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Bi man in a straight relationship, enjoying straight privilege, living a straight life without any queer struggles then having fun in gay spaces like you own it.

Bi man in a straight relationship, enjoying straight privilege, living a straight life without any queer struggles then having fun in gay spaces like you own it.

13:27 the main problem with your argument is that you’re begging the question. you’re taking for granted that there is a meaningful, scientifically objective and rational distinction that should be legalized recognized between “trans” women and “cis” women. That needs to be demonstrated and hasn’t been. The alternative view is that there are only men and women, not “cis” and “trans”. That what gets called a “trans woman” is just a man (perhaps one who sincerely believes to be a woman or sincerely desires to be one). But beliefs and desires do not alter one’s biology. Law must respect objective reality; you don’t get special rights and privileges based on what you think your sex to be or hope it to be or want others to perceive you as being. Analogously, you can’t just claim to be disabled and get the rights of a disabled person. So the argument that trans women don’t belong in women’s spaces is because they believe trans women are not women. That’s what you’re up against. You aren’t engaging with the core problem, but preaching to the choir. What is a woman? It’s either an adult human female (an objective, biologically grounded definition), or …what else is there? I haven’t heard an alternative definition that meets the minimal demand of being coherent (not contradicting itself and not leading to infinite regress). If you think there should be no women’s spaces (and no women’s sports), fine, make the argument. But that’s distinct.

Thank you. This was really helpful. I needed the reminder of not seeing just the gender and focusing more on other aspects.

I would like to say that I'm completely gay but I can't because I haven't had ample experience with a woman yet. Maybe I'll like women who knows.

I love it!!

It would be nice to know in advance that in order to DM and see who likes you I have to sign up for a subscription which is 35 a month and for three months or a year it is even more, but of course you’re paid to mention that app so of course it would be omitted. Dating apps are just becoming disappointing now because to even DM people there is a paywall. They’re just here now for the desperate.

Wow how wonderful. So happy for you and your wife, you two sound amazing for each other. Congrats on beating cancer too! Absolute legend.

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I identify as demisexual, because I don't have physical attraction to basically nobody, except for the people, I have built up a relationship with. However, I can build up those bonds and feel attraction to basically all genders and sexes and in that case, the character is more important than their gender. I see and recognise their sex/gender but it's not the main thing.

Personally, this didn't completely clear my mind, but instead of just straight, I'm now gonna tell some people that I'm straight and open to trying new things. If I date a boy, or frick a boy, and like it, then I'm bi. I don't really think I could define myself as not straight before experiencing a non-straight relationship.

As a Bi guy, I agree, it is often easier to date or get together with men. With women, it can be a long drawn out combination of chats, text messages, and finally meeting in person. I don't spend time in bars or nightclubs to meet women. With guys, I find it much easier, and quicker to get together. During my airline career, many guys hit on me, or wanted to date me. What I like about men is, that male bonding that takes place when I service him, and provide him with pleasure. I also enjoy watching gay porn. But I am only attracted to guys who are slender, thin, or athletic body. I also have no interest in a relationship with men, only sexually. However, I have had relationships with women. Now, I am single and enjoying being single.

You say bisexual then mainly only reference dating bi women

When you fall in love you fall in love and that’s who you’ll want to be with . Forget labels

For me, experiencing romantic attraction towards someone means being able to have fun with them whilst also feeling completely safe with them. So, using this definition, of course someone can experience romantic attraction towards any gender.

I have started questioning my sexuality more so now because I am finding myself less attracted to men due to all the bad experiences/heartbreakingly hurtful outcomes from previous relationships... alongside absolutely stale and horrible responses/lack of responses from men over dating apps/speed dating events etc. The idea of being with a woman (who are usually more emotionally expressive and directly commutative with said emotions.) seems to be a more appealing route at this stage. I am single.. I am almost 30... and I am bloody lonely! Is it possible for someone who is ''straight.'' who is experiencing dating burn out/no luck no matter what they seem to do... to become bi curious and then proceed to give dating the same gender a go in hopes that something more genuine sticks finally?? ; x ;

I hate it when people say you are confused or it's awful

I need someone who would clear me my thoughts I just want a person who can tell me what actually is going on with me I can't understand at all I'm really confused and scared too much and depressed

this happens to me

The little kiss at the end ❤️

Please speak up! If I can't even hear it well with earbuds, I skip it. And I really want to hear what you have to say, as always! 😊

Personally, I think people are too occupied with labels for sexuality. Unless you are pursuing a relationship with anyone, why should you have to tell people about your sexual preferences. It is private and nobody's business. Unless we stop classifying people by color, gender or sexuality, there will be no peace. ☮️

All Bisexuals should date and or be in a relationship with another Bisexual person. This will make your life easier. My boyfriend and I are both Bisexuals, more towards to men than women. We understand each other unlike the gays or straight people.

thanks , just needed that right now

I'm just beginning the journey of self acceptance. . . Thank you, hearing 'it's not your fault" really helped me. It's awful that internalised homophobia is so endemic. I've spent years with anxiety, too scared to try much of anything at all, and now I know why.

Love this "What am I feeling now?" before/instead of labelling! Thank you Mark.

Very interesting. I am in Australia.

I'm so glad you're a survivor and able to share your stories. I wouldn't have known this is what I've been experiencing and knowing the name, SO OCD, really puts me at ease. Less questioning about my sexuality and more recognizing my possibly undiagnosed OCD. Definitely would make the last few years far less painful. Thanks for the help. I do see some Reddit posts and stuff with similar experiences and thoughts, I do wonder if mentioning SO OCD to them might get them the help they need.

Thanks!

I’m 29, married with a four year old son. I’ve finally just told people I’m bisexual. I have queer family now I can finally say I am too it’s a celebration. Just sad that biphobia is a thing, as well as all other phobias against queer and minority people. I really need an LGBTQ+ channel I can trust without any gatekeepers or bitches. I don’t think there’s that many or maybe I’ve found the wrong channels. I think this is. I don’t quite feel I belong yet like I haven’t earned it, I hope to change that. Ready to learn sensai (probably been watching too much Cobra Kai).

As a bisexual man, if a person ever ask me "are you sure you are bi?", I would love asking back "are you sure you are straight?" and see their reaction xD

Never had a single second of attraction to the opposite sex, no spectrum here 😳

You're only 'bisexual' if your intent is to date or go out and be with members of BOTH sexes in the future. Otherwise, you are ether "straight" or "gay", even if in the past you might have Had Been bisexual at one point. that it, the rules are pretty clear on that

could you also post your studies in the coment section, please it would show homophobes wrong

I completely agree. "Just treat people as people" and then they say all these other things that doesn't feel like we're people. Its all these conditions. "If they do this its not natural or good for them", "not normal", "its a sin". Its some kind cognitive dissonance. I am expecting the bare minimum of being treated like a person, it just feels like its not. I can be nice and treat people like people, but these people don't, nice on paper but not practical or reality. We are just not there yet. I want to be left alone, but on the other hand, it makes me learn how bad it can truly get, so I want to fight for people in the community. I'm definitely no educator, maybe challenge them a bit to really dig deep on how their thinking actually is. I do like talking about experiences, I share mines all the time. I've been listening to other experiences outside of the gay community. I have plenty of queer friends but I could support them better. I keep hearing all this transphobia everywhere and it makes me want to listen to trans people. We do have some biphobia in the gay community, listening to bi experiences is helping me improve my own communication. We're not a monolith, we're diverse, but I feel like even with the community fighting, we can be strong when it matters. Also yes I love the nail polish. I hope to find more of these "in the trenches" type during the times our rights are being threatened. I can defend myself in normal situations. I don't trust these "allies" enough when it comes to voting to protect our rights. I don't expect people to completely understand us, but I just want our rights to stay/be equal and stop spreading so much queerphobia.

As a bisexual man the lifestyle is hard because of the somewhat double standard.

As a Bisexual guy Two things i hate when say to me is "Do you prefer men or women?" And "Pick a side"

Im bisexual and also believe that only bisexual people should only date each other because the heterosexual community doesn't understand Bisexual people but always want to ridicule not to mentioned have insults.

Is Gender OCD a thing? Because I think that's what I have

Oh...Didn't realize this could be OCD. I know I have a lot of looping thoughts (in general) so I keep a journal and I walk a lot, usually helps with these thoughts.

Demi-bi here! Thanks for the video. I feel more representated now 😊

Thanks for addressing these kind of topics . I've gotten a lot of solace and help from watching many of your videos

Came here for the cool coach, stayed for the supportive vibes

I have to be honest I still don’t understand asexuality and it’s a bit frustrating because I really want to understand. I know it’s annoying for asexuals when ppl think it’s a libido thing but I still don’t understand how is asexuality different from a low libido. I’m just confused. If anybody is willing to explain further I’m all ears 💕

Yes to educational content and anxiety awareness ❤

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This is new to me time to learn about this topic

So I’m taking my notes here: For me being romantic means - being able to fall in love with someone so romantic feelings, wanting to hold hands, wanting that person to be someone important for me, seeing them as an important part of my life, seeing them as my future partner, thinking about our future together, making plans, seeing them as my „comfort place” if that makes sense, wanting to be close on an intellectual level like diving in on the deep topics in conversation, wanting to have an emotional intimacy and support from them. Hope that helps someone!

I'm gay and I am so happy chasing after hot men

OMG this resonates so much. literally everything. this is sooooo liberating to just see someone like you in those most fragile areas. It is most devastating to live without any "rolemodels" whatsoever for the whole life. I kinda feel pride in being a standalone, but sometimes it it just a little bit overwhelming. The only difference for me would be I rather identify as a pansexual, but that is a tiny thing in comparison really.