Why The Narcissist Will Never Forget About You (Psychology Of Covert Narcissism)
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So... borderlines all lack empathy? What about the people who have been diagnosed with bpd because the doctor couldn't make the difference between cptsd and bpd? Iv'e been diagnosed with bpd a long time ago, and met some people also struggling with bpd who were not toxic at all. Some people with bpd are super empaths, while some are narcissistic. Just the word "borderline" says it all. Am i a plague because i have a label? no😐
@@LadyForestia no you are aware and that is impressive!!
Good ppl are unforgettable. Even to the disordered.
r r 🙌🏻
I like this so true 💯
Okurrr🙌🙌🙌
Happy Thanksgiving rr!
Amen!
Dave is right. When you love a narcissist you love someone who doesn't exist. Coming to terms with that is the key.
You are so on point with this. Once the mask was off there was nothing even remotely admirable about him. Absolutely nothing.
Happy Thanksgiving Tracy!
@@Narcologyunscripted thank you. Happy thanksgiving everyone.
@@susannah-carolla9587 exactly!!
The best way I got over it was thought of him as Santa. Devastating when you figure out the truth, but easier to get past once you realize who you thought you knew never existed.
The Narc will never forget a good and kind person because we are hard to forget!
They lost us because they would never be satisfied.
Even if the narcissist gets himself a perfect goddess he will still cheat on her because his mind is so fucked up!
@ Susie Lee
Well said!
They keep thinking the grass is greener!
They will NEVER find happiness or be content!
They will look for us in others but they won’t find us! We are irreplaceable!!
Susie Lee Yes! You’re so right. Even the incredibly beautiful Christie Brinkley was cheated on by a Narcissist! 😳
Happy Thanksgiving Marro!
They wont forget you because they were well aware of what they had , even with their disorder
Happy Thanksgiving
Definitely
"The relationship ended because who they are" that's exactly it, well said!
It's like these narcissists goes to a narcissist school or something for they act and behave in the same way.
They never forget you when you're a good, honest person who only treated them well. We never forget them either, but because they're the opposite to what we are and they were the ones hurting us and destroying the relationship.
I've never taken the blame for the relationship to end, it wasn't my fault and that is empowerment knowing that.
Demons
MiA Well said!!! Yes that is great for us to remember that things didn't go the route and end bc of who we are but bc of who they are and the horrible, hurtful choices they made along our journey together.
Thanks for sharing~
ALL the BEST to U!!!
🌬🙏🏻💗🤗🙌🏻✨🍁✌🏻
They all went to demon possession School
@@whisperingwind7730
Thank you. 🙏
Exactly!
Whenever people are saying that it takes two to make a relationship work I say "Yes, of course" then I add "....but it only takes one to destroy it" and that's totally true when it comes to narcissists, they're masters at destroying what could have been beautiful.
F them. 🙊
All the best to you too! 😁
Happy Thanksgiving Mia!
The lessons a Narc teaches are painful and powerful. They teach us acceptance and humility. Believe in a Higher Power . Gratitude
They dont forget because you are their best supply!!
Omg I just said that to myself this morning ! No one could ever replace us !!!!! Bingo yes we won people !🙏❤️🤗
18 days no contact, first thanksgiving without him in 22 years. No chaos, today was so peaceful with my kids. Happy thanksgiving all 🦃❤️
CONGRATULATIONS!
Congratulations Love ❤️ Yes Peacefulness is such a treasure.
Wow. I’m so happy for you!! That’s crazy dude
I also just had my first holidays with my kids without my ex-husband after 18 years. It is night and day.
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I wrote in my novel..."He opened his hand and let a diamond fall out so he could pick up a pebble off the street." Good for me! The fall was painful at first but my value has gone up since then.
He will never forget me . Because he blames me for every shitty thing he does to this day .
My ex Narc blamed me for his daughter´s getting sick while in the care of some woman ( flying monkey) in Ukraine while I was working in another country ( Not Ukraine) and he was deployed somewhere else. How any of that was my fault?
Michelle everything is always our fault.
@@nuriasanzgarcia5119 it's not your fault.
My mother had so many masks you’d think she was a Japanese magician
😂
Ya Narc mothers are the worst.
Yes indeed. Mine will be the victim in Thanksgiving day because Im not going. Home in bed sick all week bad and she will basically accuse me of lying. Smh
Orphan And it’s pretty bad when being sick is actually worth it 👍 get better soon, friend
By the time she was done with me, humor has been the only thing keeping me alive 😆
Charlie Sheen is the classic narcissist he even played one on TV 📺😁
Happy Thanksgiving KC!
Narc ology unscripted Happy thanksgiving!! 🍁
So very grateful for you & our awesome empath community Dave!
KC and 2018 Music. And isn't it interesting, that the very words from my narc ex were, " Two and a Half Men is the best show on TV. " !!
Emilia Davis yes one of the narcs I knew told me Charlie was his hero lol...
@@user-dw2hk9pf6b sad, ya know?
I've met two more since my breakup 5 months ago and I'm proud to say I was able to recognize the abnormalities in both of them...I ran like my pants were on fire 🔥
My ex narc once said he wish he could find someone he can teach the love that I gave him. Yes, he will continue looking for me from other narcs but he will never find me.
Happy Thanksgiving thandlwe!
Narc ology unscripted Thanks you, like wise.
Chinchin Soya
It doesn't knock in their heads that each individual have their own unique qualities that they should embrace. It deeply saddens me to know that I was his string puppet he needed to drag along and teach another source how to (love) dance for his tune. That waxy thing!! I'm gone permanently!!
OMGOSH! Mine said the same thing. I feel sorry for all his new supply.
Linda Baker
They are lunatic robots serving the same boss Satan devil.
One year later my narc friend walks by my house everyday on her way to the local soup kitchen for free meals. Sucks to be her.
Happy Thanksgiving
@@Narcologyunscripted same to you dave
You are so right on the Hoover and them not remembering the bad things LOL! Mine keeps trying over and over and acts like every single time he can’t understand what the problem is??? Like he has no memory of the abuse and I mean all forms of abuse possible that was done. Been years of this and the patterns are beyond predictable. Always remember the love bomb Hoover always turns to hate bombing and blame after!
I don’t think we ever forget them either unfortunately. Still a pain deep down inside.
Happy Thanksgiving Dave.
Happy Thanksgiving
I agree.
Some of us were married or partnered to narcissists, and had children with them. "Move ahead, they FOOLED you" doesn't work for us. We CAN'T move ahead, because our children are at severe risk from the narcissist parent, especially when we divorce or separate from them. We are stuck with these narcissists for life, or at least for as long as the narcissist parent is destroying our kids by using them as tools to get back at us for leaving them. They turn our children against us, and in the process they often turn our children into narcissists as well.
I completely agree, i am a child of a narcissistic mother. She would beat me up on the phone and let my dad listen to me crying out on the phone... because he went to see his dying mother. You can be free from the narcissist once your children are old enough to make their own decision. My only advice is to give them the love that your ex partner doesn't provide. Talk to them. Explain things to them, if they are old enough let them learn about narcissism. Put them in therapy. I waited after 10 years of NC from my mother and 1 narc relationship to seek help after it almost broke me. I am almost 30. I have always attracted toxic and emotionally unavailable men. I never understood why. Now I know and I am unlearning what my mother has conditioned me to be. 🙏🏽
I was so embarrassed, in pain, blamed myself for what perceived as my own stupidity. I wanted the opportunity to say thank you for people like dave and everyone else who shared their Narc, story, experience and that helped me to understand what I didn't understand about narcissist abuse. Peace and love to you all .
Even when the Narc meets the perfect person, their perfect match they will discard them before you can dump them. They can’t ever forget you though and they either come back to hoover or continue to stalk you for the rest of their lives. Sad 😔
Happy Thanksgiving to all my American mates.. from Oz 🇦🇺
Perfect comment I totally agree with you. These sick demons make no sense to me. They change their minds like the weather one day they want you and the next day they toss you away like you meant nothing. It gets me so hurt and mad.
Happy Thanksgiving
I was a fuel source for too long. These videos are just validating I'm not crazy Thank You!
Knowledge is power, just learning th hard way is awful
Happy Thanksgiving
Unfortunately, the only way we learn us humans is throughout pain 😢
How can they be so stupid to destroy love. And repeat this over and over again. Being constantly in fights they created themselfs.
Meanwhile like most of us empaths i am in a constant struggle after he discarded me 1 month ago. I got a lot of health
problems. Probably depression. It is like he took my heart with him when he left me.
Greetings from Belgium 😞
Maria Marques awww I know how that feels! They fill our hearts with love for them and then they rip out our heart when they discard us so callously 💔My prayers go out for you dear lady... God has a ‘real’ man and not just a ‘fake mask’, who is truly deserving of you and your love just waiting to come into your life when He knows the time is right. Keep the Faith! God Bless you 💖🙏🏾
@@prettypuppy6752 Thank you for you kind words. I wish you all the love in the world too. 💕
@@echo9533 thank you for your support. Wish you all the best too 💕
Happy Thanksgiving
@@Narcologyunscripted happy thanksgiving Dave
Dave, I escaped more than a year ago, she has called me everyday since, whether our kids are with me or not. I wasn't a perfect mate, what I was: loving, compassionate, understanding,and patient. BPD made her split me black, down deep inside she knows that she will looking for me in every man she meets, but she will not find him, cuz I am here, and I am real!
Happy Thanksgiving
@@Narcologyunscripted happy thanksgiving Dave
It is mind boggling to see how many of us that have been blindsided by a narc! And how cookie cutter the narcs traits and tactics are. So sorry for what we've all been put through. By same token, so glad to be able to walk in great empathic company with you all. I hope you each had a wonderful Thanksgiving.
LaRene Taddeo,You deserve better 🙏
Hey all,
Wanted to update...
Today I heard he’s been let go from his teaching job!
So his messages telling me he was adored at work didn’t quite work out
Karma
Happy Thanksgiving
Narc ology unscripted thank you Dave, you too, it’s been a horrific time, still is in many ways, your channel helped me keep going each day here, truly, it’s a bizarre and totally different thing to a normal end of a relationship and that’s why it’s not an easy going of separate ways, normal relationships don’t have the partner plotting behind their back or lying or gaslighting their significant other, someone said that these relationships are so different as your not the same person you were when you came into it, they strip you of dignity and your name and actual assets before the end, it’s soul destroying. So yes I do think karma has finally hit him, and I’m glad, as the continuous reinventing of himself at now 42/3 with now him losing all his blood relatives (they had enough after watching the cycle every 3 years with women, and then to marry me and have a child and do the same they disowned him) and our marriage and his only child is not going to be as easy as at 22.
If I’d not been forced in the end to re it’s what he’d been saying and doing I still don’t think I’d be believed.
Just over a year no contact and I have no intention of ever again speaking to him. He tried to hoover me back before I finally cut contact for good sending me a message telling me he was "Sorry he couldn't have loved me in the way that i needed". No, he just could not love full stop..
Because you’re still supply to them when they tell their new supply how horribly you treated them. Or some such drama.
There needs to be more info on covert narcs
Happy Thanksgiving
I've been watching your show for a while, Have been educating myself on this subject. I know many of you are really hurting, knowledge is power. It's been a couple of years now. I promise it will get better! Now, after all, is done. He ended up with what he deserved. So much is coming out about the narcissist personality. His new fuel source's family all despise him and call him "The Maggot" and working on getting him away from their family. His fuel source works, but he has no job. His father passed, didn't even go say goodbye. I'm an Empath, for some reason we get suckered in by them. I don't trust people like I used too. What a lesson to learn, I'm so thankful this person is out of my life. He would also act like a 7-year-old with intimacy. Could not do that, real turn off. Be careful out their, many narcissists just looking for a fuel source like you.
Happy Thanksgiving
Dave just want to say thank you for your amazing content. I remember 7 months ago I was debating whether to leave the ex narc and your videos popped up on my UA-cam recommended feed. I did not know anything about narcissism and literally the next day dropped him off for vacation and grabbed all my belongings and left the apartment I shared with him, job and city. So happy now and living with so much clarity.
Hi dave. My x narc said that he lowered his standards when he was with me. It was definately me that lowered mine!!
Hi Dave how did you have to lower yoir standards? Curious to know as same happened to me
Sorry meant diana
What kind of a human being says that to a person? You don’t deserve that!
I too, got told horrible things and know now that I never deserved it.
Know they say hurtful and mean things is another tactic of baiting and hovering you. After my ex narc realized I was serious when I said “I’m done”, he resorted into saying super hurtful and mean things in order to try and get me to respond back after realizing the “I miss you, I’m sorry” texts. Although I gave in once (was too angry not to) I’ve blocked his phone number and blocked him on all social media platforms. Yeah, it still hurts but I know it’s because he doesn’t have this grade A supply! Remember, you’re worth so much more and can do so much better.
IKR,
Narc Reverse psychology
They are projecting their Inferiority complex onto you
Strange fact is the Narc knows we're not just objects, but we don't get any more than an object!
It's been a while. So I popped in to see how your all doing.
And here you still are!
Flogging this dead horse.
Being the victim, living in the past. Holding on to experiences that do not serve your higher good.
It's not important that someone loves you.
Love yourself. Stand in your power. SHINE!
There is no one to blame.
People treat you, how you allow them to treat you.
Blessings everyone.
My ex narc contacted me last week after four months of no contact. Told me how much she missed talking to me and what a catch I am. Three days later she asked me for advice so I give some good advice and she calls me evil, controlling, possessive, telling her what todo. I tell her if she believes those things then why bother contacting me, I also told her the last 4 months of me life have been nice, calm , peaceful and drama free so if she plans on creating drama in my life again then I will cut her off because I’m not the same guy who was madly in love with her, I’m much stronger now so I won’t accept any abuse. An hour later she messages me apologising 😂.
This is soooo spot on. Glad I’m away from my now ex narc. Toxic doesn’t even begin to describe him. Lots of love 💕
I was an ornament, someone that looked good on his arm. He's now going for the ladies with money.
Thank you Dave it's good to be reminded of that.....who they are👍x
I was the lady with money and ornament. I was his trophy 🏆 until I found out. Then it’s game over
Thank you Dave ! You are my fav type of ppl. You didn’t let pain turn you cold, you used that pain to inspire and teach others! Thank you for helping me to survive 🙏🏻
Imagine pulling your hand out of a bucket of water. Do you see the hole that is left? That's how the real narcissist remembers you.
Rene Gade wow! That’s a powerful analogy!
good analogy...Happy Thanksgiving
I just completely cut ties with my narcissistic b.f. after watching several of your vlogs. Even after he cheated on me in the worst way he was bread crumbing with false hope. . I never thought I’d be in this situation after being married to a very sick narcissists in my 20’s , yet here I am at 55 with a similar man. I’m an empath so this will take a long time to recover from, but it’s better than being mentally abused for another minute with this selfish, deceitful, damaged person.
I don’t want him to remember me for his life
Happy Thanksgiving
That's how I feel....forget everything about me...including ME!!!!
“Happy Thanksgiving! “ Dave even in the midst of everything we have gone through there is still so much to be grateful for our life and good health.
Happy Thanksgiving
The narcissist I met is a poet, he loved bombed me with poetry, then things began to change, I found out he was living with someone, so I broke it off. Now the narc's live-in woman left him after a tumultuous relationshit as she too was a narcisist and cheating on him.
Now that's poetic justice! thank you God!
We missed you.....
Thank you for all you do
& all those you are helping.
You have helped me greatly.
Happy Thanksgiving
I’m glad I learned my lesson dealing with these evil type of creatures 😈😈😈
Good Morning Dave ! Happy Thanksgiving to you Dave and everyone here. I am grateful, that God woke me up In the relationship I was in.Over coming is a process, but it can and will be achieved, keep moving forward Narc survivors..God Bless everyone here.💜
Happy Thanksgiving
About 1yr ago, was when I hit the bottom . My x decided I wasn't low enough. While i was trying 2 talk with him about how terrible he makes me feel, i brought up that it was very good that he never tought me how 2 shoot his gun... He bought me my very own gun the next week ! But instead of using it, it made me realize its not me that i needed 2 get rid of! Now its been 2 & 1/2 months, of me disguarding him. Even tho I'm litterlery penniless, I've never been so happy. The kids & i have never been so close, we decided 2 rename him! He is now refered 2 as our demontic sole sucking botfly narcissist, 4 short Botfly. It fits him perfect 😁
Oh he bought you a gun. Lol..
Jeni 4growinggoodies Wow, Botfly indeed Jeni! Sending so much love to you and your children 💕
Happy Thanksgiving
So glad you're out of that! For him to go buy u that gun, AFTER your statement of sadness, despair, and pain - truly EVIL! People can call this a disorder all they want - I know w/out a doubt there are evil people in this world doing evil things. Stay strong!
@Jeni 4growinggoodies - you said: "The kids & i have never been so close, we decided 2 rename him! He is now refered 2 as our demontic sole sucking botfly narcissist, 4 short Botfly. It fits him perfect 😁"
Do you understand what saying things like that is doing to your kids mentally? Please do not misunderstand me, I'm saying this from a place of compassion. But, no matter what you feel about your narcissist ex, those feelings should remain with you and you alone, and your children should never ever have to know about them or be burdened by them. There are hundreds of thousands of us, if not millions, who have children with narcissists. And most of us, who are NOT narcissists, understand that no matter how we feel about our ex, it's not right to bad talk the other parent to our children, no matter HOW bad that other parent is. You have every right to feel whatever it is you feel towards your ex, you absolutely do. But to bring the children in to this, to involve them in YOUR personal issues with your narcissist ex - that is not okay. They have what is not just a right, but a NEED, to love both of their parents, and no-one has the right to take THEIR 'right to love both parents' away from them. No matter what. We are all half our mother and half our father, and to denigrate their father is to denigrate one half of themselves. No parent should ever ever ever involve their children in their parent's personal issues. That's for 'adults only'.
Please, for the sake of your children's future mental and emotional well being, stop involving them in your personal issues with their dad. To involve your kids in 'renaming' your ex /their father 'demonic sole sucking botfly narcissist' or 'botfly' for short.... that is NOT healthy parenting, and is going to harm your children's 'sense of self'. Your children have a human right to be children, and to NOT be brought in to their parents' issues. I don't know how you're going to take what I've just said, I don't know you. But..... it's understandable that you have strong feelings about your ex. HOWEVER, how YOU feel is not your children's burden to bear, and they have a human right to love their dad no matter how bad he is. They also have the right to a real childhood that is unburdened by their parents' 'issues'.
Please at least THINK of how what you're doing with the kids, having 'games' like this that denigrate their father, might be hurting them. If it was me who had done that, I would be telling my kids now "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have spoken to you about issues between your dad and me. That's not what parents are supposed to do. But sometimes when a marriage breaks up, the adults are very sad or angry (or whatever fits your situation), and we sometimes say things that we really shouldn't say. But I want you to know that I won't do that again". And I personally would add that "you have the right to love BOTH of us, no matter what - OK? Now let's go have some fun together"...
7:58 absolutely spot on, in the discard the narc actually told me they'd met somebody else who lived in my area so we'd have to step it down to just friends. the positive side is this made going no contact much easier.
Thank you for your videos! We’ve had a neighbor that’s narcissist. Gotta keep her at arm’s length... we knew something was up with that sense of entitlement, among many other traits that she’s got.... since learning about narcs, and my mother is one, it’s been easier to spot them and live your life without them interfering. Knowing is half the battle (a G.I. Joe quote lol) and that is where you know what to and not to do. Knowledge is a great weapon
you bet!
Happy Thanksgiving Dave and all narc survivors!! Be grateful to be out of the relationshits! 🙏
Happy Thanksgiving
Happy thanksgiving Dave! Hey man thank you so much ive been listening to you since summer this year when my ex narc gf left me. You along with other narc channels literally saved me from ending my life. You saved my life! Keep on going.
ill_lude Narcs can take away your innocence and spirit but they should never take away your life. I had those feelings too and I will never get in that dark hole again. Good luck!
@@filsed thanks man i hope your healing is going well!
Happy Thanksgiving
7 months no contact and going strong
Happy Thanksgiving way to go!
Happy thanksgiving all, I've always gotten by on your videos and one quote I would like to share for all narcs "You will look for me in other people and I promise you will not find me"
NLS4REAL Truer words have never been spoken! 🙌
Happy Thanksgiving
Quinn Holiday! My favorite quote EVER!!!
I have been so depressed that 2 days ago I unblocked my phone from my Narcissist ex-boyfriend (I had been NO contact for 2 months since we broke up )-Why did I do this?..Of course, I got a phone call early this morning and of course I was so happy just to answer it and hear him as he wishes me a “Happy Thanksgiving because I deserve it”.-That’s it -nothing more -I know it’s Hovering and I know I’m the willing puppet in all this -How do I get strong enough to move past him ?..I wish I could trigger my mind to remember all the horrible things he’s done to me, all the abuse he did -yet I think about only the good times (few they were)-I need a rewire in my brain!!!-Please help me -I just set myself up for mental anguish all over again ..I know I can NEVER make him empathetic like me or even be the man I so wish he was.
Pet Haven What works for me is to get a notebook and write all of the negative things about your narc, what he has put you through and the awful things he’s said and when you have those weak moments, reread that notebook. This works tremendously for me!
I also have a couple friends that have never liked him and saw who he was before I did, that I reach out to when I need a “reminder” of how sick he is.
Lots of love to you... I’m in the same boat and appreciate hearing others going through the same things. Makes me feel like I’m not alone.
Tisha, yeah, and attach the best parts on the fridge door and at your convenience in the bathroom. read and reclaim perspective
The push and pull of the relationship is like wheening off of a drug. Its like a drug addiction. Holiday Hoover they know your alone and lonely so they call to see if they can come back so they can eventually abuse and discard you all over again.
Tisha Mallet t-Thank you -I will start a notebook -I will try anything to stop my tears from flowing
edcrobert T -That’s the perfect analogy -it’s a scab I keep picking and won’t let myself heal..Thank you for understanding
Sometimes I think if it really bothers them if you ignore them if they are the one that discarded you. I know i shouldn't care but i do.
Happy Thanksgiving
Anyone who doesn't block the Narc wants to be hoovered. Do yourself justice and Block The Narc.
Happy Thanksgiving to all.
Happy Thanksgiving
Mine texted me “you were a lot of fun”. Yep. I was. His knees are asleep with the new supply. I knew it. Hehe. It’s the best revenge.
Welcome back David.
Happy Thanksgiving
17 yrs with a Narc. with twin daughters. Breast cancer, divorce and turned 50 all in same year. Started reading about narcissism following year and entered counseling. Severed all contact with narc after girls turned 18. He still asks about me all the time with my girls but they shut it down fast. Education and self care is key. Trauma never really goes away but surround yourself with high vibration love energy people as much as possible. I do have to say our President and his flying monkeys have definitely triggered me but I will not watch him or his supporters speak. Be aware of triggers and limit exposure for your own peace of mind. Love and light to all.
He got so much pleasure in thinking he was deceiving me, NO empathy AT ALL, LIAR, CHEATER, DELUSIONAL etc...
Great video....
Here I go again...attempting another No Contact.
Thanks for everyone commenting...it helps to read different perspectives
Thank you!!!
Cheers to all survivors!!!
Three years ago I was living in together with the ex Narc and after all the abuse and cheating I decided to move back to Puerto Rico. He hovered me back when I was about to board the plane and unfortunately after eight months the hurricane Maria came over nd and we lost our house. He said "Sorry, I have no empathy for you...you deserve it" From sweet to bitter, from hot to cold. All manipulation they simply don't care about you.
The narc I was with admitted very soon that he didnt stay with a woman very long cause he got bored with them. That was probably the truest thing he ever said
Fuel source, is a good analogy a crocodile or reptile that needs to soak up the heat to have the energy to hunt, which is generally at night? They're cold blooded and aren't able to generate there own body heat like warm blooded animals. Like humans.
Yes so right each time I went back it got worst...he pushed the boundaries more. They are toxic and very sick individuals
This is like therapy. Since i`ve been watching this channel, my healing is in progress. I was discarted three monts ago ( new supply, surprise, surprise!!!). I thought, I was going to lose my mind. Thank you Dave, and all of you, for your comments. It´s sooo comforting. Unfortunately you recognise them, not until they´ve riped off your heart and dignity. It is a pity, that one has to go to such lengths, to realise, what they are. Empty, egocentric, insecure, unable to feel emathy for anyone - eccept themselves. They can only dish out, but they can´t take the slightest hint of critisim or whtasoever. We don´t need this ridicilous entities. I´m far from feeling sorry for her new supply, but the day I do, is the day, my healing is comleted. Greetings from germany.
I love my Audi!
"Knowledge is power, without the knowledge were sitting ducks" this is so so so true. I've avoided a few narcs since I left my narc ex. All I did was google 'bf mean for no reason' and now I'm a year and a half in of research and I can gratefully spot a narc from a mile away.
Happy Thanksgiving Dave ... I’m grateful that you are on UA-cam ... you help me and I’m sure so many others navigating this cruel experience of narc abuse ... I feel strength today I didn’t have before 🙏
Happy Thanksgiving Bro
Hi, Dave. :) I will never forget my Golden Child Narcie, either - primarily for all the lessons he taught me. I will always remember the cognitive dissonance I felt as I defended him against myself. I will never forget how the trauma bond was created. I will never forget how very much I loved him, as I will never forget how much I didn't love myself whilst I was loving him.
And I think that once you see the mask fall on your own Narcie, you develop xray vision for the masks that other narcies are wearing.
I am living life authentically because of him - I will always be grateful to him for that. :)
@ALEXIS CATALINA I am truly sorry for your pain, both the pain that comes from suspecting your partner is cheating, and the pain from having it confirmed. You are correct regarding trust - I projected my own naive beliefs regarding trust onto someone who did not have my best interests at heart. I have since learned that trust is like respect - they must both be earned. And I have learned to trust and respect myself and my intuition.
Thank you for your recommendation. I had not heard of that service before! I am extremely fortunate in that I am not financially or legally tied to the Narcie - no kids, not married, not living with him - so I was able to cut my soul ties and walk away fairly easily in the end (after two previous breakups with him). I suspect my Narcie cheated on me (found some female belongings at his place which he said belonged to his friend who was storing some of her stuff in his shed... it didn't quite add up but against my better judgement I let it slide; and then he also started accusing me of cheating on him. Projection, much?).
I wish you all the very best in your divorce, for your own healing, and for living your best life thereafter. :)
HELP! I just got a holiday hoover. 😌😌😌😌😌
Don't give in. Blocked them. They're only doing that because they need something.
😂😂
Ignore liberally.
Because they're lonely. Stand strong.
You dont need help just a gated community to keep the narc out
My previous comment was pre-video watch. I got excited when I saw your new post! My post video comment - I agree with all of it! I’m pretty sure he won’t forget me; we were married 🥴 I’m still in discard phase and this was our first holiday in 3 years without each other. I kept busy cooking all day and enjoyed every minute with my two boys. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t think of him, but they were thoughts that made me feel sorrow for the new supply and how much of a fool they were being made today by him. Shitty thoughts. But I’m glad it wasn’t me! Excited to hear about San Diego. I’m going to join your patreon group. Thanks for posting today. I needed to hear your message. Happy Thanksgiving and I hope you feel better soon. You can send the snow to Atlanta. I’ll be waiting 😍
Kim Nitschke you definitely won’t regret joining Dave’s Patreon site! It is the most wonderful safe place for all of us empaths to share our experiences and help support one another on the road to healing. I hope to see you there soon Kim! God Bless 💖❤️😊
Pretty Puppy thank you 😊 I’ve watched all of his videos, checked out subs comments/feedback, and compared him to other channels. I think his patreon is where I need to be. And I love the idea of yearly events to meet in person. I’m excited to become part of the Narc Ology fam ♥️ Thank you again, Pretty Puppy. (Btw my nickname for my oldest son is puppy lol. He’s now 15 😬 he has set boundaries for when and where I can call him that ha!) Hope you have a lovely evening! See you on the other side shortly.
Kim Nitschke That’s fantastic news Kim that you’ve decided to join us all on Patreon! You really won’t regret this decision and everyone will welcome you with loving arms. It’s such an amazing community that Dave has created. Fancy your son is nicknamed Puppy too! I love that! Is he a big dog lover like me? 😄 Hope to see and chat to you soon on Live Chat and the nightly forums too! So happy you will be joining us! 🤗❤️🙌
Pretty Puppy He doesn’t mind dogs and he’ll play with them, but my youngest son (12 yo) LOVES dogs!! But I call him “cub” 😂 Now that I think of it, I have several nicknames for them but the animal ones came first ☝️ Anyway, I’m joining Dave’s Patreon today. See you in a few 💃
And, thank you for your replies. You’re so sweet and thoughtful 🤗 big hugs!
I am so thankful for Dave. GOD bless you
Happy Thanksgiving to you Dave and to all empathics here. Now that I'm educated on Narcissism Ive elected this year to have Thanksgiving with no drama.
Happy Thanksgiving
Without the help of videos like this I think I would have gone mad. I had no understanding of narcissism before I became the victim of one of these creatures, so thank you.
My ex boyfriend verbally abused me before break up. After 7 months of no contact, he came back to apologize. He said he feels guilty for whatever he did to me. For some moments, I thought he changed. So I forgave him. But I told him the pain I had to go through after the break up. Hearing this, he told that he doesn't want to be responsible for any pain in my life. Saying so, he blocked me everywhere. I tried to call and text him numerous times to ask that if he was really sorry than why did he block me. There was no response. Whoa! I felt I made the biggest mistake by forgiving him. I feel like if he would have really regretted for his mistakes than he wouldn't have blocked me. But he did. I don't know why he blocked and didn't respond to my texts or calls.
They want to keep leading you on. It's the emotional push, pull manipulation. Always fake apologies. Look up Assist Direct UA-cam, his latest video is titled Never Forgive a Narcissist.
Happy Thanksgiving
Happy Thanksgiving Dave and empaths! Narc free is another reason to be grateful. 🌷
Many narcissists lack object constancy. Out of sight, out of mind. My NEX forgot his kids, his siblings, his friends, mother, and grandchildren as we lived far away from them. He never thought about them -- they simply didn't exist for him. I have no doubt I am now forgotten after 20 years together.
Hi Dave & All Empaths💖 Happy Thanks...Giving to All⚘ It is our GIVING that attracts ALL of them❣ It has taken me decades to have finally learned this of Myself... Always giving always trying to please I got caught by the BEST of the Worst Covert Narcissists for a Decade of a Life that was orchestrated by Him "My" Life Experiences throughout this Decade (its just now ending) were Never Real... at the time they seemed real but now [ARMED WITH THE KNOWLEDGE💖] I can & HAVE (FROM THE BEGINNING from Love Bombing 🎭 to Present Day {Red Flags 🚩🚩🚩 the ENTIRE BLINDED TIME!}) played back EVERY Scene & seen how each "Movie" was written, directed & casted by Him His "Friends" (a Narc has no friends He is his ONLY Friend!) all had a role to play in each Movie that I was the Star in and now I can see The Manipulation, The Control, The Degrading & Destruction of Me The Loss of Myself All of This to Intentionally make me feel as if I were NOTHING and all the while Allowing Himself To TRULY Believe That He is The King💔 All Because We Are The Most GIVING PEOPLE ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH💖 Stay Strong & True To Yourself ALWAYS Believe in your Intuition It's NEVER Wrong❣ All My Love 💌
Lauren Renee⚘
Good afternoon Dave
Happy Thanksgiving
I was in a 18 yr. relationship with a Narc...2 proposals, never made it to the altar. I was told I needed therapy, there was always an excuse he continuously told me I was the problem. He kept the mask on for everybody except me. I left him and 15 months later he came back. This time around was 10 x's worst. Year 15, I put him out and vowed never to go back. 2 yrs later, I'm finally free. NO CONTACT IS A MUST! Thanks Dave
I Love that you said you Love Love being alone. Dating is terrifying now. I saw the Mask and the beginnings of Love Bombing and felt physically ill. How can we meet normals?
Omg thank you I’ve been looking for new videos to come everyday !! You are my lifeline ! Thanks Dave
Happy Thanksgiving Minnie
Narc ology unscripted I’m in Canada but thank you happy thanksgiving to you too
Happy Thursday, Everyone.
Happy Thanksgiving
Happy Thanksgiving Dave! Thank you! Be Blessed!!!
Happy Thanksgiving
I was a source of stability in his life. He will miss that. Never really thought about it like that. Thanks Dave.
I find your videos very helpful, my ex was a complete bonafide narcissist and treated me like his trash can, I recently found out that he treated his other ex girlfriends exactly the same. This has made things easier for me to know my enemy and avoid such men in the future.
Hey blue eyes, a beautiful video as always. I hope you had a lovely Thanksgiving with your family and have an awesome holiday weekend. I work in retail so I got to work a 16 hour shift, and more this weekend. I am so happy to do it, I'm just so thankful. Glad to be away from the narc, in a completely new place with my sister and family. I work on healing every day, as always, your videos always help me. Wishing you the best, lots of hugs and love, Denise :)
Narcissist was upset I was enjoying my birthday. It was the most bizarre encounter I've ever had. She looked me in the face and said happy birthday!! And asked me what I had planned and if she could come. When I replied excitedly she cut me off and said without missing a beat "NO!! Why are you so happy?!?! My grandparents house was robbed and my grandpa was assaulted!" I laughed so hard in her face. I couldn't even control it. It was just so absurd and blatantly false that I just stood and pointed and laughed in her face. She ignores me now because I laugh to myself whenever I see her and she knows exactly why I'm laughing.
whatever they do is the moment they don't need you anymore and they are tired of you, shamelessly glorify them and other ex, you just don't know what happened, phrases you haven't heard for years have, get and ex as a gift "that hurts intensely" thanks for the video it helps me a lot
You are right . I couldn't have healed with out you. Thank you. Thank you.
Its always an uplifting feeling to follow your teachings
That is so true. I usually go back for seconds and hear something new.
Our happiness increase their madness😈
This is the best chanel on this subject ive seen so far!! #truth💯 u cover every Aspect of this sick disorder! On point! Thanks’
Mine hates me and always will. I called him out many times when we were over and I realized what he was. I warned one of the many new ones right after me. I acted crazy and am ashamed of it. In his mind I am nothing and finally, now I am okay with it.
Thanks Dave - Helping me through this nightmare- so happy I found you.
Happy Thanksgiving, Dave!! Thank you for making wonderful videos about NPD!! I am truly grateful for having learned about it through your insights and experience. Also, thanks to the great community who had shared the experience and insights!! Be blessed and happy holidays to you all!!🙏🤞
Happy Thanksgiving
Forgiveness and acceptance are completely different things. Forgiveness is choosing to release all emotion from horrindous wrongs done to us. Acceptance is justifying wrongs or continuing to live in or tolerate them. Any weak person can do the later.
My wife has been gone since June 9th 2020 and it has been 20 days with no contact. My mom was on the ventilator and still in ICU and she just left in the middle of the work day and went 7hrs away to Baltimore. She calls herself an Evangelist. Also, she sent me an email on Friday 6/26 and wanted to do an 8 day devotional... I didn't accept. She didn't even call me for father's day. I'm lost for words and I was bamboozled.