I was 13 when this song came out and already a Pearl Jam fan. I was abused, mostly verbally and emotionally and via neglect, by my mother from birth to age 16, when I finally got to move away. This song hit me like a freight train. The lyrics hurt so bad, but yet I had never felt so seen and recognized. I can’t help but sing along, often through tears, when I hear it. I do make one small ad lib to it though- I sing “Don’t call me daughter. You’re not fit to.” This daughter has done a lot of work to overcome the past. I have no contact with either of my genetic contributors these days and I have two children of my own that have never known the sort of suffering I lived through. She has, indeed, risen above.
wow. I know it's said that life is all about soul growth and learning to overcome - but it seems especially challenging and heart wrenching to hear about children going through abuse. That said, I'm happy you have done so well and I hope others going through similar stuff will read your comment and know that sometimes troubled people raise us, and we have to decipher what's best for one another on our own. best to you, Kay
As a 40yo woman, and a teen of the 90’s, I loved this song, but it never “struck” me until hearing it today. I recently learned that my 6yrs older than me 2nd cousin, was abused by her family. To this day, they’re doing things to keep her down and under their thumbs. But, they always seemed so much “better” than us, so much more well-off and put together. I was shook when I found this out, and it pains me FOR her, because for all that we lacked in financials/functionality, we made up for in deeply caring for one another. I may have grown up in a shack of a home, but the love & support I experienced there, never really allowed me to see that I was “lower class”. It was just a feeling. This song came on today, and my cousin immediately came to mind. I’ve found that listening to music you once loved as a youth can open your eyes to many things you didn’t have the ability to comprehend before.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine wtf. Do you Seriously think that she likes being abused? I hope not. Don't call me daughter is the cry of the parents failure to stop the abuse mate. That's why they aren't fit to call her daughter.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine wow I didn't expect that. Yeah unfortunately the gay scene has taken over people. Do you know if they were abused prior to meeting you?
This song spoke to a depressed and disenfranchised generation. Before socmed. There was grunge. It carried us through. It gave us a voice. It kept us not only alive but working towards a better world for all. I truly hope one day it gets recognized for what is has done.
On the live DVD or Madison square garden.. it was awesome to see the entire audience .. ALL raising their arms and pointing up with the lyrics, almost like they are collectively WILLING her along! ( Or, at least, being VERY supportive ☺️)
Don't you just love how you hear a song like this and remember it from when you were young, and you knew you liked it for its melody and thats all you knew of it. Now that you are older and listen to it and find its true meaning, or atleast find a meaning within it that holds value to you because you have experienced more of life and have something to relate it to. It's incredible.
You nailed it. So many songs make my eyes roll. How my life shaped to be/relate to so deeply yet didn’t understand from an innocent mind but knew I love it as a young child
I found out what the lyrics "Listless, breakfast table in an otherwise empty room" truly means and it is truly divine and prophetic. Music is my religion.
Absolutely. I was 22, a single mom to a daughter and a son. Listening to it at 22 and now at 50 is soo different. You about described how I'm feeling Listening to it now. I am forwarding this song to my now 32 year old daughter ❤
I really think Boomers had a hard time knowing how to do so just as the generation before them. I really think Gen X is when there started to be a shift on a large scale of the way people treat kids. Of course not in many exceptions tho
Notice how the electric section in the middle is actually conveying the beating and all , realised this just right now despite listening it to 50+ times
I was an early teenager when this came out and boy. I felt seen instead of gaslighted. Now my mother is dying and it's 2:30am and here I am listening to this and I can't stop crying
When i was so so fan of PJ,I thought everyone will love those songs but later i realised that PJ's all songs are like meditation songs which are to listen when you sit alone and dive into those songs...its different ,no one would understand what kicks when their songs are listened with close eyes...😍😎 thank me for making you realizing !😁
the only song that sums my father. He has no right to call me his daughter. Melancholy on my birthday. his loss, i have indeed risen above. My life is better than his will ever be.
hugs to you. i'm also a survivor but more importantly my 5 year old daughter made an outcry to me february 15,2023 that her dad / my ex husband of 5 years (she was almost 6 and we divorced before she was 1) was violating her little body. he had used the threat of killing me (which my abuser did) if she told. she's got a bit of a betrayal bond / trauma bond with him. all reports filed and he's gone to jail (bailed out in and me and the kids are in counseling. he's now stalking us in person and cyberstalking. i've tried to get any law enforcement to care. it's sad they can't / don't / won't do anything - because HE has RIGHTS. Our injustice system is a joke. Incestual pedos that post videos that got discovered - on the dark web - gets to walk free - despite being 50k behind on child support / violating bond / stalking/ death threats. anyways - i'm proud of you! any words of advice for my daughter?
I was listening to this on the way back from the hospital after my grandma passed away. So it’s an emotional song for me. She was such an important person to me. Sorry if this comment doesn’t fit
I heard this song for the first time today, I know I'm 28 years too late but this song basically sums up my childhood and my adulthood I love my family from a far now. I'm not dyslexic, in high school they actually discovered that I was kind of bright but after 11 years of having someone trying to "beat" it out of me I just wanted to graduate and leave the public education system behind me. I'm doing decent but I wonder how far along I would be if I was actually nurtured and helped.
Yep had the same awful experience with the Education system with two boys on the Spectrum...made them feel less than perfect ..these two No Meds just tough love are now at University and one is doing his Masters on Science and the other one is in his final year of Bachlor of Psychology and looking to do his Master s in Psycholgy I am so glad I ignored their advice xxx and was a n activist and a Single parent and stood up to them now
I had been praying for weeks that we would have a daughter and this song started playing on our local radio station as we turned in the doctors office parking lot on the day of our anatomy scan. Sure enough, a week later found out we were having a baby girl
Im so excited for you if its Pearl Jam you mean that you like. They are an entity to themselves. There is no other band to compare them too. I grew up with them as a teenager, they are in my soul. Also check out Eddie Vedder he is the lead singer of the band but has also done solo work. He did the album for the movie Into the Wild. Its a collection of truly beautiful music. Its an absolute listen. I really hope you take the time to look into them. Youll be rewarded with joy!!!❤
I didn’t know this song was written about me; learning disabled young girl with adolescent anger. Pearl Jam wrote songs for the youth angst. All grunge did!
Reminds me of how my Stepdad's fam is making me feel. 37 yrs old and just now realized that every single pic on the wall here has absolutely zero of me. Plus, his daughter didn't want me there for Thanksgiving this yr, because I'm not blood fam. She never acted this way to me before. I feel like such an outcast.
I'm listening to Pearl Since a year. It was really random. I'm a German Guy and my English is not the best and i don't unverstand every word but thats not necessary, because the music connects us All. Eddie's Voice is one of the greatest Voice i've ever heard. The Guitar Riffs are so amzing too. The music lets me think positive, in this really bad World.
I heard pearl jam when I was 13-14 for the first time song was "last kiss" I could listen to them all day such relaxing music but with some deep meaning behind the words
This has been one of my favorite songs for the past 30 years and I just learned the actual lyrics... I refuse to believe it and am sticking with what I've been singing all along!
Alone, listless Breakfast table in an otherwise empty room Young girl, violence Center of her own attention The mother reads aloud, child tries to understand it Tries to make her proud The shades go down, it's in her head Painted room, can't deny there's something wrong Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me She holds the hand that holds her down She will rise above, uh uh Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me daughter, not fit to The picture kept will remind me Don't call me The shades go down The shades go down The shades go go Go
“The song is a "metaphor" for how creative people who may have some type of a defective characteristic are f***ing destroyed. Good, creative people are just *expletive* destroyed." ~Eddie Vedder
This song has drawn me since the day I heard it. I remember playing this over and over in the stereo at my girlfriend's place during a party some 30 years ago. I am there everytime I hear this song. My favorite PJ song still.
I always look forward to the part of their songs where Vedder's pitch matches the notes being played. It doesn't always happen, but it's a nice moment.
classic. so much better than today's processed factory of music. i'll admit there are a handful of good songs nowadays, but you don't get stuff like this. pearl jam's awesome.
And you said this 12 years ago I wonder what you think now 😂 it's unbelievable how bad most mainstream music is nowadays fortunately there are a handful of "newer" great rock and metal artist coming up like Slaughter to Prevail, Lorna Shore, Ice Nine Kills, Spiritbox, Motionless in White, Bad Omens, Sleep Token, etc
I always listened to this with my parents as a kid. Just watched a new Netflix movie that had a cover of this song in the credits and the lyrics finally hit me. What a good song.
of all the songs I could give to my mom it would probably be this one, sadly. Wish it wasn’t that way. She’s even told me “I’m not your mom anymore!” for calling her out for stealing all my savings for drugs… then a month later she’s asking what I want for dinner. Not your daughter, nor your son, just Alex.
I don't know if anyone noticed that in this song, about an abused girl, the lyrics "shades go down" is used, and later in rearviewmirror, the lyrics "finally the shades are up" are used, tying the songs together really well.
i think i totally misunderstood this song as a teenager, i get it now though. i always used to hum it to myself because i never felt like i was fit enough to be called "daughter" by my parents, i thought i was an embarrassment to them. thank god for growing up and learning!
This song has got me through my very lowest/darkest depths. I was close to throwing myself on a train track. I was in a mentally abusive relationship, and I finally managed to escape. Then something much worse, which I can't go into happened. This song and the support of an amazingly supportive wife have made me feel unbreakable. I'd love to meet PJ or even just speak over the phone to let them know just how much their songs help when shit gets real bad
I remember her, she needed me, I would have done anything, I made plans, I wanted to run away and be her daddy, someday we'll be together again, someday, I remembered her in everything, they needed me, they said I could do anything, It was all part of the plan, someday we'll all be together again, beyond a lonely sun and an empty moon, that"s why I'm holding on
Even if Pearl Jam is not the best band out there, or the most popular, I believe they still deserve some respect. I mean they sold 60 million records worldwide, and have put up with some crazy stuff. I love how they won't make music videos because they want people to like the music not the video. They are a great group full of meaning, and truth to their songs. Go Pearl Jam!
I never understood why at a young age, I liked Pearl Jam's songs. We never really understood the lyrics back then but I knew there was something there. Now that I am 36, I completely understand why. I feel so old and thankful! ❤️ (Our eldest brother introduced them to me and saw from him that he can relate to their songs, he is 51 now)
I would often sing this when I was younger, but I can't remember why. I did always have a difficult time with my own mother (even now as an adult) and was subjected to a lot of bullying at school so maybe the lyrics spoke to me, or there could be no deeper meaning and I just enjoyed the song. The world may never know
I heard this at a grocery store today. They're finally playing 1990s music, including grunge and rap (Arrested Development). They used to only play 1960s and 1970s stuff back when I first went in 2016. We're now at a point where this stuff and 1980s stuff are the "oldies." I was a teenager in the late 1990s when oldies were considered music up to 1973, so I guess it's only fair. I'll be 38 in November.
The Law of Surprise: having subscribed to millions of artists and realizing you haven't yet subscribed to Pearl Jam yet! Whaaa! Life is full of wonderful surprises ;)
Vedder, cornell and bowie..is the greatest songwriter..with the music, the sound played by the band member makes their lyrics screams very powerfull and becomes a greatest songs what i called... Everlasting.
How is it you can talk to someone and forget their name or maybe the conversation but hear the beat or guitar 🎸 to this Masterpiece and others like it and instantly remember the words. It boggles my mind how I can forget a lot of things but never forget Pearl Jam and Eddie Vedder's lovely voice ❤️❤️❤️❤️
WARNING: Sept.25, 1976 almost into 2025. This band, these 4 kids from Ireland, changed the world. Thank you Larry for starting this band, and the thumping backbone beat. Thank you Edge for the backing vocals, creating sounds that baffle Nasa. Thank you Adam for the superior bass, fast and slow. The years of blonde! Thank you Paul for rising above and getting us thru and above it all onna higher level of consciousness. U2 fan from the days in the pubs, to the packed sold out stadiums. Stay humble always. Thank you for growing up, and being friends to all of us all our lives and staying with us all. Stay safe and be well Gods Good Gentlemen and humble servants. Laurel.
Reading all the comments reminds me that we are not alone. Those of us who were abused as kids by a parent, or someone else. And we overcame the adversity. Songs like this helped give us strength and a voice in some way. Thanks Pearl Jam
77, Datsun B210, headed to Boise, 1993, sharing headphones on a walkman with my dear best friend, love and miss you every day, you didn't deserve the way you died, it saddens my soul, hope your happy forever now, we will meet again someday !
@Eddievedder833 shocked, really surprised, yes. I have my doubts but that's ok. If it were really you I'd tell you about our wrist bands🤣 have a great day !
@Eddievedder833 Well, I have precisely loved you and the band, Mother Love Bone, Chris Cornel, since the very beginning. I've rocked you through good and bad, I'll be rocking you until and after I die. Thank you for sharing your amazing talent. 🤍
As a survivor, I always took this song to be about child abuse. Regarding the video, I find it utterly disorienting and incongruous with the actual lyrics, almost as if this video was an afterthought. It merited far more invested treatment, imho.
Lingering pain remains long after the fading last note. Memories everlast, but not to dwell upon. Victory is from the making of a gloriously happier life
I’m so sorry for all the people that have been abused…. My parents were the best… I try to be a great role model and parent to my daughter…. I really have no idea what others have been thru… I pray you find peace…. Sending the love that I experienced… hoping the future is better for you sll
I grew up in the 90s. Snoop Dogg, Dre, Cypress Hill were my jam. Then one morning in 1994, I was 15 and woke up still half drunk in my friends lounge and this song was playing on the TV. I thought to myself “I need to listen to more of this band to find out if this song is just a one off”. That started my conversion from wanna be gangsta rap guy to losing myself in real music by legends such as PJ, Nirvana, SP, AIC, Soundgarden, RATM et al
My dad heard this song when he was like 17 and that’s when he fell in love with Pearl Jam
I was 13 when this song came out and already a Pearl Jam fan.
I was abused, mostly verbally and emotionally and via neglect, by my mother from birth to age 16, when I finally got to move away.
This song hit me like a freight train. The lyrics hurt so bad, but yet I had never felt so seen and recognized. I can’t help but sing along, often through tears, when I hear it.
I do make one small ad lib to it though- I sing “Don’t call me daughter. You’re not fit to.”
This daughter has done a lot of work to overcome the past. I have no contact with either of my genetic contributors these days and I have two children of my own that have never known the sort of suffering I lived through.
She has, indeed, risen above.
love and blessings this is indeed a powerful song am happy for you fly high
wow. I know it's said that life is all about soul growth and learning to overcome - but it seems especially challenging and heart wrenching to hear about children going through abuse. That said, I'm happy you have done so well and I hope others going through similar stuff will read your comment and know that sometimes troubled people raise us, and we have to decipher what's best for one another on our own. best to you, Kay
"she will walk awayyyyy" the hardest lyric in the song
who gives a flying fuck
I hope you have a beautiful life. I've been through this as well.❤
Only the one who has already asked not to be called a daughter (or son) knows how much it hurts to have to ask for it.
Thanks, Pearl Jam. Thanks.
Spook true
❤️🩹
As a 40yo woman, and a teen of the 90’s, I loved this song, but it never “struck” me until hearing it today. I recently learned that my 6yrs older than me 2nd cousin, was abused by her family. To this day, they’re doing things to keep her down and under their thumbs. But, they always seemed so much “better” than us, so much more well-off and put together. I was shook when I found this out, and it pains me FOR her, because for all that we lacked in financials/functionality, we made up for in deeply caring for one another. I may have grown up in a shack of a home, but the love & support I experienced there, never really allowed me to see that I was “lower class”. It was just a feeling. This song came on today, and my cousin immediately came to mind. I’ve found that listening to music you once loved as a youth can open your eyes to many things you didn’t have the ability to comprehend before.
is she good now?
I'm sorry for you pretty.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine wtf. Do you Seriously think that she likes being abused? I hope not. Don't call me daughter is the cry of the parents failure to stop the abuse mate. That's why they aren't fit to call her daughter.
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine really? May I ask young or older ?
@@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine wow I didn't expect that. Yeah unfortunately the gay scene has taken over people. Do you know if they were abused prior to meeting you?
"She holds the hand that holds her down." What an eye-opener.
Word.
Makes “Better Man” make more sense
Saba I
@@reneebingham7872 yeah, similar situation
Very true
This song spoke to a depressed and disenfranchised generation.
Before socmed. There was grunge. It carried us through. It gave us a voice. It kept us not only alive but working towards a better world for all.
I truly hope one day it gets recognized for what is has done.
Slayer
The healing power of grunge❤
"She holds the hand that holds her down. She will rise above"
Fine song lyric from an amazing song
On the live DVD or Madison square garden.. it was awesome to see the entire audience .. ALL raising their arms and pointing up with the lyrics, almost like they are collectively WILLING her along! ( Or, at least, being VERY supportive ☺️)
Don't you just love how you hear a song like this and remember it from when you were young, and you knew you liked it for its melody and thats all you knew of it. Now that you are older and listen to it and find its true meaning, or atleast find a meaning within it that holds value to you because you have experienced more of life and have something to relate it to. It's incredible.
Yesssss & yessss
Just so you know Eddie saidits about a mother who beats her daughter because she thinks shes being disobedient when its really a learning disability
You nailed it. So many songs make my eyes roll. How my life shaped to be/relate to so deeply yet didn’t understand from an innocent mind but knew I love it as a young child
I found out what the lyrics "Listless, breakfast table in an otherwise empty room" truly means and it is truly divine and prophetic. Music is my religion.
Absolutely. I was 22, a single mom to a daughter and a son. Listening to it at 22 and now at 50 is soo different. You about described how I'm feeling Listening to it now. I am forwarding this song to my now 32 year old daughter ❤
Pearl Jam always sang about life. The ugly and the beautiful. This one has always been my favorite for personal reasons.
Destruction
As a survivor of different types of abuse that I should have never undergone, this song means so much to me. ❤️
💚
@Kylee Hensley You are not alone. Let's sing this one as fucking loud as we want!!
It’s Mother’s Day. I have listened to this over a million times. This song is perfect for the mother who gave me life but not love.
I feel ya, although for my father, not my Mom.
I really think Boomers had a hard time knowing how to do so just as the generation before them. I really think Gen X is when there started to be a shift on a large scale of the way people treat kids. Of course not in many exceptions tho
Same here.. my mother loves only my step siblings ..
Because of my mom, I tell my kids I love them 20 times a day.
So sorry...me, too. My mom is the coldest person...and I'm the one who had a kid kill himself at 18. How does that happen?
My experience. For me he acknowledges the pain/void of a fatherless girl.Rare
🙏
"The picture kept will remind me". Timeless.
Notice how the electric section in the middle is actually conveying the beating and all , realised this just right now despite listening it to 50+ times
Not fit to!
Parents, love your daughters for who they are, not what you want them to be.
This!
So looking forward to the 9-2-23 show at the Excel! First timer. I can so relate to their music!!!
Dont forget the poor sons too please
Yes respect them they will respect you I have lost both parents I last 5 yrs my parents were awesome in our 20s they gave us weed
That statement defines LOVE
I was an early teenager when this came out and boy. I felt seen instead of gaslighted.
Now my mother is dying and it's 2:30am and here I am listening to this and I can't stop crying
Please take care of yourself...Sorry about your mother...
Just breathe. It’s going to be okay. 💜
When i was so so fan of PJ,I thought everyone will love those songs but later i realised that PJ's all songs are like meditation songs which are to listen when you sit alone and dive into those songs...its different ,no one would understand what kicks when their songs are listened with close eyes...😍😎 thank me for making you realizing !😁
My mom became obsessed with Pearl Jam when she was 14, now Im fourteen and obsessed with Pearl Jam. Like mother like daughter?
Hahaa good one! ^^ are you still make art? 😊
Today? Just curious.
hows 20 treating ya?
Thats called “ironía romántica” (idk what is the correct translation lol)
Good for you kiddo! Good taste.
Pearl Jam ruled the 90s! Daughter was brought to the world thirty years ago by PJ and it never gets old!
the only song that sums my father. He has no right to call me his daughter. Melancholy on my birthday. his loss, i have indeed risen above. My life is better than his will ever be.
hugs to you. i'm also a survivor but more importantly my 5 year old daughter made an outcry to me february 15,2023 that her dad / my ex husband of 5 years (she was almost 6 and we divorced before she was 1) was violating her little body. he had used the threat of killing me (which my abuser did) if she told. she's got a bit of a betrayal bond / trauma bond with him. all reports filed and he's gone to jail (bailed out in and me and the kids are in counseling. he's now stalking us in person and cyberstalking. i've tried to get any law enforcement to care. it's sad they can't / don't / won't do anything - because HE has RIGHTS. Our injustice system is a joke. Incestual pedos that post videos that got discovered - on the dark web - gets to walk free - despite being 50k behind on child support / violating bond / stalking/ death threats.
anyways - i'm proud of you! any words of advice for my daughter?
This is such a brilliant song and a reminder of how Pearl Jam brought their special talents to the forefront of music, just Sublime.
This song is such a masterpiece, like, everything about it: the melody, the lyrics, Eddie’s voice, the guitar solo, guitar tune, everything
Yes
Listening to Daughter, it's clear that PJ's perspective has changed. It's the best work ever and it's amazing.
People...can we just flat out say this band ROCKS!?
I was listening to this on the way back from the hospital after my grandma passed away. So it’s an emotional song for me. She was such an important person to me. Sorry if this comment doesn’t fit
It is just perfect for you Annie. Sorry for the loss of your grandma. God bless you.
It's ok Annie, you don't have to feel sorry. Condolence po to your family. May your grandma rest in peace.🙏✝️ 😢 With ♥️ from 🇵🇭, Philippines.
wow...Honey ...
It fits. Because freedom says it fits.
It's alright. Have a good one.
I'm a son, not a daughter. Otherwise this song is the definition of my childhood. This is one of the most powerful songs in my life.
💕
A
Same. I hope you have found peace and some happiness
I'm sorry my son. I didn't know. Please forgive me.
@@shellycook8441 Don’t call Shelly mother, not fit to be. Greenfeumundacheeses comment kept will remind you!
@@TheWaynelds I hear u.
My mother passed not too long ago. This song soothes a pain deep within. May he always know the impact he forever makes upon the world
I heard this song for the first time today, I know I'm 28 years too late but this song basically sums up my childhood and my adulthood I love my family from a far now. I'm not dyslexic, in high school they actually discovered that I was kind of bright but after 11 years of having someone trying to "beat" it out of me I just wanted to graduate and leave the public education system behind me. I'm doing decent but I wonder how far along I would be if I was actually nurtured and helped.
Yep had the same awful experience with the Education system with two boys on the Spectrum...made them feel less than perfect ..these two No Meds just tough love are now at University and one is doing his Masters on Science and the other one is in his final year of Bachlor of Psychology and looking to do his Master s in Psycholgy I am so glad I ignored their advice xxx and was a n activist and a Single parent and stood up to them now
Gotta love the guitar intro-
One of my favorite intros in the PJ collection - and there are obvisouly many to choose from
I had been praying for weeks that we would have a daughter and this song started playing on our local radio station as we turned in the doctors office parking lot on the day of our anatomy scan. Sure enough, a week later found out we were having a baby girl
Congrats! Naming her Eddilyn, Eddi for short? Lol. Just a thought. 🙂
Best band of a generation. Hands down.
Soundgarden too
Temple of the Dog!!
Obviously that opinion is subjective. However, there are too many great grunge groups to claim one of them is superior to the others.
90s music is the best hands down
@@bradthomas2417 Disagree.
In 1993 when they came to New Orleans I was probably the only black guy there and didn't give a fuccccck!!! SO MUCH LOVE!!!!!
I'm new to this sound of music and I must say it's beautiful music hits the soul
Do you mean you like mellow music or pearl jam?
Im so excited for you if its Pearl Jam you mean that you like. They are an entity to themselves. There is no other band to compare them too. I grew up with them as a teenager, they are in my soul.
Also check out Eddie Vedder he is the lead singer of the band but has also done solo work. He did the album for the movie Into the Wild. Its a collection of truly beautiful music. Its an absolute listen.
I really hope you take the time to look into them. Youll be rewarded with joy!!!❤
It's another beautiful day
Welcome to Pearl Jam. You'll love it!
that's called 90's grunge man..,.
I didn’t know this song was written about me; learning disabled young girl with adolescent anger. Pearl Jam wrote songs for the youth angst. All grunge did!
Reminds me of how my Stepdad's fam is making me feel. 37 yrs old and just now realized that every single pic on the wall here has absolutely zero of me. Plus, his daughter didn't want me there for Thanksgiving this yr, because I'm not blood fam. She never acted this way to me before. I feel like such an outcast.
This song is absolutely sick. I remember my buddy buying the CD when we were 13.
Love everything about Pearl Jam. This song reminds me of my youth
I'm listening to Pearl Since a year. It was really random. I'm a German Guy and my English is not the best and i don't unverstand every word but thats not necessary, because the music connects us All. Eddie's Voice is one of the greatest Voice i've ever heard. The Guitar Riffs are so amzing too. The music lets me think positive, in this really bad World.
This song is about child abuse
I heard pearl jam when I was 13-14 for the first time song was "last kiss" I could listen to them all day such relaxing music but with some deep meaning behind the words
Don't worry buddy, lots of the people who post lyrics on UA-cam don't seem to fully understand all the words either
You've been listening to pearl jam for a year 🤣 not since.
@@Kmnsa1 he said his english was bad calm down
The beautiful melody combined with the truly sad lyrics, that are incredibly well delivered by Vedder make this my favorite PJ song.
This has been one of my favorite songs for the past 30 years and I just learned the actual lyrics... I refuse to believe it and am sticking with what I've been singing all along!
Alone, listless
Breakfast table in an otherwise empty room
Young girl, violence
Center of her own attention
The mother reads aloud, child tries to understand it
Tries to make her proud
The shades go down, it's in her head
Painted room, can't deny there's something wrong
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
She holds the hand that holds her down
She will rise above, uh uh
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me daughter, not fit to
The picture kept will remind me
Don't call me
The shades go down
The shades go down
The shades go go
Go
The lyric is... "Young girl, violins"
I was just abt to say violins
Technically on the album lyrics he writes both violins and violence
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@@abrahamesparza01 correct its both, he changes them during live shows.
“The song is a "metaphor" for how creative people who may have some type of a defective characteristic are f***ing destroyed. Good, creative people are just *expletive* destroyed."
~Eddie Vedder
One of my favorite songs ❤️ I love u so much Pearl Jam, the voice of Ed is extraordinary!!... Greetings from Colombia 😍😘
When is it not!👌
@@dejiadeleye3974 Never :D
I'm from Colombia too!
Pear Jam ❤️🎧
Greetings from Texas!!
My mother, is the reason I've loved this band since as long as I can remember. Listening to this now 30 years later and it still fills my soul
Strength of Sound:94-95 %.❤😊
Top 3 songs of my teens. I forgot about this song. Thank u so much for posting. A part of me has been restored.
This was the first song I ever heard by these guys in probably '94 on the radio and I still love it every-time I hear it.
This song has drawn me since the day I heard it. I remember playing this over and over in the stereo at my girlfriend's place during a party some 30 years ago. I am there everytime I hear this song. My favorite PJ song still.
song is a classic that has stood the test of time (over 27 years ago) - still strumming along
I always look forward to the part of their songs where Vedder's pitch matches the notes being played. It doesn't always happen, but it's a nice moment.
classic. so much better than today's processed factory of music. i'll admit there are a handful of good songs nowadays, but you don't get stuff like this. pearl jam's awesome.
And you said this 12 years ago I wonder what you think now 😂 it's unbelievable how bad most mainstream music is nowadays fortunately there are a handful of "newer" great rock and metal artist coming up like Slaughter to Prevail, Lorna Shore, Ice Nine Kills, Spiritbox, Motionless in White, Bad Omens, Sleep Token, etc
I always listened to this with my parents as a kid. Just watched a new Netflix movie that had a cover of this song in the credits and the lyrics finally hit me. What a good song.
I am ALL GIRLS great movie and came back to this such a great song
Yes.. All girls.. This song suit really well for that movie.. My favorite song
One of the most beautiful tracks I've ever heard... Iconic
of all the songs I could give to my mom it would probably be this one, sadly. Wish it wasn’t that way.
She’s even told me “I’m not your mom anymore!” for calling her out for stealing all my savings for drugs… then a month later she’s asking what I want for dinner.
Not your daughter, nor your son, just Alex.
The best song ever written about learning disorders!
Best song they ever done !!!!!! Eddie is perfectly in tune on this song! ♥️♥️
I don't know if anyone noticed that in this song, about an abused girl, the lyrics "shades go down" is used, and later in rearviewmirror, the lyrics "finally the shades are up" are used, tying the songs together really well.
Wow...I had not realized this. Thank you.
Woahhh
Finally the shades are raised…
Peace and love! Good song! Don’t call me Daughter!!!!!
i think i totally misunderstood this song as a teenager, i get it now though. i always used to hum it to myself because i never felt like i was fit enough to be called "daughter" by my parents, i thought i was an embarrassment to them. thank god for growing up and learning!
This song has got me through my very lowest/darkest depths. I was close to throwing myself on a train track. I was in a mentally abusive relationship, and I finally managed to escape. Then something much worse, which I can't go into happened. This song and the support of an amazingly supportive wife have made me feel unbreakable. I'd love to meet PJ or even just speak over the phone to let them know just how much their songs help when shit gets real bad
There is no best Pearl Jam song, for every Pearl Jam song is equally amazing whether it be musically, lyrically, or both.
I remember her, she needed me, I would have done anything, I made plans, I wanted to run away and be her daddy, someday we'll be together again, someday, I remembered her in everything, they needed me, they said I could do anything, It was all part of the plan, someday we'll all be together again, beyond a lonely sun and an empty moon, that"s why I'm holding on
Even if Pearl Jam is not the best band out there, or the most popular, I believe they still deserve some respect. I mean they sold 60 million records worldwide, and have put up with some crazy stuff. I love how they won't make music videos because they want people to like the music not the video. They are a great group full of meaning, and truth to their songs. Go Pearl Jam!
I never understood why at a young age, I liked Pearl Jam's songs. We never really understood the lyrics back then but I knew there was something there. Now that I am 36, I completely understand why. I feel so old and thankful! ❤️ (Our eldest brother introduced them to me and saw from him that he can relate to their songs, he is 51 now)
YES!!! Pearl Jam Delivers!!!!!!!🎼🎸🎵🎶🎤🎻🎺🎹🎶🎸🎸🎸🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🤗💓🙏
LEYENDAS... AMO PEARL JAM DESDE QUE LO ESCUCHE POR PRIMERA VEZ EN LA ERA DE ORO DEL GRUNGE
I was a son who always wanted to be a daughter. But somehow this song still speaks to me.
Sus
Zesty
so glad your finding pleasure in "older" music
Ah yes but it feels like the 90s just ended to me still lol
I would often sing this when I was younger, but I can't remember why. I did always have a difficult time with my own mother (even now as an adult) and was subjected to a lot of bullying at school so maybe the lyrics spoke to me, or there could be no deeper meaning and I just enjoyed the song. The world may never know
I heard this at a grocery store today. They're finally playing 1990s music, including grunge and rap (Arrested Development). They used to only play 1960s and 1970s stuff back when I first went in 2016. We're now at a point where this stuff and 1980s stuff are the "oldies." I was a teenager in the late 1990s when oldies were considered music up to 1973, so I guess it's only fair. I'll be 38 in November.
I love this song, beautiful and heartbreaking!! Thank you for sharing this awesome video 😊💓🤘✌️
The Law of Surprise: having subscribed to millions of artists and realizing you haven't yet subscribed to Pearl Jam yet! Whaaa! Life is full of wonderful surprises ;)
lol
27 years later I STILL get so emotional listening to this track, really the whole album.
Vedder, cornell and bowie..is the greatest songwriter..with the music, the sound played by the band member makes their lyrics screams very powerfull and becomes a greatest songs what i called... Everlasting.
How is it you can talk to someone and forget their name or maybe the conversation but hear the beat or guitar 🎸 to this Masterpiece and others like it and instantly remember the words. It boggles my mind how I can forget a lot of things but never forget Pearl Jam and Eddie Vedder's lovely voice ❤️❤️❤️❤️
The Song is soooo profound. Timeless!
Im 72 and immediately obsessed with Pearl Jam!!!❤
I've been looking for this song for sooo long
WARNING: Sept.25, 1976 almost into 2025. This band, these 4 kids from Ireland, changed the world. Thank you Larry for starting this band, and the thumping backbone beat. Thank you Edge for the backing vocals, creating sounds that baffle Nasa. Thank you Adam for the superior bass, fast and slow. The years of blonde! Thank you Paul for rising above and getting us thru and above it all onna higher level of consciousness. U2 fan from the days in the pubs, to the packed sold out stadiums. Stay humble always. Thank you for growing up, and being friends to all of us all our lives and staying with us all. Stay safe and be well Gods Good Gentlemen and humble servants. Laurel.
My daughter makes me so proud I love her very much....Pearl Jam forever
I love my daughter and miss and haven't seen her or my granddaughter in 12 years even know we live in the same town so sad
Sorry to be nosey but what happened between you and your daughter
Few songs convey the *feel* of the 90s better than this one.
BEST GROUP BAND EVER
Oh i love this song pearl jam are awesome they have so much spirit and enthusiasm this is one of my favourite songs
Reading all the comments reminds me that we are not alone. Those of us who were abused as kids by a parent, or someone else. And we overcame the adversity. Songs like this helped give us strength and a voice in some way. Thanks Pearl Jam
77, Datsun B210, headed to Boise, 1993, sharing headphones on a walkman with my dear best friend, love and miss you every day, you didn't deserve the way you died, it saddens my soul, hope your happy forever now, we will meet again someday !
@Eddievedder833 Hello, life is good, music heals and creates wonderful, life long memories. Peace to you my friend. Thank you !
@Eddievedder833 shocked, really surprised, yes. I have my doubts but that's ok. If it were really you I'd tell you about our wrist bands🤣 have a great day !
@Eddievedder833 Well, I have precisely loved you and the band, Mother Love Bone, Chris Cornel, since the very beginning. I've rocked you through good and bad, I'll be rocking you until and after I die. Thank you for sharing your amazing talent. 🤍
I already feel like back in those high school years. Thanks indeed Eddie...
As a survivor, I always took this song to be about child abuse. Regarding the video, I find it utterly disorienting and incongruous with the actual lyrics, almost as if this video was an afterthought. It merited far more invested treatment, imho.
My favorite part is always, "She will, rise above!!!!!". Love this song so much.
cool me to
Lingering pain remains long after the fading last note. Memories everlast, but not to dwell upon. Victory is from the making of a gloriously happier life
Listening to this song on the radio in my car in my mid twenties, made me happy.
❤😢 saudades dos tempos bons que não voltam mais....
Pearl jam , saudades desse tempo ! The best Pearl jam !
Best Pearl Jam song. I love meaning behind this song.
Do you know what it's about??
This was my brother's music back then. I didn't like this kind of music when I was a kid but now, I'm his age and now I know why he liked it ❤️
I’m so sorry for all the people that have been abused…. My parents were the best… I try to be a great role model and parent to my daughter…. I really have no idea what others have been thru… I pray you find peace…. Sending the love that I experienced… hoping the future is better for you sll
Já perdi a conta de quantas vezes ouvi essa música. Amooooooo!!!!!!
Dois
Love this band
I'm in my 60's and got to the PJ party late, but I made it...love this band!!!
I understand Joe...I’m 70 and discovered them about 3 years ago...And I’ve listened to them everyday since!
I discovered them when I was in my 30s & they first got going & I am still carrying a torch for them at 60 years old. ❤
me too!! 61 discovered them
I grew up in the 90s. Snoop Dogg, Dre, Cypress Hill were my jam. Then one morning in 1994, I was 15 and woke up still half drunk in my friends lounge and this song was playing on the TV. I thought to myself “I need to listen to more of this band to find out if this song is just a one off”. That started my conversion from wanna be gangsta rap guy to losing myself in real music by legends such as PJ, Nirvana, SP, AIC, Soundgarden, RATM et al
Think of all the innocent kids who are treated like this. Pray that they will be free, be loved, rise above the pain.
the perfect song doesn’t exi-