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You’re a lovely role model, Alessia. Showing how we can be so much more than ‘beautiful’ and actually be more beautiful by being ourselves and not covering up all our other qualities and characteristics in the name of the male gaze.

This video made me cry ❤❤❤

What an incredible video. I don’t usually comment on videos, however this is truly such an enlightening message. Just yesterday I stopped seeing a man who I was clearly lusting over, but felt no emotional connection with. It felt so bad, and still sort of does, but this video is making me understanding what is going on in my brain. Thank you Alessia, what a great video! Love from Quebec ❤

you lost me at "pretty privilege" lol

Your voice is so beautiful, calming, soothing and full of wisdom. I usually speed up all the videos to 1.75-2x, but this is so soothing

You are soooo beatiful! I really adore the yellow and brown match in your look💛, also thank you for bringing up this topic in such easy format because i've been strugling with this since i know myself. My last "crush" is a terrible person who doesn't respect women or healthy boundaries, for long time i ignored it and had love feelings towards his small behaviours that make me desperate about him, his nose, eyes, posture, height, hips, hands, the way he walks, little smirks that he does when he looks at me or when he JUST looks at me i romantized and idealized not only small behaviours but even his body. I found him my "ideal type" when he doesn't even try hard to do something and i knew nothing about him or the way he is as a REAL person. Now i feel guilty for spending on this obsession a really long term of my life, because even if there would be something it would have for me a really bad influence and future consuquences that i couldn't handle. I'm glad again that i found your video, because past days i questioned a lot of this "attraction" and finally with your help i have an answear that i needed to hear. LUST IS NOT A TRAIL FOR HIGH QUALITY LOVE! Yeah, he is handsome and visually my type, but if is as a person he is shallow, stupid little boy misogynyst, with a lot of trauma that he doesn't want to handle, someone who easy fall for terrible influence of his "friends" and DO NOT KNOW WHAT BONDERIES IS... he is NOT FOR YOU OR ANYONE BUT JUST A PERSON THAT CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE EVEN WORSE AAAAAAA crap i really needed that to better understand this tangled experience. God Bless you!🙏💕 love and sub :)

Bah hah.. Ive always had this goofy smile. I just go for it now. I grin from ear to ear.. I am definitely memorable in group photos.

OMG I so needed to hear this. My ex left me 1 year 2 months ago were only together for 9 months. I tried to win him back a few days after we broke up I contacted him but he was adamant he was done. We cut ties then no one contacted each other again. But I haven't stopped thinking about this person since the day he left who is a stranger to me now. I still cry daily . I know it wasn't love it was for the best we broke up but I now know it was lust all this time. I just miss his presence and closeness which one day I'll experience again but actual love not lust. I'm healing and that's okay.

The more you embrace solitude and not label it as loneliness, and experience different experiences with just your self, the more you feel that you actually love doing these things alone more ❤ love your channel. You have helped me a lot

Older man here -- thanks for this content and for sharing your personal experience. I'm seeing a woman now whose previous relationships and infatuations were based on lust (her words) and now, she is exploring (coping?) the experience of building a relationship based on "wholistic attraction". Only recently has her erotic energy come on line. (We are long distance.). As her partner, it would feel good if she felt some measure of "lust" for me, without the unhealthy aspects. Questions: what is your experience (and other women reading this) in building wholistic attraction, given that you have had "lust" experiences in the past? Do you ever reach the level of desire and attraction with the healthy partner? Or do you simply accept that the desire and attraction will never be as exciting as the lust/limerence experiences?

Great for ppl that deal with ocd!!!! ‼️

I was ashamed to admit it to myself, so thank you for the gentle talk

I don’t know why but watching childhood movies like Disney princess movies and the Barbie movies stops these thoughts for me lol maybe because I also see them as guilty pleasures, since watching them is super unproductive. And I always put pressure on myself to be productive and consume educational content haha

Your right. I'm. Not. Blessed. For someone to love me. Would. Have better chances. Winning the lottery back to back to back. 😢

I miss him... but i think I really only miss this part. I dont deserve to be in a relationship Im not happy in just for lust and excitement. I deserve better. He deserves better

Girly, I’ve been a silent follower of your channel for a few months now and I wish I’d had discovered your advice years ago! It’s been so transformative for me ♥️

Came at the right time. I’ve been feeling so pathetic. I can’t even look at myself these days

i think you just helped me develop MY pre-frontal cortex more lmao. i did need to hear this though. Thank you 😊

Your video has me thinking too .. how much i prioritized my male partner because i thought it was the foundation for every other important decision in my life. Aka, got the partner situation sorted/timeline bs. Thanks for the vulnerability with the silly choices ❤ Feeling less ashamed for some of my worst moments 🎉 🫶🏻

i love your outfit and the color scheme going on here omg

That feeling that happens as a consequence of my friends losing patience and losing capacity in regard to listening about my romantic relationships is, as a yapper, the most painful feeling..

HI! I love all your videos so much and I was wondering if you could maybe make one about retroactive jealousy? (Specifically about dealing with the feelings and constant comparison with a partners ex) I have been struggling with it recently and I'm sure other girls have too so I thought it'd be a nice video idea! Thank you so much!

I don't think saggy under eyes have a function... :(

Honestly I’m glad I came across this video cause I want to change this mindset I have. I want to start living my life for me and not for men 🥺❤️

Incredible, intelligent and thoughtful advice angel, thank you!!!!!! ❤ xxxx

You are so beautiful oh my GOD

I’ve been struggling with this for yeeears. Thank you so much for helping me recognize these feelings! You don’t realize how powerful lust can be until you sit with it and reflect. I’m tired of allowing toxic men to take over my mind like this whilst they don’t care and they’re living their lives. I’ve noticed that I panic while I think of seeing them in person because I don’t “look” the best at the moment whether I haven’t washed my hair or lost enough weight. This isn’t love and I thought it was when I was younger. Your channel has helped me more than you know. Thank you ❤

There was a time I got the state of lust and love mixed up and it took me to a place where I was holding onto the values that didn't serve me at all. So, watching this video was like viewing the emotions that my past self had and what she went through. I am so proud of myself that I no longer seek for instant gratification that makes me end up in superficial connections. I always find the sheer amount of value in any content you take your time to create. One thought you bring up sparks another thought in me so much so that I start posing shadow questions to myself, which is such a good and beneficial step towards my self-growth journey. Thank you so much! 💓💓 Also, whenever I listen to your thoughts, I always think to myself... 'Her friends are so lucky to have her in their lives' 🥰

Your words really helped me 💜 I've always struggled with this and felt crazy every time I talked about my feelings for some random guy. You're so smart, I really admire you! :)

Thank you, Alessia! 💛 ✨

You have a very kind energy and soul ❤

❤❤❤❤❤❤such a great video❤❤❤❤❤❤

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You look great!!!

Love your style🤍 this necklace☀️ what is your zodiac sign your big 3's if you are okay with sharing🍀

„Are they in therapy?“ - most likely not 😂 thank you for this video ❤💞

I love your channel!!!!!!! Your Video topics and how you talk about it very helpfull

OMG I LOVE YOUR STYLE HERE💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

You voice make me love

Omg I needed you in my life

It's so strange cause i felt that way for someone but as i am afraid and quiet franckly terrified of intimacy, i never thought it could be lust that i felt ? I feel so ashamed about imagining that. How do you know it's lust or limerence? I hate it...

Omg I needed this video 2 years ago

Would you ever do a video on insecurities and overcoming them?

i just love your videos! i wish i had women like you in my life 🩷

I found your channel recently, and I feel blessed. I must've aligned somehow to have found you. I feel safe here, so cosy and calming like hot soup on a cold day. I appreciate you sharing your experience. There's a lot I look forward to learning from you. ♡

They are just good for lust but no long-term relationship because they only stay in long term relationship to humiliate and devalue us to fulfil their death instinct

I wish I could have seen this when I was younger. But fortunately now I'm more aware! ❤

It's astounding how many assumptions you make about men

What if we just lust after each other and keep it casual tho😞 it’s not like we’re dating so I don’t need to approve of him as a person- guys I genuinely cannot make a decision. We decided to keep our fwb open but to communicate if we’re sleeping with other people for safety reasons (he wanted to date and even said he loved me, but I refused). And I find out he flaked on me to fuck another girl and lied to me abt it? That crossed a boundary and I cut him off but I’ve been feeling his energy so much recently, he apologized and said he would change for me? Like I haven’t heard that one before. And I tried to find another fwb to forget about him but literally noONE COMPARES AND I HATE IT. Do I just go back for the dick and stay guarded🥲

Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.