The Fitness Industry Has a DARK Secret!

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  • Опубліковано 6 вер 2024

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  • @TFNL
    @TFNL  3 місяці тому +7

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  • @5002seven
    @5002seven 3 місяці тому +79

    Missed chance for a silly pirate eye-patch.

    • @zartic4life
      @zartic4life 2 місяці тому

      He'll have to borrow it from the German Chancellor.

  • @elizabethoboril938
    @elizabethoboril938 3 місяці тому +21

    Im glad that Will did this. I watched the original video when it came out. Society forgets the way men are physically portrayed. Men want the bodies they see portrayed on film, magazines and now social media. Most are unrealistic for the majority of the population and they're all enhanced.

  • @Moose92411
    @Moose92411 3 місяці тому +21

    This video was phenomenal. Just gold.
    I spent years experiencing body dysmorphia, as I really started lifting seriously. But as I approached turning 40, I began consciously appreciating my progress and disregarding those old, insidious comparisons. Now, finally, I can respect and appreciate others' physique accomplishments while also being satisfied and proud of my own, even if they're bro bigger and stronger than I am.

    • @TFNL
      @TFNL  3 місяці тому +6

      I value you, sir. I'm really glad that you're here

    • @juleeanng
      @juleeanng 3 місяці тому +1

      well said 👏

  • @annienormal5822
    @annienormal5822 3 місяці тому +12

    I was really impressed with this video from Will Tennyson when I first saw it. His videos are usually very humorous, and I enjoy those too, but he approached this topic seriously and compassionately.

  • @laurieann2714
    @laurieann2714 3 місяці тому +16

    I am 58 and was anorexic as a teenager. I think that I will always have body dysmorphia but have learned to manage it. I had these issues in an environment where magazines were the big thing. I have said this before, but there are way more venues for people to access and feel lousy about themselves. Reality is distorted and not celebrated. Uniqueness is apparently some thing to be ashamed of. It makes me sad what lengths people will go to to achieve an unrealistic goal. Where they get this money is mind boggling. When parents pay for plastic surgeries for underage kids, I feel like that is child abuse. Any surgeons who do elective surgery on underage kids, should lose their license. Thanks for always being transparent and upfront.

  • @maryhamric
    @maryhamric 3 місяці тому +16

    Thank you for your vulnerability, Harry. I think we all deal with this in some respect. Thanks for featuring Will. He's a good one. I saw a video from Stephanie Lange and she featured a young lady who had a nose job and immediately regretted it. My heart just broke for her. We are never satisfied and how we view ourselves is so distorted. And the young just don't have the perspective and experience to realize that social media is mostly lies and it's something you will forever be dissatisfied with as you compare yourself. Good stuff Harry!

  • @jenniferjones7283
    @jenniferjones7283 3 місяці тому +32

    Oh your poor eye... at least it's not pink eye. That's a win

    • @TFNL
      @TFNL  3 місяці тому +4

      Haha, a win indeed!

  • @Alexandria_S1222
    @Alexandria_S1222 3 місяці тому +4

    As a mental health provider as well as someone who tries to help others feel their best I appreciate you addressing this and I probably do too. I've definitely found that as I've put my body on the internet I struggle more with how I look. I have a child and so my body probably isn't going to change that much. It is really important to love yourself first because I think that I would be sucked down a rabbit hole if it weren't for that! Thank you for smashing it as always

  • @BluegillGreg
    @BluegillGreg 3 місяці тому +3

    I put on some good muscle and strength as a teen by lifting eating and sleeping. I've maintained good leanness, muscle and strength through my current age of 66. I've felt good about my body almost the whole time. I don't compare myself to others. I compare myself in shape to myself run down and detrained. I enjoy being in shape. The best I can ever be is just a little better than I was last week. I hope everyone here does well, consistently enjoys a good routine, and sticks with tiny improvements that add up to a healthy life with a balanced mind.

  • @MTNR333
    @MTNR333 3 місяці тому +7

    You’re a beautiful soul I’m so glad you make UA-cam videos we need more people like you out there🙏🏻💪🏻

  • @ReivinR
    @ReivinR 3 місяці тому +3

    I think this topic is really important. While I do know that I sometimes am influenced by body dysmorphia since I started with sports (I started rather late with 36 years of age), I can limit the effect of that influence. When I catch myself thinking that I feel rather small, I consciously make an effort of thinking positively about my progress.
    In general I am really satisfied even if I might not see myself the same as others perceive me.
    I think it is really important to be consciously satisfied with oneself while still having certain goals. The goals are something to strive for, but should not be a source of frustration or even cause issues like eating disorders. There needs to be far more people that are honest and truthful about their progress and this might even make a more stable community to grow around the content creators that are thruthful.
    In the end we strive to improve ourselves with sports and not to destroy ourselves.
    So thanks a lot to you and other creators being this open about it.

  • @May-qb3vx
    @May-qb3vx 3 місяці тому +3

    I dealt with undiagnosed OCD for years and dealt a lot with body dysmorphia. I thought I was eating the right amount my entire life and would just put cramps up to PMS. Come to find out from a GP I had once, those cramps I thought was PMS, was actually hunger pangs! I didn’t realize the difference until we broke down each type of cramp I was having and where it was located. I would just put a heat pack on it and go to sleep and I thought that was the solution. So I was unknowingly starving myself. Now my issue is trying to rewire my brain because I’ve now gained weight (mostly fat) and I’m not used to being this weight and it feels like I’m overweight when my doctor assures me I’m not and that I’m still on the lighter end of healthy weight and fat percentage. It’s a process.

  • @jenmessier2195
    @jenmessier2195 3 місяці тому +3

    Such an important video as one that struggles with BP and a long battle with and ED I can testify to the fact that even though I might get smaller I still can't quite get my body to a point where I am happy.... very important topic!

  • @musicalconnie6216
    @musicalconnie6216 3 місяці тому +4

    I'm a new subscriber and have really enjoyed your compassionate discussions about mental health. I'm still building up strength after around 10 years with an ED, including time on enforced bed rest during the pandemic, and your videos have helped me pick the most effective home workouts.
    Despite the disconnect between our physical bodies and how we see ourselves, recent theories and small studies suggest that mental illness could actually result from poor metabolic (physical) health. You might find Dr Christopher Palmer (assistant professor at Harvard) interesting. He's written a book called 'Brain Energy' and has done several podcast interviews about his theory that mental illnesses are metabolic disorders of the brain. He's also successfully used dietary interventions to treat schizophrenia and alcoholism.

    • @LizT-qx3xl
      @LizT-qx3xl 3 місяці тому

      Good for you for your successes in your journey! As fascinating as this doctor seems, and I hope more studies come out and back him up, I also hope he doesn't get too popular. People forget that the keto diet was developed for epileptic patients, and people are now giving themselves diabetic drugs to lose weight. Once a "hack" is found... lord help us.

    • @isk8atparks
      @isk8atparks 3 місяці тому

      As amazing it would be for things to be so simple, I highly doubt we can just point to it being metabolic issues. Seems like one of those things that are just one of many potential causes, and its always great to understand better ways to combat mental health issues. Its something to be attacked from many angles, and the less drugs you need to achieve that the better. Going to give the book a read, maybe my mind will be changed

    • @musicalconnie6216
      @musicalconnie6216 3 місяці тому

      @@isk8atparks Yes, I definitely agree that there are many factors that can affect mental health (e.g. trauma, poverty, stress), but unfortunately many of those are more difficult to control than diet. Of course, I doubt there will ever be a 100% success rate of any intervention but it's good to have another treatment option that could address an underlying cause, and it doesn't always have to be permanent. I've been able to tolerate more carbohydrates as I've put on muscle, probably because muscle acts as a glucose sink.

    • @musicalconnie6216
      @musicalconnie6216 3 місяці тому

      @@LizT-qx3xl Thanks, yes even he's said in interviews that not everyone needs a ketogenic diet (depending on their personal metabolism). Some people are fine just cutting out ultra-processed foods and others recover with a moderately low-carb diet. I'm personally able to tolerate more carbohydrates now that I'm at a healthy weight and have far more muscle mass. It definitely has to be an individualised approach, and anyone with an eating disorder should be closely monitored to ensure they're not using any diet to lose weight.

  • @bubuliiii
    @bubuliiii 3 місяці тому +25

    Social media is just crazy. People believe everything they see and hear

    • @Nina-jc3be
      @Nina-jc3be 3 місяці тому

      I don't get it. How can people believe even in instances when things are obviously fabricated? So many people around me have no idea how easy it is to edit photos on social media, they don't think influencers do this. It blows my mind.

    • @Diana-qp2rw
      @Diana-qp2rw 3 місяці тому

      @@Nina-jc3beI think if you never edited a photo or don’t know how much is possible (when I was younger I never knew about all the tricks for videos or how much was possible with posing for example), it’s very easy to fall for it.

    • @Mindfuljourneywithme111
      @Mindfuljourneywithme111 3 місяці тому +1

      I don’t use tik tok or instagram rarely as it would really effect me seeing the filters all the time

  • @farnooshyy5120
    @farnooshyy5120 3 місяці тому +6

    Watching this while eating cotton candy. What am I doing to myself?😂

  • @terigiese1322
    @terigiese1322 3 місяці тому +3

    Such an important factor in this life.The expectations vs.reality.I use filters on my face?But absolutely NEVER on my body.I hope to inspire by showing the real.Not the edited fake.The face filters are fun?But it does become difficult to NOT use them.At almost 63?I absolutely have age spots,skin pigmentation and wrinkles.I do not plan on touching my face yet?But.I may down the road.Just not comfortable with the thought of changing my face as of yet😊

  • @belial395
    @belial395 3 місяці тому +5

    6'3" and 250lbs is just wild to me... I certainy knew you were big and strong but Jesus Christ

  • @user-mt1pk3jc1q
    @user-mt1pk3jc1q 3 місяці тому +2

    Always here for truth.

    • @oglou34
      @oglou34 3 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @bubuliiii
    @bubuliiii 3 місяці тому +4

    Half possessed HAHAHAHAHA MADE ME LAUGH

  • @babyluvangie
    @babyluvangie 3 місяці тому +1

    Great video, this definitely applies to both men and women. I lost 35-40lbs since less than a year ago, but I won't be happy until I see a specific number on the scale, even though my body is changing positively.

  • @CalebFrikkieBrooks
    @CalebFrikkieBrooks 3 місяці тому +3

    Took that soap to the eye like a champ😂
    G

  • @franberlin77
    @franberlin77 3 місяці тому

    Such a big and important issue to talk about. Thanks for doing this.

  • @ThePhysicalReaction
    @ThePhysicalReaction 3 місяці тому

    The mirror also tends to lack an accurate frame of reference.... even when a person consistently stands 1 meter away from it.
    As you say, the mind will fool a person into thinking they are too large, too small, too weak, and so on.

  • @enumclaw79
    @enumclaw79 3 місяці тому

    I'm glad I found an interest in fitness because of a physical health problem rather than a mental health one. My goals are to be healthy. I'm not going to claim I'm not interested in how I look, but for me, it's really all about being fit and strong into old age. I'd never consider steroids or surgery as they simply don't help me with my goals. My heart goes out to those that suffer from body dysmorphia. We're at a weird place as a society where we have all these unattainable beauty standards that are causing otherwise healthy people to suffer, and yet also 2/3 of the population is not even down to a healthy weight.

  • @elainekommenge1157
    @elainekommenge1157 2 місяці тому

    So many stories here to relate to. I don't even know how i look anymore. 😂

  • @Diana-qp2rw
    @Diana-qp2rw 3 місяці тому

    Wow, that’s eye-opening.
    My personal experience, I always used to feel relatively skinny and just didn’t like my tummy until I lost weight. I weigh almost 20 lbs less now, with a higher muscle mass than I used to have back then, and I’m almost underweight, but I don’t feel skinny anymore and definitely less skinny than when I weighed more.
    I really need to stop trying to achieve my perfect body. The body I have now is objectively better than what my goal body used to be, but I feel like I’m even more far away than I used to be, even though I rationally know that’s not true. At least I recognize that now, that’s better than denial I guess.

  • @AnnLaustsen87
    @AnnLaustsen87 3 місяці тому +1

    Could you do a critique on Starting Strength?

  • @yongkysiaw6597
    @yongkysiaw6597 3 місяці тому +1

    Fitness influencers worried about being too small whike I'm afraid of being to big.

  • @Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69
    @Richie_Alpha_Rabbit69 3 місяці тому

    I feel too big and everywhere I go people tell me I’m massive or men ask me how they can look like me. But I just want to get bigger. I started steroids a year ago at age 30 and the amount of compliments I get daily is crazy. It is addictive even if it is just men for the most part, Some females love my freaky look but most don’t care about 20 inch biceps and abs.
    I tell people I’m mentally unwell and that’s why i do this ha least I’m self aware I suppose. I’ve always hated myself not my body per say but just myself In general.

  • @bestgirl3380
    @bestgirl3380 3 місяці тому

    A pump is a good motivator. I take pixtures flrxing without a pump and feel lowkey embarassed but i know that ppl dont expect me to have hyge shredded muscles anyway so i still post. I wish everyone felt comfortable enough to do this and ground ourselves back in reality

  • @austinhenshaw2140
    @austinhenshaw2140 3 місяці тому +5

    Hi.

  • @wakeupstylellc
    @wakeupstylellc 3 місяці тому +2

    Amen

  • @steelearmstrong9616
    @steelearmstrong9616 3 місяці тому

    Extreme case of BPD and body dysmorphia makes for a hard life

  • @evawoodley7773
    @evawoodley7773 3 місяці тому +2

    I AM HERE!

  • @mirapiccolo6601
    @mirapiccolo6601 3 місяці тому +1

    Important video....bravo!

  • @DaskaiserreichNet78
    @DaskaiserreichNet78 3 місяці тому

    0:31 I was just about to wish you a good recovery from the red eye.

  • @DevotodelAlgoritmo
    @DevotodelAlgoritmo 3 місяці тому

    thanks for the red eye explanation.
    always tought about that never ending progressive load, like forever

  • @austinhenshaw2140
    @austinhenshaw2140 3 місяці тому +6

    Comment for engagement.

  • @lelolaylo
    @lelolaylo 3 місяці тому

    Such a great video!!

  • @valentinare6471
    @valentinare6471 2 місяці тому

    Half possessed 😂😂

  • @Arkhs
    @Arkhs 3 місяці тому

    I have body dysmorphia, but not because of my muscles. I'm actually really happy with my progress there.
    It's my height. The worst thing you have body dysmorphia on because you literally can't change it.
    It feels really shit to make so much progress in the gym knowing that it would be better if I could pack on muscle and be tall. Like the strength and size potential is just magnitudes different.
    Like I have a 6ft8 friend. Literally trained 1 year and his arms are 19 inches lean. Mine are 18 inches after 8 years. Such bullshit.

  • @tomshepard9050
    @tomshepard9050 3 місяці тому +1

    We are all mental.
    Let's REFRAME things about the gym.
    It's a TOOL, a small part of your life.
    Life goes on and people can always be fit WITHOUT the gym.
    Let's take a look at ourselves:
    Decide to go to the gym - wow it's a decision - no it's not - it's the same as feeling like going for a JOG - you don't need to START switching into anything.
    It's how the membership is sold as - a big commitment minimum for a year.
    Then what? you start worrying and researching and BUYING all the GYM GEARS - just to LOOK the part for going to the gym.
    When your mindset hasn't changed, your routine is not sorted, you don't even KNOW what to do on the day.
    And you see everyone stuck in traffic worrying about the exact same thing.
    It's a rat race but NO ONE seems to know where their own goals are.
    So here's the proposal, fuck everyone else, go get some dumbbells at home and start, don't even have to build your garage gym - master 1-2 exercise and work the shtt outta yourself. After a few weeks, see how you feel THEN reconsider going to the gym.
    It's so CLOGGED up with clueless people who don't know what they are doing, who DON'T WANT to know what they should do, DON'T REALLY wanna be there.
    Why are we doing this to ourselves? Who are we trying to please?
    Wake tf up.

    • @christinelamb1167
      @christinelamb1167 3 місяці тому

      I used to go to the gym every day, the gym was my life! But after years, I got tired of the atmosphere at the gym, and I gave up my gym membership. I bought my own dumbbells to use at home, along with some other inexpensive equipmet like resistance bands, and step platforms. I've been working out at home for well over 10 years now, and I love it! I can workout whenever I want on my own schedule, I don't have to drive anywhere, there's no mirrors, I don't have to wait for someone to finish using the equipment I want to use, and I don't have to listen to any silly conversations going on around me.
      Working out at home is the best!

  • @zartic4life
    @zartic4life 2 місяці тому

    Coming from a doctor that makes money from peoples low self-esteem so much for the hipocratic oath of "do no harm".

  • @Amyjwashere
    @Amyjwashere 3 місяці тому +1

    I hope you got some eye drops!

  • @CalebFrikkieBrooks
    @CalebFrikkieBrooks 3 місяці тому +1

    Took that soap to the eye like a champ😂

  • @theresem754
    @theresem754 3 місяці тому

    Harry is 6'3 and weighed 125 lb?!? I'm 5'3 and weigh that much! Poor Harry, I'm so glad it sounds like you're doing better now!

  • @His-Most-Catholic-Majesty
    @His-Most-Catholic-Majesty 3 місяці тому +1

    I don't believe the shower story, 100% a chick farted in your eye. 😂

  • @tinybarabo
    @tinybarabo 3 місяці тому +6

    Okay this was my last push, I just made an appointment with a doctor to get help with the binge eating (which I have for 20 years). ❤️‍🩹

    • @TFNL
      @TFNL  3 місяці тому +1

      Proud of you!

    • @bbjudyfit
      @bbjudyfit 3 місяці тому +2

      You can do it! ❤

  • @doriscistrelli9560
    @doriscistrelli9560 3 місяці тому

    I just did same thing to my eye yesterday ugh

  • @playdohmasochist
    @playdohmasochist 3 місяці тому

    I look about how I wanted to when I started training in 2005! Anyone wanting to get big in a couple years is delulu af!!

  • @Mmmmchocolate
    @Mmmmchocolate 3 місяці тому

    I lift but I often wonder why. I try to stick to it being about health and not so much about trying to look like something. That’s because I feel like the whole body building thing is quite silly really. We do t need big muscled people in society anymore. Idk, just seems like Hollywood has sold us a bunch of bunk.

    • @austinhenshaw2140
      @austinhenshaw2140 3 місяці тому +2

      There are benefits to resist training outside of getting bigger and aesthetic reasons too.

    • @christinelamb1167
      @christinelamb1167 3 місяці тому +1

      I think that was their point, that training should be about the health aspects (which are many), rather than focusing on size or what we look like.
      I agree!

  • @MorkyMuffin
    @MorkyMuffin 3 місяці тому +2

  • @orestesmegrez5760
    @orestesmegrez5760 3 місяці тому

    You should consider talking slower, today I watched your video at 0.75 speed and it's the first time I could enjoy your content. Btw I'm from a non English speaking country.

  • @wheelofhands
    @wheelofhands 3 місяці тому +2

    Hello

  • @hasanagic96
    @hasanagic96 3 місяці тому

    BRO YOUR EYEEEE

  • @ellieknutsen8217
    @ellieknutsen8217 3 місяці тому +1

    is the soap optimal?

  • @lynneward3054
    @lynneward3054 3 місяці тому

    Healthy debate. ❤

  • @seattlegrrlie
    @seattlegrrlie 3 місяці тому

    When I was growing up, we didn't have cell phone cameras and I did everything I could to hide from the camera or the video. I hated the delicate, porcelain doll face and the boobs and curves. Lifting weights, learning martial arts, all those things made me feel stronger, but to date I still hate how I look. It never goes away, I dont think. At least, I've yet to meet someone who figured out how. Oh, you learn to live with body dismorphia but I'm not sure you get over it

  • @themondoshow
    @themondoshow 3 місяці тому

    Y’all sound nuts. I’ve def gotten big enough

  • @jaymoor8995
    @jaymoor8995 3 місяці тому

    I mean. Duh! Watch Dom Mazzetti and he’ll sort you out

  • @DUNKELTROLL666
    @DUNKELTROLL666 3 місяці тому

    You will look good without a pump if bodyfat is low enough

  • @marieluise6907
    @marieluise6907 3 місяці тому

    🤍🤍🤍

  • @austinhenshaw2140
    @austinhenshaw2140 3 місяці тому +5

    Get an eyepatch for next time.

  • @wheelofhands
    @wheelofhands 3 місяці тому +43

    Happy Pride, everyone! 🏳️‍🌈

    • @austinhenshaw2140
      @austinhenshaw2140 3 місяці тому +3

      Happy Pride!

    • @user-qk8yk7km1n
      @user-qk8yk7km1n 3 місяці тому +10

      Why, what’s so happy about it?

    • @elicole8047
      @elicole8047 3 місяці тому

      P-month is a made up silly invention by the government, big corporations and other disingenuous actors to promote a sinful and damaging lifestyle.
      I hope you can find a way out of your sin.

    • @ruckerbrady8342
      @ruckerbrady8342 3 місяці тому

      Pride is a sin. Being proud of your sexual preference is pathetic.

    • @johnnygrube
      @johnnygrube 3 місяці тому +2

      What are you proud of?

  • @katieosborne5203
    @katieosborne5203 3 місяці тому

    Is it bad that I don't want to like the video because it has 666 likes?

  • @oglou34
    @oglou34 3 місяці тому

    This has to be a joke right... smh 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @fatamy8597
      @fatamy8597 3 місяці тому +1

      nope you’re just ignorant. have a good day.