That's exactly how I feel as I sit here bawling my eyes out. I don't want revenge, I just want the hurt to stop and my heart to stop breaking. I can't help but still feel love for him and feel sorry for such a miserable human being he is. In spite of all the pain he's put me through. What is wrong with me??!!
@@moonfairy74 O was feeling exactly all the things you speak of. I realised it was the trauma bonds and did quite a bit of research and praying to break free. Trauma bonds are so insidious and hard to comprehend in the midst of the pain. It is now 18 months since I left after 46.5 years of marriage. It has been incredibly hard emotionally but God is so good and so is my life now. God bless you.
Katrina, when you're involved with a Narc and digging your way out of the trouble they caused, it seems hopeless. But stay true to God, pray and depend on Him, and He truly will help you! I'm living proof that it does get better, but you're in a journey back from Hell. Keep moving forward, don't look back, trust the Lord and He really will take care of you!! May God bless you during this difficult time! Don't give up!!
I have seen narcissistic ppl reap all that they have shown. My ex-husband 3 yrs after I left him had a massive stroke & ended his life all alone in a nursing home. I've seen others end up in very bad shape before they died. GOD, I feel like gives them plenty of chances to repent. They're so evil they won't repent.
DON'T THINK OF THAT CREATURE ANY MORE...forgive yourself for falling for the snare Thank God he set you free before it killed U cause not all make it. Now go live with full awareness God is real n live your purpose for God. Release and heal by knowing You are vindicated by Christ U lived child. Ur still alive. Blessed Never ever go back go forward
I am a christian. I am a mental health therapist! Your videos have blessed me personally in many many ways! I know Abba caused your channel to find me! May HE continue to bless you and your content!
I've always wondered this. so, if you don't mind: hearing voices is a sign of mental illness as a therapist, you'd have diagnosed the prophets as schizophrenic if you'd met them. does that cause you any internal conflicts? thank you Cassandra
@@john-ic5pzyou don't GET IT. Doctor's (people of the world) fabricated psych diagnoses because if demon possession could be labeled a psychiatric disease, they can drain insurance companies and take pharmaceutical kickbacks.
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God felt with my narcissist. 45 yrs to repent and turn away from his sin. Death came in 2022. A horrific death....suffering for 20 days. You are absolutely correct.....God's revenge came quickly and was deadly. Thank you for a better understanding As Psalm repeats....WAIT UPON THE LORD......PRAY....WATCH...AND WAIT. GOD IS GOOD TO HIS SERVANTS.
He died bc he died. It's the only guarantee in life is death. Even ppl who never did anything to anyone die horrid deaths. My point is it happens. I wouldn't chalk that up to "Gods revenge." Although it probably soothes your seething rage then go ahead. I guess.. But to be real, it'd more than likely would have happened exactly the way it did even if he was the greatest man on earth to ever live. Ur free to disagree obviously. I think that sometimes humans are so thirsty for Gods hand that they start to credit life circumstances to Gods hand. It's like when a person is desperate for an answer and they can't find one they start to find answers to things that aren't even there. Yes Gods real, I KNOW he moves in circumstances and anyone who says different is either trolling or genuinely ignorant to it, no I'm not saying ur wrong about what u believe within this situation but I am saying u probably are. Life happens to everyone. Narcissist or not.
@@heidimaxham1612 Agreed. I've seen evil men live well and die relatively peacefully. I've also seen a good men die horrifically. With God, it just is what it is. It's out of our hands beyond the trust that we need to put in Him.
Sometimes it can be very slow, very painful, botched surgical procedure, very expensive, not once but with more than one family “member” in the hands of G-d’s wrath for what they did to one of His precious children… Considering what they put my wife through, and our marriage. 😭
Shaneen is so right on. Listen to her. God has given me this true freedom to wish the best for the ex-husband and to pray for his soul to be brought back to righteousness even though he hurt me so tremendously deep. I had everything taken from me. My home, sons, huge amount of money, my marriage and my dreams to say the least. I was suicidal.
That's almost sick. God had nothing to do what happened. That usreally sick to think it's OK to just let me do horrible things to you and your family. No don't ask for revenge but to do what rhus says is self destructive and suck.
You pray for his soul to be brought back to righteousness? You're assuming his soul was ever righteous in the first place. Some people are just evil. Period. Focus on healing and becoming whole and pray for insight and wisdom into this situation so you can see it for what it truly is/was. Don't waste your time worrying about him. He's certainly not worrying about you. Matter of fact he tried to destroy you. That's the opposite of care. Get real. It's healthy.
I encourage everyone to heed this advice. I kept myself from fighting back when I moved to another state and my former pastor's wife telling people close to me at the church that I attended before I moved to unfriend me and ignore me when I moved back. She said God knows what about me. I have NO IDEA what was said about me. People near and dear to me who loved me all of a sudden hated me! It hurt incredibly and I can relate to the physical pain that you described in the beginning of the video! But I didn't seek to fight her/them. I said God will handle it and I worshipped and prayed. Then a brand new attitude took over and their hatred didn't bother me any longer! I've purposed in my heart that if I run into any of my former friends now haters, I will thank them because the Lord tells us to rejoice in our persecution. I understand that now more then ever!!! Praise the Lord and thank you for this truth!!!
Excellent video! I don't want anything bad to happen to the narcissist. I hope and pray that God confronts him so he can see is. This would be justice to me. Hopefully the Narcissist will repent & be saved. If so, all the pain was worth it.
Thirty years ago I had a dream that my sister died in a plane crash. This dream felt so real that I'm certain it was prophetic. She is the narcissist I'm dealing with right now. My pain is still very real and I'm going to allow myself to be angry. God showed me recently that, although I thought I barely had a mustard seed of faith left, He marveled at my faith. He really is our only hope.
A mustard seed is not about it size but it ability. Mustard seed is invasive and fast growing. It spreads and takes over any area. Left to grow it becomes a strong tree with deep wide roots. It’s incredibly difficult to kill. So He really did see the faith you’re capable of having.
My wife is extreme NARCISSIST, she’s divorcing me after 35 years, taking everything I’ve earned, she gets so excited when she talks about how I’ll be in the gutter. She’s mentally I’ll, I pray everyday and listen to these awesome videos
You are a blessed man that she is leaving. I am not that lucky… after over 30 years of control and manipulation she realized that I am finally on to her and changed her strategy to playing the victim and she gets sick at the drop of a hat in order to get attention and keep me around… We have 3 children, 2 are normal and one is just like her. She would easily turn them against me if I left, by pointing out abandonment…
I have yet to see the hand of the lord fully moving in justice within the narcs life. It has been almost 40 years. I question myself as I struggle with the fine line between delighting in their downfall and rejoicing in the truth of the Bible to see Gods hand of justice. It’s frustrating to wait so long and watch as the narc continues to destroy his own family and committing crimes without any obvious consequences and still pretend to be a minister of the lord. It’s really horrific to watch. Especially how he continues to fool people around him and hide his sin. God help me not to rejoice in the narcs downfall but to only rejoice in your justice. I hope to rejoice in your righteousness and how you perform your word and defend your people. I hope for myself It’s like the feeling of satisfaction when a murderer or child abuser is brought to Justice. There is no delight in that. The sickening effects of their abuse is still out there but at least Justice has been served. It’s like holding two simultaneous thoughts in your mind at once. It’s difficult to put into words. God help me to be pleasing to you in all my ways and inward thoughts. Cleanse me of all unrighteousness. While I also pray for god to reveal the truth, bring justice and stop the narc from destroying anyone else.
This is spot on my life in 1998. I needed you there. Thank you for speaking up now. God told me my hatred and unforgiveness of the ex narcissistic husband was like me trying to tread water in a deep lake while holding onto a huge boulder. I could drop the boulder (unforgiveness and hatred) and be free or hold on to the unforgiveness and sink to the bottom
I have been listening to practically every video I can find on narcissist for over a year and right now I don't even think I can pick the best words for how this video of yours has affected me. The peace and relief you have given me is indescribable!!!!! I am finally ready to take my life back and move on!! I now know that my break through is here and the best part is feeling that I not only have more peace but that I truly love myself and God even more and through him I won't just be a survivor! I want you to know that you changed my life today. !!
This. Right now. Today. After talking to my lawyer this morning, I was there. I'm still fighting the feelings. It's been a really hard day. This video just popped up and so I KNOW it's a message directly from God. Thank you Shaneen for being the messenger. I hurt so bad right now but I know this isn't over yet. I'm going to keep trusting in the Lord and let him make my path.
Janice, I was married to a narc for 14 years. I tried harder, he hurt me more. Finally, I had to do something! I filed for divorce. Then he tried to get me back. Faked a suicide attempt ( just got stupid drunk) whined, cried, begged me to take him back. I got strong because of God and godly advice. 🙏 I took one day at a time. Didn't look back. Fought for my sanity, my freedom, myself, my son. It was the hardest thing I've ever done! 20 years later, I've been married 16 years to a wonderful man, we're happy and healthy, my son is married to a beautiful young lady and I have a precious grand daughter!! I win, because God always wins and I put my trust in Him!! Hang in there and trust God's guidance. 🙏
May the Lord bless you, sister. I spent 50 years in bondage and torture. Finally at the edge of insanity I prayed that God would deliver me. The next day she left in a cloud of lies with no discussion. My loving Father delivered me. Wow. I’m remarried now and enjoying endless fellowship and peace. God is so good. Jesus is such a saviour and kind brother. The narc slandered me to my grown children and grand children. This is my only and greatest grief.
I am happy to hear you were delivered from the abuse, but you are not to get remarried if your first ( covenant) spouse is still alive. The vowand covenant you made before God "till death do is part" was heard by God. How many times are you going to make the same vow before him? He allows separation in times of abuse, but calls the spouse to reconcile. 1 Cor 7:1-12. It says you are not called to bondage ( to stay in an abusive marriage), but He does not say remnay. He calls for reconciliation or to remain single. There are quite a few videos on YT on this topic - 'Divorce -Remarriage=Adultery". Ask God to guide you to the right videos..
Thank you for a great supportive video. The ultimate revenge on the narcisist is to live your best life in total freedom from the narcisists and their influence. Showing them how much better our authentic lives are without them is the biggest revenge. :)
@@nadinegomez8858 yes He does, and you are not alone. He is angry with the wicked every day, and will not let them “get away” with it even though it often seems like it, & takes way longer than we’d like. He is close to the broken-hearted and the healer of broken hearts. Final Justice belongs to God. He cares deeply.
This message is perfect. And it is a message that must be presented. It is an important message, especially for those who are in recovery from being tormented, terrorized, humiliated, violated, traumatized, robbed, or raped, by negative demonic power sources from hell. Thank you so much for caring about us victims of abuse.
I FULLY agree with you! This has proven true in my own life! However, with my narcissistic family… Even when you see God working and dealing the blows, it just seems to feed their narcissism! I still trust the Lord 💯, but it is amazing how they don’t get it, and time is really drawing short for them. Soon, they will be dealing with Him face to face.
I just watched this video again and I got more out of it. I encourage everyone that has watched this to watch it again and see if you hear or learn something more than the first time watching.
Regaining your power after a toxic relationship is the biggest part of healing, especially since we’ve gotten so used to being controlled. Be kind to yourself and take it day by day, so you can begin to feel more powerful and confident in yourself again. 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
TY i needed to hear this video. I'm leaving a 37 year marriage with a Narc. God has been leading my pathway. It's been one of the hardest seasons I've ever walked. I can't help it, but I pray for justice for what he's put me through. He nearly took me down emotionally and mentally. Lord TY for your kindness and healing.
I have for years been ministering to a narcissist and his victims. You repeat everything that God has shown me to say and do. You, Sister Shaneen, are a blessed resource for my ministry.
This is very true. It’s natural to want to see those who hurt you get a taste of their own medicine, but I’m going to read Psalms 37 every time I feel myself wanting to seek revenge. Thanks Shaneen for your wisdom.
I'm not seeking Revenge, just Protection, I think of all the time I have to spend looking over my shoulder being hyperVigilent ,, when I could be spending my energy ( God's Energy) giving instead of being forced to be Defensive ,,,, what a Tragic Sinful Waste of Your Life ,,,,, there is a difference between Revenge ( eye for an eye ) and Retribution , Consequences,:: the return of stolen property ,being held responsible for the Damage done to the Innocent,,
You have amazing insight. Sadly God allows these people to steal everything until we are a shell of who we once were. The wicked thrive, Gods people often destroyed. Am trying to understand after 51 years of living for Christ. Am at rock bottom.
My belief is that taking revenge keeps you engaged with the Narcissist and that is fundamentally what they want. I believe that you should walk away and rebuild your life, that will hurt them more. Have faith that a higher power will eventually take these people to their downfall.
Can you please explain how someone who’s been a victim for 30 years and lost their health and even memory from so much stress, can rebuild and start over? Can time be rolled back? I don’t think so.
@@georgeteo8797 if they can move from victim to survivor then some healing can be achieved. Don't write people off like that, there should always be hope. These Narcs are trapped by their own victim mentality, their hate and distain for themselves and everyone they touch, their need to destroy driven by hate, greed, envy. A very sour bitter and twisted place. The place you go to when you need revenge driven by anger. If you cant heal then your the same as them.
‘The harder path to take is definitely the most powerful one’. So true and well said. 👍👍 Though I may stumble along the way, as I did this morning with my family member, I pray that God graciously steers me back on course-spares His wrath over my misconduct by the guidance of His unconditional love and grace.
Awesome. This is what exactly happened to me.. God empowered me a lot and helped me become successful in life.. My Narcissistic MIL collapsed after seeing our victory. Soon after attending a function that was organised to celebrate our victory in a grand manner, she shut down.. went into depression many times and suffered from dementia for close to 8 years, reduced from 90 kg yo 36 kg, forgetting everyone.. what she went through, my god, God definitely took revenge on her.
I needed to hear the Biblical wisdom in this video! Thank you! My narcissist was a manager I had who made me suffer for a long time and then smeared my reputation so that I was retrenched. I was retrenched one month before my father died and my mother had terminal lung disease. I can see God’s wisdom and kindness that allowed me to be a carer to my mother when she needed me most. My current financial position is not as favourable, but my current role is important, and I am feeling more emotional and mental peace. Sometimes I am tempted to be bitter or impatient with God’s handling of this person, but your video convinced me to trust the Lord, His judgement and rebuke sand to trust the promises in His word. Thank you for your God-centred resources!
I not only do Not want revenge! I want my mother to be able to receive GOD'S GRACE! My mother has ZERO shame nor the ability to REPENT BC this is "my problem"! Prayers and advice welcome! Mom is 84 now but could likely live til 104.
I appreciate how you break this topic down of narcissism biblically and without bitterness and anger but peace. It's refreshing I want to get to this place in my life as well. Thank you and God bless you for your videos. It's good to hear how to be free God's way through his word
Shaneen, thank you for this. It reinforces my effort to let go of his 38 years of causing me so much pain. I try to pray for his soul, but it is hard to do when he is continuing to cause me harm-financially, spreading lies and smearing my name.
Shaneen, do you have a video about how to navigate healing from a completely lost and very shattered rock bottom? One where the person is extremely stuck, filled with paralyzing fear and procrastination, extreme repressed emotions that are stuck, heavy yuck feelings in the torso, can’t stop thinking about the narcissist good or bad and it’s been well over a year. Maybe a video of what feels like a broken spirit and not connected to the soul due to narcissistic abuse and infidelity, staying in a marriage after discovering the affair which ended after a few years and left utterly shattered in the lowest energy ever. Empath’s take a lot longer to heal I’ve noticed, probably due to feeling so much so intensely. What to do when we’re left 100% burnt out and fully drained from our life source. Going from feeling everything my whole life and what a beautiful gift I was given to literally feeling nothing, completely numb, empty, alone and lonely, not feeling my soul and spirit connection. Very monotone, blah, straight line like a cardiac machine without rhythm. I want to feel love and life again. Where’s the switch to power myself back on? It’s the worst feeling to live in for the past 5+ years 😢💔 Help
New to this channel about a week or so. I did a Google search on biblical teaching on a Narc and up came you Shannen. You are awesome and truly God sent as I personally, want God to handle it. I asked for Wisdom and Discernment, received both to handle my narc spouse. Long story short, while we live in the same house, I’ve moved on in looking UP daily, and carrying out what HE would want me to. While it is painful, I have “ignored” him, which he cannot stand, and, wondering what my next move would be. Which is by HIS grace, nothing but keep doing ME, My LORD will handle what’s coming to him. Praise you Jesus!❤️
Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight to such a difficult and elusive but very real problem. May the Lord continue to bless you and your channel as you shed light to a fallen world.
The daily weeping I have endured for the last 2 yrs after being in a relationship with a narcissist (I didn’t even know what this was until now) has drained me dry. Watching your video had me weeping heavily because everything you shared is so true! I do not want revenge but I want him to wake up. I don’t understand how any one could claim to be a pastor and treat the one closest to you like dirt--insulting and you name it! Thank you for reminding me of the word of God. He will repay for every lie spewed every curse word hurled at me and even the “getting in my face with threats “. I’m dealing with moving on feeling exhausted and abused after treating him with loyalty and respect--but he claims he’s the victim..it’s sooooo unfair! Thank you for sharing this video. I feel a little better after being reminded of what I am suppose to be doing and that’s focusing on the Good Lord! Thank you and Keep sharing!🙏🏽🙌🏽
I was married to a pastor who was a narcissist. Dry your tears and seek deliverance. That’s what saved my life. I wanted to be free and God set me free. Seek a good counseling ministry. I highly recommend Above and Beyond Ministry in Tampa Florida. I was on the verge of death. God delivered me
@@livinglife3149 the one I was dating was a pastor too! I had never met such a person who could praise one breath and curse you out all in the same breath. I am no longer the same and have learned a big lesson. I am asking the Lord for daily strength and I believe in what the holy scriptures say about how we are suppose to treat each other. Thank you for the advice. I am glad you made it out too! God bless you!🙏🏼🙌🏼
Your content is SUCH a breath of fresh air! I love how you highlight Scripture in a relevant and substantive way. Thank you, and keep up the excellent work!!
The 2 people who caused me so much pain are my mother and ex-husband but I never wanted revenge. I cut them - and their enablers - off several years ago but kept a polite distance, and constantly prayed for God's mercy on them. Am still recovering but I've never been more at peace. ❤
God bless you for all you do! Your videos have helped me tremendously. I am now 5 months no contact and leave all in God's hands ❤️🙏I was in a relationship with a wolf in sheep's clothing. It rocked me to my core, but God gave me the strength to leave and never look back. This was someone who was my first love at 14 and walked back into my life 40 years later, just as I was the strongest in my walk with God.
Thank you so very much for making this video. I’m out after 40 years. I’m getting better, but I struggled with impatience at seeing him reap what he has sown. I am praying to release the anger. It triggers on occasion and I know that that is Satan attempting to attack my soul.
Keeping the blockages is the way to block the stoppages just remember we don't owe anybody our time it's got to be earned through Glory graciousness and appreciation
Oh how I felt this during my long drawn out drama divorce. At 1 time I was so angry and wanted God to punish him for all he had done. Then I was sad and couldn’t understand how all that was happening to me and everyone around us was suffering from this toxic ex husband. I prayed and prayed. By the time the divorce was final after a year of waiting from trial results, his health started to decline and he has had 1 bad thing after another happen to him since our divorce was finalized a few months ago. I pray for his soul and I actually am Sad for him that he wasn’t a better father and husband. He has had to actually bother to borrow money from me just to get by and I know it took a lot for him to ask me. All of his so called friends are no longer there for him anymore. I actually do feel bad for him, after all he is the father of my last son, and I would never do to him what he has to me. I pray God comes to his heart and will make him a better man. For us all and my peace and my sons peace I hope the best for him. I’ll never u first and what God knows and how He does things, so I know in my heart the way I felt is gone and I’ve already seen Gods hand in giving him what he gets. And it’s actually hard to watch. But my ex did do it to himself as well. Prayers for all🙏
Im watching my children and grandchildren become narcissistic. My eldest daughter has confessed that she does not believe my grandson too. We had a painful Christmas. I have been here before. I surrender and give the glory to God. Im sad to lose my family. It is a serious problem. In Him I can do all things. I ask Him to come with all authority to keep me strong and loving and able. Ty for this video. It has encouraged me as does his word.
The most interesting and powerful message in this video for me personally, was the Scripture about Jezebel, and how God gave her time to Repent. ( That in itself,) shows what a patient and merciful God we serve!! Although Jezebel, and her self entitled ego, wouldn't let her submit to God, she had a very painful cost to her evil!! Thank you for this video, as I have personally felt like, if the narcissist goes to hell over their intention to hurt others deeply, oh well. But I'de rather stay out of the way, and know Only God Sits on His Throne❣❣❣🕊🍃
Married to one.. trying to break free from him... Whenever i want get even i pray to God and ask for retribution.... I need God to give me the strenght to go thru divorce...
The hardest thing for me is to get over the lie of thinking he really cared about me.😪 I gave him my time, money, sex ,I can't hate him .praying to get over him.🙏 move on with my life...
Thank you so much I so needed to hear this and reminds me to hold on to hope and strengthen my faith. The narc is continuously harming being a threat to me and my family, where I constantly thinking why justice hasn’t serve yet, reported police but bo action taken, he is just getting away with everything, roaming free!! I was thinking how to make police catch him. After watching this video I shall continue to wait on God. Vengeance is His. Please pray for me, I will pray for everyone who are going through hard times to be strong and ride the waves as God promised to double our abundance and blessings. We shall prosper together, God bless 🙏🏼❤
Yea you are right. I uncovered a man who is a Pastor with Narcissistic traits, he's Angered alot of people including me. However GOD will deal with him, I know where I'm going, I've been repenting as best I can. Family is very important to me as it does for him knowing that I can make better decisions
This was very helpful. I’d like to share a story with you from my life. My first job out of college was working for this very narcissistic very mean man. He really held me back and he wanted me to feel inferior. After a year and a half it got to be the point where he did something that really crossed the line. And he’s really beating me down for a year and a half. I remember I prayed deeply and I said to Jesus, I wanna quit I don’t have another job lined up but this is just awful I feel terrible my spiritual life is down. I think this guy just wants to play with my mind. Literally he was using my mind like a diaper pail. So a couple days later I walked in and gave him my two weeks notice. Of course he was six exceedingly mean and yelling all this great stuff. But about two years later I ran in to this guy and his other eight employees. for a meeting. I was feeling really good. I’d raise myself up exponentially. I was well treated and respected by my new employer. I was making easily three times as much money as I did when I was working for the narcissist boss. And I passed them in the airport and I gave them a real warm greeting. How are you doing? Oh yeah I really like working in the medical field. It’s a good fit for me and I’m really doing great and he comes narcissistic bossed stumbles to me and just starts violently patting me on the shoulder and said well good for you and just walks away swaggers away. It was really good!
I love that what she says is so well balanced between reality and bible based spirituality. I have been married for 33 years and just learned about narcissism and the sad reality that my husband exactly fits the description. Even though he is a quiet, laid back person, more of a covert narcissist instead of a loud rageaholic, he managed to cause me so much harm and pain. He was cheater and he also destroyed everything in my life, including our finances. I am highly considering a divorced, I had it, specially with his blondness abd stubbornness, he still thinks he is so perfect and has not anything wrong. I do not desire evil revenge on him but for him to come to true repentance and a crushed spirit to allow him to see his reality and sin. He is already reaping what he sowed, but still doesn't repent. In the last few years his health has been declining drastically, he is only the shadow of that healthy, strong, extremely handsome man that had women lined up waiting for their turn. I want him to truly repent but I don't know if I want to wait around any longer.
I'm a year and a half out of the experience I had with a narcissist..My life is great and coming together beautifully, but lets be real I don't have amnesia. I found myself curious about what's been happening with the narcissist. This video has reminded me that GOD has not forgot, Thank you Shaneen.
Thank you so much for this message, Shaneen. This is absolute truth. I have had some bitterness after the horrors and hurts from this narcissistic man. I've been working so hard in this past year to escape the rumination, bitterness, anger, and regret. I've really started to feel like I'm advancing, but sometimes I fall back into wishing that the Lord would deal with him harshly. This is just what I needed to hear this morning. Thank You Lord Jesus!
Your not alone we have all been there. Same Exact feelings you are dealing with. I hate the rumination. God and the Holy Spirit have never left my life. Best thing I ever did was Walk Away from my Ex Toxic Narc Girlfriend. She has been living with KARMA mostly all her life. I really don't see any changes coming her way. But its not my job to make sure she gets it. I'll leave to GOD. Take care We Are Free. And Away from them. There's the blessing.
@@davidcoppotelli3957 thank you. I too, hate the rumination. So each time it starts, I remember this Scripture. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled. II Corinthians 10:4-6 It grounds me in Truth again. My counselor told me that rumination is our brain trying to make sense of what happened...and that's probably true, but I know that Jesus knows, and that's enough for me at this point. You are right, we were rescued and that IS the blessing!
@@JesusIsTheWay.Truth.Life. Hey Girl we still have a long way to go yet you and I. We were hoodwinked. That is not going to end our life's. Its there LOSS and a blessing we are out of the BS future faking and whatever else they were giving Us. Now we are gone and they can have our Total Silence and nothing more. Be good to yourself catch you on the other SIDE of the LIGHT.
He really got away w the murder of my old self. He destroyed me to the core and I'll never be the same. I feel colder and i don't ever want to be in another relationship..
I just found this channel. I healed finally a few years ago. And you affirm everything the Lord took me through in my healing. It's so wonderful to have a channel I can refer other Christians to who've been thru narcissistic abuse. Deuteronomy 29:19 “Those who hear the warnings of this curse should not congratulate themselves, thinking, ‘I am safe, even though I am following the desires of my own stubborn heart.’ This would lead to utter ruin! ⬆️ That's what the narcissist does.
Oh this was one of the best videos ever this is straight from God at the exact same moment that I clicked on it seriously thank you my dear sister in Christ all the way from Canada taking it to court with the narcissist the management company on Friday this week today is Wednesday so two more days unbelievable thank you for all the education on the revenge part. But genuinely genuinely in my heart for the past 11 years every building that I've moved to genuinely I have asked father God and Jesus Christ of Nazareth to please reveal themselves to The narcissist in their sleep or open vision and to please grant them true repentance to heal them and deliver them from saw the demons in water for them to accept Jesus Christ of Nazareth and yeshua as Lord and savior and so that they can at least get a serious put in the door to continue to obey the word that is with major love and get healing and deliverance I've cried my face off I said humbly I have prayed this over and over and over and over for 11 years for each narcissist I've come around as tenants and this particular one the caretaker.
Thank you for this...I was discarded by a narcissist 3 months ago and still dealing in shock, deep depression and anxiety it has adversely affected my health. Gave of my self emotionally, spiritually, financially, intellectually, physically erc.... he's on to his new supply, he thrives on LD relationships all while hiding behind ministry work. Found out in the last year he's been in 3 relationships and just went back to one 1/2 way across the world probably easier to keep her at bay, not to mention he probably has more he's keeping around. I don't want revenge, I actually still love him ...I am asking the Lord to expose him even more (he was removed from the ministry we were a part of because of this after being confronted) so he can stop hurting people and for the Lord to help me stop loving him and to see him for the facade he really is so I can move on. I pray he repents and becomes restored but I don't even think I can be concerned about that now because I'm raw and need to heal. You're video has helped me understand so many things I was clueless and so gullible but I'm asking Jesus to be my strength and get me through this heart break and restore my life so I can continue to serve Him. Thank you for these videos really needed something from a Christian perspective and who truly understands this subject, many don't....,God bless you!! 🙏✝️🕊️
Thank you for your input on what to do and not to do! Mike is trying to get back in my life, but I’m not going there! I am happy for my life in Daddy God, getting healing and got healed from his web of life! God Bless you my Sister ✝️💜💋😎
I don't want revenge. I want my relationship with God to become stronger so I can become stronger for that next demon. Because it is coming back and I will be ready!
Hi Shaneen Your teaching has been invaluable thanks, because it has provided understanding of NPD that I just didn’t have. That teaching has helped me stay in a NPD relationship and learn how to make the best of it. God hates divorce and while my first marriage was to a passive aggressive covert NPD along with flying monkeys and nasty stuff, through faith in Jesus and a greater understanding I’m able to soldier on. My second wife is overt non toxic NPD so that your teaching is very valuable in helping us all enjoy life to the full. There is always help when we ask Jesus for help because in the last days people are very self centred Bye for now Gary
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!! I’ve spent all of this year breaking free with God’s help, from the emotional prison of a narc pastor. Won’t go into it but struggled with anger. Anger almost won but my victory is in Jesus!! 😍 I have a little ways to go, but I trust the Him to take care of this person. God has SO blessed my life! I prayed the Arronic blessing in Numbers 6 over him daily for awhile. Every time anger tried to tackle me down I cried out to the Lord--I DONT WANT TO TRADE THE PRISON OF THE NARC FIR THE PRISON OF ANGER!!!!! I rebuke that mess in the Name of Jesus the Christ ✋🏻🤚🏻
These toxic relationships come with many different circumstances. I am healed of my past trauma with him however we still live under the same roof. Ironically I own my own home, yet I’m still here. It’s really hard, I’m being patient but it’s taking GRIT which I continually have to generate in order to persevere. As cheesy as this sounds I’m genuinely astounded at how resilient & fearless I have become. Honestly when I’m out & about & interacting with people I see snippets of who I’ve become & I’m blown away. All I can say is God works in mysterious ways, I have no idea where all this is leading to however I will continue to trust in Him.
I don't want revenge. I just want the hurt to stop and all the debt he caused me to get paid. I'm tired and depressed and it's hard to move on.
This too shall pass
That's exactly how I feel as I sit here bawling my eyes out. I don't want revenge, I just want the hurt to stop and my heart to stop breaking. I can't help but still feel love for him and feel sorry for such a miserable human being he is. In spite of all the pain he's put me through. What is wrong with me??!!
@@moonfairy74 O was feeling exactly all the things you speak of. I realised it was the trauma bonds and did quite a bit of research and praying to break free. Trauma bonds are so insidious and hard to comprehend in the midst of the pain. It is now 18 months since I left after 46.5 years of marriage. It has been incredibly hard emotionally but God is so good and so is my life now. God bless you.
In time it gets better 🤍. Stay Before God …He Is a Healer 💙
Blessings 🙏
Katrina, when you're involved with a Narc and digging your way out of the trouble they caused, it seems hopeless. But stay true to God, pray and depend on Him, and He truly will help you! I'm living proof that it does get better, but you're in a journey back from Hell. Keep moving forward, don't look back, trust the Lord and He really will take care of you!! May God bless you during this difficult time! Don't give up!!
I have seen narcissistic ppl reap all that they have shown. My ex-husband 3 yrs after I left him had a massive stroke & ended his life all alone in a nursing home. I've seen others end up in very bad shape before they died. GOD, I feel like gives them plenty of chances to repent. They're so evil they won't repent.
Narcs live in their own Trinity - Me Myself and I.
Them satan and unholy spirit
I don't want revenge. I just want my children and I to heal. I want to keep him away from us.
I surrender my tough situation into the holy hands of Christ Jesus 🙏
HE WHO BRINGS TROUBLE TO HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD INHERITS THE WIND!!!!
I'am FREE and God walked with me the whole way and guided me, peaceful and happy.
Me too!!!
Same .
I am hoping the same for me.
Trust God
P/G!!!!!! Hallelujah
THEY CAN PICK THEIR SIN BUT NOT THE CONSEQUENCES!!!
I am struggling with this and I want God to vindicate me because this person did me wrong in so many ways.
Amen
DON'T THINK OF THAT CREATURE ANY MORE...forgive yourself for falling for the snare
Thank God he set you free before it killed U cause not all make it.
Now go live with full awareness God is real n live your purpose for God. Release and heal by knowing
You are vindicated by Christ
U lived child. Ur still alive. Blessed
Never ever go back go forward
@@missevie432 Thank you so much for your beautiful and uplifting message. God bless you!
Me tooooooo
I am a christian. I am a mental health therapist! Your videos have blessed me personally in many many ways! I know Abba caused your channel to find me! May HE continue to bless you and your content!
I've always wondered this. so, if you don't mind:
hearing voices is a sign of mental illness
as a therapist, you'd have diagnosed the prophets as schizophrenic if you'd met them. does that cause you any internal conflicts?
thank you Cassandra
@@john-ic5pzyou don't GET IT. Doctor's (people of the world) fabricated psych diagnoses because if demon possession could be labeled a psychiatric disease, they can drain insurance companies and take pharmaceutical kickbacks.
Fantastic TRUTH👍🎉 YOU ARE Thriving AND I AM TOO!!! GODS WORD Is❤OUR LIFE & Life RESTORED ABUNDANTLY to Help Others & Glorify OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN 👆✝️🤣❤️🤍💙🇺🇸 FREEDOM
I absolutely DO NOT want revenge!!
Just rebuild
They shamed us in secret God will shame them in public!!!!!
You think? 😢
@@thendebele that's what the Word says 🙌🏼
Waiting for that day
@@Janeintheok which scripture?
Amen!!
The best revenge is improving yourself and rising spiritually
God felt with my narcissist. 45 yrs to repent and turn away from his sin.
Death came in 2022. A horrific death....suffering for 20 days.
You are absolutely correct.....God's revenge came quickly and was deadly.
Thank you for a better understanding
As Psalm repeats....WAIT UPON THE LORD......PRAY....WATCH...AND WAIT.
GOD IS GOOD TO HIS SERVANTS.
PRAY...WATCH....WAIT!!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾💙
HALLELUJAH ✝️🙏🌲
He died bc he died. It's the only guarantee in life is death. Even ppl who never did anything to anyone die horrid deaths. My point is it happens. I wouldn't chalk that up to "Gods revenge." Although it probably soothes your seething rage then go ahead. I guess.. But to be real, it'd more than likely would have happened exactly the way it did even if he was the greatest man on earth to ever live. Ur free to disagree obviously. I think that sometimes humans are so thirsty for Gods hand that they start to credit life circumstances to Gods hand. It's like when a person is desperate for an answer and they can't find one they start to find answers to things that aren't even there. Yes Gods real, I KNOW he moves in circumstances and anyone who says different is either trolling or genuinely ignorant to it, no I'm not saying ur wrong about what u believe within this situation but I am saying u probably are. Life happens to everyone. Narcissist or not.
@@heidimaxham1612 Agreed. I've seen evil men live well and die relatively peacefully. I've also seen a good men die horrifically.
With God, it just is what it is. It's out of our hands beyond the trust that we need to put in Him.
Sometimes it can be very slow, very painful, botched surgical procedure, very expensive, not once but with more than one family “member” in the hands of G-d’s wrath for what they did to one of His precious children…
Considering what they put my wife through, and our marriage. 😭
Shaneen is so right on. Listen to her. God has given me this true freedom to wish the best for the ex-husband and to pray for his soul to be brought back to righteousness even though he hurt me so tremendously deep. I had everything taken from me. My home, sons, huge amount of money, my marriage and my dreams to say the least. I was suicidal.
That's almost sick. God had nothing to do what happened. That usreally sick to think it's OK to just let me do horrible things to you and your family. No don't ask for revenge but to do what rhus says is self destructive and suck.
Carol, I pray things are improving for you and you are on a healing journey.🙏
I am going through a similar situation
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Joel 2:25
God will restore matter of fact it will be better than before.
Proverbs 6:31
You pray for his soul to be brought back to righteousness? You're assuming his soul was ever righteous in the first place. Some people are just evil. Period. Focus on healing and becoming whole and pray for insight and wisdom into this situation so you can see it for what it truly is/was. Don't waste your time worrying about him. He's certainly not worrying about you. Matter of fact he tried to destroy you. That's the opposite of care. Get real. It's healthy.
I don't want revenge either I want me back my confidence back and my life back
🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
There's Life in abundance with JESUS CHRIST. 🙏
I encourage everyone to heed this advice. I kept myself from fighting back when I moved to another state and my former pastor's wife telling people close to me at the church that I attended before I moved to unfriend me and ignore me when I moved back. She said God knows what about me. I have NO IDEA what was said about me. People near and dear to me who loved me all of a sudden hated me! It hurt incredibly and I can relate to the physical pain that you described in the beginning of the video! But I didn't seek to fight her/them. I said God will handle it and I worshipped and prayed. Then a brand new attitude took over and their hatred didn't bother me any longer! I've purposed in my heart that if I run into any of my former friends now haters, I will thank them because the Lord tells us to rejoice in our persecution. I understand that now more then ever!!! Praise the Lord and thank you for this truth!!!
Excellent video! I don't want anything bad to happen to the narcissist. I hope and pray that God confronts him so he can see is. This would be justice to me. Hopefully the Narcissist will repent & be saved. If so, all the pain was worth it.
Marry me Renee. Let's run away and make babies.
Thirty years ago I had a dream that my sister died in a plane crash. This dream felt so real that I'm certain it was prophetic. She is the narcissist I'm dealing with right now. My pain is still very real and I'm going to allow myself to be angry. God showed me recently that, although I thought I barely had a mustard seed of faith left, He marveled at my faith. He really is our only hope.
A mustard seed is not about it size but it ability. Mustard seed is invasive and fast growing. It spreads and takes over any area. Left to grow it becomes a strong tree with deep wide roots. It’s incredibly difficult to kill. So He really did see the faith you’re capable of having.
@@deanarjones9114 Thank you for your kind response.
My wife is extreme NARCISSIST, she’s divorcing me after 35 years, taking everything I’ve earned, she gets so excited when she talks about how I’ll be in the gutter. She’s mentally I’ll, I pray everyday and listen to these awesome videos
You are a blessed man that she is leaving. I am not that lucky… after over 30 years of control and manipulation she realized that I am finally on to her and changed her strategy to playing the victim and she gets sick at the drop of a hat in order to get attention and keep me around…
We have 3 children, 2 are normal and one is just like her. She would easily turn them against me if I left, by pointing out abandonment…
Forgive seek GOD & pray for your enemies
I have yet to see the hand of the lord fully moving in justice within the narcs life. It has been almost 40 years. I question myself as I struggle with the fine line between delighting in their downfall and rejoicing in the truth of the Bible to see Gods hand of justice. It’s frustrating to wait so long and watch as the narc continues to destroy his own family and committing crimes without any obvious consequences and still pretend to be a minister of the lord. It’s really horrific to watch. Especially how he continues to fool people around him and hide his sin. God help me not to rejoice in the narcs downfall but to only rejoice in your justice. I hope to rejoice in your righteousness and how you perform your word and defend your people. I hope for myself It’s like the feeling of satisfaction when a murderer or child abuser is brought to Justice. There is no delight in that. The sickening effects of their abuse is still out there but at least Justice has been served. It’s like holding two simultaneous thoughts in your mind at once. It’s difficult to put into words. God help me to be pleasing to you in all my ways and inward thoughts. Cleanse me of all unrighteousness. While I also pray for god to reveal the truth, bring justice and stop the narc from destroying anyone else.
This is spot on my life in 1998. I needed you there. Thank you for speaking up now. God told me my hatred and unforgiveness of the ex narcissistic husband was like me trying to tread water in a deep lake while holding onto a huge boulder. I could drop the boulder (unforgiveness and hatred) and be free or hold on to the unforgiveness and sink to the bottom
I have been listening to practically every video I can find on narcissist for over a year and right now I don't even think I can pick the best words for how this video of yours has affected me. The peace and relief you have given me is indescribable!!!!! I am finally ready to take my life back and move on!! I now know that my break through is here and the best part is feeling that I not only have more peace but that I truly love myself and God even more and through him I won't just be a survivor! I want you to know that you changed my life today. !!
This. Right now. Today.
After talking to my lawyer this morning, I was there. I'm still fighting the feelings. It's been a really hard day. This video just popped up and so I KNOW it's a message directly from God. Thank you Shaneen for being the messenger. I hurt so bad right now but I know this isn't over yet. I'm going to keep trusting in the Lord and let him make my path.
Janice, I was married to a narc for 14 years. I tried harder, he hurt me more. Finally, I had to do something! I filed for divorce. Then he tried to get me back. Faked a suicide attempt ( just got stupid drunk) whined, cried, begged me to take him back. I got strong because of God and godly advice. 🙏 I took one day at a time. Didn't look back. Fought for my sanity, my freedom, myself, my son. It was the hardest thing I've ever done! 20 years later, I've been married 16 years to a wonderful man, we're happy and healthy, my son is married to a beautiful young lady and I have a precious grand daughter!! I win, because God always wins and I put my trust in Him!! Hang in there and trust God's guidance. 🙏
The video is awesome
God knows ur hurt and what ur going through. He's right on time. Her videos and subjects always pop up right on time for me too.
Great video. Revenge belong to God. Jesus knows whst He is doing and He work on time. God bless.
The best revenge is joy✨ Gurl/ Boy you deserve better!💁🏻♀️💛
There ARE times you have to take action.
May the Lord bless you, sister. I spent 50 years in bondage and torture. Finally at the edge of insanity I prayed that God would deliver me. The next day she left in a cloud of lies with no discussion. My loving Father delivered me. Wow. I’m remarried now and enjoying endless fellowship and peace. God is so good. Jesus is such a saviour and kind brother. The narc slandered me to my grown children and grand children. This is my only and greatest grief.
God isn't done yet.
I prayed for you to be blessed.
Thank you so much-I am blessed!! I’m having the best years of my life!!
I am happy to hear you were delivered from the abuse, but you are not to get remarried if your first ( covenant) spouse is still alive. The vowand covenant you made before God "till death do is part" was heard by God. How many times are you going to make the same vow before him? He allows separation in times of abuse, but calls the spouse to reconcile. 1 Cor 7:1-12. It says you are not called to bondage ( to stay in an abusive marriage), but He does not say remnay. He calls for reconciliation or to remain single. There are quite a few videos on YT on this topic - 'Divorce -Remarriage=Adultery". Ask God to guide you to the right videos..
Thank you for a great supportive video. The ultimate revenge on the narcisist is to live your best life in total freedom from the narcisists and their influence. Showing them how much better our authentic lives are without them is the biggest revenge. :)
God will take care of it, and we can trust Him.
So He does justice and pays back? I was literally raped and severely violated and slandered like no other
@@nadinegomez8858 yes He does, and you are not alone. He is angry with the wicked every day, and will not let them “get away” with it even though it often seems like it, & takes way longer than we’d like. He is close to the broken-hearted and the healer of broken hearts. Final Justice belongs to God. He cares deeply.
@@nadinegomez8858me too I’m sorry 😭❤️🙏🏻
The best revenge is Peace Love Happiness Kindness and light. We ALL deserve it. AMEN
Thank you god 💯💪🙏😇❤🌞🕊
This message is perfect. And it is a message that must be presented. It is an important message, especially for those who are in recovery from being tormented, terrorized, humiliated, violated, traumatized, robbed, or raped, by negative demonic power sources from hell. Thank you so much for caring about us victims of abuse.
I FULLY agree with you! This has proven true in my own life! However, with my narcissistic family… Even when you see God working and dealing the blows, it just seems to feed their narcissism! I still trust the Lord 💯, but it is amazing how they don’t get it, and time is really drawing short for them. Soon, they will be dealing with Him face to face.
28 yrs with one thanks be to God for helping me to let go completely
I just watched this video again and I got more out of it. I encourage everyone that has watched this to watch it again and see if you hear or learn something more than the first time watching.
It's so true about the law of cause and effect. Seen it play out many times in other people's life. Even seen it play out in my own life.
I don't want revenge; I want to start therapy and keep it going.
Regaining your power after a toxic relationship is the biggest part of healing, especially since we’ve gotten so used to being controlled. Be kind to yourself and take it day by day, so you can begin to feel more powerful and confident in yourself again.
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
G o L: No arguing, defending, explaining,mending ,resenting or revenging. Stay free and intact.
Thank you.
God has imparted much wisdom on you. God loves me infinitely for showing me this. All glory to the Most High.
TY i needed to hear this video. I'm leaving a 37 year marriage with a Narc. God has been leading my pathway. It's been one of the hardest seasons I've ever walked. I can't help it, but I pray for justice for what he's put me through. He nearly took me down emotionally and mentally. Lord TY for your kindness and healing.
I have for years been ministering to a narcissist and his victims. You repeat everything that God has shown me to say and do. You, Sister Shaneen, are a blessed resource for my ministry.
This is very true. It’s natural to want to see those who hurt you get a taste of their own medicine, but I’m going to read Psalms 37 every time I feel myself wanting to seek revenge. Thanks Shaneen for your wisdom.
Great psalm for this situation 🙏
I'm not seeking Revenge, just
Protection, I think of all the time
I have to spend looking over my shoulder being hyperVigilent ,, when I could be spending my energy ( God's Energy) giving instead of being forced to be Defensive ,,,, what a Tragic Sinful
Waste of Your Life ,,,,, there is a difference between Revenge ( eye for an eye ) and Retribution , Consequences,:: the return of stolen property ,being held responsible for the Damage
done to the Innocent,,
You have amazing insight. Sadly God allows these people to steal everything until we are a shell of who we once were. The wicked thrive, Gods people often destroyed. Am trying to understand after 51 years of living for Christ. Am at rock bottom.
My belief is that taking revenge keeps you engaged with the Narcissist and that is fundamentally what they want.
I believe that you should walk away and rebuild your life, that will hurt them more. Have faith that a higher power will eventually take these people to their downfall.
Can you please explain how someone who’s been a victim for 30 years and lost their health and even memory from so much stress, can rebuild and start over? Can time be rolled back? I don’t think so.
@@georgeteo8797 if they can move from victim to survivor then some healing can be achieved. Don't write people off like that, there should always be hope.
These Narcs are trapped by their own victim mentality, their hate and distain for themselves and everyone they touch, their need to destroy driven by hate, greed, envy. A very sour bitter and twisted place. The place you go to when you need revenge driven by anger. If you cant heal then your the same as them.
‘The harder path to take is definitely the most powerful one’.
So true and well said. 👍👍
Though I may stumble along the way, as I did this morning with my family member, I pray that God graciously steers me back on course-spares His wrath over my misconduct by the guidance of His unconditional love and grace.
Awesome. This is what exactly happened to me.. God empowered me a lot and helped me become successful in life.. My Narcissistic MIL collapsed after seeing our victory. Soon after attending a function that was organised to celebrate our victory in a grand manner, she shut down.. went into depression many times and suffered from dementia for close to 8 years, reduced from 90 kg yo 36 kg, forgetting everyone.. what she went through, my god, God definitely took revenge on her.
I needed to hear the Biblical wisdom in this video! Thank you! My narcissist was a manager I had who made me suffer for a long time and then smeared my reputation so that I was retrenched. I was retrenched one month before my father died and my mother had terminal lung disease. I can see God’s wisdom and kindness that allowed me to be a carer to my mother when she needed me most. My current financial position is not as favourable, but my current role is important, and I am feeling more emotional and mental peace. Sometimes I am tempted to be bitter or impatient with God’s handling of this person, but your video convinced me to trust the Lord, His judgement and rebuke sand to trust the promises in His word. Thank you for your God-centred resources!
I hope things are getting better, shalom
I not only do Not want revenge! I want my mother to be able to receive GOD'S GRACE! My mother has ZERO shame nor the ability to REPENT BC this is "my problem"! Prayers and advice welcome! Mom is 84 now but could likely live til 104.
I appreciate how you break this topic down of narcissism biblically and without bitterness and anger but peace. It's refreshing I want to get to this place in my life as well. Thank you and God bless you for your videos. It's good to hear how to be free God's way through his word
Dear Shaneen, thank you so much for what you are doing. Your channel is more precious than gold. Love and blessings to you!!!
Shaneen, thank you for this. It reinforces my effort to let go of his 38 years of causing me so much pain. I try to pray for his soul, but it is hard to do when he is continuing to cause me harm-financially, spreading lies and smearing my name.
Shaneen, do you have a video about how to navigate healing from a completely lost and very shattered rock bottom? One where the person is extremely stuck, filled with paralyzing fear and procrastination, extreme repressed emotions that are stuck, heavy yuck feelings in the torso, can’t stop thinking about the narcissist good or bad and it’s been well over a year.
Maybe a video of what feels like a broken spirit and not connected to the soul due to narcissistic abuse and infidelity, staying in a marriage after discovering the affair which ended after a few years and left utterly shattered in the lowest energy ever. Empath’s take a lot longer to heal I’ve noticed, probably due to feeling so much so intensely. What to do when we’re left 100% burnt out and fully drained from our life source. Going from feeling everything my whole life and what a beautiful gift I was given to literally feeling nothing, completely numb, empty, alone and lonely, not feeling my soul and spirit connection. Very monotone, blah, straight line like a cardiac machine without rhythm. I want to feel love and life again. Where’s the switch to power myself back on? It’s the worst feeling to live in for the past 5+ years 😢💔
Help
LET GO N LET GOD
OPEN THEIR EYES O GOD THAT THEY MAY SEE YOU FOR THEIR SAKE AND YOUR GLORY
New to this channel about a week or so. I did a Google search on biblical teaching on a Narc and up came you Shannen. You are awesome and truly God sent as I personally, want God to handle it. I asked for Wisdom and Discernment, received both to handle my narc spouse. Long story short, while we live in the same house, I’ve moved on in looking UP daily, and carrying out what HE would want me to. While it is painful, I have “ignored” him, which he cannot stand, and, wondering what my next move would be. Which is by HIS grace, nothing but keep doing ME, My LORD will handle what’s coming to him. Praise you Jesus!❤️
The best revenge is living well. ✨️
Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight to such a difficult and elusive but very real problem. May the Lord continue to bless you and your channel as you shed light to a fallen world.
You have to be the healthiest most down to earth well balanced christian I have ever seen.
The daily weeping I have endured for the last 2 yrs after being in a relationship with a narcissist (I didn’t even know what this was until now) has drained me dry. Watching your video had me weeping heavily because everything you shared is so true! I do not want revenge but I want him to wake up. I don’t understand how any one could claim to be a pastor and treat the one closest to you like dirt--insulting and you name it! Thank you for reminding me of the word of God. He will repay for every lie spewed every curse word hurled at me and even the “getting in my face with threats “. I’m dealing with moving on feeling exhausted and abused after treating him with loyalty and respect--but he claims he’s the victim..it’s sooooo unfair! Thank you for sharing this video. I feel a little better after being reminded of what I am suppose to be doing and that’s focusing on the Good Lord! Thank you and Keep sharing!🙏🏽🙌🏽
I was married to a pastor who was a narcissist. Dry your tears and seek deliverance. That’s what saved my life. I wanted to be free and God set me free. Seek a good counseling ministry. I highly recommend Above and Beyond Ministry in Tampa Florida. I was on the verge of death. God delivered me
@@livinglife3149 the one I was dating was a pastor too! I had never met such a person who could praise one breath and curse you out all in the same breath. I am no longer the same and have learned a big lesson. I am asking the Lord for daily strength and I believe in what the holy scriptures say about how we are suppose to treat each other. Thank you for the advice. I am glad you made it out too! God bless you!🙏🏼🙌🏼
Your content is SUCH a breath of fresh air! I love how you highlight Scripture in a relevant and substantive way. Thank you, and keep up the excellent work!!
I believe in the rule of 10 fold:
The hate and hurt you put out there will come back to you x10.
The Love and help, also x10 will return.
Have u seen it happen tho?
Amen.🙏 Thank you.
Thank you for giving a Biblical Encouragement on not taking vengeance. Thank you.
This video was so perfectly spoken. So true and so encouraging! It gives me lots of hope and relief. Thank you so much!
The 2 people who caused me so much pain are my mother and ex-husband but I never wanted revenge. I cut them - and their enablers - off several years ago but kept a polite distance, and constantly prayed for God's mercy on them. Am still recovering but I've never been more at peace. ❤
God bless you for all you do! Your videos have helped me tremendously. I am now 5 months no contact and leave all in God's hands ❤️🙏I was in a relationship with a wolf in sheep's clothing. It rocked me to my core, but God gave me the strength to leave and never look back. This was someone who was my first love at 14 and walked back into my life 40 years later, just as I was the strongest in my walk with God.
Thank you so very much for making this video. I’m out after 40 years. I’m getting better, but I struggled with impatience at seeing him reap what he has sown. I am praying to release the anger. It triggers on occasion and I know that that is Satan attempting to attack my soul.
Keeping the blockages is the way to block the stoppages just remember we don't owe anybody our time it's got to be earned through Glory graciousness and appreciation
Oh how I felt this during my long drawn out drama divorce. At 1 time I was so angry and wanted God to punish him for all he had done. Then I was sad and couldn’t understand how all that was happening to me and everyone around us was suffering from this toxic ex husband. I prayed and prayed. By the time the divorce was final after a year of waiting from trial results, his health started to decline and he has had 1 bad thing after another happen to him since our divorce was finalized a few months ago. I pray for his soul and I actually am
Sad for him that he wasn’t a better father and husband. He has had to actually bother to borrow money from me just to get by and I know it took a lot for him to ask me. All of his so called friends are no longer there for him anymore. I actually do feel bad for him, after all he is the father of my last son, and I would never do to him what he has to me. I pray God comes to his heart and will make him a better man. For us all and my peace and my sons peace I hope the best for him. I’ll never u first and what God knows and how He does things, so I know in my heart the way I felt is gone and I’ve already seen Gods hand in giving him what he gets. And it’s actually hard to watch. But my ex did do it to himself as well. Prayers for all🙏
Those are two of my favorite scriptures I remind myself of when I think on this matter. ❤
I don’t want revenge. I am allowing God to deal with him. I want to be healed, free and healthy. Joy!!🎉and be peaceful.
Im watching my children and grandchildren become narcissistic. My eldest daughter has confessed that she does not believe my grandson too. We had a painful Christmas.
I have been here before. I surrender and give the glory to God.
Im sad to lose my family. It is a serious problem.
In Him I can do all things. I ask Him to come with all authority to keep me strong and loving and able.
Ty for this video. It has encouraged me as does his word.
The most interesting and powerful message in this video for me personally, was the Scripture about Jezebel, and how God gave her time to Repent. ( That in itself,) shows what a patient and merciful God we serve!! Although Jezebel, and her self entitled ego, wouldn't let her submit to God, she had a very painful cost to her evil!! Thank you for this video, as I have personally felt like, if the narcissist goes to hell over their intention to hurt others deeply, oh well. But I'de rather stay out of the way, and know Only God Sits on His Throne❣❣❣🕊🍃
Married to one.. trying to break free from him... Whenever i want get even i pray to God and ask for retribution.... I need God to give me the strenght to go thru divorce...
The hardest thing for me is to get over the lie of thinking he really cared about me.😪 I gave him my time, money, sex ,I can't hate him .praying to get over him.🙏 move on with my life...
I'm so sorry Carolyn. I pray for much healing and restoration in your life. 🙏🏽💕🕊
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Thank you so much I so needed to hear this and reminds me to hold on to hope and strengthen my faith. The narc is continuously harming being a threat to me and my family, where I constantly thinking why justice hasn’t serve yet, reported police but bo action taken, he is just getting away with everything, roaming free!! I was thinking how to make police catch him. After watching this video I shall continue to wait on God. Vengeance is His. Please pray for me, I will pray for everyone who are going through hard times to be strong and ride the waves as God promised to double our abundance and blessings. We shall prosper together, God bless 🙏🏼❤
Yea you are right. I uncovered a man who is a Pastor with Narcissistic traits, he's Angered alot of people including me. However GOD will deal with him, I know where I'm going, I've been repenting as best I can. Family is very important to me as it does for him knowing that I can make better decisions
This was very helpful. I’d like to share a story with you from my life. My first job out of college was working for this very narcissistic very mean man. He really held me back and he wanted me to feel inferior. After a year and a half it got to be the point where he did something that really crossed the line. And he’s really beating me down for a year and a half. I remember I prayed deeply and I said to Jesus, I wanna quit I don’t have another job lined up but this is just awful I feel terrible my spiritual life is down. I think this guy just wants to play with my mind. Literally he was using my mind like a diaper pail. So a couple days later I walked in and gave him my two weeks notice. Of course he was six exceedingly mean and yelling all this great stuff. But about two years later I ran in to this guy and his other eight employees. for a meeting. I was feeling really good. I’d raise myself up exponentially. I was well treated and respected by my new employer. I was making easily three times as much money as I did when I was working for the narcissist boss. And I passed them in the airport and I gave them a real warm greeting. How are you doing? Oh yeah I really like working in the medical field. It’s a good fit for me and I’m really doing great and he comes narcissistic bossed stumbles to me and just starts violently patting me on the shoulder and said well good for you and just walks away swaggers away. It was really good!
I love that what she says is so well balanced between reality and bible based spirituality. I have been married for 33 years and just learned about narcissism and the sad reality that my husband exactly fits the description. Even though he is a quiet, laid back person, more of a covert narcissist instead of a loud rageaholic, he managed to cause me so much harm and pain. He was cheater and he also destroyed everything in my life, including our finances. I am highly considering a divorced, I had it, specially with his blondness abd stubbornness, he still thinks he is so perfect and has not anything wrong. I do not desire evil revenge on him but for him to come to true repentance and a crushed spirit to allow him to see his reality and sin. He is already reaping what he sowed, but still doesn't repent. In the last few years his health has been declining drastically, he is only the shadow of that healthy, strong, extremely handsome man that had women lined up waiting for their turn. I want him to truly repent but I don't know if I want to wait around any longer.
Sounds so familiar. Sad.
I'm a year and a half out of the experience I had with a narcissist..My life is great and coming together beautifully, but lets be real I don't have amnesia. I found myself curious about what's been happening with the narcissist. This video has reminded me that GOD has not forgot, Thank you Shaneen.
I never want revenge, only truth to prevail over lies and omissions!
Inspiring content though! Hard to find any these days
By the way I love this channel. Truth is spoken here.God is good.
Thank you so much for this message, Shaneen. This is absolute truth. I have had some bitterness after the horrors and hurts from this narcissistic man.
I've been working so hard in this past year to escape the rumination, bitterness, anger, and regret. I've really started to feel like I'm advancing, but sometimes I fall back into wishing that the Lord would deal with him harshly. This is just what I needed to hear this morning. Thank You Lord Jesus!
Your not alone we have all been there. Same Exact feelings you are dealing with. I hate the rumination. God and the Holy Spirit have never left my life. Best thing I ever did was Walk Away from my Ex Toxic Narc Girlfriend. She has been living with KARMA mostly all her life. I really don't see any changes coming her way. But its not my job to make sure she gets it. I'll leave to GOD. Take care We Are Free. And Away from them. There's the blessing.
@@davidcoppotelli3957 thank you. I too, hate the rumination. So each time it starts, I remember this Scripture.
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.
II Corinthians 10:4-6
It grounds me in Truth again.
My counselor told me that rumination is our brain trying to make sense of what happened...and that's probably true, but I know that Jesus knows, and that's enough for me at this point. You are right, we were rescued and that IS the blessing!
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Hey Girl we still have a long way to go yet you and I. We were hoodwinked. That is not going to end our life's. Its there LOSS and a blessing we are out of the BS future faking and whatever else they were giving Us. Now we are gone and they can have our Total Silence and nothing more. Be good to yourself catch you on the other SIDE of the LIGHT.
He really got away w the murder of my old self. He destroyed me to the core and I'll never be the same. I feel colder and i don't ever want to be in another relationship..
I do WANT God to deal them with His JUSTICE!!!!
Thank you so much all your help, and all the scriptures to help and clarify God's prospective.
So good as usual Shaneen!! Appreciate you and your teaching!!
I just found this channel. I healed finally a few years ago. And you affirm everything the Lord took me through in my healing. It's so wonderful to have a channel I can refer other Christians to who've been thru narcissistic abuse.
Deuteronomy 29:19
“Those who hear the warnings of this curse should not congratulate themselves, thinking, ‘I am safe, even though I am following the desires of my own stubborn heart.’ This would lead to utter ruin!
⬆️ That's what the narcissist does.
It will catch up with them.. in this life time!!
Oh this was one of the best videos ever this is straight from God at the exact same moment that I clicked on it seriously thank you my dear sister in Christ all the way from Canada taking it to court with the narcissist the management company on Friday this week today is Wednesday so two more days unbelievable thank you for all the education on the revenge part. But genuinely genuinely in my heart for the past 11 years every building that I've moved to genuinely I have asked father God and Jesus Christ of Nazareth to please reveal themselves to The narcissist in their sleep or open vision and to please grant them true repentance to heal them and deliver them from saw the demons in water for them to accept Jesus Christ of Nazareth and yeshua as Lord and savior and so that they can at least get a serious put in the door to continue to obey the word that is with major love and get healing and deliverance I've cried my face off I said humbly I have prayed this over and over and over and over for 11 years for each narcissist I've come around as tenants and this particular one the caretaker.
Thank you for this...I was discarded by a narcissist 3 months ago and still dealing in shock, deep depression and anxiety it has adversely affected my health. Gave of my self emotionally, spiritually, financially, intellectually, physically erc.... he's on to his new supply, he thrives on LD relationships all while hiding behind ministry work. Found out in the last year he's been in 3 relationships and just went back to one 1/2 way across the world probably easier to keep her at bay, not to mention he probably has more he's keeping around. I don't want revenge, I actually still love him ...I am asking the Lord to expose him even more (he was removed from the ministry we were a part of because of this after being confronted) so he can stop hurting people and for the Lord to help me stop loving him and to see him for the facade he really is so I can move on. I pray he repents and becomes restored but I don't even think I can be concerned about that now because I'm raw and need to heal. You're video has helped me understand so many things I was clueless and so gullible but I'm asking Jesus to be my strength and get me through this heart break and restore my life so I can continue to serve Him.
Thank you for these videos really needed something from a Christian perspective and who truly understands this subject, many don't....,God bless you!! 🙏✝️🕊️
Thank you for your input on what to do and not to do! Mike is trying to get back in my life, but I’m not going there! I am happy for my life in Daddy God, getting healing and got healed from his web of life!
God Bless you my Sister ✝️💜💋😎
I don't want revenge. I want my relationship with God to become stronger so I can become stronger for that next demon. Because it is coming back and I will be ready!
Excellent Message Shaneen. GOD Bless.
Thank you!
Hi Shaneen
Your teaching has been invaluable thanks, because it has provided understanding of NPD that I just didn’t have. That teaching has helped me stay in a NPD relationship and learn how to make the best of it. God hates divorce and while my first marriage was to a passive aggressive covert NPD along with flying monkeys and nasty stuff, through faith in Jesus and a greater understanding I’m able to soldier on. My second wife is overt non toxic NPD so that your teaching is very valuable in helping us all enjoy life to the full. There is always help when we ask Jesus for help because in the last days people are very self centred
Bye for now
Gary
A most excellent understanding of these afflicted people and how to interact and know what they are up to. Thank you.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!! I’ve spent all of this year breaking free with God’s help, from the emotional prison of a narc pastor. Won’t go into it but struggled with anger. Anger almost won but my victory is in Jesus!! 😍 I have a little ways to go, but I trust the Him to take care of this person. God has SO blessed my life! I prayed the Arronic blessing in Numbers 6 over him daily for awhile. Every time anger tried to tackle me down I cried out to the Lord--I DONT WANT TO TRADE THE PRISON OF THE NARC FIR THE PRISON OF ANGER!!!!! I rebuke that mess in the Name of Jesus the Christ ✋🏻🤚🏻
God clearly rewards and favours some over others.
These toxic relationships come with many different circumstances. I am healed of my past trauma with him however we still live under the same roof. Ironically I own my own home, yet I’m still here. It’s really hard, I’m being patient but it’s taking GRIT which I continually have to generate in order to persevere. As cheesy as this sounds I’m genuinely astounded at how resilient & fearless I have become. Honestly when I’m out & about & interacting with people I see snippets of who I’ve become & I’m blown away. All I can say is God works in mysterious ways, I have no idea where all this is leading to however I will continue to trust in Him.