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MISTAKES women make when men ask them out. DO THIS INSTEAD for INNER PEACE and RESPECT

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  • Опубліковано 15 сер 2024
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    Women always ask me about how to attract guys who are more serious. How to get guys who are genuinely interested to engage. The problem isn’t that those men aren’t. The problem is usually women wasting time dealing with the guys who aren’t and afraid to set standards and stand by those standards from the first interaction. Being afraid to come off too serious or run a guy off is what often gets a woman played. If you want to impress a guy who’s serious while repelling guys who aren’t set standards from his first approach. Men who are serious will be more intrigued. Men don’t respect women and who play power games test those boundaries early on. Discontinue those connections immediately. When a man is serious, he hears you and wishes to make that known. How to tell if a guy is serious. How to establish standards and earn his respect.
    If you want to know about dating red flags you’ve come to the right place. Sometimes women wonder if a guy is serious and they make huge dating mistakes trying to secure a relationship. If you want to know if a guy likes you pay attention to these signs and other signs a guy likes you covered on this channel. So many women have a crush on a guy, so they start ignoring red flags and signs a guy doesn’t like them seriously. Please pay attractive ladies. Dating mistakes create so much damage and trauma. Looking for live is hard but it doesn’t have to be that hard.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 348

  • @KevHick
    @KevHick  2 роки тому +36

    Girltalkwithguys.com to get 1 on 1 coaching

  • @kokoalaska9888
    @kokoalaska9888 2 роки тому +267

    An old wise woman once said “ Never love a man more than you love yourself.” This stuck with me for years . Too many of us put the needs of others before our own because we do not believe we can get the man we deserve.

    • @_nellysunshine
      @_nellysunshine 2 роки тому +13

      THIS! Some people think the quote is, "Never love a man more than he loves you." I'd rather he love himself and I love myself then we bring our love together! LOL

    • @kathanson584
      @kathanson584 2 роки тому +4

      Never love a man more than you love yourself - going to remember this one. Solid gold.

    • @empress_highpriestess3307
      @empress_highpriestess3307 Рік тому

      It is extremely important that we love ourselves ' more ' because no one can give what they themselves, do not have..
      The adage given to women to seek men who love you ' more ' ..not while you dont love them at all..but ' more ' is steeped deeply in male/ female psychology and the roles behaviors and attitudes that arise from that. Women are taught and naturally pour themselves - their emotions,their time, energy and efforts into relationships and the people within their sphere of influence..
      Men are taught and naturally direct their attention outward, into the world and focus more upon themselves and their achievemens ..seeking emotional satisfaction by mastering their abilities to perform, to provide and eventually to protect -- for himself, and for those he considers his own.
      His own, means resources to others..outside himself-- a major shift from the way his energy naturally flows.
      So loving something more than himself-- brings out the best in a man, stretching his boundaries and comfort zone in a way that a woman who loves, will naturally be drawn to match

    • @LisaGemini
      @LisaGemini Рік тому

      So true. Love yourself and respect yourself so you don't get hurt.

    • @souluvlai
      @souluvlai Рік тому +1

      My mother used to ALWAYS say that to me! I even wrote a song about it! ❤

  • @dianamontoya996
    @dianamontoya996 2 роки тому +158

    "We don't go with the flow. We set the flow" My philosophy from now on. Thank you!

  • @bornaries7213
    @bornaries7213 2 роки тому +170

    From a Gender X to all my Millineials and Gen Z's...Please do not let any man waste your time!!
    They will if you let them!
    Have standards and boundaries for people dealing with you!
    Know what you value and want from any connection.
    Write them down and keep them at the forefront of your life!
    You deserve romance and to be treated well!
    If you are ready and desire a relationship, date(not sleeping with everyone🤬) and learn to read the energy and intentions with you.
    Time waits for no one and it is valuable!
    Don't be like some of us old heads🥱🤣 learning because we had no one to teach us the value that is US!
    This is wisdom with love from a Gender Xer😘

    • @DiamondsRexpensive
      @DiamondsRexpensive 2 роки тому +8

      Preach 🙌

    • @steftrujillo4168
      @steftrujillo4168 2 роки тому +4

      Very well written

    • @misstiff8553
      @misstiff8553 2 роки тому +14

      Wish I could give this 5 million stars. .. Please dont let one sided relationships waste your time. Walk away and heal. The person will be right behind you if they truly care.

    • @Ray.5446.
      @Ray.5446. 2 роки тому +4

      Thank you! I appreciate your advice.

    • @yourrealtor_Danielle
      @yourrealtor_Danielle 2 роки тому +14

      As another Gen exer, I agree with everything you said. I remember being a younger woman, and how time quickly flew by. Take your time, vet men properly, and follow your intuition. It don’t feel right, get out of it. Keep your standards high and expectations low. Let them prove theirselves to you.

  • @mahogany_honey
    @mahogany_honey 2 роки тому +16

    Something I tell men, that's kinda flirty but letting him know...."oh I hear you, but I only respond to actions"...

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI Рік тому +1

      Another excellent response. If you don’t mind, I will use it when the opportunity presents itself. Hopefully I will never have to use it. wink.

  • @lynnette1225
    @lynnette1225 2 роки тому +256

    “Don’t be afraid to build walls and draw boundaries around strange men, who do strange ish!” -Kev
    I love it! lol 😂🙌🏾♥️💯

    • @ibstayfly
      @ibstayfly Рік тому

      Point blank periodt 💯

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 2 роки тому +78

    Love you immensely Kev I curved a guy that hasn't planned a date after interacting 2 weeks. He keeps texting me when I told him I prefer phone calls. I don't want to deal with broke/ cheap/ low effort men.

    • @TravelBug189
      @TravelBug189 2 роки тому +10

      Good for you! I ended things with a guy back in March. Forget about weeks! This guy would suggest going out then disappear for months at a time! But of course I really liked him so I’d always say “yes” to going out for brunch/lunch/movie only for him to vanish. I’m still heartbroken but it’s gotten a lot better

    • @MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom
      @MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom 2 роки тому +4

      He is in another relationship

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 2 роки тому +5

      @@MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom
      Yeah I figured that people make time for who & what they want.

    • @nayanacouture3523
      @nayanacouture3523 2 роки тому +5

      @@TravelBug189 he would have caused you damage, led you into a guessing game situationship. Well done for dropping him.

  • @godseed79
    @godseed79 2 роки тому +90

    I love this phrase and I'm so on board: "Don't be afraid to build walls and boundaries around strange men who do strange s$%t"

    • @HK80sbabii
      @HK80sbabii 2 роки тому +2

      Yes that was the one!

    • @ladylady7848
      @ladylady7848 Рік тому +1

      I went thru that too. Seeing strange stuff and I'm like nahhh I don't like that. And I act accordingly. I definitely don't be wanting to be bothered afterwards

  • @201stars
    @201stars 2 роки тому +68

    Honestly I’m at the point where I don’t guide men to the answer I want. If a mans about that life he’ll just ask you out. If a man says he’ll call and doesn’t, that’s it he gets cut off. Especially since they’re men out there who actually walk the walk. If you’ve dealt with men who actually ask you out. Why would you settle for men who beat around the bush?

  • @RR-us1lt
    @RR-us1lt 2 роки тому +39

    Someone on an app blatantly disrespected me within the first 5 messages. Thanks to these types of videos I immediately unmatched them and moved on instead of arguing or being irritated yet allowing it.

  • @ibcandy
    @ibcandy 2 роки тому +77

    “Don’t talk about it, be about it”-Great advice, Kev💯💯💯💙

  • @monajora1733
    @monajora1733 2 роки тому +21

    As a woman I remind you to be always yourself and don‘t let yourself get manipulated by such videos made by men. If a man cannot cope with a woman the way she is, he can leave. 👋

  • @lesha6967
    @lesha6967 2 роки тому +84

    I’ve come across a few of these lately. I just block them and move on. I don’t even bother to call them out on it. I’ve gotten to the point to where if I see you’re playing with me within the few first days of meeting/talking I have no interest in continuing or trying to get them to come correct.

  • @nidzaboricua3294
    @nidzaboricua3294 2 роки тому +189

    I love when you give examples because we women tend to overthink it. As I was listening to you set the scenario I tried to come up with what I would say before your answer. Let me tell you I couldn't come up with anything concrete. When you spoke about a man saying I'll call you later today I would've never seen as an issue. After your explanation it totally made sense. Can I make a suggestion for more videos with examples of what to say to men? Like the common things men say and exactly what we can say back. Sometimes I'm so in my head to make sure I get it right that I get stuck. Or even some examples of the way men think that women get confused or don't accept? Maybe make up a hypothetical conversation between a man and a woman?

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +29

      You’re a channel member. I appreciate you. Absolutely!

    • @8lack8erry1
      @8lack8erry1 2 роки тому +16

      I agree with this Nidza, when he advised us on what we should say when he says I’ll call you later I was like yess that is exactly what we should do.

    • @sneakytreats
      @sneakytreats 2 роки тому +13

      Exactly!! These practical advice examples are SO HELPFUL!! 🤯💕

    • @gods_child_8398
      @gods_child_8398 2 роки тому +13

      I can relate to this entire comment. 😩 I legit get stuck in my head so much that I either say the wrong thing or give a response that could have been stronger.

    • @kettanistar
      @kettanistar 2 роки тому +13

      I love this one. "I will call you later" I just say ok and when they don't call it's an easily elimination at this point. Unbothered! I was not even important enough for a phone call.

  • @seymorepencilart
    @seymorepencilart 2 роки тому +49

    You want vulnerable men that aren’t vulnerable just because you require it. You want a man to be able to value his own vulnerability enough to risk being rejected by you (or any woman, or anybody, for that matter). And you want a man that can stand in his own power without using it to abuse or make himself feel better. Kev is right on with his advice here. Listen to him. It doesn’t feel good for a man to be an asshole, be shady, or act emotionally ambiguous or unavailable in order to attract women, EXCEPT for those men who don’t see the value to them in being straight forward and risking rejection from a woman just by being and doing himself. You want a man whose behavior is displayed apart from your response to him. Kev is requiring you to require a man to be both confident in himself and vulnerable enough within himself to see the humanity in you, the woman he is attracted to. If you don’t allow yourself to play games or be played by men who play games, you will find out which men have the capacity to both love you, as well as desire you- and not just do one or the other. This might require vulnerability on your part in having expectations for the men who approach you and show interest. And I say that not to victim blame or victim shame, I just say that because, as Kev says, a guy who looks up “dating advice” is more likely going to find a toxic content creator rather than an Esther Perel or someone like Kev himself just because of the nature of controversy itself and it’s toxic relationship with the internet in general.

    • @MzSoulll
      @MzSoulll Рік тому

      this was such an excellent comment. thank you for connecting the role of vulnerability in all of this. insightful and delivered Kev's advice so much further.
      : crying thanks gif:

  • @Ashley21138
    @Ashley21138 2 роки тому +15

    I’ve had guys so this in multiple occasions. “We should do XYZ” “we should go on date soon”…that’s literally it, no plans or follow ups and I damn sure ain’t gonna chase him for it or ask about it. If that’s what he wanted to do it would be done

  • @hoooyea163
    @hoooyea163 2 роки тому +36

    Kev U really be exposing the game

  • @therealkoolaidandkale
    @therealkoolaidandkale 2 роки тому +162

    Kev needs to be at a million, man. It seems that the most negative things go viral when it's videos like his that should.
    Please don't give up, Kev- your messages are SO very needed (and appreciated)!

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +8

      FR 💯

    • @aamia3769
      @aamia3769 2 роки тому +10

      Saved my life. Genuinely.

    • @joannagipson12
      @joannagipson12 2 роки тому +9

      Very true!!! He breaks down the bro code.💯💯💯

    • @trust493
      @trust493 2 роки тому +2

      You're right

    • @RR-us1lt
      @RR-us1lt 2 роки тому +9

      He is a breath of fresh air when there's so many content creators trying to bank off and encourage people's bitterness and hatred.

  • @miss_bb2
    @miss_bb2 2 роки тому +72

    One other thing we need to stop doing is building fantasy's about gents we just met!!!!

    • @TheBestOfLisaRenee
      @TheBestOfLisaRenee 2 роки тому +2

      That habit of romanticizing and building a story in one’s head is probably due to mind-programming, through television programming.

    • @miss_bb2
      @miss_bb2 2 роки тому +2

      @@TheBestOfLisaRenee gotta check ourselves I guess

    • @TheBestOfLisaRenee
      @TheBestOfLisaRenee 2 роки тому +1

      @@miss_bb2 - Yes, we must be accountable. We are often times guilty of this. I’ve taken it a step further and haven’t watched television since 2009. We do love romance and to be dazzled by a man, and it doesn’t help that they are lacking severely in this area.

  • @busi7822
    @busi7822 2 роки тому +20

    "We don't go with the flow-;we set the glow".👌🏾

  • @Ray.5446.
    @Ray.5446. 2 роки тому +64

    I always have the problem with finding extremely nice guys who seem very interested and have a lot of things in common with me. After I agree to be in a relationship with them they completely switch up. They tell me they really don't like to do the activities we had in common. They stop being as nice too and won't allow me to keep boundaries. It feels awful being lied to especially after being single for seven years and letting my walls down. I'm young too, I don't think I'm emotionally available for a relationship with men who act like boys. I'll gladly be single until the right person comes along.

    • @iyaayas
      @iyaayas 2 роки тому +8

      I'm genuinely curious for my own, long term inner discussion. You don't have to respond if you don't want to. Treat this as a comment on your thoughts.
      My inner question to your comment makes me wonder if you're having sex with them or not. If so, how long do you make them wait before doing so for the first time? If not, what is it you might be (or not be) doing that I either did (or would) do while dating.
      I consider myself very blessed to have gotten a husband early. I had few but high standards and stuck with them. The three top ones were "Loving Jesus more than me (foundational to my life and I wanted to be united in religious and spiritual ideologies)." "Accept me for me even with all my faults and short comings (it's hard if not impossible to change. I didn't want to promise thay I would change, fail (or even succeed), and be miserable due to hating the process). I did the same for the man I dated." and "No sex before marriage. (Or for those who don't care about this standard, have a specific, hard to reach/almost impossible, high standard milestone or 10 before surrending your body to sex)."
      Even though I'm married, I consider all these things (and other standards) so I can wisely advise my daughters later in life. It's also a preplan for just in case hubby dies before me.

    • @yourrealtor_Danielle
      @yourrealtor_Danielle 2 роки тому +27

      The guys sound like bait and switch types. They lure you in with kindness, then switch on you. Everyone sends their “representative”. The person, who is kind at first. Everything is exciting in the beginning. Then, once they “feel” they have you, the true person shows up. It can take 3-6 months, sometimes longer for their true selves to “show up”. Meanwhile, get to know them, ask questions, don’t go to their homes or let them come to yours, and keep sex off the table.

    • @Ray.5446.
      @Ray.5446. 2 роки тому +15

      @@yourrealtor_Danielle I didnt know that was an actual thing that's pretty much what happens after they have said I love you to me it usually takes them exactly 3-6 months and then they start showing their true colors. They never want to break up either. They try to hold onto the relationship with being manipulative. Even years after we have broken up they will email me, try to text me, call me from different numbers saying they messed up and will change for me. That I'm the only girl they want. Their words are usually it's either I'm with you or I'm single. It always seems like they tell me exactly what I want to hear and know what to say. Social media really did not help my case. My Instagram practically told every stranger my exact interests, what I like to do, eat, watch, etc. My last two exs used Instagram to bait me with the activities I like to do. I deleted all social media, besides UA-cam and I won't use dating apps anymore.

    • @Ray.5446.
      @Ray.5446. 2 роки тому +4

      @@iyaayas I usually have my guard up and wait around four months of getting to know eachother and being friends before I agree to anything romantic. Even in the relationship it takes me awhile to kiss someone. I do have sex with them after I feel comfortable. I'm not religious or nor do I believe in getting married legally. I have high standards and the guys that I've dated met them, but switched up as soon as they got comfortable and said I love you.

    • @yourrealtor_Danielle
      @yourrealtor_Danielle 2 роки тому +10

      @@Ray.5446. yes it is. Also, lovebombing is a thing. Look it up.

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau 2 роки тому +21

    OMG, you are so right. This happened to me for years. I kept thinking a relationship was any minute. I'm not a stupid person, but your brain plays with you after a while. It's like Stockholm syndrome.

  • @elizabethwashington9168
    @elizabethwashington9168 2 роки тому +6

    If a man suggests a date, but doesn't follow-up with plans, then don't waste your time...why teach or give them constructive criticism...the right one will come correct...Time is too precious to waste on time-wasters🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

  • @thecliff4670
    @thecliff4670 Рік тому +6

    I can't begin to tell you how accurate he is. I'm so grateful to see young men like him stepping up and protecting women with this knowledge. We need to stop this cycle of unwed mothers and absent fathers who never intent to be a father from the start.

  • @sharajackson2129
    @sharajackson2129 2 роки тому +11

    Sadly there are to many men who are insincere out there and its to draining dealing with this dysfunctional behaviour .
    I lose interest quick and disengage .

  • @suesilverling100
    @suesilverling100 Рік тому +4

    “Set the flow” I love that. Too many men say “let’s just go with the flow”

  • @katharineofarrogant7805
    @katharineofarrogant7805 Рік тому +6

    As a 50 year old widow back on the dating scene, I just want to say you are 100% on the money. Your words are so helpful for any of us seeking to value ourselves first within the context of connecting to the opposite sex. Thank you!

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini Рік тому +3

    I recently had a guy in his 50s tell me to come over and "hang out." I let him know immediately that we had to meet in a public place, no offense, but a woman cannot be too careful. Eventually he lost interest probably because he's an atheist and I have strong faith in God. Sadly, a lot of men do not believe in the Lord these days. I cannot be with a non-believer, it's a deal breaker like smoking and having a controlling personality. It surprises me how many men are still cavemen in this post MeToo era. You are absolutely right, Kev. Reject broken promises and ambiguity the FIRST TIME he does it.

    • @tjjackson2894
      @tjjackson2894 21 день тому

      I am a Christian woman also.. met this man on fb...says he's a Christian, seems to know the Bible but actions doesn't line up..He says I try to control and he's not that kind of man.. ALL BECAUSE I HAVE BOUNDARIES AND SEE RED FLAGS...I WILL NOT WASTE MY TIME..

  • @stefycute6792
    @stefycute6792 2 роки тому +17

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 you're the sword and shield to women and mothers and shall pass it to their daughters and so shall it multiply.
    777

  • @dangdeionn
    @dangdeionn 2 роки тому +18

    I have an issue with this sometimes because I like being single but having company from time to time. So when I do entertain it’s not always of quality. I usually end up chilling with a dude and they think they’ll hit and NEVER DO and I’ll end up blocking them the next day. It’s definitely a cycle that has to stop. A dude can leave me in suspense which is most times because I don’t really care too much. I can feel when they are testing me. I’ve learned to not respond or even entertain if a man is trying to test my self respect . I stop paying them any attention. Because of this they take my initial introduction as oh she’s easy but it’s the opposite once they get to know me.

    • @jareetakhan9408
      @jareetakhan9408 2 роки тому +1

      Men who practice mind games on women they are not interested in are not worth the powder and shot it would take to kill them.

  • @lorealdrayton6164
    @lorealdrayton6164 2 роки тому +27

    this message is about MEN WHO MOVES TOO FAST as well......watch out!

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 роки тому +13

    Don't lose yourself to someone that doesn't respect you; instead, let go of that relationship to allow doors to open from someone that deserves you.
    💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

  • @Secret-sw8ih
    @Secret-sw8ih 2 роки тому +6

    Wow. Excellent! I was besotted with a guy in my 20's. Who was all about broken promises & mystery...I was obsessed with him because he was so elusive & I couldn't get hold of him. Like, maybe he did it all on purpose & he knew all this stuff then. All I know is...it worked....on me for him 🙄😟 He'd say, 'Oh, tomorrow we'll do this (go on the big wheel/go for dinner etc) tomorrow NEVER happened. He kept saying he'd take me to GOA in India one day....it was ALL BS to get what he wanted from me! 😡

    • @Secret-sw8ih
      @Secret-sw8ih 2 роки тому +4

      I was soooo naïve! He got in touch with me years later though, asking me out to dinner ....I was older a wiser by then.....I really got mad...by text, LoL. But I think he was shocked 😅 Said he wished he hadn't got in touch. I said I wished so too.

    • @Secret-sw8ih
      @Secret-sw8ih 2 роки тому +1

      I thought he was such an enigma, I was always trying to figure him out so I could be with him. What an utter waste of time that was. Although there sort of was one moment when o could have chosen him but at that time if just met someone else. He gave me an ultimatum & I chose the other guy at the time (bit prior to that if waited for him for about a year!)

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 2 роки тому +5

      Players mentallity.
      Unreliable, because they play.

  • @onm9128
    @onm9128 2 роки тому +6

    Don't entertain or accept suspence

  • @kathanson584
    @kathanson584 2 роки тому +3

    You will make a great dad - or if you already are one - your children are lucky to have you! Be well.

  • @aspiringrootwoman24
    @aspiringrootwoman24 2 роки тому +8

    "the often out of control fantasy... Starts. Here." you just gave me the keys to the kingdom. A diagnosis and a remedy. Bless your soul.

  • @joannagipson12
    @joannagipson12 2 роки тому +27

    I wish I would have come across you when I was younger. My last relationship was a train wreck. Maybe I could have avoided those traps he set for me. But it's never too late. 💕

  • @sneakytreats
    @sneakytreats 2 роки тому +15

    THANK YOU KEV!!! I’ve been so abused trying to be the “nice girl” I have literally zero ideas on how to establish I’m not that bitch to be played with early on (while also not turning away the good ones). This was so helpful!!!! More “what to say when a guy says...” please I’m so here for it!!!!!

  • @shaythemortician5180
    @shaythemortician5180 2 роки тому +12

    Hey Kev, thanks for the knowledge, I just went through this, my guy sais He's gonna call, & there I am, not knowing, I'm thinking about, & waiting for that call, (let me get moms together, & imma call you later), sometimes he does, & fall straight to sleep, on the phone, just got off work, & takes care of her, & sometimes, he doesn't call @ all, but the fact still stands, It lived rent free, in my head space, is he gonna call, thanks Kev, that's a bad feeling, the wait, sucks, & the wait, followed by no call @ all, is even worse, but it won't happen again, thanks bro❤❤❤❤💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

  • @locgoddes7266
    @locgoddes7266 2 роки тому +4

    You’re absolutely right a week ago a guy got my number on my job red flags when he texted 2 days later do you drink do you smoke ? Oh can we link boy bye !!! I’m grown I don’t link link can mean anything I do grown conversation can I take you out on a date blocked I have standers after blocking him he had the nerve to come on my job with saltiness you did that to yourself sir when you chose to not respect me in the right manner and I needed to see the real him

    • @Daniell998100
      @Daniell998100 2 роки тому

      this just happen to me except i fell for it

  • @seymorepencilart
    @seymorepencilart 2 роки тому +24

    I might be wrong, but when that fantasy starts, because you’re not in a relationship, that’s infatuation - but I think it can turn into what’s called Limerence. It might be something useful to look up

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +11

      Always a good idea. Maybe I’ll do a video on that.

    • @seymorepencilart
      @seymorepencilart 2 роки тому +1

      @@KevHick I wasn’t meaning to instruct you on which videos to do. If check it out, and you find it useful, I hope your audience does too.

    • @edithmr21o
      @edithmr21o 2 роки тому +1

      Limerence can be dangerous :/ I believe Chris watts was in phase 2 the crystallization phase and he did what he did

  • @mollysfamily914
    @mollysfamily914 2 роки тому +12

    You are an extreme blessing on earth. you change lives. You save lives.

  • @AmandaMG6
    @AmandaMG6 Рік тому +2

    If he wants me to try and figure him out, imma give him a diagnosis 🤣

  • @jhinusrify
    @jhinusrify 2 роки тому +20

    The best content I have seen in all the videos I ever watched since guys these days are so shady and all say this from the begining, let's hang out and I truly hate that sentence. So thank you for being so on point about what we face nowadays !

  • @movementofbelonging
    @movementofbelonging Рік тому +2

    "Just do what you do, and i'll learn from that." 💯 Still practicing that one... when he shows me who he is, believe it! So simple. thanks, Kev 🙏

  • @trasation1774
    @trasation1774 2 роки тому +8

    I have to listen to this 100 times. I was juuust told, "Stop trying to figure me out."...thanku Kevin.

  • @faceofglam
    @faceofglam 2 роки тому +24

    LOVE THIS!! Keep exposing the game

  • @heide-raquelfuss5580
    @heide-raquelfuss5580 2 роки тому +3

    I knew men who are very, very good players. They do everything right. But when you are married. Even the same night, suddenly you realize, it was a very bad thing to marry. Some are great actors. Enjoy so much acting serious...but are enjoying just the game part. Yes, even when married...

  • @onm9128
    @onm9128 2 роки тому +17

    Thanks for all the "liberation" you bring us! Much love to you and your wife

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau 2 роки тому +12

    Kevin, these videos are helping like you can't believe. We need more of this red pill content because I'm sure most of us sweet minded people had no idea about it. I just went through 3 years of bullshit.

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 2 роки тому +13

    Kev I'm always mentioning you on different platforms of influencers who mention other influencers they admire...you are so necessary in how you give us women ammunition against bullshitters...Thank you Sir!!! 😌🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much 😊

    • @traceylennon1204
      @traceylennon1204 2 роки тому

      @@KevHick You are so welcome!! ☺️

  • @tymarrasherrill6266
    @tymarrasherrill6266 2 роки тому +12

    If anyone needs reassurance, Kev is the truth! These tips now come to me naturally as they are an extension of things I've learned through Kev's other videos. That and I had to get it through my thick skull to not rush things, Kev has a video on that too!

  • @Kiki-jx6by
    @Kiki-jx6by 2 роки тому +1

    When I speak like that, point blank direct with calmness , respect and a smile I get
    “ oh you one of those huh, u feisty huh?”

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +2

      Yes, this response if serious is a red flag run. Standards aren’t masculine

    • @Kiki-jx6by
      @Kiki-jx6by 2 роки тому +1

      @@KevHick
      Yes, I did thank u

  • @MzSoulll
    @MzSoulll Рік тому +2

    we don't go with the flow. we set the flow. - Kev Hicks. see now imma be saying this all the time 🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 Рік тому +1

    I always got the "I'll call you!"
    I'd say "when, exactly?"
    They always say, "Soon" "Soon"
    Me: "Dont bother"

  • @murieloduro1274
    @murieloduro1274 2 роки тому +3

    Only dead fish goes with the flow..

  • @dianad6007
    @dianad6007 Рік тому +1

    Man, you keep saving me from these unavailable men!! They love to telegraph calls and dates. I used both of these lines, especailly the don't talk about it be about it and I don't do mystery and suspense. You are ALAWYS RIGHT!! Much love and peace and blessing to you!!

  • @rockydluffy2537
    @rockydluffy2537 2 роки тому +2

    Omg. I just had this guy to this to me like an hour ago. He would initiate something and then change his mind last minute, so I called his ass out. Told him I would really appreciate it if he would stop doing that to me, coz it didn't feel good. And that he should respect my time.

  • @PS-xb9hc
    @PS-xb9hc 4 місяці тому

    Yes! Stand up for yourself! Don't allow people to waste your time

  • @superpoodlehead
    @superpoodlehead Рік тому +4

    “Don’t be afraid to build boundaries around strange men who do strange 💩” 😄 You make it so simple for me! Thank you!!! Can you please do a video on how to put a man on ice and build boundaries and walls AND stick to it? When they come back I’m always too easy to access.

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI Рік тому

      Learn to just say no and block him.

  • @justme1269
    @justme1269 4 місяці тому +1

    Good thing that if you are out of my sight and don't communicate, you are out of my mind.

  • @khosipenelope5731
    @khosipenelope5731 5 місяців тому

    "don't talk about it, be about it"❤

  • @realalldway-raw4996
    @realalldway-raw4996 2 роки тому +6

    Good advice.
    Boys (that's right boys) not Men put women in this ambiguous position to take control.
    If you let him do so.
    He will play you.
    A MAN will respect a woman.

  • @jessicalittleelk3776
    @jessicalittleelk3776 2 роки тому +8

    U really earning that subscription fee. 🤣 I love this. Thank u so much. I'm about to be NO GOOD 💀

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you do much for being a channel member. You are so special to me. I’m so appreciative. 🙏🏾 thank you

  • @Lana-kh5nj
    @Lana-kh5nj 2 роки тому +2

    I just started dating again and utilized this advice to make a man uncomfortable with his requests. The ones who only call on the weekend to see if i’m available and i’m letting them know i don’t meet men who don’t actively try to get to know me before. Who wants to meet a perfect stranger. Throw back the uncomfortable communication/expectation they givr you. They start finding reasons and excuses for their outlandish requests knowing that you see beneath the veil of ridiculousness.
    Men really do place the same value that we as women carry for ourselves.

  • @delorisdelight
    @delorisdelight 2 роки тому +4

    This is some good nuggets. Most definitely will apply this

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +11

    True. But to be realistic, that ambiguity...suspence...mystery is what makes them a little more interested though...unfortunately. Like I wish it wasn't so...but it is.
    Guys attraction in women are very simple. All you need to be is Our Type most of the time. If you got a good man...and he wants what you want...there's mutual physical attraction...all you gotta do is see if yall get along and equally yoked in the right way.
    Unfortunately on the flip side....to get a woman interested, we need more than good looks or to be tall dark and handsome...or a good man...they don't seem to look for that 1st unfortunately....even though you suggested they do. If they did, maybe all these ladies would be all over me trying to get with me or get my attention or whatever. Lol. FR tho
    So yeah...women mainly move off emotions. And yes as guys, a lot of us know how to strategically get a woman interested and attracted JUST By Simply playing off of her natural emotions. Usually the ain't shit guys do this.
    But 1 way...which is debatable if its a good or bad thing to some guys...but is to use that mystery to get her to wonder. Once she wonders about you....she thinks about you more...and then her attraction automatically builds and grows Just for that 1 tactic.
    Like i said to you earlier...its super rough out here in this modern dating scene man. FR. I hope my tv sitcom that we're working on can shed a little light on that. We will see. But mann.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +4

      Absolutely. There needs to be a certain balance though. They always end of imagining the whole guy and in love with a stranger.

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +1

      @@KevHick Very True. You're totally right.

    • @bellaapple2166
      @bellaapple2166 2 роки тому +1

      @@jayc5756 Great comment interesting all these games that men know how to play on women.

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +9

    Super Facts! I Love This!!!

  • @faizahanif9515
    @faizahanif9515 2 роки тому +9

    Why do I need to ask about him time of call or place for date anyway?
    He says "I'll call you or take you out sometime" I'll say "okay sure"
    And if he doesn't then so be it. I'll go out with the one who actually tells the place and time without me asking.

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому +2

      You're right

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI Рік тому

      I think Kevin is saying that so the men know that the women will put them in their place. This is a warning to them not to do that to other women.

  • @anyabey2222
    @anyabey2222 2 роки тому +15

    This is a great video! Appreciate you Kev! 🙏🏽 This video is super super powerful.

  • @verlenecayetano6040
    @verlenecayetano6040 2 роки тому +6

    Wow great topic tonight Mr Kev

  • @tonjarichardson1983
    @tonjarichardson1983 2 роки тому +9

    Thanks! I really appreciated the clear instructions

  • @kidchocolate9253
    @kidchocolate9253 2 роки тому +10

    You are always on point. Thank you!

  • @tanikae966
    @tanikae966 2 роки тому +5

    This video👏🏽. Loved the examples with the replies, it reinforces it in my mind better. Merci 👌🏾

  • @goddessinfinity1
    @goddessinfinity1 2 роки тому +3

    I take numbers. I don’t give out my number. Then if I call it’s from a google voice number. It’s not safe giving your number out as a woman. I had a man’s girlfriend try to trace my location from my number being in his phone. Never again.

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI Рік тому

      Why not give out your Google Voice phone number? Then turn off the location tracker on your phone.

  • @-beTHEchange-123-
    @-beTHEchange-123- 2 роки тому +2

    people need this stuff
    can we get this guy on blast as a high-school required course!

  • @nitika8535
    @nitika8535 2 роки тому +10

    Gosh im in the same situation, there’s this guy who makes me feel good and appreciated but he never tells me anything about him like what he do etc etc everytime i try to talk to him more he always end the conversation by writing Ive gotta go speak to you soon beautiful and ive been feeling what are his intentions

    • @sandy0519871
      @sandy0519871 2 роки тому +9

      RUNNNNN 😂😂😂 he’s playing with you

    • @user-ph4mg1mh9c
      @user-ph4mg1mh9c 2 роки тому +4

      Wish him well and walk away, no refunds, no returns 👋🏼

  • @empathiccalm4959
    @empathiccalm4959 Рік тому

    I have a guy that always sticks around never makes firm plans . Needles to say he is cut off.❤

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +8

    Great tip on how to avoid that Kev. I wrote that other message before I finished the 1st min watching. But yes, you're totally right bro. Thanks for the great tips for these women.

  • @hookedfilms7887
    @hookedfilms7887 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you. It seems like they all do this.

  • @TheAnashea
    @TheAnashea 2 роки тому +7

    This helped me so much!

  • @dulcecaramelo23
    @dulcecaramelo23 Рік тому +1

    Taking NOTES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @alyciagibson
    @alyciagibson 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you, sir. This is super helpful. Too many men have lowered my self-esteem with these methods. Happy to know what to look for now 😊

  • @tatisloveoth
    @tatisloveoth 2 роки тому +8

    Such valuable advise! I'm one of those women who can't help but seek reassurance so battling against that is gonna be tough 😩

  • @koninray1307
    @koninray1307 2 роки тому +1

    Asé ..blessing upon blessing King!

  • @chrisdeller2189
    @chrisdeller2189 2 роки тому +3

    Damn!!! Whew I needed that Kevin!! Bless you !

  • @vanessachambers697
    @vanessachambers697 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you Kev for this message much needed to hear😊

  • @lilacdreams5966
    @lilacdreams5966 2 роки тому +2

    Doing the lords work! Love it

  • @iyaayas
    @iyaayas 2 роки тому +4

    Without Kev available when I was dating, I took this advice indirectly (I eventually ghosted boyfriends who refused to either show me who they really are or who kept standing me up on promises with excuses) and my now husband unknowingly at the time "stole" me from my boyfriend.
    I broke up with XBF as soon as I said yes to hubby's request for me to be his GF. Hubby found out I had a BF when I took him with me to retrieve some belongings from XBF's home and return some things from my home to XBF. I introduced the two of them when I randomly saw XBF out while hubby and I were out. Last time I ever saw or heard from XBF of active relationship of 2 months (a third in between but I was away on a trip).

  • @boobiemookie
    @boobiemookie 2 роки тому +2

    Thank You @KevHick for sharing your knowledge with us, you are appreciated! 👏🏽👏🏽💪🏽😊

  • @alexandrablume3297
    @alexandrablume3297 Рік тому

    Dear Kev, thank you for always sharing and explaining. I feel better equipped to understand how to Deal with men and it was a big Game change for me. Thanks so much. Regards Alexa

  • @privatename40
    @privatename40 4 місяці тому

    This was an entire sermon and life changing nugget. Thank YOU!

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  4 місяці тому

      Thanks for watching 😁

  • @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729
    @robbieb.garlandm.ed.6729 2 роки тому +2

    I needed this frfr

  • @atlfun08
    @atlfun08 2 роки тому +5

    I’m done with fantasy when I comes to men. It they ain’t done…they don’t got it! Never have…never will. Lol

  • @seabreeze4559
    @seabreeze4559 2 роки тому +7

    he isn't brooding and deep, he isn't talking because he's stupid and doesn't wanna let you know
    second, ambiguity is intended to develop a trauma bond inc limerent thinking

  • @iairarea
    @iairarea 2 роки тому +2

    This is a lifesaver!🙌

  • @redsparrow1825
    @redsparrow1825 2 роки тому +1

    Thank Kev!!! ❤️❤️❤️ always dropping gems

  • @JessE-mr4yu
    @JessE-mr4yu 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing another great video appreciate you 🙏 peace and blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there. ✌️🙏

  • @Netty_Betty
    @Netty_Betty 2 роки тому +2

    This is so on point !!! Thank you

  • @rowenaramsaran4256
    @rowenaramsaran4256 2 роки тому +1

    Thank U Kev, I Appreciate the lesson, Bro.