thought to myself "damn, I'm crazy". There were aspects of it I wanted to leave out, but I chose to leave them in. I've chosen to express myself in this very exposing way because I want to help others feel comfortable in being who they are. I'm sick of seeing false images of reality portrayed on social media. A lot of people tend to only glorify the really, really fabulous parts of their lives. For others looking in, a lot of comparing can go on, and it can actually lead to depression. It's wise not to get caught in that cycle, and that's why I grit my teeth and take my walls down. I want to show others that it's OK to not have it "all together" whatever that means 😂 I appreciate your stance on humility and arrogance. Showing compassion and being OK about being humble is a very strong trait. That's something I aspire to be :)
As a new member in the MBTI community, my mind is blown! I totally relate to everything you said! My life would have been so less complicated if I would have known these things when I was a teenager . . . Finding out why I am the way I am is empowering and inspiring- THANKS!
I today litterly just found out I'm apparently an INFP, I didn't know what this was yesterday but I read about it, and it completely explains me, I have actually not gone to a normal school in a year now due to the fact that it was too draining and boring for me, I couldn't handle sitting in the classroom to up to 7 hours hearing about stuff I didn't really care for, I'll be going to a photograph school soon though as my last year and I'm looking forward to it, I love taking photo's and sharing them, I also love writing in my spare time but personally I don't think I'm that good at it, before I knew all about INFP I thought I was the only one who loved to be alone or walk a long walk in the forest alone and such but I'm so glad that a lot of people actually do that, makes me feel like I finally belong in a group instead of thinking I was the only one who was like this.
GreenQueen, omg that is me! I`ve also only completed a handful of them. It drives my oldest brother absolutely crazy lol. He`s constantly saying, "What the heck is the matter with you." "That`s not normal." "How can you not finish them." etc... I`ve tried to explain to him that, for me, I can only play a game until I am satisfied (gotten it out of my system) or until something else (and at times that can be another game ;) pulls my attention away, which far more often than not happens before I finish the game; and once that desire is gone I can`t keep playing because I will not enjoy it at all.
Yeah, it's so hard to focus. It's a double-edged sword for me because I get so many awesome creative ideas constantly but then I can't really focus enough to finish pretty much any of them. And then I fear that if I do do something awesome then lots of people will want to interview me or have me speak at some big convention to talk about my work and the thought of it just makes me want to hide in a dark corner.
Personally, I'd say Ne is my 'favourite' function, as it makes me the most happy in general, gives me creativity and imagination, and doesn't come with many downsides.
I just wanted to say that I really loved this video! I'm a young INFP and I found this video to be comforting as strange as that sounds. As an INFP yourself I'm sure you know the feeling all too well of feeling detached or different from a lot of people, from society in general I think. Well that's how I feel at least, like I belong nowhere. So to hear you speak so openly about some of your personal struggles that was so cool to me - it literally felt like you had stolen the words straight from my head. I guess it's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm 21 but I still feel and look like I'm 16 and I just keep resisting 'growing up'. I've been out of school a few years and I'm struggling so hard with finding work/a profession that suits me. I've been fired a couple of times and told a lot that I'm not doing well or I need to change. I don't really know what to do:/ but I really enjoyed this video and I plan to watch all your videos haha; cuz I think they will give me hopefully a bit more clarity
I find it is easier to get through the mundane tasks that don't require my mind if I put my phone (playing You Tube, or audio books, or music) in a fanny pack that I put on and hooking up headphones (so I can hear through running water etc.) and that way occupying my mind with things that are interesting to me while I do these tasks. Of course, I realise you can't when you are watching out for your children, but maybe when they start going to school or are older and don't need your attention so much. I find this very helpful. I also understand what you said about writing things down as a way of explaining yourself if there is a conflict or something that you need to really explain what your intentions are or what you mean. My greatest fear though is that they won't read it, or they won't pay attention to it while they read it, because that has happened to me. Another thing I have done is to write a letter or points I want to make and read it to the person while I was with them. I found that to be pretty helpful too. And then maybe a clearer conversation can follow. But I understand about your mind going blank especially when someone is judging you harshly or there is a conflict that you feel is caused by a misunderstanding. It's very hard. Especially if that person has a very strong and unyielding personality.
I think its massively courageous for you to put yourself out there on camera and make these youtube videos. I’m an INFP too and I couldn’t do it. It takes far more courage for us to do it than most other people realise. You helped me to understand myself better. Thank you
I just found your videos. Let me tell you that I didn’t know there are people that experience life the same way I do. Thank you for sharing and helping me realize that there is nothing wrong with me. ❤️
You made some great points here Lex. Towards the end of the video you talked about stepping up to promote yourself...... which I congratulate you on.... my challenge is..... promoting myself. I would love to be a tall poppy and its time I worked on that. Thanks for the reminder XX
PLEASE READ THIS ONE.....IT IS GOOD......I cannot tell you how much I deeply relate to these. It is like you are speaking on my behalf here. Really. Wow. um.... I just want everyone I know who doesn't "get" me, to watch this video. Maybe, maybe hearing it from you in this way, they can start to understand me a little. I am literally brought to tears right now. You are so inspiring to me. Deep deep gratitude for you. Thank you. My husband is a Kiwi. Perhaps when I come to NZ next time we could meet ?? If that is meant to be it will happen. I'll just leave it at that. Anyway, thank you so much for making this video.
Same! I finally feel understood, and I just wish that the people I love would take the time to watch this or listen to me and at least try to understand the way I am.
I have never felt so understood in a video. I especially feel you when you were talking about blanking out in arguments and writing down everything you want to say and giving it to that same person later. That's why I have a journal/diary; it holds all of my deepest and greatest thoughts that I can just dive into whenever I wish. That and being a Peacemaker. I hate being around conflicts and grew up in a dysfunctional family and that really irks me. I want to do better and be a better version of myself, but I keep finding it so freakin' hard because I hate this planet and don't really want to be apart of this messed up society. I'm an outcast almost everywhere I go and desperately desire to find to find someone I can talk to and truly resonate with so I can finally Collapse from emotional Exhaustion. I constantly find myself shutting myself away from everything and immersing myself in my inner-world because I constantly feel misunderstood and like I don't fit in Anywhere. It's part of why I left my job and haven't started working, again. I know that so many people have told me to get out of my own head and stop making excuses, but they really don't get it. I just really wish those same people genuinely understood what being an INFP is like. And I don't mean to insinuate that in a way like a sort-of excuse or that I'm better than others. Jesus, this got way lengthier than I meant for it to be.
Nothing is gonna change if you dont go out into the real world,dont get me wrong i love being inmersed in my inner world,even is one step it still something,i started to speak up and it feeld amazing when you are confident in yourself,we are weird unique in on our way but no ones is not gonna notice you if you dont something diferent
8:17 I shed a tear hearing this because it’s so darn true.. I always thought I lacked the communication skills because simply, what’s in my head is just too much to be put into words. I broke up with someone not so long ago and this was one of the reasons why. They didn’t like arguing over texts and I always thought that it was so much easier for me to just take the time and right down how I felt(although still not exactly what’s on my mind) and I just HATE not being able to convey my feelings and my truest intentions to someone. It feels so helpless and it sucks.. thank you for making this video. Thank you.
It was so good to meet you. I rarely meet another INFP. I just love your accent and your creative colorful style. Thank you for taking the time to put yourself out there for us. I really appreciate that.
I have been watching your videos non stop..your talking about the 'real' challenges that us that are INFP'S are facing that no one else is on UA-cam. Our minds/life are spot on the same...freaks me out and love it!
My wife told me I was an INFP, I took the test and that’s exactly what I am. Weird. I wish I knew what this meant before my brutal life of bad decisions. I’m an artist and a peacemaker, yet I’ve found myself on a combat tour in Afghanistan, working sales jobs I hated, with the wrong people, and I’ve found myself divorced with custody of 3 overly intelligent wild kids. I’m the worst procrastinator ever because I’ve realized it pays off. So many thing I put off turned out to be not needed and not important. I know exactly what everyone around me is feeling and I hear every conversation in a room. I have uncontrollable moments of mind reading type of psychic experiences of just knowing what’s going to happen. I stay out of the public now that I’m a grandfather. I once had thousands of friends but their opinions and lack of open minds makes me avoid them all. I have no enemies, not even all my narcissist ex’s. I’m prone to addictions and I’m prone to suddenly kick them. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, but I think that’s just a trait of a curious driven person so I never medicated for it, legally. I’m prone to depression sometimes, I don’t sleep and I over think everything. Usually my instinct will over ride my thinking fortunately. I wish I knew earlier that it’s normal to be social yet to dip out of parties fast as possible and it’s normal for INFP to feel alone, lost, confused and searching for answers. I’m a man with all traditional female qualities of nurturing, intuition, empathy and compassion. I hate sports and competition and I hate conflict even tho I’ve been immersed in it for a lifetime. All in all, INFP personality in a man who is involved with traditionally masculine jobs, is a rough life full of lessons. I guess that’s the point and I wouldn’t change a thing. Especially the not belonging feeling. Who wants to belong to such a cruel society? I just want to learn things, create things that can make life better for people and be left alone until I’m outta here.
You're daughter is so cute by the way! This is my third comment! I usually have a very hard time feeling confident enough to expose my thoughts, and thinking that all my expressions aren't just useless, but I just feel so at home here!
Omfg your list is me! I have been trying to finish a book since I was 11. I want excitement and am feeling so trapped where I am. In tons of debt because I was trying to help ex's who just ended up using and abusing me until I had nothing left to offer. It makes me feel so drained and upset. In and out of high stress jobs that I just caaan't do because I'm there doing my very best and in some way or another it is never good enough. Thank you for this video.
When you talked about sensitivity it hit me down real hard.. I cried.. For so long I hated my sensitivity, I wished I was different, no one apreciated it.. But I have stsrted to love it, and I know I have a great purpose for having that sensitivity. It just made me so confortable to know there is someone who feels like me.. I dont have something wrong with me anymore, thank you ❤
I've always struggled with my sensitivity. I've always been a worrier and an overthinker. It sucks when people don't accept that side of you when it is a result of genuine care. I now realise that our sensitivity is a gift and not something that's to be looked down upon. Without sensitive people, we might find the world a lot more colder and unbearable than before.
I am an INFP and I would feel the same way about hurtful comments. I would look at them from every angle, question if they could be true, weigh them and dissect them. I think for your own protection you should have someone monitor the comments and filter out the junk for you. I enjoy your insights, keep up the good work.
Well holy hell if this isn't the most relatable video I've ever watched. Pretty much sums me up as an INFP This video made me feel kinda good, despite feeling like crap these past few weeks. In a way it made me relax, understand and accept who I am.
You're such a sweetie! Thank you for your videos. You do such a great job with them! Its so nice to hear an INFP talk about things that we normally get ripped on for. The world is a better place because you are in it. You are beautiful inside and out! You are awesome!
You're doing so well. I can see how hard you work and it resonates. Some of the other content while true doesnt have your personal touch. I like the way you clarify things. Youre a great mother and a good friend. ❤
Wow, i really resonate with you Lex, especially of overthinking & being too critical and sensitive on oneself; wonderful video and keep your head up ^^
Thank you for making this video Lex. I am an INFP who struggles with everything you talked about, but also struggle figuring out what I struggle with! Thanks for articulating some common INFP thoughts. :-)
Totally relate to everything especially procrastination and self promotion. This line speaks to me on a-whole-nother level. "If we're not inspired by something good luck getting us to do it."
4:17 - 4:23 Oh my gosh, I'm the Master Procrastinator. I hate it! 4:50 That is so true! I need to FEEL that it's inspiring to really be gung-ho about it. The problem is that if I don't jump on the project immediately, I'll lose that feeling, and then the project never gets a second chance. And, hahaha. Your daughter at the end, and at the beginning of the video, was a pleasant and amusing surprise. Cheers! I'm INFP by the way.
When it comes to conflict, I always deal with it impassively. You know, walking away because it's tiring and because I know that no matter what I say, it'll never register on the other persons thick head.. I have a lot of patience, but when I get to the point that I've had enough, I explode. Like really explode.. And that, scares everyone around me a lot..
Lex I just found your channel! Thank you for sharing I love it and am understanding so much more about myself and others as INFP🥰 I love your style and accent you are gorgeous x
Thank you for talking about putting your passion out there and your feeling about not wanting to appear egotistical. That’s exactly how I worry just putting anything on Facebook. I want to share creativity but worry that I comes across as “Look at me and my wonderful ,whatever it is” Finally realising I can be and INFP and have others out there like you who just get us.
You know no matter how much I love and accept INFP, I would never wish this personality on anyone. Life would be so much easier If I couldn't see all these colors. -weary and broken INFP
UA-cam recommended this video to me at the right time. I resonate so strongly with everything you've said and I dunno if it's just because I feel overwhelmed with life at the moment. Ahhhh, cried way too much. I need to learn to love and appreciate the way I am and do my best, at my own pace, to become a better me... And I really can't wait to quit this job that is draining the life out of me.
I am so happy that I found this channel, I am a 22 year old male INFP. I always felt alone in these struggles growing up. This video was very retrospective for me. Keep putting out great videos.
awww 🙀💓 INFP girls are sooo cute 💕❤ .. I've been always wondering 😂 as an INFP how would an INFP girl thinks, speaks n expresses her feelings like .. this is so cuute m barely holding my tears rn 😭💜💜 .. n besides all of that you're actually describing a lot about me too somehow!! that's beautifully scary 😂❤ .. like i didn't know how much things INFPs have in common .. i kept noticing a lot of beautiful details in this vid ❤❤ .. starting from your daughter's intro 😍😍 .. have a good day
You look so beautiful!!! Love your earrings and top! :) I relate so much to ALL these challenges! I'm also a lone wolf, I am 18 years old, so I'm just starting out in life. I'm about to go to college to study Science Laboratory Technology, however I did want to study Digital Media Design, my parents talked me out of it since there's no money in it, but I feel like a job where I can be creative would make me so much happier... Anyway, I hope I'm not making a mistake, because really I don't know who's right anymore... I don't like to self-promote either. I'm a big procrastinator, in highschool I almost never did homework on time and always procrastinated on studying. I really dislike the mundane everyday real life things - like work, and school... I want to be creative and create, but this procrastination is really getting the best of me.
Awww, hon. I'm sending you all the love and hugs. This has really hit me to the fullest. I actually teared up because I'm thinking "HOLY CRAP, she hit the nail on the head." It feels so good to listen to your videos and watch them because I feel you described me to the T. I feel we would be good friends because I can relate to every aspect of what you just said. lol. I know this video is old, but still, have a beautiful day Sunshine!
You've explained the conflict thing so well. I am exactly the same. I get overwhelmed or flooded quite easily because there's so much more going on in an INFP's brain than most other's in a conflict situation. We're trying to exactly express ourselves, trying not to hurt the other in the conflict and trying to frame the conflict so we won't get hurt; all while being completely overwhelmed and our brains literally won't work! Thank you so much for taking that risk and helping me to understand myself better. Never mind the strangers. 😀
Hi Lex, I understand the getting one's feelings hurt when there is negative energy or vibes. I also strive and want to be a peacemaker. I also identify with the plight of the INFP. After a lot of schooling and reflection, I'm grateful to be in my thirties. I'm starting to understand that we all carry our own bag of "crap/baggage." Sometimes we just need to allow people to own their own "crap/baggage" and not own/carry it for them. If they have a perception of you and give off bad vibes, that is for them to carry and own...it really has nothing to do with you, because it is their perception and story to own. Best Wishes to ALL the Highly Sensitive People in the world!!! Without us, there would be no justice or kindness in the world. Grateful to have been born this way...
Since listening to your videos recently, you often make me laugh! Finally, there is someone who can put into words the suffering and struggling I've gone through my whole life.
Just discovered your channel tonight & have been binge watching your vids a bit :P I'm an electronic music artist & deal with the same challenges of promoting myself, but the hardest part is facing constant rejection. Rejection is hard to deal with as an INFP but it's something you have to face infinitely in the over-saturated music market. (Record labels, promotion blogs, etc) I'm making progress and it's well worth it but it's still always hard to deal with
Omg I'm so excited to hear this because I've cried so many times because I don't understand why I can't just get up and do simple tasks, I was about to go see a psychiatrist
I have a book I wrote over 50 pages in back my Freshmen year of highschool after I finished the original draft and wasn't pleased with it. I'm not even a 1/4 of the way done with it. The original draft was only about 100 I think. I believe if we imagine something, it exists in a parallel reality. I could delve into them for hours. I wrote several prequel series to the book, and I planned on there being more afterwards. I still play it all out in my head to this day, reliving certain fights I've imagined between characters, not just from this book, but from all of my grade levels that I have implemented stories into. It's basically the story of my school life but heavily inspired by things like Dragon Ball and Mario and Zelda games. It would last 12 seasons, with each season being a grade level. Each one is fleshed out, actually based around real events that happened to me and others while in those grades, well, roughly, for a lot of the earlier seasons at least. I've literally created this massive imaginary universe inside of my head that is based off of my real life growing up. It is heavily action adventure, with some romance in the more mature grades and a lot of comedy, since my school years were hilarious. We even explore a crumbling parallel fantasy world in grade 11, and we save the universe from absolute destruction in the final 12th season. There are even several series within the series. I think about it all the time. The smaller books I have wrote are kind of like arcs to each season. The bigger ones, three huge ones set in grades 10, 11, and 12 would probably be the most ambitious things I have ever imagined with a lot of depth and character development as the characters grow up and transition through highschool, much like I really have. The conflicts get bigger and more serious gradually. The older grades are more based around the Dragon Ball action and fighting stuff, since I witnessed a lot of fights on the elementary playground, and the leader of a group of bullies is actually the main antagonist in the 5th season of my entire giant story. I am pretty lazy though. Plus, I would have to flesh it out more. There are some grades where I really don't have any villains or conflicts to work off of, so I would have to create my own, and I constantly go back and change things. In most shows and books that run for a long time, things start becoming stale after awhile, but since this is based off of my actual life, it keeps things going nice if I put more work into it. It's hard to come up with consistent and interesting plotlines, and also I feel that it borrows to heavily on things like Dragonball in the earlier grades 1-9 and too heavily on Zelda in grades 11-12. The main conflict in grade 10 is the book I still haven't finished, and I still think of things I'd like to change about it. I was always called the next Stephen King by all of my English teachers in school. One of them I wrote a series specifically for, and that series is a big part of grade 9 in my series. One of my short stories got an award. I really just realized how creative and lazy I am!
Thank you so very much..I seriously thought something is terribly wrong with me..until this video...there are so many like me....thank you..oh boy I go through all this challenges
Thank you, nice to hear your understanding. Ive been trying to figure me out quite awhile now, Ive listened and watched quite a few videos on INFP now and the way you present is very good, I understand and relate to what your saying very well. Im very passionate about my cars, I paint for a living, I try to share what I feel about what I have and the enjoyment it brings, but many people do not relate...
Conflict fucks me up because sometimes I will be hurt but I will act angry or make myself angry because I don’t want them to know I’m hurt. People say I have a temper but 99% of the time it’s because I’m super sensitive and people don’t understand that. I really don’t want to hurt people but if someone is saying things to me for no reason, I will get snippy with them. In conflict though sometimes I’ll start shaking like really bad... I can force myself to be very assertive but I’ll be emotionally wrecked internally. When I’m totally done with someone I just cut them out of my life in an instant... I just can’t take that shit at a certain point
Oh wow, I feel so connected and understand with what u are going through sister, 😊 as an INFP I really do have that challenges that I need to deal with every day. However I really appreciated ur self promote, because u can show us that we INFP are connected and same. The challenges that I am currently finding the right way to deal with is: “ I have 2 though in my mind. One is good and another one isn’t really that good. “However I wanted to change my result of my paper work 😅” ( I know it was not a really good way to get to the result that I wanted. ) however I didn’t know what to choose, so I tried Yes/No pick a card to decide what I should choose. Than after I got the answer I stick to it. However after a fews hour later I felt that I wanted to change my mind into accepting the fact that that was my result , and I have to accept and erase my 1st intentions away when I got a chance to do that . But!!! As I have a chance to erase that, my first mind set, seem to come back, n told me that it is ok, just let it be. Than I believe in that and didn’t erase it as my 2nd though told me, so yeah now everything has alr happen, the 1st idea won( not really that good idea dough 😅) and I stated to feel regret about not chowing the 2nd idea, also now I didn’t know that I should stick to which of the idea. 😪 it really is made me feeling kinda a bit unbalanced when this thing has not yet clearly decided which one is right 😬😐😑. Anyway this is my struggle, so thx q if u have read from the top til here, may u be blessed and not be confuse when u are making a decision 😊✌️💫
I wanna hug you, thanking for articulating this soooo well tht i wasn't able to.... I cry in every ur video. I hope it's not too weird and you can take it as a compliment (?) With love, From another INFP. :))
I'm an INFP, and so far I'm only on problem 3. Conflict, but I'm close to tears, because it's so relieving to relate so much to what you're saying. The only person I really talk to about my problems, where I can get over the anxiety of talking about my inner demons, is my sister, who suffers some of the same issues I do, but she handles situations diffrently than I do, and I don't believe she understands how I feel. How hard it is to just talk and not be able to write down and compose my thoughts. How it frustrating it is to search for the right words, and not be able to find them, and to feel as if the person you are so desperately trying to get to understand what your coming from, just isn't getting it. I think that is a main fator in me having anxiety over sharing my inner demons. So it is just, so relieving to hear someone talk about communication problems that are almost exactly the same as mine. Thank you for that.
I'm 24 and an INFP and I can't believe how accurate you were. Every point was so spot on for me. I'd like to share some of my creative abilities. I make beats, paint, sing and cook. These are all passions of mine but difficult for me is to accept those things and make them a forefront in life. I've been pressured all my life to get an actual job and profession ( probably cause I'm Indian). I feel so drained in everything I do school and work wise. You're so right, new and exciting things keep me grounded and motivated and inspired. I'm at a place where I'm older now and I'm scared that I'll be miserable for the rest of my life. Any INFPs in similar situations and have any advice for me?
Lol I'm used to being the one writing the paragraph long comment about my thoughts and opinions on a video, but this vid it just full of them. Another trait of INFP's perhaps? Makes sense since thinking things through seems to be a defining trait. Anyway, cool video. I didn't realize that INFP videos were a thing, but after watching a few, its nice to know I'm not the only one with this quirkiness. its both cool and a bit spooky to hear how much we INFP's have in common.
I agree that it's a good idea to write down stuff to get your feelings ordered and find out what it actually is you wanted to say - but I constantly fail with that within corporate environment. Even if I write mails that are precise and very on point, my boss absolutely hates me for almost everything I say. Up to the point that it was discussed in a public meeting, where they told me that either I will have to stop writing stuff like that or that those mails will go directly into the trash - like everything that is exceeding two lines of text. They even made fun of me for being inefficient with words and accused me of spreading verbal garbage. Well, it's difficult to express yourself if others take away your channels of communication. But: Got it - will stop asap, sry!
Loved this video! Recently found out that I am an INFP. On one side it is a little scary how much i relate to all the things you mention - but on the other side its is very interesting and nice to learn more about myself! love from Norway ❤️☃️
I laughed at "Not completing projects and procrastinating" this is literally the story of my life lol. Had to start forcing myself some deadlines when it came to deliver something by promising people an exact date and put that stress on my shoulders. The funny part is i have a degree in Project management thinking that it would helped me... well after the second class i knew i would get this degree only for the sake of having a degree cause holy crap i just wont change. But at gladly i had a class that helped me discovered the mbti test and it changed the game!
I think confrontations are tough because we are so reflective. I like to think things over before responding, to figure out where the other person is coming from, considering if any of what they are saying is something that can help me become a better person, and then forming a well thought out response that conveys exactly what I want to say. This takes time. I hate being put on the spot to respond immediately because I might pop off with something that I wouldn't say normally
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. The overthinking part and sensitivity part is definitely part of me. Since I was a young child I was always considered overly sensitive. Also, I had a friend tell me I analyze things too much and he is so right.
You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time but you cannot please all of the people all of the time. And often when they are not pleased, (and you’ve completed your 360 to check your own camp), then it is because of something within them. But even knowing this I am not sure I would be able to present my own videos. So, hats off to you for your bravery, Lex.
As an INFP I feel releive that I know I'm not alone,so happy that finally I can understand my self deeply because of this video,totally represent my thoughts and my feeling,as I can't explain them with words to speak.
Its one o clock here in our country but im realy glad to find this video and resonate with you everything describes me, and i also look up to people who are INFPs i was also shocked to know that the people i look up to are the same personality as I am. This is so cool thank you so much
As an INFP and new UA-camr I'm also finding that scrolling through new comments is the most anxiety inducing part of it. Even when it's happening I know the fear is stupid. Thankfully INFPs are perfectionists so we receive very little criticism regarding quality. We're still going to catch the occasional personal attack though, because it's the internet and some people are just angry people. Those attacks still sting and stick in my memory months later. Because INFPs take things too personally and deeply. But knowing that about myself helps me identify when I'm making that mistake. And that helps me shrug it off a little bit. But one thing I noticed is that I'm also utterly immovable from my values and individuality. So I try to channel that side of me when I'm reading comments or otherwise exposing myself to criticism. Before and during those times I will remind myself that what I made is rooted in my values with zero malicious intent. And therefore the only people who will get upset by it are the people who both disagree with my values and lack the character to disagree respectfully, and therefore are the people who need to get upset by it in order to identify their inferior values and begin the process of improving themselves. Why yes, my critic, you're morally reprehensible. You're welcome.
This is interesting. My wife is an INFP and the personality type has recently been really interesting to me because I'm learning a whole other perspective from her that's different from my own. She's able to detect and sense things I have a hard time seeing and understands people from a micro and marco level at the same time. Though she's very assertive lol. Won't do what she doesn't want to do.
I am literally crying here at work watching this! Finally people that understand me. I am 28 and my whole life I have been shamed and laughed at for my INFP traits. Especially for my sensitivity and caring to much. I been shoved into the mold of an unfeeling clone that is just average and ordinary like everyone else, because and I quote "you have to fit in with the rest of the world". I always thought there was something wrong with me. Thank you for your guys understanding comments, I feel like you guys are my brothers and sisters in the troubles of the INFPs of the world.
Whoa I'm sorry you've had to endure that! I feel the same -- it can be so frustrating at times knowing I feel different than the everyday person. I get overwhelmed with these things so easily. When I feel this way, I focus on what two very iconic INFPs would think, Kurt Cobain and Johnny Depp. They certainly had and do embrace their interesting characteristics
Avilia Lapin I totally understand
I know it's been 7 months but I just wanna say something: Don't ever try to fit into anything. Don't let society or people destroy your individuality. You're yourself and... well... You're an INFP and that makes you pretty special and quirky. Don't let people tell you what you should be. Even if it's hard, even if it's REALLY hard. There are people out there who will understand you and it's just a matter of time before you find them.
I just love you guys. - ENFP
Why can't we just all get together?! Why are we all so seperated? Ahhhh. That will be such a lovely day ☺
Infp; I never finish projects.
HELL YEAH KKKKKK
conner kirk never ever
Sad but true
I would finish but it will never be my best work I’m infp
TRUE
Procrastinating..... yep that’s me and it sucks. What also sucks is not being able to draw because I suck at drawing but got so many ideas and creativity that I can’t express by drawing
Keep practicing bro...you can do it..and do share with us some time
Look u get me. I get so scared drawing bc it looks horrible but I follow all these art accounts and think about ways I would improve their art but knowing I cant bc I cant make beautiful art
Same here buddy, can't draw...
dude I am the exact same. I guess the best way to express our creativity is by something else. By that it may not be painting, but like building, designing, music. I am pretty useless with most of them, except building, which mainly involves being outside with the flowers :P
i feel u ..i could never finish a painting i have 8 incomplete paintings because of the "tooo many" ideas and me getting bored easily
Concerning conflict: sometimes we don't avoid. Sometimes we just explode (after taking a lot of crap). And people seem to be surprised because we never behaved before in such a way.// Regarding self-exposure: many, many years ago what I wanted was to be famous - as long no one knew who I was, lol. Weird, right? Took a lot for me to make a youtube channel as well.
@dunyazade, Haha! In the past, I was performing in front of people and as they got excited and gave me praise, it always felt awkward, almost embarrassing (like: oh really, it was not THAT special, but well... thanks anyway - I suppose). I then came to the conclusion that this could all be great, as long as nobody ever recognised me. I also think about writing, but I doubt that what I write would be of big relevance. I even tend to think about deleting this very comment right now. xD
Yes we do explode. But it takes alot to get us to that point. U have behave really cruel to us(feelings wise) and hurt us deeply to the point we feel were backed against a wall
dunyazade I relate to taking crap and then suddenly exploding. I need to express my mind before I get so angry.
Yes! We can explode!
I was a performer in my late teens and early 20's. Wanted to be famous to and I was well on my way until I had a fall out with my dance partner. Resulted in heavy depression...never been on a stage since then.
Trice M jeez, yes I had a thing where someone was mad for loosing some games and somehow thought it was a good idea to piss me off because I almost NEVER speak back and just let it be and we'll he did it so long to the point where I just raised my voice and just said: 'dude you're really pissing me off atm' and that was that. It is literally the only moment I can remember where I got loud 😂😂
But as an INFP once I cross the threshold of feeling ok with hurting someone with my words.. I can do real damage. It’s a little disconcerting
stephen mentze Oh you're not alone, that is very relateable. I had a friend who did so much crap to our other friend and i and even after I said I'd stop holding a grudge (she decided to come back and hit our friend with all this crap and rudeness) I completely blew up on her. Every time I even think about or see her my blood starts boiling and my heart beats faster than ever. I almost feel like some kind of rabid animal.
OhNo - I can relate to that feeling (blood boiling and all).
Literally me, I've said some horrible things in highschool because i was generally a mean natured person but people found my mean comments okay, maybe even funny, I've changed since highschool but sometimes i slip a mean comment here amd there and it shocks people
Yeah. I can really do damage when pushed to that point. And after the smoke clears its the shame spiral i have to deal with.
And once u cross me, im done wit u for good
I will be 47 in two weeks and JUST found out I am an INFP. Your videos have really helped me to figure out how I tick. Thank you!
As an INTJ, I admire INFPs for their desire to make absolutely everyone happy but at the same time having the courage to draw a line in the sand and stand up for their values when push comes to shove. I try to make everyone happy until someone tries to hurt my friends then it’s insta game over for that person. The few INFPs I know feel similarly. I dunno if mebbe they are just abnormal INFPs but that is a quality I admire in anyone and from my experience it is prevalent in INFPs.
You are great, self promotion is a hard one. The biggest turn off is fake people I feel fake when I self promote. Getting over it I want people to see my work.
Sarah E Welty Good on you!! That's actually a really amazing thing you're doing. I'm right there with you with my feelings, but I assure you, you're definitely not fake ❤
I think all the types expect other types to be able to do the things we do for others and we are always hoping for this validation from other people no matter what our strengths but the reality is no one is going to be able to know how amazing you are as yourself! NO one can compete with how INFPs make others feel, so I would not so humbly suggest you guys practice making yourself the protagonist in your imagination and just treating yourself as well as you treat others. You are so modest it comes across as fake because most people don't understand that as a possibility.
Yes I hate going blank. As if everything I know just left my body and I lost my tongue 😣 Hate conflicts
i know this is 2 years ago.. but me too! right now, its one of the things i hate the most
The hardest part of being and INFP for me always feeling like I’m misunderstood. It’s greatly my fault because I don’t really speak my truth upfront and then end up resenting people for situations I put myself in because of my “go with the flow” nature, just to avoid conflict. I’m working on that now that I’m aware. Thanks for sharing 😆
Humility is not a weakness, arrogance is. Arrogance and confidence are also not one and the same, period. Confidence and humility are not mutually exclusive, so do not listen to anyone who says otherwise. It is always better to be humble in your approach to something, and confident about the process. I'd say you do exactly that in each video you share with us. You've much to be proud of; you have a family, you've a solid grasp on *who* you are and what you want to do in life, and you regularly reach out to share your experiences and connect with those like you around the world. This speaks volumes about you as a person and I appreciate your perspective greatly, as it illuminates my own as a male INFP. You not only describe each major obstacle I've seemed to face, exactly... But you've made strides towards overcoming them and offer insight to those of us who may struggle. Please continue to share at your leisure, as this was a very uplifting video.
Disco Swigginz Thank you for your very positive message. It's a challenge in itself to be able to take my walls down and show the world. After doing this video I thought to myself "damn, I'm crazy". There were aspects of it I wanted to leave out, but I chose to leave them in.
I've chosen to express myself in this very exposing way because I want to help others feel comfortable in being who they are. I'm sick of seeing false images of reality portrayed on social media. A lot of people tend to only glorify the really, really fabulous parts of their lives. For others looking in, a lot of comparing can go on, and it can actually lead to depression. It's wise not to get caught in that cycle, and that's why I grit my teeth and take my walls down. I want to show others that it's OK to not have it "all together" whatever that means 😂
I appreciate your stance on humility and arrogance. Showing compassion and being OK about being humble is a very strong trait. That's something I aspire to be :)
As a new member in the MBTI community, my mind is blown! I totally relate to everything you said! My life would have been so less complicated if I would have known these things when I was a teenager . . . Finding out why I am the way I am is empowering and inspiring- THANKS!
I today litterly just found out I'm apparently an INFP, I didn't know what this was yesterday but I read about it, and it completely explains me, I have actually not gone to a normal school in a year now due to the fact that it was too draining and boring for me, I couldn't handle sitting in the classroom to up to 7 hours hearing about stuff I didn't really care for, I'll be going to a photograph school soon though as my last year and I'm looking forward to it, I love taking photo's and sharing them, I also love writing in my spare time but personally I don't think I'm that good at it, before I knew all about INFP I thought I was the only one who loved to be alone or walk a long walk in the forest alone and such but I'm so glad that a lot of people actually do that, makes me feel like I finally belong in a group instead of thinking I was the only one who was like this.
6:15 And this why I have like twenty books going on at once. I always get asked to focus but I just CAN'T. LOL
For me, it is video games. I have finished maybe a handful but I just can't either
GreenQueen, omg that is me! I`ve also only completed a handful of them. It drives my oldest brother absolutely crazy lol. He`s constantly saying, "What the heck is the matter with you." "That`s not normal." "How can you not finish them." etc... I`ve tried to explain to him that, for me, I can only play a game until I am satisfied (gotten it out of my system) or until something else (and at times that can be another game ;) pulls my attention away, which far more often than not happens before I finish the game; and once that desire is gone I can`t keep playing because I will not enjoy it at all.
Yeah, it's so hard to focus. It's a double-edged sword for me because I get so many awesome creative ideas constantly but then I can't really focus enough to finish pretty much any of them. And then I fear that if I do do something awesome then lots of people will want to interview me or have me speak at some big convention to talk about my work and the thought of it just makes me want to hide in a dark corner.
Personally, I'd say Ne is my 'favourite' function, as it makes me the most happy in general, gives me creativity and imagination, and doesn't come with many downsides.
Fintan Watson I completely agree with you. Nothing beats the feeling of having a fresh, new, creative idea...
I just wanted to say that I really loved this video! I'm a young INFP and I found this video to be comforting as strange as that sounds. As an INFP yourself I'm sure you know the feeling all too well of feeling detached or different from a lot of people, from society in general I think. Well that's how I feel at least, like I belong nowhere. So to hear you speak so openly about some of your personal struggles that was so cool to me - it literally felt like you had stolen the words straight from my head. I guess it's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm 21 but I still feel and look like I'm 16 and I just keep resisting 'growing up'. I've been out of school a few years and I'm struggling so hard with finding work/a profession that suits me. I've been fired a couple of times and told a lot that I'm not doing well or I need to change. I don't really know what to do:/ but I really enjoyed this video and I plan to watch all your videos haha; cuz I think they will give me hopefully a bit more clarity
im 25 and I still feel 18/19
Ps im an INFP, I can relate to you
I'm gonna cry... I can agree with every word you said, thank you such, I feel so understood
I find it is easier to get through the mundane tasks that don't require my mind if I put my phone (playing You Tube, or audio books, or music) in a fanny pack that I put on and hooking up headphones (so I can hear through running water etc.) and that way occupying my mind with things that are interesting to me while I do these tasks. Of course, I realise you can't when you are watching out for your children, but maybe when they start going to school or are older and don't need your attention so much. I find this very helpful.
I also understand what you said about writing things down as a way of explaining yourself if there is a conflict or something that you need to really explain what your intentions are or what you mean. My greatest fear though is that they won't read it, or they won't pay attention to it while they read it, because that has happened to me. Another thing I have done is to write a letter or points I want to make and read it to the person while I was with them. I found that to be pretty helpful too. And then maybe a clearer conversation can follow. But I understand about your mind going blank especially when someone is judging you harshly or there is a conflict that you feel is caused by a misunderstanding. It's very hard. Especially if that person has a very strong and unyielding personality.
I think its massively courageous for you to put yourself out there on camera and make these youtube videos. I’m an INFP too and I couldn’t do it. It takes far more courage for us to do it than most other people realise. You helped me to understand myself better. Thank you
I just found your videos. Let me tell you that I didn’t know there are people that experience life the same way I do. Thank you for sharing and helping me realize that there is nothing wrong with me. ❤️
You made some great points here Lex. Towards the end of the video you talked about stepping up to promote yourself...... which I congratulate you on.... my challenge is..... promoting myself. I would love to be a tall poppy and its time I worked on that. Thanks for the reminder XX
Nicky Two Bears you go yet it mum!!!!
Your INFP videos are so relatable
PLEASE READ THIS ONE.....IT IS GOOD......I cannot tell you how much I deeply relate to these. It is like you are speaking on my behalf here. Really. Wow. um.... I just want everyone I know who doesn't "get" me, to watch this video. Maybe, maybe hearing it from you in this way, they can start to understand me a little. I am literally brought to tears right now. You are so inspiring to me. Deep deep gratitude for you. Thank you. My husband is a Kiwi. Perhaps when I come to NZ next time we could meet ?? If that is meant to be it will happen. I'll just leave it at that. Anyway, thank you so much for making this video.
Same! I finally feel understood, and I just wish that the people I love would take the time to watch this or listen to me and at least try to understand the way I am.
I have never felt so understood in a video. I especially feel you when you were talking about blanking out in arguments and writing down everything you want to say and giving it to that same person later. That's why I have a journal/diary; it holds all of my deepest and greatest thoughts that I can just dive into whenever I wish. That and being a Peacemaker. I hate being around conflicts and grew up in a dysfunctional family and that really irks me. I want to do better and be a better version of myself, but I keep finding it so freakin' hard because I hate this planet and don't really want to be apart of this messed up society. I'm an outcast almost everywhere I go and desperately desire to find to find someone I can talk to and truly resonate with so I can finally Collapse from emotional Exhaustion. I constantly find myself shutting myself away from everything and immersing myself in my inner-world because I constantly feel misunderstood and like I don't fit in Anywhere. It's part of why I left my job and haven't started working, again. I know that so many people have told me to get out of my own head and stop making excuses, but they really don't get it. I just really wish those same people genuinely understood what being an INFP is like. And I don't mean to insinuate that in a way like a sort-of excuse or that I'm better than others.
Jesus, this got way lengthier than I meant for it to be.
Nothing is gonna change if you dont go out into the real world,dont get me wrong i love being inmersed in my inner world,even is one step it still something,i started to speak up and it feeld amazing when you are confident in yourself,we are weird unique in on our way but no ones is not gonna notice you if you dont something diferent
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I shed a tear hearing this because it’s so darn true.. I always thought I lacked the communication skills because simply, what’s in my head is just too much to be put into words. I broke up with someone not so long ago and this was one of the reasons why. They didn’t like arguing over texts and I always thought that it was so much easier for me to just take the time and right down how I felt(although still not exactly what’s on my mind) and I just HATE not being able to convey my feelings and my truest intentions to someone. It feels so helpless and it sucks..
thank you for making this video. Thank you.
It was so good to meet you. I rarely meet another INFP. I just love your accent and your creative colorful style. Thank you for taking the time to put yourself out there for us. I really appreciate that.
Ive never heard something more accurate I can’t believe how spot on this is.
I have been watching your videos non stop..your talking about the 'real' challenges that us that are INFP'S are facing that no one else is on UA-cam. Our minds/life are spot on the same...freaks me out and love it!
My wife told me I was an INFP, I took the test and that’s exactly what I am. Weird. I wish I knew what this meant before my brutal life of bad decisions. I’m an artist and a peacemaker, yet I’ve found myself on a combat tour in Afghanistan, working sales jobs I hated, with the wrong people, and I’ve found myself divorced with custody of 3 overly intelligent wild kids. I’m the worst procrastinator ever because I’ve realized it pays off. So many thing I put off turned out to be not needed and not important. I know exactly what everyone around me is feeling and I hear every conversation in a room. I have uncontrollable moments of mind reading type of psychic experiences of just knowing what’s going to happen. I stay out of the public now that I’m a grandfather. I once had thousands of friends but their opinions and lack of open minds makes me avoid them all. I have no enemies, not even all my narcissist ex’s. I’m prone to addictions and I’m prone to suddenly kick them. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, but I think that’s just a trait of a curious driven person so I never medicated for it, legally. I’m prone to depression sometimes, I don’t sleep and I over think everything. Usually my instinct will over ride my thinking fortunately. I wish I knew earlier that it’s normal to be social yet to dip out of parties fast as possible and it’s normal for INFP to feel alone, lost, confused and searching for answers. I’m a man with all traditional female qualities of nurturing, intuition, empathy and compassion. I hate sports and competition and I hate conflict even tho I’ve been immersed in it for a lifetime. All in all, INFP personality in a man who is involved with traditionally masculine jobs, is a rough life full of lessons. I guess that’s the point and I wouldn’t change a thing. Especially the not belonging feeling. Who wants to belong to such a cruel society? I just want to learn things, create things that can make life better for people and be left alone until I’m outta here.
You're daughter is so cute by the way! This is my third comment! I usually have a very hard time feeling confident enough to expose my thoughts, and thinking that all my expressions aren't just useless, but I just feel so at home here!
Omfg your list is me! I have been trying to finish a book since I was 11. I want excitement and am feeling so trapped where I am. In tons of debt because I was trying to help ex's who just ended up using and abusing me until I had nothing left to offer. It makes me feel so drained and upset. In and out of high stress jobs that I just caaan't do because I'm there doing my very best and in some way or another it is never good enough. Thank you for this video.
When you talked about sensitivity it hit me down real hard.. I cried..
For so long I hated my sensitivity, I wished I was different, no one apreciated it.. But I have stsrted to love it, and I know I have a great purpose for having that sensitivity.
It just made me so confortable to know there is someone who feels like me.. I dont have something wrong with me anymore, thank you ❤
Fellow INFP Here. You're Amazing. Thank You For All The Insight!! We Not Alone!!
I've always struggled with my sensitivity. I've always been a worrier and an overthinker. It sucks when people don't accept that side of you when it is a result of genuine care. I now realise that our sensitivity is a gift and not something that's to be looked down upon. Without sensitive people, we might find the world a lot more colder and unbearable than before.
I am an INFP and I would feel the same way about hurtful comments. I would look at them from every angle, question if they could be true, weigh them and dissect them. I think for your own protection you should have someone monitor the comments and filter out the junk for you. I enjoy your insights, keep up the good work.
Well holy hell if this isn't the most relatable video I've ever watched. Pretty much sums me up as an INFP
This video made me feel kinda good, despite feeling like crap these past few weeks. In a way it made me relax, understand and accept who I am.
I really want to send your videos to everyone in my life so they finally understand me.
I don't know if I'm INPF, but I felt you are talking about me. Thank you dear, resonate completely.
You're such a sweetie! Thank you for your videos. You do such a great job with them! Its so nice to hear an INFP talk about things that we normally get ripped on for. The world is a better place because you are in it. You are beautiful inside and out! You are awesome!
You're doing so well. I can see how hard you work and it resonates. Some of the other content while true doesnt have your personal touch. I like the way you clarify things. Youre a great mother and a good friend. ❤
Wow, i really resonate with you Lex, especially of overthinking & being too critical and sensitive on oneself; wonderful video and keep your head up ^^
Thank you for making this video Lex. I am an INFP who struggles with everything you talked about, but also struggle figuring out what I struggle with! Thanks for articulating some common INFP thoughts. :-)
I resonated so deeply with this! Keep living your life out loud!
Totally relate to everything especially procrastination and self promotion.
This line speaks to me on a-whole-nother level.
"If we're not inspired by something good luck getting us to do it."
4:17 - 4:23 Oh my gosh, I'm the Master Procrastinator. I hate it!
4:50 That is so true! I need to FEEL that it's inspiring to really be gung-ho about it. The problem is that if I don't jump on the project immediately, I'll lose that feeling, and then the project never gets a second chance.
And, hahaha. Your daughter at the end, and at the beginning of the video, was a pleasant and amusing surprise.
Cheers! I'm INFP by the way.
When it comes to conflict, I always deal with it impassively. You know, walking away because it's tiring and because I know that no matter what I say, it'll never register on the other persons thick head..
I have a lot of patience, but when I get to the point that I've had enough, I explode. Like really explode..
And that, scares everyone around me a lot..
Be encouraged. Your words are very affirming and have made a positive difference. Thank you.
Lex I just found your channel! Thank you for sharing I love it and am understanding so much more about myself and others as INFP🥰 I love your style and accent you are gorgeous x
Thank you for talking about putting your passion out there and your feeling about not wanting to appear egotistical. That’s exactly how I worry just putting anything on Facebook. I want to share creativity but worry that I comes across as “Look at me and my wonderful ,whatever it is” Finally realising I can be and INFP and have others out there like you who just get us.
You know no matter how much I love and accept INFP, I would never wish this personality on anyone. Life would be so much easier If I couldn't see all these colors. -weary and broken INFP
the fact that i can relate to everything you said amazes me.. how can you be so good in describing all of these
UA-cam recommended this video to me at the right time. I resonate so strongly with everything you've said and I dunno if it's just because I feel overwhelmed with life at the moment. Ahhhh, cried way too much. I need to learn to love and appreciate the way I am and do my best, at my own pace, to become a better me... And I really can't wait to quit this job that is draining the life out of me.
Wow! Just discovered your channel. So intrigued and inspired. As a fellow infp and housewife/ mother, I can really relate to what you are saying.
Really enjoy these you tube videos - I am am INFP and I really relate to much of what you are talking about and it’s very helpful - thank you
I am so happy that I found this channel, I am a 22 year old male INFP. I always felt alone in these struggles growing up. This video was very retrospective for me. Keep putting out great videos.
awww 🙀💓 INFP girls are sooo cute 💕❤ .. I've been always wondering 😂 as an INFP how would an INFP girl thinks, speaks n expresses her feelings like .. this is so cuute m barely holding my tears rn 😭💜💜 .. n besides all of that you're actually describing a lot about me too somehow!! that's beautifully scary 😂❤ .. like i didn't know how much things INFPs have in common .. i kept noticing a lot of beautiful details in this vid ❤❤ .. starting from your daughter's intro 😍😍 .. have a good day
Infp is a feminine type not suitable for men!!!
@@msaidely There are infp boys. - INFP female.
your voice is so nice to listen to. gentle, friendly.
You look so beautiful!!! Love your earrings and top! :) I relate so much to ALL these challenges! I'm also a lone wolf, I am 18 years old, so I'm just starting out in life. I'm about to go to college to study Science Laboratory Technology, however I did want to study Digital Media Design, my parents talked me out of it since there's no money in it, but I feel like a job where I can be creative would make me so much happier... Anyway, I hope I'm not making a mistake, because really I don't know who's right anymore... I don't like to self-promote either. I'm a big procrastinator, in highschool I almost never did homework on time and always procrastinated on studying. I really dislike the mundane everyday real life things - like work, and school... I want to be creative and create, but this procrastination is really getting the best of me.
10:51 thanks so much for saying this... I really needed to hear it
Everything you said in this video is me! Thanks for being an inspiration!
Awww, hon. I'm sending you all the love and hugs. This has really hit me to the fullest. I actually teared up because I'm thinking "HOLY CRAP, she hit the nail on the head." It feels so good to listen to your videos and watch them because I feel you described me to the T. I feel we would be good friends because I can relate to every aspect of what you just said. lol. I know this video is old, but still, have a beautiful day Sunshine!
You've explained the conflict thing so well. I am exactly the same. I get overwhelmed or flooded quite easily because there's so much more going on in an INFP's brain than most other's in a conflict situation. We're trying to exactly express ourselves, trying not to hurt the other in the conflict and trying to frame the conflict so we won't get hurt; all while being completely overwhelmed and our brains literally won't work!
Thank you so much for taking that risk and helping me to understand myself better. Never mind the strangers. 😀
Hi Lex,
I understand the getting one's feelings hurt when there is negative energy or vibes. I also strive and want to be a peacemaker. I also identify with the plight of the INFP. After a lot of schooling and reflection, I'm grateful to be in my thirties. I'm starting to understand that we all carry our own bag of "crap/baggage." Sometimes we just need to allow people to own their own "crap/baggage" and not own/carry it for them. If they have a perception of you and give off bad vibes, that is for them to carry and own...it really has nothing to do with you, because it is their perception and story to own. Best Wishes to ALL the Highly Sensitive People in the world!!! Without us, there would be no justice or kindness in the world. Grateful to have been born this way...
Since listening to your videos recently, you often make me laugh! Finally, there is someone who can put into words the suffering and struggling I've gone through my whole life.
Its just so validating to hear this stuff after forgetting there are others like me out there
Thank you Alex Morning Star. This one hit home. Peace ❤️💎
Just found this channel! I LOVE it! Thank you! You are awesome! I don't feel alone anymore!
Just discovered your channel tonight & have been binge watching your vids a bit :P
I'm an electronic music artist & deal with the same challenges of promoting myself, but the hardest part is facing constant rejection. Rejection is hard to deal with as an INFP but it's something you have to face infinitely in the over-saturated music market. (Record labels, promotion blogs, etc)
I'm making progress and it's well worth it but it's still always hard to deal with
Omg I'm so excited to hear this because I've cried so many times because I don't understand why I can't just get up and do simple tasks, I was about to go see a psychiatrist
I'm an INFP. Loved this vid. You're lovely!
I have a book I wrote over 50 pages in back my Freshmen year of highschool after I finished the original draft and wasn't pleased with it. I'm not even a 1/4 of the way done with it. The original draft was only about 100 I think. I believe if we imagine something, it exists in a parallel reality. I could delve into them for hours. I wrote several prequel series to the book, and I planned on there being more afterwards. I still play it all out in my head to this day, reliving certain fights I've imagined between characters, not just from this book, but from all of my grade levels that I have implemented stories into. It's basically the story of my school life but heavily inspired by things like Dragon Ball and Mario and Zelda games. It would last 12 seasons, with each season being a grade level. Each one is fleshed out, actually based around real events that happened to me and others while in those grades, well, roughly, for a lot of the earlier seasons at least. I've literally created this massive imaginary universe inside of my head that is based off of my real life growing up. It is heavily action adventure, with some romance in the more mature grades and a lot of comedy, since my school years were hilarious. We even explore a crumbling parallel fantasy world in grade 11, and we save the universe from absolute destruction in the final 12th season. There are even several series within the series. I think about it all the time.
The smaller books I have wrote are kind of like arcs to each season. The bigger ones, three huge ones set in grades 10, 11, and 12 would probably be the most ambitious things I have ever imagined with a lot of depth and character development as the characters grow up and transition through highschool, much like I really have. The conflicts get bigger and more serious gradually. The older grades are more based around the Dragon Ball action and fighting stuff, since I witnessed a lot of fights on the elementary playground, and the leader of a group of bullies is actually the main antagonist in the 5th season of my entire giant story.
I am pretty lazy though. Plus, I would have to flesh it out more. There are some grades where I really don't have any villains or conflicts to work off of, so I would have to create my own, and I constantly go back and change things. In most shows and books that run for a long time, things start becoming stale after awhile, but since this is based off of my actual life, it keeps things going nice if I put more work into it. It's hard to come up with consistent and interesting plotlines, and also I feel that it borrows to heavily on things like Dragonball in the earlier grades 1-9 and too heavily on Zelda in grades 11-12. The main conflict in grade 10 is the book I still haven't finished, and I still think of things I'd like to change about it. I was always called the next Stephen King by all of my English teachers in school. One of them I wrote a series specifically for, and that series is a big part of grade 9 in my series. One of my short stories got an award. I really just realized how creative and lazy I am!
omg it's so great to hear someone else talk about how draining day to day life is for me... I'm not the only one!
Thank you so very much..I seriously thought something is terribly wrong with me..until this video...there are so many like me....thank you..oh boy I go through all this challenges
I'm so glad I found this. Perfectly put into words I often cannot find.
Thank you, nice to hear your understanding. Ive been trying to figure me out quite awhile now, Ive listened and watched quite a few videos on INFP now and the way you present is very good, I understand and relate to what your saying very well. Im very passionate about my cars, I paint for a living, I try to share what I feel about what I have and the enjoyment it brings, but many people do not relate...
I know not what to say... With the exception of thank you, I no longer feel an outsider looking in. Thank you..
Really felt you are speaking right from you heart and soul!!! Your brother infp here from PH. Godbless
Conflict fucks me up because sometimes I will be hurt but I will act angry or make myself angry because I don’t want them to know I’m hurt. People say I have a temper but 99% of the time it’s because I’m super sensitive and people don’t understand that. I really don’t want to hurt people but if someone is saying things to me for no reason, I will get snippy with them. In conflict though sometimes I’ll start shaking like really bad... I can force myself to be very assertive but I’ll be emotionally wrecked internally. When I’m totally done with someone I just cut them out of my life in an instant... I just can’t take that shit at a certain point
As a infp Male alot of what you said described me well and resonated with me. Thanks for the cool video, Also cool goku tattoo.
Aawww> Scarlett made this ole granny's heart sing & face smile! She's a radiant one.
Oh wow, I feel so connected and understand with what u are going through sister, 😊 as an INFP I really do have that challenges that I need to deal with every day. However I really appreciated ur self promote, because u can show us that we INFP are connected and same.
The challenges that I am currently finding the right way to deal with is: “ I have 2 though in my mind. One is good and another one isn’t really that good. “However I wanted to change my result of my paper work 😅” ( I know it was not a really good way to get to the result that I wanted. ) however I didn’t know what to choose, so I tried Yes/No pick a card to decide what I should choose. Than after I got the answer I stick to it. However after a fews hour later I felt that I wanted to change my mind into accepting the fact that that was my result , and I have to accept and erase my 1st intentions away when I got a chance to do that . But!!! As I have a chance to erase that, my first mind set, seem to come back, n told me that it is ok, just let it be. Than I believe in that and didn’t erase it as my 2nd though told me, so yeah now everything has alr happen, the 1st idea won( not really that good idea dough 😅) and I stated to feel regret about not chowing the 2nd idea, also now I didn’t know that I should stick to which of the idea. 😪 it really is made me feeling kinda a bit unbalanced when this thing has not yet clearly decided which one is right 😬😐😑. Anyway this is my struggle, so thx q if u have read from the top til here, may u be blessed and not be confuse when u are making a decision 😊✌️💫
My god girl! I sat my license too last week! We are in sync and you are my inspiration. You make me want to start a youtube channel
Nikki Vardanega Whoa! Congratulations, that's really awesome!! You really should start one... I'll subscribe to you if you do :)
I wanna hug you, thanking for articulating this soooo well tht i wasn't able to....
I cry in every ur video. I hope it's not too weird and you can take it as a compliment (?)
With love,
From another INFP.
:))
I'm an INFP, and so far I'm only on problem 3. Conflict, but I'm close to tears, because it's so relieving to relate so much to what you're saying. The only person I really talk to about my problems, where I can get over the anxiety of talking about my inner demons, is my sister, who suffers some of the same issues I do, but she handles situations diffrently than I do, and I don't believe she understands how I feel. How hard it is to just talk and not be able to write down and compose my thoughts. How it frustrating it is to search for the right words, and not be able to find them, and to feel as if the person you are so desperately trying to get to understand what your coming from, just isn't getting it. I think that is a main fator in me having anxiety over sharing my inner demons. So it is just, so relieving to hear someone talk about communication problems that are almost exactly the same as mine. Thank you for that.
You're such a beautiful soul 💕God Bless
Your daughter is so precious 💜
Yeah! Can really FEEL it through the screen :)
I could relate so much. Thanks for making this video :)
I'm 24 and an INFP and I can't believe how accurate you were. Every point was so spot on for me.
I'd like to share some of my creative abilities. I make beats, paint, sing and cook. These are all passions of mine but difficult for me is to accept those things and make them a forefront in life. I've been pressured all my life to get an actual job and profession ( probably cause I'm Indian). I feel so drained in everything I do school and work wise. You're so right, new and exciting things keep me grounded and motivated and inspired. I'm at a place where I'm older now and I'm scared that I'll be miserable for the rest of my life. Any INFPs in similar situations and have any advice for me?
Lol I'm used to being the one writing the paragraph long comment about my thoughts and opinions on a video, but this vid it just full of them. Another trait of INFP's perhaps? Makes sense since thinking things through seems to be a defining trait. Anyway, cool video. I didn't realize that INFP videos were a thing, but after watching a few, its nice to know I'm not the only one with this quirkiness. its both cool and a bit spooky to hear how much we INFP's have in common.
I agree that it's a good idea to write down stuff to get your feelings ordered and find out what it actually is you wanted to say - but I constantly fail with that within corporate environment. Even if I write mails that are precise and very on point, my boss absolutely hates me for almost everything I say. Up to the point that it was discussed in a public meeting, where they told me that either I will have to stop writing stuff like that or that those mails will go directly into the trash - like everything that is exceeding two lines of text. They even made fun of me for being inefficient with words and accused me of spreading verbal garbage. Well, it's difficult to express yourself if others take away your channels of communication. But: Got it - will stop asap, sry!
Loved this video! Recently found out that I am an INFP. On one side it is a little scary how much i relate to all the things you mention - but on the other side its is very interesting and nice to learn more about myself!
love from Norway ❤️☃️
I laughed at "Not completing projects and procrastinating" this is literally the story of my life lol. Had to start forcing myself some deadlines when it came to deliver something by promising people an exact date and put that stress on my shoulders. The funny part is i have a degree in Project management thinking that it would helped me... well after the second class i knew i would get this degree only for the sake of having a degree cause holy crap i just wont change. But at gladly i had a class that helped me discovered the mbti test and it changed the game!
I think confrontations are tough because we are so reflective. I like to think things over before responding, to figure out where the other person is coming from, considering if any of what they are saying is something that can help me become a better person, and then forming a well thought out response that conveys exactly what I want to say. This takes time. I hate being put on the spot to respond immediately because I might pop off with something that I wouldn't say normally
I can definitely relate to what you are saying. The overthinking part and sensitivity part is definitely part of me. Since I was a young child I was always considered overly sensitive. Also, I had a friend tell me I analyze things too much and he is so right.
while im watching your video,i cry ,in the same time my mind and my heart want to tell you,thank you
You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time but you cannot please all of the people all of the time.
And often when they are not pleased, (and you’ve completed your 360 to check your own camp), then it is because of something within them. But even knowing this I am not sure I would be able to present my own videos. So, hats off to you for your bravery, Lex.
Everything you said about self-promotion resonated hard with me. Well, everything really. Awesome video!
As an INFP I feel releive that I know I'm not alone,so happy that finally I can understand my self deeply because of this video,totally represent my thoughts and my feeling,as I can't explain them with words to speak.
Its one o clock here in our country but im realy glad to find this video and resonate with you everything describes me, and i also look up to people who are INFPs i was also shocked to know that the people i look up to are the same personality as I am. This is so cool thank you so much
As an INFP and new UA-camr I'm also finding that scrolling through new comments is the most anxiety inducing part of it. Even when it's happening I know the fear is stupid. Thankfully INFPs are perfectionists so we receive very little criticism regarding quality. We're still going to catch the occasional personal attack though, because it's the internet and some people are just angry people. Those attacks still sting and stick in my memory months later. Because INFPs take things too personally and deeply.
But knowing that about myself helps me identify when I'm making that mistake. And that helps me shrug it off a little bit. But one thing I noticed is that I'm also utterly immovable from my values and individuality. So I try to channel that side of me when I'm reading comments or otherwise exposing myself to criticism. Before and during those times I will remind myself that what I made is rooted in my values with zero malicious intent. And therefore the only people who will get upset by it are the people who both disagree with my values and lack the character to disagree respectfully, and therefore are the people who need to get upset by it in order to identify their inferior values and begin the process of improving themselves. Why yes, my critic, you're morally reprehensible. You're welcome.
This is interesting. My wife is an INFP and the personality type has recently been really interesting to me because I'm learning a whole other perspective from her that's different from my own. She's able to detect and sense things I have a hard time seeing and understands people from a micro and marco level at the same time. Though she's very assertive lol. Won't do what she doesn't want to do.