Stephan I put my head on his shoulder :( he told me we're just friends but he's still not ruling it out in the future. I cried was sad. He said he has his son to worry about and neices. It's obvious I'm not a priority:( We r extremely close friends. He's very very consistent tho.
@@danseuse001 I feel they're missing something at home. Be it sex,affection,appreciation, contribution to responsibilities.....I feel for the majority of reasons someone steps outside the relationship is there's lack of communicating to voice what they need.
Such a man found me recently. 🥰 I was living my life doing my thing and he literally appeared. I didn’t even have relationships in mind. “You will not run a man away” I can definitely agree with that. I gave him such a hard time but he’s been consistent, attentive and intentional with his actions. I’ve never had to ask about anything. He always gives me clarity. He includes me in his life and he always makes me feel happy and safe. He has said how much he cares but he doesn’t have to. I literally feel it. He has made it very easy to like him in return. I’m smiling a lot these days!!! ☺️
A man that is serious about a commitment will reassure you, calm your fears, insecurities, and questions before you even ask or share them. He will pursue you to the point that there is clearly no gray area or question about his intentions. He will not consider inconveniences inconvenient because he knows what he wants, the end goal and the big picture. He will create an environment for you to openly share your vulnerabilities and feel that they are safe there. 💞
Praying for your partner is one of the softest forms of endearment, especially when it comes to the person you love or that you are in love with. God should always be at the center. Amen to this! This is perfect.
I just want to say THANK YOU! I think I found my soul mate thanks to you!! Ever since I heard you say that we tend to block the right man by entertaining the wrong one, I stopped that nonsense and boom, a great man came right in💚🙏🏻 you change lives!! God bless!
You are so right sister. Jist listening for a year he has changed my life. I believe there was a video on what we want in a man but yet have we prepared ourselves for that man. I started getting more serious about my money, always took care of myself but made a few changes because I won't date down and yet why should the man. You can fool others but you can't fool God so I know he will show me the desires of my heart. Bless you sister and yours.
Same here...I had many offers, but I held space for "my man". I visualized our life together and I acted as a wife would even tho I was single and boop. Don't let messy energy occupy your most treasured spaces. Messy minds...messy behinds.
Well I use to think that until mines show ALL THE ACTION; I mean I can see it in his eyes and feel it, but his words be TOTALLY DIFFERENT !!!!!!!! LIKE EXTREMELY. Which makes it so difficult because it’s like I don’t want to ignore his words because his actions says different … he even passing all 9 signs with flying colors 🤦🏾♀️
Thank you for the clarification. No wonder I have so many problems with my husband for 20 years. He always couldn't commit when we were dating. We had a long distance courtship. Every weekend, he would drive 6 hours to see me. However, when I asked for a plan for us (not a ring, just a plan so maybe we could save money for a house down payment for our future), he couldn't come up with a plan. Our long distance lasted 3 years until I had enough & walked away from him for a month. He suddenly committed with a ring. We had a good run for a little over a decade. Then, I realized that I can't carry him anymore.
I'm one of those men watching the videos. Both for men and for women. Thank you sir for all your help. You've been a blessing to me and my life glory to God
I appreciate your encouragement to address red flags first (within reason) instead of cutting people off immediately. It's an opportunity for personal growth in conflict resolution and clarity. Miscommunication and misunderstanding happens and I'm seeing people get extreme with cutting people off quickly.
@Dominique Mathews: I'm NOT with THAT shit ( adressing red flags)! cuz men DO KNOW about THEIR shit behaviour AND it's NOT my duty / obligation to CHANGE the man! NO SIR!!! TOO MANY WOMEN SUFFER OF THIS DISEASE DISORDER CALLED" I CAN CHANGE HIM"! THATS WHY U OVERSTAY IN SHITTY SHITUATIONS WITH A SHITTY HORK for years on end and often willingly get pregnant by this ASSCLOWN thinking by having his child can change him or make him love u AND stay with u. SMDH🤦♂️ I say Fuck adressing red flags and dump this person Cuz life's too short ( NOT the rapper) and AIN'T NOBODY GOTS TIME FA THAT!!
I will be praying as soon as we come together. I will pray before and during dates. I have been in toxic relationships. I am single and trusting God for “guidance” this time. GREAT VIDEO❤️
Yes, I agree! Praying for each other or bringing each other before God's presence is putting the icing on the cake & sealing the relationship. Thank you for sharing!
@@inkgoddess4743 there are a lot of women i see who dont see the signs of these men who are players. it's all good if you are looking for a good time, and once you are ready to commit then these signs are important as well as holding your values and setting boundaries, while not allowing anyone to cross that line. that also makes a woman more attractive and lets the guys know you arent playing games and are ready to walk away from things that dont align with you.
Where have you been in my life? I could have used all this advice before I married my husband. He played lots of games and finally at some point he grew up. Still a bit self absorbed but helps when I need him. Keep posting videos it helps to hear things from a mature man perspective. Thank you!
I have one theory, but it usually works in life: when a man wants, he does everything possible and impossible. And when a man doesn't want to, he doesn't do it. This applies to both communication and specific actions. Invite on a date, pay the bill, do something nice, propose and implement different ideas together, etc. 95% of men on the first or second date already know whether he wants a serious relationship with this girl or an ordinary hook-up.
Dear brother, I had lots of negative relationships in life.. but thanks to God hope and healing came from you.. I'm healing from your book "Love after Heartbreak". May God bless you so much.. and May you heal many more millions of hearts like me..
My man is the one that comes out with the commitment topic first. I am happy being by myself but he once told me that he is willing to commit to the woman he loves. I can feel the sincererity in his words when he said that.
I've met a nice guy. We have a lot in common and he's full of knowledge. He declared his feelings for me and I was flattered, but when we kissed, there was no match. It was clumsy and I felt no sparkle. For me, a kiss says a lot. We dated for a while and it was very nice, but my intuition kept on saying he wasn't the one. Had I not been listening to you, I would've settled with this guy, for comfort. I am patient. I trust God is preparing my spouse to be. I trust God is preparing me to be ready for him. I am not ready yet and, for this reason, I will not go on dates anymore because I get distracted with mediocrity. I am bound for greatness in a loving relationship! Thank you, Stephan, for sharing your wisdom. AJ. 19.7.22
Hi. Once again I love your content. I just want to put this out there; from a mental health perspective, a lot of people don’t know the so-called “silent treatment” is a form of mental abuse. I would love to see you cover “sneaky forms of abuse” the things we do to our partners or vice versa that don’t happen in healthy relationships…especially when courting.
Better yet. With my man I didn’t have to ask. He told me and told me as soon as he knew I’m the one. He was like you’re it for me. And I’ve never had to guess or get clarity. He just gives it.
Cool time and money thing: I've been super busy and a guy who went on a date wanted to see me again (which is already a first for me) but I'm prepping for a networking thing and didn't have time. He offered to come to my place to cook while I work. Dude made me a vegan meal and was a complete gentleman the whole damn time. Totally a keeper
These are really great points. We've been seeing each other for about 6 months. It's hard to get together because of distance, plus we're often trying to sync our schedules so I've wanted to keep my expectations reasonable. I feel really positive (and much more relaxed) about this man when I look at these 9 points. I can see they are unfolding at their own pace and that's exciting! He's not "giving" me all 9 at once (nor should he), but I can definitely see 2, 3, 4, 6, 7 have been developing over time. It's important for me to understand where he is in this, and his comfort level. We're still getting to know each other on a deeper level, and I respect how he's serious enough about our potential to not rush or push. I know he's the type of man that when he commits, it's going to be solid.
Taking your time is good. I let a man rush me into a relationship even though I hardly knew him. It ended up bring a controlling relationship that I finally ended due to his violence.
Tart, Good afternoon yes I am in a better place!! First I have a peace of mind!! I don't have to worry about getting home within 2 hrs. of work even when I chose to run errands or choosing to work overtime. I would home and he would give me these crazy looks even when I was running errands for him.
You never really know a person until you spend time with them on a regular basis! I never thought my ex would end up punching me in the stomach after 5yrs. That's when I finally decided enough is enough!!
I strongly, strongly appreciate that you have included and have been including the importance of prayer and personal relationship with God in the search for healthy relationships. Xoxo from NY.
That will be amazing if my man prays for me and at the same time prays with me, that shows that he truly loves you and cares about the spiritual wellbeing of the relationship .🥺🥺
I really needed this. I’m engaged to a wonderful man who I always question because of the negative opinions of a jealous friend. This “friend” is no longer in the picture and I’m still healing from her damage. Understanding the man’s perspective has helped in giving me the reassurance that, I’m good, I have a man who truly loves me and doesn’t have bad intentions towards me. Thank you for your videos. They are helping so much
i'm a 22yr old woman who grew up without a real man in my life so these videos are really improving my dating life because eventually i do wanna settle down just experiencing FOMO ig
It's so exciting to know that it's a big thing if a man prays with you. I relate with this and I'm glad to learn what it means and it brings a beautiful feeling of recognition and endearment that this person wants the best for your life❤❤ Thanks so much coach for this valuable information may God reward you with more joy in your family!
I believe if you are in love with the man and he gives you a hundred percent of him you need to give him 100% back to him and don't listen to everybody else because they are always negative on most of the things they say you need to listen to the man that you love that has that 100% for you he will try to move mountains for you if he gives you that 100%
I just saw your channel a week ago, and I'm obsessed. Where have you been all my dating life? Now I want everyone to know about you,thats how good you are. You are so blessed.
I really wish this would happen for me already. I really hate that I'm no one's choice. And I don't care how much therapy I go through, I know deep in my heart I would have a more fulfilling life if I shared it with someone. Being isolated and feeling left out is also not healthy. I don't think I'll ever stop beating myself up about this
Absolutely agree 💯💯💯 don’t settle it might take a little longer than anticipated but the wait is worth it ❤️ and always remember removing negative thoughts with positive thoughts 💭
It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best, and I pray that they heal from all they have been through and receive the partner who is truly best for them, the partner God has for them 🙏
Had a guy who showed interest. He seemed genuinely interested he'd come pick me up from work, Call me everyday in the morning, he's been really vulnerable around me as well. I was just scared that it was a bit too serious because of my past. I told him though and he said hell be there for me as a friend until I've dealt with my issues.
@@joshuadeborah9976 really? I’m currently seeing a guy since April. He keeps saying he’s not ready for a relationship but we chat for hours daily. Also, he wants me to tell my friends about him. I’m so confused.
@@triumphant5345 tell him your mind and let him make the decision. If a man can't give you clarity and peace, you don't want to keep them close to your heart. You won't be surprised when he introduce you to his woman. Make it clear, don't give him too much attention, and set your boundaries. Shalom
The best relationship expert in the world. I'm not basing it on this video. I just started it but every word he says is 100% spot on. I am so grateful to get taught by him to be the woman I am not who I was programmed to be. Everything he says is right and I live by his words. There's nobody else gets it like he does. He tells us to be ourselves. The others tell us to hide our real selves. I'm gonna be me. It makes me happy and everyone around me happy.
I just asked the man I've known since I was 17 and I'm in my mid 40s and he's in his early 50s. I asked what are we doing? We reconnected late last year. I asked him What should we call what we have. He REFUSED to answer the question. I have not heard from him since then. 😞
So many good points the best I’ve being the last, which is often overlooked in relationships. Thank you for including Gods will in deciding what direction to take in relationships. Great advice
I don’t like being talked to any kind of way. So I think things through, feel my emotions, calm down, take care of me before addressing him. Good Video Stephan.
My guy. Its nice to beging to feel secure enough to claim the relationship. We're in our 70s. We started out agreeing to build a friendship and meet in person before going further in the relationship. Build a friendship first. We've done that. Hes a perfect gentleman. A committed Christian, church deacon. I'm a semi retired pastor. We are both active in our churches. We live 3 hours apart in neighboring states. When we started talking he made it clear he's working long hours in a job and doing all the cooking and cleaning and yard work etc for his home. So he offered to call two or three times a week. He did answer texts or emails in-between times. I've been very transparent about my life. So has he. I went camping and fishing twice this summer with my younger son and grown grandson. It was near enough I invited him to join us after work for dinner. He came every evening. I planned quick meals and prepared all the ingredients early in the afternoons. So when he finished up it could be prepaired when he came. He aimed carefully for 6 to 6:30. Days that circumstances would delay him he called. And I knew he still had a few hours of computer time in the evening but he tried hard to stay around 2 hours. From the first evening he gave me a side hug when leaving. He sat with us at church on the 2 Sundays I was there this summer. He introduced me to his friends and pastor's. When I came back home he's called some mornings and most evening and talked an hour or so. Hes opened up about family, business, investments, dreams, even things we share interests in owning. His way of handling his finances is inline with mine. Were both careful and bargain hunters. I've been as transparent as possible about assets, and attitudes. We share belief systems. He once offered to help with a financial need. I managed to find a way to meet the need rather than take cash from him. But he's still open and supportive emotionally. He shares problems and prayer requests. And he asks my input on things. Surprise! Hes taken my suggestions and is even more open about life. He also prays for me. He tries to call every evening. If he misses and evening he calls by noon the next day and will still try to call that same evening. I don't know that he's called me a girlfriend specifically but he's told friends enough about me that their questions show knowledge. The last night at camp this summer he held me longer but still very chaste twice and brushed a kiss on my forehead. If he's upset or worried he calls to talk to me about it. He's a very proper man so I appreciate what he shares. I know his money, politics, religion, past, and dreams for a future. He pays attention to what I've shared. Talking an us future is still not quite there but his plans are including things he know I care about. He prayed for the meals we ate together. He reminds me hes praying for me and he expresses how much he appreciates that I pray for him.
Thank you for this incredible video. Ladies remember that you are worth so much more. Never settle for less when God has promised to give you his very best. Just be patient and keep God 1st, you're Boaz is coming.
Hello, It's been 11yrs since I've been in a serious relationship or any relationship.I don't know if I ever want to be in another one, I don't trust men with my heart anymore, guarding it with my life.
New subscriber! 👋 I recently discovered your videos on Facebook. I believe it’s a God thing I did because every single one, I’ve needed to hear. I survived two abusive marriages, so I’m relearning what normal relationships with good men are about. I’m so glad you mentioned prayer! I want the real man I’m supposed to be with to pray with me as well. I love how you’ll stop and say you’re feeling something in your Spirit! Yes, we need to hear Holy Spirit in all things! God bless you! ❤
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He did all the above 😢 save for proper communication and we were working on that. I guess the last point is the most important thing in a relationship, seeking clarity from God about your partner ,whether they are the one for you.
I’ve actually found an amazing man and married him but my heart and my mind just continues to wonder . He’s honestly perfect and Ik I have no reason to feel this way. It’s just so hard to fully trust because of my pain and insecurities stemming from my childhood. Honestly I don’t know what to do moving forward.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏 This video will help you build your trust in a relationship 👉 ua-cam.com/video/61yzqs6aad8/v-deo.html
@Heather Crouch Me too, it has always been hard for me to express my emotion in a romantic way because of my insecuritys and now im working on it by watching videos about expressing emotions and healing past traumas so i can be at my best with the man that i want to be with and for my self too
My Sisters replace insecure with confidence: our helper:the holy spirit is always there to help and guide you:trust yourself: you cannot give what you don't have:forgive those who will never ask you for forgiveness if you were wronged: you are wonderfully: fearfully made:you are God's image:come on:look in the mirror and say to yourself iam the beauty of the LORD: love you all:
Thank you so much..God may have sent me my king. We are both taking our time.. the communication is great.. He hasn't try to take me to bed yet.. how nice.. very respectful. We will see... stay tune..lol
Very transparent and intentional reason, praying comes first in my opinion and you are definitely laying a firm foundation with these reasons and yep people make time for who they want to make time for !! Great words of wisdom
I was away at the time of this video release and missed it, this is pure gold, when you combine the 9 signs as a whole, then you will have all the answers you seek 😊
Thank you for these videos! They are extremely enlightening, and put me on the path I needed to be on. When I first found your videos, I was involved in a "situationship" that I had no business being in. I am currently involved in a beautiful, supportive, caring connection that has definite serious relationship potential. My efforts are reciprocated. He has made his intentions clear and is resonating with everything you've listed on here. Your videos have helped so much to change my perspective and get me to where I want and need to be. Thank you for your wisdom, insight and inspiration, from the bottom of my heart.. Blessings always! 🙏🙏🙏
In my opinion, if a woman is talking strong to a man when addressing issues, she has: 1. Been dealing with the same issues for too long; 2. Not seen any real change in her areas of concern; 3. Chosen to overlook the red flags that she needs to move on.
I’m so glad I found your channel when I did. You’re right on time and the knowledge you are blessed with and share is priceless. It’s helped me tremendously in just a short amount of time. Thank you.🙏🏾
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you for the response! 😊 And yes, like you said, men that are looking for a commitment are out there! Really good ones too! 😉❤️
Les Brown stated "If you want to be successful you gotta be HUNGRY." As this corresponds towards relationship, I perceive the man will pursue the woman he desires like he's HUNGRY
So basically im in a situation where I'm just convenient he doesn't really care what I feel or want.... Thats sad/ heartbreaking.... Because I Love That Man...smh
Not me! I'm like a journalist and is not afraid to ask questions or difficult questions because I prefer transparency, honesty and clarification in order to make sound, healthy, profound decisions for myself and not get played.
This man was interested in knowing and learning more about me, trying to have deeper conversations etc but I was too shy and couldn’t open up that easily. Seems like he’s not interested anymore. No clue what to do now.
I love all your videos! Ive been with my man for 2 years uts amazing and your videos helped me so much to understand men, all you teach has been meaningful, a yreasured guide and healthy. I left an abusive marriage and this i now can recognise a healthy relationship which fortunately i have now and i feel so blessed. Thank you ❤
We started talking on January 28, 2022 by March he said he wants to be in a committed relationship, I asked him just one time about what are we doing and he said working towards a relationship and I asked him are you sure this is what you want?? And he said yes he wants a committed relationship!! But it only lasted 4 1/2 months. Had petty arguments that got stressful.
Something similar happened to me. I asked a question based on a video sent to me with a woman’s voice in it. I was told I’m being insecure and didn’t like that response and also he made it seem like I’m acting crazy, relationship lasted 3 months and I couldn’t carry on with someone who thought I’m insecure and can’t ask questions or don’t deserve respect
Petty arguments is a sign of avoidant attachment, especially when they start happening after the "commitment". Some people let their fears decide their actions in relationships. It's a kind of sabotage.
Point no. 1 happened to me. Then I said to him, what’s that really? Are we friends or what? Then he finally said we are a couple, but then it feels so forced.
We went out maybe 3 or 4 times but when he stayed with me he didn't want to go anywhere but stay in the house and cuddle and watch movies all the time! He lost his job and I felt as if I had to hold everything down. I got tired of the one holding stuff down in my home but he would come to my house and watch TV all day and night, using water and lights but didn't give me anything and I got very upset.. He said he was going to get back on his feet but we didn't make it to get anything back.. I felt he was trying to use me!!
Grand Video❣️🔥🔥🔥 Meditation prayers together is one of goals with the one who is my True Real Love. This may seem a little weird for some in what I do while waiting on my journey of life for my man to connect with me. I have done this for a few years now, while out to events or shopping I had picked up a few gifts for him, already.😆 Even-though, we aren’t physically together yet nor have I met him in person. Spiritually you will just know it’s hard to explain. It wasn’t like my husband to be was on my mind during my time out, it went like getting something for myself and then I be like oooh my husband will like this and purchased it. 🙂The anticipation of meditation prayers is trusting to know who is coming into your reality. 🙌🏾
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Stephan I put my head on his shoulder :( he told me we're just friends but he's still not ruling it out in the future.
I cried was sad.
He said he has his son to worry about and neices.
It's obvious I'm not a priority:(
We r extremely close friends. He's very very consistent tho.
It's time Stephan to start your marriage app, just saying. 😉👍🏾
Please send me your email address, I have a couple of questions I feel you'll have answers to.
Got it 🙂
Yes - I need to repeat that to myself - a man who is serious will give you clarity and peace. It isn't too much to ask.
You're absolutely right!
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I always wished to understand why do men cheat.?? What compels them to be unfaithful in their marriage
@@danseuse001 I feel they're missing something at home. Be it sex,affection,appreciation, contribution to responsibilities.....I feel for the majority of reasons someone steps outside the relationship is there's lack of communicating to voice what they need.
Yessss
Such a man found me recently. 🥰
I was living my life doing my thing and he literally appeared. I didn’t even have relationships in mind.
“You will not run a man away” I can definitely agree with that. I gave him such a hard time but he’s been consistent, attentive and intentional with his actions.
I’ve never had to ask about anything. He always gives me clarity. He includes me in his life and he always makes me feel happy and safe.
He has said how much he cares but he doesn’t have to. I literally feel it.
He has made it very easy to like him in return.
I’m smiling a lot these days!!! ☺️
I'm happy for you!:):)
@@AT-pw9dx thank you so much!!!
Magnificent indeed 👌🏾
Congratulations
Awwwww I'm so Happy for U!
A man that is serious about a commitment will reassure you, calm your fears, insecurities, and questions before you even ask or share them. He will pursue you to the point that there is clearly no gray area or question about his intentions. He will not consider inconveniences inconvenient because he knows what he wants, the end goal and the big picture. He will create an environment for you to openly share your vulnerabilities and feel that they are safe there. 💞
Mmmmm I’m experiencing all of this right now. I feel so grateful for ‘him’. 💗
True, but it might take some couples some time to arrive there.
Praying for your partner is one of the softest forms of endearment, especially when it comes to the person you love or that you are in love with. God should always be at the center. Amen to this! This is perfect.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you're welcome
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Thank u
Am 55 been crying 😭 lonely
A healthy Realationship is not supposed to hurt!!!! Your man needs to make you feel safe and at peace♥️
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Yes
I totally agree 💯 yes indeed 💯 Amen 👏💖🌸🌈
The best line for me was he wants to give you Clarity and peace not chaos and confusion that's beautiful! I've shared it with so many of my friends.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I appreciate your support!
Consistency is a major factor! Don't settle ladies ❤️
You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!
I just want to say THANK YOU! I think I found my soul mate thanks to you!! Ever since I heard you say that we tend to block the right man by entertaining the wrong one, I stopped that nonsense and boom, a great man came right in💚🙏🏻 you change lives!! God bless!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
You are so right sister. Jist listening for a year he has changed my life. I believe there was a video on what we want in a man but yet have we prepared ourselves for that man. I started getting more serious about my money, always took care of myself but made a few changes because I won't date down and yet why should the man. You can fool others but you can't fool God so I know he will show me the desires of my heart. Bless you sister and yours.
Same here...I had many offers, but I held space for "my man". I visualized our life together and I acted as a wife would even tho I was single and boop.
Don't let messy energy occupy your most treasured spaces.
Messy minds...messy behinds.
Actions speak far louder than words. His actions will determine how committed he is. Great video, thank you 💙💙
You're absolutely right!
Well I use to think that until mines show ALL THE ACTION; I mean I can see it in his eyes and feel it, but his words be TOTALLY DIFFERENT !!!!!!!! LIKE EXTREMELY. Which makes it so difficult because it’s like I don’t want to ignore his words because his actions says different … he even passing all 9 signs with flying colors 🤦🏾♀️
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I knew I was in love when I started to pray for her. I’m a young guy too.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
That is the sweetest thing ever!
Thank you for the clarification. No wonder I have so many problems with my husband for 20 years. He always couldn't commit when we were dating. We had a long distance courtship. Every weekend, he would drive 6 hours to see me. However, when I asked for a plan for us (not a ring, just a plan so maybe we could save money for a house down payment for our future), he couldn't come up with a plan. Our long distance lasted 3 years until I had enough & walked away from him for a month. He suddenly committed with a ring. We had a good run for a little over a decade. Then, I realized that I can't carry him anymore.
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I'm one of those men watching the videos. Both for men and for women. Thank you sir for all your help. You've been a blessing to me and my life glory to God
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Almost 2 years ago after being ghosted I went to Church I prayed GoD to give me a good man and after 6 months I find it în the most bizare way
I pray for him, always. But I am praying for myself to make the right choice
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Amen me too 🙏
That talk with God is definitely needed
Love is a choice. Choose wisely.
Most definitely!
I appreciate your encouragement to address red flags first (within reason) instead of cutting people off immediately. It's an opportunity for personal growth in conflict resolution and clarity. Miscommunication and misunderstanding happens and I'm seeing people get extreme with cutting people off quickly.
@Dominique Mathews: I'm NOT with THAT shit ( adressing red flags)! cuz men DO KNOW about THEIR shit behaviour AND it's NOT my duty / obligation to CHANGE the man! NO SIR!!!
TOO MANY WOMEN SUFFER OF THIS DISEASE DISORDER CALLED" I CAN CHANGE HIM"!
THATS WHY U OVERSTAY IN SHITTY SHITUATIONS WITH A SHITTY HORK for years on end and often willingly get pregnant by this ASSCLOWN thinking by having his child can change him or make him love u AND stay with u. SMDH🤦♂️
I say Fuck adressing red flags and dump this person Cuz life's too short ( NOT the rapper) and AIN'T NOBODY GOTS TIME FA THAT!!
I will be praying as soon as we come together. I will pray before and during dates. I have been in toxic relationships. I am single and trusting God for “guidance” this time. GREAT VIDEO❤️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
Yes, I agree! Praying for each other or bringing each other before God's presence is putting the icing on the cake & sealing the relationship.
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there are soo many women who need to hear this message!
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Daniel In what way do women need to hear this? ( I’m not attacking you. I honestly want to know). Ty In advance
@@inkgoddess4743 there are a lot of women i see who dont see the signs of these men who are players. it's all good if you are looking for a good time, and once you are ready to commit then these signs are important as well as holding your values and setting boundaries, while not allowing anyone to cross that line. that also makes a woman more attractive and lets the guys know you arent playing games and are ready to walk away from things that dont align with you.
Where have you been in my life? I could have used all this advice before I married my husband. He played lots of games and finally at some point he grew up. Still a bit self absorbed but helps when I need him. Keep posting videos it helps to hear things from a mature man perspective. Thank you!
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I had 3 men in a row that introduced me to his family.. lol it's hard to take them serious anymore.
I have one theory, but it usually works in life: when a man wants, he does everything possible and impossible. And when a man doesn't want to, he doesn't do it. This applies to both communication and specific actions. Invite on a date, pay the bill, do something nice, propose and implement different ideas together, etc.
95% of men on the first or second date already know whether he wants a serious relationship with this girl or an ordinary hook-up.
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Dear brother, I had lots of negative relationships in life.. but thanks to God hope and healing came from you.. I'm healing from your book "Love after Heartbreak". May God bless you so much.. and May you heal many more millions of hearts like me..
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My man is the one that comes out with the commitment topic first. I am happy being by myself but he once told me that he is willing to commit to the woman he loves. I can feel the sincererity in his words when he said that.
I've met a nice guy. We have a lot in common and he's full of knowledge. He declared his feelings for me and I was flattered, but when we kissed, there was no match. It was clumsy and I felt no sparkle. For me, a kiss says a lot.
We dated for a while and it was very nice, but my intuition kept on saying he wasn't the one. Had I not been listening to you, I would've settled with this guy, for comfort.
I am patient. I trust God is preparing my spouse to be. I trust God is preparing me to be ready for him. I am not ready yet and, for this reason, I will not go on dates anymore because I get distracted with mediocrity. I am bound for greatness in a loving relationship!
Thank you, Stephan, for sharing your wisdom.
AJ. 19.7.22
Always important to listen to your intuition. Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback 🙏 ❤
Wow, my new man /future husband prays for me!! Thank God
You will not run a man away who sees you as genuine as long as you approach him in a kind and loving manner
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Hi. Once again I love your content. I just want to put this out there; from a mental health perspective, a lot of people don’t know the so-called “silent treatment” is a form of mental abuse. I would love to see you cover “sneaky forms of abuse” the things we do to our partners or vice versa that don’t happen in healthy relationships…especially when courting.
Better yet. With my man I didn’t have to ask. He told me and told me as soon as he knew I’m the one. He was like you’re it for me. And I’ve never had to guess or get clarity. He just gives it.
Cool time and money thing: I've been super busy and a guy who went on a date wanted to see me again (which is already a first for me) but I'm prepping for a networking thing and didn't have time. He offered to come to my place to cook while I work. Dude made me a vegan meal and was a complete gentleman the whole damn time. Totally a keeper
These are really great points. We've been seeing each other for about 6 months. It's hard to get together because of distance, plus we're often trying to sync our schedules so I've wanted to keep my expectations reasonable. I feel really positive (and much more relaxed) about this man when I look at these 9 points. I can see they are unfolding at their own pace and that's exciting! He's not "giving" me all 9 at once (nor should he), but I can definitely see 2, 3, 4, 6, 7 have been developing over time. It's important for me to understand where he is in this, and his comfort level. We're still getting to know each other on a deeper level, and I respect how he's serious enough about our potential to not rush or push. I know he's the type of man that when he commits, it's going to be solid.
I'm so with you on this? Never had a relationship that flowed like this. But I like it
Taking your time is good. I let a man rush me into a relationship even though I hardly knew him. It ended up bring a controlling relationship that I finally ended due to his violence.
@@MegaRose1958 Oh no. I hope you're in a better place now. Wishing you the best.
Tart, Good afternoon yes I am in a better place!! First I have a peace of mind!! I don't have to worry about getting home within 2 hrs. of work even when I chose to run errands or choosing to work overtime. I would home and he would give me these crazy looks even when I was running errands for him.
You never really know a person until you spend time with them on a regular basis! I never thought my ex would end up punching me in the stomach after 5yrs. That's when I finally decided enough is enough!!
I strongly, strongly appreciate that you have included and have been including the importance of prayer and personal relationship with God in the search for healthy relationships. Xoxo from NY.
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That will be amazing if my man prays for me and at the same time prays with me, that shows that he truly loves you and cares about the spiritual wellbeing of the relationship .🥺🥺
You're absolutely right!
I really needed this. I’m engaged to a wonderful man who I always question because of the negative opinions of a jealous friend. This “friend” is no longer in the picture and I’m still healing from her damage. Understanding the man’s perspective has helped in giving me the reassurance that, I’m good, I have a man who truly loves me and doesn’t have bad intentions towards me.
Thank you for your videos. They are helping so much
i'm a 22yr old woman who grew up without a real man in my life so these videos are really improving my dating life because eventually i do wanna settle down just experiencing FOMO ig
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I’m fine with casual unless I want to move forward with that individual. Then…….if they don’t want me that way, I’m out.
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The last one was really significant..Connecting to God make you aware that we are with flaws , and rely to Him to make it perfect.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Praying for someone is a way of loving him
My fiance always prays 🙏🙏 for me and I always pray for him too
True, love is a two way street.
I agree with you.
It's so exciting to know that it's a big thing if a man prays with you. I relate with this and I'm glad to learn what it means and it brings a beautiful feeling of recognition and endearment that this person wants the best for your life❤❤ Thanks so much coach for this valuable information may God reward you with more joy in your family!
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I believe if you are in love with the man and he gives you a hundred percent of him you need to give him 100% back to him and don't listen to everybody else because they are always negative on most of the things they say you need to listen to the man that you love that has that 100% for you he will try to move mountains for you if he gives you that 100%
You’re absolutely right!!
I just saw your channel a week ago, and I'm obsessed. Where have you been all my dating life? Now I want everyone to know about you,thats how good you are. You are so blessed.
I really wish this would happen for me already. I really hate that I'm no one's choice. And I don't care how much therapy I go through, I know deep in my heart I would have a more fulfilling life if I shared it with someone. Being isolated and feeling left out is also not healthy. I don't think I'll ever stop beating myself up about this
Can you envision your perfect person and hold tight to those characteristics?
@@paulpetersen7041 yeah. I think that's why this seems so difficult sometimes, too. Not just anyone fits that part ☺️
Pursue your relationship with Christ in the context of community. As you become a more godly woman, men be drawn to both your outer and inner beauty.
Oh please don't speak bad of yourself .Words are powerful!.You're just ,in a waiting season.. It's about DivineTiming.
A man that loves God and he acknowledges God he will be a Awesome man.. I Pray that God will bless me with that type of man
Absolutely agree 💯💯💯 don’t settle it might take a little longer than anticipated but the wait is worth it ❤️ and always remember removing negative thoughts with positive thoughts 💭
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Some people have been. Hurt so much that they don't even know what. Love is
It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best, and I pray that they heal from all they have been through and receive the partner who is truly best for them, the partner God has for them 🙏
Had a guy who showed interest. He seemed genuinely interested he'd come pick me up from work, Call me everyday in the morning, he's been really vulnerable around me as well. I was just scared that it was a bit too serious because of my past. I told him though and he said hell be there for me as a friend until I've dealt with my issues.
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That’s really sweet. How has it went since a few months ago?
Don't ever be the only one picking up the check! This is for both sides in serious relationships.
I agree with the consistent communication aspect but that doesn’t always mean he wants a committed relationship
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I guess thats why it’s titled “signs”, and so it wont always be true, just a good indication
This is true, from experience, Consistency in communication might not be the evidence he Is committed to you.
@@joshuadeborah9976 really? I’m currently seeing a guy since April. He keeps saying he’s not ready for a relationship but we chat for hours daily. Also, he wants me to tell my friends about him. I’m so confused.
@@triumphant5345 tell him your mind and let him make the decision. If a man can't give you clarity and peace, you don't want to keep them close to your heart. You won't be surprised when he introduce you to his woman. Make it clear, don't give him too much attention, and set your boundaries. Shalom
The best relationship expert in the world. I'm not basing it on this video. I just started it but every word he says is 100% spot on. I am so grateful to get taught by him to be the woman I am not who I was programmed to be. Everything he says is right and I live by his words. There's nobody else gets it like he does. He tells us to be ourselves. The others tell us to hide our real selves. I'm gonna be me. It makes me happy and everyone around me happy.
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The 9th sign was everything for me. Its something I'm really big on, I was overjoyed when you mentioned it. Thanks ❤️
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I just asked the man I've known since I was 17 and I'm in my mid 40s and he's in his early 50s. I asked what are we doing? We reconnected late last year. I asked him What should we call what we have. He REFUSED to answer the question. I have not heard from him since then. 😞
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🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
You are truly blessed, Stephan. Thank you for sharing your blessings with us.
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Stephan is the only dating coach I listen to on UA-cam!
I met the love of my life, when I finally gave up.
So many good points the best I’ve being the last, which is often overlooked in relationships. Thank you for including Gods will in deciding what direction to take in relationships. Great advice
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I don’t like being talked to any kind of way. So I think things through, feel my emotions, calm down, take care of me before addressing him. Good Video Stephan.
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My guy. Its nice to beging to feel secure enough to claim the relationship. We're in our 70s. We started out agreeing to build a friendship and meet in person before going further in the relationship. Build a friendship first. We've done that. Hes a perfect gentleman. A committed Christian, church deacon. I'm a semi retired pastor. We are both active in our churches. We live 3 hours apart in neighboring states. When we started talking he made it clear he's working long hours in a job and doing all the cooking and cleaning and yard work etc for his home. So he offered to call two or three times a week. He did answer texts or emails in-between times. I've been very transparent about my life. So has he. I went camping and fishing twice this summer with my younger son and grown grandson. It was near enough I invited him to join us after work for dinner. He came every evening. I planned quick meals and prepared all the ingredients early in the afternoons. So when he finished up it could be prepaired when he came. He aimed carefully for 6 to 6:30. Days that circumstances would delay him he called. And I knew he still had a few hours of computer time in the evening but he tried hard to stay around 2 hours. From the first evening he gave me a side hug when leaving. He sat with us at church on the 2 Sundays I was there this summer. He introduced me to his friends and pastor's. When I came back home he's called some mornings and most evening and talked an hour or so. Hes opened up about family, business, investments, dreams, even things we share interests in owning. His way of handling his finances is inline with mine. Were both careful and bargain hunters. I've been as transparent as possible about assets, and attitudes. We share belief systems. He once offered to help with a financial need. I managed to find a way to meet the need rather than take cash from him. But he's still open and supportive emotionally. He shares problems and prayer requests. And he asks my input on things. Surprise! Hes taken my suggestions and is even more open about life. He also prays for me. He tries to call every evening. If he misses and evening he calls by noon the next day and will still try to call that same evening. I don't know that he's called me a girlfriend specifically but he's told friends enough about me that their questions show knowledge. The last night at camp this summer he held me longer but still very chaste twice and brushed a kiss on my forehead. If he's upset or worried he calls to talk to me about it. He's a very proper man so I appreciate what he shares. I know his money, politics, religion, past, and dreams for a future. He pays attention to what I've shared. Talking an us future is still not quite there but his plans are including things he know I care about. He prayed for the meals we ate together. He reminds me hes praying for me and he expresses how much he appreciates that I pray for him.
Thank you for this incredible video. Ladies remember that you are worth so much more. Never settle for less when God has promised to give you his very best. Just be patient and keep God 1st, you're Boaz is coming.
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My relationship has came a long way since I began watching you videos about 10 mos ago! Thank you for providing valuable advice!
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Thank you Stephan. I listened on 9/9 to the 9 ways. I love the last one; when he prays for and or with you❤️
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Hello, It's been 11yrs since I've been in a serious relationship or any relationship.I don't know if I ever want to be in another one, I don't trust men with my heart anymore, guarding it with my life.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank You😇💜🌷❤
Stay guarded!
Not being vulnerable when he’s been vulnerable and it making him give up/not want commitment anymore was a situation that taught me a lesson.
New subscriber! 👋 I recently discovered your videos on Facebook. I believe it’s a God thing I did because every single one, I’ve needed to hear. I survived two abusive marriages, so I’m relearning what normal relationships with good men are about. I’m so glad you mentioned prayer! I want the real man I’m supposed to be with to pray with me as well. I love how you’ll stop and say you’re feeling something in your Spirit! Yes, we need to hear Holy Spirit in all things! God bless you! ❤
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He did all the above 😢 save for proper communication and we were working on that. I guess the last point is the most important thing in a relationship, seeking clarity from God about your partner ,whether they are the one for you.
Communication is key!!
omg stephan your laugh is everything:)
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I haven't been so lucky. The liars and cheats come out...I'm exhausted.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
You speak so much clear truth. A lot of people are in toxic relationships creating a domino effect. This can be avoided especially for our culture
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I’ve actually found an amazing man and married him but my heart and my mind just continues to wonder . He’s honestly perfect and Ik I have no reason to feel this way. It’s just so hard to fully trust because of my pain and insecurities stemming from my childhood. Honestly I don’t know what to do moving forward.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏 This video will help you build your trust in a relationship 👉 ua-cam.com/video/61yzqs6aad8/v-deo.html
That’s the main reason I don’t show my feelings, I rather walk away if I’m falling in love than being hurt again.
@@heather4089 I’ve always felt that way until I met my husband. It’s just so hard to let him in completely. It’s not him , it’s all me.
@Heather Crouch Me too, it has always been hard for me to express my emotion in a romantic way because of my insecuritys and now im working on it by watching videos about expressing emotions and healing past traumas so i can be at my best with the man that i want to be with and for my self too
My Sisters replace insecure with confidence: our helper:the holy spirit is always there to help and guide you:trust yourself: you cannot give what you don't have:forgive those who will never ask you for forgiveness if you were wronged: you are wonderfully: fearfully made:you are God's image:come on:look in the mirror and say to yourself iam the beauty of the LORD: love you all:
Thank you so much..God may have sent me my king. We are both taking our time.. the communication is great.. He hasn't try to take me to bed yet.. how nice.. very respectful. We will see... stay tune..lol
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Very transparent and intentional reason, praying comes first in my opinion and you are definitely laying a firm foundation with these reasons and yep people make time for who they want to make time for !! Great words of wisdom
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I was away at the time of this video release and missed it, this is pure gold, when you combine the 9 signs as a whole, then you will have all the answers you seek 😊
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Thank you for these videos! They are extremely enlightening, and put me on the path I needed to be on. When I first found your videos, I was involved in a "situationship" that I had no business being in.
I am currently involved in a beautiful, supportive, caring connection that has definite serious relationship potential. My efforts are reciprocated. He has made his intentions clear and is resonating with everything you've listed on here. Your videos have helped so much to change my perspective and get me to where I want and need to be. Thank you for your wisdom, insight and inspiration, from the bottom of my heart.. Blessings always! 🙏🙏🙏
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In my opinion, if a woman is talking strong
to a man when addressing issues, she has:
1. Been dealing with the same issues for too long;
2. Not seen any real change in her areas of concern;
3. Chosen to overlook the red flags that she needs to move on.
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Or some women are simply hurt and didn't take time to heal
Yes….God helps create that beautiful bond.
💯 Yes!
I’m so glad I found your channel when I did. You’re right on time and the knowledge you are blessed with and share is priceless. It’s helped me tremendously in just a short amount of time. Thank you.🙏🏾
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Loving Myself And Letting Go Of This....
Thank God I have finally found this kind of man! 🙏🏽❤️
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you for the response! 😊 And yes, like you said, men that are looking for a commitment are out there! Really good ones too! 😉❤️
One of the best relationship advice channels, hands down!
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Les Brown stated "If you want to be successful you gotta be HUNGRY."
As this corresponds towards relationship, I perceive the man will pursue the woman he desires like he's HUNGRY
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Give Her Clarity & Peace Not Confusion & Chaos
So basically im in a situation where I'm just convenient he doesn't really care what I feel or want.... Thats sad/ heartbreaking.... Because I Love That Man...smh
That lucky lucky woman to have this wise man as her husband. Thank you for all the advices
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Not me! I'm like a journalist and is not afraid to ask questions or difficult questions because I prefer transparency, honesty and clarification in order to make sound, healthy, profound decisions for myself and not get played.
This man was interested in knowing and learning more about me, trying to have deeper conversations etc but I was too shy and couldn’t open up that easily. Seems like he’s not interested anymore. No clue what to do now.
Check out what to do when he gives you mixed signals here 👉 ua-cam.com/video/q1YQKbtb1xA/v-deo.html
I love all your videos! Ive been with my man for 2 years uts amazing and your videos helped me so much to understand men, all you teach has been meaningful, a yreasured guide and healthy. I left an abusive marriage and this i now can recognise a healthy relationship which fortunately i have now and i feel so blessed.
Thank you ❤
We started talking on January 28, 2022 by March he said he wants to be in a committed relationship, I asked him just one time about what are we doing and he said working towards a relationship and I asked him are you sure this is what you want?? And he said yes he wants a committed relationship!! But it only lasted 4 1/2 months. Had petty arguments that got stressful.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Something similar happened to me. I asked a question based on a video sent to me with a woman’s voice in it. I was told I’m being insecure and didn’t like that response and also he made it seem like I’m acting crazy, relationship lasted 3 months and I couldn’t carry on with someone who thought I’m insecure and can’t ask questions or don’t deserve respect
Petty arguments is a sign of avoidant attachment, especially when they start happening after the "commitment". Some people let their fears decide their actions in relationships. It's a kind of sabotage.
Point no. 1 happened to me. Then I said to him, what’s that really? Are we friends or what? Then he finally said we are a couple, but then it feels so forced.
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I'm a man and I watch Stephan's videos all the time.
Good job! Most men DON’T do the work 👏
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Love this
We went out maybe 3 or 4 times but when he stayed with me he didn't want to go anywhere but stay in the house and cuddle and watch movies all the time! He lost his job and I felt as if I had to hold everything down. I got tired of the one holding stuff down in my home but he would come to my house and watch TV all day and night, using water and lights but didn't give me anything and I got very upset.. He said he was going to get back on his feet but we didn't make it to get anything back.. I felt he was trying to use me!!
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I need a partner that is willing to pray for me because I will be covering him.
I pray that you receive the partner who is truly best for you, the partner God has for you ❤
I appreciate this video makes me not be so insecure and self sabotage another relationship
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Grand Video❣️🔥🔥🔥 Meditation prayers together is one of goals with the one who is my True Real Love. This may seem a little weird for some in what I do while waiting on my journey of life for my man to connect with me. I have done this for a few years now, while out to events or shopping I had picked up a few gifts for him, already.😆 Even-though, we aren’t physically together yet nor have I met him in person. Spiritually you will just know it’s hard to explain. It wasn’t like my husband to be was on my mind during my time out, it went like getting something for myself and then I be like oooh my husband will like this and purchased it. 🙂The anticipation of meditation prayers is trusting to know who is coming into your reality. 🙌🏾
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I've never heard any other person clearly indicate factual information with such understanding. To the point of looking to God for a spiritual connection or clarity. Stephen is by far the best instrument any person needs to progress and be a better individual on any level. Thank u Stephen, I listen to all of ur videos and they have profoundly change so many things in my life that I thought I had figured out and the end result was that I really didn't understand many many things. U r an inspiration again on so many levels. Thank u
Thank you Sir.
You are indeed God sent.
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