I think you are bringing up a very important and sometimes awkward point. Speaking for myself, the way I discovered I was transgender was through sexual fantasy. Sometimes I'd think about meeting a sexy woman with a penis, other times I'd think about being that woman. I wondered why those thoughts kept coming back. Before accepting my transgender status I would pay money for hypnotic audios that I would listen to at my work camps, that would "let me be her" for the night and I would imagine myself a desirable woman. Wanting to feel sexy and desirable is a common way to feel feminine I think.
Wow Darci! Way to hit it in the nail. If you're talking about erotic feminizing hypnosis and stuff then me too! I'm totally into it even now after my transition - cept I find it got imagining myself as a boy being feminized 😂But seriously though it is a topic not widely discussed Partially because it’s embarrassing and also a little shaming I think for some people. I know before I shared the video about my sexuality here I was very scared sharing it. You can also be misinterpreted very easily I think by others. I’m glad that you’ve been able to work with pesto and find ways in which you can step into who you really are. I love to see your comments today by the way it’s nice to have you here on the channel!
Very evolutionary perspective on things! Yeah the other evolutionary aspect is an interesting one when you combined it with social aspects and survival it gets very complicated. I tend to agree with what you’re saying but I find it hard to pin it on anything in particular. 💕
until I had srs the way I made myself feel more feminine was by wearing dresses all the time. Now that i'm post op I feel feminine wearing anything I want.
Yeah, talking with other girls that acknowledge who you are is great for feeling feminine and valid. One of the first things I had done to feel more feminine was growing hair long and getting my earlobes pierced for wearing earrings. Also wearing feminine clothes, especially things like dresses, girly shorts, skirts and lingerie, is super validating. Makeup is also my way of feeling more feminine, even if it's just eyeshadow or lipstick. Voice is something I still have some issues with, but I hope continuing practicing will help; If not I'll opt for VFS I guess. As for validation through having sex, I think it's most important that the person already sees you as a woman before getting physical. Re: The intertwineness of gender and having sex: I guess you're right for most ppl, but please keep in mind that there are also pansexuals that are 'gender-blind' and really don't have such relation to gender. As always thank you so much for sharing. I'm happy you're here 🤗
Ugh~! I want long hair so bad! Dresses are the best. I think you got a great list Joanna thanks for throwing it out there. Noted about Asexual and gender blind folks!
So you're the voice in my head. 😂OMG never once in 50 years did I feel sexy as a man. But the first time I put on a pair of panties, my mind was blown! I was living out of VS six months before I realized I was trans and not a CD. You are helping me so much in this process. Thank you!🤗
My experience with clothing. Dressing up and makeup after been taking break from transition in few months. Made me realize I really need to move forward. I feel so good now as I embrace myself. Makeup is still a struggle. Hair removal and voice is my first focus. I hope my journey encourages others too. Because this girl still pushing forward in my journey.
I give you a lot of credit for living your authentic self, I'm trying to slowly show some of my feminine side in an androgynous way, but my wife isn't very happy about it, so I'm struggling with it
honestly just doing a ponytail with a bit hanging out in the front is one of my favorite go to's for this one, plus it changes the profile of your face so it helps with passing too. :D
Hi Ashley, I shave my body to remove hair. Paint toe nails different colors. I use a clear coat for fingernails. I have 3 ear rings each ear. Trying to incorporate some feminine gestures and walk a little like a woman walks. Still needs work. I have been lazy about my voice training. This area needs work. I dress up as much as I can. Haven’t come out as trans yet. I also do permanent makeup so I have eyebrows and eyeliner done permanent on my face.
Hi Brianna! Wow! Tatoos for eyeliner now that's next level! I love the clear coat for fingernails that sounds great looking. I haven't gotten into that yet.
Girl i felt that when you said the doubting parts and thinking that you're faking it i actually thought that it really might be that for a long time cause i never heard from any other trans Person that they feel those feelings too which was really happy to hear . Also i was able to buy a lot of makeup on the weekend which makes me so happy because now i can put make up on more. Also with the voice i've been getting some more Practice in and do more research on how feminine and male people talk for example the vocals how the pronounciacion sounds so yeah it's been going great . But i'm still trying to get the courage to try exercicing my voice in school but i think i'm getting more courage from your videos which i'm really thankfull for . Side note : sorry for my grammar i'm actually german so it's sometimes a bit hard to formulate these comments in english 💞
Oh no worries Jello! I'm glad you're making progress that's awesome and your English is great! Funny, I'm in Germany too. I guess youtube does some kind of sharing metric localized.
Love your content! I'm pretty new into my transition so any time I can find good content creators in that space I'm 100% there. Nails are also a great way to feel more fem, if you are still early and worried about others harassing you, you can just work on your toes until you're comfortable. I've done that and I've also gone big into clothing. Fashion is something I avoided before transition, I think partially because I'm trans, so now I've started a mini horde of clothing and am slowly getting rid of the masc stuff as I replace it. I was super lucky because my sis had a ton of stuff she was giving away that I could take so it gave me a head start.
Oh my god it’s so nice to meet you Jack! Yeah I feel you it’s kind of hard when you’re getting started because you have to get rid of your entire closet to really find a consistency for a feminine clothes. Nails low-key is such a good idea and example of ways that you can slowly build up your own feminine Pride. I love this idea I’m gonna share it with others. Thank you for sharing today and welcome to the channel!
Yep. Early stages for me but my toe nails are kept painted and my finger nails are done, removed, done again, and so on.. I do like to keep my pinkies painted most of the time now and the mere act of painting my nails does make me feel more feminine. 💅👍
Thank you for the comments on the morning. I feel that in the morning where I wake up condition through life and feel my inner self waking up a little later like "hello, you forgot me" Homestly I makes me feel sad when this happen and makes mornings sonetimes hard. The fact I hear this is others too and gets better the more I go through my journey makes me smile. Thank you hun ❤️. Your awesome and beautiful, keep it up. 🥰
I was waiting for you to get to "feeling a woman with men" thing. For me, it's the realization that finally, at some point in my transition, I became attractive to men, and then further on, realizing that I can attract men that I like. You're bringing up some good points, girl. Wishing you all the best! Keep shining! ❤
Aww hi Chatherine! Thanks for sharing that, and I'm glad you can relate. I'm still working on the attracting men that I like hehe. I like men, but dating is a tough thing as a trans woman. I'm sure you can relate. Best wishes back at you!
@@Imsuper656 while it is not altogether a definition of what it is to be a woman, however, it would be fair to say that a huge part of being a woman would hinge upon being attractive to the opposite sex (males) or speaking in performative sex terms, to men.
@@hayfalahraoui8361 or maybe you are an autogynophile who tries to project that onto others? Or maybe you just don't know what you're talking about 😊 Which is a possibility as well. Last time I checked, it's only natural for women to be attracted to men and want men to be attracted to them.
I love your work cause it feels a lot more relaxed than other trans people in youtube, most trans channels overwhelm me with big scientific Words and stuff
Yes there's intertwines between gender and sexuality.Im a transdgender female who started the shot today. Thank u for your insight.peace and love always
Before, I used to see just an ugly man in drag... nothing else. Even when I knew I was trans, but was doing nothing about it. I didn't feel like I belonged in the class of women, but knew I wasn't a man. 5:56 is EXACTLY how it happened for me on January 16, 2021. It changed my life so so much! Now, It's not a choice... transition that is. Thanks for your time and sharing your side of the transgender experience!
When I put on lingerie for the first time it was a feeling of bliss it was wow I feel so amazing. The conversation your right especially with other girls. Using more feminine terms
i have a guilty fem pleasure of wearing daisy dukes out in public growin up in CA, all the gals got to, and i was always so jealous. so now i let my booty poke out a little from time to time.. sue me edit: what u said about the sexiness being looped into womanhood is SOO TRUE! boys dont get to be "sexy" in the same sense
Recently I've been doing a lot of visualization of what I think I will look like. I'll draw myself a few years further in my transition and try to see my current self in the picture. It helps me focus on the more feminine parts of my appearance and feel more feminine as a result.
Wow this is a really unique and powerful exercise. I am going to have to try this one! Thank you for sharing at Joss! Also, hello it’s nice to meet you here! Welcome to the channel!
Hi Ashley! I just came across your channel. I love tbe way you look at the inner and outer person in the way Confucius and the I Ching do. It's really inspiring for me as a bigendered mtf woman. Sally xx
One thing I like to have to feel more feminine especially if you’re early into HRT and haven’t quite gotten boob growth, a push-up bra can be so amazing. I absolutely love it and it’s so validating to have bigger boobs that look natural like how they look in a push-up bra. I’ve mentioned it plenty of times before but I’m definitely working on voice training and would love a follow-up video on voice, I watched your previous video a little bit ago and it seemed to cover some basic things I already knew but I’m struggling with maintaining and holding my feminine voice. I also think sometime I like overcompensate the voice and it makes me not want to practice in public because I think it sounds like too much and I’m very introverted and don’t want to draw extra attention too myself. I don’t know if you have any tips related to my problems but regardless I’m always on the look out for new femme voice training videos and tips to help me out. Also just want to say I’m kind of excited for the inner voice video. That’s been something that I’ve really been good about (I think), and I’d love to hear other perspectives on it and if anyone in the community is struggling with it, I think I focused video is a great idea because inner voice is so powerful for me and I think that it could be great for other people. I always feel like I write a lot down in the comments. Ashley, is this too much?, because I could probably constrain myself a little bit if it is actually is. Let me know.
Hi Rachel! No don’t feel the need to constrain yourself! Sometimes I do you get overwhelmed with just try to read through all the comments but honestly it means so much more to me to hear your perspective and hear whatever you want to share than it is for you to write like a one liner. Because that means so much less to me and it also makes me feel like it doesn’t mean much that what I’m creating has any impact. It just sometimes takes me longer to get back because I want to fully absorb what’s written but know that I really really appreciate these things that you share. As for voice lessons I will totally make a follow up do you have any questions or areas that you feel like you’re stuck on that I could maybe address. One thing I’ve noticed with some women is they’re not very good at The larynx height. I can’t tell though without hearing your voice.
@@AshleyxAdamson Well I’m glad to hear that you appreciate my lengthy comments, that’s very nice to hear. With regards to voice training, I think that my main problem is consistency and lack of practice. Like I can kind of raise my larynx and I can increase my pitch, but I’m just not able to do both together consistently without really focusing and then that sounds unnatural because I’m not speaking freely, I’ll be so focused on sounding how I would like instead of focusing on saying what’s on my mind.
Just discovered your channel, the day after I ordered myself some underwear and a dress. I can’t wait to put them on, but I’m also really nervous too. Sorry, I just want to add, that every time you spoke to us, saying, “Girls…”, I felt seen and addressed personally. So thank you for this video. XO
What a well-done video. And thank you so much for the info! I can totally relate to several of the things you said. I think my transitioning process has several parallels with yours. So it's very validating to hear you talk about these things also. I feel soooo much better after discovering that I'm transgender and beginning my journey in womanhood. So much joy! Anyway, I just wanted to give you props because you're awesome. And girl, you are so pretty! -Michelle
Yes I totally got that moment with women's clothes in general I started smiling extra hard and starting to feel and look beautiful. Also finding my style is a struggle though especially with the size chart with you on the girl talk as as a transwoman i don't get enough of the girl talk .
Im in what seems like a long process of coming out to myself. Dancing and moving in a very feminine way is what helps the most to experience my femininity -also earrings, pretty head scarves (good for the bald area!) leggings and always wearing womens underwear as knowing I've got the right underwear on feels very affirming wherever I happen to be at the time.
It is sad that because society values woman as sexual objects many times above all else, that we end up feeling weird when we want to indulge that side of ourselves. I would like to unabashedly be in that sexy role sometimes, but there is a bit of weirdness in my head about, "Is this the face that I should feel good about putting forward?" My bold side says yes! My eye to society and breaking the stereotypes makes me question if I should. It doesn't help to be on the older side of things. You are right, I never felt sexy as a person in the male role. Good video as usual.
I love to eat baguettes. Personally a nicely baked loaf is pure magnificence. Sometimes in the morning I will eat the baguette with a cup of coffee, tea, or hot chocolate. I will sometimes dip the bread into the drink, although sometimes I don't. Baguettes are beautiful. You are beautiful as well. Thank you for this.
@AsAshleyxAdamson I'm heartened at the thought coming into this - that feedback of how one is treated and wants to be treated is really insightful. When I realised how uncomfortable I was relating to men as a man it all made sense in a much deeper way as to why I loved being androgynous (and a goth) - But I can't sit on the fence anymore though, so I feels trans is probably where I wanted to be all along.
Thank you soo much for taking the time to create all of these beautiful and wonderful UA-cam videos! You are soo encouraging and i am soo grateful ( I can't believe it but as I type this I am in tears!).
I can definitely relate to feeling validated as a woman by wearing skirts/dresses and doing my makeup. I think the other thing that also really helped validate me was conversations with other women just as girlfriends. Honestly that just helped me feel like I was perceived as a woman and that I was part of "the group" so to speak rather than just a dude trying to act like a woman. I will admit that sexual experiences have never been particularly empowering/validating for me, largely b/c I'm asexual. I'm glad to hear others get validation from that though. Voice is definitely something I still struggle with. I've been working on it for a while but it's been slow going. I would like it if you did another video on voice in the future. :D I do really like that idea of telling yourself to see the woman in the mirror. That's something I've actively started trying to do since I started watching this channel. I haven't had a lot of success so far, but I'll give it time.
Oh I’m really glad to hear that you start doing that! Mirror work is great! It takes time like it takes months and months and months. Voice in something is there practice just do it wherever you are with your friends online when you’re talking to me on Telegram you can practice. I totally relate to being read as email by other women that’s probably the most validating thing! I feel like you’re excepted as you are by other women it’s just so magical!
I really appreciate you making this video Ashley. It's so important to feel feminine. It's all about capturing this feeling for trans women. If you haven't already, can you talk about how you achieved your voice? I think you're very feminine. Aahh, I see you've already addressed this. How do you deal with your inner "transphobe" and all its attendant insecurities? "Allowing the feminine space to come in" - I like the way you put that Ashley!
Yes I can exactly relate to all that. I feel feminine when I do my nails and wear perfume. Unfortunately I still dress like a guy when I go to work and it messes with my head and people call me Mr or Sir. Makeup and my wig really make me feel like a real woman. I guess the transformation is what makes me feel more feminine. About voices, I don't understand why some trans girls don't try to make their voice feminine. I feel extremely dysphiric about my voice and hips.
Ashley, hi! Wow, It's been a couple of weeks (I wasn't doing too good), I missed your videos and now I have quite a few to catch on, so that should be fun. :) Congratulations on reaching 1.1k subscribers, that's so cool, may your channel keep growing and your wisdom and positivity touch the lives of more and more viewers! As for this video, It's nice to see how the little things make the difference, how so many of these things which many cis women may give for granted, may mean so much for transgender women. As always, thanks for sharing! I hope you've been doing great. See you in the next video! I'll try to keep my next few comments short, since I'll probably be watching several videos tonight and I don't want to flood your feed with too much stuff to read.
Oops I accidentally canceled my comment I think. I really appreciate your videos, insightful and well considered. I am an older person who has been contemplating transition over the past year experimenting with clothing and cosmetics etc. but all in private so far. I absolutely agree that things like lingerie and make up can bring on moments of seeing a girl there. I’ve hesitated going on hormones because of the circumstances of my life which include some other medical problems. I’m really a scaredy-cat. But I’ll keep watching and trying to reach a resolution
When I first ‘crossdressed’ I felt repulsion. In a way I think my face looks feminine already. I have huge eyelashes and the shape of my face doesn’t look very masculine. But as soon as I tried wearing a wig it just highlighted all the masculine traits I don’t usually see in myself. I have incredibly difficult stubble to remove so I just looked like Jesus, it also made me realise I need to groom my eyebrows. I think my nose doesn’t look feminine enough too, which sounds weird but I just perceive it differently when dressing as a woman.
I looove your dress in these two videos, that choker also totally reminds me of Sailor Moon with the moon + cat reminding me of Luna! You'd absolutely catch my attention if we went out on a date with everything you were wearing in these videos, lol! 💙 What brings me some euphoria is simply getting rid of my body hair. I don't like my body hair and I love that smooth feeling after trimming. Body hair is totally fine on others, I just hate it on myself. Thank you for your videos as always!
I love your energy ty. I am having issue with this in particular because I worked so hard not to appear so. lol. My first thing is to slow down a little with everything and make actions smoother instead of rigid. I also try to be more delicate when doing things. I will use force when necessary lol. My old self literally did Everything hard and fast e.e
Oh yeah movement and Grace are definitely something to work on if you want to feel more feminine! I’m actually thinking of doing this for the next inner work Wednesday episode where we talk about movement and how to reset our own movement and feeling that feminine Grace. Thanks for inspiring me I’m definitely gonna do that for the next Wednesday!
Hearing around 3:55 realky hit ne made me tear up and fell so great at same time. Iive with my family so they refuse to use my chosen name they continue to use my birth name. So everytime i hear it i go down deep and prentend im hearing Quinn. That gives me such an awesome feeling and helps me see my true identity Then when im with all my frirnds and they can see me dressed more feminine and i constantly hear Quinn i feel totally me and complete
Why did it take so long for your site to appear in my feed? You bring up such relevant aspects of the experience. Looking forward to listening to more of your uploads later. 🙏
Thanks for addressing this! Another important and difficult topic. Personally, I think some of the things that make me feel most feminine are simply wearing jewelry, dresses or skirts, cute women's tops, and heels. The swish of the skirt and the feeling of walking in heels makes me move and sit in a more feminine way (sometimes), and I like that. But, as an amab non-binary person who is not transfem, who generally presents either boyishly or androgynously, I struggle with how to bring in femininity in a way that might read as feminine in the way a woman is and not feminine in the ways stereotypically associated with gay men.... how can I be feminine in a way that will help me be read as androgynous or non-binary or whatever, and not as "gay"? Thanks as always for your wonderful content! 🙏
A big one might be voice. There’s a female gender spectrum and then there’s a male gender spectrum and there’s an in between in terms of the frequency of your voice. And that’s separate from annunciation. The difference between a gay man and a woman in terms of sound is Not the annunciation but the frequency. So if you have a lower her voice but you annunciate feminine leave then you’ll sound like a gay man. Does that make sense? There’s other ways than your voice I think it’s also how you carry yourself and how you express yourself in your movement.
Look at the way that I speak I wouldn’t even consider myself speaking to feminine way I speak more like a male, but my voice is clearly more in the female range. And that works for me! I don’t move very femininely lol
@@AshleyxAdamson Wow. Thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I'm not sure i was even expecting a response 😅. You're so kind. I'll think about this and try to see what I can do; I'll start listening more carefully to women's speech, see what I can try to adopt maybe. Thank you
If you go to my channel you can see that there’s a tutorial section where I have one on top tips for feminizing your voice. That might help! And of course babe I try to keep up with the comments and do my best to reply to all of them. But I honestly can’t get to all of them! It’s really just luck of the draw :-)
I've experienced that when I purge resupply after phases of halting and starting again. Which I just started back up again. I've realized it's been a kung fu battle with in myself and I wanna move forward. For I know I'm meant to be the Mia or Mikala.
ooooh, this video touched on several important things for me first, yes, i left voice training til too late in my transition. second, i wonder if there's sort of ... there's the moments that chip away at our "masculine self concepts" and there's joy in those moments... then, i feel a reinstatement of the familiar self... the familiar self is waiting for some definitive future moment where the future self dies isn't that so ... delusional... delusional in the specific cultural ways that men are delusional... like, it's happening RIGHT NOW... the dissolving of the familiar, supposed man-space is happening Right Now. but it's like "i wonder what it will be like to dissolve" the throughline in all of this is guardedness of the heart and i suppose disassociation / living thru story / buying into a narrative even when everything around u is clearly contradicting it i'd be curious to hear how u, ashley, and other trans women reading this find femininity to be about a softening/opening of the heart i think my feminism says "woman is woman, undefined by so called receptivity or openness" as a trans woman, so much of what my feminism defends ("closed-off women", hairy bodies, etc) w regard to cis women is dysphoric on me
I’m starting to be able to feel more feminine when looking in the mirror. The most surprising thing was when I got some cheep foam breast pads and looked in the mirror is sports gear and I couldn’t stop smiling and giggling. I was dressed the girliest I could be but I really felt like me, a female athlete.
As my de ni dentity which is my new word for my denial identity to hide and protect myself from external pressures. I went through a ringer. External shames and guilts gifted by society in plenty. When I was younger everyone else did it to me. When I was older I kept up for them even in hiding. My de ni dentity became mean and nasty. It hurt me. It stopped protecting me when I became the monster. When I admitted I was the one in the cage. When I realized my external self. Was mutilating my internal self. Because of internal crying from not being me.... The tears lasted two weeks and the anger and pain magically left. I walked by my mirror and she saw me! My tummy she saw me ! I heard her! I have 5 o clock shadow rn. I have one pair of skinny guy jeans and nothing else. just Saying listen to the power inside you. Let your external self. See and hear your internal self. If your anything like me. She won’t be happy that she was ignored for a lifetime. I had a lot of dangerous risky self talk to me and realized my transition It’s from my de ni dentity into my flower power. Whatever she wants. I promised myself she’s getting sunlight and water. I’m not always shading me anymore. And now I glow. Now the sparkle of life in my eye is back. And I know who she is... maybe just a nickname. Maybe her real name. I’ve been patient for a lifetime. I’ll wait for her to share the rest of my lifetime . No more shade.
I have been out on and off for years... i'd always make some sort of believable excuse based on the masculine personality i built around myswlf to keep others more distant. And.. aha.. okay i was being depressed but my bf just called me pretty out of the blue and it made me blush 😅 i guess my point is that i am scared of being me.
One thing that I have found that emphasises my own femininity since I have become trans are high heels. I have always marvelled at women that can walk in them and have long admired Ginger Rogers for dancing in them. In fact my last wife and I had a long running gag about who gets to be Ginger Rogers when we were moving house. Someone always has to walk backwards with heavy furniture, etc... Respectfully, of her of course. Since finding stilettos in my size (female size 15!) I have practised walking and have discovered that they help with feminising my gait. Seeing video footage of me walking in heels has been very empowering. Damn sexy too, if I don't say so too!
High heels! I can barely walk in them. That's great! Yeah I agree, walking with high heels really helps emphasize your feminine gait. I rarely wear them but it does feel good!
"The sexual domain is the most defining domain or your gender". I disagree. I am not having sex out in the world. For me, people SEEING me & interpreting what they see as female is the most defining part.
Thank you for this video, I do some of what you're talking about now, so I guess I'm on the right track...oh ya, my girlfriend calls me cutey..she knows I like that better than handsome ❤😅
Hello dear I like watching your show it's going to help me a lot I am working on being a transgender woman I've been on my estrogen pills for 3 months maybe answer my 4th and my girls are growing my wife says when I die God's going to beat me with a belt my wife don't live with me now I put her out cuz I realize you only married me for the green card I'm going to go on with my life whatever I've always wanted to do and that is to be a woman
That is awesome but it’s helping. Sounds like times are a little tough in your life. Which I’m sorry about, but don’t worry or don’t give up. You have a journey ahead of you and a reason to live. You’ve got this!
What if you are inclined to be androgynous, and are more like a butchy femme than a dress up queen. Why do I need to dress up in order to achieve my own femininity?
I was put on steroids as a child so I've had boobs and a giant butt since the second grade so I already have felt this way but nonstop self conscious it was only recently I hated men I don't know whether to start estrogen cause I'm a strong person I don't want to lose it
I’m non-binary afab and sometimes I feel jealous of trans femme people because there’s this choice to present femininity. I’ve always felt suffocated by my born and taught femininity, and presenting masculinity can easily feel erasing and bland to me. I’m a lesbian, I love women and femininity is so lit, I’m also an artist and love clothes, and we’ve made non femme clothes bland as fuck... this shit is hard..
The most feminine I ever felt Was cutting all my damaged hair off. Some sweats and nikes and no makeup Being read as female.....was so powerful. It changed something in me. That my femininity is not tied to clothes or makeup or nails...lashes. That im feminine simply because im a woman.
I think you are bringing up a very important and sometimes awkward point. Speaking for myself, the way I discovered I was transgender was through sexual fantasy. Sometimes I'd think about meeting a sexy woman with a penis, other times I'd think about being that woman. I wondered why those thoughts kept coming back.
Before accepting my transgender status I would pay money for hypnotic audios that I would listen to at my work camps, that would "let me be her" for the night and I would imagine myself a desirable woman.
Wanting to feel sexy and desirable is a common way to feel feminine I think.
Wow Darci! Way to hit it in the nail. If you're talking about erotic feminizing hypnosis and stuff then me too! I'm totally into it even now after my transition - cept I find it got imagining myself as a boy being feminized 😂But seriously though it is a topic not widely discussed Partially because it’s embarrassing and also a little shaming I think for some people. I know before I shared the video about my sexuality here I was very scared sharing it. You can also be misinterpreted very easily I think by others.
I’m glad that you’ve been able to work with pesto and find ways in which you can step into who you really are. I love to see your comments today by the way it’s nice to have you here on the channel!
Very evolutionary perspective on things! Yeah the other evolutionary aspect is an interesting one when you combined it with social aspects and survival it gets very complicated. I tend to agree with what you’re saying but I find it hard to pin it on anything in particular. 💕
I agree, I wish more people were open about this cause I repressed heavily due to the way I began discovering gender.
You have absolutely no idea what it is to be a woman, you only have an idea based on your autogyniphillia what that may be.
Yep I have fantasize with that and I'm doing similar hypno stuff with a friend of mind, this is so relatable
until I had srs the way I made myself feel more feminine was by wearing dresses all the time. Now that i'm post op I feel feminine wearing anything I want.
Nice! I go the dress route only.
Oh yes!🤍
Yeah, talking with other girls that acknowledge who you are is great for feeling feminine and valid.
One of the first things I had done to feel more feminine was growing hair long and getting my earlobes pierced for wearing earrings.
Also wearing feminine clothes, especially things like dresses, girly shorts, skirts and lingerie, is super validating. Makeup is also my way of feeling more feminine, even if it's just eyeshadow or lipstick.
Voice is something I still have some issues with, but I hope continuing practicing will help; If not I'll opt for VFS I guess.
As for validation through having sex, I think it's most important that the person already sees you as a woman before getting physical.
Re: The intertwineness of gender and having sex: I guess you're right for most ppl, but please keep in mind that there are also pansexuals that are 'gender-blind' and really don't have such relation to gender.
As always thank you so much for sharing. I'm happy you're here 🤗
And asexual peeps!!
Ugh~! I want long hair so bad! Dresses are the best. I think you got a great list Joanna thanks for throwing it out there. Noted about Asexual and gender blind folks!
noted! :D
So you're the voice in my head. 😂OMG never once in 50 years did I feel sexy as a man. But the first time I put on a pair of panties, my mind was blown! I was living out of VS six months before I realized I was trans and not a CD. You are helping me so much in this process. Thank you!🤗
Eve it is an honor to help!
My experience with clothing. Dressing up and makeup after been taking break from transition in few months. Made me realize I really need to move forward. I feel so good now as I embrace myself. Makeup is still a struggle. Hair removal and voice is my first focus. I hope my journey encourages others too. Because this girl still pushing forward in my journey.
Love that!
I give you a lot of credit for living your authentic self, I'm trying to slowly show some of my feminine side in an androgynous way, but my wife isn't very happy about it, so I'm struggling with it
Hugs!
honestly just doing a ponytail with a bit hanging out in the front is one of my favorite go to's for this one, plus it changes the profile of your face so it helps with passing too. :D
I like doing my nails. The first time I did, when I looked at them I felt like a giddy school girl. It's a little thing, but it really makes me happy.
Hi Ashley, I shave my body to remove hair. Paint toe nails different colors. I use a clear coat for fingernails. I have 3 ear rings each ear. Trying to incorporate some feminine gestures and walk a little like a woman walks. Still needs work. I have been lazy about my voice training. This area needs work. I dress up as much as I can. Haven’t come out as trans yet. I also do permanent makeup so I have eyebrows and eyeliner done permanent on my face.
Hi Brianna! Wow! Tatoos for eyeliner now that's next level! I love the clear coat for fingernails that sounds great looking. I haven't gotten into that yet.
Girl i felt that when you said the doubting parts and thinking that you're faking it i actually thought that it really might be that for a long time cause i never heard from any other trans Person that they feel those feelings too which was really happy to hear . Also i was able to buy a lot of makeup on the weekend which makes me so happy because now i can put make up on more.
Also with the voice i've been getting some more Practice in and do more research on how feminine and male people talk for example the vocals how the pronounciacion sounds so yeah it's been going great . But i'm still trying to get the courage to try exercicing my voice in school but i think i'm getting more courage from your videos which i'm really thankfull for .
Side note : sorry for my grammar i'm actually german so it's sometimes a bit hard to formulate these comments in english 💞
Oh no worries Jello! I'm glad you're making progress that's awesome and your English is great! Funny, I'm in Germany too. I guess youtube does some kind of sharing metric localized.
@6:00 this made me tear up. This how I finally knew I hatched. I thought I was just a CD for decades lmao
Girl I feel you!!!
Love your content! I'm pretty new into my transition so any time I can find good content creators in that space I'm 100% there. Nails are also a great way to feel more fem, if you are still early and worried about others harassing you, you can just work on your toes until you're comfortable. I've done that and I've also gone big into clothing. Fashion is something I avoided before transition, I think partially because I'm trans, so now I've started a mini horde of clothing and am slowly getting rid of the masc stuff as I replace it. I was super lucky because my sis had a ton of stuff she was giving away that I could take so it gave me a head start.
Oh my god it’s so nice to meet you Jack! Yeah I feel you it’s kind of hard when you’re getting started because you have to get rid of your entire closet to really find a consistency for a feminine clothes. Nails low-key is such a good idea and example of ways that you can slowly build up your own feminine Pride. I love this idea I’m gonna share it with others. Thank you for sharing today and welcome to the channel!
Yep. Early stages for me but my toe nails are kept painted and my finger nails are done, removed, done again, and so on.. I do like to keep my pinkies painted most of the time now and the mere act of painting my nails does make me feel more feminine. 💅👍
That social interaction portion is SOOO true!!!
Thank you for the comments on the morning. I feel that in the morning where I wake up condition through life and feel my inner self waking up a little later like "hello, you forgot me" Homestly I makes me feel sad when this happen and makes mornings sonetimes hard. The fact I hear this is others too and gets better the more I go through my journey makes me smile. Thank you hun ❤️. Your awesome and beautiful, keep it up. 🥰
That a reeeeeeeally helpful video! OMG, I’m loving your content so much!
Ahhh thanks girl!!! Hope you are well :) Thanks for dropping me a comment
I was waiting for you to get to "feeling a woman with men" thing. For me, it's the realization that finally, at some point in my transition, I became attractive to men, and then further on, realizing that I can attract men that I like.
You're bringing up some good points, girl. Wishing you all the best! Keep shining! ❤
Aww hi Chatherine! Thanks for sharing that, and I'm glad you can relate. I'm still working on the attracting men that I like hehe. I like men, but dating is a tough thing as a trans woman. I'm sure you can relate. Best wishes back at you!
You think the definitin of being a woman is to be considered desirable to men?
@@Imsuper656 while it is not altogether a definition of what it is to be a woman, however, it would be fair to say that a huge part of being a woman would hinge upon being attractive to the opposite sex (males) or speaking in performative sex terms, to men.
@@CatherineCorelli you're just an autogynephile
@@hayfalahraoui8361 or maybe you are an autogynophile who tries to project that onto others? Or maybe you just don't know what you're talking about 😊 Which is a possibility as well.
Last time I checked, it's only natural for women to be attracted to men and want men to be attracted to them.
I love your work cause it feels a lot more relaxed than other trans people in youtube, most trans channels overwhelm me with big scientific Words and stuff
When Im down I will wear dresses for a week to work and weekend. I then feel organized mentally. Is a great pick me up woman can do
Yes there's intertwines between gender and sexuality.Im a transdgender female who started the shot today. Thank u for your insight.peace and love always
Before, I used to see just an ugly man in drag... nothing else. Even when I knew I was trans, but was doing nothing about it. I didn't feel like I belonged in the class of women, but knew I wasn't a man.
5:56 is EXACTLY how it happened for me on January 16, 2021. It changed my life so so much! Now, It's not a choice... transition that is. Thanks for your time and sharing your side of the transgender experience!
When I put on lingerie for the first time it was a feeling of bliss it was wow I feel so amazing.
The conversation your right especially with other girls. Using more feminine terms
i have a guilty fem pleasure of wearing daisy dukes out in public
growin up in CA, all the gals got to, and i was always so jealous.
so now i let my booty poke out a little from time to time..
sue me
edit: what u said about the sexiness being looped into womanhood is SOO TRUE! boys dont get to be "sexy" in the same sense
Recently I've been doing a lot of visualization of what I think I will look like. I'll draw myself a few years further in my transition and try to see my current self in the picture. It helps me focus on the more feminine parts of my appearance and feel more feminine as a result.
Wow this is a really unique and powerful exercise. I am going to have to try this one! Thank you for sharing at Joss! Also, hello it’s nice to meet you here! Welcome to the channel!
Hi Ashley! I just came across your channel. I love tbe way you look at the inner and outer person in the way Confucius and the I Ching do. It's really inspiring for me as a bigendered mtf woman.
Sally xx
One thing I like to have to feel more feminine especially if you’re early into HRT and haven’t quite gotten boob growth, a push-up bra can be so amazing. I absolutely love it and it’s so validating to have bigger boobs that look natural like how they look in a push-up bra.
I’ve mentioned it plenty of times before but I’m definitely working on voice training and would love a follow-up video on voice, I watched your previous video a little bit ago and it seemed to cover some basic things I already knew but I’m struggling with maintaining and holding my feminine voice. I also think sometime I like overcompensate the voice and it makes me not want to practice in public because I think it sounds like too much and I’m very introverted and don’t want to draw extra attention too myself. I don’t know if you have any tips related to my problems but regardless I’m always on the look out for new femme voice training videos and tips to help me out.
Also just want to say I’m kind of excited for the inner voice video. That’s been something that I’ve really been good about (I think), and I’d love to hear other perspectives on it and if anyone in the community is struggling with it, I think I focused video is a great idea because inner voice is so powerful for me and I think that it could be great for other people.
I always feel like I write a lot down in the comments. Ashley, is this too much?, because I could probably constrain myself a little bit if it is actually is. Let me know.
Hi Rachel! No don’t feel the need to constrain yourself! Sometimes I do you get overwhelmed with just try to read through all the comments but honestly it means so much more to me to hear your perspective and hear whatever you want to share than it is for you to write like a one liner. Because that means so much less to me and it also makes me feel like it doesn’t mean much that what I’m creating has any impact. It just sometimes takes me longer to get back because I want to fully absorb what’s written but know that I really really appreciate these things that you share. As for voice lessons I will totally make a follow up do you have any questions or areas that you feel like you’re stuck on that I could maybe address. One thing I’ve noticed with some women is they’re not very good at The larynx height. I can’t tell though without hearing your voice.
@@AshleyxAdamson Well I’m glad to hear that you appreciate my lengthy comments, that’s very nice to hear. With regards to voice training, I think that my main problem is consistency and lack of practice. Like I can kind of raise my larynx and I can increase my pitch, but I’m just not able to do both together consistently without really focusing and then that sounds unnatural because I’m not speaking freely, I’ll be so focused on sounding how I would like instead of focusing on saying what’s on my mind.
Just discovered your channel, the day after I ordered myself some underwear and a dress. I can’t wait to put them on, but I’m also really nervous too.
Sorry, I just want to add, that every time you spoke to us, saying, “Girls…”, I felt seen and addressed personally. So thank you for this video. XO
Awww! I'm so glad that helped, i'll do that in future!
What a well-done video. And thank you so much for the info! I can totally relate to several of the things you said. I think my transitioning process has several parallels with yours. So it's very validating to hear you talk about these things also. I feel soooo much better after discovering that I'm transgender and beginning my journey in womanhood. So much joy!
Anyway, I just wanted to give you props because you're awesome. And girl, you are so pretty!
-Michelle
That was really good, deep and helpful! please keep it going!
Yes I totally got that moment with women's clothes in general I started smiling extra hard and starting to feel and look beautiful. Also finding my style is a struggle though especially with the size chart with you on the girl talk as as a transwoman i don't get enough of the girl talk .
Girl you got this! Also here's my video on style. ua-cam.com/video/shs8a5QMXzE/v-deo.html&ab_channel=AshleyxAdamson
Im in what seems like a long process of coming out to myself. Dancing and moving in a very feminine way is what helps the most to experience my femininity -also earrings, pretty head scarves (good for the bald area!) leggings and always wearing womens underwear as knowing I've got the right underwear on feels very affirming wherever I happen to be at the time.
It is sad that because society values woman as sexual objects many times above all else, that we end up feeling weird when we want to indulge that side of ourselves. I would like to unabashedly be in that sexy role sometimes, but there is a bit of weirdness in my head about, "Is this the face that I should feel good about putting forward?" My bold side says yes! My eye to society and breaking the stereotypes makes me question if I should. It doesn't help to be on the older side of things. You are right, I never felt sexy as a person in the male role. Good video as usual.
I love to eat baguettes. Personally a nicely baked loaf is pure magnificence. Sometimes in the morning I will eat the baguette with a cup of coffee, tea, or hot chocolate. I will sometimes dip the bread into the drink, although sometimes I don't. Baguettes are beautiful. You are beautiful as well. Thank you for this.
Hahah what does this have to do with femininity? 😆
@@AshleyxAdamson I- I don't know.
@AsAshleyxAdamson I'm heartened at the thought coming into this - that feedback of how one is treated and wants to be treated is really insightful. When I realised how uncomfortable I was relating to men as a man it all made sense in a much deeper way as to why I loved being androgynous (and a goth) - But I can't sit on the fence anymore though, so I feels trans is probably where I wanted to be all along.
That makes sense, i'm glad you figured that out!
Great vid! love your channel!!
Glad you enjoy it!
Thank you soo much for taking the time to create all of these beautiful and wonderful UA-cam videos! You are soo encouraging and i am soo grateful ( I can't believe it but as I type this I am in tears!).
Awww! Sweety! I'm so glad you found this video and there's plenty more to help
This is seriously excellent
I can definitely relate to feeling validated as a woman by wearing skirts/dresses and doing my makeup. I think the other thing that also really helped validate me was conversations with other women just as girlfriends. Honestly that just helped me feel like I was perceived as a woman and that I was part of "the group" so to speak rather than just a dude trying to act like a woman.
I will admit that sexual experiences have never been particularly empowering/validating for me, largely b/c I'm asexual. I'm glad to hear others get validation from that though.
Voice is definitely something I still struggle with. I've been working on it for a while but it's been slow going. I would like it if you did another video on voice in the future. :D
I do really like that idea of telling yourself to see the woman in the mirror. That's something I've actively started trying to do since I started watching this channel. I haven't had a lot of success so far, but I'll give it time.
Oh I’m really glad to hear that you start doing that! Mirror work is great! It takes time like it takes months and months and months. Voice in something is there practice just do it wherever you are with your friends online when you’re talking to me on Telegram you can practice.
I totally relate to being read as email by other women that’s probably the most validating thing! I feel like you’re excepted as you are by other women it’s just so magical!
I really appreciate you making this video Ashley. It's so important to feel feminine. It's all about capturing this feeling for trans women. If you haven't already, can you talk about how you achieved your voice? I think you're very feminine. Aahh, I see you've already addressed this. How do you deal with your inner "transphobe" and all its attendant insecurities? "Allowing the feminine space to come in" - I like the way you put that Ashley!
Yes I can exactly relate to all that. I feel feminine when I do my nails and wear perfume. Unfortunately I still dress like a guy when I go to work and it messes with my head and people call me Mr or Sir. Makeup and my wig really make me feel like a real woman. I guess the transformation is what makes me feel more feminine. About voices, I don't understand why some trans girls don't try to make their voice feminine. I feel extremely dysphiric about my voice and hips.
Voice is so hard...
Ashley, hi! Wow, It's been a couple of weeks (I wasn't doing too good), I missed your videos and now I have quite a few to catch on, so that should be fun. :)
Congratulations on reaching 1.1k subscribers, that's so cool, may your channel keep growing and your wisdom and positivity touch the lives of more and more viewers!
As for this video, It's nice to see how the little things make the difference, how so many of these things which many cis women may give for granted, may mean so much for transgender women. As always, thanks for sharing!
I hope you've been doing great. See you in the next video! I'll try to keep my next few comments short, since I'll probably be watching several videos tonight and I don't want to flood your feed with too much stuff to read.
KRUGOS! HOW ARE YOU!? Haha okay see you in the next comemnt!
Oops I accidentally canceled my comment I think. I really appreciate your videos, insightful and well considered. I am an older person who has been contemplating transition over the past year experimenting with clothing and cosmetics etc. but all in private so far. I absolutely agree that things like lingerie and make up can bring on moments of seeing a girl there. I’ve hesitated going on hormones because of the circumstances of my life which include some other medical problems. I’m really a scaredy-cat. But I’ll keep watching and trying to reach a resolution
Little steps, and no transition is alike. Choose what makes the best sense for you!
Thank you so much for your videos they make my life
When I first ‘crossdressed’ I felt repulsion. In a way I think my face looks feminine already. I have huge eyelashes and the shape of my face doesn’t look very masculine. But as soon as I tried wearing a wig it just highlighted all the masculine traits I don’t usually see in myself. I have incredibly difficult stubble to remove so I just looked like Jesus, it also made me realise I need to groom my eyebrows. I think my nose doesn’t look feminine enough too, which sounds weird but I just perceive it differently when dressing as a woman.
I looove your dress in these two videos, that choker also totally reminds me of Sailor Moon with the moon + cat reminding me of Luna! You'd absolutely catch my attention if we went out on a date with everything you were wearing in these videos, lol! 💙
What brings me some euphoria is simply getting rid of my body hair. I don't like my body hair and I love that smooth feeling after trimming. Body hair is totally fine on others, I just hate it on myself.
Thank you for your videos as always!
I. LOVE THE MOON CAT! I'm so glad you noticed! Thanks for the compliments girl! Body hair is huge for me, thanks for sharing!
I love your energy ty. I am having issue with this in particular because I worked so hard not to appear so. lol. My first thing is to slow down a little with everything and make actions smoother instead of rigid. I also try to be more delicate when doing things. I will use force when necessary lol. My old self literally did Everything hard and fast e.e
Oh yeah movement and Grace are definitely something to work on if you want to feel more feminine! I’m actually thinking of doing this for the next inner work Wednesday episode where we talk about movement and how to reset our own movement and feeling that feminine Grace. Thanks for inspiring me I’m definitely gonna do that for the next Wednesday!
Hearing around 3:55 realky hit ne made me tear up and fell so great at same time. Iive with my family so they refuse to use my chosen name they continue to use my birth name.
So everytime i hear it i go down deep and prentend im hearing Quinn. That gives me such an awesome feeling and helps me see my true identity
Then when im with all my frirnds and they can see me dressed more feminine and i constantly hear Quinn i feel totally me and complete
Why did it take so long for your site to appear in my feed? You bring up such relevant aspects of the experience. Looking forward to listening to more of your uploads later. 🙏
Looking forward to share more William!
Thanks for addressing this! Another important and difficult topic. Personally, I think some of the things that make me feel most feminine are simply wearing jewelry, dresses or skirts, cute women's tops, and heels. The swish of the skirt and the feeling of walking in heels makes me move and sit in a more feminine way (sometimes), and I like that.
But, as an amab non-binary person who is not transfem, who generally presents either boyishly or androgynously, I struggle with how to bring in femininity in a way that might read as feminine in the way a woman is and not feminine in the ways stereotypically associated with gay men.... how can I be feminine in a way that will help me be read as androgynous or non-binary or whatever, and not as "gay"?
Thanks as always for your wonderful content! 🙏
A big one might be voice. There’s a female gender spectrum and then there’s a male gender spectrum and there’s an in between in terms of the frequency of your voice. And that’s separate from annunciation. The difference between a gay man and a woman in terms of sound is Not the annunciation but the frequency. So if you have a lower her voice but you annunciate feminine leave then you’ll sound like a gay man. Does that make sense?
There’s other ways than your voice I think it’s also how you carry yourself and how you express yourself in your movement.
Look at the way that I speak I wouldn’t even consider myself speaking to feminine way I speak more like a male, but my voice is clearly more in the female range. And that works for me! I don’t move very femininely lol
@@AshleyxAdamson Wow. Thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I'm not sure i was even expecting a response 😅. You're so kind. I'll think about this and try to see what I can do; I'll start listening more carefully to women's speech, see what I can try to adopt maybe. Thank you
If you go to my channel you can see that there’s a tutorial section where I have one on top tips for feminizing your voice. That might help! And of course babe I try to keep up with the comments and do my best to reply to all of them. But I honestly can’t get to all of them! It’s really just luck of the draw :-)
Love this thank you sister
totally relate to your feelings about lingerie!
I've experienced that when I purge resupply after phases of halting and starting again. Which I just started back up again. I've realized it's been a kung fu battle with in myself and I wanna move forward. For I know I'm meant to be the Mia or Mikala.
ooooh, this video touched on several important things for me
first, yes, i left voice training til too late in my transition.
second, i wonder if there's sort of ... there's the moments that chip away at our "masculine self concepts" and there's joy in those moments... then, i feel a reinstatement of the familiar self... the familiar self is waiting for some definitive future moment where the future self dies
isn't that so ... delusional... delusional in the specific cultural ways that men are delusional... like, it's happening RIGHT NOW... the dissolving of the familiar, supposed man-space is happening Right Now. but it's like "i wonder what it will be like to dissolve"
the throughline in all of this
is guardedness of the heart
and i suppose disassociation / living thru story / buying into a narrative even when everything around u is clearly contradicting it
i'd be curious to hear how u, ashley, and other trans women reading this find
femininity
to be about a softening/opening of the heart
i think my feminism says "woman is woman, undefined by so called receptivity or openness"
as a trans woman, so much of what my feminism defends ("closed-off women", hairy bodies, etc) w regard to cis women
is dysphoric on me
Wow, thank you July. This is DEEP and well worth a video. I'll make one this week. Thanks for the suggestion :) And good to see you! 💕
These videos are amazing
I’m starting to be able to feel more feminine when looking in the mirror. The most surprising thing was when I got some cheep foam breast pads and looked in the mirror is sports gear and I couldn’t stop smiling and giggling. I was dressed the girliest I could be but I really felt like me, a female athlete.
I put make up on to help me feel more feminine
I only get out on makeup. 🤣
As my de ni dentity which is my new word for my denial identity to hide and protect myself from external pressures.
I went through a ringer. External shames and guilts gifted by society in plenty.
When I was younger everyone else did it to me.
When I was older I kept up for them even in hiding.
My de ni dentity became mean and nasty. It hurt me. It stopped protecting me when I became the monster. When I admitted I was the one in the cage. When I realized my external self. Was mutilating my internal self.
Because of internal crying from not being me....
The tears lasted two weeks and the anger and pain magically left.
I walked by my mirror and she saw me!
My tummy she saw me ! I heard her!
I have 5 o clock shadow rn. I have one pair of skinny guy jeans and nothing else.
just Saying listen to the power inside you.
Let your external self. See and hear your internal self.
If your anything like me. She won’t be happy that she was ignored for a lifetime. I had a lot of dangerous risky self talk to me and realized my transition
It’s from my de ni dentity into my flower power. Whatever she wants. I promised myself she’s getting sunlight and water.
I’m not always shading me anymore. And now I glow. Now the sparkle of life in my eye is back. And I know who she is... maybe just a nickname. Maybe her real name. I’ve been patient for a lifetime. I’ll wait for her to share the rest of my lifetime .
No more shade.
Thank you so much for this video this really helps me so much👏👏🤗💗🦋
Glad it was helpful!
i like wearing a nurses dress and a bespoke tutu
GREAT video! Keep up the good work
Thanks!
Hey Ashley, I've been wondering since I started watching your channel how you got such a great feminine voice. I would love to know more.
Great suggestion! Start here! ua-cam.com/video/47tLahQe7N8/v-deo.html&ab_channel=AshleyxAdamson
@@AshleyxAdamson hey look, you already made the video I was hoping for. Thanks Ashley! I love your videos. They give me a lot of hope.
One thing I love to do is take a bubble bath that really helps me feel feminine and girly
love it!
You look very pretty
I have been out on and off for years... i'd always make some sort of believable excuse based on the masculine personality i built around myswlf to keep others more distant. And.. aha.. okay i was being depressed but my bf just called me pretty out of the blue and it made me blush 😅 i guess my point is that i am scared of being me.
Just subscribed :) thanks for this
Thanks for the sub!
One thing that I have found that emphasises my own femininity since I have become trans are high heels. I have always marvelled at women that can walk in them and have long admired Ginger Rogers for dancing in them. In fact my last wife and I had a long running gag about who gets to be Ginger Rogers when we were moving house. Someone always has to walk backwards with heavy furniture, etc... Respectfully, of her of course. Since finding stilettos in my size (female size 15!) I have practised walking and have discovered that they help with feminising my gait. Seeing video footage of me walking in heels has been very empowering. Damn sexy too, if I don't say so too!
High heels! I can barely walk in them. That's great! Yeah I agree, walking with high heels really helps emphasize your feminine gait. I rarely wear them but it does feel good!
Omg you are SO PRETTY 😙
L❤VE your earrings... where did you get them Ashley ?
I love them too! lollipopbudapest.com/
Is it better to get laser hair removal before or after starting hrt?
It’s better to get it before
@@AshleyxAdamson why is that? I've been suffering from gender dysphoria for 4or 5 months now and not sure what to do next
@@thaiboxer8047 basically your hair is thicker before so it's easier for the laser to burn the follicle
@@AshleyxAdamson true, thank you so much for responding ❤
I love the outfit u look fantastic u are amazing
Thank you so much!!
Keep the good work
"there she is.. shit" you are awesome hahahahaha
Hahaha thanks Nora!!!
"The sexual domain is the most defining domain or your gender". I disagree. I am not having sex out in the world. For me, people SEEING me & interpreting what they see as female is the most defining part.
@6:33 tears
Can be very demeaning in the long run. You can put yourself in a position to be fetishized, if you are seeking affirmation from sexual encounters.
Very true, these things aren't static and understanding where you stand and communicating your needs is super important!
You are so lovely.
Thank you for this video, I do some of what you're talking about now, so I guess I'm on the right track...oh ya, my girlfriend calls me cutey..she knows I like that better than handsome ❤😅
Hello dear I like watching your show it's going to help me a lot I am working on being a transgender woman I've been on my estrogen pills for 3 months maybe answer my 4th and my girls are growing my wife says when I die God's going to beat me with a belt my wife don't live with me now I put her out cuz I realize you only married me for the green card I'm going to go on with my life whatever I've always wanted to do and that is to be a woman
That is awesome but it’s helping. Sounds like times are a little tough in your life. Which I’m sorry about, but don’t worry or don’t give up. You have a journey ahead of you and a reason to live. You’ve got this!
Well there's the big question I have for voice how do you change your voice from sound like a gay man to a real true woman
There’s some voice videos out there you can just look for a voice education! I have a few of myself
Wow you're beautiful ❤
Hi 👋🏿
@Omnius Maximus Gluteus LXIX LOL! :lightsaber-ignites!:
I like to wear flared clothing
What if you are inclined to be androgynous, and are more like a butchy femme than a dress up queen. Why do I need to dress up in order to achieve my own femininity?
The short answer is if you don't need to feel more feminine then don't. Be who you authentically are.
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@@AshleyxAdamson 2:00
I was put on steroids as a child so I've had boobs and a giant butt since the second grade so I already have felt this way but nonstop self conscious it was only recently I hated men I don't know whether to start estrogen cause I'm a strong person I don't want to lose it
Am I the only biological woman learning how to enjoy being a real woman here? lol
I love this!!!!
I’m non-binary afab and sometimes I feel jealous of trans femme people because there’s this choice to present femininity. I’ve always felt suffocated by my born and taught femininity, and presenting masculinity can easily feel erasing and bland to me. I’m a lesbian, I love women and femininity is so lit, I’m also an artist and love clothes, and we’ve made non femme clothes bland as fuck... this shit is hard..
Gosh that sounds hard to navigate. Though probably a worthy challenge in defining yourself. :)
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I wish i was born as a woman i am disgusted with my male body and im scared people will always see the man in me not the woman i want to be
Talk to a gender therapist...
You will never be a real woman brother, embrace your masculinity and go work out.
@@bobuxman69 i guess you will never be a real man with opinions like that
@@ladymireska5065 Yea, sure. You are brainwashed and misguided. I know your true self is still in there.
@@bobuxman69 stop talking about yourself no one wants to hear it and i will not respond anymore
I thought they transitioned BECAUSE they feel feminine.
Keyword "more" :)
Kondegafilingaaptohenhinhijubaapaengeferbatkrengethnkyou❤
The most feminine I ever felt
Was cutting all my damaged hair off. Some sweats and nikes and no makeup
Being read as female.....was so powerful. It changed something in me. That my femininity is not tied to clothes or makeup or nails...lashes.
That im feminine simply because im a woman.
OH YES GIRL! When you strip it to it's essence this is really what it's all about thank you!! 🙌🏻