I've never truly understood how others feel appearance is such a big deal. I was never conventionally attractive. I'm mixed race and always looked different than the people I grew up with. Just because I was treated a certain way or ignored, I always had an understanding that I had a rich and happy internal world and that I'm an intelligent person. People who were rude to me were the ones with the problems 😂 because I'm not capable of living my life on such a shallow level. I never craved attention from those people because I would have nothing in common with them. The friends I made and have are deep, long lasting friendships.
yes to all of this! I also had a massive realisation recently, while watching another youtuber, Louise Froideval (highly reccomend her channel, she's relatively new but makes videos about minimalism, travel, and some vegan stuff). She is a model, and has done jobs for massive beauty brands like LÓreal, but she has shared her own beauty routine, and it's sooooo simple. It was like a switch flipped in my mind: none of those beauty products are what makes models beautiful, they're using beautiful women who are lucky to have great hair/bone structure/skin/whatever, to sell you stuff.
I've always been an outcast. Moat women don't like me and men just saw me as a "reward." I gained melasma all over my face and lost my "worth." I didn't date after divorce for about 3 years. I still dislike myself and feel ill never be wanted by anyone even more now.....
I'm sorry to say this, but there are no negatives to pretty privilege. All the “negative” experiences you have as someone who is considered beautiful by society are the same for people who may not be. Especially women. I know I have pretty privilege and should I be honest? Life is certainly so much easier because of it. In all areas. I find it very, very difficult in this world to talk about the bad experiences you have when you're above average in beauty. That alone shows how privileged you are. Being beautiful certainly doesn't automatically mean being happy, but there really aren't any disadvantages to being beautiful. Beauty alone gives you even more privileges. And all the experiences, such as losing your identity, feeling misunderstood, having fake friends blah blah blah. These are all experiences that people, especially women, who don't have pretty privilege also have. So be careful with such statements. You should be honest with yourself: beauty really does open all doors in this world, you get more respect, you can allow yourself to make more mistakes, you get better jobs, you can be cheeky to men because they become interchangeable for you and you don't have to believe that you wouldn't get anyone else if you didn't tolerate their bad behavior, people are generally nicer to you. It's a lie that there are any dark sides to pretty privilege. And it's dangerous to say the opposite.
Your point is valid. But I think being pretty or extremely beautiful can exacerbate some of the struggles mentioned. Like yeah, all women can be objectified but extremely beautiful women tend to be more objectified and hold on as trophies than a more "average" or far from the beauty ideals woman.
You ask for opinion on what we find ' beautiful'. I thoroughly enjoy classic beauty, but I find ANYTHING that is 'congruent' or in 'alingment'' to itself. This includes all of natural environments, including humans, onto domestic and wild animals and architecture. Nothing that is trashed or manipulated to be too far from how it wants to thrive more effortlessly and celebrate it's natural flow of energy, be it still or calmer , or more vibrant, or stable/strong. Life is inherently aiming for it's own Beauty to thrive, and I agree, we have strong influences outside us that form shallow judgements, that could possibly point to some truths, but take us away from our own inherent instincts and worth as a part of that Life. I wish us ALL the best most beautiful experience of Life with the body we are blessed with. We are all in this together, whether we like to admit it.
pretty privilege ≠ white privilege/Eurocentric ideals. if someone is beautiful they’re beautiful. i’m brown skinned and considered *conventionally attractive* especially after becoming skinny so i have felt the effects of before and after & seen how differently the world treats & responds to me. it’s a shame though.. i wish society could see people as people, not solely physical appearances.
This conversation is so tiring and old because this doesn’t just happen to pretty women. It happens to ‘ugly’ women. It’s called misogyny. I usually like your takes, but this was a miss for me. I think if you want to have conversation like this, we should be talking about Desirability Politics, not pretty privilege. The line seems blurred, but it’s very much so there.
Being pretty has been nothing but a nightmare along with my intelligence. I have lost count of how many jobs I have lost because of jealousy. My recent manager did the dirty on me and my last line manager got rid of me as I was a threat. I’m back looking for another job but happens everywhere. I need my own business but want to be a stay at home author however I have bills to pay!
Thank you for this, so many people shut down the conversation because of pretty privilege but it can be incredibly lonely
Not to mention negative attention, jealousy, and being perceived as less serious or intelligent in the workplace
It is a scary conversation to start! I get you 🥰💗😘
@@walking.confessional Exactly I could easily make a part two on this video x
I love the nature segments throughout the video, they really give you the space to digest and reflect on your points
I've never truly understood how others feel appearance is such a big deal. I was never conventionally attractive. I'm mixed race and always looked different than the people I grew up with. Just because I was treated a certain way or ignored, I always had an understanding that I had a rich and happy internal world and that I'm an intelligent person. People who were rude to me were the ones with the problems 😂 because I'm not capable of living my life on such a shallow level. I never craved attention from those people because I would have nothing in common with them.
The friends I made and have are deep, long lasting friendships.
See it's about race to non white women
@@EverythingLvl I put in that info for context. You seem to be the one focusing on race here.
Life is hard. But i prefer a hard life being pretty than a hard life being ugly.
Thank you for this well-crafted video. No one ever talks about the dark side of pretty priviledge.
💗💗💗💗💗 lots of love
WOWWWWW! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Lessie this is such a powerful and insightful message! Thank you for sharing this! Your so so intelligent ♥️✨🧚♂️♥️✨
thank you so much wonderful girly 💗🥰💘😘
yes to all of this! I also had a massive realisation recently, while watching another youtuber, Louise Froideval (highly reccomend her channel, she's relatively new but makes videos about minimalism, travel, and some vegan stuff). She is a model, and has done jobs for massive beauty brands like LÓreal, but she has shared her own beauty routine, and it's sooooo simple. It was like a switch flipped in my mind: none of those beauty products are what makes models beautiful, they're using beautiful women who are lucky to have great hair/bone structure/skin/whatever, to sell you stuff.
Yes to everything you just said! Very wise insight! 💗💗💗💗💗
Insightful and profound as always 💗
🥰😘 thank you my love xxxx
im really greatfull for you to speak about this topic it's really matter ❤and the world get worse
😘😘😘😘😘
Hi Alessia, please keep make the videos..those are really meaningful for us❤❤❤❤
thank you so much my love 🥰😘! xx
I've always been an outcast. Moat women don't like me and men just saw me as a "reward." I gained melasma all over my face and lost my "worth." I didn't date after divorce for about 3 years. I still dislike myself and feel ill never be wanted by anyone even more now.....
I'm sorry to say this, but there are no negatives to pretty privilege. All the “negative” experiences you have as someone who is considered beautiful by society are the same for people who may not be. Especially women. I know I have pretty privilege and should I be honest? Life is certainly so much easier because of it. In all areas. I find it very, very difficult in this world to talk about the bad experiences you have when you're above average in beauty. That alone shows how privileged you are. Being beautiful certainly doesn't automatically mean being happy, but there really aren't any disadvantages to being beautiful. Beauty alone gives you even more privileges. And all the experiences, such as losing your identity, feeling misunderstood, having fake friends blah blah blah. These are all experiences that people, especially women, who don't have pretty privilege also have. So be careful with such statements. You should be honest with yourself: beauty really does open all doors in this world, you get more respect, you can allow yourself to make more mistakes, you get better jobs, you can be cheeky to men because they become interchangeable for you and you don't have to believe that you wouldn't get anyone else if you didn't tolerate their bad behavior, people are generally nicer to you. It's a lie that there are any dark sides to pretty privilege. And it's dangerous to say the opposite.
Your point is valid. But I think being pretty or extremely beautiful can exacerbate some of the struggles mentioned. Like yeah, all women can be objectified but extremely beautiful women tend to be more objectified and hold on as trophies than a more "average" or far from the beauty ideals woman.
Women don’t support each other but they should.
You ask for opinion on what we find ' beautiful'.
I thoroughly enjoy classic beauty, but I find ANYTHING that is 'congruent' or in 'alingment'' to itself.
This includes all of natural environments, including humans, onto domestic and wild animals and architecture.
Nothing that is trashed or manipulated to be too far from how it wants to thrive more effortlessly and celebrate it's natural flow of energy, be it still or calmer , or more vibrant, or stable/strong.
Life is inherently aiming for it's own Beauty to thrive, and I agree, we have strong influences outside us that form shallow judgements, that could possibly point to some truths, but take us away from our own inherent instincts and worth as a part of that Life.
I wish us ALL the best most beautiful experience of Life with the body we are blessed with. We are all in this together, whether we like to admit it.
pretty privilege ≠ white privilege/Eurocentric ideals. if someone is beautiful they’re beautiful. i’m brown skinned and considered *conventionally attractive* especially after becoming skinny so i have felt the effects of before and after & seen how differently the world treats & responds to me. it’s a shame though.. i wish society could see people as people, not solely physical appearances.
Morning from Hawaii amazing on of ugly on a better person on this video
I’m harassed at work and I have been accused of having pretty privilege…
please if you can add English subtitles inside your videos so that we can practice English while we watch you please 🥹🥹❤
on it! 💚💚💚💚
This conversation is so tiring and old because this doesn’t just happen to pretty women. It happens to ‘ugly’ women. It’s called misogyny. I usually like your takes, but this was a miss for me. I think if you want to have conversation like this, we should be talking about Desirability Politics, not pretty privilege. The line seems blurred, but it’s very much so there.
Being pretty has been nothing but a nightmare along with my intelligence. I have lost count of how many jobs I have lost because of jealousy. My recent manager did the dirty on me and my last line manager got rid of me as I was a threat. I’m back looking for another job but happens everywhere. I need my own business but want to be a stay at home author however I have bills to pay!