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  • Men fall for mean girls and nice girls finish last so I'm playing hard to get.
    Woman are convinced the men love B*tches but is that true. Do all men love a woman that is mean to them and plays hard to get?Do they fall hard for mean girls. Do nice girls really finish last.
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  • @KevHick
    @KevHick  Рік тому +19

    Book a call for dating, life, or relationship advice at www.kevhick.com

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +1

      some sociopathic women hide their shadow self and act people-pleasing to hook a guy so nice girl routine isn't good either

    • @Kerrviii
      @Kerrviii Рік тому

      👍

  • @laela6289
    @laela6289 Рік тому +189

    “Meaner” women typically tend to be challenges and men like to hunt. They tend to not give too much of themselves too soon, and they aren’t afraid of losing the man. Nicer girls tend to fall into people-pleasing mode and give a lot of themselves to a man who is often hasn’t made up his mind about her.

    • @starburst9053
      @starburst9053 Рік тому +10

      💯

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +33

      Men have lost interest in me for being 'too honest' only to complain TO ME later "why can't women just be honest?" then angered when I remind them what they said.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому

      both sexes self-sabotage

    • @_itsmejanae
      @_itsmejanae Рік тому +2

      I feel this

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +6

      @Blue Girl Yes they did self-sabotage but they also want mind games because of emotional immaturity and inability to bond emotionally. They talk about women pair bonding but the issue is 9/10 them. Most men lack emotional intelligence Daniel Goleman wrote a good book on it.

  • @amellybk8783
    @amellybk8783 Рік тому +369

    This dynamic will attract only emotionally unavailable men and narcissists. No healthy man will stay with a woman who treats him bad. You don't need to be difficult with the right man, you need to have standards and healthy boundaries only.

    • @SoloCityTravels
      @SoloCityTravels Рік тому +4

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @RK-su4hs
      @RK-su4hs Рік тому +14

      let us know how that strategy works out for you

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +3

      EXACTLY!!! 💯

    • @laela6289
      @laela6289 Рік тому +43

      Narcissists are not attracted to mean women. They are attracted to women they can walk all over and control. This dynamic would definitely attract a codependent man tho.

    • @Chicago.hottie
      @Chicago.hottie Рік тому +12

      Healthy men do like women who are more assertive but still feminine. Just like women do not find super nice men attractive, you men don’t even realize you are very attracted to women who are “bitches” not in the literal sense. I’m very sweet & polite but I don’t get cold from time to time & it drives men crazy lol they love a challenge & that’s just apart of the game. And that’s how I met my chill timid husband. He’s really shy & quiet & im respectfully assertive, funny & I continue to be mysterious & play hard to get. Ladies as long as you treat him good, have a sarcastic yet respectful sense of humor, can cook WELL lol you’ll attract the right husband ☺️ but still allow that man to lead, it’s all about balance. But be honest, being TOO nice is boring, you have to spice it up.

  • @lisabradford8180
    @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +184

    all i know is that my sister treated the majority of her bf's like crap, talked to them like crap and they seemed to love it. couldn't stay away from her but me, the nicer sister, was nowhere near as successful.

    • @Reshme77
      @Reshme77 Рік тому +20

      Irony

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 Рік тому +10

      Sounds like she didn’t really respect them. Just because they respect her more dont mean she respects them

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому +131

      Who want a weak ass man they can talk down too?😂 She definitely ain’t getting with no leaders and men of respect.

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +29

      @@zero1188 other than her first love, i don't think she did respect them, you're right. also she conducted her dating life much like a man does, or many men do. she treated them in a somewhat disposable way, played the same games that many men do. that has never been my nature but i wish i'd had some of that in me. it would have probably kept me from being hurt all the time.

    • @randomness8819
      @randomness8819 Рік тому +4

      ​​@@KevHickay to bring it back to an insightful perspective!

  • @EveofPyrite
    @EveofPyrite Рік тому +79

    I’m a very loving and kind person. I have discovered that sometimes when you are very loving people think that your are 2 good to be true. It sounds crazy but it’s true . The last man I was involved with was very wealthy , no kids , mid 30s black , attractive , not promiscuous, wanted a family as well , but he ruined our connection because of his INSECURITIES. I refuse to change my good traits to appeal to some emotionally broken person who likes to be talked down on. I’d rather just find someone who is more healthy minded and love them. I’ll keep y’all updated I’m sure that I’ll find my “Prince Charming” soon ✨❤️ pray for me !

    • @mashae.1066
      @mashae.1066 Рік тому +7

      I have experienced the same! Love this comment.

    • @patriciaholloway
      @patriciaholloway Рік тому +12

      You said it.... insecurities. I have experienced this multiple times.... being treated badly because I must be fake...no one is this kind and loving, right?!?! Has even happened at jobs. When did kindness turn into a liability???

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +6

      paranoia points to mental problems inc persecution delusion, RUN

    • @EveofPyrite
      @EveofPyrite Рік тому +4

      @@mashae.1066 ain’t it a shame that some people ruin a GOOD thing!

    • @EveofPyrite
      @EveofPyrite Рік тому +8

      @@patriciaholloway exactly! Some people pray for good things yet when they get it they don’t appreciate it . He was suspicious of me when I gave him no reason to be suspicious. Saddest part was that I was never suspicious of him so when I discovered that he was secretly reaching out to one of my family members trying to get info about me It really hurt my heart. I then realized that he wasn’t the one for me . He seemed like a perfect fit at first ended up being a nightmare.

  • @Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
    @Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Рік тому +46

    Yes! The issue is that people think that being a “nice girl” means performing actions that make you look like a doormat/fool, like giving gifts and money, doing wifely duties like cooking and cleaning, doing whatever the man wants, and giving up the cookie too soon because the man wants s3x. A “kind girl” is a woman who has a good heart but she has boundaries and standards. She’s assertive about what she wants and what she’s willing to do, which is probably what makes people think that she’s a b1tch. She’s not going to call the man names or treat him poorly, but she’s not going to compromise her standards.

    • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
      @sunshinesunflowerz1647 Рік тому

      💖

    • @babou5694
      @babou5694 Рік тому

      I am that nice girl. I always tell folks I’m nice but don’t try me .

    • @k.cooper2569
      @k.cooper2569 Рік тому +1

      Good description of the "kind girl". I agree. There's balance. She has self-worth. She can express herself without being emotionally out of control. She's mature. She has boundaries and needs and isn't afraid to initiate conversations to discuss them.

  • @baritunde
    @baritunde Рік тому +63

    I respond to men who treat me in a way other than I want by blocking them. Then they're all like, where's what's her name? I thought we were doing good. If I bring up my concerns twice, the 3rd time results in access denied. I never dishonor, disrespect or play games with men, because I am an honorable, respectful, mature woman & maintain those standards no matter who is or isn't in my life. You'd have to do something to one of my children to get me to let my crown slip. Consequently, they always try to come back after the groove has already been busted. You can't unbust the groove.

    • @memoir02
      @memoir02 Рік тому +16

      Right! I don't understand these unhealthy mindsets! At the foundation you should give others respect, care, and consideration regardless of the type of relationship it is!

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +7

      ask a man Do you believe in God? if he says yes he might be tradlarping so ask How do you define God?
      Tells you his morals. Bad men get angry.

    • @baritunde
      @baritunde Рік тому +3

      @@seabreeze4559 I really feel you on this one. So many don't want to talk about it & make you feel like you're conducting the Spanish inquisition on them. So many define it as blessing the food. So many will tell you what they think you want to hear. That's not to expect perfection from anyone, because none of us are, but a real godly person submits their ego to God. We stop participating in the high drama, cussing ppl out & such. Here in my city, men "love" Jesus & also love strippers, so you really gotta ask, especially if you personally think godliness is different than religiousness.

    • @M0101EP
      @M0101EP Рік тому

      Good going

  • @anitamaker4143
    @anitamaker4143 Рік тому +38

    I was loving,kind, transparent, affectionate, affirming, communicative continually, made him comfortable and safe, things he said he wasn't used to but he left me

    • @PassionateFlower
      @PassionateFlower Рік тому +18

      He wants someone out of his league in attractiveness, wealth, and status to one up his peers. Not a nice loving girl who accepts him for who he is.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +4

      Next time look for an equally yoked man to do that too ma.

    • @patriciaholloway
      @patriciaholloway Рік тому +12

      I see it as massive insecurities. He probably believed that he didn't deserve to be cared for like that. When men are like this, they'll break up with you because they figure you're too good for them and you will leave eventually. They're doing you a favor so you can be free to find a whole man who isn't self defeating.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +8

      the trash took out itself
      attachment issues or male BPD leave before being left

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому +1

      @@PassionateFlower Maybe, or because op said, that he said he wasn’t used to being treated right, he felt uncomfortable and wanted to be with a woman who treated him how he’s used to. I see this all the time where a person isn’t mentally ready to be in a healthy relationship due to past experiences, so they reject the person who treats them properly for the bad guy or girl because it’s familiar. There’s more to it, but this is the main reason.

  • @MyAeq
    @MyAeq Рік тому +89

    What I will say is that even when the so called ‘unattractive’ guys or guys who are not preferred do start getting some attention they quickly change. They become just as arrogant, just as fickle as the poplar guys and quickly start to assess “well this girl is interested in me, who else can I attract?”. And I think this is why in the end some women might adopt this attitude of let me be cautious and not give too much too quickly in the way of emotional support etc because regardless of how desirable the guy is it always backfires.

    • @kimcham9949
      @kimcham9949 Рік тому +5

      👍🏾 This! 💯

    • @patriciaholloway
      @patriciaholloway Рік тому +13

      What you described is exactly what happened to me last year. I was kind and supportive and he was the same towards me. After talking and spending time together for many months, he began acting like I was supposed to do things for him, supposed to give him my all... while he began breadcrumbing me. I stayed respectful. Long story short, I eventually found out he was telling people I was trying to sleep with him and that I had followed him to the property we live on. Total narcissist. I was DONE. Cut all contact. Now he keeps trying to talk to me... even my daughter at her job 🙄

    • @sarahrobertson634
      @sarahrobertson634 Рік тому +17

      When an average guy becomes popular and thinks he can get tons of women, he will overlook the nice girls. The key is get a man who doesn't WANT tons of women. He needs to be mature enough to desire quality, not quantity.

    • @14jasminedel
      @14jasminedel Рік тому +4

      I agree, however I want to add that it’s really all about a man’s character. If he really is arrogant then that will tell you about his character. Character will always show within time so take your time when getting to know someone.

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +1

      @@sarahrobertson634 does such a man really exist? 🤔

  • @flyandshy00
    @flyandshy00 Рік тому +11

    I dated a guy who looked like he had no options, 167cm etc, didn;t look too flirty. But later I started seeing him more and more comfortable with me, other women at the clinic, at the bank being giggly with him, it seemed like they knew each other already, so I figured he is attractive to women, after I found out he had dating apps, added women on linkedin, deleted parts of phone call history, smoked weed, was going somewhere during his work hours, and probably even slept with his boss who is 20 year older than him. You never know, narcissists can pretend to be nice guys for 4-5 months, like it was in my case. They're master manipulators. He looked like a sweet guy, but sometimes he would show a glimpse of something else and I was always questioning is it me being too suspicious or he is changing up on me. It was him starting showing the glimpse of his real nasty self.

  • @valenciachampagne7052
    @valenciachampagne7052 Рік тому +41

    I give normal guys who most people wouldn’t give the time of day. Typically unattractive men, men who are over 350 lbs, short men, men who don’t make much money, literally the men most people look over, men who are “nice” typical good guys. I am always nice and sweet and supportive and sometimes even do gf stuff for them only to be passed over in the end. Ive never acted like a bitch or mean or even disrespect them when they do something wrong. Those men treat me WORSE.

    • @patriciaholloway
      @patriciaholloway Рік тому +17

      Ugh. I'm thinking we need Kev to do a whole video about how insecure men treat women and how to recognize the signs before we get in too deep.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +17

      they are punishing you for what a high school cheerleader did, RUN
      social sadism

    • @valenciachampagne7052
      @valenciachampagne7052 Рік тому +8

      And the thing is that I overlook their unattractiveness because I care more about personality. To me, a man can be not that good looking but if our experience is great and they’re nice in the beginning I literally start to see them as the most attractive and sexiest man.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +4

      @@valenciachampagne7052 yes I tried dating any guy who'd ask me out, out of pity
      most were bitter and cruel, assuming by being there I was 'desperate' instead of pitying
      some were literally crazy, like joked about mass murder and owned a katana collection crazy

    • @DoomsdayGoddess96
      @DoomsdayGoddess96 Рік тому +1

      I've been doing the same thing and these men ghost me so fast. They're always complaining on Reddit but when someone like me comes along, ghosted after 1 date

  • @MsE711
    @MsE711 Рік тому +53

    My niece did that to her child’s father and yes in the beginning it probably enticed him, but later on he told her that she emasculated him and they broke up twice and aren’t currently together. If I have to be mean towards someone just to get them to be with me, I’d just be alone. You can be kind, nice but assertive. Just give me a chair and some popcorn and I’ll wait my turn🤗 The first shall be last and the last shall be first. In the words of Redman “I’ll be that!”🤗

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому

      A lot of people I knew in high school were like this too. It may be fun when you’re young and emotionally immature, but after a while not many can take it for the long run which is why imo relationships built on this type of foundation are nothing to covet. Sooner or later the relationship is going to crumble, and one party will be left emotionally drained and scarred, while the other will rest in ego and think the relationship ended because the other person couldn’t handle them when in reality one partner was enjoying the drama, and the other was using their partner as an emotional punching bag. I’ve seen this many times with my sisters relationships. She treats men horribly and they love it till they don’t. The guys aren’t innocent themselves cuz they be doing things too, but my sister starts off the relationship by being a “B”.

  • @suenahmiebradford748
    @suenahmiebradford748 Рік тому +21

    Don't sleep on this guy he not only help females but actually help people period

  • @4u2cre8
    @4u2cre8 Рік тому +53

    It's not that people want mean people. No one wants a mean person. It's that people (men AND women) prioritize the superficial over everything. The standard of beauty has become so narrow that everyone is chasing the same handful of people. They already get tons of attention so they don't have to work on being a good person. If 1 person won't put up with their $#!T another 10 people are waiting in line to talk to them. The Plain Janes (and Joes) always have to bring more to the table just to get a second glance. Being nice should be the 1st requirement people look for but unfortunately it isn't.

    • @Suwalashes
      @Suwalashes Рік тому +10

      Damn this the one 😢

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +2

      Wrong!

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +4

      stefan molyneux said being a beautiful woman is like carrying a clear briefcase with 100k
      when people talk to you, you know it's not for you, because they all see one thing

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 Рік тому

      And average Joe and Plain Jane usually end up having more stable and long lasting relationships. Mean girls and f-boys live their lives on miserable rollercoaster of emotions because this is the only dynamic they understand.

    • @yasminogbu8929
      @yasminogbu8929 Рік тому

      Yep ❤️

  • @AyeJye
    @AyeJye Рік тому +98

    I honestly feel the same way about the comment….. I went through the same way I’m a nice girl and most men reject the nice good women but the treat the whores who sleeps around like queens! I’ve seen guys treat the bad women with more love and affection but will use and abuse the good girl….. the bad women get the men excited !!! I’ve experienced this and seen this !

    • @jocelynnicole663
      @jocelynnicole663 Рік тому +25

      Sameeee!! And men wonder why us women get confused

    • @FaryalZubair77
      @FaryalZubair77 Рік тому +39

      I think people confuse being nice with letting a man walk over you . Nice women should treat a man with respect but you must still make him earn you, make him wait and commit before being physical and don’t give him anything more than he gives you.
      Some women buy men gifts, cook for them, give them money, etc, but that’s not “nice girl” behaviour. That’s just doormat behaviour and no man will respect that.
      Also the men that value the women who treat them like dirt will one day leave them out of nowhere, the resentment builds up and they have enough and leave (I’ve seen it time and time again, the girl is always left shocked)

    • @Va13chka
      @Va13chka Рік тому

      Sounds like the whores got more standards than pick mes hiding under “nice girl” labels auditioning for a wife.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +1

      ​@@jocelynnicole663 Who do you want to attract ma??

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +2

      Women with attention. SMDH 🤦‍♂️

  • @AAMM101
    @AAMM101 Рік тому +30

    I love nice girls. They're just heart warming and their affection makes me more affectionate. They scream divine and high quality.❤

    • @Cutiejuliya
      @Cutiejuliya Рік тому +8

      Thank you ^~^

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Рік тому

      I was nice to someone and I was thrown away like yesterday's trash. Maybe I was right in that this person was a shallow asshole.

    • @kayjeffs3741
      @kayjeffs3741 Рік тому

      Are you married to one? If not, why?

  • @kistole28
    @kistole28 Рік тому +10

    This is when you know you've grown up when you no longer tolerate bull crap. It's either you wit it or you out.💯 no playing games.

  • @nomfundokhoza1378
    @nomfundokhoza1378 Рік тому +6

    Im single because I really pick the wrong guys everytime,so I'm done.

  • @Mmmmkaaay
    @Mmmmkaaay Рік тому +53

    Sometimes it's a status thing. A man will choose the most attractive in the bunch, regardless of her personality, in order to appear successful to his peers. Her bitchy behavior is simply collateral damage.
    Sometimes you'll meet a man in his 50s or 60s with a wife who is less attractive than his first wife.
    Eventually, the shine of the trophy will wear off and he'll choose with his heart.
    Great chat, Kev! 🎉

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому

      boomer trade-up marriages are evil, part of the reason behind child-free women is that they don't wanna be abandoned like older gens of women for a 'younger model'

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Рік тому +1

      1000 upvotes!

  • @whattomakeofit3436
    @whattomakeofit3436 Рік тому +9

    In relationships, men don't listen to you when you're nice. I'm not going to be mean or fight. I'm just going to leave. ✌️

  • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
    @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner Рік тому +17

    I watched this this a few times! THANK YOU KEVIN! Boundaries do not mean treat him horrible! This girl told me to “treat a man bad and he will respect you”….. I told her that is NOT my type of relationship and my personality! Also, that is not what matches who I am! I do not want to treat anyone bad, let alone someone I want to marry and see daily! If there is something I do not approve of, then we communicate about it! I would not want to just follow and be a pushover bc that is where I think the “ being a B” comes into play! Make sure you let him know what your standards are and what you will do and not do!

  • @theconfessionsofahebrewisr2975

    I have to disagree... they don't have to be "high value" or high sought out men. I see this in men who have absolutely nothing to offer.

  • @192OOIDJJ3
    @192OOIDJJ3 Рік тому +5

    People think they're better than others, that's the issue nowadays.

  • @haileyquinnzel
    @haileyquinnzel Рік тому +23

    I’m nice to less attractive, broke men & they still try to use me 💀 like huh

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +18

      Less attractive or broke don't mean they are Good Men ma. Look for Good Men...with good morals & character. Vet good too...cause some could do that nice crap...which is an act. So look for good men next time. Bad men don't come with being attractive. There's bad men in all different shapes and sizes and status.

    • @haileyquinnzel
      @haileyquinnzel Рік тому +2

      @@jayc5756 I try lmao they just lie. I’m just saying looks aren’t the best determinant for those types of things.

    • @simoaneholmes4917
      @simoaneholmes4917 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @Thatlilmonkey-ng9il
      @Thatlilmonkey-ng9il Рік тому +4

      First thing first, they are broke for a reason

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому

      @@haileyquinnzel OK. Understandable

  • @SelfLovewithAT
    @SelfLovewithAT Рік тому +21

    Tell it like it is Kev‼️I suggest leading with LOVE not using manipulation tactics. If they can’t accept your love…you’re wasting your time (in my Kev voice)

  • @tiffanyyisrael7989
    @tiffanyyisrael7989 Рік тому +2

    I'm the mean chick and proud, I have been the "nice girl/woman" with men my entire life and they have screwed it up everytime, so now I match their energy. You don't call? I don't call. You ignore me, I ignore you, you trest me like just an option, I treat you like the Burger King menu and have it my way, it's really not hard to figure out, they can take their pick on how they want me to come at them. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @Dee3shaw
      @Dee3shaw Рік тому +3

      That’s not even being mean that’s just reciprocating energy

    • @HenrySimmons1225
      @HenrySimmons1225 3 місяці тому

      That's not being mean.

  • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
    @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Рік тому +4

    I'm nice ..for the most part.. Here I am single no kids.

  • @tatisloveoth
    @tatisloveoth Рік тому +10

    Nothing but wisdom in your words 👌🏼

  • @narrowjourneyz8665
    @narrowjourneyz8665 Рік тому +8

    I was gonna date a guy who is for me dating down.I gave him a chance did everything to treat him right.We had a great conversation and connected but then he ghosted me for a month came back and said he wanna be friends only...Waaa like we were only getting to know each other I never thought anything more.I feel like I boosted his ego so he went to think he can talk to someone even better idk.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +4

      he tried to replace you, couldn't, now is benching you while he 'plate spins'
      will use you to make women jealous and lie about sleeping with you, to them
      you can never be friends with a guy who fancies you, sorry

  • @Smarty2able
    @Smarty2able Рік тому +9

    My ex said he didn't deserve me. Shrug

  • @rachelrose9348
    @rachelrose9348 Рік тому +4

    The first will be last and last last will be first....Ill wait for them to wake up:)

  • @IronEarthDesigns
    @IronEarthDesigns Рік тому +2

    Great to hear this! It' wonderful to see such a young man working on being conscious of his emotional health, and of those around him. Props to you for being your own version of a man.

  • @christopherjordan6689
    @christopherjordan6689 Рік тому +9

    Too many booty calls going on more than relationships.

  • @Smarty2able
    @Smarty2able Рік тому +14

    That was me. My ex crapped on me. Guess I'll be mean now

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому

      SMDH! 🤦‍♂️

  • @BlackRoseFlorida
    @BlackRoseFlorida Рік тому +4

    Men take advantage of empathetic women.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому +1

      Women also abuse empathy. But yes

  • @empathiccalm4959
    @empathiccalm4959 Рік тому +1

    Your so right, that approach is just unhealthy, if anything just having confidence, self worth, and self love with always attract the right people.

  • @laurenann578
    @laurenann578 Рік тому +1

    I hate playing games. I just be nice to them and if the guy likes that, great .. if not, I'll just move onto to someone else who does. Besides, my ex-boyfriends, who were good guys, probably liked that I was a damsel in distress at the time and I liked that they wanted to protect me - not possess me, protect me. I was raised by a army vet, so I often attract or click with guys who want to protect me. But then again, I'm a rape victim so I also need that sense of safety. But I am not weak, oh no. I am feisty, actually. It was always male narcissists that acted the way you that you described and they always rejected me (relationship/commitment wise), thank god!

  • @katarina6724
    @katarina6724 Рік тому +7

    I don't get people who treat dating like this... I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the people you're discussing in the video. I mean, how do you quantify dating and finding someone? There's such a mystery to it. There's attraction, but then there's also just the vibes, the "je ne sais quoi" of it, you know? There's the shared values, the shared hobbies, the: are they self-sufficient? Are they independent and confident? Can they be on their own? I don't get these people who date like, "Oh I got one cute girl, now I'm going to go off and see what else I can find." It's such a weird mentality to me.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому

      sexual greed

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Рік тому

      1. I don't really like being defined as 'cute' I feel like that is degrading. I'm not 10 . I wish people would stop that.
      2. I shared some hobbies and interests with this asshole who "friendzoned" me in the past, now THAT is degrading to say the least!

  • @chrisharris2367
    @chrisharris2367 Рік тому +5

    I first want to say I commend you on your videos
    Blessings to you and your wife/ family
    I have a random comment:
    I see all my relationships as transactional and I’m not interested in friendships much anymore
    I enjoy making money making plans to advance and doing better on the job and financially
    I had a lot of power struggles in my marriage with my husband and yes I’m a black woman because I tried to be a Suzy Homemaker and it didn’t work

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau Рік тому +1

    You'll get the players attention, but in the end, they'll still go for the easier catch.

  • @_itsmejanae
    @_itsmejanae Рік тому +2

    Balance I will do both, of course, never mean in a disrespectful way !

  • @dialmstyle
    @dialmstyle Рік тому +2

    I’ve made these mistakes before I knew what I wanted. Knowing yourself and being yourself is key. Ladies, be yourself. Be strong in your boundaries without being a B. Thank you.

  • @Whoamidontknow17707
    @Whoamidontknow17707 Рік тому +12

    I’m just done with looking for love.
    Guess it’s just not in the cards for me.

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +2

      🎯🎯

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +1

      You Say that...that's Exactly What you Will Get ma. FR. IJS

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +1

      @@jayc5756 you can not say it and the result is the same. After awhile some of us just get plain tired.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому

      @@lisabradford8180 We All are ma. But life and death are of the tongue. So what you say....you Will Get And Attract. Whatever you say....you believe....what you believe..you will get. These are just facts ma.
      You want better results, speak more positively about yourself. But even so, don't speak ill or negative of yourself...unless that'd what you really want. IJS

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 Рік тому +2

      @@jayc5756 sorry but I don't buy into that anymore where love is concerned. Now when it comes to money I buy into it 😁

  • @KevonnieElaine
    @KevonnieElaine Рік тому +5

    This reminds me of the book “Why Men Love Bitches” lol…what I take from it is this, “be nice with your words but be a bitch with your actions.” Meaning you can be nice but set boundaries.

  • @sambur6480
    @sambur6480 Рік тому +1

    Good Girls finish last !

  • @emgee691
    @emgee691 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. Great and true presentation. Genuine " nice guys" usually make the best partners in life and marriage . The "players" generally don't. The hot guys, the ones who have women chasing them, the oness who like to have options the ones who NEED to constantly have attention....I want to stay independent guys, the you won't get ME men....you can try to play hard to get with them or even BE hard for them to get....However, these guys often are only after the hunt or the thrill of the chase or
    the kill. The conquer. The power. The win. But, they're not really after YOU. And they're not likely to be offering you any real or lasting love.
    These types if guys, if you,'ve played the out of reach thing, and if they finally get you, once they do, then they lose interest and go stone cold.
    Not interested in you any more. But then they never really were in the first place. They were only interested in getting their "win". That's all. For them, it's really only about POWER, not love.

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 Рік тому +2

    I tell them this All The Time Kev. They STILL Don't Get It. SMH 🤦‍♂️

  • @Autumn_Forest_
    @Autumn_Forest_ Рік тому +3

    Wow, thank you for your perspective. I would never have thought of this topic in this way.

  • @unconventional1ne
    @unconventional1ne Рік тому +6

    Thanks Kev for your work🌹

  • @randomfun3845
    @randomfun3845 Рік тому +2

    Dating is 100% fishing. Throw your lure out in the lake.

  • @jimwockjer4472
    @jimwockjer4472 Рік тому +5

    I think women get confused and are too mean to soon and you don’t give the guy an opportunity to even want to be around you… we only value a challenge once we see you have the ability to cooperate.. its no different than a man being nice to manipulate you

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому

      I agree to an extent, but it can’t be ignored that guys love when girls are mean, especially if the girl is sexy and flirty. Notice how it’s a certain type of girl that men are fine being mistreated by? It doesn’t matter if she’s mean upfront or later. It will be excused until the guy can’t take it anymore.

    • @Dee3shaw
      @Dee3shaw Рік тому

      @@tiahnarodriguez3809na I disagree

  • @nicrwill
    @nicrwill Рік тому +3

    I feel like broke/unattractive men have a lot of options

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому +2

      😂 with love, why is it so hard for women to admit men are also having a human experience. There’s no monopoly on trauma or rejection. Even homely women want attractive men.

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому +4

      Of course they do. Dusty men and dusty women are plentiful.

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 Рік тому +11

    What don't yall women get? We Keep Telling Yall. There's Mainly 2 Different Types of Guys. The Good Men..And the F boy Players. Which 1 do you want?
    Kev gives advice to Attract Good Men...Not The Bad Toxic Guys.

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому

      There are good men, “nice” guys, and players.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 Рік тому +1

      @@tiahnarodriguez3809 Nice is an act. Anybody can be nice. So no...there are good men and not so good men. You can be nice and be good...or you can be nice and not.

  • @randomfun3845
    @randomfun3845 Рік тому +2

    My friends that stay strong in their values & come off as b*tchy their man is wrapped around their finger & respect her.

  • @halimatabdulmalik2644
    @halimatabdulmalik2644 Рік тому +2

    You are really Godsent Kev, currently reading the book with the same title as this video, and as much as a few of the tactics worked, it just didn't sit well or seem natural to me especially as I am dealing with a really different type of guy. Thank you so much for this, it has brought me the clarity I was really searching for

  • @smithr2k9
    @smithr2k9 Рік тому +1

    Hey King 🤴🏽GREAT Content💯‼️
    I treat my Anointed King-LOVE❤his Alpha Male Masculinity--Lovingly, compassionally, respectfully, etc. He treats me his Anointed 👸🏽Queen loving the same. We have been together for a long time. Thanks to my highly revered & loved 👸🏽great-grandmother's feminine training she taught her daughters and grand daughters (RIP QUEEN Forever my Guardian Angel).
    I had to deep dive to heal from some of the bad societal grooming🤯🥶 and it was NOT easy. I'm ALWAYS Learning.
    Keep the fantastic content coming. 🙏🏽🏅💪🏽💪🏽🥰💯‼️

  • @hcyr23
    @hcyr23 Рік тому +2

    Women can also have narcissist tendencies, let's not forget. Some are brutal. And it is not cute. Im also a sociable loner Kevin. Who wants to play follow the "leader"? Those who are first, are often left last. Let's treat ppl how we want to be treated. he/she, whatever ya be 🖖

  • @lindazeisky3845
    @lindazeisky3845 Рік тому +1

    Makes sense... I agree 💯

  • @DairiesofaDarkSkinBeauty
    @DairiesofaDarkSkinBeauty Рік тому +2

    Congratulations man on your financial advthere 😊efforts

  • @SuzylondonUK
    @SuzylondonUK Рік тому +2

    Thanks Hicky ❤this was on my suggestions. Great video 🎉🎉🎉

  • @pianotnt
    @pianotnt Рік тому +2

    Well 2pac once said I don't want it if its that easy meaning men respect women with standards I never forgot that line in I get around and was 2 days shy of 21 when he died

  • @susanharris3552
    @susanharris3552 Рік тому

    You have given me hope that I can find someone to love.

  • @margotschroeder5057
    @margotschroeder5057 Рік тому +1

    😆well, I'm still confused, this didn't help at all

  • @randomfun3845
    @randomfun3845 Рік тому +2

    If a woman is a b because she is standing strong in her values & having self respect it's a good healthy thing. If she's doing it to play games that's not good.

  • @E.Nobody
    @E.Nobody Рік тому

    Doesn't seem to matter for me.. I get told I'm so sweet and kind and caring.. but I don't ever seem to be good enough for someone to love..
    I'm one of four children... I'm the only one who isn't married.. even my baby sister is married..all of them were married before they reached the age i am.. even my parents were married before they reached the age i am..
    I'm never the woman a man wants to love and grow with..
    I'm just.. there..

  • @Kerrviii
    @Kerrviii Рік тому

    Stay mean , keep ‘em keen!

  • @arvuti36
    @arvuti36 Рік тому

    Nice and needy, is different from confident and nice

  • @tanyalalonde733
    @tanyalalonde733 Рік тому

    I agree with what your saying my now spouse of 13yrs is a wonderful, supportive, caring, loving man, but because he is on a disability pension has had a difficult time connecting with women. He is not a leach or someone that I support financially.. he supports himself financially and it doesn't bother him that I make more money than him. I think if more women gave this type a person a chance they would see that real good men don't want a b!&$#. Because they are constantly judged without even getting to know them.

  • @aplancarte
    @aplancarte Рік тому +2

    Awesome advice!!! 🙌

  • @nancyrentas443
    @nancyrentas443 Рік тому +1

    Very true

  • @caterinadelgalles8783
    @caterinadelgalles8783 Рік тому

    My goodness, this is wiseeeee

  • @mashakalinkina7207
    @mashakalinkina7207 Рік тому +1

    👏👏 Perfect!

  • @anonymousnation5235
    @anonymousnation5235 Рік тому

    A lot of people get Sherry Argov's Bi**h concept wrong. She never said women should hurt men to be taken seriously. She just advised women to stand on her own in dating game and not be nice to their own disadvantage.
    And believe it or not, you can't be nice even with guys with no other options. They'll also test you.

  • @trishawallingsford4146
    @trishawallingsford4146 Рік тому +1

    More great stuff my dude!!!

  • @BelovedRebekkah
    @BelovedRebekkah Рік тому +1

    Omg I am such a Bi*** and right the guys who are players LOVE this

  • @yaunarouse6697
    @yaunarouse6697 Рік тому

    Wow, I just said this exact quote.

  • @Reshme77
    @Reshme77 Рік тому +1

    Good points

  • @MelissaTaylor-cg5sx
    @MelissaTaylor-cg5sx Рік тому

    Thank you!!!

  • @csstudio3648
    @csstudio3648 Рік тому +3

    Tried giving a thumbs-up multiple times but it didn't work. I also hit the thumbs down to see if that would fix the problem though I did like the video. Is something up with youtube? Anyone else having this problem?

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому +2

      I’m not sure what’s going on with UA-cam

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 Рік тому +3

    Alot of times the nerdy girls or nice girls dont went nerdy guys. Alot if it comes down to choices

  • @lisatso81
    @lisatso81 Рік тому

    Love this video

  • @randomfun3845
    @randomfun3845 Рік тому

    That is so true!!

  • @Nozylatten
    @Nozylatten Рік тому

    I'm good man I have to much wealth to care about what a woman thinks 😂😂😂

  • @Thefew12
    @Thefew12 Рік тому +2

    This is not dating this is Getting your ego stroke because u have low self esteem. You really have to pay for a parent.

  • @nefertaridaempress
    @nefertaridaempress Рік тому +1

    Don’t play hard to get just be hard on these men and don’t take your foot 🦶 off they neck longer than a few seconds for them to gasp for air! Don’t have sex with them either unless you absolutely can’t help yourself and need to do it for you (however, pray to have the will power to abstain from sex), because they’ll wait and pretend like you guys are in a serious committed relationship, they’ll even marry you and flip the switch on you. Become emotionally independent and pray to God to fill you with love one of the fruitage of the spirit Galatians 5:22,23

  • @B.I.-EIO_macdonald9786
    @B.I.-EIO_macdonald9786 Рік тому

    The B side.

  • @stefg7611
    @stefg7611 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing this knowledge. Extremely helpful ❤

  • @IsaroBururu
    @IsaroBururu Рік тому

    First like! I mean second somebody bit me up😂

  • @octaviawilson9155
    @octaviawilson9155 Рік тому

    Amen ❤

  • @fionaedwards8430
    @fionaedwards8430 Рік тому

    You’re right “these are guys who have options”

  • @iriswood3744
    @iriswood3744 Рік тому +1

    Men complain about Women that act like a B. Towards them

    • @P03ticJustice
      @P03ticJustice Рік тому +4

      But that's who they remember they never mention the good ones

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Рік тому +4

      but that's who they marry

    • @Niani23455
      @Niani23455 Рік тому

      Who's they? May I ask if all 3 billion + men in the world are the same?

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Рік тому

      @@Niani23455 Of course no one is the same, but it’s an observable pattern that guys tend to like “B”s

  • @marsvsvenus6256
    @marsvsvenus6256 Рік тому

    This video was confusing to me. Who would want to be a B-I-T-C-H and want a serious relationship at the same time?

  • @trish9768
    @trish9768 Рік тому +1

    Whats your sign u sound like me small circle

  • @sososanchez3512
    @sososanchez3512 Рік тому

    I don't finish last.
    I ain't doin all that .
    I bask in feminity.
    That's like my package being damaged, I will send it back

  • @Vonnie24
    @Vonnie24 Рік тому

    Where a from a not so attractive man shoot his shot in a heartbeat.

  • @maddart4445
    @maddart4445 Рік тому +2

    First one. Really? So she gives no fluff? I bet she fluffs up her girls. Oh why would anyone want to spend time with someone that’s doesn’t hype them up?

  • @lesliehill3025
    @lesliehill3025 Рік тому +1

    Money

  • @susang.perlina653
    @susang.perlina653 Рік тому

    money

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Рік тому

      Text my phone 614 254 6633 I’m still replying to people from this weekend. 😁

  • @vc9185
    @vc9185 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @saucygyal6480
    @saucygyal6480 Рік тому

    Hey Mr kev, how do you feel about henpecked men; the ones who are dominated by their wives?