This is genius. I won the break-up. He went through all the stages you mention. He came back after 3 months. I never thought he'd come back. I dated lots of guys. After three months away, he came back, and asked me to marry him. We're now engaged!
@@flyandshy00 Are you kidding me?! Where there's control, there's no trust and no love. Love is mutual trust and respect. Actions speak louder than words. And remember that those who control are toxic! That's not a healthy relationship. Women have got a precious thing called intuition. They must listen to it!
@@flyandshy00 don't you think she's mature enough to handle this situation?! It's both's decision to be together, not yours. Live and let live! By the way, it's better not to judge others' lives as long as you do not know them or their relationships.
Women will lose if they keep having a scarcity mindset - if he doesn;t text you back for hours - go on a date with another one. He clearly is not invested. Date while you're not married. Stop worrying about one man when there are like billions of people.
The best relationship advice I can give is to nurture a strong connection with yourself and with God, and to be genuine and authentic without playing games. When you respect yourself, you naturally give others space and demonstrate emotional intelligence. Trust that God will protect you if things don’t work out. Instead of solely focusing on relationships, get involved in your community, serve others, and pursue your purpose. What’s meant for you won’t be hindered; those who wait on the Lord won’t be disappointed. It’s better to be alone than with someone who isn’t committed. Rushing into things is like hastily eating from the tree of knowledge-it’s meant to be savored, not rushed. Take your time to get to know each other deeply; true love unfolds slowly in the present moment.
People who are emotionally immature and play games often ruin their chances when a genuine person comes along-they end up hurting themselves. God sees the true intentions of people, and when He knows your heart, He won’t let you settle. His love for you is too great. So what does not work out for you actually works out for you… think of it as divine protection. ❤
@@JasminepsalmThis is absolutely true. Once i met a man who was a womanizer. When I was abandoned, I didn't know that it was a form of protection from God. Then, this man came back because he couldn't find a woman like me.
the avoidant doesn't even want to have needs, and they certainly don't want you meeting them... because then that would mean that they're relying on you, and that's one of their worst fears!
Honestly, none of this matters if the guy started dating another girl/ other girls. He enters into limerance with them and if the connection/chemistry is as strong/ stronger than the one he had with you, he is never coming back to you nor having thoughts about you. His thoughts will be preoccupied with his new dates. This only works if the guy is still single and not actively pursuing anybody else or that the girls he wanted don't want him lol. Why would you even want such man back? We're better than this, let him go and move on with your life.
Then why don't you make your own channel with dating advice instead of watching this and disagreeing with paragraphs. Just start your own since you're an expert.
It works if the guy has still feelings for you so many people are dating one person but still thinking about another one is a crazy world and so difficult to date nowadays…
Girl, if you feel that if you left him you will be better, MOVE ON, you’ll feel pain for some times but later on you’ll thank yourself self for leaving him, there’s millions of guys will want to marry you, just focus and feed yourself with all love that you want, and improve yourself for youuu, just accept that you will feel some pain for period of time.
This only works when you force yourself to get over this situation but to truly forget. Not by pretending or acting like you're over it. So always take it as a permanent official breakup. He/She will eventually come but it won't be the same for you.
Only for the one that was reaping the benefits of the relationship. Whoever brought value to the relationship will be hurt of course, but will also feel a sense of relief.
It works every time for me, but my problem in the past is i took him back far too soon (i was emotionally lead and fearful) so he only changed temporarily. You have to take your time and see real changes. Offer an ultimatum and run. He will either make space for a new man OR he will sort out his BS
@@Free-o7d I’m not a naive person but just because someone walks out doesn’t always mean they don’t care about you. Not making excuses for any unhealthy behavior it just is what it is
Why would you want to wait around for a guy to see if he will miss you and come back? He might not even come back and you wasted so much time. Maybe it will help if you think of it this way, you are putting your self worth down over a man who wants another woman. You are just focused on this one person because he rejected you and you want validation. That what it is because this is not love and he isn’t your soulmate. Don’t dwell on him and focus on healing. If that means getting under someone else to get over him then do that, but that is the very last resort. Love can be like an addiction and to cure an addiction you must resist. Get therapy, journal your thoughts and work on becoming a stronger version of yourself.
Elliot I really appreciate the way you speak, concise, organized, engaging. So many people don’t know how to deliver a good lecture. You mastered it and it’s so refreshing to watch your content ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
If only you had posted this about 5 days ago! I caved after a month and few weeks and messaged him. He was kinda cold and dismissive😩 I need to just learn my lesson with him. It’s like I’m back to square one again with him. A guy who wants to be with me wouldn’t even put me through this hell though. I think it’s time I just start talking to other men.
Okay no worries, you reached out no problem. That was the last chance and you don’t have to regret anything. Like if only I tried one more time. You have your answer no more waiting. And don’t you dare linger on any small shred of hope. Just move on. If it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell NO. Time waits for no one and neither should you. You’ll regret this waiting when you look back
@@Goosebumps871 thank you for replying. I haven’t heard from him since, and I doubt I will. The rejection really hurt in the beginning, but it gets better with each passing day. I can’t force someone to be in my life, so I’ve moved on. I’m working now and have 2 crushes on guys at work. I’m not gonna stop living my life in hopes he’ll change his mind. It is what it is🤷🏻♀️
Being outcome dependent is counterproductive. Mind games are easily played on you when you're hell-bent on forcing a certain outcome. And guys can see it from a mile away.
Three weeks after we broke up, I packed up and went clear across state to family. My sister and I started traveling. We bought front row seat tickets to concerts horseback riding on the beach. I started checking off bucket list wants and posted all the fun stuff that I was doing. I’m sure it was killing them.
He's right, I let it go. I did my life he did his. I didn't even think of him as even, remotely being a possibility anymore. 3 years later here he is knocking at my door. 😂
One of my exes did this actually six months before he realized everything then crying in front of me and he was sick so I let him and prepare his foods and meds even he hurt me I tried to be a good person 12:43 12:43 but I'll not take him back again 😂😂😂 and the other one texted me hell do anything just to get back me😅😂😂
He threw me out after one of our worse arguments he called me three weeks later after I left, screaming at me drunk, and I ruined his life. It was the best five years of his life with me. I never heard from him again.
1000% right. Having standards I call it "my personal red line", concerning.. dignity, self-care, self-love, trust in yourself and others. Silence here is really very important, it keeps you interesting and mysterious, and the energy vampire doesn't know how to get more energy from you... haha. Unfortunately I had to learn to let him go, but I feel good. I'm also proud of myself, I haven't looked up him on the internet for a long time and erased all of his photos. Better than having to wait for him forever. When he left, he "parked himself" in my point of view. Bad luck for him. Life goes on and something new and beautiful will come. All the best and thanks for the great coaching here. Greetings from Cologne
You are right, you gotta show that your the prize you gotta show shows I can get some else you gotta show your value, this happened to me I left, and he reach out but me… no response
After dating for 2 1/2 years, I moved in with him three months after moving in with him and walking away from everything I owns to be with him he told me I wasn’t marriage material I thought I was gonna lose my mind
😂😂😂when he says that just know that you are not easy for him to run you up and down, you won my girl and he lost, you were mentally heavy for him, I love you for being that strong woman
Honestly - why the games? Why cant 2 people just come together level headed? Why is the dating world so effed up? Why do peoole play games?! Am i missing something?
We are complex creatures, what you see as mind games might be completely logical in someone else’s head. We all have traumas, different perspectives, instincts and can be very reactive. That’s just our nature, people who try to pretend that doesn’t exist will end up disappointed. We can either learn how the game is played and follow the rules to win, or we can get angry and scream that nobody should be playing, then loose every time 😅
I’m sure he misses those quiet times laying in bed watching Netflix for days on end ordering him food laughing but trust me this man does not miss this social freedom. He’s out every night of the week when he’s not performing, he’s got women hanging off him no I’m sure I’m nothing more than a memory
Let us be honest if a guy breaks up for a long period of time he probably didnt care that much anyway If a guy is really into u and thinks ur his dream girl he will not lose u
How long should you make a cheater suffer? I know some people say leave and never look back but I don't want to walk away yet however I really want to make it burn that he took me for granted and betrayed me. I'm thinking like a year? I'm very patient and actually always enjoyed being single. But a full filling relationship is just as rewarding as healthy singledom. It's been a month since I caught him and he's already begging me back and reaching out to family. Honestly I'm still mad as hell and hurt but long term I can definitely see myself being with him if he shows proof of change. However I ain't sitting around holding my breath.
@@chrissytaurus9278 I understand this but he wants to work through his mental health issues and addictions he said. He could just be saying it but he said he would take necessary steps and only could show me in time if I allowed it. I ignored the messages and voicemails and I'm still no contact but if somehow he were able to overcome these issues within he would be a real partner and team mate. I just don't know where forgiveness works with this and my suspicion is alot more women stay than leave. But is it true that they never change? But also did the man or woman even acknowledge/take necessary steps to change? If the work is put in is it possible for someone to change???
This is great advice .. but I’m not on social media 😂😂 nor is he …any way I dumped him .. beginning to think I over reacted …😂😂..too late…. another guy got I m touch .. so I’m going to get to know him .. I’ve also decided that internet dating just tiggers so many insecurities that I end up just making a mess .. lack of trust .. so I’ve decide now to to focus on getting to know someone through friendship… I think relationships are so disposable now that it’s just become a game …but if I can build trust with a guy through friendship then I have a much better chance of making it work ..
I am in a situation where I am interested in dating, I am not focused on future outcomes but I do not want a one night stand. I would appreciate your advice. The men that are interested seem to go into sexual suggestive txt very early which is a complete turn off. I value a man’s integrity over instant gratification. Any advice ?
Depends on why you were blocked. If you were in the wrong then consider messaging apology using a textnow number or social media and then give him space to unblock.
In my experience, they always come back. All of the dudes that I was in a relationship with or dated have come back. Some after a few months and some after 4 years. You just have to move on and heal. You'll realize that even if they come back there was a reason why it didn't work. When we're hurt we want that so bad but when we have healed we realize that we're better off without them.
He is living his life for himself. You live your life for Yourself. If he doesn't give a ish, so must you. Girl, dont waste your precious time. Gather yourself. Get out of your head. And move on !
Sometimes it's best if they don't. Mine came back after 9-10months. Only to tie up 4-5 months then slow fade to completely disappear. I asked why, he refused to respond. I've lined up others. He has zero chance with me again.
I had been dating a love bomber for 6 months. Did the terrible mistake to live with him at my place ignoring the early love bombing that did not make sense that fast plus the fact that ever since date 1 he was talking about his alcoholic ex girlfriend of 5 years who entered into a new relationship soon after the breakup. 5 months on and he still kept mentioning her even on my birthday, then gaslighting me that I am the one who should n t talk about her when I asked for explanation on what is going on. I felt heartbroken and stupid for trying to make things work with sb clearly rebounding. I m kinda ashamed of sharing this and for not having cut him off early early on. Sometimes our need to be in a relationship blinds us. Please love yourselves first. People do not always come with good intentions. Mentioning their ex to you, not introducing you to their friends, not taking responsibility for their hurtful words and actions: major red flags. Wish you all good luck in dating. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect 🙏
The only way to make a man like that, one whose hung up on his ex, fall for you. Is to break his fucking heart worst that she ever did. Wait for a peak in thr relationship and just dump him harshly, then take him back after some major suffering on his part. But it changes you in the process, you don’t want to become a toxic person. Have a soft loving heart with good intentions and you’ll attract the right man. ❤
I'm kind of in a different place my x fiance kissed someone else at a festival and I left I moved out and it's been hard to fully cut it off he's been doing all the things he use to do and although I know he regrets it I feel it's not enough time to be for sure he's afraid I'll find someone else even tho he's the one that hurt me. I still love him and it's been hard.
We’re both stubborn fix zodiac signs. He’s a Taurus. I’m in Aquarius. Most stubborn neither one of us will crack. I almost did a few times but I stop myself.
So during no contact if he reaches out am I replying to him and being short ? Or ignoring him completely ? I can see that going down hill also he might just assume we’ve lost interest altogether
NOOOO DO NOT REACH OUT. this about this. u waited months for him to reach out, u went through pain etc … but he waited months with ease to reach out then u reply??? that’s not good enough. If he reaches out, i saw on another channel… do not respond for after 14 days. give it AT LEAST 14 days.. so he can feel & panic & think huh where is this girl. Pls stick to this my ex messaged me two days after we broke up, but i’m giving it two weeks as well… i’ll see how it goes.. i think i want to keep no contact forever
He turns 60 during our separation, and while we’ve been separated, I hate to say he doesn’t have that well kept in a relationship look He looks older let himself go all gray, and he’s dressing like he’s 30 he looks ridiculous.
What the hell are you doing !? 1 yr !!!! Move on right now ! Don’t be a prisoner of hoping. Time isn’t stopping for you, it waits for no one. Your biggest regret will be wasting anymore time waiting on someone that’s actively moving on without you. Let go so God can give you what you deserve. Only empty hands can receive so let him go ❤
He rejected me for someone else. I stopped contacting him, he came back. He told me she was just a rebound and he will only ever have true intimacy and connection with me. It took about 3-6 months before he reached out , I knew he will return and he wants to be a family - I’m taking it slow but he knows he has to regain my trust Women have faith ! Men will always return
The fact that you would let a man tell you he doesn’t want you and then take him back when he realized that playtime is over is wild to me… He went and had his fun and fucked another girl and came running back to you because he knew that you wouldtake him in with open arms… Don’t ever let a man tell you he doesn’t want you twice.😢
Great content, but i don't know I don't like playing games and hoping someone regrets whatever happened. That's just not me and I also don't care to date ppl. I am the type of person who see's through ppl in general and not entertained by most "normal" men or people in general. So in my personal preference it is scarcity out here with options. Dating multiple men even casually feels like I'm slutty. Not that I'm saying that's what that is but it makes Me feel that way and I don't like it. I can't entertain the energy capacity it takes to have small talk convo's and waste my time. It is hard which makes me feel hopeless to attract someone. These games and fears that we walk around in is just absurd to me. I aint got the time or energy. I don't want to be single but shit I aint doing all that. Too many folks don't know who they are let alone what they want and need and entertain whatever comes their way. I'm good. I invested into someone where I eventually had to pull away because that was painful to be in the middle of someone who wouldn't commit or make me feel safe by being in that energy. Wasn't emotionally available, knew what he wanted. I kept hoping for a while until I said nope. And what I mean by "normal" is that I value integrity, independent thinking, uniqueness and emotional maturity. not the "traditional" qualifying lists people love to rant about
I try to lay low but dang, he sends his brother to my work sporadically to say hey. And his bro is nice but at first meeting said later in conversation said his brother is busy with his new gf. So I thought fine, that’s done. But then the brother still visits sporadically occasionally mentioning his bro that moved for his job. I’m a polite person, see no sense to be rude to the brother. But at a loss that what this all means?
I really need advice… a guy asked to see me next weekend he even asked to drive an hour to where I live. Yet I’ve not heard from him since I asked him the question to be honest that meeting is an equal want and that he’s not doing it for the sake of it. I don’t know what to do
@ria.michaelas STOP texting him. If he wants to get in touch w you, he’ll call you, if he wants to make real plans with you he’ll do that. And stay off internet dating sites these demons use them as a way to gain access to women easily.
Ok once thry come back and commit how do you know they wont do it again? Im pretty surr he will because he always has but i fell for giving him sugar walls. I am determined not do that this time. But how tf do i decide if i can fuckin trust him
Can a married man come back? We dated before, and for a long time I was try a get him back, he finally started contacting me recently but to hook up, I said I didnt mind seeing him etc, only to find out from his friends his actually getting married in a few days to his secret girlfriend, he just blocked me, not even telling me his getting married? I guess I'm happy for him, I'm accepting it but do you think I would ever from him again ? What are the chances?
Move on. If you do hear from him then what? With all due respect, Do you want him to rekindle with you? Do you want to be his mistress? What are you expecting to happen if you do hear from him?
One rule you should always live by is to never let a man embarrass or humiliate you. He literally kept a fiancé from you and blocked you without warning. That should speak volumes to you. Why on Earth would you want a man back after he did that to you???
Its really not that complex. If people aren't giving you their time or energy move on. If they decide to come back its your choice if you want to re-entertain that. For me if you communicated to me that you weren't interested or you just wanted to do your own thing I would respect that ALOT more than you just ghosting or pulling away with NO explanation whatsoever. So if you return after leaving like an adult I would be willing to still be friends or whatever but if you can't even communicate and you just disappear you need to stay a ghost and not come back this way.
Let it go... Admit you got played and take care of urself Be thankful it ended bcz it could have been layer in a worse way Pull back and act like U dodged a bullet bcz U did Yeah it hurts to be played but it happened accept and let go
How about a woman who stood by the guy who has addictions and he's only getting rehab now. He's asked me to marry him but never got an engagement ring. He says I am the love of his life. He says he loves me when he calls and wants me to say it back. He wants to know what I am up to. In the past the females fooled around on him. Feel like he just wants someone around. He wears the ring that I got him in rehab. There's much more that I could say. Please tell me how you see this. It's almost 3 years now.
@annatraczyk8417 He is only starting to understand how he treated me and has apologized. While he was in Rehabilitation he finally got it. He has had serious addiction and insecurity issues for at least 30 years.
This is genius. I won the break-up. He went through all the stages you mention. He came back after 3 months. I never thought he'd come back. I dated lots of guys. After three months away, he came back, and asked me to marry him. We're now engaged!
Congrats to you! I wish you happiness.
You need to check his phone if he's not cheating. Don;t you think it's just a shut up ring? He probably met a few women in that time.
@@flyandshy00 Are you kidding me?! Where there's control, there's no trust and no love. Love is mutual trust and respect.
Actions speak louder than words.
And remember that those who control are toxic! That's not a healthy relationship.
Women have got a precious thing called intuition. They must listen to it!
@@corinaluanavlad2417 Trust? He didn;t earn it. She trusted him, he left her for someone else, then came back and gacve a "shut up" ring.
@@flyandshy00 don't you think she's mature enough to handle this situation?! It's both's decision to be together, not yours.
Live and let live!
By the way, it's better not to judge others' lives as long as you do not know them or their relationships.
Women will lose if they keep having a scarcity mindset - if he doesn;t text you back for hours - go on a date with another one. He clearly is not invested. Date while you're not married. Stop worrying about one man when there are like billions of people.
Best advice I have ever received
100%
Options do help. Traditionally. Women had many suitors and were in the position of power to choose the best man for her.
Why date another man right away? Date yourself! 😊
Yes and no… it’s all good to do that but if none of those suitors are up to par then what’s the point.
He came back, and I honestly could care less... Slight ego boost, but BLOCK and DELETE. BYE.
u mean u COULDN’T care less…? lmfao
The best relationship advice I can give is to nurture a strong connection with yourself and with God, and to be genuine and authentic without playing games. When you respect yourself, you naturally give others space and demonstrate emotional intelligence. Trust that God will protect you if things don’t work out. Instead of solely focusing on relationships, get involved in your community, serve others, and pursue your purpose. What’s meant for you won’t be hindered; those who wait on the Lord won’t be disappointed. It’s better to be alone than with someone who isn’t committed. Rushing into things is like hastily eating from the tree of knowledge-it’s meant to be savored, not rushed. Take your time to get to know each other deeply; true love unfolds slowly in the present moment.
People who are emotionally immature and play games often ruin their chances when a genuine person comes along-they end up hurting themselves. God sees the true intentions of people, and when He knows your heart, He won’t let you settle. His love for you is too great. So what does not work out for you actually works out for you… think of it as divine protection. ❤
You are so right!!!!! God definitely protects
@@JasminepsalmThis is absolutely true. Once i met a man who was a womanizer. When I was abandoned, I didn't know that it was a form of protection from God. Then, this man came back because he couldn't find a woman like me.
@@flowieedennand then what happened?
@@BrooklynBaby-1 Apparently his character hasn't changed, I want to give him a chance after we haven't been in touch for so long.
*Note: Beware when dealing with narcs, because they don't regret losing you, THEY ONLY REGRET THE LOSS OF WHAT YOU SUPPLIED
I think my old boss was one cause now that he’s moved on he don’t talk to me
This!
Some people think they could just come and go as they please
No thanks
the avoidant doesn't even want to have needs,
and they certainly don't want you meeting them...
because then that would mean that they're relying on you,
and that's one of their worst fears!
Honestly, none of this matters if the guy started dating another girl/ other girls. He enters into limerance with them and if the connection/chemistry is as strong/ stronger than the one he had with you, he is never coming back to you nor having thoughts about you. His thoughts will be preoccupied with his new dates. This only works if the guy is still single and not actively pursuing anybody else or that the girls he wanted don't want him lol. Why would you even want such man back? We're better than this, let him go and move on with your life.
This is what I came here to say lol Why would you want this person back? Ew
Then why don't you make your own channel with dating advice instead of watching this and disagreeing with paragraphs. Just start your own since you're an expert.
I agree cause I’m this way too .
It works if the guy has still feelings for you so many people are dating one person but still thinking about another one is a crazy world and so difficult to date nowadays…
Exactly mine is chasing women way out of his league it’s been a yr he’s never coming back at this point
Girl, if you feel that if you left him you will be better, MOVE ON, you’ll feel pain for some times but later on you’ll thank yourself self for leaving him, there’s millions of guys will want to marry you, just focus and feed yourself with all love that you want, and improve yourself for youuu, just accept that you will feel some pain for period of time.
Im completely detoxing from him. I am not vested in what he does. I need to be happy with myself and my life - independent of him.
This only works when you force yourself to get over this situation but to truly forget. Not by pretending or acting like you're over it. So always take it as a permanent official breakup. He/She will eventually come but it won't be the same for you.
so basically absence makes the heart grow fonder
Only for the one that was reaping the benefits of the relationship. Whoever brought value to the relationship will be hurt of course, but will also feel a sense of relief.
In my case absence makes the heart forget 😂
It works every time for me, but my problem in the past is i took him back far too soon (i was emotionally lead and fearful) so he only changed temporarily. You have to take your time and see real changes. Offer an ultimatum and run. He will either make space for a new man OR he will sort out his BS
How long do you think is good to wait before considering giving it another go?
Thing is, he walked out and I’m so disappointed that if he does try to come back I don’t even want him. Can’t be trusted and I really liked him.
@@Free-o7d I’m not a naive person but just because someone walks out doesn’t always mean they don’t care about you. Not making excuses for any unhealthy behavior it just is what it is
Same.
Why would you want to wait around for a guy to see if he will miss you and come back? He might not even come back and you wasted so much time. Maybe it will help if you think of it this way, you are putting your self worth down over a man who wants another woman. You are just focused on this one person because he rejected you and you want validation. That what it is because this is not love and he isn’t your soulmate. Don’t dwell on him and focus on healing. If that means getting under someone else to get over him then do that, but that is the very last resort. Love can be like an addiction and to cure an addiction you must resist. Get therapy, journal your thoughts and work on becoming a stronger version of yourself.
Well said!! 👏
I really needed to hear this, thank you, your comment has helped me in my healing process
i have been watching you for a few years. You give by far the most rawest advice. You're like an honest buddy. Thank you.
I appreciate how blunt you are. What you’re saying is on point
Elliot I really appreciate the way you speak, concise, organized, engaging. So many people don’t know how to deliver a good lecture. You mastered it and it’s so refreshing to watch your content ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
The amount of time he said YOU HAVE TO WIN the break up was it for me 😂😂😂
Everyone wants revenge through regret lol....that was me in 2019. Now I leveled up heehee...keep watching his videos 👌🏻
If only you had posted this about 5 days ago! I caved after a month and few weeks and messaged him. He was kinda cold and dismissive😩 I need to just learn my lesson with him. It’s like I’m back to square one again with him. A guy who wants to be with me wouldn’t even put me through this hell though. I think it’s time I just start talking to other men.
Okay no worries, you reached out no problem. That was the last chance and you don’t have to regret anything. Like if only I tried one more time. You have your answer no more waiting. And don’t you dare linger on any small shred of hope. Just move on. If it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell NO. Time waits for no one and neither should you. You’ll regret this waiting when you look back
@@Goosebumps871 thank you for replying. I haven’t heard from him since, and I doubt I will. The rejection really hurt in the beginning, but it gets better with each passing day. I can’t force someone to be in my life, so I’ve moved on. I’m working now and have 2 crushes on guys at work. I’m not gonna stop living my life in hopes he’ll change his mind. It is what it is🤷🏻♀️
yes talk to other guys, hes not worth it, trust me. Im at a stage I dont even care anymore
@@michiekisses143Men like this need to be put on blast on social media. Everyone needs to be warned of their toxicity
This was great, Elliot. Thank you! ❤
You're always real ,great content...
WOW! Maaaaaan you’re unbelievable and really cheering me up 🖤🔥💯
Being outcome dependent is counterproductive. Mind games are easily played on you when you're hell-bent on forcing a certain outcome. And guys can see it from a mile away.
Bingo! Thats very very true
@@ElliotScottDating thanks Elliott!
Thank You so much Elliott!
love love love this video elliot! thank you.
Preach Elliot. 🔥
Absolutely AMAZING , it’s all so perfectly said. You are incredible.
So are you ❤️ thank you very much
Right? Was coming here to say the same . You are literally the best of the best Elliot 🙌🏻
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Three weeks after we broke up, I packed up and went clear across state to family. My sister and I started traveling. We bought front row seat tickets to concerts horseback riding on the beach. I started checking off bucket list wants and posted all the fun stuff that I was doing. I’m sure it was killing them.
@debraannedimezza8075 and what happened 😅😅
I left. Just knowing that men use placeholders . Let him deal with that heavy stuff .
He's right, I let it go. I did my life he did his. I didn't even think of him as even, remotely being a possibility anymore. 3 years later here he is knocking at my door. 😂
What happend? Did you let him in? 😄
Not right away but yes I let him in.
How is it going now?
One of my exes did this actually six months before he realized everything then crying in front of me and he was sick so I let him and prepare his foods and meds even he hurt me I tried to be a good person 12:43 12:43 but I'll not take him back again 😂😂😂 and the other one texted me hell do anything just to get back me😅😂😂
He sounds like the wounded lion Elliot brought up in his more recent videos. A wounded man is a LIABILITY to a woman and her children.
He threw me out after one of our worse arguments he called me three weeks later after I left, screaming at me drunk, and I ruined his life. It was the best five years of his life with me. I never heard from him again.
Superb content💯
You are def the favorite! ❤❤❤
Thank you that means a lot
1000% right. Having standards I call it "my personal red line", concerning.. dignity, self-care, self-love, trust in yourself and others. Silence here is really very important, it keeps you interesting and mysterious, and the energy vampire doesn't know how to get more energy from you... haha. Unfortunately I had to learn to let him go, but I feel good. I'm also proud of myself, I haven't looked up him on the internet for a long time and erased all of his photos. Better than having to wait for him forever. When he left, he "parked himself" in my point of view. Bad luck for him. Life goes on and something new and beautiful will come. All the best and thanks for the great coaching here. Greetings from Cologne
You are right, you gotta show that your the prize you gotta show shows I can get some else you gotta show your value, this happened to me I left, and he reach out but me… no response
So that means good for future you both. Stay away from him also to know if you love him truely. Then finally you don't want him.
Thanks!
You have to win the breakup ladies ❤.
Thanks coach🎉🎉🎉
i need this rn.
very good!
After dating for 2 1/2 years, I moved in with him three months after moving in with him and walking away from everything I owns to be with him he told me I wasn’t marriage material I thought I was gonna lose my mind
damn shit
😂😂😂when he says that just know that you are not easy for him to run you up and down, you won my girl and he lost, you were mentally heavy for him, I love you for being that strong woman
I told mine to delete my number and I was deleting his. He said, “Are you SURE?!” I said, “Yes, Bye.”
The. End. I hope he’s doing well.
Honestly - why the games? Why cant 2 people just come together level headed? Why is the dating world so effed up? Why do peoole play games?! Am i missing something?
We are complex creatures, what you see as mind games might be completely logical in someone else’s head. We all have traumas, different perspectives, instincts and can be very reactive. That’s just our nature, people who try to pretend that doesn’t exist will end up disappointed. We can either learn how the game is played and follow the rules to win, or we can get angry and scream that nobody should be playing, then loose every time 😅
What happens when he leaves you and a few days later he come back, start calling, look for you, apologize and let you know he regrets what he did?
Make him work for it. That was a fake break up. But you have to teach him a lesson so he doesn't do it again. He must court you from scratch.
Have your standards ready and high. If he meets them all, then slowly take him serious and accept actions only.
I’m sure he misses those quiet times laying in bed watching Netflix for days on end ordering him food laughing but trust me this man does not miss this social freedom. He’s out every night of the week when he’s not performing, he’s got women hanging off him no I’m sure I’m nothing more than a memory
Did we date the same dude 😅
Let us be honest if a guy breaks up for a long period of time he probably didnt care that much anyway
If a guy is really into u and thinks ur his dream girl he will not lose u
What about with narcissists and hoovering
This should be good.
Yeah I just gave up on the dude.
How long should you make a cheater suffer? I know some people say leave and never look back but I don't want to walk away yet however I really want to make it burn that he took me for granted and betrayed me. I'm thinking like a year? I'm very patient and actually always enjoyed being single. But a full filling relationship is just as rewarding as healthy singledom. It's been a month since I caught him and he's already begging me back and reaching out to family. Honestly I'm still mad as hell and hurt but long term I can definitely see myself being with him if he shows proof of change. However I ain't sitting around holding my breath.
If he cheated on you, for sure stay away and definitely don't take him back. If he did it once he can do it again. Respect yourself enough 😉
Self love. Once a cheat always a cheat. I'd cheat too if you get over it in a year. Hear the man....
@@chrissytaurus9278 I understand this but he wants to work through his mental health issues and addictions he said. He could just be saying it but he said he would take necessary steps and only could show me in time if I allowed it. I ignored the messages and voicemails and I'm still no contact but if somehow he were able to overcome these issues within he would be a real partner and team mate. I just don't know where forgiveness works with this and my suspicion is alot more women stay than leave. But is it true that they never change? But also did the man or woman even acknowledge/take necessary steps to change? If the work is put in is it possible for someone to change???
I was seeing someone and he pulled away found out he is in a relationship. So i dont know if he will ever come back
Is this assuming the guy did the dumping? Does this work the other way around?
I have a question for everyone. Do majority of people actually have to fuck around and learn the hard way just to know the value of their person?
This is great advice .. but I’m not on social media 😂😂 nor is he …any way I dumped him .. beginning to think I over reacted …😂😂..too late…. another guy got I m touch .. so I’m going to get to know him .. I’ve also decided that internet dating just tiggers so many insecurities that I end up just making a mess .. lack of trust .. so I’ve decide now to to focus on getting to know someone through friendship… I think relationships are so disposable now that it’s just become a game …but if I can build trust with a guy through friendship then I have a much better chance of making it work ..
After reading What Men Don't Want Women To Know, is any of this really worth it?
I am in a situation where I am interested in dating, I am not focused on future outcomes but I do not want a one night stand. I would appreciate your advice. The men that are interested seem to go into sexual suggestive txt very early which is a complete turn off. I value a man’s integrity over instant gratification. Any advice ?
Need this info too. Deff not interested in ONS
But it's not just about regret though, it's about love and love (real love that is), is SELFLESS!!
Absolutely 💯
Men don’t work that way unfortunately. They are wired to be competitive
what if he blocked you?
Depends on why you were blocked. If you were in the wrong then consider messaging apology using a textnow number or social media and then give him space to unblock.
I did everything, that you said, but he is not come back) 8 month
I think that you should not wait after someone. 9 months ago I was devasted but now I feel better everyday ;)
@@NiniLaFrench Of course. I'm not bitter, but it was a painful experience.
In my experience, they always come back. All of the dudes that I was in a relationship with or dated have come back. Some after a few months and some after 4 years. You just have to move on and heal. You'll realize that even if they come back there was a reason why it didn't work. When we're hurt we want that so bad but when we have healed we realize that we're better off without them.
He is living his life for himself. You live your life for Yourself. If he doesn't give a ish, so must you. Girl, dont waste your precious time. Gather yourself. Get out of your head. And move on !
Sometimes it's best if they don't. Mine came back after 9-10months. Only to tie up 4-5 months then slow fade to completely disappear. I asked why, he refused to respond. I've lined up others. He has zero chance with me again.
I had been dating a love bomber for 6 months. Did the terrible mistake to live with him at my place ignoring the early love bombing that did not make sense that fast plus the fact that ever since date 1 he was talking about his alcoholic ex girlfriend of 5 years who entered into a new relationship soon after the breakup. 5 months on and he still kept mentioning her even on my birthday, then gaslighting me that I am the one who should n t talk about her when I asked for explanation on what is going on. I felt heartbroken and stupid for trying to make things work with sb clearly rebounding. I m kinda ashamed of sharing this and for not having cut him off early early on. Sometimes our need to be in a relationship blinds us. Please love yourselves first. People do not always come with good intentions. Mentioning their ex to you, not introducing you to their friends, not taking responsibility for their hurtful words and actions: major red flags. Wish you all good luck in dating. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect 🙏
The only way to make a man like that, one whose hung up on his ex, fall for you. Is to break his fucking heart worst that she ever did. Wait for a peak in thr relationship and just dump him harshly, then take him back after some major suffering on his part. But it changes you in the process, you don’t want to become a toxic person. Have a soft loving heart with good intentions and you’ll attract the right man. ❤
@@Goosebumps871wow 😮 teach me your ways. 😅
I'm kind of in a different place my x fiance kissed someone else at a festival and I left I moved out and it's been hard to fully cut it off he's been doing all the things he use to do and although I know he regrets it I feel it's not enough time to be for sure he's afraid I'll find someone else even tho he's the one that hurt me. I still love him and it's been hard.
Then you say……I hadn’t really been considering being a couple since you left. He can sweat now
We’re both stubborn fix zodiac signs. He’s a Taurus. I’m in Aquarius. Most stubborn neither one of us will crack. I almost did a few times but I stop myself.
This guy thought he had all the power. Funny how they make themselves known when they see or hear you are with someone else.
Cape Town SOUTH AFRICA 🌍.
So during no contact if he reaches out am I replying to him and being short ? Or ignoring him completely ? I can see that going down hill also he might just assume we’ve lost interest altogether
NOOOO DO NOT REACH OUT. this about this. u waited months for him to reach out, u went through pain etc … but he waited months with ease to reach out then u reply??? that’s not good enough.
If he reaches out, i saw on another channel… do not respond for after 14 days. give it AT LEAST 14 days.. so he can feel & panic & think huh where is this girl.
Pls stick to this
my ex messaged me two days after we broke up, but i’m giving it two weeks as well… i’ll see how it goes.. i think i want to keep no contact forever
He turns 60 during our separation, and while we’ve been separated, I hate to say he doesn’t have that well kept in a relationship look He looks older let himself go all gray, and he’s dressing like he’s 30 he looks ridiculous.
It’s a yr this week no contact since Oct quess it’s to late how
What the hell are you doing !? 1 yr !!!! Move on right now ! Don’t be a prisoner of hoping. Time isn’t stopping for you, it waits for no one. Your biggest regret will be wasting anymore time waiting on someone that’s actively moving on without you. Let go so God can give you what you deserve. Only empty hands can receive so let him go ❤
He rejected me for someone else.
I stopped contacting him, he came back. He told me she was just a rebound and he will only ever have true intimacy and connection with me. It took about 3-6 months before he reached out , I knew he will return and he wants to be a family - I’m taking it slow but he knows he has to regain my trust
Women have faith ! Men will always return
The fact that you would let a man tell you he doesn’t want you and then take him back when he realized that playtime is over is wild to me… He went and had his fun and fucked another girl and came running back to you because he knew that you wouldtake him in with open arms… Don’t ever let a man tell you he doesn’t want you twice.😢
I had my fun too ;)
@@NK-ek3ktit’s not the same
I Hope He will Never Write me again
Didnt work:(
1 week now he is looking my posts ha ha
He looks @ my posts everyday while I muted His status 😎😎😁😁👌
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Great content, but i don't know I don't like playing games and hoping someone regrets whatever happened. That's just not me and I also don't care to date ppl. I am the type of person who see's through ppl in general and not entertained by most "normal" men or people in general. So in my personal preference it is scarcity out here with options. Dating multiple men even casually feels like I'm slutty. Not that I'm saying that's what that is but it makes Me feel that way and I don't like it. I can't entertain the energy capacity it takes to have small talk convo's and waste my time. It is hard which makes me feel hopeless to attract someone. These games and fears that we walk around in is just absurd to me. I aint got the time or energy. I don't want to be single but shit I aint doing all that. Too many folks don't know who they are let alone what they want and need and entertain whatever comes their way. I'm good. I invested into someone where I eventually had to pull away because that was painful to be in the middle of someone who wouldn't commit or make me feel safe by being in that energy. Wasn't emotionally available, knew what he wanted. I kept hoping for a while until I said nope. And what I mean by "normal" is that I value integrity, independent thinking, uniqueness and emotional maturity. not the "traditional" qualifying lists people love to rant about
He told me my life was better than his. I won.
♥️♥️♥️♥️
They don’t. They don’t come back. And they don’t deserve too. Moral of the story, don’t do stupid shit.
Im winning. Blocked him, creating beautiful cintent, joined a dragon boat club, licing life hard. 😂
Bye boy
I try to lay low but dang, he sends his brother to my work sporadically to say hey. And his bro is nice but at first meeting said later in conversation said his brother is busy with his new gf. So I thought fine, that’s done.
But then the brother still visits sporadically occasionally mentioning his bro that moved for his job. I’m a polite person, see no sense to be rude to the brother. But at a loss that what this all means?
I really need advice… a guy asked to see me next weekend he even asked to drive an hour to where I live. Yet I’ve not heard from him since I asked him the question to be honest that meeting is an equal want and that he’s not doing it for the sake of it. I don’t know what to do
Stay away from him.
@ria.michaelas STOP texting him. If he wants to get in touch w you, he’ll call you, if he wants to make real plans with you he’ll do that. And stay off internet dating sites these demons use them as a way to gain access to women easily.
Your cute. Been watching you since 2019 lol. Not creepy at all
Ok once thry come back and commit how do you know they wont do it again? Im pretty surr he will because he always has but i fell for giving him sugar walls. I am determined not do that this time. But how tf do i decide if i can fuckin trust him
You can't, his past patterns tell you that he will do again. Leave him alone.
I had to block him
Me too!!!
Can a married man come back? We dated before, and for a long time I was try a get him back, he finally started contacting me recently but to hook up, I said I didnt mind seeing him etc, only to find out from his friends his actually getting married in a few days to his secret girlfriend, he just blocked me, not even telling me his getting married? I guess I'm happy for him, I'm accepting it but do you think I would ever from him again ? What are the chances?
Girl , go out and have fun❤
Move on. If you do hear from him then what? With all due respect, Do you want him to rekindle with you? Do you want to be his mistress? What are you expecting to happen if you do hear from him?
One rule you should always live by is to never let a man embarrass or humiliate you. He literally kept a fiancé from you and blocked you without warning. That should speak volumes to you. Why on Earth would you want a man back after he did that to you???
Ahh I blocked the guy I dated everywhere cause he left me. But I still have his number. But I'm not contacting him
Its really not that complex. If people aren't giving you their time or energy move on. If they decide to come back its your choice if you want to re-entertain that. For me if you communicated to me that you weren't interested or you just wanted to do your own thing I would respect that ALOT more than you just ghosting or pulling away with NO explanation whatsoever. So if you return after leaving like an adult I would be willing to still be friends or whatever but if you can't even communicate and you just disappear you need to stay a ghost and not come back this way.
What if he played you?
Let it go... Admit you got played and take care of urself
Be thankful it ended bcz it could have been layer in a worse way
Pull back and act like U dodged a bullet bcz U did
Yeah it hurts to be played but it happened accept and let go
How about a woman who stood by the guy who has addictions and he's only getting rehab now. He's asked me to marry him but never got an engagement ring. He says I am the love of his life. He says he loves me when he calls and wants me to say it back. He wants to know what I am up to. In the past the females fooled around on him. Feel like he just wants someone around. He wears the ring that I got him in rehab. There's much more that I could say. Please tell me how you see this. It's almost 3 years now.
Girl, he is playing you. 3 years??!! Find a new one
@annatraczyk8417 He is only starting to understand how he treated me and has apologized. While he was in Rehabilitation he finally got it. He has had serious addiction and insecurity issues for at least 30 years.
@@jjk1894 you are wasting your time.
Ridiculous. Move on.
Borderlines love to leave and come back.
Well it's been almost a year and I've got crickets lol. Just random messages here & there from random numbers
What if he monkey branched? And why does no one talk about men who monkey branch?
If he's dating monkeys, you'd better worry about catching a monkey disease. HIV came from chimps.
Why is it necessary to cuss? This doesn't sound intelligent with the curse words especially.