As a 41 year old truck driver who spends months at a time alone, I learned a long time ago that you can either be your best friend or your worst enemy. Don’t let the things around you pull you down. Keep that joy inside of you and learn to exist in your own bubble. Remember when you are alone no one can hurt you. If you are an introvert, embrace it. Don’t let society or social media dictate to you how you should live your life or what happiness and fulfillment is. Live by your own standards and no one else’s. Then and only then will you start to experience the happiness that comes with true freedom. Stay positive and take it day to day my friend and I remember even when you feel alone, your not alone because their are A TON of people just like you.
Great comment. I think a lot of left out kids and young boys go through this growing up. You have to stop letting the world, social media and any one other thing people say than yourself that you are a worthy human being, your style is dope and cool and everything else about what others may think or you think they think of you.
@@Gizmo90210Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Look at Job, he lost everything but gained God's loving arms in the end. Look at John the Baptist, amongst being beheaded he earned the Lord. We are in the last days.
@@jokerpilled2535 Denying the Lord doesn't hide the existence of the tomb of Jesus Christ, nor does not hide the cases of exorcism and evil spirits easily destroying non believers lives. Especially the power of the name of Jesus Christ. Lack of faith is what makes it easier for Satan to destroy a person's life with the addiction of sin. Without faith, evil spirits can also manipulate people to scorn and mock the Lord. He is alive at the right hand of Yahweh, God the father. Evil won't save you when you only murder in return. Bible: Mathew 26:52. Even the Jewish Pharisees denied their Messiah, up until this day the modern Jews still deny Jesus Christ as the promised son of God.
This is something I learned from a long time ago. I was a “nice guy” my whole life because they say to treat others how you want to be treated. But then over time, I learned that most people are only in it for themselves and will take advantage of you for their benefit. I didn’t become less “nice”, but I stopped taking shit from people and letting people take advantage of me. When you learn to do that, people will naturally respect you more and know better than to step all over you. This is the advice I would give to young men like you who are struggling with this. Assert yourself or you will be used.
Bro, it's not about asserting yourself. It's just about being a good human being. The reason nobody likes nice guys is because they always do something for other people just to get something back from them down the line. If you're ACTUALLY a nice guy nobody would have a problem with you. And trust me I have seen both. There are nice people who manipulate other people for their own gain and then when things don't turn out as they expected they get angry and frustrated. And I have also seen benevolent people. The people who would give you a dollar even if they only had two dollars. They stand up for the ones being picked on even if they can't even protect themselves. Those type of nice people are never alone because people want to support his cause. You'll get angry with me. You might even rage. But I am speaking the truth
Being nice doesn't get others to care about you sadly, it just gets them to take advantage of you. For people to care about you you need to first meet the right people, people who want genuine connections and have empathy, and second you need to build a close bond with those people. Having mutual interests or a shared outlook on life can help bring people together, but like I said it's not that easy. Some people just don't have it in them to truly care about others even if they act like they do, and it can be really challenging to find people who are more than just talk.
Same lesson learned here. And it's not about being less nice, like you said. It's almost enabling to reward people who take advantage of us. So it's actually not nice to them to continue to give when they don't appreciate it or give in return. Not that we should always expect something in return. They will just continue to use us, because it gets comfortable for them. I think also just being solid with yourself, where you know that it doesn't matter what other people do, if you're happy with what you're doing, that's all that matters. Not to be so dependent on how others treat us or look at us. It's a tough one. Takes time to truly live it, even if we know it's the better way to live.
Reading this tonight, very relatable. Earlier today I've had an argument with my drunk ass partner, who always try to take his shit on me. I've tried to calm he down the whole time, and he just kept on screaming a lot of crap. So today was my turn to scream at him and I'm so fucking glad I did.
Jesus gave His Life for His enemies, and God glorified Him. He saved us because He Loved us, and gave us the strength to love our enemies. God is Good, and is Able ❤ call upon the Name of Jesus and you will be saved.
@@monk4ever enlighten him with your wisdom then, or you just gonna leave negative comments? what's the difference between your complaints and the people your on about? not very monklike bro
There's so many things which need improving in your life there's always something to be stressed about your basically chasing a point were you can just be happy and appreciate how far you've come so you have time to think and perform better but the gap to reach that point never wants to close and then you feel like you've run out of time and your a failure.
There's a quote I will always remember: "Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don't always see them but they are always there.”
Yup that what happen to me, offered them another place called home and 12 years of friendship, and when I needed them the most,in my darkest loneliness, hurt and damaged moment, they weren't around.
I am so sorry to hear that. It took you that long to notice they weren't your real friends. But at least you now know and I hope that you don't ever go through that again. Life never fails to humble me and made me realize that I should be grateful because there are others who have went through far worse than me. I appreciate you sharing your story. Wish you the best in life.@@EsotericHashira
Sir, loneliness is at an all time high. People don't know how to value each other for who we are. We value superficial things and alienate each other in the process.
Yep 100% anything that's different is outcast now. It's crazy ti think that if Einstein or somebody important I history was born now they would be bullied into reclusivness or something. This world takes brilliant people and pushes them down so much.
No, people have seen each other better for what they really are and instead of seeing themselves for what is their true self (for better or for worse) there's a dissonance from all sides for all kinds of reasons. Instead of realizing "hey I'm better than them", people who should do that think "I'm not good enough for anything". Instead of "hey I'm actually not that smart and I'm not worth that much" people who should think that blame others for their downfalls instead.
i heard an old guy say"the irony of life is that the ones that care can't help and the ones that can help don't care." you are on the right track, keep going bro..
that's very sad to hear, and I completely disagree. If you look you can find people with the power to help others that do just that. find those people, and become those people
I don’t think you realise how much of a blessing it is to have this mindset dude, majority of people are asleep, you’re experiencing pain cause you see through the façade of life. Breath take some time to yourself and channel your energy into something you love; a passion that allows you to escape the bullshit of the world for the time, a lot of people are in the same boat, but they’re scarcely scattered across the world
I am this way as well. Been like this since the disaster of 9/11 and learning the truth behind it. I am completely disillusioned with both of the North American governments. My passion is gaming and working out. Usually, I just get lost in it cause reality is turning into something I don't like, plus have tendonitis in my knees to my foot so I can't really run anymore or walk without being in pain. Can't get a job because of my condition. Getting surgery to repair it next month, gonna make due until then.
Well it's a scientific fact that people who are more intelligent experience more depression throughout their lives. It's a blessing and a curse at the same time.
islam sucks, and so do all other religions. all they do is tell you how to live your life the way it's described in those books. religion isn't made to free people, it's made to chain people. and if you can't see that you are just as much of a sheep as the rest. sure, there are good people and bad people. religious or otherwise. and i do believe in a higher power, but religion is made to enslave people. nothing else. @@RedaReda-vl9ff
That girl that told you that you were ugly was really very ugly and horrific inside. You are more than enough, you're courageous, strong, smart and handsome. As a mom of 3 adult girls and 4 grandkids, I'm sending you a motherly hug. 🤗
@@Uniquenergyexactly! 💯💯💯 why can’t anyone be held accountable for being mean? Unfortunately women don’t hold the bad ones accountable or call them out enough i’ve noticed
girl who say those things have no idea of an impact on someones self esteem and confidence, this can make ppl suicidal and bitter, and invokes psycho tendencies in some people, its legit not a joke.
I'm a black man, and with the exception of a college degree (didn't finish college), everything you said I *definitely* can relate to. The inconsiderate and selfish friends, being tired of having to solve problems after problems with no breaks or reprieves, the job market not hiring you, parents that put you down with demeaning words. *EVERYTHING!!* All we can do is keep our heads up, press forward, and hope for a brighter tomorrow. It gets better later! Never forget that! Edit: Also, I forgot to add in. Having a hard time getting women, and when you finally get one, she's a trifling cheater. I can relate on that, too!
I like to call them fair weather friends. They might be around when things are good, but any bumps in the road and they're gone. The type of friends that take advantage of generosity and only take but never give anything in return.
Yes atleast he shows his emotions I was hiding it and it made my anxiety worse and made me shaky we must pray to God almighty and ask for peace and love with each other
“I don’t feel built for this world.” I feel like that on a daily basis. My life has been no cake walk. It seems to only get harder as the years go on. You said exactly the things I’ve been feeling in this video. I’m 33 years old, and I don’t know how much longer I can do this for. Everyday is a constant struggle, and I feel like I can’t get the help I so desperately need.
@@TelaSmith-xf7qqwhat do you say to him? I have been slowly dying from Heroin for many years. Am going to die if I don't stop. I have tried praying. I dont know what to do.
You seem like a genuine, smart introspective and good guy. You are NOT ugly , you have value , and you impacted a lot of people with this video. you have a purpose, everyone does, and it WILL get easier. Rooting for you brother
I learnt that if a girl openly picks on you it usually means she's interested in you or curious. Seen it happen to others and myself. They don't complain when your on top of em and pass the 💩 tests.
He’s mad at sreggin they ate Al his snacks built up hate against the “people” that said no. This world just wants suck you try he’s saying. He need buys hooker. If he was getting his balls locked regularly by a girl he’d be acting like a boss not like This. He should slapped that girl That said that to him. He gotta he a savage and his life will Change.
Your tears sent me back forty years to my own. I was also often told (usually by pretty girls) that I was ugly. One girl at school sneered at me, "Why are you *weird* ?" and all I could say in reply was, "I don't know." In my case the answer, in my thirties, turned out to be Asperger's syndrome. But I married a lady a few years older than me, and we've been married 30 years now. I came out of school with low grades and didn't pursue higher education. At age 52, I finally achieved my life goal of publishing a BBC audiobook based on their TV series "Doctor Who". Hang on in there, friend. The good people are there---it's just a matter of sifting them out.
I love you all here ❤ I'm homeless, but I have my peace, in nature. Life is just phases and lessons. Don't think your past or present is set in Stone. Love is all that matters here. Anything that opposes your growth, mindset, leave behind! Don't be afraid to make decisions for yourself. Even if they're scary, You just haven't made it yet. Making these decisions you are more independent, and you will be thankful for you. Don't live your life around what others want from you, around bad environments, that dont want to be in alignment with truth to receive it. Become the best you and what you want here, you can achieve that with correct forward motion actions so you become aware of things before you wasn't. Always learn from eveything, you'll have limitless potential.
Bro, you're good looking. I'm a dude, and I can say that. Trust it. And there are good people in this world that will care about you no matter what. Those people that told you those things are not your friends. Find better people. Seriously. Don't let other people change the goodness in you or have you doubting yourself. You are a light to this world, my friend. Keep shining bright.
He’s mad at sreggin they ate Al his snacks built up hate against the “people” that said no. This world just wants suck you try he’s saying. He need buys hooker. If he was getting his balls locked regularly by a girl he’d be acting like a boss not like This. He should slapped that girl That said that to him. He gotta he a savage and his life will Change.
You can be very intelligent but feel like your plans will fail on arrival. It seems to be an self esteem issue that unfortunately bogs down these capable and good looking people
Think what other people think and you will always be their prisoners. Just enjoy life and do hardwork to better yourself. Nobody have time to judge you every time
I understand the feeling. My father used to tell me "You can't control anything until it is your fault." It took awhile for me to realize how true that is.
@@AbelisI To me, There will be many things that happens around you, where you have little or 0 controls over it like inflation, war, etc. But when these things go bad and it has negative consequences to you, you have to accept, self-motivate, bear the struggle and find a way to solve these problems even when you have 0 ideas how to do it. That makes a strong man.
Life throws random things your way but it is up to YOU to control your reaction to them. Eventually you become like Neo, able to dodge proverbial bullets with relative ease.
Dang lil homie you got a 49 year old African American women over here tearing up! You are loved ! You have a purpose and your transparency is a gift. There’s a place for you. You’re resilient! Keep being you and there’s nothing wrong with how you feel and it’s good to express yourself! Much love ! I’ve got a lot of inspirational music 🎵 that will uplift your spirit when you get tired and I use it all the time when facing pressure.
Feeling like your not built for this world is how I feel. And I'm pretty sure a lot of people feel that way. Edit: already 4 days with 1k likes. Makes me smile and sad at how many people can relate with this type of feeling. At least we're not alone!
The Lord makes us a specific way for a reason. We're all put here for a reason by God. And it's our responsibility to seek out the Lord Jesus and get closer to him by praying and reading the Bible. Seek the Lord Jesus Christ while he can still be found! He's coming back soon!!! God bless you.✝️❤️🔥🙏
I feel it to main. I feel like a stranger in a strange land like a martian trapped among the humans of earth. There are many of us that feel this so don't worry.
@@genzay I will read the Bible. I haven't yet. I don't hate the Bible or religions but I do feel like I can be a good human without religion. That includes all religions and books/scriptures. I hope to read them all.
This got recommended to me and I felt compelled to watch it and I wanna say that you seem like a deep thinker, a good person and sensitive to the world around you, which is such a good thing! And you are NOT ugly. There are so many out there who feel and think the way you do. Stay true to yourself and never let negative people turn you bitter. That's what they want. Don't let them win. Life is so much more than just school, work, die. Forget all that bs and just live how you want. Life is way too short to be concerned with what society expects from you. Us introverts think too much. Take a break sometimes, take it easy, look after yourself, don't stress so much. And fuck living for everyone else. Live for yourself. You weren't born to live for them. It's not a bad thing to put YOUR happiness and sanity FIRST.
One guy said in a podcast, having a discussion with promiscuous women about roles in relationships, and he stood up and told to the women (live on radio), We are the romantic genders...!! You girls are just a bunch of SKANKS!!!! You girls are from the Devil!!!!
As knowledge increase ,the more deceptions of this world comes clear and visible. We all have heard the story of “ADMA AND EVE”, but we know not that: ADAM = MANKIND, for it is a NAME, both males and females carry. Adam = not only male or males. Genesis 5:2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created. Therefore, there is no Adam and Eve, there is only ADAM Truth is to seek`d out, to asked for, .... bible verse: Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: truth is not given in this world. but kept secret. And To who ever wants to become a youtuber or influencer: Mark 8:36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Luke 9:25 For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away? Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Ecclesiastes 1:3 What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun? Be a influencer of truth, not of evil. Expose the masonry club /what they do and who`s in it), influence not to support it. Let you moto be not: do what thy wilt - a mason`s qoute. Have a moto of: GO AND SIN NO MORE
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
25yr old guy here, yeah the 'no-one gives a shit' lesson is one of the hardest to learn and accept. What I've learned is, only give to those who are interested in giving back. If you give or share a part of yourself or things with people through principle it's a one-way ticket to get exploited. Best of luck to you bro, you'll get there eventually
Listening to your story, it's like we lived the same exact life. For the first 18 years of my life, by best friend was my cat. Everyone hated me in school. And my dad beat me every week. And when he wasn't beating me, he'd tell me how I ruined his life, that I'm useless, constantly that he'll kill me, and every time he looked at me, there was so much hatred on his face towards me. My mom told me "when you turn 18, you leave and never come back". Every night, I look up at the stars and wonder "when will this suffer end?". "This is my life?" "Why is this happening to me?". I had no esteem because I got beat at home and was alone in school. Teachers didn't like me. It was just so lonely. It's a pain so deep and endless, I thought no one could possibly ever feel this pain. I'm also chinese, the only one in my grade. There were chinese that were grades above me or grades below but not in my grade. In school, I was the quiet kid that sat there hoping so desperately that someone would come talk to me and be my friend. That never happened. And without being in any friend group, everyone else used me as the punching bag or at worst, I see on their face the expression of disgust whenever they saw me. One guy even blatantly says my face is "flat and ugly", "that I smell bad". There was field trips where the teacher passed out sheets to write down who students would like to be with and who not to be with. And out of my peripheral vision, I could see my name on their paper for "who not to be with". Imagine the loneliness. I'm feeling the "sinking tingles" of loneliness as I'm writing this out. And like you, I cared about everyone and I cared so much. This was 12 - 20 years ago now. I'm 30yrs old now. But college happened, and it changed my life. I got my first best friend in 1st year of college: Kevin, and 12 years later, we're still best friends. And then as I lived more, more and more best friends came into my life. And then 12 years years later, I realized I have multiple best friends. That I no longer need to define what a best friend means. I would die for any of them. In middle school, I got beat up by these guys. And the others say I would never be good enough for a girlfriend. And unfortunately, the constant bombarding trauma of that era still affects me as a 30 year old today. I've never had a GF. And it's my fault. It's not like a girl hasn't liked me, but the moment I start liking them too, a switch flips within my "soul" and such an ancient overwhelming self loathing activates and I end up backing out immediately before the relationship even begins. I'm still trying to overcome this. My subconscious still thinks I'm unworthy. I went to medical school partially to propitiate the piece of my soul which bears that weakness. And years and years off feeling useless, I built an interior that resists all the weariness of this world. I can turn emotions on and off. I've mastered self control. Right now, I'm a 30 year old in medical school. I had a dream as a lonely beaten child in middle school. Looking up at the night sky, and the infinite potential of the universe, I realized....if I just lived long enough, I could outlive all my bullies. I could outlast all my problems. I could eventually one day find peace. And so I decided I wanted to cure aging and extend my lifespan to out live all problems and that some solution would appear someday if I just lived long enough. Those long nights of wondering about the future.....time flows slowly for a middle and high schooler. And the suffering and loneliness felt infinite. It took the thought of infinite lifespan to allow me to overcome that. Now as a 30 year, I have already spent over 20 years of my life trying to research and extend lifespan. 7 years in biotech. And I'm almost done with medical school. I will be a doctor. And I will research aging and take care of patients. And along the way on this journey I've invented for myself, I've made the bestest of friends who I see as family and I would die for. I'm finally no longer lonely even though many of us are now countries apart, it almost feels like the world is my friend now. So my advice from a fellow lonely and hopeless child, is to create a singular purpose for yourself based on the motivating aspects of loneliness. As einstein said to paraphrase, "be a loner, that gives you time to wonder and search for the truth". An then live that purpose. Follow strength of your conviction of your purpose which sprouted from loneliness and you'll make irreplaceable friends along the way.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps. Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps. Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps. Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Find out What the "Immortal jellyfish" does. Something is keeping the cells mitochondria cleared of waste so it can continue to produce electron energy for the ATP to transfer the electrons to the nucleus to maintain the DNA chains Electromagnetic bonds that hold the base pairs together without loosing the telomerase caps off the end. When a cell divides, it looses a cap every time. that's because the over all voltage or amperage drops and the chain can not hold on to that many caps anymore. Eventually, when enough caps are lost, the cell stops dividing and dies.
Yo bro just went through the whole vid and it’s like a breath of fresh air finding someone that goes through the same struggles as I have. Especially as an Asian man. Keep your head up soldier we will get through this.
I feel you man, growing up in narcissistic family and then trying to find love and not be reciprocated is devastating especially when the same people you are selfless with are selfish in your time of need. Trying to find some truth in a fake world.
For me, happens every time. When the fair weather friends give me the cold shoulder, I consider it a blessing. I know my strength, and those instances remind me I CAN go it alone.
I'm 71. Dear, you are not ugly. You're a very handsome young man. You tell the truth as you experience it. People suck. That's true. My advice is to do what you enjoy. I promise you things will get better. Don't worry about what people say. You're a survivor, a champion 🏆. I wish you peace and aloha from Hawaii 🤙
I'm 18, I'm a girl, I've been called ugly by boys my entire life...my life has been rough for other reasons too, I have some friends who care, and my family...but I'm really confused in my life right now...
@@Daffodil-xw7nf I'm 19 years old guy, almost everyone ignores me and always underestimates me and I believe it is due to my look. People fking sucks.
Kids often are the most honest they’ll ever be in their entire lives. This is what Adults want to say to each other but are too scared to say due to the consequences in society. But yeah, most people are selfish, unfortunately.
Hey I'm 69 and I remember when I was your age that I felt the same way and actually have for most of my life. It's not you the world is full of cruel people. I encourage you to take in a cat or a dog you will experience unconditional love that you just can't get from people that's what brought me healing. Thank you thank you for being so brave and sharing your story
I'm 37. Forced to live at my parents again because of health issues and the ridiculous housing situation in my country. I feel like suicide, I can't have a cat or dog because my parents won't allow it. I'm freaking 37.. I made twice as much as my dad.. but now I can't even have a pet (I agree it's very healing) idk I'm just so done with life
Dude, you’re not even ugly at all. Just because you’re different or one person says you’re ugly doesn’t mean you’re ugly. People are assholes in relationships, friendships, and coworkers. It takes error and trial to find genuine people. I have no friends and I’ve accepted that long time ago, I’m just 30. 😢 but I hear you homie. You’re speaking facts. Sh!t I’ll be you’re reference if you need one.
Exactly also add bigotry. If you’re not racist you’ll see he’s cute as hell or at least not ugly. Even though Asian men are more sought after these days you have racist b*tches who will never find Asian men attractive due to stereotypes. I don’t get it.@@arbitrarylib
Real crime in life is that " just because you treat people the way you want to be treated doesn't mean they have to do the same" You're not alone in how you feel. You seem like a real genuine dude, a lot of people would be fortunate to have you as a friend!
@@austinsy8056 there is this saying if you are not kind to yourself then you won't be kind to others. And many believe kindness is a weakness. Many people forget you can have a balance be kind with boundaries- in other words = being assertive. Everyone seems to forget assertive and remember only aggressive or passive.
This 38 year old man is thankful for your video. I have been feeling this way brother. It’s a cruel system we live in. And it’s really hard not to compare ourselves to others. I’m going to stay away from advice and just tell you that I listened intensely to the whole video and felt EVERY SINGLE THING you said. I felt that connection and it made me feel better and less alone. It’s brave to pour your heart out like that to the world and I’m glad I came across your video, even if it is such a hard and sad thing to hear. I have battled depression for a very long time, and for the past 10-15 years it has mostly been held back, but lately it is starting to worm its way back in. It can get better. It does t mean that the feelings go away or that anything gets easier, but you can learn to make peace with the shit in the world and do your own thing to be a ray of light, even if your influence isn’t very big. You touched my heart and my best wishes for you. I wanted to reach through the screen and give you a big hug, I could use one right now myself.
Hey bro, we’re in this together. With a little effort, good things and good people will come eventually. As corny as it may sound, Just remember that God does love us, and through Jesus Christ we have something to look forward to! Maybe I’ll meet some if you guys in eternity 😃
Bro, I did not listen to your rant, but life in this temporal domain is difficult. What I find helps me is to (1) thank The Creator for everything. I even thank Him for my coffee, for the honey to put into my coffee, for my food, for my health, etc. Gratefulness provides a positive way of looking at the world and one's situation and is more healthy than focusing upon what we want but do not have, etc. We each have more things to be grateful for than we can enumerate. (2) I study and try to live out the admonitions of The Bible. The entire Bible can be summarized as teaching us how to love others and we love ourselves (Matthew 7:12). (3) I try to exercise often (almost everyday). (4) I try to eat healthy. (5) I do ministry work to help others when I am able. (6) I go kiteboarding when I am able. When I lived near the ocean, I used to surf when I could.
As a 24 year old, I understand your struggle. And I’m sorry this is happening to people so young, going through depression and anxiety is not easy. Hoping everyone can find a way around this global problem. Take care y’all.
Western society has become so privileged that they became narcissists, that is why they are mindless zombies living their pointless lives @@archravenineteenseventeen
A man once told me "life's a bitch, then you die". I learned this and lived better after that acceptance. Life didn't get better, but I lived better. Life can get better but it doesn't happen for everybody.
@@bradhienzacharyyes, many men say that females are nothing but trouble. For a long time I didn’t wanna believe that because it sounded too harsh… but I’ve learned that it’s the TRUTH
I'm now 67 and I resonate with everything that you say. Your right it begins with parents putting you down not recieving the validation so needed in childhood. Comming out of a disfunctional childhood where there is possibly abuse or lack of love sets you up for a lifetime of trauma as that word out there has nothing to offer you. I worked as a nurse for over 40 years give give give...with nothing comming back. I hit burnout many times ending up once in a psychiatric unit. The hardest thing of all is loneliness that is sooo hard where you realize that no one gives a shit about you. Your a lovely handsome young man with a beautiful soul. I wish you all the love and luck in the world💖🌹
this realization comes in for many first generation kids/children of immigrants. we’re taught to prioritize others but in america /canada it’s best to build yourself first
As somebody who moved to Japan, I can tell you that the other side is absolutely brutal as well. I love Japan, but you would be hard pressed to go more than 2 minutes without having somebody point out something that's wrong with you, or some social standard you're not living up to. It can be March 31st and 70 degrees outside, but if you're not wearing winter clothes and a jacket you'll have every single person you meet ask you "Aren't you cold!?. What's wrong with you?" THIS GUY ISN'T SOCIALLY NORMAL! And then it could be literally 40 degrees the next day, but now it's April and 98% of the country decides that it's time for spring clothes. "Aren't you hot!?!" Seems like a petty complaint, but anyone who's lived here knows what I mean haha. The drone mentality and toxic collectivism can turn every interaction into some kind of mini job interview, where the prize is that you aren't publicly ridiculed, shamed, or more often ignored. And again, I love Japan for a lot of different reasons, but the way people treat strangers here, at least in the big cities, is literally like they're looking through you. You often see people crying or hurt at train stations, and literally thousands of people just walking by them. "Just don't make eye contact. Don't make eye contact. They have no relation to me. If I don't make eye contact the problem goes away." There is a sense of community in Japan, but it tends to be rooted in this desire for everybody to live up to a social standard, and definitely not in sharing snacks or juice boxes like this guy said haha. Sometimes this can be a good thing. But I miss the genuinely kind people who take action in the US at times. It's rare, but almost unheard of here. Once you break through the shell, Japanese people are uncharacteristically kind. But I can't imagine a more lonely place to float through life without genuine connections than downtown Tokyo.
@@Evan_Starkgo to Tochigi. Tokyo is far more westernised and combines the toxic elements of both cultures. People are too busy and don’t know if their kindness will be appreciated. It’s fear that controls people. For me as an introvert I liked Tokyo. The food was weird but I liked how people let me do my own thing. I never experienced the jacket thing but there is a group think mentality when it comes to the “look” that you’re meant to strive for. In the countryside there isn’t so much of that shell of professionalism and that’s why Osaka people with their more blunt speech and funny accents are mocked by some Tokyo residents.
@elizabeetle13Well that’s a bit weird that you’re into segregation but yeah a part of that is people don’t really bother you like in England. Some parts of England like the school I went to people are too nosy, at least for me.
My guy is spitting facts for this generation, absolutely spot on, mental health, declining economy, loneliness, everything is bang spot on the bullseye. Now we all just drift through life and just don't even know where they stand in society. Now we just play *great asset* to relief the pain.
@@TheFracturedfuture no the actual solution isnt that 'sex' or 'women' are the problem. That makesw up 10% of life. Loving friends can make you feel appreciated as a person too. Stop blaming women for all your issues. Its always the sexless ones saying stuff like this
Consider it a blessing that you're coming to terms with this at a young age. I was you at age 23, crying in my car over this crushing realization. Accepting it and moving forward will make you a stronger man. Life will get better. Remember to pay yourself first, and extend your generosity only to those who deserve it (this will be exceptionally few people). Have no shame in putting yourself first in all aspects of life, because this cold world only cares about what it can take from you.
Damn, that's cynical. While I don't think you are wrong It may be prudent to be a bit more optimistic. "He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you." -Nietzsche
Live keeps getting worse for me I'm tired of trying to please people that are two faced and narcissistic assholes I'm autistic and suffered with borderline personality disorder and have horrible mood swings and rage outburststhat got me in legal trouble do yeah no I hate life and I hate humanity my ex physically and mentally abused me for being different then a average person should be....not my fault I was born with genetic defects....I hate myself and hate society I'm done trying
I've been in your place a few times. I empathize. I got tired of "doing everything everyone else is doing to try to "fit in". I am 48 now and working in manufacturing. I like to build things. I quit a higher paying job to do what I enjoy as opposed to what is going to give me more money. The key is to live within one's means. Seriously, don't go to malls and buy stuff to "enhance your image". You are good the way you are. The world has become more narcissistic (lacking empathy and caring). Know that you are not alone. I used to cry thinking I needed someone. Yes, friends are nice to have, but YOU are the only one you can trust. A wise person once told me..."we come into this world alone, and we leave this world alone". It's true. Although we spend even 9 months attached to our mother, we are INDIVIDUALS. Every negative experience you have helps you grow as a person and builds your resiliency. Most importantly, as you age you will "come back to yourself". You realize that the love of Self is important. Yes, the world can be a lonely and cold hearted place. But you are not alone. We stand with you, Brother.
I’m 26 years old and this video is so relatable, this generation shouldn’t have to go through such extreme quarter life crisis.. we’re loneliest then ever! societal expectations and brutal rejection when you try your hardest to change your financial situation and life has really taken a toll on me.. this world will chew you up and spit you out with no mercy it’s insane
@@matthewwhite1728We didn't build anything, this is all the selfish AF boomers' fault. Most selfish, entitled, lazy generation EVER. Since cavemen to now, the boomers are by far the worst generation ever. They f'ed us all. They worked easy careers and took vacations while they knowingly watched the financial institutions destroy society and they didn't just do nothing they enabled it with their own greed and laziness. Blame it on the 60 and 70 year olds selfishly riding around in their boats and Mercedes convertibles while their grandchildren face a nightmare they created.
Me too, even things that logically should have worked out… just been snatched away by algorithms and society and lack of much needed support. No hope, completely bleak
Hope getting that out made you feel better. Yep people can be cruel. Stick around and dont give up ok. You’ll look back this vid 20-30 years from now and know so much more about life than you do at the moment. Your a young man stay strong through the hardest times which isn’t easy. Good luck little brother.
With this wave of sadness, depression and suicide... the new definition of "success" is simply staying alive, with people taking themselves out left and right.
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross and shed his blood for us so that we can have Eternal life , he can free you from those thoughts
@@daguy7575 you know its usually an issue of chemical imbalances in the brain right? Though a trigger is usually present, something bad doesn't even have to happen, you might just wake up one day and find that you really want to take your own life. Many people have had their lives changed completely by someone who later took their own life, to say that they never deserved life, that they never deserved to touch other lives, is completely disgusting. Continue making house music, I think that you're really going to do great things there :)
@@YegoKroeten look I didn’t mean to be so hard on the guy, I just don’t like it when people seem like they’ve lost their fight… I have had my own battles with poor mental health, and I would like to see people come out on top on the other end of things! Thank you for your kind words, I will continue making music as it is my passion. Take care 🤟
Brother, you are not ugly by any means. You appear to be in decent physical shape and seem to have a down to earth personality which is far more important. I felt like you were describing my life growing up with everything you mentioned. From wanting to seem "normal" to being nice to everyone only to have those phonies ignore me when I reached out to them. You are definitely not alone in feeling out of place in this sick world we live in. I was in your shoes for awhile where I was going to college for a degree I wasn't even interested in, just doing it because teachers pressured me to go to college after high school. I ended up getting my CDL as soon as I got my degree and I can say it's one of the best decisions I made. Easy money, and work doesn't even feel like work a lot of the time. I don't know what my life would look like if I entered the corporate rat race, but I am thankful to have found my passion at such a young age. I don't know if you're a religious guy or not but I found God for the first time in my life when I was 20 and that turned things around in my social life for the better. The people I met at my school's Christian group were just what you were wanting in relationships- down to earth, non judgemental, and care about who you are as a person, not what physical looks or possessions you have. Even if you don't have any friends in real life, your posting of these videos is making a positive change in other peoples' lives, and you have the support from people on the internet.
he's not ugly but what is meant by ugly here is probably because he's asian in a western country. Probably in an area where there's not many or any asians but idk.
He’s definitely not ugly. He looks like he could be in a Kpop band but idk if that’s a compliment any self respecting Asian guy would really want. Disregard that. He’s attractive and idk why he struggles with girls. Ive been told I am attractive but I still struggle.
I borderline want to show this to my therapist because of how well you’ve articulated how I’ve felt, and what I’ve experienced, for a long time. In a sense, it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thank you.
The world is a savage place and it’s literally an uphill battle for many of us. I have had moments in my life where I lost everything and had to carry that burden of starting fresh from nothing. It really is quite a journey life is, and most of the time these days it’s just extremely difficult.
This is so relatable. Your skin is glowing, you are totally handsome! I have awful acne I don't bother covering up any more so I appreciate clear skin so much more now.
I’m 25 and I came to the realization that life is a struggle. What really matters is friends and family. 80% of your life will be mundane and boring that’s ok. Even for billionaires it’s the same. But that 20% where you laugh dance and enjoy conversations is worth while. Find joy in suffering, put yourself through challenges and you’ll see yourself grow and the world around you become easier to navigate
Brother, you have immense power and you just have to tap into it and you can do, have and be what you want. God doesn't live In the sky; it lives In you right now.
The universe is really speaking to me tonight. I’ve stumbled across so many videos that are touching on my exact feelings of loneliness and other things that I thought I was the only one feeling. You are helping so many people by making this
@@centipedekid9824 What?? No. It means the opposite. It means one deserves just as much love that they give to others if not more. It doesn't mean a person should make their attitude or the way they love themselves exactly like how they treat others.
@@moonnexus3523 The issue is you think you should be rewarded by other people for how you behave. Thats clearly the issue he has now he was brought up thinking like this when in reality you might not get anything back and you need to be ok with that. If you arent you'll wind up depending on other people's validation for your happiness and as we can see through him thats not working out well.
@@centipedekid9824 Nope. My message was that people deserve the same love they give to others. I never said anything about expecting it back nor that they are entitled to it. It simply means to love yourself just as much as you try to for others.
@@centipedekid9824 their message literally means you should value and love yourself just as much as others, idk how you got message that people should depend on others to make them feel better. It means literally the opposite of depending on others.
This hurt me to watch such a young soulful man go through so much pain. Know that there are people who care. I promise you, the masses will disappoint but the special ones show up when you least expect it. Please keep your head up sweetheart, the world needs you here and to keep sharing your authentic voice.
Truth, I feel your pain my friend. I even tried to explain this to my family, but they gave me the same generic suggestions and when that doesn't work, they shun and ignore me and tell me to stop being negative and pessimistic. It's honestly so degrading and irritating to say the least and finally waking up to this shit is freeing but depressing in those regards. I just see no point to this life and so many poor ass parents are okay with casually popping out children with no trust funds or actual plans for their futures besides the status quo and if they aren't interested, they turn on them and kick them out. This shit is such a drag and I blame my parents for it every single day of my life.
What generic suggestions did they give exactly? I agree with the part that parents should take good care of their children and have good plans for them To many dont Thats a huge problem But you know i will try to motivate you with something but will you listen? I doubt it . At the end of the day we are responsible for the outcome of our life You need to work hard to achieve things Of course if your parents did something bad to you then yes they are to blame for that But we cant just give up in life If you want inspiration try to find videos about Christianity Because only God can heal your pain fully Thats your choice though In any case i hope and pray you will have a better life .
@dude9318 What I meant is that they tell you how to act, feel and perceive the world when they are fully aware the problems it has yet are okay with casually popping out children without a plan in sight besides raising them and tossing them out into the world to endure the rat race and beyond. They expect us to be grateful for their *"SaCriFiCes"* even though they made that choice when it came to having children. I am also not religious so that Christianity aspect has no relevance to me whatsoever.
Said something to this effect to my best friend. I'll admit, I did insult her when she literally left the call because it was "too stressful". But if your best friend gets a PCOS diagnosis and you're just not there, the least you can do is make your friend feel validated. She doesn't talk to me anymore. Tired of this life too.
@@TheGoldenPlatoon757 the problem is that you have to work towards making your pain go away. That's what everyone forgets to tell you. You have to work to make things seem less important to you than they used to be.
I felt your tears bro. I wish I had your mindset when I was your age. It’s a cold world. Keep making videos. You reach people. Although you was sad in the video, it’s therapeutic for people like me hearing. Makes you feel your not alone. Be safe, you will get through this. Your built like that.
This entire video was a carbon copy of my life. I am in my forties and one thing I have learned along the way is that *I have to create my own happiness.* Waiting on someone else to make you happy might not ever come. The first step of my journey to happiness was to let go of ALL the toxic people in my life, family and friends. Since I am an introvert, I wasn't all that upset about being left alone. The next step of my journey was to do hobbies. I absolutely love DIY crafts so I have learned to crochet, knit, woodwork and now I am learning to sew my own clothes using natural fibers like cotton, wool, silk and linen, no toxic plastic polyester and AZO dyed fabrics. Finding a hobby and doing something that you love to do will do wonders for your mental health, no toxic meds needed. Hobbies will help keep your mind occupied and you will also find joy in creating something. By the way Kev, you are not ugly.
I’m much younger, and I agree with this advice. I also went through the exact same phase as Kev. I was miserable for so long because I felt like my happiness depended on having people around me to make me feel worthy. And I was miserable when the people around me didn’t meet my expectations. They weren’t there for me the way I expected them to be. Then I did the same thing as u. I focused on climbing myself out of the hole. I gave up on waiting for something external to randomly come into my life and fix it. I pulled myself up by the bootstraps and dragged myself through hell to find what will make me happy. I had to fight back against years of negative thinking and pessimism. I had to learn to believe that I deserve happiness, and that nobody else will give it to me. I’m still fighting that battle. But my life has gotten infinitely better over the past couple of years. It all started with me focusing on my passions, and working towards improvement. Not for somebody else to love me. So that I know without a shadow of a doubt that I have the power to achieve anything I want in this life, and it comes from me. It comes from within. Focusing on doing what I love to do and working on becoming a better person has made my life infinitely better. And now I have hope, because I know that I have the power to give myself happiness. Focusing on your passions is great advice !
Brother you're not ugly. People are fake as fuck in this world. I've been through the same shit as you. I never fit in, I had to put on a facade and adopt a group identity countless times until I started being myself. I was always the one supporting everyone, and when I was down, my closest friends never reached out or gave a fuck about me. I called them out on that shit, and some have changed for better and some have left my circle, even after 10+ years of friendship. One thing I will say for certain, you will find genuine people out there. They are rare but they do exist. I've found some myself and they will always embrace you no matter what. Work on yourself. Go to the gym and build your body. Strong body = strong mind. Spend some time sitting in silence and meditating, focus on quieting your mind and filtering out needless bullshit that detracts from your inner peace. For me it was meditating on God, but I appreciate that not everyone has the same experiences. I do all this myself and it works. You have to appreciate the solitude, as an introvert it recharges you considerably. The reason you feel like you dont belong is because you have a way bigger purpose. You're not meant to be as fake and NPC as the people around you. You just have to figure out what that is and you'll find your place in the world. I'm still on the hunt myself, I'm tired of looking too. But its not gonna find itself bro. Only you can do that. I can say for certain that if you are starting that journey or are conscious of that you're already in a better position then where you were. We lack lack purpose. Thats why we're miserable. There's more to life than living paycheck to paycheck.
I had people telling me that im a Playboy whereas on the other said other guys called me really ugly, its just life. A lot of time people just want to hold you down or are being dishonest
You're living. I'm upper 40's, this is life. I too am nicer than most and that took 40yrs for me to completely learn that lesson. My siblings, cousins, fake friends have all showed me how truly mean most humans are. Stay strong young man! This is how we learn the world. Life doesn't suck, but it's not gonna be easy. We fight for the laughs. Protect your heart and know you're not alone. We all love you, brother! 💪💪
“My siblings, cousins, fake friends have all showed me how truly mean most humans are.” I’m in a similar situation 🤗 I’m okay without those fake people. I came to this world alone, I leave this world alone :))
A warm hug for you my friend. You're just more mature and intelligent than many other people out there, and the price you pay is often to feel that way. I had the same situation as you and the same feeling as you. My advice is to always look for the best in people, always, expect the worst, but look for the best. Otherwise you will enter a vicious circle and loneliness can become something else. And we don't want that, right? Come on boy, I love you
Dude you're just too nice. I had to learn that lesson the hard way too. I studied med for over a decade, I thought everyone would be proud of me, no matter how much I sacrificed, I felt like it would eventually be worthwhile. But ultimately, I learned what I needed to learn, and realized nobody gave a shit if I made it or not. It wasn't even about me, I did it for everyone else, but when I finally accepted the fact nobody cared, I just said to hell with it. There are givers and takers. Unfortunately, the system we have elected punishes philanthropy and rewards selfishness. That's why good people like you get screwed over. It won't always be this way, one day good people will get what they deserve, but unfortunately that's not the world we live in yet. And finally, I'll leave you with this ,I think you're a very beautiful, sweet and intelligent person. Even though I don't know you I count you as a friend, and think the world would be a better place with more people like you in it.
I thinks it’s shocking to any normal human being to be shocked when they see their friends are snakes. It’s not expecting for someone else to be pure like them. It’s about trusting them and being fucked over.
@@Nhmusicoffish I'll keep it brief. Had a very large group of friends until my marriage of thirty years suddenly ended thanks to my cheating wife. Very quickly found out who my friends were. That was nearly eight years ago and as a result of my ex's behavior the only female I trust is my dog and no, I'm not an, 'incel' I CHOSE to be celibate.
I'm 21 years old. Couldn't relate more to this video. I'm sorry your going through this time but you will look at this video later in life and see how far you've come by doing what YOU wanted to do and what YOU needed to do, to make yourself, happy. Much Love Kev your a good guy.
As a 19 year old African-American man this really hits me deep because I lived in exact life just like you lived and it really is heartbreaking to know that things like this are actually happening around me right now.
Hang in there mate. I'm 60. Yes life sucks, but trust me the good things in life will come...you just have to work at it. Please don't give up. Take care because I do for you.
@@High2GetBythat's not the point. The okay boomer meme points out that boomers are fucking clueless and entitled, and had everything handed to to them on a silver platter. Their advice, experience and worldviews don't match up with current reality, yet they keep sticking their nose in and waffling nonsense like 'just be happy, get a job and pay for a house and get married. Don'tbe lazy! Kids these days!' when they can only draw from fairytale memories of how delusionally easy life was for them.
Man I saw this early this morning and it's been bugging me. As someone who was suicidal from 18-27 I wish I could say the right thing but no one could tell me shit back then. Bro please keep going you seem like such a good dude my circle would love someone like you around.
Wow I’m so happy to see all the people being supportive! It’s really refreshing also seeing men being supportive to each other and taking it upon themselves to support each other’s emotional well being.
You are so adorable and young. You have so much to look forward to. Nice people often don't feel or get it in return. Happiness is a choice, be grateful for what you have. You have a great character and you are kind. The right girl will come along and appreciate your kindness. I promise you! pursue what makes you happy in life and the right person will come along. You are not ugly, not at all!
The fact that you have opened your heart and spoke on behalf of thousands says a lot. Many will be praying for you, unbeknown to you. Please do not give up and suicide. Please don't... prayer to God in Jesus name will bless you. Change your name to a more properous name, go and see a church pastor and ask for deliverance. Friend please don't do anything you'd regret.
Ive had also been taken granted, a lot of times. Thats why i learned to shut myself down, stop caring and trusting and just think of myself. I always deny to myself that im not vulnerable but the truth is i get overwhelmed easily emotionally and mentally and it takes a lot to conceal it.......
You are so HANDSOME & SMART my guy 💯 Life is hard but it does get easier! You learn to find your inner peace as you go along 🙏🏼 Just hang in there bro seriously! We’re all here for you and rooting for you! Do NOT Ever think you’re not built for this world! You’re here for a reason and a purpose! NEVER GIVE UP PLEASE
acceptance and grit while never losing hope. Take pride in your struggle don't be ashamed of it, it will subside quicker like that. Basically drain the depression by making it known but NOT DWELLING in it and read 'How To Win Friends and Influence People' and 'The 48 Laws Of Power'. It will give you wayyy more clarity about life@@nsasupporter7557
I’m young, almost 18, and lately I’ve been feeling sad. I don’t cry, I don’t get mad, I’m just sad. It’s such a hard feeling to understand. I feel like the people I once thought as friends are now drifting away, and that I’m gonna be left out of everything from now on. I just don’t wanna be treated like an issue, a side piece, that doesn’t matter. It’s so annoying and really hits you hard.
After I hit thirty I think I finally started to stop caring because it does suck. That being said, the key is finding the right people and not befriending the toxic people; they’re out there.
Same here. The blessing of age, is that the older you get, the less you care. Its freeing, and you become naturally more discerning, and picky about the people you allow into your life.
Wow same . I turned 31 and just realized what an emotional rollercoaster the 20s were. One time I read a comment that said, "your twenties are like going through puberty all over again just with your emotions"....
Reminds me how important it is for us man struggling to support each other, Everytime I have a chance to congratulate or cheer up a fellow human I do it, cuz I know how hard it is. We are in this together guys. Thank you bro for giving us a platform to share our views and speak our truth. You are a true and valuable human being, have no doubt about this !
video gave me chills, i never knew somebody else is going exactly through the same thing im going through in Egypt. your not alone Kev i swear people like us exist, we cant lose that spark of kindness that we had as kids
@@Somegirl3602 it gives me comfort knowing im not alone in this. life doesnt have to be all dark and depressing i still believe in the kindness we all had when we were children, we just need to build our own positive communities, this may sound insane but i am planning on saving money and building a farm in a far away land in Egypt and build my own community of settlers and educate them myself and just live a quiet and busy life with my family (one day tho)
I have been there. To be honest life will not get easy when you wait to be. There are so many uniqueness in you that others cannot compete because it is yours. No one can take it from you. It is authentic you and please trust yourself and take that pressure from yourself. One is perfect, life is not perfect but that doesn’t mean’t mean you should hide.. you are in this world for a reason and if you look at it with your spirit, it will be your awakening soon. Step by step, push it forward young man!
🥺 I pray God has his hand over all aspects of your life, I pray you receive an abundance of success.. peace.. prosperity.. sincere family connections with those who genuinely love you.. financial stability and emotional emancipation from all your struggles
it’s funny cause you’re the guy other people envy - handsome, young, has a degree, good charisma, kind, loyal etc. Shows to go everyone struggles. Hope things get better man
@@tonywong1248even though I am not a gay man, I disagree with you, and I think that’s very unkind of you to say that. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and you were the guy in this video, feeling depressed and down because others repaid your kindness to them by walking all over you and treating you like shit, and to top it off you see a harsh comment like yours when your self esteem is low enough as it is. All I’ll say is I hope for your sake you don’t have to experience this.
@@monk4ever Cool buddy, and i hope if you do get successful you change the world in an actual way to help the average people who the world doesnt ever get better for. Like the guy in the video, or the people in the comments. They all have more potential then you can even imagine, But potential needs to be drawn out and nurtured. Very rarely does it bloom on its own. When you are beat down enough, and in a certain mindset, its very hard for people to see the world clearly. Its why they need guidance and family and friends to help them. We are human, not everyone can be strong on their own and so much potential is lost everyday because of it. So telling people to just "solve the problem" like you have spammed in the reply's helps noone at all. Its people like you, that people feel this way in the first place. They need love, connection and loyalty. Not whatever your giving. Mature emotionally please. Has understanding humans never been a point of interest for you? maybe too concerned with yourself? Its very interesting, i suggest trying it.
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
You're not alone my dude. First off, you're not ugly. Second, the criticisms and comparisons people throw at you are a projection of their own insecurities. And third, it's not that you're not meant to be in this world, it's just that this world doesn't deserve someone as sincere and genuine as you. Keep holding on and stay strong.
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
@@thesterrave You can't reject that which evidently isn't there. Read John 3:16 to your heart's desire; it means nothing if you're not even remotely convinced.
@@ominous-omnipresent-they he is evidently there, the eyewitnesses who wrote or helped write the Gospel accounts, prophesies of Christ 100's or 1000's of years before him, gravity existing ,etc
As hard as it is to accept right now, what you said is 100% correct, coming from an older guy. I used to volunteer, work for free, and pay the company's wages with my hard work, and they one day decided to kick me out for the most trivial reasons. Yeah, they liked it when I was doing something for them. But then I realised how easily I could be replaced. I was chucked to the curb after paying their wages for a year. Then they washed their hands clean of me like I was nothing but a piece of shit. Welcome to reality. Now, I don't believe in volunteering or helping people any more. I live for myself, do what I want, and guess what? I've never been happier. No stress, nobody "expecting" anything from me. Fuck these selfish arseholes. They are actually infinitely more selfish than I am.
So you became a selfish proverbial like them? That was your solution? You’re getting older and this way is not gonna save you in the end, take my Wisdom: Call upon the Name of Jesus and you will be saved. As Him what the truth is. Look at His life and re-read His message without anyone else interfering. And you will see for yourself that their is a better Way…He could’ve chose to be selfish yet He gave His Life for us that we might be saved… God loves you ❤
@@OLskewL Did you not even see your own hypocrisy telling him to find a solution and yet you sit here telling him be religious as the solution. Thats not a solution. You basically just doing what he is doing, shifting the power to save himself by using an external tool (religion, etc, etc) instead of just finding it within and just live life without the bullshit guilt of being obligate to do shit for anyone, everyone, and the rest of the world. Not everyone is meant to do something like that, especially when they don't have the capacity to do so, but yet encourage them on the path of destruction, then later tell them when they fail that they didn't do it right like someone else did, etc, etc.
This advice is not always true. If you are a nice decent person and you live in the US or Canada, you are going to have to move overseas. As an Asian dude I would try out Singapore or Thailand.
No, it doesn't get better.. I'm 41, and I'm just simply accepting that life is stupid and pointless. Lowering expectations doesn't and shouldn't equal happiness!!
As a 41 year old truck driver who spends months at a time alone, I learned a long time ago that you can either be your best friend or your worst enemy. Don’t let the things around you pull you down. Keep that joy inside of you and learn to exist in your own bubble. Remember when you are alone no one can hurt you. If you are an introvert, embrace it. Don’t let society or social media dictate to you how you should live your life or what happiness and fulfillment is. Live by your own standards and no one else’s. Then and only then will you start to experience the happiness that comes with true freedom. Stay positive and take it day to day my friend and I remember even when you feel alone, your not alone because their are A TON of people just like you.
Almost every truck driver Ive met are so nice, wise, and badass.
I respect yall
@@knightsofsumeria
Literally, I respect y'all
Real
@@mohammadrayyan7851 👀
Great comment. I think a lot of left out kids and young boys go through this growing up. You have to stop letting the world, social media and any one other thing people say than yourself that you are a worthy human being, your style is dope and cool and everything else about what others may think or you think they think of you.
It’s always the most gentle, kind souls who get taken advantage of and taken for granted.
Heaven awaits them
@@Gizmo90210Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Look at Job, he lost everything but gained God's loving arms in the end. Look at John the Baptist, amongst being beheaded he earned the Lord. We are in the last days.
@@Gizmo90210doesn’t exist
That’s why you gotta be evil to survive
@@jokerpilled2535 Denying the Lord doesn't hide the existence of the tomb of Jesus Christ, nor does not hide the cases of exorcism and evil spirits easily destroying non believers lives. Especially the power of the name of Jesus Christ. Lack of faith is what makes it easier for Satan to destroy a person's life with the addiction of sin. Without faith, evil spirits can also manipulate people to scorn and mock the Lord. He is alive at the right hand of Yahweh, God the father. Evil won't save you when you only murder in return. Bible: Mathew 26:52. Even the Jewish Pharisees denied their Messiah, up until this day the modern Jews still deny Jesus Christ as the promised son of God.
This is something I learned from a long time ago. I was a “nice guy” my whole life because they say to treat others how you want to be treated. But then over time, I learned that most people are only in it for themselves and will take advantage of you for their benefit. I didn’t become less “nice”, but I stopped taking shit from people and letting people take advantage of me. When you learn to do that, people will naturally respect you more and know better than to step all over you. This is the advice I would give to young men like you who are struggling with this. Assert yourself or you will be used.
Bro, it's not about asserting yourself. It's just about being a good human being. The reason nobody likes nice guys is because they always do something for other people just to get something back from them down the line. If you're ACTUALLY a nice guy nobody would have a problem with you. And trust me I have seen both. There are nice people who manipulate other people for their own gain and then when things don't turn out as they expected they get angry and frustrated. And I have also seen benevolent people. The people who would give you a dollar even if they only had two dollars. They stand up for the ones being picked on even if they can't even protect themselves. Those type of nice people are never alone because people want to support his cause. You'll get angry with me. You might even rage. But I am speaking the truth
Being nice doesn't get others to care about you sadly, it just gets them to take advantage of you. For people to care about you you need to first meet the right people, people who want genuine connections and have empathy, and second you need to build a close bond with those people. Having mutual interests or a shared outlook on life can help bring people together, but like I said it's not that easy. Some people just don't have it in them to truly care about others even if they act like they do, and it can be really challenging to find people who are more than just talk.
Same lesson learned here. And it's not about being less nice, like you said. It's almost enabling to reward people who take advantage of us. So it's actually not nice to them to continue to give when they don't appreciate it or give in return. Not that we should always expect something in return. They will just continue to use us, because it gets comfortable for them. I think also just being solid with yourself, where you know that it doesn't matter what other people do, if you're happy with what you're doing, that's all that matters. Not to be so dependent on how others treat us or look at us. It's a tough one. Takes time to truly live it, even if we know it's the better way to live.
Reading this tonight, very relatable. Earlier today I've had an argument with my drunk ass partner, who always try to take his shit on me. I've tried to calm he down the whole time, and he just kept on screaming a lot of crap. So today was my turn to scream at him and I'm so fucking glad I did.
Jesus gave His Life for His enemies, and God glorified Him. He saved us because He Loved us, and gave us the strength to love our enemies. God is Good, and is Able ❤ call upon the Name of Jesus and you will be saved.
My dad always tells me “you’ll always be disappointed if you think people are going to treat you the way you treat them” very true statement.
This is why i started to stand up for myself & i became a bit masculine and tough in the process. But it served me well❤ i’m a female
"I'm tired of figuring shit out" felt that man. How many problems can people tell me to overcome before it just kills me?
People look for problems. They never look for solutions.
@@monk4ever enlighten him with your wisdom then, or you just gonna leave negative comments? what's the difference between your complaints and the people your on about? not very monklike bro
I was super beautiful girl with a degree by 23 and couldn't find a job in my field and never really did cause I didn't have the years of experience.
@@ladybird491then gain those years! You’re still young, how about waiting a little longer and try again ❤️
There's so many things which need improving in your life there's always something to be stressed about your basically chasing a point were you can just be happy and appreciate how far you've come so you have time to think and perform better but the gap to reach that point never wants to close and then you feel like you've run out of time and your a failure.
There's a quote I will always remember:
"Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don't always see them but they are always there.”
It could also be "True friends are like stars because they shine during your darkest hour" or something like that but yea that's a good quote
Fuq that’s true
Yup that what happen to me, offered them another place called home and 12 years of friendship, and when I needed them the most,in my darkest loneliness, hurt and damaged moment, they weren't around.
I am so sorry to hear that. It took you that long to notice they weren't your real friends. But at least you now know and I hope that you don't ever go through that again.
Life never fails to humble me and made me realize that I should be grateful because there are others who have went through far worse than me. I appreciate you sharing your story. Wish you the best in life.@@EsotericHashira
I’m stilling this
Sir, loneliness is at an all time high. People don't know how to value each other for who we are. We value superficial things and alienate each other in the process.
being alone is the best f this stupid Nasty world
Jesus loves you trust 🙏😔
Yep 100% anything that's different is outcast now. It's crazy ti think that if Einstein or somebody important I history was born now they would be bullied into reclusivness or something. This world takes brilliant people and pushes them down so much.
@@fulol ikr
No, people have seen each other better for what they really are and instead of seeing themselves for what is their true self (for better or for worse) there's a dissonance from all sides for all kinds of reasons. Instead of realizing "hey I'm better than them", people who should do that think "I'm not good enough for anything". Instead of "hey I'm actually not that smart and I'm not worth that much" people who should think that blame others for their downfalls instead.
Dear Young Man,
You are not ugly at all. And you are loved.
Just some bitch woman who wanted to attack his ego... He should learn from those bitches and get some emotional defense.
All my love to you 💗
Really? Who loves him? You? 😆
@SL2797 who hurt you?
@@SL2797that’s fucked up 💀no wonder you have no friends
i heard an old guy say"the irony of life is that the ones that care can't help and the ones that can help don't care." you are on the right track, keep going bro..
Old guys are $imps, ignore them.
@@monk4ever look, old people can be stupid, but they have wisdom
Definitely true in my life.
@@monk4ever don't generalize, that's dumb as hell. with age comes wisdom.
that's very sad to hear, and I completely disagree. If you look you can find people with the power to help others that do just that. find those people, and become those people
I don’t think you realise how much of a blessing it is to have this mindset dude, majority of people are asleep, you’re experiencing pain cause you see through the façade of life. Breath take some time to yourself and channel your energy into something you love; a passion that allows you to escape the bullshit of the world for the time, a lot of people are in the same boat, but they’re scarcely scattered across the world
I am this way as well. Been like this since the disaster of 9/11 and learning the truth behind it. I am completely disillusioned with both of the North American governments.
My passion is gaming and working out. Usually, I just get lost in it cause reality is turning into something I don't like, plus have tendonitis in my knees to my foot so I can't really run anymore or walk without being in pain. Can't get a job because of my condition. Getting surgery to repair it next month, gonna make due until then.
Well it's a scientific fact that people who are more intelligent experience more depression throughout their lives. It's a blessing and a curse at the same time.
@@MeatSim64i invite you to islam my friend,islam is wonderfull,i wish you a wonderfull journey,have a nice day my friend
@@trophyscene5015in islam,we believe this life is temporary,we believe the hereafter is the real life,i wish you a really nice day
islam sucks, and so do all other religions. all they do is tell you how to live your life the way it's described in those books.
religion isn't made to free people, it's made to chain people.
and if you can't see that you are just as much of a sheep as the rest.
sure, there are good people and bad people. religious or otherwise.
and i do believe in a higher power, but religion is made to enslave people. nothing else.
@@RedaReda-vl9ff
Bro you are literally not ugly. I can promise you that.
Dude is handsome, I hope he does solo travel at least once every 6 months. 2 weeks at a different country.
he is very handsome!! @@makotonarukami7468
fr dude i am not trying to hype up
but bro is definately not ugly really i mean it
Hes not ugly honestly
@@eliaslopez-tb2hi he's way too short - wemon
“Life would be so much better if I was normal.” Played in my mind on repeat for the past 26 years
That girl that told you that you were ugly was really very ugly and horrific inside. You are more than enough, you're courageous, strong, smart and handsome. As a mom of 3 adult girls and 4 grandkids, I'm sending you a motherly hug. 🤗
Lots of girls made fun of me and call me ugly in my face. But yet girls are not cancel for saying horrible things to guys.
Most women these days are mid but they all want Chad and insult everyone not Chad. It's ridiculous!!
@@Uniquenergyexactly! 💯💯💯 why can’t anyone be held accountable for being mean? Unfortunately women don’t hold the bad ones accountable or call them out enough i’ve noticed
Right ❤
girl who say those things have no idea of an impact on someones self esteem and confidence, this can make ppl suicidal and bitter, and invokes psycho tendencies in some people, its legit not a joke.
I'm a black man, and with the exception of a college degree (didn't finish college), everything you said I *definitely* can relate to. The inconsiderate and selfish friends, being tired of having to solve problems after problems with no breaks or reprieves, the job market not hiring you, parents that put you down with demeaning words. *EVERYTHING!!*
All we can do is keep our heads up, press forward, and hope for a brighter tomorrow. It gets better later! Never forget that!
Edit: Also, I forgot to add in. Having a hard time getting women, and when you finally get one, she's a trifling cheater. I can relate on that, too!
"It gets better later" I doubt it, my friend. As Savvy Guy said very truly, "If you were wrong before... Things only get worse with age."
Same gang im black 2 shi aint easy at all
Yeah bro its men in general dont nobody give af about us at the end of the day
No matter what race... if you "don't fit" somehow, you are the one they pick on.
I like to call them fair weather friends. They might be around when things are good, but any bumps in the road and they're gone. The type of friends that take advantage of generosity and only take but never give anything in return.
A lot of young men are feeling like this. We’ll get through this man, I love you.
you know what's crazy? all these pain that these young men are going through, are all done by men their age. so what is going on here?
@@Dave_of_Mordorwhat?
@@pjc7729 he was screwed by people in his age range. these young men are the ones causing loneliness and depressing. i'm saying they are the problem
Yes it’s sad but I wish guys would talk like him. And say anything and everything on their minds
Yes atleast he shows his emotions I was hiding it and it made my anxiety worse and made me shaky we must pray to God almighty and ask for peace and love with each other
You speak such facts. When your down NOBODY HELPS. Nobody is there. That’s the worst f cking feeling in the world. The most sad feeling in the world.
“I don’t feel built for this world.” I feel like that on a daily basis. My life has been no cake walk. It seems to only get harder as the years go on. You said exactly the things I’ve been feeling in this video. I’m 33 years old, and I don’t know how much longer I can do this for. Everyday is a constant struggle, and I feel like I can’t get the help I so desperately need.
Please reach out to God !! He will fill your heart like only He can. We were created for Him and will always feel empty without Him🙏
Same
It's getting harder and harder
And I'm just a walking corpse
Same here. I've felt like an alien on this planet since childhood.
@@TelaSmith-xf7qqwhat do you say to him? I have been slowly dying from Heroin for many years. Am going to die if I don't stop. I have tried praying. I dont know what to do.
@@TelaSmith-xf7qqAMEN. Praise The Lord ! Jesus is the way.
You seem like a genuine, smart introspective and good guy. You are NOT ugly , you have value , and you impacted a lot of people with this video. you have a purpose, everyone does, and it WILL get easier. Rooting for you brother
true, I don't see how he is ugly. He is a normal young man. Many would want that look. As a bald man, I would deffinitely want his hair :))))
I learnt that if a girl openly picks on you it usually means she's interested in you or curious.
Seen it happen to others and myself.
They don't complain when your on top of em and pass the 💩 tests.
He’s mad at sreggin they ate Al his snacks built up hate against the “people” that said no. This world just wants suck you try he’s saying. He need buys hooker. If he was getting his balls locked regularly by a girl he’d be acting like a boss not like
This. He should slapped that girl
That said that to him. He gotta he a savage and his life will
Change.
@@publiclanddeerhunter stop fucking coping dude girls will openly make fun of a guy because he's ugly not because she's interested in you
Handsome
Your tears sent me back forty years to my own. I was also often told (usually by pretty girls) that I was ugly. One girl at school sneered at me, "Why are you *weird* ?" and all I could say in reply was, "I don't know." In my case the answer, in my thirties, turned out to be Asperger's syndrome. But I married a lady a few years older than me, and we've been married 30 years now. I came out of school with low grades and didn't pursue higher education. At age 52, I finally achieved my life goal of publishing a BBC audiobook based on their TV series "Doctor Who". Hang on in there, friend. The good people are there---it's just a matter of sifting them out.
Whats the Name of the audiobook might Listen to it
And some woman wonder why Incels exist. Don't worry bro we all have struggles. Glad to here your in a better spot now.
@@starsofaheartattack6286You aren't entitled to women. No man is. Be great so women find you great. Looks aren't everything.
@@DiamondsRexpensive I was responding to what he was saying about his younger years with girls.
I love you all here ❤
I'm homeless, but I have my peace, in nature. Life is just phases and lessons. Don't think your past or present is set in Stone.
Love is all that matters here. Anything that opposes your growth, mindset, leave behind! Don't be afraid to make decisions for yourself. Even if they're scary, You just haven't made it yet. Making these decisions you are more independent, and you will be thankful for you.
Don't live your life around what others want from you, around bad environments, that dont want to be in alignment with truth to receive it. Become the best you and what you want here, you can achieve that with correct forward motion actions so you become aware of things before you wasn't. Always learn from eveything, you'll have limitless potential.
If this man is considered “ugly” then I’m really cooked 💀.
Me tooo😂
Bro, you're good looking. I'm a dude, and I can say that. Trust it. And there are good people in this world that will care about you no matter what. Those people that told you those things are not your friends. Find better people. Seriously. Don't let other people change the goodness in you or have you doubting yourself. You are a light to this world, my friend. Keep shining bright.
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He’s mad at sreggin they ate Al his snacks built up hate against the “people” that said no. This world just wants suck you try he’s saying. He need buys hooker. If he was getting his balls locked regularly by a girl he’d be acting like a boss not like
This. He should slapped that girl
That said that to him. He gotta he a savage and his life will
Change.
@@AliasMaxx....
All my love to you 💗❤
It’s always the most beautiful people who perceive themselves as ugly. 😓
Exactly. Kev is not ugly at all. The girl that called him ugly is the ugly one.
You can be very intelligent but feel like your plans will fail on arrival. It seems to be an self esteem issue that unfortunately bogs down these capable and good looking people
Nah everybody can feel ugly, you just notice it more when pretty people say it because you don't expect it
💜
Think what other people think and you will always be their prisoners. Just enjoy life and do hardwork to better yourself. Nobody have time to judge you every time
I understand the feeling. My father used to tell me "You can't control anything until it is your fault." It took awhile for me to realize how true that is.
I'm not a native English speaker. Can someone explain this a little further?
@@AbelisIPower comes from responsibility.
@@AbelisI basically a lot of shit will happen in life and that is just the way it is. The only thing you can do is to try not make it worse. I think?
@@AbelisI To me, There will be many things that happens around you, where you have little or 0 controls over it like inflation, war, etc. But when these things go bad and it has negative consequences to you, you have to accept, self-motivate, bear the struggle and find a way to solve these problems even when you have 0 ideas how to do it. That makes a strong man.
Life throws random things your way but it is up to YOU to control your reaction to them. Eventually you become like Neo, able to dodge proverbial bullets with relative ease.
Dang lil homie you got a 49 year old African American women over here tearing up! You are loved ! You have a purpose and your transparency is a gift. There’s a place for you. You’re resilient! Keep being you and there’s nothing wrong with how you feel and it’s good to express yourself! Much love ! I’ve got a lot of inspirational music 🎵 that will uplift your spirit when you get tired and I use it all the time when facing pressure.
When a handsome young Asian with a degree is struggling in life, you KNOW our society is *FUCKED*
fr
this comment 😢
So true
its over for ricecels BR00TAL
Because being financially stable and successful in a career means jack shit about social life and relationships
Feeling like your not built for this world is how I feel. And I'm pretty sure a lot of people feel that way.
Edit: already 4 days with 1k likes. Makes me smile and sad at how many people can relate with this type of feeling. At least we're not alone!
The Lord makes us a specific way for a reason. We're all put here for a reason by God. And it's our responsibility to seek out the Lord Jesus and get closer to him by praying and reading the Bible. Seek the Lord Jesus Christ while he can still be found! He's coming back soon!!! God bless you.✝️❤️🔥🙏
I feel it to main. I feel like a stranger in a strange land like a martian trapped among the humans of earth. There are many of us that feel this so don't worry.
Yep... probably cause we're all so different but also we're all human so we have that in common
Wdym? I'm curious on how and y u r feeling this way?
@@genzay I will read the Bible. I haven't yet. I don't hate the Bible or religions but I do feel like I can be a good human without religion. That includes all religions and books/scriptures. I hope to read them all.
This got recommended to me and I felt compelled to watch it and I wanna say that you seem like a deep thinker, a good person and sensitive to the world around you, which is such a good thing! And you are NOT ugly. There are so many out there who feel and think the way you do. Stay true to yourself and never let negative people turn you bitter. That's what they want. Don't let them win. Life is so much more than just school, work, die. Forget all that bs and just live how you want. Life is way too short to be concerned with what society expects from you. Us introverts think too much. Take a break sometimes, take it easy, look after yourself, don't stress so much. And fuck living for everyone else. Live for yourself. You weren't born to live for them. It's not a bad thing to put YOUR happiness and sanity FIRST.
One guy said in a podcast, having a discussion with promiscuous women about roles in relationships, and he stood up and told to the women (live on radio),
We are the romantic genders...!!
You girls are just a bunch of SKANKS!!!! You girls are from the Devil!!!!
Same. So relatable...
nah yeah bro deadass has really good facial features. He needs a new cut and his confidence would turn around
Jesus loves you
He's none of those things. He's a spoiled child with an expensive jacket and a more expensive car. Stop indulging this narcissism.
This is so true. I feel you bro. Stay positive there will be better days.
"Once I solve a problem here comes another problem" Felt that 💯
As knowledge increase ,the more deceptions of this world comes clear and visible.
We all have heard the story of “ADMA AND EVE”, but we know not that:
ADAM = MANKIND, for it is a NAME, both males and females carry. Adam = not only male or males. Genesis 5:2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created. Therefore, there is no Adam and Eve, there is only ADAM
Truth is to seek`d out, to asked for, ....
bible verse:
Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
truth is not given in this world. but kept secret.
And To who ever wants to become a youtuber or influencer:
Mark 8:36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
Luke 9:25 For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away? Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
Ecclesiastes 1:3 What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun?
Be a influencer of truth, not of evil. Expose the masonry club /what they do and who`s in it), influence not to support it.
Let you moto be not: do what thy wilt - a mason`s qoute.
Have a moto of: GO AND SIN NO MORE
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
@@thesterrave Jesus was never there
@@RandomBitterManhe's always here
@@RandomBitterMan and yes he did get crucified
25yr old guy here, yeah the 'no-one gives a shit' lesson is one of the hardest to learn and accept. What I've learned is, only give to those who are interested in giving back. If you give or share a part of yourself or things with people through principle it's a one-way ticket to get exploited. Best of luck to you bro, you'll get there eventually
You are so beautiful Waw! 😻🌞❤
Listening to your story, it's like we lived the same exact life. For the first 18 years of my life, by best friend was my cat. Everyone hated me in school. And my dad beat me every week. And when he wasn't beating me, he'd tell me how I ruined his life, that I'm useless, constantly that he'll kill me, and every time he looked at me, there was so much hatred on his face towards me. My mom told me "when you turn 18, you leave and never come back". Every night, I look up at the stars and wonder "when will this suffer end?". "This is my life?" "Why is this happening to me?". I had no esteem because I got beat at home and was alone in school. Teachers didn't like me. It was just so lonely. It's a pain so deep and endless, I thought no one could possibly ever feel this pain. I'm also chinese, the only one in my grade. There were chinese that were grades above me or grades below but not in my grade. In school, I was the quiet kid that sat there hoping so desperately that someone would come talk to me and be my friend. That never happened. And without being in any friend group, everyone else used me as the punching bag or at worst, I see on their face the expression of disgust whenever they saw me. One guy even blatantly says my face is "flat and ugly", "that I smell bad". There was field trips where the teacher passed out sheets to write down who students would like to be with and who not to be with. And out of my peripheral vision, I could see my name on their paper for "who not to be with". Imagine the loneliness. I'm feeling the "sinking tingles" of loneliness as I'm writing this out. And like you, I cared about everyone and I cared so much. This was 12 - 20 years ago now. I'm 30yrs old now.
But college happened, and it changed my life. I got my first best friend in 1st year of college: Kevin, and 12 years later, we're still best friends. And then as I lived more, more and more best friends came into my life. And then 12 years years later, I realized I have multiple best friends. That I no longer need to define what a best friend means. I would die for any of them.
In middle school, I got beat up by these guys. And the others say I would never be good enough for a girlfriend. And unfortunately, the constant bombarding trauma of that era still affects me as a 30 year old today. I've never had a GF. And it's my fault. It's not like a girl hasn't liked me, but the moment I start liking them too, a switch flips within my "soul" and such an ancient overwhelming self loathing activates and I end up backing out immediately before the relationship even begins. I'm still trying to overcome this. My subconscious still thinks I'm unworthy. I went to medical school partially to propitiate the piece of my soul which bears that weakness.
And years and years off feeling useless, I built an interior that resists all the weariness of this world. I can turn emotions on and off. I've mastered self control.
Right now, I'm a 30 year old in medical school. I had a dream as a lonely beaten child in middle school. Looking up at the night sky, and the infinite potential of the universe, I realized....if I just lived long enough, I could outlive all my bullies. I could outlast all my problems. I could eventually one day find peace. And so I decided I wanted to cure aging and extend my lifespan to out live all problems and that some solution would appear someday if I just lived long enough. Those long nights of wondering about the future.....time flows slowly for a middle and high schooler. And the suffering and loneliness felt infinite. It took the thought of infinite lifespan to allow me to overcome that.
Now as a 30 year, I have already spent over 20 years of my life trying to research and extend lifespan. 7 years in biotech. And I'm almost done with medical school. I will be a doctor. And I will research aging and take care of patients. And along the way on this journey I've invented for myself, I've made the bestest of friends who I see as family and I would die for. I'm finally no longer lonely even though many of us are now countries apart, it almost feels like the world is my friend now.
So my advice from a fellow lonely and hopeless child, is to create a singular purpose for yourself based on the motivating aspects of loneliness. As einstein said to paraphrase, "be a loner, that gives you time to wonder and search for the truth". An then live that purpose. Follow strength of your conviction of your purpose which sprouted from loneliness and you'll make irreplaceable friends along the way.
hey community, i really want kev to see my story. can anyone send this to him. i think it'll help.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps.
Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps.
Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Wow, amazing! I also believe it’s possible to cure aging. I believe it takes a pure spirituality. But also physical health which can follow good spiritual health. And like you said, medical research also helps.
Thanks for sharing! Really amazing story. You’re very resilient. Kevin in this video is also.
Find out What the "Immortal jellyfish" does. Something is keeping the cells mitochondria cleared of waste so it can continue to produce electron energy for the ATP to transfer the electrons to the nucleus to maintain the DNA chains Electromagnetic bonds that hold the base pairs together without loosing the telomerase caps off the end. When a cell divides, it looses a cap every time. that's because the over all voltage or amperage drops and the chain can not hold on to that many caps anymore. Eventually, when enough caps are lost, the cell stops dividing and dies.
Yo bro just went through the whole vid and it’s like a breath of fresh air finding someone that goes through the same struggles as I have. Especially as an Asian man. Keep your head up soldier we will get through this.
I feel you man, growing up in narcissistic family and then trying to find love and not be reciprocated is devastating especially when the same people you are selfless with are selfish in your time of need. Trying to find some truth in a fake world.
Our society (mostly western countries and Europe) are narcs 101
true but you’ll eventually find people who love you for who you are
I agree - I feel you ....
Very well said, I connect heavily
For me, happens every time. When the fair weather friends give me the cold shoulder, I consider it a blessing. I know my strength, and those instances remind me I CAN go it alone.
I'm 71. Dear, you are not ugly. You're a very handsome young man. You tell the truth as you experience it. People suck. That's true. My advice is to do what you enjoy. I promise you things will get better. Don't worry about what people say. You're a survivor, a champion 🏆. I wish you peace and aloha from Hawaii 🤙
I'm 18, I'm a girl, I've been called ugly by boys my entire life...my life has been rough for other reasons too, I have some friends who care, and my family...but I'm really confused in my life right now...
@@Daffodil-xw7nf
I'm 19 years old guy, almost everyone ignores me and always underestimates me and I believe it is due to my look. People fking sucks.
you can wish him food by sending him money on his instagram
instead of empty promish
@@frog6054 i have quite a few people who love me, but I understand what you are going through, when I was a kid, things were worse.
beautiful comment
Kids often are the most honest they’ll ever be in their entire lives. This is what Adults want to say to each other but are too scared to say due to the consequences in society. But yeah, most people are selfish, unfortunately.
* most honest
** adults
Work on your grammar buddy, you made 3 errors.
@@jacksonlewis6694 nobody really cares but you bro
@@Deadpool.... didn't ask for your opinion buddy
Everyone is selfish
Including yourself
Hey I'm 69 and I remember when I was your age that I felt the same way and actually have for most of my life. It's not you the world is full of cruel people. I encourage you to take in a cat or a dog you will experience unconditional love that you just can't get from people that's what brought me healing. Thank you thank you for being so brave and sharing your story
All my love to you 💗
I'm 37. Forced to live at my parents again because of health issues and the ridiculous housing situation in my country. I feel like suicide, I can't have a cat or dog because my parents won't allow it. I'm freaking 37.. I made twice as much as my dad.. but now I can't even have a pet (I agree it's very healing) idk I'm just so done with life
Dude, you’re not even ugly at all. Just because you’re different or one person says you’re ugly doesn’t mean you’re ugly. People are assholes in relationships, friendships, and coworkers. It takes error and trial to find genuine people. I have no friends and I’ve accepted that long time ago, I’m just 30. 😢 but I hear you homie. You’re speaking facts. Sh!t I’ll be you’re reference if you need one.
Woman being physically unable to confront anyone with the truth part 1258.
He's not ugly. You're not a woman so you can't see.
peoples are just so bad nowadays
hate for asian man is too real
Exactly also add bigotry. If you’re not racist you’ll see he’s cute as hell or at least not ugly. Even though Asian men are more sought after these days you have racist b*tches who will never find Asian men attractive due to stereotypes. I don’t get it.@@arbitrarylib
Real crime in life is that " just because you treat people the way you want to be treated doesn't mean they have to do the same"
You're not alone in how you feel. You seem like a real genuine dude, a lot of people would be fortunate to have you as a friend!
Why don’t people try to be polite back when you try to be nice? I never understood why people are that way. Why can’t they reciprocate?
@@austinsy8056 there is this saying if you are not kind to yourself then you won't be kind to others. And many believe kindness is a weakness. Many people forget you can have a balance be kind with boundaries- in other words = being assertive. Everyone seems to forget assertive and remember only aggressive or passive.
This 38 year old man is thankful for your video. I have been feeling this way brother. It’s a cruel system we live in. And it’s really hard not to compare ourselves to others. I’m going to stay away from advice and just tell you that I listened intensely to the whole video and felt EVERY SINGLE THING you said. I felt that connection and it made me feel better and less alone. It’s brave to pour your heart out like that to the world and I’m glad I came across your video, even if it is such a hard and sad thing to hear. I have battled depression for a very long time, and for the past 10-15 years it has mostly been held back, but lately it is starting to worm its way back in. It can get better. It does t mean that the feelings go away or that anything gets easier, but you can learn to make peace with the shit in the world and do your own thing to be a ray of light, even if your influence isn’t very big. You touched my heart and my best wishes for you. I wanted to reach through the screen and give you a big hug, I could use one right now myself.
Hey bro, we’re in this together.
With a little effort, good things and good people will come eventually.
As corny as it may sound, Just remember that God does love us, and through Jesus Christ we have something to look forward to!
Maybe I’ll meet some if you guys in eternity 😃
Best of wishes big dawg, you’ll know what’s it like to be happy again, I promise.
Bro, I did not listen to your rant, but life in this temporal domain is difficult. What I find helps me is to (1) thank The Creator for everything. I even thank Him for my coffee, for the honey to put into my coffee, for my food, for my health, etc. Gratefulness provides a positive way of looking at the world and one's situation and is more healthy than focusing upon what we want but do not have, etc. We each have more things to be grateful for than we can enumerate.
(2) I study and try to live out the admonitions of The Bible. The entire Bible can be summarized as teaching us how to love others and we love ourselves (Matthew 7:12).
(3) I try to exercise often (almost everyday).
(4) I try to eat healthy.
(5) I do ministry work to help others when I am able.
(6) I go kiteboarding when I am able. When I lived near the ocean, I used to surf when I could.
Maybe Jesus could Help brother
lol
His pain is sincere, and he speaks with authenticity.
I respect that, and admire the purity in his pain.
As a 24 year old, I understand your struggle. And I’m sorry this is happening to people so young, going through depression and anxiety is not easy. Hoping everyone can find a way around this global problem. Take care y’all.
Hell yeah....
instead of seeking love, wy not just minding our own business. problem solve
Western society has become so privileged that they became narcissists, that is why they are mindless zombies living their pointless lives @@archravenineteenseventeen
@@archravenineteenseventeen savage lmao
@@archravenineteenseventeenThat's my solution at this point
This was the first thing that popped up for me this morning and it’s exactly how I’ve been feeling. You’re not alone. Society today sucks
All my love to you 💗❤
A man once told me "life's a bitch, then you die". I learned this and lived better after that acceptance. Life didn't get better, but I lived better. Life can get better but it doesn't happen for everybody.
I was told “life’s a bitch and then you marry one”
@@bradhienzacharyyes, many men say that females are nothing but trouble. For a long time I didn’t wanna believe that because it sounded too harsh… but I’ve learned that it’s the TRUTH
I remember hearing that as a marine in the military. LMAO
@@jollygood666 ok, Verve 😉 lol
sometimes life’s a bitch and you keep living.
I'm now 67 and I resonate with everything that you say.
Your right it begins with parents putting you down not recieving the validation so needed in childhood.
Comming out of a disfunctional childhood where there is possibly abuse or lack of love sets you up for a lifetime of trauma as that word out there has nothing to offer you.
I worked as a nurse for over 40 years give give give...with nothing comming back. I hit burnout many times ending up once in a psychiatric unit.
The hardest thing of all is loneliness that is sooo hard where you realize that no one gives a shit about you.
Your a lovely handsome young man with a beautiful soul.
I wish you all the love and luck in the world💖🌹
this realization comes in for many first generation kids/children of immigrants. we’re taught to prioritize others but in america /canada it’s best to build yourself first
As somebody who moved to Japan, I can tell you that the other side is absolutely brutal as well. I love Japan, but you would be hard pressed to go more than 2 minutes without having somebody point out something that's wrong with you, or some social standard you're not living up to. It can be March 31st and 70 degrees outside, but if you're not wearing winter clothes and a jacket you'll have every single person you meet ask you "Aren't you cold!?. What's wrong with you?" THIS GUY ISN'T SOCIALLY NORMAL! And then it could be literally 40 degrees the next day, but now it's April and 98% of the country decides that it's time for spring clothes. "Aren't you hot!?!"
Seems like a petty complaint, but anyone who's lived here knows what I mean haha. The drone mentality and toxic collectivism can turn every interaction into some kind of mini job interview, where the prize is that you aren't publicly ridiculed, shamed, or more often ignored.
And again, I love Japan for a lot of different reasons, but the way people treat strangers here, at least in the big cities, is literally like they're looking through you. You often see people crying or hurt at train stations, and literally thousands of people just walking by them. "Just don't make eye contact. Don't make eye contact. They have no relation to me. If I don't make eye contact the problem goes away." There is a sense of community in Japan, but it tends to be rooted in this desire for everybody to live up to a social standard, and definitely not in sharing snacks or juice boxes like this guy said haha. Sometimes this can be a good thing. But I miss the genuinely kind people who take action in the US at times. It's rare, but almost unheard of here. Once you break through the shell, Japanese people are uncharacteristically kind. But I can't imagine a more lonely place to float through life without genuine connections than downtown Tokyo.
Lol
We build ourselves by building up others, at least that's how it should be
@@Evan_Starkgo to Tochigi. Tokyo is far more westernised and combines the toxic elements of both cultures. People are too busy and don’t know if their kindness will be appreciated. It’s fear that controls people.
For me as an introvert I liked Tokyo. The food was weird but I liked how people let me do my own thing. I never experienced the jacket thing but there is a group think mentality when it comes to the “look” that you’re meant to strive for. In the countryside there isn’t so much of that shell of professionalism and that’s why Osaka people with their more blunt speech and funny accents are mocked by some Tokyo residents.
@elizabeetle13Well that’s a bit weird that you’re into segregation but yeah a part of that is people don’t really bother you like in England. Some parts of England like the school I went to people are too nosy, at least for me.
My guy is spitting facts for this generation, absolutely spot on, mental health, declining economy, loneliness, everything is bang spot on the bullseye.
Now we all just drift through life and just don't even know where they stand in society.
Now we just play *great asset* to relief the pain.
Avoid the poon. Problem solved.
@@monk4everNah just use it to your advantage.
@@TheFracturedfuture no the actual solution isnt that 'sex' or 'women' are the problem. That makesw up 10% of life. Loving friends can make you feel appreciated as a person too. Stop blaming women for all your issues. Its always the sexless ones saying stuff like this
@@theceechnobody here is blaming women 💀
@@theceech Lol when did I say that women were the problem.
Lol it seems like you're the sexless one, you sound frustrated.
Consider it a blessing that you're coming to terms with this at a young age. I was you at age 23, crying in my car over this crushing realization. Accepting it and moving forward will make you a stronger man. Life will get better.
Remember to pay yourself first, and extend your generosity only to those who deserve it (this will be exceptionally few people). Have no shame in putting yourself first in all aspects of life, because this cold world only cares about what it can take from you.
Life never got better for me
Damn, that's cynical. While I don't think you are wrong It may be prudent to be a bit more optimistic. "He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you." -Nietzsche
Live keeps getting worse for me I'm tired of trying to please people that are two faced and narcissistic assholes I'm autistic and suffered with borderline personality disorder and have horrible mood swings and rage outburststhat got me in legal trouble do yeah no I hate life and I hate humanity my ex physically and mentally abused me for being different then a average person should be....not my fault I was born with genetic defects....I hate myself and hate society I'm done trying
How are you now?
Womp womp
God I wish I could go up to him and give him a big hug 🫂❤. The sweetest guy.
I've been in your place a few times. I empathize. I got tired of "doing everything everyone else is doing to try to "fit in". I am 48 now and working in manufacturing. I like to build things. I quit a higher paying job to do what I enjoy as opposed to what is going to give me more money. The key is to live within one's means. Seriously, don't go to malls and buy stuff to "enhance your image". You are good the way you are. The world has become more narcissistic (lacking empathy and caring). Know that you are not alone. I used to cry thinking I needed someone. Yes, friends are nice to have, but YOU are the only one you can trust. A wise person once told me..."we come into this world alone, and we leave this world alone". It's true. Although we spend even 9 months attached to our mother, we are INDIVIDUALS. Every negative experience you have helps you grow as a person and builds your resiliency. Most importantly, as you age you will "come back to yourself". You realize that the love of Self is important. Yes, the world can be a lonely and cold hearted place. But you are not alone. We stand with you, Brother.
As a 21 year old man, I relate to this mindset bro. Don't give up we in this together 💪🏽
@hedwigugla8836i invite you to islam,in islam,we believe this life is just a test,a temporary station
I can tell! Im up for the challenge though!@hedwigugla8836
@hedwigugla8836 yooooo I'm 30 and I can confirm
I guess I'm the youngest here haha@@sussybaka5322
21 year old Griff user = (
I’m 26 years old and this video is so relatable, this generation shouldn’t have to go through such extreme quarter life crisis.. we’re loneliest then ever! societal expectations and brutal rejection when you try your hardest to change your financial situation and life has really taken a toll on me.. this world will chew you up and spit you out with no mercy it’s insane
We built ourselves the most agonizing system not worth living in.
im 26 too and i feel you man, shit feels pointless
@@matthewwhite1728We didn't build anything, this is all the selfish AF boomers' fault. Most selfish, entitled, lazy generation EVER. Since cavemen to now, the boomers are by far the worst generation ever. They f'ed us all. They worked easy careers and took vacations while they knowingly watched the financial institutions destroy society and they didn't just do nothing they enabled it with their own greed and laziness. Blame it on the 60 and 70 year olds selfishly riding around in their boats and Mercedes convertibles while their grandchildren face a nightmare they created.
My parents really looked at this fucking shit and went "Yeah I think this is good". What the fuck. @@matthewwhite1728
Me too, even things that logically should have worked out… just been snatched away by algorithms and society and lack of much needed support. No hope, completely bleak
Hope getting that out made you feel better. Yep people can be cruel. Stick around and dont give up ok. You’ll look back this vid 20-30 years from now and know so much more about life than you do at the moment. Your a young man stay strong through the hardest times which isn’t easy. Good luck little brother.
With this wave of sadness, depression and suicide... the new definition of "success" is simply staying alive, with people taking themselves out left and right.
God loves you and he wants a relationship with you he wants to give you peace even in hard times and his love that surpasses all understanding he cares about you and wants to free you from sin and he wants to save you if you would let him and accept his Son the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross for us
Eternal life is getting to know the one true God and whom he sent the Lord Jesus Christ who died on the cross and shed his blood for us so that we can have Eternal life , he can free you from those thoughts
@@haisay8674 i'm christian too but dude, not everyone wants to join a religion
If you off yourself, you didn’t deserve life. Your soft. You need to battle!!
@@daguy7575 you know its usually an issue of chemical imbalances in the brain right? Though a trigger is usually present, something bad doesn't even have to happen, you might just wake up one day and find that you really want to take your own life. Many people have had their lives changed completely by someone who later took their own life, to say that they never deserved life, that they never deserved to touch other lives, is completely disgusting.
Continue making house music, I think that you're really going to do great things there :)
@@YegoKroeten look I didn’t mean to be so hard on the guy, I just don’t like it when people seem like they’ve lost their fight… I have had my own battles with poor mental health, and I would like to see people come out on top on the other end of things! Thank you for your kind words, I will continue making music as it is my passion. Take care 🤟
Brother, you are not ugly by any means. You appear to be in decent physical shape and seem to have a down to earth personality which is far more important. I felt like you were describing my life growing up with everything you mentioned. From wanting to seem "normal" to being nice to everyone only to have those phonies ignore me when I reached out to them. You are definitely not alone in feeling out of place in this sick world we live in.
I was in your shoes for awhile where I was going to college for a degree I wasn't even interested in, just doing it because teachers pressured me to go to college after high school. I ended up getting my CDL as soon as I got my degree and I can say it's one of the best decisions I made. Easy money, and work doesn't even feel like work a lot of the time. I don't know what my life would look like if I entered the corporate rat race, but I am thankful to have found my passion at such a young age.
I don't know if you're a religious guy or not but I found God for the first time in my life when I was 20 and that turned things around in my social life for the better. The people I met at my school's Christian group were just what you were wanting in relationships- down to earth, non judgemental, and care about who you are as a person, not what physical looks or possessions you have. Even if you don't have any friends in real life, your posting of these videos is making a positive change in other peoples' lives, and you have the support from people on the internet.
if you're not part of the top 5% of men, women consider you ugly. Why does a christcuck have 666 on their name?
he's not ugly but what is meant by ugly here is probably because he's asian in a western country. Probably in an area where there's not many or any asians but idk.
He’s definitely not ugly. He looks like he could be in a Kpop band but idk if that’s a compliment any self respecting Asian guy would really want. Disregard that. He’s attractive and idk why he struggles with girls. Ive been told I am attractive but I still struggle.
You work in software field?
I borderline want to show this to my therapist because of how well you’ve articulated how I’ve felt, and what I’ve experienced, for a long time. In a sense, it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thank you.
The world is a savage place and it’s literally an uphill battle for many of us. I have had moments in my life where I lost everything and had to carry that burden of starting fresh from nothing. It really is quite a journey life is, and most of the time these days it’s just extremely difficult.
we need more dudes making this content. This shit saves lives. It makes people feel heard.
The scriptures admonishes to prey always! God cares - always!
AMEN.
Been living like this for 10 years man, and I’m pretty sure I’m gonna have many more years of living like this. I stand in solidarity with you.
This is so relatable. Your skin is glowing, you are totally handsome! I have awful acne I don't bother covering up any more so I appreciate clear skin so much more now.
🎉You are so beautiful Waw! 😻🌞
I can relate to this video on another level, from friendships, to relationships, loneliness, the feeling of worthlessness, everything.
😢💯💯
I’m 25 and I came to the realization that life is a struggle. What really matters is friends and family. 80% of your life will be mundane and boring that’s ok. Even for billionaires it’s the same. But that 20% where you laugh dance and enjoy conversations is worth while. Find joy in suffering, put yourself through challenges and you’ll see yourself grow and the world around you become easier to navigate
I am 60 and I agree with your wise comment. Blessings to you. 25 is such a special age. You seem to be on the right path. God bless you.
Great advice thanks !
Family is a big part of my stress 😩I love them but they’re draining
Brother, you have immense power and you just have to tap into it and you can do, have and be what you want. God doesn't live In the sky; it lives In you right now.
Did you vote for potato head? Well did you??!!!
Brother you’re not ugly. You have a great heart. Keep going bro
The universe is really speaking to me tonight. I’ve stumbled across so many videos that are touching on my exact feelings of loneliness and other things that I thought I was the only one feeling. You are helping so many people by making this
The best life lesson I can give you, my friend is that you deserve the same love you give to others.
Not really much of a lesson. That's completely dependent on another person to make him feel better.
@@centipedekid9824 What?? No. It means the opposite. It means one deserves just as much love that they give to others if not more. It doesn't mean a person should make their attitude or the way they love themselves exactly like how they treat others.
@@moonnexus3523 The issue is you think you should be rewarded by other people for how you behave. Thats clearly the issue he has now he was brought up thinking like this when in reality you might not get anything back and you need to be ok with that. If you arent you'll wind up depending on other people's validation for your happiness and as we can see through him thats not working out well.
@@centipedekid9824 Nope. My message was that people deserve the same love they give to others. I never said anything about expecting it back nor that they are entitled to it. It simply means to love yourself just as much as you try to for others.
@@centipedekid9824 their message literally means you should value and love yourself just as much as others, idk how you got message that people should depend on others to make them feel better. It means literally the opposite of depending on others.
This hurt me to watch such a young soulful man go through so much pain. Know that there are people who care. I promise you, the masses will disappoint but the special ones show up when you least expect it. Please keep your head up sweetheart, the world needs you here and to keep sharing your authentic voice.
Truth, I feel your pain my friend. I even tried to explain this to my family, but they gave me the same generic suggestions and when that doesn't work, they shun and ignore me and tell me to stop being negative and pessimistic. It's honestly so degrading and irritating to say the least and finally waking up to this shit is freeing but depressing in those regards. I just see no point to this life and so many poor ass parents are okay with casually popping out children with no trust funds or actual plans for their futures besides the status quo and if they aren't interested, they turn on them and kick them out. This shit is such a drag and I blame my parents for it every single day of my life.
What generic suggestions did they give exactly?
I agree with the part that parents should take good care of their children and have good plans for them
To many dont
Thats a huge problem
But you know i will try to motivate you with something but will you listen?
I doubt it .
At the end of the day we are responsible for the outcome of our life
You need to work hard to achieve things
Of course if your parents did something bad to you then yes they are to blame for that
But we cant just give up in life
If you want inspiration try to find videos about Christianity
Because only God can heal your pain fully
Thats your choice though
In any case i hope and pray you will have a better life .
@dude9318 What I meant is that they tell you how to act, feel and perceive the world when they are fully aware the problems it has yet are okay with casually popping out children without a plan in sight besides raising them and tossing them out into the world to endure the rat race and beyond. They expect us to be grateful for their *"SaCriFiCes"* even though they made that choice when it came to having children. I am also not religious so that Christianity aspect has no relevance to me whatsoever.
Said something to this effect to my best friend. I'll admit, I did insult her when she literally left the call because it was "too stressful". But if your best friend gets a PCOS diagnosis and you're just not there, the least you can do is make your friend feel validated. She doesn't talk to me anymore.
Tired of this life too.
@dontburstmybubble686 I feel your pain my friend, it never goes away even though people tell you otherwise, smfh.
@@TheGoldenPlatoon757 the problem is that you have to work towards making your pain go away. That's what everyone forgets to tell you. You have to work to make things seem less important to you than they used to be.
I felt your tears bro. I wish I had your mindset when I was your age. It’s a cold world. Keep making videos. You reach people. Although you was sad in the video, it’s therapeutic for people like me hearing. Makes you feel your not alone. Be safe, you will get through this. Your built like that.
This entire video was a carbon copy of my life. I am in my forties and one thing I have learned along the way is that *I have to create my own happiness.* Waiting on someone else to make you happy might not ever come. The first step of my journey to happiness was to let go of ALL the toxic people in my life, family and friends. Since I am an introvert, I wasn't all that upset about being left alone.
The next step of my journey was to do hobbies. I absolutely love DIY crafts so I have learned to crochet, knit, woodwork and now I am learning to sew my own clothes using natural fibers like cotton, wool, silk and linen, no toxic plastic polyester and AZO dyed fabrics. Finding a hobby and doing something that you love to do will do wonders for your mental health, no toxic meds needed. Hobbies will help keep your mind occupied and you will also find joy in creating something. By the way Kev, you are not ugly.
I’m much younger, and I agree with this advice. I also went through the exact same phase as Kev.
I was miserable for so long because I felt like my happiness depended on having people around me to make me feel worthy. And I was miserable when the people around me didn’t meet my expectations. They weren’t there for me the way I expected them to be. Then I did the same thing as u. I focused on climbing myself out of the hole. I gave up on waiting for something external to randomly come into my life and fix it. I pulled myself up by the bootstraps and dragged myself through hell to find what will make me happy. I had to fight back against years of negative thinking and pessimism. I had to learn to believe that I deserve happiness, and that nobody else will give it to me.
I’m still fighting that battle. But my life has gotten infinitely better over the past couple of years. It all started with me focusing on my passions, and working towards improvement. Not for somebody else to love me. So that I know without a shadow of a doubt that I have the power to achieve anything I want in this life, and it comes from me. It comes from within.
Focusing on doing what I love to do and working on becoming a better person has made my life infinitely better. And now I have hope, because I know that I have the power to give myself happiness.
Focusing on your passions is great advice !
Brother you're not ugly. People are fake as fuck in this world. I've been through the same shit as you. I never fit in, I had to put on a facade and adopt a group identity countless times until I started being myself. I was always the one supporting everyone, and when I was down, my closest friends never reached out or gave a fuck about me. I called them out on that shit, and some have changed for better and some have left my circle, even after 10+ years of friendship. One thing I will say for certain, you will find genuine people out there. They are rare but they do exist. I've found some myself and they will always embrace you no matter what. Work on yourself. Go to the gym and build your body. Strong body = strong mind. Spend some time sitting in silence and meditating, focus on quieting your mind and filtering out needless bullshit that detracts from your inner peace. For me it was meditating on God, but I appreciate that not everyone has the same experiences. I do all this myself and it works. You have to appreciate the solitude, as an introvert it recharges you considerably. The reason you feel like you dont belong is because you have a way bigger purpose. You're not meant to be as fake and NPC as the people around you. You just have to figure out what that is and you'll find your place in the world. I'm still on the hunt myself, I'm tired of looking too. But its not gonna find itself bro. Only you can do that. I can say for certain that if you are starting that journey or are conscious of that you're already in a better position then where you were. We lack lack purpose. Thats why we're miserable. There's more to life than living paycheck to paycheck.
I agree with u people r fake as fuck
I had people telling me that im a Playboy whereas on the other said other guys called me really ugly, its just life. A lot of time people just want to hold you down or are being dishonest
You matter bro. We all love you. Please stay alive for us. This helped so much
You're living. I'm upper 40's, this is life. I too am nicer than most and that took 40yrs for me to completely learn that lesson. My siblings, cousins, fake friends have all showed me how truly mean most humans are. Stay strong young man! This is how we learn the world. Life doesn't suck, but it's not gonna be easy. We fight for the laughs. Protect your heart and know you're not alone. We all love you, brother! 💪💪
“My siblings, cousins, fake friends have all showed me how truly mean most humans are.” I’m in a similar situation 🤗
I’m okay without those fake people. I came to this world alone, I leave this world alone :))
Who tf hangs out with their cousins at 40 tho lol
This is why we shouldn't have cure for cancer made public
@@_TheDarkHalfI never knew it was weird now to be around family at 40🤔
“Fake friends” … he knows. 🙏
Y’all take heed of that right there.
Protect your resources (time, money and emotional energy) because they’re finite. 🥰
A warm hug for you my friend. You're just more mature and intelligent than many other people out there, and the price you pay is often to feel that way. I had the same situation as you and the same feeling as you. My advice is to always look for the best in people, always, expect the worst, but look for the best. Otherwise you will enter a vicious circle and loneliness can become something else. And we don't want that, right? Come on boy, I love you
Stay real my friend. We need and this world need more people like you. With pure and clean heart.
Dude you're just too nice. I had to learn that lesson the hard way too. I studied med for over a decade, I thought everyone would be proud of me, no matter how much I sacrificed, I felt like it would eventually be worthwhile. But ultimately, I learned what I needed to learn, and realized nobody gave a shit if I made it or not. It wasn't even about me, I did it for everyone else, but when I finally accepted the fact nobody cared, I just said to hell with it.
There are givers and takers. Unfortunately, the system we have elected punishes philanthropy and rewards selfishness.
That's why good people like you get screwed over. It won't always be this way, one day good people will get what they deserve, but unfortunately that's not the world we live in yet.
And finally, I'll leave you with this ,I think you're a very beautiful, sweet and intelligent person. Even though I don't know you I count you as a friend, and think the world would be a better place with more people like you in it.
bro you cant expect everyone to be pure hearted like you, not everyone will be there for you when you need them, sometimes you have to go at it alone
I thinks it’s shocking to any normal human being to be shocked when they see their friends are snakes. It’s not expecting for someone else to be pure like them. It’s about trusting them and being fucked over.
@@Nhmusicoffish I'll keep it brief. Had a very large group of friends until my marriage of thirty years suddenly ended thanks to my cheating wife. Very quickly found out who my friends were. That was nearly eight years ago and as a result of my ex's behavior the only female I trust is my dog and no, I'm not an, 'incel' I CHOSE to be celibate.
i think he realizes that and has experienced that fact plenty.
That's literally the problem, that's why I'm not a fan of individualism
I'm 21 years old. Couldn't relate more to this video. I'm sorry your going through this time but you will look at this video later in life and see how far you've come by doing what YOU wanted to do and what YOU needed to do, to make yourself, happy. Much Love Kev your a good guy.
Amen!
Same !!
Wait until you put a couple more decades into your life. The truth is there, learn it early and prosper!
Bro i am 21 too
I'm 23 💀
As a 19 year old African-American man this really hits me deep because I lived in exact life just like you lived and it really is heartbreaking to know that things like this are actually happening around me right now.
Hang in there mate. I'm 60. Yes life sucks, but trust me the good things in life will come...you just have to work at it.
Please don't give up. Take care because I do for you.
ok boomer
@@C-R-l-M-S-O-Nyou thought that was funny? You do know you will be old someday.
@@High2GetBythat's not the point. The okay boomer meme points out that boomers are fucking clueless and entitled, and had everything handed to to them on a silver platter. Their advice, experience and worldviews don't match up with current reality, yet they keep sticking their nose in and waffling nonsense like 'just be happy, get a job and pay for a house and get married. Don'tbe lazy! Kids these days!' when they can only draw from fairytale memories of how delusionally easy life was for them.
@@C-R-l-M-S-O-N Don't let those Tide pods get you before you turn 60 kiddo.
@@High2GetBy Hopefully I never become a boomer
Otherwise, the time truely came to kill myself
Man I saw this early this morning and it's been bugging me. As someone who was suicidal from 18-27 I wish I could say the right thing but no one could tell me shit back then. Bro please keep going you seem like such a good dude my circle would love someone like you around.
Wow I’m so happy to see all the people being supportive! It’s really refreshing also seeing men being supportive to each other and taking it upon themselves to support each other’s emotional well being.
You are so adorable and young. You have so much to look forward to. Nice people often don't feel or get it in return. Happiness is a choice, be grateful for what you have. You have a great character and you are kind. The right girl will come along and appreciate your kindness. I promise you! pursue what makes you happy in life and the right person will come along. You are not ugly, not at all!
Hang in there dude. Life can really suck, but without all the suck you won't appreciate the good as much.
The fact that you have opened your heart and spoke on behalf of thousands says a lot. Many will be praying for you, unbeknown to you. Please do not give up and suicide. Please don't... prayer to God in Jesus name will bless you. Change your name to a more properous name, go and see a church pastor and ask for deliverance. Friend please don't do anything you'd regret.
You aren't average, bro. You're a good-looking guy and well spoken. Keep your head up and pray to our lord for guidance.
All these are irrelevant without the money 💵!!! That’s how this system is . Unfortunately..
@pickywolf2728 say what you want, but our pockets were full with the last administration.
@@stevecoronado8608 I repeat : Money dictates how people perceive u. U might be good looking but it’s irrelevant without money 💰. Anything else, sir?
@@pickywolf2728 are you currently employed? If so, do you like your job?
He needs to fix his hair that’s all.
Ive had also been taken granted, a lot of times. Thats why i learned to shut myself down, stop caring and trusting and just think of myself. I always deny to myself that im not vulnerable but the truth is i get overwhelmed easily emotionally and mentally and it takes a lot to conceal it.......
All my love to you 💗❤😊
Its theraputic to know im not alone. Thank you for opening up and sharing your struggles man, we’ll get through this! 🤝
You are so HANDSOME & SMART my guy 💯 Life is hard but it does get easier! You learn to find your inner peace as you go along 🙏🏼 Just hang in there bro seriously! We’re all here for you and rooting for you! Do NOT Ever think you’re not built for this world! You’re here for a reason and a purpose! NEVER GIVE UP PLEASE
TELL HIM !!!
How did it get easier?
Turn every reason to leave...into every reason to stay
acceptance and grit while never losing hope. Take pride in your struggle don't be ashamed of it, it will subside quicker like that. Basically drain the depression by making it known but NOT DWELLING in it and read 'How To Win Friends and Influence People' and 'The 48 Laws Of Power'. It will give you wayyy more clarity about life@@nsasupporter7557
You’re not alone. You’re literally telling my life story bro. It’s tuff and honestly. I’m not okay. The day to day is still tough.
I’m young, almost 18, and lately I’ve been feeling sad. I don’t cry, I don’t get mad, I’m just sad. It’s such a hard feeling to understand. I feel like the people I once thought as friends are now drifting away, and that I’m gonna be left out of everything from now on. I just don’t wanna be treated like an issue, a side piece, that doesn’t matter. It’s so annoying and really hits you hard.
After I hit thirty I think I finally started to stop caring because it does suck. That being said, the key is finding the right people and not befriending the toxic people; they’re out there.
Same here. The blessing of age, is that the older you get, the less you care. Its freeing, and you become naturally more discerning, and picky about the people you allow into your life.
Wow same . I turned 31 and just realized what an emotional rollercoaster the 20s were. One time I read a comment that said, "your twenties are like going through puberty all over again just with your emotions"....
Yes, toxic people will make you feel bad and doubt about yourself. Better to stay out of it
Reminds me how important it is for us man struggling to support each other, Everytime I have a chance to congratulate or cheer up a fellow human I do it, cuz I know how hard it is. We are in this together guys.
Thank you bro for giving us a platform to share our views and speak our truth.
You are a true and valuable human being, have no doubt about this !
Thanks for saying that for us. And your damn right.
video gave me chills, i never knew somebody else is going exactly through the same thing im going through in Egypt. your not alone Kev i swear people like us exist, we cant lose that spark of kindness that we had as kids
I'm going through the exact same things he's going on about too and I'm a 40 year old black woman in South Africa...
@@Somegirl3602 it gives me comfort knowing im not alone in this. life doesnt have to be all dark and depressing i still believe in the kindness we all had when we were children, we just need to build our own positive communities, this may sound insane but i am planning on saving money and building a farm in a far away land in Egypt and build my own community of settlers and educate them myself and just live a quiet and busy life with my family (one day tho)
I have been there. To be honest life will not get easy when you wait to be. There are so many uniqueness in you that others cannot compete because it is yours. No one can take it from you. It is authentic you and please trust yourself and take that pressure from yourself. One is perfect, life is not perfect but that doesn’t mean’t mean you should hide.. you are in this world for a reason and if you look at it with your spirit, it will be your awakening soon. Step by step, push it forward young man!
This is real and raw. I'm 34 and it's been my reality for the last 10 yrs. I just take naps.
🥺 I pray God has his hand over all aspects of your life, I pray you receive an abundance of success.. peace.. prosperity.. sincere family connections with those who genuinely love you.. financial stability and emotional emancipation from all your struggles
@@MiaMia____ Thank you luv. I praying and wishing for the same to you.
Amen
@@MiaMia____ god does not exist
Yes he does @@Sky-fk5tl
it’s funny cause you’re the guy other people envy - handsome, young, has a degree, good charisma, kind, loyal etc. Shows to go everyone struggles. Hope things get better man
he's not handsome
@@tonywong1248 you have no pfp
@@tonywong1248he is to me, it's almost like some people are attractive to others, and not everyone is everyone else's type.
bro, is he ugly ? no, so he is good looking @@tonywong1248
@@tonywong1248even though I am not a gay man, I disagree with you, and I think that’s very unkind of you to say that. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and you were the guy in this video, feeling depressed and down because others repaid your kindness to them by walking all over you and treating you like shit, and to top it off you see a harsh comment like yours when your self esteem is low enough as it is. All I’ll say is I hope for your sake you don’t have to experience this.
I relate to everything this guy is feeling. Life does suck and every year is harder than the last. Like a horrible dream some days.
same it was all true
Not for me. Every year gets better for me.
Don't brag about that around people. Life is a joke. You can't even know what will happen tomorrow. So move in slience without braging@@monk4ever
@@monk4ever Cool buddy, and i hope if you do get successful you change the world in an actual way to help the average people who the world doesnt ever get better for. Like the guy in the video, or the people in the comments. They all have more potential then you can even imagine, But potential needs to be drawn out and nurtured. Very rarely does it bloom on its own. When you are beat down enough, and in a certain mindset, its very hard for people to see the world clearly. Its why they need guidance and family and friends to help them.
We are human, not everyone can be strong on their own and so much potential is lost everyday because of it. So telling people to just "solve the problem" like you have spammed in the reply's helps noone at all. Its people like you, that people feel this way in the first place. They need love, connection and loyalty. Not whatever your giving. Mature emotionally please. Has understanding humans never been a point of interest for you? maybe too concerned with yourself? Its very interesting, i suggest trying it.
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
i'm so fucking tired of being tired.
You're not alone my dude. First off, you're not ugly. Second, the criticisms and comparisons people throw at you are a projection of their own insecurities. And third, it's not that you're not meant to be in this world, it's just that this world doesn't deserve someone as sincere and genuine as you. Keep holding on and stay strong.
not to annoy but please know that we have all did evil (sin) and we are punished to death and since we do evil and reject God we will go to hell but God lovingly provides a way out through Christ where we can be saved if we trust in Gods work on the cross. Turn from your sins and tell your sins to God as Christ makes it possible for us to be forgiven (read John 3:16 please)
The world does deserve genuine people. Don't give in to misanthropy.
@@thesterrave You can't reject that which evidently isn't there. Read John 3:16 to your heart's desire; it means nothing if you're not even remotely convinced.
@@ominous-omnipresent-they he is evidently there, the eyewitnesses who wrote or helped write the Gospel accounts, prophesies of Christ 100's or 1000's of years before him, gravity existing ,etc
what is bro talking about@@ominous-omnipresent-they
As hard as it is to accept right now, what you said is 100% correct, coming from an older guy. I used to volunteer, work for free, and pay the company's wages with my hard work, and they one day decided to kick me out for the most trivial reasons. Yeah, they liked it when I was doing something for them. But then I realised how easily I could be replaced. I was chucked to the curb after paying their wages for a year. Then they washed their hands clean of me like I was nothing but a piece of shit. Welcome to reality. Now, I don't believe in volunteering or helping people any more. I live for myself, do what I want, and guess what? I've never been happier. No stress, nobody "expecting" anything from me. Fuck these selfish arseholes. They are actually infinitely more selfish than I am.
So you became a selfish proverbial like them? That was your solution? You’re getting older and this way is not gonna save you in the end, take my Wisdom:
Call upon the Name of Jesus and you will be saved. As Him what the truth is. Look at His life and re-read His message without anyone else interfering. And you will see for yourself that their is a better Way…He could’ve chose to be selfish yet He gave His Life for us that we might be saved…
God loves you ❤
Which is why I don't care when a tragedy happens
Live and Learn. Find the middle ground. Find Better People, they exist.
@OLskewL
No.
@@OLskewL Did you not even see your own hypocrisy telling him to find a solution and yet you sit here telling him be religious as the solution. Thats not a solution. You basically just doing what he is doing, shifting the power to save himself by using an external tool (religion, etc, etc) instead of just finding it within and just live life without the bullshit guilt of being obligate to do shit for anyone, everyone, and the rest of the world. Not everyone is meant to do something like that, especially when they don't have the capacity to do so, but yet encourage them on the path of destruction, then later tell them when they fail that they didn't do it right like someone else did, etc, etc.
I'm nearly half a century old, and I remember that life sucked until I was... probably 40. Life gets WAY better. Give it time.
This advice is not always true. If you are a nice decent person and you live in the US or Canada, you are going to have to move overseas. As an Asian dude I would try out Singapore or Thailand.
No, it doesn't get better.. I'm 41, and I'm just simply accepting that life is stupid and pointless. Lowering expectations doesn't and shouldn't equal happiness!!
@@Tom-cp6yj I didn't say anything about lowering expectations.
You are wrong 😡 life never gets better it just keep getting fu cked up more and more
@@Jia-dp9cu my life is better. I don't know what to suggest for others.