How to heal after a breakup

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  • Опубліковано 11 тра 2024
  • this video explains how you can fill that void and emptiness that we feel while going through a breakup

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  • @eatmorechicken1221
    @eatmorechicken1221 Місяць тому +53

    My gf broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago. When this video dropped and I saw it, ngl it made my heart sank again. It comes back every now and then. But now, I’m starting to feel a bit better day by day and slowly, I’m starting to get back into drawing. Making art has been one of the few things that made me feel comfort, but i still appreciate reminders like this. So thank you.❤

    • @Tedros-zy6ch
      @Tedros-zy6ch Місяць тому +2

      Same, my gf cut me very badly, I'm sorry for your situation, but hey, don't worry, someone will arrive and if not, it doesn't matter, just calm down with yourself, and try ur best

  • @JarredCHILL
    @JarredCHILL Місяць тому +25

    the timing, i ruined a relationship with someone who truly cared for me. i wish i could go back and fix everything but some things just can’t be fixed. i wish her the best in everything. i didn’t deserve her

    • @Nirvanzia41
      @Nirvanzia41 Місяць тому +8

      The same goes for me, I also ruined my own relationship because I was selfish. The best way to fix this is to distance yourself from her and become the best version of yourself and learn from your mistakes. There is no “what ifs”, what is done IS done!
      I’m sorry to say this, but you must learn the hard way and suffer, that’s the only way you can grow as a person. You got this jarred, I know you can do this. You will find peace.
      If it’s meant to be she will comeback, if not then it’s okay because god has different plans for you.

    • @JarredCHILL
      @JarredCHILL Місяць тому +2

      @@Nirvanzia41 Needed to hear this. Thank you got this . Maybe one day but i need to fix myself. 🙏🏽

    • @abekabe678
      @abekabe678 Місяць тому +4

      I lost mine too, same reasons I suspect. She was so cute. yah anyway bruh, tears come and go, spirit becomes less judgemental and selfish

    • @darkfoxy4711
      @darkfoxy4711 Місяць тому +4

      Smae goes with me bro. I don’t wanna go in depth cuz I know I will break down. She gave me so many chances to change and stop treating her poorly and I never took her seriously. We even went on a lil break for a week to sort things out and even that didn’t work. I wish everyday I could go back and fix it after she broke up with me a week ago. I can’t stand to even look at her at school anymore. It breaks my heart walking past her as a stranger now. I still love her but she fell out of love because I pushed her away by being an asshole

    • @Nirvanzia41
      @Nirvanzia41 Місяць тому

      @@darkfoxy4711 I’m sorry to tell you this bro, but you must move on. Your actions spoke louder than words, you are in despair because you have a lot of regrets on those actions you did.
      You must learn the hard way, and learn from your mistakes whether you like or not. You can’t go back in the past because what is done is done.
      The best thing to do is to improve on yourself and become a better person. You have learned something. Experience.
      If you do not learn from those mistakes you committed with your relationship you will be in more despair, and that will mean you haven’t learned anything through your actions.
      I believe you will find peace and solution, believe in yourself and become the best version of yourself by going through hardships and growing as a person.
      Without despair and suffering there is no growth.

  • @WhiskeyTape
    @WhiskeyTape Місяць тому +6

    Well, my breakup isn't recent (happened a year ago), but I always struggle getting over such things for a long periods of time. Many thanks, you've saved me a few more years of quiet misery.

  • @1slander_nari143
    @1slander_nari143 Місяць тому +24

    Shimon with the IMPECCABLE timing 😭

  • @patchworkcreation.
    @patchworkcreation. Місяць тому +11

    While i disagree with trying to not cry, i agree with not reminiscing too much, or really at all. Also, "forget the teacher, remember the lesson" is absolutely amazing advice.

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  Місяць тому +15

      definitely don’t hold in crying … I don’t believe said that. If I did, my apologies. I think I said don’t listen to sad music but if you feel the need to cry and let it out then do that but try not to dabble in the sad music thing. I appreciate the support and much love to you❤️

  • @selxwrld
    @selxwrld Місяць тому +8

    i’m hurting, i have no energy for anyone and anything. i feel so alone and empty with no sense of direction and all i want is to be with him. to be in his arms, to feel his warmth presence. i don’t want to let him go.. he’s been a light in my life. his presence alone has saved me from a deep point in my life. he means everything to me. i think about him 24/7 and sometimes i forcibly distract myself from processing it. i seek love and friendship, he was my only true friend. don’t have anyone else. i really don’t know what to do..

    • @selxwrld
      @selxwrld Місяць тому

      i am so miserable.

    • @ashxbash1001
      @ashxbash1001 Місяць тому +2

      I have no advice to give, but I'm so sorry, boo🥺🥺🫂🫂 You'll get thru this rough patch!

    • @ki_zagreb
      @ki_zagreb Місяць тому +2

      you are not miserable girl. I feel you. just know u are not alone. and u will feel better its just the matter of time. remember that u haven't experienced much better things in life yet. wait for them. I know its hard. much power to you!! :(

    • @binkyyy9694
      @binkyyy9694 27 днів тому +3

      I understand. Truly I understand. But you must not run from the pain. You need to face it head on, let it wash over you, and keep moving. Grief is like the ocean, sometimes the waves are violent, sometimes it is completely still. Happiness is also fleeting. So cherish the times that were shared but don’t remain in a place that no longer exists in the present. Your world is so much bigger than you can even imagine. It will take time, and there is no deadline. But you must continue to love yourself the way you love others, even when you don’t feel like it. That is how you will come out the other side without drowning. And I’m saying all this to remind myself as well, because my world just turned upside down too. I am right there with you

  • @jadenknapp5816
    @jadenknapp5816 Місяць тому +32

    No shot, this is the best video timing ever. Thank you

  • @Swe3tSc3nt
    @Swe3tSc3nt Місяць тому +5

    Had some type of situation ship for like 2 years, I was the one that had to stop it since I realised the effort wasn’t equal and he told me he was on a journey to find himself. Later found out during that time we had texted,and during his self journey, he had a girl, broke my heart twice since she cheated on him wit someone else and he lied. Thanks man for this vid it was pretty much applicable to what I went through. Kat hugs for komfort

  • @Xenythx
    @Xenythx Місяць тому +65

    This literally popped up after I literally just texted my girl we should be friends. Damn

    • @chrisbrown9216
      @chrisbrown9216 Місяць тому +6

      God Bless

    • @kantui100
      @kantui100 Місяць тому +4

      Shimon on that quick timing

    • @Martul
      @Martul Місяць тому +19

      Texted? I feel like it is the most brutal way to say goodbye. It's like you never cared that much. The last thing you could do was to at least say it to her face.

    • @phizzy123
      @phizzy123 Місяць тому +9

      @@Martulthis is sadly the world we live in now

    • @Juzzzer
      @Juzzzer Місяць тому +4

      She's mine now

  • @joelbenjamin5947
    @joelbenjamin5947 Місяць тому +8

    no lies here. i started putting in so much work and loving myself a lot more after i broke up with her. i can’t even recognize who i am at this point. i’ve grown so much and i love it! (ps: if you’re going through a break up, remember it’s a break from the world for you to take yourself back up😉)

  • @akiera1511
    @akiera1511 Місяць тому +4

    i literally just got broken up with yesterday this is crazy timing.
    think what i'll do for now is continue to just be positive and work on myself because someone better and who's more deserving of my love will come around. I'll miss her still of course but i ain't letting this hold me back from my growth

  • @user-dv7fr4go5d
    @user-dv7fr4go5d Місяць тому +3

    my bf dumped me a week ago at my most vulnerable tym , i loved him so much and id do anything for him . i begged him so many times to to fix things we experienced a small issue , but he decided to leave me and refused fixing things , i thought maybe maybe i was a problem but i noticed that if he really loved me , he would have done anything and i mean anything to fix our relationship but he didnt that gave me courage to step back a little and focus on my books . i was still grieving our relationship and he had already had a new girlfriend in mind . i was hurt coz i was so loyal to him. i hope my heart heals , i deserve better

  • @marezzy7879
    @marezzy7879 Місяць тому +11

    I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He would always compare me to another girl. And since i started talking to him all my friends have been ignoring me. They may be jealous i dont know. All i know is now that im isolated i have more time to focus and learn about me. I trust in Gods plan, and slowly starting to trust myself. ❤

  • @ryuzakl
    @ryuzakl Місяць тому +3

    im going through a breakup with a friend group and honestly this helped too even if it were in regards to a romantic relationship

  • @theworldwithin_
    @theworldwithin_ Місяць тому +3

    Almost been a month now, she found someone else after 2 weeks and i see them together all the time, it really breaks me everytime i see it

  • @darkfoxy4711
    @darkfoxy4711 Місяць тому +4

    What a great time posting this. She broke up with me a week ago and I haven’t been the same since. She was my everything and a part of me still feels missing. I’ve been pursing my passion for Music and skating more now and have become closer with my family and friends over the last week to fill the void

  • @bodelawrie7217
    @bodelawrie7217 Місяць тому +3

    I’ve been in a state of arrested development since September. Part of that was the girl I was seeing breaking things off but there were a lot of factors. It wasn’t long but it was my first and only so rather than processing it I focused all my energy into school. But because I ignored my emotions for so long, now that school has been over for me I’m working through them now. I feel like I’m better than I’ve been in a while though it could be that I’ve been in the tunnel so long the light seems brighter than it usually is. This seems long and rambling and pointless but this video helped me put words to things I was struggling to express to myself so thank you.

  • @Tedros-zy6ch
    @Tedros-zy6ch Місяць тому +2

    I felt the same way, it really helped me, thx, my girlfriend cut me off in the worst way, literally she was very aggressive and called me manipulative, And that I kept her there, plus she cut off friends for me, and I felt bad, I really believed it but then I thought and reviewed our conversations and I wasn't like that, I didn't even ask her to do things that she didn't want I always liked that she would accompany me but never pressure her, and for days I felt like a monster until I asked people, friends and more And many thought that it wasn't like that, and that I shouldn't feel so bad, I know I have to fix things but what she told me really affected me, I could only thank her for his help that She told me that she always asked (usually it was just school or that she would accompany me to buy something to eat) and not think that she made me sad For having the confidence to tell her about my past. She really hurt me, she said horrible things. thanks for your video it really helped me

  • @FullRamenAlch3mist
    @FullRamenAlch3mist Місяць тому +3

    Damn... dropping a video like this when I need it most.

  • @StashTym
    @StashTym Місяць тому +2

    I have yet to experience this, but I really appreciate you preparing me for it. I have recently started to talk to someone, I hope it doesn't happen to me. Have a great day man.

  • @SIAH519
    @SIAH519 Місяць тому +1

    For one i just came across your channel today. You’re real genuine my guy and your words are pure. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago and this video really told me what i gotta do. Thank you my guy✊🏽

  • @neongenesisbro
    @neongenesisbro Місяць тому +7

    Thank you so much Shimon. I’ve been struggling through my breakup a lot recently and I really needed to hear these truths. Please keep up your great work, you are seriously helping people out here man. I hope for nothing but the absolute best for you bro.

  • @QianaMarcella
    @QianaMarcella 17 днів тому

    “stay true to the journey, everything’s gonna be alright”
    last Friday i prayed for my relationship to heal and become stronger than ever and the next day we broke up. i was angry at first but after letting tears out and getting blessings i realized my prayer was answered and it’s happened for a reason.

  • @ericfinch8343
    @ericfinch8343 Місяць тому +1

    That one girl is trying to do the same thing to me again. And you are helping me on the right path

  • @hillarycarmel2628
    @hillarycarmel2628 Місяць тому +1

    I appreciate you. I just started my healing process but then a friend of mine came up with an Idea that i should get into another relationship but then i refused because I had a feeling that I need to heal on my own rather than getting into another relationship. Thanks so much for this message😊😊

  • @cookingwithstocks715
    @cookingwithstocks715 10 днів тому

    I needed this and thank you.... wrote your quote on my whiteboard. "Forget the teacher, remember the lesson." Powerful! Keep this content coming.

  • @bellao590o2
    @bellao590o2 Місяць тому +4

    Brother this is god-sent timing thanks a ton for ur amazing content you have no idea how many people ur helping💕🙏

  • @gamingbwithfish7406
    @gamingbwithfish7406 Місяць тому +2

    i coundlt have found you at a better time in my life thank you for making these videos and opoening my eyes you are doing gods work and the world would be lovley place if everyone took the time like you do to make other people see that they are worthy of living thank you for everything you have done and will do for me

  • @wowyzowy1895
    @wowyzowy1895 Місяць тому +2

    I wasn't really in a relationship but I was talking to this girl from January to March and we decided to end things, but I wanted her back so I confessed I had feelings for her and we agreed to try better this time. For a good 2 weeks I was giving my all, but she was starting to fade away. Eventually she told me she can't do it. I still follow her on everything but she made sure to unfollow me on everything, even my friends. Her friends also unfollowed me, not that it matters, but I still follow all of them bc I'm not the type to shut someone out completely. So its been a month I think and I'm for some reason still not over her? You think I would be because we didn't even date, but I have friends who are in or getting into relationships and it's making me miss her more and more. I'll 1000% support my friends but I'm jealous and kinda wish they would shut up about how great their gf or bf is because it makes me stay up at night and wonder to myself what could have been with her...

  • @cloutbino9479
    @cloutbino9479 Місяць тому +1

    Personally I’ve always been had a void not from a breakup just in general i was looking for love it’s not until I got with my girlfriend is when I learned that my void is my own to fill and I can’t have someone else’s love to fill mine and I’m still learning tbh I’m greatful for the person who I’m with hoping things last with her

  • @brodyalden
    @brodyalden Місяць тому +2

    You’re the best, Shimon.

  • @madly_beaver8748
    @madly_beaver8748 Місяць тому +1

    these videos help so much thank you Shimon.

  • @youssefnasser6867
    @youssefnasser6867 Місяць тому +1

    literally couldn't be more needed rn

  • @gymgeneticsofficial5661
    @gymgeneticsofficial5661 Місяць тому +1

    I wish u all the succes in the world !! Ur an awesome human being and we are happy too hear ur thoughts and insight

  • @bramblej1084
    @bramblej1084 Місяць тому +2

    I got cheated on about 2 months ago but I’m doing better for my self.if anyone going through it trust me I know it’s hard but you got to remember they chose to do that so don’t get worked up on it life moves on you should to and yes it will be hard but if you work on yourself and don’t take life for granted you will be much happier

    • @Tedros-zy6ch
      @Tedros-zy6ch Місяць тому +1

      Thx bro, ur Comment really help, I wasn't cheated (not this time), but my gf (or ex gf) cut me at 7am with a long text and it was horrible but the way you put it, it just helped me, thx again

    • @bramblej1084
      @bramblej1084 Місяць тому +2

      @@Tedros-zy6ch Glad it helped

  • @tytre44
    @tytre44 18 днів тому

    Love the advice brother thank you needed to hear this

  • @coriepoche6433
    @coriepoche6433 14 днів тому

    Thank you this is exactly what I needed to listen to ❤

  • @ericfinch8343
    @ericfinch8343 Місяць тому +1

    I hope you’ll understand that I’m trying to free myself from UA-cam and such. And actually use the advice within myself, aswell as the advice you gave me

  • @cateroan4204
    @cateroan4204 8 днів тому

    Spoke to me deeply and eased my grief thank you so much ❤️❤️✨

  • @mohamedmakram3966
    @mohamedmakram3966 Місяць тому +2

    love you man such wise words❤

  • @OnlyRazzz
    @OnlyRazzz Місяць тому +2

    Woah dawg I didn’t know you blew up like this. I remember watching your “Pornography ruined my life” vid and you ain’t have this many followers. Just wanted to say congrats on the growth and I appreciate your advice it has really helped me grow 😤 God Bless big dawg🙏

  • @JestSaiyan
    @JestSaiyan Місяць тому +1

    You're helping me fill my void bro

  • @katelynngutierrez319
    @katelynngutierrez319 Місяць тому +2

    Perfect timing!!

  • @stephtic9864
    @stephtic9864 Місяць тому +1

    I really needed this :( got out of a relationship few days ago don’t miss the relashionship but feel more lonely, I wanted to be friends but idk if he rlly wants to

  • @Aro748
    @Aro748 13 днів тому

    The way my ex broke things off with me just recently destroyed me, she found someone better in about a week time. Things were tough but I still loved her deeply, now she doesn’t love me anymore and it feels like life is over. I know I gotta move forward but I’m stuck in constant state of denial, suffering, emptiness and pain. I can’t hate her despite what she did, I really love her.

  • @Conr1x
    @Conr1x Місяць тому +2

    no shot bro uploaded this the same day we broke up

  • @datmf4329
    @datmf4329 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you Shimon!

  • @fet0logy
    @fet0logy Місяць тому +2

    Watching this video to know what better perspective can I give to my friend (he can't just watch the vid because of language barrier)

  • @noah_rz
    @noah_rz Місяць тому +1

    Thank you man❤️

  • @bumboclot7727
    @bumboclot7727 Місяць тому +1

    Appreciate you dawg 🫡💞♊️

  • @darkmomo4ever141
    @darkmomo4ever141 Місяць тому +1

    Keep up the work.

  • @jooseygoosey
    @jooseygoosey Місяць тому

    Love the vids, I also love those paintings on your wall. Can I ask where you got them lol?

  • @ishtargoddess1277
    @ishtargoddess1277 Місяць тому

    thanks bro you got me to get back up!!!

  • @DeadlyD.
    @DeadlyD. Місяць тому +3

    Happy Mother’s Day

  • @Michelle-fr1fw
    @Michelle-fr1fw Місяць тому

    Woah! I literally just ended it with a guy. I needed this! ❤😮

  • @TravisTravelsTheGlobe
    @TravisTravelsTheGlobe 3 дні тому

    Beautiful words, Sir

  • @justinmorales9597
    @justinmorales9597 Місяць тому +1

    I ended my relationship with my gf almost a month ago. I feel I made a big mistake I was so stressed and clouded in my thoughts. She cared about me so much and loved me with every part of her. I don’t think I’ll ever find someone like her again. I just want to see her again. She says we need time. She added nothing but value to my life and I couldn’t see it.

    • @meliakyal8233
      @meliakyal8233 13 днів тому

      This is what my boyfriend admitted to me before he left me last night, and now im here. I’m trying to understand from his side of things and why he did what he did when he knew that all I did was care and love him so deeply like no one did before. I don’t even know why im replying to this but it was a perfect example of what happened. If you don’t mind me asking, how are things now? I’m not sure how I can get through this.

    • @justinmorales9597
      @justinmorales9597 13 днів тому

      @@meliakyal8233 it’s really tough. We haven’t talked in 4 weeks. I really wanted to try this again I really did but I don’t think she wants to cause I hurt her so bad. I wanted to say things in person but idk if I’ll ever get that now. She’s probably angry

  • @HaitiJuniorClotaireHaitian2045
    @HaitiJuniorClotaireHaitian2045 Місяць тому +1

    GREAT VIDEO BRO 😎🔥✊

  • @zynwithin
    @zynwithin 18 днів тому

    I appreciate u!!!

  • @bkayyss
    @bkayyss Місяць тому +2

    i’m not enough but i’ll get through

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  Місяць тому +9

      you are more than enough and you will get through

    • @bkayyss
      @bkayyss Місяць тому +1

      @@AskShimon peace and love my friend

  • @marlee-fe3zi
    @marlee-fe3zi Місяць тому +1

    crazy timing

  • @Shestylez1988
    @Shestylez1988 3 дні тому

    Thank you 😢

  • @M2XTalks
    @M2XTalks Місяць тому +1

    Yo wassup bro we create similar videos man and im gonna be honest bro you still inspire me with things I go through bro💪🏽

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  Місяць тому +1

      much love brother and keep pushing forward 🧘🏾‍♂️I’m subscribed

  • @dream-ps7nr
    @dream-ps7nr 23 дні тому

    Thank you❤

  • @Maybena684
    @Maybena684 20 днів тому

    thank you

  • @SussyEgg297
    @SussyEgg297 Місяць тому

    i know it’ll happen soon so it might as well be a sign, i’ll choose to acknowledge it

  • @Blitzgaming-yp2dr
    @Blitzgaming-yp2dr 16 днів тому

    Thank u 🙏

  • @djaniropereira6478
    @djaniropereira6478 Місяць тому

    found out my girl has been cheating on me, I feel so disgusted and empty, just came to watch this video to see what can I do to stop feeling like this.

  • @jacketjukeboxes2336
    @jacketjukeboxes2336 18 днів тому

    My Gf broke up with me 5 hours ago because she thought we should just be friends and she wanted to focus on herself. So stay strong, guys. Also, I'll update this if i get better 💀

  • @lexonschembri1241
    @lexonschembri1241 Місяць тому

    Can you make a vid about studying or exam stress?

  • @dinoniii
    @dinoniii Місяць тому

    damn what a timing

  • @dxmino7588
    @dxmino7588 Місяць тому

    Bruh me and this miss broke up last year July but I went through a dark stage and we got in contact again and I tried to mend things but I got rejected and she said we must work on ourselves and I feel like this year i have to stand alone but it feels like a breakup whenever me and her don’t speak even when we not in a relationship and I can’t handle that

  • @gymgeneticsofficial5661
    @gymgeneticsofficial5661 Місяць тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @Aur3um.
    @Aur3um. Місяць тому

    The timing…

  • @Mykierahlowee
    @Mykierahlowee Місяць тому

    ❤❤

  • @TBOI_BBG
    @TBOI_BBG Місяць тому +2

    I clicked so fast 😔

  • @rubiksbrandcuber4123
    @rubiksbrandcuber4123 Місяць тому

    sir why did you pop up on my recommendation when i just broke up with my partner today😢

  • @iolrjuihi8u95
    @iolrjuihi8u95 Місяць тому +1

    can u help me bro im stuck in a loop in my head i keep thinking about one situation that is the most easiest thing ever to do and everyone can do that no matter what but my brain cant stop making me thinking about it and if u wonder what is it its just me thinking about how to properly open a door without looking weird and everytime i do this in real life i look like a normal person and i dont worry about it when it happens like someone ringing to the door and i open but in mind im keep thinking about it and every scenario in mind lock me to the loop and im stressed 24 hours a day dont get a good sleep like wtf is this im sick or what

    • @iolrjuihi8u95
      @iolrjuihi8u95 Місяць тому

      i tried meditation i tried hot bath i tried forcing to not think about it but stress is not going off no matter what i do

    • @iolrjuihi8u95
      @iolrjuihi8u95 Місяць тому

      do someone know how is this called?

    • @iolrjuihi8u95
      @iolrjuihi8u95 Місяць тому

      i do sometimes get suicidal thoughts to get rid of this but i will never do it tho as i promise to myself

    • @iolrjuihi8u95
      @iolrjuihi8u95 Місяць тому

      pls can u help me im going insane

  • @unkwnbeing
    @unkwnbeing Місяць тому +2

    Does anyone know where to find the tree of life beaded necklace he wears??

  • @otonashisaru5588
    @otonashisaru5588 Місяць тому

    I’m trying to deal with a breakup right now. It hurts mann.😭

  • @JosephBelk
    @JosephBelk Місяць тому

    Ah yess

  • @ericfinch8343
    @ericfinch8343 Місяць тому

    Thank you. You’re helping me fight nicotine

  • @idrakobro__9521
    @idrakobro__9521 Місяць тому +1

    Bro but even if i get back to doing my things she still on my mind even if i dont want to

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  Місяць тому +1

      you can’t control what comes to mind, but you decide whether you entertain it or not

  • @KevinTheStrawberry
    @KevinTheStrawberry Місяць тому

    ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

  • @SadeDuke
    @SadeDuke 14 днів тому

    Hii

  • @ayobnazir
    @ayobnazir Місяць тому

    Michael Jackson + Tupac

  • @andrewguy3717
    @andrewguy3717 Місяць тому

    How do I not listen to sad music lol, most of what I listen to nowadays is sad/angry

  • @angeledits_
    @angeledits_ Місяць тому

    4 seconds omg

  • @justsamuel01
    @justsamuel01 Місяць тому

    Hey Shimon, why don't you show easiest to make money online please

  • @Mr.Sloth_
    @Mr.Sloth_ Місяць тому

    First

  • @tobelovedbyyou2577
    @tobelovedbyyou2577 Місяць тому +2

    So we all needed this talk🫠

  • @SutsuMusic
    @SutsuMusic Місяць тому

    wish i had this earlier. you spittin❤️‍🩹