My friend did something slimy to me once and I was so hurt, I told her I always put her first and look out for her and think about her and she hit me with the “I never asked you to do that” now I’m on this video.
I smile too much at people! Sometimes they don't even smile back. I also laugh when I don't even think they're funny, just to validate them. I need to stop this.
I dated a guy who always made me feel I needed to do more to keep him and I did ....most times he tells it to my face that I wasn't up to the kind of girls he dated in the past, he always made me feel so little and ugly about myself. I was just too deep to leave...I ended up leaving him after 5 years of relationship but it was so hard. Thank you so much for these videos ❤they are really helping me alot.
Sorry about your experience, you needed that lesson, I know you maybe don't want to hear that. It happened so you can see learn and watch out next time. People that do that really have no confidence. I don't care how good they look or how many friends they have. I hope you have healed from this, I hope this doesn't happen again. For me it happend many times until I finally understood ALL of it not just parts of it. It was brutal. But I am stronger, wiser and I have learned to truly love myself and protect myself. Please be gentle with yourself and take these lessons with you but try not to let it stop you from letting someone new in. Just pay attention, don't say all at once don't show all at once. I'm not aksing you to play games I am asking you to observe before letting in. You wouldn't let a stranger into your home right? 😉sending you love ❤
I used to be nice to my parents but now I am actively trying to be kind. I think that the difference between being nice and being kind is that kindness comes from the heart and niceness usually comes from another emotion like responsibility. As a child I tried to please my parents because they were my parents so I thought I had to be their perfect child so I did things like get good grades or avoid any conflicts. Now I try to do things like make them a card or a sticky note with carefully thought out words to encourage them and to give them complements throughout the day, not because they are my parents but because I love my parents.
Please be careful with that all that you for your parents. I did the same for my parents and all it got was to be disinherited and me stuck taking care of them in their old age. They did this behind my back.
This video is perfect for me! I’ve been thinking lately that I’ve been way too nice when most of the time people don’t reciprocate the energy to me. I love being a nice person, but i’m tired of being afraid to say no or stand up for myself and get stepped on.
Another great post. I am innately nice person. It’s just how I’m wired. I’ve had to learn the hard way that people love to mistake “kindness” for “weakness”. And more than once people have had to find out that I’m not the one. Setting boundaries is a wonderful thing for your mental health and I’m glad you’ve touched on it. When talking about borrowing money, I thought of my husband who has stopped giving money to people on more than one occasion. He’ll send a screenshot of the last time they asked him for money and politely tell them, he can’t do it because they never paid him back from the last time, and goes on with his day. 😂
This is some of the most insightful wisdom I’ve ever heard. I’ve been called “too nice” since I was a kid and it’s followed me into adulthood. Your insight is a gift. What is life if you’re not able to turn painful experiences into something purposeful? You did that and your words resonate with me. I don’t know your story but I thank you for your vulnerability, wisdom, and loving heart.
“When you put yourself first, you’re not depending on the help or reciprocation of others. If someone ends up being a disappointment ( didn’t reciprocate the sacrifices you made for him/her), at least you already did what you need to do for you. 😢😢😢😢😢“ Some of us, if not most, didn’t understand this concept far too long. Because of that we are being slapped in the face; we have had a rude awakening! But thank God the awareness keeps getting stronger. Now we have the choice to be kind to ourselves.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you ♡ I was a people pleaser for years, I wanted to say no but was afraid and felt too anxious. I had to start saying no though when I felt intense dread and anxiety whenever certain people would be around me (I knew they'd most likely ask me to do things for them again) so I did start to say no more. And then it turned to always almost. But my old habits came back at times so it made me realise its not over, I haven't fixed this issue of mine yet. So every so often I'll watch these types of videos just to remind me. Thank you so much, I now know the difference between nice and kind. Naturally I like to be kind and help but there were too many times I felt alone and like things were one sided. It's time to fully kick this "habit" and start loving myself more. 💕 A big reason of mine was also because if I said no, some people did act like I was bad for saying no. I am now learning to not care about other peoples untrue narratives of me because I now self validate and love my self more - I don't need to overly explain myself to be understood. Now if people do act like I'm bad ever when I'm just being here for me, I won't care thanks to me. ☺️🌸💕 I know I'm kind and not wrong for thinking of myself. Yes yes, boundaries!! Knew I needed to learn these ages ago - I also kept seeing the word everywhere and I believe it was a sign. Also I do communicate allot, but sometimes there is a point where you shouldn't communicate. Like if the person is dismissive, if the person doesn't take the time to hear you out / read the whole message, etc. Allot of how we are treating comes from our own self, we accept it. That's why it's so important to love yourself and be kind but not too nice - I used to be the person who'd jump to help someone instantly even while betraying myself, there were many times I didn't want to do something but did it to be nice and because I wanted to help but then it'd take me DAYS to mentally recover when I got home. I love your whole account and videos, it's so important to know these things and love ourselves and have standards - standards and boundaries are quite similar actually! 🌸
You have no idea what youvideos have been doing for my life. I gotta thank you. You cover such basic topics but so vital and essential. I have so much childhood trauma that has made my self esteem and confidence so low, also I had a stroke in 2015 so these videos have literally helped my progress and process mentally and physically grow and become human again. I thank you so much sis. You are truly a blessing 🥰
You have the definition of nice and kind perfectly! My son thinks I am mean or hateful because I don't agree with him more times than not but when he is hurting I am there for him. God bless you!!
Yes, I was too nice and trusting, and that deceitful man betrayed my trust. And, I have to take some blame, because I did not set boundaries when dealing with this vapid individual. My fault, I caused this!
@@deenadream - Thank you for your kind words. It took a very long time for me to move on, but I have finally stopped blaming myself for an evil person wrongdoing. I feel happy now and I made peace with myself. No way, am I ever letting that jerk back in!
While I don't consider myself overly nice, this was great advice for not being taken advantage of while still being a nice person. I loved the parts about changing relationships gradually and being willing to flip the switch! I'm looking forward to hearing more about the ben franklin effect and setting boundaries! Thanks, sis! Always learning here❤❤
Thanks for making this video, my cousin and her bf had gotten into a breakup and her bf kept blowing up my phone venting to me for support and help. My cousin also did the same thing. I keep getting used by people and I had to realize I’m letting it happen to myself bc I’m too kind.
Yes please, boundaries.. That's my biggest issue. Thank you to the moon and back for your excellent advices in all your content. They are perfect not only for young women but also for us women over 50, whom learning now to live for ourselves since we where thought to live first for our family. Send you much gratitude and love dear sister 🫶🫶
Thank you for breaking this down, being the “nice girl” can be so exhausting because you’re not being authentically yourself, and honoring what you want. It’s a constant thing where you’re putting other people before you, which can lead to resentment and frustration. I’m still learning to work through this. It’s a process but I know I’ll get through it. Thank you for providing so much valuable content to us ! 🤍
I stopped telling my kids to be nice, and I now tell them to be kind. It’s been a few months now, and I can see even my 3 year old now uses the word kind.
I appreciate this video. So much advice currently about boundaries is about how to be closed, how to cut people off, protecting your peace only. But I love that you also talk about ways that we can be kind and remain open, because some of us do really enjoy it. And so much practical advice, it’s much appreciated. I hope you had a great day 😊
Wow this is awesome I just learnt how to choose myself first and give the treat to myself first before attending to others.....at a point I felt, this was actually for me cos I have lived my life trying to always please people instead of myself and get myself hurt and frustrated most times...thank you for this inspiration
My favorite part of the video is the nice vs kind part. I always say being nice & kind are not the same thing. Being kind means having boundaries you won't let people cross & being nice is like being a walking mat letting people walk all over you.
Thank you for sharing this video. The difference between being too nice and being kind is important to recognize. Being too nice can lead to people taking advantage of your kindness. Kindness, on the other hand, is more selfless and involves understanding the other person's needs and providing support in a respectful way. Kindness is also less likely to be taken advantage of and can help build strong relationships. Being too nice often comes from a place of wanting to please others and gain their approval, while kindness is more about being genuinely caring and understanding. Being too nice can lead to people expecting too much from you and can often be seen as insincere, while kindness is more likely to be appreciated and reciprocated. Kindness is a two-way street and can lead to greater trust and understanding between people, something that being too nice often fails to achieve. However, there are also benefits to being too nice. For example, people who are too nice are often seen as more trustworthy and reliable. Additionally, being too nice can sometimes defuse difficult situations and help to build bridges between people. As Socrates once said: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
BOUNDARIES. Yes we need a video on building and reinforcing boundaries. I would also like to take this opportunity to thank you for giving such wise advice. Your videos are a tremendous help. Keep up the good work.
I have a huge problem with accepting to the point I go to a nail spa where they offer margaritas and I’ll say no thank you instead of just taking it, I’m going to say yes next time
I loved what you had to say. I have helped many people over the years. Usually only one way. What you said and how you said it hit home. It took this old lady over 50 years to figure that out. I agree with givers have to set boundaries because takers do not have any. Keep up the good work and I look forward to listening to the rest of these. You have a lot of wisdom. Thank you for sharing.
Boundaries! I want to know how to set them without having to go off... I usually give people several opportunities to but some people dont know when to stop and know when I mean it. my daughter believes that I am too nice, its just that I ignore plenty of things people do unless it will directly affect me or my children wellbeing... I really appreciate your advice.
Me too..She is the reason am leveling up in my femininity and career . Am growing to love myself more every day and supporting other ladies around me too ❤❤
I re/listen to your videos multiple times in a week. They are simple, sometimes chin-checking, and very applicable. Thank you. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Thank you for this, Sis! ❤ As always, this video is beautiful and impactful. Personally, I have been transitioning from nice to kind and setting boundaries as a goal this year. It’s been very different, but I appreciate the peace I am experiencing. 🌺
I love this so much!! I am currently trying to stop being too nice so instead I was being cold which left a lot of people confused by my new behavior. Thank you for showing me what to do instead!!
"My behavior is preservation of myself..." ....it took a LONG time to come to this conclusion. Once I applied it, "relationships" required boundaries. It's God first, then ME and you last. It's self respect.
I do agree that being overly nice is bad. I try to keep a fine line between nice and too nice in my day to day. You spoke the absolute truth on a lot of points. I’ll try to keep them in mind when I am placed in situation where a coworker is trying to take advantage of my kindness. Thank you for another post. I’ll be waiting for the next one. ❤
This is phenomenal-so well done!!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’ve improved so much over the years in this area, but I’ve found myself regressing a bit lately, so this was so relevant, timely, and skillfully informative-as ALWAYS!! Thank you again for your service/ministry. 🙏🏾
As always very good advice. One of the points that is most difficult for me is learning to receive and give thanks (I tend to think that I don't deserve it or that it's too much) but I'm working on it. Thanks for the video💖
Thank you sooo much for the content!! Beautiful, simple and effective tips! Boundaries were nonexistent in my life, I was never taught to put me first. Thank you again!
You're welcome, love! I'm so glad this was helpful. Without exaggeration, boundaries will seriously improve your relationship with yourself and others. As well as your quality of life. You've got this!
I really love love love your advice about being gradual and even offering suggestions and seeing how people react. This is def a feminine way to approach life
Another thing that could help, just because you do something for someone doesn't mean they owe you anything. So don't do something for someone expecting a favor in return.
Thank you for all the editing, research and time that you havd put into making this awesomely actionable video. 💛 I greatly appreciate your polished work.
Boundaries❤ I just love and appreciate your videos, from the time I found your channel, I have been able to look inward and start working on myself. You have helped me understand some of my personality traits and much more. Love your voice, love your channel💕
That Benjamin Franklin effect sounds alot like certain people would rather you be indebted to them than the other way around.😮 I will try to practice kindness over niceness. Thank you for your tips.❤🙏🏽
The one about working on being a woman that people want to be picked by, instead of hoping and praying to be the one to be picked really hit home! These tips are rare gems and can transform a woman from merely existing to living fully. God bless your endeavors 💎✊✊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
A giver has to have boundaries because a taker never does.
Comment of the year!!!!❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My friend did something slimy to me once and I was so hurt, I told her I always put her first and look out for her and think about her and she hit me with the “I never asked you to do that” now I’m on this video.
She’s not your friend.
here from my spouse doing the same thing. People like that don't deserve our time
Stop doing things for her and making her your priority. She'll realize and if not her loss.
Damn that's messed up. Yea she is NOT your friend. God will bless you with true friends
She’ll realize how such a great friend you were. She’s down bad for saying something like that bc friends and family need each other.
It's not about rejecting anyone.
It's all about choosing yourself.
Always!
I smile too much at people! Sometimes they don't even smile back. I also laugh when I don't even think they're funny, just to validate them. I need to stop this.
Selfreflection and being honest with ourself is powerful. I am glad you admit to doing that, most people don't, not even in comments.
7:45 “be the person that people want to be picked by instead of the one hoping and praying to be picked” A WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Amen!! 😊
Facts I so agree 👍💯
😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm still nice just careful
@@kimadiggs237 I help people still to this day just so over someone trying to play me. Just be real.
"My behavior is not a rejection of you, it's preservation of myself. " love this quote ❤❤
Its true i all so think this way
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Same
I need to work on my friendliness. Everyone is not my friend especially men. As a married woman, I’ve let this boundary be too loose
I'm struggling with the same thing too,
I dated a guy who always made me feel I needed to do more to keep him and I did ....most times he tells it to my face that I wasn't up to the kind of girls he dated in the past, he always made me feel so little and ugly about myself. I was just too deep to leave...I ended up leaving him after 5 years of relationship but it was so hard.
Thank you so much for these videos ❤they are really helping me alot.
Sorry about your experience, you needed that lesson, I know you maybe don't want to hear that. It happened so you can see learn and watch out next time. People that do that really have no confidence. I don't care how good they look or how many friends they have. I hope you have healed from this, I hope this doesn't happen again. For me it happend many times until I finally understood ALL of it not just parts of it. It was brutal. But I am stronger, wiser and I have learned to truly love myself and protect myself. Please be gentle with yourself and take these lessons with you but try not to let it stop you from letting someone new in. Just pay attention, don't say all at once don't show all at once. I'm not aksing you to play games I am asking you to observe before letting in. You wouldn't let a stranger into your home right? 😉sending you love ❤
I used to be nice to my parents but now I am actively trying to be kind. I think that the difference between being nice and being kind is that kindness comes from the heart and niceness usually comes from another emotion like responsibility. As a child I tried to please my parents because they were my parents so I thought I had to be their perfect child so I did things like get good grades or avoid any conflicts. Now I try to do things like make them a card or a sticky note with carefully thought out words to encourage them and to give them complements throughout the day, not because they are my parents but because I love my parents.
Thank you for your comment. I agree with you « kindness comes from the heart and niceness comes from another emotion »
I love this comment. I'm also struggling with being a kind child instead of being a nice perfectionist child
Nicely said
How amazing ❤
Please be careful with that all that you for your parents. I did the same for my parents and all it got was to be disinherited and me stuck taking care of them in their old age. They did this behind my back.
This video is perfect for me! I’ve been thinking lately that I’ve been way too nice when most of the time people don’t reciprocate the energy to me. I love being a nice person, but i’m tired of being afraid to say no or stand up for myself and get stepped on.
Being nice is doing what other people want you to. Being kind is doing what’s best for other people
Well said.
Another great post. I am innately nice person. It’s just how I’m wired. I’ve had to learn the hard way that people love to mistake “kindness” for “weakness”. And more than once people have had to find out that I’m not the one. Setting boundaries is a wonderful thing for your mental health and I’m glad you’ve touched on it. When talking about borrowing money, I thought of my husband who has stopped giving money to people on more than one occasion. He’ll send a screenshot of the last time they asked him for money and politely tell them, he can’t do it because they never paid him back from the last time, and goes on with his day. 😂
😂😂😂😂
This is some of the most insightful wisdom I’ve ever heard. I’ve been called “too nice” since I was a kid and it’s followed me into adulthood. Your insight is a gift. What is life if you’re not able to turn painful experiences into something purposeful? You did that and your words resonate with me. I don’t know your story but I thank you for your vulnerability, wisdom, and loving heart.
“When you put yourself first, you’re not depending on the help or reciprocation of others. If someone ends up being a disappointment ( didn’t reciprocate the sacrifices you made for him/her), at least you already did what you need to do for you. 😢😢😢😢😢“ Some of us, if not most, didn’t understand this concept far too long. Because of that we are being slapped in the face; we have had a rude awakening! But thank God the awareness keeps getting stronger. Now we have the choice to be kind to ourselves.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My behavior isn’t a rejection of u but protection of myself ❤
Thank you ♡ I was a people pleaser for years, I wanted to say no but was afraid and felt too anxious. I had to start saying no though when I felt intense dread and anxiety whenever certain people would be around me (I knew they'd most likely ask me to do things for them again) so I did start to say no more. And then it turned to always almost. But my old habits came back at times so it made me realise its not over, I haven't fixed this issue of mine yet. So every so often I'll watch these types of videos just to remind me. Thank you so much, I now know the difference between nice and kind. Naturally I like to be kind and help but there were too many times I felt alone and like things were one sided. It's time to fully kick this "habit" and start loving myself more. 💕
A big reason of mine was also because if I said no, some people did act like I was bad for saying no. I am now learning to not care about other peoples untrue narratives of me because I now self validate and love my self more - I don't need to overly explain myself to be understood. Now if people do act like I'm bad ever when I'm just being here for me, I won't care thanks to me. ☺️🌸💕 I know I'm kind and not wrong for thinking of myself.
Yes yes, boundaries!! Knew I needed to learn these ages ago - I also kept seeing the word everywhere and I believe it was a sign. Also I do communicate allot, but sometimes there is a point where you shouldn't communicate. Like if the person is dismissive, if the person doesn't take the time to hear you out / read the whole message, etc.
Allot of how we are treating comes from our own self, we accept it. That's why it's so important to love yourself and be kind but not too nice - I used to be the person who'd jump to help someone instantly even while betraying myself, there were many times I didn't want to do something but did it to be nice and because I wanted to help but then it'd take me DAYS to mentally recover when I got home.
I love your whole account and videos, it's so important to know these things and love ourselves and have standards - standards and boundaries are quite similar actually! 🌸
I wish I could like your comment more it made me cry cause ik that feeling
You have no idea what youvideos have been doing for my life. I gotta thank you. You cover such basic topics but so vital and essential. I have so much childhood trauma that has made my self esteem and confidence so low, also I had a stroke in 2015 so these videos have literally helped my progress and process mentally and physically grow and become human again. I thank you so much sis. You are truly a blessing 🥰
I'm so glad I can help, love! Cheers to continued health and continuing to become the absolute best version of yourself 🥂💕
I give up after my unplanned pregnancy 9 weeks but I am ready to accept that I put myself in this situation.
That part about change being gradual - that's EVERYTHING. So realistic! Yes to a boundaries video.
You have the definition of nice and kind perfectly! My son thinks I am mean or hateful because I don't agree with him more times than not but when he is hurting I am there for him. God bless you!!
I am always told how nice and kind I am, I think learning boundaries keeps me that way ❤
Yes, I was too nice and trusting, and that deceitful man betrayed my trust. And, I have to take some blame, because I did not set boundaries when dealing with this vapid individual. My fault, I caused this!
You didnt cause it. He did. Stop blaming yourself
@@deenadream - Thank you for your kind words. It took a very long time for me to move on, but I have finally stopped blaming myself for an evil person wrongdoing. I feel happy now and I made peace with myself. No way, am I ever letting that jerk back in!
Please do a video on boundaries and how to be assertive in a kind way ( with out being angry )! Thank you love your videos❤.
While I don't consider myself overly nice, this was great advice for not being taken advantage of while still being a nice person. I loved the parts about changing relationships gradually and being willing to flip the switch! I'm looking forward to hearing more about the ben franklin effect and setting boundaries! Thanks, sis! Always learning here❤❤
Thanks for making this video, my cousin and her bf had gotten into a breakup and her bf kept blowing up my phone venting to me for support and help. My cousin also did the same thing. I keep getting used by people and I had to realize I’m letting it happen to myself bc I’m too kind.
I LOVE the saying: "hitting the switch." Yasss. Definitely adding this to my vernacular!
People get a little confused sometimes! We have to politely get them together😅
@@TheFeminineUniverse AB-solutely! As you were 💅🏾
You are literally a blessing to women and I’m so glad that I found your content. Keep it up sis, I’m rooting for you❤❤❤
Yes please, boundaries.. That's my biggest issue. Thank you to the moon and back for your excellent advices in all your content. They are perfect not only for young women but also for us women over 50, whom learning now to live for ourselves since we where thought to live first for our family. Send you much gratitude and love dear sister 🫶🫶
It's about self-respect and confidence. Thanks for sharing this with the ladies, darling ❤
Boundaries!!! I'm so fortunate to have found your channel. You have been such an incredible force of deep change in my life ❤
Wow! I'm so happy you're here and so happy I can help, darling 💕
Thank you for breaking this down, being the “nice girl” can be so exhausting because you’re not being authentically yourself, and honoring what you want. It’s a constant thing where you’re putting other people before you, which can lead to resentment and frustration. I’m still learning to work through this. It’s a process but I know I’ll get through it. Thank you for providing so much valuable content to us ! 🤍
🙏🙏🙏🙏
I stopped telling my kids to be nice, and I now tell them to be kind. It’s been a few months now, and I can see even my 3 year old now uses the word kind.
I appreciate this video. So much advice currently about boundaries is about how to be closed, how to cut people off, protecting your peace only. But I love that you also talk about ways that we can be kind and remain open, because some of us do really enjoy it. And so much practical advice, it’s much appreciated. I hope you had a great day 😊
Wow this is awesome
I just learnt how to choose myself first and give the treat to myself first before attending to others.....at a point I felt, this was actually for me cos I have lived my life trying to always please people instead of myself and get myself hurt and frustrated most times...thank you for this inspiration
I can literally like the videos before I even have watched it, this content is so consistently good!
I'm glad the content is steadily useful for you, Rachel! Happy to have you here 😊
My favorite part of the video is the nice vs kind part. I always say being nice & kind are not the same thing. Being kind means having boundaries you won't let people cross & being nice is like being a walking mat letting people walk all over you.
Thank you for sharing this video. The difference between being too nice and being kind is important to recognize. Being too nice can lead to people taking advantage of your kindness. Kindness, on the other hand, is more selfless and involves understanding the other person's needs and providing support in a respectful way. Kindness is also less likely to be taken advantage of and can help build strong relationships. Being too nice often comes from a place of wanting to please others and gain their approval, while kindness is more about being genuinely caring and understanding. Being too nice can lead to people expecting too much from you and can often be seen as insincere, while kindness is more likely to be appreciated and reciprocated. Kindness is a two-way street and can lead to greater trust and understanding between people, something that being too nice often fails to achieve. However, there are also benefits to being too nice. For example, people who are too nice are often seen as more trustworthy and reliable. Additionally, being too nice can sometimes defuse difficult situations and help to build bridges between people. As Socrates once said: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Love this video! I feel like the collective is learning how to implement boundaries, me included
Glad you enjoyed it, love! I totally agree. We are learning _and_ applying 💕
Starting my self love journey and this will always be my daily video to keep me in check🌹❤️ thank you
BOUNDARIES.
Yes we need a video on building and reinforcing boundaries. I would also like to take this opportunity to thank you for giving such wise advice. Your videos are a tremendous help. Keep up the good work.
I have a huge problem with accepting to the point I go to a nail spa where they offer margaritas and I’ll say no thank you instead of just taking it, I’m going to say yes next time
I loved what you had to say. I have helped many people over the years. Usually only one way. What you said and how you said it hit home. It took this old lady over 50 years to figure that out. I agree with givers have to set boundaries because takers do not have any. Keep up the good work and I look forward to listening to the rest of these. You have a lot of wisdom. Thank you for sharing.
Boundaries! I want to know how to set them without having to go off... I usually give people several opportunities to but some people dont know when to stop and know when I mean it. my daughter believes that I am too nice, its just that I ignore plenty of things people do unless it will directly affect me or my children wellbeing... I really appreciate your advice.
This my favorite channel 💓💗💓💗
Yes girl me too
Our favorite channel 💕🩷💗
Me too..She is the reason am leveling up in my femininity and career .
Am growing to love myself more every day and supporting other ladies around me too ❤❤
Def one of my faves as well 😃
Mine tooooooo 🎉❤
I re/listen to your videos multiple times in a week. They are simple, sometimes chin-checking, and very applicable. Thank you. Keep doing what you’re doing!
I have my own definition of ‘nice’ which focuses on having respect towards people, even if I don’t like them.
Thank you for this, Sis! ❤
As always, this video is beautiful and impactful.
Personally, I have been transitioning from nice to kind and setting boundaries as a goal this year. It’s been very different, but I appreciate the peace I am experiencing. 🌺
I love this so much!! I am currently trying to stop being too nice so instead I was being cold which left a lot of people confused by my new behavior. Thank you for showing me what to do instead!!
"My behavior is preservation of myself..." ....it took a LONG time to come to this conclusion. Once I applied it, "relationships" required boundaries. It's God first, then ME and you last. It's self respect.
I do agree that being overly nice is bad. I try to keep a fine line between nice and too nice in my day to day. You spoke the absolute truth on a lot of points. I’ll try to keep them in mind when I am placed in situation where a coworker is trying to take advantage of my kindness. Thank you for another post. I’ll be waiting for the next one. ❤
I can’t express how much I adore your channel, and all the realistic and helpful advise you give. It’s really refreshing! Thank you❤
You are so welcome, love! I appreciate this heartfelt comment 😘
Someone got into the habit of asking me for money...I had to hit that switch real quick lol.
This is phenomenal-so well done!!! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I’ve improved so much over the years in this area, but I’ve found myself regressing a bit lately, so this was so relevant, timely, and skillfully informative-as ALWAYS!! Thank you again for your service/ministry. 🙏🏾
As always very good advice. One of the points that is most difficult for me is learning to receive and give thanks (I tend to think that I don't deserve it or that it's too much) but I'm working on it. Thanks for the video💖
I like how you have broken down each of these steps with carious videos. Thank you so much. You have had a true impact in my life.
Thank you so much ….you inspire me so much and I have made a lot of changes in my life ….This feminine journey is really the best….I love you❤❤❤
BOUNDRIES are essential…
Great information x
Thank you sooo much for the content!! Beautiful, simple and effective tips! Boundaries were nonexistent in my life, I was never taught to put me first. Thank you again!
You're welcome, love! I'm so glad this was helpful. Without exaggeration, boundaries will seriously improve your relationship with yourself and others. As well as your quality of life. You've got this!
@@TheFeminineUniverse thanks so much for the reply, I appreciate you ❤️❤️❤️
boundaries. I'm learning about boundaries.
I really love love love your advice about being gradual and even offering suggestions and seeing how people react. This is def a feminine way to approach life
My favorite channel, thank you for helping us growing in this feminine journey.
Thanks for this. Very apt and succinct!
Boundaries please and thank you for today's video! 💗
Another thing that could help, just because you do something for someone doesn't mean they owe you anything. So don't do something for someone expecting a favor in return.
They do owe you some gratitude if they asked for it.
Thank you for all the editing, research and time that you havd put into making this awesomely actionable video. 💛 I greatly appreciate your polished work.
This is hands down the best femininity channel. You're the best!
You're so kind! I'm so happy you're here and benefitting from the content 💕
Thank you so much for helping us safe guard our selves. I believe am the best version of me now Not a people pleaser.
Boundaries please! Another brilliant episode!
Boundaries
I love this channel ❤
Boundaries❤ I just love and appreciate your videos, from the time I found your channel, I have been able to look inward and start working on myself. You have helped me understand some of my personality traits and much more. Love your voice, love your channel💕
Her voice just calms me immediately
Yes it has arrived getting comfy to soak this in
Girl, when is your website gonna be ready. I need to know. The waiting is killing me.
Boundaries! Thank you dearest 💓
Boundaries. Thank you
This is life saving, thank you so much for this!
Boundaries 🥰 A big thank you ⚘⚘
I'm very grateful for this positive opportunity to reinvent myself ❤❤❤
Yes, could there be a segment on boundaries and when it’s necessary to block someone? ❤ BOUNDARIES
Nice to have you, I've checked for the umpteenth time, thanks for all you do, we love you!
I love the depth of the topic. Each and every episode !
That Benjamin Franklin effect sounds alot like certain people would rather you be indebted to them than the other way around.😮 I will try to practice kindness over niceness. Thank you for your tips.❤🙏🏽
Boundaries please! I love your channel.
The one about working on being a woman that people want to be picked by, instead of hoping and praying to be the one to be picked really hit home! These tips are rare gems and can transform a woman from merely existing to living fully. God bless your endeavors 💎✊✊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
being a healer is hard & i think my intentions might come off weird & my niceness isnt valued. “it doesnt have to be a declaration of war”.
#boundaries Thank you for this video! Much appreciated.
Boundaries help!!😢
BOUNDARIES
The excitement I get when I see your new uploads 🔥
Be the best version of yourself ❤, set boundaries ❤
BOUNDARIES!!!
Boundaries
I love everything about your channel! Thank you so much for all you do!
This is one of your best vids so far. Thank you for all that you do.
Thank you ! Needed this 👑❤️🙏😊
Boundaries… that would be a great video 💕
Yes - more on boundaries please!
Boundaries. Love this video as well. Always lots of simple yet helpful tips.
Love you continent. Please do one for. Boundaries Relationships, friendships thank you
12:43 We need a video about “Using the switch”.
I really enjoy your channel. We definitely need that boundaries video. 💕💕💕
Boundaries video is up now! Glad you're enjoying the content love 💕💕
Boundaries video please!! 💗 ( love your content by the way x)
Thank you so much for this...I needed exactly this