If a woman decides to back away, shes playing games and is testing you. Unless shes straight up honest and communicates her intentions which is very rare. She wants to walk, let her walk. No need to over analyze. Reciprocate what you're given cause at the end of the day you cant force anything
6String Pete means she has another source of supply. Another guy, usually not as good as you. But someone new. Meaning she’s feeling some kind of way.....towards him.
Always, always ALWAYS remember this rule!: Don't cry over someone who's NOT crying over you! Always match a womans sudden declining interest in you. If she starts to fade, you start to fade.
Jet Helicopter Truth. I had one play games and then call me months later and say it was because ahe was falling in love with me and got scared 🙄. Mental. 🤔
@@beetleything1864 that's typical women behavior.. i think i love him i wanna hug him i dont need him fuck him im good i dont need him and truthfully i don't want him.. oh but i love him id never hurt him break his fucking heart.
Matthew Carbone - I don’t think he means like that. If your partner is like that then I don’t think she’s a healthy person to be in a relationship with
What i learned from this: Be less available Remain Stoic Match their energy Don't chase. All in All: Those who master their darkside, rule their minds....
Thats literally the entire thing. The hard part is the nuance when you have a woman with different personality involved and knowing which part of that they are attacking. But the best rule is to stay calm, keep your voice low and if youre having trouble just be quiet. Think then speak slowly and in a masculine speaking voice.
Golden nugget right here - If she acts emotionally stable, do be emotionally stable. If she acts emotionally distant, do be emotionally distant. If she acts cold and unaffectionate, do be cold and unaffectionate. If she acts detached and distant, do be detached and distant. If on the other hand she acts clingy, needy, anxious, whiny, sensitive, crazy, or emotional... Either walk away or hold on to that power and relish in it. You’ve won.
From personal experience, the best thing to do when they back away are to leave them be. Why over complicate things? Let her sort out whatever needs to be sorted out and she'll be more inclined to reach out again.
Had a girl back away, I reacted the wrong way of course. But after about a week. I accepted it. Tried to move on. 2 weeks later her and I are speaking similarly and end up hooking up again. She flirts and I flirt and we hook up a couple.more times. When we get more comfortable its again the same thing. She backed away. So this time i am reacting the right way. This time I was expecting it. It feels good to be in control again
If so you need to look at what energy youre giving off that they react to. If youre stable(in all aspects) they have a hard time being allowed to fluctuate. If you make them feel safe, in all those categories they swoon over you. Thats when they fall head over heels.
I've was dumped 2 months ago by my fiance. She told me a few days before that I was her rock, her soul mate, her eternal peace to her heart. She has a lot of insecurity issues, I was always reassuring her. She has a son with anxiety issues and a very destructive daughter with severe anxiety issues. My ex also lost a son in a motor accident a few years ago. I was always there for my fiance, but her daughter wanted her mum all to herself, bearing in mind that her daughter is 32 years old and lives in her own apartment. However, after being told all the nice things about being a soul mate etc, she dumped me 3 days later on the telephone. I've been in bits. I couldn't work for 3weeks and I thought I was going to die. I loved this girl with everything that I have. I never chased her and I've been in no contact for just over 2 months now. I am slowly getting myself back to some kind of normality, but trust me it's been an absolute heart wrenched. All of my family and friends were in total total shock when I broke the news. These videos really help, even know I've accepted that she isn't coming back and I have to move on, but it isn't easy.
Update: 17 months after being dumped. It was a rough road for me. I went through every emotion possible to human beings. As time passed I began to do more for myself. I lost 42lbs in weight, bought new clothes, re-built my business, became busy. Whilst all this was happening, not a day went by where I didn't think of her. Then..... one day something happened to me. I stopped thinking about her, I started to live again. I started to smile again. Each day got better too. The best feeling was waking up and no longer pining for her. The feelings were replaced with the fact that I didn't want her back should she contact me. The power of time is the answer. Today, I feel great and I've started dating again. I have been very cautious naturally. I have become a better person learning from the past. I have now met an amazing lady and we just 'click', as it were. I'm taking it slow, but we have a great connection with each other. What I'm saying here is this.... there will always come a time for you when peace and happiness, will come back in to your life after heartbreak. Time is a great healer. My advice is this. When you've lost your partner for whatever reason, grieve, suffer the emotions, let it all out which will take time. Don't go re-bounding! Work on yourself, do what you love doing, keep busy and then the time will come where you will truly smile again and start living again. Trust me guys, everything works out in the end, but it takes time and you cannot force it. Let it happen naturally, but you will feel great again - even a better version of yourself.
The harsh truth is you chose someone emotionally unavailable and you tried to be her emotion. Thats a losing battle. And you saw when she realized she had her own emotions, boop, sorry peter dont need you. You cant be a category fulfilled in her book. You have to be bigger than her. She has to want to be a part of your story. Its the only way it works. And women who are insecure, or have other issues that will cause problems will weed themselves out if you have your life in order correctly.
Wow, it has been one month and a half since my break, started to do the Workbooks and seeing your videos since day one, today is the first day, that i actually feel happy. Thank you
I’m at a point in my life this very moment where I think this advice helped me SO SO much… almost 6 months in with an incredible woman and she has some personal and work stresses that are really hard on her… she told me last night as I stopped over to reassure her I’m here for her and what does she need from me to help her thru this… I wasn’t prepared for what she wanted… no more hanging out… no good morning texts anymore,… no nightly phone conversations on how both our days were and planning a sat home date..movie n dinner is what she loved to do… and very often a sleepover :-). But no more. No warning. Not ready for how I felt. I’m gonna give her the space she says she needs… it’s hard to not know how she’s doing. But I won’t persist and bug her. I needed this video. Thx very much. I hope it’s the right move…. She’s really a sweet beautiful and funny woman… and we really get along Time will tell I guess.
I believe everyone is different, doesn't matter if you are male or female or whatever. If someone isn't showing an interest with you, ask them if everything is okay and if they don't reply they aren't worth your time anyway. I'd never do that to somebody so if somebody does it to me they will not be hearing much from me again anyway. If they ignore you for days and days and don't get back to you, it's their loss as far as I'm concerned.
These videos by you and Margaret have been a Godsend. I started no contact 4 days ago when she explained how much she loved me but wanted to move on with someone else. I'm starting to get in acceptance mode but it has been difficult.
I've watched alot of video's after a recent break up. And everything you said resonated with me. This is the first video that has helped me feel better. My bio father has been absent my entire life. My mother passed away 7yrs ago and she was my rock. I have extreme separation anxiety after breakups and its a horrific experience. You just gave me something to think about when that anxiety hits me.
Man, if a women is interested in you, she will go out of her way to reach out to you no matter what. I experienced many woman like that who has interest in me even after going cold with them for months or years. If a woman does not have interest in you, and you keep clinging on that feeling, you only hurt yourself. This also happened to me as well, even now and then the feeling will linger, but it will fade away eventually. And when you meet a new woman, then your feeling will be focus on her instead. Just remember one thing, don't be too attached or invested too much of your feeling for one women. Give her at max 60% of your feeling and attention. The rest invest in your friends, family, and hobby
I begged and cried when my ex and I met for the first time after we broke up. For someone that was devoted to me, it was a shock to see her not feel the same separation anxiety as I was. I wasn't great at telling her what she meant to me throughout our relationship so I thought for the first time I would and she would feel wanted and valued. But it didn't make a difference. She did not come home that day and I've not heard from her in 3 months. I think she was emotionally and mentally ready to leave me. I was not ready to leave her and I still miss her every day, 7.5 months later. This is not what I EVER wanted. My reality is hell.
Move on. We all have been there. Engage yourself in other things. Go out with your friends. Visit places. Make new friends. Thats the way bro. Eventually time will heal everything.
I know that you're right and that I should also back away but It's SO hard. It really requires a high level of discipline. My natural reaction is to try and fix it. I'm trying to fight that instinct.
kuunami you're not alone. my ex broke up with me 4 month ago. every time I start the the no-contact I break it at the second or third week. I just can't..
@@shanesteffey1139 womam talk THE SAME. They always, ALWAYS tell each other that she/her as a person should come FIRST. The guy/husband comes second. ONLY THING that will 100% of the time to come first for a woman is their child. OK there are some real great womans that will do hundreds of things for you but it only happens when they are in deep love or when they've already built something important with you and they dont wanna screw it up. SO STOP being a white knight, stop idealising woman as pure and angels cause they dont, they are AT LEAST just like us. STOP virtue signaling or carry on fooling yourself. You can have lucky and find the right girl for you and you can learn the hard way.
Women and men go through the same crap lol. I've seen this video advising men and another advising women and it's the same thing! Most of the time people pull away because fear of getting hurt by rejection or not feeling secure, trusting of you. Women are told if the guy really wants you, he will chase you. I think that if there is unsureness just ask! People in general are afraid of rejection but at the same time fear commitment. First I recommend be completely and utterly happy being single and then go off and be open and vulnerable but with confidence and ease. It's all about attracting quality people in your life not quantity. Be the kind of person you would like to meet and it will happen
u are so right. but men tend to chase more and women tend to back away when a guy really likes them, at the beginning anyway. sometimes the roles are reversed later on though
Yes it should but that's not how it works. I hate those mind games and I wish things were simpler so I could just love and be loved. But I don't have the choice !
Love has turned into games. I think the introduction to texting and such has allowed people to manipulate you and play games with your emotions. Sex being everywhere is also part of it. I can't see how in the old days when there was no electronics and access to sex content was it like this.
@@bentuck7929 Yes it has ways been like this. Go talk to some older folks. It's actually pretty eye opening! Some things have changed but not the big stuff. Also it's not a game. These are processes that are hard wired into us biologically. Every woman I dated including my now wife all pulled away at some point in the courting process. I never looked at it as a game! You just have to picture it this way. You both generate a small magnetic field. So you're both two magnets dancing around each other until youre locked into each other's electro magnetic field. We're all just batteries looking for that spark or charge! Women pull away to subconsciously test your masculine frame. Sometimes she's not into you. But you know when that's the case. Always trust your intuition. If she just stopped for no reason then mirror that behavior and become outcome independent. She needs you to be strong for the both of you. She needs someone who has her emotions under control. This is done to see if you will be a good mate. To see if you're mentally strong enough to protect her at her most vulnerable state. This state is pregnancy and child rearing. These are not games. This is just life. So strengthen your magnetic field and pull. Do not push! Don't be a pushover. You're an amazing person. And if you don't feel that way work on yourself until you do feel that way. You will only ever attract what you are. That's how magnetism works. So love yourself unconditionally first.
@@youtubedrifter5594 Thats a nice speech and all but just one little side note to: "You will attract what you are. That's how magnetism works". It doesn't, opposites attract, same pols repel each other. Your message is right, your analogy is backwards.
No separation anxiety here. I'm perfectly happy being single. I don't need anyone in my life, not even a god. When she pulls away, I do the same to give her space and then I will ask her ''what's going on?'' If she still ignores me, I move on to find someone mature. Simple as that.
Very true. The problem with most these type situations, and ones I've experienced... 9 times out of 10 they were just flings... there was no depth to the relationship. One party was playing the other for either emotional support or sex. If you have a true bond, these sorts of problems are far more rare and end with the girl coming back. But if it was a simple fling, it's usually the end
You really are good, Craig. I'm in a new relationship and it's been a while for me. Things were getting a bit strange between the new girl and I. But it has worked out. You're the best.
There is no point in trying to close that gap. She pulls away for a reason, and pretty much all women pull away at some point during the relationship. The best thing to do is to give her some space and let her come back. If she comes back, cool. If not that is also ok. I think it's unhealthy to become too attached to the outcome.
It is unhealthy but it's also because the majority of men can't just go out and get someone like that the same way women can. They may not get marriage or relationships quickly but they can get hookups and short term things very easily because men are so thristy. Women are always in demand to some degree where most men are not and are invisible most of the time and have to actively work at getting women unless you are the top percent of dudes who don't have to try and they make women wet. There is always much more invested for men in the average couple so it's like easy for so many guys to be more attached. It is unhealthy but it's understandable why men are always the one trying to fix things because it's much harder to just move on.
@@guitarman0365 so instead of making fun of women for taking so much time getting ready in all aspects of life perhaps men should be too? What youre describing is actually a quality issue not a quantity issue. The statistics on population tell us there are plenty of women for men. Most guys are so far off a path of usefulness that women cant find a use for them. Couple with that they still date some of these misguided men and you can see why they are disgruntled with dating. Men hold all the power. If they dont they are not a man. Thats not being rude but in the categories women need to feel safe to develop a true ling term attraction you have to check their boxes. If you are truly following your purpose and invested in yourself they will check them all for you without having to confuse by testing for emotional stability, etc. If she can give you some sexual gratification and you start skiping your gymtime and missing meetings for your livelihood she sees someone swayed from their path by lust and pleasure. A weakling. Not a fun guy.
Not only are your videos helpful for both men and women in terms of steps for success in building a good relationship. But there also very sobering to watch. I was feeling anxious becuase of a situation i'm having with someone i've seen a couple of times, after watching some of your videos i'm feeling a lot better, a lot less depressed, and i feel like i can get on with other things in my life rather than thinking 24/7 about my love interest.
I'm dealing with this right now. I dated a girl for a couple months and she started checking out and pulling away, saying there's no connection and doesn't wanna be with me. I put effort in our early dates and conversations but then she started declining so I let my behavior reflect hers to show what she's doing and what it looks like, it went downhill from there. And we're not even friends on social media and she still goes outta her way to watch what I'm doing...
Been in the same spot. I know its not easy but you got to ignore the shit out of her. She dont deserve you, you deserve much better. Belive me you will find the one.
There's no one way how to do these things homie :-/ the only way is through your gut. Me personally I let her know my feelings towards her, and left it there. No chasing afterwards, just let them know and bounce
@@spartangreg1 i wouldn't necessarily say you should ditch her. Ignore her so she comes back not so she flees. She's a female they're complex but if it's the right one, they're worth it
@@SAMEntalhealth Haha old news now bruh, she trapped some simp that put up with her mess by love bombing and he proposed to her, knocked her up too. I moved onto to a new chick I've been with for two years now. Thanks for the input though, I definitely agree with how you'd handle it.
Basically keep a line up of women so once one of your women starts tripping go on to the next and make the one that was tripping earn back attention and affection. Men are the prize and women are the possession. Never put all your eggs in one basket. Don't feed into the games or the fickle behavior of these women. Men are not toys.
True story, until last Feb I was seeing someone for 5 months until she decided to end it. When she told me I just said my piece and moved on and never contacted her again. A month later she reached out and I asked her for a coffee and she said she'll let me know as she was going away the next week for a few days, so I said ok that is great and left it like that. 3 weeks later she came again and we met, and things between us where like we never finished. But a week later I did not hear from her anymore so I did not contact her or reach out to ask her if she is ok I just moved on. 10 days later she send me "hey how are you???" I just replied "Am good" a week later she texted again with "I don't know what I have done wrong or if you are upset with me for any reason but it does not matter, I just hope you are ok x". I told her that this is confusing for me as I keep on getting mixed signals from you, this was last May. A month later she reaches out in June, we exchanged a few texts but I was a bit cold so it ended quickly and she reached out again a month later, well a few weeks ago. Will see if she comes again lol. Am not asking her out again, if she wants too, she can do that herself, in the mean time I keep on dating other girls and carry on with my life... that's how life goes..
She says ".....if you are upset with me for any reason but IT DOES NOT MATTER", you should drop her like a hot potato. She doesn't want you or care, she just clearly said it. She's just bored, every now and then she checks to see if anything is going on. Waste of time.
If a woman backs away from you let her go and find someone else that's what she has done move on if she comes back dont take her back right away keep her at a distance for the time you were apart and date other women be busy doing you never be in the friend zone never be available.
The sad part is this should be common sense. But guys chase out of insecurity. Live in abundance, date multiple women, and don't chase a woman that backs off. Also if a girl is interested, she will respond to a text or call you back. It is not like you sent a love letter that got lost in the mail. She knows you contacted her. LOL
I talked to this girl for like 3 months and then she said we should just stop talking I did just that,I texted her every now and then but she never replied and we work together and she saw all these girls giving me attention at work and then like a week later she started to talk to me but by that time I had went on many of dates and been chilling with other girls so I really don't care about her anymore and I've deleted her number out my phone,I only speak to her that it,part of me hates her.still
Ryan Deffley ....wish i knew this 2yrs ago. I was in crazy love with someone...she came back to me but i wanted more and chased her. No wonder girls today chase me...because i dont care and didnt know this is what drove women nuts
Robd collector haha I’m not the only one then my gf backed away haven’t heard from her so I’ve been dating just to be on the safe side if you contacts me to break up but I’m not interested in these girls
Excellent advice Coach Craig and of course what many guys don't understand is why a girl goes cold on them. Females are set up on a mating cycle. Generally the two times of the month during her cycle is when she's most receptive the the male and that's when she's ovulating and before and during her periods, this is when her hormones are going crazy but then when these opportune times pass, she will shut down a bit and this confuses the guy cause she was so hot for him the week before and now she's cold. This just doesn't apply to sex but also how receptive she is towards him for communication.
BUT, don't be a doormat where she comes and goes all the time and doesn't invest anything into the relationship. That's not a relationship, that's an acquaintance. BOUNDARIES, people!
Who wants to be in a relationship where the woman's feelings change 24/7? Doesn't sound like a "secure base" to me. Sounds exhausting never knowing how they feel. If her emotions are irrational like that you might be better off finding a girl with a more secure attachment style.
i been doing this for this girl at work i fked up with her but i backed away and i started to notice she been walking past me lately i never seen her near my area ever
After watching Craig's videos I'm convinced everything happens because of seperation anxiety. Car won't start? Car is anxious Lose your job? Your boss is anxious McDonald's screw up your burger? Employee is anxious
Thanks Craig for your advices, Today I started feeling bad because a girl but that´s true, I have to stay cool and relaxed, and have confident on myself. Greetings from Mexico.
There should be a book of quotes said by Craig like: "feelings change like the clouds in the sky" or "you are the mountain" Many Thanks for you insight buddy!
And sometimes when you get these women they are not even worth the hassle it took to get them smh. All that time,energy,effort and money you put into it and then you see the real monster that you’ve been trying to get
Yeah, he texted too much. But she could have told him that ahead of time. Hey, I'm going to spend some time with a friend of mine. Talk to you in a few day! Instead, she just disappears and when he acts like a normal human being and wants to know what the heck happened, reaches out for a response, its all his fault? He messaged too much, but she acted childish disappearing like that.
Yeah, this happened to me. I might have been too needy, may be trying to advance things too fast, and she suddenly got busy. Its been tricky the past 3 weeks, i backed way off, then she asked to meet up last week. Now she hasn't responded to a text in 3 days. Girls are so confusing. I'm gonna back away again.
Any guys had a girl tell you she loved you, then she disappeared shortly after? Had this happen to me more times than I can remember. Mentally unstable liars. :o)
hahaha.. you are not alone bro..has happened with me a couple of times.. recently, there was this girl who was ready to jump from a cliff for me, ready to marry me at any fkin day of the week. but I don't know what happened, she started ignoring calls/messages and getting mad at tiny things, and all those regular bullshit.. I knew what was coming and I myself detached from her, deleted every single photos of her from my phone, blocked her from all the social medias and everything.. Never felt that good in my life. 😂😂 Now I am used to it. I am not blaming all the girls, but most of them are mentally unstable. Even they don't know what they want. Over time, I learnt that the right way is not to get too emotionally attached with them and mirror their emotions. If they want to fade away, let them. There is always a better one down the line.
Men have some pride! Show her you're an Alpha. If she put you in the dreaded and useless "friends zone" you made some mistakes early in meeting her and you put her in the "goodbye zone". If shes not calling, returning your calls, or returning your texts. Don't call her or text her anymore. Delete her number move on. The MORE you chase a girl the MORE you push a girl away. I'll text or call a woman once MAYBE twice then that's it. Learn and EXPECT to cut a woman lose. Let her know from the beginning that you have NOOOOO problem meeting a d finding other women. Let her learn from the beginning that she is NOT a priority. Hell let her see you talk to other women. It works for me. If time goes by and you run into her...if and when you see her just smile and say "hay stranger" be polite and treat her like an co worker. Then keep it moving don't linger. Its even better if she sees you talking to other attractive women and seeing you smile and hugging other women. If I get asked by a girl "how come I haven't heard from you?" My response is "same reason I haven't heard from you". If she asks how have you been say "I'm great, got a vacation coming up!" If some time goes by and she does text you "hi" or "what's up". They get really upset if you text "who's this?" Make her I.D. herself to you if not delete her. It shows them that you deleted thier number and automatically tells them they aren't a priority which hurts their little girl pride and makes them see you in a different light. Remember...they are use to guys asking for their number and KEEPING it. By letting her know you deleted her number or shows you have some pride and don't give a shit and elevates you higher in her eyes. I'm very blunt and will call a woman out in heartbeat. If she has the nerve to ask me why did I delete her number? I'll say "Really? I haven't heard from you in X amount of time so I figured you didn't give a shit and if you didn't give a shit then why should I?" Believe it or not this has worked for me a few times.
Thank you I needed to hear this. I am breaking down and was contemplating contacting him..been more than a month. It is so difficult when you know you did your best. Like what else does he want? He tells me I am a good catch etc...but ours is a difficult situation. :( any comforting words is welcome ...please. 😭
We were doing well till last November: eventually, I managed to take her out but then she went super cold: ignoring my messages and doing so many things! I managed to stay cool for a long time, not allowing my anxiety to beat me and yesterday someone suggested I unfriend her as a sign to ask her to recheck her recent actions! That's what I did, and now I'm wondering if what I did is the right or wrong thing
Man, if a women is interested in you, she will go out of her way to reach out to you no matter what. I experienced many woman like that who has interest in me even after going cold with them for months or years. If a woman does not have interest in you, and you keep clinging on that feeling, you only hurt yourself. This also happened to me as well, even now and then the feeling will linger, but it will fade away eventually. And when you meet a new woman, then your feeling will be focus on her instead. Just remember one thing, don't be too attached or invested too much of your feeling for one women. Give her at max 60% of your feeling and attention. The rest invest in your friends, family, and hobby
Wow if only you were around 20 years ago. Looking back I can see that my biggest mistake dating wise was being too needy and not backing away when she backed away. Great video though and very informative.
She's never yours , It is just your turn. Women are known to be not loyal to their emotions. Not saying you have to hate them for this. It is just part of their nature. My gf and I are in no contact for a week and during these quarantine days, getting myself busy texting with another girl. Life goes on mates!
ive been talking to a girl for 2 weeks now an we had one date shes showing me she likes me and telling me blowing up my phone but then when i put in i like you text to her she goes distant . i dont understand why shes telling me she likes me ,telling her mom about me , introducing her daughter to me and so forth ... and boom shes not texting for a day or two and not answering me ,we both agreed to go slow and well .. coach craig im glad i saw this video when i did .. ive already text her hi and whats up why you being this way . well im glad you advised me what to do in this situation and im hoping it works !! i really do like this women .
Dealing with a breakup at the moment... after 10 days of no contact I messaged her and explained we had good times together and told her I'm working on myself and doing better. She replied casually and said she's glad for me and wish me the best. I was expecting for us to get back together so that answer throw me off guard... I asked if she was off that day and she said yes... but also said she think we should continue the way we weren't speaking... I don't know if she's really trying to move on and forget about me, all the time we spent ands things we did together, or if she is really trying to punish me and make me upset and feel anxiety. I notice she post pics at times of her workouts and of herself like her life is still so great. I must admit it hurt me and I still miss her and think of her. We just broke up about 2 weeks after being together for 4+ years! I feel the no contact role but maybe she doing the same and I feel ill be giving into her if I don't do no contact at all. Seeing that she don't want us communicating 🤷🏾♂️
I met this lady about 2 months ago and it was an instant attraction. we pretty much spent our weekends together for the first month and then I noticed that she pulled back. we had some arguments and we talked about it but everything still feels weird, I chased her for a week and then I backed off. I started going out more and having fun and she watches my activities on my snapchat. It has been over 2 weeks now and I haven’t heard from her. I don’t know if she’s dating someone else and i don’t know if I should move on and forget her altogether. what should I do?
dean men dont get fixated on this girl and date other woman. If she reaches out, invite her to your place for dinner. I wouldn't take her out and make her work for your time. Good luck!
Just keep working on improving yourself. Take care of you and focus on bettering your life with goals. A man who takes care of his life is attractive to women which turns them on. If she comes back then cool but if she doesn't then that's ok too. Remember females will come in and out of your life and if you play your cards right and learn how to deal with women you'll know the right one is near.
So I return to the dating market for almost a year now after a decade of being married, and the battlefield out there is so different these days. Although I had multiple successes with women much younger and hotter than me, but girls out there these days are not committed after the lay regardless how good the lay or the date were. Those hot dates usually start with being like love birds before and after the lay but turn cold after 3-4 weeks.. this has happened to me multiple times including women in my age. After watching these videos and reading thru some of the comments had make me realize that the blame is on social media/dating sites and feminist moment of sexual liberation. Women these days will not feel obligated or have invested anything after the lay...they can easily swipe left or right again for the next Joe.
Its amazing that women want men who arent players and assholes...yet they ghost guys instead of just saying whats going on. I used to be that guy who would try and see whats going on. Now, if I dont hear from them, I dont even ask. I delete their number.
Why do guys always ask, "what do i need to do to get her back?" The answer is so obvious. NOTHING. There is nothing you can DO to get your ex girlfriends back. The question should be "What should i avoid doing to increase my chances of her revisiting the idea of getting back with me?" It's all about behavior. The key is not to try to get them back, it's to try and move on and become a better version of yourself, so if they do come back, you can re-attract them. You have to accept that they're gone, and that there is a good chance they'll never come back, otherwise you will actually never get them back. It's funny... Out of all my girlfriends, the ones that never came back were the ones that i really wanted back, and that i was hurting over for months. Even though i walked away, they never reached out. It's like they could sense that i wasn't over them and they new they could have me. I wasn't weak. I accepted the breakups and walked away like a man, but nothing. Yet the ones that i moved on quickly from, that i couldn't care less, reached out within a month. One of them was constantly reaching out saying she missed me even though she was seeing another guy. This went on for a few months until she accepted that i wasn't interested and moved on, and one of them was reaching out to talk and wanting me back for over a year! I could have gotten these girls back but i didn't want to. Only when you get to that place are you able to truly re-attract them. It's like Craig says, when you genuinely don't care anymore they can sense it, like a disturbance in the force lol.
that was so jokes and so true lmao "i couldnt care less" lol some pathetic chick sittin there thinkin "oh fuck i thought i was the shit and he'd be all sad but hes not oh fuck maybe i am the loser here, take me back!!!!" LOL
Craig you should do is Video on what to do when she backs away and broken up but still live together and have kids . How do you work on no contact when y’all still live together
I wish i knew this ive done alotta research into this and u and many more have explained this when she pulled away i was clingy needy and now shes got me quite quite pushed away not out but not even relatively what we were, thanks for it live and learn she was a really really cool girl too
Sometimes when people fall back like that, there is usually something else interfering. That use to tear me up but I've grown from that , I just said hey , if she found somebody better then let her stay gone .I probably wont even reply if she ever texted or called me in the future because that's a narcissistic symptom also. Normal people communicate when they need space if they truly like you. To back away without communication is a huge red flag and says a lot about that person . So now I'm not comfortable with this person because I feel like something or someone else is being hidden. Normal people communicate with someone they like and dont want to risk losing. I dont play those type of games with nobody. If you leave and leave me clueless to why . Dont even bother trying to come back later because I won't see you the same. I respect any woman who can say , i need a few days to myself and i will respect that 100 percent. That make me love her even more because she care about me enough and have the decency to that. Men, respect women when they need their space.
It’s not games bruh, it’s just how women are. They’re emotional beings and will follow their emotions. I know it sucks but it’s just the way things are with women.
(In the email) That woman should've been straight up and told the guy she was seeing that she wanted some space. Instead she ignored him. He didn't know what was wrong, he didn't know what if something horrible happened to her. Not the guy's fault this time.
Listen to this video probably 30 times because I think it's for the best. When you say when she backs away you back away that even include your girlfriend you've been relationship for a while? My concern is she will see this as gameplaying.
Kk V think of it as respecting her need for space. It's not natural to spend every second together, eventually you start suffocating each other. She'll respect you for giving the space and will be more appreciative of it.
SouthpawSatch thanks for your reply. We are no longer together anymore. She told me at the end of the day she wanted someone who could financially support her. Far as I'm concerned she no longer exists
I agree in some ways in this Video I did a lot of chasing I tired of doing it because I get same result every time I really need my confidence up because it been low for a while what should I do
Craig, I’ve been studying your teachings for the same relationship I’ve had. My problems that I make the same mistakes as a newbie when my girl becomes distant from other nonRelated issues. Been together for almost 3 years now. We never fights, or use profanity at each other, but I have more expectations from a beautiful intelligent woman she is. I expect her to standup for me to those jealous people who are no good, but instead she avoids bringing up my name so she doesn’t have to tell them: “ Shut the f up,, you all wish you had a man like him”. She’s proud and talk highly about me to her family and coworkers, but dump my name in the bin in front of her neighbors. That has been the major reason of us getting frustrated, next thing to another... I get offended, she gets distant and I stay away. Meanwhile I don’t talk to her I go through crap. I’m independent, take care of myself, train hard, nutrition, sense of fashion which she got attracted from the beginning. I feel like whenever I go through separation anxiety, she seems ( looks like) indifferent... and that brings more pain to me. I send my 4 to 5 heavy text- reactions, then I shut up.
Before my ex broke up with me and left the country for work, I said that I'm gonna wait for her until she return. I told her that before I discovered Craig and NC. Right now we are on NC for months, will she still develop separation anxiety and return to me, given that she know that I'm waiting for her?
Yep this happens in lesbian relationships to I am dating this girl for 3 weeks from the beginning her interest level was really high and I tried to set up a 4th date and she was not sure about it so I told her to get in touch with me when she is free and it’s been like 3 weeks since then
Craig has the best advice on break ups
Even for realionships he does ..I trust Craig 100%
My friend told me the more u worry about losing something, the more u will lose it. I think its true.
yep true very true
It's true 👍. I 've experienced it innumerable times 😭
Its called “the law of attraction “
Thanks for the advice
What you fear, you attract 🤷♂️
If a woman decides to back away, shes playing games and is testing you. Unless shes straight up honest and communicates her intentions which is very rare. She wants to walk, let her walk. No need to over analyze. Reciprocate what you're given cause at the end of the day you cant force anything
if it's right it'll be right if it's wrong u cant make it right
Low interest when she backs away you backaway women that likes you helps you
6String Pete means she has another source of supply. Another guy, usually not as good as you. But someone new. Meaning she’s feeling some kind of way.....towards him.
@@cd123atd4e fuck you
Not every women plays games. . There are women who are tired of these things. . And men these days have become difficult to deal with. 🙄 It's sad.
Always, always ALWAYS remember this rule!: Don't cry over someone who's NOT crying over you! Always match a womans sudden declining interest in you. If she starts to fade, you start to fade.
Jet Helicopter Truth. I had one play games and then call me months later and say it was because ahe was falling in love with me and got scared 🙄. Mental. 🤔
Jet Helicopter what if you have kids together? You gotta fight for them
@@beetleything1864 that's typical women behavior.. i think i love him i wanna hug him i dont need him fuck him im good i dont need him and truthfully i don't want him.. oh but i love him id never hurt him break his fucking heart.
@@beetleything1864 yeah that's bullshit
For the good of my health..let me fade too😂..the sad truth
Men must always mirror women's emotions. It's the the golden rule!
Big like for this
So, be emotionally unstable and change how I feel three times a week? No thank you.
@@Kingx90 good one lol 😂
Heck no
Matthew Carbone - I don’t think he means like that. If your partner is like that then I don’t think she’s a healthy person to be in a relationship with
What i learned from this:
Be less available
Remain Stoic
Match their energy
Don't chase.
All in All:
Those who master their darkside, rule their minds....
Thats literally the entire thing. The hard part is the nuance when you have a woman with different personality involved and knowing which part of that they are attacking. But the best rule is to stay calm, keep your voice low and if youre having trouble just be quiet. Think then speak slowly and in a masculine speaking voice.
Golden nugget right here -
If she acts emotionally stable, do be emotionally stable.
If she acts emotionally distant, do be emotionally distant.
If she acts cold and unaffectionate, do be cold and unaffectionate.
If she acts detached and distant, do be detached and distant.
If on the other hand she acts clingy, needy, anxious, whiny, sensitive, crazy, or emotional...
Either walk away or hold on to that power and relish in it.
You’ve won.
From personal experience, the best thing to do when they back away are to leave them be. Why over complicate things? Let her sort out whatever needs to be sorted out and she'll be more inclined to reach out again.
Had a girl back away, I reacted the wrong way of course. But after about a week. I accepted it. Tried to move on. 2 weeks later her and I are speaking similarly and end up hooking up again. She flirts and I flirt and we hook up a couple.more times. When we get more comfortable its again the same thing. She backed away. So this time i am reacting the right way. This time I was expecting it. It feels good to be in control again
Females’ interest levels randomly fluctuate a lot more than men’s, In my experience.
If so you need to look at what energy youre giving off that they react to. If youre stable(in all aspects) they have a hard time being allowed to fluctuate. If you make them feel safe, in all those categories they swoon over you. Thats when they fall head over heels.
when it comes to break up Craig is by far the best
Stupid people will waste their time making woman Happy why dont you make yourselfe happy
what if th that particular man's happiness is that won\man
This is excellent advice, every time I want to text her, I stop and listen to your advice
I've was dumped 2 months ago by my fiance. She told me a few days before that I was her rock, her soul mate, her eternal peace to her heart. She has a lot of insecurity issues, I was always reassuring her. She has a son with anxiety issues and a very destructive daughter with severe anxiety issues. My ex also lost a son in a motor accident a few years ago. I was always there for my fiance, but her daughter wanted her mum all to herself, bearing in mind that her daughter is 32 years old and lives in her own apartment. However, after being told all the nice things about being a soul mate etc, she dumped me 3 days later on the telephone. I've been in bits. I couldn't work for 3weeks and I thought I was going to die. I loved this girl with everything that I have. I never chased her and I've been in no contact for just over 2 months now. I am slowly getting myself back to some kind of normality, but trust me it's been an absolute heart wrenched. All of my family and friends were in total total shock when I broke the news. These videos really help, even know I've accepted that she isn't coming back and I have to move on, but it isn't easy.
It's been 11 months now since she dumped you, how about an update?
Hang in there Peter. I guess she has no idea what's she wants.
Update: 17 months after being dumped. It was a rough road for me. I went through every emotion possible to human beings. As time passed I began to do more for myself. I lost 42lbs in weight, bought new clothes, re-built my business, became busy. Whilst all this was happening, not a day went by where I didn't think of her. Then..... one day something happened to me. I stopped thinking about her, I started to live again. I started to smile again. Each day got better too. The best feeling was waking up and no longer pining for her. The feelings were replaced with the fact that I didn't want her back should she contact me. The power of time is the answer. Today, I feel great and I've started dating again. I have been very cautious naturally. I have become a better person learning from the past. I have now met an amazing lady and we just 'click', as it were. I'm taking it slow, but we have a great connection with each other. What I'm saying here is this.... there will always come a time for you when peace and happiness, will come back in to your life after heartbreak. Time is a great healer. My advice is this. When you've lost your partner for whatever reason, grieve, suffer the emotions, let it all out which will take time. Don't go re-bounding! Work on yourself, do what you love doing, keep busy and then the time will come where you will truly smile again and start living again. Trust me guys, everything works out in the end, but it takes time and you cannot force it. Let it happen naturally, but you will feel great again - even a better version of yourself.
@@peterwalker6009 thank you I needed to hear this today you have helped me and I’m sure others a great deal with your story 🙏
The harsh truth is you chose someone emotionally unavailable and you tried to be her emotion. Thats a losing battle. And you saw when she realized she had her own emotions, boop, sorry peter dont need you. You cant be a category fulfilled in her book. You have to be bigger than her. She has to want to be a part of your story. Its the only way it works. And women who are insecure, or have other issues that will cause problems will weed themselves out if you have your life in order correctly.
Thank you Craig Kenneth, listened to this around 6 or 7 years ago, Im on the same situation, followed your advise and Now she is my wife with 1 kid.
Wow, it has been one month and a half since my break, started to do the Workbooks and seeing your videos since day one, today is the first day, that i actually feel happy. Thank you
I’m at a point in my life this very moment where I think this advice helped me SO SO much… almost 6 months in with an incredible woman and she has some personal and work stresses that are really hard on her… she told me last night as I stopped over to reassure her I’m here for her and what does she need from me to help her thru this… I wasn’t prepared for what she wanted… no more hanging out… no good morning texts anymore,… no nightly phone conversations on how both our days were and planning a sat home date..movie n dinner is what she loved to do… and very often a sleepover :-). But no more. No warning. Not ready for how I felt. I’m gonna give her the space she says she needs… it’s hard to not know how she’s doing. But I won’t persist and bug her. I needed this video. Thx very much. I hope it’s the right move…. She’s really a sweet beautiful and funny woman… and we really get along Time will tell I guess.
Any update? Hope everything is fine
I break nofap, but I don't break no contact. Period.
Fernando Bernardes and still no girlfriend lol
Fomosapien it’s okay because girls are so weird and mysterious
Yessir
Hahahahaha same here bro....I didn't break no contact but break no fap
I believe everyone is different, doesn't matter if you are male or female or whatever. If someone isn't showing an interest with you, ask them if everything is okay and if they don't reply they aren't worth your time anyway. I'd never do that to somebody so if somebody does it to me they will not be hearing much from me again anyway. If they ignore you for days and days and don't get back to you, it's their loss as far as I'm concerned.
These videos by you and Margaret have been a Godsend. I started no contact 4 days ago when she explained how much she loved me but wanted to move on with someone else. I'm starting to get in acceptance mode but it has been difficult.
I've watched alot of video's after a recent break up. And everything you said resonated with me. This is the first video that has helped me feel better. My bio father has been absent my entire life. My mother passed away 7yrs ago and she was my rock. I have extreme separation anxiety after breakups and its a horrific experience. You just gave me something to think about when that anxiety hits me.
Motorcity hang in there, chin up, usually they’re not worth getting back :)
Man, if a women is interested in you, she will go out of her way to reach out to you no matter what. I experienced many woman like that who has interest in me even after going cold with them for months or years. If a woman does not have interest in you, and you keep clinging on that feeling, you only hurt yourself. This also happened to me as well, even now and then the feeling will linger, but it will fade away eventually. And when you meet a new woman, then your feeling will be focus on her instead. Just remember one thing, don't be too attached or invested too much of your feeling for one women. Give her at max 60% of your feeling and attention. The rest invest in your friends, family, and hobby
anxiety is the root of desire, good!
Men make themselves all the time. Make yourself scarce once in a while. She'll text you when she starts wondering...
Scarcity creates value
I begged and cried when my ex and I met for the first time after we broke up. For someone that was devoted to me, it was a shock to see her not feel the same separation anxiety as I was. I wasn't great at telling her what she meant to me throughout our relationship so I thought for the first time I would and she would feel wanted and valued. But it didn't make a difference. She did not come home that day and I've not heard from her in 3 months.
I think she was emotionally and mentally ready to leave me. I was not ready to leave her and I still miss her every day, 7.5 months later. This is not what I EVER wanted. My reality is hell.
Move on. We all have been there. Engage yourself in other things. Go out with your friends. Visit places. Make new friends. Thats the way bro. Eventually time will heal everything.
General Waste stop being so damn insecure. You’re your own confident male. Fuck
don't trust these hoes, dish pipe and keep it moving
I know that you're right and that I should also back away but It's SO hard. It really requires a high level of discipline. My natural reaction is to try and fix it. I'm trying to fight that instinct.
kuunami you're not alone. my ex broke up with me 4 month ago. every time I start the the no-contact I break it at the second or third week. I just can't..
U people are the ones that hype woman remember they are second to us so if she doesn't respect let her go
@@kangurobagolty4324 thats just sexist bs no wonder your single
@@shanesteffey1139 womam talk THE SAME. They always, ALWAYS tell each other that she/her as a person should come FIRST. The guy/husband comes second.
ONLY THING that will 100% of the time to come first for a woman is their child.
OK there are some real great womans that will do hundreds of things for you but it only happens when they are in deep love or when they've already built something important with you and they dont wanna screw it up.
SO STOP being a white knight, stop idealising woman as pure and angels cause they dont, they are AT LEAST just like us.
STOP virtue signaling or carry on fooling yourself.
You can have lucky and find the right girl for you and you can learn the hard way.
guys at the beginning don't let your love go too deep, so that whenever she backs out you simply jump out with out any hurt
Women and men go through the same crap lol. I've seen this video advising men and another advising women and it's the same thing! Most of the time people pull away because fear of getting hurt by rejection or not feeling secure, trusting of you. Women are told if the guy really wants you, he will chase you. I think that if there is unsureness just ask! People in general are afraid of rejection but at the same time fear commitment. First I recommend be completely and utterly happy being single and then go off and be open and vulnerable but with confidence and ease. It's all about attracting quality people in your life not quantity. Be the kind of person you would like to meet and it will happen
no.
Wow. . Hands down 🙌
Yo that’s true
u are so right. but men tend to chase more and women tend to back away when a guy really likes them, at the beginning anyway. sometimes the roles are reversed later on though
Shouldn’t someone desire you cause they love who you are and not cause you are just afraid to lose them?
Yes it should but that's not how it works. I hate those mind games and I wish things were simpler so I could just love and be loved. But I don't have the choice !
Love has turned into games. I think the introduction to texting and such has allowed people to manipulate you and play games with your emotions. Sex being everywhere is also part of it. I can't see how in the old days when there was no electronics and access to sex content was it like this.
@@bentuck7929 Yes it has ways been like this. Go talk to some older folks. It's actually pretty eye opening! Some things have changed but not the big stuff. Also it's not a game. These are processes that are hard wired into us biologically.
Every woman I dated including my now wife all pulled away at some point in the courting process. I never looked at it as a game! You just have to picture it this way. You both generate a small magnetic field. So you're both two magnets dancing around each other until youre locked into each other's electro magnetic field.
We're all just batteries looking for that spark or charge!
Women pull away to subconsciously test your masculine frame. Sometimes she's not into you. But you know when that's the case. Always trust your intuition.
If she just stopped for no reason then mirror that behavior and become outcome independent. She needs you to be strong for the both of you. She needs someone who has her emotions under control.
This is done to see if you will be a good mate. To see if you're mentally strong enough to protect her at her most vulnerable state. This state is pregnancy and child rearing.
These are not games. This is just life. So strengthen your magnetic field and pull. Do not push! Don't be a pushover. You're an amazing person. And if you don't feel that way work on yourself until you do feel that way. You will only ever attract what you are. That's how magnetism works. So love yourself unconditionally first.
@@youtubedrifter5594 Thats a nice speech and all but just one little side note to: "You will attract what you are. That's how magnetism works". It doesn't, opposites attract, same pols repel each other. Your message is right, your analogy is backwards.
@@jumpstick9446 😂 I just read it! I was a little sauced up when I wrote that. I'm glad you understood what I was getting at my friend.
This really cleared my head and helped me with my anxiety
No separation anxiety here. I'm perfectly happy being single. I don't need anyone in my life, not even a god. When she pulls away, I do the same to give her space and then I will ask her ''what's going on?'' If she still ignores me, I move on to find someone mature. Simple as that.
If a woman truly loves you true to cares for you she is not going to let a good thing go that easily.
Very true. The problem with most these type situations, and ones I've experienced... 9 times out of 10 they were just flings... there was no depth to the relationship. One party was playing the other for either emotional support or sex. If you have a true bond, these sorts of problems are far more rare and end with the girl coming back. But if it was a simple fling, it's usually the end
You really are good, Craig. I'm in a new relationship and it's been a while for me. Things were getting a bit strange between the new girl and I. But it has worked out. You're the best.
There is no point in trying to close that gap. She pulls away for a reason, and pretty much all women pull away at some point during the relationship. The best thing to do is to give her some space and let her come back. If she comes back, cool. If not that is also ok. I think it's unhealthy to become too attached to the outcome.
It is unhealthy but it's also because the majority of men can't just go out and get someone like that the same way women can. They may not get marriage or relationships quickly but they can get hookups and short term things very easily because men are so thristy. Women are always in demand to some degree where most men are not and are invisible most of the time and have to actively work at getting women unless you are the top percent of dudes who don't have to try and they make women wet. There is always much more invested for men in the average couple so it's like easy for so many guys to be more attached. It is unhealthy but it's understandable why men are always the one trying to fix things because it's much harder to just move on.
@@guitarman0365 so instead of making fun of women for taking so much time getting ready in all aspects of life perhaps men should be too? What youre describing is actually a quality issue not a quantity issue. The statistics on population tell us there are plenty of women for men. Most guys are so far off a path of usefulness that women cant find a use for them. Couple with that they still date some of these misguided men and you can see why they are disgruntled with dating. Men hold all the power. If they dont they are not a man. Thats not being rude but in the categories women need to feel safe to develop a true ling term attraction you have to check their boxes. If you are truly following your purpose and invested in yourself they will check them all for you without having to confuse by testing for emotional stability, etc. If she can give you some sexual gratification and you start skiping your gymtime and missing meetings for your livelihood she sees someone swayed from their path by lust and pleasure. A weakling. Not a fun guy.
Not only are your videos helpful for both men and women in terms of steps for success in building a good relationship. But there also very sobering to watch. I was feeling anxious becuase of a situation i'm having with someone i've seen a couple of times, after watching some of your videos i'm feeling a lot better, a lot less depressed, and i feel like i can get on with other things in my life rather than thinking 24/7 about my love interest.
always good to go back, rewatch theaw videos to remind myself to trust the process and be calm in all situations, no matter what. thanks craig!!
I'm dealing with this right now. I dated a girl for a couple months and she started checking out and pulling away, saying there's no connection and doesn't wanna be with me. I put effort in our early dates and conversations but then she started declining so I let my behavior reflect hers to show what she's doing and what it looks like, it went downhill from there.
And we're not even friends on social media and she still goes outta her way to watch what I'm doing...
Been in the same spot. I know its not easy but you got to ignore the shit out of her. She dont deserve you, you deserve much better. Belive me you will find the one.
@@Pedro-ci8gi You're right, it's hard cause I want her back and wanna restart things even though I probably shouldn't
There's no one way how to do these things homie :-/ the only way is through your gut. Me personally I let her know my feelings towards her, and left it there. No chasing afterwards, just let them know and bounce
@@spartangreg1 i wouldn't necessarily say you should ditch her. Ignore her so she comes back not so she flees. She's a female they're complex but if it's the right one, they're worth it
@@SAMEntalhealth Haha old news now bruh, she trapped some simp that put up with her mess by love bombing and he proposed to her, knocked her up too. I moved onto to a new chick I've been with for two years now.
Thanks for the input though, I definitely agree with how you'd handle it.
Basically keep a line up of women so once one of your women starts tripping go on to the next and make the one that was tripping earn back attention and affection. Men are the prize and women are the possession. Never put all your eggs in one basket. Don't feed into the games or the fickle behavior of these women. Men are not toys.
True story, until last Feb I was seeing someone for 5 months until she decided to end it. When she told me I just said my piece and moved on and never contacted her again. A month later she reached out and I asked her for a coffee and she said she'll let me know as she was going away the next week for a few days, so I said ok that is great and left it like that. 3 weeks later she came again and we met, and things between us where like we never finished. But a week later I did not hear from her anymore so I did not contact her or reach out to ask her if she is ok I just moved on. 10 days later she send me "hey how are you???" I just replied "Am good" a week later she texted again with "I don't know what I have done wrong or if you are upset with me for any reason but it does not matter, I just hope you are ok x". I told her that this is confusing for me as I keep on getting mixed signals from you, this was last May. A month later she reaches out in June, we exchanged a few texts but I was a bit cold so it ended quickly and she reached out again a month later, well a few weeks ago. Will see if she comes again lol. Am not asking her out again, if she wants too, she can do that herself, in the mean time I keep on dating other girls and carry on with my life... that's how life goes..
like a boss lol
She says ".....if you are upset with me for any reason but IT DOES NOT MATTER", you should drop her like a hot potato. She doesn't want you or care, she just clearly said it. She's just bored, every now and then she checks to see if anything is going on. Waste of time.
I know this is old. But her main guy isn’t all that. She’s undecided what she wants. Back off 100%. She has to make all the moves now and forever
If a woman backs away from you let her go and find someone else that's what she has done move on if she comes back dont take her back right away keep her at a distance for the time you were apart and date other women be busy doing you never be in the friend zone never be available.
11:43 to 12:11 I replayed that over and over to get that through my thick skull. Thank you Coach Craig.
The sad part is this should be common sense. But guys chase out of insecurity. Live in abundance, date multiple women, and don't chase a woman that backs off.
Also if a girl is interested, she will respond to a text or call you back. It is not like you sent a love letter that got lost in the mail. She knows you contacted her. LOL
I talked to this girl for like 3 months and then she said we should just stop talking I did just that,I texted her every now and then but she never replied and we work together and she saw all these girls giving me attention at work and then like a week later she started to talk to me but by that time I had went on many of dates and been chilling with other girls so I really don't care about her anymore and I've deleted her number out my phone,I only speak to her that it,part of me hates her.still
Ryan Deffley ....wish i knew this 2yrs ago. I was in crazy love with someone...she came back to me but i wanted more and chased her. No wonder girls today chase me...because i dont care and didnt know this is what drove women nuts
Robd collector haha I’m not the only one then my gf backed away haven’t heard from her so I’ve been dating just to be on the safe side if you contacts me to break up but I’m not interested in these girls
Excellent advice Coach Craig and of course what many guys don't understand is why a girl goes cold on them. Females are set up on a mating cycle. Generally the two times of the month during her cycle is when she's most receptive the the male and that's when she's ovulating and before and during her periods, this is when her hormones are going crazy but then when these opportune times pass, she will shut down a bit and this confuses the guy cause she was so hot for him the week before and now she's cold. This just doesn't apply to sex but also how receptive she is towards him for communication.
So crazy how Accurate you are. Around her period she's all over me. After she's out of it, she goes cold.
Follow the cycle of the moon as a general guideline regarding your approach with a woman
Shang Tsung how? Please explain
Also works with ware wolves
Shang Tsung huh
I wish you would do more videos like this one for the guys like me who have been in a long-term relationship.
BUT, don't be a doormat where she comes and goes all the time and doesn't invest anything into the relationship. That's not a relationship, that's an acquaintance. BOUNDARIES, people!
this is one of my favorite videos u have done
Who wants to be in a relationship where the woman's feelings change 24/7? Doesn't sound like a "secure base" to me. Sounds exhausting never knowing how they feel. If her emotions are irrational like that you might be better off finding a girl with a more secure attachment style.
shadowhawk preach! Agreed completely
i think you are by far, most helpful when it comes to relationship talk
i been doing this for this girl at work i fked up with her but i backed away and i started to notice she been walking past me lately i never seen her near my area ever
Agreed. We must learn to walk away anytime. When we do-they chase. It’s true. ✅
After watching Craig's videos I'm convinced everything happens because of seperation anxiety.
Car won't start? Car is anxious
Lose your job? Your boss is anxious
McDonald's screw up your burger? Employee is anxious
wait what
I think someone gave you a lobotomy and separated your brain from your head
You just lifted my spirits, given me new life
These videos are the only thing keeping me sane
You have everything needed for each situation ... can’t say how I appreciate every thing and find everything very beautiful
Thanks Craig for your advices, Today I started feeling bad because a girl but that´s true, I have to stay cool and relaxed, and have confident on myself. Greetings from Mexico.
There should be a book of quotes said by Craig like: "feelings change like the clouds in the sky" or "you are the mountain"
Many Thanks for you insight buddy!
The workbooks have a lot of quotes!
And sometimes when you get these women they are not even worth the hassle it took to get them smh. All that time,energy,effort and money you put into it and then you see the real monster that you’ve been trying to get
Yeah, he texted too much. But she could have told him that ahead of time. Hey, I'm going to spend some time with a friend of mine. Talk to you in a few day! Instead, she just disappears and when he acts like a normal human being and wants to know what the heck happened, reaches out for a response, its all his fault? He messaged too much, but she acted childish disappearing like that.
Exactly. Like a childish little girl.
Grow up!
Yeah, this happened to me. I might have been too needy, may be trying to advance things too fast, and she suddenly got busy. Its been tricky the past 3 weeks, i backed way off, then she asked to meet up last week. Now she hasn't responded to a text in 3 days. Girls are so confusing. I'm gonna back away again.
Any guys had a girl tell you she loved you, then she disappeared shortly after? Had this happen to me more times than I can remember. Mentally unstable liars. :o)
hahaha.. you are not alone bro..has happened with me a couple of times.. recently, there was this girl who was ready to jump from a cliff for me, ready to marry me at any fkin day of the week. but I don't know what happened, she started ignoring calls/messages and getting mad at tiny things, and all those regular bullshit.. I knew what was coming and I myself detached from her, deleted every single photos of her from my phone, blocked her from all the social medias and everything.. Never felt that good in my life. 😂😂
Now I am used to it. I am not blaming all the girls, but most of them are mentally unstable. Even they don't know what they want. Over time, I learnt that the right way is not to get too emotionally attached with them and mirror their emotions. If they want to fade away, let them. There is always a better one down the line.
you probably chase them away
Did the same ...great man !
Happened to me, its because they feel guilty, they already have the next guy when they are with you
I had my ex do that. He is still very confusing for me
Men have some pride! Show her you're an Alpha. If she put you in the dreaded and useless "friends zone" you made some mistakes early in meeting her and you put her in the "goodbye zone". If shes not calling, returning your calls, or returning your texts. Don't call her or text her anymore. Delete her number move on.
The MORE you chase a girl the MORE you push a girl away. I'll text or call a woman once MAYBE twice then that's it. Learn and EXPECT to cut a woman lose. Let her know from the beginning that you have NOOOOO problem meeting a d finding other women. Let her learn from the beginning that she is NOT a priority. Hell let her see you talk to other women. It works for me. If time goes by and you run into her...if and when you see her just smile and say "hay stranger" be polite and treat her like an co worker. Then keep it moving don't linger. Its even better if she sees you talking to other attractive women and seeing you smile and hugging other women. If I get asked by a girl "how come I haven't heard from you?" My response is "same reason I haven't heard from you". If she asks how have you been say "I'm great, got a vacation coming up!" If some time goes by and she does text you "hi" or "what's up". They get really upset if you text "who's this?" Make her I.D. herself to you if not delete her. It shows them that you deleted thier number and automatically tells them they aren't a priority which hurts their little girl pride and makes them see you in a different light.
Remember...they are use to guys asking for their number and KEEPING it. By letting her know you deleted her number or shows you have some pride and don't give a shit and elevates you higher in her eyes. I'm very blunt and will call a woman out in heartbeat. If she has the nerve to ask me why did I delete her number? I'll say "Really? I haven't heard from you in X amount of time so I figured you didn't give a shit and if you didn't give a shit then why should I?" Believe it or not this has worked for me a few times.
Thank you I needed to hear this. I am breaking down and was contemplating contacting him..been more than a month. It is so difficult when you know you did your best. Like what else does he want? He tells me I am a good catch etc...but ours is a difficult situation. :( any comforting words is welcome ...please. 😭
@@andrescantu4332 thank you.. will get in touch
Great video craig! This is one of the hardest things to do. Thanks for explaining!
We were doing well till last November: eventually, I managed to take her out but then she went super cold: ignoring my messages and doing so many things! I managed to stay cool for a long time, not allowing my anxiety to beat me and yesterday someone suggested I unfriend her as a sign to ask her to recheck her recent actions! That's what I did, and now I'm wondering if what I did is the right or wrong thing
So what's the outcome of your action, im wondering? because im about to do the same thing, and unsure about the outcome.
Man, if a women is interested in you, she will go out of her way to reach out to you no matter what. I experienced many woman like that who has interest in me even after going cold with them for months or years. If a woman does not have interest in you, and you keep clinging on that feeling, you only hurt yourself. This also happened to me as well, even now and then the feeling will linger, but it will fade away eventually. And when you meet a new woman, then your feeling will be focus on her instead. Just remember one thing, don't be too attached or invested too much of your feeling for one women. Give her at max 60% of your feeling and attention. The rest invest in your friends, family, and hobby
Wow if only you were around 20 years ago. Looking back I can see that my biggest mistake dating wise was being too needy and not backing away when she backed away. Great video though and very informative.
She's never yours , It is just your turn. Women are known to be not loyal to their emotions. Not saying you have to hate them for this. It is just part of their nature. My gf and I are in no contact for a week and during these quarantine days, getting myself busy texting with another girl. Life goes on mates!
Very helpful Craig, you don't give just opinion,you explain the roots and this is what we really need, thank you
ive been talking to a girl for 2 weeks now an we had one date shes showing me she likes me and telling me blowing up my phone but then when i put in i like you text to her she goes distant . i dont understand why shes telling me she likes me ,telling her mom about me , introducing her daughter to me and so forth ... and boom shes not texting for a day or two and not answering me ,we both agreed to go slow and well .. coach craig im glad i saw this video when i did .. ive already text her hi and whats up why you being this way . well im glad you advised me what to do in this situation and im hoping it works !! i really do like this women .
Can you make a video on how to deal with an ex that keeps going hot and cold.
Words of wisdom, on point!
Imagine dating a psychotherapist? All the mind games 🤣😂
Dealing with a breakup at the moment... after 10 days of no contact I messaged her and explained we had good times together and told her I'm working on myself and doing better.
She replied casually and said she's glad for me and wish me the best. I was expecting for us to get back together so that answer throw me off guard...
I asked if she was off that day and she said yes... but also said she think we should continue the way we weren't speaking...
I don't know if she's really trying to move on and forget about me, all the time we spent ands things we did together, or if she is really trying to punish me and make me upset and feel anxiety. I notice she post pics at times of her workouts and of herself like her life is still so great.
I must admit it hurt me and I still miss her and think of her. We just broke up about 2 weeks after being together for 4+ years! I feel the no contact role but maybe she doing the same and I feel ill be giving into her if I don't do no contact at all. Seeing that she don't want us communicating 🤷🏾♂️
I met this lady about 2 months ago and it was an instant attraction. we pretty much spent our weekends together for the first month and then I noticed that she pulled back. we had some arguments and we talked about it but everything still feels weird, I chased her for a week and then I backed off. I started going out more and having fun and she watches my activities on my snapchat. It has been over 2 weeks now and I haven’t heard from her. I don’t know if she’s dating someone else and i don’t know if I should move on and forget her altogether. what should I do?
dean men dont get fixated on this girl and date other woman. If she reaches out, invite her to your place for dinner. I wouldn't take her out and make her work for your time. Good luck!
Just keep working on improving yourself. Take care of you and focus on bettering your life with goals. A man who takes care of his life is attractive to women which turns them on. If she comes back then cool but if she doesn't then that's ok too. Remember females will come in and out of your life and if you play your cards right and learn how to deal with women you'll know the right one is near.
So I return to the dating market for almost a year now after a decade of being married, and the battlefield out there is so different these days. Although I had multiple successes with women much younger and hotter than me, but girls out there these days are not committed after the lay regardless how good the lay or the date were. Those hot dates usually start with being like love birds before and after the lay but turn cold after 3-4 weeks.. this has happened to me multiple times including women in my age. After watching these videos and reading thru some of the comments had make me realize that the blame is on social media/dating sites and feminist moment of sexual liberation. Women these days will not feel obligated or have invested anything after the lay...they can easily swipe left or right again for the next Joe.
That's for sure. Stop giving them the lay. Save it for the woman who proves her worth by staying with you.
You should do a video on the 'Grass is Greener syndrome'!
There is an exclusive video on it in The Knowledge workbooks Elite series
Its amazing that women want men who arent players and assholes...yet they ghost guys instead of just saying whats going on. I used to be that guy who would try and see whats going on. Now, if I dont hear from them, I dont even ask. I delete their number.
The best coach on the planet.
Needed this tonight. Thank you!
Dead on. Good advice and I know it works wonders. Always keep it chill
Best advice you will ever encounter
Such a good video. I’m dating a woman and she began to pull away kinda out of nowhere. I’m glad I can refer back to this video for guidance!
Why do guys always ask, "what do i need to do to get her back?" The answer is so obvious. NOTHING. There is nothing you can DO to get your ex girlfriends back. The question should be "What should i avoid doing to increase my chances of her revisiting the idea of getting back with me?" It's all about behavior. The key is not to try to get them back, it's to try and move on and become a better version of yourself, so if they do come back, you can re-attract them. You have to accept that they're gone, and that there is a good chance they'll never come back, otherwise you will actually never get them back. It's funny... Out of all my girlfriends, the ones that never came back were the ones that i really wanted back, and that i was hurting over for months. Even though i walked away, they never reached out. It's like they could sense that i wasn't over them and they new they could have me. I wasn't weak. I accepted the breakups and walked away like a man, but nothing. Yet the ones that i moved on quickly from, that i couldn't care less, reached out within a month. One of them was constantly reaching out saying she missed me even though she was seeing another guy. This went on for a few months until she accepted that i wasn't interested and moved on, and one of them was reaching out to talk and wanting me back for over a year! I could have gotten these girls back but i didn't want to. Only when you get to that place are you able to truly re-attract them. It's like Craig says, when you genuinely don't care anymore they can sense it, like a disturbance in the force lol.
that was so jokes and so true lmao "i couldnt care less" lol some pathetic chick sittin there thinkin "oh fuck i thought i was the shit and he'd be all sad but hes not oh fuck maybe i am the loser here, take me back!!!!" LOL
You're a fucking idiot
HAHAHA
This was Absolutely some of the most fantastic advice I’ve ever heard of sir thanks so much and God bless you !!
Craig you should do is Video on what to do when she backs away and broken up but still live together and have kids . How do you work on no contact when y’all still live together
Thanks Coach Craig. This is the best advice on Earth! Or any other planet in the galaxy!
I wish i knew this ive done alotta research into this and u and many more have explained this when she pulled away i was clingy needy and now shes got me quite quite pushed away not out but not even relatively what we were, thanks for it live and learn she was a really really cool girl too
Sometimes when people fall back like that, there is usually something else interfering. That use to tear me up but I've grown from that , I just said hey , if she found somebody better then let her stay gone .I probably wont even reply if she ever texted or called me in the future because that's a narcissistic symptom also. Normal people communicate when they need space if they truly like you. To back away without communication is a huge red flag and says a lot about that person . So now I'm not comfortable with this person because I feel like something or someone else is being hidden. Normal people communicate with someone they like and dont want to risk losing. I dont play those type of games with nobody. If you leave and leave me clueless to why . Dont even bother trying to come back later because I won't see you the same. I respect any woman who can say , i need a few days to myself and i will respect that 100 percent. That make me love her even more because she care about me enough and have the decency to that. Men, respect women when they need their space.
It’s not games bruh, it’s just how women are. They’re emotional beings and will follow their emotions. I know it sucks but it’s just the way things are with women.
I guess as men we have to learn how to control our minds and be positive when things like that happen.
@@MrClemsonfan2011 exactly we always gotta keep our frame in these situations.
Note taken. I appreciate it
Idk who that is.
(In the email) That woman should've been straight up and told the guy she was seeing that she wanted some space. Instead she ignored him. He didn't know what was wrong, he didn't know what if something horrible happened to her. Not the guy's fault this time.
Listen to this video probably 30 times because I think it's for the best. When you say when she backs away you back away that even include your girlfriend you've been relationship for a while? My concern is she will see this as gameplaying.
Kk V think of it as respecting her need for space. It's not natural to spend every second together, eventually you start suffocating each other. She'll respect you for giving the space and will be more appreciative of it.
SouthpawSatch thanks for your reply. We are no longer together anymore. She told me at the end of the day she wanted someone who could financially support her. Far as I'm concerned she no longer exists
Kk V now you know it wasn't meant to be, so you can focus on yourself and eventually find someone better suited to you
I agree in some ways in this Video I did a lot of chasing I tired of doing it because I get same result every time I really need my confidence up because it been low for a while what should I do
Craig is on the money.
Ur a amazing coach Mr Craig!!!
Craig, I’ve been studying your teachings for the same relationship I’ve had.
My problems that I make the same mistakes as a newbie when my girl becomes distant from other nonRelated issues.
Been together for almost 3 years now.
We never fights, or use profanity at each other,
but I have more expectations from a beautiful intelligent woman she is.
I expect her to standup for me to those jealous people who are no good, but instead
she avoids bringing up my name so she doesn’t have to tell them: “ Shut the f up,, you all wish you had a man like him”.
She’s proud and talk highly about me to her family and coworkers, but dump my name in the bin in front of her neighbors.
That has been the major reason of us getting frustrated, next thing to another... I get offended, she gets distant and I stay away.
Meanwhile I don’t talk to her I go through crap.
I’m independent, take care of myself, train hard, nutrition, sense of fashion which she got attracted from the beginning.
I feel like whenever I go through separation anxiety, she seems ( looks like) indifferent... and that brings more pain to me.
I send my 4 to 5 heavy text- reactions, then I shut up.
Wow this pure gold! Stop chasing and stay calm cool and collective. Thank you!
How do you fix it if you did make the mistake of chasing her?
Thank you Craig. U saved me.
I need help with my relationship but unfortunately can't afford your coaching where I'm supporting 3 kids on my own
Wow... this video completely explained a lot to me. Thanks so much
Before my ex broke up with me and left the country for work, I said that I'm gonna wait for her until she return. I told her that before I discovered Craig and NC. Right now we are on NC for months, will she still develop separation anxiety and return to me, given that she know that I'm waiting for her?
Just liked and Subscribed.Great content.
Yep this happens in lesbian relationships to I am dating this girl for 3 weeks from the beginning her interest level was really high and I tried to set up a 4th date and she was not sure about it so I told her to get in touch with me when she is free and it’s been like 3 weeks since then