A few years ago, I was alone sitting and a huge Hospital cafeteria. I was eating my cajun chicken roll and a group of people came and sat down at my table. A guy sat down across from me and suddenly I was trying not to get ranch dressing all over my face or in my long hair. I could hardly swallow. Finally, I was finished and I wrapped everything up and I casually looked at the guy and said, hi, how's your day going? The guy did not even look up at me. I didn't want to stand up and I was so embarrassed. I just sat there drinking my soda until I got to the bottom and it made that loud slurping sound. Thank God he didn't look up at me then. I started just looking around casually and then I noticed that he had a stack of cards in front of him with words on them. The guy was deaf. I was trying to make small talk with a deaf guy and he wasn't even reading my lips! I decided not to do that ever again until, the next day. I saw a guy with a yamaka and I had some questions. I will be alone until I die. 😁
O btw Frank you look like my father when he was young.. It’s scary how much you two look alike 😳 It’s like you are twins but in a different time space with different moms and dads 😂
@metamorphus I am 32 and was always getting worried too for the same reason. So, started reading a lot of self help books. I don't care anymore these days. I live my life the way I want wherever I desire, mostly inside my room in my free time.
I had a guy break up with me thru messenger that I dont remember ever talking to. Lol He messaged he was dating someone else, aplogized to me because he knew we had a mutual connection (or something like that), and then blocked me. Lol! 🤣 Guys can be super scary!
Absolutely had this today from a stranger on Instagram...lol..spent 10 mins staring at phone in horror....another 10 thinking 'omg what do I say'... (the truth was I was wondering how a dating coach I'd listened to could have got it so wrong in advising me to say to a love interest whom had been writing to me for 6 months...'hey I love your msgs but I'm not looking for a pen friend'...haven't heard back)..anyway that and many other thoughts were passing through my head along with...who is this person...how do I know them....why are they asking a stranger how I am...what's for breakfast...LOL. I tried to write 'I'm fine'.....then deleted it as 'too lame and naff'....but hey who is this erson texting me out the blue....I don't want a repeat of 6 months of texting then nada......so after 25 mins of reflection I came up with my INFJ 'masterpiece' response...... 'Do I know you XXXX...hey it's good to connect but I'm truly terrible at texting'.......desperately hoping they would take the hint.......NOPE! As in the video I went the loo...came back....more messages....oh no...INFJ panic.....LOLOLOLOL ....Chokes and dies....
My BF did this too😂 I thought he didn't want to be lonely, but he said "No, It's a date" "I'm just staring at you for 2 hours while you did your paper tho" 😂😂😂
@@Christina-CA I was lucky he said that, if not I would go home with confused face😂 It's okay, dear I hope someday you got the courages and tell your crush 😆 😆
My flirting is basically me acting completely normal and not at all interested, while hoping the other person will pick up on my psychic signals and will be braver than me.
fiddlecrackers14 weird and when I’m in a good mood I think she has a crush on me (delusional) or if I’m in a bad mood I think she is just wondering how it is possible to be so ugly (I would believe the latter more than the first)
Or worse, when you think they might also be staring at you from across the room too but it turns out they actually liked the person sitting next to you. That totally hasn't happened to me before... *nervous laughter*
I'm an extrovert, but I find introverts really cute and amazing. They have their own world, and getting out from there is hard for them, yet they sometimes do it, and it must take so much power. Also, they are really cute when they're trying to talk to others. I always try to listen to the introverts around me, and help them anyway I can. I'm dating an introvert nerd, and before we got together, I helped him a lot to feel comfortable around me and my friends.
Have a friend that's pretty much like you that helped me out of my shell much back in my more walled up phase. She were pretty much the mom of our friend group, allways the center, have a sixth sense for when people felt left out and were allways ready to include the people around her, and of course she could allways tell when someone needed their space as well so being around her became more natural and i learned how to interact better with other people thanks to that.
As someone who has flirted multiple times with an introvert it's really hard to hear you when you keep looking away. Especially when you're wearing a mask. The guy I like will start saying something and the look away and his voice will trail off and then he asks me a question about what he just said.
And then: "Oh. I think I love... this wall. I have pretty high standards" (if the ceiling is high) Crush: turns around and never talks to me again because I'm weird
I'm the kind of introvert who will be so shy and nervous that they start telling you their life story and various other uncomfortable or weird things without even wanting to say anything, but my exploding heart rate will make thinking impossible. And when you leave, you'll probably see me never again because after all this embarrassment, I'm going to hide forever and my thoughts will always go back to that one day I could've maybe flirted with you but made a complete mess out of it. Doesn't mean I won't stalk you on social media though
Speaking as a similar introvert, you just need more practice. I started with giving random strangers compliments. But you can also just casually remark on the weather, or ask to pet their dogs. The more I practiced on strangers the more comfortable I felt with people who mattered to me in some way.
@@AK-jt7kh thanks for the advice! I've been doing that for years and luckily, I have no problems at work. Flirting or talking to a crush is a whole other thing :/
i'm the kind of introvert who makes really really really little signs and in my opinion its kind of obvious. because of this signs i want my crush to give a chance to talk to me and then i'm sad because he's not talking to me even if i was making "OBVIOUSLY" signs.
Here is how it goes for me as an intj. It takes me weeks of planing the first message a lot of posible responses and follow-ups . I plan the end of the conversation so i have a reason to message her the second day and guide the conversation in that direction. I plan days of conversations and topics and how to get to certain topics and all the posible responses and follow-ups. I plan the dating invite from the start. And sometimes after all the planing i end up not messaging at all because of anxiety
@miele api i never dated anyone ever. I reallt don't know if its fear or insecurity and i struggle to find that answer because i can't do shit without information. I have my explanations ( they are linked to pas trauma) but they al feel like excuses. I am doing a very big mistake by not letting myself have those basic human emotions and stoping myself from liking or getting atached to anyone. But i hope that with time i would find the answers but i feel like the hope is dying. There is a saying in my country "hopes dies last" and i think its about to die
@@tupacshakurfan9280 I look at memes of relationships Hoping sending that would get the message across that my duality of interest lies in memes and the content of it but apparently she just laughs at it. Sincerely, INTP
Guilty of snooping my “crush’s” social media. Hell, I even googled him ... that’s not creepy, right? 😭 Edit: thank you all for the reassurance, I hope everything work out with your respective crushes. That you don’t find anything upsetting or questionable. Sincerely, an INFP ❤️
I do a complete investigation to see if he is really single, if he doesn't flirt a lot, if he is a good person.. etc(?? 😂😂😂 you have to be cautious these days (?? X'DD
Bruh that's me with texting XD "No, that's too short..." "No, this would probably offend her..." "I can't send her this paragraph..." *10 mins later* "Ok, perfect" Her: *Responds with 5 texts in a span of 5 seconds* Me: "Ight, Imma head out..."
Hey Frank, just want to thank you for the word of the day today. You're a great writer. I hope you continue to weave your own story in life in such a way that makes you happy.
When I was young and stupid, I literally said this to a guy "if you had a twin, I'd definitely date him" even though he was single. Wow, great flirting there, me ._.
I saw these on another site: How do you know an INFJ likes you? You often find them standing next to you, not saying anything. How do you know an INFJ likes you? You'll never know.
I sometimes spend several minutes standing behind people before they notice me and scream. I just like watching them think. I know I sound like a creep, but I just love people and I forget where I am and I enjoy seeing this person's life from this perfect vantage point.
I died when Sally texted back immediately and you were like "WHY IS THIS SO HARD!" Because literally you hit it on the nose! I always put so much thought in my texts😫💀
@@sunnysal3889 At least that's something🤷🏽♀️ When I am drunk at parties, I become x100 more concerned about what I am saying so I end up talking less😂
@@sunnysal3889 I hear you. Sadly, I am a funny drunk so I'd get asked out by the object of my adoration & I'd have to either get sloshed again or sit there like a tongue-tied twat 😲
Inner voice: “Could I call her ‘Hurricane Sally,’ since she’s absolutely wrecking my emotional wellbeing, or is it too soon for cute nicknames? Is it insensitive to liken her to an uncontrollable force of nature? ...Okay, fair points. Couldn’t I at least serenade her with the song I *totally* didn’t stay up all night writing, also called ‘Hurricane Sally’? It’s perfect for a band to play at our wedding.” Also inner voice: “Man, I wish my name was Linus and my life was drawn by Charles Schulz. Then she couldn’t *not* love me... What if I legally changed my name to Linus? If anything, it might set up an interesting experiment concerning the lasting power of media and how deeply it affects us! As a bonus, I won’t ever have to actually *talk* to Sally!”
The texting part is so true. Im a girl and an extremely introverted person which makes me pretty bad at communicating. Once my crush texted me and i didn't know how to respond so i had a full on nervous breakdown and i was sweating like crazy so i had to take a bath😂
That's.... anxiety disorder kinda levels. Currently dealing with a young lady who freaked out really easily after I told her that I asked my sister what she was like. We have literally known her since she was like 2. My sister was far closer and I didn't have much to do with her. She is 29 and got creeped out or something whe I told her I asked my sister about her.
"What am I supposed to say back to her? Why is this so difficult?" That could be me, or better still, "Can we just meet and avoid this stupid chit chat?" -INTJ.
Me, an ISFJ, inner monologue: "Oh, crap. He's finally making his move, he's about to ask me out. I don't want to date right now. What am I going to say? He's cute, but I'm working on *me*, right now." Guy: "Would you like to go for coffee sometime?" Me : "Sure, I don't drink coffee but we could do dinner." 13 years later, still happily married to that guy. And I still congratulate myself on being so bold as to suggest dinner instead. Lol 😁
I can't stop laughing at this comment. This sounds both like the kind of thing I would do, and like the kind of conversational opening that would 100% win my interest. I may be weird, but at least I'm not alone. XD
I am not going to lie. This question would make me so uncomfortable and anxious. I would have to think of both sides' view. Then I'd feel pressured to defend my opinion multiple times as they analyze and try to tear it apart, if they disagree.
Omg I remember that episode! Sat down w the kids to watch it because they think Gordon is terrifyingly hilarious and it seemed interesting. Then we suddenly see guinea pigs spit roasting by the fire. I thought the kids would be traumatized because they have 2 guinea pigs. But instead one of them grabbed a guinea pig and plopped in front of the tv to see how it would react. Me as a parent: 😱 What have I done?!?!
Going to all the parties/social events because you know your crush will be there is sooo me! ....and then they end up not showing up, so I went through all that effort for nothing.
The camera work on the bees, guinea pigs, baby was hilarious. 👏🏻 Yep, that’s how weird those facts can appear 😂. It’s sweet, though. If she’s an introvert, maybe she’ll have some strange facts of her own. 💖💖 Sally is clearly deaf and blind.
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude Are ENFP's typically shy? I think flirting is awkward for many people, and with the 'wrong' people too. I think I'm probably the weird facts girl too - though I honestly think most people find it an in-road to something to talk about.
Weirdwolf We are the most introverted of the extroverts, I believe. People think we are flirting when we aren’t. For me, when I really like someone I get shy and try to hide it. If I seem smooth, I’m probably not interested. If I look like a dork or a smarty pants, I am probably in love 😂 How useless is that?!? Not sure if that’s an ENFP thing but it’s a me thing.
A friend of mine confessed to me the other day. One of the things he said was: "Honestly, there are so many pretty girls in our class and I don't consider you one. However you're my crush and you're different from them" As an INFP, hurt but proud that he fell for my personality 😅
During that time I didn't know how to react, I said 'thank you' and other stuff. I was so nervous. The next day he asked me to play with him in a game with OPEN MIC. I was quiet and rarely spoke during that 15-minute game 😅
I feel called out, especially by the staring from across the room thing, mostly because going up to them out of nowhere and starting a conversation with them without seeming creepy is very hard.
Me: *cool when I'm alone and don't care about anything or anyone. Also me: *sweats buckets trying to find the right words to text my crush. Also me: *crush texts back, imagines how our future life will be XD
35 years ago I approached a college crush, a confident, middle-of-the-action, loud sports jock (what was I thinking?!). Adrenaline pumping, hands visibly shaking, and asked if I could sign the plaster-cast on his broken arm. He said yes, and presented his arm to me in a master/servant way "you may sign my arm peasant". My 'introvert trying to extrovert' servant self took my little felt tip pen (awwww) and nervously began trying to write, and the pen died, and my hands shook, and I tried again, and the pen scratched away doing nothing much, and I felt stupid. Then I suddenly realised, the guy was actually a nob! To him, I was invisible and simply a source of attention. Cured my crush feelings instantly!
@@uri4263 I think I thought he had something quirky about him - he was new to the college and stood out as someone 'different', but turned out he was just acting out (not genuinely different), to get attention.
Whenever I try to approach my crush, I tend to exhaust my social battery long before by running hypothetical stimulations and social interaction with her in my head and just give up
I just completely ignore them like their existence is bogus, but deep down inside I feel a bit girly and all lovey dovey. I tried suppressing this feeling for atleast a year and a half now but it keeps coming back, and I hate the fact that I keep making delusions about them actually liking me. - INFP Guy
I thought you were slapping that bee. 😂 But nope. Dammit, Sally!!! (This is assuming Sally isn't also an introvert. Cos if she were, she'd notice you too from way across the room. :P )
I once said the perfect date would be at a library and everyone in my class legit laughed at me :( I still remember, 10 years later, and so that's why I'm single :)
Me an introvert... I read books I talk to myself a lot I have feelings for non livings I love to talk to dogs more than people I have no good friend I am alone I lost my pets But... Apart from these... I have myself I spend me time... Whenever I want to talk to anyone I just imagine one frnd who is sitting with me and listening my shit. Whenever I want to play I just go out and meet my street dogs and play with them. I listen to a lot of good songs. Whenever I get bore I read my books. And the most important i am happy and blessed If anyone wants to be friends with me, talk to me 😊
INFJ's be like .... seeing and attractive person across the room I'll go over there and say Hi and we'll have our first date and they'll say I like yoga and travelling to Venice and we'll book a trip on the Simplon - Orient Express and renovate old Victorian houses in Massachusetts and breed King Charles Spaniels .... Oh they left Maybe there's more of that Guacamole over there
I had this crush that I would try to be near and look at as much as I could, but of course subtle enough to not be creepy. I have always had such a hard time speaking to the person I like because I get so nervous. Instead I show it through nice actions, like helping them with something. This crush was the one I got closest to, because one day we would start gazing into each other’s eyes and not immediately look away. I think he liked me too, but we were both introverts, so it’s hard to know.
Me, a girl ESFP was really much in love with an INFP. Didn't work out unfortunately. He also gave me those stares all the time. He needed so much time and couldn't let himself fall into it so easy. He was overthinking a lot, did also confess that he had feelings. Why has life to be so complicated?
Omg this is so relatable. Especially this part with guinea pig law in Switzerland - i love adding weird facts that no one cares about to the conversation. And I spend a lot of time on wondering what to reply when someone texts me 'hi' because i don't wanna come off ass creepy or nasty lol
I catch feelings hella fast and the times that I actually do talk to my crushes I just tell them weird stories about my family or random facts because that’s all I know and I don’t interact with people unless i live with them. Oh also I had a crush once that I would just stare at for over an hour and try to get him to look back at me. 😳 - an INFJ teenager
The texting and staring is true. I did the staring part on a guy I liked at the time and he did catch me doing it and he stared right back, not coz he was genuine in his liking of me, but coz he realized he found some one he cld exploit for his advantage...he was a narcissist. Eh you live and you learn. I gotta get better at mind fucking and defending. So careful staring. You might draw the wrong person. Lol
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That was funny. Tragic, but funny. I hope you're as happy as you seem.
A few years ago, I was alone sitting and a huge Hospital cafeteria. I was eating my cajun chicken roll and a group of people came and sat down at my table. A guy sat down across from me and suddenly I was trying not to get ranch dressing all over my face or in my long hair. I could hardly swallow. Finally, I was finished and I wrapped everything up and I casually looked at the guy and said, hi, how's your day going? The guy did not even look up at me. I didn't want to stand up and I was so embarrassed. I just sat there drinking my soda until I got to the bottom and it made that loud slurping sound. Thank God he didn't look up at me then. I started just looking around casually and then I noticed that he had a stack of cards in front of him with words on them. The guy was deaf. I was trying to make small talk with a deaf guy and he wasn't even reading my lips! I decided not to do that ever again until, the next day. I saw a guy with a yamaka and I had some questions. I will be alone until I die. 😁
Why is this so accurate? 😂😂
O btw Frank you look like my father when he was young.. It’s scary how much you two look alike 😳 It’s like you are twins but in a different time space with different moms and dads 😂
Plotwist: Sally is an introvert too. It’ll take 2 years of staring untill they talk.
This comes from experience.
This exact situation happened to me actually 😂
Only two?
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hahahahah 3 or 4 years over here 😂
For me it became something like playing mind game.
I actually enjoy it and it sadly(obviously) end as we have differ path.
Plot twist : Sally didn't hear him Because he was talking in his inner voice
*internal screaming
Haha that’s how I thought it was going to go and was surprised when it didn’t.
100%, or he thought he was talking loud, but he was just mumbling/whispering
Exactly
Good plot twist
Surprised the message even got sent
@Sally Nathalia sally 😂😂😂😂
Not even a spoiler warning... I guess I made all this popcorn for nothing
@miele api I do that every single time, why am I like that?
@miele api oh, well I just panic and do it right away
pfffffffffft
*When the crush suddenly stares in your direction*
Me: What a wonderful wall right here
😂🤣
bruh-
Your comment made me smile. 😏
Ah yes, air is made of air
Oh my, I don't need to have a crush for that, that's me when literally anyone stares at me😂😂
“What’s your love life like?”
Me: *imagining romantic scenarios in my head, that’s pretty much the extent of it*
I felt that
Same.
Correct. Uncomfortably correct.
@metamorphus I am 32 and was always getting worried too for the same reason. So, started reading a lot of self help books. I don't care anymore these days. I live my life the way I want wherever I desire, mostly inside my room in my free time.
I had a guy break up with me thru messenger that I dont remember ever talking to. Lol
He messaged he was dating someone else, aplogized to me because he knew we had a mutual connection (or something like that), and then blocked me. Lol! 🤣
Guys can be super scary!
How I flirt with my crush:
Her: hey! How are you
Me: *chokes and dies*
Well...it’s that awkward question we never know how to answer. 🤷🏼♀️
LOL
You made my day 😅
This is my fav comment
Absolutely had this today from a stranger on Instagram...lol..spent 10 mins staring at phone in horror....another 10 thinking 'omg what do I say'... (the truth was I was wondering how a dating coach I'd listened to could have got it so wrong in advising me to say to a love interest whom had been writing to me for 6 months...'hey I love your msgs but I'm not looking for a pen friend'...haven't heard back)..anyway that and many other thoughts were passing through my head along with...who is this person...how do I know them....why are they asking a stranger how I am...what's for breakfast...LOL. I tried to write 'I'm fine'.....then deleted it as 'too lame and naff'....but hey who is this erson texting me out the blue....I don't want a repeat of 6 months of texting then nada......so after 25 mins of reflection I came up with my INFJ 'masterpiece' response...... 'Do I know you XXXX...hey it's good to connect but I'm truly terrible at texting'.......desperately hoping they would take the hint.......NOPE! As in the video I went the loo...came back....more messages....oh no...INFJ panic.....LOLOLOLOL ....Chokes and dies....
Me laying in bed staring at the chips packet across the room hoping it would acknowledge the energy and fly to me.
Are you trying to use The Force? Haha.
😂
Yes! I watched too much Bewitched as a small child. You forgot to twitch your nose.
One day! One day! : )
Lol I also think like that sometimes
Anyone else ever "flirt" by inviting their crush to the library to study for a calculus exam in mostly silence? No? Just me??
My BF did this too😂 I thought he didn't want to be lonely, but he said "No, It's a date"
"I'm just staring at you for 2 hours while you did your paper tho"
😂😂😂
@@galuhalivia1816 haha sweet! He has guts at least he told you it was a date. My crush never figured out I was in love with him lol.
@@Christina-CA I was lucky he said that, if not I would go home with confused face😂 It's okay, dear I hope someday you got the courages and tell your crush 😆 😆
@@galuhalivia1816 thanks but this was 20 years ago lol. Yours is a great story to tell your future kids if you two get married :)
I've thought about how my dream date would be to casually read physics books at the library. 😂
If they followed the plan that I created inside my head, nothing of this would be so awkward.
ikr?
Yes!!
Exactly
I see nothing but the truth
Where's the lie?
My flirting is basically me acting completely normal and not at all interested, while hoping the other person will pick up on my psychic signals and will be braver than me.
Made my daaaaaay!🤣🤣 I realized i'm a hardcore introvert in flirting being an ENFP🤦♀️
@@nasburg806 wait-
doesn't the "E" stands for extrovert?
@@GerardoXC2023 wow! :O i didn't know that! that's really impressive man, +thanks for the funfac! I hope you have a nice week
I used to do that but I didn't want to hide it anymore and now just blush in our brief interactions.
Same.....
OMG, the panic I feel when my "crush" feels my stare and makes eye contact with me! I immediately look away, pretending I don't see them.
It's usually the opposite for me. When you feel them staring at you and you try so hard to not look conscious.
It feels like there must be a better way...
fiddlecrackers14 weird and when I’m in a good mood I think she has a crush on me (delusional) or if I’m in a bad mood I think she is just wondering how it is possible to be so ugly (I would believe the latter more than the first)
@@gummigumm7324 way too relatable
It's enough to give me a cardiac arrest.
"What am I gonna say back to her? Why is this so difficult?"
That's a lot like me every single time lol
most accurate part
honestly if i have like three people messaging me regularly it takes over all of my free time its just too much to deal with
@@guguigugu Hahah same! It's a texting marathon 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
me after the person stopped talking lol
Just reflect back what they have said to you and ask more about it.
When they catch you staring though... awkward.
Or worse, when you think they might also be staring at you from across the room too but it turns out they actually liked the person sitting next to you. That totally hasn't happened to me before... *nervous laughter*
This is when you make a bee line 🐝
@@louisejoel lol I'm too shy
@@Potato-yr2lw don't worry, that's happened to us all lol
When a person you don't like stares at you and uk what he's tryna do
Staring across the room one is too accurate lmao. It's the only "flirting" I am capable of doing.
I'm an extrovert, but I find introverts really cute and amazing. They have their own world, and getting out from there is hard for them, yet they sometimes do it, and it must take so much power. Also, they are really cute when they're trying to talk to others. I always try to listen to the introverts around me, and help them anyway I can. I'm dating an introvert nerd, and before we got together, I helped him a lot to feel comfortable around me and my friends.
I need you as my friend
this is the kind of thing that introverts need
that´s wholesome, thank you for existing
Have a friend that's pretty much like you that helped me out of my shell much back in my more walled up phase. She were pretty much the mom of our friend group, allways the center, have a sixth sense for when people felt left out and were allways ready to include the people around her, and of course she could allways tell when someone needed their space as well so being around her became more natural and i learned how to interact better with other people thanks to that.
Thank you so much 😆 we really need more people like you
It's not that hard when you are mentally dating your fictional crush😂
the never ending super deep conversation always flows quite smoothly in this exact scenario
Ikr 😂
Hell yeah, i and Tony Stark are on our honeymoon right now
Exactly
Yes Harry Potter and i are on a cute picnic date thingy as we speak
Did that sound really weird 😂
"Sally? I'm 2 feet away from you. How can you not hear me?"
Me, an INFP: that's okay, I'll get her next time
Mission Failed we'll get em next time
As someone who has flirted multiple times with an introvert it's really hard to hear you when you keep looking away. Especially when you're wearing a mask. The guy I like will start saying something and the look away and his voice will trail off and then he asks me a question about what he just said.
Yeah 😂😂
Ouch. 😭
Im an INFP-T(Mediator,apparently very rare )
"Staring from across the room" Mr Darcy is that you?
LOL Mr. Darcy was the WORST at flirting
giishaw Which makes him my obsession.
@@giishaw92 For real lmao his awkwardness is kinda attractive?
And then out of NOWHERE declares his love... Lmao 😅
Lizzy be like: Wtf, chill bro
mr darcy: she's not handsome enough to tempt me
also mr darcy: longing stares from across the room 🥺
How I flirt with my crush
Me: **looks at crush**
Crush: **looks at me**
Also me: **looks away** that's a gorgeous wall right there
wut? your crushes be alknowledging your existence???
@Alice Ling26 Teacher trying to teach about history or science.
Me: Sorry but you are wrong.
And then: "Oh. I think I love... this wall. I have pretty high standards" (if the ceiling is high)
Crush: turns around and never talks to me again because I'm weird
@@feelstora3what makes you weird
@@talkingtomcat2126 Everything about me is weird...
“Why is this so difficult?” The question I ask myself the most when trying to socialize.
I'm the kind of introvert who will be so shy and nervous that they start telling you their life story and various other uncomfortable or weird things without even wanting to say anything, but my exploding heart rate will make thinking impossible. And when you leave, you'll probably see me never again because after all this embarrassment, I'm going to hide forever and my thoughts will always go back to that one day I could've maybe flirted with you but made a complete mess out of it. Doesn't mean I won't stalk you on social media though
Hey, at least you talk! I’m the kind of introvert who clams up around their crush- it’s so embarrassing.
Speaking as a similar introvert, you just need more practice. I started with giving random strangers compliments. But you can also just casually remark on the weather, or ask to pet their dogs. The more I practiced on strangers the more comfortable I felt with people who mattered to me in some way.
@@AK-jt7kh thanks for the advice! I've been doing that for years and luckily, I have no problems at work. Flirting or talking to a crush is a whole other thing :/
i'm the kind of introvert who makes really really really little signs and in my opinion its kind of obvious. because of this signs i want my crush to give a chance to talk to me and then i'm sad because he's not talking to me even if i was making "OBVIOUSLY" signs.
unknown person yup. I think all introverts feel your pain.
“Why is this so difficult!?”😂
On God 😩
The horror is real 😨😨😨
FJ: I wonder what day of the week our child will be born... I mean...
Sally: I'm sorry, did you say something?
FJ: I love you... What?
Sally: What?
“She’ll feel the energy of me staring at her from across the room” I feel attacked.
“Do you know that male bees only mate once? Terrible”. I dunno why that cracked me up more than it should have 🤣
I would love being told something like that. My ex got me with talking about chemical elements. 😆
I received the INTJ death glare for quite a while one night... We moved in together in March.
ENFP (🙋)
Yaaasss you go guurl!
Don't...
...don't give me hope
@@ClintBandito sentiments!
Lucky people. Ideal match. I would love to have my own INTJ.
♥️🙏👍😱👋🙋♂️😌. HOPE
"Why is this so hard?"
As an INTP, I can relate.
Here is how it goes for me as an intj. It takes me weeks of planing the first message a lot of posible responses and follow-ups . I plan the end of the conversation so i have a reason to message her the second day and guide the conversation in that direction. I plan days of conversations and topics and how to get to certain topics and all the posible responses and follow-ups. I plan the dating invite from the start. And sometimes after all the planing i end up not messaging at all because of anxiety
Same. As a fellow INTJ, some girls were actually hinting on me but i was too anxious to do anything so i ended up alone until now.
@miele api i never dated anyone ever. I reallt don't know if its fear or insecurity and i struggle to find that answer because i can't do shit without information. I have my explanations ( they are linked to pas trauma) but they al feel like excuses. I am doing a very big mistake by not letting myself have those basic human emotions and stoping myself from liking or getting atached to anyone. But i hope that with time i would find the answers but i feel like the hope is dying. There is a saying in my country "hopes dies last" and i think its about to die
Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk :)))
@@tupacshakurfan9280 I look at memes of relationships Hoping sending that would get the message across that my duality of interest lies in memes and the content of it but apparently she just laughs at it.
Sincerely, INTP
Guilty of snooping my “crush’s” social media. Hell, I even googled him ... that’s not creepy, right? 😭
Edit: thank you all for the reassurance, I hope everything work out with your respective crushes. That you don’t find anything upsetting or questionable. Sincerely, an INFP ❤️
Nah, you gotta google him/her for sure, maybe they were doing weird stuff when they were 4 or something
I too googled my crush
I do a complete investigation to see if he is really single, if he doesn't flirt a lot, if he is a good person.. etc(?? 😂😂😂
you have to be cautious these days (?? X'DD
Everybody does it.
My crush doesn't even have social media. I really wanted to stalk him on instagram tho
Bruh that's me with texting XD
"No, that's too short..."
"No, this would probably offend her..."
"I can't send her this paragraph..."
*10 mins later* "Ok, perfect"
Her:
*Responds with 5 texts in a span of 5 seconds*
Me:
"Ight, Imma head out..."
“WHY IS THIS SO DIFFICULT?!”
*Relatable.*
Hey Frank, just want to thank you for the word of the day today. You're a great writer. I hope you continue to weave your own story in life in such a way that makes you happy.
Thread! Loving the word of the day!
Is that a soft coated wheaten terrier in the background?
@@AK-jt7kh a golden doodle! ❤️
giishaw ooo! My brother and I have an Aussie doodle and we’re very close. The dog and I, I mean. Lol
That’s it. I’m going to have to join this club. Where do I sign up? 🥺
When I was young and stupid, I literally said this to a guy "if you had a twin, I'd definitely date him" even though he was single.
Wow, great flirting there, me ._.
I actually like what you did :/
@@heathergrahame9647 Really? I cringed hard on myself later 😭😭😭😭
I actually did get to date him but not because of this flirting XD
I like that, it’s not stupid, just not everyone gets it
@@Freely519 Yeah, that could be it...some people like it and some don't. Flirting is a 50-50 gamble X'D
It was very cute, what you said. 💖
I saw these on another site:
How do you know an INFJ likes you?
You often find them standing next to you, not saying anything.
How do you know an INFJ likes you?
You'll never know.
Yeah I've typed a couple people in my past INFJ for this quality alone. They might not be, but it makes me laugh. 😂
Exactly. I don’t know if it’s a INFJ thing but that’s exactly me.
I sometimes spend several minutes standing behind people before they notice me and scream. I just like watching them think. I know I sound like a creep, but I just love people and I forget where I am and I enjoy seeing this person's life from this perfect vantage point.
When I say I love people, I mean like, one at a time, or in a group with a singular focus.
Of course, I love all people as a Christian, but what I meant was that I can't focus well on too many things at once.
I died when Sally texted back immediately and you were like "WHY IS THIS SO HARD!" Because literally you hit it on the nose! I always put so much thought in my texts😫💀
his eyes are gorgeous. Sally would indeed notice that.
i always accidentally friendzone my crushes by calling them "bro" and "dude" and shit
It's subconscious! You're just scared! It's not an accident! It's yourself that's sabotaging youuuuuu
You're mean, lol
Called bro by your crush is so hurt, trust me.
My crush called me bro
Me, too... because I call everybody "bro" and "dude." LOL
Try calling them "babe" ;)
Big social gatherings with a lot of people? Yeah, that's my jam😂
I felt that
I tried to play the game when I was young, but could only do it drunk 🥴
@@sunnysal3889 At least that's something🤷🏽♀️ When I am drunk at parties, I become x100 more concerned about what I am saying so I end up talking less😂
@@sunnysal3889 I hear you. Sadly, I am a funny drunk so I'd get asked out by the object of my adoration & I'd have to either get sloshed again or sit there like a tongue-tied twat 😲
@@TheOrangeHelium When I am out with people, I wish I was home and alone. When I am home and alone, I wish I was out with people😂
Inner voice: “Could I call her ‘Hurricane Sally,’ since she’s absolutely wrecking my emotional wellbeing, or is it too soon for cute nicknames? Is it insensitive to liken her to an uncontrollable force of nature?
...Okay, fair points. Couldn’t I at least serenade her with the song I *totally* didn’t stay up all night writing, also called ‘Hurricane Sally’? It’s perfect for a band to play at our wedding.”
Also inner voice: “Man, I wish my name was Linus and my life was drawn by Charles Schulz. Then she couldn’t *not* love me... What if I legally changed my name to Linus? If anything, it might set up an interesting experiment concerning the lasting power of media and how deeply it affects us! As a bonus, I won’t ever have to actually *talk* to Sally!”
I don't know you but I love your brain
Best comment 🤭🤣
Floz 🥺🥺🥺 my brain feels very loved!
Rachael Angel hopefully it gets better each time I edit it 🙃
Ok but WHY is this SO relatable. Why.
The texting part is so true. Im a girl and an extremely introverted person which makes me pretty bad at communicating. Once my crush texted me and i didn't know how to respond so i had a full on nervous breakdown and i was sweating like crazy so i had to take a bath😂
Don't expose us😂😂
Understandable :)
I actually almost panicked talking to my crush (turns out shes toxic and so i became a better person due to that mistake)
That's.... anxiety disorder kinda levels. Currently dealing with a young lady who freaked out really easily after I told her that I asked my sister what she was like. We have literally known her since she was like 2. My sister was far closer and I didn't have much to do with her. She is 29 and got creeped out or something whe I told her I asked my sister about her.
I can't even look at my crush without thinking of an escape plan
I’m the polite flirt man. No one knows that I’m flirting AT ALL LMFAOOO. 😭. Literally me just asking about your interests could be me flirting.
Wow😅😅
That fits me perfectly too lol
I was all like ooh fun facts. Let’s go.
Bees. Interesting ✅
Guinea pigs. Wow, didn’t know that ✅
Human babies.....😳....😳....🤣
Lol that is some small talk I can get behind
I can confirm that guinea pigs die if they are alone, even if they are in pairs but dont like each other. Kind of sad tho :(
@@amym5514 yeeeeeesssss :(((( also, even the mother eats her babies sometimes (well, that happens in cats and dogs too)
@@amym5514 And hamsters run 2-3 miles every night in the wild - but we shove them in teeny cages, no wonder they go mental on the wheels!
@Miriam W. Me too - I love fascinating facts - kinda calm me down actually.
"What am I supposed to say back to her? Why is this so difficult?"
That could be me, or better still, "Can we just meet and avoid this stupid chit chat?"
-INTJ.
Yes, sis.
Nah, more like "move in together" and avoid the whole dating crap! :D
👏🏻
@@Eissturm666 😂😂😂😂😂
Ah, fellow INTJ. It would be nice if everyone straightaway being real honest and clear when everyone start dating.
The fact that an introvert would face a party just to be with you is a huge compliment.
Me, an ISFJ, inner monologue: "Oh, crap. He's finally making his move, he's about to ask me out. I don't want to date right now. What am I going to say? He's cute, but I'm working on *me*, right now."
Guy: "Would you like to go for coffee sometime?"
Me : "Sure, I don't drink coffee but we could do dinner."
13 years later, still happily married to that guy. And I still congratulate myself on being so bold as to suggest dinner instead. Lol 😁
Wow thats cool! Good on you
You're my hero.
Me, an INFJ, pretty cool mate.
Yay!!!!! I love this!! Good for you and congrats!!!!!!!
The one about texting is literally happening to me as we speak
Same all e time 😂😂😂
In attempt to make conversation with my crush (I wanted to avoid smalltalk ), I said "So what are your thoughts on euthanasia?"
They didn't respond.
I can't stop laughing at this comment. This sounds both like the kind of thing I would do, and like the kind of conversational opening that would 100% win my interest. I may be weird, but at least I'm not alone. XD
@@firefly-fez Thank god. Being socially awkward and also hating smalltalk and wanting to get to know people for real is a hard combination.
I am not going to lie. This question would make me so uncomfortable and anxious. I would have to think of both sides' view. Then I'd feel pressured to defend my opinion multiple times as they analyze and try to tear it apart, if they disagree.
@Breezy Mango That is VERY valid also
😂
Frank, Gordon Ramsay liked Guinea Pigs on his trip to Peru. 👀
@@smalltownvvitch Ramsay: 👌
There you have the answer. 🙃
@@smalltownvvitch it's a traditional custom from the Andes. But it's not common all over the country, just in some regions.
It's also common in Pasto, Colombia. It's our traditional plate but I don't like it AHAHAHA
Omg I remember that episode! Sat down w the kids to watch it because they think Gordon is terrifyingly hilarious and it seemed interesting. Then we suddenly see guinea pigs spit roasting by the fire. I thought the kids would be traumatized because they have 2 guinea pigs. But instead one of them grabbed a guinea pig and plopped in front of the tv to see how it would react. Me as a parent: 😱 What have I done?!?!
@@ddff2815 that seems like something i would do if i had a Guinea pig.
lol when they reply to your text immediately but it took you forever to write
Going to all the parties/social events because you know your crush will be there is sooo me!
....and then they end up not showing up, so I went through all that effort for nothing.
The camera work on the bees, guinea pigs, baby was hilarious. 👏🏻 Yep, that’s how weird those facts can appear 😂. It’s sweet, though. If she’s an introvert, maybe she’ll have some strange facts of her own. 💖💖
Sally is clearly deaf and blind.
Omg I wanted to say it but didn't know if it was too insensitive. FJ, get your hands on some braille
@Ten Thousand Days of Gratitude - I'd totally wanna hang out with the fascinating fact guy - not weird at all, to me anyway.
Weirdwolf I’m usually the weird facts girl. Flirting is so awkward when you’re a shy ENFP.
@@tenthousanddaysofgratitude Are ENFP's typically shy? I think flirting is awkward for many people, and with the 'wrong' people too. I think I'm probably the weird facts girl too - though I honestly think most people find it an in-road to something to talk about.
Weirdwolf We are the most introverted of the extroverts, I believe. People think we are flirting when we aren’t. For me, when I really like someone I get shy and try to hide it. If I seem smooth, I’m probably not interested. If I look like a dork or a smarty pants, I am probably in love 😂 How useless is that?!? Not sure if that’s an ENFP thing but it’s a me thing.
For the last one, I'd say "I love your hair" or something like that to fix it. But I really wish that never happens to me. I'd die in that moment. 😳
ur prof pic.... 💯
@@strokesian996 same for yours 😎
Fiorella Lescano strokes fans STAY elite 🙌🏻🙌🏻
A friend of mine confessed to me the other day. One of the things he said was:
"Honestly, there are so many pretty girls in our class and I don't consider you one. However you're my crush and you're different from them"
As an INFP, hurt but proud that he fell for my personality 😅
During that time I didn't know how to react, I said 'thank you' and other stuff. I was so nervous. The next day he asked me to play with him in a game with OPEN MIC. I was quiet and rarely spoke during that 15-minute game 😅
He sounds a bit odd himself.
That's actually kinda sweet though-
You forget the ever so important step of immediately looking away after the person you’ve been staring at looks back at you
I feel called out, especially by the staring from across the room thing, mostly because going up to them out of nowhere and starting a conversation with them without seeming creepy is very hard.
Me: *cool when I'm alone and don't care about anything or anyone.
Also me: *sweats buckets trying to find the right words to text my crush.
Also me: *crush texts back, imagines how our future life will be XD
Aww an exol 🥺❤❤❤
@@Blossom_bites yeah ♡
Soooo true lmao
Then you find out Sally has a bf.
Oh dear lord not a bongle floof!
Well Sally does have Harry.
Or a gf 😉
Story of my life.
Deppression:huh thats weird how about imma just barge into your life for once:D
35 years ago I approached a college crush, a confident, middle-of-the-action, loud sports jock (what was I thinking?!). Adrenaline pumping, hands visibly shaking, and asked if I could sign the plaster-cast on his broken arm. He said yes, and presented his arm to me in a master/servant way "you may sign my arm peasant". My 'introvert trying to extrovert' servant self took my little felt tip pen (awwww) and nervously began trying to write, and the pen died, and my hands shook, and I tried again, and the pen scratched away doing nothing much, and I felt stupid. Then I suddenly realised, the guy was actually a nob! To him, I was invisible and simply a source of attention. Cured my crush feelings instantly!
I never understood that scene played in movies 🤔 what attracts shy people to a bad person?
@@uri4263 I think I thought he had something quirky about him - he was new to the college and stood out as someone 'different', but turned out he was just acting out (not genuinely different), to get attention.
Whenever I try to approach my crush, I tend to exhaust my social battery long before by running hypothetical stimulations and social interaction with her in my head and just give up
"I'll text her." *ding!* "Crap! She already responded what do I do?" XD I relate to this one too much. lol
This video is just too accurate that I kept repeating it many times
(Marlon Brando voice) SALLYYYYYYYYYY. YOU’RE TEARIN ME APART!
Sally is wise to ignore him if he’s a Kowalski. 🚃 🔥
Lol my crush doesn't even know I exist :')
Same but it fun stalking them on social media not in a creepy way 🤷😁😁😁
“Crap, what am I suppose to say back to her?”
“WHY IS THIS SO DIFFICULT!”
Spot. On.
I just completely ignore them like their existence is bogus, but deep down inside I feel a bit girly and all lovey dovey. I tried suppressing this feeling for atleast a year and a half now but it keeps coming back, and I hate the fact that I keep making delusions about them actually liking me.
- INFP Guy
I dont have that delusion but i always believe they're disgusted of me but the rest is understandable
-INFP kid
Same situation here with this guy I have liked for months!! (INFP)
Stop calling me out like this Frank 😂😂😂
I thought you were slapping that bee. 😂 But nope. Dammit, Sally!!! (This is assuming Sally isn't also an introvert. Cos if she were, she'd notice you too from way across the room. :P )
I'm an introverted Sally
this entire video is just like a summation of mr darcy and elizabeth bennet. gotta say, I love it.
Yes..totally!!
👏 "Sally I'm right here, hello."
😂😂😂 I laughed so hard at that!!!
Crush: are you ok? how are you?
Me: r....,u,yhs,,,..ye
Crush: ye yeah?
Also me: sweats nervously* turns red like a lobster* also *internal screaming*
Ha ha. I've been told I'd make a great Private Investigator. I choose to see it as a compliment. 🙂
I shouldn't have capitalized 'private investigator'.
"Why is this so difficult?" 😭
giishaw You’re fine. PI is ALWAYS capitalized.
UGH I shouldn’t have put always in CAPS.
I get that a lot too
I just woke up to this. Gonna be a good day
Could you do introverts trying to flirt on zoom/facetime since were all stuck inside and now everything is far more awkward XD just an idea
I once said the perfect date would be at a library and everyone in my class legit laughed at me :( I still remember, 10 years later, and so that's why I'm single :)
"Some spiders change colors to blend into their environment. It's a defense mechanism."
My crush replied to my story(it was a funny tweet or something) saying it's so funny. I replied 'I know.'
He never talked to me after that 😭
The way I flirt with my crush is by my eyes somehow naturally glancing over at her. I have no control
If only I had enough courage to flirt then this would be me lol 😂😂😂
Me an introvert...
I read books
I talk to myself a lot
I have feelings for non livings
I love to talk to dogs more than people
I have no good friend
I am alone
I lost my pets
But...
Apart from these...
I have myself
I spend me time...
Whenever I want to talk to anyone I just imagine one frnd who is sitting with me and listening my shit.
Whenever I want to play I just go out and meet my street dogs and play with them.
I listen to a lot of good songs.
Whenever I get bore I read my books.
And the most important i am happy and blessed
If anyone wants to be friends with me, talk to me 😊
INFJ's be like .... seeing and attractive person across the room I'll go over there and say Hi and we'll have our first date and they'll say I like yoga and travelling to Venice and we'll book a trip on the Simplon - Orient Express and renovate old Victorian houses in Massachusetts and breed King Charles Spaniels .... Oh they left Maybe there's more of that Guacamole over there
I feel seen! 😄
But substitute the guacamole for dessert.
As an INFJ, I’ve had so many imaginary relationships that I’m exhausted 🤣
@@tamarathejudeochristianmedium Yeah !...We never go out of relationships 😂😂
@@avaneeshyadav2005 🤣
Damn, INTJ does this too, plans life out...
"But we had a connection!"
I had this crush that I would try to be near and look at as much as I could, but of course subtle enough to not be creepy. I have always had such a hard time speaking to the person I like because I get so nervous. Instead I show it through nice actions, like helping them with something. This crush was the one I got closest to, because one day we would start gazing into each other’s eyes and not immediately look away. I think he liked me too, but we were both introverts, so it’s hard to know.
Me, a girl ESFP was really much in love with an INFP. Didn't work out unfortunately. He also gave me those stares all the time. He needed so much time and couldn't let himself fall into it so easy. He was overthinking a lot, did also confess that he had feelings. Why has life to be so complicated?
"if I wasnt so socially inept id be trying to have a conversation with you
I didn't know you was suppose to look back when you catch a guy staring lol Alot of times I try not to look
'Any time now, she will feel the energy of me staring at her, and she'll look over.' Mr. Darcy, anyone? Lol! 🤣
Okay bye, i love you..what ! 😂 Frank is this one for INFP's ? 😂
Omg! When I have a crush on someone. This is weird but I ignore them. That’s the kind of introvert I am😆🤣
The texting one is me with literally everybody (except that two people I actually enjoy talking to)
Has anyone noticed his "glasses" don't have glass? LOL.
Omg this is so relatable. Especially this part with guinea pig law in Switzerland - i love adding weird facts that no one cares about to the conversation. And I spend a lot of time on wondering what to reply when someone texts me 'hi' because i don't wanna come off ass creepy or nasty lol
This moment when you're an extrovert in love with an introvert.
I think introverts only have celebrity crush.
My crush : Katy Perry
Oh that's interesting - I tend to dream of actors, as in, actually in my dreams. (INFJ)
Or fictional crushes, unattainable either way
Or fictional
Who needs real people anyway fictional is where it's at
I (intj) have such an aversion to people in real life, I only find myself attracted to fictional characters or unattainable celebrities.
Bold of you to assume I would even dare to look at her or get out of my house.
I catch feelings hella fast and the times that I actually do talk to my crushes I just tell them weird stories about my family or random facts because that’s all I know and I don’t interact with people unless i live with them. Oh also I had a crush once that I would just stare at for over an hour and try to get him to look back at me. 😳 - an INFJ teenager
why is this so accurate!?!?
The texting and staring is true. I did the staring part on a guy I liked at the time and he did catch me doing it and he stared right back, not coz he was genuine in his liking of me, but coz he realized he found some one he cld exploit for his advantage...he was a narcissist. Eh you live and you learn. I gotta get better at mind fucking and defending. So careful staring. You might draw the wrong person. Lol
Omg the guinea pig part. Totally me as an INFJ. 😂
1:52 Ah yes, the anxiety of the person replying back immediately. I know it too well
Should I laugh or cry because it describes me perfectly 😅😅😅?