Flirting For Introverts: 3 Authentic Ways To Get Him Interested (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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You may have told yourself 100 times you’re ready to finally meet someone. Maybe you even read a few dating tips and decided to go try them out.
But then, you see that cute guy you like at work, in your social circle, or at a party.
You want to flirt. You want to get him to notice you. Then at the crucial moment, you shrink.
“H--hey”, you say, trying to play it cool.
You make small talk. Chit-chat about everyday stuff, but nothing that ever amounts to flirting.
And you realize: I can’t do this. I’m too much of an introvert.
If you’ve ever used this excuse before, then get ready. Because I have 3 techniques today that are going to change your dating life forever.
You’re an introvert? Guess what, so am I. Now you’ll find out why that can be your greatest superpower...
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"Who hurt you?" Ahaha. Best response to someone who doesn't like chocolate.
I feel personally attacked😅
MissCurlyWurly: lol same
What’s that supposed to mean?🙈 i dont get it
@@MissCurlyWurly1 me too
Puhleeze 🙄
The problem with being an introvert is that it takes me FOREVER to be comfortable enough with a guy to be myself and show him my personality. Most guys give up and move on to someone more open before I can get over my social anxiety enough to reciprocate his interest. Sigh.
I feel this so hard. Pretty sure a guy I went to college with liked me back, but my shy self was too awkward to make a move/show signs those feelings were reciprocated. He probably thinks I hated him in retrospect or full on friendzoned him 😩
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight Yes, I have a bit of a confidence issue. I have recently started working out, eating better, and getting my sh*t together. 2019 is my year!
Very meh.. 😑
Miss Priss sameeeeee
When I found my Ms. Right, at first she was slow to be herself around me. She was so slow and apprehensive when we met, that I thought romance would never blossom, so I started flirting with other women for a year and a half before the introverted girl asked me to hang out with her and eventually confess her feelings 2-3 months later. I'm glad she took that initiative and later on we got married, but had she waited longer, I definitely would have gone for someone else. I wish you luck.
This isn't "shy" flirting... this is SMART flirting
Thank you for taking interest in introverts, cause to be honest we are the most miserable ones when it comes to dating and flirting, hell I even find it difficult to be around someone from the opposite sex.. I seriously need to step up my game !!
Me too....
You do have game you just don't know it. Introvert women are the queens when it comes to quiet one on one conversations. At parties we tend to find one or two people to talk to versus being the life of the party with the whole group. We attend to one person at a time and men like the feeling that a woman is just focusing on them.
It does get better with age also believing we are all the same on an equal playing field regardless of looks, education, social status helps. Society tells us that looks, education and social status matters and to be honest the majority of the humans living on the earth believe that. When you find the person who doesn't live by those standards then that is the person who you will have the connection with.
In my 20s I would have never talked to a man who was handsome or of a different social status because I would have thought he was out of my league and at 20 or 30 many men and women do go by that. Now as someone who is older I realize we are equals even if the other person doesn't believe it and aging does even the playing field when it comes to physical attractiveness.
Start out practicing talking to random strangers who are women then work up to men. I start conversations all the time with people because I like to now. Practice starting a conversation about the most little thing like don't those oranges look good today at the grocery store or oh I like your outfit. The key is what ever you start the conversation with has to be something you really mean or are interested in. If you say you like an outfit you have to mean you really like it. I've noticed that when I converse with men in a honest open way not even in a flirting way they do engage. I think many men really want good conversations with women who listen without making assumptions about them right off the bat.
Just use the skills that introverts possess and you will be fine. It might take you a bit longer but you will get there.
@@lifetobelived9102 Thank you very much for your advice now I understand... And I'm proud of it....
@@lifetobelived9102 Thank you for your kind advices..i really hope i can overcome this feeling of lonliness oneday...:)
@@obg3260 I'm a bit lonely now too. I haven't taken the plunge to date after my divorce. It is scary so I can give out advice but maybe I don't take my own advice all the time. I guess what freaked me out a bit is when I did start talking to men in social interest groups I usually got the attention of younger men. It weirded me out a bit. Also, the population in general where I live is younger with the median age being 27 so the reality is there are less men my age. There are always some difficult factor we are up against I guess.
Someone said to me exactly like this " which one do you like more, ice cream or chocolate" and i answer "none", he replied " who hurt you" and i said "i am alergic to dairy" LOL
Yeah I know people who are allergic to chocolate. I would find the who hurt you too awkward. I'd probably so oh you don't know what your are missing. Me ex didn't eat chocolate because he realized as a kid it made him super hyper and not in a good way.
HAHAHA
someone actually said that exact line to me and I responded the same way!
I am allergic to chocolat 😂 💔
So genes hurt you!
The ending is priceless😂😂😂
I just... love it
loved it ! :D
Ikr
😂😂😂😂
Especially the most goofy dance😝
What about flirting with an introvert ?
Do it! If they don't seem to be enjoying it though, then pull back with a smile and a compliment.
Need to know!
Beanie Green Will try this and let you know ! Thanks ! :)
With an introvert you should invest a bit more than usual. Because he is probably too shy to do his part. If you invest a bit more it will be easier for him to get close to you.
Azin Jahedi Exactly.
I guess it worked ... i just needed to throw some subtle hints .. I got some good responses 😍
We’re going on a date!! Yey !
we introverts carry an air of mystery about us. and that's very attractive.
It takes more effort to get to know us, so yeah, it might take longer, but it'll be worth it in the end.
That's a good way to put it.
If you are an introvert you can still be confident. Chin up, shoulders back, tummy in and make eye contact.
This!!
I’m at the point now where I can overcome my shyness in group settings, EXCEPT with the guy I like. 🙄
I think I must come off almost rude to him!!!
relatable! I'd like to think that if I ever ran into a guy I liked (but haven't seen in a bit), that I would have the guts to ask him if he ever realized I was into him. With my luck, he probably thinks I hated him all that time 💀
Am also not shy when talking to guys, but if I crush on someone, I become miss awkward and shy at the same time lol.
@Darcy M. Royce So true lol. And its a way that I can tell a guy is into me
That’s what happened to me. He has a girlfriend now but it’s not me.
It’s weird some guys I’ve dated I was shy around and other times I was on fire. I found the more I believe I know about a guy the more relaxed I am. If I have a good grip on his personality I can approach him no matter how sexy I believe he is. If I believe he will be great to talk to I can talk to him. If I believe he won’t want me it’s much harder. Change your thoughts and lower the risk and it will be easier to approach him. He is just a guy you think is interesting, you want to see if that assumption is correct. Visualize a winning conversation then follow through by having it. Easier said than done but your thoughts are what is keeping you away. They are also what’s going to get you the guy.
That ending was unpredictable! 🤣
Could you do a mini series just for introverts? Please and thank you 😁
I think this is perfect information because introverts do these type of conversations naturally. Maybe not the flirting part necessarily but we are the people who make poignant statements or notice something special or interesting about the people we are interacting with. I've had some really nice conversations with men and women just be complimenting someone on their hair or clothes or observable behaviors like when a mom or dad is treating their children with respect. I never give empty compliments only ones that I believe at that moment in time.
Literally me.
Agreed! Since we're usually more observant by nature, this concept makes so much sense. I feel like I tend to remember so many little details about people and when I bring them up, they tend to be pleasantly surprised or even touched. Quality > quantity
@@anneotherday I came across some information about the differences between the introvert brain and the extrovert brain. Extroverts need more external stimulation to keep their brain in an active state whereas introverts' brains are always active without external stimulation. That is why we need down time to actually to bring down our brains from over stimulation.
@Chuck horsehockey?
@Chuck And how is the word you chose any part of the discussion?
If an introvert guy said ANY of those things to me...I would....melt 😍
OMG! Dancing Matt. We deserve that. 💃💃💃
now if we could get Mark Rosenfeld to dance.. he said he'd post a short video of him in his stripper days when he'd reach 100K subs.. its been over a year and still waiting lol
I think this is applicable to all social interactions for introverts.
Great advice
I do believe you convinced at least 80% viewers that this concept works 😂 Good idea, Jameson!
I do believe that less then 20% will try to apply it and even less will be successful. It's easy to give advices but they alone don't help. Most people deep down already know these things
Great tips!! I love when you introduce new concepts we haven't heard from you before. Thank you for giving us new info to continue our growth path!
This is great advice!
I was born a shy introvert from a long line of introverts on my mom's side. With age and life experiences I"m less introverted and definitely less shy but I still experience the social energy overload as well as have some social ineptness. It still takes more work to interact comfortably than the average extrovert.
I see what you did at the end and I love it!!!
That ending was phenomenal!!!
I laughed so well! Thank you all.
Thank you also for your tips and advice. It's really helping me get past some emotional barriers I've been holding up in order to protect myself from being hurt in a relationship. You've inspired me to look at it all and go for what I want. Now I'm off to make some moves on a dreamy guy that I've been seeing for a while. I'm going to throw my shyness out the window and make it clear that I'm attracted to him. Wish me luck!
I’m viewing this from the opposite perspective and still find it immensely applicable. Thanks, Matthew.
I would really love to see more videos about playfulness!!! Your sense of humor is mindblowing Matt!!!
I can't believe how much I liked that video. I have watched a lot of yours and they're great but this is so close to my life and so practical.. I love it ❤️ Thank you, Matthew
Thank you. You are what both men and women need as respect for us all has gone from many societies. You bring those teachings back. Bless you x
"Who hurt you?" The winner punchline! This not only smart flirting but rather effective communication strategy I ever heard. You apply the concept Peak and End Rule well.
Luv luv luv your videos! I’ve put into practice some of your techniques previously, and more than anything I’ve found it helps me to realize when someone isn’t right for me and not settle. Thanks so much for sharing💙
Looking back, I realized this peak-end thing seems to be something I've sort of done subconsciously over the years. A friend of mine told me recently that although I don't talk much, when I do, he knows it will be something funny or really thoughtful and that's honestly one of the best compliments I've ever gotten. It definitely takes being comfortable around people to get that out of me, but this was reassuring in supporting that idea of quality over quantity. I'm so glad I came across this video and that this concept seems to have real proven value in social settings.
Love this! You always have such detailed advice that we can actually use. I’m one of the quiet ones. Thank you!
I loved this video. I feel it applies to guys who want to flirt as well.
I didn't expect this video to be so practical and high-quality. Nice job :3
That ending 😂😂😂😂 I fully wasn't ready. That made my day x
Besides his good looks and spot-on advice, it's indeed a remarkable feat producing quality videos back-to-back, year-in and year-out! Talk about dedication and consistency. Kudos to Team Matt!
I am not an introvert I love watching your videos but i just realized i've been flerted by an introvert he did everything you said and he stole my attention 😂😂😂👏🏼 for you guys out there these tips work
Oh my God, I LOVE YOU MATT! I always thought I was the nerdy in the room for being quiet and listening, Thanks a lot!!
Loving the advice and red and black pillows 😍👌🏼
You always bring something different and helpful 💞
That dance at the end! Hahahah! The guy with the black hat is totally in his own world! Loved it!
Game-changing advice!! Thank you so much for sharing! Every part of this video is perfect. Especially the end. Tied it up nicely, Matthew ;)
@Matthew Hussey please do more videos on dating/socializing tips for introverts. It is sooo much more difficult for me as an introvert to actually use your advice in real life.
This was gold, Matthew! I loved it! Thank you! 😁💕
Ok this is actually one of your best videos. What just happened to my eyeballs at the end there? The peak-end effect, that's what. Nicely done gents.
Omgggg .. I melted watching you dance in the end! Aren’t you just adorable! 😍
You’re literally the coolest person on UA-cam 😂❤️
I'm an introvert. This was very helpful to me. Thank you
Can u make a whole series on how to socialize as an introvert? Lol I'm already married but I suck at socializing in groups. This was so helpful, even for every day interactions...
Haha great ending!! Men dancing and being silly!! YES!!! And thank you so much for the advice!!! So so helpful!!
Thanks for the introvert help. I'm definitely a listener/observer, interactions are difficult.
You guys are freaking awesome!! Great advice, really loved the smart come-backs... and oof course, you're amazing dancers
The like was for the peak-END ;-) HAHAHA made my day. Thank you!
Your humor has been on point on the past couple of videos 😂
This will be very helpful! Thank you
Best part was the ending....loved it lol
Absolutely loved that ending!💞
BEST VIDEO EVER! So needed to hear this!! I will try to do that, next time when i leave my House 🙈😅
Thank you so much for this video!!!
And the ending is priceless! 😂😂
OMG so glad I waited till the end :))), we need more of this in each video haha
Love the sense of humor, the end was priceless to watch lol
I need this ice breaking more! Please make more like this
I like these! I have a hard time breaking the ice with someone I'm interested in, but this helps a lot. 😊
Rewatching this, one of your best! Love the ending so much!!! 😂
That ending Mathew!!! You blew it off ... 🤣
i'm an introvert and asked a guy out on a date yesterday.. stressful.. we honestly don't give enough props to the guys for risking constant rejection
Awesome ideas. I need to watch a few times.
Matthew, I don’t just like this vid because of all your practical tips, but also because you were so inspirational. I really like how good you are at getting your ideas across ;) ;) ;)
I actually like all of these. Very subtle and don't appear to be trying too hard.
Omg thank you! It seems so simple. I will use this, definitely.
thank you for this video. It will help me and other introverts as well. please do more videos on this topic. it will be very appreciated.
Your advice are really helpful and can be applied to any social situations regardless of personality type, though this would work best among introverts as the title suggests. Thank you!
God, u're so adorable!
I mean at first i'm just watchin the video n the othr sec i find myself concentrating only on u
even though i try hard not to n focus on the content which is as always,great
Omg 😂Now I’m definitely getting that chapter lol! I fricking love that ending 👌
Amazing tips! The ending is definitely a peak for me
ur new hair style suits u perfectly I like it
Gold👌 for an introvert-extrovert who always thought flirting was not my thing🙏😘
This is gold!
I really appreciate Matt's existence (and british accent). ❤
Being playful is a real game changer, I believe that! Great examples! I can relate to the chocolate examples for sure haha 🤣
Amazing tips. Also.. Nice shirt Matthew!! ❤️❤️
I havent use all of these yet but i can see this working, thank you!
Hey, you got new pillows! Nice combo with the leather sofa.
Omg, hahaha! I love this video! I liked all the suggestions about what to say! This is brilliant. I hope I can pull it off! 😃😃
Omg epic video! Even though I am extrovert, I thoroughly enjoyed that!!
Another great video Matthew!
Thank you. I feel slightly better about my prospects. 😊
Thank you! This video is exectly what I need🙌
THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS.
This was great! Super funny! This helped me out, thx
That ending though! Perks of watching it till the end!! hahahah don't miss it people!!
Love the advice. But seriously the ending was just 😂
I knew you were gonna end the video using your tip as an example but still I DIED at the end of this.
Fantastic video! 👏
For the first time in my life I find the courage to flirt with someone, and that person was my professor! I'm ashamed and kinda proud. Cause he gaves me a very good score.
Love the ending!! 😍
That ending real nice 😂😂
Crazy! I love it! Carol
The ending was fantastic
I love the end of your video!
That made my day!! 😂😂👌
Peak And end ✨🧚♀️ I love the way you telling story 🗝☺️😆
With all the information in these videos … I love the fun and goofiness more 😂😂😂😂😂
Genuinely a life saver ❤
Loved it, specislly the ending 😂