Times I should've realized I was autistic

  • Опубліковано 11 тра 2022
  • since finishing this video ive been officially diagnosed so ye B)
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  • illymation
    illymation  10 місяців тому +16091

    hi I’m sorry I didn’t do a good job explaining what I meant when it came to self diagnosis - it is valid and I self-dx’d myself for the longest time because my past therapist (who was not educated on autism at all) refused to have me evaluated because she said I “didn’t look autistic.” I saw a new psych who actually studies autism, and I was properly diagnosed. The point I meant to make was: self diagnosing and faking a disability are two different things that I feel become conflated by others who aren’t in our position - because they have access to diagnostics and doctors who listen. And I only “agree” that self diagnosing is wrong if someone is knowingly faking a disability. I used the fake service dog scenario to illustrate this because this is a common issue my friend in the video experiences way too often: people claiming to need a service dog, so they buy a fake vest online, put it on their untrained pet, and that untrained pet will attack and pick fights with my friend’s service dog, sometimes resulting in her and her actual service dog getting denied service places. This is the behavior I’m against- KNOWINGLY faking a disability; not self diagnosing. Thanks!

    • Jenny ThePixie
      Jenny ThePixie 2 місяці тому

      Thanks for the video and the explanation. I'm not sure if this is typical with self dx or not, I'm just staring to explore the possibility I may have ASD and/or ADHD, but if I do end up discovering I am then it'll most likely not even be disclosed to the outside world as I don't think it would really change much. But I'm fortunate enough to mainly get the reaction of "oh, that's just Jenny." and people shrug and move on, unless they need my help with something. Regardless, a bit of self reflection hopefully will do me good, no matter the outcome. ^-^

    • Kaleidoscope
      Kaleidoscope 4 місяці тому

      Thank you. I'm sure I'm autistic but feel guilt in case I'm wrong, so I don't tell anybody. Do you think this coukd be true? I'm not OCD about cleanliness but am with time and safety (absolutely won't charge my phone over night or leave lights on) I pace constantly around like a maniac, can't keep my hands still, am terrible at communication, can't watch TV (especially not movies) unless in very short bursts and usually while pacing. BUT I can draw and play video games in longer bursts, because thats mentally active. I'm crazy sensitive to noise especially clocks and two noises at once. I cant recognise faces, but can memorize facts to a ridiculous degree (always get 100% in any written test, but fall to pieces at any observed physical test, meaning I can't drive) Im insane about time management, I get to work over an hour early 'just incase' and have panic attacks if I don't know the time every 10 minutes. There's lots of other stuff, I call passing tests my "Autism powers" but I wish they'd work for other things lol. I also think I'm self-absorbed because I can't read other people and get very over-stimulated socially. So have to be alone all the time. What do you think?

    • xxthatsnotmexx
      xxthatsnotmexx 6 місяців тому +1

      @Screaming Opossum you're basically saying that a dx doesn't exist until a doc confirms it, like you've always had the disorder, it doesn't just magically appear with confirmation from a doctor.

  • 🎗 ordinary extraordinary 🎗
    🎗 ordinary extraordinary 🎗 10 місяців тому +11568

    i heard someone tell a girl with asd, “well, you don’t ACT autistic” and she just went, “Oh sorry! One second.” and then started hitting her head while listing off train facts. 10/10 response

  • Ello Elle
    Ello Elle 3 місяці тому +1966

    “It felt like the phrase ‘just be yourself applied to everyone except me specifically’” oof i feel deep in my core. I connect so deeply with your experience. It aligns with so much that i went through too.

    • thatguyblu
      thatguyblu 6 годин тому

      Seriously. I still feel that way

    • ivydrawsalotofstufftherianfurry
      ivydrawsalotofstufftherianfurry 11 днів тому

      me too, I relate to her

    • Kochayincha
      Kochayincha 16 днів тому

      literally me

    • Ray
      Ray Місяць тому

      Taking all bets!
      How long til Illymation announces they're trans?
      They're already bandwagoning onto being disabled for attention, so it's a matter of when, not if, they announce it.

    • Shticky
      Shticky Місяць тому


  • Max Awsten
    Max Awsten 3 місяці тому +810

    At 4:38 "why would you joke about that?" really hit me hard. I'm ADHD and questioning if I'm autistic (close to self dx and pursuing formal assessment) and even though I make bad or mean jokes, most of the time if my boyfriend or others makes them then I get upset and ask why they would joke about something so terrible. It's to the point my boyfriend and I agreed to preface these jokes by saying "bad joke" then saying the joke. I logically understand its a joke and even make these jokes myself, but sometimes I just can't comprehend the joke or why it should be funny since it's mean. (Overexplaining myself and my behavior, another ding.) I'm also the king of sarcasm but half the time I can't understand it. What kind of logic is this lmfao

    • DumplingDoodle
      DumplingDoodle 11 днів тому

      i kinda relate to this too, though not to the same extent. my former friend group had a really toxic way of speaking to eachother, something i unfortunately emulated. and yet, whenever i would sling an insult, i would feel viscerally uncomfortable receiving one back. eventually i tried to address it, and only got shat on further, eventually leading to my ditching their asses. i feel so much more confident in myself and am actually able to recognize that i don't suck, and am in fact actually a genuinely good and interesting person!
      also the sarcasm thing is SO REAL. i always get told i have amazing comedic timing and that my sarcasm is hilarious, and yet i fail to pick up sarcasm from people i don't already know well fairly often. it's so irritating to make someone laugh, have them make a joke in response, only for me to go "huh?"

    • Melon :3
      Melon :3 12 днів тому

      Same omg its like the worstttt

    • Dragonit
      Dragonit Місяць тому

      wingweaver84 that's awesome, you be you

    • Shticky
      Shticky Місяць тому


    • Dragonit
      Dragonit Місяць тому

      @spinel's a nice name *steals in genderfluid* I sometimes blunt with my sarcasm but only if people who annoys me, I'm also autistic but I have my sense of humor(I think).

  • Daisy
    Daisy Місяць тому +28

    the Jean thing isn’t just you illy, we are here for you. ✊

    • blokbirb
      blokbirb 4 дні тому

      Also 5:49 happens to literally everyone as well no matter whether they're disordered or not.

    • Lia Morrison
      Lia Morrison 7 днів тому +1

      Mhm, I got forced in sixth grade, and now they're the main type of pants I wear. It was really hard, but I'm a bit glad my mom made me get used to them because they're actually nice-looking pants, and not as bad as some others.

  • yellow
    yellow 3 місяці тому +731

    you dont understand how nice it is to see someone i really look up to have the same things as me

  • etansivad
    etansivad 2 місяці тому +54

    As a husband of someone on the spectrum, and a father of someone on the spectrum, this video is both heartbreaking to watch and wonderfully endearing.
    I love them both so much and wouldn't change a thing about them. They can do things I can't, and I can do things they can't. And we all love each other.
    Thank you for making this video. :)

  • Whatever
    Whatever 10 місяців тому +21056

    Important note. The things that people see as autistic and are the main diagnostic criteria are the things that happen when autistic people are overwhelmed and unhappy. Those "symptoms" go away when they are able to communicate, cope, and are happy.

    • Whatever
      Whatever 8 днів тому

      @Кира Куфтырева Yes. That is a good way to rephrase what I said. Maybe a better way to say it.

    • Кира Куфтырева
      Кира Куфтырева 8 днів тому +1

      Yeah, people know what overwhelmed nd looks like but have no idea what happy nd looks like. So they just don't believe anyone who aren't overwhelmed all the time

    • DumplingDoodle
      DumplingDoodle 11 днів тому

      i know you're trying to reduce stigma, but it is worth noting that this isn't the case for everyone. some people are just legitimately nonverbal, for example.

    • Sun 🇺🇦
      Sun 🇺🇦 2 місяці тому

      I slowly became used to noise (although sometimes it annoys me)

    • Sun 🇺🇦
      Sun 🇺🇦 2 місяці тому

      @Elianna Ross true yea

  • Júlia Santana
    Júlia Santana 3 місяці тому +648

    god, i just realized how I'm still masking all the time. the whole copying what people do is a thing that I do in basically all my social interactions, including commenting on UA-cam videos, which takes like 5 minutes every time because I'm thinking about how people say things and how do I do that

    • Júlia Santana
      Júlia Santana 4 дні тому

      @blokbirb i'm not falling for this again, don't ever start with the "everybody does it" shit

    • blokbirb
      blokbirb 4 дні тому

      ​@mimic Also the threshold for who's considered disordered is constantly being lowered to the point where nowadays almost everyone can be diagnosed.

    • blokbirb
      blokbirb 4 дні тому

      ​@mimic People online just love drama, they don't want to hear things like that fact that all ADHD symptoms are experienced by normal people as well. What makes someone be diagnosed is the high frequency of symptoms that badly impacts their life.

    • blokbirb
      blokbirb 4 дні тому

      Btw it's human nature to learn by copying other people's behavior.

    • alice
      alice 22 дні тому

      oh my god same :(

  • Arcade
    Arcade 3 місяці тому +600

    I'm an autistic 12 year old and I have lots of trouble with the world around me, but my mom has so much to handle, my dad doesn't even believe that I'm autistic, I barely ever see my partner, and my friends & siblings think that's not their problem to take care of me. so I don't get the attention and help that I feel like I need in this world...
    it sucks for me

    • Spacebug 111
      Spacebug 111 2 дні тому

      Let’s hope a UA-cam higher up Dosent see this

    • Wolfy
      Wolfy  Місяць тому

      @Arcade i’m so sorry you had to go through that but just remember you have people on UA-cam will help you as well as a female with autism. It is hard I’ve been told I was sensitive and just over reacting but I remind myself that once I get home from all those people, I have a family on UA-cam to rely on.

    • Caprisun
      Caprisun Місяць тому

      I suspect that I have autism and we have the same age :D can we be friends?

    • The dripbine
      The dripbine  Місяць тому +1

      My god even though my dad thinks I’m not autistic and my grandma narrates me for it I have intense sympathy for this he’ll your going through

  • Melon :3
    Melon :3 11 днів тому +13

    I can relate to these too much. Today in my french class the other kids in my class were being like really annoying and I couldn't handle it. I just snapped at one of them, and that did literally nothing. So after that I just...sat at my desk with my hands over my ears trying as hard as possible not to cry. I didn't even want to be there, I just wanted to scream at them but also just sit there crying at the same time. But like...I don't wanna cry in front of them, middle schoolers are brutal and would make fun of me relentlessly for the rest of time. That has been happening a lot more lately, things have been sounding way louder than normal. And every single time, ive just sat or stood there with my hands over my ears and trying not to cry and scream "SHUT THE FUCK UP" because that would 100% land me in detention or something.
    Sorry, this is a bit of a rant, but what I meant by all this was I am pretty sure I have a hint of autism 😅

  • LpsFTW
    LpsFTW 3 місяці тому +127

    Fellow autistic here!
    So I was diagnosed at a very young age as I had a brother five years before lil ol' me came along and my parents noticed many differences. In fact, I apparently had my own language similar to simlish and I only ate beige, smooth foods.
    Now I eat literally anything and I tend to use language which could be considered very flowery. Very dramatic.
    Honestly, since I was told I was autistic at the age of ten, (I think, I can't remember) , I have felt nothing but self love for myself. Because this body and brain is the only one I'm ever gonna have so to not enjoy your body and mind is so f*cking draining.
    Lemme tell you, if you're someone who thinks that because of your autism,that you are incapable of doing something,that's not true. You may just need a little bit of extra help!
    In school to even now in college, I have to have a teacher run through a thing or two more than once to the point where I feel like I'm being dumb and not worthy of being there. But then I remember "Hey. I just learn differently. At a slower pace!" As a way to calm myself down.

    • Flame
      Flame 11 днів тому

      Yeah I should do it to, thanks for telling us!

    • DumplingDoodle
      DumplingDoodle 11 днів тому +2

      i always find it interesting to see how other people's autism changed with age. mine got significantly more manageable, and actually made learning easier due to my special interests being mostly academic (history, science, politics, etc.). like you, i also tend to use very eccentric language when speaking; something i've actually heard corroborated by many other autistic people, which i think is also kinda interesting!

    • Garnet
      Garnet 26 днів тому +1

      @Mephisto -BlackKnife- Oh god, I perfectly understand how you feel since it's basically how I've been feeling in my entire life and I'm so sorry that you had to go through all this too because it really sucks
      I learned about my autism quite recently(And probably ADHD but haven't diagnosed yet)and for years I've been facing self confidence and self esteem issues, I spent many years comparing myself to others and asking to myself "Why can't I be like them ? Why can't I be normal ? What's wrong with me ? Am I a failure ?" Without knowing why, I was barely able to achieve half as much as the others, I felt like being myself was something I should be ashamed of
      Since I know about my autism and symptoms, I'm trying to have a better self acceptance but it's not always easy, especially since I have almost 0 support even from my family, the only person support I have is from my older sister who has ADHD, but she moved to college so we don't live together anymore
      I really hope things will get better in the future

    • Mephisto -BlackKnife-
      Mephisto -BlackKnife- Місяць тому

      Sorry idk why I commented that lm just very overwhelmed

    • Mephisto -BlackKnife-
      Mephisto -BlackKnife- Місяць тому +1

      I wish I was diagnosed as a kid and could get to know, develop and exploit all the positive traits about it but I was only forced to repress all of that and now I'm a messy adult who can barely survive and knows has s lot of potential but has no idea what to do because all those years where o could've really explored that potential are gone. I am now discovering that I seem to have autism and Im extremely lonely, have 0 support and barely manage to survive. I am very, very scared

  • Neon Leon💙
    Neon Leon💙 Місяць тому +19

    I have a similar story but I'm not autistic, I have sensory issues and throughout my life everybody told me I was "over-dramatic" or "really sensitive" and many things like that until I went to therapy and now we are discovering all this things lol.

  • Lea
    Lea 3 місяці тому +78

    i'm not autistic but my friend is, and i kept hurting her by mistake but i was never sure why. thank you so much for helping me realize what i was doing wrong and how i can be better :)

  • Mr. Frogggy
    Mr. Frogggy 3 місяці тому +55

    This is super relatable for me. I didn't know I was autistic until there were some issues I had that my parents said was autism. My two autistic friends weren't even surprised when I told them.

    • NV33
      NV33 13 днів тому

      It’s really relatable to me too but I feel like nobody is believing me when I tell them I want to go see a doctor for it. My mom keeps telling me “but I would know you don’t act autistic” she didn’t know I was adhd or depressed when I am, I didn’t even get diagnosed until a couple weeks ago when she finally agreed to help me go see a psychologist. Nobody believed me they simply told me “I think you been spending too much time around taylor(she’s my sister in law who has adhd)” once I finally went they told me my score was really high for my age. So now that I’m on adhd medicine it’s like my sensory issues amplified. Loud noises always made me uncomfortable and even afraid but it would always depend on the noise as well. My medicine for my adhd work great but once it wears off I get super overstimulated and under stimulated and freak out sometimes. Which is why I started to suspect that I might be autistic because I noticed I always had sensory issues and would cry ALOT when I’m over stimulated or even get super angry when I’m under stimulated. I’ve been looking into the symptoms of autism and been finding myself relating to alot of them. But I feel like it could just be my adhd because I do know that alot of the symptoms overlap. I am unsure of what to do.

    • trouble1044
      trouble1044 3 місяці тому +2

      Same it’s actually 3 of my friends that were autistic that pointed the symptoms out to me at first

  • Magestical Mimi
    Magestical Mimi Місяць тому +9

    Here’s a report from a 10 year old in England getting tested on Autism and ADHD in March

  • StrawberryNova
    StrawberryNova 3 місяці тому +57

    I can relate to that SO MUCH. I would have a full on freakout.
    That aside, I can relate to an INTENSE degree to almost ALL of this. Because I was afab and was a quieter kid, it and ADHD were completely missed in me. It took to my late 20's for it to be caught.

    • D U C K
      D U C K 6 днів тому

      ​@DumplingDoodle ughhh underwear sucks, they forced me to wear it, and also jeans which sucked as much

    • DumplingDoodle
      DumplingDoodle 11 днів тому +1

      brooo i didn't even wear underwear until i was like 9 lmao, so fucking real.

    • CharlieAndHisAntics
      CharlieAndHisAntics Місяць тому +1

      Same, but the opposite. I always have to wear the same few pairs of jeans and leggings or I'm constantly uncomfortable. It sucks SO BAD.

    • Alice Dodobirb
      Alice Dodobirb Місяць тому

      @StrawberryNova thank you :D
      Tbh I don't understand how people can be rude to each other (on purpose) so I'm definitely glad I'm not seen that way for the most part!

    • StrawberryNova
      StrawberryNova Місяць тому +1

      @Alice Dodobirb I think you did fine! I struggle being understood sometimes, too, so I always try and be patient and nice with people. You sound nice as well!

  • alexidk
    alexidk Місяць тому +12

    Okay so this video has helped me realize that I’m probably autistic. I’ve been diagnosed with adhd for a while now, and I’ve been chalking up a lot of things to adhd, but I relate to basically every single thing that was said in this video, and I’ve suspected that I might be autistic for a while now (bc there are a lot of things that don’t really align with adhd goin on in my brain), this has just helped me fully accept that. I will think about this for a while, but I’m already meeting with my doctor soon to talk about my current medications so I might bring it up then - anyways if anyone sees this I hope you have a lovely day

  • Breezy♡Bel
    Breezy♡Bel 9 місяців тому +2992

    My little sister is autistic and she was so happy when she watched this and was smiling ear to ear saying ILY IS JUST LIKE ME! and you don't know how much that's means to me thank you so so so much you deserve the world

    • Pedro Franca
      Pedro Franca 3 місяці тому +1

      Even though I'm 22 now, I totally get that feeling. I swear, it never gets old, but when like 2 of the science channels I watch mentioned their autism, just as with Illy, it always brings a smile to my face and makes me go "One of us! One of us!"

    • Itz_Berri
      Itz_Berri 4 місяці тому +1


    • Anonymous
      Anonymous 4 місяці тому +3

      @Joselyne Muniz (Jocy) Tell him.

    • Lazarus
      Lazarus 5 місяців тому

      I'm also autistic

  • NonBinary Rainbow Chaos
    NonBinary Rainbow Chaos 3 місяці тому +182

    I relate to this video so much!!! I was diagnosed with ADHD a while ago and they thought I probably wasn't autistic, but I think that I might be. I don't "look autistic", but I do have a lot of sensory problems and some other stuff, and I just really relate to this video. I'm gonna have an autism assessment soon to get officially diagnosed.

    • Sun 🇺🇦
      Sun 🇺🇦 2 місяці тому +4

      There is a possibility that you have both and maybe even more conditions. I have Autism (diagnosed when I was little) and ADHD (diagnosed with it last year I think).

    • Dean
      Dean 2 місяці тому

      i also have adhd and have been thinking abou autism for some time now, and its just nice to know that other people know this situation

    • erick Martinsz
      erick Martinsz 3 місяці тому +4

      Anyway, i hope you get diagnosed soon, i wish you the best

    • erick Martinsz
      erick Martinsz 3 місяці тому +8

      I go through the same thing as you, but sometimes i caught myself thinking... "What If i'm just introvert and dramatic? Maybe im faking It". There were one time at School when i felt SO uncomfortable, my body was kind of creaking and having spasms all because of the loud noise, I even start crying, but i still dont know what it was and if it could be an autism symptom

  • elliott
    elliott 3 місяці тому +66

    This as a video makes me extremely happy. I have a autistic brother who apperantly "doesnt look autiistic" and has been bullied for it at school ect. But you spreading the infromation that not all autistic people are the same makes me so happy.

  • Noah van den Berg
    Noah van den Berg 29 днів тому +6

    I was kinda lucky with the environment I grew up in. My grandfather on my father's side had autism, and my parents noticed very soon in my childhood similar atypical behavior. So around the time I was 5 or 6 years old, I had my diagnosis and sinds then I've been having professional counseling and guidance. Talking with someone who genuinely understands you and what you're going through has helped me a lot to survive highschool.

  • Brandon HAYGOOD
    Brandon HAYGOOD 3 місяці тому +4

    I'm not autistic but ADHD and dyspraxic so I still relate to all of this. The hardest part is how people still don't understand.

  • Simon Ludlow
    Simon Ludlow 24 дні тому +2

    For someone who was recently diagnosed with Autism, this video is really relatable.

  • Vixy
    Vixy 10 місяців тому +1978

    “It’s like the *be yourself* quote applied to everyone but me”
    Honestly that hit very close to home. I’ve always been labled as annoying and I never understood alot of things the way other people did, I get called stupid and/or slow for not understanding questions or following conversations properly/differently. I always thought maybe I had some sort of mental problem with me. Maybe I do, I don’t know. I’ve never been diagnosed with anything (yet)

    • yikes
      yikes 2 місяці тому

      Don't worry, I've been there too.

    • +.*Uniqua's world*.+
      +.*Uniqua's world*.+ 3 місяці тому +2

      Yeah honestly nobody liked me as a younger kid because I was "annoying" and I didnt understand why but everytime I wanted to hang out with a group or something I was always left out or just for acting like myself people found me weird

    • Animal Ations
      Animal Ations 4 місяці тому +2

      @Fuzzy Little Spider I know that I don’t know you in real life but, hi I hope you know I love and care for you very much! Also I hope you have an amazing life filled with amazing weeks, days, months, and even years!

    • Fuzzy Little Spider
      Fuzzy Little Spider 4 місяці тому +4

      I've never had a best friend before, I would make a friend and things would be ok for a while but then they would tell me to shut up and I'm annoying. Then I would be ghosted, in over 25 years I still don't have friends....

    • Εφη Μαλανδρακη
      Εφη Μαλανδρακη 5 місяців тому +1

      I'm really sorry you are going through this. I know how you feel and you are not alone. I've lost so many friends bc they just didnt like my true self and I was like "why is this happening to me?". Personally I was never diagnosed with autism, but when I was little I was diagnosed with ADHD and I learned that by watching a tiktok on fyp which made me question my mom about it bc I could relate. I clicked on this video out of curiosity ,and I realised just how similar ADHD symptoms are to autism. I did therapy then and my symptoms have really improved. However I still struggle ,like I'm still loosing focus at times, I find myself a bit sensitive on loud sounds and freak out over small everyday things (not too much but still). The struggle is real😩

  • Ktos Fajny
    Ktos Fajny 3 місяці тому +35

    I love how you explained that needing some service dogs or caretakers whi.e not being autistic doesn't mean we're just faking it. I need to go to psychologist and therapy, I need my dog (not service dog, but trained) to help me with bad habits and sensory or mental panic attacs, I have communication and cofiedence problems and I was diagnosed not being autistic, but it doesn't mean I'm faking it for attention.

  • Joyita Hasan
    Joyita Hasan 3 місяці тому +92

    Although I am not autistic I'm very shy and quiet when I'm outside of my house. So in my school days I was being bullied and being called autistic because my classmates thought that I'm a weirdo. I used to feel very sad but they were so insensitive that they used to get so much fun when they saw I was being sad. I still wonder how they could be so cruel when kids are supposed to be innocent.

    • James Klark
      James Klark 2 місяці тому +5

      Childhood innocence moreso refers to a kid's naivety rather than an offence their guilty of.

    • Alinkc
      Alinkc 2 місяці тому +4

      Ngl if I was in your class those kids would of got smacked up

  • Officially Fabulous
    Officially Fabulous 2 місяці тому +5

    Bro me seeing this video really made me question having autism. Almost my whole life I thought autism was JUST low-functioning autism, until I saw this video and did more research and learned that there is more to autism than just having trouble talking for example. Then I went to the doctor, and they confirmed that I have high functioning autism :) thanks illy!

  • lannydragonlover
    lannydragonlover 3 місяці тому +53

    That line about being yourself working for everyone but yourself rings so true. I'd get that advice every time I told people about how isolated and friendless I felt - just be myself and I'd find 'my people' and make good friends. In practice it ensured I made my first real friend when I was 16 years old.

  • Its_Squid
    Its_Squid Місяць тому +1

    I have ADHD to. Luckily its mild, but it still changed my life incredibly. Your definition of ADHD made me laugh. Thanks Illy

  • Hopeless Peaches
    Hopeless Peaches 10 місяців тому +7818

    I can relate to needing headphones and getting weirded out at specific things. My parents used to keep asking why I needed headphones everywhere I went, but that's because they didn't see that when I was alone walking the dog, or on the train, the sounds of other people or sounds of rustling really got me upset and wanna escape home OOF.
    I don't know if that means I have autism per say, but I can relate to a good chunk of this video. But I also know I've had untreated depression since I was little, and got a prognosis for ADHD, so as you said: similar symptoms might be baking different types of cake.

    • ibu the child eater - ur local miu iruma
      ibu the child eater - ur local miu iruma Місяць тому

      bro my parents are confused of why i have 3 pairs of headphones, each one of the headphones cover a different amount of loudness, i have a pair that cover abit of noise for stuff like school then i have builder ones that cover noises for like concerts or fireworks then i just have other backup ones and my parents are rrly confused so i understand tbh lol

    • DogLover
      DogLover 2 місяці тому +1

      U could have sensory processing disorder it can be on its own or go along with asd

    • Axolotdraws
      Axolotdraws 3 місяці тому +1

      I really need headphones but I was born with a defect where my ears are at the wrong angle so they hurt when I wear headphones for too long :(

    • Amahrrin Sampson
      Amahrrin Sampson 4 місяці тому

      Some of my friends have autism and ADHD.

    • Irenesee
      Irenesee 7 місяців тому

      Peach brain is a majestic brain

  • Toby
    Toby 4 місяці тому +6

    I'm currently in the process of getting diagnosed with ASD! (I wasn't diagnosed when I was younger because I'm pretty high functioning, and learned how to mask at a young age.)
    I actually watched this video around the time it came out, and it was one of the major factors in me starting to research autism, and eventually talking to my psychologist about it. So I honestly thank Illymation for really setting me off on my self discovery journey lol.
    To all of my questioning/autistic friends out there, you're doing great! Don't give up guys, just because life might be a bit more confusing or difficult, dosen't mean you can't still do great.
    Ily guys :)

  • Nekomata Glitch
    Nekomata Glitch 3 місяці тому +20

    I watched this before realizing I had autism and found it really relatable. I didn’t quite realize how many of this symptoms I had till more recently but rewatching this video has been a nice way of seeing how much I’ve learned about myself! :D

  • Laurel Dodds
    Laurel Dodds 11 днів тому +1

    My cousin is also autistic and she carries around a huge sketchbook everywhere to draw hybrids of different animals. She loves it when you draw them for her buts she's really picky with it. She had my uncle draw one for her and after she looked at him like and then told him "You did it wrong." Then she had me do it and when I was done she looked at me, then at the drawing, then back at me and said "Good."

  • Kristen Cartagena
    Kristen Cartagena 3 місяці тому +16

    Hi, I'm 15 and ever since I was a kid I knew that I was different, in a lot of ways I did and still do struggle with stuff like she does. . .but unfortunately my parents and teachers also never played much attention to it and believed that I was just a quite kid, even though most of my childhood consisted of that nonverbal panic that I couldn't explain. But ofc, since I didn't know what was wrong and I couldn't explain it I didn't know how to ask for help. About 2 years ago I stated trying to figure out what's wrong with me so I can finally get some kinda of help since things keep getting worse and my issues are harder and harder to ignore/hide. Eventually I realize that I'm I don't have ADHD like my brother and uncle, or have ADD like my dad, but I think it might be autistic.
    At first I didn't want to belive that that might be the case but I want to closure I've been chasing since I was little, so my first appointment with a therapist and specialist is very soon, I'm scared out of my mind but wish me luck :)

  • AJ
    AJ 3 місяці тому +4

    I'm still so uncomfy in my self dx, and there is so much imposter syndrome i have to work through. I talk to a lot of my friends who are autistic and i see so much from autistic creators discussing their experiences and symptoms and 9 times out of 10 I go "yup yup yup that me." but when it comes to saying it out loud...
    the way i remind myself is: no one *wants* to feel the way i feel when I'm nonverbal. no one *wants* to pick at their skin obsessively because things are too loud and they have no out for that situation. NT ppl don't mutter almost every noise they hear in words, onomatopoeia style. this would not be happening if i was lying. if i was making it up, i wouldn't stim the way i do when i walk across a room (not into a new one, across the same room) and completely forget why I'm there in the 10 steps i took. I'm not lying. I have ADHD and i have autism. this is a real thing I have.
    i hope that resonates with someone

  • Christy Clasgens
    Christy Clasgens 10 місяців тому +715

    Another important note. The spectrum isn’t linear!! The autism spectrum isn’t “low functioning to high functioning” or “more autistic to less autistic.”
    A lot of people like to say it’s more like a color wheel. But personally I like to use the sound board analogy. Each slider is an autism trait/symptom. Each trait or symptom is a spectrum of its own. And the amount you experience each trait can change. So your personal spectrum can look different and change day to day.

    • Lavender Pixel
      Lavender Pixel 3 місяці тому

      @Reut Gal No. For one thing not “everyone” experiences all the traits and symptoms even low amounts. For another it’s not considered a possible autistic symptom or trait if it’s not experienced in at an atypical intensity / frequency. If the trait or symptom started too late or someone experienced it briefly it’s not considered a possible sign of autism either.

    • Seymour Disapproves
      Seymour Disapproves 10 місяців тому +3

      @Reut Gal that analysis only really makes sense if you don't know much about any symptoms of autism. When OP talks about symptoms being on a sliding scale, they mean something like, "many autistic people are or have a phase in childhood where they are hyperverbal, however many other autistic people can say the same thing about being nonverbal." Similar things can be said about fine motor skills; many autistic people struggle with them, but some are piano virtuosos, which requires insane amounts of control. No single place on any of these scales dictates whether a person is autistic.
      You seem to think that there is some magic combination of places on each of the "sliding scales" for commonly recognized symptoms of autism that makes someone a "normal" or neurotypical person, however neurotypical people, who by and large don't have impairments in socializing, communication, or operating outside of restricted or repetitive behaviors, simply don't have to consider their place on these scales at all. The scales are a tool to address perceived impairments or abnormalities, so if there aren't any to speak of in a person, there aren't any to speak of.

    • Zakrovik
      Zakrovik 10 місяців тому

      @Seymour Disapproves That doesn't change the fact that you still have no credible concrete evidence.

    • Seymour Disapproves
      Seymour Disapproves 10 місяців тому +2

      @Zakrovik A chunk of this video is devoted to speaking on some ways autistic people have been denied professional testing, much less diagnoses, for autism due to bias and discrimination. This video specifically covers a bias against women and people who were assigned female at birth, who often exhibit "atypical" symptoms according to a body of research that has almost exclusively focused on boys for decades. However, as also brought up in the video, this discrimination affects other demographics as well. For example, a large body of research spanning decades at this point shows that Black autistic children are much more likely to be misdiagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder before receiving a proper autism diagnosis when compared to white children, with some studies listing the disparity as being over 5 times more likely for Black children. This is likely to do with Black people already being stereotyped as violent, brutish, and dangerous, so Black autistic children's outbursts due to frustration or overstimulation are more likely to be viewed as malicious than similar outbursts from a white child.
      Point is, these are ongoing problems within the field of autism research. A PhD isn't a talisman against bias or prejudice, and the only reason a lot of people get diagnosed with autism outside of childhood at all is because they start putting the pieces together and requesting tests themselves. So maybe, idk, don't dismiss the lived experiences of disabled people in favor of this imaginary concept of an infallible medical establishment which is largely made up of people who do not have the disorders or conditions they're studying in other people? Is it really that shocking to you that a person who actually lives with something could perhaps be better at articulating what that's like for them than someone who has never lived with it and can only ever really guess at what it's like?

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  • Venus N Things
    Venus N Things 3 місяці тому +31

    My mother doesn't believe I am Autistic because I'm not ' Low Functioning ' , however I have many of the symptoms and suffer from sensory issues . I'm definitely trying to get diagnosed

    • Cian Buckley
      Cian Buckley 2 місяці тому

      @foljs5858 What reason?

    • Amahrrin Sampson
      Amahrrin Sampson 2 місяці тому +4

      I used to suffer sensory issues as a little girl.

    • foljs
      foljs 2 місяці тому +4

      @yikes "It's called a spectrum for a reason". Yes, but for a nonsensical reason, including medical politics.

  • Xds Chips
    Xds Chips 3 місяці тому +6

    Started tearing up for this video ngl... I relate to so much and I’m desperately asking for help but everyone just calls me sensitive and dramatic. I hope I can find out what’s wrong with me one day. Because I have no clue

  • Random Coffee Table
    Random Coffee Table 2 місяці тому +4

    Not autistic, just ADHD, but it's great seeing more large youtubers opening up about this stuff to wider audiences. It hasn't really been in the public eye before and every little bit helps as people learn more and more about the struggles we face that others just can't comprehend. I've technically been diagnosed for 6 years but I just chalked it up to "ah well can't pay attention lolz" and then just ignored it until IceCreamSandwhiches video on it came out and I finally got around to learning more about what makes me tick. So if that's my experience what is it like for NTs who have no real experience with any of this outside of seeing the really low functioning people (either on the ASD or ADHD spectrums)? Thanks for the awesome content and bringing awareness to this.

  • knotsoangelic
    knotsoangelic 4 місяці тому +2

    I didn’t realize i was autistic until about a month ago. At first I thought I had ADHD (which is applicable) but i also found myself relating to autistic traits and problems as well …. and, let’s just say my mother doesn’t believe me even though she relates to some of the things i did as a kid. Rip.
    Edit; I’m self diagnosed autistic as of right now because getting a formal diagnosis poses many issues for me. Also, I’m not even guaranteed to get one in the first place. I’ve done extensive research on both autism and ADHD. I believe those who aren’t doing it as a trend/for attention are valid; we just want answers and find ways to cope.

  • Rivers from the red album
    Rivers from the red album 2 місяці тому +4

    I think it's really important to stop these negative stereo types and the first step is informing people correctly. Thanks for this video, I remember these kinds of experiences when I first realised I was on the spectrum.

  • PoseidonSon2002
    PoseidonSon2002 10 місяців тому +815

    For anyone who needs to hear this, ADHD and autism have a surprising amount of overlaps: sensory issues, lack of focus, hyper focus, issues with socialization, and so much more. If you researched autism and thought “well, it kinda fits me, but not perfectly” I would recommend looking into ADHD, because that may be what’s up.

    • Marin Ackerman
      Marin Ackerman 3 місяці тому

      I have adhd and this really helps

    • Zain Mushtaq
      Zain Mushtaq 3 місяці тому

      @Julia Doodles Omg same. Just got off my 9th session with my first psychologist over the course of 4 months, and getting diagnosed as Asperger's was such a let down as I honestly feel like ADHD explains everything and then some, especially the focus, executive function, and working memory problems. Even sitting there and talking with/listening to her was such a mentally draining task to keep my focus and not "lose" her words. I'm trying to get reassessed, hopefully you can too :)

    • pyrrhicvictoly
      pyrrhicvictoly 7 місяців тому +4

      There are also overlaps and comorbidity with various anxiety disorders. I have a lot of (well-hidden) repetitive tics and self-soothing behavior and was diagnosed with both General Anxiety and adult ADHD by one doctor, then went to see an ADHD specialist to hopefully get a more definitive answer. They had me take an IQ test and blinking dot test and at the end of it all his response was basically... "it's unclear". So it could be one or the other or both, and I've learned to be fine with not knowing for sure.

    • Gali
      Gali 10 місяців тому +2

      thanks! this has helped me clear up my suspicions, you see i've always related quite heavily to some autism symptoms but it's been over the last month or so that i've actually started to recognize them as such, but i've been already diagnosed with ADHD so that might be it! i'll still do some research before bringing it up to my psychologist just to be sure! :D

    • Keniko RB
      Keniko RB 10 місяців тому +2

      You can also have both!

  • Allison
    Allison Місяць тому +2

    I love the animation, and all of the examples and life story! I wish that this was a show. Love the fun details in the background

  • Zuri León
    Zuri León 12 днів тому

    This video really hit me like a sack of potatoes. I am gobsmacked I don’t even know what to say. This hit like a nail on the head, I’ve talked to my autistic friend about it, and she brought up she thought I lay on the spectrum LONG before I did. “ it felt like being yourself applied to everyone else except me” I was SHOCKED something has never been this accurate.

  • Alina Reis
    Alina Reis День тому +1

    Hey this is kinda late but I just wanted to say thank you for making this, I’ve been suspecting I had adhd and/or autism for some while but haven’t really felt like I fit into the more extreme side of the spectrum, and this feels like a good video to show my parents because my brother is autistic and higher on the spectrum than I would assume I am but I worry that my parents will compare me to him instead of listening and working with me. I would also like to say that I love the little nods to shows and games you put in your videos it’s fun searching for them throughout :)

  • Flame
    Flame 11 днів тому +2

    Hey! I to have autism I find most of these relatable :) thanks for spending the time to make this video everyone appreciates it!

  • Unfunny Khoi
    Unfunny Khoi 2 місяці тому +2

    As I was watching this video, I could feel every single piece of clothing on my body.

  • LozFanXV
    LozFanXV 10 місяців тому +956

    “It felt like the be yourself quote applied to everyone but me.”
    As someone who has ADHD and many overlapping symptoms with autism (sensitivity to certain sounds and bright lights, hyperfixations, auditory processing disorder, overly emotional, stimming.) That hit me hard. The amount of times I was the "weird" girl during school was a lot, and I found myself either the target of pranks, or left out of social events happening. And I sometimes find myself still struggling with feeling accepted nowadays.

    • A Channel
      A Channel 10 місяців тому

      I also relate to you 100% except I have strange-ish humor.

    • Angel H
      Angel H 10 місяців тому

      Yeah same here, that line really resonated lol

    • Rhino_Raine
      Rhino_Raine 10 місяців тому +2

      "the best way to get friends is tojust be yourself" yeah i tried that and it didnt work, funny how as soon as i stopped being myself i actually got some

    • ZoellaFischerVA
      ZoellaFischerVA 10 місяців тому

      i forced myself to change into someone more socially acceptable over the years
      While it's a little sad, i do like the new me. I'm cool lol, and i still have my unique way of thinking

  • Katlin
    Katlin 4 місяці тому +2

    I don't know whether I'm on the spectrum, but I definitely relate to the whole thing about trying and failing to interact with other kids the way they interact with each other. Just seemed like there was no winning.

  • Zo' Civgal
    Zo' Civgal 26 днів тому

    I have been struggling with my neurodivergency for a very long time now. I never got an autism diagnosis, they told me I was a gifted kid who is too sensitive and moved on. But I honestly still don't know if i could be autistic "enough" and that scares me. Thank you for this video , it was re assuring ❤️

  • ThePsychicClarinetist
    ThePsychicClarinetist 2 місяці тому +3

    I've never been diagnosed with any mental disorders, and I used to think I'm nuerotypical, but now, I'm not so sure. I've definitely been alienated and I've definitely been the type to be socially isolated before to the point of mimicking to try and fit in. I'm now very comfortable not fitting in, and the plethora of amazing genuine friends I've made since have all been wonderful. That said, I'm still not diagnosed, and I've only ever self-diagnosed myself with depression and possible anxiety. One of my nuerodivergent friends who has done a lot of research in her spare time thinks I may have ADHD, which makes sense as my brother has it. I'm very curious now and thinking of getting diagnosed by a professional.
    This video covered the topic of autism really well! Before college, I only knew about the version of autism that gets the widest amount of acknowledgement, the side of the spectrum that struggles to take care of themselves. In college, I met one of my best friends and she's autistic, and she's the one who thinks I may have ADHD. Through everything I've learned though her and other autistic friends I've made, this is a very accurate depiction and is not only inclusionary, but also doesn't fall into the trap of trying to answer questions that can't be directly answered, and I love that. Great job, Illy! I've loved your content for a while now, and as always, you're funny and relatable. Keep up the great work! 😁

  • Julian
    Julian 4 місяці тому +3

    This really helped me because I also have ADHD and I am also autistic. Growing up I always took every metaphor literally, I would get migraines if I maintained eye contact for more than 30 seconds, If I heard a loud sound I would get a headache and then proceed to curl up in a ball and moan, I would refuse to wear clothes I didn't like (such as jeans), I never had any friends in high school and in middle school I only had a friend or 2 because I didn't really want friends, I never understood sarcasm so if someone was sarcastic then I wouldn't notice and if I tried to be sarcastic no-one else would notice and to top it off if someone touched me without my permission I would punch them and I punch hard. I think that last one might actually be from my aspergers syndrome.

  • JaegER
    JaegER 2 місяці тому +2

    24 here, and currently in the process of being diagnosed. Was never tested as a young kid or that, but always felt something was off, but could never put my finger on it. Currently waiting to hear back from an autism specialist, but I expect it'll take a while due to me being 24. I never even really considered that me being autistic was a possibility until about a year or two ago, then on a hunch decided to contact my GP and see about seeing a professional. Got refered about 4 months back, but it's been interesting both reading up on the stories of others, and realising how much of it I related to, it's strange, but relieving in a way

  • BearFlipsTable
    BearFlipsTable 6 місяців тому +1588

    The thing with you saying “I can’t wait to see you fall” is REALLY relatable. I also tried to mimic people. When I was 10 there were these girls I would hang out with and were always saying “mean” things to each other. In a joking way. So I called one of them big bum. She looked really offended and called me fat arse. I was really shocked and skulked away trying to figure out what I did wrong, while they all looked at me probably talking about what a rude weirdo I was.
    Eventually I just gave up trying to be friends with people and sat alone more often than not. Teachers would sometimes find me alone and force me to sit with others. I guess because I wouldn’t be “lonely and sad”. Honestly, I’d rather be “lonely and sad” than in company that didn’t even talk to me and be confused why.

    • Clover Lucky
      Clover Lucky 3 місяці тому +1

      personally i've started mimicking/masking so hard that it's difficult to stop at any given point. like, i've subconsciously tried to remove or hide my autistic traits so other people will treat me normally, but it doesn't help as much as it should

    • trouble1044
      trouble1044 3 місяці тому +1

      I did something similar I tried to mimic things I’ve heard other people say or do and I I thought they would find it funny but they didn’t and I got basically yelled at. And while I understood what I said was wrong I couldn’t understand why they didn’t find it funny because I’ve hear them say very similar things. And then they proceeded to make fun of religion and other things and I just sat there

    • Caitlyn Roper
      Caitlyn Roper 4 місяці тому +1

      I used to do that with words or phrases I heard other kids say. I’d try to use them later and just about always was met with either laughter or hurt. Like I just couldn’t judge or grasp tone.

    • Stephanie Courteoreille
      Stephanie Courteoreille 4 місяці тому

      To any and all teachers who do this, rightfully walk away 💀

  • Savannah Jade
    Savannah Jade 4 місяці тому +2

    This video made me want to cry with how relatable it is.
    I just sent it to my mom because you took the words right out of my brain!
    Bless you. Good luck out there

  • macy
    macy 3 місяці тому +2

    i relate to this so much. i've been homeschooled my whole life so i feel like my symptoms don't shine through as much but i've still always had sensory problems and have been called "dramatic" countless times. i was always trying to mimic people when i was younger too and they treated me just like this! i thought i was mess up, but now i know i'm not alone!

  • Oronaps
    Oronaps 3 дні тому +1

    I really relate to this video in almost every single point brought up. I have talked to some of my friends that are autistic and they think I am too. Even random friends that arent autistic or at least not diagnosed randomly have mentioned out of nowhere that they think I am, yet my mom doesn't think I am because I get good grades, I'm too smart and whatever else you get the point. I convinced her to finally get me tested for it later this year.

  • Samojed Kung
    Samojed Kung 3 місяці тому +28

    I have both autism and ADHD, but one time, someone on the internet thought I didn't have ADHD, and I'm pretty sure they said that I don't know what it means, or something, idk, they were just mean.

  • Sydni W
    Sydni W 14 днів тому

    Literally the most relatable video I’ve ever watched. Thank you so much for this. I start my evaluation in a few weeks and have been feeling some impostor syndrome and this helped me so much.

  • Edric Blight
    Edric Blight 7 місяців тому +445

    I wish i could get a diagnosis because hearing "you dont act like my nephew" or "my 'daughter' isnt autistic" every single day is so frustrating

    • haylee
      haylee 6 місяців тому +6

      My mom has told me I’m not autistic when I make autism jokes about myself (because I’m pretty sure I am) but then she made a joke about it the other day insinuating that me and my sisters are autistic and get it from our dad.
      I’m not mad about the joke and I’m thankful that she can also make jokes ab it because that means that a sliver of her accepts that I may have autism.

    • bxbbly 🌸
      bxbbly 🌸 6 місяців тому +17

      me too.. it's honestly interfering with some of my assignments and schoolwork even though i handle it to the best of my ability, i need assistance and to talk to a professional but my mom keeps saying "well my daughter isn't autistic because insert my cousin is and i don't act like him" 😃 we're not the same person first of all and second of all it's called Spectrum- for a reason 😭

  • 🌸one_dreamx🌸
    🌸one_dreamx🌸 3 місяці тому +3

    My best friend has autism, she does act different sometimes. But I understand why, she and I still get along very well

  • Juliet Bartlett
    Juliet Bartlett 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Illymation for this fantastic film. I'm a 57 year old woman awaiting assessment. I saw so much of my younger self here.
    Really great animation. You are very talented. Sending hugs and thank you's. Juliet. X x X

  • Stardrop
    Stardrop 21 день тому

    I relate to this so much. I've brought up my concerns with my mum but to no avail. I talked to one of my friends who has autism and he says he sees quite a few autistic traits in me. I'm gonna tell my mum about it bc he and I had the conversation today. Wish me luck :)

  • clairurumiii
    clairurumiii 3 місяці тому +18

    i have asd and this video made me tear up because of how relatable this was !!

  • Death floof 🖤
    Death floof 🖤 6 місяців тому +548

    I never knew I was autistic until I asked my sister a few weeks ago. She told me every one of my siblings are also autistic, including her and me, and my parents never told me.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous 3 місяці тому +2

      @Punk Poet If it doesn't change anything, then why not just tell them?

    • Punk Poet
      Punk Poet 3 місяці тому +6

      Sometimes parents not telling you isn't even out of ill intent or embarrassment. (Although I won't lie about that usually being the case.) sometimes they just don't think it changes anything, which I mean... It DOES, and having a label for why you are the way you are helps out a TON, but at at least they don't treat you differently or love you less. That's what happened to my friend. I used to tell him that it seemed like he had ADHD, and he kind of avoided the topic, then eventually, he told me his parents (who he doesn't live with) just offhandedly mentioned it.

    • DistantLoner
      DistantLoner 3 місяці тому +5

      No. I just wasn't told. Or maybe I was told but I wasn't paying attention. I can definitely see that as a possibility! Like, when I was 6, my older sibling and I were told that Santa didn't exist, but my brain wasn't there at all and I continued to believe in him for another 4 years. So I most likely wasn't paying attention to disorder-related conversations either.

    • Anonymous
      Anonymous 3 місяці тому +2

      @DistantLoner How? Did they lie about the test results?

    • DistantLoner
      DistantLoner 3 місяці тому +18

      I was diagnosed with autism when I was around 7, and people told me about that. But nobody ever told me that I was also diagnosed with ADHD until I was 14 (two times the age I was when I was diagnosed) when I found a video on the topic and brought it up to my mom! I think that parents should tell their kids about ALL of their (the kid's, and the parent's) disorders so that they don't grow up thinking that they're stupid!

  • Maximellow
    Maximellow 3 місяці тому +3

    I vividly remember my autistic friend going "I'm so glad I finally found another autistic person" and me very intensely denying that I have autism because I wasn't diagnosed.
    Well. 3 autistic friends who told me they finally found someone they relate to in me later, I got a little suspicious.

  • Claire Jones
    Claire Jones Місяць тому

    As an autistic person myself, this is very relatable especially with the obsessions and how I would talk about the same thing again and again about not registering the little social cues until they ask me to shut up and then, I lose another friends. I had special interest in Dogs, the Bible, MRT stations, etc. and obsessions on objects such as a pair of shorts, a hair clip, A cup, a teddy bear, etc.

  • Bridget Flanery
    Bridget Flanery 4 дні тому

    First of all, kudos for making such a clearly understandable way to explain this 😊

  • Roymartins Selby
    Roymartins Selby 2 місяці тому

    As an autistic, this is definitely accurate because when I was little, I used to be bothered by loud noises, and sometimes I still get bothered by them but not as much as I used to though and I also liked the way things feel like when I was little I was loved playing with straws and I even liked chewing on them and to this day I play with them although I don't chew on straws anymore though. And sometimes I did get bullied for the way I was, and not even my parents at the time knew what was wrong with me. Anyway I got diagnosed with autism diagnosed with autism a few years ago, But nowadays I just think of it as a blessing.

  • Nick B
    Nick B 2 місяці тому +3

    What an amazing video, you explained so much to me, and will be sharing this with my daughter.

  • XeeseKitty
    XeeseKitty 4 місяці тому +196

    I'm a neurodivergernt, I'm a gifted kid or a high habilites kid, and it's hard. Because people treat you like a genius, and when they realize that you are so sensitive, that u have problems with self steam, interaction and etc, they treat you like a strange people.

    • Кира Куфтырева
      Кира Куфтырева 8 днів тому

      ​@DumplingDoodle ooohh... That's explain a lot of stuff in my life...

    • AutZeroOneGotBanned
      AutZeroOneGotBanned 10 днів тому


    • DumplingDoodle
      DumplingDoodle 11 днів тому +2

      @Alice Dodobirb being really smart can actually be related TO autism, believe it or not. for example, my special interests are/were mostly academic in nature. politics, tech, science, language, etc. so i learned a lot more than my peers, just because i wanted to.

    • -The2nd_Rabb1t-
      -The2nd_Rabb1t- 16 днів тому +4

      I’m also a fellow gifted kid! Idk how the heck I got into it tho 😅

    • {Aguajelly}
      {Aguajelly} 17 днів тому +5


  • A literal leaf
    A literal leaf 2 місяці тому

    I recently spoke to some of my friends about autism after one of them was diagnosed. Both of my friends diagnosed with autism say I'm definitely autistic. Both my parents said they always knew I'm autistic. Their best excuse for not diagnosing me is that my mum "doesn't like labels." Honestly, it's definitely very obvious to anyone who even knows me a little bit

  • Burnt toast & Butter
    Burnt toast & Butter 2 місяці тому

    I watched this a while ago, and I do relate to your symptoms, which is why I think I have autism myself. It feels unatural for me to make eye contact, I take things literally, I have really big obsessions, and I even get overwhelmed sometimes at random noises.
    I was never bullied(at least not so far. I'm in eight grade writing this comment), but I always kinda felt like the odd one out. But now coming back to this video, I feel proud if I'm autistic.
    (I also currently have a BIG obsession with TOH, and I squealed when I noticed TOH characters in the background)

  • Susan E
    Susan E Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for making this video, I hope that others share this; because it's so important to see females in media who actually are on the spectrum.
    As someone who had a long time getting diagnosed for multiple mental health issues, this video really speaks to me and also a lot of my friends who are either on the spectrum or have some form of disability. I hope you have a good week!

  • Elizabeth Crosby
    Elizabeth Crosby 3 місяці тому +2

    Omg!!! I just realised I'm exactly like you!!!! I have the same exact feelings! I try to be like everyone else and I'm sooooooo sensitive! Thanks for helping me realize this!!!! 💗💗💗

  • CrownClown Creations
    CrownClown Creations 2 місяці тому +2

    My younger sibling got diagnosed with autism at age 11. A few years later I got diagnosed with ADD. I had a suspicion something was up, as I could see myself in some of my sibling's symptoms, but that was only about 1/10. When I finally got the ADD diagnosis, it all made sense! And I've been working with doctors and nurses and therapists ever since, to learn how to live with my diagnoses (ADD, a panic disorder and a severe depression. Oof). But for years my mom kept insisting I ALSO has autism. And at some point, I had to tell her to stop. I don't see myself as autistic. No one else I talk to does either. Not even my doctor at the ADHD clinic. I've even considered getting looked at, just to make my mom stop.
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with being on the spectrum! I just don't see myself in the diagnosis. Every "symptom" my mom has thrown at me, can all be explained with either ADD, anxiety or depression - the 3 diagnoses I already have. Autism just doesn't fit anywhere. But I know it's not uncommon to have both ASD and ADHD. And if you suspect that you might have one, or both, you should definitely have a professional look at it. Cause getting a proper diagnosis can be life changing!

  • Starmis
    Starmis 10 місяців тому +306

    As someone who is autistic, this is all so true. I am happy to see someone who feels the same way I feel during my years in 4th-7th grade. I hope more autistic people see this cause this is really special.

  • peat moss
    peat moss 3 місяці тому +5

    The one about jeans caught me so off guard! I wore leggings until I was like, (idk) probably nine or ten. My parents would not allow me to wear leggings after that point so I discovered jeggings (which they also stopped me from wearing). Just after sixth grade, I started wearing jeans because I was out of private school at that point and wanted to spite the school. I just recently started wearing sweat pants because it's too cold to wear shorts and I can't wear leggings (due to new sensory issues) and I don't want points taken off in gym class for wearing jeans. I just realized how long this is and if you made it this far, thank you for reading this much ranting

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      peat moss 3 місяці тому


    • BashAttack
      BashAttack 3 місяці тому

      Hey it was fun reading! For me I always had sensory issues with jeans fsr? Also those lil notes that are usually attached to clothes on the inside (usually around the back side of the clothing near the collar of a shirt for example) would drive me CRAZY. It would always itch and hurt and I'd refuse to wear clothes that had them, it made trying on new clothes and absolute nightmare for me as a kid.
      Smell was also an issue for me, strong smells would usually make me feel very uncomfortable, panicky and sometimes even lightheaded, and the same goes for loud noises as well as of late.
      The brain is whack

  • Raquel Landi
    Raquel Landi 4 місяці тому +2

    When I was younger, (and I still do it now) I had this thing that when I was excited, I would go to a wall, tense my hands in front on my face and indulge deep into my thoughts. My parents never had an explanation for it, nor my brothers nor my friends. I was supposed to just “control it” when in reality, sometimes didn’t even remember doing it after I had just finished. I was always tense and a nervous wreck growing up. I could never shut up and I would hyperfixate and obsess over things so easily and of course, I still do. I forget things so easily, am so easily distracted, can’t get my work done even if I try, I run around the room when I get excited, I cry so much, and have a lot of symptoms of both autism and adhd. My mom refuses to get me tested but I really wanna know, if there is anyone with autism or adhd out there to comment, do you think I might have any of these or maybe even both? I don’t have many friends so I just wanna know if theres anyone willing to answer, if you do, thank you ❤

  • Star Stout
    Star Stout 2 місяці тому +1

    As someone with autism myself, I'm feel so lucky that others can relate to what I go through. Thank you for making this video. Your great as you are.

  • BoomFam GDB
    BoomFam GDB 2 місяці тому +2

    This video is what made me realize that I’m high functioning autistic. And yes I’m self diagnosed cuz I know for a fact my dad would refuse to ever get me properly diagnosed. My whole life I thought maybe I had _something_ but I felt like I was way too calm and too good of a listener to have ADHD. And I felt I behaved too normally to be autistic. But then I found this video _and_ found out that high functioning autism is a thing. I looked up the symptoms, remembered weird things I would do in the past, and yeah, it’s fairly obvious to me now.
    (For anyone curious, the symptoms I related to were:
    Picky with foods,
    Sensitive sense of smell,
    Hates loud noises,
    Hates big changes in their life,
    Hyper focused,
    I only have social difficulties if I was forced into a social situation, but it’s fine if I have control over it.
    Low empathy {not NO empathy, LOW empathy}
    Difficulty controlling emotion)

  • ItsIvy!
    ItsIvy! Місяць тому +1

    All the references in this video is just insanely amazing!

  • SuperDietCola
    SuperDietCola 10 місяців тому +372

    i’ve been diagnosed as Autistic since i was 7 years old, but because of my masking and ability to function independently, no one around me could tell i was struggling, or that i needed any help.
    so many of these examples echo my own experiences and it’s a really relieving feeling to see that there are others who are like this, and that i’m not alone, broken or just “weird”.
    this video will really help me in explaining my symptoms to neurotypical folks, and i’m sure it will help many others. so thanks Illy, and thanks to the rest of your team.

  • bluecannibaleyes
    bluecannibaleyes 2 місяці тому

    Never been officially diagnosed but I fit almost all the symptoms. Except I feel like I never really tried to mask because when I observed how other humans interacted, it always seemed so bizarre and stupid to me that I had no desire to imitate it. Like, how do young girls interact with each other? I noticed that usually, upon recognizing a friend, they let out an ear-splitting screech that hurt my ears and honestly just created a fight or flight instinct in me whenever I heard it.
    So I never imitated that because: 1. It seemed incredibly stupid and pointless to me. I could observe that they did it but I never understood why and I still don’t. 2. The thought of being around others making that noise unexpectedly was just very anxiety-inducing and thus not something I wanted to do. 3. I’m faceblind (another thing that often goes along with autism) and couldn’t recognize people to greet in the first place.

  • Luna Moondemon
    Luna Moondemon 2 дні тому

    This reminds me of the months of fighting with my mom about wearing bras once I turned 11. To this day I find them unbelievably uncomfortable, but I have found some kinds of bras that are less uncomfortable than others. I have a lot of troubles with specific fabrics, sounds, smells, light sensitivity and touch.

  • zombie cupcake
    zombie cupcake 2 місяці тому

    I have an appointment to get tested for Autism but I'm scared that I'm not autistic enough and won't get the help I need. This video really helped me to see that autism isn't always in the extreme

  • Ratley Ramsay
    Ratley Ramsay 3 місяці тому +2

    Finally someone I can relate to! I always feel like I'm a weirdo who doesn't fit in, and then when I copy people everyone gets mad at me for being a 'copycat' or 'not creative' and a lot of people at my school think I'm insane whenever I talk about feeling upset or depressed, and they just tell me I'm overreacting. Thank you for talking about this topic, it helps me understand more about myself and how I'm not the only one who feels this way. ❤

  • Doritoarts
    Doritoarts 4 дні тому

    I have a distinct memory of telling my autistic friends I thought I might be autistic, and seeing all of them react with shock because they thought I already knew.

  • CipherBunz
    CipherBunz 8 місяців тому +1018

    ok but the whole thing about "not wearing jeans until you're older and forced to wear them bc of sensory issues" is so goddamn relatable and really explains why i never wore them when i was a kid (and still dont)
    also i wanna mention that another aspect that prevents some people from getting properly diagnosed is lack of access to anywhere that would give me a diagnosis. like for example, i'm 99.999% sure im autistic, i related to nearly everything in this video, ive looked at lists of symptoms and experienced a ton of them throughout my life, but finding somewhere to get diagnosed where i live is extremely tough, in addition to the fact that i'm a girl, which as you mentioned in this video, makes it even harder to get diagnosed

    • Gay Satanic Clowns
      Gay Satanic Clowns 6 місяців тому

      And then there's me, who considers a specific brand and kind of jeans to be the most comfortable pants in the world.
      But doesn't like other jeans.

    • Hypatia Kovalevskaya Sklodowska
      Hypatia Kovalevskaya Sklodowska 6 місяців тому


    • BearFlipsTable
      BearFlipsTable 6 місяців тому

      I would hate wearing gloves made by my mum because they felt extremely weird on my hands when I moved them. I think it was the wind rushing through the gaps between the wool and it freaked me the hell out. I hated it. But I eventually “got over it”.

    • Jess Ragan
      Jess Ragan 6 місяців тому +2

      Hate jeans. Hate hate HATE jeans. Will not wear them unless nudity is my only other option. They feel so... unaccommodating. They don't flow with your movement the way pants should, instead restricting each step ever so slightly. You need to keep up with me here!

    • Asbestos Lover 666
      Asbestos Lover 666 6 місяців тому

      @Phoenix oh god some textures feel like nails on a chalkboard!!

    JUNCORE★ 3 місяці тому +2

    i would like to say this was one of the first videos that made me question, "Am I Autistic?". I now have a diagnosis of Autism, GAD, and ADHD. I came here to say, thank you. Thank you for helping me start researching and reflecting my own experiences thad led me to have a better outlook on myself and getting the help i deserved.

  • Asterotha
    Asterotha 13 днів тому

    Thank you for this. I'm a 27 yo F and I've always struggled with "Sensitivity issues". I don't like crowds, Loud sudden notices, Certain Textures, Eye contact ( I have to force myself to make eye contact and my father trained me to do it) and anyone who has a very specific tone my father had when I was in trouble as a kid.
    My parents would push it off saying I was shy and had Anxiety, but I'm not shy. I love meet in new people and having long conversations. I love Listening to loud music when its the only thing going on. I only get agitated when 2 or more things are fighting for my attention. Like watching a movie at home and someone starts talking. I don't mind the talking but I can get over whelmed if people start talking louder over the TV of if you throw in a person also watching a video without any headphones. I used to have mental breakdowns when I first got to school (was never in Daycare or a pre school setting) because it was too much noise. Converts also set it off because I'm usually in the pit (Friends prefer it) and I physically feel like I'm going to throw up or Pass out. But loud music is fine, I'm ok in a concert in assigned seating, for touching I'm ok like for handshakes or having to stand close. But just all of it all at once gets to me.
    I've come to realize I am Likely on the spectrum. But its still scary to admit that once again I'm not normal. Even today, for work we have a lot of ppl in the office for a work thing. And I am on the verge of a break down just from the cacophony of so many voices, moving, walking, talking. I just needed to take an early break to calm down.
    I just wanted to say thank you for making me feel not alone.

  • AuntKiki
    AuntKiki Місяць тому

    I totally understand this, I was never hyper, but man, the focusing was just a struggle, and I got "lucky" and was diagnosed as a kid...but still, as an adult, trying to figure out how to do social interaction, even on my best of days.....hang in there, you've got this!

  • Thia
    Thia 3 місяці тому +2

    hi, i thought id comment to say this video helped me a lot when i didn't understand myself, and had no one around me that knew or understood what i went through. since watching it ive been able to open up to my therapist about my similar experiences and am now aware im autistic! learning this about myself as well as learning to accept myself has helped me and my mental health a lot. from the bottom of my heart i appreciate you talking about your experience with autism, and being so open and welcoming in general. it means so much to me, thank you so much.

  • Joe Misson
    Joe Misson Місяць тому +1

    From watching this I went to my therapist and found out I’m autistic too love u illy🙂

  • Emo Skullfire
    Emo Skullfire 7 місяців тому +614

    My friend who has autism, has been recently been telling me that I might have autism and that I should look into getting diagnosed. I've been doing some research and it makes a lot of sense, and tbh it's kinda overwhelming learning this part of myself I never really understood.

    • Moggy_Moo
      Moggy_Moo 5 місяців тому

      @Laura F I'm gonna be getting a new test soon :)
      The people that tell me about the test think I am same with my family

    • Laura F
      Laura F 5 місяців тому +1

      @Moggy_Moo My online AQ (autism quotient - unofficial online score) came back borderline 32/50. (32 being the threshold you can be considered autistic says the test) I went for official diagnosis and was diagnosed very much autistic with some quite pronounced areas of difficulty. So I wouldn't be discouraged by one test result, as the diagnostic team will use lots of different ones with you.

    • Laura F
      Laura F 5 місяців тому

      @is lalarose that's weird in a good way, one of my close friends told me a while back in a roundabout way that she sat next to me on my first day at school because I dressed like an autistic person. I guess she was right (we've both been diagnosed autistic in the last 3 years)

    • Leafwing
      Leafwing 5 місяців тому +2

      The same thing so happening to me she thought I was already diagnosed when she meet me 😅

  • Busy Bea
    Busy Bea 3 місяці тому +1

    I get away with my special interests bc they’re fashion and makeup related and “girls are supposed to like that stuff anyway” so I get to talk about it all the time and participate in it when I have spare time and pursue a career in it so I can do it for the rest of my life, and while that’s cool, sometimes it freaks me out to think how I would be treated if I were born a boy

  • LupinBun
    LupinBun 25 днів тому

    I literally didn't get diagnosed until I lost my job and couldn't, for the life of me, face trying to get another one because I was that badly burned out from the constant masking! Just the thought of even doing 1 day a week in a library was too much for me to handle.

  • MetalWolfGemstone
    MetalWolfGemstone 2 місяці тому

    I didn’t learn I was autistic and had ADHD until I was about 26. All my life I felt so isolated because I was always called lazy, careless, I don’t listen, I don’t pay attention, weird, stupid and so on. And, because of the society and age I grew up in, I believed all that. It hurt and I suffered and my social and self-care development was really stunted. I didn’t get my first real job until I was 30. I have been living with my mom and she practically let me stay rent free while I was struggling to figure out how the adult world worked. I’m actually not stupid, I’m very educated and intelligent regarding many subjects. Unfortunately none of them were how to function as a self-sufficient adult (paying taxes, know what type of insurance you needed, big confusing words regarding lease/renting/mortgage/etc.). I finally managed to get my own apartment a few months ago, but I’m still struggling. But the only reason I am here as an independent individual today, was finally convincing my mom to take me to a psychiatrist. About a minute into meeting him, I immediately spotted an ant on the floor and focused on it with interest. I eventually pointed it out and both him and my mom were extremely surprised I even spotted it against the patterned floor. That was probably what made the psychiatrist go “yup. Here’s some medication for your ADHD and a list of contacts to professionals that can help teach you how to function in adult society and cope/manage your autism so it doesn’t cause you to self-implode”. Not only has the medication helped, but learning that there was actually a REASON I was all these things and it wasn’t anything I had done or was doing, was so extremely relieving. I felt so light and at peace to learn that I wasn’t a screwed up moron who was a weirdo to be teased and bullied. The internet, as well, has brought so much information to people like us, helping us realize that no, all these things are not our fault. It’s just how our brains developed, and it should be society that needs to mold to include us, not the other way around. Society can change and make compromises, the human brain cannot.

  • G Nee
    G Nee 4 місяці тому

    Omg, I can relate to this so much! I’m not even autistic, but so many of these traits resonate with me.