Going Through A Breakup - What To Do

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  • @chainofenkidu9451
    @chainofenkidu9451 Рік тому +580

    Never thought i came back to this. Decided it was not working out with the girl so I ended it as I’m posting, I truly loved her, saw a future with her just like you said and she moved away to the UK and it was all downward spiral from there. I cried for like a few minutes and remember this video, and it is the best things for someone to hear when someone is depress to hear that there are people out there who also went through and get what it means to have these things happen to them. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart, I always practice a mix between between boxing and Chinese martial arts but never tried it with someone in a ring, my new goal is to be able to fight in the ring at least semi professionally.

    • @Hamza97
      @Hamza97  Рік тому +149

      You're welcome brother. Myself and a bunch of other men have been there, and we grew out of it. Just like I expect you to. Do the hard work...

    • @chainofenkidu9451
      @chainofenkidu9451 Рік тому +6

      @@Hamza97 thank you

    • @justsayy
      @justsayy Рік тому +14

      @@Hamza97 especially when you don't feel like it.
      Times like this, I truly wished I had brothers.

    • @Raiden03
      @Raiden03 Рік тому +9

      Just broke up today, and the first person that came to mind for advice was Hamza. Never fails to deliver. Thank you for everything. ❤
      Edit:
      Everything Hamza said is so strangely similar to my situation. Breakup at 19, around Christmas/New Years time. This eerie feeling of loneliness, bursting into tears. Seeking brotherhood…
      Even his advice on starting a new physical endeavour… I literally started BJJ yesterday ontop of my muay thai and weightlifting. It’s like the universe placed Hamza’s wisdom within arms reach. Time to do the hard work…

    • @conormayweather125
      @conormayweather125 Рік тому

      @@Hamza97 dear brother, how can I join your brotherhood. Me in great pain right now. I broke up with her on November 5th and now she’s with someone else on January 5th. I need some serious comfort from all the brothers who have been there 🙏🏽

  • @izi7263
    @izi7263 Рік тому +1922

    I got dumped by a girl 2 months ago and still very much feel the pain. I was used and gaslighted and falsely accused of abuse (she admitted to lying about it eventually) despite what she did 2 of my friends were weak and kept talking to her and adding her as part of the friend group and pretty much flirting with her. It hurts. No matter what happens in life, please have a strong set of friends brothers and stay loyal to your friends 🙏

    • @Switterex
      @Switterex Рік тому +73

      Sorry to hear that man. Sounds horrible getting falsely accused for something.

    • @nameshai2640
      @nameshai2640 Рік тому +111

      Welp time to find new friends

    • @blakewhite5
      @blakewhite5 Рік тому +21

      I was abused for 2 years, been 3 months since I was cheated on. Still struggling

    • @s.o.k.1393
      @s.o.k.1393 Рік тому +26

      Real friends don't do that, you gained something from that brother. I'm very grateful for my friends and inshallah you will have friends like that too soon

    • @davidlee6117
      @davidlee6117 Рік тому +17

      Sorry to hear that brother. Fuck them boys and her! I know the feeling man my ex basically left me for a coworker. It's been little over 18 months but I'm ok now. If I could give you advice KEEP MOVING FORWARD and don't torture yourself. You'll be fine bro!

  • @XMfranchiseStudios
    @XMfranchiseStudios Рік тому +102

    My friend is literally so depressive for like half a month over his ex now, I am greatful you uploaded this video. You are my hero and hopefully you can be my friend's hero too. Love from the Netherlands mate 😎
    Edit: I have my little inspirational quote I came up with today, "You are important when you choose to be important", I think I will hang it literally everywhere in my room to remind me of my goals.

    • @wordbrah628
      @wordbrah628 Рік тому +1

      I like it bro, might do the same myself lol.

    • @MiguelMedV
      @MiguelMedV Рік тому

      Good quote, can I use it? Some people around me may be needing to hear it : )👍🏻...

    • @XMfranchiseStudios
      @XMfranchiseStudios Рік тому

      @@MiguelMedV yeah you can use it, we need to spread the word 😎

  • @chloelauryn4773
    @chloelauryn4773 Рік тому +14

    I want to thank thank you hamza , as a female im so glad theres someone out here teaching this generation of males about self improvement etc!

    • @violetwade6528
      @violetwade6528 Рік тому

      @@Trinsicity agreed! I realize he addressed his male audience in this video (cuz he’s a guy) but I felt it touch me as well. I’m going through it HARD and it hurts, but it’s a relief that it’s so universal

  • @Robyy17
    @Robyy17 Рік тому +19

    Another great video hamza
    Getting your heart broken is really hard. It puts you in a position where you are not interested in doing anything but still want to do something to get your mind away from the incident. Work on yourself and get your life together 👑

  • @zaruD.red56
    @zaruD.red56 Рік тому +16

    7:45-9:04 my biggest problem for me has been everything that you said here. It has crippled my life, put it completely on hold. I've even trying to find someone anyone to hear this from and I'm glad it was you Hamza. I'm still working on it, and it's been hell, but I haven't allowed myself to truly let myself go to hell either. I'll bounce back!

    • @Tenno2270
      @Tenno2270 Рік тому

      Hey brother, i saw your comment here and wanted to check up on you. I hope everythings alright.
      I myself am going through the same thing right now so I just wanted to hear you doing alright. If I know one of my brothers has made it through, I know I will as well

  • @ExplosiveGoat911
    @ExplosiveGoat911 7 місяців тому +2

    Today me and my girlfriend brokeup. We both love eachother very much. It is respectful. She is an amazing girl, but we just dont align anymore. Thank you for this video Hamza

  • @disksector
    @disksector Рік тому +5

    It's 3 am right now and I've resorted to watching this. It happened last night and I didn't know it would have such an impact. I woke up at 2 and my heart was racing. I never thought I'd be watching this one but here I am

  • @bingus5725
    @bingus5725 Рік тому +8

    hey hamza thanks for talking about this! Some people might need to hear this. Ive personally been through quite a toxic relationship a few months ago and im just saying I heard something like this and it really motivated me to change to the better! Just saying thanks because some people really need to hear this!!

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому

      Well done my bro! Glad to here it🤝

    • @bingus5725
      @bingus5725 Рік тому

      @@louish2310 appreciate it!

  • @bengovrik
    @bengovrik Рік тому +6

    Was with my ex for around 8 months this year. Spent every weekend together and she is literally a 10/10. I felt on top of the world, I was so in love I spent every waking minute thinking about the next time we would be together and the weekend I'd setup for us. Then she cheated and left. Decided to start lexapro, therapy, and eating like crap. A few weeks ago I said fuck it, quit lexapro and therapy, and started eating 1500 calories a day and excersizing 2 hours per day. I've literally never felt better in my whole life. When doing the lexapro and therapy, it felt like my life was still in the hands of her, but eliminating those hinderenses and focuses on her, I just feel on top of the world. As well, I deleted all my social media and I've been off completely for 3 weeks now. I'm already getting back to the body I had before her and Its just amazing. For anyone who doesn't know what to do but feel nihilistic, just workout. Just run. Just get off the pity train. Youre not going to stop the intrusive thoughts with this method, but they won't linger nearly as long and you'll soon have them less and less. My experience..

  • @mmmair
    @mmmair Рік тому +1

    Back to this video Hamza. My breakup is what will lead me out of my rut. Thanks for this.

  • @justingandhi
    @justingandhi Рік тому +6

    Once you keep pursuing your mission and purpose, nothing well stop you. Brothers, know that the pain you feel is part of the process. However, use that pain to fuel yourself to become the best version of yourself!

  • @casperdong
    @casperdong Рік тому +1

    I was literally thinking about, man I wish I could just get her out of my head… and low and behold this came up in my feed

  • @eth4nfnbr
    @eth4nfnbr Рік тому +1

    please talk about fashion honestly fashion helps you become a more likeable person

  • @snowb4ll
    @snowb4ll Місяць тому

    last year around this time a 2 year relationship ended this video helped a lot ty bro

  • @Raspberry_25
    @Raspberry_25 Рік тому +1

    Here’s the thing, I go to the gym, hang out with friends but the moment I’m home I just remember her, any other girl that tries to get close to me I just don’t wanna be with em, she was the one, I don’t feel anyone can replace her.

    • @kyredd5373
      @kyredd5373 4 місяці тому +1

      Damn bro did you get over her yet??

  • @tervis2570
    @tervis2570 Місяць тому +2

    I really need friends. Going thru a heartbreak and im alone in a new city.

    • @Pano_ss
      @Pano_ss Місяць тому

      What city are you on?

    • @tervis2570
      @tervis2570 Місяць тому

      @@Pano_ss Hey man, sorry for taking so long to answer but im Helsinki, Finland

  • @Nigerianprincess69420
    @Nigerianprincess69420 Рік тому +1

    I know this was uploaded 2 months ago but this genuinely has made me manage to get up out of my lazy ass and start doing something with my life I’m only 14 and I felt like I hit the end of the road but now I realise long term I’ve got another 8 decades to go so I should set myself up to live those decades the best way I can

  • @swapnilchand338
    @swapnilchand338 Рік тому +94

    How many Indians here?

  • @ResonatedReaper
    @ResonatedReaper 11 місяців тому +1

    Thanks... just thank you. You just saved me so much time.

  • @Onissym144
    @Onissym144 Рік тому +1

    Thankyou Hamza, 15 oct. yesterday she broke my heart in that night, but now I know that my mindset was good, peace. ❤️

  • @gutfeelings44
    @gutfeelings44 Рік тому

    the man of culture, i needed this thank you so much

  • @icysenshi
    @icysenshi Рік тому

    Thank you bro, I couldn’t get over her, but after seeing this, it helped out a lot.

  • @snowfall6767
    @snowfall6767 Рік тому

    maybe its kinda off topic for this video but the word that you said us alwyas "do the hard work especially when you dont feel like it" this word changed my life.

  • @mex_l3262
    @mex_l3262 Рік тому

    Im 14 and i feel good to know you exist

  • @martinstefanovski2413
    @martinstefanovski2413 Рік тому

    Hey brother make a video that explains how to budget, how to save money, emergency funds etc. Awesome video as always btw!

  • @lunatichub7216
    @lunatichub7216 Рік тому +3

    I can't believe how similar my situation is with yours right know, she dumped me a week ago and I feel like shit, my friends are busy with Christmas, I try to improve, work out at home but is hard doing this all by myself..

    • @mathewlopez8005
      @mathewlopez8005 Рік тому

      hit me up

    • @markroble1100
      @markroble1100 Рік тому +1

      Lmk if you want to talk on discord man. I have such a similar experience.

  • @AzizPhilosophy
    @AzizPhilosophy Рік тому

    Id argue that a heartbreak is one of the best things that can happen to anyone

  • @aninstmo
    @aninstmo 6 місяців тому +2

    My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday

  • @aryandogra4640
    @aryandogra4640 Місяць тому

    Bro the fucking gulp in the throat is so fucking true holy shit it feels like a rock stuck in my throat

  • @V8_Luis1
    @V8_Luis1 Рік тому +1

    I needed this I just got dumped by I a girl I thought was the one

  • @marshallplays6375
    @marshallplays6375 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for making this video, I definitely need a video like this right now.

  • @arijeetkarmakar3778
    @arijeetkarmakar3778 Рік тому

    Thankyou for this

  • @chrisbuendia6936
    @chrisbuendia6936 Рік тому

    Hey man i appreciate what you do you’ve opened my mind on how to be a well respected man I still got a lot to learn but I appreciate it 💯🙏

  • @Austin_Boath
    @Austin_Boath Рік тому

    Just wow I started this video at a low sad point and now I’m feeling like I’m about to conquer the world.

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz Рік тому

    That's natural that you coped well with the second breakup, because it was your own decision to break up in the first place.

  • @CharlieKellyEsq
    @CharlieKellyEsq Рік тому +1

    My brother is going through a nasty divorce. I'm not sure this video will help, but I'm going to force him to watch it

  • @matejskaper2
    @matejskaper2 Рік тому

    Another banger💪

  • @nikolai6631
    @nikolai6631 Рік тому +1

    Law 27: Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following

  • @vageeshraizada7158
    @vageeshraizada7158 Рік тому

    I just fear that they’ll forget me and the time we had and the value i held. I don’t want to be just another normal guy who they won’t remember as someone who used to be special and still hold some value in their life.

  • @fitness4life944
    @fitness4life944 Рік тому +1

    Yup bro I hope you see this and I want to ask can u make a video on how to become better as a teen except more explained ggs

  • @majkowski6455
    @majkowski6455 Рік тому

    So I have other problem... Year ago I was in long toxic relationship. We broke up, had to move out from out dream flat. Was left alone first time since like 7 years. Cried everyday. After a month decided to take Control of my life. Still cried but went to the gym and to the psychologist. Took care about my body and brain. Grind was my only goal. Still cried, still had this pain but the purpose was a key. So when I got after it i met new girl. The opposite of ex. Like everything was perfect. Then my mom died. Depression kicked in. She was like an angel helding me alive. So few month later I was kinda ok... Then some sort of insecurities inside me got out and... I broke up. Cuz she couldnt give me what I wanted. In fact noone girl can give me that. So I broke her heart and mine too. I want to focus on myself more, to be more a Man. To find love to myself inside me. And its fucking painful now, thinking that maybe I did biggest mistake of my life, letting her go. But I don't know... But the problem is - I found a purpose earlier, so now I don't know what to do more, to feel like I am developing myself more. Still loving gym, still on therapy and still growing my business. But nights without her... Waking up almost everynight in the middle and nervously searching for her... Fck me right?

  • @yamenmohamad4693
    @yamenmohamad4693 Рік тому

    I love you bro, thanks for inspiring us!

  • @tdsjgwrihugw
    @tdsjgwrihugw Рік тому

    I fw the background bro

  • @Apadiel117
    @Apadiel117 Рік тому

    Had a break up happen to me a month ago and personally I haven't stopped going to the gym, sleeping 8 hours, eating right and hanging out with good friends. Those are such an essential parts of life now. Even moved in to one of my best guy friends so I'm able to feel that brotherhood.
    But I still feel like shit most of the time unfortunately. That doesn't just go away, 90% of my thoughts are about her and what she's doing and reminiscing about old times. But goddamn it's still better than if I would be a wimpy bitch not doing any of the self improvement things. The tip of starting a new physical activity is great though. I'll start going bow shooting more and possibly start hunting.
    We're all gonna make it brahs stay strong.

  • @KillingKicks
    @KillingKicks Рік тому

    I literally broke up with a girl under 24 hours 3 days ago, but now I am a wiser man, thank you Hamza

  • @CodeX3001
    @CodeX3001 Рік тому

    Broooooooo that website is crazy

  • @flow_yoga_marina
    @flow_yoga_marina 8 місяців тому

    Дорогой, Хамза! Ты мне конечно очень нравишься, говоришь мудрые вещи. Но если ты так легко говоришь о расставании, тебе не было больно ни секунды, ты так быстро погрузился в свои проекты и переживания - ты никогда и не любил по настоящему. Давай поговорим лет через 20-25. Посмотрим как поменяются твои взгляды

  • @samuraijack9694
    @samuraijack9694 Рік тому +1

    Is it wrong of me to still have hope that things will workout?
    In spiritual terms I believe my ex is my "twin-flame" cause no matter what I can't get her off my mind. Plus this was long distance. The reason for our break up was the distance finally took a toll on her (7 month relationship, never met face to face) and she is NOT ready for a relationship. Since I am in the spiritual journey, it showcased me what went wrong and what I need to focus on right now.

  • @laszlohrabovszky2489
    @laszlohrabovszky2489 Рік тому

    I just broke up previous week with my girlfriend after 11 months. I decided to improve myself. So I am here to learn from Hamza. I want to become a better man!

  • @alexanderbjorklund6188
    @alexanderbjorklund6188 Рік тому

    Damn you must have been on the GigaChad grind in Runecape or whatever its called, never played it but 18hours a day lmao, must have got a lot done in that game

  • @priyaruparelia9319
    @priyaruparelia9319 Рік тому

    being a 20 year old going through a relationship that was toxic and wasn’t good for me being in contact with each other just feeling like shit at times it wasn’t good it felt like my first ever love i still feel like i’m not progressing it properly being in contact with him deep down i tell people yeah it’s all good but deep down i think about him a lot i check my phone my mind just does it idk honestly

    • @priyaruparelia9319
      @priyaruparelia9319 Рік тому

      but this video really did help me even your youtube channel has helped me a lot

  • @finnmiller8992
    @finnmiller8992 Рік тому

    Thank you Hamza

  • @David-kj7el
    @David-kj7el Рік тому

    This helped me man

  • @bg.dragon1419
    @bg.dragon1419 Рік тому

    My gf just broke with me last night...3 years together. I love her too much . Still I know it's over but the feelings won't go away for a long time. I hope I can overcome it especially when I know I did too many mistakes which lead her in to the arms of another men

  • @619-e5i
    @619-e5i Рік тому

    Found out my Ex is talking to another guy and she called me literally flexing her relationship but before that I texted her a paragraph days ago saying a farewell goodbye being positive for her to just do that is crazy af but I really don’t care I’m trying to move on.

  • @ProsperityMilks
    @ProsperityMilks Рік тому

    Yeah, broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago. People don't respect you so you have to leave. I still think of her and still love her. Sometime you have to walk away.

  • @ICEcoldtristan2.0
    @ICEcoldtristan2.0 Рік тому +1

    You'll become a simp if you still stalk your ex or your crush on social media

  • @datlemon8041
    @datlemon8041 Рік тому

    what facts preached

  • @hardikgupta6708
    @hardikgupta6708 Рік тому +1

    adonis

  • @YfcMir
    @YfcMir Рік тому

    Thas crazy bruh my ex and I just stopped speaking 2 days ago..

  • @whosajmal
    @whosajmal 8 місяців тому

    I was talking to a girl for about 2-3 days. Hee friend was quite toxic and wasn’t doing good for her. She was making her do bad Jeffrey or Jessica habits. She held my arm the first day and again the second day. The next days she walked with me and she talked about her health issues and I asked maybe it’s because of bad friends. She held me more then she went back to her friend and I’m assuming she snitched after she dropped me off to class. I felt bad for her but then later I got a message where she said that she wanted to leave me because she didn’t like my personality but only my looks. Idk what to do after this I’m so lost. I am Muslim too I felt like I did haram but I don’t want any scolding. My friends were there for me but everyone tells a slightly different thing

  • @MultiGameLPcz
    @MultiGameLPcz Рік тому

    Well its been a year, I’ve made dramatic self improvement progress, I got women but I never felt anything to them.
    Actually I’ve never felt anything to other women in my entire life.
    So I still think that she is the one.

  • @alexc9963
    @alexc9963 Рік тому

    beard is looking better than ever ngl

  • @RealTemp02
    @RealTemp02 Рік тому

    For me, time does help. I just get every emotion out really quick, so nothing is on my mind. Going for walks and still hitting the gym, block her everywere, not because you hate her, but you are not with her anymore, let go off that controlling feeling and focus on yourself💪🏻

    • @SamSulekShortsHub
      @SamSulekShortsHub Рік тому +1

      Couldn’t agree more. Time does realistically make things better even though it’s super painful at the beginning the pain goes away after a while

    • @RealTemp02
      @RealTemp02 Рік тому

      @@SamSulekShortsHub indeed, but if it’s painfull and you feel sad, you know it was a realationship worth having

    • @SamSulekShortsHub
      @SamSulekShortsHub Рік тому +1

      @@RealTemp02 yeah that’s true you shouldn’t regret having the relationship but you should definitely learn things from it for your next ones. Ultimately you have to realise that it wasn’t 100% worth it since there was issues hence why it ended

    • @RealTemp02
      @RealTemp02 Рік тому +1

      @@SamSulekShortsHub yea I agree, and I always try to do better, I always reflect over how i was as a person then, and who I’m trying to become. All though i’m pretty mature, it made me more mature after we broke up

    • @SamSulekShortsHub
      @SamSulekShortsHub Рік тому +1

      @@RealTemp02 people are either blessings or lessons 💭

  • @zoltanfarkas179
    @zoltanfarkas179 Рік тому

    Hello Everyone, Hamza mentioned a website to find others around u, but I havent found it in the description.

  • @BradleyRichards
    @BradleyRichards Рік тому +1

    I genuinely feel like I messed up something good. With a woman who is a great person. Is there any advice for that in particular?

  • @assbat
    @assbat Рік тому

    bro where’s that website that will find self improvement guy near me

  • @cheese5331
    @cheese5331 Рік тому

    LMAO PERFECT TIMI G

  • @bobimnot9531
    @bobimnot9531 Рік тому

    Number 1 you felt the necessary emotions(crying) second you distracted yourself so you wouldn't feel the emotions? Is that really a good message?

  • @Genau500
    @Genau500 Рік тому

    I was dating a girl for like 4 months we had lots of great moments, always quality time you know and the sex was insane and toxic af how it have to be, the only problem was that she lives 3 hours away with the car. Anyway we both knew since the beginning that this can't be something serious but I started loving her and then I broke up with her because I wanted that secret preworkout. You can't lose. IYKYK
    Some of you will maybe call this toxic but idc

  • @kb5788
    @kb5788 Рік тому +704

    I actually really needed this hamza. My girlfriend broke up with me and I was sleeping all day and eating junk food, and I stopped doing all the good habits I was doing. This made me realise that there’s no point in being sad when I can work on myself. Thank you hamza ❤

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +4

      Sorry to hear that mate! stay on track as much as u can and improve from this use that negativity to push u to new heights. Good luck🤝

    • @LibShitted
      @LibShitted Рік тому +2

      Bro, fucking conquer this world DONT GIVE UP!

    • @ritchie4295
      @ritchie4295 Рік тому +2

      It's gonna be ok bro, don't stop, go harder, lift that fucking weight, focus on yourself, we're all gonna make it brah 🫡

    • @winstroom
      @winstroom Рік тому

      Work on yourself brother!

    • @hodenhobler9916
      @hodenhobler9916 Рік тому +1

      You got this man, we’ve all been there and now look at us

  • @RiseUpElevate
    @RiseUpElevate Рік тому +587

    Going through this now at 36. Hamza advice is not just for younger people. This is universal advice through all age groups. Great advice on a lot of videos on your channel

    • @Sirvalian
      @Sirvalian Рік тому +14

      That was probably a much longer relationship than anything talked about here though, much harder to get over. Still suffering after a year myself.

    • @RiseUpElevate
      @RiseUpElevate Рік тому +17

      @@Sirvalian I am so sorry to hear you are still suffering a year on. My breakup is only a week gone and coming out of a 3 and half year relationship. It’s tough brother, we all need to band together to help one another ✌️

    • @walexander8378
      @walexander8378 Рік тому +3

      @@RiseUpElevate did you ever feel it was perfect?

    • @RiseUpElevate
      @RiseUpElevate Рік тому +5

      @@walexander8378 early on, most definitely. That did slip a lot as time went on

    • @debangshunath2830
      @debangshunath2830 Рік тому +4

      27 and on my Adonis journey.

  • @sayemsss560
    @sayemsss560 Рік тому +388

    Quick note: this is the best moment to start your self improvement and most importantly DONT EVER DO IT TO GET YOUR EX BACK, she’s gone bro she’s thinking about another guy and you deserve much better trust me ❤

  • @samuel.snowdon93
    @samuel.snowdon93 Рік тому +192

    Fucking needed this. Broke up with who I thought was the love of my life 6 months ago.
    Now lost 16kgs, got sober (4 months) hit the gym hard, dieting, went to therapy, got into nature.
    I'm now healing and doing alot better. But yea. It almost destroyed me, I really needed this today Hamza. Thank you.

    • @CommanderTexas
      @CommanderTexas Рік тому +1

      Awesome bro! I experienced something similar. It hurts bad. Stay strong!

    • @hunterdavis8746
      @hunterdavis8746 Рік тому +1

      Everyone always talks about being dumped but honestly I left my what I thought the love of my life after 4 years and it has been such a difficult journey but everyday gets better man. Good luck to you and everyone else on this journey as well.

    • @bsimmons1863
      @bsimmons1863 Рік тому

      good job brotha I'm at the same time span and it feels good making daily positive strides becoming a better version of yourself

  • @James-zo8ub
    @James-zo8ub Рік тому +454

    Very much needed. Currently 19, broke up with my first girlfriend after 8 months a couple weeks back. Immediately began self improvement, logging habits, going gym. picked up educating myself on nutrition and fitness in order to give me a healthy obsession. This video reaffirms the path i chose to go when she broke things off. thank you. Im going to be starting Uni in a couple years and im going to be a different person when that comes.

    • @HugeYotk
      @HugeYotk Рік тому +4

      You go, bro

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +1

      Good luck bro amazing to here👏

    • @theanswer.markoo1299
      @theanswer.markoo1299 Рік тому +5

      you don't need a "good luck" we know you're gonna do it

    • @mr.minecraftkid0802
      @mr.minecraftkid0802 Рік тому +7

      same bruv im also 19 its crazy how many people are in similar positions

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +3

      @@mr.minecraftkid0802 I’m 19 too lol wtf nd literally had a similar situation!

  • @pascal8503
    @pascal8503 Рік тому +91

    For everyone who is going through hell, if she left you and you gave it your all. She wasn't meat to be with you. Someone who truly belives in you and loves you will stay with you because they want to see you become better. Realize that you are attachted to the past. Talk to your close friends, they will support you. Envision the best version of yourself and work towards it. The more you love yourself and the more responsibility you take the better you will be as a person. Let the emotions flow, but do not get addicted and attachted to them. Put your mind somewhere else, put your focus in something that will make your life better.
    Love to all brothers out there, you are not alone!

    • @Flat-cat
      @Flat-cat Рік тому

      Wow thank u bro this comment really hit home I just got with smn that I loved for such a long time and she did too but then she just lost interest and this comment rlly did change my perspective on it thank you my brother

  • @EJ4FF
    @EJ4FF Рік тому +174

    I’m 18 about to be 19 and I got dumped 3 weeks ago after 3.5 years of dating. I loved her so much she was my first girlfriend and she took my virginity. We bonded a lot I really thought she was the one and we would always talk about our future and getting married. Not even 2 weeks after breaking up I see her wirh another guy already and that shit sent me into a wild depression. It’s been 5 days since i seen them together and I’m still not over it but I realized that she’s gone. that she doesn’t care if I’m crying or upset over her. I am trying to improve watching your video really changed my mindset and the way I think. Thank you so much hamza ❤

    • @anshukeshari286
      @anshukeshari286 Рік тому +9

      Bro I can feel you, I'm 18 , turning 19 soon too and I can feel you bro, my relationship was 1 year strong, i remember all those things we promised and she still left me, all those time i spent with her...

    • @davidlochanb
      @davidlochanb Рік тому +3

      I can feel you bro.. My 3years 7 months relationship brokeup 🥺a week ago and within 2 days after breakup she's with someone else...

    • @hashintha
      @hashintha Рік тому +1

      I am 21...i got breakup with 4 year relationship

    • @EJ4FF
      @EJ4FF Рік тому

      @@hashintha forget about that bitch and become the best possible version of yourself bro. Focus on you and only you.

    • @davidlochanb
      @davidlochanb Рік тому

      @@hashintha sorry to hear that bruh 🥺🥺

  • @synzix5956
    @synzix5956 Рік тому +292

    « do the hard work especially When you dont feel like it »✊

  • @kommit-456
    @kommit-456 Рік тому +189

    Just got rejected yesterday by my crush, so this video came out at a great time, thank you Hamza for making me and men masculine again ❤

    • @kap2949
      @kap2949 Рік тому +48

      good job on getting rejected now have that same bravery and do it over and over again

    • @BF-eb4xs
      @BF-eb4xs Рік тому +10

      Kudos to you for trying. I’m finding it hard to approach lol. Give yourself a pat on the back 💪🏽

    • @kommit-456
      @kommit-456 Рік тому +4

      Unfortunately I don’t have the guts to tell her directly, my friends did it for me. Rejection hurts but we move on

    • @elijah8018
      @elijah8018 Рік тому +24

      @@kommit-456 I can't speak for her, but that could be part of the reason you got rejected. Use that and build your confidence to do it yourself the next time. Every bad experience is a lesson! You got this bro

    • @batly_ml
      @batly_ml Рік тому +1

      @@kommit-456 Lol same case 🤝

  • @aiautomationswithkarol
    @aiautomationswithkarol Рік тому +178

    “Focus and do the things for your future self”

  • @ProactiveNinja
    @ProactiveNinja Рік тому +48

    Weird timing of this video, didn’t think I needed it, but really it helped me so much, been with this girl just a bit before first lockdown February 2020, throughout that time period we’d chat every day, FaceTime etc. Only 4 weeks ago she ended it all because I sensed something was off finally, and she finally said she left me mentally 2 months ago around the time of my bday, and that she caught feelings for a guy she met on holiday who also lives near an hour from our town we live in. Been out every weekend since, just trying to distract my mind (I’m 25 now so I’m why past the point of enjoying going out and clubbing) but fuck it, it was something to do, I’d find out 2 weekends ago and the weekend just gone she cheated on me with a bit of a distant friend back in May (this guy isn’t my friend anymore) and also one really good friend of mine last back in April 2021 when me and her had a big argument, it was my own good friend that told me this too, as much as I appreciated his honesty it just made me contemplate my life decisions, such as thinking I was with a girl who actually loved me, but was in turn sleeping around behind my back, and I’m just gonna assume she’s done it loads of times through our relationship as that’s only 2 occasions I’ve heard about from that said good friend. Since this break up as it’s still new to me because I’ve never had a relationship this long, and this painful. It really has opened my eyes a lot about the type of ppl I bring into my life, these fake friends and a fake girlfriend. I’m somewhat of a skinny guy but this breakup has made me wanna do better and become so much more better as a person. I realised I was putting too much love into other people and not really myself, self reflection is such an underrated thing to do as in general life we have tons of distractions. But something as simple as giving yourself a pep talk in the mirror is a simple way to get you back onto your feet and become the best version of you that you have implanted in your head. I’ve took up reading (something I’d never of done) and cold showers more regularly, even finding that I really wasn’t pushing myself 100% in the gym every time, and knowing I could even do a cardio session in that same day because I was thinking of being lazy. But as of right now each day is strange some days are good some are just waves of sadness. I know that this all in the end was a blessing, because as much as it’s sad right now that I’ve never felt more lonely in my life, it’s a gift knowing I won’t be having those fake ppl in my life again, and those fake ppl will just only help me learn and rebuild stronger connections with new ppl that genuinely care for me. Im on a path now, and thanks to the likes of Hamza and other influencers that help men become… men, I know deep down everything will be ok in the end and that the best way to feel good in all the shit is to really get the fuck up and don’t hesitate to that thing!

  • @onnol917
    @onnol917 Рік тому +31

    Male depression and suicide is a serious thing and it will only get worse. If your out there feeling struck down and not wanting to get back in life, find the love in yourself for yourself to get up. Its not about doing it for someone else its about doing it for you. Cry it out, shout it out, punch it out. Get it out of your system until the space to love yourself is taken back. Never hesitate to call your best mates, even if you need a shoulder to cry on.
    "Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it"

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +2

      So true bro great advice🤝

  • @bearieroblox6451
    @bearieroblox6451 9 місяців тому +8

    The girl I lost my virginity too, also my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I ain’t never stop working though. Been crying every night and I can remember working while crying, eating while crying and being at the gym while crying. The grind don’t stop, stay hard you mother fuckers. Last night was the first night I didn’t cry over her, and I’m trying to find new women to talk to currently.

    • @2jjulian
      @2jjulian 2 місяці тому

      How are you doing?

  • @inso5078
    @inso5078 Рік тому +87

    Breakups were what motivated me to work out the most.
    I've had two severe breakups in my life (technically 3, but I was around 14) and both of them were what drew me to working out and self improving. Both were incredibly painful causing depression, taking antidepressants and sucidal thoughts. I don't think you can be a real man without heartbreakes and struggles in life. You must experience something that could potentially crush you.

  • @Heisenberg02
    @Heisenberg02 Рік тому +40

    My relationship ended exactly 30 days ago. I was heartbroken and couldn’t believe it was real. A friend of mine said that he wanted me to go with him to the gym. Best choice i’ve made in years. I’ve been feeling so much better now because of going to the gym daily. Don’t get me wrong, i still think about her but the feeling that i “lost her” is slowly disappearing. If you go through a breakup and you have that bad feeling: use that feeling as fuel to work on yourself. Trust me, once you become the best version on yourself she’ll realise what she lost, and that’s when you should stand your ground and not give her another chance. Goodluck to everyone who is going through a breakup 💪

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +3

      So true bro imagine in 6 moths to a year of consistency. Keep on the grind and you’ll attract someone way better good luck brother!

    • @harry5326
      @harry5326 Рік тому +2

      Keep up the streek. Just do not show up to her front door with a pizza

    • @Heisenberg02
      @Heisenberg02 Рік тому +1

      @@louish2310 Thanks alot bro

    • @40mihirkulkarni44
      @40mihirkulkarni44 Рік тому

      To be fair tho, you were a meth kingpin and got Hank killed so no wonder she left you for Ted
      Fr tho, hope you're doing well now :)

    • @Heisenberg02
      @Heisenberg02 Рік тому +1

      @@harry5326 i’ll try, maybe that i’ll throw the pizza on the roof

  • @gegebobo969
    @gegebobo969 Рік тому +41

    hamza , idk why but what you’re going through was EXACTLY what i was going through. i really needed this. thank you brother.

  • @ingvik3703
    @ingvik3703 Рік тому +56

    A almost 1 year long relationship ended just an hour ago. She was my first girlfriend and I lost my virginity to her. I really needed this video because i was already going down the wrong path. Thank you Hamza for giving me the strength to get through this.

    • @blem5376
      @blem5376 Рік тому +2

      Stay strong brotha

    • @sethrussell7771
      @sethrussell7771 Рік тому +3

      Gym and early morning Walks/Runs/Swims are your best friend. Do not under estimate how much a simple walk/run and especially swim can do for your health early morning, it’s amazing.

    • @akrtaha3733
      @akrtaha3733 Рік тому +2

      I m going through the exact same shit right now. Out there are more better girls waiting for u if you keep the grind

    • @pumpUdotcom
      @pumpUdotcom Рік тому

      how you doing bro

  • @sovietleader3096
    @sovietleader3096 Рік тому +24

    When I went through my first breakup, I kinda got over it quick, or at least I thought I did. She did a lot of shitty things so I thought I was over it. A few months later I start realizing that I miss her. I didn’t talk to her at all since it but she sent me a message and we had one or two convos. I realized that I was making it worse and that she didn’t matter. All the things she did didn’t matter anymore. Another few months go by and I start talking to this one girl more and I ask her out. She said yes and I’m way more happier now. For any guys reading this, for whatever you’re going through, it’ll get better, you’ll find better.

  • @GodkuRockwell1294
    @GodkuRockwell1294 Рік тому +31

    Damn I really needed this video right now. I'm going through some bad shit right now and this helped a lot. Thanks for the motivation Hamza

  • @edrinabell8083
    @edrinabell8083 Рік тому +27

    I am 14 years old and I just went through my first breakup, I haven't completely dropped all my good habits like weightlifting, and kickboxing. But I've felt very very lonely and unsure what to do going forward... We had been dating just about 3 months and we broke up because I felt like I was putting in much more investment into making it work when it was difficult, than she was... Anyway, this video really helped me -even though I am a lot younger- thank you so much Hamza, keep doing what you're doing.

    • @shanks8681
      @shanks8681 Рік тому +1

      not like thatll be an issue for me

  • @Monkaii
    @Monkaii Рік тому +29

    This hit deep and made me tear up because I realised self-improvement really changed me. This is exactly how I navigate my relationships. Thank you so much Hamza, I really appreciate your advice and guidance

  • @lolsurprise3176
    @lolsurprise3176 Рік тому +16

    Bro hamza just litteraly changed my life
    I started working out becouse of him
    Meditating
    Starting journaling recantly
    My confidence
    About my physique has gone up my mental health is so much better
    I appreciate him from all my heart
    Keep pushing brother s for the man
    You re son wants to become

  • @kyotoryu5656
    @kyotoryu5656 Рік тому +19

    Just got out of a 5 year relationship with my first everything since age 17 and this video has been a breath of fresh air. I’m not in university but I’m gonna go back soon, thank you Hazma. I’m working out and getting back on my sh!t
    It’s painful but I needed this to get back on my pivot

    • @hashintha
      @hashintha Рік тому +1

      I am 21...i got break up with my 4 years relationship

  • @WqKe-
    @WqKe- 11 місяців тому +2

    I think I should share my story brothers. Me and my ex broke up around 4 days ago I stupidly agreed to stay friends with her. But i have now gone into ghost mode and will not be giving her the time of day. We broke up because she lost interest it’s a hard pill to swallow knowing that they love you one week then lost it all the next. I had a long as phone call with her today taking about the break up because she went on a church camp and couldn’t have her phone. We talked and she reckons that I need time until we hang out next. But brothers she ain’t getting the time of day anymore she wanted us to be friends. I only do friends with benefits.

  • @dylanculani
    @dylanculani Рік тому +20

    Just turned 19… hearing this feels foreshadowing. As you’ve said, wise men learn from the mistakes of others, if I’m meant to find a relationship, fall in love, and breakup this year, then I promise to use that energy for the greatest success I’ve ever achieved yet!

  • @beniamingafencu4962
    @beniamingafencu4962 Рік тому +25

    This is the kind of video everyone needs!
    I pretty much realised this myself and I still have a long way to go, but tripling up the self development really helps filling up that free time of not having a girlfriend anymore and stops overthinking.
    Learn from your mistakes and do your best! Go to gym, start reading, do some volunteering, start meeting new people. Stay strong and you'll be just fine, guys! I am writing this for myself too.
    I totally related that first relationship in the video with my actual break up.
    Thank you, Hamza and keep up the good work! ❤

  • @Zalliesify
    @Zalliesify Рік тому +17

    I needed this. I just got dumped two weeks ago after a 6 years relationship. Listening to your words really helped, and I'd like to thank you for it. I promise I'll be following your advice to the letter, you're one of the very few genuine ones.
    I won't lie, i wasn't sure about your channel when it first started getting recommended to me, but then i kept watching and learned what this is really about. Self improvement is exactly what i need

    • @jimvenanzio6561
      @jimvenanzio6561 Рік тому

      >Be me
      >See Hamza Vid a week after made, so curiosity click.
      >Cue UA-cam Commercial sequence.
      >"hOW To geT yOuR ex BacK"
      >LOLWUT.exe
      >Stay through commercial despite the Algorithm.
      > Itsfinallyover
      >Recline with a microbowl of popcorn as Adonis's smooth words take over the player.
      Seriously, i'm starting to think the Powers That Be are noticing you and what Hamza's up to here. they mad.

    • @Shuruto
      @Shuruto Рік тому

      How are you doing now, 4 months later?

  • @Vehiclengineer
    @Vehiclengineer 4 місяці тому +3

    0:05 bro i absolute don’t have any idea what to do i am 16 i make very little amount of money

  • @howitzerproject
    @howitzerproject Рік тому +15

    Damn bro, like u knew what's gonna happen.. just got dumped today.. she was my first girlfriend and we were together for 6 years..
    But I'm keeping my head up, moving forward, starting to fight and push myself to the limits!
    Thanks mate, your work is much appreciated! ❤️

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому +2

      Yes bro that’s the spirit keep moving and improving even when it’s hard keep pushing in order for you to become the best version of yourself🤝sorry to here that, u got this

    • @howitzerproject
      @howitzerproject Рік тому

      @@louish2310 Thanks for your words, feels good to hear/read such things in such kinda fckd up times ❤️

    • @louish2310
      @louish2310 Рік тому

      @@howitzerproject no worries mate. I’ve got some content on rejection, moving on and self improvement. Feel free to have a look it may help you! It’s hard ik but you’ll get through it if you keep moving and improving. U got this🤝🤝