Story 2: Did this man really just say his wife should reschedule her c-section for a couple weeks early?? Those poor twins would be struggling to breathe in the NICU if they’re born prematurely. This man is absurd. I cannot imagine the level of narcissism that goes into a suggestion like this.
I’m blown away….i HOPE this is because dude is highly uneducated about pregnancy and how that actually works. I sympathize that his parents need help and I wonder what the family issues are. Dude clearly doesn’t understand what his wife is going through and what is about to come. I would DEMAND my husband tell me what the fuck is going on. Like I said I know his parents need help but why can’t op go now and then come back before his wife has the babies?
It must be fake. No reap person can be so dumb to suggest that I listened to that and thought wait I thought a c section is a way of giving birth?? You can't just say give birth a few weeks earlier. I really thought my English skills let me down and I didnt know it can mean any other kind of surgery
@@ESamsung-rl4ie yeah that's so insane. Why would they book a ticket without discussing the date. And how is it so secret? Like sure don't even post an equivalent on reddit secret fine but don't tell the wife?
First story- how much do you wanna bet that the therapist told the husband to make a list and he just told OP that it was an assignment for her! That way he doesn’t have to do it, and when she refused, he was trying to guilt her into it
Either that, or he lied to the therapist. Because of the whole "my therapist says you should show me more appreciation" makes me believe he didn't told the therapist everything she does for him
I thought that too that it was his assignment, but struggled to come up with positive traits about himself so he told his wife that it was her assignment.
I was getting major weaponized incompetence vibes. I doubt the therapist said anything negative about OP. I think the husband is just pissed off that his wife is finally growing a spine and asserting her needs and now he doesn't get to be a spoiled child. So now he's made up how this therapist is saying OP is doesn't appreciate him so things can go back to how he wants. Honestly if he doesn't even have a therapist at all it wouldn't surprise me. Dude is a massive manipulator.
Story 3 sounds like he enjoyed the daddy thing because it made him feel like he was in control in the relationship, and that he was OP's actual superior in life, that he could order her around and belittle her. The fact that she asserted herself as an equal adult during the move broke his illusion. That's why he said "it's not our dynamic anymore", because it basically translates to "I stopped seeing you as this thing I could control to my pleasure, now I see you as an adult who can make independent choices and disagree with me, you're not a 'good girl' anymore because you weren't obedient".
Literally this lol, daddy doms being abusive is sooo common, they had a dynamic where he was dominant and 'owned' her and she was submissive and obedient and he's lost that by her sticking up for herself... Sooooo
It sounds like the dynamic is toxic for both. She put herself down a lot and criticized her own response like the "child" she plays out. I think the roles are a little too real for them and hopefully she will uncover more of that in therapy.
How about the WEIRDNESS of -- We are moving but I won't tell you what day. ??? Gurlz --- GROW UP! That was clue ONE in this narrative and probably clue Ten Thousand in OP's life. It makes me very sad but even when I was OP's age I would have thought that alone was nuts . Okay, you won't tell me our MOVING DAY?... Guess I need my OWN moving day, "Daddy!"
Story 6 - I think there is still more to the brother’s side. I truly believe he tried to SA her while she was sleeping and tried to use the prank as an excuse. That’s probably why the aunt did a double take when the cops were there.
story 6: i think the little brother was trying to SA her. also, even if he wasn't, her reaction was completely justified! she didn't KNOW it was him, he was wearing a mask, standing over her in her sleep??? in what world is that not a threat to attack?
That might have been why he played the victim so fast and wanted his brother to cut her off right away, just in case she said something happened. Maybe that's why she didn't want to talk about what happened either.
Story 2 - saw this on tik tok ages ago. The update from her was that she saw them post a family photo in matching shirts. It was a reunion. She served him papers when he came back.
Story 6 brother is a straight up abusive sadist. And op was enabling it. And "Ur.....um I just froze" isn't good enough seeing him with a mask and hearing her scream, knowing she was sleeping. What kind of creepy fk enters a room wearing a mask with a vulnerable sleeping girl where sa *isn't* involved? There's a difference between a loving prank and abuse, harassment and assault.
She was also asleep at a party full of people. If someone creeps in, screw the fear of spiders, someone creeps around the groom when she's sleeping, First thought is someone is there to assault me
I heard this story before and noticed most everyone’s thought is that he tried to assault, especially since she didn’t even want to talk to her boyfriend about what happened especially since something so violent is hard to admit
@@stephjovi 💯 I once punched my brother in the face coz he thought I looked so cute and adorable and tried to kiss me on the cheek when he saw me sleeping. I was 17 at the time and he's 6 yrs older than me. He's always been a paternal figure to me so I get why he couldn't resist but he also trained me in martial arts from a very early age so part of him was hurt I'd go for him that easily but part of him was also impressed that he knew I'd know exactly what to do if I'd felt threatened by any other guy.
He did. I didn't see the wife's post, but apparently, she posted her own. From what I've seen, he went - the big thing he was needed for? A family portrait. That apparently takes 6 weeks - and she went to her parents house and divorced him. He also apparently only married her for a green card.
Story 6: I read this right after OP posted it, and read it to my husband, who has 3 brothers. He is extremely close with all of them and helped raise them all. He told me he wouldn’t hesitate to bring hell on any of them if they fucked with me the way OP’s brother did. He also brought up the point that there is no reason outside of an emergency situation for the brother to be in the room Lola was sleeping in. Dude was creepy as hell and I fully believe he was planning on doing more than just pranking her.
Story 1: I honestly find it hard to believe that a man who can’t or refuses to email his work colleagues and friends went out and found a therapist. I think he made the therapist up entirely and he is just going to a parking lot somewhere when he says he’s going and making up assignments.
Yeah also if he struggles opening up to his wife/ talking to his friends, how the heck is he managing to fully open up to multiple strangers?? If he is seeing a therapist, he’s definitely not being 100% honest about why he’s there. The wife should’ve been going with him (and I know she doesn’t want that burden, but she has No idea what he’s actually saying to a therapist or if he’s going at all)
@@Ciela531A therapist should know that they can’t pass judgement on the partner cause he is giving his perception of their relationship, which could be clouded by whatever he is going through mentally. Either he’s not seeing a therapist or he’s twisting what the therapist actually said. Whatever is going on it’s clear her husband is dealing with something serious.
This exactly. Unless it was through a church group. Therapists aren't even allowed to mention their own religion, or ideas, let alone push religion on anyone. That's not a therapist. Betting it was a bs excuse
Like seriously y’all, how is that guy still married?? (Especially since it seemed like he wants to be a dad to these kids given they tried for so many years and finally had a successful IVF, he should be ECSTATIC and not want to leave her or the kids side) Just a few things I find way too absurd given how OP presented the story but makes himself seem like a complete idiot that I pray it was just Rage bait - 1. Asking her to move up the delivery date by a couple weeks, like it’s just any old regular doctor’s appointment! Does he not understand that she is growing their children and those twins will need as long as possible?? 2. Twins are a risky birth, and she’s apparently already having other health complications, which is why they’re going with C-section I assume. Often times, c-section babies/ twins especially will need to spend hours - days in the NICU just to make sure they are fully stable, all organs have fully developed, and that the babies are safe to go home. 3. She’s having a C-SECTION! She needs to be on strict bed rest for several days/ a few weeks in order to heal and shouldn’t be lifting anything that weighs more than 5 pounds. How’s she supposed to make herself food?? Let alone take care of 2 NEWBORNS!! 4. That first month after birth is when new moms are at their highest risk for developing Post Partum Depression. And he wants to leave her ALONE to deal with 2 newborns and all of the stress that comes with that??? Seriously this dude doesn’t understand pregnancy or childbirth/ raising children, and it genuinely terrifies me that he would even consider leaving his wife alone to go manage a secret family mission, let alone write about it on Reddit AFTER having dared to ask his wife about it (I feel SO bad for her). His family definitely sounds like controlling narcissists. I grew up with parents similar to this, where I would feel awful if I didn’t drop things and prioritize my family. And I’d justify with things like “oh I really want to see them”, “oh they really need me there”, “I don’t want to disappoint them”, “family is so important!” Thankfully I met a great guy who kindly but blatantly showed me how much I was being taken advantage of and needed to grow a backbone (I was a doormat y’all 😅). An amazing counselor was also extremely helpful for getting through it 🤍 Anyways it definitely seems like some controlling behaviors are happening here with his family and he’s just convinced himself that they should take priority because that’s what he grew up believing. It takes a something massive sometimes to shatter that view. Hopefully Reddit was able to open this dude’s eyes (if it was a true story - gotta stay optimistic on this one though because otherwise it just breaks my heart for that mom)
@@annecal2545 but the wife post was made after the woman gave birth. I bet the story happened but actual husband never posted on reddit to ask opinions. This one we just heard was made to get attention.
I have seen multiple therapists throughout my life, and I have NEVER had one state their opinion of my partner. Even when I would directly ask questions about my relationship, it was always directed back to me and my process. There are always exceptions. But likely he lied to make his case stronger.
I've only seen a couple of therapists, but I also know many ppl who have been in therapy. Not once in my life has anyone ever said that their therapist voiced their like or dislike for their patients SO. So weird, and if it's true, it's extremely unprofessional!
the last therapist i saw i got in with specifically to help me feel confident leaving an abusive relationship. i laid it all out on the line, and she said “but you’re happy, aren’t you?” i never saw her again tbh 😂 and didn’t go back to another therapist. i ended up leaving the relationship on my own but it was well into a year later
This! Even when I was previously in an abusive marriage my therapist said to me “I can’t tell you to get a divorce, but is this really the way you want to live the rest of your life?” Then she even told me to see if he’d be willing to come to couples therapy. When he refused, I decided it was time to file for divorce and I actually didn’t end up going back to that one therapist. However, I did reach out to her years later to say thank you.
Mi mamá ha estado en terapia muchos años, y para entender la dinámica familiar nos pidió a todos ir a una sesión con ella y mi mamá. Solo nos preguntó sobre cómo veíamos a mi mamá y a la dinámica familiar. Eso después de más de año y medio de terapia
As a teenager I'd had wished that my therapist told me that what my then bf did to me was not alright. She was the only person I told at that time and she didn't say anything when I told her that my 9 years older bf (I was 16 at that time and he was 25) basically raped me til I was crying and pressured me into having intimacy with him constantly after that. I took it as a "ok, this is normal then, right?" and sadly stayed in that relationship longer than I needed to.
Story 6 - imagine the trauma she went through to have this response. I dated a guy who was m*lested as a child and had to be woken up a particular way because he would immediately go to fight mode. What a piece of shit human to think THATS a prank. Love the gf’s friends. Hell yes, get me tf out.
Story 6: To me, this seems to be a pattern that repeated itself throughout childhood and high school as well. Being the bully with the typical family who responds by saying that "it's just a little joke" and that "he's a joker" every time he does something because he knew who to target. That's why I think it's so easy for everyone to blame her for reacting to something they've normalized when it's clearly not her fault.
A prank is a prank. There are reasons that people don't like pranks. Did you hear about the guy that was pranking some stranger in the mall? Well, the victim shot the prankster. He lived. The shooter ended up getting off and not facing charges because either the judge or jury agreed that the prank was wrong.
Thats not pranks though. Pranks don't mentally or physically harm others. That's called abuse. or harassment. A prank is a silly thing that doesn't cause any harm that literally every single person would smile about or find amusing
Reschedule a c section by a couple weeks!? When my partner had a c section she barely could climb in and out of bed. OP needs their head shaken and put his nuclear family first.
Story 6 - I’m convinced the little brother was trying to assault her. He took advantage of her sleeping disorder, the fact that everyone was busy in the party, went into the room in a mask! He literally believed he would be able to assault her without being recognized, and if she claimed she was assaulted they would brush it off as if she was having a nightmare.
Ommmggggg that is so sinister. So scary because it adds up. He probably is bigger than her and believed he stood a chance in dominating her. I'm glad she was able to punch him ❤
I didn't even think about that. Especially since we had a story on this podcast where the boyfriend did pranks on OP that specifically triggered her PSTD. Wouldn't be surprised if that's the same dude
Story 3: no type of relationship excuses abuse. You don't just smack your partner with a "punishment" when they are going through an extremely stressful time. Punishments and any life style should be gone over in detail. What kind of Punishment is okay? What times should those be excluded. And you should have a safe word for them anyway. If that's what you want in a relationship. One person doesn't get to decide. He only has the power you lend to him. You have more power than he does tbh. And he's wasting a precious gift.
Story 2 - if this were my partner I would fully tell him that if he left me for SIX WEEKS after going through a traumatic surgery to give birth to HIS CHILDREN, I’d tell him to not plan to come back fr
Right !!! It's so much on the mother already. Recovering a C section and having twins???? The husband is definitely the a$$hole. Your wife and children are first now
Yeah....I'd be calling his parents and telling them to make it a one way ticket. I had a c-section and nearly died. If my husband wasn't there for any reason other than his own death, once I healed from the c-section, his own death would likely be imminent. (Just kidding...mostly.) He sure as would NOT be married anymore!!! (NOT JOKING)
I can't get over the part where he asked her to just have them a couple of weeks early. Whole a$$ weeks. Does he not recognize that babies are in the womb for 40 weeks to make sure they're cooked all the way??? Like??? Sir??? And the fact is twins take up so much space they never make it to term, keeping twins in as long as you can is so crucial my head is spinning he asked this woman to half bake their babies so he can leave anyways, divorce him so hard.
You don't want raw baby. You gotta cook that shit all the way through. They don't taste the same when you finish cooking them in an incubator. But seriously though she needs a better husband.
Girrrls, please collab with Charlotte Dobre, this would be so much fun for unhinged, yet heartfelt reactions. ❤ She's a Canadian, you're almost Canadian 😄😘
Story 6 made me so sad for Lola and OP. I have Narcolepsy and it is truly so debilitating, stigmatized, and misunderstood as is. Besides being chronically exhausted, Narcolepsy causes HORRIFYINGLY vivid nightmares, hallucinations, sleep paralysis, etc. I get startled just by my husband getting up in the night. So I cannot even imagine the terror she must have been feeling waking up to that. But narcolepsy affects our significant others as well as they often have to pick up our slack, be care takers, and be extra flexible to cater to our sleep. it sounds like OP was actually understanding and a good partner to her and his family ruined it for him. There may be more to the story but I do feel badly that Lola did break up with him
I was so surprised no one else seemed to mention her narcolepsy in the comments. But I guess people without sleep disorders (I have IH) know less about it. I’m so sorry for everything you have to go through, I can’t imagine having to deal with cataplexy - the daytime fatigue is bad enough on its own.
I ran to Reddit to comment about the first one. I have been in TWO relationships with men like this. I have wasted so many years being the emotional crutch for men while my needs were not met. Couples therapy or divorce. Absolutely.
Story 6 - im scared to think what might have happened had she not had that reaction, and frozen up instead. The brother is a creep and needs monitoring
Story 3: I am a therapist who works with couples and specializes in queer, kink, fetish, and poly dynamics. Unfortunately sometimes when someone becomes accustomed to the power they feel when doing dom play, they begin to bring it out when there is conflict in the relationship in order to feel powerful and punish the sub outside of specified/consensual circumstances. It is a true power play instead of a powerful play-pretend.
Everyone in this episode made me so mad omg. Especially poor Lola, story 6. Your brother is actively tormenting and harassing your girlfriend. He is not a good person. If you cant care for your partner then I think you need to separate and she can be in a safer environment. Just saw the update on the post, I am glad Lola is safe and that OP has reflected on his relationship with his family and can get away and be healthy. Ugh anyway enjoyed this episode with Lauren, yall look so cozy.
It is actually a very Minnesotan thing. I had a teacher in high-school explain how weird it was that in Minnesota we would say "Would you borrow me a quarter" instead of "Would you lend me a quarter". To this day that phrase goes through my mind whenever I say lend or borrow. 🤣😂🤣
For story number 3: That is NOT what a kinky relationship looks like. Bigs and Littles should have equal respect for one another. In any sort of relationship where one person has more “control”, everything should be consented to. The Big should have a full understanding of what the Little is comfortable with and what is completely off limits. Especially when they are living this way, day to day. I love that BDSM is becoming more of an accepted thing, but it has the drawback of controlling and abusive people, like this guy, having access to a way to abuse people and call it “kink”. The community that this belongs to would tear that guy to shreds. BDSM should be talked about and what is and isn’t okay as ‘punishment’. The community is all about communication and consent. This guy made my blood boil. For anyone who wants to engage in play like this or daily kink, please join your local BDSM community group. It’s not only for protection from people like this, it’s also a beautiful way to learn about how to safely enjoy such an intimate thing. Stay safe out there 💜
Story 6, at the beginning of the story he says that his brother is gone and that he hears HIS GIRLFRIEND scream and then they all get up and run over there. When his brother finally “comes clean” he says that he made a bunch of noise and then SCREAMED in her face, but no one recounts hearing the brother scream BEFORE hearing the girlfriend scream. It doesn’t make sense to me. I 100% believe he at least TRIED to sexually assault her, why else would she break up with her boyfriend after he proved to his whole family that she was right and he fought for her?
I hadn’t thought about that, but it really makes sense. The whole story has me absolutely shocked people can be so awful Lola sounds like a sweet human and I hope she’s ok
Story 3: Okay going to address the kink part of this first. As someone who is on the DD side of the DD/lg slash, i'm just going to assume that this was a dynamic that they were both seeking out at the start of the relationship. Setting aside the other context here, I would never tell my partner to not call me Daddy (or an equivalent substitute term) when i'm upset. And if I felt like the trust had been so irrevocably broken that I couldn't continue with such an integral "bit" of our relationship, then it'd be time to consider breaking up. Now, with the extra context. There are several red flags for me here. The biggest of which is just the complete lack of disrespect he showed OP at every step of this packing/moving process. Like with her having a few days of her having work after the move date, I didn't hear how far they were moving but like if it's in the same town/state it's fairly reasonable for her to find a co-worker to crash with for a few nights on the same shift and get rides to/from her job that way, and then come pick her up in the evening/on a day off. Morgan is totally right on the controlling thing. A -lot- of men use BDSM dynamics to control their women. Something that perked my ears up is the mention that they are (at least it sounds like) both christians. I'm not sure if this is the case here, but it's not super uncommon in the kink community to see people in christian relationships introduce BDSM, and you get 2 layers of the patriarchal "the man is the ultimate ruler of the household" type of vibe, which even if it's not my thing, I don't have a problem with on it's face. The problem comes in when you have abusive, disrespectful emotionally stunted men engaged in those roles, you get situations like this, and far worse. (gotta leave for a bit but will come back and edit in more thoughts later if I think of anything later or hearing the rest of morgan + lauren's thoughts or there's more context in the post i missed)
Agree with all this. A real DD understands a little is a responsibility not a plaything. I’m sad for her if she stays in this toxic dynamic and/or ends up rejecting her kink bc someone used it to punish her ☹️
Hey Morgan, I'm rewatching all episodes right from the beginning and you had mentioned you would do a "Stalker" episode. Just a suggestion for that theme! Thank you for making Thursdays so great!! Also, yay!!! Lauren's my all time fave and I'm so happy she's been in a ton of the new episodes 🎉.
Story 4- she didn’t want the bag for pictures. She’s mad she won’t give her the bag as a wedding gift. Once it’s in pictures she’s not good to give it back.
Ethan knew exactly what he was doing. He's was jealous of his brother and Lola's relationship and he wanted to punish her. So he does "pranks" that he knows will hurt her. He just wasn't expecting her to wake up fighting. I feel so bad for the op😢
I feel worse for the girlfriend. She's now going to have PTSD from the trauma he unloaded on her not to mention the numerous times he did things to trigger her too.
I feel bad for him but realistically there was no way their relationship would recover after OP just froze after seeing his brother literally commit a crime on Lola. A major part of feeling secure in a relationship is having their back if someone tries to fuck with them. If someone tried this on me or my bf we'd *both* be throwing hands. At least OP was able to reflect and learn from this so he's got that going for him.
This episode cured my hangover. LITERALLY. That 6th story holy shit, I was clenching my blanket and was totally rooting for the aunt to just rip out the brother. Whew.
Story 6: shoutout to the aunt for being bold enough to correct the issue the moment she got the correct information. I genuinely feel bad for OP because it seems like Lola still views him as the villain and now he has no girlfriend and no family or brother.
Story one - I’m convinced that the 100 positive things list was actually HIS homework. And he told his wife it was her homework. And now he’s lashing out.
Story 6 - the same way love for another person outside of your family can blind you, love for a family member can do the same. May I remind everyone that the show “S’Mothered” exists.
STORY 2: if it’s to be believed to be true, the “wife” posted her side. said he left a few days prior to the c section, she served him papers upon his return. apparently he was posting pictures celebrating stuff with his family in matching sweaters, no signs of distress or a reason to abandon her. why it’s likely fake: she then said that he was arrested for something like laundering or racketeering or something of the sort with his family, blah blah, the whole thing just went off the rails.
another reason its probably fake is the idea to ‘move up a c-section by a couple weeks’ is simply absurd. Even if you’re obtuse and barely know anything about pregnancy, they don’t deliver early without good reason !!!!! Especially for babies that are almost always nicu stays like twins
The second story: wow, I would be so mad at my husband and his family! I am due in July and his parents are coming all the way from the US to Europe for a couple of months, staying at an Airbnb because our space is small to help us out with the baby! That’s what awesome parents do!
honestly the brother from the “prank” story got off lucky with just a few scratches - i keep a machete by my bed, imagine what else Lola could have done to him had she had a weapon.
Thank you for talking about the severity of mental health. Tooth health is the hardest to upkeep, and seeing someone as put together and amazing as you acknowledge the difficulties shows that everyone is dealing with their own struggles and that everyone needs to be kind.
Story 6: This story is so frustrating and I feel so sorry for Lola, I suffer from PTSD and I am really sensitive to loud noises and once a few years ago had someone jump scare and I immediately had a really terrible panic attack. So for the younger brother to specifically target them on something they struggle with. Especially because who knows her past and what could’ve caused her to have sleeping problems and it easily could’ve triggered something and caused her to react the way she did. And for the rest of the family to villainize her and wants an explanation is an invasion of her privacy. That’s awful. I feel so bad for her and I couldn’t even imagine being in that position.
I had a clutch when I got married that basically stayed at my table during the reception. It just had my phone, makeup for touch-ups, mints, and bobby pins. I also had some tissues, wipes, and a tampon/panty liner just in case. So I had a little go kit to use in the bathroom, basically. I didn't carry it around like an accessory.
I remember one time my brother was like MY GIRLFRIEND SHOVED ME SHE IS INSANE but that was after he literally threw her keys on our roof so she couldn’t leave
Story 2 actually awakaned a lot of rage in me. I don't have children, but a couple years ago (almost to the date lol) I went through a procedure that is pretty much a C-section for health related reasons, and the first week or so after the surgery I couldn't even strip out of some my clothes without help from my mom, because it would risk opening the stitches and it hurted so much to bend and etc. I cried all the time because everything hurted so bad and I felt so confined, I couldn't laugh, or cough or sneeze without crying of sheer pain, i had to ask for help if i dropped the TV remote on the floor accidentally or if i needed something that was a little further down on the refrigerator, I can only imagine how much harder it is to go through that while also having to care for two newborn babies, if my SO even suggested leaving me alone for some secretive reason less than a week after i delivered our babies, he'd be getting divorce papers with those plane tickets.
I had to find a new way how to just get out of bed after my c-section. I had to find new ways to do practically everything. I even got an infection at my suture site at about 4 weeks. My sisters stitches burst a few weeks after her section. This man has no idea that it’s a major surgery
Story one: I wonder if the therapist gave the husband the assignment for him and he's just trying to get his wife to do his work again. Story two: I had a C-section with my daughter. The OBGYN has to cut through SEVEN LAYERS to get to the baby! For the first two weeks alone, I couldn't lift more than 10 lbs., I couldn't drive because of the pain meds, and I couldn't climb stairs or stand up straight without pain. If OP gets on that plane, I hope his wife has him served when he returns and is in baggage claim. Story three: He's piece of trash. Throw HIM in the dumpster. Story four: NTA. She's going to come up with a million and one reasons to not want to give it back.
Story One : I could see that for sure. Because when I have gone they ask YOU to write things you like about YOURSELF to see where you're at and make you think more about yourself in a more thoughtful way. So.. that makes so much more sense to me compared to HER having homework like two weeks in. That would come way later if the therapist suggested couples sessions.
Story 6: I don't believe Ian. Approach the situation with Ian. He knew and was warned about her sleeping disorder, to not disturb her in her sleep. He chose to go out of his way and still did it. Why would you disturb someone's sleep. Ian seems manipulative🙄🙄🙄. He knows what he is doing. Why did he prank her during the sleep, especially during her sleep?!!! The family needs to stop protecting him like he was a child.
I just have to say thank you for your weekly podcasts❤️ I was recently faced with a tough diagnosis and never feel alone when I’m laughing along with you guys❤️
Praying for you!!! I'm literally a walking medical mystery mess so I feel this to my core. I hope everything works out and you're feeling better soon. ❤❤
My favorite thing about this podcast is how you all put so much thought and care into how you respond to each story. I’ve seen some podcasts try to react to Reddit posts and I just can’t watch because they don’t hold a candle to how you guys do it. You seem like such genuinely supportive, incredibly kind people. The crazy stories are obviously so entertaining as well, but it’s the nature in which you respond that makes this podcast my favorite. Basically I’m saying you all are very cool people and I love you!!
Story 3 just makes me appreciate this podcast. You guys are incredible for bringing stories like this forward and starting such an open dialogue about abuse. It’s funny how many shapes abuse takes and it can look very grey and almost unseen for the people experiencing it!
Daddy/little girl story: (I hope you see this comment) A lot of narcissists will isolate you and then start treating you this way. Your move could be that. He may start giving you little bread crumbs of the daddy/little girl dynamic just to give you hope that he is going to meet your needs but it won’t last. Sweetheart, I really think you should run. There are genuine people out there who will treat you well. You don’t have to settle for this man. I wish you all of the luck and strength in whatever you decide to do ❤
For the 3rd story, I don't participate in ddlg, but as someone who is a part of the bdsm community this is why things like kink etiquette and safe words exist. It is important, especially for kink dynamics that exist outside of the bedroom, to have a fully flushed out conversation about what is expected for this dynamic, what are hard nos, negotiating and setting boundaries, etc. And these conversations should be happening multiple times throughout your relationship.
Scrolled down and haven't seen anyone post this: Who carries a purse on their wedding day? Especially in photos? I mean, have a "day-of" bag, like lipstick for touch-ups, safety pins for mishaps, Bobby pins, etc. But you aren't carrying that around! It like, sits in a car and under the head table.
Heard this one before and everyone was in agreement that the bride would refuse to give it back. It was split with she would say it was a gift from OP and she would say it had sentimental value now that it was part of her wedding. But either way, I can see OP’s parents telling her to let it go whether it has sentimental value to OP or not. Gotta keep the peace and not upset the newest member of the family! What utter BS…tell them if they care so much about SIL being happy, “they” can go buy her a name brand purse for their gift!!!
The opening conversation around drinking was nice. Thank you for normalising moderation and checking in on your consumption habits! CHEERS to the rest of the year ✨
I didn’t even know Daddy was a sexual thing until my mid teens. I needed my bio dads attention, so I innocently poked my head in and said “Hey daddy!” Context: The Little Mermaid has always been my favourite movie (OUR favourite movie) and throughout the entire movie Ariel calls Triton daddy. I always thought it was cute and endearing. He immediately got upset and demanded I never cal him that again. Zero explanation. I was actually pretty gutted. I was just trying to be sweet and he turned it into something sexual (something he did a lot lol). I’m into the soft DD/LG (the irony I know I have daddy issues) and something I’ve noticed is you have to be so careful when looking for a partner. A lot of these men don’t want partners to roleplay with. They want an emotionally vulnerable, naive woman they can easily manipulate.
Story 3: Holy banana! OP, your partner is abusive. Please leave him. Your anger was justified. He had no right to throw anything away. Please quietly ask for help from your family and friends to get you out of this situation. He is isolating and punishing you. He kept you off balance by not giving you a moving date, demeaning your job, your role, your stuff, your integrity, and your self-worth. He is NOT a good person. You deserve to be a happy and in a healthy relationship. This is not it. Your therapist needs to do a fing better job.
Story 1: off the bat I don’t believe any therapists gave op homework without even meeting or speaking with her and even if the therapist did… why would that be the homework? I’d more believe if it was something about his flaws/ what she wanted him to get from therapy…. It feels like he was trying to get op to do his hw. I can see a therapist asking HIM to write something like that for himself…. Either he’s not in therapy at all and is lying or he’s lying on the therapist or for some reason he keeps getting all the worst therapists
this specific homework question is very normal for a therapist doing CBT therapy to give their patient to give out to their friends or partners, actually.
@@pyrosmore3507 I feel like that's an assignment that they should probably refrain from giving tbh since it depends on too many external factors. Relies too much on the person having decent relationships, and him being able to request things from them successfully.
Lmao the second story has me thinking that the parents did this on purpose. Knew the date and were like fxck it! Kind of seems fake, cause it's so rage baiting but if it's true.....I wouldn't want to be that woman.
Its almost definitely fake, the wife’s story updates went off the rails & the idea to move up a scheduled c section (something already a rare choice by an OB) is absurd to anyone, even men.
Imma be honest.. I'm kinda into ddlg too and girl that relationship is dead I'm sorry. If I were to be in that kind of relationship, and I am calling my significant other daddy, I think the only time I would stop calling him that is when we have children. But if it was such a big part of the relationship, and now it is Tainted and you can't call him that, I say just call it quits. It's never gonna be the way it was again. Doesn't seem like he wants to make it work out. After listening to the edit LEAVE HIM. Fuck that dude As for children saying daddy, it's not weird. Or if a mom refers to her husband as Daddy while talking to her kids, not weird. It is only weird if you make it weird.
Story 1: My partner is on the way to being diagnosed as neuro-divergent. They have very similar problems to the man discussed. Particularly finding it difficult to communicate via email/message and such. They struggle with what to say, whether it's a stranger or their auntie, it causes a lot of anxiety. They do work through it most of the time, even if they're left with the anxious "do you think I said the wrong thing" type questions.
I had to scroll way too far to find a comment like this and I’m honestly surprised! I thought my first thoughts would have been common. I never say stuff like this about strangers I don’t know, but I just don’t get the ‘weaponized incompetence’ vibe here. The inability to communicate well, anxiety over which collectible to buy.. it sounds more like neurodivergence.
@@agnieszkalatka6841 Not necessarily, I would think it would depend on a number of factors. What he discusses with his therapist. How long he was seeing the therapist. What kind of therapist he saw and so on. People do go undiagnosed for years despite a long history of being in therapy.
@@agnieszkalatka6841 probably has been diagnosed, because they did suggest medication, I was thinking adhd because I also struggle with similar things and although you know what you should do, a lot of the times is difficult to do it (with emails or simple tasks like brushing your teeth or remember to eat can become a challenge) just because of the lack of dopamine in our brains (but I dont just dump it all on someone else) but it can be other type of neurodivergence, who knows, op didnt specify
First story - The symptoms the husband was talking about seems A LOT like Pathological Demand Avoidance. It's an autistic trait but not limited to just autism, I have it and it is debilitating. Basically, anyone who's had a bad boss understands the feeling of being commanded / shouted at to do things, and the anxiety it gives you. Now imagine that feeling after everything, either your brain over-reacting to something someone asked you to do or a voice in your head being that shouting boss. So yeah, finishing an email could be weaponised incompetence, or he could be getting anxious thoughts that if he ends the email the wrong way he'd be fired and his wife would leave him. It gets better with therapy - but it only really got better when I had a name to what I was feeling. And like with everything in autism, Pathological Demand Avoidance is under-researched so a lot of therapists don't even know it exists. I've gotten used to calm breaths and debating my head-voice in the mirror, but it took years of work and education and I still slip sometimes.
story 6- op has got to get a grip i get being torn between family and a significant other when both sides could be in the wrong but in what world would you not hit someone waking you up wearing a mask???
Story 4, since I'm not seeing lots of comments about it... Why does she need a purse for her wedding? I've never seen that. And like with all things, I would be willing to bet that the OP wouldn't get it back afterwards because "It played such an important part of my wedding, I have to keep it for the sentimentality. It's my wedding purse!" Just wild.
The guy in the story 6 gets me like...has he ever scared any other family members or friends by frightening them out of sleep??? That's obviously not normal behavior- and genuinely not even a prank when there's nobody else in the room aside from the person you're, "pranking"- who was he, "sharing the laughs"with when there's nobody around to see it... Seems like he just wanted to harm her- knowing full well she had a health concern that specifically affected her sleep. Knowing that this person was older than a pre-teen, let alone a post-college aged adult... Makes it 10x more frightening; the saddest part is the actual boyfriend seems really nice, even standing up for his girlfriend before he even knew the full story from her (literally BECAUSE he was respecting her and giving her the time she said she needed to think-he wasn't bugging her and trying to talk to her until she was ready) Truly hope they both end up happy, whether that's back together one day or with other people!
He literally crossed boundaries, wore a mask, scared and possibly went to hurt someone, and gave her a seizure when he knewwwww what NOT to do! Poor Lola omg! And she’s been called the sweetest girl throughout the whole thing and still gets bullied as an adult
Story 2: I heard this one on a different Reddit podcast. The wife posted her own story and important family thing was a family reunion 🤦🏻♀️ He went she saw a picture of the whole family wearing matching shirts…
The last story is wild! The boyfriend simply said “hey that’s a bad idea”, and he should have said “absolutely not, you need to leave her alone or you can leave my house”. Morgan said it well the brother is harassing his girlfriend (Lauren’s energy for this story is perfect btw). As women we are taught or entire lives about the threats of the world. Being woken up by a man in a mask is terrifying and she probably thought he was going to hurt her or rape her. She fought for her safety which is reasonable. Your Aunt is badass af. Good on her!
Story 6 stunned me. I have narcolepsy and even with treatment I don’t get enough sleep. He is harming her health by interrupting her probably already limited sleep. Not sure if that is what she has but the fainting could very well be cataplexy triggered by the scare. If it is cataplexy and he purposely tries to trigger it that is so incredibly dangerous. If her friends weren’t there she could’ve gotten very hurt. I would’ve been long gone bc not only is it at the least probably impacting her quality of life but easily could lead to serious injury. Absolutely disgusting behavior. The fact that op is even questioning this tells me that she should run. Sleep disorders are so hard to manage even without a holes purposely making it harder
Story 3. Let's not ignore the detail that he's doing all this when they're moving across the county, possibly taking her away from friends and family aka her support system.... he's priming her for control, breaking down her self esteem, isolating her and now punishing her for having boundaries. Sound he might have been love bombing by playing so hard into her kink....just saying.
Story one reminds me of my therapists homework but for me since I’m an insecure person, with abandonment issues she had me ask the people important to me to write 5 things they love/admire about me. It really helped when I had times I didn’t feel like I was good enough without asking for reassurance all the time from my partner and friendships. Ultimately it’ll be up to me to help change my mental patterns and be more compassionate to myself but the homework really helped me. I can understand the wife’s frustration with her husband though, it gets exhausting constantly being the relationship instead of having a partner
story 6.. i dont even need the night terrors, im a true crime fan, if im woken up to a masked dude (while there´s a party at my house, could be a serial killer that sneaked in ¿?) I'm automatically fighting for my life
I’m happy Morgan called out the abuse in the ddlg story. This is 100% abuse. It will only get worse if they get married. Writer if you see this, I made the mistake and married the man who threw away my things when we were moving. He became physically abusive after a year of marriage. Please leave. It gets SO MUCH better when you’re free of all the criticism and abuse. Trust me ❤
The seventh story is basically deserved pettiness. I understand why OP did it and I’m not saying she’s the AH. However, it seems like it would’ve been better on her conscience if she worked out all these kinks with her sister gradually and over time. It sounds like a lot of resentment has been building up on her part and that stuff is just not healthy. Anyways, the older sister rlly sounds like a piece of work-can’t believe she didn’t apologize… ever. Tbh, as an older sister who’s also studied engineering (though probs not as smart/big headed as her lol), I would be kinda envious if my sister became a stay at home mom and I’m working a 9-5. Maybe her sister was jealous and/or envious but she should’ve clocked that and acted more maturely.
Story 1: I think she does need therapy and then she needs to admit to herself that she does not like husband , and leave She already broke up with him mentally
I don't think it's that she doesn't like him. I think she has started to resent him because she's trying harder to fix him than he is. She can like him and still be effing tired of being his mom
Housewife here! Thank you Lauren for saying what you said about housewives, although I don’t work I’m constantly doing chores, cleaning, cooking, and doing all the laundry, it’s a full time job tbh lol
I’d honestly rather have my 9-5 job than be a homemaker 😭 (aka SAHM or housewife, couldn’t think of a better all encompassing word) - it’s freaking hard! I hate cooking and cleaning! If I could work 9-5 and have a partner who did all of that I’d be stoked 😂 instead I live alone so I have to do it all 😅
story one: I was in a very very similar circumstance with my last parter. He was very reliant on me any forward movement and any change in him took a lot of work on my part. He didn’t end up in therapy though until after we broke up. I can absolutely say I probably enabled his behavior. When we broke up of course at first he was in a terrible state but over the past almost year since he has achieved a lot of what he felt locked and unable to do before. I’m not going to say divorce but a break could do them some good.
Story 6: The mom is a HUGE part of the problem with the younger brother. Her still treating him like a baby is the reason why he still acts like one. Ian needs to grow up.
Saying hey from San Diego!! Glad you posted a new video. Stuck at work waiting for the rain to pass! Sending love and great vibes for the new month of February!!
Story 2: Did this man really just say his wife should reschedule her c-section for a couple weeks early?? Those poor twins would be struggling to breathe in the NICU if they’re born prematurely. This man is absurd. I cannot imagine the level of narcissism that goes into a suggestion like this.
RIGHT?! He was like “it would be good for me if I had more time” and I’m like “good sir those babies need more time like what”
I’m blown away….i HOPE this is because dude is highly uneducated about pregnancy and how that actually works. I sympathize that his parents need help and I wonder what the family issues are. Dude clearly doesn’t understand what his wife is going through and what is about to come. I would DEMAND my husband tell me what the fuck is going on. Like I said I know his parents need help but why can’t op go now and then come back before his wife has the babies?
It must be fake. No reap person can be so dumb to suggest that I listened to that and thought wait I thought a c section is a way of giving birth?? You can't just say give birth a few weeks earlier. I really thought my English skills let me down and I didnt know it can mean any other kind of surgery
His parent also ahole they know what they doin, they book unrefundable tiket 5 days later. Omg
@@ESamsung-rl4ie yeah that's so insane. Why would they book a ticket without discussing the date. And how is it so secret? Like sure don't even post an equivalent on reddit secret fine but don't tell the wife?
You should do an “only updates” episode!! Just reiterate some stories you’ve read and do the updates we all wanna hear!!
Good idea,but that is alot
They have before - the Updates and Do-overs episode, so they may do that again 😊
I second this!
Third this hehhehe
Great idea!!!
First story- how much do you wanna bet that the therapist told the husband to make a list and he just told OP that it was an assignment for her! That way he doesn’t have to do it, and when she refused, he was trying to guilt her into it
I actually wondered the same thing
Either that, or he lied to the therapist. Because of the whole "my therapist says you should show me more appreciation" makes me believe he didn't told the therapist everything she does for him
I thought that too that it was his assignment, but struggled to come up with positive traits about himself so he told his wife that it was her assignment.
This was my first thought!
I was getting major weaponized incompetence vibes. I doubt the therapist said anything negative about OP. I think the husband is just pissed off that his wife is finally growing a spine and asserting her needs and now he doesn't get to be a spoiled child. So now he's made up how this therapist is saying OP is doesn't appreciate him so things can go back to how he wants. Honestly if he doesn't even have a therapist at all it wouldn't surprise me. Dude is a massive manipulator.
Story 3 sounds like he enjoyed the daddy thing because it made him feel like he was in control in the relationship, and that he was OP's actual superior in life, that he could order her around and belittle her. The fact that she asserted herself as an equal adult during the move broke his illusion. That's why he said "it's not our dynamic anymore", because it basically translates to "I stopped seeing you as this thing I could control to my pleasure, now I see you as an adult who can make independent choices and disagree with me, you're not a 'good girl' anymore because you weren't obedient".
Literally this lol, daddy doms being abusive is sooo common, they had a dynamic where he was dominant and 'owned' her and she was submissive and obedient and he's lost that by her sticking up for herself... Sooooo
It sounds like the dynamic is toxic for both. She put herself down a lot and criticized her own response like the "child" she plays out. I think the roles are a little too real for them and hopefully she will uncover more of that in therapy.
I think they were beyond the rol play. They are actually slave/master.
How about the WEIRDNESS of -- We are moving but I won't tell you what day. ???
Gurlz --- GROW UP! That was clue ONE in this narrative and probably clue Ten Thousand in OP's life.
It makes me very sad but even when I was OP's age I would have thought that alone was nuts . Okay, you won't tell me our MOVING DAY?... Guess I need my OWN moving day, "Daddy!"
It's sound so gross. I play w my husband alittle w that... but that is beyond gross and controlling
Story 6 - I think there is still more to the brother’s side. I truly believe he tried to SA her while she was sleeping and tried to use the prank as an excuse. That’s probably why the aunt did a double take when the cops were there.
Dude fr like he always got weird when Lola was mentioned before hand? And he’s wearing a mask? He was 100% going to hurt her
The fact that the aunt was the only one to recognize this possibility is like she's probably been through some shit.
Fk I didn’t even think about this.
THATS WHAT I THOUGHT
That was my thought the first time I heard that story
story 6: i think the little brother was trying to SA her. also, even if he wasn't, her reaction was completely justified! she didn't KNOW it was him, he was wearing a mask, standing over her in her sleep??? in what world is that not a threat to attack?
That might have been why he played the victim so fast and wanted his brother to cut her off right away, just in case she said something happened. Maybe that's why she didn't want to talk about what happened either.
Story 2 - saw this on tik tok ages ago.
The update from her was that she saw them post a family photo in matching shirts. It was a reunion. She served him papers when he came back.
Good for her 🍷
Are you serious?
A f*cking reunion- I wouldn't be able to NOT send ppl after him and his family 💀 everybody is getting beat tf up
What?!?!?! A fucking reunion!!! 😮 wow!
What?! A reunion that he wasn’t “allowed” to tell her about? 😮 Glad she divorced him.
Story 6 brother is a straight up abusive sadist. And op was enabling it. And "Ur.....um I just froze" isn't good enough seeing him with a mask and hearing her scream, knowing she was sleeping. What kind of creepy fk enters a room wearing a mask with a vulnerable sleeping girl where sa *isn't* involved? There's a difference between a loving prank and abuse, harassment and assault.
She was also asleep at a party full of people. If someone creeps in, screw the fear of spiders, someone creeps around the groom when she's sleeping, First thought is someone is there to assault me
I heard this story before and noticed most everyone’s thought is that he tried to assault, especially since she didn’t even want to talk to her boyfriend about what happened especially since something so violent is hard to admit
@@stephjovi 💯 I once punched my brother in the face coz he thought I looked so cute and adorable and tried to kiss me on the cheek when he saw me sleeping. I was 17 at the time and he's 6 yrs older than me. He's always been a paternal figure to me so I get why he couldn't resist but he also trained me in martial arts from a very early age so part of him was hurt I'd go for him that easily but part of him was also impressed that he knew I'd know exactly what to do if I'd felt threatened by any other guy.
@@iridescentsolace the trauma that poor girl has been put through. 💔
Also he never tried to kiss me in my sleep again
2nd story. He’d be coming back to divorce papers and a custody agreement
And it definitely wouldn't be 50/50 because he abandoned them
If i was pregnant with twins idk he would even make it to his trip alive 😂😂😂
he wouldnt be on the birth cert imo
He did. I didn't see the wife's post, but apparently, she posted her own.
From what I've seen, he went - the big thing he was needed for? A family portrait. That apparently takes 6 weeks - and she went to her parents house and divorced him. He also apparently only married her for a green card.
Noooo a family portrait? Thats INSANE @@LightballsRUs
Story 6: I read this right after OP posted it, and read it to my husband, who has 3 brothers. He is extremely close with all of them and helped raise them all. He told me he wouldn’t hesitate to bring hell on any of them if they fucked with me the way OP’s brother did. He also brought up the point that there is no reason outside of an emergency situation for the brother to be in the room Lola was sleeping in. Dude was creepy as hell and I fully believe he was planning on doing more than just pranking her.
Story 1: I honestly find it hard to believe that a man who can’t or refuses to email his work colleagues and friends went out and found a therapist. I think he made the therapist up entirely and he is just going to a parking lot somewhere when he says he’s going and making up assignments.
I didn't even think about that, but damn, you might be right lmao
Yeah also if he struggles opening up to his wife/ talking to his friends, how the heck is he managing to fully open up to multiple strangers??
If he is seeing a therapist, he’s definitely not being 100% honest about why he’s there. The wife should’ve been going with him (and I know she doesn’t want that burden, but she has No idea what he’s actually saying to a therapist or if he’s going at all)
@@Ciela531A therapist should know that they can’t pass judgement on the partner cause he is giving his perception of their relationship, which could be clouded by whatever he is going through mentally. Either he’s not seeing a therapist or he’s twisting what the therapist actually said. Whatever is going on it’s clear her husband is dealing with something serious.
Oh for sure. And how is a therapist setting "homework" for a third party? His individual therapy cannot hinge on his wife's effort!
This exactly. Unless it was through a church group. Therapists aren't even allowed to mention their own religion, or ideas, let alone push religion on anyone. That's not a therapist. Betting it was a bs excuse
Story 2 - I **NEED** to believe that this story is simply Rage Bait. Cause that’s absurd
Like seriously y’all, how is that guy still married?? (Especially since it seemed like he wants to be a dad to these kids given they tried for so many years and finally had a successful IVF, he should be ECSTATIC and not want to leave her or the kids side)
Just a few things I find way too absurd given how OP presented the story but makes himself seem like a complete idiot that I pray it was just Rage bait -
1. Asking her to move up the delivery date by a couple weeks, like it’s just any old regular doctor’s appointment! Does he not understand that she is growing their children and those twins will need as long as possible??
2. Twins are a risky birth, and she’s apparently already having other health complications, which is why they’re going with C-section I assume. Often times, c-section babies/ twins especially will need to spend hours - days in the NICU just to make sure they are fully stable, all organs have fully developed, and that the babies are safe to go home.
3. She’s having a C-SECTION! She needs to be on strict bed rest for several days/ a few weeks in order to heal and shouldn’t be lifting anything that weighs more than 5 pounds. How’s she supposed to make herself food?? Let alone take care of 2 NEWBORNS!!
4. That first month after birth is when new moms are at their highest risk for developing Post Partum Depression. And he wants to leave her ALONE to deal with 2 newborns and all of the stress that comes with that???
Seriously this dude doesn’t understand pregnancy or childbirth/ raising children, and it genuinely terrifies me that he would even consider leaving his wife alone to go manage a secret family mission, let alone write about it on Reddit AFTER having dared to ask his wife about it (I feel SO bad for her).
His family definitely sounds like controlling narcissists. I grew up with parents similar to this, where I would feel awful if I didn’t drop things and prioritize my family. And I’d justify with things like “oh I really want to see them”, “oh they really need me there”, “I don’t want to disappoint them”, “family is so important!”
Thankfully I met a great guy who kindly but blatantly showed me how much I was being taken advantage of and needed to grow a backbone (I was a doormat y’all 😅). An amazing counselor was also extremely helpful for getting through it 🤍
Anyways it definitely seems like some controlling behaviors are happening here with his family and he’s just convinced himself that they should take priority because that’s what he grew up believing. It takes a something massive sometimes to shatter that view. Hopefully Reddit was able to open this dude’s eyes (if it was a true story - gotta stay optimistic on this one though because otherwise it just breaks my heart for that mom)
Gosh I hope it's fake. I feel better just imagining it isn't real
As someone with a father who did similar and WORSE ….It isn’t fake I’m pretty sure.
The wife posts in r/relationships
@@annecal2545 but the wife post was made after the woman gave birth. I bet the story happened but actual husband never posted on reddit to ask opinions. This one we just heard was made to get attention.
I have seen multiple therapists throughout my life, and I have NEVER had one state their opinion of my partner. Even when I would directly ask questions about my relationship, it was always directed back to me and my process.
There are always exceptions. But likely he lied to make his case stronger.
I've only seen a couple of therapists, but I also know many ppl who have been in therapy. Not once in my life has anyone ever said that their therapist voiced their like or dislike for their patients SO. So weird, and if it's true, it's extremely unprofessional!
the last therapist i saw i got in with specifically to help me feel confident leaving an abusive relationship. i laid it all out on the line, and she said “but you’re happy, aren’t you?” i never saw her again tbh 😂 and didn’t go back to another therapist. i ended up leaving the relationship on my own but it was well into a year later
This! Even when I was previously in an abusive marriage my therapist said to me “I can’t tell you to get a divorce, but is this really the way you want to live the rest of your life?” Then she even told me to see if he’d be willing to come to couples therapy. When he refused, I decided it was time to file for divorce and I actually didn’t end up going back to that one therapist. However, I did reach out to her years later to say thank you.
Mi mamá ha estado en terapia muchos años, y para entender la dinámica familiar nos pidió a todos ir a una sesión con ella y mi mamá. Solo nos preguntó sobre cómo veíamos a mi mamá y a la dinámica familiar. Eso después de más de año y medio de terapia
As a teenager I'd had wished that my therapist told me that what my then bf did to me was not alright. She was the only person I told at that time and she didn't say anything when I told her that my 9 years older bf (I was 16 at that time and he was 25) basically raped me til I was crying and pressured me into having intimacy with him constantly after that. I took it as a "ok, this is normal then, right?" and sadly stayed in that relationship longer than I needed to.
Story 6 - imagine the trauma she went through to have this response. I dated a guy who was m*lested as a child and had to be woken up a particular way because he would immediately go to fight mode.
What a piece of shit human to think THATS a prank.
Love the gf’s friends. Hell yes, get me tf out.
2nd story: I heard the wife's story on TikTok and the "family emergency" was a FAMILY REUNION!!
AH HELL NAH. INSTANT DIVORCE FOR THE WIFE. SHE NEEDS TO LEAVEEEEE
I wanna see the tiktok
@@mangos9372in laws sent her a photo of all of them wearing matching sweaters 🤦🏻♀️
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Story 6: To me, this seems to be a pattern that repeated itself throughout childhood and high school as well. Being the bully with the typical family who responds by saying that "it's just a little joke" and that "he's a joker" every time he does something because he knew who to target. That's why I think it's so easy for everyone to blame her for reacting to something they've normalized when it's clearly not her fault.
A prank is a prank. There are reasons that people don't like pranks. Did you hear about the guy that was pranking some stranger in the mall? Well, the victim shot the prankster. He lived. The shooter ended up getting off and not facing charges because either the judge or jury agreed that the prank was wrong.
Thats not pranks though. Pranks don't mentally or physically harm others. That's called abuse. or harassment. A prank is a silly thing that doesn't cause any harm that literally every single person would smile about or find amusing
Reschedule a c section by a couple weeks!? When my partner had a c section she barely could climb in and out of bed. OP needs their head shaken and put his nuclear family first.
Csections are DREADFUL! I had twins and a csection and it was a slooooowwwww healing process
Story 6 - I’m convinced the little brother was trying to assault her. He took advantage of her sleeping disorder, the fact that everyone was busy in the party, went into the room in a mask! He literally believed he would be able to assault her without being recognized, and if she claimed she was assaulted they would brush it off as if she was having a nightmare.
Ommmggggg that is so sinister. So scary because it adds up. He probably is bigger than her and believed he stood a chance in dominating her. I'm glad she was able to punch him ❤
i love morgan proudly admitting to ordering fake designer it’s very relieving
I just want her to drop the links to the good ones😂
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Story 6... I worry for anyone who ends up in a relationship with that guys brother. Totally toxic.
I didn't even think about that. Especially since we had a story on this podcast where the boyfriend did pranks on OP that specifically triggered her PSTD. Wouldn't be surprised if that's the same dude
Makes me so sad they broke up because of his brothers bs. How can family do that :/
Story 3: no type of relationship excuses abuse. You don't just smack your partner with a "punishment" when they are going through an extremely stressful time. Punishments and any life style should be gone over in detail. What kind of Punishment is okay? What times should those be excluded. And you should have a safe word for them anyway. If that's what you want in a relationship. One person doesn't get to decide. He only has the power you lend to him. You have more power than he does tbh. And he's wasting a precious gift.
'Get in the dumpster, Bish' really has me crying 😂😂
The way my JAW DROPPED at the second story!!!???!!!?!! FOR SIX WEEKS???!!?! FIVE DAYS AFTER THE BIRTH OF THE TWINS?!!??!
Story 2 - if this were my partner I would fully tell him that if he left me for SIX WEEKS after going through a traumatic surgery to give birth to HIS CHILDREN, I’d tell him to not plan to come back fr
Right !!! It's so much on the mother already. Recovering a C section and having twins???? The husband is definitely the a$$hole. Your wife and children are first now
Yeah....I'd be calling his parents and telling them to make it a one way ticket. I had a c-section and nearly died. If my husband wasn't there for any reason other than his own death, once I healed from the c-section, his own death would likely be imminent. (Just kidding...mostly.) He sure as would NOT be married anymore!!! (NOT JOKING)
I can't get over the part where he asked her to just have them a couple of weeks early. Whole a$$ weeks. Does he not recognize that babies are in the womb for 40 weeks to make sure they're cooked all the way??? Like??? Sir??? And the fact is twins take up so much space they never make it to term, keeping twins in as long as you can is so crucial my head is spinning he asked this woman to half bake their babies so he can leave anyways, divorce him so hard.
You don't want raw baby. You gotta cook that shit all the way through. They don't taste the same when you finish cooking them in an incubator. But seriously though she needs a better husband.
It occurred to me that the parents want them to move to their country and he's going for 6 weeks to find a job and a place to live, etc.
Girrrls, please collab with Charlotte Dobre, this would be so much fun for unhinged, yet heartfelt reactions. ❤ She's a Canadian, you're almost Canadian 😄😘
LOLLLL almost Canadian 😂
As a Canadian, yes she is- we accept.
Yeeeesssss I agree!! ❤
Yassss
YEEEEEESSSSSS!!!! ❤
Story 6 made me so sad for Lola and OP. I have Narcolepsy and it is truly so debilitating, stigmatized, and misunderstood as is. Besides being chronically exhausted, Narcolepsy causes HORRIFYINGLY vivid nightmares, hallucinations, sleep paralysis, etc. I get startled just by my husband getting up in the night. So I cannot even imagine the terror she must have been feeling waking up to that.
But narcolepsy affects our significant others as well as they often have to pick up our slack, be care takers, and be extra flexible to cater to our sleep. it sounds like OP was actually understanding and a good partner to her and his family ruined it for him. There may be more to the story but I do feel badly that Lola did break up with him
I was so surprised no one else seemed to mention her narcolepsy in the comments. But I guess people without sleep disorders (I have IH) know less about it. I’m so sorry for everything you have to go through, I can’t imagine having to deal with cataplexy - the daytime fatigue is bad enough on its own.
I ran to Reddit to comment about the first one. I have been in TWO relationships with men like this. I have wasted so many years being the emotional crutch for men while my needs were not met. Couples therapy or divorce. Absolutely.
You’d think after the first one you’d learn….
Story 6 - im scared to think what might have happened had she not had that reaction, and frozen up instead. The brother is a creep and needs monitoring
Story 3: I am a therapist who works with couples and specializes in queer, kink, fetish, and poly dynamics. Unfortunately sometimes when someone becomes accustomed to the power they feel when doing dom play, they begin to bring it out when there is conflict in the relationship in order to feel powerful and punish the sub outside of specified/consensual circumstances. It is a true power play instead of a powerful play-pretend.
Everyone in this episode made me so mad omg. Especially poor Lola, story 6. Your brother is actively tormenting and harassing your girlfriend. He is not a good person. If you cant care for your partner then I think you need to separate and she can be in a safer environment.
Just saw the update on the post, I am glad Lola is safe and that OP has reflected on his relationship with his family and can get away and be healthy.
Ugh anyway enjoyed this episode with Lauren, yall look so cozy.
Story 4: both of you saying "borrow you the purse" has me cracking up! 😂😂
I had to scroll through the comments to see if anyone else noticed this. I totally forget words sometimes too but that was cracking me up😂
@@kaylap.4158I think using “borrow” in place of “lend” is fairly common in the Midwest
They had me rolling. I absolutely love them with their mistaken words and phrases 😂😂
They crack me up 😂 as soon as they said it I was yelling at my phone it’s “lend you the purse” 😂😂😂
It is actually a very Minnesotan thing. I had a teacher in high-school explain how weird it was that in Minnesota we would say "Would you borrow me a quarter" instead of "Would you lend me a quarter". To this day that phrase goes through my mind whenever I say lend or borrow. 🤣😂🤣
For story number 3: That is NOT what a kinky relationship looks like. Bigs and Littles should have equal respect for one another. In any sort of relationship where one person has more “control”, everything should be consented to. The Big should have a full understanding of what the Little is comfortable with and what is completely off limits. Especially when they are living this way, day to day. I love that BDSM is becoming more of an accepted thing, but it has the drawback of controlling and abusive people, like this guy, having access to a way to abuse people and call it “kink”. The community that this belongs to would tear that guy to shreds. BDSM should be talked about and what is and isn’t okay as ‘punishment’. The community is all about communication and consent. This guy made my blood boil.
For anyone who wants to engage in play like this or daily kink, please join your local BDSM community group. It’s not only for protection from people like this, it’s also a beautiful way to learn about how to safely enjoy such an intimate thing. Stay safe out there 💜
100% he’s met someone else who finds it disgusting
Story 6, at the beginning of the story he says that his brother is gone and that he hears HIS GIRLFRIEND scream and then they all get up and run over there. When his brother finally “comes clean” he says that he made a bunch of noise and then SCREAMED in her face, but no one recounts hearing the brother scream BEFORE hearing the girlfriend scream. It doesn’t make sense to me. I 100% believe he at least TRIED to sexually assault her, why else would she break up with her boyfriend after he proved to his whole family that she was right and he fought for her?
This is very plausible
I hadn’t thought about that, but it really makes sense. The whole story has me absolutely shocked people can be so awful Lola sounds like a sweet human and I hope she’s ok
EXACTLY!!! I noticed that too!!!
“I always try not to promote violence.. it would have been better if he wasn’t punched…. I don’t mean that. 💅” - Lauren. The most epic quote 😂 1:34:07
100% the therapist DID NOT assign homework to the wife. That list was the husband’s homework and he wanted the wife to do it for him.
My thoughts exactly 😊
Story 3: Okay going to address the kink part of this first. As someone who is on the DD side of the DD/lg slash, i'm just going to assume that this was a dynamic that they were both seeking out at the start of the relationship. Setting aside the other context here, I would never tell my partner to not call me Daddy (or an equivalent substitute term) when i'm upset. And if I felt like the trust had been so irrevocably broken that I couldn't continue with such an integral "bit" of our relationship, then it'd be time to consider breaking up.
Now, with the extra context. There are several red flags for me here. The biggest of which is just the complete lack of disrespect he showed OP at every step of this packing/moving process. Like with her having a few days of her having work after the move date, I didn't hear how far they were moving but like if it's in the same town/state it's fairly reasonable for her to find a co-worker to crash with for a few nights on the same shift and get rides to/from her job that way, and then come pick her up in the evening/on a day off.
Morgan is totally right on the controlling thing. A -lot- of men use BDSM dynamics to control their women. Something that perked my ears up is the mention that they are (at least it sounds like) both christians. I'm not sure if this is the case here, but it's not super uncommon in the kink community to see people in christian relationships introduce BDSM, and you get 2 layers of the patriarchal "the man is the ultimate ruler of the household" type of vibe, which even if it's not my thing, I don't have a problem with on it's face. The problem comes in when you have abusive, disrespectful emotionally stunted men engaged in those roles, you get situations like this, and far worse.
(gotta leave for a bit but will come back and edit in more thoughts later if I think of anything later or hearing the rest of morgan + lauren's thoughts or there's more context in the post i missed)
Wow you know your stuff! Glad you clarified some things. People can misinterpret DDlg stuff so thank you for explaining more.
Agree with all this. A real DD understands a little is a responsibility not a plaything. I’m sad for her if she stays in this toxic dynamic and/or ends up rejecting her kink bc someone used it to punish her ☹️
Wow, you really restored this in my eyes. Really well said. I even felt safe reading that. ❤
Hey Morgan, I'm rewatching all episodes right from the beginning and you had mentioned you would do a "Stalker" episode. Just a suggestion for that theme!
Thank you for making Thursdays so great!!
Also, yay!!! Lauren's my all time fave and I'm so happy she's been in a ton of the new episodes 🎉.
I’ve been waiting on this ep!
Ooh yeah I have a stalker experience I should submit my story
You’re my fav!!! When I come across such sweet comments from you all… it means so much more to me than you could imagine 🥹🙏
@@Lauren-ib3ok we love you more! It's so nice to see you so frequently, it makes the episodes so much fun!!
@@Lauren-ib3okYou def are the best co-host! 🫶🏽
Story 4- she didn’t want the bag for pictures. She’s mad she won’t give her the bag as a wedding gift. Once it’s in pictures she’s not good to give it back.
Ethan knew exactly what he was doing. He's was jealous of his brother and Lola's relationship and he wanted to punish her. So he does "pranks" that he knows will hurt her. He just wasn't expecting her to wake up fighting. I feel so bad for the op😢
I feel worse for the girlfriend. She's now going to have PTSD from the trauma he unloaded on her not to mention the numerous times he did things to trigger her too.
He f ed around and FOUND OUT to say the least
I feel bad for him but realistically there was no way their relationship would recover after OP just froze after seeing his brother literally commit a crime on Lola. A major part of feeling secure in a relationship is having their back if someone tries to fuck with them. If someone tried this on me or my bf we'd *both* be throwing hands.
At least OP was able to reflect and learn from this so he's got that going for him.
This episode cured my hangover. LITERALLY. That 6th story holy shit, I was clenching my blanket and was totally rooting for the aunt to just rip out the brother. Whew.
SAME😂
😊😊😊😊
Story 6: shoutout to the aunt for being bold enough to correct the issue the moment she got the correct information. I genuinely feel bad for OP because it seems like Lola still views him as the villain and now he has no girlfriend and no family or brother.
I had 4 c-sections, and they are no joke. I would tell him to go, and then I would take my babies and move in with my parents 🤷🏼♀️
Story one - I’m convinced that the 100 positive things list was actually HIS homework. And he told his wife it was her homework. And now he’s lashing out.
Story 6 - the same way love for another person outside of your family can blind you, love for a family member can do the same. May I remind everyone that the show “S’Mothered” exists.
STORY 2: if it’s to be believed to be true, the “wife” posted her side. said he left a few days prior to the c section, she served him papers upon his return. apparently he was posting pictures celebrating stuff with his family in matching sweaters, no signs of distress or a reason to abandon her.
why it’s likely fake: she then said that he was arrested for something like laundering or racketeering or something of the sort with his family, blah blah, the whole thing just went off the rails.
I thought that story sounded familiar lol. I saw the wife’s pov first.
another reason its probably fake is the idea to ‘move up a c-section by a couple weeks’ is simply absurd. Even if you’re obtuse and barely know anything about pregnancy, they don’t deliver early without good reason !!!!! Especially for babies that are almost always nicu stays like twins
“You little twerp” LMAO go Lauren
The second story: wow, I would be so mad at my husband and his family! I am due in July and his parents are coming all the way from the US to Europe for a couple of months, staying at an Airbnb because our space is small to help us out with the baby! That’s what awesome parents do!
honestly the brother from the “prank” story got off lucky with just a few scratches - i keep a machete by my bed, imagine what else Lola could have done to him had she had a weapon.
Ohh, I love it. I have a nice switch blade. 🗡️
Thank you for talking about the severity of mental health. Tooth health is the hardest to upkeep, and seeing someone as put together and amazing as you acknowledge the difficulties shows that everyone is dealing with their own struggles and that everyone needs to be kind.
Story 6: This story is so frustrating and I feel so sorry for Lola, I suffer from PTSD and I am really sensitive to loud noises and once a few years ago had someone jump scare and I immediately had a really terrible panic attack. So for the younger brother to specifically target them on something they struggle with. Especially because who knows her past and what could’ve caused her to have sleeping problems and it easily could’ve triggered something and caused her to react the way she did. And for the rest of the family to villainize her and wants an explanation is an invasion of her privacy. That’s awful. I feel so bad for her and I couldn’t even imagine being in that position.
Story 4: who the hell uses a purse at their wedding? I have never in my life seen a bride with a purse. It sounds so tacky to me.
I had a purse at me wedding it was a hand held clutch all blinged out I had my phone and lipstick in it. My sister bought for me. I still have it
I had a clutch when I got married that basically stayed at my table during the reception. It just had my phone, makeup for touch-ups, mints, and bobby pins. I also had some tissues, wipes, and a tampon/panty liner just in case. So I had a little go kit to use in the bathroom, basically. I didn't carry it around like an accessory.
Don't alot of wedding dresses have pockets?
That’s pretty judgy? Who cares if a bride has a purse?…
I remember one time my brother was like MY GIRLFRIEND SHOVED ME SHE IS INSANE but that was after he literally threw her keys on our roof so she couldn’t leave
😂 guys are nuts
Story 2 actually awakaned a lot of rage in me. I don't have children, but a couple years ago (almost to the date lol) I went through a procedure that is pretty much a C-section for health related reasons, and the first week or so after the surgery I couldn't even strip out of some my clothes without help from my mom, because it would risk opening the stitches and it hurted so much to bend and etc. I cried all the time because everything hurted so bad and I felt so confined, I couldn't laugh, or cough or sneeze without crying of sheer pain, i had to ask for help if i dropped the TV remote on the floor accidentally or if i needed something that was a little further down on the refrigerator, I can only imagine how much harder it is to go through that while also having to care for two newborn babies, if my SO even suggested leaving me alone for some secretive reason less than a week after i delivered our babies, he'd be getting divorce papers with those plane tickets.
I couldn't take care of myself when I broke my collar bone. I can't imagine having a humans person cut out of me.
I had to find a new way how to just get out of bed after my c-section. I had to find new ways to do practically everything. I even got an infection at my suture site at about 4 weeks. My sisters stitches burst a few weeks after her section.
This man has no idea that it’s a major surgery
Story one: I wonder if the therapist gave the husband the assignment for him and he's just trying to get his wife to do his work again.
Story two: I had a C-section with my daughter. The OBGYN has to cut through SEVEN LAYERS to get to the baby! For the first two weeks alone, I couldn't lift more than 10 lbs., I couldn't drive because of the pain meds, and I couldn't climb stairs or stand up straight without pain. If OP gets on that plane, I hope his wife has him served when he returns and is in baggage claim.
Story three: He's piece of trash. Throw HIM in the dumpster.
Story four: NTA. She's going to come up with a million and one reasons to not want to give it back.
That's what I thought initially
Story One : I could see that for sure. Because when I have gone they ask YOU to write things you like about YOURSELF to see where you're at and make you think more about yourself in a more thoughtful way. So.. that makes so much more sense to me compared to HER having homework like two weeks in. That would come way later if the therapist suggested couples sessions.
Story 6: I don't believe Ian. Approach the situation with Ian. He knew and was warned about her sleeping disorder, to not disturb her in her sleep. He chose to go out of his way and still did it. Why would you disturb someone's sleep. Ian seems manipulative🙄🙄🙄. He knows what he is doing. Why did he prank her during the sleep, especially during her sleep?!!!
The family needs to stop protecting him like he was a child.
It’s so funny to hear them say “borrow you my ____” instead of “lend you my ____” 😂😂😂
I just have to say thank you for your weekly podcasts❤️ I was recently faced with a tough diagnosis and never feel alone when I’m laughing along with you guys❤️
I’m so sorry to hear. Hope you’re hanging in there okay and so happy you’re here with us each week ❤️
Praying for you!!! I'm literally a walking medical mystery mess so I feel this to my core. I hope everything works out and you're feeling better soon. ❤❤
Story 6 - I was waiting for Morgan to say “play stupid games, win stupid prizes” 😂
My favorite thing about this podcast is how you all put so much thought and care into how you respond to each story. I’ve seen some podcasts try to react to Reddit posts and I just can’t watch because they don’t hold a candle to how you guys do it. You seem like such genuinely supportive, incredibly kind people. The crazy stories are obviously so entertaining as well, but it’s the nature in which you respond that makes this podcast my favorite. Basically I’m saying you all are very cool people and I love you!!
Story 3 just makes me appreciate this podcast. You guys are incredible for bringing stories like this forward and starting such an open dialogue about abuse. It’s funny how many shapes abuse takes and it can look very grey and almost unseen for the people experiencing it!
Daddy/little girl story: (I hope you see this comment) A lot of narcissists will isolate you and then start treating you this way. Your move could be that. He may start giving you little bread crumbs of the daddy/little girl dynamic just to give you hope that he is going to meet your needs but it won’t last. Sweetheart, I really think you should run. There are genuine people out there who will treat you well. You don’t have to settle for this man. I wish you all of the luck and strength in whatever you decide to do ❤
For the 3rd story, I don't participate in ddlg, but as someone who is a part of the bdsm community this is why things like kink etiquette and safe words exist. It is important, especially for kink dynamics that exist outside of the bedroom, to have a fully flushed out conversation about what is expected for this dynamic, what are hard nos, negotiating and setting boundaries, etc. And these conversations should be happening multiple times throughout your relationship.
Scrolled down and haven't seen anyone post this: Who carries a purse on their wedding day? Especially in photos? I mean, have a "day-of" bag, like lipstick for touch-ups, safety pins for mishaps, Bobby pins, etc. But you aren't carrying that around! It like, sits in a car and under the head table.
Heard this one before and everyone was in agreement that the bride would refuse to give it back. It was split with she would say it was a gift from OP and she would say it had sentimental value now that it was part of her wedding. But either way, I can see OP’s parents telling her to let it go whether it has sentimental value to OP or not. Gotta keep the peace and not upset the newest member of the family! What utter BS…tell them if they care so much about SIL being happy, “they” can go buy her a name brand purse for their gift!!!
The opening conversation around drinking was nice. Thank you for normalising moderation and checking in on your consumption habits!
CHEERS to the rest of the year ✨
I didn’t even know Daddy was a sexual thing until my mid teens.
I needed my bio dads attention, so I innocently poked my head in and said “Hey daddy!”
Context: The Little Mermaid has always been my favourite movie (OUR favourite movie) and throughout the entire movie Ariel calls Triton daddy. I always thought it was cute and endearing.
He immediately got upset and demanded I never cal him that again. Zero explanation. I was actually pretty gutted. I was just trying to be sweet and he turned it into something sexual (something he did a lot lol).
I’m into the soft DD/LG (the irony I know I have daddy issues) and something I’ve noticed is you have to be so careful when looking for a partner. A lot of these men don’t want partners to roleplay with. They want an emotionally vulnerable, naive woman they can easily manipulate.
Story 3: Holy banana! OP, your partner is abusive. Please leave him. Your anger was justified. He had no right to throw anything away. Please quietly ask for help from your family and friends to get you out of this situation. He is isolating and punishing you. He kept you off balance by not giving you a moving date, demeaning your job, your role, your stuff, your integrity, and your self-worth. He is NOT a good person.
You deserve to be a happy and in a healthy relationship. This is not it. Your therapist needs to do a fing better job.
Story 1: off the bat I don’t believe any therapists gave op homework without even meeting or speaking with her and even if the therapist did… why would that be the homework? I’d more believe if it was something about his flaws/ what she wanted him to get from therapy…. It feels like he was trying to get op to do his hw. I can see a therapist asking HIM to write something like that for himself…. Either he’s not in therapy at all and is lying or he’s lying on the therapist or for some reason he keeps getting all the worst therapists
this specific homework question is very normal for a therapist doing CBT therapy to give their patient to give out to their friends or partners, actually.
@@pyrosmore3507 I feel like that's an assignment that they should probably refrain from giving tbh since it depends on too many external factors. Relies too much on the person having decent relationships, and him being able to request things from them successfully.
Lmao the second story has me thinking that the parents did this on purpose. Knew the date and were like fxck it! Kind of seems fake, cause it's so rage baiting but if it's true.....I wouldn't want to be that woman.
Scary thing is, I know someone going through this.
Depends on the culture-if the parents are facing severe loss of face, they wouldn’t want their daughter in law to know
I read in the comments that it turned out to be a family reunion.
Its almost definitely fake, the wife’s story updates went off the rails & the idea to move up a scheduled c section (something already a rare choice by an OB) is absurd to anyone, even men.
Imma be honest.. I'm kinda into ddlg too and girl that relationship is dead I'm sorry. If I were to be in that kind of relationship, and I am calling my significant other daddy, I think the only time I would stop calling him that is when we have children. But if it was such a big part of the relationship, and now it is Tainted and you can't call him that, I say just call it quits. It's never gonna be the way it was again. Doesn't seem like he wants to make it work out. After listening to the edit LEAVE HIM. Fuck that dude
As for children saying daddy, it's not weird. Or if a mom refers to her husband as Daddy while talking to her kids, not weird. It is only weird if you make it weird.
Yea, the term daddy is for the children, but somewhere along the line, it was turned into a kink.
Story 6-lauren I sleep with a big rolling pin tucked in the corner of my bedframe
i zoned out a bit during the ads and was very surprised to hear morgan say "take lean" because that is also the name of a recreational drug lmao
Story 3: they’re breaking up and she doesn’t realize it’s over yet.
Story 1: My partner is on the way to being diagnosed as neuro-divergent. They have very similar problems to the man discussed. Particularly finding it difficult to communicate via email/message and such. They struggle with what to say, whether it's a stranger or their auntie, it causes a lot of anxiety. They do work through it most of the time, even if they're left with the anxious "do you think I said the wrong thing" type questions.
I had to scroll way too far to find a comment like this and I’m honestly surprised! I thought my first thoughts would have been common. I never say stuff like this about strangers I don’t know, but I just don’t get the ‘weaponized incompetence’ vibe here. The inability to communicate well, anxiety over which collectible to buy.. it sounds more like neurodivergence.
Wouldn't that have been picked up by the therapist though? If the therapist actually exitsts...
@@agnieszkalatka6841 Not necessarily, I would think it would depend on a number of factors. What he discusses with his therapist. How long he was seeing the therapist. What kind of therapist he saw and so on. People do go undiagnosed for years despite a long history of being in therapy.
@@agnieszkalatka6841 probably has been diagnosed, because they did suggest medication, I was thinking adhd because I also struggle with similar things and although you know what you should do, a lot of the times is difficult to do it (with emails or simple tasks like brushing your teeth or remember to eat can become a challenge) just because of the lack of dopamine in our brains (but I dont just dump it all on someone else) but it can be other type of neurodivergence, who knows, op didnt specify
as someone who is neurodivergent (as are my husband and kids) and I thought exactly the same as you
First story - The symptoms the husband was talking about seems A LOT like Pathological Demand Avoidance. It's an autistic trait but not limited to just autism, I have it and it is debilitating. Basically, anyone who's had a bad boss understands the feeling of being commanded / shouted at to do things, and the anxiety it gives you. Now imagine that feeling after everything, either your brain over-reacting to something someone asked you to do or a voice in your head being that shouting boss. So yeah, finishing an email could be weaponised incompetence, or he could be getting anxious thoughts that if he ends the email the wrong way he'd be fired and his wife would leave him.
It gets better with therapy - but it only really got better when I had a name to what I was feeling. And like with everything in autism, Pathological Demand Avoidance is under-researched so a lot of therapists don't even know it exists. I've gotten used to calm breaths and debating my head-voice in the mirror, but it took years of work and education and I still slip sometimes.
story 6- op has got to get a grip i get being torn between family and a significant other when both sides could be in the wrong but in what world would you not hit someone waking you up wearing a mask???
Lettssss goo an hour and 40 and with Lauren so pumped. Love you guys
Story 4, since I'm not seeing lots of comments about it... Why does she need a purse for her wedding? I've never seen that. And like with all things, I would be willing to bet that the OP wouldn't get it back afterwards because "It played such an important part of my wedding, I have to keep it for the sentimentality. It's my wedding purse!" Just wild.
The guy in the story 6 gets me like...has he ever scared any other family members or friends by frightening them out of sleep??? That's obviously not normal behavior- and genuinely not even a prank when there's nobody else in the room aside from the person you're, "pranking"- who was he, "sharing the laughs"with when there's nobody around to see it...
Seems like he just wanted to harm her- knowing full well she had a health concern that specifically affected her sleep.
Knowing that this person was older than a pre-teen, let alone a post-college aged adult... Makes it 10x more frightening; the saddest part is the actual boyfriend seems really nice, even standing up for his girlfriend before he even knew the full story from her (literally BECAUSE he was respecting her and giving her the time she said she needed to think-he wasn't bugging her and trying to talk to her until she was ready)
Truly hope they both end up happy, whether that's back together one day or with other people!
This! I truly hope they both end up happy!
I was so shocked when I heard he was 22. My Boyfriend is 22- I’d literally think he was insane if he did shit like this….
He has more patience than i do if my sibling pulled that shit
He literally crossed boundaries, wore a mask, scared and possibly went to hurt someone, and gave her a seizure when he knewwwww what NOT to do! Poor Lola omg! And she’s been called the sweetest girl throughout the whole thing and still gets bullied as an adult
Story 2: I heard this one on a different Reddit podcast. The wife posted her own story and important family thing was a family reunion 🤦🏻♀️ He went she saw a picture of the whole family wearing matching shirts…
That man belongs in the sad mojo-dojo-casa-house! 😒 Please tell me she left him...
@@availanilaright! Throw that whole trashy man away. Yes, the last update on that was when he got back she was serving him divorce papers 🎉
@@availanilasomeone in the comment section here posted she served him when he got back!
It's so refreshing to see reddit posts discussed by people who don't hate women
The last story is wild! The boyfriend simply said “hey that’s a bad idea”, and he should have said “absolutely not, you need to leave her alone or you can leave my house”. Morgan said it well the brother is harassing his girlfriend (Lauren’s energy for this story is perfect btw). As women we are taught or entire lives about the threats of the world. Being woken up by a man in a mask is terrifying and she probably thought he was going to hurt her or rape her. She fought for her safety which is reasonable. Your Aunt is badass af. Good on her!
this is off topic but i absolutely love the way lauren reads. it's calm but still engaging.
Story 6 stunned me. I have narcolepsy and even with treatment I don’t get enough sleep. He is harming her health by interrupting her probably already limited sleep. Not sure if that is what she has but the fainting could very well be cataplexy triggered by the scare. If it is cataplexy and he purposely tries to trigger it that is so incredibly dangerous. If her friends weren’t there she could’ve gotten very hurt. I would’ve been long gone bc not only is it at the least probably impacting her quality of life but easily could lead to serious injury. Absolutely disgusting behavior. The fact that op is even questioning this tells me that she should run. Sleep disorders are so hard to manage even without a holes purposely making it harder
Perfect! I was just looking for something to listen to while I get ready
Story 6....Ian needs to be prosecuted. What the fuck!?
Someone wakes me up wearing a mask? They are going down!
Love that Lauren read Story 3 because we got Morgan to react with righteous indignation! The proper reaction.
Story 3. Let's not ignore the detail that he's doing all this when they're moving across the county, possibly taking her away from friends and family aka her support system.... he's priming her for control, breaking down her self esteem, isolating her and now punishing her for having boundaries. Sound he might have been love bombing by playing so hard into her kink....just saying.
100%
Story one reminds me of my therapists homework but for me since I’m an insecure person, with abandonment issues she had me ask the people important to me to write 5 things they love/admire about me. It really helped when I had times I didn’t feel like I was good enough without asking for reassurance all the time from my partner and friendships. Ultimately it’ll be up to me to help change my mental patterns and be more compassionate to myself but the homework really helped me. I can understand the wife’s frustration with her husband though, it gets exhausting constantly being the relationship instead of having a partner
story 6.. i dont even need the night terrors, im a true crime fan, if im woken up to a masked dude (while there´s a party at my house, could be a serial killer that sneaked in ¿?) I'm automatically fighting for my life
Story 4 - depending on the size, that Chanel purse could be worth 10k+ so it makes sense to NOT loan it to someone!
I’m happy Morgan called out the abuse in the ddlg story. This is 100% abuse. It will only get worse if they get married. Writer if you see this, I made the mistake and married the man who threw away my things when we were moving. He became physically abusive after a year of marriage. Please leave. It gets SO MUCH better when you’re free of all the criticism and abuse. Trust me ❤
Girl you’re gonna run out of titles!!!
I think about this a lot 😂 it definitely gets harder to come up with them
There’s nothing wrong with revisiting some favorite categories with new stories 😊
Girl I thought it said titties!😂😂😂 I was like wtf did I miss😮😂
I would be fine with Unhinged Part 500
I literally think this all the time hahahaha
The seventh story is basically deserved pettiness. I understand why OP did it and I’m not saying she’s the AH. However, it seems like it would’ve been better on her conscience if she worked out all these kinks with her sister gradually and over time. It sounds like a lot of resentment has been building up on her part and that stuff is just not healthy.
Anyways, the older sister rlly sounds like a piece of work-can’t believe she didn’t apologize… ever. Tbh, as an older sister who’s also studied engineering (though probs not as smart/big headed as her lol), I would be kinda envious if my sister became a stay at home mom and I’m working a 9-5. Maybe her sister was jealous and/or envious but she should’ve clocked that and acted more maturely.
Story 1: I think she does need therapy and then she needs to admit to herself that she does not like husband , and leave
She already broke up with him mentally
I don't think it's that she doesn't like him. I think she has started to resent him because she's trying harder to fix him than he is. She can like him and still be effing tired of being his mom
@@JordanA71009 yes and at that point of resentment it's gg, she said she just wanted him to break up with her
Housewife here! Thank you Lauren for saying what you said about housewives, although I don’t work I’m constantly doing chores, cleaning, cooking, and doing all the laundry, it’s a full time job tbh lol
I’d honestly rather have my 9-5 job than be a homemaker 😭 (aka SAHM or housewife, couldn’t think of a better all encompassing word) - it’s freaking hard! I hate cooking and cleaning! If I could work 9-5 and have a partner who did all of that I’d be stoked 😂 instead I live alone so I have to do it all 😅
@@amandaleighplans right?! you have two full time jobs then basically 😧 That’s so much work 😭 hope you have some self care days as well
story one: I was in a very very similar circumstance with my last parter. He was very reliant on me any forward movement and any change in him took a lot of work on my part. He didn’t end up in therapy though until after we broke up. I can absolutely say I probably enabled his behavior. When we broke up of course at first he was in a terrible state but over the past almost year since he has achieved a lot of what he felt locked and unable to do before. I’m not going to say divorce but a break could do them some good.
Story 5...their not friends. That's weird to be mad at someone who isn't the issue.
Story 6: The mom is a HUGE part of the problem with the younger brother. Her still treating him like a baby is the reason why he still acts like one. Ian needs to grow up.
Saying hey from San Diego!! Glad you posted a new video. Stuck at work waiting for the rain to pass! Sending love and great vibes for the new month of February!!