again not sponsored, pleeeease check out the podcast Maintenance Phase: www.maintenancephase.com/ If ever you're feeling down about your body, I find listening to an episode brings me back down to Earth, validates the difficult feelings of body image vs the world, and I always learn something new!
So fun fact: Muscle -weighs more- *is denser* than fat. If you worked out, and your posture and endurance improved, that's a sign of muscle growth. It can explain why the scale didn't move, despite your workout. Adding fiber to my diet and eating less processed sugar did wonders for my health.
It's a lot more accurate to say that muscle has a higher density than fat rather than muscle weighs more than fat. A pound of fat weighs that exact same as a pound of muscle
@@bensjournalYeah you say potato I say tomato. You're correct, but that was always the reason that was described to me for why fat people can float so much better in the swimming pool. I'm kinda scrawny myself so I can't even relax and keep my head above water. Some people I know can just lay there like they have their own raft.
I started getting boobs at age 10, and they were fully developed before Middle school. I was a huge target for literally every girl in my school because of it. I was a geeky tomboy with few friends(most of which were boys) and I guess they believed I didn't deserve having them. I too got cat calls from strange men driving by and I was a minor... No wonder I literally lived in an oversized hoodie for a majority of my teen years.
Same ( I was 34 C in 5th grade) I was sexually harassed every single day by this boy in 6th, nothing ever fits my chest, I am always being stared at, my family would make comments about my chest (which is so not okay) I was so insecure. Now I honestly dont care what people think or say about my body ( I am 34 DDD now in the 9th grade)
When I was about 12-13 years old, I struggled with an ED when I was already below average weight. I'm 15 now and my habits have changed A LOT for the better. Every time I need reassurance, I rewatch this video. Your vids are amazing!! :D
14:10 The part of the video that was cut out by the person who made this creator have to move due to doxxing, death threats and r*pe threats. She’s talking about how if your health is compromised, to stick to what your doctors tell you to do.
what you have to understand is even if youre not losing weight, you may just be replacing your fat in weight to muscle. BMI's and weighing yourself isnt accurate way to tell if youre improving, its just another measure of scale. Like you said, you are lifting, running and feeling better. Its muscle being added to you replacing the fat weight
This was a story and message I really needed to hear right now. I’ve been trying for a while to keep a body neutral/positive mindset, but have never fully overcame the thought of weight loss. It feels like an endless battle and diet culture has been winning lately. Thank you for expressing that our weight doesn’t dictate our health!
I was the fat kid in school. I wasn't obese, but I was still horrified at my eighth grade class picture because to me I looked so fat. And yet, I was by all measurements I was still perfectly healthy. One of the ways I coped was by becoming the class clown. When you're not the "ideal" body shape, everyone thinks they know how to "fix" you better than you (or your doctors) do. So thank you for this video.
1. in that world, almost no one would be obese 2. this is why personal trainers exist. to adjust exercise and nutrition relative to your body. instead of giving everyone the standard amount
@@Cherika119 read what I said. You literally went and incorrectly wrote my point 1. Skipping out an important word, and you completely ignore point number 2 entirely.
One thing that doesn't get mentioned a lot either is that you can exchange fat weight for muscle weight. I actually put on weight while I was doing some of my gym work outs, but I noticed I looked a bit more slim and had less chub in some places. Not even they people at my gym explained to me that what was happening is I was exchanging one for the other as I got stronger.
I'm 14, and despite me not being overweight, I've lately been struggling with my self image based on my weight, and I've been eating way less because I feel like I'm "fat", even though I'm not. I've been told I was skinny or a good weight my entire life, so I'm not exactly sure why I feel this way. I might have an ED, I don't know. But this video did help me feel less insecure about my body and made me feel more comfortable in my own skin, so thank you Illy
I feel you. I am teen too and I feel insecure abt my belly. So I tried many workouts but nothing changed. Self love is really big journey,but please eat tasty food and healthy food. Maybe visit a doctor if you feel bad. Food is energy. Nobody called me fat as well but I called myself fat. And tbh it is a kinda my mental problem so yea. I just want to say that you are pretty the way you are. You deserve to be loved and if your heart full of kind,respect,love,your look doesn’t matter. Wear clothes that you like and you comfortable with and don’t give a fuck if it doesn’t look on you like on some models I love you,stay safe,eat tasty food and enjoy your life❤
the thing that truly annoyed me the most was that I had to accept being bigger then other girls it was not just my wheight I was hitting puberty to early! I saw other girls wearing crop tops and skirts and all of this it annoyed me, but I loved sharing clothes with my mom I loved wearing teenager clothes I loved the feeling of being taller then my brother the thing about my height made me feel like I do not blend in withtge rest of my class but I always remind my self that we don't have to all look the same to make one single boring painting with nothing but one single color but instead we could all be different colors making fun shapes so the painting could be unique, and after all your body has its positives that may look like negatives for others
To be honest, clicking on this video, I was like “but Illyssa isn’t fat,” but I love the content so I stayed. And now I’m nearly crying because I’m also the fattest I’ve ever been, and it feels out of control, and her conclusions about her body and health in this video are the things I try to remind myself. But it feels harder for me because I have health issues that prevent me from working out and dieting in any classic way. And I just feel stuck in a loop with no way out. I have yet to even get answers from doctors after over a year of appointments trying to figure it out, and when this all started I WAS feeling healthy. I WAS happy with myself. I loved my body. And then my body felt like it decided to hate me. I’m still seeing doctors and I haven’t given up, but it’s just… it’s hard feeling like I’m stuck in the bottom of a pit with no ladders or ropes to help me out.
OMG GIRL U ARE GORGOUS 😭 also this video was genuinely so informing and nice too. Especially when u said, "Mirrors were just made to show us our reflection, not to be a weapon of self destruction". time stamp: 15:37
I felt really happy when i saw the diabetic kid at 14:07 as ive been diagnosed since i was 2 and recently got diagnosed with social contact autisim and my mum helps me through it when i got diagnosed with autism i was quite sad because i couldnt make many friends because it makes me feel scared but my mum helps me by saying its a superpower and that i can do anything you normal guys can do so yea never givw up
Thanks Illysa. I’ve struggled with multiple eating disorders for my whole life and you posting about young kids dieting makes me feel better. It’s sad how much we praise unhealthy weight loss.
This video honestly hit me so hard in a place I didn’t realize was still subconsciously effecting me. Hearing one of my favorite creators talk about one of the biggest struggles I dealt with in middle school made me feel seen. Thank you
The fact that you don’t even look overweight any time I’ve seen you is crazy to me. I’ve been trying to loose a few pounds recently and I feel your struggle. You look amazing and you have helped me so much, thanks illy, I hope this gets easier for you :)
As someone who got teased by my own family about my weight, this video restored the confidence I thought I could never get back after losing it as an elementary schooler. Your stories are an inspiration and motivator for so many Illy and I hope you keep reminding yourself that on the daily❤
i saw this one video and subscribed IMMEDIATELY this helped so much with just feeling valid and..enough. but watching it did hurt knowing that so many adults, teens, even kids can relate to this and it is brave to address these topics in a time like this on the internet, but i am so so SO thankful you did, thank you, thank you so much. ❤
Being someone who started exercising at 10 and constantly has to remind themself that I'm a healthy weight and just don't look it, I really appreciate this video. It makes me feel seen.
For the first time in my life, I started feeling self conscious of my body since September. This video really helped getting the perspective of someone who probably struggles more than me and still be perfectly happy. Thank you illy
I don’t know if your reading this illy but if your are… Don’t let them get to you, you have helped me and countless of others see how we are beautiful no matter what. People are just shitty and I hope anyone who doxed you pay their price. Keep going strong and remember you are amazing, you are worth it and things will get better hopefully
@@simonleva3805 I see people mainly working out or getting surgury because they hate their bodies and just wanna look good for the "gram". People who genuinely love their bodies work hard for it and it's shown as a results of their health, looks and self esteem. People who does it just to look good are never happy. It's shown in their attitude towards others and themselves
I was born with hypothyroidism (diagnosed at 17 days old) and I grew up the fat kid. To this day I still struggle with my weight and it caused me to hate my wedding photos from last year. Hearing your take on weight struggles actually helps and I need to start practicing body neutrality 😌 thank you.
More people need to learn about medical conditions that can predispose someone to gaining weight. People (including some doctors, who should really know better) are far too quick to judge without knowing the full picture.
I also have hypothyroidism, although I forget what age I was diagnosed, definitely not as young as you I don’t think. However I have another hormone issue that’s stagnating my weight…PCOS. These two conditions combined has made it rather difficult to lose any substantial weight. I did lose about 40 pounds once I started exercising and eating less, but now I’m kind of floating around a certain number. My weight could be lower but honestly I’ve never been concerned with my looks. My mother also being overweight (she has hypothyroid too) probably helped with that. I was only bullied in one grade and it was for an entirely different reason and I was too young to really be affected by him, and he apologized the next year so that was something. Once I finished 4th grade, I expressed to my mom that I didn’t want to go to public middleschool and beyond, again for entirely unrelated reasons, but she agreed rather readily and so I spent my last school years in homeschooling. I think I dodged a far bigger bullet than I realized back then, especially since one of my school friends’ mom who is friends with my mom said her daughter basically went through hell in highschool, and she wasn’t even overweight like I was. If I had gone through the roughest parts of highschool, I may have developed a stronger disdain for my appearance than I do, but as of now, I’m not perfect but I’m healthy and in a community of nice people who have never judged my appearance. I hope you can find peace as well ^~^
@@Wr41thgu4rd It's okay, not everyone can understand the simple fact that the human body is extremely complex and there are many reasons someone may gain weight.
as a chubby teenager myself, i’m so glad you made this video to shed some light on the experiences that i and many others go through (: edit: guys please stop calling me fat or telling me to go work out. for one, i am not overweight or obese. literally js chubby. i am currently recovering from an ED and its been extremely hard recently. right now, all i need is to be happy in my own skin. thanks.
i feel you, i don't think Ive ever felt good in my body, even as a child who wasn't bullied even once, i was still sub-consciously comparing myself to others
This is an awesome video that has helped countless people, including me. I'm sorry that certain people have been so terrible about it. I hope you are doing alright.
As someone who got bullied for being fat while being underweight and fell into an ED because of it, this was nice to watch, it helped seeing you accept your body the way it was.
Nono stop believing that it’s just people giving up… if you really wanted to be skinny you’d do it for yourself and just eat the absolute bare minimum simple… Ed is ok as long as it doesn’t put you in a hospital nothing wrong with wanting to look a certain way
@@Sapeiandme Are you insane?? I've been in and out of an eating disorder since I was nine and but got particularly bad last year and I've been fighting it desperately. Have you any idea how dangerous it is to enable me??
@@ravendraws I think that person was trying to be sarcastic, but in a really shit way. You're doing amazing, keep eating, keep living and have a good time
I'm almost 30 and my mother has been borderline bullying me just because I have a little gut. I've been skinny my entire life and it's only in my late 20's that I've been shamed (and felt shame) for a little body fat. Words do have an impact and it's not just true for teens.
Sometimes it's actually healthy to have body fat because a lot of people forget how important fat is having a gut or something isn't bad but having so much fat it starts getting stored in blood veins is bad(yes your body does that)so u shouldn't feel shamed
@@_Blossom_xx If you look at BMI, you'd be just barely "overweight" but I wouldn't really say so. I'm the same age and a bit heavier than you but I've just got more muscle than the average, so you're fine :))
This brought back memories. With the added stress of having problems with my grades, I was also the fat kid. My mom saying it was baby fat wasn’t helping. Had to wear bigger sizes in clothing, I wasn’t able to do the games during PE, and hated playing tag with friends cause it was easier to tag the fat one. I didn’t like it and how I looked in family photos. The second I was living with my mom, she put me on a diet and workout routine when I was in the 4th grade. It was a pain at first but noticing the results and how other people noticed too made me feel better about myself. But because of having that on my mind as a kid, I start to dislike my body now as a young adult even though I’m not technically overweight from doctors. I know that I can do better but when I do there is no change. So I try my best to have a better mindset of loving my body and its okay to eat whatever I like cause I am healthy. Thank you Illy for telling your story❤️❤️❤️, making videos that are so relatable that I’m not alone in the way I feel or think. I hope you have a wonderful holiday and I’m excited to watch what you make in the new year
she's gorgeous - it's saddening to know she's been struggling with self-image. i can't believe she was doxxed yet again. i really hope she's okay and returns on youtube. i miss her :(
Body image is something I struggle with greatly. Thank you for this, Illy. I got teary eyed but I really needed this. Stay safe and have happy holidays!
ive always been the "skinny kid" and got bullied for that, no matter how much i ate, i still were so skinny. it just shows that no matter how you look, people will always judge you by how your body look. (edit) tysm guys for all the likes!!
Same here, I’ve been “underweight” my entire life, with a BMI of 16 yet such a metabolism that doesn’t let me gain weight. I could take 2 months to gain 2kg with a specific diet and exercise and then loose them again in a week, making me feel like all progress was useless. It’s not a matter of weight, is a matter of health
Damn straight!! Being "too" skinny is also just generally an uncomfortable and confusing experience. I've been told I look anorexic, and I've also been told by some that they wish they had a body like mine. I've even known someone who body checked themselves right in front of me, pulled their shirt back to reveal their waist, asked me if I wanted to see their quads, and asked me how much I weighed. Their weird, competitive, passive-aggressive nature towards me BECAUSE of the way my body looks is something that never rubbed me the right way. All in all, though, the obsession with being skinny is always something that's made me so uncomfortable to see from others. Body neutrality is something we should all strive for, and focusing on what our bodies can DO instead of what they look like is most important at the end of the day.
Been there. I was 6'1 and 17 years old and I was a skeleton.(130 lbs)Every time I went swimming I wore a shirt to cover my ribs.😅(still love food though)
As a middle schooler I can sadly confirm that this is still how they act and I recently had to stick up for a friend who was being bullied. What the actual hell is wrong with us.
as a junior in high school who dealt with very similar circumstances, i applaud you (and thank you) for sticking up for your friend. times can be really rough but you just gotta push through. one day you'll look back and feel relief that it's finally over.
I'm not in middle school, but I took a field trip recently and these girls in the back called the bus driver a whale and made fun of her. It pissed me off so much.
Much like kids learn to be homophobic and bully others for being gay, I'm pretty sure it's the same thing with weight shaming. If you're told by a young age or even if you read online that being fat is bad and being skinny is good, you'll get that mindset as well and bully others for being fat
You're such a a good friend, I really applaud you, and I know that you just made a core memory for your friend that will stick with them for the rest of their life. Please give them a compliment or two and assure them that they're beautiful and nothing's wrong with them. Even if it doesn't seem like it, it's always good to do it anyways in case they are feeling bad about themself, but are just hiding it.
Some people are naturally bigger or skinnier. The fact that you stayed at the same weight even when exercising alot is proof that you are at a healthy weight for YOUR body type! What's dangerous for health is doing the yo-yo, and keeping a relatively stable weight is healthy, whatever the weight is. Stop bullying people for that, it includes skinny people who always are suspected of being anorexic! Be happy the way you are if it doesn't handicap you in any way 😊! (by the way, you are really cute, don't worry!)
As an overly skinny person I used to get bullied about not weighing enough, it's so messed up to see that no matter what body size you are there's always someone out there to judge you. You are perfect just the way you are, Illy, and so is everyone else in da comments. Love you guys.
as a skinny person, the names are horrible (toothpick, stick insect, twig etc.) so much so i went to the gym with the purpose to bulk up but i got obsessed with comparing myself to other ripped people and it made me feel awful. I’m learning to accept my body now and i’m just hoping one day i can look in a mirror and like what i see.
I am a wrestler so I have to keep track of my weight. I’ve always felt I have control of my weight by bulking or cutting. I was skeptical going into this but it sounds like you put in a lot of work to try and control your weight and that’s respect. There’s nothing wrong with being in a higher weight class.
I've struggled with body dysmorphia and dysphoria for as long as i can remember. Literally some of my earliest memories involve me wishing i was different so i could fend off bullying from my peers and family members. This video and the message within has been revelatory. I'll have to look into Maintenance Phase. Thank you.
sadly same here idk why people just shame people who already are struggling with their own problems we don't need more all of us should be supported but not become the new trendy. that would be a bad thing for skinny people
I'm starting a new chapter in my life and trying to become a personal trainer/business owner, and from that perspective I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. I have struggled with body dysmorphia for awhile. I got into body building because of it. I'm the healthiest I've ever been, and I am still very sensitive about my body. I'm not saying I can relate to your struggle with weight loss and a healthy body image. What I'm saying is that you have offered a new perspective on the struggle that I have heard the bigger people in my life describe, and have helped me see more clearly how I can reassure them. My goal in my business is to help people be healthy, and I have always believed that health is about the mind, body, and spirit. And in that sense, you have helped me find a new tool to use in helping my future clients and, by extension, the rest of the world. So thank you 😊
As a young adult male in college who is very self conscious about his weight, this video was incredibly reassuring and heartfully. I can personally relate to your struggle. Thank you for such an amazing video Illy.
You can always decide if you want to take the easy path or the hard path, the only difference is, that the easy path is a circle. You will always get back right where you started. The hard path is foggy, uncharted territory. It is longer and you don´t know where it leads. But don´t you think you owe it to yourself to try and walk that path. Don´t you think that at the end of the long hard journey that you can look back and be proud of all the roadblockes you overcame, the excuses you stoped using and the truth you started telling yourself. Walking the familliar circle is easy, but throwing yourself in the dark with no clue of how far the journey will take you is hard and takes courage. Just make sure you don´t have to look back at your life and feel regret for the things you missed out on, the opertunitys you were too afraid to take. Find yourself brother.
You’re such an inspiration to me. I grew up the “fat girl” I got tripped in the class and had people yell earthquake when I fell. I sobbed because I couldn’t fit into Hollister. I tried all the diets in middle school and high school. I got messages like how you did. Thank you for talking about these sensitive topics. They need to be spoken of. Thank you for your bravery and kindness. Truly it means the world to people like me.
Me too I feel your pain not form anyone else but from myself look don’t worry about your weight just be glad your healthy I’m not judging your life I’m just giving a idea
This made me feel so much better. As a middle school girl who weighs ~72 kg (160 lbs) this helps me realize I’m not unhealthy. I’m really not, because I eat healthy (all food groups, includes fruits and vegetables) and I exercise everyday, whether that’s my swim team practice or a walk. Edit: I am 5’ 4”
As a 14 year old that is technically ‘bigger’ then most this video really touched me and I’m very sure others. And as a diabetic seeing someone do a blood test that isn’t part of an full on educational or medical video, shows me it as something normal and not something that’s separate me from others. So I thank you for this video, very much. :)
The conclusion to this video (15:49 onwards) was worded so beautifully. The message is so important and we’re so grateful that you’re always reminding people of important messages!! You’re influencing the perspectives of so many people Illy, and you’re such an inspiration, so thank you 🫶
I normally don't comment too often, but this video was something I absolutely needed. As a girl who was also bullied most of her life for her body and had such an unhealthy relationship with weight, I've recently come to the decision to stop my restrictive dieting. This change has been a struggle and there have been moments where I almost convinced myself to go back. But this video helped remind me that my life has been so much better since I've let go of my bad habits and started living my life again. Thank you Illy for making videos like this and handling them with the same love and care as a friend. You've touched many peoples hearts today
;o; your comment has me tearing up. thank you so much- and know that im rooting for you! recovery isn't linear, there will be good days and bad days, and having a therapist or a trusted friend or adult to talk to really helps. you got this!!! i believe in you!!!
We are rooting for you!!! It's understandable and human to have doubts and to go back to a unhelthy habit. For me, I fear aging and "looking old" despite knowing that objectively, it isn't healthy for me and is rooted in the strict gender norms that I have internalised and am experiencing more as I transition (as an AMAB non-binary person). At least, if I look back from far, I am better off today then I was a year ago. If you look back far and are happy with were you are in comparison to that point, then you have the right to be proud :)
This was quite a while ago but also the fact you maintained weight when you started this routine AND you said you started matching her strength; you were also building muscle and doing things to feel better, means you made a lot of progress that a number can’t show.
Thank you for posting this while the holidays are in full swing. I'm at my heaviest right now too. Each day is a roll of the dice -- do I love my vibe or do I feel blobbish? Trying to keep positive and be kind to myself before I go home for Christmas. It isn't easy, but thank you for encouraging us to just accept ourselves.
The boots, chin pudge, and clothes shopping all hit on a personal level...but thank you so much for this video. As someone who has hated their body since the age of 10 I really needed to hear your message at the end of this video. People keep pushing positivity on me but I want to strive for neutrality, 'cause I can't do the positivity thing. Now I have a better way to explain it. I want to accept myself. Thank you.
I can’t believe people are actually acting like you did something wrong? You never said ONCE « being obese is okay, be obese!! » you were just trying to make people understand that their body and physical appearance doesn’t define them, haters really make no sense.
LITERALLY!! and the evidence people always refer to where she talks about "being obese is ok" they COMPLETELY cut out the part where she says "unless you have life threatening allergy's or dietary restrictions to follow."
As a pretty chubby now 17 year old for their age I have always felt inadequate when I compare myself to fit or attractive people. However, i'm proud of who I am and what I've achieved in my body. Comparing yourself to others is truly the unhealthy part of being "unhealthy". Thanks illy, great video
Thank you for this. I'm fat too, but my fat distributes differently.. It makes me look like I'm pregnant, and it's been like this since I was 10 years old.. And on top of that I have to deal with gender dysphoria. Thank you for talking about this, Illy.
When I feel like the world is ending because of my weight or the way my body looks, I always find myself watching your fideos and especially this one. You really helpt me move forward and appreciate my body💜💜💜
What Illy said also apply to people who seems too skinny. I get called out for how skinny i am ( by friends who seems concerned about it ) and i became aware of my body. I tried to eat more to gain weight to seem less skinny but it doesn't work. I tried the IMC calculation and it says that i'm under the average. That made me feel sad. Seeing this video even tho it's turned to body positivity for fat people, still made me happy because it's still what i wanted to hear. Looking fat or skinny isn't always unhealthy, sometimes it's just how your body looks and it won't change. People shouldn't be jerks about it. So neither should you to yourself. I love your videos Illy, keep up with your work and continue to work on yourself. Love from a skinny french person ;)
Yes, i am also a part of the seemingly underweight club. Or i always was. I am now the “fattest” at 18% body fat (and i am a full grown woman), i never developed much boobage or hips (i do have some of both, iam just a very lean hourglass) The only way i made myself feel good was when i started lifting heavy and slowly seeing resilts, but then i went abroad for two months and lost a lot of muscle there. But i learnt to like myself, since i moved from a very body bulding style of lifting to calithenics and functional fitness - now i can do pistol squats, my knees no loger hurt, i can run and i am working on handstands. I feel like this switch would be beneficial for a lot of people - its no longer about how you look, but what you can do
If your friends are expressing concern that you're too skinny, it's likely because they think you think you're fat and are trying to lose further weight. Becoming concerned about whether you * look* too skinny is the opposite of what they're trying to achieve. They're trying to make you less concerned about how you look (than they think you are) so you don't starve yourself.
@@JonBrase Don't worry, I'm not starving myself. I was never fat Always skinnier than the average and it seems unhealthy while I've never had a problem about it. I understand their concerns but it's just it creates a bit of an awareness that shouldn't be there as my body didn't really change in my whole life. Thx for your concern ^^
@@Zizalaonfire I'm glad to hear you're doing well ! I agree with you, it's more important to do things for you than for others. ( If I understood correctly, sorry if I didn't )
@@Aster_III Oh, the way you worded things initially made it clear that you weren't starving yourself, just that your friends probably thought you were. But the proper response to that is to do exactly as you were before. They don't want you to hurt yourself because you're concerned about how you look, and the best way to do that is to go on living as you were before they brought the matter up.
ive struggled with an eating disorder since i was 11 and seeing a video like this is so great for me right now. i really love seeing your videos on topics like this, it really helps with my own and i’m sure a lot of other peoples state of mind and gives people something to be able to relate to in a more healthy and productive way.
For someone who is still a Teenager and has issues with being overweight, it really helped me trough, when I heard These words, I actually started crying, knowing that this is what I need, this is what I want to hear and this is how I should see myself. I also got bullied for being overweight and went trough different diets, just to gain the same weight and even more in the end, I also suffered emotionally......but when I just live my life how I want, I am happy, I am free and, most important, I am myself. Thank you Ellie for reminding that every body is different and beautiful, you are one of a kind, we all are, stay safe and have a great day!! ❤❤😊
As someone who's 14, and pretty overweight, I feel much better about myself and feel I can stop hiding in my hoodies wherever I go in public, thanks for talking about this.
bro just work out im not even saying this as a mean or offensive way i was f_cking obese back then but i worked out took me 7 months and i am incapable of growing abs since genetics but i look fit and healthy
Love your work, Illy!!! I've been following your channel for awhile now, and I just want you to know that your messages have helped me in some of my darkest times. You're an amazing person. You got this❤
This genuinely made me cry. I'm twelve years old and I've been getting picked on since elementary school by other girls for so long. Hearing what you had to say made me feel so much better about my body and the way I saw it. Seriously thank you for making this, you've really opened my eyes.
If you are 12 you barely hit puberty yet in my eyes It will get better Judy give it time Those bullies will peak in middle or high school and you still have so much more progress to go I was bullied a lot when I was your age and I survived
4:43 my bigger sized friend starved herself because they didn’t like how they looked and I always brought them an apple because I hated watching them eat nothing every lunch time. (this was in six grade btw)
I trained for a marathon in 3 months and my starting and end weight did not change. But I did notice that my progress pictures ended with me being more toned. Drinking water 95 percent of the time makes a big difference
jesus christ i feel like this animator is CONSTANTLY going through it 😭 i watch her videos every couple of months and it’s like.. damn 🙁 give my girl a break 😭😭😭
@@Ben-zg8xk bro she’s not complaining too much, she’s simply talking about topics that many people go through 💀but not everyone 1. Feels comfortable to talk about it publicly and 2. Has this much attention around their stories.
I also had this issue thing but when I was 8 but now I’m not insecure anymore and watching ur videos makes it feel easier knowing that more people are going through it
I watched this video the first it came out and it made me smile. so when i heard that people were doxxing you for being happy and sharing YOUR story, and also helping those who are struggling the same, IS JUST OUTRAGEOUS I hope you're doing well illy. I love your videos and you probably wont see this but i just really wanted to say that! Thank you for the wonderful vid illy
As someone who has been struggling with my bodyweight for a couple of years, this kind of reassurance helps a lot. and I'm finally starting to accept myself and I go to the gym and eat healthy for me and not because I hate my body like I did in the past,so thankyou
It’s ok to not brush yo teeth. You might get gum infection but Atleast it’s not hurting anyone. It’s ok if someone doesn’t shower or brush their teeth.
"it doesn't hurt anyone" bro you didn't have to expose yourself for not going out of your home. That could be the only reason someone didn't call you out for how you smell
@@apex1203he's restating the bad "fat is not bad" arguments made in the video but replacing being fat and over eating with not showering or brushing your teeth.
Damn did this hit me here it hurt. After years of very disordered eating & excessive exercise I finally tapped out & started learning about body positivity & self love. That shit is hard, but it was exactly what I needed. Also mad love to Maintenance Phase, that show has changed me in all the best ways :) thank you for making this
Had all of those same traits in middle school. It does get better once you're done with grade school. People who make it to college generally are the ones who accept everybody for who they are. Be aware that you will sometimes run into adult bullies. But don't listen to them. You're amazing just the way you are.
@@randomstuffallday872its not inconceivable at all. ive had seven mental health diagnosis, have been abused by my parents, groomed, four psych ward visits, one of which AGAIN abused me, etc. bad things can happen to people, and there shouldnt be a cap of bad things that can happen to you before you're disbelieved.
@@randomstuffallday872 i have loads of conditions as well (a lot similar to illy) its very possible and more comon then you would assume. I dont blame you for being skeptical but at the same time assuming everything is fake actually can hurt people and show others "hey if you have all these things, youre messed up. You must be faking youre a liar" when im reality is very very possible.
This is singlehandedly the most relatable and true video I've seen in a LONG while, more people should know that not all of us are just lazy or unhealthy because i got hated on by my whole class for reasons i still don't understand and they'd use my weight as a way to mock me almost every day and that needs to stop
Illys positive and informational videos will always make me look at things from a new and better perspective. I'm very grateful she's a genuinely great person and UA-camr lol
again not sponsored, pleeeease check out the podcast Maintenance Phase: www.maintenancephase.com/ If ever you're feeling down about your body, I find listening to an episode brings me back down to Earth, validates the difficult feelings of body image vs the world, and I always learn something new!
OMG FIRST :DDD
(Edit: can you heart me or smth? Idrc if you do it or not but it would make my day)
@Cottoncandycookiehusbandno I'm first this is my first time tho
OMGGG! Hey Illy, I’m a new subscriber but I’ve loved your channel for months!
OMG IM SO EARLY HELP??
HII ILLY :DDD
damn comments are flowing like water flows 😨
You're so kind.
So fun fact: Muscle -weighs more- *is denser* than fat.
If you worked out, and your posture and endurance improved, that's a sign of muscle growth. It can explain why the scale didn't move, despite your workout.
Adding fiber to my diet and eating less processed sugar did wonders for my health.
It's a lot more accurate to say that muscle has a higher density than fat rather than muscle weighs more than fat. A pound of fat weighs that exact same as a pound of muscle
@@bensjournalYeah you say potato I say tomato. You're correct, but that was always the reason that was described to me for why fat people can float so much better in the swimming pool. I'm kinda scrawny myself so I can't even relax and keep my head above water. Some people I know can just lay there like they have their own raft.
So everything weighs the same to you? You obviously know what they mean@@bensjournal
Thats like saying a kg of steel is heavier than a kg of feathers
why can't you let her do her thing? she can do whatever she wants lmao
I started getting boobs at age 10, and they were fully developed before Middle school. I was a huge target for literally every girl in my school because of it. I was a geeky tomboy with few friends(most of which were boys) and I guess they believed I didn't deserve having them. I too got cat calls from strange men driving by and I was a minor... No wonder I literally lived in an oversized hoodie for a majority of my teen years.
I empathize with you. I started at age 8 and got bullied for it. But its perfectly normal
bruh that isnt bad why would the girls bully, i know the dudes didnt
So relatable,I’m currently a teen and I always have an oversized hoodie because I’m scared…
Same ( I was 34 C in 5th grade) I was sexually harassed every single day by this boy in 6th, nothing ever fits my chest, I am always being stared at, my family would make comments about my chest (which is so not okay) I was so insecure. Now I honestly dont care what people think or say about my body ( I am 34 DDD now in the 9th grade)
Girl same. My body started developing like that in elementary school and I was so insecure about how I fit in my clothes.
“Mirrors were made to just show us our reflection, not to be a weapon of self destruction”
THIS LINE MADE MY DAY OMFG
It doesn't change the fact that she FAT
Louder for the folks in back 👏👏👏
@@WhatWouldLubitschDo MIRRORS WERE MADE TO JUST SHOW OUR REFLECTION, NOT TO BE A WEAPON OF SELF DESTRUCTION!! 👏👏👏👏👏
@@Woodleaf_critter thanks bud, my voice is out or I woulda done it myself 😜
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When I was about 12-13 years old, I struggled with an ED when I was already below average weight.
I'm 15 now and my habits have changed A LOT for the better.
Every time I need reassurance, I rewatch this video. Your vids are amazing!! :D
Incredible as always. You’re one of the only animation content creators that covers these sensitive important topic.
So sweet
we love illy ❤
...is that a fellow aro :D 💚💚🤍🩶🖤
@@mazzy_ivy arospec illy fans UNITE!!
@@sunny_sophie_artYES!
Illy deserves to see this ✨️✨️✨️
Doxxing someone is never okay. Hope she's safe.
Wait she was doxxed?
Pretty sure she literally had to leave her state because people were sending her death threats and rape threats.
@@Mang0z8yep, anti-semit people also found her adress and she had to MOVE AWAY FROM HER STATE to avoid literal death
@secretslul Such low iq that u fucked up the meme
@secretslul not funny lil bro
I AM HERE FOR THE CHAOS
YESSS THE CHAOSSS
START A FIGHT HERE LOL FOR *EXTRA* CHAOS
YEAHHH
HERE👏 FOR👏 THE👏 CHAOS👏
NOT EVEN 2 MINUTES IN TO IT MAAAAAAN
Im so sorry you got doxxed. Noone deserves that kind of treatment.
@IlovefebruaryHow?
I hope Illy is okay, the threats and doxing is inexcusable and horrible
@Ilovefebruary shut up chvddie! Xhe didn't deserve it!
@Ilovefebruary are you stupid?
@Ilovefebruary ?
14:10 The part of the video that was cut out by the person who made this creator have to move due to doxxing, death threats and r*pe threats.
She’s talking about how if your health is compromised, to stick to what your doctors tell you to do.
@secretslul strong words from the hazbin hotel sml fan
@secretslulwtf u posting then
@secretslulbro wtf you want
Yeah the guy was malicious to the core and no one covering it questioned or watched the original video. Really makes you sick
@@MasonBitByte ?
what you have to understand is even if youre not losing weight, you may just be replacing your fat in weight to muscle. BMI's and weighing yourself isnt accurate way to tell if youre improving, its just another measure of scale. Like you said, you are lifting, running and feeling better. Its muscle being added to you replacing the fat weight
The only two measures of actually knowing if you're losing fat are digital calipers and the mirror
Yes, milk these sweet cardio gains xD
@@pickler_pickler People with eds use mirrors though
@@SkylarThompson-mu1qsLa disfunción eréctil está sobrevalorada 🗿🚬
@@jellynut5903 ok
This was a story and message I really needed to hear right now. I’ve been trying for a while to keep a body neutral/positive mindset, but have never fully overcame the thought of weight loss. It feels like an endless battle and diet culture has been winning lately. Thank you for expressing that our weight doesn’t dictate our health!
Are you dumb
I was the fat kid in school. I wasn't obese, but I was still horrified at my eighth grade class picture because to me I looked so fat. And yet, I was by all measurements I was still perfectly healthy. One of the ways I coped was by becoming the class clown. When you're not the "ideal" body shape, everyone thinks they know how to "fix" you better than you (or your doctors) do. So thank you for this video.
Friendly reminder that even if everyone on earth ate the same diet and had the same workout routine, we'd still have different bodies
Preach!!!!
But no one would be obese or overweight
1. in that world, almost no one would be obese
2. this is why personal trainers exist. to adjust exercise and nutrition relative to your body. instead of giving everyone the standard amount
@@Cherika119 read what I said. You literally went and incorrectly wrote my point 1. Skipping out an important word, and you completely ignore point number 2 entirely.
@@StrongestDebunker except there are various health conditions and influence that can make losing weight more difficult for some people than others
One thing that doesn't get mentioned a lot either is that you can exchange fat weight for muscle weight. I actually put on weight while I was doing some of my gym work outs, but I noticed I looked a bit more slim and had less chub in some places. Not even they people at my gym explained to me that what was happening is I was exchanging one for the other as I got stronger.
I've been shrinking for months, but my weight has increased. Go figure. I have no illusions of ever being skinny, anyway.
Unles she was blasting tren thats imposible in 2 months
I'm 14, and despite me not being overweight, I've lately been struggling with my self image based on my weight, and I've been eating way less because I feel like I'm "fat", even though I'm not. I've been told I was skinny or a good weight my entire life, so I'm not exactly sure why I feel this way. I might have an ED, I don't know. But this video did help me feel less insecure about my body and made me feel more comfortable in my own skin, so thank you Illy
I feel you. I am teen too and I feel insecure abt my belly. So I tried many workouts but nothing changed. Self love is really big journey,but please eat tasty food and healthy food. Maybe visit a doctor if you feel bad. Food is energy.
Nobody called me fat as well but I called myself fat. And tbh it is a kinda my mental problem so yea. I just want to say that you are pretty the way you are. You deserve to be loved and if your heart full of kind,respect,love,your look doesn’t matter. Wear clothes that you like and you comfortable with and don’t give a fuck if it doesn’t look on you like on some models
I love you,stay safe,eat tasty food and enjoy your life❤
@sofiparker9984 thank you so much, please treat yourself good as well. You deserve the best. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise💕
Same here!
@@cheez_crazyI'm sorry, I hope you feel better soon
Kurt truly is the best 💪
the thing that truly annoyed me the most was that I had to accept being bigger then other girls it was not just my wheight I was hitting puberty to early! I saw other girls wearing crop tops and skirts and all of this it annoyed me, but I loved sharing clothes with my mom I loved wearing teenager clothes I loved the feeling of being taller then my brother the thing about my height made me feel like I do not blend in withtge rest of my class but I always remind my self that we don't have to all look the same to make one single boring painting with nothing but one single color but instead we could all be different colors making fun shapes so the painting could be unique, and after all your body has its positives that may look like negatives for others
To be honest, clicking on this video, I was like “but Illyssa isn’t fat,” but I love the content so I stayed. And now I’m nearly crying because I’m also the fattest I’ve ever been, and it feels out of control, and her conclusions about her body and health in this video are the things I try to remind myself. But it feels harder for me because I have health issues that prevent me from working out and dieting in any classic way. And I just feel stuck in a loop with no way out. I have yet to even get answers from doctors after over a year of appointments trying to figure it out, and when this all started I WAS feeling healthy. I WAS happy with myself. I loved my body. And then my body felt like it decided to hate me. I’m still seeing doctors and I haven’t given up, but it’s just… it’s hard feeling like I’m stuck in the bottom of a pit with no ladders or ropes to help me out.
Lots of people have made being chubby a synonym for fat unfortunely.
I'm also the fattest I ever been and it really does feel isolating
TL;DR
@@Ganbhrand you are so funny
So is your 3 bot subscribers
OMG GIRL U ARE GORGOUS 😭 also this video was genuinely so informing and nice too. Especially when u said, "Mirrors were just made to show us our reflection, not to be a weapon of self destruction". time stamp: 15:37
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@@rosemiramoreira82 huh
Should I be scared or are you just kidding
Lily casually returning after a month with pure art is a Christmas treat
lol u prob hear this a lot but I see u everywhere!!!
*ily :)
not u being everywhere…
LILY??? her name is alyssa .
@@lilyalbrecht6920they spelt it wrong, i think they meant illy
I felt really happy when i saw the diabetic kid at 14:07 as ive been diagnosed since i was 2 and recently got diagnosed with social contact autisim and my mum helps me through it when i got diagnosed with autism i was quite sad because i couldnt make many friends because it makes me feel scared but my mum helps me by saying its a superpower and that i can do anything you normal guys can do so yea never givw up
Thanks Illysa. I’ve struggled with multiple eating disorders for my whole life and you posting about young kids dieting makes me feel better. It’s sad how much we praise unhealthy weight loss.
And it’s even more dlsgustlng that you fks normalize obesity
peak irony right here
@@PurpleBugswhat is the irony?
Lily is proof that people with a rough child hood don’t become bad people I ADMIRE YOU
Do you mean allysa?
Illyssa is how her name is spelled btw
It's amazing.
דפפדםדםלגםגלגלקל.לד
Did she have a rough childhood?
The struggle of growing up with pcos and never understanding why i was different until getting into my late teens
This video honestly hit me so hard in a place I didn’t realize was still subconsciously effecting me. Hearing one of my favorite creators talk about one of the biggest struggles I dealt with in middle school made me feel seen. Thank you
Girl it’s 16 minutes long and had been out for 5 minutes you did NOT watch it all 💀
hey lardass here's a salad 🥗
i’m so sorry about what’s happening to you illy you’re amazing!
Lol good one
Ikr too funny
@@ObossRocks wdym.
@@sarahdgh1072 don't engage, they're brain dead
fuck around find out
“healthy” looks different on everybody, honestly don’t know why people find problems in everything
I KNOW
as someone who is 600 pounds my doctor says im to fat and I might die any second but they just fat phobic
@@radicaldude2000good
ur 600 pounds in debt
@@radicaldude2000that isn’t fat phobic, your literally 600 pounds. Your doctor is worried about you.
bro the way everyone switched up is wild
Bruh I know.
crazy ahh
from hating on the video to
🥺oh no she did nothing wrong just almost do the exact same thing that she tried to do😔
Ugh. Im going on vacation in june and am so worried i dont "look" how i should. This helped. Between you and brideydrake, ive learned how to be ok.
I see someone is not aware of the WARZONE that occurred
@@Retro-shru their trying to comfort her
@@marisstaff7019
I hope it does comfort her, cuz she doesn't deserve getting doxxed.
Its nice to be happy about yourself, but the solution to your "problem" is very straight forward
hey lardass here's a salad 🥗
The fact that you don’t even look overweight any time I’ve seen you is crazy to me. I’ve been trying to loose a few pounds recently and I feel your struggle. You look amazing and you have helped me so much, thanks illy, I hope this gets easier for you :)
As someone who got teased by my own family about my weight, this video restored the confidence I thought I could never get back after losing it as an elementary schooler. Your stories are an inspiration and motivator for so many Illy and I hope you keep reminding yourself that on the daily❤
hey lardass here's a salad 🥗
as someone whom is dealing with this now she explained it very well. i finally feel like im not the only one.
Whom 🤓
i saw this one video and subscribed IMMEDIATELY this helped so much with just feeling valid and..enough. but watching it did hurt knowing that so many adults, teens, even kids can relate to this and it is brave to address these topics in a time like this on the internet, but i am so so SO thankful you did, thank you, thank you so much. ❤
Being someone who started exercising at 10 and constantly has to remind themself that I'm a healthy weight and just don't look it, I really appreciate this video. It makes me feel seen.
I developed ana at 10 as well, and sadly I can relate to this. I hope you never forget that you're perfectly fine the way you are
Oh no at just 10- please just enjoy being a kid ! Eat , play outside , enjoy being a kid ❤ you’ll look back and love how you were at your age
@@Sinthiastar Oh don’t worry! I feel like I didn’t make it quite clear but I’m not still 10. That’s just when I started. I’m ok
you only started exercising at 10? Most people start at age 3???? Did you just not run at all in the first 10 years or what
@@socire72lmao
For the first time in my life, I started feeling self conscious of my body since September. This video really helped getting the perspective of someone who probably struggles more than me and still be perfectly happy. Thank you illy
i just put on my boots i ain’t worried bout no rain
I don’t know if your reading this illy but if your are…
Don’t let them get to you, you have helped me and countless of others see how we are beautiful no matter what. People are just shitty and I hope anyone who doxed you pay their price. Keep going strong and remember you are amazing, you are worth it and things will get better hopefully
One of my favorite quotes i’ve seen on this topic is “work out your body because you love it, not because you hate it”
I love this quote!!
Wow that's a good quote, sorry but I'm stealing this
@@HotRod237 For what are you stealing it?
@@simonleva3805 I see people mainly working out or getting surgury because they hate their bodies and just wanna look good for the "gram". People who genuinely love their bodies work hard for it and it's shown as a results of their health, looks and self esteem. People who does it just to look good are never happy. It's shown in their attitude towards others and themselves
@@HotRod237what if I want both. my quads are simply too scrumptious.
I was born with hypothyroidism (diagnosed at 17 days old) and I grew up the fat kid. To this day I still struggle with my weight and it caused me to hate my wedding photos from last year. Hearing your take on weight struggles actually helps and I need to start practicing body neutrality 😌 thank you.
More people need to learn about medical conditions that can predispose someone to gaining weight. People (including some doctors, who should really know better) are far too quick to judge without knowing the full picture.
Same here. I got diagnosed with hypothyroidism in 8th grade. I have always been bigger :(
I also have hypothyroidism, although I forget what age I was diagnosed, definitely not as young as you I don’t think. However I have another hormone issue that’s stagnating my weight…PCOS. These two conditions combined has made it rather difficult to lose any substantial weight. I did lose about 40 pounds once I started exercising and eating less, but now I’m kind of floating around a certain number. My weight could be lower but honestly I’ve never been concerned with my looks. My mother also being overweight (she has hypothyroid too) probably helped with that.
I was only bullied in one grade and it was for an entirely different reason and I was too young to really be affected by him, and he apologized the next year so that was something. Once I finished 4th grade, I expressed to my mom that I didn’t want to go to public middleschool and beyond, again for entirely unrelated reasons, but she agreed rather readily and so I spent my last school years in homeschooling. I think I dodged a far bigger bullet than I realized back then, especially since one of my school friends’ mom who is friends with my mom said her daughter basically went through hell in highschool, and she wasn’t even overweight like I was.
If I had gone through the roughest parts of highschool, I may have developed a stronger disdain for my appearance than I do, but as of now, I’m not perfect but I’m healthy and in a community of nice people who have never judged my appearance. I hope you can find peace as well ^~^
You can't gain weight without overeating and not exercising.
@@Wr41thgu4rd It's okay, not everyone can understand the simple fact that the human body is extremely complex and there are many reasons someone may gain weight.
as a chubby teenager myself, i’m so glad you made this video to shed some light on the experiences that i and many others go through (:
edit: guys please stop calling me fat or telling me to go work out. for one, i am not overweight or obese. literally js chubby. i am currently recovering from an ED and its been extremely hard recently. right now, all i need is to be happy in my own skin. thanks.
He he he he he he piggy 😂🤣
i feel you, i don't think Ive ever felt good in my body, even as a child who wasn't bullied even once, i was still sub-consciously comparing myself to others
@@BenitoDamianHernandez shut up stop being mean
@@PinayUSAMarion wait till he looks in the mirror
@@BenitoDamianHernandez wtf you been piggy 💀💀
This is an awesome video that has helped countless people, including me. I'm sorry that certain people have been so terrible about it. I hope you are doing alright.
As someone who got bullied for being fat while being underweight and fell into an ED because of it, this was nice to watch, it helped seeing you accept your body the way it was.
Nono stop believing that it’s just people giving up… if you really wanted to be skinny you’d do it for yourself and just eat the absolute bare minimum simple… Ed is ok as long as it doesn’t put you in a hospital nothing wrong with wanting to look a certain way
@@Sapeiandme Are you insane?? I've been in and out of an eating disorder since I was nine and but got particularly bad last year and I've been fighting it desperately. Have you any idea how dangerous it is to enable me??
@@ravendraws I think that person was trying to be sarcastic, but in a really shit way. You're doing amazing, keep eating, keep living and have a good time
@@ravendrawsI am so sorry about that psycho. Please don't relapse, please let yourself eat! Your body is perfect
@@ravendrawsYouve got this im so sorry that dumbass exists🫂
I'm almost 30 and my mother has been borderline bullying me just because I have a little gut. I've been skinny my entire life and it's only in my late 20's that I've been shamed (and felt shame) for a little body fat. Words do have an impact and it's not just true for teens.
Sometimes it's actually healthy to have body fat because a lot of people forget how important fat is having a gut or something isn't bad but having so much fat it starts getting stored in blood veins is bad(yes your body does that)so u shouldn't feel shamed
I weigh 120 pounds and I’m thirteen and 5’2 is that overweight?
not at all!@@_Blossom_xx
@@_Blossom_xx If you look at BMI, you'd be just barely "overweight" but I wouldn't really say so. I'm the same age and a bit heavier than you but I've just got more muscle than the average, so you're fine :))
@@_Blossom_xxno no that’s acutally perfect if not a little bit light depending on the weight distribution
This brought back memories. With the added stress of having problems with my grades, I was also the fat kid. My mom saying it was baby fat wasn’t helping. Had to wear bigger sizes in clothing, I wasn’t able to do the games during PE, and hated playing tag with friends cause it was easier to tag the fat one. I didn’t like it and how I looked in family photos. The second I was living with my mom, she put me on a diet and workout routine when I was in the 4th grade. It was a pain at first but noticing the results and how other people noticed too made me feel better about myself. But because of having that on my mind as a kid, I start to dislike my body now as a young adult even though I’m not technically overweight from doctors. I know that I can do better but when I do there is no change. So I try my best to have a better mindset of loving my body and its okay to eat whatever I like cause I am healthy. Thank you Illy for telling your story❤️❤️❤️, making videos that are so relatable that I’m not alone in the way I feel or think. I hope you have a wonderful holiday and I’m excited to watch what you make in the new year
she's gorgeous - it's saddening to know she's been struggling with self-image. i can't believe she was doxxed yet again. i really hope she's okay and returns on youtube. i miss her :(
Same! I hope she’s ok! 😔
Same, I hope she’s doing alright.
gyatt? big level 10 illy gyatt?
@@TurkishNationalistABC you’re the unfunniest person I’ve ever seen
She came back!
Body image is something I struggle with greatly. Thank you for this, Illy. I got teary eyed but I really needed this. Stay safe and have happy holidays!
body neutrality helped me so much. I hope Illy is okay and safe, and I'm so sorry about what happened to you
Gross ginger
hey lardass here's a salad 🥗
@@4oho361 Really? That’s so rude
ive always been the "skinny kid" and got bullied for that, no matter how much i ate, i still were so skinny. it just shows that no matter how you look, people will always judge you by how your body look. (edit) tysm guys for all the likes!!
Same here, I’ve been “underweight” my entire life, with a BMI of 16 yet such a metabolism that doesn’t let me gain weight. I could take 2 months to gain 2kg with a specific diet and exercise and then loose them again in a week, making me feel like all progress was useless. It’s not a matter of weight, is a matter of health
Ikr
Damn straight!! Being "too" skinny is also just generally an uncomfortable and confusing experience.
I've been told I look anorexic, and I've also been told by some that they wish they had a body like mine. I've even known someone who body checked themselves right in front of me, pulled their shirt back to reveal their waist, asked me if I wanted to see their quads, and asked me how much I weighed. Their weird, competitive, passive-aggressive nature towards me BECAUSE of the way my body looks is something that never rubbed me the right way.
All in all, though, the obsession with being skinny is always something that's made me so uncomfortable to see from others. Body neutrality is something we should all strive for, and focusing on what our bodies can DO instead of what they look like is most important at the end of the day.
Been there. I was 6'1 and 17 years old and I was a skeleton.(130 lbs)Every time I went swimming I wore a shirt to cover my ribs.😅(still love food though)
facts
9:19 YOUR LIKE ONE OF THE PRETTIEST ANIMATOR THAT I KNOW😭😭😭
As a middle schooler I can sadly confirm that this is still how they act and I recently had to stick up for a friend who was being bullied. What the actual hell is wrong with us.
as a junior in high school who dealt with very similar circumstances, i applaud you (and thank you) for sticking up for your friend. times can be really rough but you just gotta push through. one day you'll look back and feel relief that it's finally over.
I'm not in middle school, but I took a field trip recently and these girls in the back called the bus driver a whale and made fun of her. It pissed me off so much.
Much like kids learn to be homophobic and bully others for being gay, I'm pretty sure it's the same thing with weight shaming. If you're told by a young age or even if you read online that being fat is bad and being skinny is good, you'll get that mindset as well and bully others for being fat
You're such a a good friend, I really applaud you, and I know that you just made a core memory for your friend that will stick with them for the rest of their life. Please give them a compliment or two and assure them that they're beautiful and nothing's wrong with them. Even if it doesn't seem like it, it's always good to do it anyways in case they are feeling bad about themself, but are just hiding it.
Some people are naturally bigger or skinnier. The fact that you stayed at the same weight even when exercising alot is proof that you are at a healthy weight for YOUR body type! What's dangerous for health is doing the yo-yo, and keeping a relatively stable weight is healthy, whatever the weight is.
Stop bullying people for that, it includes skinny people who always are suspected of being anorexic! Be happy the way you are if it doesn't handicap you in any way 😊!
(by the way, you are really cute, don't worry!)
You did nothing wrong and this video was lovely especially as someone with an ED. I hope you're doing okay.
Ikr they are making crap up
@@Nina.draws_what crap did we make up?
@@AmericanPatriot-wu7eq What crap didnt you make up is an easier question to answer
@@geministrial950 Are you going to answer the question or not?
@@AmericanPatriot-wu7eqdoxxing
As an overly skinny person I used to get bullied about not weighing enough, it's so messed up to see that no matter what body size you are there's always someone out there to judge you. You are perfect just the way you are, Illy, and so is everyone else in da comments. Love you guys.
i have the same problem, its so nice seeing im not alone🥺
as a skinny person, the names are horrible (toothpick, stick insect, twig etc.) so much so i went to the gym with the purpose to bulk up but i got obsessed with comparing myself to other ripped people and it made me feel awful. I’m learning to accept my body now and i’m just hoping one day i can look in a mirror and like what i see.
I was called a slim jim before@@jaydenbrough9624
Ugh, so true!! Society needs to stop - or at the very least, pick a side and stay there so we can fight it.
I have the exact same issue and I agree with this comment
My sister is SOOOO like that but i told her even if you’re fat you’re still you and just be yourself
I am a wrestler so I have to keep track of my weight. I’ve always felt I have control of my weight by bulking or cutting. I was skeptical going into this but it sounds like you put in a lot of work to try and control your weight and that’s respect. There’s nothing wrong with being in a higher weight class.
I've struggled with body dysmorphia and dysphoria for as long as i can remember. Literally some of my earliest memories involve me wishing i was different so i could fend off bullying from my peers and family members. This video and the message within has been revelatory. I'll have to look into Maintenance Phase. Thank you.
hey lardass here's a salad 🥗
As a fat kid who is currently in middle school, this was the most relatable video I have ever watched.
sadly same here idk why people just shame people who already are struggling with their own problems we don't need more all of us should be supported but not become the new trendy. that would be a bad thing for skinny people
hey were harder to kidnap stay safe eat cake
BAHAHAHA@@lucifer--00743
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I'm starting a new chapter in my life and trying to become a personal trainer/business owner, and from that perspective I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. I have struggled with body dysmorphia for awhile. I got into body building because of it. I'm the healthiest I've ever been, and I am still very sensitive about my body. I'm not saying I can relate to your struggle with weight loss and a healthy body image. What I'm saying is that you have offered a new perspective on the struggle that I have heard the bigger people in my life describe, and have helped me see more clearly how I can reassure them. My goal in my business is to help people be healthy, and I have always believed that health is about the mind, body, and spirit. And in that sense, you have helped me find a new tool to use in helping my future clients and, by extension, the rest of the world. So thank you 😊
As a young adult male in college who is very self conscious about his weight, this video was incredibly reassuring and heartfully. I can personally relate to your struggle. Thank you for such an amazing video Illy.
Damn no likes is sad
Shut up caketurtle
You can always decide if you want to take the easy path or the hard path, the only difference is, that the easy path is a circle. You will always get back right where you started. The hard path is foggy, uncharted territory. It is longer and you don´t know where it leads. But don´t you think you owe it to yourself to try and walk that path. Don´t you think that at the end of the long hard journey that you can look back and be proud of all the roadblockes you overcame, the excuses you stoped using and the truth you started telling yourself. Walking the familliar circle is easy, but throwing yourself in the dark with no clue of how far the journey will take you is hard and takes courage. Just make sure you don´t have to look back at your life and feel regret for the things you missed out on, the opertunitys you were too afraid to take. Find yourself brother.
I am sorry man. World is cruel that you cant be fat as an man.
then... go to.... the gym...
You’re such an inspiration to me. I grew up the “fat girl” I got tripped in the class and had people yell earthquake when I fell. I sobbed because I couldn’t fit into Hollister. I tried all the diets in middle school and high school. I got messages like how you did. Thank you for talking about these sensitive topics. They need to be spoken of. Thank you for your bravery and kindness. Truly it means the world to people like me.
YOU GO GIRL❤❤❤❤
(or dude,or whatever you identity as❤)
Some dude fatter than me said the same eartquake thing when I was tripping and my friend roasted the crap out of his appearance
Ok..yall had crazy childhoods I’ve been trying to get the “perfect SpongeBob popsicle”
Me too I feel your pain not form anyone else but from myself look don’t worry about your weight just be glad your healthy I’m not judging your life I’m just giving a idea
I feel u man. Being the "fat, ugly kid" is unbearable.
This made me feel so much better. As a middle school girl who weighs ~72 kg (160 lbs) this helps me realize I’m not unhealthy. I’m really not, because I eat healthy (all food groups, includes fruits and vegetables) and I exercise everyday, whether that’s my swim team practice or a walk.
Edit: I am 5’ 4”
what that fat?
ur 160?? idk where u live but where i live that’s skinny or fit 😮
I’m a 6th grader and I’m 182 but I don’t look that fat
I’m also very tall (5’6) so my weight is adjusted to my height.
As someone who was bigger then you at your age
you are perfect whatever size you are
You just have to be healthy thats what matters
god illy. i’m so so sorry this is all going on. your video are so important and comforting me. I really hope you’re safe. this isn’t okay.
Just looked up your red carpet photos! Girl you KILLED that!! Love your openness about the struggles we’ve all faced!
Omg same!! She looks so good!!
She is a narcissist, she count on you to fed her ego.
@@AlfredoPuente8giving compliments is nice regardless of whether you feed someone’s (who you don’t even know) ego :)
where did you find the photos I can't for the life of me
@@AlfredoPuente8 bro all your comments are just you being an asshole, please go outside and stop stalking this channel
As a 14 year old that is technically ‘bigger’ then most this video really touched me and I’m very sure others. And as a diabetic seeing someone do a blood test that isn’t part of an full on educational or medical video, shows me it as something normal and not something that’s separate me from others. So I thank you for this video, very much. :)
bros fat
i hope you're doing well! remember that no matter your size you deserve love and friends
You still need to work out tho weights are amazing and that first realization that you’ve gained muscle and lost weight is the best
@@dNorsh no one "needs" to work out, not everyone wants to feel big and strong. Nothing wrong with working out tho
@@pustak7202 its not about feeling "big" and "strong", it's about the health problems genius
Literally crying rn, man. I’m going through the same struggles.
That’s so sweet thanks again illy!
You got this I’m sure you’re a great person
Good I hope it gets worse
@crazy_sonic845 Hating is free
I just want to say this video is amazing. Thank you so much for everything you do!
The conclusion to this video (15:49 onwards) was worded so beautifully. The message is so important and we’re so grateful that you’re always reminding people of important messages!! You’re influencing the perspectives of so many people Illy, and you’re such an inspiration, so thank you 🫶
"Liquid is just liquid, whether its vodka, wine, beer or orange juice, so it doesnt effect your health."
illy deserves nothing but the world ❤
The world gave her red hair and she doesn’t wanna use it 1:05
@@Jollyjose251who cares? let the girl live
@@Jollyjose251what does that even mean?
@@nene-kusanagi1Exactly what it sounds like. The world gave her red hair and she doesn't want to use it. It's not hard to understand.
@@cxarhomell5867That literally makes no sense
I normally don't comment too often, but this video was something I absolutely needed. As a girl who was also bullied most of her life for her body and had such an unhealthy relationship with weight, I've recently come to the decision to stop my restrictive dieting. This change has been a struggle and there have been moments where I almost convinced myself to go back. But this video helped remind me that my life has been so much better since I've let go of my bad habits and started living my life again. Thank you Illy for making videos like this and handling them with the same love and care as a friend.
You've touched many peoples hearts today
;o; your comment has me tearing up. thank you so much- and know that im rooting for you! recovery isn't linear, there will be good days and bad days, and having a therapist or a trusted friend or adult to talk to really helps. you got this!!! i believe in you!!!
Yes!! We are all rooting for you! :D I may be an internet stranger but you should definitely know that YOU CAN DO IT!!!! ❤️
We are rooting for you!!! It's understandable and human to have doubts and to go back to a unhelthy habit. For me, I fear aging and "looking old" despite knowing that objectively, it isn't healthy for me and is rooted in the strict gender norms that I have internalised and am experiencing more as I transition (as an AMAB non-binary person). At least, if I look back from far, I am better off today then I was a year ago. If you look back far and are happy with were you are in comparison to that point, then you have the right to be proud :)
bullshit straight up bullshit
The comment above me is kinda cool
This was quite a while ago but also the fact you maintained weight when you started this routine AND you said you started matching her strength; you were also building muscle and doing things to feel better, means you made a lot of progress that a number can’t show.
Thank you for posting this while the holidays are in full swing. I'm at my heaviest right now too. Each day is a roll of the dice -- do I love my vibe or do I feel blobbish? Trying to keep positive and be kind to myself before I go home for Christmas. It isn't easy, but thank you for encouraging us to just accept ourselves.
just lose it stop trying to love yourself
@@flatztflead1375 why are you so negative
@@flatztflead1375you didn’t get the message of this whole fucking video, come back watch it again and then you should realise what it’s all about
@@Hannah_MackayYeah the message is . "If you weight 500 pounds don't listen to the hater love yourself even if it cost you your life"
@@GeoTube9why is he being Truth I wonder why?
The boots, chin pudge, and clothes shopping all hit on a personal level...but thank you so much for this video. As someone who has hated their body since the age of 10 I really needed to hear your message at the end of this video. People keep pushing positivity on me but I want to strive for neutrality, 'cause I can't do the positivity thing. Now I have a better way to explain it. I want to accept myself. Thank you.
Same here
Neutrality is better then hate!
@@Herowebcomicsdisagree. Dont hate it for sure, but dont accept it. You can change.
@@HerowebcomicsIts not either one. Dont stress it but lose it. Exercise and eat healthy.
I'm so sorry about everything that's been happening to you. People can be disgusting. I hope you're safe.
Maybe she shouldn't have tried to de platform someone
@@ILoveMellos source？
I can’t believe people are actually acting like you did something wrong? You never said ONCE « being obese is okay, be obese!! » you were just trying to make people understand that their body and physical appearance doesn’t define them, haters really make no sense.
LITERALLY!! and the evidence people always refer to where she talks about "being obese is ok" they COMPLETELY cut out the part where she says "unless you have life threatening allergy's or dietary restrictions to follow."
are you stupid? she literally says "eat what you want!!!"
As a pretty chubby now 17 year old for their age I have always felt inadequate when I compare myself to fit or attractive people. However, i'm proud of who I am and what I've achieved in my body. Comparing yourself to others is truly the unhealthy part of being "unhealthy". Thanks illy, great video
Thank you for this. I'm fat too, but my fat distributes differently.. It makes me look like I'm pregnant, and it's been like this since I was 10 years old.. And on top of that I have to deal with gender dysphoria. Thank you for talking about this, Illy.
I have really looked like I’m pregnant since I was 10 too
I am the exact same!!!!!
@@44foxyy and @flareisroyalty
Yay! I'm not alone anymore!
@@unstablegay4384what’s gender dimorphisa
as a trans gal i can confirm gender dysphoria sucks
Illy’s videos always hit different. I love how she talks about serious issues while also making it entertaining to watch
it’s disgusting that people are sending you threats.
I agree
I too agree
Yesss
Facts
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When I feel like the world is ending because of my weight or the way my body looks, I always find myself watching your fideos and especially this one. You really helpt me move forward and appreciate my body💜💜💜
Me too
What Illy said also apply to people who seems too skinny.
I get called out for how skinny i am ( by friends who seems concerned about it ) and i became aware of my body. I tried to eat more to gain weight to seem less skinny but it doesn't work. I tried the IMC calculation and it says that i'm under the average. That made me feel sad. Seeing this video even tho it's turned to body positivity for fat people, still made me happy because it's still what i wanted to hear.
Looking fat or skinny isn't always unhealthy, sometimes it's just how your body looks and it won't change. People shouldn't be jerks about it. So neither should you to yourself.
I love your videos Illy, keep up with your work and continue to work on yourself.
Love from a skinny french person ;)
Yes, i am also a part of the seemingly underweight club. Or i always was. I am now the “fattest” at 18% body fat (and i am a full grown woman), i never developed much boobage or hips (i do have some of both, iam just a very lean hourglass) The only way i made myself feel good was when i started lifting heavy and slowly seeing resilts, but then i went abroad for two months and lost a lot of muscle there. But i learnt to like myself, since i moved from a very body bulding style of lifting to calithenics and functional fitness - now i can do pistol squats, my knees no loger hurt, i can run and i am working on handstands. I feel like this switch would be beneficial for a lot of people - its no longer about how you look, but what you can do
If your friends are expressing concern that you're too skinny, it's likely because they think you think you're fat and are trying to lose further weight. Becoming concerned about whether you * look* too skinny is the opposite of what they're trying to achieve. They're trying to make you less concerned about how you look (than they think you are) so you don't starve yourself.
@@JonBrase Don't worry, I'm not starving myself. I was never fat Always skinnier than the average and it seems unhealthy while I've never had a problem about it. I understand their concerns but it's just it creates a bit of an awareness that shouldn't be there as my body didn't really change in my whole life.
Thx for your concern ^^
@@Zizalaonfire I'm glad to hear you're doing well !
I agree with you, it's more important to do things for you than for others. ( If I understood correctly, sorry if I didn't )
@@Aster_III Oh, the way you worded things initially made it clear that you weren't starving yourself, just that your friends probably thought you were. But the proper response to that is to do exactly as you were before. They don't want you to hurt yourself because you're concerned about how you look, and the best way to do that is to go on living as you were before they brought the matter up.
I can’t thank you enough for making this video. This spoke to me on such a personal level.
Omg i didn't realize you watch Illy
ive struggled with an eating disorder since i was 11 and seeing a video like this is so great for me right now. i really love seeing your videos on topics like this, it really helps with my own and i’m sure a lot of other peoples state of mind and gives people something to be able to relate to in a more healthy and productive way.
For someone who is still a Teenager and has issues with being overweight, it really helped me trough, when I heard These words, I actually started crying, knowing that this is what I need, this is what I want to hear and this is how I should see myself. I also got bullied for being overweight and went trough different diets, just to gain the same weight and even more in the end, I also suffered emotionally......but when I just live my life how I want, I am happy, I am free and, most important, I am myself. Thank you Ellie for reminding that every body is different and beautiful, you are one of a kind, we all are, stay safe and have a great day!! ❤❤😊
As someone who's 14, and pretty overweight, I feel much better about myself and feel I can stop hiding in my hoodies wherever I go in public, thanks for talking about this.
Same. I am glad people can feel this.. these kind of videos should be more common..
bro just work out im not even saying this as a mean or offensive way i was f_cking obese back then but i worked out took me 7 months and i am incapable of growing abs since genetics but i look fit and healthy
as 11 i can agree with u
@@Younis_Halal boutta hit that gym ark for resolutions
Exercise
Love your work, Illy!!! I've been following your channel for awhile now, and I just want you to know that your messages have helped me in some of my darkest times. You're an amazing person. You got this❤
This genuinely made me cry. I'm twelve years old and I've been getting picked on since elementary school by other girls for so long. Hearing what you had to say made me feel so much better about my body and the way I saw it. Seriously thank you for making this, you've really opened my eyes.
As a 15 year old, it’s gonna get a lot better trust me man.
same
Go on fucking treadmill NIKA
@@phill1451 Thank you that means alot
If you are 12 you barely hit puberty yet in my eyes
It will get better
Judy give it time
Those bullies will peak in middle or high school and you still have so much more progress to go
I was bullied a lot when I was your age and I survived
4:43 my bigger sized friend starved herself because they didn’t like how they looked and I always brought them an apple because I hated watching them eat nothing every lunch time. (this was in six grade btw)
Good
I'm half-starveing myself right now
Your so amazing please I’m begging you to make sure she dos’nt end up like my little sister
6th grade? 11-12 year olds? What the fuck is going on nowadays.
@@Youreldenringguide what the fuck?
I trained for a marathon in 3 months and my starting and end weight did not change. But I did notice that my progress pictures ended with me being more toned. Drinking water 95 percent of the time makes a big difference
Your fat is being turned into muscle. That's a good thing because 1. you will look and feel better and 2. you will be more physically fit
guys this was 4 months ago PLSSS shut up
off topic but illy always makes my day and makes me more confident in myself when she posts
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She’s an inspiration 😊
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jesus christ i feel like this animator is CONSTANTLY going through it 😭 i watch her videos every couple of months and it’s like.. damn 🙁 give my girl a break 😭😭😭
it’s definitely a team rather than a 1 person project
the saga of the eternal victim continues yet again
Yeah, same here!
She just complain too much
@@Ben-zg8xk bro she’s not complaining too much, she’s simply talking about topics that many people go through 💀but not everyone 1. Feels comfortable to talk about it publicly and 2. Has this much attention around their stories.
I also had this issue thing but when I was 8 but now I’m not insecure anymore and watching ur videos makes it feel easier knowing that more people are going through it
as a 12 almost 13 year old struggling with an eating disorder thank you for doing what you do and thanks for making this video it means a lot
I hope you are doing better keep fighting
As a 12 almost 13 yead old too, love urself and never give up my friend
I watched this video the first it came out and it made me smile. so when i heard that people were doxxing you for being happy and sharing YOUR story, and also helping those who are struggling the same, IS JUST OUTRAGEOUS I hope you're doing well illy.
I love your videos and you probably wont see this but i just really wanted to say that! Thank you for the wonderful vid illy
Same it is SO FUCKING STUPID LIKE WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE NOW?! 😤😡
honestly, humans are kinda crap sometimes
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@@AlexStarkey-f1gmost times
As someone who has been struggling with my bodyweight for a couple of years, this kind of reassurance helps a lot. and I'm finally starting to accept myself and I go to the gym and eat healthy for me and not because I hate my body like I did in the past,so thankyou
Just do boxing brody. It helped me.
It’s ok to not brush yo teeth. You might get gum infection but Atleast it’s not hurting anyone. It’s ok if someone doesn’t shower or brush their teeth.
"it doesn't hurt anyone" bro you didn't have to expose yourself for not going out of your home. That could be the only reason someone didn't call you out for how you smell
@@apex1203he's restating the bad "fat is not bad" arguments made in the video but replacing being fat and over eating with not showering or brushing your teeth.
Notice how she said inheritantly you warm toliet seat
@@mjmoffatt6097dumbass
Damn did this hit me here it hurt. After years of very disordered eating & excessive exercise I finally tapped out & started learning about body positivity & self love. That shit is hard, but it was exactly what I needed. Also mad love to Maintenance Phase, that show has changed me in all the best ways :) thank you for making this
Thats just called giving up bro
as a slightly overweight, red-headed middle school girl with acne and glasses, this made my day.
Had all of those same traits in middle school. It does get better once you're done with grade school. People who make it to college generally are the ones who accept everybody for who they are. Be aware that you will sometimes run into adult bullies. But don't listen to them. You're amazing just the way you are.
YOUR TAINTED BY THE DEVIL
Run, go to the gym, and eat healthy. I was getting chunky at that age but working out and running are life changing.
Just jog. You'll feel so much so much better every day.
This message made your day and will ruin your future.
What I love about ILLY is that she’s not afraid to talk about sensitive topics and is always trying to help others
i think she’s lying aint no way she has all these conditions and all these things happen to her. I don’t believe it and never will
@@randomstuffallday872its not inconceivable at all. ive had seven mental health diagnosis, have been abused by my parents, groomed, four psych ward visits, one of which AGAIN abused me, etc.
bad things can happen to people, and there shouldnt be a cap of bad things that can happen to you before you're disbelieved.
@@randomstuffallday872 i have loads of conditions as well (a lot similar to illy) its very possible and more comon then you would assume. I dont blame you for being skeptical but at the same time assuming everything is fake actually can hurt people and show others "hey if you have all these things, youre messed up. You must be faking youre a liar" when im reality is very very possible.
@@randomstuffallday872 if you have anything negative about Illy then do it somewhere else!
@@kaylaskreations4973bud can't handle words sit down lil bro she ain't letting you hit
Not the point of the video but I love the random Scott pilgrim and Ramona flowers at like 5:21
And knifes
This is singlehandedly the most relatable and true video I've seen in a LONG while, more people should know that not all of us are just lazy or unhealthy because i got hated on by my whole class for reasons i still don't understand and they'd use my weight as a way to mock me almost every day and that needs to stop
I came here because of Noah, good luck through this time, cheers
lots of people watched that Noah Samsen video huh
NOAH SUCKS HES WEAK CUS SLOVENIA 🇸🇮 🚫
Illys positive and informational videos will always make me look at things from a new and better perspective. I'm very grateful she's a genuinely great person and UA-camr lol
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