Former chemist here. The real secret to life is that dish soap works on damn near everything. Even when I was trying to clean industrial parts, I found that nothing works as well as dish soap. Oily shop rags? Dish soap. Shop floor? Dish soap. Bench covered with machine oil? Dish soap. You can even use dish soap to wash your carpet. If dish soap doesn't work, move to rubbing alcohol. If alcohol doesn't work, try WD40 (then remove WD40 residue using alcohol). If absolutely nothing else works, try acetone as a last resort. Acetone destroys plastic though. Another one to try is laundry soap. Laundry soap is extremely harsh compared to dish soap. It will clean damn near anything but it tends to leave residue, and it will dry the hell out of your hands because it strips all of the oil off your skin.
This all day. I always keep dish soap in my purse and car. I used to work at a salon and learned from the stylists to use dish soap as shampoo to remove buildup from my hair. Not every day. Normal shampoo most days and dish soap every 3rd or 4th day.
@Ohyoucaughtme I remember when the Exxon Valdez incident happened, and that's when those ducks were shown with Dawn cleaning the oil off. It might not have happened as they said, but it was told they used it to remove the oil, then they had to have an oil replacement in order to be able to be released so they could swim. I was a hairdresser and they came out with a type of product that calmed frizzies, helped hair shine, and also helped curly hair just after that. It came from the product that was used on the ducks, or so we were told in the industry.
@@foliageificationwhen I was a young hairdresser first starting out, I read an article I stupidly fell for and tried: "If zinc is good for hair, why not treat your hair with zinc oxide?" You cannot wash it out. Period. Greasiest mess ever. What finally did it? (After the hot water tank refilled) I powdered my hair with baby powder to soak up some of the mess, the washed it with pure Dawn. That got it, but man was it ever dried out. Lesson learned! Lol
If you're dealing with a hoarder situation that has bugs, dish soap can even kill some pests like fleas. It will dry out your skin as someone pointed out but it works.
I work on cars as a hobby. Its amazing how well dish soap works as a general degreaser without eating away at things like plastic. Only after dish soap doesn't work then I move on to other things like a high concentrate degreaser (super clean) or break cleaner. Acetone is useful for certain things like removing paint transfer but man soo true. Dish soap works like magic.
Yes. Your kindness does so much good. As an adult I have discovered that there are a lot of things I "missed the memo on" your videos often bring me to tears with your kindness and compassion. Thank you. I hope you get your play button soon, you deserve it.
As a buddy of mine said when I told him that the house wasn't super clean because we'd been busy with something, "I'm asking to come over and see you, not your place. That's fine."
"My wife has ADHD so we're going to leave her piles here, but I've made them organised & symmetrical" now that's a beautiful marital compromise if ever I saw one
“My wife has adhd so we’re just gonna keep her piles here” was so great to hear as a fellow adhd. Ive gotten a lot of judgement for my “piles” and overall messy-ness and the understanding and empathy coming through in this video is sooo refreshing + you made me laugh, thank you
lol I loved that too, my husband doesn’t like my piles but he also has ADHD and doesn’t have the mental capacity to help me sort through my piles so he doesn’t complain unless I start complaining about his stuff…that usually makes me shut up pretty quickly 😆
@@va1445 Girl you gotta get one of those pill boxes! The one I have has slots for each day of the week + AM and PM. Ngl it is really hard building the habit of refilling it every week but once you do you’ll be so glad. I do that and than have a big box that I can just throw all the bottles into and store in my closet. I suggest refilling it the same day every week, I do Sunday, and ask your husband to remind you before you go to bed that night. Your countertop will thank you 💕
@@120-l3l I still struggle but I have recently discovered the power of ✨boxes✨. I’ve had people make fun of me cuz I buy so many boxes but omg they help sooo much. Instead of wandering around the house going “oh shit where can I put this item” I take it straight to the box containing similar items. And if no such box exists than the item goes into the drunk drawer. They don’t have to be boring, ugly cardboard either, I’m constantly thrifting beautiful aluminum, wooden and metal boxes. Finally think I’ve started to learn how to work with my adhd instead of fighting to change it.
Honestly I've had my eye on an automatic sweeper/mop for a while that is fully automated. Just need to find something that can put all the stuff away 😂
My dad slipped an index card full of chores, under our doors, every Saturday. There were five of us, my dad, an elementary school principal, knew how to keep children busy. We hated it, couldn’t go anywhere or watch tv until our chore list was done. He itemized each chore with 1.) Clean sliding glass doors a.) Clean bottom after vacuuming dust out, b.) clean glass inside and out side. Each chore was explained in detail. I realize not everyone had a dad like mine, it definitely taught me how to clean. Love your channel.
I was the only child of my single mom mom. I swear to god... Cleaning, cooking... We were a team of 2... It was what it was. To this day I hate any dust gathering rug sitting for nothing 😂😂😂😂
Our mom made each of us a list of chores with instructions every Saturday morning! Funny how that was such a drag as kids but is now a sweet memory. I’d give anything to have a list of chores from her now, miss her every single day. 😢
I had a single bio-mother, twin and half brother... After starting 4th grade, it became apparent that I was better at making sure my chores were done, done right, and done the first time around... so I became the maid. And because of that, "allowances" stopped for all 3 of us. I hate doing dishes and folding clean laundry. Everything else goes fine... but I'm also disabled now, so being able to clean our whole apartment in one go. My partner works insane, unpredictable and random hours, so relying on her to be not completely exhausted by the time she gets home is like relying on a single nail in the wall to hold the 44" TV... I know how to clean and organize better than my twin and half-brother, and essentially everyone in my friend group- and the only one who gets close (my partner) is mostly because of her job.
Your mom was probably repeating what was done to her too. Parenting doesn't come with a handbook, and most of us made countless regrettable mistakes trying our best to raise those we love the most. 💞
Yep. Was never made to cook, or clean, or anything, and then they got mad at me for.. y'know... not being able to cook, or clean, or anything. Parents can be loving but neglectful. It's still abuse, albeit a bit more unintentional.
Yep. I wasn't allowed to help with cleaning as a kid, because "there will be time enough when you are older" and when I was older she was shocked I didn't know how to clean anything. The internet has been a blessing teaching me all the little things my parents didn't.
I love how aware this channel is about people’s situation. I’m 17 years old and I’m just starting out learning how to cook, clean, and do laundry and I feel so behind because my parents never taught me how to do basic things since they work all day. They’ve scolded me for not knowing how to do these things, but they have never taken to time to teach me how, no one is born knowing. Thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
That is so sad to hear. I have three sons and taught them everything they needed to know to take care of themselves. Parents are doing their kids such a disservice by not teaching them .. I mean that is basically the number one responsibility as a parent.
You are not behind nor is it crazy for you to start learning these things at your age. You’ll get there eventually and get your own rhythm and feel for these things. And trust me, almost everyone feels like they’re running behind on something. None of us have it all together. This is a part of life and it’s fine, we don’t need to all do things the same way and at the same pace as other people, we all live different lives and have to work with what we get. You’ll be okay
Good thing youre starting now; i did, and im a very tidy and efficient person or so everyone tells me, not that i doubt them. I was around the same age when i started basically teaching myself everything, youll be just fine. 22 as of now btw
My parents expected me to just do it so I had to just figure it out. I was mortified when I had to move back in with them and found out my kid sister wasn’t taught even how to wash dishes as a 12 year old. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, housekeeping is a lot of work!
I love all these „Internet Mom“ and „Internet Dad“ type of videos, that just explain and teach useful everyday stuff, because there are just SO many people who do not have those in reallife. Thanks for your work, be assured that this means a lot to many people! 🥰
Exactly! Some people have parents who teach them to be self-sufficient or parents who have no issue with explaining how to do something if asked. Many other people have parents who didn't teach them how to do these things. Of those, some would either respond aggressively or in a belittling way for not knowing how and eventually they just stop asking, because why would you if all you receive in response is abuse? There's also a sizable portion of people who are afraid to/don't feel comfortable asking for help/advice for a multitude of reasons, whether because of toxic independency, shyness, not knowing how to do so without sounding dumb (common with autists, like me!) or just not realising it's an option and think everybody should know inherently. Creators like this have been tremendously helpful to me in learning how to be a functioning, independent adult. My parents were great, but mildly enabling of dependent behaviours (they never liked seeing me or my siblings struggle and would try to fix any problems/take care of tasks before we had to deal with them), and that coupled with me struggling with asking for help meant I was pretty clueless on household tasks. Feeling like this while simultaneously being a high-performing professional in a STEM-field is very trippy and discouraging. Seeing stuff like this made me realise though that 1. I'm not alone in not knowing these things and 2. I CAN find out how to do it in a way I'm comfortable with.
When my son finished his A levels and had a four month break before he went to university, I taught him how to wash and dry clothes. How to cook the meals he enjoys. How to clean. What products to buy. How to shop. I’d been teaching him how to budget since he was five and started getting pocket money. He’s now been at university 2 years almost, and often helps his friends out. The first weeks they didn’t even know how to use a washing machine. They didn’t realise you need to change bed sheets and wash them!😮. They couldn’t cook. He said it was actually quite shocking. So you can understand how some kids who’ve been brought up in certain situations don’t know how to manage. People blame them, but they haven’t been given the skills in life❤️
Aren't A levels taken at like 16 or 17 years old? It's awesome you taught him, but my mom had us learning those chores from age 7 or 8, with increasing skill and complexity so we could help and she didn't have to do it all herself! (Or with dad's help, because dad did clean) Whatever happened to childhood chores?
@@jenniferpearce1052 Divorced parents and working moms with ADHD and pretty unsupervised kids. I wasn't sh0own all the chores I was expected to do and then got in trouble for not completing them. I was ADHD and head strong and got by because my babysitter brought boys over, so I blackmailed her to do my chores to keep my mouth shut. I did gain some skills when I spent weekends and weeks during the summer with him, as he did show us and did not made sure we got it. It did not even care about clean after awhile. When I started caring I had an autistic legally blind daughter, who spent her first 10 days in NICU, had heart surgery at 6 weeks and had other anomalies at birth. At 29, I started learning to clean, care and do whatever it takes to raise my awesome daughter. I am still not very good at cleaning, but these videos are really helping me and inspiring me to be better, so I can help my daughter do better. She is now 32 and living independently in a special needs apartment complex with 2 roommates and caregiver support once a week, plus me until we can get more help or do better. I am 60 and still learning to keep my house, yet trying to teach my daughter too... talk about the blind leading the blind, but we manage even if e don't excel. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found this awesome UA-cam channel, as it is really helping us improve in both of our homes!
It seems I referred to my Dad as him. I think if I could have been raised by my dad, I would be a completely different person today. They did not do that is the late 60'sw, though
All those times my dad screamed “you live like a pig, clean your room” I was what, six? No one showed me how. He acted like it was second nature. Thanks for this video, hon.
this is how my dad has acted with every single thing, he starts getting angry and screaming and yelling and threatening to call the police whenever I kindly ask for help
mine always explained it, but in a way I struggled to understand. it was always too simply explained and I had to basically figure it out in spite of the instructions. it was miserable cuz it got me yelled at a lot for not getting it right, and he didn't like me veering away from doing it a specific way even if it was more comfortable for me. as I got older I learned to ask him for details. and he still wouldn't explain it in more details, he'd just repeat the same instructions but in a different way. :/
I struggle with my vacuum more than my cats do. They side eye it and one of them stalks it, but unless I'm using the small handheld one, I have earplugs in and can only do small areas at a time because the noise bothers me.
@@StonedSammieSue I can't tell if you meant acoustic, or autocorrect got you and you meant autistic. Both of those fit except acoustic doesn't make sense as a question lol
Something that helped me was when I realized that decluttering, organizing, and cleaning are three different processes. When deciding on which one to do, I gave myself permission to not worry about the other two (for the time being). For example, if the kitchen really needs to be cleaned, then I just focus on cleaning (wiping out the stove, fridge, and sink, sanitizing surfaces, mopping the floor) and not worry about organizing (should the blender be stored in this cabinet or a different one?) or decluttering (I don't need three dozen dish rags; which ones should I toss?). Narrowing your focus like this can help minimize overwhelm, reduce indecision, and ultimately help you get done faster. . Thanks for the video. We got this, friends.
That's a great comment! I tend to be a "whole picture" person and would get so overwhelmed, l couldn't even manage to begin. It's really distressing and made me hate myself for years. Luckily l'm finally realising what was happening and have begun to find strategies, yours is another one to add. 😊
Yes and no. Oftentimes things can be brought into a logical order that makes each subsequent step easier. For instance: Declutter first. Things you don't need any more should be thrown out before you waste time on cleaning them. Once you got rid of the junk, tidy up. Cleaning surfaces is much easier when you don't have to move stuff around all the time. Once the place is in order, wiping down surfaces is hardly an effort any more. Personally I find I have much less struggle motivating myself to clean when cleaning is actually easy. Which is why I have almost no stuff sitting on my kitchen tops.
This wonderful Comment was obviously written for people who don't already have things all together and who dont have the time or the executive function to "do them in the right order". When the kitchen needs cleaning, it needs to be clean. No amount of decluttering is going to make the dishes and surfaces any cleaner if I get sidetracked; I'd just have fewer dirty dishes in front of me and stuff will get moved around, but it'll still be dirty. Times I've tried to go in a "logical order" i.e. Put away dishes first, then wash dishes and put them in the rack, etc. ended up with me frustrated while trying to put away the dishes "the right way", trying to find the best place so I won't lose it, and other organizational blunders, until I give up and the dishes don't even get washed at all. and since I gave up on the dishes I'm too frustrated to get to the stove or the floor, so the whole project feels like a wash, ... see what I did there? Sometimes I just let myself ONLY put the dishes away and not feel guilty about washing more. Also Life Happens. My sink is acting slow, so I can't wash how I want. So, some pans are still on the stove. When I want to cook, I clean the part of the stove I' use and can get to. The clutter is not to get "rid" of my pots, it's that I can't clean them all at once and also put them away. So why try? If I can do one pot now. and one pot later after the sink drains, that works too. waiting until everything is decluttered and tidy in order to clean will be a happy time for bugs, mold, and grime. It's okay to clean imperfectly between the clutter if it gets you closer to what you want and need to do. or as that FlyLady said "A done something is better than a perfect nothing." I need to keep reminding myself of that when I feel overwhelmed by life
I like how he makes sure to mention the most low-cost and economical way to effectively clean. I feel like a lot of cleaning content tends to promote excessive product use/purchasing that is wasteful. This also makes it really accessible!
Yeah, I got influenced HARD to get the dumb Scrub Daddy, the Scrub Mommy, and the accompanied Scrub Paste or whatever it's called. They're great products, ngl, but it turns out a rag and a basic all purpose cleaner is just as good. SHOCKER. Gahhhhhhh
I also think we really need to normalize using cut-up old clothes as rags instead of throwing them out. I did that with some old t-shirts a friend of mine left after moving, and I use those for floors. It's also possible to make them look nice by hemming with a sewing machine (or just hand-doing it).
I am an adult with autism, and growing up my sister and I had to do chores around the house. I always got in trouble because I wasn’t doing things “correctly” and my side of our bedroom was always messy. It wasn’t until I became an adult where I had a conversation with my mom and sister about it. I told them I don’t know how to clean my house. Every time I go to my sister’s house it’s immaculate, and I’m flabbergasted as to how. It’s a natural thing for her, so she was confused that I was confused. This was a longwinded comment to say this video was very helpful.
Also an adult wirh autism. My mother and older sisters akways get mad i don't know how to clean when they've never taught me once or left it to professionals. I need direct instructions, all their getting mad I never do it right makes me feel like never doing it.
do you and your sister learn differently? can you give an example of what would have helped? asking for my daughter - simple things are tough to explain to her (and make it stick) sometimes
@@MK-er7cx My sisters and mother were all raised with the expectations of doing household chores. Something that would have helped is Midwestern Magic Cleaning's thorough step by step explanations instead of just getting mad I can't do a thing they know, to their standard, without teaching me it ever.
To be honest the fact that you also leave some messes and explain that "it's my house, I can be lazy sometimes" really comforts me, you don't leave on a pristine spotless mansion, you live in a house with stuff in the middle you need to move to another spot to clean a space. Really loved this video, really helped
I'm actually gratified to hear a 6'4" tall dude say that scrubbing bathtubs takes a lot of effort, and he hates it. I'm a nearly 60 year old woman built like a garden rake and scrubbing the bathtub has been the bane of my existence. Until I realized that I could use a scraper, I avoided it like the plague, and the tub always ended up looking awful. It was only when I realized I could scrape it (mine has a smooth surface) that I realized my bathroom could look nice, and it motivated me to clean it every month, top to bottom. I'll give barkeeper's friend a shot, too. You're absolutely right that cleaning isn't intuitive AT ALL. My mom's mom died just as my parents got married, so my mom never had the chance to lean on her mom's knowledge when she got her own home and family to maintain. It wasn't until I discovered Aurikaterina and you that I really got a full-on grip on how to get things clean, and it's a hell of a mood lifter to be in a clean home. After getting the entire bathroom sparkling, I even just like walking in there and looking at it. My mind and mood sees it as being in control of my environment rather than at the mercy of it.
oh I wish teaching kids to clean was all that was needed my Autistic son whose in his mid twenties to date does not matter how many times I stand with him and explain what is the process is, left to himself does not do even the basics. If i say for example have youncleaned your room as asked reply yes. If I go up and look he may have for example picked up his dirty laundry and brought it down for the laundry fairy to process, or maybe he vaccummed the carpet. He will not have picked up the thrash (not much but some) he will not have wiped the sheleves over even if he split a drink on them. He also knows if mum is out and he is home on his laptop when she returns she gets annoyed if the sink is filled with dishes especially if the dish washer is empty and yet any day I go out when I come home dishes in the sink. Does not matter how often I say to him please do not do this. In one ear out the other side.
30:20 Quick tip for cleaning pots and pans if you accidentially burn your food and have a hard time scrubbing off the black residue: Fill the pot with water and dish soap and cook it for some time. Then try cleaning it again. This will save you a whole lot of scrubbing.
Do you know I actually cried watching this??? I'm showing it to my teenage sons to help them out. I was raised by a perfectionist that never taught me anything because I wouldn't do it right. Thank you so much for sharing this video. We all have ADD or OCD in our family. I'm 50 yo now and still learning.
This video is so freaking wholesome. the lack of judgment, the empathic understanding and just clear intentions of wanting to help others just brings so much joy.
He’s my favorite teacher from UA-cam helps me so much to understand ADHD /hoarders issues. My moms has these problems and it’s very difficult to help as I struggle with adhd and decisions too.
I remember having to explain to a friend of mine who couldn’t understand how a person’s house could get so messy. I pointed out she learned from her mom, but not all mom’s know how to clean and maintain a household. And some people were taught to clean but told so often “if you can’t do something right don’t do it at all” which when they’re older with their own place they think “Well, I don’t have time to mop the proper way so I can’t mop” even though there are countless methods and most of them are good enough! Also some people were raised with chores as punishment, so as they got older they think “why do I have to do the dishes? I’ve been good!” I had to make a drastic shift in my mind set before I could even begin to get a handle on cleaning regularly. Flylady helped, not so much her method but her mindset. Cleaning is blessing your home, it’s blessing your family. Sorry, I took the long rambling way to say what you’re doing is fantastic and your wife is 100% right, cleaning is not always intuitive. It’s something you learn.
Love FlyLady! “You can do anything for fifteen minutes” and “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just have to get done” were a game changer for me, as were her routines.
I'm in the boat of having chores as punishment, not really ever been shown how to clean anything, and having ADHD. I've been watching this channel for awhile now and it's the only one I contribute monetarily to because I have found it lifechanging. I've cried more than once after watching a video. I struggle so much with cleaning and this channel helps me feel like I'm not a failure.
This is so true! Another example is when your room got messy when a kid and your mom cleaned it for you while you were away and then got the feeling of guilt and shame and the pressure in comments like now keep it clean! As my mental health is declining clean home gives me tremendous anxiety so as soon as I clean up, I feel awful and start to hoard everything back.
Yup, exactly this. I grew up with a combination of cleaning being a punishment and developing depression right when I'd really start to shape those habits. So now I'm here at 23, I want a clean organized space but it feels so hard to maintain. So now I'm also reshaping how I think about things. Dishes have gotten a lot better, I actually somewhat enjoy it if I have music going. The othere stuff, were still getting there
My parents got arrested and they need to serve time. They left me with a hell hole of a room with so much clothes(washed and unwashed), dirty plates, rotting garbages and rotten wood boards. The aunt who is kind of the home owner(It's a family house) was getting on my nerves so being there to clean their mess up had been a dreadful thought to me because all of my life my parents had gaslit me into believing that I was a lazy, filthy child when 1. they've never taught me how to clean, 2. They're the one making messes, 3. I have undiagnosed chronic illnesses they refused to get check since I was 12. I always put your video on whenever I need to clean up the place even before they got arrested, but I've never need to do it as throughly as this time, so this video is a life-saver to me, it relieved me so much fear and anxiety. You may not ever saw my comment, but I would like to tell you how you basically helped me dig myself out of my misery since I was a teen who has no way of escaping that hell of a family by giving me the push to clean up after myself and making me realize that I can make it in this life, despite everything.
I think the hope in your last sentence is a great place to be. “I can make it in this life, despite everything.” You have already proven that you can do hard things. I have no doubt that you will succeed and have a better life than what your past would predict. Keep on going! ❤
I’m heartbroken when I hear of people thrown into awful situations like this. I’m sorry your parents left you in such a situation, but it also sounds like you’ve been incredibly resilient. Keep it up, you’re awesome.
I'm so proud of you kiddo. I came from similar neglect/abuse and it takes a lot of courage to learn new ways when the adults who made you didn't bother to raise you. ❤
God bless you Jesus loves you! You will make it keep going! I hope now that you are more in control of your space it helps your illnesses have a good day!
Actually *nothing* is intuitive, but most people don't remember being taught. It really helps to have someone teach every step, because not everyone had that opportunity early in life. Thank you for doing this.
I would argue that our bodies are specifically designed to have an intuitive idea for how, when and why to do anything that is required for survival. But only survival, not even reproduction. Maybe I'm coping.
I cant help but add this here, the weiner is controlled by a nerve in your spine, its why men can be raped, they don't control it, so its not intuitive because its not intuition its just a natural function. Breathing and your heart beating are examples of intuitive concepts. Most of your organs move in a way that is either intuitive or controlled by a nerve cluster you don't control from your brain how you think you do. Concepts you can learn that are intuitive are things like grabbing, that is something babies will do from birth as an intuited action. Sucking for milk. Going to the bathroom. Crying. Basically every action you expect a baby to do.
Hmm, not quite. There are PLENTY of ‘how to clean xyz quickly and easily’ videos available. Mac brings a fresh and fun perspective to doing house cleaning, that is a pleasure to watch. :)
This relates to how I feel about art. I HATE IT when people say that, to learn to make art, I "JUST" have to practice. No. I have to learn. If you force me to practice without good guidance I'm going to learn bad habits.
Reassurance tip: the first time you clean properly around the outside of the toilet, you will be horrified at how cruddy it is. But, it will never be that bad again, because you will (hopefully) get into the habit of doing it regularly, and then it will be just be a "swoosh" clean every time. So much easier after it's done right once!
Some random guy at a party my roommate and I had in college said to me, I think that's the cleanest toilet I've ever peed in. I thought what a weird thing to say. Now that I'm older and seen how most toilets look I get it. I can't let my toilet get like that. Lol (no judgement, I just have a need to keep mine super clean)😊
I'll be honest: Once I understood what a poor job of cleaning I'd been doing since I didn't know better, I hired a professional to come in and deep clean some things. The toilet and tub were at the top of my list because I knew they'd be difficult to get to a clean state. I know that's not an option for everyone but it was money well spent. It was a lot easier to then clean properly once I had a "clean" slate to start.
My dad taught my brother and me how to clean the bathroom when we were first assigned it as a chore. He told my brother that no matter who had the toilet cleaning duty (we alternated) that it was HIS job to wipe of any splatter from the floor or wall because I wasn't responsible for peeing outside the toilet! Thanks, Dad! And I'm sure my sister in law thanks you too.
Do I know how to clean? Yes. I have a blackbelt in cleaning and organization. Did I watch this whole video? Of course I did. Thank you for doing this. So many people don't know how to clean. I remember working a job and I cleaned and organized and my boss was stunned because they could never figure out how to do it. Someone showing you how (judgement free) is invaluable.
I know some of the basics but I was never properly taught because of some childhood issues so I just wanted to make sure I didn't miss anything important!
I love seeing other people’s methods, tips, and tricks! Sometimes we learn a new/better/different way to do things even if we’ve already been doing it.
My Mum didn't teach me to clean because she is a perfectionist and did it all herself. I learnt how to clean at my part time job. I worked at a fast food restaurant and learned how to clean a kitchen, dining room and bathrooms. I swept, mopped and washed dishes. I learnt safe food handling. I'm grateful for that experience.
This! My mom did literally everything for me. Didn’t let me do a single thing. Now I don’t know how to do stuff myself and they are a big headache of stress for me. If I point it was their own fault, you know what happens. So I asked them to let me live alone for a while when I’ll be going for college. Just so I could be away from them and finally do things myself. And they are second thinking that because I don’t know how to do anything. These people never learn.
This is where many people learn the first things about cleaning! Being a lead in this business is really rewarding to me for being able to help kids and young adults with things that will serve them throughout their lives.
25:36 I’ve seen young teens at summer camp go in circles when vacuuming because it was their first time so here is a breakdown of vacuuming in case you don’t know: Having a less heavy vacuum is good because you can move it around more easily. When vacuuming, break the floor into rectangular/square segments in your mind and go in straight lines. He also demonstrates using the hose part to suck up the bigger pieces. I think that’s all I have to add!
I'm autistic so often "common sense" isn't common or sensical to me. People expect me to just know things, and this video helped a lot with me figuring out what the proper way is to clean something because I just do not learn in the same way a lot of people do. Having someone patiently explain it helps A LOT.
I wish I could just have someone explain everything to me in life because I’m not joking when I say I genuinely don’t understand a lot of things without help.
it's terrible how there's so many people who could thrive in society but don't simply because when growing up, their parents weren't patient or understanding, whether it be with explaining chores, self hygiene or homework.
It was extremely validating to hear someone who cleans professionally to admit they hate scrubbing bathtubs. On the weekend I was scrubbing the bathroom of the rental house we’d just moved out of. It clearly hadn’t been deep cleaned before we moved in, and eventually I just broke down in tears because I hate cleaning and I was mentally and physically exhausted doing this on top of the move. I feel so much better knowing that even “clean people” find some of this stuff challenging.
Cleaning tubs is the worst. If you have a ceramic tub or some hard material they have power brushes on a stick that work well. Mine is plastic so that would scratch it up so I end up neglecting it, then hurting myself when I have to go HAM on the gross tub.
Lysol toilet bowl cleaner. Rinse. Then a wash with vinegar does wonders. Makes the job so easy and quick. For grout too. I don’t like cleaning, but i look forward to the result. It makes it feel worth it and like i accomplished something.
every professional cleaner has at least one task or thing they hate cleaning. It's Urinals for me. Cleaning can really suck and it is in fact exhausting both physically and mentally. Cleaning at the end of a move is a different type of frustrating though.
Definitely one of my most dreaded tasks too, but I found a method that works a little better for me. I'm not blessed with a removable shower head so I use a pump up sprayer for the garden to wet the tub. Then I take one of those dish wands that stores the soap in the handle and fill it with toilet cleaner and scrub (dedicate to this task, do not use it for dishes after!). Finally rinse with the sprayer again.
It's very brave of you to show your home as it is and not bother prettyifying it just because it's on camera. You're showing us your real lived in home and demonstrating how cleaning works with your own stuff. This is very real and we see it and appreciate it.
Brother, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I have CPTSD from being in a RTF like the one on Netflix's The Program and a druggie mom and absent/abusive dad. I can still smell the house from childhood sometimes. Im also schizophrenic(the benign kind, not the dangerous one). I became the same. A mess. I just recently started getting my self right and this video was such a major help. You're not yelling at me. You're telling me exactly what to do. Then you show me. You make it so easy! It becomes a game in my head. I never ever let people come over because I'm so embarrassed. Not now. I feel 10x better about myself and all i did was clean my place. Thank you buddy. You're changing lives here. I mean that. You changed mine.
@@alexiaharpham4985 me neither friend. I was basically feral, incarcerated, institutionalized, and ostracized growing up. Nobody ever showed me HOW TO CLEAN. It's pretty sad.
I like the fact that you have a regular looking house on the inside where people live. Majority of the cleaning vlogs look like people live in a showroom.
So comforting. No screaming, no shaming, just a man parenting all of us who were never taught but still shamed to hell and back. Only in my 20's did I realize that I only ever tried to figure it out on my own, but never actually knew how. My dad would scream and shout, but he wasn't that clean at all either. For the last few years, I've just been realizing all the stuff that I never even knew needed cleaning. I never saw it, I never looked at it, yet one day I'm like: shit, this can probably be cleaned, somehow. 🤦♀️
God the parent screaming and shouting and shaming is my mother to a t. Shes a borderline horder and “cleans” the dishes by still leaving all the shit on it
I got the yelling about cleaning my room. And I got my stuff taken away. But I was never taught how they expected me to clean my room. I thought it was clean. I had a farm toy set with LOTS of pieces that I played with every day. I left it out on the floor. Because I used it every day. I didn't want to put away the 100+ pieces every day just to get it out again the next. But apparently, that was wrong, in my parents eyes. I still do this. If it's something I use every day, I keep it out if it's something that takes forever to set back up (tools, hobby supplies for a project in progress, etc.). I'll put everything away when I'm done. If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
@@tricitymorte1 That's exactly how I work too. It just feels more intuitive to keep the things I will need for whatever I'm doing out until I'm done rather than to pick them up and put them away each and every day. Like you said; If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
@@tricitymorte1 yelling and taking away a child's toy that they left in their room and doesn't bother anyone is so sad. Especially when it's not about hygiene, but just appearances :(
As a parent trying to teach my child (with ADHD) how to clean, THANK YOU! I have slowly realized that I have to give smaller steps so instead of saying "clean the bathroom", I have to give him steps for each section of the bathroom, otherwise it is overwhelming. Doing this in a way that is educational and not demeaning is so amazing. Plus, your humor is wonderful!
As kids in the 70’s I know my cousin and I were shipped off to our grandparents for the summer. We were taught how to do all this stuff. I had my own cleaning business as a kid because of it. My elderly neighbors used to hire me out, clean houses, yards, wash cars, walk dogs, etc. I still do it today. What puzzles me, WHY was HOME EC cancelled in schools? EVERYBODY NEEDS TO LEARN THE BASICS! I would actually teach my younger friends cooking, cleaning, sewing, clothing and beauty. Give the younger ones a chance! They’re eager to learn, then TEACH! After showing this amazing duo how to make tacos at hime, I came home to find CLASS for 15-20 young girls from their church ALL LEARNING HOW TO MAKE TACOS! They were laughing and eating, having a ball! I seriously have never been so proud in my life. They had it DOWN!
I am so thankful for Home Ec. I learned so much, and I still know all the different sewing stitches, cooking, baking. it was my favorite class ever. I ended up becoming a full-time homemaker. I homeschooled my kids and taught my kids all that I learned. Anything else they don't know, they have learned on their own. Home Ec. is so necessary to learn for life's basic survival. I'm so glad that there are channels like yours that teach cleaning. I love to watch them and pick up any tips that would make cleaning easier.
No room in the school budget for anything other than required core classes. Even the teachers don't get paid enough to live indoors-- I had one teacher who lived in her car and slept in the classroom.
I started watching this video and thought, “Who doesn’t know how to clean a counter?” I started reading the comments and realize how many people DON’T know. I also didn’t know how many people have triggering memories attached to cleaning. I certainly do. I had a mother who let dishes, pots and pans pile high. There was trash in the sink and old food. Then, she would pick a fight and punish me by telling me I had to wash the dishes. I have always had some lower back pain so the hour and a half it took would hurt me. When I moved out, I washed dishes immediately so I would never be at the sink for an extended period of time or see nasty dishes in the sink. Thank you for this video.
They know. They just are the typical conforming to whatever video they watch. You have to be short bus certified to not understand these basic tasks. It's really embarrassing looking at these comments. "I was never taught how to clean!" Nah, you are just lazy. Then again, it's very possible these people need their hand held still across the street. See short bus for more information.
@@panic.betrayer They're a low effort troll, just ignore. Likely doesn't do anything worth while IRL and is upset at others being supported so they lash out online. Not worth the effort.
I come from an abusive home. One of the abuser tactics my dad used was demanding that my mother "relax and let the kids deal with it." Whenever she started to clean the house and then call my sisters and I lazy and incompetent when we did clean and he was extremely over critical so it felt like everything we did was wrong until we just gave up and began to feel like it was not worth it to even try. We lived in disorder, chaos and clutter. We got food poisoning a lot because he wouldn't let our mother put food away in time but then insisted we eat it so it won't go to waste. It was only when I was in my midtwenties did I start to feel like I was developing mediocre cleaning skills. I'm now in my 30's and I'm finally in a place where I do the dishes regularly. I honestly don't feel like this would have been possible had I not met my husband. He's so kind and gentle and he helped me make a home where we feel safe and loved. I don't feel stressed. Part of my cleaning journey was definitely deeply ingrained in the healing and recovery process.
Mine wasn't as bad, and it took me until my forties to even grasp that "abusive" might apply (as I do love my parents, they do love me, and the issues seem minor in comparison to so many people's), but I did have my dad constantly criticizing my cleaning attempts -- in ways that I only in the past five years have determined are related to my ADHD. I was always not cleaning in a timely manner, or cleaning the wrong location, or cleaning the wrong sublocation, or getting distracted and not completing the job, or cleaning it inadequately, and every time he would be like "why didn't you do it over here and this way" until I learned that it was easier to not do it at all in the first place, since I'd get criticized either way. Digging yourself out of that sort of hole is tough. I've got a long way to go, but at least I understand better the roots of some of my issues. I'm glad you've found the resources and support you need to progress to a better stage of life.
Im glad to see how far you come and that you have support. I had a rough time as well growing up and had a similar situation and thoughts when I seen this video. We had electrical, plumbing issues, no ac or heat, so much junk, and we were broke. Im not sure but i think my parents spent their money on the wrong things. I remember wanting to clean so bad too; my room was good but we never had stuff like garbage bags, towels, clean wash cloths . I'm glad I've come to learn most this video in my 20s like you did. I still feel like there's other basic stuff that I don't even realize I'm still doing wrong tho.
This is great! My mom was not a cleaner so I literally didn't learn how to clean. I became a cleaning product hoarder and muddled through as best as I could. I married a man whose mom had a cleaning company. She taught me the basics plus tricks (like working top to bottom; shine the mirror & faucet because that looks cleaner; use less cleaner than they do on TV commercials). Cleaning became so much easier! Thanks for doing this video.
When I worked as a nurse going to people's homes, I had one lady who complained about her vacuum cleaner not picking up. (Some people thought we were there to fix a variety of problems, not just health-related) I told her I'd take a look and when I did the canister was so full that it could not contain another speck of dirt. I showed her how to empty it and told her to empty it regularly. Enjoyed your video tonight.
I helped an older lady I lived next too. Everyday I noticed her floors were dirty even after I'd just cleaned them the day before til I noticed her son coming in with his shoes on. Had to tell him he might as well take a load of dog shit and other crap and rub it into the carpets then pointed to the porch where everyone else had put their shoes. I've never seen the penny drop so slowly in a 50 year old man. Then he started kicking the skirting boards to clean mud off his boots in the porch so I pointed to the massive rug and boot scraper outside and said you're supposed to do that out there I was at the point of thinking he must just hate his mother. But still gave him the benefit and held my tongue. Until the day I cleaned out her bathroom and had it spotless, it didn't have running water so I left a bucket of water so you could fill up the tank after flushing because I'd already filled it. He took a shit in the bathroom and just left it. So I told his mother and she told the rest of the family about all of it, including the time I caught him wiping snot somewhere. He's been on his best behaviour since, lets hope it stays that way.
ADHD wife here. Thank you for respecting the piles. My husband moves them or destroys them and then it takes me at least an hour to remember what the pile was, what was in it, and what I was saving it for. Lots of tears.
@@TillyJones11 I could respond with the why and the how my brain works, but suffice it to say the piles are a part of an activity or chore I'm trying to finish but couldn't for whatever reason. When that pile is removed or destroyed, I have to remember what I was trying to accomplish, what tools are required for the job, and how I was going to accomplish it. Steps that would make sense to you and take a minute make no sense to me and take hours.
I was diagnosed a couple years ago with autism and inattentive ADHD, raised by abusive alcoholic undiagnosed neurodivergent parents, and I greatly appreciate channels like this. My parents never put much effort into raising me, besides my mom begrudgingly taking care of my most basic physical needs. My room was so messy by the time I was 12 that my bed was infested with ants, and I became fed up with it. Channels like these have been the backbone to me becoming a functional, independent adult. Turns out I actually love cooking and cleaning too! They make me feel so empowered. You're doing incredible work for people in similar situations to me!
Added context below. Additional reminder that some people don't build habits at all, ever (thanks, neurodivergence!), so having the _bare minimum_ explained in a gentle way like this is incredibly helpful. Editing to add: This comment has gotten a lot of traction, so I'm going to attempt (once) to add a bit of the context I initially tried to leave out for sensitivity. The technical definition for "habit" is "any regularly repeated behaviour that requires *_little or no thought_* and is learned rather than innate" [emphasis added]. Those of us who cannot form habits require conscious thought for every decision train. We use coping mechanisms, systems, frameworks, labels, triggers, reminders, and organization (to name just the few I use myself) _instead of_ "thoughtless" habits. We may be very good at operating within these frameworks and from the outside it _looks like_ we've got habits, but I can say from personal experience that each one is an analogue to something I was "supposed to" have learned as a child and "should be able to" do without thinking about it as a result. I'll list them if you want me to, but seriously, it's endless. I deliberately used the broad term "neurodivergence" because the inability to form habits applies to so, so many diagnosed and undiagnosed brainspaces (including ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, and executive function disorder, just to name a few I'm familiar with). I deliberately used the term "inability" because I'm _not_ referring to lack of motivation, lack of repetition, or lack of guidance - I, for example, am autistic and cannot for the life of me remember to brush my teeth _even though_ my parents 100% taught me how and repeated the action with me throughout my childhood. I'd love to have fewer cavities. I hope this helps explain a few of the misconceptions I've seen in the conversation below. And as always - if you know, you already know. *_*hug*_*
That's usually stating it a bit strong, but there definitely are people that are resistant to forming habits in the first place and get off track almost immediately and have to start over if interrupted.
anyone can build habits unless they are functionally retarded and you may be retarded but you are definitely not functionally retarded it just takes more work and more time for some people
@SmallSpoonBrigade I'm in this comment. xD I'm ADHD inattentive, and cleaning falls into the "I generally know how, but always forget to do it until it's not easy anymore and gets overwhelming" category for me specifically because I have such a hard time building habits. The ones I have built have either been because they immediately impact my life, like knowing where my glasses are in the morning, or after multiple really bad experiences, like remembering my keys BEFORE I leave the house.
@@Xanthelei There's a reason why I said usually. In some ways I think the OCD and ASD tend to balance out my ADHD a bit in that regard. I prefer to have a set of keys and everything else that I take with me everyday either in my pants pockets or in a bag I take with me everywhere. It makes that a lot easier. And a check list of what goes in it can help do a quick check from time to time. In practice, I rarely need to check the bag.
@@chillfactory9000 I totally agree! I think showing kids how to rent an apartment or enter a contract/agreement should be taught as well. Maybe a lesson on interest with credit cards too.
Elementary school, maybe 5th grade honestly. Early middle school or upper elementary. Cleaning should be added to health class, which encompases sex ed and mental health. But bodily and mental health are definitely affected by your home environment!!!
15:30 for people who have bad backs and knees, cleaning the tub with a standing pole scrubber instead of using a handheld sponge can make a world of difference.
i use a dollar store broom strictly for the tub / shower. and tilex !! takes stains / mold stains out QUICK !! spray it let it sit then rinse it off. add a dash of dawn dish soap and scrub shower walls / tub. Never again will I EVER bend down and clean😅😂
For those of us returning as we clean- Timestamps: 1:36 Cleaning supplies 4:20 General surface cleaning 8:35 Toilet | Inside 9:31 Windows 11:58 Mirrors 13:07 Sinks 15:30 Bathtub & shower 19:30 Dusting 21:31 Vacuuming 26:03 Toilet continued | Outside 29:27 Dishes | Dealing with grease 31:05 Final thoughts Thank you so much MMC!! This was so helpful!!
As someone with ADHD, the really nice thing about actually getting into some kind of cleaning routine is that once you get everything to a consistent level of “clean enough”, you really dont need to do big deep cleans that often, which was what was keeping me in a rut of having a really messy living situation. Like. If on a random Sunday I feel like scrubbing out the entire oven until it’s brand new or washing the pillows, etc, I can do that as a little project. But otherwise as long as everything stays “clean enough” and we’re cycling through what’s getting cleaned each day/week/etc, nothing builds up enough that it’s too much work to get done in like. half an hour to an hour
Want a real ADD trick that will fix a lot? Never do anything for YOU, but do everything for FUTURE you. Try to impress that person. Even thank them for it later. I do this all the time, I do something, forget I did, then later it comes in clutch and makes something way easier, and I remember hey I DID do that, good job past me, you did good work, hope you kept it up.
@@RobertMorgan Awww, that is so sweet! I have really bad executive dysfunction and I similarly try to applaud myself when I've managed to successfully do something good (even if mundane for other people). Positive self talk is just SO important. I used to beat myself up and call myself stupid and I internalized all my challenges as just "well I suck, so what did I expect" and I didn't even get diagnosed ADHD until I was 21, so my entire childhood was just being told I was bad and broken and different than others and I never knew why and I always just wanted to be good! I've been doing something similar to what you suggested for myself, but it also works great in healthy living/eating! I got overweight cause of depression, but I've lost a good amount of weight now, and current me thanks past me and encourages future me every day. ❤
I LOVE the fact that you kept your wife’s items in the same areas because of her ADHD. It drives me bonkers when things I have on counters at home get put upstairs or shoved in a bag because I now have absolutely no clue where specific things like letters or bills are, but I get blamed for having a mess or get told I should have cleaned up and they wouldn’t have had to clear the table when they got tired of MY things being there. It is literally just how our brain works.
i can relate to u, i dont have adhd but even if my table's a mess, i know where my stuffs are. and it really bothers me when someone cleans it and misplaces everything
@@SnailHatan If you have ADHD then I’m sure you’re 100% aware that it affects everyone differently. Glad you don’t have issues cleaning. Congrats on that 🎉 My ADHD, however, clearly affects me differently. It’s really not that difficult to understand.
As a neurodivergent person raised by neurodivergent parents who didn't teach me how to properly clean but complained all the time how messy I was, this feels healing. Thank you!
you’re breaking a cycle that probably goes back generations. Feel proud! I’m sure your neurodivergent parents learned their methods from their neurodivergent parents. Understanding neurodivergence unpacks a lot of weird family quirks
Didnt even learn how to clean despite being a germaphobe because i had a dad with OCD who wouldnt let me even touch the bottle of any kind of chemical cleaning product
The irony of finding this video on Mother's Day. My mother was a perfectionist who never taught me any of this. Because I could never do it right. Thanks for this.
I don't think you understand how amazing this is. For you to take the time and make a video like this. People need to be more compassionate towards others, because not everyone comes from a living and caring family. Not everyone is talk this essential life lessons, these lessons others call 'common sense'. I really hate when people say condescending things such as 'common sense' isn't common anymore', because sometimes people need the 'basic' things explained because it was never taught to them. And if it was, it was taught in a condescending and abusive way, to the point where you think your effort is pointless. How about you grow up in a family where everything you did was rediculed? Where you were told that everything you did was wrong, even though you tried your best. That kind of 'teaching' really leaves people depressed and feeling worthless. So thank you for not being a condescending jackass, and explaining and realizing that we didn't all grow up in healthy environments that allowed us to grow and learn in a healthy way
It’s so refreshing to see a how to video that’s not like “Oh my god you guys I have found the top five “secret” products that you NEED to have to keep your home clean!” He gave so many different options and kept acknowledging that there are those who can’t afford certain products and there’s still options and techniques that can help them keep their homes clean. I wish we had more content like this that pushes “here are some tips, do what works for you” instead of the constant “these specific products are the only thing that will fix your problems, link in bio” marketing that we see all the time. Such an awesome video 😌
My Home Ec teacher made my class's final on how well our kitchens were cleaned. She'd also make us do weekly chores, like laundry, taking expired food out of the fridges, and it taught me very essential life skills. We need more Home Ec/FCS teachers in schools man!
The premise of this video is so sad. When I lived in Oregon I ended up taking in this girl because she was homeless with an infant and had come from two generations of homeless parents, and about three months in she came home crying because she had bought dish soap and windex and she had never bought cleaning stuff before in her entire life. She was I think 25 at the time. Really eye opening.
I know the feeling. I had never spent my own money on household supplies until the other day and I am 34 (bleach cleaner, garbage bags, TP, laundry soap, etc.). Once I quit using drugs/alcohol, I could actually afford it. I realize now it's all part of maturing into an adult.
@@13donstalosSimilar story. But I'm on the spectrum. My problem isn't drugs/alcohol. It's depression/mental illness. In all honesty, I never figured it would be a problem. Didn't think I'd still be here.
@@armyofninjas9055drugs alcohol usually come with mental illness. People don't depend on drugs because theyre doing well. Drug and alcohol abuse is just another symptom of mental illness, but they can definitely worsen things in the long run. I quit drinking this year and my anxiety got so much friggin better. My main addiction tho is my phone. I waste so much time scrolling and typing to random people on the internet and don't actively take care of myself because of it. Why get dopamine from hard work when you can get it staring at a metal and glass block in front of your face? I lost my phone last week and spent a week without a phone and had legit withdrawals and cravings. I didn't know how to cope. But after 5-6 days it gets a lot easier and I started going to bed earlier and getting out of bed faster. Normally I only get up to make tea and then sit back down and check my phone for a while. But without it I was able to immediately make breakfast and shower and stuff like that.
Emily is right. It's not always intuitive. Ive watched you clean just about everything, but the "showing and explaining " really does help. That Emily is a keeper. ❤
This is really nice to explain to people. I’ve realized growing up that my mother not wanting me to clean was an overcompensation for her childhood where she felt she was always made to do work and chores. My grandma did most of the cleaning for us. As sweet as my grandma was, in some sense it really did me a disservice since I never learned. She told me when I was about 10 how she read a news story that the kids who perform the best in school are “organized”, that’s the key. I was never taught how to organize…my mom would scold me how I was messy yet she never taught me how to clean and she was also messy herself. I’m glad you are raising awareness about this stuff. It wasn’t until I was in my mid twenties I got so fed up living in chaos and never being able to find what I’m looking for that I started being more organized and less cluttered. It’s been a journey but I’m SO much better than I used to be through my own work and persistence. I don’t think I’ll ever be a “neat freak” per se, but I now understand the true joy of having a clean and organized space now that I’m older. This is very validating and encouraging. I’m looking forward to teaching these things to my kids so it’s less hard on them when they grow up.
I have no idea why this is so soothing, but it is. What makes me really happy is that your house is clearly being lived in. There's some mess, and some stains that won't come out of the carpet, and a bunch of pets. And you just move the random items, clean the surface, and move them back. Most "clean your house" videos make me feel like a failure because the houses all look like they're straight from an IKEA ad. So, thank you for this. I watched the whole vid.
yes! my mom once commented that all the houses on real estate photos and newspapers never looked "lived in". there are never boots by the door or cups on the coffee table or a doggy lying by the table..
This is the most compassionate, comprehensive, and thoughtful instruction of essential cleaning I’ve ever seen. A preteen, teen, or adult would equally be able to watch this video and feel capable of cleaning a home to a level of reasonable sanitation. This is such a good skill building video!
Thank you for distinguishing that you don't need super expensive cleaners and can clean with a few simple things you probably already have lying around the house. That's really important to hear, especially considering most cleaning channels swear by a million products that not everyone can afford.
This is so sweet and kind of you to make. I’m definitely sharing this with teens I know. My mom put my brother and I in Don Asletts cleaning class when we were kids and bought us each a $40 cleaning kit. I can’t imagine not knowing how to clean but I meet teens every week who don’t know how to clean . Thanks again for this video! I absolutely love it!
It would be cool if you had starter gift sets for sale with the empty spray bottle, gloves, bar keepers friend.... and an encouraging outline of simple steps (moose jokes included). These could be great graduation gifts.
As a fellow adult child of hoarders, I want to give you a hug. I escaped it. My brother didn't. I'm proud of you for creating a better space for yourself.
I wanna throw it out there that for others like myself who have historically hated vacuuming - ear protection makes a difference. I wear ear plugs now when vacuuming and I really enjoy it
im autistic and I grew up in a abusive household and my mother would beat me up and yell at me every time i was cleaning the incorrect way and she would never tell me how to clean this video made me cry for the first time in months it felt like for the first time in my life that someone cared about about me thank you for making this video
@@tianachidester1566 ma'am I'm gonna tell you this because clearly you don't understand that just because someone gave birth to you it's not give them the right to treat you horribly. I used to think the same thing. And I would gaslight myself into believing that maybe my mother was just having a bad day. But would a loving mother abuse you physically and mentally. Would a loving mother try to sell their daughter into human trafficking. Would you say a person breaking their child's foot because they were angry because their child didn't give them a foot massage a loving mother. Ask yourself is that a loving mother would do? I don't think so. Do you think a loving mother would tell their daughter who was getting sexually abused by their babysitter and by their stepdad that it's normal and that it's fine and to not tell anybody about what happens at home or else she will kill you. Do you honestly think that's something a loving mother would do? would a loving mother permit a man to touch their daughter that is no younger than 4 years old sexually. Do you think a loving mother would let her brother take her 4 years old daughter's virginity. I don't think so I used to think that it was fine and that everything was fine. And that my mom was just frustrated when she hit me. But guess what when I had my own kids and I realized it's not that hard to not be a shitty parent. Sure I get frustrated with my kids but I don't yell at them and beat them up to the point that they cannot walk for several days. Instead I explain to them and teach them and give them reassurance and treat them like actual children instead of slaves instead of emotional support. Because they are children I let my children act like children. But my mother she forced me to grow up to take care of my younger siblings. Do you think that's something loving and caring mothers do? You know what my mother would tell me. she would tell me that I was a mistake. And that I'm lucky that she gave birth to me because she was going to get an abortion.But guess what my eldest kid was an accident and I didn't know if I wanted them at that time and was considering getting a abortion. But instead of telling my kid that they were an accident and they they should be grateful that I didn't get an abortion. No instead I tell them that they were a happy accident and that I love them. And that I am grateful for them being born because they did not choose to be born I chose the responsibility of becoming a parent. It's not that hard to not be a horrible parent but still some parents choose to be horrible to their children. Okay so don't go online telling people that "oh their mothers probably were just frustrated and that's why they beat them up and they gave birth to them and they were just having a bad day" no it's not it okay some mothers don't deserve to have children. you do not know what the person commenting has been through so please don't go online saying those types of things. I am sorry for the bad English in this and I apologize for going on a rant but you need to understand that not everyone has a loving mother and that sometimes mothers can be horrible people.
I also had a broken / abusive mother. Like the burners on a hot electric stove, no matter how I approached her ( with love, kindness, care, quietly, slowly, etc) she would still "burn" me, because it was what she knew. I hope that you have had help to heal, and that you forgive yourself for ever having been angry with her or blaming yourself. It was NOT your fault, and you DIDN"T cause it. And, it isn't your job to forgive her, just to find a way to move forward. 🫂
Like many of the viewers on here, I was brought to tears by the simple recognition that you stated. I was raised in a chaotic, painful household, and I was never taught how to clean, but being “messy” and “dirty” was one of the main issues my sibling and I were punished for. I didn’t even realize this until very recently, and I am almost 50. With all my heart, thank you for making this video. I hope it gets a lot of reach, and many more people can understand that it isn’t a moral, nor genetic, failing to not know how to clean. Take the shame away, and learn it. It’s another aspect of being human and taking care of yourself.
If my stainless steel pans have a lot of burnt on food, instead of scouring them, I just put them on the stove with water and soap and boil the water. The burnt on stuff floats in the water and then I don't have to scrub them. Nice video
Vinegar half/half with water works well too. And - surprisingly enough - boiled rhubarb stalks! (But those are hard to come by these days. Unless you’re in the country or a country town.)
@@LauraMacMillan-el2kc My mum also did that,,,try olive oil soap,,it cleans everything, pots and pants and your kithchen counters and bathroom sparkly,,,,wash your clothes for hand and wash yourself with it.
I feel like crying. I’m 17 I don’t know how to love at all I don’t know how cleaning is done idk how to cook just nothing. My mum is extremely impatient and wouldn’t let me do things because I’m slow and my dad is an extreme perfectionist so going to him is a dead end. Thankyou for teaching me I’m taking notes because I don’t want to end up being an idiot by the time I enter my 20s thankyou very much thank you alot. Thankyou. Subscribed
I am a professional cleaner and have been cleaning houses, rvs, boats, and cars in a professional setting for over 20 years. This video is all 100% correct.
This is such a great video. You’re not gatekeeping valuable information behind a paywall of affiliate links and ridiculous, unnecessary, consumerism-minded products. You have such respect for human kind. Thanks for all you do!
I'll be honest. I know all of this. I was just hyped to see a normal looking home be cleaned to the level I try to get it. It was nice to be encouraged throughout the video too
Update just because I'm proud of myself: I have moved into my own place and for the first time I'm keeping it clean entirely by myself. I've used a lot of these tricks and even sometimes listen to this while cleaning. Great stuff.
I saw this video when you first posted it, but I had to come back to post this comment as I have come back to take notes! My mom never taught me how to clean. My dad never learned how to clean because he's a guy and guys didn't clean in his household. I grew to be so frustrated because my mom would tell me to clean, but I had never been taught, so I always did it wrong, resulting in backlash and having to do it again. I gave up and stopped cleaning entirely as it made me overwhelmed and felt not worth it to be yelled at for doing it incorrectly. I have been watching your channel for a few years as an escape from a cluttered, borderline hoarder mom situation. Past videos have kicked me into gear to declutter my room, and I feel I am making good progress. This video has changed not only my life but my mindset around cleaning now. I am taking baby steps to incorporate it more into my daily routine so it's not as overwhelming, but I wanted to thank you so much for this video. I genuinely don't know if I ever would've picked up a cleaning tool again in my life otherwise. A million times, thank you. 💜
I'm definitely not crying over someone explaining cleaning to me non-judgementally. Thank you ❤️ My mom has ADHD and my dad's autistic, so I grew up in a dirty house that we manically cleaned the morning of having people over every time. And every time, my parents would fight with each other and yell at us and tell us we were doing it wrong. I'd get handed a cleaning product and was expected to just know what to do with it. I'm autistic, so I did what made sense to me, which was, of course, not "correct".
Aww, baby, I hope you’re good now! My kids are grown and newly married. I’m looking at this and hoping I did a good job with them. Sometimes we fail, but I hope you felt loved because you wrote a great letter that I’m certain made this man feel much better. Stay strong and be happy on your own- you can do it! 😊
Wow this is my exact life. Except they’re both adhd and autistic. It kind of feels nice to know I’m not alone in this but im sorry you had/have to live through this too
Same but my dad has ADHD and my mom is autistic. I have ADHD, and my husband has both ADHD and autism, and we’re both learning how to keep a clean house. He’s better at it than me because I either am blind to the clutter or it is so overwhelming that I can’t act. I find that cleaning by 1 metre squared section can be helpful when I get overwhelmed, but it’s honestly hard to remember to clean. I want to have a clean house though so I’m going to keep trying!
I grew up a slob. My mom and bros were slobs. My dad complained incessantly of the lack of cleanliness. It was the chief cause of strife between he and my mom in my younger years. When I married, I continued my slovenly ways. Then I joined a Bible study group that met at a different lady’s house the first Wednesday of each month and I was amazed at how clean and beautiful their homes were. at that point, I realized that they knew something I simply didn’t. They knew how to manage and clean their homes. So I went to the library and got an arm load of books about household management and cleaning. I’m happy to say when I got older, I was able to teach my children how to clean house. But it definitely did not come naturally, and it definitely took effort to learn. But it was also fun learning to master something that, up to that point, had been a complete mystery to me.
one of my biggest goals when im a father in the future is to actually take the time to thoroughly explain how to do things. pretty crappy being yelled at for not doing something right when nobody bothers even attempting to teach you.
That first video you showed me really hit home. My mom is a hoarder and most days I feel like I have all of the same tendencies. Thank you for being both informative and encouraging.
It really brightens my day when I see videos like this. There's a generation of kids who are growing up on the internet with almost no parental guidance. But the internet doesn't have to be a force of evil. It's a tool. And we can use it to help others immensely. A+ video, the internet needs more people who want to help.
I remember my mom literally yelled at me for using more than 7 squares of toilet paper to clean myself and later yelled at me for "living like a slob" when I was a pre-teen. I watched her clean a 1600 sq ft. property wide-eyed and panting because she was in her 50s. It wasn't until semi-recently, and I am 32, that I realized she never actually taught me to maintain and nurture my living space. I'm not being angry or pointing fingers at my momma but just making a realization. Thank you for making this video.
My mom was a housewife as well, but she never taught me a thing. I occasionally ironed my clothes and did some cleaning for fun. I probably watched a movie showing cleaning. I learned how to clean the first year I was married (23 at the time). I only cooked for fun before then, so I had to learn practical meals. My husband had a job where he needed to be at work by 5 am, so I needed to send him off with a lunch and breakfast. Honestly, I hate washing dishes. It's the chore I dislike the most because I do a sanitation soak like in the restaurants to avoid getting sick. Our dishwasher broke down last year, but we're definitely going to get another one if we see a good deal. Technology exists to help us if we let it.
It took me years to realize you didn't need to feel upset while cleaning. The maintenance is a chore, of course, but it can be made fun or enjoyable. You don't have to feel bad when you're doing a good thing - it doesn't make the cleaning any better.
My mother was the eldest of 5 in the 1950's to a single mom who was autistic enough some kids were taken away for neglect. For my mother the topics of food and cleaning are emotionally charged to the point she drives herself, solely by her own actions, to hysterics. So I couldn't learn from example, and as a child became a keen observer of other peoples' domestic habits. Why I watch videos like this.
I have an similar cleaning story but the opposite! I grew up with a mom with OCD. Everyday was deep cleaning day, I mean pulling the fridge out and mopping under there, power washing all the trash cans in the house, mopping the floors with boiling water mixed with bleach and pure ammonia (the stinging in your eyes meant it was working). If I had a mug in my room or a clothing item on the floor, my whole room had to be cleaned again. It was nuts and I never learned how to properly clean my space because cleaning to me was excessive and exhausting. I finally learned how to do it the normal way a few years ago and now my home is consistently an acceptable level of clean all the time.
As common since as this may seem I grew up on my own and I’m not a slob but have no idea how most cleaning products worked thank you for your patience in teaching people like me.
Hi Mac, I'm very lucky that my mum taught me all of this. The one thing I keep in mind is this "if it cleans for you, you must clean it" washing machines, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners etc., I'm watching from Scotland and I love your videos. xx
@@davinaz6885 This channel has shown that on another video where he used vinegar and the hot cycle and showed that it can be very easy if you do it that way 😊
@@davinaz6885 I actually just did this yesterday! I just ran an empty load on hot and used the built in bleach pouring funnel and did two full measures of bleach. Ideally you shouldn't have to do anything too crazy to clean a washing machine, as long as it's functioning properly, but if you mostly run cold water loads it's a good idea to occasionally run a hot load with some sort of cleaner, because otherwise it can harbor mildew or mold.
You're right - a rag in hot, soapy water will clean most things. And thanks for pointing out that you have to clean before you sanitize. I was taught in nursing school is that you have to remove the dirt before you use a disinfectant. One thing I will add to this really helpful video is that if you have real wood furniture you do need some type of furniture polish or spray. Don't use all purpose cleaner on good wood furniture. However, I will acknowledge that I'm in my 60s and we have mostly real wood antiques or vintage furniture. It does seem that most younger people these days have IKEA type furniture and that doesn't require the same level of care to protect the finish.
yeah most of modern "wood furniture" is just plywood or those horrible plates of pressed together sawdust with texture painted on top of them, alcohol usually takes care of those, with the added bonus of making it shine nicely, though I still prefer bleach, because It's just a habit of mine at this point.
Thank you for uploading this, I’m 26 and have been winging it my whole life, you made a lot of points in this video that made me go “oh!” And I can’t express how thankful I am. I have felt so lost so often in my adulthood on things that other people just seem to “get” and I’m actively trying to improve and build those good habits, but it felt like trying to build a project model without the instructions. I’ve been watching house cleaning videos for the last few years now picking up bits and pieces of helpful info, and this video answered so many questions I still had
“Get em off here…”😂😂😂 BYEEEE SUPPLIES. I started on my Mom’s other rooms and have used your APC formula like crazy and the grid method. Truly works like “Magic” . I even found a baby Moose hiding under some doom piles of I don’t even know what! He was so happy to get cleaned!😂😂😂 I named him Mambo the Moose (it has been a long cleaning week😂). Happy Friday all….here is to “no special cleaners”!
I've used the APC mixture so much since learning about it, I now buy isotropy alcohol in 5 litre bottles. So many uses and kinder on lungs than other products.
I grew up pretty shelterd and was never taught to clean, do laundry, cook, anything. So when I moved out for college and on my own, I had zero idea what I was doing. I ate out a lot because I didnt know how to cook, cleaned everything with just lysol, and literally had to ask my college roommate to teach me to do laundry. Videos like this have been super helpful!
I might as well have a PhD in cleaning but I absolutely loved this video not just for the humor and empathy (like all other videos on this channel), but because it reminded me of older classic you tube videos. Subscribed for life!
I grew up with a stepmother who never taught me how to clean, she would make me clean and then get mad and put me down for not doing it right but she never taught me how to do it right. I have always felt insecure and didn't want people to visit because I am afraid it's not clean enough. You have no idea how much this video helps me and probably lots of others who feel the same way. I know feel more confident and don't feel like I have to spend lots of time and money on cleaning and know it's done right. Thank you so much for all you do!
My mom was a hoarder. I actively struggle against the tendencies to want to keep everything, and have ADD. I wasnt taught to clean, just kind of had to figure it out when I went to college. My house tends to be cluttered, but I mentally set 4 sections of the house and once a week clean one section. So each section gets cleaned once a month. During cleaning , I make myself throw away or gift or donate anything that's not getting used. If it's not something that gets used, but needs to be kept, it goes into storage... It's not perfect, but it's better than becoming a hoarder like my mom ...my brother's and sister's houses look like our childhood house... Thank you for this video, I definitely picked up a few tricks to make cleaning easier!!!
My son is 5 years old and he is level 3 on the autism spectrum and mostly nonverbal. He’s been very interested in cleaning lately and I’m excited to show him this video. Thank you so much ❤️
Former chemist here. The real secret to life is that dish soap works on damn near everything. Even when I was trying to clean industrial parts, I found that nothing works as well as dish soap. Oily shop rags? Dish soap. Shop floor? Dish soap. Bench covered with machine oil? Dish soap. You can even use dish soap to wash your carpet.
If dish soap doesn't work, move to rubbing alcohol.
If alcohol doesn't work, try WD40 (then remove WD40 residue using alcohol).
If absolutely nothing else works, try acetone as a last resort. Acetone destroys plastic though.
Another one to try is laundry soap. Laundry soap is extremely harsh compared to dish soap. It will clean damn near anything but it tends to leave residue, and it will dry the hell out of your hands because it strips all of the oil off your skin.
This all day. I always keep dish soap in my purse and car. I used to work at a salon and learned from the stylists to use dish soap as shampoo to remove buildup from my hair. Not every day. Normal shampoo most days and dish soap every 3rd or 4th day.
@Ohyoucaughtme I remember when the Exxon Valdez incident happened, and that's when those ducks were shown with Dawn cleaning the oil off. It might not have happened as they said, but it was told they used it to remove the oil, then they had to have an oil replacement in order to be able to be released so they could swim. I was a hairdresser and they came out with a type of product that calmed frizzies, helped hair shine, and also helped curly hair just after that. It came from the product that was used on the ducks, or so we were told in the industry.
@@foliageificationwhen I was a young hairdresser first starting out, I read an article I stupidly fell for and tried: "If zinc is good for hair, why not treat your hair with zinc oxide?" You cannot wash it out. Period. Greasiest mess ever. What finally did it? (After the hot water tank refilled) I powdered my hair with baby powder to soak up some of the mess, the washed it with pure Dawn. That got it, but man was it ever dried out. Lesson learned! Lol
If you're dealing with a hoarder situation that has bugs, dish soap can even kill some pests like fleas. It will dry out your skin as someone pointed out but it works.
I work on cars as a hobby. Its amazing how well dish soap works as a general degreaser without eating away at things like plastic. Only after dish soap doesn't work then I move on to other things like a high concentrate degreaser (super clean) or break cleaner. Acetone is useful for certain things like removing paint transfer but man soo true. Dish soap works like magic.
I love videos that show people how to be adults without being condescending. Straightforward and educational.
Yes. Your kindness does so much good. As an adult I have discovered that there are a lot of things I "missed the memo on" your videos often bring me to tears with your kindness and compassion. Thank you. I hope you get your play button soon, you deserve it.
Dad/Mom, How Do I? Are great channels for this too
Quietly revolutionary, I think.
Saaaame. My dad is super mean and condescending when teaching me adult things, so this video is super meaningful to me
"how to be adult" is condecending this isnt a video about adulthood its a video about cleaning just saying
Really appreciate seeing a normal house being cleaned, not a model show home that looks unlived in.
As a buddy of mine said when I told him that the house wasn't super clean because we'd been busy with something, "I'm asking to come over and see you, not your place. That's fine."
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey real homies don't judge✊️
"My wife has ADHD so we're going to leave her piles here, but I've made them organised & symmetrical" now that's a beautiful marital compromise if ever I saw one
Houses like that still look like mansions compared to our houses here in the Philippines
@@johnnye87This is how I clean for cluttered people. They love it.
“My wife has adhd so we’re just gonna keep her piles here” was so great to hear as a fellow adhd. Ive gotten a lot of judgement for my “piles” and overall messy-ness and the understanding and empathy coming through in this video is sooo refreshing + you made me laugh, thank you
lol I loved that too, my husband doesn’t like my piles but he also has ADHD and doesn’t have the mental capacity to help me sort through my piles so he doesn’t complain unless I start complaining about his stuff…that usually makes me shut up pretty quickly 😆
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Amen! I have the ADHD piles too! It drives my husband crazy that I have to have all my meds on the counter (or I forget to take them)!
@@va1445 Girl you gotta get one of those pill boxes! The one I have has slots for each day of the week + AM and PM. Ngl it is really hard building the habit of refilling it every week but once you do you’ll be so glad. I do that and than have a big box that I can just throw all the bottles into and store in my closet. I suggest refilling it the same day every week, I do Sunday, and ask your husband to remind you before you go to bed that night. Your countertop will thank you 💕
@@120-l3l I still struggle but I have recently discovered the power of ✨boxes✨. I’ve had people make fun of me cuz I buy so many boxes but omg they help sooo much. Instead of wandering around the house going “oh shit where can I put this item” I take it straight to the box containing similar items. And if no such box exists than the item goes into the drunk drawer. They don’t have to be boring, ugly cardboard either, I’m constantly thrifting beautiful aluminum, wooden and metal boxes. Finally think I’ve started to learn how to work with my adhd instead of fighting to change it.
With all the products I've bought, my house still doesn't clean itself, damn it.
That's the problem I have!!
Stoopid ungrateful house! *fake spits at it*
I need a Mr. Handy like in Fallout.
@@pixie3760 Can I be your friend?? I have all the things you need
Honestly I've had my eye on an automatic sweeper/mop for a while that is fully automated. Just need to find something that can put all the stuff away 😂
My dad slipped an index card full of chores, under our doors, every Saturday. There were five of us, my dad, an elementary school principal, knew how to keep children busy. We hated it, couldn’t go anywhere or watch tv until our chore list was done. He itemized each chore with 1.) Clean sliding glass doors a.) Clean bottom after vacuuming dust out, b.) clean glass inside and out side. Each chore was explained in detail. I realize not everyone had a dad like mine, it definitely taught me how to clean. Love your channel.
I'm going to try this on my children.
@@taraquosame! Sounds great 😊
I was the only child of my single mom mom. I swear to god... Cleaning, cooking... We were a team of 2... It was what it was. To this day I hate any dust gathering rug sitting for nothing 😂😂😂😂
Our mom made each of us a list of chores with instructions every Saturday morning! Funny how that was such a drag as kids but is now a sweet memory. I’d give anything to have a list of chores from her now, miss her every single day. 😢
I had a single bio-mother, twin and half brother... After starting 4th grade, it became apparent that I was better at making sure my chores were done, done right, and done the first time around... so I became the maid. And because of that, "allowances" stopped for all 3 of us.
I hate doing dishes and folding clean laundry. Everything else goes fine... but I'm also disabled now, so being able to clean our whole apartment in one go. My partner works insane, unpredictable and random hours, so relying on her to be not completely exhausted by the time she gets home is like relying on a single nail in the wall to hold the 44" TV...
I know how to clean and organize better than my twin and half-brother, and essentially everyone in my friend group- and the only one who gets close (my partner) is mostly because of her job.
I feel like I was raised by the internet, I learn the most basic stuff here, while my mom just humiliated me for not learning how to do it by aging.
"You're X years old, you have to know this!" :rolling_on_the_floor_laughing:
Thisssss
Your mom was probably repeating what was done to her too. Parenting doesn't come with a handbook, and most of us made countless regrettable mistakes trying our best to raise those we love the most. 💞
Yep. Was never made to cook, or clean, or anything, and then they got mad at me for.. y'know... not being able to cook, or clean, or anything. Parents can be loving but neglectful. It's still abuse, albeit a bit more unintentional.
Yep. I wasn't allowed to help with cleaning as a kid, because "there will be time enough when you are older" and when I was older she was shocked I didn't know how to clean anything. The internet has been a blessing teaching me all the little things my parents didn't.
I love how aware this channel is about people’s situation. I’m 17 years old and I’m just starting out learning how to cook, clean, and do laundry and I feel so behind because my parents never taught me how to do basic things since they work all day. They’ve scolded me for not knowing how to do these things, but they have never taken to time to teach me how, no one is born knowing. Thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
That is so sad to hear. I have three sons and taught them everything they needed to know to take care of themselves. Parents are doing their kids such a disservice by not teaching them .. I mean that is basically the number one responsibility as a parent.
You are not behind nor is it crazy for you to start learning these things at your age. You’ll get there eventually and get your own rhythm and feel for these things. And trust me, almost everyone feels like they’re running behind on something. None of us have it all together. This is a part of life and it’s fine, we don’t need to all do things the same way and at the same pace as other people, we all live different lives and have to work with what we get. You’ll be okay
17 is early to learn compared to some! You're doing fine :)
Good thing youre starting now; i did, and im a very tidy and efficient person or so everyone tells me, not that i doubt them. I was around the same age when i started basically teaching myself everything, youll be just fine. 22 as of now btw
My parents expected me to just do it so I had to just figure it out. I was mortified when I had to move back in with them and found out my kid sister wasn’t taught even how to wash dishes as a 12 year old. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, housekeeping is a lot of work!
I love all these „Internet Mom“ and „Internet Dad“ type of videos, that just explain and teach useful everyday stuff, because there are just SO many people who do not have those in reallife.
Thanks for your work, be assured that this means a lot to many people! 🥰
A lot of people just expect this stuff to come naturally
Exactly! Some people have parents who teach them to be self-sufficient or parents who have no issue with explaining how to do something if asked.
Many other people have parents who didn't teach them how to do these things. Of those, some would either respond aggressively or in a belittling way for not knowing how and eventually they just stop asking, because why would you if all you receive in response is abuse? There's also a sizable portion of people who are afraid to/don't feel comfortable asking for help/advice for a multitude of reasons, whether because of toxic independency, shyness, not knowing how to do so without sounding dumb (common with autists, like me!) or just not realising it's an option and think everybody should know inherently.
Creators like this have been tremendously helpful to me in learning how to be a functioning, independent adult. My parents were great, but mildly enabling of dependent behaviours (they never liked seeing me or my siblings struggle and would try to fix any problems/take care of tasks before we had to deal with them), and that coupled with me struggling with asking for help meant I was pretty clueless on household tasks. Feeling like this while simultaneously being a high-performing professional in a STEM-field is very trippy and discouraging. Seeing stuff like this made me realise though that 1. I'm not alone in not knowing these things and 2. I CAN find out how to do it in a way I'm comfortable with.
Do you know where we can find more of these? Internet parents I mean.
@@Sara3346look up "internet mom/dad advice" and you should find stuff that helps. I'm in the same boat. No parental figures.
@@Sara3346I second that question 😂
When my son finished his A levels and had a four month break before he went to university, I taught him how to wash and dry clothes. How to cook the meals he enjoys. How to clean. What products to buy. How to shop. I’d been teaching him how to budget since he was five and started getting pocket money. He’s now been at university 2 years almost, and often helps his friends out. The first weeks they didn’t even know how to use a washing machine. They didn’t realise you need to change bed sheets and wash them!😮. They couldn’t cook. He said it was actually quite shocking. So you can understand how some kids who’ve been brought up in certain situations don’t know how to manage. People blame them, but they haven’t been given the skills in life❤️
Aren't A levels taken at like 16 or 17 years old? It's awesome you taught him, but my mom had us learning those chores from age 7 or 8, with increasing skill and complexity so we could help and she didn't have to do it all herself! (Or with dad's help, because dad did clean) Whatever happened to childhood chores?
@@jenniferpearce1052 Divorced parents and working moms with ADHD and pretty unsupervised kids. I wasn't sh0own all the chores I was expected to do and then got in trouble for not completing them. I was ADHD and head strong and got by because my babysitter brought boys over, so I blackmailed her to do my chores to keep my mouth shut. I did gain some skills when I spent weekends and weeks during the summer with him, as he did show us and did not made sure we got it. It did not even care about clean after awhile. When I started caring I had an autistic legally blind daughter, who spent her first 10 days in NICU, had heart surgery at 6 weeks and had other anomalies at birth. At 29, I started learning to clean, care and do whatever it takes to raise my awesome daughter. I am still not very good at cleaning, but these videos are really helping me and inspiring me to be better, so I can help my daughter do better. She is now 32 and living independently in a special needs apartment complex with 2 roommates and caregiver support once a week, plus me until we can get more help or do better. I am 60 and still learning to keep my house, yet trying to teach my daughter too... talk about the blind leading the blind, but we manage even if e don't excel. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found this awesome UA-cam channel, as it is really helping us improve in both of our homes!
It seems I referred to my Dad as him. I think if I could have been raised by my dad, I would be a completely different person today. They did not do that is the late 60'sw, though
@@jenniferpearce1052 EXACTLY what I was thinking. Geeeez!
you were excellent parents!!
All those times my dad screamed “you live like a pig, clean your room” I was what, six? No one showed me how. He acted like it was second nature. Thanks for this video, hon.
this is how my dad has acted with every single thing, he starts getting angry and screaming and yelling and threatening to call the police whenever I kindly ask for help
Sounds like a military guy. You figure it, just get it done asap!
mine always explained it, but in a way I struggled to understand. it was always too simply explained and I had to basically figure it out in spite of the instructions. it was miserable cuz it got me yelled at a lot for not getting it right, and he didn't like me veering away from doing it a specific way even if it was more comfortable for me.
as I got older I learned to ask him for details. and he still wouldn't explain it in more details, he'd just repeat the same instructions but in a different way. :/
Exactly! Even today I barely know how to organize my room
Comment and all these replies are relatable af. I’m thankful for people who actually care and who want to help people learn
This man is a compassionate, empathetic and caring person. I wish him all the best.
I wish he had an older brother that is like he is & like me.
I adore how genuinely unbothered your animals are by the vacuum. Your dog just gets up and moves to a different room, and your cat just watches.
I struggle with my vacuum more than my cats do. They side eye it and one of them stalks it, but unless I'm using the small handheld one, I have earplugs in and can only do small areas at a time because the noise bothers me.
@@hattiecattieacoustic?
You can tell he actually uses his. Unlike me and my animals. 😅
@@StonedSammieSue I can't tell if you meant acoustic, or autocorrect got you and you meant autistic. Both of those fit except acoustic doesn't make sense as a question lol
@hunszaszist its a joke where people use Acoustic to refer to Autism
Something that helped me was when I realized that decluttering, organizing, and cleaning are three different processes. When deciding on which one to do, I gave myself permission to not worry about the other two (for the time being). For example, if the kitchen really needs to be cleaned, then I just focus on cleaning (wiping out the stove, fridge, and sink, sanitizing surfaces, mopping the floor) and not worry about organizing (should the blender be stored in this cabinet or a different one?) or decluttering (I don't need three dozen dish rags; which ones should I toss?). Narrowing your focus like this can help minimize overwhelm, reduce indecision, and ultimately help you get done faster.
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Thanks for the video. We got this, friends.
Wow! Lightbulb moment! I often get overwhelmed because I feel like I have to get all three done at once. Thank you for this tip!
That's a great comment! I tend to be a "whole picture" person and would get so overwhelmed, l couldn't even manage to begin. It's really distressing and made me hate myself for years. Luckily l'm finally realising what was happening and have begun to find strategies, yours is another one to add. 😊
Yes and no. Oftentimes things can be brought into a logical order that makes each subsequent step easier. For instance: Declutter first. Things you don't need any more should be thrown out before you waste time on cleaning them. Once you got rid of the junk, tidy up. Cleaning surfaces is much easier when you don't have to move stuff around all the time. Once the place is in order, wiping down surfaces is hardly an effort any more.
Personally I find I have much less struggle motivating myself to clean when cleaning is actually easy. Which is why I have almost no stuff sitting on my kitchen tops.
This wonderful Comment was obviously written for people who don't already have things all together and who dont have the time or the executive function to "do them in the right order". When the kitchen needs cleaning, it needs to be clean. No amount of decluttering is going to make the dishes and surfaces any cleaner if I get sidetracked; I'd just have fewer dirty dishes in front of me and stuff will get moved around, but it'll still be dirty.
Times I've tried to go in a "logical order" i.e. Put away dishes first, then wash dishes and put them in the rack, etc. ended up with me frustrated while trying to put away the dishes "the right way", trying to find the best place so I won't lose it, and other organizational blunders, until I give up and the dishes don't even get washed at all. and since I gave up on the dishes I'm too frustrated to get to the stove or the floor, so the whole project feels like a wash, ... see what I did there? Sometimes I just let myself ONLY put the dishes away and not feel guilty about washing more. Also Life Happens. My sink is acting slow, so I can't wash how I want. So, some pans are still on the stove. When I want to cook, I clean the part of the stove I' use and can get to. The clutter is not to get "rid" of my pots, it's that I can't clean them all at once and also put them away. So why try? If I can do one pot now. and one pot later after the sink drains, that works too. waiting until everything is decluttered and tidy in order to clean will be a happy time for bugs, mold, and grime. It's okay to clean imperfectly between the clutter if it gets you closer to what you want and need to do. or as that FlyLady said "A done something is better than a perfect nothing." I need to keep reminding myself of that when I feel overwhelmed by life
@@nikiTricoteuseme too! Also, I just read a comment in one of his videos that if you do something "half-a••", you'll have it half-done!
I like how he makes sure to mention the most low-cost and economical way to effectively clean. I feel like a lot of cleaning content tends to promote excessive product use/purchasing that is wasteful. This also makes it really accessible!
Yeah, I got influenced HARD to get the dumb Scrub Daddy, the Scrub Mommy, and the accompanied Scrub Paste or whatever it's called. They're great products, ngl, but it turns out a rag and a basic all purpose cleaner is just as good. SHOCKER. Gahhhhhhh
Yessss I was thinking the same thing!!!! 🎉
I am a bit embarrassed by how much different cleaning products I have.
YES!! It's crazy what really hot water and a little vinegar, bleach, or soap will do with a little elbow grease!
I also think we really need to normalize using cut-up old clothes as rags instead of throwing them out. I did that with some old t-shirts a friend of mine left after moving, and I use those for floors. It's also possible to make them look nice by hemming with a sewing machine (or just hand-doing it).
As an Autistic person that grew up in foster care, I truly appreciate videos like these. More, please.
I am an adult with autism, and growing up my sister and I had to do chores around the house. I always got in trouble because I wasn’t doing things “correctly” and my side of our bedroom was always messy. It wasn’t until I became an adult where I had a conversation with my mom and sister about it. I told them I don’t know how to clean my house. Every time I go to my sister’s house it’s immaculate, and I’m flabbergasted as to how. It’s a natural thing for her, so she was confused that I was confused. This was a longwinded comment to say this video was very helpful.
I identify exactly with this comment. Internet friend, thank you and you are not alone.
Also an adult wirh autism. My mother and older sisters akways get mad i don't know how to clean when they've never taught me once or left it to professionals. I need direct instructions, all their getting mad I never do it right makes me feel like never doing it.
do you and your sister learn differently? can you give an example of what would have helped? asking for my daughter - simple things are tough to explain to her (and make it stick) sometimes
@@MK-er7cx My sisters and mother were all raised with the expectations of doing household chores. Something that would have helped is Midwestern Magic Cleaning's thorough step by step explanations instead of just getting mad I can't do a thing they know, to their standard, without teaching me it ever.
ADHD is a comorbidity of autism too. Don't ask how I know.😅
To be honest the fact that you also leave some messes and explain that "it's my house, I can be lazy sometimes" really comforts me, you don't leave on a pristine spotless mansion, you live in a house with stuff in the middle you need to move to another spot to clean a space.
Really loved this video, really helped
I'm actually gratified to hear a 6'4" tall dude say that scrubbing bathtubs takes a lot of effort, and he hates it. I'm a nearly 60 year old woman built like a garden rake and scrubbing the bathtub has been the bane of my existence. Until I realized that I could use a scraper, I avoided it like the plague, and the tub always ended up looking awful. It was only when I realized I could scrape it (mine has a smooth surface) that I realized my bathroom could look nice, and it motivated me to clean it every month, top to bottom. I'll give barkeeper's friend a shot, too.
You're absolutely right that cleaning isn't intuitive AT ALL. My mom's mom died just as my parents got married, so my mom never had the chance to lean on her mom's knowledge when she got her own home and family to maintain. It wasn't until I discovered Aurikaterina and you that I really got a full-on grip on how to get things clean, and it's a hell of a mood lifter to be in a clean home. After getting the entire bathroom sparkling, I even just like walking in there and looking at it. My mind and mood sees it as being in control of my environment rather than at the mercy of it.
Your last sentence sums it up perfectly! Thank you, I’m borrowing it for my new mantra!
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Finding Aurikateriina changed my life too. She was the gateway to my love of cleaning UA-cam channels, including this one
oh I wish teaching kids to clean was all that was needed my Autistic son whose in his mid twenties to date does not matter how many times I stand with him and explain what is the process is, left to himself does not do even the basics.
If i say for example have youncleaned your room as asked reply yes. If I go up and look he may have for example picked up his dirty laundry and brought it down for the laundry fairy to process, or maybe he vaccummed the carpet. He will not have picked up the thrash (not much but some) he will not have wiped the sheleves over even if he split a drink on them.
He also knows if mum is out and he is home on his laptop when she returns she gets annoyed if the sink is filled with dishes especially if the dish washer is empty and yet any day I go out when I come home dishes in the sink. Does not matter how often I say to him please do not do this. In one ear out the other side.
@@CraigsOverijse It's not your son's fault. Try to remember that.
30:20 Quick tip for cleaning pots and pans if you accidentially burn your food and have a hard time scrubbing off the black residue: Fill the pot with water and dish soap and cook it for some time. Then try cleaning it again. This will save you a whole lot of scrubbing.
Do you know I actually cried watching this??? I'm showing it to my teenage sons to help them out. I was raised by a perfectionist that never taught me anything because I wouldn't do it right. Thank you so much for sharing this video. We all have ADD or OCD in our family. I'm 50 yo now and still learning.
This is beautiful. You are an awesome mom. 👍💕
PS make sure to wipe off the flush handle on the toilet.
Yes.. What a good Man to show ppl, especially young ppl who may have never learned how to clean!
My mom was also a perfectionist and she didn’t teach me how to clean either. It was hard for me when I had my own home.
Yes. I never learned to cook because my mom was a perfectionist and gave up on me because I was so clumsy.
This video is so freaking wholesome. the lack of judgment, the empathic understanding and just clear intentions of wanting to help others just brings so much joy.
Right??? This sums up my impression just perfectly. what a genuine and friendly person he is. a real treasure.
Mack is the best! My favorite goofball full of kindness 💜
He’s my favorite teacher from UA-cam helps me so much to understand ADHD /hoarders issues. My moms has these problems and it’s very difficult to help as I struggle with adhd and decisions too.
IT'S ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL.
Unconditional, IQ/EQ genuine love.
"Teach a Person HOW to Fish"
x🙏
There are dudes making $600,000 being wholesome and cleaning on only fans. It’s a serious demand.
I remember having to explain to a friend of mine who couldn’t understand how a person’s house could get so messy. I pointed out she learned from her mom, but not all mom’s know how to clean and maintain a household. And some people were taught to clean but told so often “if you can’t do something right don’t do it at all” which when they’re older with their own place they think “Well, I don’t have time to mop the proper way so I can’t mop” even though there are countless methods and most of them are good enough! Also some people were raised with chores as punishment, so as they got older they think “why do I have to do the dishes? I’ve been good!” I had to make a drastic shift in my mind set before I could even begin to get a handle on cleaning regularly. Flylady helped, not so much her method but her mindset. Cleaning is blessing your home, it’s blessing your family. Sorry, I took the long rambling way to say what you’re doing is fantastic and your wife is 100% right, cleaning is not always intuitive. It’s something you learn.
I like FlyLady too. I learned to clean from her. Picking it up again to teach my kid, and get me out of the mess my back got us into.
Love FlyLady! “You can do anything for fifteen minutes” and “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just have to get done” were a game changer for me, as were her routines.
I'm in the boat of having chores as punishment, not really ever been shown how to clean anything, and having ADHD. I've been watching this channel for awhile now and it's the only one I contribute monetarily to because I have found it lifechanging. I've cried more than once after watching a video. I struggle so much with cleaning and this channel helps me feel like I'm not a failure.
This is so true! Another example is when your room got messy when a kid and your mom cleaned it for you while you were away and then got the feeling of guilt and shame and the pressure in comments like now keep it clean! As my mental health is declining clean home gives me tremendous anxiety so as soon as I clean up, I feel awful and start to hoard everything back.
Yup, exactly this. I grew up with a combination of cleaning being a punishment and developing depression right when I'd really start to shape those habits.
So now I'm here at 23, I want a clean organized space but it feels so hard to maintain. So now I'm also reshaping how I think about things.
Dishes have gotten a lot better, I actually somewhat enjoy it if I have music going. The othere stuff, were still getting there
I use a seam ripper for sewing to remove hair from vacuum brushes, works really well and anyone that has a sewing kit usually has a few spares.
My parents got arrested and they need to serve time. They left me with a hell hole of a room with so much clothes(washed and unwashed), dirty plates, rotting garbages and rotten wood boards. The aunt who is kind of the home owner(It's a family house) was getting on my nerves so being there to clean their mess up had been a dreadful thought to me because all of my life my parents had gaslit me into believing that I was a lazy, filthy child when 1. they've never taught me how to clean, 2. They're the one making messes, 3. I have undiagnosed chronic illnesses they refused to get check since I was 12.
I always put your video on whenever I need to clean up the place even before they got arrested, but I've never need to do it as throughly as this time, so this video is a life-saver to me, it relieved me so much fear and anxiety. You may not ever saw my comment, but I would like to tell you how you basically helped me dig myself out of my misery since I was a teen who has no way of escaping that hell of a family by giving me the push to clean up after myself and making me realize that I can make it in this life, despite everything.
Good luck
I think the hope in your last sentence is a great place to be. “I can make it in this life, despite everything.” You have already proven that you can do hard things. I have no doubt that you will succeed and have a better life than what your past would predict. Keep on going! ❤
I’m heartbroken when I hear of people thrown into awful situations like this. I’m sorry your parents left you in such a situation, but it also sounds like you’ve been incredibly resilient. Keep it up, you’re awesome.
I'm so proud of you kiddo. I came from similar neglect/abuse and it takes a lot of courage to learn new ways when the adults who made you didn't bother to raise you. ❤
God bless you Jesus loves you! You will make it keep going! I hope now that you are more in control of your space it helps your illnesses have a good day!
Actually *nothing* is intuitive, but most people don't remember being taught. It really helps to have someone teach every step, because not everyone had that opportunity early in life. Thank you for doing this.
@GuerillaSlop twisted?
breathing is, actually!
I would argue that our bodies are specifically designed to have an intuitive idea for how, when and why to do anything that is required for survival. But only survival, not even reproduction. Maybe I'm coping.
A lot is intuitive tho
I cant help but add this here, the weiner is controlled by a nerve in your spine, its why men can be raped, they don't control it, so its not intuitive because its not intuition its just a natural function. Breathing and your heart beating are examples of intuitive concepts. Most of your organs move in a way that is either intuitive or controlled by a nerve cluster you don't control from your brain how you think you do.
Concepts you can learn that are intuitive are things like grabbing, that is something babies will do from birth as an intuited action. Sucking for milk. Going to the bathroom. Crying. Basically every action you expect a baby to do.
You're the first person I've ever seen make a "cleaning for dummies" video. Thank you ❤
Well said heather 👍👍
I know huh?!! Embarrassing to admit, I am old ....I was never taught anything! You were very matter of fact... Not demeaning.
Hmm, not quite. There are PLENTY of ‘how to clean xyz quickly and easily’ videos available. Mac brings a fresh and fun perspective to doing house cleaning, that is a pleasure to watch. :)
@@annwilliams6438 they said “the first person I’VE seen” not “the only person to ever do it”..
Probably because there's more than one way to clean.
This relates to how I feel about art. I HATE IT when people say that, to learn to make art, I "JUST" have to practice.
No. I have to learn. If you force me to practice without good guidance I'm going to learn bad habits.
Reassurance tip: the first time you clean properly around the outside of the toilet, you will be horrified at how cruddy it is. But, it will never be that bad again, because you will (hopefully) get into the habit of doing it regularly, and then it will be just be a "swoosh" clean every time. So much easier after it's done right once!
Some random guy at a party my roommate and I had in college said to me, I think that's the cleanest toilet I've ever peed in. I thought what a weird thing to say. Now that I'm older and seen how most toilets look I get it. I can't let my toilet get like that. Lol (no judgement, I just have a need to keep mine super clean)😊
I'll be honest: Once I understood what a poor job of cleaning I'd been doing since I didn't know better, I hired a professional to come in and deep clean some things. The toilet and tub were at the top of my list because I knew they'd be difficult to get to a clean state. I know that's not an option for everyone but it was money well spent. It was a lot easier to then clean properly once I had a "clean" slate to start.
My dad taught my brother and me how to clean the bathroom when we were first assigned it as a chore. He told my brother that no matter who had the toilet cleaning duty (we alternated) that it was HIS job to wipe of any splatter from the floor or wall because I wasn't responsible for peeing outside the toilet! Thanks, Dad! And I'm sure my sister in law thanks you too.
I just do enjoy seeing manly man do household cleaning. Honestly I've never seem such a thing...so satisfying.
@ineasud husband and wife 24/7 in home …. I clean toilets and surrounding area every Wednesday and that keeps everything nice. Hope that helps.
Do I know how to clean? Yes. I have a blackbelt in cleaning and organization. Did I watch this whole video? Of course I did. Thank you for doing this. So many people don't know how to clean. I remember working a job and I cleaned and organized and my boss was stunned because they could never figure out how to do it. Someone showing you how (judgement free) is invaluable.
I'll sub if you teach ❤
I agree. Judgement free, it makes all the difference. No use in shaming anyone, we don’t know what we don’t know.
I know some of the basics but I was never properly taught because of some childhood issues so I just wanted to make sure I didn't miss anything important!
domestic work isn’t as valued as other types of work even tough it’s what keeps us healthy.
I love seeing other people’s methods, tips, and tricks! Sometimes we learn a new/better/different way to do things even if we’ve already been doing it.
My Mum didn't teach me to clean because she is a perfectionist and did it all herself. I learnt how to clean at my part time job. I worked at a fast food restaurant and learned how to clean a kitchen, dining room and bathrooms. I swept, mopped and washed dishes. I learnt safe food handling. I'm grateful for that experience.
This! My mom did literally everything for me. Didn’t let me do a single thing. Now I don’t know how to do stuff myself and they are a big headache of stress for me. If I point it was their own fault, you know what happens.
So I asked them to let me live alone for a while when I’ll be going for college. Just so I could be away from them and finally do things myself. And they are second thinking that because I don’t know how to do anything. These people never learn.
working in food is the best way because you encounter some horrific cleaning jobs. it toughens you.
Same actually. My first job at 16 at a fast food place taught me so many things that I still value today.
This is where many people learn the first things about cleaning! Being a lead in this business is really rewarding to me for being able to help kids and young adults with things that will serve them throughout their lives.
Wow this comment is weirdly 100% me. A perfect explanation of my own situation. You don't know me, but you get me. Take care, stranger.
25:36 I’ve seen young teens at summer camp go in circles when vacuuming because it was their first time so here is a breakdown of vacuuming in case you don’t know: Having a less heavy vacuum is good because you can move it around more easily. When vacuuming, break the floor into rectangular/square segments in your mind and go in straight lines. He also demonstrates using the hose part to suck up the bigger pieces. I think that’s all I have to add!
I'm autistic so often "common sense" isn't common or sensical to me. People expect me to just know things, and this video helped a lot with me figuring out what the proper way is to clean something because I just do not learn in the same way a lot of people do. Having someone patiently explain it helps A LOT.
I wish I could just have someone explain everything to me in life because I’m not joking when I say I genuinely don’t understand a lot of things without help.
it's terrible how there's so many people who could thrive in society but don't simply because when growing up, their parents weren't patient or understanding, whether it be with explaining chores, self hygiene or homework.
That's not what autism is.
@davidrobinson7260 I think I'd know being that I have it? I'm speaking about my personal experience, not every autistic person in existence.
@@davidrobinson7260 ~ The arbiter of autism and who has it
It was extremely validating to hear someone who cleans professionally to admit they hate scrubbing bathtubs. On the weekend I was scrubbing the bathroom of the rental house we’d just moved out of. It clearly hadn’t been deep cleaned before we moved in, and eventually I just broke down in tears because I hate cleaning and I was mentally and physically exhausted doing this on top of the move. I feel so much better knowing that even “clean people” find some of this stuff challenging.
Cleaning tubs is the worst. If you have a ceramic tub or some hard material they have power brushes on a stick that work well. Mine is plastic so that would scratch it up so I end up neglecting it, then hurting myself when I have to go HAM on the gross tub.
Lysol toilet bowl cleaner. Rinse. Then a wash with vinegar does wonders. Makes the job so easy and quick. For grout too.
I don’t like cleaning, but i look forward to the result. It makes it feel worth it and like i accomplished something.
every professional cleaner has at least one task or thing they hate cleaning. It's Urinals for me. Cleaning can really suck and it is in fact exhausting both physically and mentally. Cleaning at the end of a move is a different type of frustrating though.
Definitely one of my most dreaded tasks too, but I found a method that works a little better for me. I'm not blessed with a removable shower head so I use a pump up sprayer for the garden to wet the tub. Then I take one of those dish wands that stores the soap in the handle and fill it with toilet cleaner and scrub (dedicate to this task, do not use it for dishes after!). Finally rinse with the sprayer again.
Did you go into your cry closet? Sounds like you never did a good job of cleaning the entire time you lived there.
It's very brave of you to show your home as it is and not bother prettyifying it just because it's on camera. You're showing us your real lived in home and demonstrating how cleaning works with your own stuff. This is very real and we see it and appreciate it.
You know I was thinking the same thing. I really like their simple home.
how’s teddy doing?
Brother, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I have CPTSD from being in a RTF like the one on Netflix's The Program and a druggie mom and absent/abusive dad. I can still smell the house from childhood sometimes. Im also schizophrenic(the benign kind, not the dangerous one).
I became the same. A mess. I just recently started getting my self right and this video was such a major help.
You're not yelling at me. You're telling me exactly what to do. Then you show me. You make it so easy! It becomes a game in my head.
I never ever let people come over because I'm so embarrassed. Not now. I feel 10x better about myself and all i did was clean my place.
Thank you buddy. You're changing lives here. I mean that. You changed mine.
Wow I got a got a lot in common with you. CPTSD makes EVERYTHiNg sooo much harder. This guy is great though, I didn’t know like any of this
@@alexiaharpham4985 me neither friend. I was basically feral, incarcerated, institutionalized, and ostracized growing up. Nobody ever showed me HOW TO CLEAN. It's pretty sad.
"I'm going to show you how to clean."
*Proceeds to aggressively throw multiple bottles on kitchen floor.*
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I got scared when that happened cus I was washing my dishes, I thought he forgot to edit that out so I had to rewind 😂
I get it, but as a woman with ADHD and knowing his wife has it, I find his approach so loving and liberating
Scared me fr , relaxing over here 😂
Legit got me flinching.
I like the fact that you have a regular looking house on the inside where people live. Majority of the cleaning vlogs look like people live in a showroom.
favorite part was the dog casually moving out of the way of the vacuum cleaner like "yeah, yeah, we know this song and dance"
So comforting. No screaming, no shaming, just a man parenting all of us who were never taught but still shamed to hell and back. Only in my 20's did I realize that I only ever tried to figure it out on my own, but never actually knew how. My dad would scream and shout, but he wasn't that clean at all either. For the last few years, I've just been realizing all the stuff that I never even knew needed cleaning. I never saw it, I never looked at it, yet one day I'm like: shit, this can probably be cleaned, somehow. 🤦♀️
God the parent screaming and shouting and shaming is my mother to a t. Shes a borderline horder and “cleans” the dishes by still leaving all the shit on it
I got the yelling about cleaning my room. And I got my stuff taken away. But I was never taught how they expected me to clean my room. I thought it was clean. I had a farm toy set with LOTS of pieces that I played with every day. I left it out on the floor. Because I used it every day. I didn't want to put away the 100+ pieces every day just to get it out again the next. But apparently, that was wrong, in my parents eyes. I still do this. If it's something I use every day, I keep it out if it's something that takes forever to set back up (tools, hobby supplies for a project in progress, etc.). I'll put everything away when I'm done. If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
@@tricitymorte1 That's exactly how I work too. It just feels more intuitive to keep the things I will need for whatever I'm doing out until I'm done rather than to pick them up and put them away each and every day.
Like you said; If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
He did yell at the products in the beginning. 😂 "Get off!"
@@tricitymorte1 yelling and taking away a child's toy that they left in their room and doesn't bother anyone is so sad. Especially when it's not about hygiene, but just appearances :(
As a parent trying to teach my child (with ADHD) how to clean, THANK YOU! I have slowly realized that I have to give smaller steps so instead of saying "clean the bathroom", I have to give him steps for each section of the bathroom, otherwise it is overwhelming. Doing this in a way that is educational and not demeaning is so amazing. Plus, your humor is wonderful!
As kids in the 70’s I know my cousin and I were shipped off to our grandparents for the summer. We were taught how to do all this stuff. I had my own cleaning business as a kid because of it.
My elderly neighbors used to hire me out, clean houses, yards, wash cars, walk dogs, etc.
I still do it today. What puzzles me, WHY was HOME EC cancelled in schools? EVERYBODY NEEDS TO LEARN THE BASICS!
I would actually teach my younger friends cooking, cleaning, sewing, clothing and beauty. Give the younger ones a chance! They’re eager to learn, then TEACH!
After showing this amazing duo how to make tacos at hime, I came home to find CLASS for 15-20 young girls from their church ALL LEARNING HOW TO MAKE TACOS! They were laughing and eating, having a ball!
I seriously have never been so proud in my life. They had it DOWN!
I am so thankful for Home Ec. I learned so much, and I still know all the different sewing stitches, cooking, baking. it was my favorite class ever. I ended up becoming a full-time homemaker. I homeschooled my kids and taught my kids all that I learned. Anything else they don't know, they have learned on their own. Home Ec. is so necessary to learn for life's basic survival. I'm so glad that there are channels like yours that teach cleaning. I love to watch them and pick up any tips that would make cleaning easier.
Canceling home ec made it easier to sell things to most people and manipulate others
No room in the school budget for anything other than required core classes. Even the teachers don't get paid enough to live indoors-- I had one teacher who lived in her car and slept in the classroom.
It’s a sad thing that home ec is no longer a thing. It absolutely should be as well as a course in managing your finances, how credit works, etc.
Education budgets suffer because America prioritizes subsidizing unhealthy food over all other expenses. Meatonomics will teach you all about it.
I started watching this video and thought, “Who doesn’t know how to clean a counter?” I started reading the comments and realize how many people DON’T know. I also didn’t know how many people have triggering memories attached to cleaning. I certainly do. I had a mother who let dishes, pots and pans pile high. There was trash in the sink and old food. Then, she would pick a fight and punish me by telling me I had to wash the dishes. I have always had some lower back pain so the hour and a half it took would hurt me. When I moved out, I washed dishes immediately so I would never be at the sink for an extended period of time or see nasty dishes in the sink. Thank you for this video.
Same. Now I need to send this to my hubby because I'm realizing that maybe he doesn't know how to clean....
@@53jrodriguez awwww!
They know. They just are the typical conforming to whatever video they watch. You have to be short bus certified to not understand these basic tasks. It's really embarrassing looking at these comments. "I was never taught how to clean!" Nah, you are just lazy. Then again, it's very possible these people need their hand held still across the street. See short bus for more information.
@@ItIsYouAreNotYour Everything about your comment, even your username, reeks of arrogance
@@panic.betrayer They're a low effort troll, just ignore. Likely doesn't do anything worth while IRL and is upset at others being supported so they lash out online. Not worth the effort.
I come from an abusive home. One of the abuser tactics my dad used was demanding that my mother "relax and let the kids deal with it." Whenever she started to clean the house and then call my sisters and I lazy and incompetent when we did clean and he was extremely over critical so it felt like everything we did was wrong until we just gave up and began to feel like it was not worth it to even try.
We lived in disorder, chaos and clutter. We got food poisoning a lot because he wouldn't let our mother put food away in time but then insisted we eat it so it won't go to waste.
It was only when I was in my midtwenties did I start to feel like I was developing mediocre cleaning skills. I'm now in my 30's and I'm finally in a place where I do the dishes regularly. I honestly don't feel like this would have been possible had I not met my husband. He's so kind and gentle and he helped me make a home where we feel safe and loved. I don't feel stressed. Part of my cleaning journey was definitely deeply ingrained in the healing and recovery process.
It's sad hearing what you went through. But great that you are now in a good place. Breaking the chain of bad parenting.
Mine wasn't as bad, and it took me until my forties to even grasp that "abusive" might apply (as I do love my parents, they do love me, and the issues seem minor in comparison to so many people's), but I did have my dad constantly criticizing my cleaning attempts -- in ways that I only in the past five years have determined are related to my ADHD. I was always not cleaning in a timely manner, or cleaning the wrong location, or cleaning the wrong sublocation, or getting distracted and not completing the job, or cleaning it inadequately, and every time he would be like "why didn't you do it over here and this way" until I learned that it was easier to not do it at all in the first place, since I'd get criticized either way.
Digging yourself out of that sort of hole is tough. I've got a long way to go, but at least I understand better the roots of some of my issues. I'm glad you've found the resources and support you need to progress to a better stage of life.
Im glad to see how far you come and that you have support. I had a rough time as well growing up and had a similar situation and thoughts when I seen this video.
We had electrical, plumbing issues, no ac or heat, so much junk, and we were broke. Im not sure but i think my parents spent their money on the wrong things. I remember wanting to clean so bad too; my room was good but we never had stuff like garbage bags, towels, clean wash cloths . I'm glad I've come to learn most this video in my 20s like you did. I still feel like there's other basic stuff that I don't even realize I'm still doing wrong tho.
Do you have my dad???? Also I’m glad your out of that and healing, I can’t leave yet.
My dad made everyone clean. I knew how to do the dishes when i was like 7. He was an asshole.
This is great! My mom was not a cleaner so I literally didn't learn how to clean. I became a cleaning product hoarder and muddled through as best as I could. I married a man whose mom had a cleaning company. She taught me the basics plus tricks (like working top to bottom; shine the mirror & faucet because that looks cleaner; use less cleaner than they do on TV commercials). Cleaning became so much easier! Thanks for doing this video.
Surprisingly, a man explaining each step of cleaning was way more motivating than being yelled at haha thank you ❤
Weird huh!? 😅 😢
When I worked as a nurse going to people's homes, I had one lady who complained about her vacuum cleaner not picking up. (Some people thought we were there to fix a variety of problems, not just health-related) I told her I'd take a look and when I did the canister was so full that it could not contain another speck of dirt. I showed her how to empty it and told her to empty it regularly. Enjoyed your video tonight.
I was a home health physical therapist assistant. Fixing things was part of the job!!
I helped an older lady I lived next too. Everyday I noticed her floors were dirty even after I'd just cleaned them the day before til I noticed her son coming in with his shoes on. Had to tell him he might as well take a load of dog shit and other crap and rub it into the carpets then pointed to the porch where everyone else had put their shoes.
I've never seen the penny drop so slowly in a 50 year old man. Then he started kicking the skirting boards to clean mud off his boots in the porch so I pointed to the massive rug and boot scraper outside and said you're supposed to do that out there I was at the point of thinking he must just hate his mother.
But still gave him the benefit and held my tongue. Until the day I cleaned out her bathroom and had it spotless, it didn't have running water so I left a bucket of water so you could fill up the tank after flushing because I'd already filled it. He took a shit in the bathroom and just left it.
So I told his mother and she told the rest of the family about all of it, including the time I caught him wiping snot somewhere. He's been on his best behaviour since, lets hope it stays that way.
"The dryer isn't working"
Have you checked the lint trap?
"The what?"
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@@valeriaswanne Or the water container for non-plumbed in dries is also a classic.
ADHD wife here. Thank you for respecting the piles. My husband moves them or destroys them and then it takes me at least an hour to remember what the pile was, what was in it, and what I was saving it for. Lots of tears.
My husband reorganizes when he is stressed out and "undoes" my systems which is incredibly stressful. I feel you. *Hugs*
If you don't remember what the pile was for, why even make it?
@@TillyJones11 I could respond with the why and the how my brain works, but suffice it to say the piles are a part of an activity or chore I'm trying to finish but couldn't for whatever reason. When that pile is removed or destroyed, I have to remember what I was trying to accomplish, what tools are required for the job, and how I was going to accomplish it. Steps that would make sense to you and take a minute make no sense to me and take hours.
@@TillyJones11 The pile serves as the reminder, as well as a pitstop for everything needed to accomplish the task it's reminding you of.
"Doom piles", I've heard. It's hard to understand if your brain doesn't work that way, but makes perfect sense if it does.
I was diagnosed a couple years ago with autism and inattentive ADHD, raised by abusive alcoholic undiagnosed neurodivergent parents, and I greatly appreciate channels like this. My parents never put much effort into raising me, besides my mom begrudgingly taking care of my most basic physical needs. My room was so messy by the time I was 12 that my bed was infested with ants, and I became fed up with it. Channels like these have been the backbone to me becoming a functional, independent adult. Turns out I actually love cooking and cleaning too! They make me feel so empowered. You're doing incredible work for people in similar situations to me!
Added context below. Additional reminder that some people don't build habits at all, ever (thanks, neurodivergence!), so having the _bare minimum_ explained in a gentle way like this is incredibly helpful.
Editing to add: This comment has gotten a lot of traction, so I'm going to attempt (once) to add a bit of the context I initially tried to leave out for sensitivity.
The technical definition for "habit" is "any regularly repeated behaviour that requires *_little or no thought_* and is learned rather than innate" [emphasis added]. Those of us who cannot form habits require conscious thought for every decision train. We use coping mechanisms, systems, frameworks, labels, triggers, reminders, and organization (to name just the few I use myself) _instead of_ "thoughtless" habits. We may be very good at operating within these frameworks and from the outside it _looks like_ we've got habits, but I can say from personal experience that each one is an analogue to something I was "supposed to" have learned as a child and "should be able to" do without thinking about it as a result. I'll list them if you want me to, but seriously, it's endless.
I deliberately used the broad term "neurodivergence" because the inability to form habits applies to so, so many diagnosed and undiagnosed brainspaces (including ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, and executive function disorder, just to name a few I'm familiar with).
I deliberately used the term "inability" because I'm _not_ referring to lack of motivation, lack of repetition, or lack of guidance - I, for example, am autistic and cannot for the life of me remember to brush my teeth _even though_ my parents 100% taught me how and repeated the action with me throughout my childhood. I'd love to have fewer cavities.
I hope this helps explain a few of the misconceptions I've seen in the conversation below. And as always - if you know, you already know. *_*hug*_*
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That's usually stating it a bit strong, but there definitely are people that are resistant to forming habits in the first place and get off track almost immediately and have to start over if interrupted.
anyone can build habits unless they are functionally retarded and you may be retarded but you are definitely not functionally retarded it just takes more work and more time for some people
@SmallSpoonBrigade I'm in this comment. xD I'm ADHD inattentive, and cleaning falls into the "I generally know how, but always forget to do it until it's not easy anymore and gets overwhelming" category for me specifically because I have such a hard time building habits. The ones I have built have either been because they immediately impact my life, like knowing where my glasses are in the morning, or after multiple really bad experiences, like remembering my keys BEFORE I leave the house.
@@Xanthelei There's a reason why I said usually. In some ways I think the OCD and ASD tend to balance out my ADHD a bit in that regard. I prefer to have a set of keys and everything else that I take with me everyday either in my pants pockets or in a bag I take with me everywhere. It makes that a lot easier. And a check list of what goes in it can help do a quick check from time to time. In practice, I rarely need to check the bag.
This should be shown in the middle and high schools! The kids need this training!!!
Schools should teach kids how to clean early, like in Japan. When their school day is done, they begin cleaning their classroom.
Home Ec should honestly be brought back, the expectation that all kids are taught to cook and clean is so stupid.
This! My middle school kids could barely sweep a floor when I assigned classroom jobs 😑
@@chillfactory9000 I totally agree! I think showing kids how to rent an apartment or enter a contract/agreement should be taught as well. Maybe a lesson on interest with credit cards too.
Elementary school, maybe 5th grade honestly. Early middle school or upper elementary. Cleaning should be added to health class, which encompases sex ed and mental health. But bodily and mental health are definitely affected by your home environment!!!
15:30 for people who have bad backs and knees, cleaning the tub with a standing pole scrubber instead of using a handheld sponge can make a world of difference.
Such a good tip! Thank you
You should also look up the broom method. I know handicapped and wheel bound people that swear by it.
It's pretty easy, but kind of unintuitive.
I never would have thought of that in a million years! Thanks for sharing
@@InherentGloryyes glad you said it. Was just about to mention the broom method. It is shockingly simple and effective…saves the back and knees
i use a dollar store broom strictly for the tub / shower. and tilex !! takes stains / mold stains out QUICK !!
spray it let it sit then rinse it off. add a dash of dawn dish soap and scrub shower walls / tub. Never again will I EVER bend down and clean😅😂
Thank you internet dad, you are now our collective father, teaching us life skills we should have been taught sooner.
You're grounded
For those of us returning as we clean-
Timestamps:
1:36 Cleaning supplies
4:20 General surface cleaning
8:35 Toilet | Inside
9:31 Windows
11:58 Mirrors
13:07 Sinks
15:30 Bathtub & shower
19:30 Dusting
21:31 Vacuuming
26:03 Toilet continued | Outside
29:27 Dishes | Dealing with grease
31:05 Final thoughts
Thank you so much MMC!! This was so helpful!!
I appreciate you!
Underrated comment!
2:24 I SAID GET THEM OFF HERE!
Thank you
Thank you 🎉
As someone with ADHD, the really nice thing about actually getting into some kind of cleaning routine is that once you get everything to a consistent level of “clean enough”, you really dont need to do big deep cleans that often, which was what was keeping me in a rut of having a really messy living situation. Like. If on a random Sunday I feel like scrubbing out the entire oven until it’s brand new or washing the pillows, etc, I can do that as a little project. But otherwise as long as everything stays “clean enough” and we’re cycling through what’s getting cleaned each day/week/etc, nothing builds up enough that it’s too much work to get done in like. half an hour to an hour
Yeah this was a game changer for me too hahaha
Want a real ADD trick that will fix a lot?
Never do anything for YOU, but do everything for FUTURE you.
Try to impress that person. Even thank them for it later.
I do this all the time, I do something, forget I did, then later it comes in clutch and makes something way easier, and I remember hey I DID do that, good job past me, you did good work, hope you kept it up.
@@RobertMorgan Awww, that is so sweet! I have really bad executive dysfunction and I similarly try to applaud myself when I've managed to successfully do something good (even if mundane for other people). Positive self talk is just SO important. I used to beat myself up and call myself stupid and I internalized all my challenges as just "well I suck, so what did I expect" and I didn't even get diagnosed ADHD until I was 21, so my entire childhood was just being told I was bad and broken and different than others and I never knew why and I always just wanted to be good! I've been doing something similar to what you suggested for myself, but it also works great in healthy living/eating! I got overweight cause of depression, but I've lost a good amount of weight now, and current me thanks past me and encourages future me every day. ❤
Very inspiring, thank you for sharing
This helped me because he was like "you don't need 57 cleaner". NGL... the options were kinda paralyzing for me
I LOVE the fact that you kept your wife’s items in the same areas because of her ADHD. It drives me bonkers when things I have on counters at home get put upstairs or shoved in a bag because I now have absolutely no clue where specific things like letters or bills are, but I get blamed for having a mess or get told I should have cleaned up and they wouldn’t have had to clear the table when they got tired of MY things being there. It is literally just how our brain works.
i can relate to u, i dont have adhd but even if my table's a mess, i know where my stuffs are. and it really bothers me when someone cleans it and misplaces everything
Or, just pick up after yourself. I have severe ADHD. The only mess I have is in my room. It’s not difficult.
@@SnailHatan If you have ADHD then I’m sure you’re 100% aware that it affects everyone differently. Glad you don’t have issues cleaning. Congrats on that 🎉 My ADHD, however, clearly affects me differently. It’s really not that difficult to understand.
also have ADHD, this problem can also be solved by indeed picking up after yourself instead of leaving your stuff all over shared living space
It think I'd they want to clean actually communicating to you that they are moving the stuff because of soemrhhjbg rh2y need to do there would be nice
As a neurodivergent person raised by neurodivergent parents who didn't teach me how to properly clean but complained all the time how messy I was, this feels healing. Thank you!
I have the same problem actually 😭 I can sorta stress clean but I can’t regularly clean and I don’t even think my mom knows how to do that :(
you’re breaking a cycle that probably goes back generations. Feel proud! I’m sure your neurodivergent parents learned their methods from their neurodivergent parents. Understanding neurodivergence unpacks a lot of weird family quirks
Didnt even learn how to clean despite being a germaphobe because i had a dad with OCD who wouldnt let me even touch the bottle of any kind of chemical cleaning product
@@Llama_charmer you hate germans???
What is neurodivergent? First time to hear it.
The irony of finding this video on Mother's Day. My mother was a perfectionist who never taught me any of this. Because I could never do it right. Thanks for this.
I don't think you understand how amazing this is. For you to take the time and make a video like this. People need to be more compassionate towards others, because not everyone comes from a living and caring family. Not everyone is talk this essential life lessons, these lessons others call 'common sense'. I really hate when people say condescending things such as 'common sense' isn't common anymore', because sometimes people need the 'basic' things explained because it was never taught to them. And if it was, it was taught in a condescending and abusive way, to the point where you think your effort is pointless. How about you grow up in a family where everything you did was rediculed? Where you were told that everything you did was wrong, even though you tried your best. That kind of 'teaching' really leaves people depressed and feeling worthless. So thank you for not being a condescending jackass, and explaining and realizing that we didn't all grow up in healthy environments that allowed us to grow and learn in a healthy way
It’s so refreshing to see a how to video that’s not like “Oh my god you guys I have found the top five “secret” products that you NEED to have to keep your home clean!” He gave so many different options and kept acknowledging that there are those who can’t afford certain products and there’s still options and techniques that can help them keep their homes clean. I wish we had more content like this that pushes “here are some tips, do what works for you” instead of the constant “these specific products are the only thing that will fix your problems, link in bio” marketing that we see all the time. Such an awesome video 😌
My Home Ec teacher made my class's final on how well our kitchens were cleaned. She'd also make us do weekly chores, like laundry, taking expired food out of the fridges, and it taught me very essential life skills. We need more Home Ec/FCS teachers in schools man!
The premise of this video is so sad. When I lived in Oregon I ended up taking in this girl because she was homeless with an infant and had come from two generations of homeless parents, and about three months in she came home crying because she had bought dish soap and windex and she had never bought cleaning stuff before in her entire life. She was I think 25 at the time. Really eye opening.
I know the feeling. I had never spent my own money on household supplies until the other day and I am 34 (bleach cleaner, garbage bags, TP, laundry soap, etc.). Once I quit using drugs/alcohol, I could actually afford it. I realize now it's all part of maturing into an adult.
@@13donstalosSimilar story. But I'm on the spectrum. My problem isn't drugs/alcohol. It's depression/mental illness. In all honesty, I never figured it would be a problem. Didn't think I'd still be here.
@@armyofninjas9055drugs alcohol usually come with mental illness. People don't depend on drugs because theyre doing well. Drug and alcohol abuse is just another symptom of mental illness, but they can definitely worsen things in the long run. I quit drinking this year and my anxiety got so much friggin better.
My main addiction tho is my phone. I waste so much time scrolling and typing to random people on the internet and don't actively take care of myself because of it. Why get dopamine from hard work when you can get it staring at a metal and glass block in front of your face? I lost my phone last week and spent a week without a phone and had legit withdrawals and cravings. I didn't know how to cope. But after 5-6 days it gets a lot easier and I started going to bed earlier and getting out of bed faster. Normally I only get up to make tea and then sit back down and check my phone for a while. But without it I was able to immediately make breakfast and shower and stuff like that.
@@13donstalos congrats on getting sober!
@@armyofninjas9055so youre gonna clean 😊
That tidbit about twisting the top knob on the vacuum to instantly unspool the power cable just changed my whole life
Hahaa, noooo!
Hilarious, I find that you have to be careful to not get the cord tangled, though when you do that
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Was new to me too :)
Yeah my chord tangles up every time though
Emily is right. It's not always intuitive. Ive watched you clean just about everything, but the "showing and explaining " really does help. That Emily is a keeper. ❤
This is really nice to explain to people. I’ve realized growing up that my mother not wanting me to clean was an overcompensation for her childhood where she felt she was always made to do work and chores. My grandma did most of the cleaning for us. As sweet as my grandma was, in some sense it really did me a disservice since I never learned. She told me when I was about 10 how she read a news story that the kids who perform the best in school are “organized”, that’s the key. I was never taught how to organize…my mom would scold me how I was messy yet she never taught me how to clean and she was also messy herself. I’m glad you are raising awareness about this stuff. It wasn’t until I was in my mid twenties I got so fed up living in chaos and never being able to find what I’m looking for that I started being more organized and less cluttered. It’s been a journey but I’m SO much better than I used to be through my own work and persistence. I don’t think I’ll ever be a “neat freak” per se, but I now understand the true joy of having a clean and organized space now that I’m older. This is very validating and encouraging. I’m looking forward to teaching these things to my kids so it’s less hard on them when they grow up.
I have no idea why this is so soothing, but it is. What makes me really happy is that your house is clearly being lived in. There's some mess, and some stains that won't come out of the carpet, and a bunch of pets. And you just move the random items, clean the surface, and move them back.
Most "clean your house" videos make me feel like a failure because the houses all look like they're straight from an IKEA ad. So, thank you for this. I watched the whole vid.
yes! my mom once commented that all the houses on real estate photos and newspapers never looked "lived in". there are never boots by the door or cups on the coffee table or a doggy lying by the table..
This is the most compassionate, comprehensive, and thoughtful instruction of essential cleaning I’ve ever seen. A preteen, teen, or adult would equally be able to watch this video and feel capable of cleaning a home to a level of reasonable sanitation. This is such a good skill building video!
Thank you for distinguishing that you don't need super expensive cleaners and can clean with a few simple things you probably already have lying around the house. That's really important to hear, especially considering most cleaning channels swear by a million products that not everyone can afford.
This is so sweet and kind of you to make. I’m definitely sharing this with teens I know. My mom put my brother and I in Don Asletts cleaning class when we were kids and bought us each a $40 cleaning kit. I can’t imagine not knowing how to clean but I meet teens every week who don’t know how to clean .
Thanks again for this video! I absolutely love it!
It would be cool if you had starter gift sets for sale with the empty spray bottle, gloves, bar keepers friend.... and an encouraging outline of simple steps (moose jokes included). These could be great graduation gifts.
Cute! Great idea
Also loving this idea! ❤
heck, id buy it for myself when moving to a new place!
Thank you for including me in this video, I really appreciate the awareness. ❤. You are doing good work here.
Thank you for letting me use your clips! Pinning this comment.
What did this mean?
@@kimberlymiller655 HaydenVio was the young woman in the video clip shown at the beginning - the one with the hoarder dad
@@kimberlymiller655 I was the girl in this tiktok he showed, he used my video
As a fellow adult child of hoarders, I want to give you a hug. I escaped it. My brother didn't. I'm proud of you for creating a better space for yourself.
I wanna throw it out there that for others like myself who have historically hated vacuuming - ear protection makes a difference. I wear ear plugs now when vacuuming and I really enjoy it
i blast some good music into my earbuds and go to town
2:26 made me laugh so hard💀, you have some serious commitment to not laugh or crack a smile when you do those things.
too funny
im autistic and I grew up in a abusive household and my mother would beat me up and yell at me every time i was cleaning the incorrect way and she would never tell me how to clean this video made me cry for the first time in months it felt like for the first time in my life that someone cared about about me thank you for making this video
Your mother must love you... She may have just been frustrated... She had you after all
@@tianachidester1566 ma'am I'm gonna tell you this because clearly you don't understand that just because someone gave birth to you it's not give them the right to treat you horribly. I used to think the same thing. And I would gaslight myself into believing that maybe my mother was just having a bad day. But would a loving mother abuse you physically and mentally. Would a loving mother try to sell their daughter into human trafficking. Would you say a person breaking their child's foot because they were angry because their child didn't give them a foot massage a loving mother. Ask yourself is that a loving mother would do? I don't think so. Do you think a loving mother would tell their daughter who was getting sexually abused by their babysitter and by their stepdad that it's normal and that it's fine and to not tell anybody about what happens at home or else she will kill you. Do you honestly think that's something a loving mother would do? would a loving mother permit a man to touch their daughter that is no younger than 4 years old sexually. Do you think a loving mother would let her brother take her 4 years old daughter's virginity. I don't think so I used to think that it was fine and that everything was fine. And that my mom was just frustrated when she hit me. But guess what when I had my own kids and I realized it's not that hard to not be a shitty parent. Sure I get frustrated with my kids but I don't yell at them and beat them up to the point that they cannot walk for several days. Instead I explain to them and teach them and give them reassurance and treat them like actual children instead of slaves instead of emotional support. Because they are children I let my children act like children. But my mother she forced me to grow up to take care of my younger siblings. Do you think that's something loving and caring mothers do? You know what my mother would tell me. she would tell me that I was a mistake. And that I'm lucky that she gave birth to me because she was going to get an abortion.But guess what my eldest kid was an accident and I didn't know if I wanted them at that time and was considering getting a abortion. But instead of telling my kid that they were an accident and they they should be grateful that I didn't get an abortion. No instead I tell them that they were a happy accident and that I love them. And that I am grateful for them being born because they did not choose to be born I chose the responsibility of becoming a parent. It's not that hard to not be a horrible parent but still some parents choose to be horrible to their children. Okay so don't go online telling people that "oh their mothers probably were just frustrated and that's why they beat them up and they gave birth to them and they were just having a bad day" no it's not it okay some mothers don't deserve to have children. you do not know what the person commenting has been through so please don't go online saying those types of things. I am sorry for the bad English in this and I apologize for going on a rant but you need to understand that not everyone has a loving mother and that sometimes mothers can be horrible people.
@@no1chuuyassimp true
I also had a broken / abusive mother. Like the burners on a hot electric stove, no matter how I approached her ( with love, kindness, care, quietly, slowly, etc) she would still "burn" me, because it was what she knew. I hope that you have had help to heal, and that you forgive yourself for ever having been angry with her or blaming yourself. It was NOT your fault, and you DIDN"T cause it. And, it isn't your job to forgive her, just to find a way to move forward. 🫂
@@tianachidester1566 why the hell are you trying to excuse their not yours THEIR abusive mom
Like many of the viewers on here, I was brought to tears by the simple recognition that you stated. I was raised in a chaotic, painful household, and I was never taught how to clean, but being “messy” and “dirty” was one of the main issues my sibling and I were punished for. I didn’t even realize this until very recently, and I am almost 50. With all my heart, thank you for making this video. I hope it gets a lot of reach, and many more people can understand that it isn’t a moral, nor genetic, failing to not know how to clean. Take the shame away, and learn it. It’s another aspect of being human and taking care of yourself.
If my stainless steel pans have a lot of burnt on food, instead of scouring them, I just put them on the stove with water and soap and boil the water. The burnt on stuff floats in the water and then I don't have to scrub them. Nice video
Same for me
I didn’t know that. Thank you for that tip. I’ve just switched from non stick to stainless steel and was struggling a bit! So great tip!😊
Vinegar half/half with water works well too. And - surprisingly enough - boiled rhubarb stalks! (But those are hard to come by these days. Unless you’re in the country or a country town.)
@@LauraMacMillan-el2kc My mum also did that,,,try olive oil soap,,it cleans everything, pots and pants and your kithchen counters and bathroom sparkly,,,,wash your clothes for hand and wash yourself with it.
Sorry,,pans.
I feel like crying. I’m 17 I don’t know how to love at all I don’t know how cleaning is done idk how to cook just nothing. My mum is extremely impatient and wouldn’t let me do things because I’m slow and my dad is an extreme perfectionist so going to him is a dead end. Thankyou for teaching me I’m taking notes because I don’t want to end up being an idiot by the time I enter my 20s thankyou very much thank you alot. Thankyou. Subscribed
I am a professional cleaner and have been cleaning houses, rvs, boats, and cars in a professional setting for over 20 years. This video is all 100% correct.
This is such a great video. You’re not gatekeeping valuable information behind a paywall of affiliate links and ridiculous, unnecessary, consumerism-minded products. You have such respect for human kind. Thanks for all you do!
I'll be honest. I know all of this. I was just hyped to see a normal looking home be cleaned to the level I try to get it. It was nice to be encouraged throughout the video too
Update just because I'm proud of myself:
I have moved into my own place and for the first time I'm keeping it clean entirely by myself. I've used a lot of these tricks and even sometimes listen to this while cleaning. Great stuff.
I saw this video when you first posted it, but I had to come back to post this comment as I have come back to take notes! My mom never taught me how to clean. My dad never learned how to clean because he's a guy and guys didn't clean in his household. I grew to be so frustrated because my mom would tell me to clean, but I had never been taught, so I always did it wrong, resulting in backlash and having to do it again. I gave up and stopped cleaning entirely as it made me overwhelmed and felt not worth it to be yelled at for doing it incorrectly. I have been watching your channel for a few years as an escape from a cluttered, borderline hoarder mom situation. Past videos have kicked me into gear to declutter my room, and I feel I am making good progress. This video has changed not only my life but my mindset around cleaning now. I am taking baby steps to incorporate it more into my daily routine so it's not as overwhelming, but I wanted to thank you so much for this video. I genuinely don't know if I ever would've picked up a cleaning tool again in my life otherwise. A million times, thank you. 💜
I'm definitely not crying over someone explaining cleaning to me non-judgementally. Thank you ❤️
My mom has ADHD and my dad's autistic, so I grew up in a dirty house that we manically cleaned the morning of having people over every time. And every time, my parents would fight with each other and yell at us and tell us we were doing it wrong. I'd get handed a cleaning product and was expected to just know what to do with it. I'm autistic, so I did what made sense to me, which was, of course, not "correct".
Aww, baby, I hope you’re good now! My kids are grown and newly married. I’m looking at this and hoping I did a good job with them. Sometimes we fail, but I hope you felt loved because you wrote a great letter that I’m certain made this man feel much better. Stay strong and be happy on your own- you can do it! 😊
Wow this is my exact life. Except they’re both adhd and autistic. It kind of feels nice to know I’m not alone in this but im sorry you had/have to live through this too
Same but my dad has ADHD and my mom is autistic. I have ADHD, and my husband has both ADHD and autism, and we’re both learning how to keep a clean house.
He’s better at it than me because I either am blind to the clutter or it is so overwhelming that I can’t act. I find that cleaning by 1 metre squared section can be helpful when I get overwhelmed, but it’s honestly hard to remember to clean. I want to have a clean house though so I’m going to keep trying!
I grew up a slob. My mom and bros were slobs. My dad complained incessantly of the lack of cleanliness. It was the chief cause of strife between he and my mom in my younger years. When I married, I continued my slovenly ways. Then I joined a Bible study group that met at a different lady’s house the first Wednesday of each month and I was amazed at how clean and beautiful their homes were. at that point, I realized that they knew something I simply didn’t. They knew how to manage and clean their homes. So I went to the library and got an arm load of books about household management and cleaning. I’m happy to say when I got older, I was able to teach my children how to clean house. But it definitely did not come naturally, and it definitely took effort to learn. But it was also fun learning to master something that, up to that point, had been a complete mystery to me.
one of my biggest goals when im a father in the future is to actually take the time to thoroughly explain how to do things. pretty crappy being yelled at for not doing something right when nobody bothers even attempting to teach you.
That first video you showed me really hit home. My mom is a hoarder and most days I feel like I have all of the same tendencies. Thank you for being both informative and encouraging.
It really brightens my day when I see videos like this. There's a generation of kids who are growing up on the internet with almost no parental guidance. But the internet doesn't have to be a force of evil. It's a tool. And we can use it to help others immensely. A+ video, the internet needs more people who want to help.
I remember my mom literally yelled at me for using more than 7 squares of toilet paper to clean myself and later yelled at me for "living like a slob" when I was a pre-teen. I watched her clean a 1600 sq ft. property wide-eyed and panting because she was in her 50s. It wasn't until semi-recently, and I am 32, that I realized she never actually taught me to maintain and nurture my living space. I'm not being angry or pointing fingers at my momma but just making a realization. Thank you for making this video.
My mom was a housewife as well, but she never taught me a thing. I occasionally ironed my clothes and did some cleaning for fun. I probably watched a movie showing cleaning. I learned how to clean the first year I was married (23 at the time). I only cooked for fun before then, so I had to learn practical meals. My husband had a job where he needed to be at work by 5 am, so I needed to send him off with a lunch and breakfast.
Honestly, I hate washing dishes. It's the chore I dislike the most because I do a sanitation soak like in the restaurants to avoid getting sick. Our dishwasher broke down last year, but we're definitely going to get another one if we see a good deal. Technology exists to help us if we let it.
It took me years to realize you didn't need to feel upset while cleaning. The maintenance is a chore, of course, but it can be made fun or enjoyable. You don't have to feel bad when you're doing a good thing - it doesn't make the cleaning any better.
@@IlonaJuhanson Put on Music or some other thing like a Podcast and you do not notice the Time go By.. Best is when you do it with another Person..
My mother was the eldest of 5 in the 1950's to a single mom who was autistic enough some kids were taken away for neglect. For my mother the topics of food and cleaning are emotionally charged to the point she drives herself, solely by her own actions, to hysterics. So I couldn't learn from example, and as a child became a keen observer of other peoples' domestic habits. Why I watch videos like this.
So what you're saying is that you spent years watching her do these cleaning tasks and never thought to copy her actions?
People are terrifying.
I have an similar cleaning story but the opposite! I grew up with a mom with OCD. Everyday was deep cleaning day, I mean pulling the fridge out and mopping under there, power washing all the trash cans in the house, mopping the floors with boiling water mixed with bleach and pure ammonia (the stinging in your eyes meant it was working). If I had a mug in my room or a clothing item on the floor, my whole room had to be cleaned again. It was nuts and I never learned how to properly clean my space because cleaning to me was excessive and exhausting. I finally learned how to do it the normal way a few years ago and now my home is consistently an acceptable level of clean all the time.
Bleach and ammonia😦
@@kikialeaki1850 YEAH they didn't know it was toxic and dangerous they just thought they both clean good so mixing them must clean better.
@@haliknipe6108 so sorry for your lungs😅
She was gassing y'all out 😢
As common since as this may seem I grew up on my own and I’m not a slob but have no idea how most cleaning products worked thank you for your patience in teaching people like me.
Hi Mac, I'm very lucky that my mum taught me all of this. The one thing I keep in mind is this "if it cleans for you, you must clean it" washing machines, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners etc., I'm watching from Scotland and I love your videos. xx
Hello fellow Scot!
This is so important!
I have to look up how to clean a washing machine. Embarrassed to say I never thought about cleaning mine
@@davinaz6885 This channel has shown that on another video where he used vinegar and the hot cycle and showed that it can be very easy if you do it that way 😊
@@davinaz6885 I actually just did this yesterday! I just ran an empty load on hot and used the built in bleach pouring funnel and did two full measures of bleach.
Ideally you shouldn't have to do anything too crazy to clean a washing machine, as long as it's functioning properly, but if you mostly run cold water loads it's a good idea to occasionally run a hot load with some sort of cleaner, because otherwise it can harbor mildew or mold.
You're right - a rag in hot, soapy water will clean most things. And thanks for pointing out that you have to clean before you sanitize. I was taught in nursing school is that you have to remove the dirt before you use a disinfectant. One thing I will add to this really helpful video is that if you have real wood furniture you do need some type of furniture polish or spray. Don't use all purpose cleaner on good wood furniture. However, I will acknowledge that I'm in my 60s and we have mostly real wood antiques or vintage furniture. It does seem that most younger people these days have IKEA type furniture and that doesn't require the same level of care to protect the finish.
yeah most of modern "wood furniture" is just plywood or those horrible plates of pressed together sawdust with texture painted on top of them, alcohol usually takes care of those, with the added bonus of making it shine nicely, though I still prefer bleach, because It's just a habit of mine at this point.
I was a profesional cleaner, why am I watching this video i dont know but you are good for my mental health ❤
Well dang, you answered your own question, LOL.
I clean every day and come home and watch him lol 😂
I used to work as a cleaner too, but I am hopeless when it comes to cleaning my own house. No problem when it is someone else's clutter to deal with 😅
Thank you for uploading this, I’m 26 and have been winging it my whole life, you made a lot of points in this video that made me go “oh!” And I can’t express how thankful I am. I have felt so lost so often in my adulthood on things that other people just seem to “get” and I’m actively trying to improve and build those good habits, but it felt like trying to build a project model without the instructions. I’ve been watching house cleaning videos for the last few years now picking up bits and pieces of helpful info, and this video answered so many questions I still had
"This does take some effort, I hate doing it." Thanks sir, I'm still learning how to keep a house clean and sometimes it ain't easy 😊
“Get em off here…”😂😂😂 BYEEEE SUPPLIES. I started on my Mom’s other rooms and have used your APC formula like crazy and the grid method. Truly works like “Magic” . I even found a baby Moose hiding under some doom piles of I don’t even know what! He was so happy to get cleaned!😂😂😂 I named him Mambo the Moose (it has been a long cleaning week😂). Happy Friday all….here is to “no special cleaners”!
I've used the APC mixture so much since learning about it, I now buy isotropy alcohol in 5 litre bottles. So many uses and kinder on lungs than other products.
Where I live his name would be Mardi Gras Mambo.
What a cute name for your little baby moose!
@@Hopischwopi awe thanks… wouldn’t it be awesome to actually find things like that in a pile of filth!!!😂
Those pesky mooses
healed something in me to see someone treat adhd piles as not dirty and not mess. thank you ❤
I grew up pretty shelterd and was never taught to clean, do laundry, cook, anything. So when I moved out for college and on my own, I had zero idea what I was doing. I ate out a lot because I didnt know how to cook, cleaned everything with just lysol, and literally had to ask my college roommate to teach me to do laundry. Videos like this have been super helpful!
I might as well have a PhD in cleaning but I absolutely loved this video not just for the humor and empathy (like all other videos on this channel), but because it reminded me of older classic you tube videos. Subscribed for life!
I grew up with a stepmother who never taught me how to clean, she would make me clean and then get mad and put me down for not doing it right but she never taught me how to do it right. I have always felt insecure and didn't want people to visit because I am afraid it's not clean enough.
You have no idea how much this video helps me and probably lots of others who feel the same way. I know feel more confident and don't feel like I have to spend lots of time and money on cleaning and know it's done right.
Thank you so much for all you do!
My mom was a hoarder.
I actively struggle against the tendencies to want to keep everything, and have ADD. I wasnt taught to clean, just kind of had to figure it out when I went to college. My house tends to be cluttered, but I mentally set 4 sections of the house and once a week clean one section. So each section gets cleaned once a month. During cleaning , I make myself throw away or gift or donate anything that's not getting used. If it's not something that gets used, but needs to be kept, it goes into storage... It's not perfect, but it's better than becoming a hoarder like my mom ...my brother's and sister's houses look like our childhood house...
Thank you for this video, I definitely picked up a few tricks to make cleaning easier!!!
My son is 5 years old and he is level 3 on the autism spectrum and mostly nonverbal. He’s been very interested in cleaning lately and I’m excited to show him this video. Thank you so much ❤️
I'm one of those people who doesn't have a bloody clue how to clean my own house. Thank you for this. Sincerely.