Eighteen is still a teenager. Nineteen is still a teenager. By US law, 18 is an adult, but someone who is less than a year out or high school should not be mentally considered an adult. 28 year old man was predatory.
A good partner will HELP you make a safety net. My (now) husband made sure when I moved states to be with him that I had MY apartment, MY car and MY job so if things didn’t work out, I was not stuck alone with nothing. Needless to say, we are still together 25 years later ;)
Also Kerri's commentary on the Lesbian Bar story is 100% on point (i'm a lesbian). I hate the fetishisation or treating our safe spaces like "themed" bars ... I can't count the amount of times I've been hit on by men IN LESBIAN SPACES and had them harrass me and girls i've been with in those spaces. The straight people getting uncomfortable at being hit on in a gay bar is so annoying tbh because I don't think they understand gay bars are the ONE place on earth we can actually approach people like straight people can. Literally everywhere else we can't approach people because the assumption is they're straight. It's especially important to have these spaces for queer women, as we're not socialised to pursue anyone and we're hyper aware of making women uncomfortable bc we've experienced being made uncomfortable as women. So as a result, queer women in general have a really hard time hitting on other women.
I'm uneasy with the idea that this guys is using lesbians to make his friends inconfortable... I'm so sorry you have had men make you feel that way even in your space ❤
1:23:44 i dont think its silly to bring them to experience the reverse. He said he brought this up to them multiple times and they brushed him off and called him homophobic. He tried just talking to them. He obviously thought the only way they would understand what he’s going through it to show them.
oh my god thank you!!! i've been scrolling for so long trying to find someone mention this, it's such a wild take to say it's shitty for them to show them what it's like when clearly none of them gave a fuck about their feelings on this!!! i'm a lesbian and i don't give a fuck about them pulling this on the girls, they fully deserved this
YES! I can't believe people aren't talking about this. His intentions weren't ill or bad, he wanted them to experience what HE has experienced so they can understand where he's coming from. Looks like they still don't after giving him flack for it.
@@thefandomgeek1964yup! It seem like they always bash men when they give the women a taste of their own medicine. Yea they twisted it to make him the bad guy.
They're all so nice in their handling of it lol what popped into my head was the comeback, "thats so crazy cuz like I dont remember impregnating you!?" 😂
The SIL announcing her pregnancy at the funeral is insane. My brother in law’s fiancé had a brother pass away in his early 20’s. I asked before bringing my baby to the visitation and funeral because I didn’t want it to be triggering to the parents. (They actually said they wanted her there as she was a nice distraction and we are all close despite not being blood related).
Story 5: Asking Op to pay for the babysitter with statement of “you get to spend time with us child free” sounds like when people say “my gift to you for your birthday is my presence in your life.”
Story 1- if MIL is mad at op for having a teen pregnancy then I think the implication there is that she thinks op babytrapped her son. It is such a stereotype of MILs to accuse the new girl of baby trapping their little boy lol
Not to mention that a vehicle can function perfectly fine without a catalytic converter. It might be a bit louder while the car is idling, but it doesn't compromise the safety of anything mechanically. It is technically illegal to drive without one though. Regardless, MIL could have easily found the time and driven herself to a shop to get a new one. The car issue was just an excuse and a bad one at that.
I think she's projecting, because she disagrees with her son getting an 18-19yo pregnant at 25-26, but because her "perfect son can't ever be wrong" she decides it's the girl's fault
i was thinking the same thing as someone who’s had a cover up done LMAO. shading is like…kinda part of a cover up most of the time💀 like the more shading the easier i think it would be theoretically to cover up whatever is underneath 😭😂
Seriously! I have a bunch of tattoos and a cover up and I've always been told, cover ups have to be bigger to properly cover the design with shading and they're usually more painful since there's existing scar tissue. It's an unfortunate situation, but I feel the placement might make it harder too. I shudder at the thought of a cover up on the neck
For 1:10:13 Morgan, the reason we have toenails is to protect our bones. So whenever you bump your pinky toe into the coffee table and it hurts, your nail is protecting your bones because they can be so easily broken. I don’t know if that’s the same reason for our fingernails, but that’s the reason we have toenails .
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS GOING TO COMMENT!!! Why is it always the wronged person who has to be the bigger person?! Whenever I’ve been told his IRL I’ve asked this exact question because it’s so true and so unfair that it’s always the wronged person who is told to do this (and by extension let themselves keep getting treated badly) and never the one actually in the wrong told this and called out/held accountable
Story 1: Demi said it best: Finally 29, 17 would *never* cross my mind. I don’t have a problem with age gaps, but if someone in that age gap has a brain that *scientifically has not fully developed* and is still growing as a person, that’s some predatory shit.
My opinion on the babysitter payment story : The person who pays for dinner shouldn't also have to pay for a sitter. Esp when they don't have a kid themselves. What about the 4 who don't pay for dinner, split the babysitting cost, or work something else out! OP absolutely should NOT have to contribute a single penny to the other womens babysitting fund.
TW? Autism discussion: I sleep with stuffed animals, always have. I bought a huge triceratops squishmallow during the pandemic and named him Daniel, we now have 3/4 different sized Daniels with names like Danny, Daniela, ect. They’re all cousins, one is even a doctor when my partner puts his glasses on it 😅. It’s become a long running joke with me and my partner and we laugh about it often… Fast forward 3 years, I got diagnosed with Autism, personification of inanimate objects can often be an autistic trait and childlike objects are a comfort. I’ve since switched to a giant snorlax (Pokémon plushie) to sleep with and me and my partner still makes jokes about it, but he doesn’t care he joins in the fun. (He’s not thrilled about losing the extra bed space though) He also might be autistic, but undiagnosed. I think it’s about finding someone who enjoys the silliness too. We often talked about bids on this podcast and I think this is a bid for something lighthearted and silly.
Thank for this comment- my partner and I do this with our pets and stuffed animals, but based on the pod reaction and other comments, we thought we were the odds ones out! Turns out it just the autism and ADHD 😅
Scrolled down specifically to find a comment like this. As a nearly 30 year old autistic woman, it sounded VERY much to me like the fiance was autistic and burnt out, meaning she could no longer mask as much as before. I know it wasn't intentional at all, but hearing them going on and on and ON about how stark raving mad they seemed to think she was was EXTREMELY ablist and COMPLETELY INFURIATING to me. I kept waiting for a comment or update to namedrop autism, and them to backpedal HARD, but sadly it never came. And even if it turned out she isn't autistic, what is so damn bad about coming up with silly little backstories for your adorable collection of plushes as a stress reliever??? Yes, it was a little silly to get upset over a dream your partner had, but emotional attachment and responses don't always make sense. And we don't know how OP explained the dream and his unease surrounding it to her either! Who is she hurting by doing this anyway??? What's the big damn problem??? Sounds like OP communicated his needs in the end and now his fiance is specifically carving out time for him. Not only that, but he is engaging in her silly little fantasies and strengthing their relationship while doing so! My partner and I do silly shit with each other and buy each other plushies and whatever ALL THE TIME. The reaction to the story was so disgusting and hurtful, I swear, original Reddit comments included. Why do people have to be so nasty?? I know this video (and this comment) are older, but GOD I had such a powerful reaction that I COULD NOT let it go without throwing out my two cents.
Totally agree!!! Im also autistic, and have a comfort plushie (a Monchichi plushie 🥺). When im extremely stressed, exhausted or burnt out, i take Monchichi with me everywhere and hold her all day long too. My partner will hype up me and my Monchichi. They will remember to pack my plushie for when we go to new events, and even sends me memes or things that remind them if Monchichi, an ask to take pictures and selfies together with my plushie too. The discussion of the last story did make me feel a bit discouraged and sad but im really happy the fiancé ended up playing along and felt that his partner was worth the effort!!! That was sweet, I hope they have a happy marriage with Kevin 😆
With the tattoo story: Laser removal is incredibly painful and most of the time you cannot use numbing cream. I’m in the middle of laser removal and it’s one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt and I gave birth with no medication. It feels akin to putting your body part in hot grease and it heals about the same as a burn would. Once it heals, you have to go through the cycle over again because one pass never takes the ink out and sometimes they’re never removed completely. I think the mom is perfectly ok with not deciding to go through that pain. However, a coverup may be easier if it’s just lettering. I AM removing an entire sleeve so it may be easier/less painful to remove a small tattoo, but the laser tech did a quick pass on my husband’s small finger tattoo because he was heckling me while I was going through the procedure and it brought tears to his eyes. I often leave shaking and nauseous from the pain.
i think that's not the main take away from this, it's a tattoo that loudly displays something that brings major distress to her daughter and she doesn't want to do anything about that? the mom should do whatever she can to change it just from that perspective, but how to go about it, i agree is not just black and white
@@roxxmaru I am on the mom’s side… it’s not fair that because the kid came out as trans but now the mother has to go through a painful procedure or get a tattoo. She probably doesn’t want on her body as a cover-up. The kid is being completely unreasonable, and honestly very entitled
@@roxxmaruIt is the mother's body tho. If it were me, I wouldn't feel entitled to basically manipulate or use emotional tactics to make someone change something on THEIR body because it hurts me. As insensitive as it may sound, the daughter can either wait till she cam afford to live on her own or just tough up. She's being extremely entitled, which is kinda understandable, since she's a kid. But that's not the way to go
Just came here to say that the throwing of food thing can start to trigger some PTSD for me personally. My ex husband used to either throw a drink or food all over me almost every single time we argued. It always felt so fucking degrading. Couple of years after finally escaping that shit show of a relationship my brother jokingly threw a banana peel at me and I instantly bawled my eyes out. Such a freaking triggering thing in my life 🫠
With the dead name tattoo, she could still keep it personal by saying "if you would like me to get rid of it then why don't you find me a nice tattoo to cover it with" so it still has that personal touch
The tattoo story. For me the mom and child just really need to sit down and have a heart to heart. Personally the way I see it is that mom got that tattoo as an expression for herself because their child is a part of them. So there wasn’t any bad intentions but I think the child needs to take a step back a little. I get that it’s your dead name and that’s not you anymore but that part of you was a part of your mom’s life and it will not go away. Either a cover up or sitting talking and coming to understanding of each other or even giving the tattoo a new meaning for both of them. But honestly it’s kinda a story of a lesson for everyone that names just aren’t something to get tattooed
honestly, besides the fact that trans people don’t need reminders of their deadnames and that can cause pretty bad dysphoria and uncomfortable feelings, and that the mom having an attachment to their child should be about who the child really is not just who the child was in the past, it’s deeper than that. Not all trans people want it to be known that they’re trans. Having your parent have both of their children’s names tattooed and one being a deadname can make it easily identifiable that that child is trans, and cause safety risks for the child outside of the mental health reasons. all trans ppl have different feelings, but if you got that tattoo bc you love your kid, why would you wanna keep it knowing it’s hurting the kid you love?
@@haligh.haligh why does it just matter what the trans person wants and not with the Mom wants?? Honestly, it all stories where someone is trans. Everyone around them, especially their loved ones are expected/demanded to do whatever the trans person wants or whatever the trans person says is best for them, and if they don’t want to comply with every single one of their demands, there made to feel shamed and guilty for it, and accused of not loving them and all that. The mother should not have to go through a painful procedure or a tattoo cover-up of a tattoo that she might not want just because her kid came out as trans… just because you are trans does not mean you get final say and you get to decide what’s right and what is it and everyone else has to conformed your exact way of thinking and what you want or else they are in the wrong Also, what if the mother is still attached to the kids she used to have and that could be a reason to why this tattoo is a very meaningful to her among many other reasons … after all, it is her body and her tattoo
@@baileyspeltbeefy1768 i mean i could explain it to you but i doubt that you actually want to try and understand. you’ve got a lot of biases and inaccurate perceptions that you should probably unpack at some point tho.
A partner throwing something is a deal breaker for me, and was a wake up call in my last relationship. I let him treat me like shit for years, but it wasnt until he started throwing and kicking things that the blinders came off and could see all the other ways in which he disrespected me. If hes willing to throw something at you, then the moment he doesnt have an object to grab he will inevitably throw hands.
Shit mine did for a few months but a year later it’s to objects instead now. I really want to leave but this sht is too expensive. Can save as much as you want, doesn’t matter if you can’t maintain on your own. Good on you
@@KierstonKxshare there any resources in your city for shelter from domestic violence? I know theyre not everywhere but there may be some resources to help you escape and keep him from finding you. Also worthwhile to have a safeword with friends (if you have anyone close by who can come and pick you up or come and physically be with you) to let them know you're scared and need backup without your partner reading the message and knowing exactly whats happening. There may be online communities to seek advice and support from people who have gone through this. This isnt your fault, you deserve better and I hope you are eventually able to get away from him. Please stay safe, and know you're not completely alone. 💜
I’ve had things thrown at me and stayed. Even had an ex spit in my face and stayed. It takes a lot, sometimes for the blinders to come off. I hope hers comes off before he gets worse, because it will happen. He wanted to degrade her and make her feel as small as she made him feel with her comment or question. But I don’t blame her for it. She is pregnant and I know I had highlighted emotions at that time, and for someone to act like they are flat out ignoring you, while trying to have a serious conversation, I would have probably said the same thing.
hearing Morgan say 'Cthulu" killed me that whole story 😂😂😂 i know not everyone knows of it or H.P.Lovecraft, but ive never heard it said that way lmao.
Tbh I think the only tattoos people should get with words are quotes and dead people. Two things that couldn’t change. My old friend also got her kids name tattooed, who ended up trans and now wants the same. Didn’t realize it was a more common occurrence.
I thought it was an ok comparison! It’s like if you had new partner that was uncomfortable with your ex’s name on you in such a visible place. That choice is way more likely to go wrong than your child changing their name but I think it could help some people understand. Either way I get the tattooed person not wanting to change their body so it should 100% be their choice. But I do think because it’s your child it would be kind to consider changing it.
story #1-good for her for divorcing that guy!!!! i can relate to her, i had a similar experience with my ex. i started dating him when i was younger and we also had an age gap. it was my first relationship ever and i let his toxic behavior and red flags pass for 2 years. he would also "punish" me if i made him mad or questioned him at all, it was always his way or the highway, MAJOR CONTROL. he once left me at a hotel 2 hours way from my house, with no ride home, because i "said something that made him upset". and i still took him back after that....WTF. it took my aunt and friends to make me realize how he was treating me was not okay, and if it weren't for them, i probably would still be with him. i am fortunate that i got out of it when i did, and im so glad i didn't have a child with him or got married.
4:29 1. AITA For Abandoning my MIL? 23:30 2. My husband lied about his tattoo 32:12 3. WIBTAH for not inviting SIL to baby shower? 41:12 4. My husband threw food at me 50:31 4.5. AITA for making my husband wear a mask? 53:14 5. AITA for not chipping in on babysitting costs? 1:10:40 6. AITA for not getting a tattoo removal of my child’s dead name? 1:20:38 7. AITA for taking my straight girl friends to a lesbian bar? 1:31:48 8. Fiancé likes cuddling with stuffed animals
The baby sitting story. It's the fact that no one had to worry about paying for her babysitting up until this point but some how this childless person has to take care of theirs???? My perspective: they saved money by her not having a child and they should continue to save that to pay for this particular date. Crappy friends for sure
The first one she told her husband no. From that point it was his responsibility to call his mother and let her know and for him to pick her up or to find her a ride.
STOPPPPPPPPPP I’ve been WAITING for the Smosh collab 😭😭 literally so excited. Also Kerri is an adorable human and has such a wholesome and sweet presence 💞
I haven't seen or heard or this Queen, but I loved & agreed with her the whole time! ❤ I literally talk 2 Morgan & whatever guest is on, like I'm in the room with them!! 😂
my favorite part: "why do YOU think you weren't invited" we feel like we have to explain things to death to everyone. life gets a lot easier when you realize you don't owe everyone and their dog an explanation for your choices.
I really like Kerri, she's very relatable and in many of the stories she was pointing out exactly what I was thinking. Hope you'll have her again in the future! Her insights were nice to hear.
the first story got me thinking when you guys started talking about prefrontal lobes and how hers wasn't developed yet and why that's so important when it comes to big age gaps like that, if she had her at 19 and was married to him for 6 or 7 years then divorced him she probably divorced him around the time her prefrontal lobe had actually fully developed, i just found that interesting
Haha yup! People always loom at me funny when I say those products don't do it for me. Like no juice of energy lol but I do avoid caffeine for my kidney health
Disagree with the whole tattoo thing, if the mother is uncomfortable getting it removed she has every right to keep it. Daughter is being a bit hypocritical but regardless once upon a time that tattoo meant something amd has a memory behind it. Its a part of the moms story however she wants to portray it. 1:18:38
omg the babysitting payment story! i read that and was mad. their kids, their probelm. she doesnt need to pay for anything. my group have 2 moms, while we do go out. they make sure they are taken care of money wise. they never ever ask us parent less adults to pay. soo dumb
Cthulhu story- this is giving strong autistic vibes, as someone who does this myself. It's a semi-common coping mechanism for neurodivergent people from what I've been told, whether it be from stress or trauma.
my comment to the first story: I am a SAHM. My husband and I had a long hard talk about it when my oldest was starting school ( age 4) and had ASD. I personally did not have a career, just a job so leaving my job after working there 10 years to be available for my kids, I was fine with it. I now have two boys. one who had ASD and one who had ASD/ADHD. It works out best for us, that I can be available to go get them from school or preschool and they are having a rough day, sick, picking them up for appointments and so on. Yes I don't make money right now, but I do contribute in other ways to the house hold. I'm super lucky that my husband and I have constant conversations on the budget, bills and such and he doesn't money control the situation. He also is super supportive in my crazy dreams. I have been working on a business proposal to start my own food company and run my own food truck, and I will be ready to make the big move in 5 years when both boys are more stable and confident in school that I don't have to be on call 24/7 Sorry I rambled on there. ADHD brain gets me every time :)
I usually listen via podcast but I just had to come here and comment about the tattooed dead name thing cause!!! as a queer person we need to stop being so hateful toward the people that care about us just because they’re not adapting to our queerness in the exact way we want!! No one is perfect, people make mistakes and while their mom could get it covered or lasered why are we flipping the script and policing HER body when they aren’t doing that to their child. That name is no longer their child’s, it’s dead, and I think forcing your mom who has already shown her support to undergo a long procedure to get it removed is very ridiculous. I understand where the kid is coming from but having patience goes a long long way. Also comparing it to getting a boyfriends name tattooed is not the same at all, personally I think if you’re going to get any name on you your child’s is the safest bet and plenty of people have done that for decades.
Honestly i agree with the mom in the tattoo story. Shes being extremely respectful and supportive that doesnt erase the xhild she gave birth to and i dont think she should have to change something on her body
OMG shayne/smosh/two hot takes collab I CANT WAIT!!!! 🥰🥰😍❤️ pleeeeease do a Reddit on wiki collab I really really want it and so do they!! Love you guys so much! 100/10 episode today!! Loved Kerri😊🥰
On story 6: I feel like her daughter only recently coming out makes the removal of the name a little premature. I have no doubt the transition is real and not a phase, but her identity is being explored and may keep maturing and changing for a bit. It’s possible she likes the look or it is part of another tattoo. Cover ups, while cheaper, often end up much larger and darker than the original tattoo, and it’s on her neck so it could be a bit much. Removal is painful and expensive and takes time often requiring multiple sessions, and often scars leaving the general outline/shape of the tattoo, so she may be left with the name in a scar anyways. If it’s easy to remove or cover I would personally want to do it for her, but I don’t think asking her to be patient is unreasonable either. I do also want to say, getting your children’s names tattooed on you is NOT the same as a boyfriend you might break up with. A good parent will always be their parent, and I doubt any parent thinks their kid will transition. Most children don’t change their name, or even if they do wouldn’t be offended by the old one. The girl isn’t unreasonable for not liking seeing it or wishing it was gone, but I don’t think most parents would equate a boyfriend’s name to the children’s name in terms of risk factor.
I definitely disagree. We only get to pick our kids' names because they can't. We should be ready for them to change them if they wish. It should not be up to us, and getting a tattoo of your child's name across your neck lacks foresight. What child wants to see even their own name like that? And I am tired of people acting like significant others are not as important. We absolutely must protect our kids first. It is our responsibility. But there are wayyy too many people who don't give a shit about their husband or wife but adore their children. Balance, folks. If you don't give a shit about them, leave. That is it. Unless you guys have some arrangement that is none of my business. But don't teach your kids that is love and marriage. Okay, tangent over. The thing that bothers me is that your child said it visibly upsets them, and you are acting like this is about showing them you support them. It is about needing to help them not hurt. Support is the bare minimum. You can ask them to be patient. You can try to come up with other solutions. You can put forth some effort. You said she is being ridiculous! This is why I think that parent is the asshole.
“i doubt any parent thinks their kid will transition” then they’re not prepared as a parent. and tbh, although the odds may let them get away with that assumption, the broader problem here is parents’ attachment to their own idea of who their kids are, and transness is just one prominent manifestation of that problem. ironically, holding on too hard to who the parent thinks their kid was is how they might end up not being their kid’s parent one day.
Story 6: as a parent who looked at my new born baby with so much love and joy and picked out a name. It can be hard to erase it.. it can be emotional even if this parent supports their journey.
Morgan, I wasn't screaming about your cthulhu pronunciation, but SOLELY because I was honestly struggling so hard to figure out what you were actually saying so I could google it myself and see what it looked like 😂 I eventually heard "octopus face, but a body with arms and wings" and "it's very pirates of the caribbean" and it finally clicked hahahaha
I wanna hear a Reddit story on how she became a business owner. That husband was toxic and having the mom on his shoulder trying to control that girl is INSANE
maybe op in story 6 can just cover up the name with make up for the time being- theres a bunch of great concealers or even eyeliners etc to cover it up with skin tone or color!
Not me who literally got paid less than $100 when I was a babysitter (usually 3 kids for multiple hours) thinking that it was a reasonable amount....14 year old me was in fact, getting conned
I used to get paid $25 for 4 kids 😂 if I got paid at all. Sometimes until 11pm. Granted it was my sister’s kids but later I found out she would pay another sitter a lot more so I stopped babysitting for her
I got 50 sek/hour for 4 kids. One was 11 and one was 8 tho, so they were mostly on their own except for homework help and me cooking. The 2 younger were 18 months and 3 years. I even did both potty training and toilet training (going from potty to toilet). I would say 50 sek/hour at the time is roughly 6$/hour nowadays, maybe 7$/hour.
@riley4028 yeah, I am just happy I survived. I was 14-16 so it became quite a lot. But in the beginning the baby was a newborn, so I only started watching her when she turned 14 months.
for the name tattoo I think a good idea would be to cover it up with something that has a special meaning, like if when she was little she loved a certain thing or if they had something they did together, or if they want to go the flower route her favorite flower, or they could like plant a flower together y'know??
My mom didn't have the tattoo yet, so not exactly the same, but she changed it to a nickname we used to have for me. I still don't necessarily like it, because it is gendered, but I prefer it over my dead name. I think your idea is good, and my mom said she would have done the same if she had gotten the tattoo before I came out anf changed my name.
@@SammyLammy1D yeah I think I would prefer a nickname, my family has nicknames for me from my dead name and some that have like nothing to do with my dead name
For the tattoo story, the mom would compromise on covering her tattoo if she could with bandages or any other tattoo but, I hope that Anna could later down the road accept her past and be happy with her journey. I hope she can heal and be happy in herself
The teen pregnancy one is WILD to me. That kind of age difference didnt seem to weird to me at 18, but now that im 27 i see a 18 year old and think "thats literally a child."
Age gaps can be dangerous, but my husband and I do have one. He is 6 yrs and 24 days older. Him and I were concerned about this when we started dating but I also knew almost immediately he was my soul mate (as someone who didn't believe in soul mates previously) we waited for 6 yrs to get married and he is probably the most supportive human I have ever met. I regularly forget we have an age gap until moments like this. I totally get that they can be dangerous but they aren't ALL bad.
Okay my husband is definitely a UA-cam husband but as soon as I start talking, about anything even really stupid..he pauses immediately! I can tell him a stupid story but he will pause it as soon as he hears my voice
The issue with the trans child and the tattoo is complex, but I do feel it’s very telling that the mother said the daughter was being ridiculous. That says to me that she’s still not taking Anna’s transition as seriously as she needs to and not validating her feelings. Speaking from experience as mom to a trans child myself.
I feel like the mom in the tattoo story could be a little more understanding. Like, the kid says it bothers her and the only response is “I don’t feel like it.” Why wouldn’t you try to figure out a compromise?
Would you consider reading "I Left My Boyfriend Over Laundry and I'm Not Sorry, and I Don't Regret It at All" if you haven't already? It's such a mindfuck and I'd love to hear your take on it
The baby sitting one just seems like a bit of a mean girls moment, they didn’t think about the babysitting and then were like whatever she’s a push over and she’ll just pay she’ll have the money cause they aren’t good friends.
My ex partner was amazing until I was pregnant and was a SAHM then he financially abused me and emotionally abused me. I wasn’t allow to even have a Key to our home. So it DOES happen. Abuse can be nothing at all then escalate out of no where.
As a mom- I'd struggle to remove or cover a tattoo of the name I gave to my kid. They may have came out and chose a new name but there needs to be some grace given to the parent who created them. My child goes by a different name but also understands that the name I chose for them had its own hopes and dreams. You can call it a dead name and in some way- when that person transitions- that person dies. I'm not really sure how to word it. Mom could always get a non-name tattoo to represent this new personality
I disagree with tattoo parent not being an asshole. Having the money to be able to change it and it meaning enough to the daughter that she won’t talk to the parent now and still being unwilling to even consider it makes me think they don’t care as much as they say they do. And obviously I don’t know these people but the opening bit about “I don’t care she’s transitioning as long as it doesn’t effect her GRADES” feels so unrelated and shitty and makes me feel like they were just trying to find a small reason to dislike or be hesitant of the transition
When she said she announced her pregnancy at HER DAUGHTER'S FUNERAL I literally stopped breathing for like 45 seconds. I almost understand the troll post remark because hopefully no one on this planet could be so HIDEOUSLY self-absorbed as to actually do this!
I love episodes with your close friends. You can immediately tell by your body language and tone and overall behaviour that you’re very comfortable and being relaxed and truly you, which is how I love you 🫶
Please 6 story makes me so angry, this woman got a tattoos specifically of her children names, so logically they have significant meaning behind them. So I don't understand why she used that phrase "oh they just a tattoos" when they are in fact not. just. tattoos. So of course her child is upset, bc they know the meaning behind it.
No reply back from OP on the candle Etsy link 😢 will keep you all posted!
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Going to assume yall have tried stalking her Reddit page to see if she mentions her shop on any Etsy subs? 😅
Eighteen is still a teenager. Nineteen is still a teenager. By US law, 18 is an adult, but someone who is less than a year out or high school should not be mentally considered an adult. 28 year old man was predatory.
This!
yeah the husband is a disgusting groomer. I'm glad she ended things
I agree!
Predatory *and* a mummy's boy who let his own wife and daughter be treated like shit for 7 yrs. Yikes.
he definitely groomed her 28-year-old man not only sought out but impregnated an 18-year-old girl and it gross
A good partner will HELP you make a safety net. My (now) husband made sure when I moved states to be with him that I had MY apartment, MY car and MY job so if things didn’t work out, I was not stuck alone with nothing. Needless to say, we are still together 25 years later ;)
“Everyone is probably screaming about my pronunciation of Cthulhu.” Yes. Yes I was screaming.
@@Imjustkendall phonetically it’s ka-thu-lu. “Ka” like car, “thu” like through without the ‘r,’ and “lu” like loo or Lou.
When she started saying Cthula at the end 😆 🐙🎀
I was dying laughing when she showed the picture! I couldn’t tell what the hell she was trying to say and when she showed the picture 😂
I died.
I was laughing screaming 😂
Also Kerri's commentary on the Lesbian Bar story is 100% on point (i'm a lesbian). I hate the fetishisation or treating our safe spaces like "themed" bars ... I can't count the amount of times I've been hit on by men IN LESBIAN SPACES and had them harrass me and girls i've been with in those spaces. The straight people getting uncomfortable at being hit on in a gay bar is so annoying tbh because I don't think they understand gay bars are the ONE place on earth we can actually approach people like straight people can. Literally everywhere else we can't approach people because the assumption is they're straight.
It's especially important to have these spaces for queer women, as we're not socialised to pursue anyone and we're hyper aware of making women uncomfortable bc we've experienced being made uncomfortable as women. So as a result, queer women in general have a really hard time hitting on other women.
I'm uneasy with the idea that this guys is using lesbians to make his friends inconfortable... I'm so sorry you have had men make you feel that way even in your space ❤
"If you are going to be dumb you got to be tough" lmao that is the best quote ever!
It comes from Jackass lol
It’s from a song :)
1:23:44 i dont think its silly to bring them to experience the reverse. He said he brought this up to them multiple times and they brushed him off and called him homophobic. He tried just talking to them. He obviously thought the only way they would understand what he’s going through it to show them.
oh my god thank you!!! i've been scrolling for so long trying to find someone mention this, it's such a wild take to say it's shitty for them to show them what it's like when clearly none of them gave a fuck about their feelings on this!!! i'm a lesbian and i don't give a fuck about them pulling this on the girls, they fully deserved this
YES! I can't believe people aren't talking about this. His intentions weren't ill or bad, he wanted them to experience what HE has experienced so they can understand where he's coming from. Looks like they still don't after giving him flack for it.
@@thefandomgeek1964yup! It seem like they always bash men when they give the women a taste of their own medicine. Yea they twisted it to make him the bad guy.
100% agree. It was the only thing left for OP to do, aside from leaving the friend group, to show them how he feels. And they still didn’t understand!
100% and i like the bar they went to explicitly said that they have no problem with cishet people being there.
Babysitter story is CRAZY. Girl bye. Ya can split that slave wage between the 4 of you
I'm sayin. Like wth
They're just friends with her so she can pay lmao
The 8 including the dads. INSANE
They're all so nice in their handling of it lol what popped into my head was the comeback, "thats so crazy cuz like I dont remember impregnating you!?" 😂
The SIL announcing her pregnancy at the funeral is insane. My brother in law’s fiancé had a brother pass away in his early 20’s. I asked before bringing my baby to the visitation and funeral because I didn’t want it to be triggering to the parents. (They actually said they wanted her there as she was a nice distraction and we are all close despite not being blood related).
Good for you for being forward-thinking and considerate. Hope your BIL's fiancé is doing better, losses too early are horrendous
Please add Kerri to the occasional rotation, she just gives such chill relatable vibes, LOVE
Yes!!!! I was also obsessed with her hair ❤️
She is so cool
ADD HER TO THE ROTATION
THIS, PLEASE
Hey, my name is Kerri. Lol. ❤ plus I had red hair. 😊
Story 5: Asking Op to pay for the babysitter with statement of “you get to spend time with us child free” sounds like when people say “my gift to you for your birthday is my presence in your life.”
Story 1- if MIL is mad at op for having a teen pregnancy then I think the implication there is that she thinks op babytrapped her son. It is such a stereotype of MILs to accuse the new girl of baby trapping their little boy lol
omg I bet you are right! And of course it's always terrible guys who have mothers who think they are such a catch. 😂 ick!
Thats what we call inmeshment
I have a feeling that the one who did the baby trapping was the ex-husband
Not to mention that a vehicle can function perfectly fine without a catalytic converter. It might be a bit louder while the car is idling, but it doesn't compromise the safety of anything mechanically. It is technically illegal to drive without one though. Regardless, MIL could have easily found the time and driven herself to a shop to get a new one. The car issue was just an excuse and a bad one at that.
I think she's projecting, because she disagrees with her son getting an 18-19yo pregnant at 25-26, but because her "perfect son can't ever be wrong" she decides it's the girl's fault
Me as a tattoo artist listening to Morgan saying a flower with no shading over a name would be easy peasy 🥲🥲🥲😂
i was thinking the same thing as someone who’s had a cover up done LMAO. shading is like…kinda part of a cover up most of the time💀 like the more shading the easier i think it would be theoretically to cover up whatever is underneath 😭😂
Seriously! I have a bunch of tattoos and a cover up and I've always been told, cover ups have to be bigger to properly cover the design with shading and they're usually more painful since there's existing scar tissue. It's an unfortunate situation, but I feel the placement might make it harder too. I shudder at the thought of a cover up on the neck
For 1:10:13
Morgan, the reason we have toenails is to protect our bones. So whenever you bump your pinky toe into the coffee table and it hurts, your nail is protecting your bones because they can be so easily broken. I don’t know if that’s the same reason for our fingernails, but that’s the reason we have toenails .
Oooo that does make sense. so wild!
I think people always ask the wrong person to "keep the peace.".
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS GOING TO COMMENT!!! Why is it always the wronged person who has to be the bigger person?!
Whenever I’ve been told his IRL I’ve asked this exact question because it’s so true and so unfair that it’s always the wronged person who is told to do this (and by extension let themselves keep getting treated badly) and never the one actually in the wrong told this and called out/held accountable
the Cthulhu reveal was so fucking funny i had no idea what y’all were talking about 😂😂😂
omg same hahahaha, I had no idea what Morgan was talking about until she described the head with octopus face and wings 🤣
RIGHT I WAS SO PERPLEXED AND THEN I WAS DYING LAUGHING
Literally lol🤣
sameee! I thought she misread T'Challa first... Cthulhu haven't even crossed my mind🤣🤣🤣
Ahahah I had NO clue until I saw the picture and just went "CTHULLU??"
Story 1: Demi said it best: Finally 29, 17 would *never* cross my mind. I don’t have a problem with age gaps, but if someone in that age gap has a brain that *scientifically has not fully developed* and is still growing as a person, that’s some predatory shit.
My opinion on the babysitter payment story : The person who pays for dinner shouldn't also have to pay for a sitter. Esp when they don't have a kid themselves. What about the 4 who don't pay for dinner, split the babysitting cost, or work something else out! OP absolutely should NOT have to contribute a single penny to the other womens babysitting fund.
Exactly! Are they paying for each other's daycare too??
If they all go on holiday, do they pay for each other's pet sitters too??? Wtf
TW? Autism discussion: I sleep with stuffed animals, always have. I bought a huge triceratops squishmallow during the pandemic and named him Daniel, we now have 3/4 different sized Daniels with names like Danny, Daniela, ect. They’re all cousins, one is even a doctor when my partner puts his glasses on it 😅. It’s become a long running joke with me and my partner and we laugh about it often…
Fast forward 3 years, I got diagnosed with Autism, personification of inanimate objects can often be an autistic trait and childlike objects are a comfort. I’ve since switched to a giant snorlax (Pokémon plushie) to sleep with and me and my partner still makes jokes about it, but he doesn’t care he joins in the fun. (He’s not thrilled about losing the extra bed space though) He also might be autistic, but undiagnosed. I think it’s about finding someone who enjoys the silliness too. We often talked about bids on this podcast and I think this is a bid for something lighthearted and silly.
Thank for this comment- my partner and I do this with our pets and stuffed animals, but based on the pod reaction and other comments, we thought we were the odds ones out! Turns out it just the autism and ADHD 😅
@@savdomachowske2967 Ain't that just the way 😂
I don't think Autism discussions should have trigger warnings
Scrolled down specifically to find a comment like this. As a nearly 30 year old autistic woman, it sounded VERY much to me like the fiance was autistic and burnt out, meaning she could no longer mask as much as before.
I know it wasn't intentional at all, but hearing them going on and on and ON about how stark raving mad they seemed to think she was was EXTREMELY ablist and COMPLETELY INFURIATING to me. I kept waiting for a comment or update to namedrop autism, and them to backpedal HARD, but sadly it never came. And even if it turned out she isn't autistic, what is so damn bad about coming up with silly little backstories for your adorable collection of plushes as a stress reliever??? Yes, it was a little silly to get upset over a dream your partner had, but emotional attachment and responses don't always make sense. And we don't know how OP explained the dream and his unease surrounding it to her either! Who is she hurting by doing this anyway??? What's the big damn problem??? Sounds like OP communicated his needs in the end and now his fiance is specifically carving out time for him. Not only that, but he is engaging in her silly little fantasies and strengthing their relationship while doing so! My partner and I do silly shit with each other and buy each other plushies and whatever ALL THE TIME. The reaction to the story was so disgusting and hurtful, I swear, original Reddit comments included. Why do people have to be so nasty??
I know this video (and this comment) are older, but GOD I had such a powerful reaction that I COULD NOT let it go without throwing out my two cents.
Totally agree!!! Im also autistic, and have a comfort plushie (a Monchichi plushie 🥺). When im extremely stressed, exhausted or burnt out, i take Monchichi with me everywhere and hold her all day long too. My partner will hype up me and my Monchichi. They will remember to pack my plushie for when we go to new events, and even sends me memes or things that remind them if Monchichi, an ask to take pictures and selfies together with my plushie too. The discussion of the last story did make me feel a bit discouraged and sad but im really happy the fiancé ended up playing along and felt that his partner was worth the effort!!! That was sweet, I hope they have a happy marriage with Kevin 😆
“You get the pleasure of hanging out with us.” Uhm you get the pleasure of hanging out with ME.
With the tattoo story:
Laser removal is incredibly painful and most of the time you cannot use numbing cream. I’m in the middle of laser removal and it’s one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt and I gave birth with no medication. It feels akin to putting your body part in hot grease and it heals about the same as a burn would. Once it heals, you have to go through the cycle over again because one pass never takes the ink out and sometimes they’re never removed completely. I think the mom is perfectly ok with not deciding to go through that pain. However, a coverup may be easier if it’s just lettering.
I AM removing an entire sleeve so it may be easier/less painful to remove a small tattoo, but the laser tech did a quick pass on my husband’s small finger tattoo because he was heckling me while I was going through the procedure and it brought tears to his eyes. I often leave shaking and nauseous from the pain.
i think that's not the main take away from this, it's a tattoo that loudly displays something that brings major distress to her daughter and she doesn't want to do anything about that? the mom should do whatever she can to change it just from that perspective, but how to go about it, i agree is not just black and white
@@roxxmaru I am on the mom’s side… it’s not fair that because the kid came out as trans but now the mother has to go through a painful procedure or get a tattoo. She probably doesn’t want on her body as a cover-up.
The kid is being completely unreasonable, and honestly very entitled
@@baileyspeltbeefy1768i can tell from your comment that you don't know much about the perils of a transgender life
@@roxxmaruIt is the mother's body tho. If it were me, I wouldn't feel entitled to basically manipulate or use emotional tactics to make someone change something on THEIR body because it hurts me. As insensitive as it may sound, the daughter can either wait till she cam afford to live on her own or just tough up. She's being extremely entitled, which is kinda understandable, since she's a kid. But that's not the way to go
I agree with you @mataylataynee
I've been wanting a THT and Smosh crossover ever since smosh started reading reddit stories AND IT'S HAPPENING. I'm so excited!
Right!! I'm so excited!!
WHAT?!? I had no clue and now I'm STOKED
Yesss!
WAIT WHAT??
I JUST LISTENED TO THAT PART OMG 2 THT×SMOSH EPISODES?? WE'RE BEING FED. We're just missing a Charlotte Dobre episode and my life would be complete
THE SMOSH COLLAB?!?! this is my multiverse of madness
the first story disgusts me. 25 and 18 is grooming and nothing will ever change my mind about that.
27*** and 18…so even worse than that. Agreed. Gross.
guys, she got pregnant at 18. How long were they together BEFORE that??
It seriously gives me the MONSTER ICK
have a friend in this situation currently and HOPE they don't get pregnant. it's so disgusting and she doesn't see how bad it is.
he was 27 and if she was pregnant at 18 i would assume they met before that....
Just came here to say that the throwing of food thing can start to trigger some PTSD for me personally. My ex husband used to either throw a drink or food all over me almost every single time we argued. It always felt so fucking degrading. Couple of years after finally escaping that shit show of a relationship my brother jokingly threw a banana peel at me and I instantly bawled my eyes out. Such a freaking triggering thing in my life 🫠
That's awful you had to go through that. I'm glad you're out of that relationship. I hope you practice self-care and heal. ❤
First story- everyone does suck with a special emphasis on the predator husband and his pick me mom 😂
Lol, can we all say it together... "INMESHMENT!"
@@bosslady88 yes! It’s so toxic
they can marry each other LMAO
idk I don't think the victim sucks at all
Hearing her call Cthulhu "A Cthulha" is the funniest thing in this video lol
The Chthulu part is hilarious. The stuffed version is very cute, so I have a hard time taking it seriously.
“If you’re gonna be dumb, you gotta be tough” 😂
With the dead name tattoo, she could still keep it personal by saying "if you would like me to get rid of it then why don't you find me a nice tattoo to cover it with" so it still has that personal touch
omg morgan, with love, the cthulhu mispronunciation was wild
Her quirky pronunciation used to annoy me and now it’s just a cute little Morgan thing. 😂
I'M SO CONFUSED HOW DOES SHE NOT KNOW CTHULHU??? I thought like everyone knows Lovecraft 💀
Cholula
Omg i was so confused until she put the picture 😂😂😂
I want to get a stuffed animal just like Kevin and name him Chachulu 😂
“Chachulah”. 💀💀💀 GIRL.
NO I WAS SCREAMING WHEN SHE SAID “it was an octopus with wings”
@@napoleoncomplex6236 When she first said it I was like “The hot sauce? 🤨” Then she started talking about painting dreams. 🤦🏾♂️😹
I had no idea wtf she was talking about until I saw the picture
Chachulah is comming for her
Lovecraft escapes millennials
@@srkh8966 I'd beg to differ, but i'm also a nerd 😂
The tattoo story. For me the mom and child just really need to sit down and have a heart to heart. Personally the way I see it is that mom got that tattoo as an expression for herself because their child is a part of them. So there wasn’t any bad intentions but I think the child needs to take a step back a little. I get that it’s your dead name and that’s not you anymore but that part of you was a part of your mom’s life and it will not go away. Either a cover up or sitting talking and coming to understanding of each other or even giving the tattoo a new meaning for both of them. But honestly it’s kinda a story of a lesson for everyone that names just aren’t something to get tattooed
honestly, besides the fact that trans people don’t need reminders of their deadnames and that can cause pretty bad dysphoria and uncomfortable feelings, and that the mom having an attachment to their child should be about who the child really is not just who the child was in the past, it’s deeper than that. Not all trans people want it to be known that they’re trans. Having your parent have both of their children’s names tattooed and one being a deadname can make it easily identifiable that that child is trans, and cause safety risks for the child outside of the mental health reasons. all trans ppl have different feelings, but if you got that tattoo bc you love your kid, why would you wanna keep it knowing it’s hurting the kid you love?
@@haligh.halighsounds like a personal problem.
@@teamlining7685 it quite literally is not
@@haligh.haligh why does it just matter what the trans person wants and not with the Mom wants??
Honestly, it all stories where someone is trans. Everyone around them, especially their loved ones are expected/demanded to do whatever the trans person wants or whatever the trans person says is best for them, and if they don’t want to comply with every single one of their demands, there made to feel shamed and guilty for it, and accused of not loving them and all that.
The mother should not have to go through a painful procedure or a tattoo cover-up of a tattoo that she might not want just because her kid came out as trans… just because you are trans does not mean you get final say and you get to decide what’s right and what is it and everyone else has to conformed your exact way of thinking and what you want or else they are in the wrong
Also, what if the mother is still attached to the kids she used to have and that could be a reason to why this tattoo is a very meaningful to her among many other reasons … after all, it is her body and her tattoo
@@baileyspeltbeefy1768 i mean i could explain it to you but i doubt that you actually want to try and understand. you’ve got a lot of biases and inaccurate perceptions that you should probably unpack at some point tho.
A partner throwing something is a deal breaker for me, and was a wake up call in my last relationship. I let him treat me like shit for years, but it wasnt until he started throwing and kicking things that the blinders came off and could see all the other ways in which he disrespected me. If hes willing to throw something at you, then the moment he doesnt have an object to grab he will inevitably throw hands.
I feel like I needed to read this? lol what ended my four year relationship was a pack of crackers being thrown at me 😂
This, throwing things is abuse. Abuse always starts small and escalates.
Shit mine did for a few months but a year later it’s to objects instead now. I really want to leave but this sht is too expensive. Can save as much as you want, doesn’t matter if you can’t maintain on your own. Good on you
@@KierstonKxshare there any resources in your city for shelter from domestic violence? I know theyre not everywhere but there may be some resources to help you escape and keep him from finding you. Also worthwhile to have a safeword with friends (if you have anyone close by who can come and pick you up or come and physically be with you) to let them know you're scared and need backup without your partner reading the message and knowing exactly whats happening.
There may be online communities to seek advice and support from people who have gone through this.
This isnt your fault, you deserve better and I hope you are eventually able to get away from him. Please stay safe, and know you're not completely alone. 💜
I’ve had things thrown at me and stayed. Even had an ex spit in my face and stayed. It takes a lot, sometimes for the blinders to come off. I hope hers comes off before he gets worse, because it will happen. He wanted to degrade her and make her feel as small as she made him feel with her comment or question. But I don’t blame her for it. She is pregnant and I know I had highlighted emotions at that time, and for someone to act like they are flat out ignoring you, while trying to have a serious conversation, I would have probably said the same thing.
hearing Morgan say 'Cthulu" killed me that whole story 😂😂😂 i know not everyone knows of it or H.P.Lovecraft, but ive never heard it said that way lmao.
Comparing getting your literal child’s name tattooed on you to a boyfriends name is so unhinged 😂🤦🏼♀️ not at all the same
I was literally reading the comments to find out if someone called her out for this 😂 Love her, but literally no 😂🤣
Thanks for this comment, I thought I was crazy
Yea I feel like the child in this situation is being a hypocrite. Because just like they have autonomy over your own bodies 😅
Tbh I think the only tattoos people should get with words are quotes and dead people. Two things that couldn’t change. My old friend also got her kids name tattooed, who ended up trans and now wants the same. Didn’t realize it was a more common occurrence.
I thought it was an ok comparison! It’s like if you had new partner that was uncomfortable with your ex’s name on you in such a visible place. That choice is way more likely to go wrong than your child changing their name but I think it could help some people understand. Either way I get the tattooed person not wanting to change their body so it should 100% be their choice. But I do think because it’s your child it would be kind to consider changing it.
story #1-good for her for divorcing that guy!!!! i can relate to her, i had a similar experience with my ex. i started dating him when i was younger and we also had an age gap. it was my first relationship ever and i let his toxic behavior and red flags pass for 2 years. he would also "punish" me if i made him mad or questioned him at all, it was always his way or the highway, MAJOR CONTROL. he once left me at a hotel 2 hours way from my house, with no ride home, because i "said something that made him upset". and i still took him back after that....WTF. it took my aunt and friends to make me realize how he was treating me was not okay, and if it weren't for them, i probably would still be with him. i am fortunate that i got out of it when i did, and im so glad i didn't have a child with him or got married.
4:29 1. AITA For Abandoning my MIL?
23:30 2. My husband lied about his tattoo
32:12 3. WIBTAH for not inviting SIL to baby shower?
41:12 4. My husband threw food at me
50:31 4.5. AITA for making my husband wear a mask?
53:14 5. AITA for not chipping in on babysitting costs?
1:10:40 6. AITA for not getting a tattoo removal of my child’s dead name?
1:20:38 7. AITA for taking my straight girl friends to a lesbian bar?
1:31:48 8. Fiancé likes cuddling with stuffed animals
Bless you😭🙏🏾
As a lesbian, I can confirm there is a serious lack of lesbian bars in this country.
Agreed
The baby sitting story. It's the fact that no one had to worry about paying for her babysitting up until this point but some how this childless person has to take care of theirs???? My perspective: they saved money by her not having a child and they should continue to save that to pay for this particular date. Crappy friends for sure
The big reveal of Cthulhu was magical
The first one she told her husband no. From that point it was his responsibility to call his mother and let her know and for him to pick her up or to find her a ride.
Morgan’s voice is so soothing that I actually enjoy listening to the ads
STOPPPPPPPPPP I’ve been WAITING for the Smosh collab 😭😭 literally so excited. Also Kerri is an adorable human and has such a wholesome and sweet presence 💞
Brittany Broski needs to be on this podcast!!!
I haven't seen or heard or this Queen, but I loved & agreed with her the whole time! ❤ I literally talk 2 Morgan & whatever guest is on, like I'm in the room with them!! 😂
Yeeessss oh my god I feel like it would be the funniest 😆
No thank you
@@asiya-3255real af
I agree so much!! It would be a great episode
Sooo excited to see you and Shane talk about Reddit stories together. I watch both of you every week ❣️❣️🥰🥰
my favorite part: "why do YOU think you weren't invited" we feel like we have to explain things to death to everyone. life gets a lot easier when you realize you don't owe everyone and their dog an explanation for your choices.
for story 4 i’m so petty i simply would clean myself off, make an appointment with PPH, get an abortion and then file for divorce 🤷🏻♀️
I really like Kerri, she's very relatable and in many of the stories she was pointing out exactly what I was thinking. Hope you'll have her again in the future! Her insights were nice to hear.
Yes! More Kerri, less Lauren 😅
@@typicaljulikI love Lauren 😕
@@jelian I personally don't have anything against her but her takes, more often than not, drive me crazy
the first story got me thinking when you guys started talking about prefrontal lobes and how hers wasn't developed yet and why that's so important when it comes to big age gaps like that, if she had her at 19 and was married to him for 6 or 7 years then divorced him she probably divorced him around the time her prefrontal lobe had actually fully developed, i just found that interesting
Caffeine can have an adverse affect on people with ADHD! I drink a doctor pepper before bed because it calms me haha.
Yeah I have ADHD and caffeine does absolutely nothing to me
@@blackgirlmagiccit never did anything for me until I got on Vyvanse LOL
Yeah my adhd....caffeine is calming. And like it slows my brain to a functioning level 😅
Haha yup! People always loom at me funny when I say those products don't do it for me. Like no juice of energy lol but I do avoid caffeine for my kidney health
This makes sense… I can have a coffee and than take a nap. I’ve always wondered WHY?! If I’m tired, I’m tired!
Disagree with the whole tattoo thing, if the mother is uncomfortable getting it removed she has every right to keep it. Daughter is being a bit hypocritical but regardless once upon a time that tattoo meant something amd has a memory behind it. Its a part of the moms story however she wants to portray it. 1:18:38
omg the babysitting payment story! i read that and was mad. their kids, their probelm. she doesnt need to pay for anything. my group have 2 moms, while we do go out. they make sure they are taken care of money wise. they never ever ask us parent less adults to pay.
soo dumb
Charlotte Dobre!
For a wedding, bride/groomzilla stories would be great!!
Cthulhu story- this is giving strong autistic vibes, as someone who does this myself. It's a semi-common coping mechanism for neurodivergent people from what I've been told, whether it be from stress or trauma.
my comment to the first story: I am a SAHM. My husband and I had a long hard talk about it when my oldest was starting school ( age 4) and had ASD. I personally did not have a career, just a job so leaving my job after working there 10 years to be available for my kids, I was fine with it. I now have two boys. one who had ASD and one who had ASD/ADHD. It works out best for us, that I can be available to go get them from school or preschool and they are having a rough day, sick, picking them up for appointments and so on. Yes I don't make money right now, but I do contribute in other ways to the house hold. I'm super lucky that my husband and I have constant conversations on the budget, bills and such and he doesn't money control the situation. He also is super supportive in my crazy dreams. I have been working on a business proposal to start my own food company and run my own food truck, and I will be ready to make the big move in 5 years when both boys are more stable and confident in school that I don't have to be on call 24/7
Sorry I rambled on there. ADHD brain gets me every time :)
omg i never thought about it as a collab but i would love to see canceled on here💀💀
Morgan and Brooke together would be so good!! Idk about Tana though, she might be a bit of a menace.
@@TheEnthusiasticHoboi just think it would be very unserious and i'm here for that LMAO
I usually listen via podcast but I just had to come here and comment about the tattooed dead name thing cause!!! as a queer person we need to stop being so hateful toward the people that care about us just because they’re not adapting to our queerness in the exact way we want!! No one is perfect, people make mistakes and while their mom could get it covered or lasered why are we flipping the script and policing HER body when they aren’t doing that to their child. That name is no longer their child’s, it’s dead, and I think forcing your mom who has already shown her support to undergo a long procedure to get it removed is very ridiculous. I understand where the kid is coming from but having patience goes a long long way. Also comparing it to getting a boyfriends name tattooed is not the same at all, personally I think if you’re going to get any name on you your child’s is the safest bet and plenty of people have done that for decades.
1st story: my take is , if I go no contact with someone I go “no. Contact.” I would have left her ass there too. 😂
Hell yes for the divorce I’d support her candle business if I knew her shop 😆😆
I don't blame her at all 💀 i was surprised the vote was ETA
Honestly i agree with the mom in the tattoo story. Shes being extremely respectful and supportive that doesnt erase the xhild she gave birth to and i dont think she should have to change something on her body
I thought the straw was in the can until Morgan picked up the diet coke and revealed there is a whole other cup behind it
#1 Story, Shame on husband for putting this on wife, when he was told no. I have alot of experience with a husband who used to do this.
OMG shayne/smosh/two hot takes collab I CANT WAIT!!!! 🥰🥰😍❤️ pleeeeease do a Reddit on wiki collab I really really want it and so do they!! Love you guys so much! 100/10 episode today!! Loved Kerri😊🥰
I second the reddit on wiki collab! I think it would be so fun and chaotically wholesome haha
On story 6:
I feel like her daughter only recently coming out makes the removal of the name a little premature. I have no doubt the transition is real and not a phase, but her identity is being explored and may keep maturing and changing for a bit.
It’s possible she likes the look or it is part of another tattoo. Cover ups, while cheaper, often end up much larger and darker than the original tattoo, and it’s on her neck so it could be a bit much. Removal is painful and expensive and takes time often requiring multiple sessions, and often scars leaving the general outline/shape of the tattoo, so she may be left with the name in a scar anyways. If it’s easy to remove or cover I would personally want to do it for her, but I don’t think asking her to be patient is unreasonable either.
I do also want to say, getting your children’s names tattooed on you is NOT the same as a boyfriend you might break up with. A good parent will always be their parent, and I doubt any parent thinks their kid will transition. Most children don’t change their name, or even if they do wouldn’t be offended by the old one. The girl isn’t unreasonable for not liking seeing it or wishing it was gone, but I don’t think most parents would equate a boyfriend’s name to the children’s name in terms of risk factor.
I definitely disagree. We only get to pick our kids' names because they can't. We should be ready for them to change them if they wish. It should not be up to us, and getting a tattoo of your child's name across your neck lacks foresight. What child wants to see even their own name like that? And I am tired of people acting like significant others are not as important. We absolutely must protect our kids first. It is our responsibility. But there are wayyy too many people who don't give a shit about their husband or wife but adore their children. Balance, folks. If you don't give a shit about them, leave. That is it. Unless you guys have some arrangement that is none of my business. But don't teach your kids that is love and marriage. Okay, tangent over.
The thing that bothers me is that your child said it visibly upsets them, and you are acting like this is about showing them you support them. It is about needing to help them not hurt. Support is the bare minimum. You can ask them to be patient. You can try to come up with other solutions. You can put forth some effort. You said she is being ridiculous! This is why I think that parent is the asshole.
“i doubt any parent thinks their kid will transition” then they’re not prepared as a parent. and tbh, although the odds may let them get away with that assumption, the broader problem here is parents’ attachment to their own idea of who their kids are, and transness is just one prominent manifestation of that problem. ironically, holding on too hard to who the parent thinks their kid was is how they might end up not being their kid’s parent one day.
The stuffed animal update had me CACKLING on my way to work 💀💀
Omg me too, that was so hilarious
I feel for the writer getting divorced at 43. However- my dad got divorced at 60 (married for 42 years) and married the love of his life at 64!
i’m now convinced Kevin the plushie being a trump supporter is why he won the election 😂
EDIT - Shane from Smosh i’m SCREAMINGGGGG IM SO EXCITED 😭
Story 6: as a parent who looked at my new born baby with so much love and joy and picked out a name. It can be hard to erase it.. it can be emotional even if this parent supports their journey.
I’m crying lmaoooo they accidentally rediscovered the fear of the unknown w/ Cthulhu. HP Lovecraft would be… well, not proud, but that’s for the best.
Morgan, I wasn't screaming about your cthulhu pronunciation, but SOLELY because I was honestly struggling so hard to figure out what you were actually saying so I could google it myself and see what it looked like 😂 I eventually heard "octopus face, but a body with arms and wings" and "it's very pirates of the caribbean" and it finally clicked hahahaha
Story 1: im sooooo happy we got a happy ending we need a whole video with GOOD ENDINGS
I wanna hear a Reddit story on how she became a business owner. That husband was toxic and having the mom on his shoulder trying to control that girl is INSANE
maybe op in story 6 can just cover up the name with make up for the time being- theres a bunch of great concealers or even eyeliners etc to cover it up with skin tone or color!
The changing names after marriage argument is a goodd onee literally soo easy for everybody to remember 🎉
Not me who literally got paid less than $100 when I was a babysitter (usually 3 kids for multiple hours) thinking that it was a reasonable amount....14 year old me was in fact, getting conned
I used to get paid $25 for 4 kids 😂 if I got paid at all. Sometimes until 11pm. Granted it was my sister’s kids but later I found out she would pay another sitter a lot more so I stopped babysitting for her
I got 50 sek/hour for 4 kids. One was 11 and one was 8 tho, so they were mostly on their own except for homework help and me cooking. The 2 younger were 18 months and 3 years. I even did both potty training and toilet training (going from potty to toilet).
I would say 50 sek/hour at the time is roughly 6$/hour nowadays, maybe 7$/hour.
@@almaliciapg justice for all the siblings who were underpaid because they were family!!!!
@@SammyLammy1D You are a saint for doing all of that. Holy shit
@riley4028 yeah, I am just happy I survived. I was 14-16 so it became quite a lot. But in the beginning the baby was a newborn, so I only started watching her when she turned 14 months.
OMG Shayne and you doing episodes together is amazing!!! My two favourite reddit shows!!! I am so excited for both these episodes!!!
for the name tattoo I think a good idea would be to cover it up with something that has a special meaning, like if when she was little she loved a certain thing or if they had something they did together, or if they want to go the flower route her favorite flower, or they could like plant a flower together y'know??
My mom didn't have the tattoo yet, so not exactly the same, but she changed it to a nickname we used to have for me. I still don't necessarily like it, because it is gendered, but I prefer it over my dead name.
I think your idea is good, and my mom said she would have done the same if she had gotten the tattoo before I came out anf changed my name.
@@SammyLammy1D yeah I think I would prefer a nickname, my family has nicknames for me from my dead name and some that have like nothing to do with my dead name
For the tattoo story, the mom would compromise on covering her tattoo if she could with bandages or any other tattoo but, I hope that Anna could later down the road accept her past and be happy with her journey. I hope she can heal and be happy in herself
I would love to see Kerri on another episode!❤
First story made me cry. I’m so proud of OP
01:14:30 The sunflower is the symbol for hidden disabilities. 🌻
I carry an official sunflower lanyard because of a TBI.
I was so confused because they are my favorite flower! How can they represent something bad?
@@texasgirldancing6182They don’t mean anything bad. It was just a what if scenario.
The teen pregnancy one is WILD to me. That kind of age difference didnt seem to weird to me at 18, but now that im 27 i see a 18 year old and think "thats literally a child."
🙈 REDDIT ON WIKI!!! they really wanna collaborate too 🤣🤣🤣 this would be an amazing crossover! or collab lol ❤️
Age gaps can be dangerous, but my husband and I do have one. He is 6 yrs and 24 days older. Him and I were concerned about this when we started dating but I also knew almost immediately he was my soul mate (as someone who didn't believe in soul mates previously) we waited for 6 yrs to get married and he is probably the most supportive human I have ever met. I regularly forget we have an age gap until moments like this. I totally get that they can be dangerous but they aren't ALL bad.
Okay my husband is definitely a UA-cam husband but as soon as I start talking, about anything even really stupid..he pauses immediately! I can tell him a stupid story but he will pause it as soon as he hears my voice
omg i think he has a crush on you 🥹
Tell him that's something you really appreciate about him. I do think it's important that we acknowledge our partner's good qualities 😊
That's so sweet ❤ i used to date a guy who never put down the UA-cam while i talked, even when i asked him not to 🚩
The issue with the trans child and the tattoo is complex, but I do feel it’s very telling that the mother said the daughter was being ridiculous. That says to me that she’s still not taking Anna’s transition as seriously as she needs to and not validating her feelings. Speaking from experience as mom to a trans child myself.
I feel like the mom in the tattoo story could be a little more understanding. Like, the kid says it bothers her and the only response is “I don’t feel like it.” Why wouldn’t you try to figure out a compromise?
I love how Morgan is reading off of an iPad and they used their fingers rather than the calculator on the iPad 😂🤣🤣
Would you consider reading "I Left My Boyfriend Over Laundry and I'm Not Sorry, and I Don't Regret It at All" if you haven't already? It's such a mindfuck and I'd love to hear your take on it
Just read it 😢 what a story
Now I went and read it. Fucking real, man, they should def use it.
I just read it as well. I definitely got chills while reading this all alone. Wishing her the best and hope she’s okay 🥲
TLDR??
Yeah can you give us a quick/ general summary?
The baby sitting one just seems like a bit of a mean girls moment, they didn’t think about the babysitting and then were like whatever she’s a push over and she’ll just pay she’ll have the money cause they aren’t good friends.
My ex partner was amazing until I was pregnant and was a SAHM then he financially abused me and emotionally abused me. I wasn’t allow to even have a Key to our home. So it DOES happen. Abuse can be nothing at all then escalate out of no where.
Wait in the first story the update OP said that she was married for seven years… her kid is 7… so how long were they dating before
😭 so true
As a mom- I'd struggle to remove or cover a tattoo of the name I gave to my kid. They may have came out and chose a new name but there needs to be some grace given to the parent who created them. My child goes by a different name but also understands that the name I chose for them had its own hopes and dreams. You can call it a dead name and in some way- when that person transitions- that person dies. I'm not really sure how to word it. Mom could always get a non-name tattoo to represent this new personality
I disagree with tattoo parent not being an asshole. Having the money to be able to change it and it meaning enough to the daughter that she won’t talk to the parent now and still being unwilling to even consider it makes me think they don’t care as much as they say they do. And obviously I don’t know these people but the opening bit about “I don’t care she’s transitioning as long as it doesn’t effect her GRADES” feels so unrelated and shitty and makes me feel like they were just trying to find a small reason to dislike or be hesitant of the transition
When she said she announced her pregnancy at HER DAUGHTER'S FUNERAL I literally stopped breathing for like 45 seconds. I almost understand the troll post remark because hopefully no one on this planet could be so HIDEOUSLY self-absorbed as to actually do this!
Friends dinner story- maybe it's time everyone just pays for their own sh-t
Story 6. I as a mother have always said I’ll never get my kids names tattooed on me because they could change it when they’re older.
I would LOVE a Reddit On Wiki collab😭😭😭
I love episodes with your close friends. You can immediately tell by your body language and tone and overall behaviour that you’re very comfortable and being relaxed and truly you, which is how I love you 🫶
Please 6 story makes me so angry, this woman got a tattoos specifically of her children names, so logically they have significant meaning behind them. So I don't understand why she used that phrase "oh they just a tattoos" when they are in fact not. just. tattoos. So of course her child is upset, bc they know the meaning behind it.