Alternate Title: “Gen Z tries to understand how life was like before the 2000s” But for real though, I had a lot of fun with this one. I hope you guys have just as much fun watching🙏🏾
I don't think that home conveniences and entertainment are making us lonely, but they help fill the void where other factors cause us to not interract with others. I'm pretty much housebound due to misophonia and home convenience and entertainment just help fill time and distract me from my pain. Though this doesn't explain loneliness in other people, which I think may be the decline of the 3rd space. It would be good to look at lonliness in the 11% of people in the 70s. It would be interesting to know what could make someone feel lonely in such a time and maybe it'll help us today.
I decided to break my internet addiction by learning to skateboard and going for more walks, but all I realized is that no matter how long I was outside or where I went, there were no other people outside unless they were in a car. That's when I realized I'm not as addicted to the internet as I thought I was, it's just that the internet (online games, streaming video, streaming music, ordering things) is the only thing to do now...
im proud of you for trying! eventually more people are going to do the same as you :) itll just take time. it is also heavily dependent on the world around us unfortunately, but i have hope that things will grow to encourage human interaction again
I feel like another thing that should have been mentioned is that American roads aren't built for people anymore. They're built for cars, in many neighborhoods even if a store isn't too far away there would be no safe way to walk to it.
Dude I was born in Hawaii where it was safe for kids to run & play on most side roads. When I moved to Texas in 6th grade I almost immediately got depression because it's basically house arrest AND 100 degrees so even the backyard sucked. Car culture is the worst
Prior to the pandemic I thought i was a perfectly content introvert, and I learned the hard way how wrong I was. Nothing can replace person to person interaction. It isn’t just seeing. It’s a full on sensory experience. There are biochemical things going on that we don’t even have power over. It got to a point to where i ditched social media, and told my friends to please send voice memos instead of text so i could hear their voices. It’s so vital. We are social animals.
Something about covid kind of broke me as an introvert, too. I thought it was perfectly fine having most people never bother me. But seeing people be so distant and even tribalistic over things like politics, vaccines, wearing masks, social distancing, kids having to use zoom for school, people losing their jobs over political affiliation and covid related issues, all that nonsense... It was just the opposite of what society needed. Even now it feels like a mass psychological wound has been left on society. After the pandemic ended I went back to Church for the first time in a few years. Was the best decision ever.
I think introvert memes go on a scale from just regular introverted things to social anxiety and/or bitterness and social burnout (if I may word it that way) and many people online generally don't differentiate between these. I'm extroverted but I do have introverted and extroverted phases so to say, so I do relate to introvert memes. And the ones I don't relate to I think are the ones that are sliding toward social anxiety and bitterness. I do experience my own personal blend of social anxiety, but I suppose my extroversion changes my social anxiety experiences. I never saw being extremely uncomfortable making a call and trying to actively avoid people as just an introverted thing. Cause with how I have my phases, when I have an introverted phase, it's all about just being fine with being alone and enjoying my solo activities. For some reason I don't crave the energy that my extroverted core gets from social interactions. But I don't hate people, I'm not scared of people, I'm not bothered by people, etc. Those memes that go toward these extremes - I experience that when I'm dysregulated, in a depressive mood/state, in an anxious state, I don't relate it to the introversion I experience at all. Those memes imho are about depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, social burnout maybe, things like that, because I experience them in both my introverted and extroverted phases and never relate them to introversion. I think healthy intriverts simply are more aware of how things affect them, what they need and like and how to balance getting it without getting burned out and worn out, and have managed to have a system to regulate things and an environment that is good for them. They're not dreading calls, they're not dreading meetings, they just know they have a lower threshhold for these stuff so they have to manage them differently from extroverts. Introverts can be very outgoing too, they just need to be aware of their capacity and how to recharge and when to recharge. That's my opinion anyway.
I think introvert memes go on a scale from just regular introverted things to social anxiety and/or bitterness and social burnout (if I may word it that way) and many people online generally don't differentiate between these. I'm extroverted but I do have introverted and extroverted phases so to say, so I do relate to introvert memes. And the ones I don't relate to I think are the ones that are sliding toward social anxiety and bitterness. I do experience my own personal blend of social anxiety, but I suppose my extroversion changes my social anxiety experiences. I never saw being extremely uncomfortable making a call and trying to actively avoid people as just an introverted thing. Cause with how I have my phases, when I have an introverted phase, it's all about just being fine with being alone and enjoying my solo activities. For some reason I don't crave the energy that my extroverted core gets from social interactions. But I don't hate people, I'm not scared of people, I'm not bothered by people, etc. Those memes that go toward these extremes - I experience that when I'm dysregulated, in a depressive mood/state, in an anxious state, I don't relate it to the introversion I experience at all. Those memes imho are about depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, social burnout maybe, things like that, because I experience them in both my introverted and extroverted phases and never relate them to introversion. I think healthy intriverts simply are more aware of how things affect them, what they need and like and how to balance getting it without getting burned out and worn out, and have managed to have a system to regulate things and an environment that is good for them. They're not dreading calls, they're not dreading meetings, they just know they have a lower threshhold for these stuff so they have to manage them differently from extroverts. Introverts can be very outgoing too, they just need to be aware of their capacity and how to recharge and when to recharge. That's my opinion anyway. That being sad, the way people talk about covid makes me realize how my situation was affecting me before covid. Because despite me being an extrovert the isolation in covid was not that big of a deal for me. Actually I was pissed I couldn't be alone the way I wanted to. I was too busy with the problems I already had before covid to notice how the covid specific social isolation was affecting me, if it even was at all, I was already isolating myself without neaning to bcs that was just my flow. And the way people talk about how difficult covid times were honestly, and still to this day, makes me angry. Cause usually I'm told that everyone goes through what I go through and, although people say it with kindness and care and word it nicely, that I have to just push through cause there's no other way. But I always had this understanding in my head that nothing I go through is difficult, I'm just a fussy person and a weak and spoiled person. And my perception of covid times was just meh. Slightly more difficult than the already barely difficult times prior. And then people talk about it like with so much grace and understanding and compassion and like it was this big deal and we make excuses for each other because "it was during covid, we all had it hard during covid, we understand". I'M SORRY, WHAT? It felt to me, and still feels to me, that it was so frgn minor and people are talking about it like we all went to war or like we all had to work 3 jobs for that time period to take care of our sick child on the verge of death. It felt so disproportionate to me. But people kept talking about it that way. It keeps getting portrayed that way. And it makes me feel I had a wrong perception and interpretation all along. The stuff I thought were minor - were they not minor? Was I going through a hard time all along but didn't realize? People who I thought were strong - were they weak just like me all along? Were they all weak like me? And I thought it was just me? Cause look at how whiny everyone is and I thought it was just me.
As a Gen Xer who has been through most of these decades, they are not even reflective of how people really dressed in those time periods. These are mostly fringe fads being shown but younger generations who weren't there will think everyone was running around looking like this. Like the looks for the 80's in this video would have gotten you laughed at.
@@sonjaevans3858 Xennial here, and yes, the fashions depicted in these videos were the ones you saw on music videos and TV shows. That was the only context in which they were considered "cool". Nobody actually wore that stuff in everyday life.
More like childish. Today, grown men look like toddlers with the way they dress. And, they also started to look like women. Wearing cartoon characters, purses, colored hair, piercings and collecting dolls.
I’ve always wanted to experience an all girls sleepover, going to the movies with friends, going to the mall with friends, hanging out at the amusement park , playing games like just dance or the Wii together, having a picnic with friends ect. I hope to have friends to do this with one day
@@eeeeee1839 ye I mean they are yo friends so I assume I can just talk to em bout letting the phones in the pants while U enjoying your time together. As long as they're no total addicts that aren't able to feel pleasure in normal life anymore, they will feel how good it is, to take a break and enjoy quality time with friends
the pokemon go craze in 2016 was truly the best of both modern technology and outdoor activity. people were leaving their houses, going to places they've never been just to find a pokestop, and if you lived in the city it was common to run into other pokemon fans at a poke stop location, which made friendship building significantly easier! it's not modern technology itself that's bad, it's the way that it's being used by big companies to keep us depressed and endlessly doomscrolling. the 2016 pokemon go craze was a great example of technology helping to bring similar people together.
That's nice to hear Pokemon go brought a sense of community for you but in my experience beyond exercise and seeing historic places turned to pokestops and gyms the community was hollow. No one would talk to each other and if you tried people would be rude or brag. Even this passed week I saw tons of people playing Go Fest I guess and everyone was just looking at their phones. There was way more engagement back when on the Gameboys.
i remember not having a phone at the time and it was like being in a crowd of zombies who were just staring at their phones and running around in public, i couldn't even get my friends to listen to me speak
Pokemon GO wasn't really like that. In big cities, sure, but if you lived anywhere even remotely small you would only be catching rattatas and weedles, and you'd be lucky to see even one pokestop nearby. Gyms were entirely out of the question. If you use the app often enough, the microtransactions also start to creep up on you. I constantly found myself running out of balls.
As a 90s kid I can confirm, going to the Video store to rent something was a whole different kind of excitement compared to just binge watching Netflix alone at home. So much more anticipation, was even easier to pick something and no one really went alone. It was a whole family/friend activity.
We used to do this even for video games. Hitting the rental shop with friends to pick out a game we were going to play together along with a movie or two, a violent anime clearly meant for adults. Having a night fully covered, knowing we were also going to the mall tomorrow to meet the rest of the crew for the weekend...
Yup people stay inside because there’s sometimes just no other option. Like the only social place I can go to is the park and I’m usually not even allowed to go because “it’s too hot outside”.
Not exactly, parents still cared back in the day too, its not like all the teens were allowed to stay out all night and do whatever they wanted. Depends on the parents definitely.
@@toekid7179 Plus there is more awareness for the dark sides of humanity. It only takes one bad day for something traumatizing to happen. For ever smart and sensible teen who doesn't draw unwanted attention and going straight to where they need to go and back, there is another teen who parties with adults and is possibly abused, or a teen who does something stupid, causing them to not have control over their body for a time period, leading to similar or worse things. It's just too damn risky. And it's not even shady and fucked up adults that are the only worry, a lot of the time it's people their own age who are monsters in sheep's clothing. At every single party there is always that one dude or group of dudes looking to violate others. It may seem like it sucks, but it's just safer to stay inside. Plus, just because you don't go anywhere doesn't mean you can "go anywhere." Flat screen games, VR, and the internet in general connects us all, possibly deeper than face to face due to people feeling more comfortable being themselves with that barrier.
As a teenager in the 1980s, I made xeroxed zines with my girl friends and went to the record shop to give them away, hung out at the record shop, sat around with my friends listening to a whole album for the first time, rode my bike, hiked in the woods, slept over at my friend's houses, went to parties in kids' basements, hung out watching our guy friends skateboard, and danced past midnight at clubs (they would just stamp your hand to show you were underage and couldn't be served alcohol), went to Denny's in the wee hours, and on and on. It was honestly a great time.
My teen years were mid 80s to early 90s and you said something interesting.. watching your guy friends skateboard.. there were more gender differences yet less gender conflict back then. Most people were more comfortable in their skin in that sense. My perception anyway.
The reasons are: Social media, over protecting kids (not letting them out of the house to play independently with their friends), and people(including young people) being so divided on everything. We can barely handle others having a different view than ourselves we cut people off easily just to stay in our echo chambers. It’s sad.
Eh, the so-called division is mostly just online... people end up generally being not as bad in person (note I said "generally") because there's consequences for being a jerk when face to face
Someone who actually talks about overbearing parents... As a teenager myself in this generation, especially as a girl, NONE of my friends are allowed to play outside with me. Even if they are, they aren't allowed to play for over an hour. I'll be honest, I'm not feeling any loneliness (because I grew up with 0 friends and got used to the feeling.) It's just more frustrating and I can 100% see why people would feel lonely because of this.
@@multidebbie1 Yup, it’s gotten progressively worse too. Kids don’t even have sleepovers anymore. They don’t have 3rd spaces at all anymore. When I was a preteen and teen everyone in our school and surrounding schools got together at the mall. It was a huge social hub and no parental supervision. Our parents would drop us off and we would hang out for hours just socializing with each other, talking, shopping, eating, seeing movies etc. it was a great and formative experience, and it makes me sad kids don’t do this anymore. It’s how we learned to interact with each other.
I thought I was an introvert until I understood it's just my inability to comprehend actually going out and interacting with people. I wasnt introverted I was just starved of being with people.
Yep, I feel everything meant yo happen that's all about golden billiôes plan, desperation ppl then sharing and spreading the ideas of feminism then being soo independent then what gay and bedolifia I don't know if I wrote it right but what I'm trying to say it's they're making the problem so they can give us the ready to go solution.
I'm 26 but feel like a boomer when I complain about social media and people always looking at their phones, or how it's become "weird" to approach someone IRL (while somehow online dating is ALSO considered weird). But all throughout middle and high school I was addicted to the internet, maybe that's why I'm over it by now. TikTok irritates me so much. I'm glad I was born at the right time to still experience a world without much internet, though. I think the late 90's to early 2000's was a good balance. You could call each other easily, have just enough internet to look stuff up, and then do the rest IRL, which is what humans were meant to do.
26 and feel your pain bro i got internet trapped in high school also. Bro in college the professors would be mad confused why nobody was talking to each other…early 2000s was it, all the apps have messed things up and I legit feel bad for these screen kids/babies today. Atleast we got a sense of normal-hood
Late 90’s early 2000’s was a great time for that. For example, in the late 90’s I got dialup AOL at my house and loved spending time browsing the internet or meeting people in chat rooms. But there were no smart phones yet, so if I missed a day in class, I had to spend hours on the phone with my best friend taking dictation of the notes I had missed in class. These days you could text your friend for the notes, she texts you a few pics and doesn’t even have to say a word to you. So yeah, it was hella inconvenient, but you had a chance to socialize while you did all these really inconvenient things.
31 here; I feel like it's not impossible to have a social life, but the saturation of Blackpill content, the pandemic, and the ever decaying state of internet accessibility's cons overtaking the pros, have made just being a normal™ person so much more either undesirable, or so much more difficult to reach despite one's own desires and actions. It's gotten to the point where if I ask a whole room full of people to raise their hand if they are NOT currently suffering from some kind of mental illness, diagnosed or otherwise, that kneecaps them on the daily. I'll see less hands than a deep sea fish.
Yeah I really do feel like that was the time to be alive. Play some stupid flash games with your buddy and watch music videos then go and hang out at the skate park or wherever you feel like and meet others there. If you had a phone, you were texting or calling with it and that was about it. You weren't laying in bed and sitting on it as you endlessly scroll and whatever computer you had was probably the only one which meant you were going to sleep at a decent time and not playing games all night while talking to strangers on the internet. The most important interactions were all in real life while you still had access to online to search stuff up or just watch some funny cat videos. Not to mention the quality of life was the best it's ever been and 2008 didn't happen yet.
I find it so unsettling that we’re all aware how being lonely is ruining our lives, yet nobody does anything to make it better. the same people who say that they want to have friends and connections are the same people who push people away and never answer invitations or go to public spaces to hang out and talk with other people.
You can’t say “nobody does anything to make it better”. Lots of people do, you just haven’t found those friendship groups yet. Keep looking. Take up a community sport that involves going to a class where you have to actually meet people. Ask people about their day. Find out what you have in common. Ask if they’re doing anything over the weekend. If they’re not busy, invite them for a BBQ. If they’ve got something planned, ask if you can join. Don’t keep trying to connect with people who are stuck in the matrix. Find people who’ve already disconnected from it. Find people who live in the real world. You can do it ❤
@@dogzentraining It might just be me being dramatic, I was always the one who would initiate conversation and make plans with any of my peers. when I stopped trying to take initiative, I became pessimistic when all of my friends didnt care to text me or make plans with me in person. I see the same type of people who shut me out when I was just trying be the best person in a social setting complain about loneliness yet dont put an effort! I find it hypocritical thats all. for the most part I still stay outgoing and fun in public, nowadays I just dont talk to people outside of work and school. If anything people just need to grow some balls, stop having a cringe mindset and respect and hang out with people who are just trying to make the world a better place.
Nobody? I literally started going to a Bible study to talk to old people and make old people friends bc they're the only ones who still have old school knowledge and open for in person conversations! It's just, when the whole world is into something.. one person takes their head out, only to look over a sea of butts. Lonely either way unless more people TRY. not just typing it, but going OUTSIDE and engaging. A lot of people act like they don't want to be looked at or spoken to in real life.. esp in cities. People just complain and if you're not complaining then they don't fuck w you lol. It's so WEIRD
personally, if people invite me I always try to go, but if they don't do it I don't care, everyone seems so busy at my age(19), I'm just trying to respect that because the free time they have it's the only time for themselves
I remember when you would just go to your friends house and knock on the door. If they were home, they opened the door and let you in. They would offer you something to drink and eat. Now everyone wants to meet at restaurants.
I'm an 80s baby and started having kids in the early 2000s. This was the Era of helicopter parenting and kids' sports. No longer could I let my kids play in the front yard without having child services called on me. If we wanted our kids to play, parents had to schedule play dates. Kids no longer played outside. I remember waiting for my kids to get off the school bus and I would watch 100s of kids get off with them and think where are all these kids during the day? In today's world, I'm considered a weirdo because I enjoy walking over driving. People look at me like I'm homeless and avoid talking to me. It is a strange time we live in.
Where did you live at the time? Because I was born 1995, and most of my childhood memories are from the 2000s. My parents didn't helicopter parent me. Me and my brother had bikes, and my parents just let us roam around the neightborhood. We went to parks, friends' homes, and just hung out around our neighborhood with the local kids, much like kids of the past. This was in New Jersey, so can't speak for other places. My husband was born and raised in California, and I think he had a more isolated childhood. But idk if that was the norm for the area or not.
I was born in the late 70s. So I my childhood was really in the 80s. We got locked out of the house when the sun was up and came back before the street lights turned on. I was asking my son in law why my 13 year old granddaughter can't walk to a store 2 blocks away. He said things are more dangerous now. No, they are not! Every study says kidnappings and crime was worse when we were kids. You just hear about it more now. When a child is taken the whole state knows. Sometimes the entire world. Social media has destroyed us.
@@LynnyrdRavagecrime has actually been going down over the past several decades, but the perception of more crime has increased. Vox actually just did a great video on this; I recommend checking it out.
A big factor in this is urban planning and street design. American suburbs are often laid out with little to no consideration for pedestrians, especially nowadays. Houses can be clustered MILES from the nearest store, park or public facilities. It means the kid has to rely on mommy and daddy to take them anywhere until they're 16, when it's too late.
@Peter-mj6lz ofc there are different factors. Generally , even if city ppl are a bit different than village fellas, I feel like in big cities U still get a LOT more social interaction from ppl. Living in such an American suburb must suck so hard. Can't imagine being so caged and only have my legs and my hard working parents to rely on if I wanna go anywhere bruh
I live in a pretty pedestrian area (by US standards) and even here it's bad. There a few reasons, one being even in this pedestrian friendly area there still aren't many places where you could just "hang out" and bond over something, even club culture for example has died out over the past few years. Another reason is that there still isn't much incentive to go outside when you have the reward equivalent of a casino (social media) that you could stay inside interacting with all day. And this creates a feedback loop wherein less people hang with each other because there aren't enough people to hang out with and as a result less people go out to hang out But I agree though that suburbia compounds this effect tenfold
@@Peter-mj6lz UK villages were built before the invention of the car. Densely packed towns connected with roads. That makes a huge difference between USA sprawling suburbs connected with highways. This doesn't take into account the way economies are formed around these kinds of environments.
Whyyyyy isn’t anyone posting comments about how amazing the production script and editing of this video is??? Dude this is really really good. Congratulations and thank you for the content.
Honestly, I wonder what modern day Pokemon World teens would think of Ash? Like, season 1 is a bit of a 90s relic, Ash himself as a character is actually kind of unrecognisable by his last seasons, he used to be such a snob and eventually just became a more fittingly terminally outdoors kid. He cycles through a bff crew every few years he's making so many friends
@@lilpetz500 I just finished rewatching the Indigo League because I always thought their world was an idealized version of not having the internet - that still seemed accurate
The increase in loneliness is a combination of a lot of things: the rise of social media, the pandemic, increased introversion, urban planning and lack of access for those without a car, the lack of a sufficient "third place" outside of home and work/school, and a decrease in the number of Americans participating in civic/social/religious organizations. See the book "Bowling Alone" by Robert Putnam.
Could have socialized the singularity before it became a neoliberal technofascist dystopia but you decided on your apathy towards it all instead. Human beings sure are fascinating. My people like to refer to your types as "fleshmoids." 👽
@@Kim-Yo-jong Gee, I wonder why we're so divided these days. Could it be because of phrases like "my people" and "your types" and the intentional dehumanization of others with phrases like "fleshmoids"? Nah, couldn't be that. You're not the problem at all. It's everyone else.
There are third spaces, people just never go there and interact with each other. Bowling, golf ranges, skate rink, ice rink, arcade, dance club, libraries etc all still exist... You just don't use them
There's another aspect that's hard for gen Z to understand since it was gone by the mid 90s. In the 80s and prior, most stores were still small local run businesses, mom and pop stores that were owned and employed local people. They had an interest in serving the community and looking after employees as a bad reputation meant the store being ostracised by the community and closing. In the 90s giant corporations moved in and took over whole industries. Blockbuster is a great example, thousands of local videoshops disappeared as they couldn't compete, then when Blockbuster had no competition, they put prices up, employed kids with 0 customer service and ran a defacto monopoly. Now everyone is a nameless faceless arm of a national corporation.
My mental health and relationships genuinely have improved so much by just not using social media anymore and also having little chats with the service workers at the store or people next to me on the bus. Human connection like that, even when it is really small is so valuable
yes me too! i noticed that theo social media i only see people meeting up/hanging out w/o (which makes me feel left out) or very heated tense negative conversations that stress me out deleting all these apps has kept me focused and sane for the past two weeks ive deleted these apps, it was sooo worth it and theres nothing i miss about these apps lol
@@shineyvibess I hear ya. I used Instagram almost daily for a decade and now I’ve gone a year without using it I feel much better than when I was on it
Honestly, I'd love to see more spaces to just, talk about the harmless things we go on about on the Internet but in person. Think, classrooms but free/affordable, accessible, and not scolding people for just chatting. But that people attend specifically to socialise and maybe learn. For me, the main barrier is affordability. I can barely handle a lunch out every few weeks with close friends while still affording rent. If we have to pay each time to attend the space we maintain friendships at, it just isn't realistically accessible in this economy. And tell me, what free entry space is there where it's fun and safe to strike up a conversation with a stranger?
@@lilpetz500 Public libraries! My local library has events depending on the day of the week, lots of people gather there to socialize or attend these events and I’ve never once seen anyone shushed at that place. I never go to socialize there but when I’m looking for books I always feel a part of the community
I was born in 1985. I deleted all my social medias (except for UA-cam) 3 to 5 years ago. I don't use smartphones anymore, I'm using a dumbphone and I have to say it's eye opening on how human interactions went to shit. Even when I go to concerts or a bar, for a walk or on a hike, i'm seeing people glued to their screens. We are living in rly sad times. I would gladly go back to simplier times.
Even when doing fun outdoors activities like you mentioned, people have this need to film and take countless pictures. Almost missing the actual moment in an attempt to capture it forever.
I wish more people would do this! I'm 48 amd live in car culture,which is yuck,but it's very hard to get anyone to leave their homes. I'm really not into living online anymore and would rather hang out with my kid and my plants before I spend extra time on social media. I refuse.
@@FelipeV3444don't you dare to forget that mfs ALWAYS had a couple of one-pic cams on them back in the day. It's just that now it's all in one piece with radio, mail, wristwatches and all that stuff and called "a smarthphone"
@@Delilah-presnall today if you want to aproach people and start conversation then will tell you... Hey freak who are you... Get lost or I will call cops
Stay at home moms made neighborhoods safer and were a huge catalyst for socializing. My mom said the stay at home moms made the streets of suburbs safe because they would look after each others kids and look out for all of them not just their kids. Even in the 90s most of my friends moms were stay at home or worked half day. Running around the neighborhoods was safe because there was neighborhood watch, i.e, the moms. If you were in danger you could scream for help or run to the nearest house because someone was likely to be home. They would also keep the house guest ready, would organize events with other wives and were involved in planning community events and would have bring and shares. This also meant families in town knew each other well so parents trusted each other more.
Yeah, the murder of a stay at home parent greatly affected modern generations. We'll get to see the results once gen z has all grown up (all at least 30)
@@extremelyangrypisces255 I mean, kinda hard to be a stay at home parent when everything is so unbelievably expensive and both parents literally need to work to keep their family afloat. I think most moms would prefer to stay at home with their young children if they could afford to. Loneliness is caused by so many factors, it's not as easy as pinning it down on one thing. I wish it was, because then we could isolate that factor and attempt to demolish or change it for the better, but like the video said, there's money issues causing people to move away for better paying jobs, parents needing to work all day so they're sure as hell not going to be cool with their younger kids going outside by themselves with no one close by to keep them safe, social media being made intentionally addictive so kids don't have any reason to go outside and risk something as existentially terrifying as rejection, awkwardness, and abandonment, AI now being a thing so if kids want someone to vent to, they just type their issues into a chat box and wait for the amalgamation of all human knowledge to spew back exactly what they need to hear in a prerecorded voice. Convenience is a double-edged sword. Everything is so quick and easy now, and the pandemic ironically made everything "easier." Why leave home to go to your local McDonalds and meet with friends when you can instead get it delivered in minutes and scroll through TikTok for those few hours of dopamine. Besides, even if you do go to a restaurant, most of the bigger ones now have kiosks so you don't even need to talk to anyone, just click a few buttons on a screen and you're set. The only time you need to interact with an actual human is to bitch about something being wrong. Kind of the way it is online too. The longest threads I find on UA-cam or Reddit are not people getting along, it's people fighting a virtual war over the span of literal days until one of them gets banned for saying something fucked up because there's no real-life consequences to insulting or hurting someone anymore. Just make a new account, pretend to be someone new, and do it all over again. Strange times we're living in, man. Strange fucking times.
@@liamwade8537 you really ain’t wrong. But no wonder everyone feels nostalgia everyday - our brains weren’t designed for that kind of thing. Technology is great but we’re organic
Being born in 1999 doesn’t make you a 90s kid imo. It makes you more of an 00’s kid. I was born in 78, but I don’t consider myself a 70s kid. I consider myself an 80s kid cuz that’s when my formative childhood years took place. I was running around the neighborhood with friends and being hooligans. Love your vid and how spot on it is. Social media ruined everything once it could be done from the phone.
As someone that grew up in the 90`s this is pretty accurate. Now in my mid 30`s i have lost all my friends to "life", everyone is busy with their own things, work, family etc. I have no family of my own, and its really hard to make new friends as an adult, everyone is set or "busy". I started taking a night class just to get out of the house and see people, and while everyone in class gets along no one wants to hang out outside of the class. If you don`t have a girlfriend or partner or really good friends hanging on it sucks out here.
I hate having to schedule everything with my friend ( i'm a teenager) I also go to classes and go to track practice and talk to people but the friendships I make there, only exist there. :(
@@Daniela-lh7re I hear similar things from younger coworkers in their early 20`s. Everyone is on social media, but almost no one hangs out outside of like school/work or activities.
I feel what you wrote completely. I wish for a community of people I can belong to, do my thing, and support the community and do things together while everyone accepts and loves each other with no conditions.
Another thing you could have mentioned was that social media in the 2000s/early 2010s wasn’t built around turning a profit. The internet was still a wild west to many, and the intentions of social media platforms weren’t as malicious. Later, social media companies realized that pure engagement was much better than any sort of quality online experience, any they purposely made their platforms addictive. Now, sites like X and Tiktok prioritize content that catches your attention, whether it’s a simple funny video or a negative post that they know will get your attention. They don’t care about how you feel, they only care about how much you use their platforms. I think that’s why polarization and negativity are so lucrative to social media platforms, because they profit off of any engagement with their sites
@@rajabox336 Exactlyyy, before TV was the main medium for controversy and schemes to make a profit and before that radio and newspaper. Then it slowly shifted to internet and therefore smartphones which are arguably way more highly accessible than TV or any other entertainment media has ever been. Simple tricks like iPhone excluding non-iPhone users from groupchats, calling and texting being more difficult with different phone brands or providers and Social Media being pushed so hard to be mainstream have happened like very recently within the past 5-10 years. It’s been a quick change but it’s hard to catch when that’s possibly the era you grew up in, so you don’t know anything different.
America Online was built for profit😂 It was the first mainstream form of social media, we didn’t even create a word for that yet. Whether social media is built around turning a profit or businesses suddenly want to give away money instead of paying their employees doesn’t matter. Social media itself contributed to the loneliness epidemic
It’s crazy. Back then houses was smaller and people was more together. Now houses are bigger and people are lonely. Less cars back then and people socialized now more cars and interstates and people lonely
It doesn't help that people are so unfriendly and occupied in public. If you see someone outside and approach them they will ignore you or write you off. Or start running away where I'm from
I agree. Tbh I think there’s more people then we think who WANT TO be more friendly but sadly choose to conform. I’m one of those people. For me I’m scared of rejection.
I looked at a guy and he rushed to look at his phone instead. Let's go up to those people next time! social anxiety and overthinking can be broken by how we approach people :)
It's funny because even when you do walk to the grocery store, now there's automated self checkout and stores like amazon fresh that makes it so that you never have to even interact with the cashiers or employees
@@mannahhillstothefield It's the same for the one Michael's near where I live! It's crazy, I just walked into the store one day and I was like wait when did Michael's have self checkout??
@@nes96 of course - that’s a given unfortunately (as someone who has worked in customer service most of my life) but it would seem you’ve missed the point of the video .
Fr man just sucks how it is now. Like by how dangerous it can be by just walking outside of your house, being constantly told by a parent that even your ONLINE friends too could be secretly “kidnappers.”
No really tho. Some parents want their kids to go outside, because they don’t want them talking to a secret serial killer online, but when they do go outside, they might tell them that there’s serial killers out there waiting to get them. Which one is it 😭
@@erimator17To be fair I am autistic, I was very frequently taking to people I shouldn’t have been online but when I went outside I nearly got sex trafficked literally once a week
as a teenager it’s harder to make and maintain friendships like when i try to talk to someone and be their friend it’s either hella awkward or they act like ur a weirdo for trying to socialize. whenever i ask my friends to hang out it’s always “idk im rlly busy” (rlly busy scrolling on tiktok prolly) or “idk there’s no where to hang out” and none of them even try to follow up and put effort into meeting up so i’ve just stopped trying to make friends and hang out w current “friends” lol idk u can’t do anything without being considered “cringe” these days or getting shit talked ppl r MEAN ASF and desensitized
That is truly sad 😢. Our 15 year old son always tells us he doesn't have any close friends, and we're like how is that possible? He ONLY talks to one person - his girlfriend. This helps me understand it a little better. He also says, dudes only talk on Snapchat and not text. Is that true where you are?
As someone who struggles with mental and physical disabilities, I have spent the better part of the last 16 years alone. Once I went on disability and didn't see people at work anymore, things became pretty frightening. It went from not being able to go out to developing fears and anxiety about leaving the house. I am fine once I get out and about, as well as in my yard and home, but as soon as I know I have to go somewhere, I freeze and panic, and I get lead feet that don't want to leave. I was born at the end of the 70s, so entertaining myself was nothing new, plus I now had the internet. Isolation became a see-saw of fighting my illnesses and convincing myself I was just independent. I had always been independent, so it also made it easier to take care of myself and my home, until my physical issues flared, and I could barely walk. It comes and goes. That is when you find out who your real friends are. I know I had a few, but distant, and it turned out I had none that were local. I should say that I first started staying home all the time because I was poor and couldn't afford it, despite working a full-time job and graduating from college (the loans were bad, though). My fault because friends started not asking me to hang out anymore, and eventually never again. This hit my mental illness in a big way (cue up REM - Everybody Hurts and some metal songs that talk about S and SI and C) I also realized that when you get older, people don't care, they go right on livin' and the world keeps spinning. People have so much of their own crap on their plates, finding time to help you with yours is often too much. I get that. I've been on both sides. The pandemic came, and I lost my family in 2020. Parents passed and my brother's guilt and alcoholism made him decide (when I needed his help the most dealing with the estate) that I am no longer a part of his life. The past several years have been a blur. Losings friends to OD, losing pet's to old age and illnesses, trying to move out of crappy Ohio, but had no one to help me, so I couldn't. The pandemic isolation was exactly how I was living every day of my life. It was very interesting to watch people navigate not being able to go out or meet up with family. Struggling with the small things. For me, it was hard with my mom passing because she was right at the beginning of it. My dad told me she died in a text message, then, had her cremated before I could even see her one last time. When my dad died (neither died from Covid, btw), I couldn't have anyone in the room with me to help me decide when to remove the breathing machine. The only people I did have were a few friends my parents had from AA. I never felt more alone than the night I had to let him go. I did have the support of people I didn't know, and that was heartwarming and helpful, but cold at the same time. I will never forgive Facebook for existing and the fact I have had to find out a handful of people I have cared deeply about have died by randomly coming across their page or wondering what they were up to. I made sure I called every person in my parent's address book because that is what humans deserve. They at least deserve to know their friend died, from another human. Social etiquette has flown out the window since social media. The pandemic was a unique time. Typically, when someone dies, the focus is on them. All the family and loved ones gather. People are allowed to grieve together. This is our ritual. The pandemic? People were dying via video chat just so they could have a loved one with them when they passed! There was no grieving together, everyone stayed apart. There were no funerals, memorials, remembrance events, celebration of life. No one's grief mattered because so many other deaths were happening daily. I feel as if it never happened - my parents dying. I never saw, touched, smelled...they are still living 2 hours away in their house in my head. I really liked your video, and loneliness is just the tip of the iceberg. It would be great if you could do a few more focusing on different aspects of isolation and how it can affect humans mentally, physically, economically, socially, and so on. Thank you for sharing. It is late and am sorry for the huge comment. I hope it makes sense. There was so much more to add, but I didn't want to add a lot.
The problem with me though, is the fact that many of the kids my age at my school and church are SO rude, I can’t even talk to them without them being annoyed let alone try and MAKE friends. But I kinda expect that since most pre-teens/teens are socially immature but it just seems like just trying to talk to them makes them feel weird and they just stay with their groups
I feel this way too. I recently had to drop some of my friends from school because I realized just how rude they were and how I was starting to carry those same traits. They were putting people down who were genuinely nice people with maybe a few quirks, and then they even started putting me down aswell. It sucks because I really thought I might've found my people for once. I just hate how kids are these days, so angry and quick to judge.
the answer to your 90’s kid question is no. anyone born in the 90’s is a 90’s baby, but ONLY people who experienced a conscious childhood in the 90’s can be considered a 90’s kid. you have to at least remember the 90’s to be a 90’s kid.
Believe it or not, roller skating is still going strong all over the country. I skated in the'70's taught my kids to skate in the 80's-90's and my grand kid in the 2000s. We all skate! 3 generations of us! Is anybody else still skating?
I've tried roller skating but it's hard to really get into it when, go figure, there's nowhere to skate but the driveway. No sidewalks, no parks, and no rink nearby.
There is this HUGE trend that’s called *low effort friend*.This type of friend is someone you text with once per month and hang out with once or twice per year,but even though you guys interact with each other so little you guys are still good friends.I remember i made a post on reddit talking about how these type of friendships aren’t real and they are too shallow and that you are never too busy to call someone for 5 minutes per week(most people spent 3-4 hours daily on their phone ),but i got a ton of hate.They told me that people get “busy” and that i need to get a life of my own.
that is soo true. Most of my "friendships" are like that actually. We hang out once every few months, we have fun, but in the meantime we barely even talk
You underestimate how much time it takes to do that. It doesn't simply take 5 minutes, imagine you have multiple people to call in a day, it might just all boil down to a few hours of talking to everyone to update. Sometimes people want to spend alone time. Sometimes they're on their phone to interact about work or ease their mind by watching entertainment. Sometimes people grow apart because they're no longer on the same path, which is normal. Usually, people become close to people in their close proximity anyway, and because they're on the same path they just end up talking more to each other. That's just adult relationships tbh, unless you're in close proximity with each other.
I hate calling, I hate texting. My relationships are based on irl interaction. So yes, I have that type of relationship but not by choice tho. Just we're not studying the same things or what not. We do plan vacation together tho...
Some people used Friendster, but it was nowhere near as popular as MySpace. Oh, and then there was Google Circles. It's crazy, just how many social media platforms there used to be. It was hard to keep up then, and it's hard to keep up now.
That dumb farm game where you needed lots of friends to help you have a big successful farm. I had coworker brag about tier farm and ask me to tend it. I had to tell people I'm not interested in farm game.
I think his too young to remember MySpace Considering he was born in 1999 of December and MySpace popularity was from 2003 to 2008 or so Which would have made him 3 the earliest and 8-9 at his latest Because he did say his going off personal Memory So he wouldn't really know how the early 2000s were I remember using MSN messenger and using Kazaa Burning CDs and DVDS were big Music videos and being outside all day was still a thing Super Soakers were a big thing I remember the Yo-Yo craze I never felt lonely in the early 2000s I felt boredom at times and wanted to hang out with friends but never loneliness
Teen from the 1980’s here. Reagan did more than make people individualistic. The funds for public spaces went down. Our local handball court became a locked garden funded by local landlords as a “charity” but in reality it was to gentrify the neighborhood. Nobody wanted teens hanging out. We couldn’t even sit on stoops anymore without cops being called on us. All the electronics helped us stay in touch while the government forced us to stay inside. At least we had movie theaters, arcades, and dance clubs. But then the drinking age went from 18 to 21 so the dance clubs were out because they banned us. So teens have been policed into loniliness.
I was walking in my neighborhood and saw a no soliciting sign in front of a RESIDENCE and lots of “ there’s a camera” signs. Although I was just walking to the park and I know people just want to protect themselves it sort of made me feel some hostility. Like unwelcome in my own neighborhood…it’s so weird. Additionally I seemed to be the only person walking to the park. I don’t know, it’s just weird times
As a '69 baby...I feel you on the cusp of change. I appreciate the '60s but have no real knowledge of it. Having lived through all the decades you mentioned; I can tell you emphatically how much the world has changed since I was little. Playing outside was HUGE! Riding bikes, kickball, tag...I have great memories from those times. Oh! And roller rinks were amazing. On New Year's Eve, there would be an all night skate party for teenagers. We didn't worry about getting hurt or anything nefarious happening; it was well chaperoned. I can't imagine kids having that opportunity these days. Tech can be good and bad. I miss map books; but it is more convenient getting from point A to point B. I love information being at my fingertips; but I'm forgetting how to spell words. I wish your generation the absolute best going forward. Just please create some GOOD memories. Living an 'Insta' life is not a memory. It's fabricating a moment. There's no connection for your memory bank. Live well and take care. Kind regards.
as someone in his 20s, i see younger parents now being more carefree than previous, so i think there has been more of a change. and hoestly i dont think theres anything wrong with insta, its still going out and taking pictures for memory, its not like they are stuck there forever lol. its not fabricating a moment, because by that logic, even photos before insta could be considered fabricated , since we all pose for the picture dont we? whats the difference?
@@playversetv3877I think they mean like don’t like a life just for Insta. Some people will go out to places just for the pics. I’ve met and hung out with people like this. I’m in my 20s too. They are glued to their phones and only want to take pics to post them. Getting that “perfect pic”. A lot of influencers do this. Not everyone though
@@playversetv3877this is the difference. Pictures now are taken either to brag, be a thirst trap, or to follow a trend or to sum it up in other words… to seek attention. Pictures once were taken to capture these in person interactions with our family, friends and maybe someone you just met and will eventually be a good friend for years to come. How could any thing on social media compare to anything in those decades before us? It simply can’t when we don’t have the same interactions/lifestyle anymore: it’s sad to say but nothing will ever be the same.
Being born in the 2000s was messed up because for the first 8 years of your life you got a taste of the in person friendship from the 90s, then it all got ripped away from you in '08 and now you have to adjust to hanging out online.
I think the death of 3rd places like malls has contributed lot to this as well. I grew up in the 90s and 00s I remember that the mall was one place to be to meet up with friends when I entered my 20s and online shopping become increasingly popular the malls started to die out and 3rd places in general not many people go to movie theaters anymore but least concerts still seem to turn out decent amount of people.
True. There used to be places you could go and spend time with people without an admission cost. You "could" spend money at the mall, but you weren't required to.
Movie theaters cost a lot. I do still go but only when there is something there I really really want to see. I can go years without going. But once a movie comes out that interest me I go. I have changed as a person a lot so lots a of these movies don't even interest me.
Minecraft is a good example of our current generation's loneliness. Used to be fun with friends in the early 2010s and then ended up becoming empty. Now since COVID times, it has become less lonely with many of my old friends returning.
He looks so good for 60 years. Honestly it took so long for me to get my social life back on track, and the stupid edgy trends of being lonely are so idiotic. Stay safe and stay happy have fun. Never take your friends for granted ❤. I grew up with playing outside and inside Ealry 2000-2010s. I still call my friends and meet up. Obviously we're still "kids" by the people but our bonds are so strong. And can i be honest i still play outside go to parks and other things because im not ready to sacrifice my mental health for some stupid trends and i stopped watching short form content thats what helped me
These days, for adults to make new acquaintances and friendships you HAVE to join local clubs and societies. Your local theater 🎭, historical society, DBA, and others (every town is different), are happy to see new volunteers and members join. Totally worth it to boost confidence too. It really is a great way to feel connected to YOUR real community instead of online communities.
Meh idk. People still meet at parties and in public spaces. It's not like everybody is glued to their phone non stop. People do it a lot but it's also exaggerated. At least where I live...
I'm highly extroverted, so I often hang out with friends and connect with people easily. Despite being born in 2006, I still can't use Instagram (T^T) I used to (and still do) get teased for making connections so easily and being unwilling to stay at home, but as time progresses, I see people getting lonelier and lonelier, and people keep drifting apart. I kinda hate it. It annoys me when people tell me that they're lonely yet are unwilling to hang out with others. I hope everyone can start hanging out with each other more often, I miss being able to leave my home and see people walking on the sidewalks and children playing in parks. Thanks so much for this video, I really enjoyed it! I just wanted to leave a comment here so youtube recommends me more stuff like this haha (: don't mind my little rant (: have a great day!
I'm introvert but even I missed days when people were easier to hang out together. Now when you're trying to unite people they can't do some work with their time and prefer to not get out of their comfort zone and it's sucks! Now I just trying to think deeper about that problem, like what we can do or say, how we can manage time and etc. For now I think one of the solutions is actually talking about it straight, be more open about what's going on but it requires be more careful and searching for people who would listen
I love hanging out with people I already know, but the problem is I'm really shy so I have no idea how to make more connections and start friendships with strangers 😅
@@shamrous7368honestly bringing it up to people even if they might just brush it off is still good. Make people aware of the problem, while still being aware of how much they’re gonna tolerate listening too haha.
@DylynKay tysm, ❤️ I try and tell people what's true to the best of my knowledge, many outright deny what's true even when I prove that its something factual and true, the cognitive dissonance In some is concerning, amd stressful, so thanks ❤️
@hay_Z2021 You're very welcome. Some people are just too used to lies. The truth can be scary and stressful. I'm sure yall can meet in the middle. Be well, friend ❤️
We gotta bring out more awareness to how much we degraded socially. Social anxiety is just way more common, especially after the pandemic. Please, I just wanna my suburban neighborhood alive! 😭😩
It's not social anxiety, it's selfishness. I've seen lots of UA-camrs coming out saying they realized that some of their friends weren't actually their friends. Lots of people woke up to how crap this society is during the pandemic which caused people to lose trust in each other. Most of y'all don't know what real social anxiety is lol
No-one wants to hang out. I reach out to tens of "friends". They either decline or ghost, even though they say they'd like to hang out. I go out, and try to make new friends. I frequent the same places weekly, and try new places regularly. I do this for years. But no-one wants new friends. No-one wants friends, period. Almost no events occur. And they're mostly attended only by older generations. Work "friends" are afraid to leave their houses. They're afraid to talk to strangers. They don't know how to interact with people. Society has already collapsed. I try online socialization, even though I know it doesn't work. No surprise, it doesn't work, and just makes you go crazy. So I pay a stranger (a "therapist") to let me talk to him for an hour every few weeks. Because at least he will hang out with me -- no-one else will. The basic requirements of humanity no longer exist. No matter how hard you search or struggle, there is nothing. No-one cares about you, and no-one will ever want to be your friend in this Hell we have created for ourselves. No-one even knows how anymore.
Hi... you're right. The closest you can get to hanging out with "friends" is if you frequent by yourself the same clubs or bars or church for several months and only after several months do you suddenly know many people there, and when you go there, basically what you see is what you get, (in other words, who's there is there, and if someone "you know" isn't there today, they may or may not be there next time.)
Social media can be the worst thing that ever happened to humanity. Use it sparingly and try to go outside and do outdoors activities and meet new people. Also boomers didn't have to be on the internet 24/7 to look for jobs on LI and get rejected over 1k times in the good old days. Nowadays you need the Right connections to even get a minimum wage job. Life was easy back then.
Im saying, they say go outside, everything has a price, weather is cold, or too hot, all places tell u apply online, they dont reply, it gets demotivating, u wake up from auto pilot just to restart again, it sucks, i suck
@@IIIISai Yea, it's also hard to go outside (ppl cannot afford to spend money, time on gas/travel, food, rent as they don't have disposable income) At some pt, live off the land, break some minecraft rules. Applying online seems like an illusion, most online friends are leftys. Try networking at (more high class) gyms, apply in person.
@@DayrusBPB in terms of living off bounds, I think a cool greenhouse and shed could be nice, since alot of soil, air etc.. is polluted all around us, I did a deep dive into detox from parasites and proccessed food, and red spray all that jazz, water filters..so I like the idea off land, but I imagine it would feel isolating, not that a neighbourhood of indivisualistic people isnt already, could be interesting tho.. Yea my fair share online friends are left wing liberals but I avoid deep politcs with those, not with the more unfiltered, when you say network at high end gyms what does that look like, hopefully I get a chance at a job fair in 2 days, in person is my only option, online is sham
@@IIIISai gym means u be the problem solver and making friends and friendly convos with the gym goers. once u hang out with them a bunch, u can ask if they know anyone is hiring or offer your products and services, ask if any is interested to buy them. farm means u could look for farm hands/helper job, u learn the skills to rear animals and grow fruits n veg, pay is lower. sodium/soy detox will kill you, 40g sodium is lethal range.. fishing is how u mainly get your food, hunting small game with a rifle is another. trapping requires at least a dozen to catch 1 per day. idk where this will go but u gotta explore all your options and see what works for u.
@candy-gh2rh I moved a decent amount not alot when I was younger and thought the people I grew up with were gonna be my friend's guess I thought wrong I'm only cool with college classmates probably a few but I have a oval of people I talk to or a trapezoid that's it even new people I meet act funny
I remember when Facebook was cool and legit fun. Remember poking people? The algorithmic wall changed it and then it became flooded with ads and bots and now AI crap. The only reason I still use it is some friends and family are still there. I barely use any other social media. Like, Nextdoor is a bore, it's just boomers complaining about people who walked by their alley, and reports of theft to scare others. Instagram is a total snore too within 15 minutes or so, at least for me - I have never really understood its appeal. I got rid of Twitter long before it became "X". And I sometimes watch Tik Tok every few months but it's almost a chore to watch stuff on there now, and it quickly becomes a mix of frustration and boredom to stay on there for more than an hour, especially with all the ads and floating ads - it's nearly as bad as UA-cam sans Adblock or Premium. I think I might just delete Tik Tok anyway, since it's so cursed with trackers up the wazoo. The only things that suck me in for long stretches are Quora (less and less these days - such a shadow of its 2010s form); Medium (even though a lot of it now is low-effort content barfed out of ChatGPT and then edited ever so slightly, there's still some insightful writers there); and Reddit (because it isn't total shit - not even the godforsaken app - and most subreddits remain consistently really interesting). UA-cam absolutely has me by the cahones though - I got Premium even though I'm poor just because I got tired of all the ads on mobile and the ad-blockers that were once so reliable were not so good anymore (at least, not for UA-cam, they work everywhere else fine - for now, anyway, until Chrome kills all ad-blockers forever...then its back to Firefox all the dang time, yaay). It's bad enough I have to skip past creator sponsor ads in-video, I don't need more ads in my face. And I'm not likely to go to Nebula much. I have it, but it's just not the same without the comment section to engage with. Sure, I could watch there and comment with the corresponding video paused on UA-cam - assuming there is a corresponding video on this site - but nah, too much effort for me. The final straw was wanting to use UA-cam for videos with noise or music to sleep to. Many of those videos are ad-free, but not all, and like hell am I going to let myself get woken up by some stupid ads. Sure, there's sleep music/noise/stories on other apps - though usually they're paid too. And I could just sleep with a real fan or humidifier running for noise, but I'd rather not. (Right now in summer I'm playing UA-cam sleep music - most of it admittedly mid-effort AI-driven dreck - just to block out all the noise of 2 or 3 fans running, lol). And yes I did try some less-than-legal apps to replace the Premium ones - but they sure didn't last a hot minute before they were shut down. I don't have time for that crap now. (Yeah, I'm a lazy bitch, I know). So basically convenience won out. And what the heck, UA-camrs get more ad money from Premium users so...yay.
The ‘90s was, without a doubt, the BEST decade ever. The world orgasmed in that decade and then gradually declined into its eternal “rest” from the early ‘00s forward. 😅
The scary music playing along with the AI girlfriend is the most accurate representation of the dystopian times we live in I've seen so far. This is the first channel I've ever seen that I subbed to after one video.
I suggest you to watch Edyy Burback's Apple Vision Pro review. It describes the latest decade perfectly (it's called something like "Apple's 3499$ nightmare")
Its because its already a reality, and its only going to become more and more common. I speak from experience, and its horrifying. Most of my conversations aren't even with real people anymore. I want to go back, but people have changed too.
When I was a kid in the 80s, only you've to do is go around the playground and ask some kids: "What are you playing? Uh, can I join?" And we did a lot together. I remember I went to my oldest friend’s house and her teenage daughter came to us and told: "I've nothing to do. What did you do when you for fun?" I told her asked some friends and do whatever came to mind. When we told what are your friends are doing? She told me that they're staying at home. Sounded so depressing...
as a huge michael jackson fan, i really loved seeing the reference to his albums as the decades went on!! thanks for making this video, as a gen z teen, you gave me a wake up call to go out with all my friends more haha 😂 i have a really deep fascination for 90s-2000s culture, everything from the music to the fashion, and just life in general. its weird for me to think of a life without smartphones. i did see all my friends maybe 2 weeks ago though and we had a lot of fun talking for hours, so i think i'm doing okay
My experience as a child making friends in the 70's. Go outside. See where the other kids are at. Go play with them. My teenage experience of friendship in the 80's. Go outside. See who's porch everyone was hanging at on. Go there and hang out. lol
Now it goes something along the lines of: 1. Go out and see empty streets 2. Go search for people 3.1 Find out there's literally nobody outside and go home 3.2 Find someone, try to initiate a conversation, get called a weird and deal with cops coming your way for "disturbing the peace" by "freaking the people out"
@@BLET_55artem55 its relatable to me,because i feel like trying to make friends and stuff,but it seems like other people don't want to be with me for real.I don't know why,don't understand why.Even i understand people who wanna stay alone,because they understood its pointless.
Oh this would be so good to see more on. I've noticed that, but I wasn't sure if I had a heavy bias as someone with kind of terrible conditions as a teen. Like, adulthood isn't going great either for me, but it feels less on rails and more hopeful. It's due to things like an economic crisis and lingering issues from teenhood, rather than disappointment in my school, bullying, and my parents arbitrarily deciding on random limits (eg, always report my location, no driving to the city, even at like 20. Weird rules) My school uniform was even overly strict, more expensive than my regular outfits, AND was literally track pants and polo shirts. Nothing fancy or even nicely fitting. Like, do people who actually had cool, TV Show-like teen years disagree?
@@lilpetz500hmm nooo adulthood is better. I had great teen years. I had super strict parents but i also played instruments so i got to play a lot of cool shows and even party. But i was also extremely obnoxious back then much more level headed and pleasant to be around now. Also just the life experience
You forgot the part where, after getting too comfortable with convenience that you never go out; and then getting fed up with scrolling through social media and seeing people seemingly meeting up with friends and having a great time without you... you try to arrange things with those people and... "Yeah man we should meet. I'm pretty busy at the moment though." ...
Nature. Skatepark. Library. Volunteering. Sketching art in the street. Beach. Neighbours. Find a local coffee shop, get to know them by name and they know yours.
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k This is cope the problem isn't that people don't go out anymore it's that "going out" isn't fun anymore and more importantly "people" aren't fun anymore. Everyone is on edge and hates each other. It's gaslighting to pretend like this can be solved entirely on one's own. This is the same individualism poison that the video talked about and doesn't get at the root of the problem which is a lack of collectivist thought in favor of degeneracy and general social decay. All in the name of freedom and democracy.
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k All great ideas for sure. I guess what I'm missing is a deep connection and I find people unreliable and untrustworthy due to past bad experiences.
For me the pandemic was actually fire tho. Me and my friends started hanging out exclusively outside with masks after online school and would talk online too. We played board games for HOURS in the garden or on the porch and never got sick. We kept doing that till I moved away to Europe for a bit but the internet allowed us to talk all the time and we even got closer. I just arrived back in the US and we immediately planned so many activities like barbecues, sleepovers and just exploring around the neighborhood. We have a friend group of 7 people and are like the only non depressed people in our generation. Good luck to everyone else with friends and whatnot. IT’S STILL POSSIBLE!!!!
That sounds so awesome! Glad that your friend group came up with that, it clearly made your bonds stronger. I wish everyone else would be able to do the same and hang out more outside
As someone who was/is alive during those/these decades…I’m really impressed that you had all of those ‘props’ to illustrate the significance of each decade.
Sometimes I felt meaningless to strike a conversation with strangers, finding people with the same interest other than online friendship just to know it's only temporary, but I've learned the world is big there are plenty people you can talk to and even it's a short term connection we continue to life our lives. Make your interest as a social opportunity, for me I managed to fix my old camera and nowadays I just stroll around on cities/towns/landscape in my mid 20s, I've realized there are people who live they every day live without phones and just do what they do, walking on parks, being there for a person. Highly recommend to stop comparing your life with more socialable people while you feel lonely. Don't get overwhelmed by the sense of failure the only one judging you is yourself.
Cool video. I'm a young adult in Berlin, Germany and I live my life the same as people did 50 years ago and it's awesome. I have no phone. My friends know where to find me. It's slow living but it works.
It's not about social media. It's about human love. Too many times people have focused on other people forgetting they have someone who cares so much about them as well. Thus there is a lack of balance in all of the relationships. And that ruins humanity.
You know, I always cherish those moments in life. Those little wholesome interactions with strangers always brighten my day. There were times I would be just sitting down and a random person would start a conversation with me. I enjoy those moments.
As someone born Dec 31st, 1999, I HEAVILY relate to the "I'm technically a 90's kid" bit. First time seeing your channel, but man are you creative. Keep up the good work!
Coming from someone who's still a teenager in 2024, I am so happy that my parents actually looked out for my internet usage and encouraged me to go out to my neighbours or friends to play in 2014-2017... my few but important friends and I try to meet up maybe once a week. If we do, we aren't on our phones except for playing karaoke or who would rather games etc. Other than that, we just talk and laugh our asses off
As a 31 year old, I have been feeling it increasingly wholesome when I see kids just playing with anything that isn't an iPad at max volume. even if they're just running around and screaming and maybe making a mess At least some kids know what it's like to have fun in analog in this relentlessly digital age
@@viscountrainbows2857 I came across a video a few weeks ago of these young boys, 3 boys around the age of 9 and younger. They were all playing outside on their bikes. They found this massive muddy puddle and decided to create a ramp out of wood planks and a container that was lying around in the area. It was interesting to watch them problem solve and communicate with each other how to make this ramp from scratch and then watching each kid fly over the puddle on their bikes. There were no phones or anything, only the adult who was either an older sibling or a parent, I can't remember. They were having so much fun. It gave me whiplash to early 90s nostalgia of climbing trees with my friends and making mud cakes and pretending to be a baker or chef or creating a pillow fort in the lounge room.
@@viscountrainbows2857true, I'm a teen right now and it is rare to see teens without their devices. My screen time currently during the holidays is poor because I currently want to spend my time in loneliness. But during the previous winter holiday, my screen time went to 0 for four days because I was in a holiday camp and decided to not bring my phone with me. But there is still people in my country (Indonesia) that went out with their friends and brawl in the middle of the night, which is definitely worse compared to playing with our phones or ipads. I am one of a few people who is still stuck playing rubik's cube and spending a big load of cash on newer and better cubes and also going to competitions. In the competitions, all I did was competing and also tested different types of cube whilst also having fun. Rubik's cubes are quite rare nowadays.
@@tan89284I live in rural Colorado in a small town about 2k people and kids are still “free range” here. You can tell where all the kids are by the bikes out front of a house. They can go on adventures and be kids. I see em roaming with fishing poles. Some of the entrepreneurial kids will even forage wild berries and sell them. The kids always heckle me to rip wheelies on my motorcycle when I pass them. I will goto the small skate park and teach them bicycle tricks cuz I don’t have kids to pass down the tricks I’ve spent 20+ years mastering. When I teach a kid a bike trick: makes my whole month. It actually reminds me of my childhood in the late 80-90s. We went on bicycle adventures that felt like we traveled across the country. We built jumps and scraped our knees. We explored and caused mischief. We would legit dress up in military gear and had fake guns (that looked real AF) and we would play war with other kids. No a days you’d get shot. We didn’t have the internet. We used 2 way radios to talk to friends. We had arcades and my mom would give me and my bestie 20 bucks and leave us all day to play. We had lazer tag and many other things that don’t seem to be around any more.
I was born the year your video starts, 1974. I know, I am getting old ;-) The progression you show pretty much nailed it, with humour and insight. Well done. I am somewhat relieved that the younger generation is starting to turn its back to social media and trying to meet more in the real world. Believe me: when you're older, you won't remember scrolling on your phone, you'll remember all the epic times you had partying and hanging out with your friends. It is getting harder by the year to maintain friendships, so an effort is needed. /A Dane
The 2000s and early twenty tens were peak. 🤷🏻♀️ We had Clone Wars, Avatar, Nickelodeon, nobody had to be nice in voice chat. Life was better even though technology had not caught up yet.
@@anamentus8162because you're forced to. I liked being nice because it was MY CHOICE, it added personality, helped me stand out, be quirky and unique. Now I had to switch to more "mad yapper" type of persona because everyone is so squicky slicky nice and polite. I hate modern ultatolerance culture
Loneliness would probably be worse in the past, because theres always been people who slipped through the cracks and since we weren't as interconnected, they just…fell off the face of the earth. Instead of having things like therapy you’d just be seen as crazy and weird and ignored. You still do now but at least some people care or pretend to. We’re just getting more reports of it now because some people are willing to say it.
Yea, this video really suffers from that boomer mentality, of technology = loneliness. Pretty ignorant. Ignoraes how culture can drive loneliness, and the lack of respect.
people have always been lonely but now human interaction is no longer as needed for survival, you can go out and even try to talk to people, and they seem disconected from each other, in a way we are not interconected within our real spaces, if you like on a building, do you know your neighbours?
It's funny though... I go out to eat specifically because I'm so lonely and it's really nice to see people's faces. Although they probably get sick of seeing my awkward depressed face
I was born in 1970. When I was a kid we were always outside. That’s how we met other kids. We weren’t inside watching TV. And we rode our bikes or walked everywhere. Kids don’t do that now.
Being born in 2007, that’s something I wish I could do tbh. But nowadays, neighborhoods and suburban areas in general aren’t built with that in mind anymore and I think it’s kinda sad. My grandma’s neighborhood is older than the one I live in currently, and it’s real nice, with a church in walking distance and a basketball court also in walking distance to hang out at. But in my neighborhood, you would have to drive to the park since it was so far, and I believe we don’t even have a park anymore. And the neighborhood I live in is very confusing to navigate and is just a maze of houses (thanks Texas).
They aren't allowed to. Fear and over-parenting has put everyone in the house and is crippling the younger generation from being able to be responsible and independent when things are probably safer now because there are cameras everywhere and everyone has a phone. Imagine being 10 years old on your bike in the 70's a mile away from home with your parents not even knowing where you were, no one has a phone, there are no camera's vs now where if anything happens to you, there are 20 cameras pointing at you and 10 people around you with a cell phone, and you probably have one yourself.
@@sonjaevans3858 oh yeah, we were all over that town on foot or on our bikes. Clear crosstown sometimes. But that’s just how it was back then. A different time. I’m glad I grew up then. I would not want to be a kid now.
in the early 2000s and beyond, i could never maintain a large group of friends, and because of this, i missed out on a lot of experiences that i’ll never be able to do. i was the lonely kid, but i was okay with that. now, i turn twenty this year and i’ve never felt lonelier. leaving the house is a monetary cost due to the loss of third spaces. my friends and boyfriend live so far, and i haven’t seen a child go outside in my town in months. it’s incredibly saddening, and i’m afraid it’s never going to change. i just want to exist with people. why is that so difficult now?
Im 20 and been isolated in my house, my room the past 3 years, this life isnt worth it, i never had a job, im the black sheep, im looked down upon, unlike anime chars irl your looks match your habits, so yea.. but I need to get a job, that is NECESSARY to change
Absolutely same. I was never hanging out in large groups, only 2-3 people at a time, that was perfectly enough for me. But as the time went on, I lost connection with those people, and never got the chance to find new friends. The last time I hanged out with someone was in 2021. And I feel like crap.
I hope you guys find your social circle. I’m lucky to still have friend groups from hs and uni but what helped me was finding people with similar hobbies of mine(motocross, cars, video games) and initiate hangouts. I found most people don’t want to the be the first to ask but if you do everyone will greatly appreciate it!
Alternate Title: “Gen Z tries to understand how life was like before the 2000s”
But for real though, I had a lot of fun with this one. I hope you guys have just as much fun watching🙏🏾
Bro i grew up in the same time but i am younger than you , honestly being lonely is terrible for mental health.
Take care ❤.
I don't think that home conveniences and entertainment are making us lonely, but they help fill the void where other factors cause us to not interract with others.
I'm pretty much housebound due to misophonia and home convenience and entertainment just help fill time and distract me from my pain. Though this doesn't explain loneliness in other people, which I think may be the decline of the 3rd space.
It would be good to look at lonliness in the 11% of people in the 70s. It would be interesting to know what could make someone feel lonely in such a time and maybe it'll help us today.
Plz go out and vote.
It's so weird I was born in 2010 but everything he's saying in the 70's I've been doing in 2010-2024
@@jareedrblx24 depends on your society and where you live bro. Im so thankful to have lived a normal childhood.
“The decade just started” and then you realize 2024 is almost halfway through the decade but the first few years feel like they didn’t count.
welcome to 2043 !
good point
Screw you covid
@@straytonox1492no please stop 😭
2020-2022 didn't exist so this decade so it's only 2 yrs into the decade 😂
Mad respect for taking 50 years to make this video ✊
Anything for you guys lol
@@TyrekeSyou look young for a 70 something year old
😂😂
@@TyrekeSngl I think this video gave me depression lol
Inventing time travel and everything
I decided to break my internet addiction by learning to skateboard and going for more walks, but all I realized is that no matter how long I was outside or where I went, there were no other people outside unless they were in a car.
That's when I realized I'm not as addicted to the internet as I thought I was, it's just that the internet (online games, streaming video, streaming music, ordering things) is the only thing to do now...
im proud of you for trying! eventually more people are going to do the same as you :) itll just take time. it is also heavily dependent on the world around us unfortunately, but i have hope that things will grow to encourage human interaction again
@@Minecraftgrl26 that means a lot😭
I hope our economic makes up for tht. Cus there r ppl who r caving that in person connect but thous places aren’t that common
True it feels weird being outside now and especially since there aren’t many people out anymore
Evovle bro 💀
I feel like another thing that should have been mentioned is that American roads aren't built for people anymore. They're built for cars, in many neighborhoods even if a store isn't too far away there would be no safe way to walk to it.
Fantastic point, thanks for sharing it
Crossing the road where I live to the nearest store means possibly getting hit cause the traffick there is badddddd fam 😭
@@San-li9mli did not expect that “so i Will”!😂
Dude I was born in Hawaii where it was safe for kids to run & play on most side roads. When I moved to Texas in 6th grade I almost immediately got depression because it's basically house arrest AND 100 degrees so even the backyard sucked. Car culture is the worst
@@San-li9ml yo nice pfp, mcrmy for life :3
Early 2000’s was the perfect amount of technology, now it’s gone overboard.. anyone else feel that way?
Yes, technology has damaged most of the world, esp for the younger generations.
High school in the 90s for me, we only had two computers.
yup 90s and 00s
100% agree!!!
Agreed
100% with ya
Prior to the pandemic I thought i was a perfectly content introvert, and I learned the hard way how wrong I was. Nothing can replace person to person interaction. It isn’t just seeing. It’s a full on sensory experience. There are biochemical things going on that we don’t even have power over. It got to a point to where i ditched social media, and told my friends to please send voice memos instead of text so i could hear their voices. It’s so vital. We are social animals.
Yess!! Voice memos are the best thing
Something about covid kind of broke me as an introvert, too. I thought it was perfectly fine having most people never bother me.
But seeing people be so distant and even tribalistic over things like politics, vaccines, wearing masks, social distancing, kids having to use zoom for school, people losing their jobs over political affiliation and covid related issues, all that nonsense...
It was just the opposite of what society needed. Even now it feels like a mass psychological wound has been left on society.
After the pandemic ended I went back to Church for the first time in a few years. Was the best decision ever.
I think introvert memes go on a scale from just regular introverted things to social anxiety and/or bitterness and social burnout (if I may word it that way) and many people online generally don't differentiate between these.
I'm extroverted but I do have introverted and extroverted phases so to say, so I do relate to introvert memes. And the ones I don't relate to I think are the ones that are sliding toward social anxiety and bitterness. I do experience my own personal blend of social anxiety, but I suppose my extroversion changes my social anxiety experiences. I never saw being extremely uncomfortable making a call and trying to actively avoid people as just an introverted thing. Cause with how I have my phases, when I have an introverted phase, it's all about just being fine with being alone and enjoying my solo activities. For some reason I don't crave the energy that my extroverted core gets from social interactions. But I don't hate people, I'm not scared of people, I'm not bothered by people, etc. Those memes that go toward these extremes - I experience that when I'm dysregulated, in a depressive mood/state, in an anxious state, I don't relate it to the introversion I experience at all. Those memes imho are about depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, social burnout maybe, things like that, because I experience them in both my introverted and extroverted phases and never relate them to introversion.
I think healthy intriverts simply are more aware of how things affect them, what they need and like and how to balance getting it without getting burned out and worn out, and have managed to have a system to regulate things and an environment that is good for them. They're not dreading calls, they're not dreading meetings, they just know they have a lower threshhold for these stuff so they have to manage them differently from extroverts. Introverts can be very outgoing too, they just need to be aware of their capacity and how to recharge and when to recharge.
That's my opinion anyway.
I think introvert memes go on a scale from just regular introverted things to social anxiety and/or bitterness and social burnout (if I may word it that way) and many people online generally don't differentiate between these.
I'm extroverted but I do have introverted and extroverted phases so to say, so I do relate to introvert memes. And the ones I don't relate to I think are the ones that are sliding toward social anxiety and bitterness. I do experience my own personal blend of social anxiety, but I suppose my extroversion changes my social anxiety experiences. I never saw being extremely uncomfortable making a call and trying to actively avoid people as just an introverted thing. Cause with how I have my phases, when I have an introverted phase, it's all about just being fine with being alone and enjoying my solo activities. For some reason I don't crave the energy that my extroverted core gets from social interactions. But I don't hate people, I'm not scared of people, I'm not bothered by people, etc. Those memes that go toward these extremes - I experience that when I'm dysregulated, in a depressive mood/state, in an anxious state, I don't relate it to the introversion I experience at all. Those memes imho are about depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, social burnout maybe, things like that, because I experience them in both my introverted and extroverted phases and never relate them to introversion.
I think healthy intriverts simply are more aware of how things affect them, what they need and like and how to balance getting it without getting burned out and worn out, and have managed to have a system to regulate things and an environment that is good for them. They're not dreading calls, they're not dreading meetings, they just know they have a lower threshhold for these stuff so they have to manage them differently from extroverts. Introverts can be very outgoing too, they just need to be aware of their capacity and how to recharge and when to recharge.
That's my opinion anyway.
That being sad, the way people talk about covid makes me realize how my situation was affecting me before covid. Because despite me being an extrovert the isolation in covid was not that big of a deal for me. Actually I was pissed I couldn't be alone the way I wanted to. I was too busy with the problems I already had before covid to notice how the covid specific social isolation was affecting me, if it even was at all, I was already isolating myself without neaning to bcs that was just my flow.
And the way people talk about how difficult covid times were honestly, and still to this day, makes me angry. Cause usually I'm told that everyone goes through what I go through and, although people say it with kindness and care and word it nicely, that I have to just push through cause there's no other way. But I always had this understanding in my head that nothing I go through is difficult, I'm just a fussy person and a weak and spoiled person. And my perception of covid times was just meh. Slightly more difficult than the already barely difficult times prior. And then people talk about it like with so much grace and understanding and compassion and like it was this big deal and we make excuses for each other because "it was during covid, we all had it hard during covid, we understand". I'M SORRY, WHAT? It felt to me, and still feels to me, that it was so frgn minor and people are talking about it like we all went to war or like we all had to work 3 jobs for that time period to take care of our sick child on the verge of death. It felt so disproportionate to me. But people kept talking about it that way. It keeps getting portrayed that way. And it makes me feel I had a wrong perception and interpretation all along. The stuff I thought were minor - were they not minor? Was I going through a hard time all along but didn't realize? People who I thought were strong - were they weak just like me all along? Were they all weak like me? And I thought it was just me? Cause look at how whiny everyone is and I thought it was just me.
yeh a lot of people arent actually true introverts it seems lol
I love how the outfits get progressively less confident and more depressing each decade
As a Gen Xer who has been through most of these decades, they are not even reflective of how people really dressed in those time periods. These are mostly fringe fads being shown but younger generations who weren't there will think everyone was running around looking like this. Like the looks for the 80's in this video would have gotten you laughed at.
@@sonjaevans3858 Xennial here, and yes, the fashions depicted in these videos were the ones you saw on music videos and TV shows.
That was the only context in which they were considered "cool".
Nobody actually wore that stuff in everyday life.
More like childish. Today, grown men look like toddlers with the way they dress. And, they also started to look like women. Wearing cartoon characters, purses, colored hair, piercings and collecting dolls.
No
@@sonjaevans3858 That's true, especially with the 80s one, but for the most part it conveyed the "style" of each decade pretty well
I’ve always wanted to experience an all girls sleepover, going to the movies with friends, going to the mall with friends, hanging out at the amusement park , playing games like just dance or the Wii together, having a picnic with friends ect. I hope to have friends to do this with one day
Same..
But the thing is, whenever we do hangout, nobody talks face to face or enjoys, they're just constantly on their phones
This makes me so incredibly sad. I’m so glad you recognize wanting it, and I’m sure with enough confidence you’ll find the girls who want that too!!
@@eeeeee1839 just tell em
@@abuqadr629 ur right, I need to confront them when this stuff happens
@@eeeeee1839 ye I mean they are yo friends so I assume I can just talk to em bout letting the phones in the pants while U enjoying your time together. As long as they're no total addicts that aren't able to feel pleasure in normal life anymore, they will feel how good it is, to take a break and enjoy quality time with friends
the pokemon go craze in 2016 was truly the best of both modern technology and outdoor activity. people were leaving their houses, going to places they've never been just to find a pokestop, and if you lived in the city it was common to run into other pokemon fans at a poke stop location, which made friendship building significantly easier! it's not modern technology itself that's bad, it's the way that it's being used by big companies to keep us depressed and endlessly doomscrolling. the 2016 pokemon go craze was a great example of technology helping to bring similar people together.
And ironically the same boomers who are now complaining that kids don’t go outside anymore were complaining about all the kids outside
That's nice to hear Pokemon go brought a sense of community for you but in my experience beyond exercise and seeing historic places turned to pokestops and gyms the community was hollow.
No one would talk to each other and if you tried people would be rude or brag.
Even this passed week I saw tons of people playing Go Fest I guess and everyone was just looking at their phones. There was way more engagement back when on the Gameboys.
i remember not having a phone at the time and it was like being in a crowd of zombies who were just staring at their phones and running around in public, i couldn't even get my friends to listen to me speak
I saw a kid almost get hit by a bus because of this game.
Pokemon GO wasn't really like that. In big cities, sure, but if you lived anywhere even remotely small you would only be catching rattatas and weedles, and you'd be lucky to see even one pokestop nearby. Gyms were entirely out of the question.
If you use the app often enough, the microtransactions also start to creep up on you. I constantly found myself running out of balls.
As a 90s kid I can confirm, going to the Video store to rent something was a whole different kind of excitement compared to just binge watching Netflix alone at home. So much more anticipation, was even easier to pick something and no one really went alone. It was a whole family/friend activity.
We used to do this even for video games. Hitting the rental shop with friends to pick out a game we were going to play together along with a movie or two, a violent anime clearly meant for adults. Having a night fully covered, knowing we were also going to the mall tomorrow to meet the rest of the crew for the weekend...
Right?? I think that's probably the part of the 90s I miss the most
I wish I could experience that
blockbuster?
However when we picked a bad movie it wasn’t like we could just click off of it. I don’t miss that part!
This is because teens aren't allowed to go wherever they want whenever they want and so they have minimal social interaction
I’m like 17 turning 18 and my mom still acts like a helicopter parent
Not to mention the decrease of public areas for people to meet and hangout over time it’s kinda sad to see
Yup people stay inside because there’s sometimes just no other option. Like the only social place I can go to is the park and I’m usually not even allowed to go because “it’s too hot outside”.
Not exactly, parents still cared back in the day too, its not like all the teens were allowed to stay out all night and do whatever they wanted. Depends on the parents definitely.
@@toekid7179 Plus there is more awareness for the dark sides of humanity. It only takes one bad day for something traumatizing to happen. For ever smart and sensible teen who doesn't draw unwanted attention and going straight to where they need to go and back, there is another teen who parties with adults and is possibly abused, or a teen who does something stupid, causing them to not have control over their body for a time period, leading to similar or worse things. It's just too damn risky. And it's not even shady and fucked up adults that are the only worry, a lot of the time it's people their own age who are monsters in sheep's clothing. At every single party there is always that one dude or group of dudes looking to violate others. It may seem like it sucks, but it's just safer to stay inside. Plus, just because you don't go anywhere doesn't mean you can "go anywhere." Flat screen games, VR, and the internet in general connects us all, possibly deeper than face to face due to people feeling more comfortable being themselves with that barrier.
As a teenager in the 1980s, I made xeroxed zines with my girl friends and went to the record shop to give them away, hung out at the record shop, sat around with my friends listening to a whole album for the first time, rode my bike, hiked in the woods, slept over at my friend's houses, went to parties in kids' basements, hung out watching our guy friends skateboard, and danced past midnight at clubs (they would just stamp your hand to show you were underage and couldn't be served alcohol), went to Denny's in the wee hours, and on and on. It was honestly a great time.
I regret being born in 1996 and not have been able to have experienced what you said. I yearn for it.
that was what i hoped my teen years were gonna be so much had changed by the time i was a teen in the early 00's
My teen years were mid 80s to early 90s and you said something interesting.. watching your guy friends skateboard.. there were more gender differences yet less gender conflict back then. Most people were more comfortable in their skin in that sense. My perception anyway.
By any chance was this in or around the Ohio area??... Like Dayton specifically?!...
@@amitabhhajela681I agree
Not to mention the no loitering laws that sprung up in the 90s and 2000s to keep teenagers from hanging in places like restaurants or malls
They had parks to hang out in though.
@@KarmikChannelshey, but that’s no fun
Yeah. There's literally no place for teens to go independantly now. They're not allowed.
They can come to the library! At least here In Las Vegas we have designated teens zones only. A safe place for teens to come and hang out.
@@desireechoate7583Teens wanna hang out and do drugs and other shenanigans.
The reasons are: Social media, over protecting kids (not letting them out of the house to play independently with their friends), and people(including young people) being so divided on everything. We can barely handle others having a different view than ourselves we cut people off easily just to stay in our echo chambers. It’s sad.
Yeeeh😊
And tiktok is so toxic in our gen
Eh, the so-called division is mostly just online... people end up generally being not as bad in person (note I said "generally") because there's consequences for being a jerk when face to face
Someone who actually talks about overbearing parents... As a teenager myself in this generation, especially as a girl, NONE of my friends are allowed to play outside with me. Even if they are, they aren't allowed to play for over an hour. I'll be honest, I'm not feeling any loneliness (because I grew up with 0 friends and got used to the feeling.) It's just more frustrating and I can 100% see why people would feel lonely because of this.
@@multidebbie1 Yup, it’s gotten progressively worse too. Kids don’t even have sleepovers anymore. They don’t have 3rd spaces at all anymore. When I was a preteen and teen everyone in our school and surrounding schools got together at the mall. It was a huge social hub and no parental supervision. Our parents would drop us off and we would hang out for hours just socializing with each other, talking, shopping, eating, seeing movies etc. it was a great and formative experience, and it makes me sad kids don’t do this anymore. It’s how we learned to interact with each other.
I thought I was an introvert until I understood it's just my inability to comprehend actually going out and interacting with people. I wasnt introverted I was just starved of being with people.
REAL!
Yep, I feel everything meant yo happen that's all about golden billiôes plan, desperation ppl then sharing and spreading the ideas of feminism then being soo independent then what gay and bedolifia I don't know if I wrote it right but what I'm trying to say it's they're making the problem so they can give us the ready to go solution.
The vast majority of introverts aren't real, just content addicts
I'm 26 but feel like a boomer when I complain about social media and people always looking at their phones, or how it's become "weird" to approach someone IRL (while somehow online dating is ALSO considered weird). But all throughout middle and high school I was addicted to the internet, maybe that's why I'm over it by now. TikTok irritates me so much. I'm glad I was born at the right time to still experience a world without much internet, though. I think the late 90's to early 2000's was a good balance. You could call each other easily, have just enough internet to look stuff up, and then do the rest IRL, which is what humans were meant to do.
26 and feel your pain bro i got internet trapped in high school also. Bro in college the professors would be mad confused why nobody was talking to each other…early 2000s was it, all the apps have messed things up and I legit feel bad for these screen kids/babies today. Atleast we got a sense of normal-hood
I agree with you! I’m 23 and feel so weird in this generation sometimes bc social media just isn’t that important to me
Late 90’s early 2000’s was a great time for that. For example, in the late 90’s I got dialup AOL at my house and loved spending time browsing the internet or meeting people in chat rooms. But there were no smart phones yet, so if I missed a day in class, I had to spend hours on the phone with my best friend taking dictation of the notes I had missed in class. These days you could text your friend for the notes, she texts you a few pics and doesn’t even have to say a word to you. So yeah, it was hella inconvenient, but you had a chance to socialize while you did all these really inconvenient things.
31 here; I feel like it's not impossible to have a social life, but the saturation of Blackpill content, the pandemic, and the ever decaying state of internet accessibility's cons overtaking the pros, have made just being a normal™ person so much more either undesirable, or so much more difficult to reach despite one's own desires and actions. It's gotten to the point where if I ask a whole room full of people to raise their hand if they are NOT currently suffering from some kind of mental illness, diagnosed or otherwise, that kneecaps them on the daily. I'll see less hands than a deep sea fish.
Yeah I really do feel like that was the time to be alive. Play some stupid flash games with your buddy and watch music videos then go and hang out at the skate park or wherever you feel like and meet others there. If you had a phone, you were texting or calling with it and that was about it. You weren't laying in bed and sitting on it as you endlessly scroll and whatever computer you had was probably the only one which meant you were going to sleep at a decent time and not playing games all night while talking to strangers on the internet. The most important interactions were all in real life while you still had access to online to search stuff up or just watch some funny cat videos. Not to mention the quality of life was the best it's ever been and 2008 didn't happen yet.
I find it so unsettling that we’re all aware how being lonely is ruining our lives, yet nobody does anything to make it better. the same people who say that they want to have friends and connections are the same people who push people away and never answer invitations or go to public spaces to hang out and talk with other people.
You can’t say “nobody does anything to make it better”. Lots of people do, you just haven’t found those friendship groups yet. Keep looking. Take up a community sport that involves going to a class where you have to actually meet people. Ask people about their day. Find out what you have in common. Ask if they’re doing anything over the weekend. If they’re not busy, invite them for a BBQ. If they’ve got something planned, ask if you can join. Don’t keep trying to connect with people who are stuck in the matrix. Find people who’ve already disconnected from it. Find people who live in the real world. You can do it ❤
@@dogzentraining It might just be me being dramatic, I was always the one who would initiate conversation and make plans with any of my peers. when I stopped trying to take initiative, I became pessimistic when all of my friends didnt care to text me or make plans with me in person. I see the same type of people who shut me out when I was just trying be the best person in a social setting complain about loneliness yet dont put an effort! I find it hypocritical thats all. for the most part I still stay outgoing and fun in public, nowadays I just dont talk to people outside of work and school. If anything people just need to grow some balls, stop having a cringe mindset and respect and hang out with people who are just trying to make the world a better place.
Nobody? I literally started going to a Bible study to talk to old people and make old people friends bc they're the only ones who still have old school knowledge and open for in person conversations!
It's just, when the whole world is into something.. one person takes their head out, only to look over a sea of butts.
Lonely either way unless more people TRY. not just typing it, but going OUTSIDE and engaging.
A lot of people act like they don't want to be looked at or spoken to in real life.. esp in cities.
People just complain and if you're not complaining then they don't fuck w you lol.
It's so WEIRD
personally, if people invite me I always try to go, but if they don't do it I don't care, everyone seems so busy at my age(19), I'm just trying to respect that because the free time they have it's the only time for themselves
@izzy006 they arent busy, they just dont want to hangout with you.
I remember when you would just go to your friends house and knock on the door. If they were home, they opened the door and let you in. They would offer you something to drink and eat. Now everyone wants to meet at restaurants.
I'm an 80s baby and started having kids in the early 2000s. This was the Era of helicopter parenting and kids' sports. No longer could I let my kids play in the front yard without having child services called on me. If we wanted our kids to play, parents had to schedule play dates. Kids no longer played outside. I remember waiting for my kids to get off the school bus and I would watch 100s of kids get off with them and think where are all these kids during the day? In today's world, I'm considered a weirdo because I enjoy walking over driving. People look at me like I'm homeless and avoid talking to me. It is a strange time we live in.
A lot of people are lost 😔
Where did you live at the time? Because I was born 1995, and most of my childhood memories are from the 2000s. My parents didn't helicopter parent me. Me and my brother had bikes, and my parents just let us roam around the neightborhood. We went to parks, friends' homes, and just hung out around our neighborhood with the local kids, much like kids of the past. This was in New Jersey, so can't speak for other places. My husband was born and raised in California, and I think he had a more isolated childhood. But idk if that was the norm for the area or not.
I ride the bus or walk and people think I’m weird.
I was born in the late 70s. So I my childhood was really in the 80s. We got locked out of the house when the sun was up and came back before the street lights turned on. I was asking my son in law why my 13 year old granddaughter can't walk to a store 2 blocks away. He said things are more dangerous now. No, they are not! Every study says kidnappings and crime was worse when we were kids. You just hear about it more now. When a child is taken the whole state knows. Sometimes the entire world. Social media has destroyed us.
I desperately want out of this time, I'm only 18 and I can't stand seeing the world slowly getting more isolated and digital, it scares me :(
The perception of crime is also significantly higher. Children don’t go outside to play with friends due to perceived and actual threats.
Yep, even though crime has been going down
@@AmaraEmmewhere did u get that from lol crime has either remained stagnant or inceeased
@@LynnyrdRavagecrime has actually been going down over the past several decades, but the perception of more crime has increased. Vox actually just did a great video on this; I recommend checking it out.
Its a big factor,paranoia in people has increased alot,even me myself i suppose
@@LynnyrdRavage In proportion to the population?
I'm Canadian:
-go outside, Hobos everywhere
-Go somewhere, can't spend money due to housing
-Make plans; everyone and I have to work
Plus everyone I know lives like an hour away
You forgot the part in the '70s section where half of the guy's friends got shipped off to Vietnam and never came home.
Deep, but true. Teens were the ones who de armed the mines, not the older soldiers 🔥💥🕊️
That happened to my grandpa but he survived and came back well, only thing is his hearing is bad because of it so he got hearing aids now😢
@@ToyboxWarriorunfortunate sons 😈 (rip)
By 1974 the draft was over and us involvement in Vietnam was pretty much done
Half? I know a lot of guys died in Vietnam but it wasn't ww2 in the Soviet union
A big factor in this is urban planning and street design. American suburbs are often laid out with little to no consideration for pedestrians, especially nowadays. Houses can be clustered MILES from the nearest store, park or public facilities. It means the kid has to rely on mommy and daddy to take them anywhere until they're 16, when it's too late.
But loneliness is still an issue in places that are more pedestrian friendly like London.
@Peter-mj6lz ofc there are different factors. Generally , even if city ppl are a bit different than village fellas, I feel like in big cities U still get a LOT more social interaction from ppl.
Living in such an American suburb must suck so hard. Can't imagine being so caged and only have my legs and my hard working parents to rely on if I wanna go anywhere bruh
@@abuqadr629 Interestingly London is most lonely than other less densely populated places in the UK.
I live in a pretty pedestrian area (by US standards) and even here it's bad. There a few reasons, one being even in this pedestrian friendly area there still aren't many places where you could just "hang out" and bond over something, even club culture for example has died out over the past few years. Another reason is that there still isn't much incentive to go outside when you have the reward equivalent of a casino (social media) that you could stay inside interacting with all day. And this creates a feedback loop wherein less people hang with each other because there aren't enough people to hang out with and as a result less people go out to hang out
But I agree though that suburbia compounds this effect tenfold
@@Peter-mj6lz UK villages were built before the invention of the car. Densely packed towns connected with roads. That makes a huge difference between USA sprawling suburbs connected with highways. This doesn't take into account the way economies are formed around these kinds of environments.
Whyyyyy isn’t anyone posting comments about how amazing the production script and editing of this video is??? Dude this is really really good. Congratulations and thank you for the content.
This kid has beaten Ash Ketchum's record. He has been a teenager for 50 years!
Honestly, I wonder what modern day Pokemon World teens would think of Ash?
Like, season 1 is a bit of a 90s relic, Ash himself as a character is actually kind of unrecognisable by his last seasons, he used to be such a snob and eventually just became a more fittingly terminally outdoors kid. He cycles through a bff crew every few years he's making so many friends
Even beaten Homer Simpson...well...the entire family and neighbourhood!
@@lilpetz500 I just finished rewatching the Indigo League because I always thought their world was an idealized version of not having the internet - that still seemed accurate
The increase in loneliness is a combination of a lot of things: the rise of social media, the pandemic, increased introversion, urban planning and lack of access for those without a car, the lack of a sufficient "third place" outside of home and work/school, and a decrease in the number of Americans participating in civic/social/religious organizations. See the book "Bowling Alone" by Robert Putnam.
For me pandemic wasn’t it. I was meeting people and was okay. People like to blame on some shit.
Could have socialized the singularity before it became a neoliberal technofascist dystopia but you decided on your apathy towards it all instead. Human beings sure are fascinating. My people like to refer to your types as "fleshmoids." 👽
@@Kim-Yo-jong Gee, I wonder why we're so divided these days. Could it be because of phrases like "my people" and "your types" and the intentional dehumanization of others with phrases like "fleshmoids"? Nah, couldn't be that. You're not the problem at all. It's everyone else.
@@liamwade8537 Offended? be not afraid we come in peace. 👽
There are third spaces, people just never go there and interact with each other. Bowling, golf ranges, skate rink, ice rink, arcade, dance club, libraries etc all still exist... You just don't use them
There's another aspect that's hard for gen Z to understand since it was gone by the mid 90s. In the 80s and prior, most stores were still small local run businesses, mom and pop stores that were owned and employed local people. They had an interest in serving the community and looking after employees as a bad reputation meant the store being ostracised by the community and closing. In the 90s giant corporations moved in and took over whole industries. Blockbuster is a great example, thousands of local videoshops disappeared as they couldn't compete, then when Blockbuster had no competition, they put prices up, employed kids with 0 customer service and ran a defacto monopoly. Now everyone is a nameless faceless arm of a national corporation.
My mental health and relationships genuinely have improved so much by just not using social media anymore and also having little chats with the service workers at the store or people next to me on the bus. Human connection like that, even when it is really small is so valuable
yes me too! i noticed that theo social media i only see people meeting up/hanging out w/o (which makes me feel left out) or very heated tense negative conversations that stress me out
deleting all these apps has kept me focused and sane for the past two weeks ive deleted these apps, it was sooo worth it and theres nothing i miss about these apps lol
@@shineyvibess I hear ya. I used Instagram almost daily for a decade and now I’ve gone a year without using it I feel much better than when I was on it
Honestly, I'd love to see more spaces to just, talk about the harmless things we go on about on the Internet but in person.
Think, classrooms but free/affordable, accessible, and not scolding people for just chatting. But that people attend specifically to socialise and maybe learn.
For me, the main barrier is affordability. I can barely handle a lunch out every few weeks with close friends while still affording rent. If we have to pay each time to attend the space we maintain friendships at, it just isn't realistically accessible in this economy.
And tell me, what free entry space is there where it's fun and safe to strike up a conversation with a stranger?
@@lilpetz500 Public libraries! My local library has events depending on the day of the week, lots of people gather there to socialize or attend these events and I’ve never once seen anyone shushed at that place. I never go to socialize there but when I’m looking for books I always feel a part of the community
Skatepark!
I was born in 1985. I deleted all my social medias (except for UA-cam) 3 to 5 years ago. I don't use smartphones anymore, I'm using a dumbphone and I have to say it's eye opening on how human interactions went to shit. Even when I go to concerts or a bar, for a walk or on a hike, i'm seeing people glued to their screens. We are living in rly sad times. I would gladly go back to simplier times.
Even when doing fun outdoors activities like you mentioned, people have this need to film and take countless pictures. Almost missing the actual moment in an attempt to capture it forever.
I wish more people would do this! I'm 48 amd live in car culture,which is yuck,but it's very hard to get anyone to leave their homes. I'm really not into living online anymore and would rather hang out with my kid and my plants before I spend extra time on social media. I refuse.
if only we could somehow reverse our time
The problem with having a dumb phone is people assume you’re involved in illicit activities
@@FelipeV3444don't you dare to forget that mfs ALWAYS had a couple of one-pic cams on them back in the day. It's just that now it's all in one piece with radio, mail, wristwatches and all that stuff and called "a smarthphone"
Making friends nowadays even outside, the connections just feels fake.
Yea.. People probably will tell you... Hey freak... Even if you say simple... Hello how are you
Or your just not becoming friends with the right people
@@sasapetroski981what.💀
@@Delilah-presnall today if you want to aproach people and start conversation then will tell you... Hey freak who are you... Get lost or I will call cops
@@sasapetroski981maybe shower first then approach
the posters changed every decade which was a nice touch
duh
@@JishinimaTidehoshishush
Ikr?
Stay at home moms made neighborhoods safer and were a huge catalyst for socializing. My mom said the stay at home moms made the streets of suburbs safe because they would look after each others kids and look out for all of them not just their kids. Even in the 90s most of my friends moms were stay at home or worked half day. Running around the neighborhoods was safe because there was neighborhood watch, i.e, the moms. If you were in danger you could scream for help or run to the nearest house because someone was likely to be home. They would also keep the house guest ready, would organize events with other wives and were involved in planning community events and would have bring and shares. This also meant families in town knew each other well so parents trusted each other more.
Yeah, the murder of a stay at home parent greatly affected modern generations. We'll get to see the results once gen z has all grown up (all at least 30)
@@extremelyangrypisces255 I mean, kinda hard to be a stay at home parent when everything is so unbelievably expensive and both parents literally need to work to keep their family afloat. I think most moms would prefer to stay at home with their young children if they could afford to. Loneliness is caused by so many factors, it's not as easy as pinning it down on one thing. I wish it was, because then we could isolate that factor and attempt to demolish or change it for the better, but like the video said, there's money issues causing people to move away for better paying jobs, parents needing to work all day so they're sure as hell not going to be cool with their younger kids going outside by themselves with no one close by to keep them safe, social media being made intentionally addictive so kids don't have any reason to go outside and risk something as existentially terrifying as rejection, awkwardness, and abandonment, AI now being a thing so if kids want someone to vent to, they just type their issues into a chat box and wait for the amalgamation of all human knowledge to spew back exactly what they need to hear in a prerecorded voice. Convenience is a double-edged sword. Everything is so quick and easy now, and the pandemic ironically made everything "easier." Why leave home to go to your local McDonalds and meet with friends when you can instead get it delivered in minutes and scroll through TikTok for those few hours of dopamine. Besides, even if you do go to a restaurant, most of the bigger ones now have kiosks so you don't even need to talk to anyone, just click a few buttons on a screen and you're set. The only time you need to interact with an actual human is to bitch about something being wrong. Kind of the way it is online too. The longest threads I find on UA-cam or Reddit are not people getting along, it's people fighting a virtual war over the span of literal days until one of them gets banned for saying something fucked up because there's no real-life consequences to insulting or hurting someone anymore. Just make a new account, pretend to be someone new, and do it all over again. Strange times we're living in, man. Strange fucking times.
@@liamwade8537 you really ain’t wrong. But no wonder everyone feels nostalgia everyday - our brains weren’t designed for that kind of thing. Technology is great but we’re organic
@@liamwade8537most dads probably would too, right? Don’t only expect it of the moms
Ok but keep in mind that "stay at home moms" isn't a permanent and perfect solution.
Being born in 1999 doesn’t make you a 90s kid imo. It makes you more of an 00’s kid. I was born in 78, but I don’t consider myself a 70s kid. I consider myself an 80s kid cuz that’s when my formative childhood years took place. I was running around the neighborhood with friends and being hooligans. Love your vid and how spot on it is. Social media ruined everything once it could be done from the phone.
Agreed as someone born in 1998, I don’t consider myself a 90’s kid
I think the main point is to remember some of that decade. If you were born in like 75 I would still say you could be a 70s kid
@@uranusneptun5239 : True. I feel more like an 80s kid cuz that’s when all my memories begin. Roughly 1984, actually.
@@maevecostello2629 i do
As someone that grew up in the 90`s this is pretty accurate. Now in my mid 30`s i have lost all my friends to "life", everyone is busy with their own things, work, family etc. I have no family of my own, and its really hard to make new friends as an adult, everyone is set or "busy". I started taking a night class just to get out of the house and see people, and while everyone in class gets along no one wants to hang out outside of the class. If you don`t have a girlfriend or partner or really good friends hanging on it sucks out here.
I hate having to schedule everything with my friend ( i'm a teenager) I also go to classes and go to track practice and talk to people but the friendships I make there, only exist there. :(
@@Daniela-lh7re I hear similar things from younger coworkers in their early 20`s. Everyone is on social media, but almost no one hangs out outside of like school/work or activities.
@Wuwei72-o5n ok but some of us actually want friends 😭and in the past relationships weren’t a waste of time
I feel what you wrote completely. I wish for a community of people I can belong to, do my thing, and support the community and do things together while everyone accepts and loves each other with no conditions.
@@Ek70Rme too :(
Another thing you could have mentioned was that social media in the 2000s/early 2010s wasn’t built around turning a profit. The internet was still a wild west to many, and the intentions of social media platforms weren’t as malicious. Later, social media companies realized that pure engagement was much better than any sort of quality online experience, any they purposely made their platforms addictive. Now, sites like X and Tiktok prioritize content that catches your attention, whether it’s a simple funny video or a negative post that they know will get your attention. They don’t care about how you feel, they only care about how much you use their platforms. I think that’s why polarization and negativity are so lucrative to social media platforms, because they profit off of any engagement with their sites
@@rajabox336 Exactlyyy, before TV was the main medium for controversy and schemes to make a profit and before that radio and newspaper. Then it slowly shifted to internet and therefore smartphones which are arguably way more highly accessible than TV or any other entertainment media has ever been. Simple tricks like iPhone excluding non-iPhone users from groupchats, calling and texting being more difficult with different phone brands or providers and Social Media being pushed so hard to be mainstream have happened like very recently within the past 5-10 years. It’s been a quick change but it’s hard to catch when that’s possibly the era you grew up in, so you don’t know anything different.
The net was created to gather intelligence. The profit is in the data collected.
America Online was built for profit😂 It was the first mainstream form of social media, we didn’t even create a word for that yet. Whether social media is built around turning a profit or businesses suddenly want to give away money instead of paying their employees doesn’t matter. Social media itself contributed to the loneliness epidemic
It’s crazy. Back then houses was smaller and people was more together. Now houses are bigger and people are lonely. Less cars back then and people socialized now more cars and interstates and people lonely
It doesn't help that people are so unfriendly and occupied in public. If you see someone outside and approach them they will ignore you or write you off.
Or start running away where I'm from
Yess
Absolutely
I agree. Tbh I think there’s more people then we think who WANT TO be more friendly but sadly choose to conform. I’m one of those people. For me I’m scared of rejection.
I looked at a guy and he rushed to look at his phone instead. Let's go up to those people next time! social anxiety and overthinking can be broken by how we approach people :)
Exactly! It’s so sad!😢
It's funny because even when you do walk to the grocery store, now there's automated self checkout and stores like amazon fresh that makes it so that you never have to even interact with the cashiers or employees
Michael’s - a CRAFT STORE - no longer has cashiers but self checkout where we are
@@mannahhillstothefield It's the same for the one Michael's near where I live! It's crazy, I just walked into the store one day and I was like wait when did Michael's have self checkout??
It's for best considering huge entitlement from customers especially in fast food
@@nes96 of course - that’s a given unfortunately (as someone who has worked in customer service most of my life) but it would seem you’ve missed the point of the video .
As a 66 year old who was a teenager in the 70s I enjoyed your history lesson.
Fr man just sucks how it is now. Like by how dangerous it can be by just walking outside of your house, being constantly told by a parent that even your ONLINE friends too could be secretly “kidnappers.”
No really tho. Some parents want their kids to go outside, because they don’t want them talking to a secret serial killer online, but when they do go outside, they might tell them that there’s serial killers out there waiting to get them. Which one is it 😭
Bro i was told i was talking to a 40 year old...no i wasnt
@@erimator17To be fair I am autistic, I was very frequently taking to people I shouldn’t have been online but when I went outside I nearly got sex trafficked literally once a week
@@SobrietyandSolace Oh no, I’m so sorry that happened to you, I hope you’re doing alright 🫶
@@SobrietyandSolaceWhat the heck?? I’m so glad you’re safe!! Jesus loves you 🫶🏾
as a teenager it’s harder to make and maintain friendships like when i try to talk to someone and be their friend it’s either hella awkward or they act like ur a weirdo for trying to socialize. whenever i ask my friends to hang out it’s always “idk im rlly busy” (rlly busy scrolling on tiktok prolly) or “idk there’s no where to hang out” and none of them even try to follow up and put effort into meeting up so i’ve just stopped trying to make friends and hang out w current “friends” lol idk u can’t do anything without being considered “cringe” these days or getting shit talked ppl r MEAN ASF and desensitized
lmao thats so true, people literally act like youre weird for trying to socialise
That is truly sad 😢. Our 15 year old son always tells us he doesn't have any close friends, and we're like how is that possible? He ONLY talks to one person - his girlfriend. This helps me understand it a little better. He also says, dudes only talk on Snapchat and not text. Is that true where you are?
You can have online or even irl friends but no close ones unfortunately@@craigzilla100
As someone who struggles with mental and physical disabilities, I have spent the better part of the last 16 years alone. Once I went on disability and didn't see people at work anymore, things became pretty frightening. It went from not being able to go out to developing fears and anxiety about leaving the house. I am fine once I get out and about, as well as in my yard and home, but as soon as I know I have to go somewhere, I freeze and panic, and I get lead feet that don't want to leave.
I was born at the end of the 70s, so entertaining myself was nothing new, plus I now had the internet. Isolation became a see-saw of fighting my illnesses and convincing myself I was just independent. I had always been independent, so it also made it easier to take care of myself and my home, until my physical issues flared, and I could barely walk. It comes and goes. That is when you find out who your real friends are. I know I had a few, but distant, and it turned out I had none that were local. I should say that I first started staying home all the time because I was poor and couldn't afford it, despite working a full-time job and graduating from college (the loans were bad, though). My fault because friends started not asking me to hang out anymore, and eventually never again. This hit my mental illness in a big way (cue up REM - Everybody Hurts and some metal songs that talk about S and SI and C)
I also realized that when you get older, people don't care, they go right on livin' and the world keeps spinning. People have so much of their own crap on their plates, finding time to help you with yours is often too much. I get that. I've been on both sides. The pandemic came, and I lost my family in 2020. Parents passed and my brother's guilt and alcoholism made him decide (when I needed his help the most dealing with the estate) that I am no longer a part of his life.
The past several years have been a blur. Losings friends to OD, losing pet's to old age and illnesses, trying to move out of crappy Ohio, but had no one to help me, so I couldn't. The pandemic isolation was exactly how I was living every day of my life. It was very interesting to watch people navigate not being able to go out or meet up with family. Struggling with the small things. For me, it was hard with my mom passing because she was right at the beginning of it. My dad told me she died in a text message, then, had her cremated before I could even see her one last time. When my dad died (neither died from Covid, btw), I couldn't have anyone in the room with me to help me decide when to remove the breathing machine. The only people I did have were a few friends my parents had from AA.
I never felt more alone than the night I had to let him go. I did have the support of people I didn't know, and that was heartwarming and helpful, but cold at the same time. I will never forgive Facebook for existing and the fact I have had to find out a handful of people I have cared deeply about have died by randomly coming across their page or wondering what they were up to. I made sure I called every person in my parent's address book because that is what humans deserve. They at least deserve to know their friend died, from another human. Social etiquette has flown out the window since social media.
The pandemic was a unique time. Typically, when someone dies, the focus is on them. All the family and loved ones gather. People are allowed to grieve together. This is our ritual. The pandemic? People were dying via video chat just so they could have a loved one with them when they passed! There was no grieving together, everyone stayed apart. There were no funerals, memorials, remembrance events, celebration of life. No one's grief mattered because so many other deaths were happening daily. I feel as if it never happened - my parents dying. I never saw, touched, smelled...they are still living 2 hours away in their house in my head.
I really liked your video, and loneliness is just the tip of the iceberg. It would be great if you could do a few more focusing on different aspects of isolation and how it can affect humans mentally, physically, economically, socially, and so on. Thank you for sharing. It is late and am sorry for the huge comment. I hope it makes sense. There was so much more to add, but I didn't want to add a lot.
The problem with me though, is the fact that many of the kids my age at my school and church are SO rude, I can’t even talk to them without them being annoyed let alone try and MAKE friends. But I kinda expect that since most pre-teens/teens are socially immature but it just seems like just trying to talk to them makes them feel weird and they just stay with their groups
Adults are even weirder in that regard.
Don’t surround yourself with rude people. Just wait until you find people worth being friends with.
I’m sorry but did you even read the comment? They don’t surround themselves with rude people the people around them just generally happen to be rude.
I feel this way too. I recently had to drop some of my friends from school because I realized just how rude they were and how I was starting to carry those same traits. They were putting people down who were genuinely nice people with maybe a few quirks, and then they even started putting me down aswell. It sucks because I really thought I might've found my people for once. I just hate how kids are these days, so angry and quick to judge.
ikr so many teenagers are dickheads
the answer to your 90’s kid question is no. anyone born in the 90’s is a 90’s baby, but ONLY people who experienced a conscious childhood in the 90’s can be considered a 90’s kid.
you have to at least remember the 90’s to be a 90’s kid.
The fact people don't know this is mind-boggling to me💀🤣
@alieunjie8459
True
@@alieunjie8459
True, that's like if I were born in December of 2009 and called myself a 2000s kids.
I was born at the end of 1989 & wouldn't consider myself an 80's kid. I have no earlier recollections other than things from the 90s.
what about those who eas born in 95?
Believe it or not, roller skating is still going strong all over the country. I skated in the'70's taught my kids to skate in the 80's-90's and my grand kid in the 2000s. We all skate! 3 generations of us! Is anybody else still skating?
I've tried roller skating but it's hard to really get into it when, go figure, there's nowhere to skate but the driveway. No sidewalks, no parks, and no rink nearby.
But the only issue is that everyone has their own music playing in their earphones while they're skating.
There is this HUGE trend that’s called *low effort friend*.This type of friend is someone you text with once per month and hang out with once or twice per year,but even though you guys interact with each other so little you guys are still good friends.I remember i made a post on reddit talking about how these type of friendships aren’t real and they are too shallow and that you are never too busy to call someone for 5 minutes per week(most people spent 3-4 hours daily on their phone ),but i got a ton of hate.They told me that people get “busy” and that i need to get a life of my own.
You are completely right.
that is soo true. Most of my "friendships" are like that actually. We hang out once every few months, we have fun, but in the meantime we barely even talk
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You underestimate how much time it takes to do that. It doesn't simply take 5 minutes, imagine you have multiple people to call in a day, it might just all boil down to a few hours of talking to everyone to update. Sometimes people want to spend alone time. Sometimes they're on their phone to interact about work or ease their mind by watching entertainment. Sometimes people grow apart because they're no longer on the same path, which is normal. Usually, people become close to people in their close proximity anyway, and because they're on the same path they just end up talking more to each other. That's just adult relationships tbh, unless you're in close proximity with each other.
I hate calling, I hate texting. My relationships are based on irl interaction. So yes, I have that type of relationship but not by choice tho. Just we're not studying the same things or what not. We do plan vacation together tho...
bro you just motivated me to delete all my Social media apps. 😢
Haha breaks are important, do what makes sense for you
U should
a few apps went flying off my phone after watching this...
I deleted them but now, I don't talk to anyone anymore
I deleted my social media in 2018 and nothing changed in my life, I just feel more isolated lol
A 90's kid is someone who can remember being a kid in the 90's.
Yea being born in 99 is a 90s baby and a 00s kid
@@Vyuel most definitely!
I was born in 1998, definitely a 90’s baby but not a 90’s kid
Ok but is noone gonna talk about his 1970s outfit?That shit goes HARD.😭😭
Real
I can't believe he just glossed over myspace. The most iconic time period ever!!
Bebo and Tagged
@@danniellejohnson448 oh god I forgot about those, thanks for unlocking a memory for me 😅
Some people used Friendster, but it was nowhere near as popular as MySpace. Oh, and then there was Google Circles. It's crazy, just how many social media platforms there used to be. It was hard to keep up then, and it's hard to keep up now.
That dumb farm game where you needed lots of friends to help you have a big successful farm. I had coworker brag about tier farm and ask me to tend it. I had to tell people I'm not interested in farm game.
I think his too young to remember MySpace
Considering he was born in 1999 of December and MySpace popularity was from 2003 to 2008 or so
Which would have made him 3 the earliest and 8-9 at his latest
Because he did say his going off personal Memory
So he wouldn't really know how the early 2000s were
I remember using MSN messenger and using Kazaa
Burning CDs and DVDS were big
Music videos and being outside all day was still a thing
Super Soakers were a big thing
I remember the Yo-Yo craze
I never felt lonely in the early 2000s
I felt boredom at times and wanted to hang out with friends but never loneliness
Teen from the 1980’s here. Reagan did more than make people individualistic. The funds for public spaces went down. Our local handball court became a locked garden funded by local landlords as a “charity” but in reality it was to gentrify the neighborhood. Nobody wanted teens hanging out. We couldn’t even sit on stoops anymore without cops being called on us. All the electronics helped us stay in touch while the government forced us to stay inside. At least we had movie theaters, arcades, and dance clubs. But then the drinking age went from 18 to 21 so the dance clubs were out because they banned us. So teens have been policed into loniliness.
I was walking in my neighborhood and saw a no soliciting sign in front of a RESIDENCE and lots of “ there’s a camera” signs. Although I was just walking to the park and I know people just want to protect themselves it sort of made me feel some hostility. Like unwelcome in my own neighborhood…it’s so weird. Additionally I seemed to be the only person walking to the park. I don’t know, it’s just weird times
As a '69 baby...I feel you on the cusp of change. I appreciate the '60s but have no real knowledge of it. Having lived through all the decades you mentioned; I can tell you emphatically how much the world has changed since I was little. Playing outside was HUGE! Riding bikes, kickball, tag...I have great memories from those times. Oh! And roller rinks were amazing. On New Year's Eve, there would be an all night skate party for teenagers. We didn't worry about getting hurt or anything nefarious happening; it was well chaperoned. I can't imagine kids having that opportunity these days. Tech can be good and bad. I miss map books; but it is more convenient getting from point A to point B. I love information being at my fingertips; but I'm forgetting how to spell words. I wish your generation the absolute best going forward. Just please create some GOOD memories. Living an 'Insta' life is not a memory. It's fabricating a moment. There's no connection for your memory bank. Live well and take care. Kind regards.
That message was so wholesome, that almost made my cry 😭 ( not sarcastic)
@@pasteldoggies4evereven I felt it, some of my aunts are 60’s babies
as someone in his 20s, i see younger parents now being more carefree than previous, so i think there has been more of a change. and hoestly i dont think theres anything wrong with insta, its still going out and taking pictures for memory, its not like they are stuck there forever lol. its not fabricating a moment, because by that logic, even photos before insta could be considered fabricated , since we all pose for the picture dont we? whats the difference?
@@playversetv3877I think they mean like don’t like a life just for Insta. Some people will go out to places just for the pics. I’ve met and hung out with people like this. I’m in my 20s too. They are glued to their phones and only want to take pics to post them. Getting that “perfect pic”. A lot of influencers do this. Not everyone though
@@playversetv3877this is the difference. Pictures now are taken either to brag, be a thirst trap, or to follow a trend or to sum it up in other words… to seek attention. Pictures once were taken to capture these in person interactions with our family, friends and maybe someone you just met and will eventually be a good friend for years to come. How could any thing on social media compare to anything in those decades before us? It simply can’t when we don’t have the same interactions/lifestyle anymore: it’s sad to say but nothing will ever be the same.
Being born in the 2000s was messed up because for the first 8 years of your life you got a taste of the in person friendship from the 90s, then it all got ripped away from you in '08 and now you have to adjust to hanging out online.
I think the death of 3rd places like malls has contributed lot to this as well. I grew up in the 90s and 00s I remember that the mall was one place to be to meet up with friends when I entered my 20s and online shopping become increasingly popular the malls started to die out and 3rd places in general not many people go to movie theaters anymore but least concerts still seem to turn out decent amount of people.
True. There used to be places you could go and spend time with people without an admission cost. You "could" spend money at the mall, but you weren't required to.
Facts everything is Asos for me 😢
It's the costs of all those things that prevent people from going
Movie theaters cost a lot. I do still go but only when there is something there I really really want to see. I can go years without going. But once a movie comes out that interest me I go. I have changed as a person a lot so lots a of these movies don't even interest me.
Yes!!!! Bring back third spaces!!!!!
Let me add that in the 80s sending letters and postcards was the way to communicate with distant pals.
I love doing that!!!!
I thought he was going to mention that
key word DISTANT lol today everyone even lives in the same house and they text instead of walk to their location lol
Minecraft is a good example of our current generation's loneliness. Used to be fun with friends in the early 2010s and then ended up becoming empty. Now since COVID times, it has become less lonely with many of my old friends returning.
He looks so good for 60 years.
Honestly it took so long for me to get my social life back on track, and the stupid edgy trends of being lonely are so idiotic.
Stay safe and stay happy have fun.
Never take your friends for granted ❤.
I grew up with playing outside and inside
Ealry 2000-2010s.
I still call my friends and meet up.
Obviously we're still "kids" by the people but our bonds are so strong.
And can i be honest i still play outside go to parks and other things because im not ready to sacrifice my mental health for some stupid trends and i stopped watching short form content thats what helped me
These days, for adults to make new acquaintances and friendships you HAVE to join local clubs and societies. Your local theater 🎭, historical society, DBA, and others (every town is different), are happy to see new volunteers and members join. Totally worth it to boost confidence too. It really is a great way to feel connected to YOUR real community instead of online communities.
Church is a good place to make friends, too.
This is the way.
There's a violin club near the park. But im not sure if i should join
Meh idk. People still meet at parties and in public spaces. It's not like everybody is glued to their phone non stop. People do it a lot but it's also exaggerated. At least where I live...
I'm highly extroverted, so I often hang out with friends and connect with people easily. Despite being born in 2006, I still can't use Instagram (T^T) I used to (and still do) get teased for making connections so easily and being unwilling to stay at home, but as time progresses, I see people getting lonelier and lonelier, and people keep drifting apart. I kinda hate it. It annoys me when people tell me that they're lonely yet are unwilling to hang out with others. I hope everyone can start hanging out with each other more often, I miss being able to leave my home and see people walking on the sidewalks and children playing in parks.
Thanks so much for this video, I really enjoyed it! I just wanted to leave a comment here so youtube recommends me more stuff like this haha (: don't mind my little rant (:
have a great day!
I'm introvert but even I missed days when people were easier to hang out together. Now when you're trying to unite people they can't do some work with their time and prefer to not get out of their comfort zone and it's sucks!
Now I just trying to think deeper about that problem, like what we can do or say, how we can manage time and etc. For now I think one of the solutions is actually talking about it straight, be more open about what's going on but it requires be more careful and searching for people who would listen
I love hanging out with people I already know, but the problem is I'm really shy so I have no idea how to make more connections and start friendships with strangers 😅
Gad damn 2006 is crazy you a kid.
@@shamrous7368honestly bringing it up to people even if they might just brush it off is still good. Make people aware of the problem, while still being aware of how much they’re gonna tolerate listening too haha.
have a great day as well
One of the biggest things killing friendships imo: being ingenuine amd dishonest.
Heck I'm attacked by being genuine and honest, people hate those 2 things nowadays it seems
@hay_Z2021 I beg you to keep being that way. I hear lots of honest people get push-back.
@DylynKay tysm, ❤️ I try and tell people what's true to the best of my knowledge, many outright deny what's true even when I prove that its something factual and true, the cognitive dissonance In some is concerning, amd stressful, so thanks ❤️
@hay_Z2021 You're very welcome. Some people are just too used to lies. The truth can be scary and stressful. I'm sure yall can meet in the middle. Be well, friend ❤️
@@DylynKay ty, you too 😊❤️
We gotta bring out more awareness to how much we degraded socially. Social anxiety is just way more common, especially after the pandemic. Please, I just wanna my suburban neighborhood alive! 😭😩
Be the change ❤
@@AmaraEmmemost of the time it'll get you weird out or cops being called on you. Sad times
It's not social anxiety, it's selfishness. I've seen lots of UA-camrs coming out saying they realized that some of their friends weren't actually their friends. Lots of people woke up to how crap this society is during the pandemic which caused people to lose trust in each other.
Most of y'all don't know what real social anxiety is lol
@@gangstarock2455 I literally have social anxiety lol
No-one wants to hang out. I reach out to tens of "friends". They either decline or ghost, even though they say they'd like to hang out.
I go out, and try to make new friends. I frequent the same places weekly, and try new places regularly. I do this for years. But no-one wants new friends. No-one wants friends, period.
Almost no events occur. And they're mostly attended only by older generations.
Work "friends" are afraid to leave their houses. They're afraid to talk to strangers. They don't know how to interact with people.
Society has already collapsed.
I try online socialization, even though I know it doesn't work. No surprise, it doesn't work, and just makes you go crazy.
So I pay a stranger (a "therapist") to let me talk to him for an hour every few weeks. Because at least he will hang out with me -- no-one else will.
The basic requirements of humanity no longer exist. No matter how hard you search or struggle, there is nothing. No-one cares about you, and no-one will ever want to be your friend in this Hell we have created for ourselves. No-one even knows how anymore.
Hi... you're right. The closest you can get to hanging out with "friends" is if you frequent by yourself the same clubs or bars or church for several months and only after several months do you suddenly know many people there, and when you go there, basically what you see is what you get, (in other words, who's there is there, and if someone "you know" isn't there today, they may or may not be there next time.)
That's right. They most of the times make excuses. They mess people over too
Social media can be the worst thing that ever happened to humanity. Use it sparingly and try to go outside and do outdoors activities and meet new people. Also boomers didn't have to be on the internet 24/7 to look for jobs on LI and get rejected over 1k times in the good old days. Nowadays you need the Right connections to even get a minimum wage job. Life was easy back then.
Im saying, they say go outside, everything has a price, weather is cold, or too hot, all places tell u apply online, they dont reply, it gets demotivating, u wake up from auto pilot just to restart again, it sucks, i suck
@@IIIISai Yea, it's also hard to go outside (ppl cannot afford to spend money, time on gas/travel, food, rent as they don't have disposable income) At some pt, live off the land, break some minecraft rules. Applying online seems like an illusion, most online friends are leftys. Try networking at (more high class) gyms, apply in person.
@@DayrusBPB in terms of living off bounds, I think a cool greenhouse and shed could be nice, since alot of soil, air etc.. is polluted all around us, I did a deep dive into detox from parasites and proccessed food, and red spray all that jazz, water filters..so I like the idea off land, but I imagine it would feel isolating, not that a neighbourhood of indivisualistic people isnt already, could be interesting tho..
Yea my fair share online friends are left wing liberals but I avoid deep politcs with those, not with the more unfiltered, when you say network at high end gyms what does that look like, hopefully I get a chance at a job fair in 2 days, in person is my only option, online is sham
@@IIIISai gym means u be the problem solver and making friends and friendly convos with the gym goers. once u hang out with them a bunch, u can ask if they know anyone is hiring or offer your products and services, ask if any is interested to buy them.
farm means u could look for farm hands/helper job, u learn the skills to rear animals and grow fruits n veg, pay is lower. sodium/soy detox will kill you, 40g sodium is lethal range.. fishing is how u mainly get your food, hunting small game with a rifle is another. trapping requires at least a dozen to catch 1 per day. idk where this will go but u gotta explore all your options and see what works for u.
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I'm 48 and was still hanging with friends until the pandemic hit. That changed everything
Tbh, i kinda wish that i was born in the 60-70s because today making a friend is mostly only online, and everyone is glued to their phone on school.
As someone who was born in the late 80's, I can confirm that people were much more connected
89 baby here friendships became more fake when facebook changed noticed that in 2010
@@Jac735 So true
@candy-gh2rh I moved a decent amount not alot when I was younger and thought the people I grew up with were gonna be my friend's guess I thought wrong I'm only cool with college classmates probably a few but I have a oval of people I talk to or a trapezoid that's it even new people I meet act funny
I remember when Facebook was cool and legit fun. Remember poking people? The algorithmic wall changed it and then it became flooded with ads and bots and now AI crap.
The only reason I still use it is some friends and family are still there. I barely use any other social media. Like, Nextdoor is a bore, it's just boomers complaining about people who walked by their alley, and reports of theft to scare others. Instagram is a total snore too within 15 minutes or so, at least for me - I have never really understood its appeal. I got rid of Twitter long before it became "X". And I sometimes watch Tik Tok every few months but it's almost a chore to watch stuff on there now, and it quickly becomes a mix of frustration and boredom to stay on there for more than an hour, especially with all the ads and floating ads - it's nearly as bad as UA-cam sans Adblock or Premium. I think I might just delete Tik Tok anyway, since it's so cursed with trackers up the wazoo.
The only things that suck me in for long stretches are Quora (less and less these days - such a shadow of its 2010s form); Medium (even though a lot of it now is low-effort content barfed out of ChatGPT and then edited ever so slightly, there's still some insightful writers there); and Reddit (because it isn't total shit - not even the godforsaken app - and most subreddits remain consistently really interesting).
UA-cam absolutely has me by the cahones though - I got Premium even though I'm poor just because I got tired of all the ads on mobile and the ad-blockers that were once so reliable were not so good anymore (at least, not for UA-cam, they work everywhere else fine - for now, anyway, until Chrome kills all ad-blockers forever...then its back to Firefox all the dang time, yaay). It's bad enough I have to skip past creator sponsor ads in-video, I don't need more ads in my face. And I'm not likely to go to Nebula much. I have it, but it's just not the same without the comment section to engage with. Sure, I could watch there and comment with the corresponding video paused on UA-cam - assuming there is a corresponding video on this site - but nah, too much effort for me.
The final straw was wanting to use UA-cam for videos with noise or music to sleep to. Many of those videos are ad-free, but not all, and like hell am I going to let myself get woken up by some stupid ads. Sure, there's sleep music/noise/stories on other apps - though usually they're paid too. And I could just sleep with a real fan or humidifier running for noise, but I'd rather not. (Right now in summer I'm playing UA-cam sleep music - most of it admittedly mid-effort AI-driven dreck - just to block out all the noise of 2 or 3 fans running, lol).
And yes I did try some less-than-legal apps to replace the Premium ones - but they sure didn't last a hot minute before they were shut down. I don't have time for that crap now. (Yeah, I'm a lazy bitch, I know).
So basically convenience won out. And what the heck, UA-camrs get more ad money from Premium users so...yay.
Honestly huge props for making interesting, creative and enjoyable videos. Many others don't have the passion but you do, that's whats so brilliant!
Thanks for saying that! Making videos is definitely a passion of mine, I’m just happy everyone also enjoys watching them!
The ‘90s was, without a doubt, the BEST decade ever. The world orgasmed in that decade and then gradually declined into its eternal “rest” from the early ‘00s forward. 😅
The scary music playing along with the AI girlfriend is the most accurate representation of the dystopian times we live in I've seen so far. This is the first channel I've ever seen that I subbed to after one video.
I suggest you to watch Edyy Burback's Apple Vision Pro review. It describes the latest decade perfectly (it's called something like "Apple's 3499$ nightmare")
Algorithm needs to push this forward cmon let’s go we need this
Might sound silly, but that ending legitimately gave me goosebumps.
Its because its already a reality, and its only going to become more and more common. I speak from experience, and its horrifying. Most of my conversations aren't even with real people anymore. I want to go back, but people have changed too.
When I was a kid in the 80s, only you've to do is go around the playground and ask some kids: "What are you playing? Uh, can I join?" And we did a lot together. I remember I went to my oldest friend’s house and her teenage daughter came to us and told: "I've nothing to do. What did you do when you for fun?" I told her asked some friends and do whatever came to mind. When we told what are your friends are doing? She told me that they're staying at home. Sounded so depressing...
as a huge michael jackson fan, i really loved seeing the reference to his albums as the decades went on!! thanks for making this video, as a gen z teen, you gave me a wake up call to go out with all my friends more haha 😂 i have a really deep fascination for 90s-2000s culture, everything from the music to the fashion, and just life in general. its weird for me to think of a life without smartphones. i did see all my friends maybe 2 weeks ago though and we had a lot of fun talking for hours, so i think i'm doing okay
My experience as a child making friends in the 70's. Go outside. See where the other kids are at. Go play with them. My teenage experience of friendship in the 80's. Go outside. See who's porch everyone was hanging at on. Go there and hang out. lol
Now it goes something along the lines of:
1. Go out and see empty streets
2. Go search for people
3.1 Find out there's literally nobody outside and go home
3.2 Find someone, try to initiate a conversation, get called a weird and deal with cops coming your way for "disturbing the peace" by "freaking the people out"
@@BLET_55artem55 yeah like wtf
@@BLET_55artem55 its relatable to me,because i feel like trying to make friends and stuff,but it seems like other people don't want to be with me for real.I don't know why,don't understand why.Even i understand people who wanna stay alone,because they understood its pointless.
Yo Please do why Adulthood is Underrated and Overhated Please!
That wouldn’t be a bad topic to delve into!
Oh this would be so good to see more on. I've noticed that, but I wasn't sure if I had a heavy bias as someone with kind of terrible conditions as a teen.
Like, adulthood isn't going great either for me, but it feels less on rails and more hopeful. It's due to things like an economic crisis and lingering issues from teenhood, rather than disappointment in my school, bullying, and my parents arbitrarily deciding on random limits (eg, always report my location, no driving to the city, even at like 20. Weird rules)
My school uniform was even overly strict, more expensive than my regular outfits, AND was literally track pants and polo shirts. Nothing fancy or even nicely fitting.
Like, do people who actually had cool, TV Show-like teen years disagree?
Great idea! At first all these memes about not wanting to do adulthood were fun but now for me it got tiresome...
@@lilpetz500hmm nooo adulthood is better. I had great teen years. I had super strict parents but i also played instruments so i got to play a lot of cool shows and even party. But i was also extremely obnoxious back then much more level headed and pleasant to be around now. Also just the life experience
dude, the editing quality is insane. this was great.
Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed 🙏🏾
Beyond
I applaud you young man
You forgot the part where, after getting too comfortable with convenience that you never go out; and then getting fed up with scrolling through social media and seeing people seemingly meeting up with friends and having a great time without you... you try to arrange things with those people and...
"Yeah man we should meet. I'm pretty busy at the moment though."
...
I think this is the thing most of our entertainment is online these days. We don't have anywhere to go.
Nature. Skatepark. Library. Volunteering. Sketching art in the street. Beach. Neighbours. Find a local coffee shop, get to know them by name and they know yours.
Our parents just won't let us yknow? It's not that safe to do cheap activitites. And the ones that you mentioned require money@@user-dq2ym1nn9k
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k This is cope the problem isn't that people don't go out anymore it's that "going out" isn't fun anymore and more importantly "people" aren't fun anymore. Everyone is on edge and hates each other. It's gaslighting to pretend like this can be solved entirely on one's own. This is the same individualism poison that the video talked about and doesn't get at the root of the problem which is a lack of collectivist thought in favor of degeneracy and general social decay. All in the name of freedom and democracy.
@@Kim-Yo-jongthis is also cope, the amount of fun in hatchet throwing and indoor skydiving with peeps is fun.
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k All great ideas for sure. I guess what I'm missing is a deep connection and I find people unreliable and untrustworthy due to past bad experiences.
wow, this mustve taken a long time to make! love it
Yeah! It took a bit longer than expected but hopefully it’s a fun watch for you guys!
This guy puts in max effort to make content that we like
0:13 this is a great idea. I did this and now i am on a watch list. I love watches
This is actually so funny 😭
For me the pandemic was actually fire tho. Me and my friends started hanging out exclusively outside with masks after online school and would talk online too. We played board games for HOURS in the garden or on the porch and never got sick. We kept doing that till I moved away to Europe for a bit but the internet allowed us to talk all the time and we even got closer.
I just arrived back in the US and we immediately planned so many activities like barbecues, sleepovers and just exploring around the neighborhood. We have a friend group of 7 people and are like the only non depressed people in our generation. Good luck to everyone else with friends and whatnot. IT’S STILL POSSIBLE!!!!
That sounds so awesome! Glad that your friend group came up with that, it clearly made your bonds stronger. I wish everyone else would be able to do the same and hang out more outside
Teach me your ways sensei- PLEASE
difference is you had said friends to begin with. other’s can't even find/make friends
I’m lucky enough to have friends, but between work and school, it’s a miracle that I find time to see them even once per week.
As someone who was/is alive during those/these decades…I’m really impressed that you had all of those ‘props’ to illustrate the significance of each decade.
26:37 bro made the greatest horror short film in all of history with that segment. Legit creeped me out
That ending will go over a lot of peoples heads but I'm still glad he chose to keep it
who needs girlfriends when you have ai?
@@muspavenus8925 😂😅
That ending made the hair in my arms stand up.😳😳😳
I'm confused, is it about the movie or the fact he had an AI girlfriend since AI is genuinely becoming worse and worse as it gets better?
Yeeeh😮
Sometimes I felt meaningless to strike a conversation with strangers, finding people with the same interest other than online friendship just to know it's only temporary, but I've learned the world is big there are plenty people you can talk to and even it's a short term connection we continue to life our lives. Make your interest as a social opportunity, for me I managed to fix my old camera and nowadays I just stroll around on cities/towns/landscape in my mid 20s, I've realized there are people who live they every day live without phones and just do what they do, walking on parks, being there for a person. Highly recommend to stop comparing your life with more socialable people while you feel lonely.
Don't get overwhelmed by the sense of failure the only one judging you is yourself.
Cool video. I'm a young adult in Berlin, Germany and I live my life the same as people did 50 years ago and it's awesome. I have no phone. My friends know where to find me. It's slow living but it works.
It's not about social media. It's about human love. Too many times people have focused on other people forgetting they have someone who cares so much about them as well. Thus there is a lack of balance in all of the relationships. And that ruins humanity.
You know, I always cherish those moments in life. Those little wholesome interactions with strangers always brighten my day. There were times I would be just sitting down and a random person would start a conversation with me. I enjoy those moments.
As someone born Dec 31st, 1999, I HEAVILY relate to the "I'm technically a 90's kid" bit.
First time seeing your channel, but man are you creative. Keep up the good work!
If you were not aware it was the 90s you’re not a 90s kid. Sorry
You're not a 90s kid, stop begging it 🤡💀🤣
Actually you were a 90s baby. Not a 90s kid. But what am I talking about I just got out of 6th grade.
@@mmm-cs7tb Didn't say I were, I just said I relate to the sentiment, but sure.
@@alieunjie8459 Read my comment again before you post cringeworthy emotes in a response comment, bud.
Coming from someone who's still a teenager in 2024, I am so happy that my parents actually looked out for my internet usage and encouraged me to go out to my neighbours or friends to play in 2014-2017... my few but important friends and I try to meet up maybe once a week. If we do, we aren't on our phones except for playing karaoke or who would rather games etc. Other than that, we just talk and laugh our asses off
As a 31 year old, I have been feeling it increasingly wholesome when I see kids just playing with anything that isn't an iPad at max volume. even if they're just running around and screaming and maybe making a mess
At least some kids know what it's like to have fun in analog in this relentlessly digital age
@@viscountrainbows2857 I came across a video a few weeks ago of these young boys, 3 boys around the age of 9 and younger. They were all playing outside on their bikes. They found this massive muddy puddle and decided to create a ramp out of wood planks and a container that was lying around in the area. It was interesting to watch them problem solve and communicate with each other how to make this ramp from scratch and then watching each kid fly over the puddle on their bikes. There were no phones or anything, only the adult who was either an older sibling or a parent, I can't remember. They were having so much fun. It gave me whiplash to early 90s nostalgia of climbing trees with my friends and making mud cakes and pretending to be a baker or chef or creating a pillow fort in the lounge room.
@@viscountrainbows2857true, I'm a teen right now and it is rare to see teens without their devices. My screen time currently during the holidays is poor because I currently want to spend my time in loneliness. But during the previous winter holiday, my screen time went to 0 for four days because I was in a holiday camp and decided to not bring my phone with me. But there is still people in my country (Indonesia) that went out with their friends and brawl in the middle of the night, which is definitely worse compared to playing with our phones or ipads. I am one of a few people who is still stuck playing rubik's cube and spending a big load of cash on newer and better cubes and also going to competitions. In the competitions, all I did was competing and also tested different types of cube whilst also having fun. Rubik's cubes are quite rare nowadays.
@@tan89284I live in rural Colorado in a small town about 2k people and kids are still “free range” here. You can tell where all the kids are by the bikes out front of a house. They can go on adventures and be kids. I see em roaming with fishing poles. Some of the entrepreneurial kids will even forage wild berries and sell them. The kids always heckle me to rip wheelies on my motorcycle when I pass them. I will goto the small skate park and teach them bicycle tricks cuz I don’t have kids to pass down the tricks I’ve spent 20+ years mastering. When I teach a kid a bike trick: makes my whole month.
It actually reminds me of my childhood in the late 80-90s. We went on bicycle adventures that felt like we traveled across the country. We built jumps and scraped our knees. We explored and caused mischief. We would legit dress up in military gear and had fake guns (that looked real AF) and we would play war with other kids. No a days you’d get shot. We didn’t have the internet. We used 2 way radios to talk to friends. We had arcades and my mom would give me and my bestie 20 bucks and leave us all day to play. We had lazer tag and many other things that don’t seem to be around any more.
At least neither of your parents are overprotective of you to the point they are basically turning your bedroom into a mini prison cell.
I was born the year your video starts, 1974. I know, I am getting old ;-) The progression you show pretty much nailed it, with humour and insight. Well done.
I am somewhat relieved that the younger generation is starting to turn its back to social media and trying to meet more in the real world. Believe me: when you're older, you won't remember scrolling on your phone, you'll remember all the epic times you had partying and hanging out with your friends. It is getting harder by the year to maintain friendships, so an effort is needed.
/A Dane
The 2000s and early twenty tens were peak. 🤷🏻♀️
We had Clone Wars, Avatar, Nickelodeon, nobody had to be nice in voice chat. Life was better even though technology had not caught up yet.
yeah, nothing is memorable from this decade. Everything is soulless and gets forgotten very quickly.
@GeorgeDimovelis especially wirh females they are getting nastier and think it's funny
@@GeorgeDimovelisidk man i liked ai presidents. That was the best memes in awhile
why is being nice in voice chat a bad thing :-[
@@anamentus8162because you're forced to. I liked being nice because it was MY CHOICE, it added personality, helped me stand out, be quirky and unique. Now I had to switch to more "mad yapper" type of persona because everyone is so squicky slicky nice and polite. I hate modern ultatolerance culture
Loneliness would probably be worse in the past, because theres always been people who slipped through the cracks and since we weren't as interconnected, they just…fell off the face of the earth. Instead of having things like therapy you’d just be seen as crazy and weird and ignored. You still do now but at least some people care or pretend to. We’re just getting more reports of it now because some people are willing to say it.
Yea, this video really suffers from that boomer mentality, of technology = loneliness. Pretty ignorant. Ignoraes how culture can drive loneliness, and the lack of respect.
people have always been lonely but now human interaction is no longer as needed for survival, you can go out and even try to talk to people, and they seem disconected from each other, in a way we are not interconected within our real spaces, if you like on a building, do you know your neighbours?
@@ricardorivas5955 real man. Im trying to connect with people but i always feel disconnected. like im an alien
It's funny though... I go out to eat specifically because I'm so lonely and it's really nice to see people's faces. Although they probably get sick of seeing my awkward depressed face
Sounds like you clinically hate yourself. I think it'd be a good call to check yourself up
awww dont say that 😢
I was born in 1970. When I was a kid we were always outside. That’s how we met other kids. We weren’t inside watching TV. And we rode our bikes or walked everywhere. Kids don’t do that now.
Being born in 2007, that’s something I wish I could do tbh. But nowadays, neighborhoods and suburban areas in general aren’t built with that in mind anymore and I think it’s kinda sad. My grandma’s neighborhood is older than the one I live in currently, and it’s real nice, with a church in walking distance and a basketball court also in walking distance to hang out at. But in my neighborhood, you would have to drive to the park since it was so far, and I believe we don’t even have a park anymore. And the neighborhood I live in is very confusing to navigate and is just a maze of houses (thanks Texas).
They aren't allowed to. Fear and over-parenting has put everyone in the house and is crippling the younger generation from being able to be responsible and independent when things are probably safer now because there are cameras everywhere and everyone has a phone. Imagine being 10 years old on your bike in the 70's a mile away from home with your parents not even knowing where you were, no one has a phone, there are no camera's vs now where if anything happens to you, there are 20 cameras pointing at you and 10 people around you with a cell phone, and you probably have one yourself.
1971, and I honestly wouldn’t trade growing up in the 80’s for anything in the world.
@@sonjaevans3858 oh yeah, we were all over that town on foot or on our bikes. Clear crosstown sometimes. But that’s just how it was back then. A different time. I’m glad I grew up then. I would not want to be a kid now.
@@NubianP6 we didn’t know how good we had it.
Bro i thought you were a UA-camr with at least 100k 😭 that shii was actually nice
Napkin, you know
90s Millennial here : born in 1992, was a teenager throughout the 2000s and currently in my 30s. 🙋🏻♀️
in the early 2000s and beyond, i could never maintain a large group of friends, and because of this, i missed out on a lot of experiences that i’ll never be able to do. i was the lonely kid, but i was okay with that. now, i turn twenty this year and i’ve never felt lonelier. leaving the house is a monetary cost due to the loss of third spaces. my friends and boyfriend live so far, and i haven’t seen a child go outside in my town in months. it’s incredibly saddening, and i’m afraid it’s never going to change. i just want to exist with people. why is that so difficult now?
Im 20 and been isolated in my house, my room the past 3 years, this life isnt worth it, i never had a job, im the black sheep, im looked down upon, unlike anime chars irl your looks match your habits, so yea.. but I need to get a job, that is NECESSARY to change
Absolutely same. I was never hanging out in large groups, only 2-3 people at a time, that was perfectly enough for me. But as the time went on, I lost connection with those people, and never got the chance to find new friends. The last time I hanged out with someone was in 2021. And I feel like crap.
I hope you guys find your social circle. I’m lucky to still have friend groups from hs and uni but what helped me was finding people with similar hobbies of mine(motocross, cars, video games) and initiate hangouts. I found most people don’t want to the be the first to ask but if you do everyone will greatly appreciate it!
Your late teens and early 20s is the loneliest time of your life it’s pretty normal to feel that way
@@mkash8556 one day I want a motorcyle, where would u meet these people, motocross as well