I'm Trans - How did I know?
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- Every trans person has a different story, a different way of knowing (or not knowing), and a different coming out. Here I share mine - and I hope you find it enlightening and entertaining : )
Also, since we're getting close to 1K subscribers, we really want to do a Q&A! Do submit your questions if you're curious about anything - but keep it classy and don't be gross! Please!!!
You can also submit questions on Instagram if you're feeling shy ; )
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i’m 23 and just realised i’m trans this year, haven’t started my transition yet and going through a lot of emotions at the moment... videos like this makes me have hope for my future, wich is something i don’t think i’ve felt since i was a kid😌 my next couple of years will be very hard but i know it will be worth it in the end, absolutely love your youtube channel 🙃
Hey, I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 23 and realised I'm trans. You're not alone, I wish the best for you. 💕🌸
How is it going you two??
I'm 46 - I discovered my authentic self at 40. I'm SO much happier living as my authentic self. I'm so glad this content was helpful for you both!!
After I accepted being transgender, after the mental adjustment, i focused on hair removal and YT free voice lessons. Except HRT, those 2 things have had the biggest impact on my reflective acceptance
I work with a lot of young people, I see depression destroy them, I have known several that have taken their own lives…
I will never stop sticking up for those that are unable to stick up for themselves, Or to speak for those that have no voice. As a father as a friend let me tell you I am proud of you! Your wife is your rock, she makes you feel safe and secure she loves you for you, not what it is you can do for her.
I thank both of you for doing what you’re doing, because I know there’s young people and older people out there that I have sent them to your website just to listen. And I have never heard anything negative, You are my sisters through Christ. Yes I am a Catholic, and I am sharing the word that you are His children, and He loves you.
Thank you Jackie, you are not only a very beautiful person you are a very beautiful trans woman. Never allow society to change you so you conform to others, be strong in your conviction and truly love one another. Empty your heart and your mind of the secular world we live in, and allow yourself to open yourself to one another, for that is a true gift.
Michael
watching this vide 3 years and seeing jackie celebrate 900 subscribers when they have 9K now is wildly adorable
I first noticed that there are "0" likes on this video, I was like whaaa? All the subs and 3 years old. Seems weird. My like appears to be the only one :D
I'm older (transitioned in '96) and my eye opener was stumbling upon a chat room on AOL (dial up!) full of transgender people. I remember thinking, "Wait... So I'm NOT the only one?". LOL!
🤭 tehee... I get a chuckle every time I am considered an "ancestor" in the community, like some kind of ancient relic... I'm actually not that old. Probably closer to your age than most people watching this though. It's harder cause I'm one of those from the generation that is eternal neoteny, so people then mis-read me as far too young when I chill at the cafe and that's just AWKWARD ☮ Us crones got to be solidarity!
The Gazebo? 😉
@@steyraug96 omg yOU KNOW the gazebo *skullemoji*
@@gonnfishy2987 "I was there... 3,000 years ago..." 😜
@@steyraug96 OOOOooooh. Hail there, time traveller! 👋🏼
Wish I figured it out at 15! I love how the light looks like a little hat in this video LOL
I am 46 now. I was 45 when I began HRT, so later in my life. Since I was 3, I have known I was different. The possibity of transitioning until recent years was a non starter. I buried who I was as deep as possible. I had some supportive partners over the years which helped, but still I was miserable and foreign to myself. Since I began HRT, I "saw myself"for the first time and have been so very, very happy. With that, I hope I am the last generation that has had to hide who they are. I hope society is catching up. Keep inspirimg and telling your story. It is ok to be lonely sometimes, but never feel alone. Your story filled me with hope and proved I am not alone. Thank you!
This sounds so much like my story. I'm 45 and starting my transition now. I loved when you said "I hope I am the last generation that has had to hide who they are." I hope that's the future as well.
I am a MtF transgender. I did not start HRT until 59, my egg did not crack until 57. It was buried very deeply. (if that is ok)
It's hard for me to imagine being happy to just be here. That's not something I've had my entire life. Thanks for the video!
You're so welcome, hopefully things will change for the better soon ❤️❤️❤️
When I understood that I was trans at University, I presented as super masculine around others but when I was on my own I could be free and femme.
I'm so happy for you, to have figured out that much as such a young age! I didn't figure things out until I was 30, didn't start HRT before 47. But I'm here now, and I am so much happier.
It's never to late to be true to yourself ❤️ I'm happy you've taken the steps and feel better for it ✨️
@@WivesVsWorld Thank you! 💖
I've shown your channel to my wife. We met when I was just figuring out things, and has been there for me along the way. I think she appreciates seeing another couple in a similar situation, so many thanks for sharing!
Awww that's so sweet! I'm so happy you find some comfort in our videos! Much love to you both ❤️
Over 40 years on HRT and I still wish I will not wake up in the morning. I have no friends or family. very sad every day of my life. I'm very lucky to have a job, home ,car but I still lost in myself. I'm extremely isolated and just don't care to socialize with others. I was ostracize by our own community many time. I was not accepted and i felt out of place. I done every thing alone up to this point.
I hope no one on this earth is living like me .
I'm so sorry, if you haven't already, just talk about this and be honest with someone you trust
Congrats on 10 years of hormones. I'm coming up on 3 years in a few months. I relate so much to the uncertainty about starting transition and finding the right words for what you're going through. I think lots of us wish we started earlier (28 for me), but just make the best of it.
I have only recently came out as trans and seeing a video like this gives me so much hope.
Really wholesome and I am glad to have found the channel.
this is so helpful for me. I still don't know what I want to do, but this has given me a lot to think about. I am so glad I found your channel. Mange tak!
Happy we can provide some insight ❤️ much love!
hi i started HRT in 2003 i came out in 2000 had GRS in 2009 i am now 63 year old woman finally got to live my true self and not hide anymore
First day on hrt age 27 I think it’s so unspoken that as men we have two puberties the first spared me no chest hair no back hair short at 5”6 full head of hair best shape of my life. The biggest dysphoria came with facial hair but with second male puberty (receding hairline and rough skin and potential full beard and body hair) I finally decided to get ahead of dysphoria before it consumes me whole I almost gave up on life before I realized my sense of identity is the most Important ingredient for a happy life. I wish id started at 18-19 but I also avoided any trauma associated with gender identity since the dysphoria only really reached the surface at 27 then I didn’t wait to start hrt. I feel the regret would come not transiting after consciously knowing but I started right when it came up so I am proud of that 😊
That is definitely something to be proud of and sounds like you've done well for yourself ❤️ we're proud of you too! Thank you for sharing your experience ✨️
Thank you for this post. Hearing people talk about the same things I’ve gone through is very helpful. ❤️🏳️⚧️ Love from the US.
That means so much, thank you for saying that
Thank you for sharing your story, Jackie. I'm glad that you found you were able to start expressing yourself through visual-kei and start experimenting before taking that leap of coming out. I'm also glad that you did have so many supportive people around you and still do. I know not everyone has this and goes through that really dark period as you mentioned without any support. I hope that more people find your channel and that your words can be a source of support to them.
Also, I just want to say that I adore the aesthetic of whatever little room you are in. The yellow walls with the bright blue door, the ship lath ceiling, and the deep little fireplace are all so quaint.
I am very impressed, Jackie. As a man, I would not have recognized you as a trans woman if you wouldn't have given it away in the video title.. Your air, your appearance and even your mannerisms are so feminine, they feel natural and authentic to me. You really are a woman, no matter the chromosomes. I think that a lot of prejudices against trans people come from the public representation of loud activists who blame and accuse instead of trying to explain. Thank you for your courage to reveal yourself and tell your story. I think there is a big need for sensitivity and willingness to understand for both those who are pro-trans and transphobe. I think that many people who may seem transphobic would be much more tolerant if they would get another image of trans people.
I'm always happy to hear you talk about this topic. I actually didn't even know you were trans back when I visited and only learned later on Instagram! It makes me sad to think about how difficult things must have been for you but it's comforting to know that there's at least a happy ending to it all! How someone could look at how much happier trans people are after transitioning and still be opposed to or not understand it is beyond me. Why would you oppose someone being true to themselves?
I knew the media tends to demonize trans people but I didn't realize just how MUCH and how often until I watched Lindsey Ellis' video about transphobia in movies, a great watch for anyone interested. Sometimes it's small things you don't think twice about either because you're not trans yourself or because it was before transgender was a more well known thing like it is today.
2011 is actually not that long before I met you guys in 2014! I was wondering, is hormones something that you must take for a set period of time and then the treatment is "finished", or something that you'll have to take for the rest of your life? is it something that's been covered by medical insurance or did it represent a financial challenge to consider when you made your decision?
keep up the awesome videos Jackie!
The HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) is for life.
I realized that I'm trans (mtf) at 19 and publicly came out at 21. I've been on HRT for a bit. Now at 25, I rather identify as genderfluid and figuring out how I'd like to continue my transition. I also like some visual kei: the GazettE, lynch., DEVILOOF, Codomodragon
Your story is so wholesome Jackie! So glad you found what makes you happy :D
My question for your q&a is: a lot of the language and nuances of terminology around LGBT rights is very English centric. It's something I think about quite a lot because I live in a multilingual country too, but are there ever situations when having conversations about queer issues in Danish, where certain words or concepts might not exist in the language, and so you have to frame discussions differently than you would in English?
I dont know if I worded it clearly, I hope it makes sense!
I feel so much joy that you've celebrated 13years on HRT! I'm 3yrs and SO happy
It's unbelievable sometimes 😂❤️
Congrats!!! ❤️❤️
The very few times I’ve been mistaken for a girl has been so satisfying. I’m now an older trans person who is out of the closet but not out of the box, I will never be able to be my true self, but I had a few years ago that I was able to be out as me!
It was the best time if my life, but sadly to say those days are gone. I’m only able to come out one day a year for Halloween. It’s tough coming out so late in life and knowing I’ll never be able to be my real self. Those who know early, go for it.
Be your real self!
Love you all.
Thank you for sharing your story. So many bits resonate for me! It is so affirming to hear stories like yours on my own journey.
So happy that you figured it out and feel great. This is what it's all about!
Thank you for sharing, Jackie! I believe your story inspires many people and I am so happy about you!
Thanks for sharing your story. I am so happy your still here and found yourself. You look so happy.
Thank you so much, I really am 🩷
Life has its ups and downs, but I've never regretted this 🥰
): aww my heart... I feel ya on the puberty recollections... Mine was hectic... I went through it at least 2 years before any 'peers', which was the first instance of COMPLETE ISOLATION AND LONELINESS. Then, the whole armegeddon of hormones, the way it affected my emotions and a sense of being at the mercy of all the emotional content that I could tap into but everyone else was dead to... 2nd COMPLETE ISOLATION AND LONELINESS... And then... kinda weird, won't dwell ... I guess I was putting out whatever pheremones I was... i got sexualised and drawn into a world only the older kids had a handle on... it was A DISASTER. Reading back on this, it's no effing wonder my entire life since 'is what it is'
*edit* : omg so relatable ... feeling great that you're considered weird just for the actual weirdness, not because you are particularly incongruent. pmsl this must be a shared experience a lot of young transitioners have 😈
OMG & people devastated and apologising cause they 'gendered you wrong' when they had responded instinctually, not thru a guessing lense!
--You're telling your story really well, you're innate as a storyteller and a beautiful being. Big ❤
---sorry I keep having stuff to share ... Wow, yeah... the initial years of needing to get somewhere in a hurry because of an inner clock ticking, but in moments being like "Ok so yes/no question, am I doing the right thing _existing as the only version of myself I know?_ .... can tell by the way even at your age you are saying "My life is so awesome these days, sheeesh my early identity years were dark!" ... that's so authentic.. You've probably thought about it, but yeah... in a sense your growth and development was just a little fuller a more complicated than normie kids, butttt... In essence you did the hard yards early on and your trajectory was as regular as anyone else's... Don't fall into the trap of discounting your own experience of coming to age as 'weird' and not 'valid social currency among your peers' because it's FINE and YOUR unique experience of it... like any other youth's is unique to them.
Don't worry, you won't get bored with being happy, life has a way of presenting concerns, issues, that 'clock' reasserts itself and you [I actually] start to really question things in regards to urges to have family/offspring -- Not saying it's gonna hit you, you just keep enjoying 'awesome time' 🎀
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm happy that you can be you (everyone should be able to)! Also the garden looks fabulous. :)
I so wish I had known more when I was young and passable. Finding out so late in life that being me has a name and it's OK. I'm not a freak! I just wish I could have transitioned.
There are so many others like you out there and we are all family ❤️ also plenty of people transition later in life and are very happy with it! But either way, I'm glad you've found yourself ✨️
I new I was different too. Did not realize it till Halloween. I dressed and saw my true self. I knew then this is how I wanted to live my life. After that started dressing up more. I then new I was trans. Love being a woman. You are such a beautiful woman. If you are not true to your self you will never be happy.
Thank you for adding quality music. JS Bach Brandenburger concertos nr 4
Just found you, hence the delay. Excellent video Jackie. Glad you have found your true self and a loving partner. A lot of what you felt and experienced in your youth I can relate to. Unfortunately my youth was over four decades before yours. There was no way then of knowing what trans was and being able to deal with it. No matter I do what I can to be the inner me. Keep that smile and be the inner and a lovely outer you. 💋
I have known that I was a woman and a lesbian since I 8. This was 1968 Idaho hyper conservative. So I am just coming out this year. I had a very loving out of body relationship with a lesbian. Finally I said this is It and began my journey to me.
Dang, you developed lust and/or romance at 8? It was only until my early/mid teens when I developed lust...
wish we had that information availability in the 70s, to connect with others of like feelings, or even to know they existed....
I’m so glad I found your video. It was so helpful. Thanks so much for sharing! 😊
Lovely video, so well presented. I love your energy and your vibe. Yea for we accentrics!! I loved the shout out to LOTR early 2000s film was magical. Not so much today.
Bella L
Thanks for sharing! It's been great to find your channel and others like it that make ways to live one's life more "real" and less something one just wonders about as a faint unlikely possibility. I believe that in the grand scheme of things it's to everyone's benefit - individuals might get more of a short at personal self-awareness and happiness, and if the more "conventional" lives and relationships out there lead to most people being born on purpose and willingly and lovingly raised, the effect might just keep compounding into a better world.
If along the way society does away with the notion of single-gender environments (been there in the earliest school years, and things barely got better later on), all the better, but that may be something of a personal hang-up thay nowadays opens up a lot of questions about what could have been in other circumstances...
Keep up the good work, and I wish you both the best.
The hardest part has been acknowledging that i spent the better part of my life hiding who i am so i can please others.. i don't anymore though but it did hurt knowing i JAD been
So well told. Such a common story.
Thanks for sharing this :)
I’m really happy I found your channel.
Potential Q for the Q&A: can you recommend any self help books or other media for someone struggling with gender?
I first knew when I was 4 after a conversation with an older woman (she was 6). I'm 61 and just started 5 months ago.
Thank you.
I did not know you were trans until you said you were. Is that a compliment? I hope so.
Thank you for sharing. Heartfelt path you have taken.
Being afraid of being dumped by a new friend, ❤ xxx being us regardless of Orthodoxy
I watched until the end, and honestly
So beautiful 😭, it's amazing to hear everyones experience because it's different for everyone!
As for the question,
What do I do for makeup 😅 I know nothing about it
Very interesting to hear how you found optimism.
I would never know adorable
My wifey is Transgender and we have a 15 years age gap we live in the USA in NEW MEXICO I AM THE YOUNGER ONE OF US LOL ANYWAY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ❤
Hi Jackie. Have you thought about to make videos on voice training tips? I really really hate my deep male voice and I wish I could sound like you☺️
What's it like in Denmark for the trans community?
I'm in West Virginia in the US and well it's very conservative here 😕
Do you all want a website? I can't develop one because I'm not skilled there but as for the domain, email, Facebook page and all that I can help with,
Any tips for dealing with transphobic people
Also,
How do I know if a girl likes me 😅 I really suck with this, being autistic doesn't help either for me,
You are awsome!
Boilerplate feelings for transwomen and transmen. Similar to my youth. In the mid and late 80's, the terms for dealing with your feelings were societal suicide. Nice video.
Being Trans is alright now, you look beautiful because some good features carry over ❤ from Petra
its so crazy to think that like 15 years ago Britain was pretty progressive as a country... for about five minutes now look where we are ;-;
Yeah it's so scary how quickly things can go downhill 😭
I knew at 16 as well that it was possible to transition but didn't start medically my transition before I was 21 :( dysphoria is horrible I still don't know how I did to survive these years of puberty.
I feel the same. I been struggling with depression and self hatred that I never had the courage to tell my parents. Reason varying from lack of exceptions back when I was 15 and lack of confidence in myself, I didn’t fully accept that I was trans till 20. I’m 21 today and am getting htr this month. I envy the future generation of trans because now there is more excepted and more information. Thank you for sharing x I’m glad that I’m not alone 18/01/22
@@rosieboughton5353 yes true and I'm in France so it's even more lagging behind. I'm also very envious of this generation and of cis people of course, i feel like we were not born in the right time even if I'm only 24
Oh I'm so happy for u that you're starting hrt soon ❤️❤️ you're welcome
We're a LOT in this case you're not alone
Have you had any kind of voice training that made your voice get higher? Have you ever had a "deep"/relatively obvious " Male" Voice
You're so beautiful!
Thank youu ❤️
Most everything you point out here has so much to do with gender rules and limits, and nothing really to do with gender in and of itself. This is a big problem honestly. There is too much associations of things and styles and looks with gender, and for boys it is far far more limiting when it comes to appearance and styles. I too was pulled in by visual kie, and aside from Kaya, all of those performers are cis...they just say "eff off" to the gender rules and limits. I think it is a massive crime what the strict adherence to gender rules and limits have done to people. I LOVE so called "feminine" styles...and there was a time I considered transitioning, then I realized that no, I did not want to be a woman...I wanted more latitude in my expression. To cast aside those expectations imposed on me by being born a male in this world. I honestly do with gender non conformity was far more accepted in our society, and that gendered dress and grooming codes need to be abolished. I do think that people would be far far happier if these things went away.
You make a really good point here, and while I agree that it's kinda reductive to think of gender only in terms of limits and rules, I also think that for me, my sense of self was very much informed by what I "couldn't" do. It's just the best way to describe my experience. I have always had pretty strong gender Identity and I aligned with 'not boy' before I really knew gender nonconformity was an option, so when I found it in VK, I really embraced it as a formative step in my journey. And while I have long hair, wear makeup, etc, I do this as a form of self expression, not because I as a (nonbinary) woman feel I have to.
The many ways we experience gender identity is really something to be celebrated, and as the strict adherence to norms hopefully loosens a bit, I think more people will be the happier for it. So thank you for the thoughtful comment : )
@@WivesVsWorld Things need to change, and have done so for a very very long time, perhaps longer than you or I even realize.
if you don't mind how did you modified your voice you sound lovely
Been identifying as non binary to make my parents happy and not myself.
gender envy aaaaaaaaaa