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I LOVE the “boring” guy. He has routine, consistent, chill, easy to satisfy and has your front and your back. 😊 that’s longevity ❤ I’ll be marrying mine for sure!
If you really appreciate my channel please go watch the two videos before this one. UA-cam still refusing to share certain subjects on my channel even though the click through and retention rates are high. I don’t care if you have to let the video play in the background. Just push play and let it ride for 5 minutes while you do something else.
“ person is good enough as-is right now despite their flaws” …. YES!! That unconditional love that we get from our parents is what everyone struggles to find in a stranger to marry…. This video made me realize you REALLY have to admire and enjoy your partner no matter what! 😅😅 I think real life is boring and everyone is looking for that high in life adventure. You can have fun, but you have to make it and also it cost a lot of $. I just care more about the basics in a partner of course! Thanks again Kevin!
I can't fathom feeling that acceptance of an everyday partner. People are more than just limited, they can be very selfish/prideful. And it's normal to feel disgust/disturbance from that. It's hard to accept/admire myself when I too have low moments. There's grace & forgiveness for me, but man, it's hard to live with 24/7 if I'm truly honest!
We enjoy our quiet times and feel peace together & connect, he’s a hard worker and a structured schedule and I knew he was it for me when we could be together peacefully and enjoy our time💕💙
For #2 I come from a loud argumentative household. I tend to end up with people who don’t get loud during arguments. What I learned is that those who don’t shut down but ask for space or ask for us to calm down so we can communicate are the people I’m compatible with. Not the people who shutdown, stonewall or don’t have the capacity for conflicts or difficult conversations. So I guess that’s where #3 comes in. Folks who communicate differently were able to find a common ground with me and I the same. We also took time to learn how we got our communication style and learn what triggers us, so we can be mindful during those difficult times. Nobody changed per se, but we chose to respond differently to reach the same goal. It ended up balancing us out lol
I had all that drama growing up with my loudassed mom...which is why I do NOT act like her, AND, I EXPECT the SAME from my relationship with a man. The moment he feels the need to just raise his voice with me, totally out of the blue, when I do NOT do thayt myself, there's going to be an even bigger problem, because that's the beginning of the end. I will NOT accept that kind of communication, so...Idk why you automatically assume everyone's going to be that way because that's the upbringing they know. NO WAY.
Kev, your words of wisdom were like my appetizer before i have my breakfast. It was that great advice listening to and watching your video. Thank you and God bless.more power to you!
You are right Kev My soon to be ex husband lied to me about many many manyyyyy things during our courtship. When he began to show his true colors, I was already 7months pregnant. I thought I could try to make it work but it got worse. Last year, 7years in our marriage I decided to respond to a dm. I honestly thought Nothing of it but I fell in love. I have never been so depressed in my life. I made sure never to meet the said lover because I know what would happen. I resented my husband more and then he cheated on me and gave me gonorrhea. That's how our marriage ended this year. Now, I have met a divorced man who is explaining that he doesn't want me to change in anyway so we both know exactly what we are getting ourselves into. Thank you for your videos.
Hey I hope you're doing okay dude? 🙏🏽 I've been watching your content for years!! And it Always helped me and my relationship now. I feel like I have potential with my partner. Though it's LDR so it's much harder 😞 But we know how to be bored together, communicating everyday, learning to accept eachother, no drama, and just a calm spirit. So I feel we can do it. Wish me luck! 🙏🏽🌱
These three point are exactly the point that have been told to me from people that have been in relationships of 50 years plus. If people can maintain a good relationship for that long they definitely have something to share. Thanks for sharing this.
It seems the relationship's most desired are never the ones that pan out. It's not just my personal experience I've seen it all around me. It's quite sad.
He's so right. I dated a boring guy in my 20's and it was a terrible feeling. I left him behind all the time and he was okay with it but I wasn't. I wanted him to be part of the fun. He was a couch potato with muscles. Everything else was great about him. Obviously it didn't last. Years later he got married and his wife divorced him saying he's too boring.
I agree with point 1 where you can sit, talk and be chill. If you’re with the right one for you it won’t be boring. You can have your laughs and inside jokes. Being compatible is important
The first point has been one of my guides… it’s a feeling… cherish your silence. Granted…I am still struggling a bit with the online dating sites delusions. Thank you.
If i cant accept a person as they are when i meet, im not going to live in the potential fairytale land. Also people should should have and stick with non negotiable. Its ok to talk about those upfront.
Hi Kev, I love your channel, and I appreciate you sharing. I've learned a lot from the channel. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🩷💥❤️💥💙💥🧡
Good luck with the financial advisor career. I have been in brokerage 20 years (operations - not a broker). It’s a good field to be in… This is a great video!!! My bf and I have the best time talking and hanging out in our pj’s!! Lol
Kevin. What you say here, so true. Has me having another look at myself, too so thank you, , for this . Plus, your description..."The GRACE to be IMPERFECT". It's firmly planted in my psyche . ...to apply it to myself as well as to the other. Grace is something which is freely given. It dies not have to be earned - Unlike TRUST which does need to be earned , rather than freely given. I'm glad I came across your presentations. Great success, to you, Kev.
After over 30 years, I'm finally living alone in a stable situation where I'm not around constant drama. Having a boring relationship sounds like a luxury. The boredom is the drama for me. That's the silver lining of having a life that completely sucks: I'm easy to live with 😂
#3? By nature I am an outgoing friendly person. Recently my guy told me I was “too friendly” in a bar setting. Part of it was that I make myself vulnerable to predatory people, which felt protective. The other part was that I should wait until he introduces me, which I see as a sign of respect for him. My challenge is my friendliness has served me throughout my life by expanding my world view talking to a wide range of people. So I am seeking balance here. Any insights?.
There’s no need for those men at a bar to serve you. Friendliness to them is unnecessary. You make being out more dangerous, because you are inviting male energy unsolicited. Not all males are friendly, and some will see an opportunity to challenge your man. It is a bar. There are drunk guys. Now your man is getting his ass kicked or beating the face off of a disrespectful guy who’s energy you invited. This habit makes you more compatible with weaker males who run from fights and don’t require respect. No man of respect wants his woman smiling and introducing herself to random MF’s. Be outgoing and friendly once your man has assessed the level of danger or started the interaction. Especially at a bar. With love, cut that sh*t out. Or find a man with no sense of territory or masculinity. No offense. That would definitely be a compatibility issue for a lot of guys. If you resent him because you can’t talk to other random guys at bars than maybe it’s a compatibility issue for you too. I don’t know any women who want their man going up to every hot woman in the room introducing himself.
Acts of service help with the boredom aspect. It isn't exciting for a woman that you mow her lawn or help her with homework if she's in college, but it shows that you think long-term and that you want to be humble and provide for her in a way that's not strictly financial. That idea is sobering compared to the sex and the dates and gives good comparison on whether we as men are fun, helpful, or both. We should all aspire to be both, whether you're a man or a woman.
With the gentleman I met recently, I'm noticing I feel calm. We have been sitting and talking on each of our dates, and sometimes we sit quietly with each other for a few minutes. Just thinking, watching the fire, watching the water. It feels calm and sweet ❤ he hasn't pressured me for sex, he has invited and been okay with my answer. It made me want to be intimate so much sooner.
Im a new follower giving two thumbs 👍🏼👍🏼 This is knowledge for everyone, bcuz Im been telli lng my BFF this same info. Sometimes on the weekend, my guy and I don't want to do anything except relax together. 🙃 Yes, that sounds upside down, but we just want to be next to each other.
What was that video you made about compatibility. You listed like 10 compatibility points. I can't find that video it was so good. Ie outdoory peolle vs homebodies😊
Lol being butt broke and hanging out! 😂 the story of my relationship!! Lol! YEP! You got to loose 40 pounds, yep I’ll call u when I’ve done that. Lol! $$$ you ever have enough. Take your pay check split in half save half spend the other bills first. Work a job that makes you happy and feel proud cuz that’s half your life right there. Not get a higher paying job. Make it work peoples!
I appreciate your videos. Sadly the end part of the video sounds like my mothers marriage. Do you think there is a way to work through resentment? . . I'm looking forward to your financial advisor channel though n_n
I’m actually a bigger fan of those 30 and 60 day couples challenge books that are everywhere. I have one from Devon Franklin and his wife before his divorce ironically🙄. I say that because taking action is more impactful than reading concepts without a plan. Now if you are both reading books together to take action that’s different. But making any relationship work requires the types of actions outlined in those silly little challenge books. It helps create culture in the relationship.
You sound pretty thick today. Ugh, I'd be in bed with hot lemon water with honey and a pinch of salt or cayenne. Will this cold,flu and Covid season ever end? 🙄 Admire the motivation despite feeling crappy. Wellness is right around the bend! Feel good. P.S. about #3. Soon as she loses the weight SHE moves on..lol👍👍👍
Book a call if you you want to avoid trauma, get advice on your situation, or learn how to get more from your relationships.
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3 is dependency paradox
I’m
I LOVE the “boring” guy. He has routine, consistent, chill, easy to satisfy and has your front and your back. 😊 that’s longevity ❤ I’ll be marrying mine for sure!
Truth!
Agree these are more stable men!
Me too
IKTR
🦋 DEFINITELY!!!! 🦋
If you really appreciate my channel please go watch the two videos before this one. UA-cam still refusing to share certain subjects on my channel even though the click through and retention rates are high. I don’t care if you have to let the video play in the background. Just push play and let it ride for 5 minutes while you do something else.
You back on IG bro? I sent you a DM earlier.
Would you please indicate and specify titles for these two videos you recommended to watch.. Thank you.
Done ✅
Those will be next!
I just had to drop a guy for talking to me crazy. Absolutely unacceptable. I refuse to be verbally abused. 🤷♀️😅
“ person is good enough as-is right now despite their flaws” …. YES!! That unconditional love that we get from our parents is what everyone struggles to find in a stranger to marry….
This video made me realize you REALLY have to admire and enjoy your partner no matter what! 😅😅
I think real life is boring and everyone is looking for that high in life adventure. You can have fun, but you have to make it and also it cost a lot of $. I just care more about the basics in a partner of course!
Thanks again Kevin!
I can't fathom feeling that acceptance of an everyday partner. People are more than just limited, they can be very selfish/prideful. And it's normal to feel disgust/disturbance from that.
It's hard to accept/admire myself when I too have low moments. There's grace & forgiveness for me, but man, it's hard to live with 24/7 if I'm truly honest!
@@jessenceq3250 that real love is hard to find and they like all of you even in your low moments and try to uplift you.
You really give common sense, mature, and wise info. Especially for those who do not know how to date/choose healthy dates.
We enjoy our quiet times and feel peace together & connect, he’s a hard worker and a structured schedule and I knew he was it for me when we could be together peacefully and enjoy our time💕💙
For #2
I come from a loud argumentative household.
I tend to end up with people who don’t get loud during arguments.
What I learned is that those who don’t shut down but ask for space or ask for us to calm down so we can communicate are the people I’m compatible with.
Not the people who shutdown, stonewall or don’t have the capacity for conflicts or difficult conversations.
So I guess that’s where #3 comes in. Folks who communicate differently were able to find a common ground with me and I the same.
We also took time to learn how we got our communication style and learn what triggers us, so we can be mindful during those difficult times. Nobody changed per se, but we chose to respond differently to reach the same goal.
It ended up balancing us out lol
Absolutely. Being adaptable covers the difference unless there’s trauma
I had all that drama growing up with my loudassed mom...which is why I do NOT act like her, AND, I EXPECT the SAME from my relationship with a man. The moment he feels the need to just raise his voice with me, totally out of the blue, when I do NOT do thayt myself, there's going to be an even bigger problem, because that's the beginning of the end. I will NOT accept that kind of communication, so...Idk why you automatically assume everyone's going to be that way because that's the upbringing they know. NO WAY.
For me I am always excited if I am with a person I'm in love with. Even if we just sit silently.
So true. We get to know ourselves a whole lot more and we learn to love ourselves
Kev, your words of wisdom were like my appetizer before i have my breakfast. It was that great advice listening to and watching your video. Thank you and God bless.more power to you!
You are right Kev
My soon to be ex husband lied to me about many many manyyyyy things during our courtship. When he began to show his true colors, I was already 7months pregnant. I thought I could try to make it work but it got worse. Last year, 7years in our marriage I decided to respond to a dm. I honestly thought Nothing of it but I fell in love. I have never been so depressed in my life. I made sure never to meet the said lover because I know what would happen. I resented my husband more and then he cheated on me and gave me gonorrhea. That's how our marriage ended this year. Now, I have met a divorced man who is explaining that he doesn't want me to change in anyway so we both know exactly what we are getting ourselves into. Thank you for your videos.
Hey I hope you're doing okay dude? 🙏🏽 I've been watching your content for years!! And it Always helped me and my relationship now. I feel like I have potential with my partner. Though it's LDR so it's much harder 😞 But we know how to be bored together, communicating everyday, learning to accept eachother, no drama, and just a calm spirit. So I feel we can do it. Wish me luck! 🙏🏽🌱
Sounds amazing! Definitely long term.
These three point are exactly the point that have been told to me from people that have been in relationships of 50 years plus. If people can maintain a good relationship for that long they definitely have something to share. Thanks for sharing this.
It seems the relationship's most desired are never the ones that pan
out. It's not just my personal experience I've seen it all around me. It's quite sad.
also fighting fair, never saying cruel things
Hooray! My relationship is going to make it! Thanks for the validation.
He's so right. I dated a boring guy in my 20's and it was a terrible feeling. I left him behind all the time and he was okay with it but I wasn't. I wanted him to be part of the fun. He was a couch potato with muscles. Everything else was great about him. Obviously it didn't last. Years later he got married and his wife divorced him saying he's too boring.
I agree with point 1 where you can sit, talk and be chill. If you’re with the right one for you it won’t be boring. You can have your laughs and inside jokes. Being compatible is important
The first point has been one of my guides… it’s a feeling… cherish your silence. Granted…I am still struggling a bit with the online dating sites delusions. Thank you.
If i cant accept a person as they are when i meet, im not going to live in the potential fairytale land. Also people should should have and stick with non negotiable. Its ok to talk about those upfront.
🗣️Public service announcement 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Feel better Kev❤️🩹
Hi Kev, I love your channel, and I appreciate you sharing. I've learned a lot from the channel. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🩷💥❤️💥💙💥🧡
Good luck with the financial advisor career. I have been in brokerage 20 years (operations - not a broker). It’s a good field to be in…
This is a great video!!! My bf and I have the best time talking and hanging out in our pj’s!! Lol
Glad to see you back Kevin… I’ve missed you.
Kevin. What you say here, so true.
Has me having another look at myself, too so thank you,
, for this . Plus, your description..."The GRACE to be IMPERFECT". It's firmly planted in my psyche . ...to apply it to myself as well as to the other. Grace is something which is freely given. It dies not have to be earned - Unlike TRUST which does need to be earned , rather than freely given. I'm glad I came across your presentations. Great success, to you, Kev.
One of the best videos you've done Kevin. Thank you so much for putting out this content.
After over 30 years, I'm finally living alone in a stable situation where I'm not around constant drama. Having a boring relationship sounds like a luxury. The boredom is the drama for me. That's the silver lining of having a life that completely sucks: I'm easy to live with 😂
#1 is factz haven't even got past that lol
You're going to do well in the financial industry! Thank you for another great video!
#3? By nature I am an outgoing friendly person. Recently my guy told me I was “too friendly” in a bar setting. Part of it was that I make myself vulnerable to predatory people, which felt protective. The other part was that I should wait until he introduces me, which I see as a sign of respect for him. My challenge is my friendliness has served me throughout my life by expanding my world view talking to a wide range of people. So I am seeking balance here. Any insights?.
There’s no need for those men at a bar to serve you. Friendliness to them is unnecessary. You make being out more dangerous, because you are inviting male energy unsolicited. Not all males are friendly, and some will see an opportunity to challenge your man. It is a bar. There are drunk guys. Now your man is getting his ass kicked or beating the face off of a disrespectful guy who’s energy you invited. This habit makes you more compatible with weaker males who run from fights and don’t require respect. No man of respect wants his woman smiling and introducing herself to random MF’s. Be outgoing and friendly once your man has assessed the level of danger or started the interaction. Especially at a bar. With love, cut that sh*t out. Or find a man with no sense of territory or masculinity. No offense. That would definitely be a compatibility issue for a lot of guys. If you resent him because you can’t talk to other random guys at bars than maybe it’s a compatibility issue for you too. I don’t know any women who want their man going up to every hot woman in the room introducing himself.
@@KevHick ❤ you said what I think 🎉
Beat video yet!!!!
So well said. Thank you for being a leader🫶🏾
Really excellent observations
Interesting financial times ahead, bless you
Acts of service help with the boredom aspect. It isn't exciting for a woman that you mow her lawn or help her with homework if she's in college, but it shows that you think long-term and that you want to be humble and provide for her in a way that's not strictly financial. That idea is sobering compared to the sex and the dates and gives good comparison on whether we as men are fun, helpful, or both. We should all aspire to be both, whether you're a man or a woman.
I just had a bd I'M 66 now 65yr old say ok to your wisdom is still going strong good job son good job old school 66 ab
With the gentleman I met recently, I'm noticing I feel calm. We have been sitting and talking on each of our dates, and sometimes we sit quietly with each other for a few minutes. Just thinking, watching the fire, watching the water. It feels calm and sweet ❤ he hasn't pressured me for sex, he has invited and been okay with my answer. It made me want to be intimate so much sooner.
On point! Hope you're feeling better kev !
Im a new follower giving two thumbs 👍🏼👍🏼
This is knowledge for everyone, bcuz Im been telli lng my BFF this same info. Sometimes on the weekend, my guy and I don't want to do anything except relax together. 🙃 Yes, that sounds upside down, but we just want to be next to each other.
Thanks for subbing!
I don't think I'll ever find that, Kev. I'm so sad. I don't think I'll ever find the right person.
🙏🏿
Do not give up. They exist. I promise
What was that video you made about compatibility. You listed like 10 compatibility points. I can't find that video it was so good. Ie outdoory peolle vs homebodies😊
I appreciate you so much Kev! I think I done met my Husband 😂❤I’ll let you know….
Don’t mistake this for immediately Netflix n chilling with a man to see if there is “relationship potential” 😂
Right
Awesome video!!
Great I totally agree. 👍🏻
Salaam!
Are you ever NOT right, Beloved?😆🥰
Glad ur back!!!
Get well soon.
Great video.
Wow that hits hard ❤
Great video 👍🏽
Great advice
You are amazing
Spot on!
Where has Na Na Powers been? I wanted to know if she saw my message the other day. Hmm 🤔
Tea with honey help with your voice or drink water before to keep your voice moist 30 yrs on the phones ..Love your channel.
Lol being butt broke and hanging out! 😂 the story of my relationship!! Lol! YEP! You got to loose 40 pounds, yep I’ll call u when I’ve done that. Lol! $$$ you ever have enough. Take your pay check split in half save half spend the other bills first. Work a job that makes you happy and feel proud cuz that’s half your life right there. Not get a higher paying job. Make it work peoples!
❤❤❤❤❤ thank you!!!
I appreciate your videos. Sadly the end part of the video sounds like my mothers marriage. Do you think there is a way to work through resentment? . . I'm looking forward to your financial advisor channel though n_n
With counseling and CHANGE some can. Most are just maladaptive though.
All Facts!
“Peace Between the Sheets” would have been helpful during the plandemic.
Honey and lemon help towards flu, sore throat 🤗🙏😅also horseradish
Uhmmm... You went hard on this one
Good job sir 🫡
I was meant to see this
Wow! Great video! Kev, you are absolutely right on your points about a long term relationship.
New to your channel. Glad I found you. Thank you.
Welcome aboard! Thanks you for watching!
True
Agreed
Money 💰
What books you recommend to read on this?
I’m actually a bigger fan of those 30 and 60 day couples challenge books that are everywhere. I have one from Devon Franklin and his wife before his divorce ironically🙄. I say that because taking action is more impactful than reading concepts without a plan. Now if you are both reading books together to take action that’s different. But making any relationship work requires the types of actions outlined in those silly little challenge books. It helps create culture in the relationship.
@@KevHick thanks
You sound pretty thick today. Ugh, I'd be in bed with hot lemon water with honey and a pinch of salt or cayenne.
Will this cold,flu and Covid season ever end? 🙄
Admire the motivation despite feeling crappy.
Wellness is right around the bend! Feel good.
P.S. about #3. Soon as she loses the weight SHE moves on..lol👍👍👍
❤❤❤
Money 🤑
Text me
@@KevHick how do I text, please 🙏🏾
But didn't you suggest men have to put effort into dates?
I suggest men take you on dates. I’m not big on crazy first dates
@Kev Hick So being able to be bored with each other is more for an established relationship?
I love your videos daddy I think your gonna be rich and famous
Takeyoasstobed pretty girl 😂
Great Video