@@rynnykitty6945 Yes. The instituted church was never God's template for fellowship and true growth. Narc's (Devil's) favourite playground ... Thanks pastors - NOT!
Yes agree. I know now that God removes to protect me and my spirituality. The removal is not permanent. On a daily basis, he is removed for an hour at a time when he seeks other company where we live in a community. I use these times of separation to pray and heal and welcome these pockets of time. I used to resent these times, bit now I understand and welcome it. Praise God.
@@jewels4817 thank you so much lot of people doesn't understand but I came to Jesus thanks to these auwful people, and years. And I thank Jesus for that. No they were atheists really covert ones mocked God. And the other were rc. Pervert narcissist. I can tell they are crual. I try to heal with Jesus and I 'm so glad to be liberated. Thanks to God. ✝️🙏❤️🩸📖 I thank God for that. It took me some month to get rid of culprit. ❤I am the auwful one
Oh yeah. He put out 2 trophies he had from our young days. So I put out all mine. 28 yrs. Done. He got a new girlfriend at work, gave me her diseases, and uses the gate at the HOA where they both work to make even getting clothing, a tortuous experience. I thought he was loyal. I knew he just sucked up my money like a hoover, but I thought he was too lazy to cheat. I wish I could go back, so bad, and never meet him.
@lizielita Praise all day music. Demons cannot have power in the sanctuary. Did it it worked. God began healing me of codependency and the spirit of PAIN. Deny self and we win. PlacingvHim back in His rightful place in that area. He then removed the enemy and I had PEACE. AND HE SHOWED ME THE LIE WHEN I RANDOMLY OPENED THE BIBLE...JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE PRIDEFULL AND WICKED, IT IS SIN. HE IS A GOD OF FREEWILL AND GRACE NOT BONDAGE AND JUDGMENT. NOT UNTIL THE SECOND ADVENT. THE WICKED ARE HERE TO CORRECT ( VESSELS OF WRATH) AND BRING OUT WHATS IN US. CHOOSE SUFFERING HUMILITY BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE HE IS. HE IS NOT LOOKING AT THE PRIDEFUL. HE IS ON THE CROSS IN CERTAIN AREAS OF OUR MIND, UNTIL WE LOOSE THE HOLY SPIRIT, WE DO THIS THROUGH...HUMILITY TO GOD. HE LED ME TO JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE WICKED, IT IS SIN. Itcsays too when you are healed you will tell others that God raises up the humble one. THAT IS THE MESSAGE FROM GOD. ❤️ HUMBLY SEEK AND RECEIVE THE GOODNESS OF GOD FOR IT IS CHASING AFTER YOU. ( THAT SONG CAME TO ME 4 XS IN 7 HOURS IN STRANGE WAYS. IT IS TGE TOOL TO USE AND SAYS SO IN THE LYRICS) HS GAVE ME THIS SONG TO KEEP ME IN THE PROTECTION OF GOD, TAKE EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE WITH THE WORD💥✝️❤️ PAIN IS A SPIRIT. THE WALLS OF JERICHO FELL BY PRAISE, WALLS/ MENTAL STRUCTURES IN THE MIND FALL BY PRAISE. ALOT OF PRAISE.
Praise all day music. Demons cannot have power in the sanctuary. Did it it worked. God began healing me of codependency and the spirit of PAIN. Deny self, and we win. Placing him back in His rightful place in that area. He then removed the enemy, and I had PEACE. AND HE SHOWED ME THE LIE WHEN I RANDOMLY OPENED THE BIBLE...JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE PRIDEFULL AND WICKED. IT IS SIN. HE IS A GOD OF FREEWILL AND GRACE NOT BONDAGE AND JUDGMENT. NOT UNTIL THE SECOND ADVENT. THE WICKED ARE HERE TO CORRECT ( VESSELS OF WRATH) AND BRING OUT WHATS IN US. CHOOSE SUFFERING HUMILITY BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE HE IS. HE IS NOT LOOKING AT THE PRIDEFUL. HE IS ON THE CROSS IN CERTAIN AREAS OF OUR MIND, UNTIL WE LOOSE THE HOLY SPIRIT, WE DO THIS THROUGH...HUMILITY TO GOD. HE LED ME TO JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE WICKED, IT IS SIN. Itcsays too when you are healed you will tell others that God raises up the humble one. THAT IS THE MESSAGE FROM GOD. ❤️ HUMBLY SEEK AND RECEIVE THE GOODNESS OF GOD FOR IT IS CHASING AFTER YOU. ( THAT SONG CAME TO ME 4 XS IN 7 HOURS IN STRANGE WAYS. IT IS TGE TOOL TO USE AND SAYS SO IN THE LYRICS) HS GAVE ME THIS SONG TO KEEP ME IN THE PROTECTION OF GOD, TAKE EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE WITH THE WORD💥✝️❤️ PAIN IS A SPIRIT. THE WALLS OF JERICHO FELL BY PRAISE, WALLS/ MENTAL STRUCTURES IN THE MIND FALL BY PRAISE. ALOT OF PRAISE. Also, they are vessels of correction sometimes. Unfortunately God said... He gave " them power over His children" but they went too far and will be punished for it. Breaking a person's or animal's ➡️ spirit is ...going too far.
Please Lord let this be long term removal. I've been through enough the past 18 years of this 28 year marriage with this man and his cheating, manipulation, narcissism, heartache. I need to heal and live a happy life now 🙏🙏
You can do this! You must get away, or start making the plan if you need to. I got away from mine and I’m probably only alive today because I finally left.
Codependency is idolatry of man and narcissism is idolatry of self. They are attracted to each other and they are tormented by each other to TURN THEM BACK TO GOD. BEEN THERE. GOD heals❤
Thank you. You’re the best!! I never thought I would be saying this but now 4 1/2 years after my covert narcissistic wife divorced me after 29 years of marriage I am beginning to see how God allowed that to happen to get her out of my life and so that I would bring God into my life. I had become a lukewarm Christian, but now I am on fire for the Lord and involved in three different ministries. God hates divorce, but he does a lot to happen and I have to believe he allowed this one to happen to bring me back to Him!!!!!
Amen brother! The same thing happened to me after eighteen years. Was on fire when I met her and she supposedly was converted, as I did feel the holy spirit come upon her and I believe that was the sign that god wanted me to be with her for so long. Though I kept having feelings of needing to get out of there, and eventually he brought someone else in her life to give me the out. Praise god as I am on fire, big time!
I was discarded in early January. Years ago the Holy Spirit told me he wasn’t going to be around long . It came out of the blue and I am happier now and I now see God’s plan for my life .
carry your cross and deny yourself. Go read your bible and apply it to your life. Christianity is NOT a feeling its a commitment to obey GOD over YOUR WILL till the end of your life.
?What if their hardened heart has made mine hardened? I tried, but the well has run dry. I am fighting to come back. I have hated and can't pray for them. I just can't yet. May God change me. I prayed. I distanced on God even. Horrible thoughts. You have enlightened me. But not there yet . Pray for me.?
I definitely have experienced the spiritual disconnect with my narcissist, absolutely!!! He's displayed cruelty, manipulation, and gaslighting. He's increased the frequency of his hatefulness. And he has now gone full discard of me, which, he thinks it's hurting me but in reality, I'm loving it! No longer do I hear his insults, passive-aggressive comments or ghosting. There were times when his smile seemed demonic and I sure don't miss seeing that!
They don’t change. Arguing with them is worthless. I’ve learned the hard way. I’ve mourned my relationship with him for years. Things can be going great, then boom he will blow up in my face, over and over. I’m tired..
Do we ever know what sets them off? Mother, ex-husband and both daughters, all personality disordered. Now I worry for my 2 year old grandson and his daddy. My daughter rages at them. She wasn't always like this. I feel responsible. I can't protect them so I petition God to look after them. Was told I was too sensitive growing up. I think it sabotaged my ability to trust my perception of people. Maybe this happened to you. Trusting our gut could have been a safety net from what would later befall us. When I meet someone for the first time, I do a quick take. Within a few minutes I know my comfort level or lack of one. I'm tired and not living under the same roof. I wish you peace and joy. Be kind to yourself and do this often. You matter. Easy to forget that. 😇
@@VictorianTexas I was frequently told “you’re too sensitive.” I’ve finally learned to love that part of who I am and no longer feel there’s something wrong with me. Divorced 35 years ago.
I've definitely felt the spiritual draining, and my relationship with GOD was slipping. We're in the " ghosting phase" I'm confused and had enough. GOD WILL be my #1. Am in so much pain, yet feel more peaceful. I never know what's going on with my daughter.
Oh man, I followed you all the way until you started talking about the divorce and "let no man separate what God has put together" but sooo many marriages, most of the marriages, God did not put together, they were outside of God's will from the very beginning.
Very true! Think of all the "marriages" that are based on dishonesty... one partner only in it for a visa/passport (immigration marriage fraud) or money or status, all the "marriages" that are only based on the man thinking with a bodypart other than his brain/heart (and soon getting bored because such relationships never last), and - the majority of marriages - where one party is loving and genuine but the other is an abusive narcissist whose only intention is to destroy his/her partner... All of the above are not marriages. They are scams. Any innocent party who got involved in that, ie the party who entered the marriage with a loving heart expecting to be married for the rest of his/her life, will have to realize that this "marriage" was a scam and that he/she therefore was never married. There was no husband or wife - there was only the devil!
@oldsouloriginal My ex and myself were saved in two different places at the same time without knowing. Answered my prayer, recently he got.... divorced but God is using both of us to grow in truth. GOD LEADS. HE revealed to me he healed my ex, so now I wait to SEE THE MANIFESTATION. NO CHANGE NO US. SAFETY AND God's will first. Stay safe always. Adding.. The Bible states that if a man and woman no longer want to be with each other, then let them go. It is written in the OT. The NT states that divorce is forgivable. You might want to get a teacher who can take the words in the Bible back to the original language in the transcripts and LEARN WHAT THE FACTS. How bless you. No harm, churches teach doctrines of man, ideology subversion. Began after WW2. Yuri Benmenov UA-cam ideology subversion is one of many sources. Oh, and for proper translation ifvthe Word of God ; SMYRNA CHURCH OF KOKOMO UA-cam. IF YOU WANT additional sources, let me know. You, too, can take every word back to the original transcripts for the proper meaning using THW COMPANION BIBLE BY KREGEL AND THE STRONG'S CONCORDANCE ❤️
THIS IS A REPLY for those who do not know what the Bible actually teaches concerning DIVORCE . Separation for sure. It is written what fellowship does light have with Satan 😳. God is using me and him to heal and restore, but we are divorced. God can separate and restore, trust His lead. AMEN 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️ ✨️The Bible states that if a man and woman no longer want to be with each other, then let them go. It is written in the OT. The NT states that divorce is forgivable. You might want to get a teacher who can take the words in the Bible back to the original language in the transcripts and LEARN WHAT THE FACTS are. God bless you. No harm, churches teach doctrines of man, ideology subversion. Began after WW2. Yuri Benmenov UA-cam ideology subversion is one of many sources. Oh, and for proper translation of the Word of God ; SMYRNA CHURCH OF KOKOMO UA-cam. IF YOU WANT additional sources, let me know. You, too, can take every word back to the original transcripts for the proper meaning using THE COMPANION BIBLE BY KREGEL AND THE STRONG'S CONCORDANCE ❤️
@@oldsouloriginal No. Marriage vows are sacred, regardless of consequences. The Bible says only for adultery is divorce justified. Of course, true abuse---REAL abuse, not mere "I don't like his tone of voice" bean hills---is already assumed (by Christ's holy character as well as common sense which He gave us all) to be grounds for divorce as well. Divorce, per the world's mamby-pamby logic, is repulsive to God. Unacceptable.
I resonate because I felt my divorce was God saying “I need you to get out of my way” because as long as I was there the blame could continue to be put on me. Now there’s only him and a mirror. And I am no longer in constant turmoil.
I wish the church had taught on this 20 yrs. Ago. But,I'm thankful 🙏 that many Christians are learning now and teaching this because it is rampant in the world.
You described my husband of 22 years to a T, TRUTH! God help me. He has cheated MOST of our marriage. The only time he is intimate is for control. He has 3 characteristics: Offense, Control and Anger. He doesn't talk of Anything that is SUBSTANTIAL. I have felt the growing underlying hatred whilst he lovebombs me with words and promises he never keeps. All the while I am passionate about my relationship with the Lord and seek to serve Him More.
Everything you said is spot on and is helping me answer some tough questions. My Ex did display these characteristics and no fruit. I was in despair and felt so far from God although I was pressing in with every ounce of my being. God brought it to an end in a way that only he could and he delivered me. Now I'm healing and on the other side with a court ordered no contact for a year. This was a 36 yr abusive marriage that ended with financial devastation. Im 62 disabled and living without a home or any kind of provision for my future. It's scary but I trust God to make a way for me where there seems to be no way. 🙏
You know them by their fruit! Acts like a Christian, knows the word but not walking in it! He pointed out others faults but not his own! God told me to "end it now"! Thats what I did!
Not every Christian, we don't get along with, is a narcissist! There are still different backgrounds, different education and different mindset... Do I have to tolerate every stupid talk because the person claims to be a christian?
I begged God for years to help me respond correctly, but I got so broken in the end I said "please give me strength to keep handling this, or else remove him". And he left!
@beverlyfox1688 me in a nutshell. I was always a reactor to their b.s. and have been deemed a horrible person for standing up for myself and my son and husband. No contact really is the best way to go, but it's soo hard when it's your parents and inlaws .
Yup,that's me as well,except I'm still waiting for God to remove this covert narc away from me,I don't know,maybe I'm too damaged now for it to make a differrence,I'm a christian but because of the toxic abuse I swear more than ever and have a very bad attitude,kinda pessimistic,a broken vessel no doubt,but your comment is what I've always said,really nobody has the strength to endure the continuous assault from a monster,who knows what will transpire in my life,only God knows right?😇
Ahhhh, maybe I'll try that tacticaler approach!!! We're divorced, but we've both been in and out of the hospital a few times EACH this year of 2024. The election was exciting with a positive result for us and the people around uss. Between hurricanes 3 good ones that kept us in the National news. Ian, 2018 got me the worse, 30" water made it's way under my travel trailer, in it also! They love to soak up the sun.
AMEN to all, Kris! Ex of 6 years after a 34 year abusive marriage would like to be restored but there has been no heart change. I’m thankful for the growth God has worked in me.
Not only was there spiritual disconnect, we were spiritually unequally yoked. We even tried Godly marriage counseling where he blew up on the counselor out of anger to the point the minister asked if I was being abused at home. I was told I was the narcissist and even still question if I am. The emotional & psychological abuse is so damaging. Secular and Godly therapy was so helpful. To whomever is reading this, you WILL get through this. You WILL overcome. You WILL find joy again. This video is so comforting, thank you Kris Reece🤟🏾
God is my defender in battle. God is my provider and my provision. God is Love. Praise Almighty God. Praise Lord Jesus. Thankyou Holy Spirit. Thankyou Guardian Angels Thankyou Devine helpers Thankyou Universe Amen
Very wise observation at the fourth minute! It happened to me recently. When my narcissist stopped growing in Grace, the eyes and ears of his soul stopped picking up God’s messages. Yes, the fruits of Grace are the signifiers of a God- fearing person. Their dark oppressive character was affecting my relationship with Christ. So I prayed and the Lord answered my prayer in a flash! I am free to love Jesus with all my strength and all my love.
Wow, God bless you Kris. I didn't even know what a narcissist was, but I was married to two! The last one was passive aggressive, said he was a Christian but in 16 years there was never any fruit, everything you said was spot on! God removed him and protected me, because I promised to stay.
Yes, please pray for my marriage. I really want God to deliver every demon spirit out of it the spirit of control, manipulation and condemnation and narcissism in Jesus mighty name.
I've been cut off and I know God is protecting me. The one was my SIL, and now I've lost 3 grands and my daughter.... I've been around narcs my whole life, and just now learning what they really are....In a Biblical way, they are self worshipers. I love this term, but it still dosent make the loss easier. Thank you for what you're doing, Kris. I will be looking to Jesus for this latest situation, just like He has helped me through the others...
@@elaineburke2005 I lost my daughter, and her kids because now she won't have anything to do with me. My mom and ex husband were narcs too Twenty five years of living with ex but continues I In with my daughter who said she disowned me
@faithwhite3175 I'm so sorry! I, too, grew up around and was the victim of an adult malignant narcissist. I ended up only dating narcissists and was married to one for 25 years. He turned my only child/son against me, and I pray daily for God to break the strongholds of narcissistic deception off my son, he is all I had in this world after my mother died. I have to work on forgiveness and letting God take care of this situation daily.
God protected me. After knowing him (the ex) and being married for 17 years, he told me a story about the cops asking him about a murdered woman. I never put it together back then, but God did certainly see and know things I didn't. I once suggested that we confess our sins and pray for each other that we may heal. He turned into a vicious animal at the idea that he confess anything - now I know why.
This really spoke to me. I have an estranged daughter whose husband won’t allow her to have anything to do with her family. Thank you for your ministry.
THIS!! Amazing video. My son-in-law gaslit me then a few weeks later my daughter did.. and continues to whenever they get a chance. They have shut me and my husband out and won’t let us see our grandkids. It’s gone on 18 months now. All the things you’ve described fits this situation perfectly. Thank you for doing this video! I am excited to soak in Jesus and find out what He is doing in me. I’ll be able to stop asking all those impossible questions now, yay! Blessings to you.
I saw this on a comment section somewhere. "Codependency is idolatry of man. Narcissism is idolatry of self. They are attracted to each other and tormented by each other TO TURN THEM BACK TO GOD. BEEN THERE. GOD heals ♥️"
God removed so many so quickly for me. I haven't looked back. I had a spiritual awakening and it was loud and clear. I have very few around me now. But I have room now for the right ones to come in. 😊😊
Wow I thought for many years that there would be answers for my separation and later divorce. I struggled a lot because I believe in the unity of the family. But Until this year after 9 years since he left us God talked to me during a prayer time and wispered into my heart ... I made him to leave you! and looking back I understood why... It has been a challenge every day to deal with all responsabilities as a single mother of two teen boys. l have done a lots of mistakes and asking God to lead my family to transform my children's hearts and guide them to salvation. Looking at him as a father nowadays as a role model... there is no way!! I am trying to do my best to rase my children to become good men and good christians, lots of tears every night, a lot of praying every day... Please pray for me and for all single christian mothers is not easy at all. But God has the power, the glory and the magesty to transform our situations and give us strenght, peace, and hope to overcome them.
God was really talking through you today! I really felt like you were talking to me around sign #2. im so glad i found you channel. its very therapeutic. Thank You and God Bless ❤
Yes there definately was a spiritual disconnect. I called out to God and said I can't take this anymore. The Lord immediately stepped in and the truth was exposed. It was miraculous in watching how God unfolded everything and how much the Lord gave me peace through such traumatic time.
Kris, I know the Lord sent you/your channel. I'm the person over here asking "what have I done, what have I done?!" I pray for this person everyday, and pray her heart is healed. I know I know i know the Lord is protecting me. Thank you Jesus 💜 🙏
The narcissist behaving people(some family members)brings a disruptive spirit to someone’s spirit who is healthy…. So I have learned to distance myself from disrespect… prayerfully always but let them go their way with their lies and I’ll go my way with truth👏🏼
Oh wow! Right on! You nailed it. Thank you so so so much. I'm convicted that God really means and protects ME, while having a spouse with a more and more hardened heart😢. I even sometimes don't know how/what to pray for him.... God is using you big time in my life's situation! Thank you, dear Kris!❤
I completely understand how you feel. I was so exhausted and frustrated with the state of my marriage and his behavior that I didn't know what to pray for anymore. But I finally got to that point. I realized I had to lay it at the feet of my Lord & Savior Jesus. In that moment, I said God, your will be done because I don't know what else to do or ask for. From then on God began to deal with him in a very, very, very fierce way. When you truly let go, and let God handle it, He will! It's called true surrender. My best wishes to you in getting to that place. It brings a ton of peace to you, "a peace beyond all understanding" as the book teaches us.
I was married for 34 years and when the covert narcissist was in the discarding stage by filing for a divorce. She did it without any discussion. She started screaming about nevergoing to church again. Screams come flying out of her mouth when l suggested to her that she read the Bible tonight. Her eyes seemed to have a black eye that seemed to have a lena that covered her eyes with all black for a couple seconds and I did a double take and shook my head, "did I really see that?" She is not the same person I married, nothing like it. She told me as she was getting ready to leave to go have fun roller skating, she said, "you aren't good enough," I need someone who has more so I can have fun and go places and do stuff I never got to do. She would destroy the marriage for her narcissistic pleasure. I a listening to your videos and a few others. Thank you so much for being here. I didn't even know what was happening until she said, "I need some space." I was sure the Lord was telling me that this was the end of the line. I tried to hold on, but things just got worse and worse. I a out of the marriage for 3 months now and I am doing so much better. I can plan and live now. I didn't have a clue, but I did almost everything she needed me to do. You think you are helping them and they could care less about you and you don't even know they don't like anyone but themselves in a twisted sick way. Thanks again, God bless you.
That is why I say that narcissists are not 'possessed' by demons - they are instead, aligned with and in partnership with them. They also all seem to despise the Bible. Like my mother, they can go to church every day of the week, become leaders, teachers, get on council, etc. But mention the Bible, they screech like...well, demons.
She sounds like a total nightmare and a Jezebel. I am so sorry she said those awlful words to you. Why are nice people like us drawn to these evil people? All we are is their supply then they drain us and move on.
I don't want to reconcile with the 2 "christian friends" anymore. They destroyed my heart.. and there is no going back without contrition and demonstrated change... and that hasn't happened.. and probably won't. Proverbs 4:23: Above all else, guard your hearts, for everything you do flows from it.
"If they only knew" lol! You can NEVER explain and help enough for a narcissist see and understand. It does not work! They are totally messed up! Thanks Kris, couldn't have said or explained it better!
This was absolutely helpful. I’m at peace leaving my entire immediate family including my narcissistic mother where they are. Over a decade of being pulled down by them all led me here. I see Gods hand on me through it all and I’m moving on and upward. Thank God I’m free
Thank you this helped me understand my experience with my discard in such a different light. I'm so confused and devastated I just need God to help me. Think He's done this through you ❤
Thank you so much for this, Kris. You hit my relationship with my narcissistic ex-husband right on the head. Just what I needed to hear. It has been over a year since the divorce, but I still sob almost daily that he could reject me and our children and grandchildren. Now I’m beginning to understand why. Praise God.✝️
Thank u ma'm.. This needs to b preached in our Christian community alot. Especially in church. We only hear forgive, forgive, forgive!!! And yes, I agree, we should forgive, but alot of us(including myself) get forgiveness confused with tolerance of mistreatment. In my life, satan has used narcissistic family members to prey on my vulnerability & my exercising forgiveness towards them, especially my parents & elders in my family, whom I have to honor & respect. Each time, I would go back to them thinkin if I didn't run back to them at their request & submit to their control, then I didn't truly forgive them, only to get ate up all over again. This cycle never ends, mainly between my father who is an alcoholic narcissist who is also a freemason, & a mother who defends his actions who is a Christian, as well as an Aunt who is also narcissistic.. I only wanna do the will of the father, still honor my parents without bein controlled by them. It's a challenge, my mother condemns me with the Word of God, if I don't do what she wants, majority of the time it stems back to fear of my father.. I praise God for u ma'm.. And I really appreciate u Blessins on u woman of God..
The entire video is very helpful! I especially related to the topics of hardened heart, pride, tactics of narcissist, and Jesus may be protecting me and is certainly improving my character and leading me to do good work in me
Amen! Through experience this is all so so true! Everything you said. Thank you so much Mrs. Reece. It has made me stronger, less stressed, happy and at peace… dealing with a narcissist in a Christian manner. It’s hard to find good friends who really can give good genuine advice. One can find out who are real friends especially when one is in need. God bless!
Everything you have said up to this point is 100% who and what my husband has become over the past three years. He says it’s my fault we don’t go to church together. Then we’ll go to church and he’ll find an excuse to stop going. I have been feeling over the last several years God is showing me things and allowing things to get worse to grant me a separation.
I so appreciate your teaching, Kris. It has been IMMENSELY helpful to me in my recovery from a toxic romantic relationship over the past few years. I am finally so content to trust God with the rest of my story and leave the other person in God's hands as well. Thank you for your ministry and providing consistent messages of truth and wisdom. ❤🙏 God bless you, and your ministry
The beginning of the summer, I began, holding myself more accountable for my own actions, both in thoughts and deeds. I realized that I needed to dive deeper into my own personal relationship with God. Through this personal spiritual journey, I realized that my own sister and mother were treating me in a way that was not in love. I also started to watch and read about unhealthy relationships, and to my surprise both of them fell into that pattern. I also was to blame as I had allowed it over the years. I did not want to go no contact although it seemed the only route for me. Due to a situation, I did not have to make that decision as they chose to have no contact with me. Although my heart is troubled and I grieve, and I’m reeling from this rejection, there is also a peace. God is blessed me with friends coming out of the woodwork to support me.
Thank you… I needed to hear this. 2 years of trying to heal, grow, get some clarity… after listening to this, I have a little hope again which I desperately need. Tough to unlearn after 57 years of going from one traumatic situation to another … but for this first time in a really long time, I feel hopeful. Lord, help me to hear you and soften my heart, help me see clearly, be who you designed me to be.
This hit home for me in every way. I already knew God removed me from the situation, but this just really confirms it for me. Even though it is such an unbearable pain, I am trying to trust God completely in this. Thank you so much, Kris. 💜
No temporary psychopath . The work is within us and to heal from the Healer Lord Jesus! So glad to be on this journey out of that trauma bonding with the “Christian narcissist “
I love you lord thank you for your protection my husband left me and my kids of Friday just discarded me out of no where and all these signs were happening !!!
You are blessed that he left and didn't drag you through mud, taking everything and everyone you love away from you just to destroy you. That's what usually happens to those of us who marry a narcissist. Praise God you can move on. ❤🙌
Disagree, somewhat, with #1. It doesn't always mean that you are disconnecting from God when you stop going to Church. The narcissists that I know, are Spiritual Narcissists and they all go to Church. Pastors and those who manage the Church are not even aware of the evil entities in their Church pretending to be a 'Believer'. The Church is easily fooled and even Pastors, Clergy, in the Church, can also be a Narcissist. Im closer to the Lord now, than when I did go to Church and my salvation is based on my repentance and not my attendance.
Uh...excuse me? It's God's commandment....to go to church ...yes each week at least!there is Jesus in the Holy Eucharist...so you don't want to be near Him? And you do not go to confession?well than you follow your ways and not God's way. I hope you see one of the two brings you not to Heaven. The song I did it my way is a bad one.
49:1749:1949:2549:26 Since you have been speaking the truth, I begin to weep, so I God is helping of the dependency spirit I 'm standing in the authority of christ , God you for your obedience, There was so confirmation through that I praise with tears streaming face, praying the word and over small battles but realize so until Holy Spirit would revealed to me I depressed and oppression, but stood on the word of God I 'm more than conqueror thur Christ Jesus. 3 months ago I heard you speak God praise . Amen! Amen !Amen!
Prayer, healing and setting boundaries is perfect! Hit home with me as soon as you said it! Those very things have helped me so much! Thank you for your channel. God Bless You.
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Thanks sooooooo much❤
I needed to hear this.
Wow !!! You’re right
Your a LYING BICCH! Stop misleadng people to make a BUCK! False Prophet!
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Sometimes rejection is God’s protection. He hears the conversations behind our backs
I love that
They are definitely trying to sabotage..even worse when it's a spouse
@@beautiful_one5915 Agreed!
Exactly
Amen!!
So glad to see the Christian community addressing narcissisism.
@jewels4817 unfortunately they are in the church! Be careful
@@rynnykitty6945 Yes. The instituted church was never God's template for fellowship and true growth. Narc's (Devil's) favourite playground ... Thanks pastors - NOT!
@@rynnykitty6945they sure are, it is shocking to me
Yes agree. I know now that God removes to protect me and my spirituality. The removal is not permanent. On a daily basis, he is removed for an hour at a time when he seeks other company where we live in a community. I use these times of separation to pray and heal and welcome these pockets of time. I used to resent these times, bit now I understand and welcome it. Praise God.
@@jewels4817 thank you so much lot of people doesn't understand but I came to Jesus thanks to these auwful people, and years. And I thank Jesus for that. No they were atheists really covert ones mocked God. And the other were rc. Pervert narcissist. I can tell they are crual. I try to heal with Jesus and I 'm so glad to be liberated. Thanks to God. ✝️🙏❤️🩸📖
I thank God for that.
It took me some month to get rid of culprit. ❤I am the auwful one
It's been said....
When the devil can't get to you, he'll send a narcissist.
100%
Their 1 in the same robes.
@@danieb4273 I like that saying
I was just saying to a friend I don't know why I married him. This is the reason ! Thanks for sharing 👍
Looking at it that way does make it a tiny bit easier to take.
Was raised by 2 Narcs and broke the generational curses!!😊
You are so strong and great❤ God bless uuu
Praying the same for our 2 Grandaughters ❤
To break the generational curses of their father's family🙏
@@jaye3848 praying 🙏🏻
@@NicoleMcL-to1hy congratulations 🥳 it takes courage (action) to love yourself.
Congratulations ❤
They neglect your words and feelings and boast to you about their doings.
So true...I experience this almost each day from a narc in my life
Oh yeah. He put out 2 trophies he had from our young days. So I put out all mine. 28 yrs. Done. He got a new girlfriend at work, gave me her diseases, and uses the gate at the HOA where they both work to make even getting clothing, a tortuous experience. I thought he was loyal. I knew he just sucked up my money like a hoover, but I thought he was too lazy to cheat. I wish I could go back, so bad, and never meet him.
When narcissists couldn't find any recent mistakes,they're quick to remind us of our shameful past.❤
Or they'll just make up something.
@@skdais 😳👍WHOA ‼️You know what? I really like your response. You're absolutely right.💐
P-R-E-A-C-H!!!!
@@skdais that part..
@@dee1380 🤣👍You're funny (in a cute way).
So right. No matter how gentle you are in your boundaries, the narxs don't care. 😮
Yes, God removed him…prayed daily…I saw the “demon” in his eyes…scary….Divorced him.
@@slellis3 I saw the darkness, demon, depravity in my husband eyes also.
I am being discarded right now. I believe God is pulling me closer to him . I understand God wants me away from this person.
The narcissist has a mental stronghold that needs to be removed. It is spiritual bondage.
How? Some spiritual tool? I'd like to hear, ty.
@@lizielitaDemonic strongholds can only be taken down and cast out by the power of the Holy Spirit.
@lizielita Praise all day music. Demons cannot have power in the sanctuary. Did it it worked. God began healing me of codependency and the spirit of PAIN. Deny self and we win. PlacingvHim back in His rightful place in that area. He then removed the enemy and I had PEACE. AND HE SHOWED ME THE LIE WHEN I RANDOMLY OPENED THE BIBLE...JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE PRIDEFULL AND WICKED, IT IS SIN. HE IS A GOD OF FREEWILL AND GRACE NOT BONDAGE AND JUDGMENT. NOT UNTIL THE SECOND ADVENT. THE WICKED ARE HERE TO CORRECT ( VESSELS OF WRATH) AND BRING OUT WHATS IN US. CHOOSE SUFFERING HUMILITY BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE HE IS. HE IS NOT LOOKING AT THE PRIDEFUL. HE IS ON THE CROSS IN CERTAIN AREAS OF OUR MIND, UNTIL WE LOOSE THE HOLY SPIRIT, WE DO THIS THROUGH...HUMILITY TO GOD. HE LED ME TO JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE WICKED, IT IS SIN. Itcsays too when you are healed you will tell others that God raises up the humble one. THAT IS THE MESSAGE FROM GOD. ❤️ HUMBLY SEEK AND RECEIVE THE GOODNESS OF GOD FOR IT IS CHASING AFTER YOU. ( THAT SONG CAME TO ME 4 XS IN 7 HOURS IN STRANGE WAYS. IT IS TGE TOOL TO USE AND SAYS SO IN THE LYRICS) HS GAVE ME THIS SONG TO KEEP ME IN THE PROTECTION OF GOD, TAKE EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE WITH THE WORD💥✝️❤️ PAIN IS A SPIRIT.
THE WALLS OF JERICHO FELL BY PRAISE, WALLS/ MENTAL STRUCTURES IN THE MIND FALL BY PRAISE. ALOT OF PRAISE.
Praise.
Praise all day music. Demons cannot have power in the sanctuary. Did it it worked. God began healing me of codependency and the spirit of PAIN. Deny self, and we win. Placing him back in His rightful place in that area. He then removed the enemy, and I had PEACE. AND HE SHOWED ME THE LIE WHEN I RANDOMLY OPENED THE BIBLE...JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE PRIDEFULL AND WICKED. IT IS SIN. HE IS A GOD OF FREEWILL AND GRACE NOT BONDAGE AND JUDGMENT. NOT UNTIL THE SECOND ADVENT. THE WICKED ARE HERE TO CORRECT ( VESSELS OF WRATH) AND BRING OUT WHATS IN US. CHOOSE SUFFERING HUMILITY BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE HE IS. HE IS NOT LOOKING AT THE PRIDEFUL. HE IS ON THE CROSS IN CERTAIN AREAS OF OUR MIND, UNTIL WE LOOSE THE HOLY SPIRIT, WE DO THIS THROUGH...HUMILITY TO GOD. HE LED ME TO JOB 21 AND 22. DO NOT LOOK AT THE WICKED, IT IS SIN. Itcsays too when you are healed you will tell others that God raises up the humble one. THAT IS THE MESSAGE FROM GOD. ❤️ HUMBLY SEEK AND RECEIVE THE GOODNESS OF GOD FOR IT IS CHASING AFTER YOU. ( THAT SONG CAME TO ME 4 XS IN 7 HOURS IN STRANGE WAYS. IT IS TGE TOOL TO USE AND SAYS SO IN THE LYRICS) HS GAVE ME THIS SONG TO KEEP ME IN THE PROTECTION OF GOD, TAKE EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE WITH THE WORD💥✝️❤️ PAIN IS A SPIRIT.
THE WALLS OF JERICHO FELL BY PRAISE, WALLS/ MENTAL STRUCTURES IN THE MIND FALL BY PRAISE. ALOT OF PRAISE. Also, they are vessels of correction sometimes. Unfortunately God said... He gave " them power over His children" but they went too far and will be punished for it. Breaking a person's or animal's ➡️ spirit is ...going too far.
Please Lord let this be long term removal. I've been through enough the past 18 years of this 28 year marriage with this man and his cheating, manipulation, narcissism, heartache. I need to heal and live a happy life now 🙏🙏
God will strengthen you to not let him back in your life. When you let them back it gets worse.
Im going through the same now and is dying to my self every sec. Praying for u
You can do this! You must get away, or start making the plan if you need to. I got away from mine and I’m probably only alive today because I finally left.
Codependency is idolatry of man and narcissism is idolatry of self. They are attracted to each other and they are tormented by each other to TURN THEM BACK TO GOD. BEEN THERE. GOD heals❤
I'm using that one! I think the biggest lesson God was trying to teach me was to not put my faith in man.
Well said
well said
This👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
Wow! You sum it up beautifully.🙏🙂
Thank you. You’re the best!! I never thought I would be saying this but now 4 1/2 years after my covert narcissistic wife divorced me after 29 years of marriage I am beginning to see how God allowed that to happen to get her out of my life and so that I would bring God into my life. I had become a lukewarm Christian, but now I am on fire for the Lord and involved in three different ministries. God hates divorce, but he does a lot to happen and I have to believe he allowed this one to happen to bring me back to Him!!!!!
Amen brother!
The same thing happened to me after eighteen years.
Was on fire when I met her and she supposedly was converted, as I did feel the holy spirit come upon her and I believe that was the sign that god wanted me to be with her for so long. Though I kept having feelings of needing to get out of there, and eventually he brought someone else in her life to give me the out. Praise god as I am on fire, big time!
I feel like this video was sent by god for me, thank you very much
same
Same
@@unamigo1977
God ❤️
I was discarded in early January. Years ago the Holy Spirit told me he wasn’t going to be around long . It came out of the blue and I am happier now and I now see God’s plan for my life .
i can relate to your expierience
carry your cross and deny yourself. Go read your bible and apply it to your life. Christianity is NOT a feeling its a commitment to obey GOD over YOUR WILL till the end of your life.
?What if their hardened heart has made mine hardened? I tried, but the well has run dry. I am fighting to come back. I have hated and can't pray for them. I just can't yet. May God change me. I prayed. I distanced on God even. Horrible thoughts. You have enlightened me. But not there yet . Pray for me.?
Thank you! I was recently discarded, and it's such a difficult journey, but thank you for reminding me that there is a life after this pain.
Did he die?
I definitely have experienced the spiritual disconnect with my narcissist, absolutely!!! He's displayed cruelty, manipulation, and gaslighting. He's increased the frequency of his hatefulness. And he has now gone full discard of me, which, he thinks it's hurting me but in reality, I'm loving it! No longer do I hear his insults, passive-aggressive comments or ghosting. There were times when his smile seemed demonic and I sure don't miss seeing that!
Contorted facial expressions that you don’t see in others.
They don’t change. Arguing with them is worthless. I’ve learned the hard way. I’ve mourned my relationship with him for years. Things can be going great, then boom he will blow up in my face, over and over. I’m tired..
Do we ever know what sets them off? Mother, ex-husband and both daughters, all personality disordered. Now I worry for my 2 year old grandson and his daddy. My daughter rages at them. She wasn't always like this. I feel responsible. I can't protect them so I petition God to look after them. Was told I was too sensitive growing up. I think it sabotaged my ability to trust my perception of people. Maybe this happened to you. Trusting our gut could have been a safety net from what would later befall us. When I meet someone for the first time, I do a quick take. Within a few minutes I know my comfort level or lack of one. I'm tired and not living under the same roof. I wish you peace and joy. Be kind to yourself and do this often. You matter. Easy to forget that. 😇
@@VictorianTexas I was frequently told “you’re too sensitive.” I’ve finally learned to love that part of who I am and no longer feel there’s something wrong with me. Divorced 35 years ago.
I feel some relief from this wonderful and knowledgable video. Keep up the great work
I've definitely felt the spiritual draining, and my relationship with GOD was slipping. We're in the " ghosting phase" I'm confused and had enough. GOD WILL be my #1. Am in so much pain, yet feel more peaceful. I never know what's going on with my daughter.
Oh man, I followed you all the way until you started talking about the divorce and "let no man separate what God has put together" but sooo many marriages, most of the marriages, God did not put together, they were outside of God's will from the very beginning.
Very true! Think of all the "marriages" that are based on dishonesty... one partner only in it for a visa/passport (immigration marriage fraud) or money or status, all the "marriages" that are only based on the man thinking with a bodypart other than his brain/heart (and soon getting bored because such relationships never last), and - the majority of marriages - where one party is loving and genuine but the other is an abusive narcissist whose only intention is to destroy his/her partner...
All of the above are not marriages. They are scams. Any innocent party who got involved in that, ie the party who entered the marriage with a loving heart expecting to be married for the rest of his/her life, will have to realize that this "marriage" was a scam and that he/she therefore was never married. There was no husband or wife - there was only the devil!
@oldsouloriginal My ex and myself were saved in two different places at the same time without knowing. Answered my prayer, recently he got.... divorced but God is using both of us to grow in truth. GOD LEADS. HE revealed to me he healed my ex, so now I wait to SEE THE MANIFESTATION. NO CHANGE NO US. SAFETY AND God's will first. Stay safe always. Adding.. The Bible states that if a man and woman no longer want to be with each other, then let them go. It is written in the OT. The NT states that divorce is forgivable. You might want to get a teacher who can take the words in the Bible back to the original language in the transcripts and LEARN WHAT THE FACTS. How bless you. No harm, churches teach doctrines of man, ideology subversion. Began after WW2. Yuri Benmenov UA-cam ideology subversion is one of many sources. Oh, and for proper translation ifvthe Word of God ; SMYRNA CHURCH OF KOKOMO UA-cam. IF YOU WANT additional sources, let me know. You, too, can take every word back to the original transcripts for the proper meaning using THW COMPANION BIBLE BY KREGEL AND THE STRONG'S CONCORDANCE ❤️
THIS IS A REPLY for those who do not know what the Bible actually teaches concerning DIVORCE . Separation for sure. It is written what fellowship does light have with Satan 😳. God is using me and him to heal and restore, but we are divorced. God can separate and restore, trust His lead. AMEN 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️ ✨️The Bible states that if a man and woman no longer want to be with each other, then let them go. It is written in the OT. The NT states that divorce is forgivable. You might want to get a teacher who can take the words in the Bible back to the original language in the transcripts and LEARN WHAT THE FACTS are. God bless you. No harm, churches teach doctrines of man, ideology subversion. Began after WW2. Yuri Benmenov UA-cam ideology subversion is one of many sources. Oh, and for proper translation of the Word of God ; SMYRNA CHURCH OF KOKOMO UA-cam. IF YOU WANT additional sources, let me know. You, too, can take every word back to the original transcripts for the proper meaning using THE COMPANION BIBLE BY KREGEL AND THE STRONG'S CONCORDANCE ❤️
Yep. God told me not to marry my husband and I did anyway.
@@oldsouloriginal No. Marriage vows are sacred, regardless of consequences. The Bible says only for adultery is divorce justified. Of course, true abuse---REAL abuse, not mere "I don't like his tone of voice" bean hills---is already assumed (by Christ's holy character as well as common sense which He gave us all) to be grounds for divorce as well. Divorce, per the world's mamby-pamby logic, is repulsive to God. Unacceptable.
God moved me three times in two years to protect me. God is good all the time. Praise God Praise Lord Jesus Amen
I resonate because I felt my divorce was God saying “I need you to get out of my way” because as long as I was there the blame could continue to be put on me. Now there’s only him and a mirror. And I am no longer in constant turmoil.
@tracylynn7149 lol, good for you. Now he really has TRUTH IN PLAIN SIGHT, SELF IDOLATRY. STAY BLESSED.
@tracylynn7149 that is very encouraging. I don't plan on staying in this situation! I'm saving, & planning.
@@tracylynn7149 SAME!
It really excites me!
That is very good.
I wish the church had taught on this 20 yrs. Ago. But,I'm thankful 🙏 that many Christians are learning now and teaching this because it is rampant in the world.
You described my husband of 22 years to a T, TRUTH! God help me. He has cheated MOST of our marriage. The only time he is intimate is for control. He has 3 characteristics: Offense, Control and Anger. He doesn't talk of Anything that is SUBSTANTIAL. I have felt the growing underlying hatred whilst he lovebombs me with words and promises he never keeps. All the while I am passionate about my relationship with the Lord and seek to serve Him More.
It’s all about me… The work God wants to do through me.. I’m excited
Everything you said is spot on and is helping me answer some tough questions. My Ex did display these characteristics and no fruit. I was in despair and felt so far from God although I was pressing in with every ounce of my being. God brought it to an end in a way that only he could and he delivered me. Now I'm healing and on the other side with a court ordered no contact for a year. This was a 36 yr abusive marriage that ended with financial devastation. Im 62 disabled and living without a home or any kind of provision for my future. It's scary but I trust God to make a way for me where there seems to be no way. 🙏
You just confirmed what the Lord has been showing me . Thank you! Shalom!
You know them by their fruit! Acts like a Christian, knows the word but not walking in it! He pointed out others faults but not his own! God told me to "end it now"! Thats what I did!
This is my narc to a tee.
Not every Christian, we don't get along with, is a narcissist! There are still different backgrounds, different education and different mindset... Do I have to tolerate every stupid talk because the person claims to be a christian?
@OliveWeitzel the person I'm speaking of is a narcissist! Now I know why the Lord told me "to end it now"!
the self-righteous pharisees..
You shared my entire testimony in how God removed my spouse from my life. You gave me language and confirmation. Thankyou!
Sometimes rejection is God's protection 👌💯🙏❤️🔥
I begged God for years to help me respond correctly, but I got so broken in the end I said "please give me strength to keep handling this, or else remove him". And he left!
@beverlyfox1688 me in a nutshell. I was always a reactor to their b.s. and have been deemed a horrible person for standing up for myself and my son and husband. No contact really is the best way to go, but it's soo hard when it's your parents and inlaws .
Yup,that's me as well,except I'm still waiting for God to remove this covert narc away from me,I don't know,maybe I'm too damaged now for it to make a differrence,I'm a christian but because of the toxic abuse I swear more than ever and have a very bad attitude,kinda pessimistic,a broken vessel no doubt,but your comment is what I've always said,really nobody has the strength to endure the continuous assault from a monster,who knows what will transpire in my life,only God knows right?😇
Ahhhh, maybe I'll try that tacticaler approach!!! We're divorced, but we've both been in and out of the hospital a few times EACH this year of 2024. The election was exciting with a positive result for us and the people around uss. Between hurricanes 3 good ones that kept us in the National news. Ian, 2018 got me the worse, 30" water made it's way under my travel trailer, in it also! They love to soak up the sun.
AMEN to all, Kris! Ex of 6 years after a 34 year abusive marriage would like to be restored but there has been no heart change. I’m thankful for the growth God has worked in me.
Not only was there spiritual disconnect, we were spiritually unequally yoked. We even tried Godly marriage counseling where he blew up on the counselor out of anger to the point the minister asked if I was being abused at home. I was told I was the narcissist and even still question if I am. The emotional & psychological abuse is so damaging. Secular and Godly therapy was so helpful. To whomever is reading this, you WILL get through this. You WILL overcome. You WILL find joy again.
This video is so comforting, thank you Kris Reece🤟🏾
Thank you, you are talking to me ….excited, nervous, and God is showing me me…. Lord thank you…its all about me🎉
Yes it excites me that God is working in our lives for my sake, he has seen my struggles.
God is my defender in battle. God is my provider and my provision. God is Love. Praise Almighty God. Praise Lord Jesus. Thankyou Holy Spirit. Thankyou Guardian Angels Thankyou Devine helpers Thankyou Universe Amen
Very wise observation at the fourth minute! It happened to me recently. When my narcissist stopped growing in Grace, the eyes and ears of his soul stopped picking up God’s messages. Yes, the fruits of Grace are the signifiers of a God- fearing person. Their dark oppressive character was affecting my relationship with Christ. So I prayed and the Lord answered my prayer in a flash! I am free to love Jesus with all my strength and all my love.
I am grateful for my life and my children and that they have found God and peace through him ❤
Wow, God bless you Kris. I didn't even know what a narcissist was, but I was married to two! The last one was passive aggressive, said he was a Christian but in 16 years there was never any fruit, everything you said was spot on! God removed him and protected me, because I promised to stay.
So true, I am going throuht it now. So tired of it. I am drained already...
Thanks! A great joy to discover a truly Christian counselor who knows her Bible. A gifted person.
Amen yes we need a person that is saved and trust and believe on Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour
Yes, please pray for my marriage. I really want God to deliver every demon spirit out of it the spirit of control, manipulation and condemnation and narcissism in Jesus mighty name.
I was definitely spiritually being drained
I've been cut off and I know God is protecting me. The one was my SIL, and now I've lost 3 grands and my daughter.... I've been around narcs my whole life, and just now learning what they really are....In a Biblical way, they are self worshipers. I love this term, but it still dosent make the loss easier. Thank you for what you're doing, Kris. I will be looking to Jesus for this latest situation, just like He has helped me through the others...
@@elaineburke2005 I lost my daughter, and her kids because now she won't have anything to do with me.
My mom and ex husband were narcs too Twenty five years of living with ex but continues I
In with my daughter who said she disowned me
@faithwhite3175 I'm so sorry! I, too, grew up around and was the victim of an adult malignant narcissist. I ended up only dating narcissists and was married to one for 25 years. He turned my only child/son against me, and I pray daily for God to break the strongholds of narcissistic deception off my son, he is all I had in this world after my mother died. I have to work on forgiveness and letting God take care of this situation daily.
I truly believe that God was involved in my narcissist husband leaving. I was at the end of my rope and didn’t even want to live anymore.
God protected me. After knowing him (the ex) and being married for 17 years, he told me a story about the cops asking him about a murdered woman. I never put it together back then, but God did certainly see and know things I didn't. I once suggested that we confess our sins and pray for each other that we may heal. He turned into a vicious animal at the idea that he confess anything - now I know why.
Glad you were under God's care and protection.
@@cathierobbins445 Thank you... 🥰
This really spoke to me. I have an estranged daughter whose husband won’t allow her to have anything to do with her family. Thank you for your ministry.
THIS!! Amazing video. My son-in-law gaslit me then a few weeks later my daughter did.. and continues to whenever they get a chance. They have shut me and my husband out and won’t let us see our grandkids. It’s gone on 18 months now. All the things you’ve described fits this situation perfectly. Thank you for doing this video! I am excited to soak in Jesus and find out what He is doing in me. I’ll be able to stop asking all those impossible questions now, yay! Blessings to you.
It is so important to learn how to deal with a narcissist in a Christian manner. Thank you Kris! 🙏❤️
Thank you so much Heavenly Father work in me, I surrender to you and your will❤ Amen
I saw this on a comment section somewhere.
"Codependency is idolatry of man. Narcissism is idolatry of self. They are attracted to each other and tormented by each other TO TURN THEM BACK TO GOD. BEEN THERE. GOD heals ♥️"
God removed so many so quickly for me. I haven't looked back. I had a spiritual awakening and it was loud and clear. I have very few around me now. But I have room now for the right ones to come in. 😊😊
No accountability or round about accountability by blaming me for making him do it.
Narcissistic mate died in his sleep. No illness total shock. Just dead. Left quite the financial mess for daughter and me. Please pray for us. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this video. I NEEDED THIS
Wow I thought for many years that there would be answers for my separation and later divorce. I struggled a lot because I believe in the unity of the family. But Until this year after 9 years since he left us God talked to me during a prayer time and wispered into my heart ... I made him to leave you! and looking back I understood why... It has been a challenge every day to deal with all responsabilities as a single mother of two teen boys. l have done a lots of mistakes and asking God to lead my family to transform my children's hearts and guide them to salvation. Looking at him as a father nowadays as a role model... there is no way!! I am trying to do my best to rase my children to become good men and good christians, lots of tears every night, a lot of praying every day... Please pray for me and for all single christian mothers is not easy at all. But God has the power, the glory and the magesty to transform our situations and give us strenght, peace, and hope to overcome them.
You just described most of my family. It's heart breaking, but un avoidable.
God was really talking through you today! I really felt like you were talking to me around sign #2. im so glad i found you channel. its very therapeutic. Thank You and God Bless ❤
Thank you so very much I was going crazy in a relationship with a narcissist asking god for a sign 🙏
Yes there definately was a spiritual disconnect. I called out to God and said I can't take this anymore. The Lord immediately stepped in and the truth was exposed. It was miraculous in watching how God unfolded everything and how much the Lord gave me peace through such traumatic time.
Wow I needed to hear this! Thank you Jesus! ❤
Kris, I know the Lord sent you/your channel. I'm the person over here asking "what have I done, what have I done?!" I pray for this person everyday, and pray her heart is healed. I know I know i know the Lord is protecting me. Thank you Jesus 💜 🙏
My story ❤ I’m glad God intervened. I’m doing a lot of praying. Let go and let God. 🙏
The narcissist behaving people(some family members)brings a disruptive spirit to someone’s spirit who is healthy…. So I have learned to distance myself from disrespect… prayerfully always but let them go their way with their lies and I’ll go my way with truth👏🏼
Oh wow! Right on! You nailed it. Thank you so so so much. I'm convicted that God really means and protects ME, while having a spouse with a more and more hardened heart😢. I even sometimes don't know how/what to pray for him....
God is using you big time in my life's situation! Thank you, dear Kris!❤
I completely understand how you feel. I was so exhausted and frustrated with the state of my marriage and his behavior that I didn't know what to pray for anymore.
But I finally got to that point. I realized I had to lay it at the feet of my Lord & Savior Jesus. In that moment, I said God, your will be done because I don't know what else to do or ask for. From then on God began to deal with him in a very, very, very fierce way. When you truly let go, and let God handle it, He will! It's called true surrender. My best wishes to you in getting to that place. It brings a ton of peace to you, "a peace beyond all understanding" as the book teaches us.
LOVE THIS! It’s not rejection it’s protection!🥰
Powerful teaching,I almost cave in,and then I came across this video,God bless you.
I was married for 34 years and when the covert narcissist was in the discarding stage by filing for a divorce. She did it without any discussion. She started screaming about nevergoing to church again. Screams come flying out of her mouth when l suggested to her that she read the Bible tonight. Her eyes seemed to have a black eye that seemed to have a lena that covered her eyes with all black for a couple seconds and I did a double take and shook my head, "did I really see that?" She is not the same person I married, nothing like it. She told me as she was getting ready to leave to go have fun roller skating, she said, "you aren't good enough," I need someone who has more so I can have fun and go places and do stuff I never got to do. She would destroy the marriage for her narcissistic pleasure. I a listening to your videos and a few others. Thank you so much for being here. I didn't even know what was happening until she said, "I need some space." I was sure the Lord was telling me that this was the end of the line. I tried to hold on, but things just got worse and worse. I a out of the marriage for 3 months now and I am doing so much better. I can plan and live now. I didn't have a clue, but I did almost everything she needed me to do. You think you are helping them and they could care less about you and you don't even know they don't like anyone but themselves in a twisted sick way. Thanks again, God bless you.
That is why I say that narcissists are not 'possessed' by demons - they are instead, aligned with and in partnership with them.
They also all seem to despise the Bible. Like my mother, they can go to church every day of the week, become leaders, teachers, get on council, etc. But mention the Bible, they screech like...well, demons.
She sounds like a total nightmare and a Jezebel. I am so sorry she said those awlful words to you. Why are nice people like us drawn to these evil people? All we are is their supply then they drain us and move on.
I seen the black eyes myself. Yes it’s really real. There are demons living in them.
I don't want to reconcile with the 2 "christian friends" anymore. They destroyed my heart.. and there is no going back without contrition and demonstrated change... and that hasn't happened.. and probably won't. Proverbs 4:23: Above all else, guard your hearts, for everything you do flows from it.
Kim. This has made me think. Yes I was protected by God and my will took me into danger & I stayed. Out now. So grateful. ❤
"If they only knew" lol! You can NEVER explain and help enough for a narcissist see and understand. It does not work! They are totally messed up! Thanks Kris, couldn't have said or explained it better!
This was absolutely helpful. I’m at peace leaving my entire immediate family including my narcissistic mother where they are. Over a decade of being pulled down by them all led me here. I see Gods hand on me through it all and I’m moving on and upward. Thank God I’m free
Thank you this helped me understand my experience with my discard in such a different light. I'm so confused and devastated I just need God to help me. Think He's done this through you ❤
Thank you so much for this, Kris. You hit my relationship with my narcissistic ex-husband right on the head. Just what I needed to hear. It has been over a year since the divorce, but I still sob almost daily that he could reject me and our children and grandchildren. Now I’m beginning to understand why.
Praise God.✝️
Protection not rejection ❤
Thank u ma'm..
This needs to b preached in our Christian community alot. Especially in church.
We only hear forgive, forgive, forgive!!!
And yes, I agree, we should forgive, but alot of us(including myself) get forgiveness confused with tolerance of mistreatment.
In my life, satan has used narcissistic family members to prey on my vulnerability & my exercising forgiveness towards them, especially my parents & elders in my family, whom I have to honor & respect.
Each time, I would go back to them thinkin if I didn't run back to them at their request & submit to their control, then I didn't truly forgive them, only to get ate up all over again.
This cycle never ends, mainly between my father who is an alcoholic narcissist who is also a freemason, & a mother who defends his actions who is a Christian, as well as an Aunt who is also narcissistic..
I only wanna do the will of the father, still honor my parents without bein controlled by them. It's a challenge, my mother condemns me with the Word of God, if I don't do what she wants, majority of the time it stems back to fear of my father..
I praise God for u ma'm..
And I really appreciate u
Blessins on u woman of God..
The entire video is very helpful! I especially related to the topics of hardened heart, pride, tactics of narcissist, and Jesus may be protecting me and is certainly improving my character and leading me to do good work in me
Amen! Through experience this is all so so true! Everything you said. Thank you so much Mrs. Reece. It has made me stronger, less stressed, happy and at peace… dealing with a narcissist in a Christian manner. It’s hard to find good friends who really can give good genuine advice. One can find out who are real friends especially when one is in need. God bless!
Everything you have said up to this point is 100% who and what my husband has become over the past three years. He says it’s my fault we don’t go to church together. Then we’ll go to church and he’ll find an excuse to stop going. I have been feeling over the last several years God is showing me things and allowing things to get worse to grant me a separation.
Thank You my Abba 🤍
In the mighty name of Jesus
Thank You Holy Spirit 🕊️
God bless you Kris
In Jesus name
Amen
I so appreciate your teaching, Kris. It has been IMMENSELY helpful to me in my recovery from a toxic romantic relationship over the past few years. I am finally so content to trust God with the rest of my story and leave the other person in God's hands as well. Thank you for your ministry and providing consistent messages of truth and wisdom. ❤🙏 God bless you, and your ministry
The beginning of the summer, I began, holding myself more accountable for my own actions, both in thoughts and deeds. I realized that I needed to dive deeper into my own personal relationship with God. Through this personal spiritual journey, I realized that my own sister and mother were treating me in a way that was not in love. I also started to watch and read about unhealthy relationships, and to my surprise both of them fell into that pattern.
I also was to blame as I had allowed it over the years. I did not want to go no contact although it seemed the only route for me.
Due to a situation, I did not have to make that decision as they chose to have no contact with me. Although my heart is troubled and I grieve, and I’m reeling from this rejection, there is also a peace. God is blessed me with friends coming out of the woodwork to support me.
They 'reject' you the way a prison cell 'rejects' you. Perhaps that was the Lord working in them somehow, to give you back your peace and freedom.
Thank you… I needed to hear this. 2 years of trying to heal, grow, get some clarity… after listening to this, I have a little hope again which I desperately need. Tough to unlearn after 57 years of going from one traumatic situation to another … but for this first time in a really long time, I feel hopeful. Lord, help me to hear you and soften my heart, help me see clearly, be who you designed me to be.
May the Lord keep using you in this ministry. Glory to God. I finally found this Christian guide on this topic. I am leaning a lot.
Using you in this misery .......why put you there in the first place ?🤔EVIL.
This hit home for me in every way. I already knew God removed me from the situation, but this just really confirms it for me. Even though it is such an unbearable pain, I am trying to trust God completely in this. Thank you so much, Kris. 💜
No temporary psychopath . The work is within us and to heal from the Healer Lord Jesus! So glad to be on this journey out of that trauma bonding with the “Christian narcissist “
I love you lord thank you for your protection my husband left me and my kids of Friday just discarded me out of no where and all these signs were happening !!!
You are blessed that he left and didn't drag you through mud, taking everything and everyone you love away from you just to destroy you. That's what usually happens to those of us who marry a narcissist. Praise God you can move on. ❤🙌
Thank you for the prayer you prayed.. 🙏 .. God is working for our Good.
God wants to use me and yes, I AM excited about this!!
Great advice, don't try to look to much into, simply understand it and remove yourself. Thank you for the beautiful prayer at the end-Amen!
This morning, I v been praying for an answer to a question 🙏 And God sent me this video.
A big big thank you Kris
Thank you, Kris. I pray for you too ... for your protection, for your conviction, for your ministry. ❤
Disagree, somewhat, with #1. It doesn't always mean that you are disconnecting from God when you stop going to Church. The narcissists that I know, are Spiritual Narcissists and they all go to Church. Pastors and those who manage the Church are not even aware of the evil entities in their Church pretending to be a 'Believer'. The Church is easily fooled and even Pastors, Clergy, in the Church, can also be a Narcissist. Im closer to the Lord now, than when I did go to Church and my salvation is based on my repentance and not my attendance.
Yes! Truth! TY!
@@walkingwithheather This is so very true 💯
Uh...excuse me? It's God's commandment....to go to church ...yes each week at least!there is Jesus in the Holy Eucharist...so you don't want to be near Him? And you do not go to confession?well than you follow your ways and not God's way. I hope you see one of the two brings you not to Heaven. The song I did it my way is a bad one.
Truth.. Church is in you not a building.
Wow. I am a newer Christian. I feel like you have opened my eyes to how God is protecting me.
Yes! Everything you have described reflects what has happened in my marriage with my ex-husband.
This message is coming straight from the throne of God very touching ❤
49:17 49:19 49:25 49:26 Since you have been speaking the truth, I begin to weep, so I God is helping of the dependency spirit I 'm standing in the authority of christ , God you for your obedience, There was so confirmation through that I praise with tears streaming face, praying the word and over small battles but realize so until Holy Spirit would revealed to me I depressed and oppression, but stood on the word of God I 'm more than conqueror thur Christ Jesus. 3 months ago I heard you speak God praise . Amen! Amen !Amen!
Prayer, healing and setting boundaries is perfect! Hit home with me as soon as you said it! Those very things have helped me so much! Thank you for your channel. God Bless You.
❤He knows my heart and I thank you for your guidance....i am going through this ...