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(I'm a male)I identify as Bisexual and really enjoy kissing other men and being close to them while also being interested in women both sexually and romantically and have really been struggling with the idea that I'm faking it or forcing it and was just searching for some validation and this video really helped.
Hey that's what we're here for. You are valid AF. It's really natural to have those feelings because that is what pretty much the whole of society teaches us. Always here for you if you need aggressive validation every day!!! Don't take it. You're amazing. Sending love.
I'm happy for you. There are definitely times in my life I wish I would've embraced it more. It's definitely a gift and makes me very happy (and I'm not promiscuous like I used to be either LOL).
Mark, you eloquently explained it on point. As a bisexual man I can relate to everything you said, especially being appreciative of beauty in people around us (and even in ourselves!) You are looking very handsome. Keep up the authentic content!
Aaah thank you so much my lovely friend. I appreciate your words so much. It makes me so happy that we can share and relate. It is such a joy. Sending loads of love to you x
@Be REAL I don't believe it, I know it. No one has the right to make comment on someone else's attractions. Saying someone is b*sing about being biromantic is biphobia and there's no place for it.
Love this! I'm not bi but would love to date someone who is. I totally admire people who can see true nature of humanity and can see that love and beauty in men and women - female and male energy. I just love love love that🥰
Oh my gosh thank you so much for this beautiful comment. It's made my day. With this loving attitude, I'm sure that you will find an amazing partner and be a great support to them, whatever their identity is. It means a lot to our community when people show their support for us so thank you. Stay tuned and subscribe to the channel so we can reach more people. I'm releasing new content every week on similar topics so we'd love to have you with us. Wishing you a great day, Mark x
My ex gf was the same way. She was bisexual but definitely preferred men. She got very turned on by guy on guy, but also learned how it made me a better person to be so in touch with my feminine side and my feelings and emotions. I am very fluid but I know what I like and I find masculinity and femininity very hot and I also can develop romantic feelings for the PERSON and not just the gender. It's beautiful and while difficult at times I have always seen it as a gift.
The more and more that I think about it maybe I am considered Bi? I don't know, I've never had a relationship with a woman but have had encounters sexually. I'm confused perhaps? I don't exactly see myself having a long term relationship with a woman but have enjoyed being with them in the past in a sexual way. I prefer men and have always preferred being more of the submissive type for the most part. @@flightofthebumblebee9529
Bi guy here in a hetero relationship. High five for sharing this awesomeness. I’m mid-thirties and super happy being bi, but damn if hearing this kind of information as a teen couldn’t have saved me some teen (and young adult) angst. Keep the message alive and thank you!
Hey my beloved brother thank you so much for your kind words. I'm so glad you liked the content. I've got so much more coming out so I hope to hear what you think. Married bi guys are my tribe. I love you. How is life? So proud of you living your life and being phenomenal. If you ever have the chance to share this or another one of my videos I would be thrilled for more people to get to see it (and prevent some more angst!) In any case, I'm so glad you're here. Welcome and massive warm bi guy hugs from me to you x
I am the same way. I was in a relationship with my ex gf for almost 5 years until we broke up. She had young kids and I was a stepdad to them. We had pets. She fully embraced my bisexuality and was also bisexual. We also taught the kids to love and embrace everyone. I wish I would've given a chance to some relationships I had with other guys but I used to shrug off my same sex attraction as only sexual instead of acknowledging that I have romantic and emotional feelings for other guys as well.
Thanks for you openness and providing the positive nature of appreciating men and women sexually and spiritually. There is beauty in every race if you look for it, and there is beauty in being bisexual at whatever level of sexual spectrum one falls. Sexuality is mostly biologically ingrained and accepting your sexual nature as-is is the only way to live life fully, freely, happily, and in peace. Thanks for your positive message. I wish I was a bisexual so that I can enjoy men and women. You are lucky.
Hey thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging comment. It's really appreciated. So many people speak negatively about us and it lifts my heart to hear someone speak positively :-)
I loved your channel. It's still kinda hard for me to deal with not being either gay or straight. When I'm with women they sometimes complain that I look like a gay person or im not being "man" enough. When I'm with Men they say im too straight for them and keep questioning if I really like men. These stuff just end up forcing me to act differently to please what people expect from me. Idk it just looks like everyone wants to put me in a box and it just makes me feel kinda lost sometimes.
Oh Mark! Finally a "man" says "men can be beautiful"! I think I lived my whole life trying to find someone who would say that! LOL! Even "women" don't say it and as a "woman" I felt so lost among my "sisters"! Thank you!
Hey thanks so much for saying. I really appreciate your comments always. Yeah oh my gosh men can be so beautiful. I just don’t get this gender binary thing anymore. Like we’re all beautiful. You know I lived in the Middle East for 4 years and men would say other men were beautiful all the time. Men would say “you’re handsome, you’re beautiful, you have beautiful eyes etc” all the time. There was absolutely nothing sexual about it whatsoever. It’s just normal in those cultures to show affection and appreciate beauty. So I find it incredibly sad that northern European / western cultures have this weird insecurity around it. It’s actually really odd. Thank you for being a “woman” who appreciates the beauty of men. What kind of male beauty do you like the most?
@@notdefining I don't want to talk about that in public here :-) All I will say is that beauty is not gender specific in my books. Anyone can be beautiful. Sometimes beauty is not so much about how you look as much as about how you carry yourself.
@@AA-vq7ed Hey that's cool. I completely agree with you. Someone can look pretty in a photo and then their energy just doesn't connect in real life. It's all about the whole person and their vibe. Really love your comments, they're always so well thought out and validating. Hope you're having an amazing day. Keep the discussions coming, I love to hear from you. Much love x
@@notdefining Thanks so much! Some of your thoughts and videos have also been very validating for me. Most of my life I been told that my thoughts were not valid. So I know what you mean. Keep doing what you are doing! x
@@AA-vq7ed Please never listen to those people who tell you your thoughts are invalid ever again? You are fab. Just released a new video actually sharing my approach to feeling confident around straight/hetero environments. I'd love to know what you think. Sending lots of love, Mark x
Thank you so much for your channel and this video. I'm a 43yo married (to a woman) bisexual who also identifies as gender fluid. I've only just started to feel comfortable now at this age to come out and it's only because the world is now changing and becoming more accepting but I'm still very nervous and scared as only my wife (who is pansexual) and children know (1 is pansexual and another is gay) but I've decided to come out tomorrow on my Facebook page and write a huge post about it. Mostly for me but also for anyone else who may still be hiding this part of them as most are (bisexual men). I've struggled with this all of my life and suppressed it and hidden it and tried my hardest to act manly and tough and pretty much just mirrored how the straight men around me acted. I'm also a hip hop artist and the hip hop community (especially) in the 90s and 2000s was EXTREMELY homophobic 😢.... anyways that's enough from me haha. Thanks again. These videos mean the world to people like me and REALLY help. Adrian/Thorts.
Hey Adrian thanks so much for sharing. I’m wishing you all the best for your Facebook post! Amazing. It sounds like you are moving closer towards feeling your best and being authentic in a huge way. Massive respect to you. We’re rooting for you!
Oh my gosh thank you so much I appreciate you taking the time to write this. Please subscribe and share if there's anyone who you think would benefit from the info. Otherwise, I'm just sending you so much love. Mark x
I agree. When I hear about teens who end their lives over such things it truly breaks my heart and makes me want to spread awareness and lead by example by never hiding who I am and being comfortable with who I am. Nobody (especially young people) should EVER feel judged or shamed for developing feelings of love or intimacy or even sexual feelings, for more than one gender. Even by embracing it in my own life it can help others do the same.
This video was so interesting I identify as a cis gender gay man and I think bisexuality is so cool and I really admire you all within the community. Although I have little to no interest in women sexually I really appreciated this video and being able to educate myself on what’s it’s like being bisexual. I just love how people have so many facets and are so diverse and are able to express themselves - we should all strive to not put anyone in a box and let someone just be and be happy and admire them. 😁
Oh my gosh thank you so much I really appreciate this. The gay community is our family and we love you so much. It's sad how often there can be biphobia in the gay community so it means a lot that you are accepting and want to learn. Please spread the awareness. Sending lots of love, Mark x
Thank you so much for this. I’ve only recently come to terms with the fact that I’m a bisexual male. I’ve exclusively dated men but I really want to start dating women again. I’m so scared because many women don’t understand or want to date bisexual men because of so many misconceptions and biphobia, so much that I’m kind of thinking of keeping it a secret from potential women I might date.
Hey thanks for sharing. I understand the fear there. There are many women who will be completely okay with this. Check out the "Feeld" App. It's got loads of really fab women, men and gender diverse people of all kinds and it's a really great place for meeting accepting people of all genders. Amazing women on there. Check it out. Also, why not try dating bi women?
@@notdefining I’ve met a few women who are bi, but they are all taken (by men). I have trouble meeting women at ALL because I don’t know how to talk to them. I guess I’m just kinda scared 😟
I am accepting of my bi partner. At my age it has taken conversations to get my head round. He told me on date 2. If he had kept it from me I wouldn’t have trusted him, keeping it secret isn’t fair on the other person. Those women who judge/don’t accept you for who you are aren’t for you. You will find people/women who love and accept you for who you are. Honesty creates trust and trust is at the heart of any relationship. Love and accept yourself and you’ll find the right women to date. Good luck ☘️
@@DanTheMan27 I hear you. Totally get what you're saying. What about dating apps? There are loads of bi women around. Just have to find them. And tell me, what are you scared of? What's your fear?
just found your channel, 61 years old, married 38 plus years to a woman and you guessed it, bi, and she knows, thanks for posting subscribed and wish i had a resource such as this years ago. be safe
Hey thanks so much for connecting. I’m so glad you’re here. I wish I had this resource when I was younger too so I can’t imagine. Sending so much love. We are family. Proud to see you living authentically and we’re always here for you. You have a community here with us.
Thanks for this. I’m a bi guy and I can’t even tell my religious conservative parents. Luckily most of my friends were indifferent when I told them. It’s better than rejection.
Really well done. Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm a pansexual woman, just coming into my identity. It's great to hear your positive way of thinking of all of this. I agree completely. People are just who they are. :). Also for so many of you that are commenting about how hard it is to date as a person identifying as bi, I say it's unfortunate. They are really missing out. It really shouldn't matter. It doesn't to me.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words and for sharing your identity. I'm so glad we can connect and that you enjoyed the content. If you ever have the chance to share our videos I would be so grateful. Otherwise I'm just glad you're here. Yes on dating it is such a shame isn't it? Bi guys are great. I honestly think so many people are missing out too! haha. Their loss eh? Sending so much love, Mark x
This is a great video. I am a bisexual guy in my mid 20s and it can feel like a very isolating, lonely place. In the past three to four years, I have only met one or two (openly) bisexual men, so I don't get to meet any other bisexual men that often. I have bad anxiety and depression too.
Hey you’re not alone. I’m a bisexual man who experiences anxiety and depression too. Now you know three. I can help you connect with more if you’d like.
On dating apps, as a gay man I don't run into bi men a whole lot (mostly because bi men tend to identify as gay or straight instead of bi) and when I do I feel insecure that they can just leave the relationship for an easier life when the descriminatiom becomes too much, watching your channel I decided I'll give bi guys a chance and maybe get over my insecurity ☺️
biphobia does exist and although I believe when it comes to bi woman it is over exaggerated a bit biphobia against bi men is a lot prevalent and much worse, being a bi woman is a lot more accepted than being a bi man getting dates would be hard because neither gay men or straight woman are interested in dating you, which I don't understand because why would a bi man ever want to cheat on you or dump for a guy especially in a homophobic society. Maybe it's a lot more to it but Idk, this whole thing is pretty confusing lol.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. It’s very honest and I appreciate that. There is nothing better than when we acknowledge the truth of how we have felt, understand that it was ok to feel that, then learn to open our hearts to more opportunities for love. I’m hearing that you have an insecurity about being left by a partner. That’s so valid and natural to feel. So you want to make sure that any partner of any sexuality is trustworthy, committed and loyal. Focus on those things. They are your boundaries, your expectations, they are your worth. You are worthy of honesty, commitment and loyalty because you’re an amazing guy who deserves the best. Don’t settle for anything less. Focus on those things which you deserve and want because they are linked to your value. Don’t focus on the identity that another person has or lacks because that is linked to your insecurity. Also, hey there are more bi men in the world than gay men. Bisexuality is the biggest identity in the LGBT community. There are so many hot Bi guys around. Don’t miss out. We’re super gorgeous and fun. Also, have you ever thought, imagine the strength and assurance that it takes to identify as queer EVEN WHEN you don’t have to? As a gay person you kind of have to. As a bi person we don’t. We could choose safety but we don’t.... ...we’ve already chosen to step out of the “comfortable” world (which is actually a living hell for us but anyway). Think about that. Strength of character....? Love you my man and wishing you all the luck and beautiful dates in this world. Xxx
Heeey thank you so so much I really appreciate your comment. It makes me so happy that we can share and connect. You’ve made my day. Sending loads of love to you x
Thanks so much for this video I had told myself that I was gay for the longest time but I originally came out as bi when I was in 8th grade! I am bisexual and proud of it!!! Thanks so much for this video its amazing!
Hey gosh thank you so much for saying. I'm so pleased you benefited from it. If you haven't already, make sure to subscribe as I have so much more content like this coming out. Sending love to you my friend.
So I have this kind of intellectual attraction. It really clicks on me when I see a person successfully explaining a subject. I'm also attracted to people who are good at playing music instruments.
as a Bisexual guy am type that was curious of what is like being intimate with the same gender how does it feel these thoughts made me BI. Love to connect and tangle myself in the BI community
Hey thanks so much for sharing and you've come to the right place. Come and join us at notdefining as we talk about all things bi. You're part of our bi+ family here and I'd love to know more about your story. When did you first come to think about the same gender? Are you new to a bi identity or has it been something you've felt for a while? Do please subscribe if you can as I've got loads more content that I hope you will find really interesting. Thanks again for your comment and looking forward to hearing from you, Mark x
Ah Rob thank you my wonderful friend. Really appreciate your comments always. They really help me out and it's great to see bi people representing in the world together!!!! Much love x
Yessss!!!!! Andrew thank you SO MUCH for this comment. It means a lot to me and really helps out the channel. Every time a video gets a comment it boosts the algorithm and shows UA-cam that the content is high quality so THANK YOU! Much much appreciated my brother from the same mother. Sending loads of love :-)
I know for a fact that I can't be just one or the other. But it took me a long time to internally accept it. I had people noticing it before I could even realise. For example work colleagues implying I was having an affair with another woman, who at the time I only thought of as a friend. She is lesbian and I felt shivers down my spine when she was say rubbing her fingers around my hair, I felt like kissing her in many different occasions, but internally I couldn't describe it as sexual tension. It only occurred to me after we had a horrible "break up" that it was indeed more than a friendship, at least on my side. In the meantime, I had started dating a non binary/crossdresser man. So at that point I had to ask myself a few questions...now I couldn't care less about the gender of the people I fancy.
Thank you so very much Martina for sharing your experiences. This is what I live for - when we can express the unique feelings, thoughts and experiences that we have and just have them validated. So many people will read these comments are feel less alone, less weird, less confused. Thank you. I'm hearing that you experienced feelings of intimacy and desire for this female friend but I think society likes to categorise things doesn't it - oh so it's a female therefore it's a friend / oh it's two guys therefore it can't be love or affection.... We all feel such diverse feelings with each other and they are all beautiful and valid. Gender is such a massive made up thing I just can't believe people still talk like "oh straight men are always repulsed by other mens' bodies..." DUDE, there is a naked man in p*rn....what are you looking at? It's ok. And when people are like "oh girls kissing are just fooling around with their friends" no, they're experiencing a lovely, arousing, intimate affection with another human being. UGH! Ok rant over. I love your comments, please keep them coming.
In my experience, it's frustrating because society is obsessed with pigeon holeing everyone. On one hand, it's pretty dope that I get the best of both worlds so to speak and am genuinely attracted to both women as well as men. But people always give me the look like "you need to pick one and stick with it, bisexuality isnt real you cant like both 😑🤨" but i cant help who im attracted to soo... shrug
Thanks for your work in this video! I am no bisexual myself, but the amount of hate that bi people have to deal within the LGBT+ community is ridiculous! I love the fact that you can see the beauty in people even though there are a lot of nasty humans out there! Reaching out with lots of love from Australia! xx
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Great video. I consider myself to be bisexual even though I sometimes question it. I used to be straight but I turned bisexual which often worries me, although I am beginning to accept it.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I wish more people could be open about these things. What you've experienced is so unbelievably natural. So there's no need to worry :) Questioning is a huge part of being bisexual. I actually define sometimes as "Questioning". The questioning never ends! haha. But we can learn to just enjoy it. I'm so glad you are beginning to accept it. Stay tuned to the channel as I have loads more videos coming out which I hope will be helpful to you. Thanks again for commenting. I'm so grateful.
@@MrsLegitParttwo Some people do assert that yes but it’s slightly more complicated than that. Sexuality is a complex mixture of genetic, developmental, environmental and psychological factors. Like the natural, native language and accent you speak with, or being left/right handed. They are both innate and learned but very different from a simple lifestyle choice. And it’s different for each person. Not one uniform experience. Does that make sense? Hopefully that makes it clear. It’s a bit complicated and we don’t yet fully understand it, just like many aspects of our physiology and psychology.
This was a really inspirational there have been times where I've said that i have been attracted to just women and not men and didn't realize that i was a bisexual male its crazy saying that to. But thank you❤️ You Da Man!
Hey thank you so much. Your words mean a lot. Everything I make on my channel is what I wish I had available when I was younger. So I really get what you mean when you say you wish you’d seen it years ago. Say tuned to our channel as I’ve got so much more content similar coming out and I’m thrilled to have a fab community around me. Tell me more about you. You’re so welcome and I’m sending all my best x
I’ve read that most women say they will not date a guy who’s bisexual So I feel like I need to lie but it backs me into a corner I either need to identify as straight and only pursue women, or only pursue guys Society isn’t as accepting as we like to think it is Not in my world anyway
I hear you. It's really tough. All I can say is that I was so surprised when I came out early on to my female partner. She blew me away with her acceptance.
Hey oh my gosh thank you so much, this means a lot to me. I'd be so thrilled to hear what you think of my videos as they come out. I'm releasing one a week so subscribe and stay tuned. Let me know about you and welcome to the notdefining community. Much love, Mark :)
My struggles of being a bisexual man is that apparently, I'm too gay for straight women and I'm too straight for gay men (all based on stereotypes lol)
Hey thanks for sharing your experiences. I'm hearing that you've had to struggle with this. You don't deserve that. Are these your thoughts or have people told this to you?
Exactly the problem.We don't fit anywhere. Overtime women can sense you are different and gay men pick up on this as well often mistaking bi people for exclusive gays. There is a need to come out but without a long relationship with a man what is the point? I really identify with the expressive hand gestures in the video!
@@Marvin-dg8vj Hey thanks so much. Hand gestures are apparently part of bi culture! I saw that somewhere lol. The point for me of coming out is to show that we exist, so that then the millions of young people in the world growing up who also feel this way don't hate themselves.
I feel exactly the same, I'm a very feminine man, I love wearing make up and a lot of things considered girly. Yet I find women atractive and I don't know if there's something wrong with me. I only find men atractive if they're also feminine.
Hey thank you so much for taking the time to say. I'm so pleased you're enjoying them. Tell me about you. What are you most interested in. Sending all my best to you x
Good video I never considered that when people see you with a man they think your gay but if your with a woman they think your straight. I think it awesome that you want people to know your sexuality! I grew up in very different times and spent a huge part of my life afraid people would suspect I was gay so I’m so glad that young people don’t have to feel that way. Bisexual men in particular have a hard time because western society push men into boxes that they must conform to. Often bi men won’t share there thought with there GF because women tend to have a very bad reaction to it. On the other side as you said most gay men just believe that your gay and are just as Prejudice towards bi men as straight people are. I do don’t agree with everything you say d but I’m glad you are out there showing people who you are and the challenges you face.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. I'm so glad you got something positive from the video. I also spent a huge part of my life being afraid people would think I was gay. I still struggle a lot. But speaking truth breaks fear so I'm delighted to have people listen and relate. And don't worry, you don't have to agree with anything! It's just my personal experience so everyone is different. Sending loads of love to you and thanks again. If you can ever share my content with someone you think would benefit I'd always be so grateful. Otherwise I'm just happy you're here. All the best, Mark x
Just keep being you I can tell you are a passionate man that really cares about helping others. Very few people are willing to break through all the stigma and talk about this. I do nY regret anything about my life I have 5 beautiful kids and 3 grandsons and nothing would ever make me regret the choices I’ve made all that said you are much braver than me!! Your willing to put yourself out there to help other people regardless or the backlash and that is a very brave and special thing. Always stay positive and never let anyone bring you down. Always be willing to forgive, be slow to anger, and even when someone is attacking you with hate respond with love and kindness not easy to do but that modo has served me well in life.
@@johnboltz2768 Hey thanks for your beautiful words. I can see that you are contented and regretless in life because you are able to take that self love and project it onto me. I feel it. Thank you. I will follow your advice :)
@@notdefining my attitude comes from my upbringing small town Iowa boy. I was able to hold onto the good things about that upbringing and discard the bad. lots of gray in the world no one is all bad or good. There is a word I wish more people understood and that is grace. We all need to give more of it to each other. Concepts about male sexuality are complex and very few people are even willing to discus it. Female sexuality has been studied to death but very few people are even willing to take male sexuality. Most men have no clue about their own bodies and most men spend their life confused about what they really feel. We have a society that perpetuates that because most people women and men are intimidated by male sexuality and men spend there lives in a little box never understanding their own feelings and desires. very few break out of that box like you have to gain a better understanding of how you really feel and try to understand why you feel the way. you do. you are a very strong person to break out of that to discover the truth. Take pride in the fact you are willing to break out of that to discover the truth not only about yourself, but for other men as well.
@@johnboltz2768 Hey thank you so much for sharing this. I couldn't agree more. There is such a lack of understanding about the grey areas of male/masculine sex, gender and expression. Your words mean a lot. I'm trying my best. I suffered with it for so long and am now just coming into feeling ok. It's a dream to be able to share it.
I gotta say that you channel is amazing. I met you on twitter a few weeks ago. In my personal experience, relationships have always been difficult because my ex-partners didn't quite feel confortable with my identity. But what can I say, it was even for me hard to accept me a few years back. It seems to me that bisexuality is harder to understand because of the wide spectrum of its presentation and expression as you have said. On the other hand, it gets quite common to come out form the bisexual closet every time I get asked if I have a partner: -Hey, do you have a girlfriend? -No, I have a boyfriend. -Oh dude, I didn't know you were gay. -No I'm not gay, I'm bisexual. -Oh, I see. Anyway, I'm looking forward for the next videos !
Hey thank you so much for your kind words, they mean so much to me really. Man, it sounds like you've had such a difficult time personally and I'm so with you. You don't deserve to have to explain yourself like this and feel nervous about partners not accepting you. I'm totally here any time if you want to chat or just rant about stuff! We bi people need space sometimes to let off steam right?! You're such a massively welcome and honoured part of our community here now so I'm super grateful you have shared your experience. I know loads of our followers are going to relate. How do you personally feel when people mislabel you as gay? What feelings go on for you in that moment?
Hey thanks for sharing this. Being bi is so good. Welcome brother! Do you mean that most women don't seem interested in a relationship at all or that most women don't seem interested in dating a bi man? Just for clarification so I can understand. Would you like to date a guy? We can chat things through, @notdefining is here for you.
@@notdefining It seems to me that most woman don't see me as long term relationship material or not husband material. Then on the other hand some woman say I give off the vibe I have a GF or married. I still feel like I don't exist to woman . I never went on a date with a dude but I fear that I will not connect like a romantic one. I know there thing I can do better and work towards and I am not looking for perfect. Another issue is I like guy that are straight acting or masculine enough if I wanted a flamboyant dude I rather date a woman that just me. Anks for listening to my rant 👍😎
Excellent presentation! I have always been attracted to women and dated women. However, I have accepted, I am also attracted to men, but only sexually. I began to focus on my bisexuality about 12 years ago. I have zero interest in a boyfriend, or anything romantic with men. I talk with bi and gay men online. Quite a few men, want to "date" me, but that is not what interests me. During my career, men "hit on me" on a consistent basis. I found that I feel comfortable being with gay or bisexual men, in a group setting.
Hey thanks for sharing. Actually most bi people are on the more hetero leaning side, with just a small or partial interest in the same sex. So you're totally normal and natural. That's great that you're accepting and acknowledging it. Totally natural as well just to have more of a physical interest but not desire for relationship. I have that too. That's so valid and great. I totally relate as well with feeling discomfort in male Queer spaces. A lot of the time men in these situations can be quite forward and if you have boundaries or only partial interest then it can be rough. How do you handle it in those situations? I hope you remember that you belong there and deserve to have your boundaries respected. Thanks again for sharing. Stay tuned to the channel by subscribing and hitting the bell as I have another bi guy video coming out very soon. Much love, Mark x
I loved the video, my first on the channel, I already have an eye on another one. However, I have to say I've seen the Venn diagram you show at 2:40 before and I'm not a huge fan. It seems to imply that bi requires a preference, and that it is mutually exclusive with liking all genders, which isn't the case, as you said. Oh and is there a reason why you have your flag with blue on top?
Hey thank you so much for tuning in and for checking out my content. I really appreciate it and value your comments. Let me know what you think of my other videos and subscribe for more if you haven't already. First of all thank you for pointing out that I put my flag upside down! Haha I actually didn't mean it and didn't realise so thanks. The ven diagram isn't perfect for sure. All these labels are so similar and mean something slightly different to each person so yes I completely take your point. For me, once you get down to these micro-labels really it's just whatever feels a right fit for you. I kind of identify with them all. How do you identify? It seems you have a great knowledge so I'd be delighted to hear your thoughts and experiences. Thanks again, welcome to the community and all the best, Mark x
I really liked this video. I am also a Bi man, and i came out around 1 year ago. Since then i have come a long way, to accepting and understanding my sexuality. Now i take alot of pride in wearing the bi-flag around, and it makes me feel very happy that ive learned to accept myself for who i am🏳️🌈🥳💙💜💗
Hey thanks for your kind words. I'm so glad you enjoyed the content. If you can share it with anyone else I'd be so thrilled. Otherwise I'm so glad you're here. I'm so proud to hear of your acceptance and self love. You are part of our community here and I'm so glad to connect with you. Sending much love.
Im a bi guy that has recently came out it has shown me who mu true friends are and I feel so much more myself now im open about it and this video has really helped me be more ok with people's different views on my sexuality and a agree with everything you said thank you for this 😊
Being an introverted single male, bisexual and an overthinker, then having to hear that my type have the highest rates of mental health issues and suicidal tendencies... What are the odds really
You are now an introverted male, bisexual and an overthinker with another introverted male, bisexual and overthinker as a friend. We are family. You are brilliant just the way you are and I love you. Don't ever struggle alone. You are my brother now, OK?
am a bi but I always tell people am a gay because I can't explain my self is so hard to be bi .. because I have be with my boyfriend for 15 years but am still bi .... because I still look at woman .......but in Africa I come from ...people can never call you bi ...once you love a man like you ...that means you are a gay nobody is a bi in Africa lol
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I hear what you're saying completely. It's kind of similar here as well actually. People assume your sexuality based on the gender of your partner. But I can totally understand that it's even more so in many African countries. Congratulations for being together for 15 years though, that's beautiful. You are so valid and welcomed here as your whole bi self. Sending much love.
Hey thank you so much. I appreciate your lovely comment. Every time someone comments and subscribes we get to share the information with more people who need it. So thanks for supporting. I’d love to know more about you and welcome you to our community. Much love and have a great day, Mark x
@@notdefining Hey! I am a writer as a matter of fact, currently working on a novel about a young bisexual man who struggles with his sexuality and the pressures of being manly in society. Bisexuality doesn't find much representation, as you said, nor it is often successfully depicted or explained. Very inspiring videos! keep up with the good work. :)
@@NadiWLJ hey wow that sounds so fantastic. Story of my life! Haha. I’d love to know more about this. I actually know another author who is writing a fiction novel where the main character is bi and the author has interviewed me so he can model the character! So honoured. I can connect you two if you’re interested. Which country are you in? I’m writing a book at the moment (one guide to sexuality and one auto biography) but I’m not very knowledgeable about how write or get things published. I’m thrilled to know that there are people representing our community in literature and would be so pleased to help promote the book if you like. Let me know how I can support and I’d love to know more. All the very best and thanks for the fab work you’re doing x
Thanks so much for the video, you represent really well! I've been bi all my life, before internet and I would say yes, I am complex and it is confusing. But it has led me through some great relationships that I still maintain to this day. I want to suggest having a nicer background, maybe some books, flowers, I find the plain wall a little too plain. But there you are, I am sensitive to aesthetics, what can I say? Love you you and thanks.🏵🥀🌹
Hey thanks so much for sharing your experience. I love to connect with other bi people. I can't believe...bi people existed BEFORE THE INTERNET!!! haha. That's great. Do you know, I'm really grateful for the feedback. I'm actually in the process of improving my videos and investing in a proper camera, lighting and background. I'm going to try some options out so I'd be really pleased if you'd stay tuned to the channel and continue to let me know what you think. Thanks so much once again and much love to you my friend x
Hi, thank you for this video! I have a friend who recently came out as bi, (we both identify as male) and we started fooling around on weekends. I kinda want more than friends with benefits but he has said that he has not really wanted to date a man. (I wonder if its because he has grown up in a strictly white heteronormative world and is a little scared to think that way, especially since he is not out to his parents) Idk, how can I make him feel most comfortable, or do I just have to wait
Hey great question. I would suggest the following: 1. If he doesn't want to date at the moment, then he doesn't want to. Whatever the reasons, they don't matter that much. There could be many reasons. The best thing is to respect where he is at. 2. Speak to him, not trying to convince him to date you but allow him the space to speak openly. Be that person he maybe never had to talk to. Ask him about dating, romance, sex, intimacy etc. Don't lead him but give him a really nice space to talk. This way you will get to know where he's at more and also provide space for him to really get to what he is feeling. Finally, listening and seeing someone for who they are is the best way to get someone to fall in love with you! haha
You're extremely handsome. I would've dated you if you were straight. My friends jokingly say i have a type but I never thought that much of it until I looked back at old pics of my exes. I guess I do have a type afterall lol unfortunately I don't think I could date a bi guy. This is why we should respect everyone's sexuality. No one should feel pressured or ashamed for preference.
I know you are commenting with love and I appreciate your kind words but this is biphobia. I am conscious you are coming from a place of respect so I'd be happy to explain why. When we say we wouldn't date a bisexual guy, we are presupposing that bisexual men are a certain way. You are imposing some kind of trait upon them which almost certainly comes from ignorance. As LGBTQ+ people are also a marginalised community, you are directly contributing to the exclusion and discrimination of bi+ people from society. Don't date a guy because he's unkind, or disrespectful, or not a great match, not because of his orientation. Because that has absolutely nothing to do with anything. Does that make sense? You have just literally said that you think I'm extremely handsome etc. You literally are attracted to a bi guy - but you wouldn't date me because of my Queer identity? That's queerphobia there black and white. I know you don't mean it that way but I wanted to explain it as I think you are someone who would want to learn and be an Ally. Also, you're missing out because we're amazing! Sending so much love, Mark x
Just finished watching your videos because I really want to know more about being a bi guy on a relationship also do my own research to understand what it feels like and to also widen my knowledge about him. Bc recently, my beloved boyfriend come out to me and afraid of so many things that we should end things bc he's afraid of what would others say bc I am a straight gal and he's a bi guy which attracted to gays not straight man (he said). I gave him assurance that we will work things out and I really don't care what will others say. I really love him and coming out doesn't change a thing. He also said that he still loves me but afraid of what future might comes bc he can't control his emotions and feelings towards others. I'm getting ready and prepared for what would be the result and I just want to support him all the way round to the best I can bc I love my bf so much.
Hey thank you so much for sharing what you're going through. It is beautiful to hear your words of love and allyship to your boyfriend. As it happens I am releasing tomorrow a video PRECISELY for people whose partners have come out as bi. Check it out and see what you think. I'd be happy to chat more and support you in any way I can. You're not alone in this. We're here for partners as well because it can be a lot to take in. Thanks for seeking out information and sending much love to you and your boyfriend. Mark x
Yes absolutely. It's wonderful. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it. I'm interested to meet a bi druid. Can you tell me about that? I'm very interested and connected with my pagan roots.
Great video 👍.... I always get approach by straight men and they end up saying they are now going to be bisexual 🤭🤭 . Most of the women says I m cute and men says I am hot and sexy but I always get attracted to straight and bisexual men .🤭🤭😋
Hey thank you so much for sharing your experience. Every time we speak about our lives it makes things easier for someone else and there will be someone who can relate. So thank you for contributing to what makes this channel what it is. I was interested in what you said about women saying you're cute and men saying you're sexy. Is there a difference there, do you feel? Do you get a different treatment from women to men? Also I'm intrigued to know what it is about bi and straight men that attracts you over gay men. Any ideas or is it just one of those things? I love to discuss these things because so often we don't get the chance. It sounds like you are appreciated by lots of different genders so that's great!! You are definitely loved and appreciated here, however you define yourself. Don't forget to subscribe if you haven't already and please let us know what you think of my other videos. I feel you have some really interesting perspectives so I'd be thrilled to have you as part of our community here. All the very best and thanks again for your comment. It really helps us connect when we share. X
It's funny how I never been in relationship with a man or a women. I remember I kissed a girl in elementary school, than I kiss boy in elementary school
Bi possible here, so I've been super curious about the (SORRY) sexual part of being bi but I really have no interest in romantic interactions with men. (I'm a male). With women however, I am physically, emotionally and romantically interested
Then YOU'RE Straight 😂 quit wasting people's time with this shit I swear this is why I would never date a bi man y'all be the same shaddy drug dealer down the ally ripping people off for profit
Hey thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Will you tell us more about you? I'd love to know how you relate with the content. And stay tuned as I have videos on similar topics every week.
@@notdefining I'm bisexual myself but I am more leaning towards men, I'm still adjusting to the notion of accepting myself fully because of my not so accepting environment. Because of this video I realize just doing what makes me happy.
@@rexgeorgerodriguez7620 Hey thanks so much for telling us a bit about you. I'm hearing that your environment has been tough and I want you to know that you're so fully accepted, celebrated and appreciated here. You're absolutely right, being your true authentic self is the strongest, most fulfilling version of yourself you can be. Don't ever let anyone try to dim your shine. You're amazing. Sending loads of love to you my friend and let me know if you ever want to chat anything through. We're all here for you! All the very best, Mark x
The makers of the movie Firebird want to have the original memoirs of Sergey in Russian and translate it into English for everyone to read. Love conquers all. ❤️
I never had big troubles with my sexuality, I always recognized myself as a gay guy but maybe I could be a bi 95% for guys and 5% to girls, never tried girls. But I have a funny memory My firts time opening my sexuality to a friend in 2017 and I was 19 , at that time I knew I was gay but I remember that I said to him that I was bi I tough " oh if I say that I'm bi I'll be half straight and will be less worse than being completely gay " ahahahahaa 😅
Hey thanks for sharing your experiences. It's very common for people to go with bi first in order to "soften it". Some in the bi community get understandably frustrated with this because it creates the perception that all bi people are on a stepping stone towards being gay. But I personally don't mind. Whatever you have to do to be safe and express yourself is fine with me. It's homophobic society we have to blame, not poor scared gay people who just want to try and come out without being rejected. And also, if you like girls 5% that is completely acceptable bi identity so you weren't technically lying after all!
@Be REAL You're right, humans are humans. They are not to be treated like objects in any sense regardless of sexuality or gender. Objectifying people is wrong. This is not the meaning of what is being discussed here. Not at all.
Honestly i hide into mariage with the hope of reedeming myself,unfortunately my wife passed on and she was the one who knew everything from the very onset,i became interested in a different type of men especial in social gatherings.at times i feel i can be kissed and receive that hug from a men but scared to act first.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. We're so here for you. You belong in this community and I'd be pleased to hear more about what's been going on for you. Sending so much love, Mark x
I've never been aroused by men but when I'm around intellectual men I find it stimulating in a way I often don't find with women. Not that women aren't intellectual, but more often than not, in my personal life, I don't seem to find women as mentally stimulating. It does happen on my occasion when I meet a very bright woman, but my dilemma is a bit odd, I'd be willing the bet, and that I could probably be into men if I tried. I don't normally desire men, but I've often been curious, especially because I know bisexuality is an option and I'm very open minded. I do believe in ways we are one in the same, and in fact, developmentally, we are all female at some point in the womb. So it's not crazy to think sexuality is in fact a broad spectrum.
Hey thank you so much for sharing this. It’s really a privilege to hear your unique experience. And totally valid to feel this kind of intellectual stimulation around a certain gender. My wife literally said the thing that attracted her to me most when we first met was my intelligence. I also find smart women irresistible. It’s very natural, we look for those who have traits which are beneficial to survival. Intelligence is an extremely attractive trait. It says “hey I’m strong, I have something useful, I’m interesting, I’m worth getting to know”. It doesn’t need to be sexual but as you say, sex is a spectrum and it’s just an intense form of connection. It’s so nice to hear you’re accepting and being inquisitive about your feelings. Sometimes people get afraid when they feel these things but it’s lovely to hear you be chilled and open to it. Do you think you might see where it goes? Sending much love.
Hey thanks so much for the appreciation. You know I tried to find it but I got it a long time ago and couldn't find the exact place I got it from. You can find it online if you search bisexual t shirts, I'm sure you will find it online somewhere. My other Tshirt (the black one in the videos and logo) is from www.driptee.co.uk/ they are a great company. If I find the other one I will send the link. Sorry I couldn't help more.
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@@notdefining Well I new to this dating guy stuff . However every guy I been out with been super clingy like telling me they love on a first date and I don't operate that way . If I vibe with you I am like hey I had fun and would like to spend more time together. I guess I don't fall for people fast like that . Oh well I keep getting out their.
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As a feminine man, someone who's attracted to both sexes I want to have sex with a masculine man but im afraid he will do something to me. Any recs will be appreciated
Hey, we've got you don't worry. I'm hearing that you're suffering a great deal. I'm glad you're here and you're so welcome. @notdefining is a community across instagram, twitter, tiktok and youtube. If you have any of those platforms search for @notdefining and join us there for daily discussion, info and affirmations. If you would like personalised coaching support from me and to be part of our special, close-knit community, then head over to www.patreon.com/notdefining and you can get full access to support and coaching from me. Let us know how we can help you. Much love, Mark x
There are also people who can be with someone they love no matter what they have with their bodies, meaning people with multiple or no gender. Love is love and bodies are bodies. All forms of gender or the lack thereof are beautiful.
I'm considering coming out to my parents an sister I've been forced to come to terms with my bi-sexuality recently when I shared a kiss with a trans women who was born male. I believe everyone deserves love an respect, an I've found myself attracted to beauty regardless of gender or orientation, so I guess on a technical level that's more pan. I see myself as a male even tho I'm more into beauty, nature, arts collaboration an emotions I e. the typical feminine attributes an am not so into cars sports or competitiveness or sternness i.e. typical male attributes. An even tho I recognize everyone's right to orient themselves as the feel appropriate.
Guess this is a two part question 1st, how did you go about revealing this to your family an/or friends? An 2 even tho I acknowledge that other see more then two genders an accept there views as valid, is it ok that hold myself to the standard of only two?(this is why I consider myself bi instead of pan)
I paused the video before u got to the part where u said u consider yourself cis male two an that u accept people are people however they are. Pretty much answering my 2nd question an also validating how I feel tysm for that 💜👏☺️
@@GodlyJib Hey thank you so much for sharing your story. It will inspire others who read it. Be sure to stay tuned to my channel as I'm releasing the story of how I came out in detail. Parts 1 and 2 are out. More to come. Also my story is in my Instagram highlights if you have instagram. Basically it was a long road but I... 1. Found other LGBT people and Bi people to talk to. This gave me strength. 2. Spoke to very close people. I said "have you ever thought about the same gender?" Many of them actually said, "sure, have you" and I just nodded and said "sometimes". I didn't put a label on it. 3. Then I did a FB post and just said this is me etc. 4. I had chats with family and friends as I went along if they wanted to ask following the FB post. I stopped talking to family or friends who were questioning it or critical. I just had the policy of "take it or leave it". It's not your job to convince them. Just be. 5. Then I created a whole social media platform but you don't need to do that haha. The answer to question number 2 is yes that's absolutely fine. You're allowed to define as you feel comfortable to you. As long as you respect others as you say. Sending love to you, Mark x
to me being a bi guy is horrible,women dont like bi guys,gay men dont like bi guys,biphobia in the community,the lack of bi men rep in media and the homophobia.i dislike being a bi man
Hey thank you so much for this lovely comment. I'm so thrilled you enjoyed the content. Please make sure to subscribe as I have loads more coming out each week. Tell us more about you, I'd love to know how you relate with the video. All the very best and much love, Mark x
@@notdefining thxs a lot my dear I have subscribe u already i dnt knw wht i luv in u bt i thk ur everything i will wait 4 ur contact ur rite bi. People is a lot in ths world God bless keep it up 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
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(I'm a male)I identify as Bisexual and really enjoy kissing other men and being close to them while also being interested in women both sexually and romantically and have really been struggling with the idea that I'm faking it or forcing it and was just searching for some validation and this video really helped.
Hey that's what we're here for. You are valid AF. It's really natural to have those feelings because that is what pretty much the whole of society teaches us. Always here for you if you need aggressive validation every day!!! Don't take it. You're amazing. Sending love.
Your not alone in the struggle. I understand whatchya goin thru. 🫂
I came out as a male bi a couple days ago and it honestly was the most liberating decision i ever made.
Omg so proud
I'm happy for you. There are definitely times in my life I wish I would've embraced it more. It's definitely a gift and makes me very happy (and I'm not promiscuous like I used to be either LOL).
Mark, you eloquently explained it on point. As a bisexual man I can relate to everything you said, especially being appreciative of beauty in people around us (and even in ourselves!) You are looking very handsome. Keep up the authentic content!
Aaah thank you so much my lovely friend. I appreciate your words so much. It makes me so happy that we can share and relate. It is such a joy. Sending loads of love to you x
@Be REAL I don't believe it, I know it. No one has the right to make comment on someone else's attractions. Saying someone is b*sing about being biromantic is biphobia and there's no place for it.
At last .... someone talking about bisexuality...
Love this! I'm not bi but would love to date someone who is. I totally admire people who can see true nature of humanity and can see that love and beauty in men and women - female and male energy. I just love love love that🥰
Oh my gosh thank you so much for this beautiful comment. It's made my day. With this loving attitude, I'm sure that you will find an amazing partner and be a great support to them, whatever their identity is. It means a lot to our community when people show their support for us so thank you. Stay tuned and subscribe to the channel so we can reach more people. I'm releasing new content every week on similar topics so we'd love to have you with us. Wishing you a great day, Mark x
My ex gf was the same way. She was bisexual but definitely preferred men. She got very turned on by guy on guy, but also learned how it made me a better person to be so in touch with my feminine side and my feelings and emotions. I am very fluid but I know what I like and I find masculinity and femininity very hot and I also can develop romantic feelings for the PERSON and not just the gender. It's beautiful and while difficult at times I have always seen it as a gift.
The more and more that I think about it maybe I am considered Bi? I don't know, I've never had a relationship with a woman but have had encounters sexually. I'm confused perhaps? I don't exactly see myself having a long term relationship with a woman but have enjoyed being with them in the past in a sexual way. I prefer men and have always preferred being more of the submissive type for the most part. @@flightofthebumblebee9529
Bi guy here in a hetero relationship. High five for sharing this awesomeness. I’m mid-thirties and super happy being bi, but damn if hearing this kind of information as a teen couldn’t have saved me some teen (and young adult) angst.
Keep the message alive and thank you!
Hey my beloved brother thank you so much for your kind words. I'm so glad you liked the content. I've got so much more coming out so I hope to hear what you think.
Married bi guys are my tribe. I love you. How is life? So proud of you living your life and being phenomenal.
If you ever have the chance to share this or another one of my videos I would be thrilled for more people to get to see it (and prevent some more angst!)
In any case, I'm so glad you're here. Welcome and massive warm bi guy hugs from me to you x
And as long as you guys continue being in a HETERO relations you bi guys keep proving our point 🎉
@@austinflores8552 I picked a person, not a side. Still bi.
I am the same way. I was in a relationship with my ex gf for almost 5 years until we broke up. She had young kids and I was a stepdad to them. We had pets. She fully embraced my bisexuality and was also bisexual. We also taught the kids to love and embrace everyone. I wish I would've given a chance to some relationships I had with other guys but I used to shrug off my same sex attraction as only sexual instead of acknowledging that I have romantic and emotional feelings for other guys as well.
Thanks for you openness and providing the positive nature of appreciating men and women sexually and spiritually. There is beauty in every race if you look for it, and there is beauty in being bisexual at whatever level of sexual spectrum one falls. Sexuality is mostly biologically ingrained and accepting your sexual nature as-is is the only way to live life fully, freely, happily, and in peace. Thanks for your positive message. I wish I was a bisexual so that I can enjoy men and women. You are lucky.
Hey thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging comment. It's really appreciated. So many people speak negatively about us and it lifts my heart to hear someone speak positively :-)
I loved your channel. It's still kinda hard for me to deal with not being either gay or straight. When I'm with women they sometimes complain that I look like a gay person or im not being "man" enough. When I'm with Men they say im too straight for them and keep questioning if I really like men. These stuff just end up forcing me to act differently to please what people expect from me. Idk it just looks like everyone wants to put me in a box and it just makes me feel kinda lost sometimes.
My brother. Thank you for sharing this. You are perfect. I am here for you always. I totally get you and you’re not alone.
It’s very hard being bi because most people feel we are confused!
I hear you
Oh Mark! Finally a "man" says "men can be beautiful"! I think I lived my whole life trying to find someone who would say that! LOL! Even "women" don't say it and as a "woman" I felt so lost among my "sisters"! Thank you!
Hey thanks so much for saying. I really appreciate your comments always. Yeah oh my gosh men can be so beautiful. I just don’t get this gender binary thing anymore. Like we’re all beautiful. You know I lived in the Middle East for 4 years and men would say other men were beautiful all the time. Men would say “you’re handsome, you’re beautiful, you have beautiful eyes etc” all the time. There was absolutely nothing sexual about it whatsoever. It’s just normal in those cultures to show affection and appreciate beauty. So I find it incredibly sad that northern European / western cultures have this weird insecurity around it. It’s actually really odd. Thank you for being a “woman” who appreciates the beauty of men. What kind of male beauty do you like the most?
@@notdefining I don't want to talk about that in public here :-) All I will say is that beauty is not gender specific in my books. Anyone can be beautiful. Sometimes beauty is not so much about how you look as much as about how you carry yourself.
@@AA-vq7ed Hey that's cool. I completely agree with you. Someone can look pretty in a photo and then their energy just doesn't connect in real life. It's all about the whole person and their vibe. Really love your comments, they're always so well thought out and validating. Hope you're having an amazing day. Keep the discussions coming, I love to hear from you. Much love x
@@notdefining Thanks so much! Some of your thoughts and videos have also been very validating for me. Most of my life I been told that my thoughts were not valid. So I know what you mean. Keep doing what you are doing! x
@@AA-vq7ed Please never listen to those people who tell you your thoughts are invalid ever again? You are fab. Just released a new video actually sharing my approach to feeling confident around straight/hetero environments. I'd love to know what you think. Sending lots of love, Mark x
Thank you so much for your channel and this video. I'm a 43yo married (to a woman) bisexual who also identifies as gender fluid. I've only just started to feel comfortable now at this age to come out and it's only because the world is now changing and becoming more accepting but I'm still very nervous and scared as only my wife (who is pansexual) and children know (1 is pansexual and another is gay) but I've decided to come out tomorrow on my Facebook page and write a huge post about it. Mostly for me but also for anyone else who may still be hiding this part of them as most are (bisexual men). I've struggled with this all of my life and suppressed it and hidden it and tried my hardest to act manly and tough and pretty much just mirrored how the straight men around me acted. I'm also a hip hop artist and the hip hop community (especially) in the 90s and 2000s was EXTREMELY homophobic 😢.... anyways that's enough from me haha. Thanks again. These videos mean the world to people like me and REALLY help. Adrian/Thorts.
Hey Adrian thanks so much for sharing. I’m wishing you all the best for your Facebook post! Amazing. It sounds like you are moving closer towards feeling your best and being authentic in a huge way. Massive respect to you. We’re rooting for you!
@@notdefiningThank you so much 😊😊😊
Just wanted to say that this channel is awesome; you're doing some important work here; thank you for helping bi-visibility and combating biphobia
Oh my gosh thank you so much I appreciate you taking the time to write this. Please subscribe and share if there's anyone who you think would benefit from the info. Otherwise, I'm just sending you so much love. Mark x
I agree. When I hear about teens who end their lives over such things it truly breaks my heart and makes me want to spread awareness and lead by example by never hiding who I am and being comfortable with who I am. Nobody (especially young people) should EVER feel judged or shamed for developing feelings of love or intimacy or even sexual feelings, for more than one gender. Even by embracing it in my own life it can help others do the same.
This video was so interesting I identify as a cis gender gay man and I think bisexuality is so cool and I really admire you all within the community. Although I have little to no interest in women sexually I really appreciated this video and being able to educate myself on what’s it’s like being bisexual. I just love how people have so many facets and are so diverse and are able to express themselves - we should all strive to not put anyone in a box and let someone just be and be happy and admire them. 😁
Oh my gosh thank you so much I really appreciate this. The gay community is our family and we love you so much. It's sad how often there can be biphobia in the gay community so it means a lot that you are accepting and want to learn. Please spread the awareness. Sending lots of love, Mark x
Thank you so much for this. I’ve only recently come to terms with the fact that I’m a bisexual male. I’ve exclusively dated men but I really want to start dating women again. I’m so scared because many women don’t understand or want to date bisexual men because of so many misconceptions and biphobia, so much that I’m kind of thinking of keeping it a secret from potential women I might date.
Hey thanks for sharing. I understand the fear there. There are many women who will be completely okay with this. Check out the "Feeld" App. It's got loads of really fab women, men and gender diverse people of all kinds and it's a really great place for meeting accepting people of all genders. Amazing women on there. Check it out. Also, why not try dating bi women?
@@notdefining I’ve met a few women who are bi, but they are all taken (by men). I have trouble meeting women at ALL because I don’t know how to talk to them. I guess I’m just kinda scared 😟
I am accepting of my bi partner. At my age it has taken conversations to get my head round. He told me on date 2. If he had kept it from me I wouldn’t have trusted him, keeping it secret isn’t fair on the other person. Those women who judge/don’t accept you for who you are aren’t for you. You will find people/women who love and accept you for who you are. Honesty creates trust and trust is at the heart of any relationship. Love and accept yourself and you’ll find the right women to date. Good luck ☘️
@@DanTheMan27 I hear you. Totally get what you're saying. What about dating apps? There are loads of bi women around. Just have to find them. And tell me, what are you scared of? What's your fear?
@@marymcquillan6417 Thanks so much for this. It's so powerful and I'm delighted our community and allies can support each other.
Thank you Mark!
I'm so glad to find your channel.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. I'm glad you found us too!
just found your channel, 61 years old, married 38 plus years to a woman and you guessed it, bi, and she knows, thanks for posting subscribed and wish i had a resource such as this years ago. be safe
Hey thanks so much for connecting. I’m so glad you’re here. I wish I had this resource when I was younger too so I can’t imagine. Sending so much love. We are family. Proud to see you living authentically and we’re always here for you. You have a community here with us.
Thanks for this. I’m a bi guy and I can’t even tell my religious conservative parents. Luckily most of my friends were indifferent when I told them. It’s better than rejection.
Hey I'm proud of you for the steps you've taken. You're doing so well.
Really well done. Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm a pansexual woman, just coming into my identity. It's great to hear your positive way of thinking of all of this. I agree completely. People are just who they are. :). Also for so many of you that are commenting about how hard it is to date as a person identifying as bi, I say it's unfortunate. They are really missing out. It really shouldn't matter. It doesn't to me.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words and for sharing your identity. I'm so glad we can connect and that you enjoyed the content. If you ever have the chance to share our videos I would be so grateful. Otherwise I'm just glad you're here. Yes on dating it is such a shame isn't it? Bi guys are great. I honestly think so many people are missing out too! haha. Their loss eh? Sending so much love, Mark x
This is a great video. I am a bisexual guy in my mid 20s and it can feel like a very isolating, lonely place. In the past three to four years, I have only met one or two (openly) bisexual men, so I don't get to meet any other bisexual men that often. I have bad anxiety and depression too.
Hey you’re not alone. I’m a bisexual man who experiences anxiety and depression too. Now you know three. I can help you connect with more if you’d like.
@@thewolfman775 Because most men will not openly say they are bisexual, at least in my experience
Maybe I am in the wrong crowd or something
@@thewolfman775 Because so few of us are out about it. Let me know which area you live and I can see if there are any bi groups.
@@thewolfman775 I would say the latter
@@thewolfman775 That's none of your concern
On dating apps, as a gay man I don't run into bi men a whole lot (mostly because bi men tend to identify as gay or straight instead of bi) and when I do I feel insecure that they can just leave the relationship for an easier life when the descriminatiom becomes too much, watching your channel I decided I'll give bi guys a chance and maybe get over my insecurity ☺️
biphobia does exist and although I believe when it comes to bi woman it is over exaggerated a bit biphobia against bi men is a lot prevalent and much worse, being a bi woman is a lot more accepted than being a bi man getting dates would be hard because neither gay men or straight woman are interested in dating you, which I don't understand because why would a bi man ever want to cheat on you or dump for a guy especially in a homophobic society. Maybe it's a lot more to it but Idk, this whole thing is pretty confusing lol.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. It’s very honest and I appreciate that. There is nothing better than when we acknowledge the truth of how we have felt, understand that it was ok to feel that, then learn to open our hearts to more opportunities for love. I’m hearing that you have an insecurity about being left by a partner. That’s so valid and natural to feel. So you want to make sure that any partner of any sexuality is trustworthy, committed and loyal. Focus on those things. They are your boundaries, your expectations, they are your worth. You are worthy of honesty, commitment and loyalty because you’re an amazing guy who deserves the best. Don’t settle for anything less. Focus on those things which you deserve and want because they are linked to your value. Don’t focus on the identity that another person has or lacks because that is linked to your insecurity.
Also, hey there are more bi men in the world than gay men. Bisexuality is the biggest identity in the LGBT community. There are so many hot Bi guys around. Don’t miss out. We’re super gorgeous and fun.
Also, have you ever thought, imagine the strength and assurance that it takes to identify as queer EVEN WHEN you don’t have to? As a gay person you kind of have to. As a bi person we don’t. We could choose safety but we don’t....
...we’ve already chosen to step out of the “comfortable” world (which is actually a living hell for us but anyway).
Think about that. Strength of character....?
Love you my man and wishing you all the luck and beautiful dates in this world. Xxx
Great video! I love hearing you speak about our community! 🙂
Heeey thank you so so much I really appreciate your comment. It makes me so happy that we can share and connect. You’ve made my day. Sending loads of love to you x
Thanks so much for this video I had told myself that I was gay for the longest time but I originally came out as bi when I was in 8th grade! I am bisexual and proud of it!!! Thanks so much for this video its amazing!
Omg you’re so welcome. I’m so proud of you and I can see the pride that you have for yourself which is beautiful. Medal of honour. You are amazing.
I needed this video a lot more than I thought. Thank you for taking the time to make it.
Hey gosh thank you so much for saying. I'm so pleased you benefited from it. If you haven't already, make sure to subscribe as I have so much more content like this coming out. Sending love to you my friend.
So I have this kind of intellectual attraction. It really clicks on me when I see a person successfully explaining a subject. I'm also attracted to people who are good at playing music instruments.
Oh that's so nice. Yeah it's so sexy when someone's clever or talented isn't it?
Thank u for this, I’m struggling
Hey you're so welcome. What is it you're struggling with my friend. I'm here to listen.
as a Bisexual guy am type that was curious of what is like being intimate with the same gender how does it feel these thoughts made me BI.
Love to connect and tangle myself in the BI community
Hey thanks so much for sharing and you've come to the right place. Come and join us at notdefining as we talk about all things bi.
You're part of our bi+ family here and I'd love to know more about your story. When did you first come to think about the same gender? Are you new to a bi identity or has it been something you've felt for a while?
Do please subscribe if you can as I've got loads more content that I hope you will find really interesting.
Thanks again for your comment and looking forward to hearing from you, Mark x
Where have you been all my life? lol. It's Pride Month, I'm a 54 y,0. bi guy. Great video.
We’ve found each other at just the right time.
Thank you so much for sharing, Mark! I’m also so inspired by the pride you show! 💖💜💙
Ah Rob thank you my wonderful friend. Really appreciate your comments always. They really help me out and it's great to see bi people representing in the world together!!!! Much love x
Great insight Mark, keep up the good work👌🌈
Yessss!!!!! Andrew thank you SO MUCH for this comment. It means a lot to me and really helps out the channel. Every time a video gets a comment it boosts the algorithm and shows UA-cam that the content is high quality so THANK YOU! Much much appreciated my brother from the same mother. Sending loads of love :-)
I know for a fact that I can't be just one or the other. But it took me a long time to internally accept it. I had people noticing it before I could even realise. For example work colleagues implying I was having an affair with another woman, who at the time I only thought of as a friend. She is lesbian and I felt shivers down my spine when she was say rubbing her fingers around my hair, I felt like kissing her in many different occasions, but internally I couldn't describe it as sexual tension. It only occurred to me after we had a horrible "break up" that it was indeed more than a friendship, at least on my side. In the meantime, I had started dating a non binary/crossdresser man. So at that point I had to ask myself a few questions...now I couldn't care less about the gender of the people I fancy.
Thank you so very much Martina for sharing your experiences. This is what I live for - when we can express the unique feelings, thoughts and experiences that we have and just have them validated. So many people will read these comments are feel less alone, less weird, less confused. Thank you.
I'm hearing that you experienced feelings of intimacy and desire for this female friend but I think society likes to categorise things doesn't it - oh so it's a female therefore it's a friend / oh it's two guys therefore it can't be love or affection....
We all feel such diverse feelings with each other and they are all beautiful and valid. Gender is such a massive made up thing I just can't believe people still talk like "oh straight men are always repulsed by other mens' bodies..." DUDE, there is a naked man in p*rn....what are you looking at? It's ok.
And when people are like "oh girls kissing are just fooling around with their friends" no, they're experiencing a lovely, arousing, intimate affection with another human being. UGH!
Ok rant over. I love your comments, please keep them coming.
In my experience, it's frustrating because society is obsessed with pigeon holeing everyone. On one hand, it's pretty dope that I get the best of both worlds so to speak and am genuinely attracted to both women as well as men. But people always give me the look like "you need to pick one and stick with it, bisexuality isnt real you cant like both 😑🤨" but i cant help who im attracted to soo... shrug
Thanks for your work in this video! I am no bisexual myself, but the amount of hate that bi people have to deal within the LGBT+ community is ridiculous! I love the fact that you can see the beauty in people even though there are a lot of nasty humans out there! Reaching out with lots of love from Australia! xx
Oh wow thank you this has made my day
as a gay guy we just dont want this people no offense its a fact
@@thisbtchisraginghomosexual1655 Sorry can you explain what you mean, I didn't quite get this comment. Thanks so much.
Bisexuals Are not L or G to The exclusive extent ... :O Bisexuals Are capable of regular heterosex and function as disease vectors mainly ...
This is a new channel. Please subscribe if you can so we can reach as many people who need this info as possible. Thank you so much for your support. x
Thank you for this ..subscribed your channel ..loads of love from India
@@shivanshshukla5524 Hey thanks so much. I'm so thrilled to have you join us. Sending much love to you in India from here!!
Great video.
I consider myself to be bisexual even though I sometimes question it. I used to be straight but I turned bisexual which often worries me, although I am beginning to accept it.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I wish more people could be open about these things. What you've experienced is so unbelievably natural. So there's no need to worry :)
Questioning is a huge part of being bisexual. I actually define sometimes as "Questioning". The questioning never ends! haha. But we can learn to just enjoy it.
I'm so glad you are beginning to accept it. Stay tuned to the channel as I have loads more videos coming out which I hope will be helpful to you.
Thanks again for commenting. I'm so grateful.
I thought you all claimed to be "born this way"!?
@@MrsLegitParttwo Some people do assert that yes but it’s slightly more complicated than that. Sexuality is a complex mixture of genetic, developmental, environmental and psychological factors. Like the natural, native language and accent you speak with, or being left/right handed. They are both innate and learned but very different from a simple lifestyle choice. And it’s different for each person. Not one uniform experience. Does that make sense? Hopefully that makes it clear. It’s a bit complicated and we don’t yet fully understand it, just like many aspects of our physiology and psychology.
This was a really inspirational there have been times where I've said that i have been attracted to just women and not men and didn't realize that i was a bisexual male its crazy saying that to. But thank you❤️ You Da Man!
Ah thanks so much
Well done! I wish I had seen this 30 years ago.
Hey thank you so much. Your words mean a lot. Everything I make on my channel is what I wish I had available when I was younger. So I really get what you mean when you say you wish you’d seen it years ago. Say tuned to our channel as I’ve got so much more content similar coming out and I’m thrilled to have a fab community around me. Tell me more about you. You’re so welcome and I’m sending all my best x
I’ve read that most women say they will not date a guy who’s bisexual
So I feel like I need to lie but it backs me into a corner
I either need to identify as straight and only pursue women, or only pursue guys
Society isn’t as accepting as we like to think it is
Not in my world anyway
I hear you. It's really tough. All I can say is that I was so surprised when I came out early on to my female partner. She blew me away with her acceptance.
Found your channel, its interesting hearing your views, you are very open-minded and eloquent
Ah thanks this made my day
@@notdefining Glad it pleases you, follow you on twitter too, im happy you are happy,
Love your channel, and so happy I stumbled across it!
Hey oh my gosh thank you so much, this means a lot to me. I'd be so thrilled to hear what you think of my videos as they come out. I'm releasing one a week so subscribe and stay tuned. Let me know about you and welcome to the notdefining community. Much love, Mark :)
My struggles of being a bisexual man is that apparently, I'm too gay for straight women and I'm too straight for gay men (all based on stereotypes lol)
Hey thanks for sharing your experiences. I'm hearing that you've had to struggle with this. You don't deserve that. Are these your thoughts or have people told this to you?
Exactly the problem.We don't fit anywhere.
Overtime women can sense you are different and gay men pick up on this as well often mistaking bi people for exclusive gays. There is a need to come out but without a long relationship with a man what is the point? I really identify with the expressive hand gestures in the video!
@@Marvin-dg8vj Hey thanks so much. Hand gestures are apparently part of bi culture! I saw that somewhere lol. The point for me of coming out is to show that we exist, so that then the millions of young people in the world growing up who also feel this way don't hate themselves.
I feel exactly the same, I'm a very feminine man, I love wearing make up and a lot of things considered girly. Yet I find women atractive and I don't know if there's something wrong with me. I only find men atractive if they're also feminine.
Recently found your channel and really enjoy your videos!
Hey thank you so much for taking the time to say. I'm so pleased you're enjoying them. Tell me about you. What are you most interested in. Sending all my best to you x
Good video I never considered that when people see you with a man they think your gay but if your with a woman they think your straight. I think it awesome that you want people to know your sexuality! I grew up in very different times and spent a huge part of my life afraid people would suspect I was gay so I’m so glad that young people don’t have to feel that way. Bisexual men in particular have a hard time because western society push men into boxes that they must conform to. Often bi men won’t share there thought with there GF because women tend to have a very bad reaction to it. On the other side as you said most gay men just believe that your gay and are just as Prejudice towards bi men as straight people are. I do don’t agree with everything you say d but I’m glad you are out there showing people who you are and the challenges you face.
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. I'm so glad you got something positive from the video. I also spent a huge part of my life being afraid people would think I was gay. I still struggle a lot. But speaking truth breaks fear so I'm delighted to have people listen and relate. And don't worry, you don't have to agree with anything! It's just my personal experience so everyone is different. Sending loads of love to you and thanks again. If you can ever share my content with someone you think would benefit I'd always be so grateful. Otherwise I'm just happy you're here. All the best, Mark x
Just keep being you I can tell you are a passionate man that really cares about helping others. Very few people are willing to break through all the stigma and talk about this. I do nY regret anything about my life I have 5 beautiful kids and 3 grandsons and nothing would ever make me regret the choices I’ve made all that said you are much braver than me!! Your willing to put yourself out there to help other people regardless or the backlash and that is a very brave and special thing. Always stay positive and never let anyone bring you down. Always be willing to forgive, be slow to anger, and even when someone is attacking you with hate respond with love and kindness not easy to do but that modo has served me well in life.
@@johnboltz2768 Hey thanks for your beautiful words. I can see that you are contented and regretless in life because you are able to take that self love and project it onto me. I feel it. Thank you. I will follow your advice :)
@@notdefining my attitude comes from my upbringing small town Iowa boy. I was able to hold onto the good things about that upbringing and discard the bad. lots of gray in the world no one is all bad or good. There is a word I wish more people understood and that is grace. We all need to give more of it to each other. Concepts about male sexuality are complex and very few people are even willing to discus it. Female sexuality has been studied to death but very few people are even willing to take male sexuality. Most men have no clue about their own bodies and most men spend their life confused about what they really feel. We have a society that perpetuates that because most people women and men are intimidated by male sexuality and men spend there lives in a little box never understanding their own feelings and desires. very few break out of that box like you have to gain a better understanding of how you really feel and try to understand why you feel the way. you do. you are a very strong person to break out of that to discover the truth. Take pride in the fact you are willing to break out of that to discover the truth not only about yourself, but for other men as well.
@@johnboltz2768 Hey thank you so much for sharing this. I couldn't agree more. There is such a lack of understanding about the grey areas of male/masculine sex, gender and expression. Your words mean a lot. I'm trying my best. I suffered with it for so long and am now just coming into feeling ok. It's a dream to be able to share it.
I gotta say that you channel is amazing. I met you on twitter a few weeks ago.
In my personal experience, relationships have always been difficult because my ex-partners didn't quite feel confortable with my identity. But what can I say, it was even for me hard to accept me a few years back. It seems to me that bisexuality is harder to understand because of the wide spectrum of its presentation and expression as you have said. On the other hand, it gets quite common to come out form the bisexual closet every time I get asked if I have a partner:
-Hey, do you have a girlfriend?
-No, I have a boyfriend.
-Oh dude, I didn't know you were gay.
-No I'm not gay, I'm bisexual.
-Oh, I see.
Anyway, I'm looking forward for the next videos !
Hey thank you so much for your kind words, they mean so much to me really. Man, it sounds like you've had such a difficult time personally and I'm so with you. You don't deserve to have to explain yourself like this and feel nervous about partners not accepting you. I'm totally here any time if you want to chat or just rant about stuff! We bi people need space sometimes to let off steam right?! You're such a massively welcome and honoured part of our community here now so I'm super grateful you have shared your experience. I know loads of our followers are going to relate. How do you personally feel when people mislabel you as gay? What feelings go on for you in that moment?
I just recently discovered that I am bi but never dated guys before and most women don't seem interested in a relationship.
Hey thanks for sharing this. Being bi is so good. Welcome brother! Do you mean that most women don't seem interested in a relationship at all or that most women don't seem interested in dating a bi man? Just for clarification so I can understand. Would you like to date a guy? We can chat things through, @notdefining is here for you.
@@notdefining It seems to me that most woman don't see me as long term relationship material or not husband material. Then on the other hand some woman say I give off the vibe I have a GF or married. I still feel like I don't exist to woman . I never went on a date with a dude but I fear that I will not connect like a romantic one. I know there thing I can do better and work towards and I am not looking for perfect. Another issue is I like guy that are straight acting or masculine enough if I wanted a flamboyant dude I rather date a woman that just me. Anks for listening to my rant 👍😎
Excellent presentation! I have always been attracted to women and dated women. However, I have accepted, I am also attracted
to men, but only sexually. I began to focus on my bisexuality about 12 years ago. I have zero interest in a boyfriend, or anything romantic with men. I talk with bi and gay men online. Quite a few men, want to "date" me, but that is not what interests me. During my career, men "hit on me" on a consistent basis. I found that I feel comfortable being with gay or bisexual men, in a group setting.
Hey thanks for sharing. Actually most bi people are on the more hetero leaning side, with just a small or partial interest in the same sex. So you're totally normal and natural. That's great that you're accepting and acknowledging it.
Totally natural as well just to have more of a physical interest but not desire for relationship. I have that too. That's so valid and great.
I totally relate as well with feeling discomfort in male Queer spaces. A lot of the time men in these situations can be quite forward and if you have boundaries or only partial interest then it can be rough.
How do you handle it in those situations? I hope you remember that you belong there and deserve to have your boundaries respected.
Thanks again for sharing. Stay tuned to the channel by subscribing and hitting the bell as I have another bi guy video coming out very soon.
Much love, Mark x
I loved the video, my first on the channel, I already have an eye on another one.
However, I have to say I've seen the Venn diagram you show at 2:40 before and I'm not a huge fan. It seems to imply that bi requires a preference, and that it is mutually exclusive with liking all genders, which isn't the case, as you said.
Oh and is there a reason why you have your flag with blue on top?
Hey thank you so much for tuning in and for checking out my content. I really appreciate it and value your comments. Let me know what you think of my other videos and subscribe for more if you haven't already.
First of all thank you for pointing out that I put my flag upside down! Haha I actually didn't mean it and didn't realise so thanks.
The ven diagram isn't perfect for sure. All these labels are so similar and mean something slightly different to each person so yes I completely take your point. For me, once you get down to these micro-labels really it's just whatever feels a right fit for you. I kind of identify with them all.
How do you identify? It seems you have a great knowledge so I'd be delighted to hear your thoughts and experiences. Thanks again, welcome to the community and all the best, Mark x
I really liked this video. I am also a Bi man, and i came out around 1 year ago. Since then i have come a long way, to accepting and understanding my sexuality. Now i take alot of pride in wearing the bi-flag around, and it makes me feel very happy that ive learned to accept myself for who i am🏳️🌈🥳💙💜💗
Hey thanks for your kind words. I'm so glad you enjoyed the content. If you can share it with anyone else I'd be so thrilled. Otherwise I'm so glad you're here. I'm so proud to hear of your acceptance and self love. You are part of our community here and I'm so glad to connect with you. Sending much love.
Well I just got a crush with this guy 😭😭😭
Im a bi guy that has recently came out it has shown me who mu true friends are and I feel so much more myself now im open about it and this video has really helped me be more ok with people's different views on my sexuality and a agree with everything you said thank you for this 😊
Hey thanks for sharing. I'm so glad you are feeling more yourself and open. Proud of you.
Being an introverted single male, bisexual and an overthinker, then having to hear that my type have the highest rates of mental health issues and suicidal tendencies...
What are the odds really
You are now an introverted male, bisexual and an overthinker with another introverted male, bisexual and overthinker as a friend. We are family. You are brilliant just the way you are and I love you. Don't ever struggle alone. You are my brother now, OK?
@@notdefining cool hehe
am a bi but I always tell people am a gay because I can't explain my self is so hard to be bi .. because I have be with my boyfriend for 15 years but am still bi .... because I still look at woman .......but in Africa I come from ...people can never call you bi ...once you love a man like you ...that means you are a gay nobody is a bi in Africa lol
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I hear what you're saying completely. It's kind of similar here as well actually. People assume your sexuality based on the gender of your partner. But I can totally understand that it's even more so in many African countries. Congratulations for being together for 15 years though, that's beautiful. You are so valid and welcomed here as your whole bi self. Sending much love.
Wonderful video!
Hey thank you so much. I appreciate your lovely comment. Every time someone comments and subscribes we get to share the information with more people who need it. So thanks for supporting.
I’d love to know more about you and welcome you to our community. Much love and have a great day, Mark x
@@notdefining Hey! I am a writer as a matter of fact, currently working on a novel about a young bisexual man who struggles with his sexuality and the pressures of being manly in society. Bisexuality doesn't find much representation, as you said, nor it is often successfully depicted or explained. Very inspiring videos! keep up with the good work. :)
@@NadiWLJ hey wow that sounds so fantastic. Story of my life! Haha. I’d love to know more about this. I actually know another author who is writing a fiction novel where the main character is bi and the author has interviewed me so he can model the character! So honoured. I can connect you two if you’re interested.
Which country are you in? I’m writing a book at the moment (one guide to sexuality and one auto biography) but I’m not very knowledgeable about how write or get things published. I’m thrilled to know that there are people representing our community in literature and would be so pleased to help promote the book if you like.
Let me know how I can support and I’d love to know more.
All the very best and thanks for the fab work you’re doing x
@@notdefining i'm from the UK :D
Thanks so much for the video, you represent really well! I've been bi all my life, before internet and I would say yes, I am complex and it is confusing. But it has led me through some great relationships that I still maintain to this day.
I want to suggest having a nicer background, maybe some books, flowers, I find the plain wall a little too plain. But there you are, I am sensitive to aesthetics, what can I say?
Love you you and thanks.🏵🥀🌹
Hey thanks so much for sharing your experience. I love to connect with other bi people. I can't believe...bi people existed BEFORE THE INTERNET!!! haha. That's great.
Do you know, I'm really grateful for the feedback. I'm actually in the process of improving my videos and investing in a proper camera, lighting and background. I'm going to try some options out so I'd be really pleased if you'd stay tuned to the channel and continue to let me know what you think.
Thanks so much once again and much love to you my friend x
Hi, thank you for this video! I have a friend who recently came out as bi, (we both identify as male) and we started fooling around on weekends. I kinda want more than friends with benefits but he has said that he has not really wanted to date a man. (I wonder if its because he has grown up in a strictly white heteronormative world and is a little scared to think that way, especially since he is not out to his parents) Idk, how can I make him feel most comfortable, or do I just have to wait
Hey great question. I would suggest the following:
1. If he doesn't want to date at the moment, then he doesn't want to. Whatever the reasons, they don't matter that much. There could be many reasons. The best thing is to respect where he is at.
2. Speak to him, not trying to convince him to date you but allow him the space to speak openly. Be that person he maybe never had to talk to. Ask him about dating, romance, sex, intimacy etc. Don't lead him but give him a really nice space to talk.
This way you will get to know where he's at more and also provide space for him to really get to what he is feeling.
Finally, listening and seeing someone for who they are is the best way to get someone to fall in love with you! haha
Thank you so much! Very helpful information!!😄
@@johnboccuzziiii5010 You're so welcome.
@notdefining where can I get that shirt? Is it in black?
Yes you can get it on the internet. I can’t remember the brand but just Google bi pride t shirt and you should find it.
You're extremely handsome. I would've dated you if you were straight. My friends jokingly say i have a type but I never thought that much of it until I looked back at old pics of my exes. I guess I do have a type afterall lol
unfortunately I don't think I could date a bi guy. This is why we should respect everyone's sexuality. No one should feel pressured or ashamed for preference.
I know you are commenting with love and I appreciate your kind words but this is biphobia. I am conscious you are coming from a place of respect so I'd be happy to explain why. When we say we wouldn't date a bisexual guy, we are presupposing that bisexual men are a certain way. You are imposing some kind of trait upon them which almost certainly comes from ignorance. As LGBTQ+ people are also a marginalised community, you are directly contributing to the exclusion and discrimination of bi+ people from society. Don't date a guy because he's unkind, or disrespectful, or not a great match, not because of his orientation. Because that has absolutely nothing to do with anything. Does that make sense? You have just literally said that you think I'm extremely handsome etc. You literally are attracted to a bi guy - but you wouldn't date me because of my Queer identity? That's queerphobia there black and white. I know you don't mean it that way but I wanted to explain it as I think you are someone who would want to learn and be an Ally. Also, you're missing out because we're amazing! Sending so much love, Mark x
Just finished watching your videos because I really want to know more about being a bi guy on a relationship also do my own research to understand what it feels like and to also widen my knowledge about him. Bc recently, my beloved boyfriend come out to me and afraid of so many things that we should end things bc he's afraid of what would others say bc I am a straight gal and he's a bi guy which attracted to gays not straight man (he said). I gave him assurance that we will work things out and I really don't care what will others say. I really love him and coming out doesn't change a thing. He also said that he still loves me but afraid of what future might comes bc he can't control his emotions and feelings towards others. I'm getting ready and prepared for what would be the result and I just want to support him all the way round to the best I can bc I love my bf so much.
Hey thank you so much for sharing what you're going through. It is beautiful to hear your words of love and allyship to your boyfriend. As it happens I am releasing tomorrow a video PRECISELY for people whose partners have come out as bi. Check it out and see what you think. I'd be happy to chat more and support you in any way I can. You're not alone in this. We're here for partners as well because it can be a lot to take in. Thanks for seeking out information and sending much love to you and your boyfriend. Mark x
Because bi is fun because you can if you so choose can change shit up.
Yes absolutely. It's wonderful. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it. I'm interested to meet a bi druid. Can you tell me about that? I'm very interested and connected with my pagan roots.
Great video 👍.... I always get approach by straight men and they end up saying they are now going to be bisexual 🤭🤭 . Most of the women says I m cute and men says I am hot and sexy but I always get attracted to straight and bisexual men .🤭🤭😋
Hey thank you so much for sharing your experience. Every time we speak about our lives it makes things easier for someone else and there will be someone who can relate. So thank you for contributing to what makes this channel what it is.
I was interested in what you said about women saying you're cute and men saying you're sexy. Is there a difference there, do you feel? Do you get a different treatment from women to men?
Also I'm intrigued to know what it is about bi and straight men that attracts you over gay men. Any ideas or is it just one of those things?
I love to discuss these things because so often we don't get the chance. It sounds like you are appreciated by lots of different genders so that's great!! You are definitely loved and appreciated here, however you define yourself.
Don't forget to subscribe if you haven't already and please let us know what you think of my other videos. I feel you have some really interesting perspectives so I'd be thrilled to have you as part of our community here.
All the very best and thanks again for your comment. It really helps us connect when we share. X
It's funny how I never been in relationship with a man or a women. I remember I kissed a girl in elementary school, than I kiss boy in elementary school
That’s great. Love that.
Where do you live? I am not bi but this will help me understand other bi friends.
I'm British
Once I read a comment somewhere on Tumblr that bi guys like girls in the gay way and like, true.
Bi possible here, so I've been super curious about the (SORRY) sexual part of being bi but I really have no interest in romantic interactions with men. (I'm a male). With women however, I am physically, emotionally and romantically interested
Then YOU'RE Straight 😂 quit wasting people's time with this shit I swear this is why I would never date a bi man y'all be the same shaddy drug dealer down the ally ripping people off for profit
Why sorry? This is perfectly natural and extremely common. You’re totally normal and valid.
@@notdefining thanks. What a coincidence I get this reply as soon as I realized I have a small crush on a guy
Love this
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Being bi do you , yourself think you could ,or would have a relationship with one person in a committed relationship with that one person?
Yes. I have.
Bisexual here but I am attracted to transmen and men themselves.
Me too!
We all bisexual we just choose the straight side more if you agree
Great Video
Hey thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Will you tell us more about you? I'd love to know how you relate with the content. And stay tuned as I have videos on similar topics every week.
@@notdefining I'm bisexual myself but I am more leaning towards men, I'm still adjusting to the notion of accepting myself fully because of my not so accepting environment. Because of this video I realize just doing what makes me happy.
@@rexgeorgerodriguez7620 Hey thanks so much for telling us a bit about you. I'm hearing that your environment has been tough and I want you to know that you're so fully accepted, celebrated and appreciated here. You're absolutely right, being your true authentic self is the strongest, most fulfilling version of yourself you can be. Don't ever let anyone try to dim your shine. You're amazing. Sending loads of love to you my friend and let me know if you ever want to chat anything through. We're all here for you! All the very best, Mark x
The makers of the movie Firebird want to have the original memoirs of Sergey in Russian and translate it into English for everyone to read. Love conquers all. ❤️
I never had big troubles with my sexuality, I always recognized myself as a gay guy but maybe I could be a bi 95% for guys and 5% to girls, never tried girls.
But I have a funny memory
My firts time opening my sexuality to a friend in 2017 and I was 19 , at that time I knew I was gay but I remember that I said to him that I was bi
I tough " oh if I say that I'm bi I'll be half straight and will be less worse than being completely gay " ahahahahaa 😅
Hey thanks for sharing your experiences. It's very common for people to go with bi first in order to "soften it". Some in the bi community get understandably frustrated with this because it creates the perception that all bi people are on a stepping stone towards being gay. But I personally don't mind. Whatever you have to do to be safe and express yourself is fine with me. It's homophobic society we have to blame, not poor scared gay people who just want to try and come out without being rejected. And also, if you like girls 5% that is completely acceptable bi identity so you weren't technically lying after all!
@Be REAL You're right, humans are humans. They are not to be treated like objects in any sense regardless of sexuality or gender. Objectifying people is wrong.
This is not the meaning of what is being discussed here. Not at all.
Honestly i hide into mariage with the hope of reedeming myself,unfortunately my wife passed on and she was the one who knew everything from the very onset,i became interested in a different type of men especial in social gatherings.at times i feel i can be kissed and receive that hug from a men but scared to act first.
Hey thanks so much for sharing this. I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. We're so here for you. You belong in this community and I'd be pleased to hear more about what's been going on for you. Sending so much love, Mark x
I've never been aroused by men but when I'm around intellectual men I find it stimulating in a way I often don't find with women. Not that women aren't intellectual, but more often than not, in my personal life, I don't seem to find women as mentally stimulating. It does happen on my occasion when I meet a very bright woman, but my dilemma is a bit odd, I'd be willing the bet, and that I could probably be into men if I tried. I don't normally desire men, but I've often been curious, especially because I know bisexuality is an option and I'm very open minded. I do believe in ways we are one in the same, and in fact, developmentally, we are all female at some point in the womb. So it's not crazy to think sexuality is in fact a broad spectrum.
Hey thank you so much for sharing this. It’s really a privilege to hear your unique experience. And totally valid to feel this kind of intellectual stimulation around a certain gender. My wife literally said the thing that attracted her to me most when we first met was my intelligence. I also find smart women irresistible. It’s very natural, we look for those who have traits which are beneficial to survival. Intelligence is an extremely attractive trait. It says “hey I’m strong, I have something useful, I’m interesting, I’m worth getting to know”. It doesn’t need to be sexual but as you say, sex is a spectrum and it’s just an intense form of connection. It’s so nice to hear you’re accepting and being inquisitive about your feelings. Sometimes people get afraid when they feel these things but it’s lovely to hear you be chilled and open to it. Do you think you might see where it goes? Sending much love.
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Hey thanks so much for the appreciation. You know I tried to find it but I got it a long time ago and couldn't find the exact place I got it from. You can find it online if you search bisexual t shirts, I'm sure you will find it online somewhere. My other Tshirt (the black one in the videos and logo) is from www.driptee.co.uk/ they are a great company. If I find the other one I will send the link. Sorry I couldn't help more.
I am bisexual 🏳️🌈
Hey
Is there any chance of asking a few questions by PM or email?
Thanks.
Hey sure. I do private messages through Patreon.com/notdefining. You can sign up for just one month or stay longer. Otherwise I will always try to answer on here. Much love.
Like, I've been questioning myself for about a decade now, I know exactly who I am
Love this. Me too. Thank you for saying.
Great video im bisexual and when it comes to guys i like studs and who have nice bodies
Hey thanks so much for your kind words. Guys with nice bodies are definitely worth being bisexual for! ahah! me too :)
I would love someday to be in a all guy stud porno
Can a biguy eventually end up with a woman for the rest of his life and be monogamous??
Yes absolutely. Your sexuality has nothing to do with your ability to be monogamous.
IDK every guy I tried to date been super clingy.
Who has been too clingy my friend?
@@notdefining Well I new to this dating guy stuff . However every guy I been out with been super clingy like telling me they love on a first date and I don't operate that way . If I vibe with you I am like hey I had fun and would like to spend more time together. I guess I don't fall for people fast like that . Oh well I keep getting out their.
I 'm A Female Coming Out As Boyish Girl Or
Boy Girly I Never Try
Date Or Attract A Girl Or Boy 😎
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Ah thank you. I appreciate it.
@@notdefining You're Welcome 😁🤗 My Idol 🤗❤️ I Love Your Video
Ah thanks. Sending love.
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As a feminine man, someone who's attracted to both sexes I want to have sex with a masculine man but im afraid he will do something to me. Any recs will be appreciated
if any there's any platform feel free to invite me iam depressed and suffocating .
Hey, we've got you don't worry. I'm hearing that you're suffering a great deal. I'm glad you're here and you're so welcome.
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Came out as bi; bye bye sex life
Oh gosh I’m sorry to hear this.
There are also people who can be with someone they love no matter what they have with their bodies, meaning people with multiple or no gender. Love is love and bodies are bodies. All forms of gender or the lack thereof are beautiful.
This is beautiful. Thank you.
I'm considering coming out to my parents an sister I've been forced to come to terms with my bi-sexuality recently when I shared a kiss with a trans women who was born male. I believe everyone deserves love an respect, an I've found myself attracted to beauty regardless of gender or orientation, so I guess on a technical level that's more pan. I see myself as a male even tho I'm more into beauty, nature, arts collaboration an emotions I e. the typical feminine attributes an am not so into cars sports or competitiveness or sternness i.e. typical male attributes. An even tho I recognize everyone's right to orient themselves as the feel appropriate.
Guess this is a two part question 1st, how did you go about revealing this to your family an/or friends?
An 2 even tho I acknowledge that other see more then two genders an accept there views as valid, is it ok that hold myself to the standard of only two?(this is why I consider myself bi instead of pan)
I paused the video before u got to the part where u said u consider yourself cis male two an that u accept people are people however they are. Pretty much answering my 2nd question an also validating how I feel tysm for that 💜👏☺️
@@GodlyJib Hey thank you so much for sharing your story. It will inspire others who read it.
Be sure to stay tuned to my channel as I'm releasing the story of how I came out in detail. Parts 1 and 2 are out. More to come.
Also my story is in my Instagram highlights if you have instagram.
Basically it was a long road but I...
1. Found other LGBT people and Bi people to talk to. This gave me strength.
2. Spoke to very close people. I said "have you ever thought about the same gender?" Many of them actually said, "sure, have you" and I just nodded and said "sometimes". I didn't put a label on it.
3. Then I did a FB post and just said this is me etc.
4. I had chats with family and friends as I went along if they wanted to ask following the FB post. I stopped talking to family or friends who were questioning it or critical. I just had the policy of "take it or leave it". It's not your job to convince them. Just be.
5. Then I created a whole social media platform but you don't need to do that haha.
The answer to question number 2 is yes that's absolutely fine. You're allowed to define as you feel comfortable to you. As long as you respect others as you say.
Sending love to you, Mark x
to me being a bi guy is horrible,women dont like bi guys,gay men dont like bi guys,biphobia in the community,the lack of bi men rep in media and the homophobia.i dislike being a bi man
I totally hear you. I would never have chosen it willingly. It’s hard.
Some women and guys are accepting of it. Don’t give up hope just yet.
@@AutomaticDuck300 Love this
@@AutomaticDuck300 too late tbh
U have amazing personity beautiful super taking luv ur everything 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Hey thank you so much for this lovely comment. I'm so thrilled you enjoyed the content. Please make sure to subscribe as I have loads more coming out each week. Tell us more about you, I'd love to know how you relate with the video. All the very best and much love, Mark x
@@notdefining thxs a lot my dear I have subscribe u already i dnt knw wht i luv in u bt i thk ur everything i will wait 4 ur contact ur rite bi. People is a lot in ths world God bless keep it up 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
@@asfandyarkhan1214 Hey thank you so much, I appreciate you. Wishing you a great day and thanks for the support. Mark x
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Mark dear r u married ??????
Women: we don't want to date bisexual men
Lesbians: we dont want to date bisexual women
Women and lesbians: why do bisexual women and bisexual men date men.
Me: i dunno maybe their more open to date us🤦🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
Omg lol
New Episodes Feminine Individuals
Transgender Women
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Gender Nonconforming Men
And
New Episodes Masculine Individuals
Transgender Men
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Gender Nonconforming Women
I will make these
As a bisexual man most men Keep it a secret that only a few people know.
Sadly yes it’s true
1:40 I'm similar. I believe I'm asexual, but I may get occasional urges here and there. Probably just a craving of intimacy.