if you stay at home a lot, this video will make you cry...
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- Опубліковано 10 тра 2024
- if you stay at home a lot, I made this video just for you...
Here's the background music I used in this video: • C418 - Subwoofer Lulla...
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Once you get an actual job and have to deal with people day in and day out. Trust me, you will appreciate those 4 walls of silence at home.
Lmao,you're right
Bro are u 65? Im a developer and my actual job is staying at home, people from my company are not even from my country lmao
I am not agoraphobic and just watch the video by curiosity but what u said was straight dumb
this
Truth be told...
its true brother but thats how the world catches us in the Rat race 9-5 trap. Drains you to make you not want to do more
Agoraphobic for 18 years. I'm 35, and I just found out I might be really sick. I've never done anything or been anyone. Never loved or been loved. Please. Don't take your time for granted. Best of luck to you all.
Awh no cmon :((( i hope you recover if u are sick. U are somebody and u are someone already.
Thanks for spreading love. Best of luck to u!!!
Ooof that sucks!! I'm 32 and I have a history of agoraphobia, and same as you, I hardly went anywhere and didnt have my first relationship till 31. I just want to encourage you to not stop fighting it!
I didn't leave my house from the ages of 19-23. Like.. at all. I then fought it enough because I was so depressed, I no longer cared about living, so why not try doing something before I off myself?
Then I had amaaazing years from 23-27, which at that point the agoraphobia came back with a vengeance. I fought it and did well till I was 31~ now I'm slowly getting it again.
I just found out recently I may also have adhd, not just depression and anxiety, and it explains why everything has always been so hard and why I'm always procrastinating. I have been to a psychiatrist and phycologist and am on B blockers to help my agoraphobia. it really helps!
Everyday you fight for just pushing your self out there- even tho it's small steps, it's worth it!!
And 35 is still pretty young, we both have alot of life left and many years to come~ why not live it starting from now 🥰💕
I'm 23 and had such an extreme panic attack 2 years ago, my brain totally shifted and became agoraphobic. Very extreme agoraphobia. So much that I didn't leave my student studio for 1 and a half years. 22 square meters, 9th floor, 1 window, white walls. That's all I saw during this time and it felt like I put myself in an insane Asylum.
I had to quit university and go back to my parents because it was just getting worse. I'm still at their house, typing this comment.
I used to have friends who'd come visit me while I was and still am in this dark hole. They would ask me "How have you not gone insane yet?". I reflected a lot on that question and I came to the conclusion that I still have hope. Hope never left me. It's still there and that's the reason I keep going.
Now I'm starting to try to go outside more and more, even though I still feel extremely anxious and that I think I'll lose control in public. I remember how good life was before and how bad I want it back.
Anxiety is really tricky to beat when it takes over your mental. Hope and ignoring that voice in your head will be hard at first to master, but eventually you'll see the benefits. I hope you get better, including anyone who is having a really rough time with agoraphobia. One day we'll look back at those times and ask ourselves "Why was this such a big deal to me?".
35 is a baby, get out!! Now
I’m 34 and I think we are still very young I absolutely hate the outside world, I have been hurt, people are mean, the anxiety and panic attacks are trauma triggers. I wasn’t like this at 20, it takes a lot of beating down to just shut down. Also I suggest going slow by joining a hobby online group and slowly build up socialization on discord groups and attend a meeting.
When home becomes your "comfort zone" it becomes so hard to get out of it but we must push ourselves outside of it and not become a prisoner.
Right
Even a simple walk in the park every day will help. Just do it consistently. It won’t completely like negate this feeling but it will definitely help
Yes
I took a drop last year so i stayed home for an yr know i m out of shape gained 16 kg and have social anxiety i m trying so hard 😢
This is so true I used to be a baller as a kid and played football alot but my life changed when I went to a different country and I've been staying between 4 walls for so long and after sometime got social phobia and get weird feelings when outside
I feel more alone socially than I am at home
yeaa...it feels I don't belong there :"(
THIS
Same
Me too but what i do is going to the forest and or Beach
Hey ,man we are in similar situation if you find out the problem enlighten me@@user-yh6sd9mr8h
Dont let ur attention span make you not see this masterpeice
Fr
CAUSE TELL EM!!
My attention span is not that bad because I am a book worm 😂
My attention span is also quite long, I study alot. Exams coming soon
Everyone here killing it, proud of you all fr. Yo cosmic u better get a A+
EVER since Corona.. I’d been stuck home man…
ONLY school and home. Sometimes shopping or working out.
4 years man.. my peak years 15-19 I wasted on my bed. Which is why I turned into a lazy fuck.
I will fix it this summer. Thanks for your message.
Edit: Before telling me what my “peak years” are. You better understand you and I aren’t the same.
Yes 15-19 are fucking peak years. They’re the years of socializing, years of physical and mental development.
I missed the most essential years to develop my brain and my body. “Age isn’t just a number”
My height has stopped and I could’ve developed emotionally, socially, mentally and physically. Not only is it harder to develop these things after 19. It means I wasted 4 fucking years. If you don’t care about wasting your years, be my guest. Don’t tell me I didn’t miss anything.
ur Peak is whenever u Perform at ur peak, and that PEAK IS COMIN THIS SUMMER, YA HEARD IT!
@@Peterwithanr Now I can’t mess it up! Thanks for your reply❤️
15-19 were NOT your peak years.
You have so much life left.
Your brain isn't even done developing until age 25 and beyond that, you're still learning. 15-19 is just baby years. Don't be like those ppl who think anything past 20 is old age.
im in the exact same boat man. what are you doing to change ?
@@Sumire-rere Bro, 15-19 is the years people develop the most and fastest. Ofcourse they aren’t my peak. Cuz I wasted them.
Got 19-27 now before starting my decline. Yes, after 27-35 is the peak in terms of accomplishments. After that the body starts becoming weak and slow. It’s a slow decline for the best man. However it’s still a decline
Whenever I go outside I never saw anyone my age. It's so rare nowadays to even see a single person like me outside.
so true man
This is so true I don’t live in a city I live in small town and there is no place TO meet people let alone people my age everyone that DOES go out side are way older than me and my dream to have a family, wife, children, someone to come home to is just impossible now these days
If you don't mind me asking, what country do you live in?
All I see is middle aged people and young children at malls
Fr. Im 20 years old and all the people i see outside are old people and little kids. I feel like i will never meet the love of my life because he is too lazy to get out of the house lol
I don't wanna stay at home, but sometimes you live in a country, a society and a weather that forces you to....
are you from Bangladesh
Are you from baghdad ?
al karrada?
@@477RTE bagdad yeah
same spoke the words outta my mouth
I do not want to stay home, but I have no friends or people to hang out with and it is boring to go out without no one
Go alone, you meet real people leaving your home.
same man, since i'm not an adult yet, i'm still limited on what i can do by myself currently
Well then maybe you’re the problem if going outside is somehow “boring” to you
@swoop2386 really? Outside seems like a void. Everyone is pushing 40 and the few people you can interact with don’t want to interact. Sure you can run or ride a bike but ultimately going outside is hella boring without people to do shit with.
If you go to school or have work, that's the best place to get friends to go out with.
"I used to say home was my comfort zone, but staying at home too long becomes uncomfortable" this is so real, i'm glad i found this, i thought i was the only one struggling with this issue, i genuinely hate staying at home but it's too hard to let go you know? it's exactly like a toxic relationship.
go find book hack your mind on borlest bro
Main lesson taken from the video:
“We rather stay quiet when we have a lot to say. We do nothing when we have a lot that we want to do. It’s harsh and we are harsh to ourselves.”
Don’t be harsh on yourself. Don’t go against yourself. It’ll get better if you allow it to.
What's to say when no one is listening?! And no...society makes us believe we have a lot to do.
@@j-us-t_be-in-g in your world view, it may seem like no one is listening to you. And the amount of experiences you’ve had verify that for you. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who’ll listen. I had a similar worldview myself, and thought even my parents wouldn’t listen, and I self isolated myself. Like many of us, I turned to UA-cam as it was a feeling of connection with various creators that I was watching. Fortunately, I’ve learned a lot and got instilled better mindsets and was able to transfer that into my daily life. Like dominoes, day after day, I slowly transformed into a better person that I am now.
And society does make us believe we have a lot to do. And nothing is wrong about that. Biologically, we have few simple tasks: eat, procreate, and survive. But what separates us from our primate ancestors or any animal for that matter, as Sigmond Freud states: there’s two motives that push us humans, “the sex urge and the desire to be great.” Or as Dr. Dewey rephrases, “the craving to be important.” It’s this literal craving, this itch to feel important that has made society what it is today. I’m not here to tell you that you have a lot to do, “a lot” is subjective in this topic. This is just food for thought. Hope you have a great day 🤝
@@j-us-t_be-in-g”society makes us believe we have a lot to do”? there’s endless amount of things you can do: learn how to: draw, edit, math, code, speak a new language. Take a walk, write, read, train, run, meditate, dance and/or sing (or learn how to), travel (depends on budget tho), do a puzzle, go to the shooting range (i think that’s what it’s called, never been in one), watch a movie, go bowling, if you take a pet there will be a lot to do too, etc.
It’s not that there’s not a lot to do, there’s a lot YOU don’t want to do (don’t take it as an attack).
Staying at home a lot makes you have a fear of going out and dealing with people
True cause we get used to it for sure
agreed 😓
@@sonwabiso_joy its not about you
@@sonwabiso_joylucky bro i literally can't hold a conversation
@@frazyfrog who's it about. the context of the video seems to generalize men so it is hard to really separate everyone from giving their input.. and I do agree with "Fear??"
Although I will admit when I decide to go hermit mode for periods throughout the year. I become a bit less tolerant of people..
when YT algo works perfectly .
so real
True man, kinda scary that algorithms kind of know who we are and what we’re doing. I feel so behind in life at age of 25 it is kinda scary I’ve been in college for since 2016 I have quit before but going back into to college with a better mind set and for something I really want that’ll benefit me in the future
universe is an algo
@@knightairsoftwarrior Just always remember bro that its not a race , we're only competing against ourselves and i hope things go well for you in the future.
And we are gonna make it we can do this we can change our lives.
i'm 21. i turned 21 last feb. and i felt like after pandemic, i find it hard to connect to people. i used to be careless. i used to laugh a lot. conversational and friendly. and i can beat the talk without feeling awkward but after the pandemic and face people. i feel like, i'm a complete whole creature. i've lost my confidence. my smile. and suddenly i don't feel normal at talking and most of the time, i only wait for the conversation end. and i feel so cringe in human interaction. maybe, when i need someone to talk to, i never had the chance and just learnt to suit myself.
I totally get what you're saying. The pandemic started when I was 15. And it changed a lot of things for me.
Look what I'm about to say. You're either going to believe in it. Or the inner critic is going to make you not Believe in it.
From our day to day life,
our day to day thoughts.
We get to develope certain beliefs on ourselves. Those certain beliefs become a filter to your life, and more than that a filter to yourself
Use top seeing yourself the way used to see yourself. So you stop acting the way you used to act. And you think you lost your spark.
But what really is that From what You did in the pandemic you developed a filter on ur self, Or an inner voice that tells you what you are and what you're not,
what you used to be? And what you are now.
The key is in Letting go of that inner Critic, And letting yourself be. Once u the truly set yourself free from your mind. You will notice that you're spark is Still here and never went away. Deep down, you still wanna laugh deep down. He still won't have fun deep down he wants to have conversations.
Are you living my life? That's the perfect description of me but I'm 23
It's just a change in your mindset and the lack of conversation during the pandemic that created your current outlook on yourself, you need to go out and if you have to, force yourself to talk to people again. Most importantly, understand that you're still the same person as before, you just need to create the same habits as before.
i kinda feel the same, good that were not alone in this.
@@PoPMichalpl9same me too
I think why being at home felt better when were younger is because we were at home LESS so appericitaied the time we would be there
ammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm deeep
People are draining and negative. Being alone is awesome and powerful!!! Trust me like Robin Williams said It’s not being alone that makes you sad it’s being around people that make you feel alone and sad. RIP Robin Williams 🙏
I'm 30 so I wouldn't say I'm old but I'm no spring chicken either. And I must say you and many other guys your age are so much smarter than I was at your age. There's something about your generation that I admire, a deep maturity and understanding of life I still haven't got.
Great video bro. I got a lot from this.
Thanks man! This did make my day. I'm interested in seeing life from your perspective. Glad that I helped
Completely unrelated but I just thought maybe that's why it's usually the younger generation that support Palestine.
The general iq doesn’t even increase that much between generations. For eg I saw a study which said the avg iq during the 1950s was 99 and now it’s risen to 102 which isn’t significant enough. I feel like it’s because we’re more introverted in this generation which means we focus a lot more on these details.
its more like the very early age realization of capitalism contradictions and impossibility to imagine a future
"Spring chicken" 😂
He didnt lie.
He lied
@@heavyfromtf2208 je didn't akshually.. he talked at least about what I feel
I'm a 40 year old single dad of 2 and this young man just inspired me. Great video for all ages
means alot honestly- 40 pretty younggg im sure ur doing ur best to be a great dad. and that you already are.
Respect you uncle 💪
Same here brother, I’am 40, single,2 kids when my kids are not with me I’m all alone 100% and I don’t go out but I want to change that
I was separated from the Army in 2017 and have been unemployed for the majority of the time since then. Finally in August this year I will be going back into the Army, my waiver was miraculously approved. The Lord God is good. I have been at home this whole time.. i'm still at home. I don't want to leave at all. But I know I should..
Ey man god bless you. By having the chance to change and improve in it self its a blessing, you got this big boss! Lets get it!
I got out in 2011 and thinking about going back lol
at least you got in to the army, i was denied because of an abusive childhood
@@Mere-Lachaiselongue you got denied because you told people about it. Sources, my childhood was the same, and I have asthma, again, they never found out about that either.
@@Personalinfo404crazy😂
Once i get out of this household im gonna get out of the house a lot when i live alone and I'm free
I feel you, lets make it happen
I hope we make it
This.
yo i got 7 months left til freedom rings, how long you got?
@@taylorharris424 one year and 7 months but I want to make it less so I get out faster
I want to be free but I don't know how. I'm filled with anxiety and self-doubt and don't know how to get rid of it all. This life, this boredom, this emptiness is _suffocating_ . I don't know what to do. I feel so trapped. The key is *right there* and I can reach for it but it's like I'm holding myself back. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do.
you know what to do jay, Some part of the always knew all along, let ur self go man enough holding back. U are the key.
Stop watching porn and get off social media it helps me to be present
The anxiety won’t go away at first. You have to let that anxiety about what you’re doing consume you, and then do it anyway. Your legs will tremble, you’ll probably stutter and embarrass yourself. But it gets easier every time you feel that fear and do it anyway
You know what to do, you said it yourself that you’re holding yourself back. The mind will tell you how you want to behave but you’ve gotten so used to ignoring it because it’s so much easier (short term) to numb your mind than dealing with that anxiety. If you say something or do something that you can barely breathe beforehand and your voice or body shakes after, that’s a great sign, keep doing things like that and get used to it.
I don’t know if any of this helps or applies to you, this is what has helped me with my ongoing struggle with social anxiety. Best wishes and winnings for you 🙏
finally someone who relates. I sometimes go to grocery stores just to have an excuse to go outside and have some social contact. I just turned 21, I'm so isolated and have no friends. Thank you for this video, really nice to see someone put my deep dark thoughts into words. Gonna try and take it one step at a time.
Im proud of you for commenting. Take it easy w ur self and u will do great!
Maybe do boxing or some sport
Your fellow 21 year old here ,same I can relate too 😢 I also just turned 21 2 months ago
Why not go out for a beverage.
I'm 20, 21 in September and have exactly same problem. I grew up in a very isolated neighborhood with few friends and always stayed at home most of the time spending hours on video games it really made me grow up having social anxiety and awkwardness it affected me in high school n now in college; can hardly make friends, zero rizz even if girls find me attractive, Been the only one in my own little world and have been working on myself this year trying to break out of my shell and slowly but surely It'll be all good.
All thanks to inhumane and heartless people. You treat children with lack of kindness. You'll have isolated adults.
tell em! most adults deep down are hurt children
You think they give a sh*t they'll eff u up more that's the harsh reality of this world society doesn't no mercy.
I’m 25. My home never makes me feel uncomfortable. Matter a fact, being alone at home is my favorite time. I literally only go outside because society demands that I do. If not for that I could be indoors for years with no issues. I’d just talk to myself a lot.
ahahah i totally get you. tho from here to there in my case i gotta go out and be in nature. but i get ui talk to myself alot too just when im alone lmaoo. much love
Gotta be careful with that. Another side effect of staying at home too much is that we tend to get a little crazy. Thought patterns, speech, mannerisms and such can transform little by little when we lack input from other people, which inevitably leads to us seeming "off" to other people because we havent actually been practicing social skills in a manner which is open to critique. Even going out to see the crazy world can help you reorient yourself, not just normal people.
@@YouKnowMeDuh👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻wow awesome speech kinda sound like 5th grader wrote it. We don’t get crazy staying home. Most of know how to get out and be around people🙄. Gotta be careful being too dependable on ppl. If you’re one of those ppl who believe having tons of friends is cool. You have a serious problem my friend
@@nolanrizzo3812You lack comprehension skills
@@filazkeita2272 lmao 🤣
It’s all in the balance, even the most comfortable position becomes uncomfortable if you stay in it too long
It’s ridiculous how perfectly timed this was. My first year of college ended about a month ago, and finding a job has been difficult right now, which means I literally didn’t leave my house for a month. I started riding my bike every night during sunset (haven’t rode a bike in like 7 years) for the last few days now, and it’s absurd the mental benefit it’s had.
Yo I am a grown man and I can't balance myself on a bike. I definitely want to get a bike tho so ill try learn. Look at you man! with how you're feeling right now. I bet you know that You deserve to feel like that all the time. Even if you end up somehow going back to feeling bad, you know you can always get yourself out of it like u did before. Proud of ya
@sleepy1149 same over here but I just been taking daily walks when it’s nice outside so it’s been a great overall help for my mental health
me, who is a hermit, at peace with themselves, and still has an active social life: I can't relate to this at all
but this is good advice for those who need it
I was thinking the same. Just turned 23.
I feel that this video would resonate a lot with my friends. Who I feel are extroverts being held back by various things.
But for me, I've always been very happy with solitude - and if I go out, I find it nice to say hello to everyone.
But I can happily spend weeks and months alone without it really negatively affecting how I feel about things.
Same
this is very cool :) it hit for me, but hell yeah peace with self is noice af! good u figured that out!
honestly youre right, do what you want. i just want to be happy, no matter if its staying at home a lot or going out a lot. maybe the problem is deeper? i just wanted to have friends tbh, and if we made some calls to play online or something i bet i would never feel lonely again. maybe id invite them over and vice versa, go to a cool place.. i took these things for granted when i was younger and now i see how missing those can be painful at least for me
why'd you comment then? your words are flavorless matter
Wow, I really connected with this. As a child, I used to go out and do a lot of activities but then once I reached adulthood I got burnt out and just felt tired all the time so I ended up staying home, and it was so easy to use the pandemic as an excuse. I'm 24 now and I'm starting to pick myself back up and do things I used to love like going out and making art. I've also been dealing with the guilt of feeling unaccomplished but I just want whoever is reading this to know that it's never too late to start or restart something you love. Don't be scared about getting older either, life is a gift and we shouldn't take it for granted :)
Please I would really like to talk with you about this and your art in more detail, do you have instagram?
We're in the same position, bruh. 24, starting art. You, me, same page!!!
someone have to give bro a hug
Glad u noticed bro 😭
😭😭😭@@Peterwithanr
it's so difficult because as an adult most likely, you're out there everyday working a job you probably don't like with people you probably can't stand. you get to the end of the day and all you want is silence and to be left alone in peace and quiet. this is esp the case when you work any job where you have to deal with costumers, you're just done with life by the end of the day.
Staying home is the RESULT of depression, not the cause of it.
Both feed onto each other. Remember . Nothing changes if nothing changes .
Staying at home and cutting social contact have reduced my depression to almost nothing... Most people are woke idiots that makes you depressed.
@@a64738you viewing them as woke idiots is what makes you depressed and delusional
this is what i call perfect timing
theres a book hack your mind on borlest, go find it while it is still available
Bro even had to put on the Minecraft music, like damn you tryna make me have a breakdown??
fr.
bro how tf i got 90 likes?
this guy got popular good form him ⭐
my eyes water of how real this is. Never cry but this hit home..i hope u understand
This was so deep and so true. We get trapped in our inner thoughts and close off our minds by not interacting with the outside world. The mind is powerful and yet scary and controlling at the same time. Baby steps, start somewhere
proud of ya for the realization
I absolutely feel this on another level. 24, living at home with my father, who is nearly 66. Too expensive to move out meanwhile I work a lot and work hard, come home, and some days absolutely hate it because I’m so bored and I feel like I’m wasting my life away being home. Coped up with people that only watch the news, highlights all the negatives, turns all the lights off in the house making it dark then sleeping all day, and wants to do nothing but sit around and watch TV but then gets tired of being tired and complains more then goes back to the cycle. So I’m in my room doing nothing. Not everyone is good for you including family and sitting around all the time kills you slowly. Sometimes you just have to get out and do things even if you are alone. You have to be very careful on who you let into your life because some people will bring depressing energy to be honest and we can’t have that. Get out of the house. You live once.
The family thing was felt. Mine think I'm anti-social but I'm really not. I just don't enjoy being around lots of noise [nephews and nieces] and honestly? They're just not into the same things as me.
Your 24 have work so I assume you saved some money from your salary so go gym it might help..
“Being around people make you know yourself more.”
This hits hard. I used to be stuck at home because not only I wanted to do my own stuff, but I wanted to find myself. Instead, I was drowning myself in negative thoughts. Now, I've been going out lately, and this has made me know better who I was. I still struggle to just put myself out there and socialize, but I always try, even if I fail at it. This video was so touching. Thanks man. Keep up the good work.
Stayed home for years during covid and now I am forced to go out every day to the office for work. Trust me I NEVER thought "shit I want to go outside". I can stay at home for years and never crave to meet other people. Guess some people are different. The silence and peace of 4 walls is what I want most.
if you work a 9 to 5 for enough time home will be the SHINY place. if you stay at home alot and never do anything outside for enough time going outside will be THE SHINY thing that you wanna do.
its all phases and based on how you currently feel. a balance is always the key.
proud of you tho
I’m actually better off not going anywhere because, anytime I’m near ppl , ppl always avoid me, they give me sour looks. I get ignored a lot. I’m actually better off alone. And I’m fine with it
So thats the reason for ya which is a valid reason. But why do they even do that?
@@Peterwithanr I wear a lot of black, but only because I’m depressed
How the algorithm brought this to me I have no idea, but I needed this. Firstly, thank you for making this video. I'm 17. I'm in my last year of highschool. I have zero friends, never leave the house unless it's to go do an exam or food shopping with my mum. I also do online school so I educate myself at home. I'm a girl with long hair and constantly joke about how I'm ''rapunzel'' due to this and never going out. I'm still on my learners (have to be 18 to take license test where I am + I don't have enough hours) and public transport is not close to me. I feel deeply lonely and want to get out of the house. You have inspired me to make next year the year I go out and meet people. Thank you so much.
Man this came to me at the right time, I resonate with each word you’re saying, it’s that good feeling you get when you know that you’re not the only one going through this, there are people out there and we can help each other come out of situations like these, thanks a lot
They say the older you get the wiser you get, but I just learned something from a 20 year old man. Thank you for a wonderful video.
Means alot to me. I know you would have alot to teach me too
Based ❤, same
lol
This is what im currently learning now in my Relationship with God. I made so many othrr things my comfort my satisfaction, and I forgot that The comforter lives within me, wherever I go! Guys Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Dont try church or religion, try Relationship and let me know how it goes!😊
a deeper connection with god, the holy spirit that lives within us. i totally agree with you
Amen guys
I relate to this ALOT. Home is where you're supposed to feel comfortable and safe. And if you're being mistreated, it isn't a "home" anymore. Instead, it's a torture place where you're forced to be. I relate to this heavily
Tell em! Thanks for spreading the message in the comments, much love
I can't believe how much I feel identified with this. Congrats on being able to put into words a complex feeling that many experience.
I’m reading all the comments trying not to feel hopeless or to think something negative about the world of isolation and feeling stuck at a very young age.
damn this was so to the point 😭 never knew someone would talk abt this topic like who would even consider
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Been grinding for the last 3 years really isolating myself and just noticed how bad it is.. this video is really good bro keep it up!
I used to play outside before covid regularly. After staying 2 years at home in lockdown, now I leave my home once a month.
mmmmmmmmmmm. because listen you got used to it. first it was lock down force by them. but after that our brain plays a lockdown game on us at home even when we can go outside. you got this, how do u feel?
@@Peterwithanr I'm actually used to it now. I don't feel like going outside anymore. But I'm planning to go outside regularly again after my board exams.
Thanks for putting this out as 21 year old Ik I have a lot of potential to live a fulfilling life but the anxiety always kicks in everytime I want to interact with others so that analogy of earth is home and you see yourself in others and we’re meant for that helps. I’m gonna try and get out more now and stand up for your right to prosperity
Damn I really needed this bro. I’m 18, have no life and no friends. It wasn’t always like this though. When I was younger I was pretty social and had a friend group, but life happened. I think this video helped me come to a realisation though. If I want to do something, then I should do it. No more procrastination. If I carry on this way, I know I’ll regret it when I’m old.
Great video man. You got a sub from me!
Yeah, definitely will regret it when you're old. But I think you just have to live your life in a way. That you feel like you're actually living. Even if you know the right mindset, it's hard to stick to it 'cause you wont always feel like it.
But if you keep standing up for yourself and you keep just trying, you will be amazed from the progress that you are going to make
Much love man glad i helped :))
Same here my guy.
Same age same feelings brother, ur not alone in this
I feel like we are all dreamers as well and good in some way or the other. Probably extremely observant but probably have low self-esteem or imposter syndrome where we don’t believe that we deserve better for ourselves. This video was very helpful and I agree. Every word that you said perfectly described my experience. It’s been years. I want to do a lot but I hold myself back. Staying home you run out of things to do and you start to feel caged and extremely irritated and stagnant. You want to go out but you also don’t. Super complicated but for anyone reading, you do deserve good things. Love and most important love you. If you feel like you have no one to make proud, look at a younger picture of you and make that little girl or boy proud. You deserve it. You do! I love you ❤️
Wow, thank you so much for making this video! I´m someone who has been struggling with loneliness and social isolation for years. And pretty much everything u said really resonated with me, and I´m just so happy to see another person who has a similar exprience with being stuck at home as I do. I´m definitely coming back to your channel to check your other videos! Wish you all the best
“Home is not Home anymore.” It hits.
you already knoww
I have severe anxiety and other mental issues.
My mind keeps thinking of the worst scenarios
Even when I'm home i tend to get less work done.
The past 7 years have went by in a blur
I don’t know how my life will look in a few years
I just hope I'll be a happier person then. 👍
Just try to be happy today. Because you are always living in today in the future. You will feel that it is today. So the only way to feel happy in the future is to feel happy today
it honestly gets to the point where you have to find SOMETHING to actively and productively do, you take the words out of my mouth man
The part about being trapped by your own thoughts is scarily accurate. Personally, lines of thinking that require a long time / long train of thought seem to be most frequent outside of conversation. Not to disregard deep conversations / discussion , those are a whole different level - however you can know yourself more by being alone. Someone trapped in their own head is the jailer too.
Thank you for making me feel less weird and that im not alone ,I don't what's wrong with me anymore, i swear i tried , a million times, every time i try to go back to my self again i fail , i cut off all my friends because i don't have the energy to talk or to hang out , i switched my studying to online 3 years ago , i think i lost my ability to socialise and when i do i feel it bleed me out and i stay numb and unmotivated for weeks , i trapped myself into a whole mess and i can't get out of it and blame it all on my busy online lectures even though i spend days and weeks just not doing anything and getting all my assignments missed. But i think its a sign i will give another try im only 18 and I'll try to save the rest of my teenage years
Uk We are in a similar situation.
I pushed most of my friends away, I stopped talking to my girlfriend. Because I legitimately feel drained when I talk to them.
Doesn't mean it's bad for sure. There is and will be a positive outcome out of it if you use it right.
Maybe they weren't the right people for you. And maybe you just need someone that when you talk to you feel energized. But let's not go away from the fact that you have to feel energized by yourself. And in some sense you have to protect your own Energy and not let others drain it. I would say go easy on Yourself and remove the sense of Urgency that you're always feeling. It's OK to live life slow. And once you start living your life slow. And go easy on your self you will actually get it fast
I have always been good at entertaining myself. I've lived for my hobbies, gaming, porn addiction. Now I'm 33 and I know I've been serving something that's not constructive to me or my relations. "Home" has pulled me away from life. Some part of me hasn't grown up yet, some part has been neglected. Too much comfort kills. I'm glad that some people can see that at an earlier age. It's all really as simple as you said in this video. Thank you.
I’m so happy I found this video , I been alone in my room for far too long now , trying to “become the best version of myself” and trying to “get work done” but it’s absolutely hell , especially alone. Being alone with my thoughts and not expressing them it’s the worst , especially when you start to have bad thoughts because of the work and discipline I haven’t achieved. I genuinely can’t do this alone anymore , you just opened my eyes to a lot of my problems and I appreciate you for doing this video ❤. Hope you find success with this channel and God bless you my friend 💪
This video is so good that I actually almost cried because everything you said is so relatable. As someone who's always stuck at home playing video games and has online friends and a girlfriend, I developed a depression where I'm being unstable towards my online friends, but unlike my classmates, I enjoy being a part of my real-life friends, and I see the difference between me at home and me outside; it's like an alter ego of me. I'm glad I stumbled upon this video, and it really made me see myself as someone who must change in life because I'm already 18 but I still see myself as a kid.
You are already on the right path, i've been in like 6 online long distance rs, and most oc my friends 8 knew them online, all of us here in comments relate to each other ngl. Fr my personality at home and outside isn SO DIFFRENT ITS CRAZY. but look at you figuring it out at 18 thats fire!! U got this
"Comfort is the worst addiction"
This video actually made me Cry, this has to be the most honest and down to earth video I've ever seen. Thank you
Cmonn most honest?!! Thanks for ur big kind words, hope ur having a good day :))
damn i wish my brother saw this , he passed away due to alcohol poisoning and everyday he would spend every minute inside and drink and never really experienced the outside world and never got the chance the travel I pray that yall get thru whatever ur going thru because there is people who love and care about you, spend time wisely , and be positive , much love ❤
Better Peter, WOW!!!! Very brave and wise young man. Most likely a very old soul, merci! I've spent years at home as well. Biggest lesson is you MUST get outside and get sunlight and you must get your hands and feet on the Earths soil. Diet, you cannot keep eating fast food because it's convenient and one can order it now. You MUST be eating fruits and veggies. SLEEP, YOU MUST HAVE A sleep schedule that you stick too. I've done both ways. Unhealthy way took me to a VERY VERY VERY dark place. I was able to pull myself by implementing a schedule of sunlight, soil and sleep....with proper nutrition. HUGE difference! I've been out in the world and it's usually hit or miss. Raised in the 90s, it was just a very different time. Social media and connection to the rest of the world, it's just making people "different". There are rare souls on the planet and someone will be lucky to find one in all this haystack. Good luck to us all and hopefully Humanity understands material s**t over human lives will take our species down. Example: Are there any other hominoid species around??? Or are Homo sapiens the last...? Cheers and get busy people....go get sunlight (even if cloudy, ESPECAILLY WHEN CLOUDY!!!) Don't eat that fast food crap...the FDA is corrupt as hell and is only there to help the Pharmaceutical industry, which then helps the hospital industry. Yea....cycles and cycles! But we got this.
Definitely can ralate to this. It's ironic that the last place I should be in is the only place I can call home. Thank you
The World 🌎 Is Nuts i think People want to be Outside but are Scared of How they'll be Treated!. Live People Stay Blessed 🙌 Live!
Tell emm bless ya
I agree
💯💯💯💯
Thanks for the honesty and optimistic vibes dude. I definitely agree that if you ever feel like going outside, or that you feel trapped inside, it might be helpful to try something new or go someplace new. Fresh experiences, perhaps even habits can do a healthy number on your health. I’d definitely take home over a lot of things, however.
Thank you so much man. I've been at home for weeks because of being sick with a cough, and today I got to go outside for once because of my guitar lessons. Now I watch this video after having it in my watch later for so long, and now I feel like going to the rooftop right now, and just enjoy the cloudy windy weather.
This is amazing please keep making videos like this talking to us making us feel like we have someone to talk to like we’re on the phone with you I started crying a bit
Ill be here every other day for ya dw :)). How are u?
This hits so hard, I turned 22 a while ago and I feel like nobody around me understands the things you talked about. I'm tired of hearing how it must be so nice for me, staying at home alone every day being able to do "what I want". I live in a small town in the countryside, don't have money to drive to the city. I can't even go outside for a walk, because there are some people I don't want to meet under any circumstances. The town is so tiny, I'd certainly meet them. Going on a walk here just gives me a lot of anxiety so the only option is to stay in my room day in day out. I'm tired of it, but I'm especially tired of how people think I'm living some kind of dream life.
It's pretty much mental torture and makes you loose your will to live.
The things you explain really hit the nail on the head, I'm an introvert and I do really enjoy being alone but no human interactions will make you feel drained and like you're not even living no matter who you are.
So guys, please if you have the possibility take the initiative, talk to your friends first, go out to the bakery to buy something in person instead of opting for delivery, try joining a yoga class or just meet up with someone for tea at home!
The first step is recognizing the situation you are in, staying at home too much isn't good for you. And by watching this video you already took that first step, it's only going to get better from here on
I'm 20 this is so relatable. I wanted to comment the same thing .Because we are practically walking in the same shoes .We will make it mate .Just keep the faith.
I'm turning 23 and its hard to get up and go out to do things by my own volition when my family members around me are quite reclused and seemingly distant, I'm worried for them but at the same time I don't think I can change them.
I completely agree with you. When I stay at home for too long, I often reach for my phone and drown myself in the Internet to entertain myself. I did this enough times to realize just how much I have closed myself off to my family and inadvertently shut down any chances of potentially having an enjoyable conversation with them. I'm no one important but I hope you see this. Thank you for being vulnerable, thank you for speaking your mind, this really helped me realize that it's time I take matters into my own hands and start taking it upon myself to regain that 'sanity' and just live. Much love! Hope you're doing well :)
you've put what i've been feeling for the past months or for over a year so well into words, the younger me 2 3 years ago when i was about 14/15 thought that staying home is my peace and i don't need to find or explore more when i have my 'online friends' and comfort with what lied under that roof, in the screen. which over time has fired back on me in an awful manner, there's this social anxiety and a hardship when trying to talk to someone my age, this feeling that i've missed out on so much, the 'online friends' or anyone at all, to notice them doing things i'd been craving for feels wrong and jealous? and there's this feeling of inferiority against everyone that is felt.
in short, this place that i thought would always be a source of peace has turned into poison, im just 18 and either way its not the end of the world of course, my college will be starting in a month or two so im looking forward to try my best and make more friends and fulfil the gaps. cause all i ever want now is friends in front of me that i could relate, talk to and hang out and do everything that i have missed out on and hopefully, it should all turn out to be alright.
Many people these days are home A LOT! I go to restaurants with friends sometimes and all you see circling the parking lot is skip the dishes, Uber Eats, etc. People got so comfortable staying in especially during &after the 2020 fiasco. Nowadays no 3rd places like there was in the 70's, 80's , 90's and early 2000's and the 2010's... I remember when malls were full of teenagers having fun, being a menace, socializing...These days, -malls are practically DEAD. I drive around my city and its sooo quiet after work!!! The world has changed.
Yea out for 2 hrs inside for eternity lolll
car dependency is also to blame for the growing trend toward teenagers staying inside!
it’s all because of INTERNET.
the home can either be peace
or a cage
Home isn't a cage.
More of how u feel inside ot for sure not the home it self for most Of us we just jail ourselves in our heads. Much love
@@tobe-you-tube6612 it's a cage for me
@@Havetosucceed whY? ❤️
@tobe-you-tube6612 sounds stupid, but I have very overprotective parents and really can't go outside, I can only go either to the gym or school or to do chores with my Dad, and I really can't go anywhere alone, or hangout with the the few friends that I have. I'm also 17 and a guy, and most people my age normally tend to have such privileges.
Speaking straight to my heart ❤ thank you man keep going. “I used to say home was my comfort zone, but staying at home too long becomes uncomfortable” that’s a bar fr
much love man, tell emmmmmm. we out here freestylin truth
A lot of things you said encouraged me. Despite being introverted, i still crave the experience of being outside. I want to go out not because of people, but because of nature and scenery. I find it difficult to "fit in," and finding the right friend takes a long time. People in general can be problematic, and i always feel like they see me as this "weird person." But those are just excuses. I hope that I, and YOU can find the perfect community to bond with. These days are unpredictable, even if you stay at home, make the best of any moment.
The moment u turned emotional i got emotional ngl. Best video u made in my opinion thank u so much your content means alot to me. I appreciate you❤
Not him trolling after it and making me laugh lol.
Fr love that he adds humor to make us feel good too down 2 earth
That was very touching. I’m not sure what it was, but your words felt very organic, very real. I like the highly unedited, raw feeling you give off. Keep going bro, thanks for your words.
I have been in this dark hole for many years. The problem with getting out when you have anxiety, also caused by staying at home too much and in general being alone by yourself, is that then you can get easily hurt. Now I have picked up many outside hobbies and try to keep screen time mostly relegated to working hours.
We as humans can only thrive if we are outside absorbing energy from the sun and the nature... don't ever let anybody take that away from, don't let anybody getting in the way of enjoying your time outside and being at peace with yourself, the nature, the city and all the beautiful people this world has to offer
I wish socializing was that easy man
i hear you. what do you think about it?
This is the kind of video that not only should be out there more, but I feel like these kinds of videos should trend at this time. I really needed this too. Considering I’m also mostly stuck at home, playing the same games, doing the same stuff. My room/house was once my safe space from the stress of the world, but that was 4 years ago. Now it’s a bubble I’ve trapped myself in, but I’m looking forward to improving that today! Thank you for popping up into my feed, and I wish you the best in your career
its like ur thoughts are stuck w u in the house. when i go out i feel like home was like a 4gb memory and my thoughts were 100 gb's
when i go out even if my thoughts is 100gb's
the space is infinite
so i feel some what lighter
and my thoughts fade away if you get me
i wish you the best too
@@Peterwithanr nah bro, thank you! it’s such a big deal for anyone when you see their comment and responded back when you didn’t have to.
Regarding your analogy, I do agree. The house can only hold so much life at a time, and it’s not ideal to limit yourself to such a confined space. When you go out, you have so many different opportunities to choose, variety of experience to see, and lessons to learn for life. You don’t get that from being at home.
On a side note, you seem like a very cool guy with genuine thoughts. I would look forward to getting acquainted with someone like you man. Much love
the key is balance and i appreciate you making this video
even if you can just go for a 10-15 min walk every other day, that will help your headspace a lot. take care 🌷
For real, I just had a minecraft lofi playlist on to study, and I thought it was still playing while I watched this... The sad minecraft music is so fitting. I hope good people find the way into you life, to all who are reading this.
I watch many self-improvement videos, and am always curious to hear about the struggles other people have, and how to overcome them, as I experience anxiety sometimes, and I want to help and understand other people. 💕
for reall i will always have my minecraft safe space. i love that c418 track i use it on most my videos ahahah.
im glad you came over here
Such a relatable comparison! It's essential to recognize when home starts feeling like a limiting space and actively seek out new experiences for personal growth and fulfillment. Getting out, socializing, and exploring new horizons not only broadens our perspectives but also helps us reconnect with ourselves and the world around us. 🌍✨
personally my home is my home and that’s about it. i don’t need social interactions, i speak with my friends on discord et cetera (they’re all very far from where i live). I like the “trap” i put myself in, i don’t have a reason to go out. I’m not depressed or scared of people outside, i just enjoy my house more than any other place. Part of it is definitely my Asperger’s syndrome.
ammm i feel you. i mean i feel you. if its the play for now then it is the play for now. proud of u jeremy. i never heard about aspergers syndrome :o? what is it
@@Peterwithanr it’s a type of autism. Its symptoms are a bit different for anyone, in my case i have these:
- i kind of struggle understanding social situations, especially emotions. What i mean is that i can understand what someone feels but not why, for example i understand the concept of being in love but can’t feel it, or i understand someone being sad but not why that specific thing makes them that sad. For me death is just not being able to see someone for a long time so i won’t cry nor really understand why some people cry that much over it, for example (i will of course respect their feelings though).
- i have a sort of repetitive behaviour. In other words when i for example like something, i won’t try to find something better typically.
- i can’t stand the slightest change in routine. i have no problem with literally any possible situation as long as i know it’s coming beforehand, but if someone is suddenly changing what i expect the day to go like, it will really disturb me.
- strong sounds are really painful
- i’m clumsy (it’s an actual symptom 😂)
- i have an amazing memory for anything i find interesting and forget really easily anything it doesn’t take my attention
I agree
A very beautifully articulated video for such a young lad. I'm in the same age range and have faced the same problem. This video really made my thoughts more clear and reminded me of the importance of going out. Thank you and never give up making content!
I needed to see this video, thank you so much. 💙
I unironically thank anyone who talks me into sometimes leaving the house. I'm always so hesitant about doing it at first, but once I go out, even for something very simple, I feel so refreshed and much happier. Watching this made me reflect on a lot of things.
I didn't look at it as a prison, my viewpoint was, I was being preserved.
It’s really all about finding a healthy balance. Which is easier said than done. The good news is once you have a schedule and you try and stick to it…..it starts becoming a habit. Which is good. Plan different things to do and try and stick to your plan. Sometimes you just feel like being home and you should allow yourself to do that as well. I’m a loner, I love being home. Sometimes I have to force myself to get out more. It is what it is. Don’t sweat it. Allow yourself to be.
One of my bigger hobbies is photography. I've been looking outside way too many times thinking about going for a photowalk or just sitting outside to enjoy the weather, but for some reason I just continued watching videos and ended up staying inside. Your video gave me motivation to actually go outside into a nearby forest and i took some pretty nice pictures of random plants and insects. It was really fun and reminded me again, how much I love photography. I want to thank you very much for this awesome video, I will definitely watch it again when I need to!
That... that was powerful. My life has been stuck on pause for the better part of a year, but now's the time to press play again. I really needed to hear this; thank you.
you already know neo is having the biggest comeback
Blessed to have your video pop up on my youtube page at 1am
hey. i hope you sleep well today.
i dont have friends now too but by choice because they are negative.
how is ur epilepsy is it getting treated?
its time to start choosing you
@@Peterwithanr Aw thanks :) and it's unfortunate, but I hope you're better after leaving those negative friends, personally I feel that way with the ones who weren’t good for my mental health. And for my epilepsy, I can only continue taking my medication, but if I changed my habits into healthier ones, I think it would lead to taking less dosage, which comes hopefully one day, maybe even starting tomorrow? Thank you for your kind message you also, a beautiful soul
working 7 days a week for the past year from home and i have never felt worse, i feel so stuck and absolutely no one to turn to. thank you for this video actually made me feel something.
Hey, u are verry hardworking!
i feel u tho.
I hope everything works out exactly how u want it to
As an introvert, I cannot relate to this video. I love my house. I filled it with things I enjoy. I never feel trapped by it. It is my sanctuary. I do hang out with friends but most of the time they come over to my place cause I got all the best toys.
I've been raised in a way that kinda conditioned me to be a house rat. I keep my opinions to myself because I don't like bothering others, and I am not the type of person who "just goes out" whenever I want to. I'm trying to unlearn my toxic mentality, and discover new things that is ANYTHING but doom-scrolling on the couch all day or passively watching videos. I hope I make good friends who can help me, and to anyone else who's reading this. Thanks for making this moving video :')
Means alot linaa you arab? Me too! I feel you, proud of you also for talking it here. Thats progress!! Just be there for yourself and all will be well thats what matters the most ❤️
This is GOLD. A great reminder for a hermit like me. Thanks so much.
I appreciate you much love :))
I don’t find it hard enough to go outside. I just don’t have friends that i can go out with
This video showed up 4 times in my recommended, I’ve never seen you before, thank you so much for this
I'm glad it did ahaha, no cmon, thank you for watching ❤️
Thank you, really needed to listen to someone who understands
hey man, im 26 and been at home stuck for two years and last weeks ive been around ppl and my happiness slowly started to increase and i feel like im "un-rusting" myself. This video was perfect timing, Home becomes a prison and life is monotonous by spending too much time in it. Thanks bro
Eyyy im ltrly so happy for u man lets goooo, u doing it!!!!