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These videos are so great! I just got out of a long term relationship with my girlfriend and it made me question a lot about myself. Having now identified as bi, I’m feeling much more validated in my feelings but dating is definitely gonna make me nervous. Thank you!
Having close emotional intemet feelings for another person who you may spend time with & activities, hug admire and feel fulfilled is called friendship ! It can exist between any people who are of any Gender or sexual orientation, or size without being sexual !
I'm understanding myself as a Bi and now I need therapy lol lol. Hearing 'bout your point of view really helps me to accept and enjoy this new relationships that I'm facing right now. At the beginning I was considered by the other people as a gay man, but I never agreed with that. Nowadays, most of my relationships is with mans but I felt in love with a girl too and it gets me soo confused... Until now, when I'm partying or dancing with a girl I feel the same tension that I felt before and I'm still discovering how to express this feelings and get an appropriate approach, you know? Thanks for existing S2
I'm noticing that alot of people who are Bi or Pan end up being polyamorous. I'm Bi/Polyamorous so I can be with a man and woman at the same time. It feels very liberating to not feel so bogged down in a monogamous manner.
I'm going to start out by saying that you're a really sweet guy. I can see how you are help a good number of people in the bi community. I 've watched a few of your videos now; however I do have a few things I think might be helpful. If anyone finds what I'm about to say as harsh, then please remember that sometimes, the truth is just that way. I'm 100% gay, and I've had my share of experiences with bi guys, and without fail, they all live a "straight" life or want to. Dating them is really tough, so tough, you get to the point of saying why bother. This is a response though. Bisexual, Homosexual, Heterosexual are clinical terms describing sexual proclivity, but human are looking for a relationships that includes sex, but does not end there. We need trust, companionship, compatibility, love, and commonality. Dating bi guys can be exclusive of all of that - and worse. Invisibility. 90% of my relationships with bi guys is purely about their sexual pleasure, and would you to otherwise pretend that you don't know them if you happen to come across them out in public. There are many other restrictions as well, mostly dealing with their availability, and how much time they might have before their wife or girlfriends starts looking for them. No birthdays, holidays, weekend getaways, phone calls, or attachments. No don't kiss me, and can I face away from you while you pleasure me. Then they want to achieve their orgasm as fast as possible, and then run away equally as fast. Why bother with that if you don't have to? The difficulty with gay guys dating bi guys comes from bi guys - the funny part is that they never seem to see it that way. I have a controversial thing to say about transexuals, but I'm not the only one saying this. Are transsexuals gay or bi? My experience may be limited, but from what I've come across, these people are looking to have their gender match their physicality, and then have heterosexual relationships. This is a personal dilemma which the gay community doesn't have the answer for. Now I'm not saying that any of this is wrong. You do you, You have want you want. But it's not up to the gay community to be obligated to provide the bi and trans community with sexual gratification, when we might be looking for a fuller gay relationship. Gays may be homosexuals, but we are not only and just sexual. We are looking for more. And I find your discussions to be lacking in that perspective. However having said that, I acknowledge that your channel is serving the bi community, but it seems to me that a great deal of the confusion is based in the lack of perspective relating to your alternative sexual counterparts. Because as you say, it's really tough for the bi guys to find each other. I'm also going to add that it's not necessarily that gays are outwardly rejecting bi guys, it's just not what most of us are looking for.
Based on my experience as a bisexual man, I have more difficulties dating women than men. I dunno I have this unusual shyness when I am dating women compared to when I am dating men. I find it much more easier to exchange thoughts and stories to men than to women even though I am into both of them. I always froze whenever I face women. When it comes to the trans-community, I am more "in connection" with transmen, actually, I am attracted to them not just physically but also emotionally.
Not trying to be rude, but it's called you lack confidence. You know that our expectations are higher and you have yet to work on yourself to be attractive to women. It's the same thing with straight men. Go to therapy and work on yourself. On top of that, you need to accept yourself and be OPEN about who you want.
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But I got a question are you bisexual?
Good luck to all my beautiful bisexual friend 🦄🦛🐋
Ah thanks so much for this lovely support
I love his calming voice
Ah babes. Thanks hehe.
These videos are so great! I just got out of a long term relationship with my girlfriend and it made me question a lot about myself. Having now identified as bi, I’m feeling much more validated in my feelings but dating is definitely gonna make me nervous. Thank you!
Having close emotional intemet feelings for another person who you may spend time with & activities, hug admire and feel fulfilled is called friendship ! It can exist between any people who are of any Gender or sexual orientation, or size without being sexual !
I'm understanding myself as a Bi and now I need therapy lol lol.
Hearing 'bout your point of view really helps me to accept and enjoy this new relationships that I'm facing right now. At the beginning I was considered by the other people as a gay man, but I never agreed with that. Nowadays, most of my relationships is with mans but I felt in love with a girl too and it gets me soo confused... Until now, when I'm partying or dancing with a girl I feel the same tension that I felt before and I'm still discovering how to express this feelings and get an appropriate approach, you know?
Thanks for existing S2
I'm noticing that alot of people who are Bi or Pan end up being polyamorous. I'm Bi/Polyamorous so I can be with a man and woman at the same time. It feels very liberating to not feel so bogged down in a monogamous manner.
I agree
Me too, but I don't think the jouney will ever end (while I am still breathing).
Totally. I’m here with you on the journey.
I'm going to start out by saying that you're a really sweet guy. I can see how you are help a good number of people in the bi community. I 've watched a few of your videos now; however I do have a few things I think might be helpful. If anyone finds what I'm about to say as harsh, then please remember that sometimes, the truth is just that way.
I'm 100% gay, and I've had my share of experiences with bi guys, and without fail, they all live a "straight" life or want to. Dating them is really tough, so tough, you get to the point of saying why bother. This is a response though. Bisexual, Homosexual, Heterosexual are clinical terms describing sexual proclivity, but human are looking for a relationships that includes sex, but does not end there. We need trust, companionship, compatibility, love, and commonality. Dating bi guys can be exclusive of all of that - and worse. Invisibility. 90% of my relationships with bi guys is purely about their sexual pleasure, and would you to otherwise pretend that you don't know them if you happen to come across them out in public. There are many other restrictions as well, mostly dealing with their availability, and how much time they might have before their wife or girlfriends starts looking for them. No birthdays, holidays, weekend getaways, phone calls, or attachments. No don't kiss me, and can I face away from you while you pleasure me. Then they want to achieve their orgasm as fast as possible, and then run away equally as fast. Why bother with that if you don't have to? The difficulty with gay guys dating bi guys comes from bi guys - the funny part is that they never seem to see it that way.
I have a controversial thing to say about transexuals, but I'm not the only one saying this. Are transsexuals gay or bi? My experience may be limited, but from what I've come across, these people are looking to have their gender match their physicality, and then have heterosexual relationships. This is a personal dilemma which the gay community doesn't have the answer for.
Now I'm not saying that any of this is wrong. You do you, You have want you want. But it's not up to the gay community to be obligated to provide the bi and trans community with sexual gratification, when we might be looking for a fuller gay relationship. Gays may be homosexuals, but we are not only and just sexual. We are looking for more. And I find your discussions to be lacking in that perspective.
However having said that, I acknowledge that your channel is serving the bi community, but it seems to me that a great deal of the confusion is based in the lack of perspective relating to your alternative sexual counterparts. Because as you say, it's really tough for the bi guys to find each other. I'm also going to add that it's not necessarily that gays are outwardly rejecting bi guys, it's just not what most of us are looking for.
Based on my experience as a bisexual man, I have more difficulties dating women than men. I dunno I have this unusual shyness when I am dating women compared to when I am dating men.
I find it much more easier to exchange thoughts and stories to men than to women even though I am into both of them.
I always froze whenever I face women.
When it comes to the trans-community, I am more "in connection" with transmen, actually, I am attracted to them not just physically but also emotionally.
Not trying to be rude, but it's called you lack confidence. You know that our expectations are higher and you have yet to work on yourself to be attractive to women. It's the same thing with straight men.
Go to therapy and work on yourself. On top of that, you need to accept yourself and be OPEN about who you want.
Totally I feel you on this.
Am gay but dating bisexual man and we want to get married, but am afraid in the future he might leave me for a girl
Research shows that bi people are statistically proven to be more faithful than gay people so perhaps he should be more concerned about you.
So you're male and nonbinary/demi boy?☮️
That’s exactly right ❤️
Thank you for your work! May peace be with you 💕
@@bellewells2099 Ah thanks so much. And with you peace. Much love x
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Then you say you bisexuals are faithfull