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Recently discovered your channel and as a bisexual man I have to thank you for sharing this with us. I’ve only watched a few of your videos and very much appreciate the content. I’ve been married to a both a man and a woman ( not at the same time) and they both were monogamous relationships. The most difficult part of being bi for me is the negation of my sexuality by others because so many people believe one must be either gay or straight. Thank you again for your content and how clearly you express and deliver it.
Hey thank you so much for joining us and for your kind words. I’m so glad we can connect. I totally feel what you’re saying. Thank you for sharing a bit about you too. I’m so proud to have you here with us. Sending so much love and welcome 🩷💜💙
Once again, incredibly validating and these exercises are so good for people who are questioning because it breaks that gendered view of sexuality which really is the basis for confusion. Our bodies know what they want. 👏🏼
Hey Mark, I've just come across your channel. Quite interesting, as also the process of being a coach here made me re-question my values some years ago! Throughout my life I had relationships with girls and guys, including marriage. Our society pushes us to be straight or gay, but we should gaslight ourselves, and connect with our hearts and body indeed. There's a sense of inclusion when we understand that we like people whoever and however they are. Also, there's a sense of freedom not having boundaries!
Hey thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I’m so glad we can connect this way and I definitely relate. Sending so much love and best wishes. Thank you for watching. 🩷🩷🩷
So basically practice mindfullness 😌 Have a non judgmental mentality, listen to your body, accept what you are and are thinking (but acknowledge that that is just now), everything changes all the time (impermanence) and so on… Namaste 🧘♂️
That’s not a bad summary 🙂 these concepts are kind of universal so they apply to everything ☀️ there’s nothing innately difficult about figuring out your sexuality 🩷 it’s just like figuring out whether or not you like the colour blue or the colour red 🌈 it’s the meaning and the anxiety we create around it that makes it so challenging for people 🍃 so aligning with yourself, becoming attuned to your body and your authentic feelings is what it’s all about 🌼 that’s all sexual orientation is anyways ☘️ it’s what you like so yeah namaste 🙏🏽
This is the most valuable video I've seen about this. I feel so embraced❤. It feels so right. I'll start applying your tips from now on: 1-Think about the features you like, regardless of gender 2-Listen to your body 3-Choose the label it feels right for you (but remember, sexuality is much more than a label). Let's see what I'll get eventually
Wow! You’re really the best. Everything you said makes perfect sense. I wish you had millions of followers because every person needs to understand these concepts so we can have less problems in the world! 💜💜💜😊
Haha .. why just attractive people? I think it's generally most everyone. You notice when a straight guy is with his bros, there is always gay judgement but alone, always nicer.
yes he did a data analytics about bisexual counts and it was very high, but what im saying is, is that attractive people are most likely to be the most experimental and the most open about it, the data also showed many people go from bi to straight between age of 20-30 @@someoneout-there2165 think it all comes down to cirumstances, even what makes people hateful and bitter tbh
"Are you bi?" More or less, yes. To be precise I opt not to label myself, but most definitely in the bi spectrum. Took me years to embrace it, but this is how I am born to be. I do, however, prefer men better than women over the recent years due to reasons. But I did have genuine romantic and sexual feelings for the opposite gender and that was not a phase. People may simply call this as homoflexible? But I prefer not to label it. It's 'queer' that I'm still confused about. 😅
Thanks for the video really appreciate it , I have been meditating recently and feel relaxed and calm and it felt like my body was wanting a man and other times I love and appreciate the beauty of women , these feelings come and go in waves and I have sent a wish out to the universe for a special male connection who can read my energy and soul ❤
Incredible video as always!! These are so validating and amazing to watch. The way you explain all these different things is just masterful. Thank you so much for everything you do! Also, congrats on over 4K subs and Happy Bi Visibility Week!!!🥳💖💜💙
I told myself if I became a really good boxer, weightlifter, track athlete, and construction worker I'd be 100% straight. I ended up just being a really good fighter with a great physique and allot of building trades skills whose is really fluid. Did I just waste 25 years of my life being mad?
Hey thanks for sharing these experiences. You’re not mad don’t worry. It’s quite understandable to want to invest in certain activities which may connect with the identity or expression that we feel closest to. Taking part in activities themselves wouldn’t make someone straight but it’s all about finding out what things connect most with you. I’d be more than happy to chat this through with you and hopefully help you to find where you’re at. You can book a session with me on www.notdefining.com or email me at marknotdefining@gmail.com. Sending all my very best, Mark ✨
Your videos are very well. Done. I truly believe that 100 percent gay or straight people are not in the majority. I think almost everyone is on the specturm. Please overlook the bad grammar and spelling.
I'm primarily attracted to guys that are rail thin, taller than me and have masculine qualities. By the way, nice nails.. shocked me when I first saw them. 💖
Thank you very much for another very well done video. Personally I like the simple and clear explanations as I'm not an English native speaking person. Keep it up!
Hey thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so pleased you like the content and of course if anything is unclear just let me know. I know how it is to be a non-native speaker so I’m delighted it’s okay for you. There should be subtitles as well on all my videos. Shout if I can do anything else for you. Sending so much love and gratitude. Mark x
This is interesting. I don’t have any academic background with these areas but I always wonder and question about it. I always find gender-neutral attractive, or both masculine and feminine attractive. I was asked by mom and her friends whether I like men or women and I always can’t give them definite answer. I’m female, but I don’t attract to “very masculine” quality. I do find any feminine quality endearing. And only 2 times in my life that I experienced something similar to “crush on” are female with mixed of masculine and feminine quality 😂 Anyways, great video. Thank you!
I think I'm bicurious because my fantasies are always about me giving a man oral sex, I've never done it but it gets me very excited thinking about it.
The desire of attraction is within all souls, however, the soul (a point of light) is genderless, either male or female. The soul simply plays it part according to the body's gender. The first mistake humans made was to identify themselves as male and female, a body, rather than the soul occupying the body. Sometimes a soul will have stronger feelings for the same body type or just with the soul alone, the personality, which is absolutely normal. Souls have been taking birth to male and female bodies since time immemorial. And in some births we are drawn to a certain body preference due to past life experiences.
I find myself to be sexualy and romanticaly attracted to many different things... I am a woman, I like man (mostly androgynous ones) and I also like energetic, dominant, positive, max liberal alternative woman who are physicaly stronger then me and have beautifull feminine features but more of a masculine and dominant energy I am also romanticaly atracted to deep, emotional friendships with woman, and I have a wild variety of erothical and romantical fantasies and dreams about (mostly imaginary) people of both genders. I am still not quite sure about my sexual orientation, but the term that definitely feels the most right to me is biromantic 💖💜💙
Hey there. Thanks so much for reaching out. You can book through my website www.notdefining.com or give me an email on marknotdefining@gmail.com. I’d be so happy to hear from you. Best wishes, Mark
There is no genetic determinant of sexual orientation however there are many complex genetic elements which affect attraction. It’s highly complex. But no, there is no orientation gene.
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Recently discovered your channel and as a bisexual man I have to thank you for sharing this with us. I’ve only watched a few of your videos and very much appreciate the content. I’ve been married to a both a man and a woman ( not at the same time) and they both were monogamous relationships. The most difficult part of being bi for me is the negation of my sexuality by others because so many people believe one must be either gay or straight. Thank you again for your content and how clearly you express and deliver it.
Hey thank you so much for joining us and for your kind words. I’m so glad we can connect. I totally feel what you’re saying. Thank you for sharing a bit about you too. I’m so proud to have you here with us. Sending so much love and welcome 🩷💜💙
Once again, incredibly validating and these exercises are so good for people who are questioning because it breaks that gendered view of sexuality which really is the basis for confusion. Our bodies know what they want. 👏🏼
Hey Mark, I've just come across your channel. Quite interesting, as also the process of being a coach here made me re-question my values some years ago! Throughout my life I had relationships with girls and guys, including marriage.
Our society pushes us to be straight or gay, but we should gaslight ourselves, and connect with our hearts and body indeed.
There's a sense of inclusion when we understand that we like people whoever and however they are. Also, there's a sense of freedom not having boundaries!
Hey thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I’m so glad we can connect this way and I definitely relate. Sending so much love and best wishes. Thank you for watching. 🩷🩷🩷
So basically practice mindfullness 😌
Have a non judgmental mentality, listen to your body, accept what you are and are thinking (but acknowledge that that is just now), everything changes all the time (impermanence) and so on…
Namaste 🧘♂️
That’s not a bad summary 🙂 these concepts are kind of universal so they apply to everything ☀️ there’s nothing innately difficult about figuring out your sexuality 🩷 it’s just like figuring out whether or not you like the colour blue or the colour red 🌈 it’s the meaning and the anxiety we create around it that makes it so challenging for people 🍃 so aligning with yourself, becoming attuned to your body and your authentic feelings is what it’s all about 🌼 that’s all sexual orientation is anyways ☘️ it’s what you like so yeah namaste 🙏🏽
This is the most valuable video I've seen about this. I feel so embraced❤. It feels so right.
I'll start applying your tips from now on:
1-Think about the features you like, regardless of gender
2-Listen to your body
3-Choose the label it feels right for you (but remember, sexuality is much more than a label).
Let's see what I'll get eventually
I’m so glad it helped. You are so loved and welcome here in our community.
Wow! You’re really the best. Everything you said makes perfect sense. I wish you had millions of followers because every person needs to understand these concepts so we can have less problems in the world! 💜💜💜😊
these videos help me out so much. i hyperfixate on my sexuality so much and this really calms me down.
I’m so glad to be of support. I know it can be brutal. Sending so much love.
Most attractive people if not all are bi lol but whether they will admit or not is another story
Haha .. why just attractive people? I think it's generally most everyone. You notice when a straight guy is with his bros, there is always gay judgement but alone, always nicer.
yes he did a data analytics about bisexual counts and it was very high, but what im saying is, is that attractive people are most likely to be the most experimental and the most open about it, the data also showed many people go from bi to straight between age of 20-30 @@someoneout-there2165 think it all comes down to cirumstances, even what makes people hateful and bitter tbh
Mark turned everyone bi with one video
He trapped us all with this one 😆
Hurrah! You discovered my cunning plan! 😂🤣
Great video as usual, happy (almost) visibility day! 💖💜💙
Thanks and to you too. Bi visibility EVE!!! 🩷💜💙
In short you like who you like.
"Are you bi?"
More or less, yes. To be precise I opt not to label myself, but most definitely in the bi spectrum. Took me years to embrace it, but this is how I am born to be.
I do, however, prefer men better than women over the recent years due to reasons. But I did have genuine romantic and sexual feelings for the opposite gender and that was not a phase. People may simply call this as homoflexible? But I prefer not to label it.
It's 'queer' that I'm still confused about. 😅
Thank you!! This has been sooooooo helpful!!!
Thanks for the video really appreciate it , I have been meditating recently and feel relaxed and calm and it felt like my body was wanting a man and other times I love and appreciate the beauty of women , these feelings come and go in waves and I have sent a wish out to the universe for a special male connection who can read my energy and soul ❤
Thanks for sharing this beautiful wish. I hope so much it will come for you in the most wonderful way.
Incredible video as always!! These are so validating and amazing to watch. The way you explain all these different things is just masterful. Thank you so much for everything you do! Also, congrats on over 4K subs and Happy Bi Visibility Week!!!🥳💖💜💙
I wish you knew how much this made my day.
I told myself if I became a really good boxer, weightlifter, track athlete, and construction worker I'd be 100% straight.
I ended up just being a really good fighter with a great physique and allot of building trades skills whose is really fluid. Did I just waste 25 years of my life being mad?
Hey thanks for sharing these experiences. You’re not mad don’t worry. It’s quite understandable to want to invest in certain activities which may connect with the identity or expression that we feel closest to. Taking part in activities themselves wouldn’t make someone straight but it’s all about finding out what things connect most with you. I’d be more than happy to chat this through with you and hopefully help you to find where you’re at. You can book a session with me on www.notdefining.com or email me at marknotdefining@gmail.com. Sending all my very best, Mark ✨
Your videos are the highlight of my day 🥰😍
Your videos are very well. Done. I truly believe that 100 percent gay or straight people are not in the majority. I think almost everyone is on the specturm. Please overlook the bad grammar and spelling.
As a gay man, questioning whether he may be bi, thank you..
I'm primarily attracted to guys that are rail thin, taller than me and have masculine qualities. By the way, nice nails.. shocked me when I first saw them. 💖
I always thought i was stright and i had many female relationships. Until i met my mate, and started being attracted to him
Hey thanks for sharing
Thank you very much for another very well done video. Personally I like the simple and clear explanations as I'm not an English native speaking person. Keep it up!
Hey thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so pleased you like the content and of course if anything is unclear just let me know. I know how it is to be a non-native speaker so I’m delighted it’s okay for you. There should be subtitles as well on all my videos. Shout if I can do anything else for you. Sending so much love and gratitude. Mark x
I think many people are bisexual or pansexual. I often see many men stare at me, but not in a stern way i can only assume they like my looks?
This is interesting. I don’t have any academic background with these areas but I always wonder and question about it. I always find gender-neutral attractive, or both masculine and feminine attractive. I was asked by mom and her friends whether I like men or women and I always can’t give them definite answer. I’m female, but I don’t attract to “very masculine” quality. I do find any feminine quality endearing. And only 2 times in my life that I experienced something similar to “crush on” are female with mixed of masculine and feminine quality 😂
Anyways, great video. Thank you!
Hey thanks for saying. I’m glad you liked it. Thank you for watching.
If I have recurring fantasies about being with someone of the same sex is that my body telling me what I want ?
In those fantasies can you name the emotion that you are seeking to feel in one word? Name it. That is what your body is telling you that you want.
I think I'm bicurious because my fantasies are always about me giving a man oral sex, I've never done it but it gets me very excited thinking about it.
The desire of attraction is within all souls, however, the soul (a point of light) is genderless, either male or female. The soul simply plays it part according to the body's gender. The first mistake humans made was to identify themselves as male and female, a body, rather than the soul occupying the body. Sometimes a soul will have stronger feelings for the same body type or just with the soul alone, the personality, which is absolutely normal. Souls have been taking birth to male and female bodies since time immemorial. And in some births we are drawn to a certain body preference due to past life experiences.
You explained this really well! Thanks👌🔥😁
I find myself to be sexualy and romanticaly attracted to many different things...
I am a woman, I like man (mostly androgynous ones) and I also like energetic, dominant, positive, max liberal alternative woman who are physicaly stronger then me and have beautifull feminine features but more of a masculine and dominant energy
I am also romanticaly atracted to deep, emotional friendships with woman, and I have a wild variety of erothical and romantical fantasies and dreams about (mostly imaginary) people of both genders.
I am still not quite sure about my sexual orientation, but the term that definitely feels the most right to me is biromantic 💖💜💙
Hey thank you so so much for sharing.
Again.... how do I get counseling with you?
Hey there. Thanks so much for reaching out. You can book through my website www.notdefining.com or give me an email on marknotdefining@gmail.com. I’d be so happy to hear from you. Best wishes, Mark
Last words in video: "Bi for now."
Hehehe I know lol. I love saying it.
This video deserves more views!!!
Hi!
mark i have a question. so i have a boyfriend and would never date a woman, but i feel attracted to them. what does that mean?
Perhaps you're attracted to certain things about them but just don't see yourself in a relationship with a woman
My mate has loads of energy and is funny, thats what i love about him, but i don't see it in a sexual way
That’s beautiful
Is our sexuality in our genes?
There is no genetic determinant of sexual orientation however there are many complex genetic elements which affect attraction. It’s highly complex. But no, there is no orientation gene.
🎉if you're open to a new bf, here I am.