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She's not saying it's God's choice. It is our decision and we make mistakes or sin,.but through our sin we take a lesson. They are manipulative and God forgives our sins. Let's face it, we all had signs from God something wasn't right, and we disobeyed his teaching. I was taken off my path with God and lost that closeness but I missed it and I needed emotional maturity. All these things she mentioned I was weak in and became stronger. I needed the lessons. He brought me back to God and I really learned to obey the bible more. She's saying purpose in pain. Our decisions and sin causes us pain, but God can turn it into a blessing because he loves us that much.
I was married to a narcissist for 38 years. He made me feel worthless, a failure. And no matter what I did, it was never good enough for him. He sought perfection because he was. We raised 5 beautiful children that have issues now of not feeling worthy. God has blessed us with those children who I love very much. They know that they can talk to me about anything. I do not judge or criticize, they got that from their father! I’ve been divorced for 5 years now and in that 5 years, I’ve discovered that I’m not the worthless person I was told that I was. I hated myself, but no longer do. God has opened my eyes and God has given me many blessings. I’ve grown closer to God in my time of living alone. I think when you’re away from a situation, you can see what it really was and I’m much happier! And I have lots of alone time with God. 😇
My relationship with the narc hurt me so bad that I clung to God and He comforted and healed me. He gave me a dream actually showing me the narcissists heart…it was very needy, desperate and broken. Like “depths of despair” broken. When I woke He said “He is incapable of loving you”. I’m thankful that this experience brought me close to God. He will never allow pain without a purpose.
True, that. I now understand better who my dad was to me as well. If I had been genuinely loved by my earthly father, I would have chosen a husband who genuinely loved me. But, for the times that both of them did what they did as narc bullies, it drove me away from them and toward the One True Father, the God who loves me
God is able to bind up the wounds and heal the broken hearted. in that state they can not love you and there are demons behind narcissism that have to be cast out . Also there is a saying narcissism is our reward for our idolatry. We should always put God first and I had to learn that hard way and please God not people
Sometimes God will allow you to get into a relationship with them to make you see that you only need God in your life to give you true satisfaction and contentment. The reason why we are codependent is because there is a void that we are looking for someone or something to fill at all cost . Thank you for this video it was an eye opener xx
That's what I'm learning as I'm divorcing my husband of 10 years who is a "Christian" narcissist. It allowed me to learn that I need to trust in Jesus alone and put Him first and we have 2 children together who are beautiful creations of God and I am very blessed to have them as daughters.
One good thing that comes out of a narcissist relationship is learning to discern character and learning how to deal with and/or avoid such people as much as possible. As painful as it was, there are things I would have never learned had I never encountered a narcissist.
1) Own your truth and reality by bringing any accusations before the Lord; 2) Detach and don’t take personally the things the narcs do to you; you are not them nor are you defined by them; 3) Retreat into God’s Sanctuary for protection and strength, 4) Toughen up and don’t let the Narcs affect your self worth; reaffirm your value before the Lord and your identity in Christ; 5) Stay close to the Lord for wisdom, direction, and strength.
I didn't get inner peace from being with a narcissist, instead I got ulcers, depression and anxiety, severe trust issues, etc. This was NOT Gods will!!!!! Get out people when you can!
My mother was a narcissist. I grew up thinking i was the worst person in the world. I have an autoimmune disease that i believe was caused by my abusive childhood. I am afraid of people, i get triggered easily and i have CPTSD. I am 65 years old and still working on it. I ask God all the time to help me. I am making progress but its very slow. Sometimes i look at other people and wonder what its like to have a loving family and friends. I feel so alone all the time- thats how i grew up. Alone and hated.
The 6th advantage God told me about dealings with a narcissist is that everytime you overcome the toxic narcissistic relationship, you gain authority over that principality.
Yes, it's a lesson, however, it felt at times, it was a life sentence, and even like death row. Thank God he has set me free from that man, praise the Lord!!! 😉😄😊☺
Need to be careful here. Make WISE decisions especially staying around TOXIC people. What does bible say? If it's possible live at peace with everyone. However it's not possible to be at peace with a narcissist, they're often provoking urguments and conflict. The word also says to stay away from people who cause conflicts. There's different types of narcissistic people. YES some are murders n can kill, when someone has strangled you n threatened to kill you? Why stay around or have contact with them, even if you have kids with them. There's only one way, run, forgive ask ABBA to heal and restore your soul and move on with your life.
Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his way and entangle yourself in a snare. Proverb 22 : 25-25 English standard version 2016 (ESV)
You are so correct. Through my marriage to a narcissist, I have been delivered of an obsessive need for privacy, (my narcissist broadcasted all my "faults" throughout our small community). My reactions to his extreme provocation, led me to discover that I suffer from PTSD from childhood experiences. Without him I may never have uncovered this or received the help I am currently getting. He has strengthened my ability to stand in the face of evil, to reject his evil assessment of me and stand strong in my identity in Christ. In giving everything over to God, I have learned to accept my powerlessness and to know that when I am weak God is strong. And most importantly of all, I have dug deeper in my faith to believe God for my husband's complete deliverance and healing. I believe my marriage is the training ground and preparation for ministry and I believe my husband and I will serve the Lord together in unity, a living testimony of His power and His grace.
Just recently I told my husband “ Thank you to make me SO lonely with you that I started go to church EVERY Sunday and found THERE REAL joy and peace of my mind and soul. Thank you to make me lonely that I started go to YMCA to swim pool, that help me improve my health and lose weight. Thank you to make me so lonely, that I built up relationship with MYSELF. I no need man or husband for to be happy. I can sit in coffee shop alone and enjoy cup of coffee and be totally content with it. Thank you to make me so lonely that if tomorrow you will disappear I will NOT even notice this “ If I would be married with other man , I would be probably still shallow believer and be in church just once a while.
Beautiful story! Isn't it funny how when we ask God for a man who leads us to God, we mean one who humbly walks in the Spirit with and has beliefs and behaviors that are congruent with Scripture... But then we end up with a wicked man who is nothing but that and has us turn to God like a little child runs (and cries!) to her father. And thank God for that! I'd rather be single, saved by Christ and hungry for righteousness than married to an unsaved ungodly man just to superficially force my desire to be a wife - and end up regretting it. Let us be wise as serpents and harmless as doves! 💛
Be mindful that narcissists often have a distorted view of reality and their accusations are often just incorrect. I spent 15 years ‘taking on board’ my narcissistic husband’s accusations and trying to improve myself- only to finally realise his accusations were false accusations. I was freed. I no longer had to live under the burden of his condemnation. Best realisation EVER!!
I've discovered that what they accuse you of, are actually confessions of what they are doing themselves!! Or what they are thinking.. or what their morals and values are ..etc. Very toxic 😓
Thank you so much for that video. Man istead of helping to heal in love, blaimed with a content: you destroyed your life, you have nothing left, your words are empty, you dont have a heart, you are a lier, you are destructive, you are negative and you will never manage. These are points to work at. But the love is mussing there. People heal in love. That man showed very well good points to work at. To get decernrment, selfllove, selfcontrol and love of God and guiding by Holly Spirit. So greatful for the spiritual phychologiest i was searching for decades. God bless you for your godly work!!!
Yea.. Ur right.. I'm stuck with my narc family. . Wen I told my mom, wen I got molested, she blamed, shamed me!! I told her I'm Ashamed to call her my mom! They r just pathetic 😞😤😡
Congratulations to you and your peace I know the future is full of mystery I'm optimistic to remain sane it's success stories that bring the power to keep on keeping on. Thank you deb
Yes, anything that doesn’t serve them directly will be labeled a “flaw” even if it’s actually a great trait that will make you successful. They only want you to succeed within their agenda. So if you’re about to reach success with something that doesn’t serve them, makes them jealous, and gives you boundaries from them, they will call that a glow and degrade the crap out of you for it. So you have to think objectively about WHY exactly they are pointing out your flaws. There could be some truth to that and point out something you should fix in yourself, or it could be purely because they feel threatened.
When i was in a relationship with a Narcissist, i wanted out desperately. I leaned on God , cried out to God and hung onto Gods promise of "you are MORE than a conqueror, you ARE an OVERCOMER"!!!! Never forget that last part. And you know, God was right as usual. I am no contact with that Narc and feeling closer to my Lord than ever. He was there for me and He did not leave me or forsake me......
Relationship? So you was not married to the person? If not, you were living in fornication which is sin. Glad God got you out. She answered, “No one, Lord!” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you either. Go. From now on sin no more.”] John 8:11 AMP
@@EdwardsEvelyn seriously? A relationship could be a person of the same sex.. you know like a girlfriend.. a friend a buddy.. come on now.. or a relationship could actually be a marriage..
Amen and Amen. My experience exactly. That experience with the narcissist brought me closer to God. Thankful I have knowledge about narcissist and I won't go through it again. Thank you God for saving me 🙏🦾💯👋😇
I love the positive twist on encounters with narcs. I have learn of my toxic empathy that feels too much of others while disregarding my needs. I also became aware of my codependency. The need to help those that don't want or ask for my help; all the while neglecting my own need for help. It's like a martyr syndrome, so to speak. Thanks for your encouragement 🙏🏽 😊
Exactly! My whole life I’ve placed others above me, thought people were my friends when they were in reality just acquaintances. Through this very difficult relationship with a fellow veteran who I’ve been caregiver for for about a yr is that I am really learning not to try to help people who do not want your help. Learning that my feelings and needs are just as valid as anyone else’s and I can still deal with people in that godly manner without pushing myself down or allowing others to do so. Learning to distance myself from my emotions, to not be triggered every time and becoming stronger in the LORD. He IS my moment to moment strength. I do not lean to my own understanding because I realize I do not understand anything the way I thought I did. Thank You Father for the trials and hardships of this life which cause me to long more and more for home. Soon we will join you but until then I trust in You for everything.
Boog...I hope you're doing very well today and have healed from that experience. It was a blessing to see your comment. I keep thinking money is all I need to escape, but knowing a billionaire got caught in the trap too tells me money isn't the only way...I would love to hear your story, the mental and emotional journey you went through. If you have your story posted anywhere, please let me know where I can watch, read, or listen!
I’ve learned that I attracted this type of relationship was because of co-dependence. God doesn’t want us to need other people or depend on others for our value and worth. Learning to break codependency has been a lesson learned. I suspect most people in a narc relationship have reasons for attracting them in the first place. Character traits of learning the ability to speak my truth, morals and values instead of having so much unhealthy empathy towards toxic people that leads them to believe I am a good source of supply for them.
Maybe it was always within you, lying dormant. Being with the narcissist meant that you had to turn inwards for answers. You grew in strength, courage and conviction and became who you were called to be! It was/is a frightening experience to go through, but God wouldn't have allowed it, without providing the necessary tools/support to get through it!
Wow, so true! Thanks for sharing. I see how easily my reliance on him gave him the power to emotionally control me. I have to own my codependency is my own form of trying to control things I’m not in control of either and heal the wounded parts of myself
What the devil means for evil, God means for good!!! Thank you for making this point. I think you are absolutely correct. I am a living witness. I grew spiritually and drew closer to the Holy Spirit while enduring narcissistic challenges.
Thank you so much for the confirmation that i needed. I have been with a narcissist for 35 yrs. He now has bone cancer. I recently realized some of the points made in this video about myself and I will make it ! My Moms last words to me were "dont let him break you " . And I haven't ! Not sayin it hasnt been tough...thanks be to our Heavenly Father and a God fearing Mother. Thanks again for the confirmation !
Six yrs into marriage and finding out he’s a full blown covert narcissist. If not for the ongoing work, guidance and comfort of the Holy Spirit I couldn’t deal with it, regardless of much I love this man. Some days can be tough.
This was my mindset and he actually brought me closer to Christ and made me take my walk with Jesus Christ more seriously. Now I'm in an amazing place and keep growing in my faith. I prayer for him though because it's sad that people actually have this kind of capability to be so wicked.
Your commentary is so true on covert Narsacistic person. My problem is I did not see the big red flag. Her opioid addiction she has been seeing a phsyciatrist with sleep problem Addiction induced by a doctor. This lead to her stealing or taking maybe borrowing from her mother’s opioid medication. 22 years this went on. I just found out August 2021 that Doctor Sutton was running a pill mill operation. He has polluted 5 family members with this drug. Drug enforcement agency moved in and the doctor shut his practice down and left town. The family thinks it is still ok they are on the opioid addiction they eat this drug like candy. Opioid addiction will change the DNA in the brain and create a Narsacistic person that will ruin any relationship or family. I have learned the hard way. She will not get help. So I must move on. With my life. Opioid pandemic is worse than Covid. More people are dying or loosing there minds from this drug. It is a shame what man has done to man. God stated trust no man. So true. I can only pray. I can not fight the devil. Satan is to powerful and slick with his tricks. Look what the devil has gone to American society. Made the doctors the biggest drug dealers there is. Insurance companies paying for the drugs. People getting killed by car accidents or shootings. The devil has control of the people we are suppose to trust running our country and health care. What a mess. God bless us all Later.
@@danherrmann8755 Dan: I'm sorry but I have to speak out and tell you that you are seriously misled in your "opinion" about opioid medications. - And most definitely opioids do NOT cause narcissism! - Please educate yourself on opioid medications (and Narcissism!). When used properly, opioid medications are actually life saving medications for millions upon millions of people with chronic and intractable pain. Are there bad doctors? Yes - on both ends of the spectrum. Are there pill mills? Used to be but majority have been closed down by DEA years ago. Are there people who get addicted? Yes, But, most people who become addicted have a propensity to addiction (genetic or just enjoy getting high). There is so much research out there - seems more against opioid medications (⚠️look closely tho as these people are profiting off their opinions - ex: Andrew Kolodny, P.R.O.P., etc.). There is also good research out there. Please check out PainNewsNetwork.org; Claudia A. Merandi on Twitter; thedoctorpatientforum.com; Dr. Forest Tennant, MD, and, IntractablePainSyndrome.com, for just a few reputable resources for the TRUTH about opioid medications, their benefits for the pain community, and what the DEA, CDC, DOJ, etc., have and are doing to pain patients, and their doctors, who legitimately use opioid pain medications bc THEY HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE but to use them (ie: they have tried all other modalities without relief or little relief). You can find more sites to search just from these few. I'm not diminishing anyone's heartache over the loss of someone to overdose or addiction. It does happen (but, in the pain community, addiction is very minuscule in relation to the number of people who have to take opioid meds) - and overdose and/or addiction IS heartbreaking. However, there is more help out there for the recreational drug users and the addicted than there is legit help for the pain community - who are just trying to get legitimate doctors to treat their pain conditions and medications to be able to live with their diseases that cause them pain (at no fault of their own - just like a diabetic needs insulin.) Further, people are being misled about the so-called "opioid crisis". It is actually a "street drug crisis" and those Gov't agencies are using the pain community and their doctors as scapegoats instead of going after the real problem - the drug cartels! As the pain community and their pain doctors continue to suffer - in sooo many different ways - mostly from misinformation and outright FALSE information (to be able to pad their pocketbooks). Please take my comment as a sincere form of disagreement in an attempt to show you there are different sides to every argument/story. This is in no way an attack on you or your loved ones. I wish you the best.
I totally agree that we can grow from such a relationship. However, my question for you is...are you still in the relationship now that you're closer to Christ? If not, did your new relationship with Christ give you the strength to leave?
Baptized at age 60 was the best part of my life. This is how God pulled me out of the disfunctional relationship. God knew what she was doing and her opioid addiction is out of hand. Eduction on life’s problems will heal the soul and start a new journey in life. I just pray she gets help and not have to suffer from the drug addiction. A lie is a lie to your self and everybody else. God bless later.
Both my parents! And some cousins also! It doesn’t run in my family, it gallops! “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
God taught me, that I needed a backbone. Self esteem, self respect and independence. I remember a moment when I said to myself, “damn, words do hurt!” They not only emotionally hurt but does bodily harm, without anyone putting a finger on me. I’m happy we don’t live together. We need lots of deliverance from all the trauma. Lots of riding of the demonic oppression. Lots of prayers and intervention of the Holy Spirit. Does work! You mind and body needs to hear that you are cutting all soul ties with this person and then step in faith into your new life.
@@cindyski4413 May I suggest, you investigate these approaches so as to help narcissits, BEFORE entering a relationship: ua-cam.com/video/qStUsKsJ_9k/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/WkxSyv5R1sg/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/phHib5VaCeE/v-deo.html CURE the Narcissits before yoking yourself to a Narcissist Take care
I was with a narc. No contact now. But, I miss my 2 kids. She took them away from my life and stopped me seeing them completely. Please pray for me and for my 2 little kids
I have the same situation like you. My narc wife took my baby boy and disappeared. just so she can hurt me because she knows that I love my baby boy so much. My baby was 10 months old when she took it from me and now my baby is 2 years old. Sorry for the bad english
I am a wife of a narcissists husband for the last 35 years. My husband sees the teenagers Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday's each week. He has no interest in them, no empathy or love for them. This is only to get a supply from them , to give him validation. They use children just like they use us. It's all about them and them alone. There looking for a reaction from you and will do anything, or use anything to abuse you. Do not react in anyway as you are giving them a supply. Any reaction either NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE is a supply from them.
Thank you. You bring clarity to my life. I was married to my NPD ex-wife for about 30 years. I have been divorced for about 4 years. I prayed for guidance and finally got it. God has helped me through this. “Haven’t I always provided for you?” He said. I live every day now with a thankful heart. God is great.
Just keep in mind that when they point out your “flaws” that they are doing it in a malicious, hurtful way. And that although they are in an adult body, they have the emotions of a small child. Like a little kid saying “I hate you mommy” when they don’t get their way. So don’t take anything they say as devastating. Yes we are all flawed and it can be a time for introspection and checking in with God, but they are deeply lacking in any kind of emotional maturity and will lash out like small children. They are incapable of introspection and lack empathy and most likely lack the guidance of the Lord.
This is right wath you say that they bring you to deal with your flsws but they do it in an absolute brutal way!! They do it to destroy you and not to help you!! It is really the worst way to deal with your flaws!! 😎
Yes, the most destructive narcissists live in the church! Just because they SAY they have the Spirit doesn't mean they DO. That was the thing that misled me the most; if I met them in a "Christian" environment I let my guard down. Oops.
@@annamariaricci2146 which is why, when they switched the word in Proverbs, from discipline to punishing, i immediately ran for my older one, and sure enough, it made no sense, to me, at all. Almost, the last straw! ha! Baruch YahuYah and His Mighty Word! Agapao
@@allhimwithme5115 I knew 3 narcissists so far and the last one was a woman who proclaimed to be a Christian ( we even got baptized on the same day along with our daughters) in the year and a half I knew her she betrayed me and stabbed me in the back as if she set out to destroy me. I am still shocked that she could do the things she did to me and call herself a Christian.
I'm currently going through a divorce with a narcissist. I was so saddened because I felt abused then thrown away. But now I look at it like this I gained wisdom about relationships and having boundaries. I learned the importance of sex being only meant for husband and wife. I also stopped a bad addiction to weed because I stopped during the relationship and was able to see the effects of it on my husband. I have a beautiful daughter and most importantly I recognize the voice of God when he tells me to leave certain people alone.
You cant fight a narcissist in court and win. Ask him what he thinks both of you would be happy with. Do that. Judicial system is run by narcs and demons.
If sex is only for marriage then marriage is abusive. You get no way out if sex becomes abusive. It’s easier to separate from a boyfriend that abuses you. Living with an abusive husband makes you completely defenseless and family blame YOU for your abusive marriage. They blame YOU for not having the ability know your own future. No once cares and you end up feeling sick or you have to live in a shelter. No one will help you. I can’t live in a shelter. I need to take special vitamins to maintain my autoimmune symptoms and paralysis from Guillain Bar.
Shaneen, where have you been all my life??????? OMG girlfriend, I have intensely studied this subject matter. Never have I come across someone who so eloquently uses the word of God to put this disorder into perspective. So, thank you!! Your channel has been a breath of fresh air to me and very helpful. ❤️
I was saying the same thing. Everybody let them feel they are powerful except this lady. Nobody great but God. He knows how to melt their hearts. Only a matter of time
I completely agree. A narcissist passed through my life and really really affected me. After that really toxic relationship I finally restarted my relationship with God so I thank the lord for that experience. I also realized that Jesus was teaching me to not only love people around me but I must love myself first 💙
I’m married to a narcissist and it has absolutely wrecked me mentally,emotionally and physically. I have lost so much weight that my doctor made me see an oncologist! The only good thing it has brought me is 3 beautiful children and a relationship with God!! Raising kids with a narcissistic father is sooo hard I’m scared of the consequences it will have on my kids!😭 I’m stuck because I’m a stay at home mom. I pray God will save me and my precious children. I can honestly say that if my husband disappeared to hell I would not even care and that’s not something I ever would have thought. I’m 106 lbs now and absolutely drained. Please pray for my family
I really think you should go get some help from your Pastor or a menthor of your church! Praying that God gives you wisdom for This hard trial sister ❤️🙏 God loves you and cares for your health and your children, stay safe 💕✝️
My pastors told me to keep praying for my husband and be submissive to him - telling me God would bless me for it. So I did for years, until I couldn't take it any longer. A Christian psychologist helped me to realise that The Lord did not expect me to tolerate abuse of any kind. When I finally separated from my husband, both my teenagers were angry that I took so long. When we divorced, my son told me that I should frame my divorce certificate and put it on the wall. He and my daughter said they would have been better off coming from a broken home than suffering what they did. That was almost 20 yrs ago and me and my adult kids are still trying to overcome the symptoms of narcissistic abuse. Please get legal advice and try to find support outside of the church. Btw I'm still a Christian and have learned the hard way that The Lord will never put us in an abusive relationship for any reason - He is not cruel.
I would encourage you to read Enough is Enough by Dr David Clarke. He also has a UA-cam page. SAHM of 4. I’ve been out for almost 3 months. It’s like taking a full breath for the first time in 15 years. God has provided in miraculous ways financially. I also highly encourage you to find a support system of people who understand abuse. I didn’t understand the importance of that until after getting out. It is priceless.
Also, not all pastors/churches are the same. Find out your churches policy on divorce. Many have stances against abuse. Find one that does and you will likely find others that understand what you are going through.
Thank you sister, this is exactly 💯 in my life! He said, it wasn't to hurt me, it was to build me, and I will understand later, then it will makes sense! The Lord has released me from this marriage and it will be finalized this December 2021! I watched God moved in a great way and watched miracles happened!!!! The Lord dosen't condone what they do. Vengeance is mine says the Lord, also for them being disobedient they too are going to go through it as well, for not changing, not being repentant, and not allowing God to do the work in them, thank you for these messages God bless you Sister!
Thank you for sharing Angela. May the Lord guide you and be with you as your divorce is being finalized. ❤️. I pray many blessings in this next season of your life. 🕊💕
The holy Bible says seek the kingdom of God first this laidy is wrong in scriptures perspective and in relationships learn what narcissistic even means shes wrong 🌬🤡🎭💎🌪🛶🤍🗽💎we're victims and survivors
@@ShaneenMegji ur wrong completely ur narcissistic misguided and misguiding them they are victims of abuse and others are survivors or others killed 🤍🗽💎👨✈️💖👻💎👩✈️💖👻💎🛶🌬🤡🎭🌪
When I first got in a relationship with my narc ex I thought he was an answer to my prayers. When he cheated on me and my marriage broke up, and I realised he was a narc, I questioned God, why? I now know the beginning of our relationship was love bombing and why I thought he was an answer to my prayers. Its also good to know that God can turn the bad marriage I was in for good. Since being in a relationship with my ex I've learned so much about myself. And I think I had to go through that to know what I know now
@Doony Fam Hence, your testimony. In order for you to share your story you must live the story. One can not testify of anything unless they go through something.
@@shannonbaker316 May I suggest, you investigate these approaches so as to help narcissits, BEFORE entering a relationship: ua-cam.com/video/qStUsKsJ_9k/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/WkxSyv5R1sg/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/phHib5VaCeE/v-deo.html CURE the Narcissits before yoking yourself to a Narcissist Take care
You have pegged my relationship to a T. I was called back to this relationship that I left. I knew that God called me back to it. I am now stronger in God than I have ever been. The narcissist does not affect me as before. I see him for who he is and aware of his ways. God has truly blessed me. I am blessed that God has brought me to your videos! I will continue to watch!!
Wow! Thank you for sharing your testimony Jeanie. It is not very often that people are called back to a narcissistic relationship and gain victory. So thank you for sharing! I bless you on your journey. And thank you for your kind words about my channel! 💕😊
I too feel called back recently. Now with Jesus in my corner. Holy Spirit guide me. Thankful for full armor of God. I have come to realize the devil had a target on his back at such a young age and God has a purpose for him as well. We both have trauma, childhood conditioning and personality disorders, time to defeat the demons together with Jesus and Gods foundation at our center. I desire kingdom marriage for Gods glory and salvation of others.
@@heyonope7682 Amen! God has purpose for us all and if we follow his call all things work for the good. I believe this. It is difficult path but as you say, thankful for full armor of God. God gives us power over all our enemies. Things are much better here and studying Gods word together has proven very productive. I wish you the best. God Bless you both.
Thank you !!!! I'm going to lift you up in prayer, in agreement with your prayers and Gods perfect will. God does not want any of his children to perish. I had 4 years away from him to heal with Jesus. All soul ties broken withered at the root & yet im called back. Use me and equip us oh Lord 🙏
@@heyonope7682 Just remember God is not the author of confusion, and has called us to live in peace. If the relationship causes strife and confusion, it may not be God that has called you back to it. God may have a purpose for your ex, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a part of it. I’m praying for your healing, and for you to exercise discernment in Jesus’ name. God bless 💓
I do relate to your point about being refined by a narcissist. My husband pointed out unpleasant character traits of mine. And even though he wasn’t soft or kind about it, it has really blessed me to see my blind spots and have the Father’s help to change those offensive parts of me.
Thank you immensely. I had a narc family, a narc husband, and a narc boss who collectively brought out the best in me. I never would’ve reached for the stars unless I had to-and I certainly did. Much to their dismay and disgust, I reached my star.
Everything you said has happened in my life. I have grown so much in the Lord. I’ve been married to a narc for 44 years. It’s amazing the peace that God gives me through the abuse.
Im also having a second thought if im gonna still go on with this abusive relationship. My husband never ever admitted any mistake even though its crystal clear that hes cheating. He refused to apologize thinking that he never done anything wrong. He is abusive and manipulative there were times im thinking if its worth continuing
I Hope you're well and Continuing to Living the Abundant Life Christ died for you. You are Worthy and Deserve it.🙏💟God doesn't want us to Stay in Abuse.....💔 The Spouse that comes from God would Not Abuse..
I would so love to correspond with you! I am in the narc relationship for 20 years. Because of boundaries in place I am able to keep living with him, even though it is hard. But this video is so true and I would have been a mediocre Christian if there is something like that, without the adversity to draw me to Christ time and again. But I long for someone to talk to who is in this turmoil who has found peace in God.
Lol...I really needed to hear this...I try to go places with my husband and have a nice time, but it almost always backfires on me. It happened again yesterday. I had to drop my husband off at home then go run an errand. I was yelling at God for an explanation. Then your video shows up today. I know God listens and hears us. But it always amazes me when he answers.
That's what I can't understand. Why am I trapped in this hell of a relationship with no way out. No family, no financial freedom. Physical limitations. I definitely feel like a failure because I made such a bad mistake by marrying this man and devoting my life to him. He has betrayed me in every way. I am trying to hang on to Hope...but things always fall through. My precious dog is my great source of love and I am so grateful for him.
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@@braveheart977 SOUNDS LIKE MY SITUATION. I AM NOT MARRIED TO THIS MAN BUT AM PHYSICALLY DISABLED, SUFFER FROM ANXIETY/DEPRESSION/SEXUAL TRAUMA (REPEATED OVER AND OVER THROUGHOUT MY LIFE) AND AM TRYING TO BE A GOOD CHILD OF GOD. HE TAKES THE DOG AWAY FROM ME AND LEAVES ME ALONE AT THE HOUSE AS MUCH AS HE CAN HE HAS CHEATED SINCE DAY ONE. I WS BLIND TO THIS BUT I ASKED GOD TO OPEN MY EYES, FOR DISCERNMENT, AND FOR TRANSPARANCY TO SEE WHO IS SAFE AND WHO IS NOT. HIS FAMILY (AND MINE EXCEPT FOR MY DAD) HAS ALCOHOL/DRUG/PROSTITUTION PROBLEMS AND DOES NOT WANT TO CHANGE. IT IS EMBARASSING TO BE WITH HIM OUT IN PUBLIC AS HE HAS PERVERTED WAYS AND IT IS SICKENING TO ME. I WILL NOT ALLOW HIM TO SEE OR TOUCH ME. I AM GOD'S CHILD AND WILL PURSUE HIM UNTIL HE COMES TO TAKE ME HOME! GOD BLESS ALL OUT THERE FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT!
I stayed for 14 years. He claimed he was a believer in Christ, but near the end, he would cuss God out and flick God off as I bawled my eyes out. He loved making me cry, staring at me from the other side of the room, glaring at me. Never once did he comfort me or hold me...it was hellish. Can you imagine being with your spouse all those years and NEVER being comforted??? I have learned SO much through that hell, and I've come to realize my father is a covert Narc, and my mom and siblings are his enablers. This is so painful but God has been teaching and growing me so much!! I now have an identity in Him! I have boundaries! I have self worth and self love ♥️ The Godly kind 😊 I am remarried to an amazing man and we pray for the Narcs in our lives and pasts every day. We are both scapegoats of our families and still we are learning so much good stuff! God is amazing....I see a lot of what God was and IS teaching me. He never left me in that nightmare existence. When I would bawl my eyes out on the floor of the bathroom, I felt His presence and thanked Him for whatever it was He was doing in me and around me. I am in awe of God everyday! When I left the ex Narc, He showered me with blessings! Readers, if you are married to a narcissist, pray to God for HIM to end your relationship. I asked God for a green light~ and the next day: there it was! My ex randomly brought up me going to jail for our back taxes (the ones HE would not let me pay) and the business he had made me open in MY NAME!! 😢😮 Rose colored glasses were slapped off my face with that comment. Cling to Jesus, throw yourself at His mercy and wait on Him to move you through the situation! Praying for all of you!
Narcissist s want to change you into what they want you to be , not what you are by your own nature. You only lose your self confidence as you listen to their abusive comments and outranges. They can never be good because of the approach they use in talking to you, always condescending, patronizing and talking down on you. It is difficult to listen to someone who wants to change you to be like them whilst you also are a unique individual who needs to be respected as such. Who said their way of being is the best? You can only learn who they are and respect the way they do things but copying them or listening to their comments can only bring you down. Their toxicity can only help other narcissists like them may be.
Was so alive, a prayer warrior, asked to move with the evangelist when he and his wife were to move, like family. He drowned, a strong swimmer. Before his time. Church members encouraged the marriage, some didn’t. We had masses of teaching over years. A survivor of years of incest, god had rebuilt. At 12 had become a Christian and not allowed to go to church. Spirit led to repent and heal many things. Got to 19/20 and dating, church members. Knew needed to be careful because of that personal past and a relationship to support that healing. Self worth, love and be loved. The evangelist was also a teaching gift. All the gifts. Able to discern others but when someone like that comes along the demonic force behind them blinds you by love bombing. Just a non Christian acquaintance from a few hours away, so no one knew him. Praying for salvation for ages as he would visit and hang out. He had no friends where he lived, a stuffed shirt. Some asked about whether this or that….things that learnt belong to spirit of ahab. He didn’t talk much and not of spiritual things. Was Satan happy to see me grow out of what had been and work against the strong holds. As that young teen asked for wisdom. Was the friend at school to help and older than my years. When being with husband to be when the acquaintance started, always blocked talking about god by the verse to not cast pearls before swine. He only went to church after 8 months when said that would not marry non Christian. Christians said stupid things about set it free and if it comes back, marry a friend because sometimes love doesn’t last. He denied the prophetic words given to me about him, but they came true. He had already wounded after the engagement, I had to wear the guilt of all of what he had spent courting when he couldn’t afford it. Had a disturbed spirit getting closer to the wedding, that shouldn’t be making parts of the real old school vows, didn’t make oaths to god. Told by some just normal jitters. Not for who I was. Walked down that aisle with the spirit saying had thrown away my life, even though he had made all these promises. He had just made a vow of love and some months later when living thousands of miles from family and friends he says that he never loved me. We didn’t know his family as too far away . Lay down with dogs…. So much was preached about being unequally yolked but not how to identify the traits of a wolf in sheeps clothing. Had a couple times of being woken by demonic presences after being married. Living in a spiritually hard place, but had before. These were dark. When he was bringing me down back then the spirit said that by marrying him was now exposed to attacks from the enemy and sickness. When he raped could see the darkest soul. Go forward, cold to children so that caused more deep hurt, was changed, the times urged to leave from within told not too. Had a massive desire for it to be made right, but also needed family and spiritual support to leave…not there. People with Asperger’s and lack of emotion cannot be normal. Listening to a talk by two mothers of their offspring. Knowing that all that had been sucked out of me and the children wasted. Christian counsellor said impossible, prayer will not work, Too late..had been crippled but he was still full of hate and was having the garden ripped apart and I went to speak to him and the blackest look came at me and the manifesting of Satan, reached out and felt my heart and soul physically ripped out of the body, soul knew was dead
Exactly. You lose your identity trying to improve yourself according to their criticism. And their goals is not for you to be better but for you to lose your goals, waste your time, serve them and to erase your identity, and make you doubt yourself.
THANKYOU !!!! It has been very confusing for me the past 29 yrs ! I feel much better now understanding my reason . I knew God knew my heart . Tough being married to a bibical , grandious narc . Good qualities but absolutely no boundaries and canntwist the bible to accommodate his needs . I've been seperating myself from him because i've lived under his umbrella for so long i have to have MY life back with God and what God has in store for me 🙂🙌
Your spouse sounds similar to mine biblical Christian narc man. This has the makes for a lot of guilt when attempts from me to complete separation from him
I chose to stay…. Even after 25 years! It was my Sin that got me into this marriage with No boundaries or caution, jumped in. I’ve been slowing disintegrating, as he has torn me down inch by inch. However! The last 6 years I’ve been taking my stand and telling him, I will Not tolerate your Verbal Name calling, and I walk AWAY. He now is in the throes of a Full Blown tantrum malicious style . And he will go and preach this week. Hmmm…. yes I guess if I choose to stay.. I Must Empower myself by the Grace and Strength of The Lord. I stay BUSY BUSY BUSY. “Gotta Go!” “No time to talk, sorry!” “I’m so tired, gotta go lay down” Until Christ comes in the sky, or he takes off and leaves me…. Gods Love & Grace stays and leads me❤️ I pray FOR YOU
I experienced all 5 of these benefits. I’ve been married to a narcissist for 4-years and god used it to actually heal me long time wounds and trauma. That’s sounds so incredibly bizarre because it’s abuse, but it forced me into a relationship with Christ so deep that he truly used these “lemons” to heal me. Amazing our god is that great that he can use abuse to heal. Amazing. ❤
1 Fault finders 2 Be able to be desensitized 3 Train to abide on God's Peace 4 Training to go beyond your limits Unrealistic demands Other environments wouldn't put so much on you 5 Strengthening yourself with inner strength to deal with anything, and to find God.
Totally needed this...your message really encouraged me...so many times dealing with the abusive person, I forgot to look after myself that the Lord loves me and wants His very best for me...and dealing with my heart and lessons Im learning through this..the word of God is so powerful...look forward to this passing and what God has for me...🌹💕thankyou once again..I love the biblical perspective on this subject..
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Love the spiritual aspect on this. Please do a video on the religious narcisstic.I thought I had a good guy who went to church several times a week prayed daily,read spiritual things...he just did not walk his talk... The lack of Being responsible, accountable,have integrity to keep his word and lack of self control over his anger,fears,insecurities was unbelievable and he projected onto me, he needed to control me cuz he couldn't control himself.. I learned not to take personally or react back with the same negativity or verbal abuse he used which strengthened me. I told him ..you will not drag me into your demonic pit with you. I led by a godly example... That put it back on him and he hated that! It's like dealing with a child throwing a tantrum. And a bully! Weak in spirit,not the godly man they claim to be and too fearful to face their imperfections to get the real help they need.
Same here, seen himself as my saviour, "to save me"; "like the woman at the well". Tried to get me to admit that his sin was my own... after 8yrs marriage, finally told him I wasn't drinking his kool-aid any longer, 5 months no contact (although he still trying to hoover, he's 67yrs old, 10 yr age difference, but he knows no one else will put up with his pharisees attitude & heart) I feel as though he just used me, mostly for sex, as he's an admitted sex addict and the narc supply. Any emotion exhibited was only during the/any love-bombing... I've rededicated my heart to Jesus and my healing journey. Thank you for these videos! Very enlightening to assist with the spiritual warfare 🙏❤🙏
I going through the exact experience. I married him because he claims to be a Christian. He lies against me and convinces everyone in church that I am the problem. Only a few people who are close to me believe me. He turned his family against me. I wail to God everyday for help. I have three children and that kind of ties me down. Please join me to pray to God 🙏 for deliverance. The relationship is so empty, no communication at all for the 7years+
Really? That is amazing. My narcisstic family almost drove me to suicide and two years of no contact I still feel a bit vulnerable. Their campaign against me was horrific. You did well. Bless
@N G I am sorry .Please takes the times to listen to some great motivational speeches listen to God words and spend times with him.Don't allow the narcissist to win you're beautiful and smart because you're a child of God Don't ever allow a miserable human being to force you to think about suicide.
Being with a narcissist almost took my life. I thank God I escaped alive not without chronic diseases that I’m still on medication after almost two years of no contact.
I’m so glad you did this video. I’m 72 and my 51 year old son lives with me. My husband died 3 months ago. My son lives with me because he is disabled with heart failure. He is verbally very abusive to me and often humiliates me in public . There’s a lot of gaslighting going on and sometimes I think I can’t take it anymore and I don’t want to live this way. I own my house so I can’t just move out. He has no place to go and no income. But I know God is working in this situation.
If your son is disabled, he may qualify for in home care visits, as well as public assistance for scheduling rides to the store or doctor so that you don't have to help with that, or at least not as much. I pray that might be available to you to create more boundaries for yourself. Also, I do not know if you are collecting on your husband's work record for social security, but your son may qualify for an additional amount that they do not inform you about unless you look into it yourself. If he was disabled before either 22 or 21 ( not sure ) and you have records, then he should qualify for a higher amount based on his father's work record as an adult disabled child, that may help him live somewhere on his own. There are also group homes that may assist for low rent. I pray that since he is abusive, he may find housing elsewhere with public assistance for the disabled and that your daughter may help figure that out. I wouldn't bring it up as a consequence though, unless you are sure it is available first. Because unless he is mentally disabled, then that behavior...while it can be forgiven, it needs to change. You are providing for him, it is a blessing. He could at least be quiet rather than abusive 🙁. Praying for your situation.
@@peachbun u are not talking like a Christian but the world. Yes her son should not talk to his mother that way but we do not know his reasons & what his issues are with his mom & dad & his upbringing prior. Don't give advice that could tear up a family & make life worse for the poor & needy. Are we perfect ?
@@bettyparker3476 I don't know how you determine that I'm not talking like a Christian. If she needs help, she needs help. You should not encourage someone to suffer abuse as if that is God's will. Yes sometimes we do endure certain things, but we can also have other options to help the situation too. Of course I do not know their whole family history, and I do not need to know. Obviously this woman is elderly and alone dealing with this situation. She herself points out that he has no income, and so he can't go somewhere else. So if there were a way for him to have income, he could even move to an apartment down the street, you don't know. That is not tearing up a family, but maybe helping to bring healing and relief.
Nobody deserves abuse kick him out! This is elder abuse get social services to remove him Jesus doesn’t expect anyone to suffer at the hands of an abuser or be a doormat. Maybe then he’ll wake up and change I’m disabled with a rare painful neurological disease never would I ever abuse anyone especially someone helping me. ❤
Yes, to say it was GOOD that I was afflicted! I have never been so close to him. I am aware of my idolatry now. I am also aware of the mercy and love Yaweh has. 🙏🏽💓
You bring a fresh perspective. My walk with God has grown exponentially. And He has shown me thru the narc where I need to grow. In my life, whenever something really bad happened to me it was always followed by something 100x better. I trust this is God's favor. He fought my every battle and I think He held my hand and led me out of my valley of despair in the last few months. Now I want to take His hand and hold on tight as I learn to walk in the light. Thank you.
AMEN A fresh perspective can only come through the Wisdom of the Holy Spirit which dwells within Her/Us.....by Which I believe Shaneen is teaching us when she References the Scripture with such Understanding. As Jesus taught us to do.
This is so insightful, and so true! I find your contact very refreshing. I was married to a narcissist for 7 1/2 years. I watch these other videos about what a light we are and how wonderful we are and they are terrible. I know for a fact that I definitely had my faults, and yes, the narcissist pointed out all of them. And then some. But God used it all. He doesn’t waste a hurt.
Once again, the Holy Spirit spoke to me through you. I've been so confused and troubled, because many experts (including Christians),have recommended leaving the narcissist. But, it's easier said than done. Have prayed and prayed because God is the author of peace and not confusion. He gave me an answer through you. Thanks so much.
I understand everybody’s story is different (similar probably), but still different. But one thing I learned is that usually a narcissist can only change once they are brought to rock bottom because they have zero insight. ‘Loving’ them more only gives them further grounds to abuse you. But we all have to make decisions for ourself, even if that means choosing to stay in your abusive marriage until the day you die, and being insanely heartbroken with a broken spirit at the end. But what is the fruit in that? My grandpa was the worst narcissist, and my grama who is 92 is still devastated by him (even though he died years ago), and even though she has dementia now she still continually talks about the heartbreak and pain he brought her. She was sooo loving and kind. But he never changed.
I think you have to be careful before you make a decision to stay as a narcissistic will never change unless they are truely broken by God and by you staying you are enabling them to carry on with no consequences for their sin and therefore no motivation to truely repent. I have left my narcissistic after years of unrepentant lies and betrayal and put him in the hands of God. Only when he is alone can he ever think of turning to God. While you prop up his ego with your sacrificial love he will believe he has no need of the sacrifice of Jesus
Amen God is showing me what unconditional love is and what forgiveness means and it’s literally stretching me and I’m so thankful for my trials now and no longer feel sorry for myself
Wow, that is exactly what I told my ex narcissist. I was there for a season for him but knew it would never be long term. My peace and joy immediately came back when I went no contact. I am so thankful to God for His deliverance.
Thank you! I needed someone to point out the "God" relationship that helps to live with a narcissist. No one else has done that before but it really helps!
Looking at the world through lenses I've never seen before is actually a super freeing thing. Seeing other narcissists has enabled me to see myself more clearly and repent. Feel like I can actually breath now.
I have become much more independent. I go away from home often to escape the abuse. Always alone, on my own. So I had to put boundaries in place, do what I intend doing without being sweet talked out of it, be firm, save money for my escapes and mostly use this alone time to pray and meditate. I am not so emotionally invested anymore and I've learned that one creates one's own happiness, regardless of the people around you.
Hi Hester! Ek hoop die SA in jou naam staan vir Suid-Afrika? En Hester is 'n super Afrikaanse naam?? 😀 Wil net sê, ek kan so relate. Ek vlug elke oggend uit my huis uit en gaan werk by familie se huise of koffie shops. Ek's ook nie meer emosioneel invested in man nie, sukkel nou ook om aan hom te raak of soen. Ek is basically alleen in hierdie 'verhouding', verwaarlosing en indifference is aan die orde van die dag. Soveel so dat dit nou my normaal is. My arme kinders is nie stupid nie. Ek sidder om te dink dat hul ook so 'n verhouding moet oorkom.. of dat my seuntjie soos sy Pa gaan operate as hy groot is. Ek is wel nou op die pad van selfpreservation - ek oefen, fokus op die Here en Sy liefde vir my, en ek maak werk daarvan om daar te wees vir my kinders. Die pyn van hierdie verhouding is soms oorweldigend! Ek wou net sê jou boodskap het by my geresoneer, jy's nie alleen nie. Baie liefde en sterkte vir jou. x
@@t-bird7496 Jip! Trots Suid-Afrikaans en suiwer Afrikaans. Ek is 10 jaar gelede geskei en het so 5 jaar later die man ontmoet met wie ek nou in 'n verhouding is. Ons het 2 jaar gedate en alles was goed. Die oomblik toe ek al my bekende goed agterlaat en saam met hom intrek toe begin die narsissisme uitkom. Hy het sy eiendom in Witbank verkoop (want ek het gesê oor my dooie liggaam bly ek daar!). Ek het in 'n cottage op my suster se kleinhoewe gebly. Alles het perfek gelyk. Hy was nie 'n blink Stefaans soos my eks nie, meer grof soos my pa. Wat kan nou verkeerd gaan? Saam is ons Thabazimbi toe en kort daarna agter 'n beter geleentheid aan Lichtenburh toe.
Lichtenburg. Ons boer vir 'n maatskappy. En hier in Lichtenburg het hy nou eers 'n varkerige grotman geraak. Ek dink hy was te bang om die stap alleen te neem en toe gebruik hy my om sy droom te verwesenlik. Nou is ek die huishulp, vloermat, seksslaaf, sekretaresse, kok ens en ek werk ook nog op die plaas ook saam met hom! Skielik gaan ons nêrens mee heen nie, hy kerm oor en kritiseer alles en daar is geen emosionele intimiteit tussen ons nie. Wel, ek raak elke dag slimmer en sterker! Ek is al 'n meester in die grey rock tegniek! En grense stel. Ek moet sê dit gaan nou al baie beter met my. Sterkte. Dis goor, so alleen verhouding waar iemand net nooit daar vir jou is nie.
I've always been taught to believe that for every person that crosses our path is either to help teach us a lesson or to hurt us in some way but it's up to us to figure out what it is!
Just discovered this term for my daughter. So entitled yet running from responsibility and so manipulative with me. She uses flattery and then fault finding to a very hurtful degree. I'm her mom so I feel I have to protect her and can't abandon her no matter how abusive she is as I just see it as her trying to deal with trauma.
Thank you so much for your message. I just got out of a 5 yr relationship with a narcissist husband. You nailed it, he did exactly what you talk about.
I learned to remain peaceful as the person mocked me for my physical injury he caused. The shock of his boasting revealed how deceived he was and still is to me. Though it hurt me deeply I let it go. The next day he had an accident that injured him the same. He cried for help, then went to the doctor my friend had recommended to me after several other doctors had misdiagnosed me. He never allowed me to go to that doctor. But I know now that God Father is displeased when his daughter is scorned. Thank you for your very thoughtful video.I will be sure to watch more now that I found you ❤
staying, continuing to leave with a nascist is like sacrificing your life to Satan, you are joining the corrus to help kill you.leave alone the nascist so that the nascist can have an opportunity to change 1 kolinte 5 : 13 don't be confused, nascist is a penalty disorder, he or she is the one that needs to change not you.do not suffer for other people, s Budden. kno your boundaries.
@Welcome's House Father Yah has strengthened me my whole life so that I truly know the pain of others. My testimony is when I comfort others by telling them exactly what they have experienced. They are surprised and tell me they'd never imagine I went through the same. When the joy of sharing how Jesus is our hope penetrates their minds, I'm blessed too. Thank you for your gift to pray for my healing, Welcome's House.
@@hildehausikujohannes7664 I really appreciate your advice. Thank you for caring. We have been separated for years so he involves others I warned about him with his problems. I'm free to pray for all of them and trust Father Yah.
I was in a ‘romantic’ relationship with a narcissist. God used my momentary lapse of reason to teach me about narcissism. Why? Because I have family members who are narcissists and I spent a lifetime so confused by their behavior. Once I learned what narcissistic personality order really means, I finally understood. Knowledge is power and while I can’t go no contact on them I can greatly minimize their impact on me simply by knowing what they are.
I so needed to be reminded!! I'm a super,sensitive empath... going on 12 years of trying to see light in a totally damaged dark heart... I search for the good in people and try to help pull them out of darkness by helping them find their shine... I feel people and energy so deeply that I can sense a person's mood when they enter a room without speaking a word... it is exhausting taking in so much, but it also has helped me to help those I feel need some kindness,compassion, or someone just to give a hug and some love... I love the golden rule... too much of the world,sadly forgot or never were taught....we all have value and deserve to be treated with kindness and dignity... GOD is LOVE... and in these 12 years with a narcissist, I've almost lost me several times... this feels like the year I make a full comeback!!... GOD Bless you all 💜💚🙏
Thank you again for tying together the Biblical and practical perspectives on dealing with Narcissism. The more we learn the mor God's word is proven trustworthy.
This is confirmation I’ve been married to a narcissist over 35yrs and I have have changed personally so much and his rejection has grown me and helping me to fulfill the Lord’s purpose ❤❤. Thank you for this.
O dear🥹 this is the first reassuring video that i’ve watched about narcissism; that doesn’t tell how i have ruined my life by being with one… i believe in blessings in disguise! Thank you so much🙏🏼✨
Thank You so much for your help! My son is a narcissist! I started my Spiritual Awekening Journey back on 2019, and my Faith, Strength, and Determination have grown stronger! I pray every day for him. He has been getting better little by little, but I leave everything in my Father Godly Mighty hands! He has the Power to change and to move Mountains! 🙏 I'm very positive and spiritual! I know I have more to work on myself! And I'm willing! I'm doing excellent so far! I'm here to do his work! This journey is just the beginning of my new life and enlightenemt with the Divine!🙏
Thank you for this video! I was scrolling through UA-cam and found this gem. This resonates very much with me and what I am currently going through. I truly believe that God allows trials and tribulations, based on scripture, and to find myself in closer relationship with God is the ultimate goal.
My experience is nothing like this, not until out of the relationship and coming to real understanding of what I was in. And that understanding was miraculously found, most don’t. It is NOT like you say, you are not “able” when you are truly being abused, you don’t trust your own thinking, you are brainwashed. I do believe in a building, a lesson that had to be learned, but it would be so self centered to think that God wanted this lesson for me at the expense of my children. I do thank God for His love and knowledge given to me.
@ceegee2918 i agree. The brain fog and confusion has left me so different. My relationship with God is just not the same. I don’t know who to trust.. nevertheless , i pray i eventually find healing and that you have also
God sent her to me to build my character and show me that I'm worth more than I have allowed myself to have. (I've spent my entire life shooting myself in the foot and settling for the bare minimum.) I learned how to set boundaries, and have enough self respect to walk away if I'm being mistreated.
if you can, but God didn't put us on this earth for our own personal happiness. He died on the cross who knew no sin. Who am I to not expect to suffer? If God puts one in your life that makes it hard for you to run, than what this video is saying makes sense. It gives me a new perspective on narcissists. In my case it is family and neighbors
Thank you this video great information. I was with a Narcissist for 5yrs years. God gave me the Strength to leave. I have surrendered my life and heart to God 🙏❤
Excellent subject amd 5 explanations especially the Biblical one of David. The Joy of the Lord is my strength and He does keep us in perfect peace. He strengthens that peace in us the more we trust in Him
Thank you! My Mother was a Narcissist, and as a Christian, I knew I was to Honor her. This made the relationship hard when I could see her for who she was. I say (was as she passed 1 yr ago). You have helped me process the WHY. I can now see clearly that my relationship with her for 65 yrs, did have a purpose. Keep up the messages.
I’m in a narcissistic marriage now. Im looking to God to keep me calm and at peace during this marriage. Im also praying to God to help me plant a seed in him to allow God to move in him.
I just up and left my husband with three kids. It's not worth it!!! And sometimes God can't work on them while you are still there being their empath..... they have to hit rock bottom in order to come to Christ, but when someone don't thk nothing is wrong with then, why would they give their life to Christ and fix their issues??!! I'm telling you, for the sake of your own sanity. Leave him and don't let him know where you are going. It will only get worst. Oh and BTW, I recently was sent pics of him and his new woman that he told me he's moving in with her and getting engaged too, but fyi he won't divorce. Bc he knows he divorce me, he lost his control over my ability to remarry.
Pain we ALL go through, it happens in relationships and we get over it, but SUFFERING IS A CHOICE!!! You can't make the Narc too much responsible for your suffering when you are choosing to stay for years saying you are going to make it work with them. I would Hate to stay with the narc and look up 10 years later and it's even harder to move on and you are 10 years older. (That's what they want you to do, so you can feel lower and insecure and thk that no one will ever love you) I married him, and left after 2 years dating and 2 years marriage, I couldn't take it anymore AND his true Colors and rage really really came out during the Separation and how he tried to torture and hurt me still even more bc I left him with other women, verbal abuse, and manipulation. I have three children, 5, 3, and 1. I'm proud of myself for making a plan to escape and executing it and to this day he doesn't even know where i live, I bring the kids to him everyother weekend only bc as per the court order visition, but in this day in age no woman should have to stay with a narcissist, it's not the 1940's And Because I love me and my children, and I want them to be better than him and have a normal child/adulthood, I will never go back!!!! ONCE YOU KNOW, YOU GO!!!! AND NO CONTACT OR LOW CONTACT ONLY BC OF KIDS AND THAT'S THROUGH EMAIL ONLY. be smart about this and think if you want to endure another ___ years again with the narcissist? They don't change, bc it's not them it was never them.
They are 😈... I don't believe they will ever change. Pray for the courage and circumstances to leave this marriage. I desperately want to but can't because of finances
I will pray that your husband will change his ways by the grace of the Almighty. With God EVERYTHING is possible. And if u pray to Him and he will have a different plan for u he will show u and guide u anyway. We only have to stay connected with God. He can See our pain, he can See our hearts. If he will change is Gods plan, if he will lead u to leave him it will also be Gods plan. Just put it to God ,put it in his hands. He is compassionate and loving. I am talking from experience. God has been guiding me through my own relationship with narcissist.
Shaneen, you just turned a negative into a positive. Being with a narcissist is definitely a storm but i also know God gives you peace at the end of the storm.
After 17+years of marriage I am just waking up to the fact that my wife has many covert narcissistic traits. I have been completely naive. She's been having an affair for a while now, while claiming she wasn't. Now that she knows that I know she's been rubbing my nose in it. The difficult part of all of this is that I still have a great deal of love for her and probably always will. Day to day, she sends me kind txt messages while I'm at work. But I have seen messages pop up on her phone from time to time, where she is sharing deep private information about me with her boyfriend, often telling him derogatory things about me, how she hates living with me etc. She has always kept a list of wrongs against me. I have always been an incredibly hard-working, loving and respectful husband, giving her everything she's asked for financially and leaving myself with little to nothing. In the time I've been married, I have rarely ever raised my voice. Opposing someone who has covert narcissistic traits, is incredibly challenging. It is virtually impossible in most cases, to sway their opinion. She is not a Christian and becomes agitated if she hears reference to scriptures. I've been a Christian for a long time and I believe this is God's way of teaching me about my own choices. Like a lot of people I have made a lot of bad choices in life. I have been constantly pushed away From a loving connection for the past decade or so, it's hard not to blame oneself. I'm talking about the push pull trait of narcissistic behavior. I just recently learned that this is a type of emotional abuse as well. I feel like I'm clinging to a piece of Driftwood in the middle of an ocean and as awful as all of this is, I feel it has brought me closer to God and maybe it was part of his plan all the time, to bring me to my knees and to bring me to him. I now have some daunting decisions to make if I want this nightmare to end. If any of you are going through something similar I pray for you to have strength and to know that there are people in this world, who truly have love for you. We value true and honest love and know the real definition outlined in Corinthians 13.
PLEEEASE get out! Leaving does not make you a bad person or bad Christian. God is not asking you to stay in this. Please do not allow religious guilt to keep you tied to this person. You have a purpose. Your purpose is not to serve her. You can't do what God has placed you here to do in this environment. Put your purpose first. God loves you and would not have you continue with someone that doesn't reflect His love. YOU ARE GOOD! You can pray for her at a distance.
After recently finding out the name (Covert narcissist) of my "spiritual warfare", I've been pressing into God's view of what I believed would be my forever. I have been deceived and even deceived myself when God reveled the truth to me. I didn't believe it for more than a year, but I get it now and love myself way more. My relationship with God is the best it's ever been and I look forward to the rest of what he is going to teach me. Hopefully next year I'll be single without a fight.
Thank you. I know that I am much stronger because of my relationship with a narcissist. I have come to realize that my mother was a narcissist. I just received the training video. I can’t wait to start it. God bless.
I entered a relationship with a narcissist and it made me go back to God, because of the unbearable pain. God showed me bit by bit why i should leave him, and finally gave me the words NPD as i was not very obedient about leaving him. That's what finally got me out of it when i realised what monster he was. 7 months and 20 days and still going of everyday tears and pain. The only good things that came out of it: 1. I immediately identified other narcissists of my family after reading a lot about NPD. 2. God became my first, last and only anchor. 3. I finaly could pinpoint my traumas. 4. I feel stronger and confident in my faith than ever before. The trauma bond is still there, i still am angry, but im getting better. And im so grateful to God for the lessons!
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I don't believe that why God want you with satan
@@paulinebrown1050
No, G-d does not want us under satan.
She's not saying it's God's choice. It is our decision and we make mistakes or sin,.but through our sin we take a lesson. They are manipulative and God forgives our sins. Let's face it, we all had signs from God something wasn't right, and we disobeyed his teaching. I was taken off my path with God and lost that closeness but I missed it and I needed emotional maturity. All these things she mentioned I was weak in and became stronger. I needed the lessons. He brought me back to God and I really learned to obey the bible more. She's saying purpose in pain. Our decisions and sin causes us pain, but God can turn it into a blessing because he loves us that much.
I was married to a narcissist for 38 years. He made me feel worthless, a failure. And no matter what I did, it was never good enough for him. He sought perfection because he was. We raised 5 beautiful children that have issues now of not feeling worthy. God has blessed us with those children who I love very much. They know that they can talk to me about anything. I do not judge or criticize, they got that from their father! I’ve been divorced for 5 years now and in that 5 years, I’ve discovered that I’m not the worthless person I was told that I was. I hated myself, but no longer do. God has opened my eyes and God has given me many blessings. I’ve grown closer to God in my time of living alone. I think when you’re away from a situation, you can see what it really was and I’m much happier! And I have lots of alone time with God. 😇
YAHsome!
Thank you for sharing. This gives me hope. Cheryl.
Amen, keep praying for your children .
How did you survive that for 38 years? 😩
I CAN CERTAINLY RELATE, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING!!!!!
My relationship with the narc hurt me so bad that I clung to God and He comforted and healed me. He gave me a dream actually showing me the narcissists heart…it was very needy, desperate and broken. Like “depths of despair” broken. When I woke He said “He is incapable of loving you”.
I’m thankful that this experience brought me close to God. He will never allow pain without a purpose.
True, that. I now understand better who my dad was to me as well. If I had been genuinely loved by my earthly father, I would have chosen a husband who genuinely loved me. But, for the times that both of them did what they did as narc bullies, it drove me away from them and toward the One True Father, the God who loves me
This is very useful !❤
God is able to bind up the wounds and heal the broken hearted. in that state they can not love you and there are demons behind narcissism that have to be cast out . Also there is a saying narcissism is our reward for our idolatry. We should always put God first and I had to learn that hard way and please God not people
That's what I need to know to go...
Wow i needed to see this. Now that explains everything. Thank you. I feel at peace now
Sometimes God will allow you to get into a relationship with them to make you see that you only need God in your life to give you true satisfaction and contentment. The reason why we are codependent is because there is a void that we are looking for someone or something to fill at all cost . Thank you for this video it was an eye opener xx
That's what I'm learning as I'm divorcing my husband of 10 years who is a "Christian" narcissist. It allowed me to learn that I need to trust in Jesus alone and put Him first and we have 2 children together who are beautiful creations of God and I am very blessed to have them as daughters.
Agreed!
Yes!❤
Sure we make people idols
God can't satisfy you sexually. You can't wrap your arms around him.and cuddle on a rainy night.
One good thing that comes out of a narcissist relationship is learning to discern character and learning how to deal with and/or avoid such people as much as possible.
As painful as it was, there are things I would have never learned had I never encountered a narcissist.
You A Truly Correct!!! Wisdom about them!!!
Yep. It's been painfully eye-opening, but I wouldn't want to still be asleep as that would have made my life way worse.
Yes n learning Truth frm lies.
Thank you. Needed this. I study scripture, KJV. What your teaching resonated with me and gave me clarity.
@@kerrytaggart8206 Yep. It definitely fits with Christian teaching. Keep being discerning.
1) Own your truth and reality by bringing any accusations before the Lord;
2) Detach and don’t take personally the things the narcs do to you; you are not them nor are you defined by them;
3) Retreat into God’s Sanctuary for protection and strength,
4) Toughen up and don’t let the Narcs affect your self worth; reaffirm your value before the Lord and your identity in Christ;
5) Stay close to the Lord for wisdom, direction, and strength.
I love this ❤❤❤❤❤ God bless you and Thank you for sharing!!
Truth
Lovely. Thank you.
Amen and thank you.
Thank you! 💕
I didn't get inner peace from being with a narcissist, instead I got ulcers, depression and anxiety, severe trust issues, etc. This was NOT Gods will!!!!! Get out people when you can!
My mother was a narcissist. I grew up thinking i was the worst person in the world. I have an autoimmune disease that i believe was caused by my abusive childhood. I am afraid of people, i get triggered easily and i have CPTSD. I am 65 years old and still working on it. I ask God all the time to help me. I am making progress but its very slow. Sometimes i look at other people and wonder what its like to have a loving family and friends. I feel so alone all the time- thats how i grew up. Alone and hated.
@@dreamsofturtles1828 Me too. Sending you love and keep healing!
@@Crystalquartz964 And you also. I pray for your healing back to Light & Love.
She not saying to stay in it ?? She giving insight on those who question “why me?” …
I ended up with breast cancer....
The 6th advantage God told me about dealings with a narcissist is that everytime you overcome the toxic narcissistic relationship, you gain authority over that principality.
Good word! Amen. 🙏🏽
Jesus already gave you authority over principalities. You don't need to expose yourself to toxic human's in other to "gain" authority
True, that. No weapon formed against us shall prosper. Isaiah 54:17.
@@RonkeAlao That’s true. But sometimes, people will never understand that until they have no choice but to
That was not God telling you that! You do not overcome a toxic relationship you get out.
It's a life lesson.
Not a life sentence!
Yes, it's a lesson, however, it felt at times, it was a life sentence, and even like death row. Thank God he has set me free from that man, praise the Lord!!! 😉😄😊☺
Need to be careful here. Make WISE decisions especially staying around TOXIC people. What does bible say? If it's possible live at peace with everyone. However it's not possible to be at peace with a narcissist, they're often provoking urguments and conflict. The word also says to stay away from people who cause conflicts.
There's different types of narcissistic people. YES some are murders n can kill, when someone has strangled you n threatened to kill you? Why stay around or have contact with them, even if you have kids with them.
There's only one way, run, forgive ask ABBA to heal and restore your soul and move on with your life.
I agree
@@a.w.3689 i so know what you mean! Much love and myriads of blessings your way!
It feels like a life sentence ☹️
Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his way and entangle yourself in a snare.
Proverb 22 : 25-25 English standard version 2016 (ESV)
You are so correct. Through my marriage to a narcissist, I have been delivered of an obsessive need for privacy, (my narcissist broadcasted all my "faults" throughout our small community). My reactions to his extreme provocation, led me to discover that I suffer from PTSD from childhood experiences. Without him I may never have uncovered this or received the help I am currently getting. He has strengthened my ability to stand in the face of evil, to reject his evil assessment of me and stand strong in my identity in Christ. In giving everything over to God, I have learned to accept my powerlessness and to know that when I am weak God is strong. And most importantly of all, I have dug deeper in my faith to believe God for my husband's complete deliverance and healing. I believe my marriage is the training ground and preparation for ministry and I believe my husband and I will serve the Lord together in unity, a living testimony of His power and His grace.
Amen
You are still with your narcissist husband ? He did repent ?
@MrFoulosophe Still waiting on the Lord. I have good strong boundaries in place but only the Lord can bring him to His knees.
Amen
Just recently I told my husband “ Thank you to make me SO lonely with you that I started go to church EVERY Sunday and found THERE REAL joy and peace of my mind and soul. Thank you to make me lonely that I started go to YMCA to swim pool, that help me improve my health and lose weight. Thank you to make me so lonely, that I built up relationship with MYSELF. I no need man or husband for to be happy. I can sit in coffee shop alone and enjoy cup of coffee and be totally content with it. Thank you to make me so lonely that if tomorrow you will disappear I will NOT even notice this “
If I would be married with other man , I would be probably still shallow believer and be in church just once a while.
I'm so glad your husband/narc lets you go out.
😂I started taking my relationship with God more seriously too.
Beautiful story!
Isn't it funny how when we ask God for a man who leads us to God, we mean one who humbly walks in the Spirit with and has beliefs and behaviors that are congruent with Scripture...
But then we end up with a wicked man who is nothing but that and has us turn to God like a little child runs (and cries!) to her father.
And thank God for that! I'd rather be single, saved by Christ and hungry for righteousness than married to an unsaved ungodly man just to superficially force my desire to be a wife - and end up regretting it.
Let us be wise as serpents and harmless as doves! 💛
Amen, Ms. Marina. Have a beautiful life, strong lady.😊
The more God is the forefront of your life seems to repel them to some extent.
Be mindful that narcissists often have a distorted view of reality and their accusations are often just incorrect. I spent 15 years ‘taking on board’ my narcissistic husband’s accusations and trying to improve myself- only to finally realise his accusations were false accusations. I was freed. I no longer had to live under the burden of his condemnation. Best realisation EVER!!
I've discovered that what they accuse you of, are actually confessions of what they are doing themselves!! Or what they are thinking.. or what their morals and values are ..etc. Very toxic 😓
Thank you so much for that video.
Man istead of helping to heal in love, blaimed with a content: you destroyed your life, you have nothing left, your words are empty, you dont have a heart, you are a lier, you are destructive, you are negative and you will never manage.
These are points to work at. But the love is mussing there. People heal in love. That man showed very well good points to work at. To get decernrment, selfllove, selfcontrol and love of God and guiding by Holly Spirit.
So greatful for the spiritual phychologiest i was searching for decades.
God bless you for your godly work!!!
Yea.. Ur right.. I'm stuck with my narc family. . Wen I told my mom, wen I got molested, she blamed, shamed me!! I told her I'm Ashamed to call her my mom! They r just pathetic 😞😤😡
Congratulations to you and your peace I know the future is full of mystery I'm optimistic to remain sane it's success stories that bring the power to keep on keeping on. Thank you deb
Yes, anything that doesn’t serve them directly will be labeled a “flaw” even if it’s actually a great trait that will make you successful. They only want you to succeed within their agenda. So if you’re about to reach success with something that doesn’t serve them, makes them jealous, and gives you boundaries from them, they will call that a glow and degrade the crap out of you for it. So you have to think objectively about WHY exactly they are pointing out your flaws. There could be some truth to that and point out something you should fix in yourself, or it could be purely because they feel threatened.
When i was in a relationship with a Narcissist, i wanted out desperately. I leaned on God , cried out to God and hung onto Gods promise of "you are MORE than a conqueror, you ARE an OVERCOMER"!!!! Never forget that last part. And you know, God was right as usual. I am no contact with that Narc and feeling closer to my Lord than ever. He was there for me and He did not leave me or forsake me......
Relationship? So you was not married to the person? If not, you were living in fornication which is sin. Glad God got you out.
She answered, “No one, Lord!” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you either. Go. From now on sin no more.”]
John 8:11 AMP
@@EdwardsEvelyn seriously? A relationship could be a person of the same sex.. you know like a girlfriend.. a friend a buddy.. come on now.. or a relationship could actually be a marriage..
Amen and Amen. My experience exactly. That experience with the narcissist brought me closer to God. Thankful I have knowledge about narcissist and I won't go through it again. Thank you God for saving me 🙏🦾💯👋😇
@@astrialindah2773 yes, I agree why jump to fornication right away? I think that is what is in Evelyns mind. or heart.
@@EdwardsEvelyn Shame on your assumptions. Must be what is in YOUR mind!
I love the positive twist on encounters with narcs. I have learn of my toxic empathy that feels too much of others while disregarding my needs. I also became aware of my codependency. The need to help those that don't want or ask for my help; all the while neglecting my own need for help. It's like a martyr syndrome, so to speak.
Thanks for your encouragement 🙏🏽 😊
Exactly! My whole life I’ve placed others above me, thought people were my friends when they were in reality just acquaintances. Through this very difficult relationship with a fellow veteran who I’ve been caregiver for for about a yr is that I am really learning not to try to help people who do not want your help. Learning that my feelings and needs are just as valid as anyone else’s and I can still deal with people in that godly manner without pushing myself down or allowing others to do so. Learning to distance myself from my emotions, to not be triggered every time and becoming stronger in the LORD. He IS my moment to moment strength. I do not lean to my own understanding because I realize I do not understand anything the way I thought I did. Thank You Father for the trials and hardships of this life which cause me to long more and more for home. Soon we will join you but until then I trust in You for everything.
I'm a billionaire...4 years of a narcissist...it just about killed me.. but I made through thank you Lord... Amen
Give me job
Give me a job, I really need work after broke up my marriage with this person.
Please buy me a bachelor house so that I flee from the abuse. I am in a foreign country and have been looking for work, I'm still waiting.
Boog...I hope you're doing very well today and have healed from that experience. It was a blessing to see your comment. I keep thinking money is all I need to escape, but knowing a billionaire got caught in the trap too tells me money isn't the only way...I would love to hear your story, the mental and emotional journey you went through. If you have your story posted anywhere, please let me know where I can watch, read, or listen!
I’ve learned that I attracted this type of relationship was because of co-dependence. God doesn’t want us to need other people or depend on others for our value and worth. Learning to break codependency has been a lesson learned. I suspect most people in a narc relationship have reasons for attracting them in the first place. Character traits of learning the ability to speak my truth, morals and values instead of having so much unhealthy empathy towards toxic people that leads them to believe I am a good source of supply for them.
This has been my journey as well- coming from codependent/narcisstic family dynamics.
Maybe it was always within you, lying dormant.
Being with the narcissist meant that you had to turn inwards for answers.
You grew in strength, courage and conviction and became who you were called to be!
It was/is a frightening experience to go through, but God wouldn't have allowed it, without providing the necessary tools/support to get through it!
Well said. This is what I’m learning too
Wow, so true! Thanks for sharing. I see how easily my reliance on him gave him the power to emotionally control me. I have to own my codependency is my own form of trying to control things I’m not in control of either and heal the wounded parts of myself
Same here.
What the devil means for evil, God means for good!!! Thank you for making this point. I think you are absolutely correct. I am a living witness. I grew spiritually and drew closer to the Holy Spirit while enduring narcissistic challenges.
Thank you so much for the confirmation that i needed. I have been with a narcissist for 35 yrs. He now has bone cancer. I recently realized some of the points made in this video about myself and I will make it !
My Moms last words to me were "dont let him break you " . And I haven't ! Not sayin it hasnt been tough...thanks be to our Heavenly Father and a God fearing Mother.
Thanks again for the confirmation !
Six yrs into marriage and finding out he’s a full blown covert narcissist. If not for the ongoing work, guidance and comfort of the Holy Spirit I couldn’t deal with it, regardless of much I love this man. Some days can be tough.
This was my mindset and he actually brought me closer to Christ and made me take my walk with Jesus Christ more seriously. Now I'm in an amazing place and keep growing in my faith. I prayer for him though because it's sad that people actually have this kind of capability to be so wicked.
Exactly same happened to me
I now have a relationship with Jesus which I didn't have before
Your commentary is so true on covert Narsacistic person. My problem is I did not see the big red flag. Her opioid addiction she has been seeing a phsyciatrist with sleep problem Addiction induced by a doctor. This lead to her stealing or taking maybe borrowing from her mother’s opioid medication. 22 years this went on. I just found out August 2021 that Doctor Sutton was running a pill mill operation. He has polluted 5 family members with this drug. Drug enforcement agency moved in and the doctor shut his practice down and left town. The family thinks it is still ok they are on the opioid addiction they eat this drug like candy. Opioid addiction will change the DNA in the brain and create a Narsacistic person that will ruin any relationship or family. I have learned the hard way. She will not get help. So I must move on. With my life. Opioid pandemic is worse than Covid. More people are dying or loosing there minds from this drug. It is a shame what man has done to man. God stated trust no man. So true. I can only pray. I can not fight the devil. Satan is to powerful and slick with his tricks. Look what the devil has gone to American society. Made the doctors the biggest drug dealers there is. Insurance companies paying for the drugs. People getting killed by car accidents or shootings. The devil has control of the people we are suppose to trust running our country and health care. What a mess. God bless us all Later.
@@danherrmann8755 Dan: I'm sorry but I have to speak out and tell you that you are seriously misled in your "opinion" about opioid medications. - And most definitely opioids do NOT cause narcissism! - Please educate yourself on opioid medications (and Narcissism!). When used properly, opioid medications are actually life saving medications for millions upon millions of people with chronic and intractable pain. Are there bad doctors? Yes - on both ends of the spectrum. Are there pill mills? Used to be but majority have been closed down by DEA years ago. Are there people who get addicted? Yes, But, most people who become addicted have a propensity to addiction (genetic or just enjoy getting high). There is so much research out there - seems more against opioid medications (⚠️look closely tho as these people are profiting off their opinions - ex: Andrew Kolodny, P.R.O.P., etc.). There is also good research out there. Please check out PainNewsNetwork.org; Claudia A. Merandi on Twitter; thedoctorpatientforum.com; Dr. Forest Tennant, MD, and, IntractablePainSyndrome.com, for just a few reputable resources for the TRUTH about opioid medications, their benefits for the pain community, and what the DEA, CDC, DOJ, etc., have and are doing to pain patients, and their doctors, who legitimately use opioid pain medications bc THEY HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE but to use them (ie: they have tried all other modalities without relief or little relief). You can find more sites to search just from these few.
I'm not diminishing anyone's heartache over the loss of someone to overdose or addiction. It does happen (but, in the pain community, addiction is very minuscule in relation to the number of people who have to take opioid meds) - and overdose and/or addiction IS heartbreaking. However, there is more help out there for the recreational drug users and the addicted than there is legit help for the pain community - who are just trying to get legitimate doctors to treat their pain conditions and medications to be able to live with their diseases that cause them pain (at no fault of their own - just like a diabetic needs insulin.)
Further, people are being misled about the so-called "opioid crisis". It is actually a "street drug crisis" and those Gov't agencies are using the pain community and their doctors as scapegoats instead of going after the real problem - the drug cartels! As the pain community and their pain doctors continue to suffer - in sooo many different ways - mostly from misinformation and outright FALSE information (to be able to pad their pocketbooks).
Please take my comment as a sincere form of disagreement in an attempt to show you there are different sides to every argument/story. This is in no way an attack on you or your loved ones. I wish you the best.
I totally agree that we can grow from such a relationship. However, my question for you is...are you still in the relationship now that you're closer to Christ? If not, did your new relationship with Christ give you the strength to leave?
Baptized at age 60 was the best part of my life. This is how God pulled me out of the disfunctional relationship. God knew what she was doing and her opioid addiction is out of hand. Eduction on life’s problems will heal the soul and start a new journey in life. I just pray she gets help and not have to suffer from the drug addiction. A lie is a lie to your self and everybody else. God bless later.
They do force you to look at yourself. To love yourself. Value yourself. Appreciate yourself. Want only the best for yourself.
Both my parents! And some cousins also! It doesn’t run in my family, it gallops! “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Proverbs 4:23
Lol at it gallops in your family!
I know EXACTLY why: to teach us about evil.
Thank you!
Okay!!
God taught me, that I needed a backbone. Self esteem, self respect and independence. I remember a moment when I said to myself, “damn, words do hurt!” They not only emotionally hurt but does bodily harm, without anyone putting a finger on me. I’m happy we don’t live together. We need lots of deliverance from all the trauma. Lots of riding of the demonic oppression. Lots of prayers and intervention of the Holy Spirit. Does work! You mind and body needs to hear that you are cutting all soul ties with this person and then step in faith into your new life.
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I was with a narc. No contact now. But, I miss my 2 kids. She took them away from my life and stopped me seeing them completely. Please pray for me and for my 2 little kids
I have the same situation like you. My narc wife took my baby boy and disappeared. just so she can hurt me because she knows that I love my baby boy so much. My baby was 10 months old when she took it from me and now my baby is 2 years old. Sorry for the bad english
Going through the same. Will keep you in my prayers, please send one up for me too.
Sounds just like my Ex-wife.
I am a wife of a narcissists husband for the last 35 years.
My husband sees the teenagers Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday's each week.
He has no interest in them, no empathy or love for them.
This is only to get a supply from them , to give him validation.
They use children just like they use us.
It's all about them and them alone.
There looking for a reaction from you and will do anything, or use anything to abuse you.
Do not react in anyway as you are giving them a supply.
Any reaction either NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE is a supply from them.
❤ 🙏🙏🙏
I live in a remote area and cannot find a counselor who is Christian. Thank you so much for putting this in biblical terms!!!
You're so welcome! ❤️
Beth, I know right 👍. I live around hypocrites who pretend to be Christians. Not being judgemental but truthful.
Yes Biblical and you answered my weak questions Perfectly 🥰
So you have wifi stay tuned 👀🤔
It's great!
God doesn’t orchestrate bad things, but He is always with us and can help us, even help us escape, heal, and learn…
Facts, that’s James 1:13 haha
Thank you. You bring clarity to my life. I was married to my NPD ex-wife for about 30 years. I have been divorced for about 4 years. I prayed for guidance and finally got it. God has helped me through this. “Haven’t I always provided for you?” He said. I live every day now with a thankful heart. God is great.
Just keep in mind that when they point out your “flaws” that they are doing it in a malicious, hurtful way. And that although they are in an adult body, they have the emotions of a small child. Like a little kid saying “I hate you mommy” when they don’t get their way. So don’t take anything they say as devastating. Yes we are all flawed and it can be a time for introspection and checking in with God, but they are deeply lacking in any kind of emotional maturity and will lash out like small children. They are incapable of introspection and lack empathy and most likely lack the guidance of the Lord.
You've got it sista!
This is right wath you say that they bring you to deal with your flsws but they do it in an absolute brutal way!! They do it to destroy you and not to help you!! It is really the worst way to deal with your flaws!! 😎
Yes, the most destructive narcissists live in the church! Just because they SAY they have the Spirit doesn't mean they DO. That was the thing that misled me the most; if I met them in a "Christian" environment I let my guard down. Oops.
@@annamariaricci2146 which is why, when they switched the word in Proverbs, from discipline to punishing, i immediately ran for my older one, and sure enough, it made no sense, to me, at all. Almost, the last straw! ha! Baruch YahuYah and His Mighty Word! Agapao
@@allhimwithme5115 I knew 3 narcissists so far and the last one was a woman who proclaimed to be a Christian ( we even got baptized on the same day along with our daughters) in the year and a half I knew her she betrayed me and stabbed me in the back as if she set out to destroy me. I am still shocked that she could do the things she did to me and call herself a Christian.
I'm currently going through a divorce with a narcissist. I was so saddened because I felt abused then thrown away. But now I look at it like this I gained wisdom about relationships and having boundaries. I learned the importance of sex being only meant for husband and wife. I also stopped a bad addiction to weed because I stopped during the relationship and was able to see the effects of it on my husband. I have a beautiful daughter and most importantly I recognize the voice of God when he tells me to leave certain people alone.
You cant fight a narcissist in court and win. Ask him what he thinks both of you would be happy with. Do that.
Judicial system is run by narcs and demons.
Thank you for sharing,I'm not alone.
If sex is only for marriage then marriage is abusive. You get no way out if sex becomes abusive. It’s easier to separate from a boyfriend that abuses you. Living with an abusive husband makes you completely defenseless and family blame YOU for your abusive marriage. They blame YOU for not having the ability know your own future. No once cares and you end up feeling sick or you have to live in a shelter. No one will help you. I can’t live in a shelter. I need to take special vitamins to maintain my autoimmune symptoms and paralysis from Guillain Bar.
Shaneen, where have you been all my life??????? OMG girlfriend, I have intensely studied this subject matter. Never have I come across someone who so eloquently uses the word of God to put this disorder into perspective. So, thank you!! Your channel has been a breath of fresh air to me and very helpful. ❤️
I Totally Agree! 👍
Amen to that!
I was saying the same thing. Everybody let them feel they are powerful except this lady. Nobody great but God. He knows how to melt their hearts. Only a matter of time
I completely agree. A narcissist passed through my life and really really affected me. After that really toxic relationship I finally restarted my relationship with God so I thank the lord for that experience. I also realized that Jesus was teaching me to not only love people around me but I must love myself first 💙
Very true 😊
I’m married to a narcissist and it has absolutely wrecked me mentally,emotionally and physically. I have lost so much weight that my doctor made me see an oncologist! The only good thing it has brought me is 3 beautiful children and a relationship with God!! Raising kids with a narcissistic father is sooo hard I’m scared of the consequences it will have on my kids!😭 I’m stuck because I’m a stay at home mom. I pray God will save me and my precious children. I can honestly say that if my husband disappeared to hell I would not even care and that’s not something I ever would have thought. I’m 106 lbs now and absolutely drained. Please pray for my family
I really think you should go get some help from your Pastor or a menthor of your church! Praying that God gives you wisdom for This hard trial sister ❤️🙏 God loves you and cares for your health and your children, stay safe 💕✝️
@@sweetjessie240many churches and pastors don't appreciate emotional abuse, the experience may just leave her feeling worse
My pastors told me to keep praying for my husband and be submissive to him - telling me God would bless me for it. So I did for years, until I couldn't take it any longer. A Christian psychologist helped me to realise that The Lord did not expect me to tolerate abuse of any kind. When I finally separated from my husband, both my teenagers were angry that I took so long. When we divorced, my son told me that I should frame my divorce certificate and put it on the wall. He and my daughter said they would have been better off coming from a broken home than suffering what they did. That was almost 20 yrs ago and me and my adult kids are still trying to overcome the symptoms of narcissistic abuse.
Please get legal advice and try to find support outside of the church.
Btw I'm still a Christian and have learned the hard way that The Lord will never put us in an abusive relationship for any reason - He is not cruel.
I would encourage you to read Enough is Enough by Dr David Clarke. He also has a UA-cam page.
SAHM of 4. I’ve been out for almost 3 months. It’s like taking a full breath for the first time in 15 years. God has provided in miraculous ways financially.
I also highly encourage you to find a support system of people who understand abuse. I didn’t understand the importance of that until after getting out. It is priceless.
Also, not all pastors/churches are the same. Find out your churches policy on divorce. Many have stances against abuse. Find one that does and you will likely find others that understand what you are going through.
Thank you sister, this is exactly 💯 in my life! He said, it wasn't to hurt me, it was to build me, and I will understand later, then it will makes sense! The Lord has released me from this marriage and it will be finalized this December 2021! I watched God moved in a great way and watched miracles happened!!!! The Lord dosen't condone what they do. Vengeance is mine says the Lord, also for them being disobedient they too are going to go through it as well, for not changing, not being repentant, and not allowing God to do the work in them, thank you for these messages God bless you Sister!
Thank you for sharing Angela. May the Lord guide you and be with you as your divorce is being finalized. ❤️. I pray many blessings in this next season of your life. 🕊💕
I love what you wrote this is truth. I needed to see this.
The holy Bible says seek the kingdom of God first this laidy is wrong in scriptures perspective and in relationships learn what narcissistic even means shes wrong 🌬🤡🎭💎🌪🛶🤍🗽💎we're victims and survivors
@@ShaneenMegji ur wrong completely ur narcissistic misguided and misguiding them they are victims of abuse and others are survivors or others killed 🤍🗽💎👨✈️💖👻💎👩✈️💖👻💎🛶🌬🤡🎭🌪
Yes this is why david eventually prayed psalms 109
When I first got in a relationship with my narc ex I thought he was an answer to my prayers. When he cheated on me and my marriage broke up, and I realised he was a narc, I questioned God, why? I now know the beginning of our relationship was love bombing and why I thought he was an answer to my prayers. Its also good to know that God can turn the bad marriage I was in for good. Since being in a relationship with my ex I've learned so much about myself. And I think I had to go through that to know what I know now
me too
@Doony Fam Hence, your testimony. In order for you to share your story you must live the story. One can not testify of anything unless they go through something.
This is my story too
@@shannonbaker316 May I suggest, you investigate these approaches
so as to help narcissits, BEFORE entering a relationship:
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Take care
Yesssssss me 2….. learned how to love me
You have pegged my relationship to a T. I was called back to this relationship that I left. I knew that God called me back to it. I am now stronger in God than I have ever been. The narcissist does not affect me as before. I see him for who he is and aware of his ways. God has truly blessed me. I am blessed that God has brought me to your videos! I will continue to watch!!
Wow! Thank you for sharing your testimony Jeanie. It is not very often that people are called back to a narcissistic relationship and gain victory. So thank you for sharing! I bless you on your journey. And thank you for your kind words about my channel! 💕😊
I too feel called back recently. Now with Jesus in my corner. Holy Spirit guide me. Thankful for full armor of God. I have come to realize the devil had a target on his back at such a young age and God has a purpose for him as well. We both have trauma, childhood conditioning and personality disorders, time to defeat the demons together with Jesus and Gods foundation at our center.
I desire kingdom marriage for Gods glory and salvation of others.
@@heyonope7682 Amen! God has purpose for us all and if we follow his call all things work for the good. I believe this. It is difficult path but as you say, thankful for full armor of God. God gives us power over all our enemies. Things are much better here and studying Gods word together has proven very productive. I wish you the best. God Bless you both.
Thank you !!!! I'm going to lift you up in prayer, in agreement with your prayers and Gods perfect will. God does not want any of his children to perish. I had 4 years away from him to heal with Jesus. All soul ties broken withered at the root & yet im called back. Use me and equip us oh Lord 🙏
@@heyonope7682 Just remember God is not the author of confusion, and has called us to live in peace. If the relationship causes strife and confusion, it may not be God that has called you back to it. God may have a purpose for your ex, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a part of it. I’m praying for your healing, and for you to exercise discernment in Jesus’ name. God bless 💓
I do relate to your point about being refined by a narcissist. My husband pointed out unpleasant character traits of mine. And even though he wasn’t soft or kind about it, it has really blessed me to see my blind spots and have the Father’s help to change those offensive parts of me.
Thank you immensely. I had a narc family, a narc husband, and a narc boss who collectively brought out the best in me. I never would’ve reached for the stars unless I had to-and I certainly did. Much to their dismay and disgust, I reached my star.
Awesome
I love that you did this!
Yes yes 🎉
Everything you said has happened in my life. I have grown so much in the Lord. I’ve been married to a narc for 44 years. It’s amazing the peace that God gives me through the abuse.
Do you just ignore ? I cannot stand the hate and cannot sleep, I am in another room now.
I get that you have peace...but will you continue to stay in the relationship with abuse because you have peace?
Im also having a second thought if im gonna still go on with this abusive relationship. My husband never ever admitted any mistake even though its crystal clear that hes cheating. He refused to apologize thinking that he never done anything wrong. He is abusive and manipulative there were times im thinking if its worth continuing
I Hope you're well and Continuing to Living the Abundant Life Christ died for you. You are Worthy and Deserve it.🙏💟God doesn't want us to Stay in Abuse.....💔 The Spouse that comes from God would Not Abuse..
I would so love to correspond with you! I am in the narc relationship for 20 years. Because of boundaries in place I am able to keep living with him, even though it is hard. But this video is so true and I would have been a mediocre Christian if there is something like that, without the adversity to draw me to Christ time and again. But I long for someone to talk to who is in this turmoil who has found peace in God.
Lol...I really needed to hear this...I try to go places with my husband and have a nice time, but it almost always backfires on me. It happened again yesterday. I had to drop my husband off at home then go run an errand. I was yelling at God for an explanation. Then your video shows up today. I know God listens and hears us. But it always amazes me when he answers.
Shaneen Megji:
Thank you for stating the fact that it's not that easy to just leave when you are in a situation.
That's what I can't understand. Why am I trapped in this hell of a relationship with no way out. No family, no financial freedom. Physical limitations. I definitely feel like a failure because I made such a bad mistake by marrying this man and devoting my life to him. He has betrayed me in every way. I am trying to hang on to Hope...but things always fall through. My precious dog is my great source of love and I am so grateful for him.
I have the same problem.
No finance so it's difficult to leave
@@kathleenmorris9309 May I suggest, you investigate these approaches
so as to help narcissits, BEFORE entering a relationship:
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Take care
Exactly. When finances etc are shared, it's very difficult, and so hard to see a way out, even with constant prayer 😓
@@braveheart977 SOUNDS LIKE MY SITUATION. I AM NOT MARRIED TO THIS MAN BUT AM PHYSICALLY DISABLED, SUFFER FROM ANXIETY/DEPRESSION/SEXUAL TRAUMA (REPEATED OVER AND OVER THROUGHOUT MY LIFE) AND AM TRYING TO BE A GOOD CHILD OF GOD. HE TAKES THE DOG AWAY FROM ME AND LEAVES ME ALONE AT THE HOUSE AS MUCH AS HE CAN HE HAS CHEATED SINCE DAY ONE. I WS BLIND TO THIS BUT I ASKED GOD TO OPEN MY EYES, FOR DISCERNMENT, AND FOR TRANSPARANCY TO SEE WHO IS SAFE AND WHO IS NOT. HIS FAMILY (AND MINE EXCEPT FOR MY DAD) HAS ALCOHOL/DRUG/PROSTITUTION PROBLEMS AND DOES NOT WANT TO CHANGE. IT IS EMBARASSING TO BE WITH HIM OUT IN PUBLIC AS HE HAS PERVERTED WAYS AND IT IS SICKENING TO ME. I WILL NOT ALLOW HIM TO SEE OR TOUCH ME. I AM GOD'S CHILD AND WILL PURSUE HIM UNTIL HE COMES TO TAKE ME HOME! GOD BLESS ALL OUT THERE FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT!
I stayed for 14 years. He claimed he was a believer in Christ, but near the end, he would cuss God out and flick God off as I bawled my eyes out. He loved making me cry, staring at me from the other side of the room, glaring at me. Never once did he comfort me or hold me...it was hellish. Can you imagine being with your spouse all those years and NEVER being comforted???
I have learned SO much through that hell, and I've come to realize my father is a covert Narc, and my mom and siblings are his enablers. This is so painful but God has been teaching and growing me so much!! I now have an identity in Him! I have boundaries! I have self worth and self love ♥️ The Godly kind 😊
I am remarried to an amazing man and we pray for the Narcs in our lives and pasts every day. We are both scapegoats of our families and still we are learning so much good stuff!
God is amazing....I see a lot of what God was and IS teaching me.
He never left me in that nightmare existence. When I would bawl my eyes out on the floor of the bathroom, I felt His presence and thanked Him for whatever it was He was doing in me and around me. I am in awe of God everyday! When I left the ex Narc, He showered me with blessings!
Readers, if you are married to a narcissist, pray to God for HIM to end your relationship. I asked God for a green light~ and the next day: there it was! My ex randomly brought up me going to jail for our back taxes (the ones HE would not let me pay) and the business he had made me open in MY NAME!! 😢😮 Rose colored glasses were slapped off my face with that comment.
Cling to Jesus, throw yourself at His mercy and wait on Him to move you through the situation!
Praying for all of you!
He has used this situation to teach me to forgive quickly.
Excellent video. I am stronger, more loving of myself, and more aware of evil people since my experience with a narc.
Narcissist s want to change you into what they want you to be , not what you are by your own nature. You only lose your self confidence as you listen to their abusive comments and outranges. They can never be good because of the approach they use in talking to you, always condescending, patronizing and talking down on you. It is difficult to listen to someone who wants to change you to be like them whilst you also are a unique individual who needs to be respected as such. Who said their way of being is the best? You can only learn who they are and respect the way they do things but copying them or listening to their comments can only bring you down. Their toxicity can only help other narcissists like them may be.
On point👍
Was so alive, a prayer warrior, asked to move with the evangelist when he and his wife were to move, like family.
He drowned, a strong swimmer. Before his time. Church members encouraged the marriage, some didn’t. We had masses of teaching over years. A survivor of years of incest, god had rebuilt. At 12 had become a Christian and not allowed to go to church. Spirit led to repent and heal many things. Got to 19/20 and dating, church members. Knew needed to be careful because of that personal past and a relationship to support that healing. Self worth, love and be loved. The evangelist was also a teaching gift. All the gifts. Able to discern others but when someone like that comes along the demonic force behind them blinds you by love bombing. Just a non Christian acquaintance from a few hours away, so no one knew him. Praying for salvation for ages as he would visit and hang out. He had no friends where he lived, a stuffed shirt. Some asked about whether this or that….things that learnt belong to spirit of ahab. He didn’t talk much and not of spiritual things. Was Satan happy to see me grow out of what had been and work against the strong holds. As that young teen asked for wisdom. Was the friend at school to help and older than my years.
When being with husband to be when the acquaintance started, always blocked talking about god by the verse to not cast pearls before swine. He only went to church after 8 months when said that would not marry non Christian. Christians said stupid things about set it free and if it comes back, marry a friend because sometimes love doesn’t last. He denied the prophetic words given to me about him, but they came true. He had already wounded after the engagement, I had to wear the guilt of all of what he had spent courting when he couldn’t afford it.
Had a disturbed spirit getting closer to the wedding, that shouldn’t be making parts of the real old school vows, didn’t make oaths to god. Told by some just normal jitters. Not for who I was.
Walked down that aisle with the spirit saying had thrown away my life, even though he had made all these promises. He had just made a vow of love and some months later when living thousands of miles from family and friends he says that he never loved me. We didn’t know his family as too far away .
Lay down with dogs….
So much was preached about being unequally yolked but not how to identify the traits of a wolf in sheeps clothing. Had a couple times of being woken by demonic presences after being married. Living in a spiritually hard place, but had before. These were dark.
When he was bringing me down back then the spirit said that by marrying him was now exposed to attacks from the enemy and sickness. When he raped could see the darkest soul. Go forward, cold to children so that caused more deep hurt, was changed, the times urged to leave from within told not too. Had a massive desire for it to be made right, but also needed family and spiritual support to leave…not there.
People with Asperger’s and lack of emotion cannot be normal. Listening to a talk by two mothers of their offspring. Knowing that all that had been sucked out of me and the children wasted. Christian counsellor said impossible, prayer will not work,
Too late..had been crippled but he was still full of hate and was having the garden ripped apart and I went to speak to him and the blackest look came at me and the manifesting of Satan, reached out and felt my heart and soul physically ripped out of the body, soul knew was dead
Exactly. You lose your identity trying to improve yourself according to their criticism. And their goals is not for you to be better but for you to lose your goals, waste your time, serve them and to erase your identity, and make you doubt yourself.
THANKYOU !!!! It has been very confusing for me the past 29 yrs ! I feel much better now understanding my reason . I knew God knew my heart . Tough being married to a bibical , grandious narc . Good qualities but absolutely no boundaries and canntwist the bible to accommodate his needs . I've been seperating myself from him because i've lived under his umbrella for so long i have to have MY life back with God and what God has in store for me 🙂🙌
Your spouse sounds similar to mine biblical Christian narc man. This has the makes for a lot of guilt when attempts from me to complete separation from him
I chose to stay…. Even after 25 years!
It was my Sin that got me into this marriage with No boundaries or caution, jumped in.
I’ve been slowing disintegrating, as he has torn me down inch by inch.
However! The last 6 years I’ve been taking my stand and telling him, I will Not tolerate your Verbal Name calling, and I walk AWAY.
He now is in the throes of a Full Blown tantrum malicious style . And he will go and preach this week. Hmmm…. yes I guess if I choose to stay..
I Must Empower myself by the Grace and Strength of The Lord.
I stay BUSY BUSY BUSY.
“Gotta Go!”
“No time to talk, sorry!”
“I’m so tired, gotta go lay down”
Until Christ comes in the sky, or he takes off and leaves me…. Gods Love & Grace stays and leads me❤️
I pray FOR YOU
I experienced all 5 of these benefits. I’ve been married to a narcissist for 4-years and god used it to actually heal me long time wounds and trauma. That’s sounds so incredibly bizarre because it’s abuse, but it forced me into a relationship with Christ so deep that he truly used these “lemons” to heal me. Amazing our god is that great that he can use abuse to heal. Amazing. ❤
1 Fault finders
2 Be able to be desensitized
3 Train to abide on God's Peace
4 Training to go beyond your limits
Unrealistic demands
Other environments wouldn't put so much on you
5 Strengthening yourself with inner strength to deal with anything, and to find God.
Thank you!
AMEN
Totally needed this...your message really encouraged me...so many times dealing with the abusive person, I forgot to look after myself that the Lord loves me and wants His very best for me...and dealing with my heart and lessons Im learning through this..the word of God is so powerful...look forward to this passing and what God has for me...🌹💕thankyou once again..I love the biblical perspective on this subject..
Thank you Nancy! 😊. I’m so glad this video was helpful. I pray many blessings and special encounters with the Lord. 🙏🏽💕
I've done the same thing ! We got this girlie !
Me too… well said.
@@carolchimelis4533 May I suggest, you investigate these approaches
so as to help narcissits, BEFORE entering a relationship:
ua-cam.com/video/qStUsKsJ_9k/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/WkxSyv5R1sg/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/phHib5VaCeE/v-deo.html
CURE the Narcissits before yoking yourself to a Narcissist
Take care
Love the spiritual aspect on this.
Please do a video on the religious narcisstic.I thought I had a good guy who went to church several times a week prayed daily,read spiritual things...he just did not walk his talk... The lack of Being responsible, accountable,have integrity to keep his word and lack of self control over his anger,fears,insecurities was unbelievable and he projected onto me, he needed to control me cuz he couldn't control himself.. I learned not to take personally or react back with the same negativity or verbal abuse he used which strengthened me. I told him ..you will not drag me into your demonic pit with you. I led by a godly example...
That put it back on him and he hated that! It's like dealing with a child throwing a tantrum. And a bully!
Weak in spirit,not the godly man they claim to be and too fearful to face their imperfections to get the real help they need.
Wow this is truth. You nailed it.
Same here, seen himself as my saviour, "to save me"; "like the woman at the well". Tried to get me to admit that his sin was my own... after 8yrs marriage, finally told him I wasn't drinking his kool-aid any longer, 5 months no contact (although he still trying to hoover, he's 67yrs old, 10 yr age difference, but he knows no one else will put up with his pharisees attitude & heart) I feel as though he just used me, mostly for sex, as he's an admitted sex addict and the narc supply. Any emotion exhibited was only during the/any love-bombing...
I've rededicated my heart to Jesus and my healing journey.
Thank you for these videos! Very enlightening to assist with the spiritual warfare 🙏❤🙏
I going through the exact experience. I married him because he claims to be a Christian. He lies against me and convinces everyone in church that I am the problem. Only a few people who are close to me believe me. He turned his family against me. I wail to God everyday for help. I have three children and that kind of ties me down. Please join me to pray to God 🙏 for deliverance. The relationship is so empty, no communication at all for the 7years+
Very true. My narcissist ex helped me to be more humble helpful to humanity closer to God caring for others. I developed so much mental strength.
Really? That is amazing. My narcisstic family almost drove me to suicide and two years of no contact I still feel a bit vulnerable. Their campaign against me was horrific. You did well. Bless
@N G I am sorry .Please takes the times to listen to some great motivational speeches listen to God words and spend times with him.Don't allow the narcissist to win you're beautiful and smart because you're a child of God Don't ever allow a miserable human being to force you to think about suicide.
Being with a narcissist almost took my life.
I thank God I escaped alive not without chronic diseases that I’m still on medication after almost two years of no contact.
This has really helped me understand why I’m with a narcissist and still have the peace of God to deal with them.
I’m so glad. Praise God. 🙏🏽
My own mother!!! I was traumatized badly my peoples!! CPTSD. But thank you Lord. To You be the glory and all praises!!! Thank you Jesus!
I’m so glad you did this video. I’m 72 and my 51 year old son lives with me. My husband died 3 months ago. My son lives with me because he is disabled with heart failure. He is verbally very abusive to me and often humiliates me in public . There’s a lot of gaslighting going on and sometimes I think I can’t take it anymore and I don’t want to live this way. I own my house so I can’t just move out. He has no place to go and no income. But I know God is working in this situation.
@Welcome's House no, I have a sweet daughter. She’s a real blessing.
If your son is disabled, he may qualify for in home care visits, as well as public assistance for scheduling rides to the store or doctor so that you don't have to help with that, or at least not as much. I pray that might be available to you to create more boundaries for yourself.
Also, I do not know if you are collecting on your husband's work record for social security, but your son may qualify for an additional amount that they do not inform you about unless you look into it yourself. If he was disabled before either 22 or 21 ( not sure ) and you have records, then he should qualify for a higher amount based on his father's work record as an adult disabled child, that may help him live somewhere on his own. There are also group homes that may assist for low rent.
I pray that since he is abusive, he may find housing elsewhere with public assistance for the disabled and that your daughter may help figure that out.
I wouldn't bring it up as a consequence though, unless you are sure it is available first. Because unless he is mentally disabled, then that behavior...while it can be forgiven, it needs to change.
You are providing for him, it is a blessing. He could at least be quiet rather than abusive 🙁. Praying for your situation.
@@peachbun u are not talking like a Christian but the world. Yes her son should not talk to his mother that way but we do not know his reasons & what his issues are with his mom & dad & his upbringing prior.
Don't give advice that could tear up a family & make life worse for the poor & needy. Are we perfect ?
@@bettyparker3476 I don't know how you determine that I'm not talking like a Christian. If she needs help, she needs help. You should not encourage someone to suffer abuse as if that is God's will. Yes sometimes we do endure certain things, but we can also have other options to help the situation too.
Of course I do not know their whole family history, and I do not need to know. Obviously this woman is elderly and alone dealing with this situation. She herself points out that he has no income, and so he can't go somewhere else. So if there were a way for him to have income, he could even move to an apartment down the street, you don't know. That is not tearing up a family, but maybe helping to bring healing and relief.
Nobody deserves abuse kick him out! This is elder abuse get social services to remove him Jesus doesn’t expect anyone to suffer at the hands of an abuser or be a doormat. Maybe then he’ll wake up and change I’m disabled with a rare painful neurological disease never would I ever abuse anyone especially someone helping me. ❤
Yes, to say it was GOOD that I was afflicted! I have never been so close to him. I am aware of my idolatry now. I am also aware of the mercy and love Yaweh has. 🙏🏽💓
I'm married to a narcissist, and this message has blessed me beyond measure. Thank you so much for taking the time to post it!!!
The narcissist can put you in the wilderness like no other person can
You bring a fresh perspective. My walk with God has grown exponentially. And He has shown me thru the narc where I need to grow. In my life, whenever something really bad happened to me it was always followed by something 100x better. I trust this is God's favor. He fought my every battle and I think He held my hand and led me out of my valley of despair in the last few months. Now I want to take His hand and hold on tight as I learn to walk in the light. Thank you.
AMEN A fresh perspective can only come through the Wisdom of the Holy Spirit which dwells within Her/Us.....by Which I believe Shaneen is teaching us when she References the Scripture with such Understanding. As Jesus taught us to do.
This is so insightful, and so true! I find your contact very refreshing. I was married to a narcissist for 7 1/2 years. I watch these other videos about what a light we are and how wonderful we are and they are terrible. I know for a fact that I definitely had my faults, and yes, the narcissist pointed out all of them. And then some. But God used it all. He doesn’t waste a hurt.
Once again, the Holy Spirit spoke to me through you. I've been so confused and troubled, because many experts (including Christians),have recommended leaving the narcissist. But, it's easier said than done. Have prayed and prayed because God is the author of peace and not confusion. He gave me an answer through you. Thanks so much.
if God himself left Satan on his own because he is so bad, then who are you to continue putting up with a nascist. may be you want to commit suicide.
I understand everybody’s story is different (similar probably), but still different. But one thing I learned is that usually a narcissist can only change once they are brought to rock bottom because they have zero insight. ‘Loving’ them more only gives them further grounds to abuse you. But we all have to make decisions for ourself, even if that means choosing to stay in your abusive marriage until the day you die, and being insanely heartbroken with a broken spirit at the end. But what is the fruit in that? My grandpa was the worst narcissist, and my grama who is 92 is still devastated by him (even though he died years ago), and even though she has dementia now she still continually talks about the heartbreak and pain he brought her. She was sooo loving and kind. But he never changed.
@@hildehausikujohannes7664 only God can answer that question. That's between her and God 🤷🏽♀️
@@hildehausikujohannes7664 that’s a rotten thing to say.
I think you have to be careful before you make a decision to stay as a narcissistic will never change unless they are truely broken by God and by you staying you are enabling them to carry on with no consequences for their sin and therefore no motivation to truely repent. I have left my narcissistic after years of unrepentant lies and betrayal and put him in the hands of God. Only when he is alone can he ever think of
turning to God. While you prop up his ego with your sacrificial love he will believe he has no need of the sacrifice of Jesus
Amen
God is showing me what unconditional love is and what forgiveness means and it’s literally stretching me and I’m so thankful for my trials now and no longer feel sorry for myself
This video just answered the very question I have been asking God during prayer recently. Thank you. 🙏🙏🙏
Wow, that is exactly what I told my ex narcissist. I was there for a season for him but knew it would never be long term. My peace and joy immediately came back when I went no contact. I am so thankful to God for His deliverance.
Thank you! I needed someone to point out the "God" relationship that helps to live with a narcissist. No one else has done that before but it really helps!
Amen sister🙏🏼God has us in his hands
It definitely has brought me closer to God. Thank you for this video 🙏🏼
I'm so glad! Bless you Deborah. 🙏🏽💕
Looking at the world through lenses I've never seen before is actually a super freeing thing. Seeing other narcissists has enabled me to see myself more clearly and repent. Feel like I can actually breath now.
It has trained me! It almost killed me a few times, which has made me wake up to what God really wants from me!!!❤
I have become much more independent. I go away from home often to escape the abuse. Always alone, on my own. So I had to put boundaries in place, do what I intend doing without being sweet talked out of it, be firm, save money for my escapes and mostly use this alone time to pray and meditate. I am not so emotionally invested anymore and I've learned that one creates one's own happiness, regardless of the people around you.
Hi Hester! Ek hoop die SA in jou naam staan vir Suid-Afrika? En Hester is 'n super Afrikaanse naam?? 😀
Wil net sê, ek kan so relate. Ek vlug elke oggend uit my huis uit en gaan werk by familie se huise of koffie shops. Ek's ook nie meer emosioneel invested in man nie, sukkel nou ook om aan hom te raak of soen. Ek is basically alleen in hierdie 'verhouding', verwaarlosing en indifference is aan die orde van die dag. Soveel so dat dit nou my normaal is. My arme kinders is nie stupid nie. Ek sidder om te dink dat hul ook so 'n verhouding moet oorkom.. of dat my seuntjie soos sy Pa gaan operate as hy groot is. Ek is wel nou op die pad van selfpreservation - ek oefen, fokus op die Here en Sy liefde vir my, en ek maak werk daarvan om daar te wees vir my kinders. Die pyn van hierdie verhouding is soms oorweldigend! Ek wou net sê jou boodskap het by my geresoneer, jy's nie alleen nie. Baie liefde en sterkte vir jou. x
@@t-bird7496 Jip! Trots Suid-Afrikaans en suiwer Afrikaans. Ek is 10 jaar gelede geskei en het so 5 jaar later die man ontmoet met wie ek nou in 'n verhouding is. Ons het 2 jaar gedate en alles was goed. Die oomblik toe ek al my bekende goed agterlaat en saam met hom intrek toe begin die narsissisme uitkom. Hy het sy eiendom in Witbank verkoop (want ek het gesê oor my dooie liggaam bly ek daar!). Ek het in 'n cottage op my suster se kleinhoewe gebly. Alles het perfek gelyk. Hy was nie 'n blink Stefaans soos my eks nie, meer grof soos my pa. Wat kan nou verkeerd gaan? Saam is ons Thabazimbi toe en kort daarna agter 'n beter geleentheid aan Lichtenburh toe.
Lichtenburg. Ons boer vir 'n maatskappy. En hier in Lichtenburg het hy nou eers 'n varkerige grotman geraak. Ek dink hy was te bang om die stap alleen te neem en toe gebruik hy my om sy droom te verwesenlik. Nou is ek die huishulp, vloermat, seksslaaf, sekretaresse, kok ens en ek werk ook nog op die plaas ook saam met hom! Skielik gaan ons nêrens mee heen nie, hy kerm oor en kritiseer alles en daar is geen emosionele intimiteit tussen ons nie. Wel, ek raak elke dag slimmer en sterker! Ek is al 'n meester in die grey rock tegniek! En grense stel. Ek moet sê dit gaan nou al baie beter met my. Sterkte. Dis goor, so alleen verhouding waar iemand net nooit daar vir jou is nie.
Dankie en sterkte. Die seks is aaklig en ek vermy dit ten alle koste!
I've always been taught to believe that for every person that crosses our path is either to help teach us a lesson or to hurt us in some way but it's up to us to figure out what it is!
I had peeks of this insight while I was in the relationship. This is total confirmation. Thank you for this FRESH perspective! Praise God!
AMEN
Amen, Amen, Amen....I was "discarded" by narcissist ex wife...but I've never been closer to God in my life...TY!!!!!
Same here. First i was desesperate and now i am just enjoying the best part of my life ever with the Lord of the peace.
Thank you God for utilizing the narcissist to put me through the emotional grinder.
Just discovered this term for my daughter. So entitled yet running from responsibility and so manipulative with me. She uses flattery and then fault finding to a very hurtful degree. I'm her mom so I feel I have to protect her and can't abandon her no matter how abusive she is as I just see it as her trying to deal with trauma.
Exactly what we are going through. I will pray for you and your daughter.
It’s immaturity and trauma
Thank you so much for your message. I just got out of a 5 yr relationship with a narcissist husband. You nailed it, he did exactly what you talk about.
I learned to remain peaceful as the person mocked me for my physical injury he caused. The shock of his boasting revealed how deceived he was and still is to me. Though it hurt me deeply I let it go. The next day he had an accident that injured him the same. He cried for help, then went to the doctor my friend had recommended to me after several other doctors had misdiagnosed me. He never allowed me to go to that doctor. But I know now that God Father is displeased when his daughter is scorned. Thank you for your very thoughtful video.I will be sure to watch more now that I found you ❤
staying, continuing to leave with a nascist is like sacrificing your life to Satan, you are joining the corrus to help kill you.leave alone the nascist so that the nascist can have an opportunity to change 1 kolinte 5 : 13 don't be confused, nascist is a penalty disorder, he or she is the one that needs to change not you.do not suffer for other people, s Budden. kno your boundaries.
@Welcome's House Father Yah has strengthened me my whole life so that I truly know the pain of others. My testimony is when I comfort others by telling them exactly what they have experienced. They are surprised and tell me they'd never imagine I went through the same. When the joy of sharing how Jesus is our hope penetrates their minds, I'm blessed too. Thank you for your gift to pray for my healing, Welcome's House.
@@hildehausikujohannes7664 I really appreciate your advice. Thank you for caring. We have been separated for years so he involves others I warned about him with his problems. I'm free to pray for all of them and trust Father Yah.
I was in a ‘romantic’ relationship with a narcissist. God used my momentary lapse of reason to teach me about narcissism. Why? Because I have family members who are narcissists and I spent a lifetime so confused by their behavior. Once I learned what narcissistic personality order really means, I finally understood. Knowledge is power and while I can’t go no contact on them I can greatly minimize their impact on me simply by knowing what they are.
I so needed to be reminded!! I'm a super,sensitive empath... going on 12 years of trying to see light in a totally damaged dark heart... I search for the good in people and try to help pull them out of darkness by helping them find their shine... I feel people and energy so deeply that I can sense a person's mood when they enter a room without speaking a word... it is exhausting taking in so much, but it also has helped me to help those I feel need some kindness,compassion, or someone just to give a hug and some love... I love the golden rule... too much of the world,sadly forgot or never were taught....we all have value and deserve to be treated with kindness and dignity... GOD is LOVE... and in these 12 years with a narcissist, I've almost lost me several times... this feels like the year I make a full comeback!!... GOD Bless you all 💜💚🙏
Thank you again for tying together the Biblical and practical perspectives on dealing with Narcissism. The more we learn the mor God's word is proven trustworthy.
He makes sure that the student that is ready meets with a teacher, even from within, it will be provided! "Turn, turn"!
I was raised by a narcissist and got continuous feedback…. Negative… all the time. How is that supposed to help a child grow?
This is confirmation I’ve been married to a narcissist over 35yrs and I have have changed personally so much and his rejection has grown me and helping me to fulfill the Lord’s purpose ❤❤. Thank you for this.
You're still married to your narcissist?
O dear🥹 this is the first reassuring video that i’ve watched about narcissism; that doesn’t tell how i have ruined my life by being with one… i believe in blessings in disguise! Thank you so much🙏🏼✨
Thank You so much for your help! My son is a narcissist! I started my Spiritual Awekening Journey back on 2019, and my Faith, Strength, and Determination have grown stronger! I pray every day for him. He has been getting better little by little, but I leave everything in my Father Godly Mighty hands! He has the Power to change and to move Mountains! 🙏
I'm very positive and spiritual! I know I have more to work on myself! And I'm willing! I'm doing excellent so far! I'm here to do his work! This journey is just the beginning of my new life and enlightenemt with the Divine!🙏
Thank you for this video! I was scrolling through UA-cam and found this gem. This resonates very much with me and what I am currently going through. I truly believe that God allows trials and tribulations, based on scripture, and to find myself in closer relationship with God is the ultimate goal.
My experience is nothing like this, not until out of the relationship and coming to real understanding of what I was in. And that understanding was miraculously found, most don’t. It is NOT like you say, you are not “able” when you are truly being abused, you don’t trust your own thinking, you are brainwashed. I do believe in a building, a lesson that had to be learned, but it would be so self centered to think that God wanted this lesson for me at the expense of my children. I do thank God for His love and knowledge given to me.
Exactly right. Brainwashed.
I didn’t understand any of that
@ceegee2918 i agree. The brain fog and confusion has left me so different. My relationship with God is just not the same. I don’t know who to trust.. nevertheless , i pray i eventually find healing and that you have also
I was looking for a sane comment and finally I found it.
God sent her to me to build my character and show me that I'm worth more than I have allowed myself to have.
(I've spent my entire life shooting myself in the foot and settling for the bare minimum.)
I learned how to set boundaries, and have enough self respect to walk away if I'm being mistreated.
if you can, but God didn't put us on this earth for our own personal happiness. He died on the cross who knew no sin. Who am I to not expect to suffer? If God puts one in your life that makes it hard for you to run, than what this video is saying makes sense. It gives me a new perspective on narcissists. In my case it is family and neighbors
Thank you this video great information. I was with a Narcissist for 5yrs years. God gave me the Strength to leave. I have surrendered my life and heart to God 🙏❤
Excellent subject amd 5 explanations especially the Biblical one of David. The Joy of the Lord is my strength and He does keep us in perfect peace. He strengthens that peace in us the more we trust in Him
Amen 🙏🏽🕊
Thank you! My Mother was a Narcissist, and as a Christian, I knew I was to Honor her. This made the relationship hard when I could see her for who she was. I say (was as she passed 1 yr ago).
You have helped me process the WHY. I can now see clearly that my relationship with her for 65 yrs, did have a purpose.
Keep up the messages.
I soooooo appreciate how you’re doing this from a Christian point of view. I love it! Thank you for your obedience!
Definitely!
"When under trial, let no one say: 'I am being tried by God.' For with evil things God cannot be tried, nor does he himself try anyone." - James 1:13
I’m in a narcissistic marriage now. Im looking to God to keep me calm and at peace during this marriage. Im also praying to God to help me plant a seed in him to allow God to move in him.
I just up and left my husband with three kids. It's not worth it!!! And sometimes God can't work on them while you are still there being their empath..... they have to hit rock bottom in order to come to Christ, but when someone don't thk nothing is wrong with then, why would they give their life to Christ and fix their issues??!!
I'm telling you, for the sake of your own sanity. Leave him and don't let him know where you are going.
It will only get worst.
Oh and BTW, I recently was sent pics of him and his new woman that he told me he's moving in with her and getting engaged too, but fyi he won't divorce.
Bc he knows he divorce me, he lost his control over my ability to remarry.
Pain we ALL go through, it happens in relationships and we get over it, but SUFFERING IS A CHOICE!!!
You can't make the Narc too much responsible for your suffering when you are choosing to stay for years saying you are going to make it work with them. I would Hate to stay with the narc and look up 10 years later and it's even harder to move on and you are 10 years older. (That's what they want you to do, so you can feel lower and insecure and thk that no one will ever love you)
I married him, and left after 2 years dating and 2 years marriage, I couldn't take it anymore AND his true Colors and rage really really came out during the Separation and how he tried to torture and hurt me still even more bc I left him with other women, verbal abuse, and manipulation. I have three children, 5, 3, and 1. I'm proud of myself for making a plan to escape and executing it and to this day he doesn't even know where i live, I bring the kids to him everyother weekend only bc as per the court order visition, but in this day in age no woman should have to stay with a narcissist, it's not the 1940's And Because I love me and my children, and I want them to be better than him and have a normal child/adulthood, I will never go back!!!!
ONCE YOU KNOW, YOU GO!!!! AND NO CONTACT OR LOW CONTACT ONLY BC OF KIDS AND THAT'S THROUGH EMAIL ONLY. be smart about this and think if you want to endure another ___ years again with the narcissist? They don't change, bc it's not them it was never them.
They are 😈... I don't believe they will ever change. Pray for the courage and circumstances to leave this marriage. I desperately want to but can't because of finances
I will pray that your husband will change his ways by the grace of the Almighty. With God EVERYTHING is possible. And if u pray to Him and he will have a different plan for u he will show u and guide u anyway. We only have to stay connected with God. He can See our pain, he can See our hearts. If he will change is Gods plan, if he will lead u to leave him it will also be Gods plan. Just put it to God ,put it in his hands. He is compassionate and loving.
I am talking from experience. God has been guiding me through my own relationship with narcissist.
Take them to a Catholic exorcist
These are some of the hardest lessons to learn and take a look at the lessons, definitely valuable though! With GOD al things are possible
Yes they make you stronger for sure & will also strengthen your relationship with Jah as well!!
Shaneen, you just turned a negative into a positive. Being with a narcissist is definitely a storm but i also know God gives you peace at the end of the storm.
After 17+years of marriage I am just waking up to the fact that my wife has many covert narcissistic traits.
I have been completely naive.
She's been having an affair for a while now, while claiming she wasn't. Now that she knows that I know she's been rubbing my nose in it.
The difficult part of all of this is that I still have a great deal of love for her and probably always will. Day to day, she sends me kind txt messages while I'm at work. But I have seen messages pop up on her phone from time to time, where she is sharing deep private information about me with her boyfriend, often telling him derogatory things about me, how she hates living with me etc. She has always kept a list of wrongs against me. I have always been an incredibly hard-working, loving and respectful husband, giving her everything she's asked for financially and leaving myself with little to nothing. In the time I've been married, I have rarely ever raised my voice. Opposing someone who has covert narcissistic traits, is incredibly challenging. It is virtually impossible in most cases, to sway their opinion.
She is not a Christian and becomes agitated if she hears reference to scriptures. I've been a Christian for a long time and I believe this is God's way of teaching me about my own choices. Like a lot of people I have made a lot of bad choices in life.
I have been constantly pushed away
From a loving connection for the past decade or so, it's hard not to blame oneself. I'm talking about the push pull trait of narcissistic behavior. I just recently learned that this is a type of emotional abuse as well.
I feel like I'm clinging to a piece of Driftwood in the middle of an ocean and as awful as all of this is, I feel it has brought me closer to God and maybe it was part of his plan all the time, to bring me to my knees and to bring me to him.
I now have some daunting decisions to make if I want this nightmare to end.
If any of you are going through something similar I pray for you to have strength and to know that there are people in this world, who truly have love for you. We value true and honest love and know the real definition outlined in Corinthians 13.
You need to get out of the marriage she's unfaithful you have grounds to leave.
Yea really, a wicked unsaved adulterous wife can leave many soul wounds that could curtail your God given destiny.
I hope you can get out, this is not love but hate that she is giving you.
PLEEEASE get out! Leaving does not make you a bad person or bad Christian. God is not asking you to stay in this. Please do not allow religious guilt to keep you tied to this person. You have a purpose. Your purpose is not to serve her. You can't do what God has placed you here to do in this environment. Put your purpose first. God loves you and would not have you continue with someone that doesn't reflect His love. YOU ARE GOOD! You can pray for her at a distance.
Jesus said you can leave on grounds of audultery.
He's teaching me to _let go._
Praise God 🙏🏽
After recently finding out the name (Covert narcissist) of my "spiritual warfare", I've been pressing into God's view of what I believed would be my forever.
I have been deceived and even deceived myself when God reveled the truth to me. I didn't believe it for more than a year, but I get it now and love myself way more. My relationship with God is the best it's ever been and I look forward to the rest of what he is going to teach me. Hopefully next year I'll be single without a fight.
Thank you. I know that I am much stronger because of my relationship with a narcissist. I have come to realize that my mother was a narcissist. I just received the training video. I can’t wait to start it. God bless.
I entered a relationship with a narcissist and it made me go back to God, because of the unbearable pain. God showed me bit by bit why i should leave him, and finally gave me the words NPD as i was not very obedient about leaving him. That's what finally got me out of it when i realised what monster he was. 7 months and 20 days and still going of everyday tears and pain. The only good things that came out of it:
1. I immediately identified other narcissists of my family after reading a lot about NPD.
2. God became my first, last and only anchor.
3. I finaly could pinpoint my traumas.
4. I feel stronger and confident in my faith than ever before.
The trauma bond is still there, i still am angry, but im getting better. And im so grateful to God for the lessons!