I don't want revenge, I don't want them to feel bad and I don't want to teach them a lesson. I just want to move on with my life, become immune to narcissistic behaviour and fix the damage they caused in my brain. I don't want to behave like them.
I blocked him. Did not answer the door when he was banging on it. Then he started in with my friends. He would try to get info on me through my friends. He even wrote me letters wanting to know what he did to hurt me so much. They went unanswered. I kept a log of everything in case I had to take legal action. Glad he’s gone .
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. MAKE SURE that close trusted friends KNOW everything that he is doing in case something goes REALLY wrong (I pray that it doesn’t but escalating behavior can turn into violence). Make sure others know about his behavior.
I keep a log as well. I had to sue him at one point to get my property back and reported him to Facebook because he was harassing me through messenger. FB got in contact with him and when he got the paperwork for the lawsuit he stopped then. He doesn’t like the law and I think that scared him off. It’s been a quiet 7 years. But I still keep a log of everything just in case and to remind me of what not to go through again.
@@isabellavalencia8026 sending it back will make him think lines of communication are opening and playing a game. I flat out ignored him. Because of if I tried to talk to him, he’d just manipulate me to come back to him.
How do they know if they were blocked? Do they get a message? I think my ex blocked my number from calling my child But my call would go straight to voicemail, I got no msg. And my text would appear to go through as normal from my end. So I didn't know I was blocked I'm not on any social media like Facebook
They truly hate them both, but you are right "blocked" seems to impact them more, However, they can keep you blocked until they want to unblock you to toy with you.
Why would you want them back is my question? I'm ignoring the covert narcissist and I don't care anymore. It's like how many times do they have to hurt you before it's enough? I'm done I'm not going back.
Celibacy, meditation, and spiritual prayers work wonders when healing and learning yourself. Power of ignoring the bs...the access is there but you make a conscious choice to ignore each and every time they try reach out. Absolutely block if they continue incessantly contact you.
I have tried so hard to ignore the bs, but I find it entertaining now 😅 I think I may be toxic. I was told I have been poisoned and need to detox. You're correct, prayer does work. I'm hoping this fast will be a tremendous help.
@@GracedToWini felt the same for years. But I was still in survival mode, and assumed there was something wrong with me. A lack of self esteem/respect/love was a good enough explanation. I wanted to believe he didn’t impact me any more and would minimize any concern. I was in deep denial that I feared him. In reality, I loved and protected myself from memories of violent reactions for 15+ years. The grooming started at 14 - I had this breakthrough at 31, when my brain was safe enough to process it
Being ignored and blocked hurts a narcissistic person. My narcissist blocked me due to me standing my ground and telling him that you have no respect for me and that this is not a dictatorship. I want peace of mind with a fullfillness of happiness in a relationship with no trauma, so you are free to do whatever you need to do. I have better things to do with my time and life.
From the narcs perspective (no I'm not a narc I'm just very experienced in dealing with this personality) being blocked is better because it allows them to create all kinds of drama (stalking, door banging, window banging, etc.). Narcs thrive on drama so blocking gives them supply. Ignoring neutralizes them more and is far worse to their psych. So, if you really want to win this war, full fledged ignoring is the name of the game. The opposite of love is not hate, it's disinterest.
Interesting perspective! I tried ignoring but mine uses the knowledge that he is being ignored to keep triggering and for me blocking actually made me stop cyberstalking he social media because of trauma bond. So I needed to block for my own mental health. But good perspective
@@rtco769 even with a career and education in psychology we all get fooled and manipulated by narcs. It’s how we choose to handle each one as they are all different. For me, doing a smear campaign doesn’t bother be because everyone who does love and knows me would look at the narcissist and ask them why they feel so comfortable talking about poorly without me present to defend or why does they feel they can confide in them about me at all? (It’s happened before and I didn’t lose friends or family). He gave away my financial info/spending habits, sexual info, and while for other it can cause turmoil my friends who mostly work in my hospital will not entertain that as they feel it’s not their business nor the narcs to share. Plus people forget and move on with their lives and eventually narcs will too. :) Still love ur perspective though
Right now my husband is losing his mind. We still are in the same house together and I've gone no contact and blocked. I even walk past him like we're not married. I have nothing else left for him. He continues to say things to me and I ignore him. I was just gonna file for separation but I changed my mind to just divorce. I SEE HE'S NOT GONNA CHANGE AND HE BELIEVES HIS OWN LIES!
Please sleep with one eye open, these things can turn deadly once they know you’re leaving. And… if there’s children involve, be careful with them too, they won’t hesitate to use the children as a means to get to you.
Careful sweetie, I waited, and then he tried to shove me out of a moving car. They're like quicksilver. Things can escalate to violence faster than you can imagine. Getting away MUST be a priority for you!
Don't eat or drink anything from him. Be careful. Pray about everything. Be alert. Say no. Be in your spirit to evaluate him. That's where you get your answers.
Keep in mind, if you block on Facebook, and you have a weakness in a moment and unblock them, you can't reblock for 48 hours. My ex played this game - he'd block me then unblock me all in the same day (yes I was weak and kept checking), but remained no contact (no communication). Him blocking me and unblocking me became a laughing matter on my behalf (him doing it). I finally got to the point where he's blocked now, 100% on my end, and my heart doesn't hurt anymore. Every few days or so I'll think of him and be like "oh ya... I forgot he exists". This makes me happy :)
This one guy who was toxic and he attacked me and he I saw his true colors. A month later I emailed him and told him how I feel the next month I block him in every way I can and post a message and explose him.
Being blocked made mine more violent more so than just being ignored. He still won’t leave me alone even after ignoring and blocking. And actually blocking him makes him escalate
Yup! Waited in a dark parking lot to tell me to unlock him. Hand in my car while I’m driving away. I had to drive slowly and keep repeating the word NO
@@JoyTBarnum oh my goodness. That is so scary. I’m glad you got away from him unharmed! He has threatened to rape me and then kill me but so far he hasn’t been able to find me. I’m hoping he never does but I won’t hold my breath and I’m not letting my guard down.
Blocking a narcissist is the best thing to do, I have so much peace of mind since I blocked the narcissist, I pray and ask God to keep me strong 💪 it’s a journey but I know I can do this and stay free with God. Everything u talked about on this video is 💯 Lee, and I want to thank u and tell u I appreciate all u do.. ❤❤❤❤
Our daughters called him by his 1st name and told him they dont want to call him dad anymore as he didnt deserve it. They wrote him a final letter expressing their feelings and told me they want nothing else to do with him
My daughters made the decision to no longer communicate with their father. They are teens and know how they feel. At one point I would say they should communicate with him because he's their father. But when their father continues to disregard, deflect, and project onto them, and say the most hurtful things. I had to support them in their decision. I don't know if they have any idea of the negative impact they have on their children or if they even care. Ultimately I feel they use children as an access point to the mother to attempt to manipulate and spew their hatefulness.
@@dcanes5720My condolences that must have been a tough decision (at least for me it would defintiley be) do not walk to their death-bed. Really I don´t know what I would do... (I am thinking about that one)...
It is really hard but try to remain neutral with regards to the children. I find that, given time, the children you have together will figure everything out on their own.
@@dcanes5720completely understand you choice. Just had to make the same choice with an in-law. Have gone no contact with both my ex and his parent (they are both narcs). The parent was dying and Finally passed late last year. I had to ask myself if they were capable of delivering a final narc shot (some effed up comment) and then dying OFF the scene, leaving me with that trauma? The answer was “YES” they are capable of that. I also had to ask myself did I really want to tangle with BOTH of them at the same time? Nope, didn’t like doing it when we were married and I am damn sure not wanting to do it NOW. I decided to stick to my no contact rule and not respond about the death at all. I thought I would have more guilt but when it happened and they passed, I felt a tinge of sadness (for the sad life they led) but felt NO GUILT whatsoever. That was when I knew I had made the right decision. Never let guilt be the deciding factor when dealing with narcs. Remember: they weaponized EVERYTHING concerning you. You will not “win” by showing up. They will find a way to make your showing up a problem. You might as well maintain your peace of mind and remain no contact. Is a no-win situation. Whatever you choose to do, it will be flipped and WEAPONIZED. Side step the entire exchange and stay no contact. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself and your safety and health.
Lee...you have me laughing sooo hard when you say "blah,,,blah,,,blah,,,boo,,boo boo,,,bee bee bee...😂 Keep up the good work of informing us of the tragic personality traits. Thank YOU ❤
I ignored mine and then blocked him. I think he saw that it was coming but didn’t believed it would happen because I always came back. It has been almost 20 months. Blocked him on everything lol 😆 Every now and then I receive a text from an unknown number saying hello. I automatically block it lol 😆
Right, when he puts it like that, it sounds stupid but so many of us fall into it. Whether it's out of misplaced obligation, sympathy, or our own carnal weakness.
Something I did before blocking my brother and going no contact with him was ask him to write messages to me, not sending voice messages. He hated it! Manipulating in writing is much harder! and it obliges the narc to be clear and concise, which is pretty hard when intentions are bad.
I'm currently living next door to a pair of narcissistic ex-friends. They're a couple. I've effectively blocked them both on every app there is under the sun. But they still know my every movement and they're constantly saying and doing things to provoke me. It's horrible and i feel constantly watched over. This has been my situation for 2 years and, it's taking a toll on my health, mentally and physically. I'm considering moving houses because, even when there is no more interaction, i can feel the heavy and oppresive energy from them. Lee's words are true: blocking them and moving on is the best for you, for your freedom and your peace.
@@MentalHealness yes Lee, it is a living nightmare, i'm living like a recluse in my own home. I'm no coward, but thanks to your channel i learned that confrontation is not the best strategy, but to break free. So, I'm saving money for my escape to freedom. Thanks and God bless 🙏✨
And when you do escape, and you will if you are determined enough, be sure not to leave a trail so they can find you again. Just disappear to them...become invisible...and live your life the way you want to. Wishing you the best. @@ddtz6253
I blocked him because, I was addicted to him and I got fed up. And it's been five months and he was still texts and calling. Not because, I have somebody
That prayer is so relatable 😂😂😂😂. I did that prayer as soon as he left and God has been faithful for the past two years to keep me from falling into temptation.
I ended up blocking my now ex-husband once I filed for divorce. I realized that it was pointless to communicate with him. I used to take the bait and react to him, arguing and yelling with him. His mother talked me into co-signing a loan with him in 2020 so I was trying to communicate about him about that when we first separated. But I realized he would lie when he said he would pay. He used that as a way for me to reach out to him. It was pointless. I know he was just lying. So I blocked him. It helped me heal by not talking to him. I was also afraid that he would text/call to harass me once the court served him divorce papers. 😅
I am so grateful that social media wasn't a thing when I got away from mine. But because he knew the last city I lived in, I didn't have a home phone for years.
SO MANY WOMEN AND MEN NEED THIS GREAT INFORMATION. FYI I AM NOT YELLING TYPING IN CAPS, ITS DUE TO MY VISION, IMPAIRMENT. NO DISRESPECT SIR. GOD BLESS💜
Mine cut up when he thought he was blocked, then blocked me after attempting to pick a fight. Unhand me fool. Thank you for your generosity, sir,😂😂😂😂😂 It was the cutest thing seeing this grown ass man having a lil feminine fit.
I agree, I blocked a narcissistic sibling that discarded me for over a year and they showed up at my work and showed out to the point that I had to call the cops. It felt good for the first time to set boundaries and enforce them and I kept them blocked.
Once you know, block them, change your mobile/cell number, delete social media. Stop talking to mutual friends, family and get some Domestic Abuse/Violence support/counselling. If you have children together, create an account on a parent app for communication and document everything! Focus on YOU and leave them to get on with their disordered nonsense…most narcissists are NOT self aware so you can’t help them. Thanks Lee 🙏🏼
You are absolutely right! Its toxic and its hard to hold back those urges even though they are not good for us! I recently blocked my ex after 2 years on and off trying. I have never blocked him before and im not going back! Im embarrassed to even discuss how shitty he was to me, yet i still took him back many times. Im so over it! Starting my own healing and trying to help others also heal themselves! I appreciate your videos. Thanks
My narc texted me I replied saying they have the wrong number. I’m not blocking because I want to see how much I live in their head rent free. Blocking is good for when you can’t control yourself and still care. But when you don’t it’s entertaining to see them going crazy lol
They try to throw the guilt bomb after u go full no contact. I know my family did that to me when I departed. It's sad. Do I love my family? Normally I'd say yes. I WANT to love my family. I recieved no love from them as a child and my inner self wants that respect and love from my parents and siblings. However, I know they won't change. So i remain dead towards my feelings with them. It's so rare for a narcissist to try changing. If I allowed even a tiny sliver of a opening for them to talk to me or see me, it would most likely set me back into their control again, abuse and manipulation, snide remarks and judgements. I still have nightmares of them abusing me when my depression is hitting me. I'm definitely still healing day by day. I get scared because my dad is into guns and got my lil sis into them also. Both of them have anger issues and extreme narcissism. My mom is the kind of narcissist who threatens, manipulates, and makes others do her dirty work to try and make her hands seem clean
It's so hard when it's both your parents. And then if you're like me, it was your partners because people usually model their partners after their parents. I get triggered like once a week. It used to be every day. So, I am grateful for baby steps. But, I definitely would prefer to be happy lmao. Well, at least know you are not alone.
Wow I’m reading this and I’m in the same situation my mother and my sister are narc and sister bpd I was always the black sheep abused as a child I moved out 2020 and got in relationship with 1st narc I never knew what narcissists were but I educated myself for years upon moving home I realized my mothers ways much more and seen what it was why we always had disagreements I started to speak up for myself noticing her passive aggressive ugly remarks my sister she is a covert she hides my things rips important papers steals my stuff she always denies her wrongdoing and my mom backs her up and uses my mental illnesses on me when she caused them and I only wanted her to trust me moving home was the worst mistake made my health worse I ran back to my ex narc my mom scared me she hit herself with plates pretending to stab her self to dress me out she is scary as I grown older she used her sickness for us to feel bad as I do I feel she hates me I’m working on getting out she only uses me to get paid off my autism child while I work it’s crazy how as we get older we see our family real ways although I’ll never tell her I lost a lot of respect for my mom and my sister pulled a knife on me twice it’s no need to tell them they know it affected me my mom even bit me 😂 I’m working on quite leaving and getting all tied cut from them I may visit on holidays or for my son to come by but when I leave I have to separate myself I will build my own dream family and I hope you do to your not alone ❤
I deleted mine from social media a couple months ago, and I was blocked at lightening speed. In person, as we shared the same gym, I ignored him but he continued to disrespect no contact. I've now physically blocked him (I. E. with the support of my gym owners). I think this will be significant.
You have to block them in your mind... But that needs time. It is not enough to block them on the social platforms - it is just playing with them like kindergarden. You don´t need to block them if you are clear with how you handle them. Just don´t play Tom and Jerry or any games. You have to be clear it is over and you just communicate most important things with them (about you child-support or such cases). Personally I am very clear and I don´t let a snake bite me twice. With time you will realize more and more that you are sure better off without that person. Focus on yourself and your life (and let that circus behind!)...
Being blocked (from my experience with my ex narc... Talk about narc rage out the whazoo... Just relieved I was out of range. Who knows what would've happened in his presence) Everything he subjected me to took place in 1 year but felt like a decade. I think if he wasn't afraid of those in my life who care(d) about me & defend(ed) me (including the cops), he'd've "eliminated" me given half the chance. I know he contemplated "taking care of me" on at least 4 occasions. I believe prayers saved me each time.
MY NARC EX SENT ME HIM AND HIS NEW SUPPLY ENGAGEMENT PIC...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, I WAS LIKE THIS CLOWN ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO SEND ME THIS MESS. ME AND MY NOW HUSBAND WAS CRACKING UP!!! MY HUSBAND TOLD ME KEEP YOUR HEAT WITH YOU, THIS KNEE GROW CRAZY. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. MADE THAT CALL LIKE JOHN WICK AND THAT IS ALL I WILL SAY. YOU ALL BE CAREFUL, PROTECT YOURSELF BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. 💜
See! I’ve been telling the guy I didn’t want him. He sent me a pic of him with a new woman. I told him trying to press on me knowing he has a woman is crazy. It turned into him trying to guilt trip me for not wanting him, then it turned into him saying I have a mental illness for not wanting him. Girl!
Thank you for the advice. Even when you ignore the abuser he still tries. I've gotten off suicidal media. He doesn't have my number, but he does have my email and it's irritating. He doesn't know where I work, but he knows where I live and I hate it cause I have to watch my surroundings when I leave or of my front door. I just want to be left alone. It's scary and I pray for him to be safe but for God to keep him away from me. And I ask God that he doesn't hurt anyone else. 😢
And yet he hasn't killed himself yet, has he.... Try responding with, "Do what you want to do. You are no longer my responsibility." @@tiffinyharrington667
I ghosted her for over 24 years and she found me on FB 4 years ago, still not contact but she tried to hoover a year ago, I didn't answer the phone... 😂
33 years ago this year and after 5 years of a relationship that was good, yip! There was no signs absolutely none! I was treated good. He married another and I turned up at the wedding just as a spectator as he was Asian and I had never seen a Asian wedding.. I started recognising certain people and out pops him from the car as the groom. What a moment that was. The end. I did not wallow in the months proceeding, I fully accepted my responsibility of me in this relationship and put every ounce of energy into knowing my-cellf. I have lived a loving life and at peace with my inner life.Educated on the mind the thinking though, All personality disorders.All is well. 33 years pass and I received a FB request. The rest is history. 👍
I enjoy ignoring my ex! I’m not gone lie. I think it takes a strong person not to answer or respond especially when they know you know they called or texted. It’s definitely a risk but for me I feel like it’s a sign of strength. I feel empowered when I don’t answer or feel some type of way when he send a F’d up text just to get a response from me
Fantastic work mate! I just broke away from a covert narcissist. She love bombed me hard in the beginning. I thought she was the one. We went out for 1 month before she discarded me. I was numb and unable to function for days! I went back to her as FWB for a total of 6 months this went on with all the head games in between. Even trying to drive a wedge between me and my family. I called her out in the end after a second discard in a letter i sent her. I haven't heard from her for over 3 months now. But i noticed she has done something she swore she'd never do.....she has created a facebook page! 3 days after my birthday. She would tell me she doesn't have any social media as she leads a very private life. And now she has created this profile so i can see her and be tempted to reach out. Not gonna happen! These people are genuinely sick in the mind. The pain she caused me i cannot describe or compare with anything else. I really appreciate your content my man. It has helped me a lot in my recovery.
I had to block mine,sad thing is she was my HIGH SCHOOL love 45 years ago love bomb for about 2 weeks then nothing but hell for 24 months she still trys to control me,I have her blocked but she uses a private number to get messages thru,I never listen to much of them.dhe is a Christian covert narc. All a facade. So phony
I think that if you have a choice, and you don't 100% block, then that's codependent narcissism. I think people get off on playing a game, and they like knowing that the narcissist still thinks about them. You're presented with a choice to be better; to grow. Does make you feel good to receive the messages, or does it make you feel good to never hear from them again? If you feel good from getting the attention, then you need to look inward. (Of course there are exceptions like proof of abuse. I just mean on average) In regards to prayers to cool my buns (😂), I had to call my mom to convince me not to respond to the narcissist that was also *the* *best* s** I've ever had. She told me to put the phone down and ignore that message like it would give me herpes if I read it again. I blocked him and haven't had to face that "thinking of you" message since. I'm so grateful for the wisdom of my mother.
@@lilyluxuria2871 as it turns out, wisdom doesn't have to sound like it's coming from Confucius! ...Unless Confucius knows the guy you like is sleeping with twelve other women, and finds an eloquent way of telling you to cut all contact, or else. I just wonder, though, why can't any of the nice guys move their hips like that?! 😩
I've seen shadows of this trait when it comes to comments on videos about creepy texts women receive on dating sites. Some comments will say how they enjoy stringing the creep along for a while and telling him no. They clearly enjoy the attention and the power of no. But a person who just wants to be free of the situation is not going to play that game. They want it to stop altogether and immediately.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin So true. It's like narcissists in denial, or stealth narcissists. I guess, inheritently, a narcissist would never recognize, or admit, that they're the problem...Either way it's codependent, gaslighting, and toxic. I feel that way when people people post "I'm *so* over all of this drama!" ....Why TF are you posting then? Just be over it, and don't beg for comments and attention! 🤦♀️
😂😂😂😂omg I did that! Last time he heard from me was Sunday!😂😂 he was calling and texting and on valentine day he was LIVID & told me to have a great life! Still haven’t responded 😂😂😂😂 booyyy byyeee
I had to put a physical post-it note on my phone where I wrote in all caps DO NOT TEXT HIM! when I was in no contact in case I got weak. It worked!! And got so much easier with each day of not connecting with his energy. Love your Channel, Lee....I've been narcissistic free since 2018. Yet a long time friend we mutually took it to the next level a month ago...all was great until my dad died unexpectedly last week. 😪😪😪 Ghosted me...then your vids began to pop up...I've liked and subbed....top notch advice
Yes Lee. Made the mistake. My worth was nothing in his eyes. Too insecure,confused and codependent. I wasnt before I met him. Balsy as all get out. Idk what happened to me. I do and yet I dont. Better now. Free and at peace..kudos on getting the word out. This abuse is horrible. No contact is the key.
I blocked mine. He dropped me a 4 minute long voicemail of him at a bar taking shots with girls. I unblocked to ask if he needed something he said it was a pocket dial.
😂 I ignored him ONCE and he *immediately* thought I blocked him, showed up at my house, texted craziness to my roommates being mad too faced, trying to be sweet with them while texting me nasty stuff. It was crazy and scary at the time but I'm glad it happened and I was able to see his true colors.
I think its "BOTH" i knew u were going to say both. I was with a Woman Narcissistic for 6yrs. I was sleeping with the Enemy next to me we had kids etc. Now i have BLOCKED & IGNORE her no communication at ALL💯 GOD Bless everyone that has got OUT & AWAY🙏🏽🥰✌🏽💚💕
I was raised by one and married one. I was in a relationship with one and he lost his temper. Called the police and the bail conditions put on him were very strict. Accessed his phone while he was in jail and wiped it clean. Then phoned and canceled his phone so I wouldn't have his number either. Five months of peace now.
Before he left he asked me to shred all evidence of him i had. For the sake of argument, i said shred? He said yes. I didn't respond. I have all the txt, audio and its all been written down in the form of a book.
As ALWAYS...GREAT INFORMATION ❤ My narc has been ignored and has been trying so hard to figure out if I’m "still in the area" 😂 New job/schedule, different vehicle, no known social media accounts... I think I got off pretty decent 😂
Yup I blocked my ex on everything but WhatsApp where he talks to his daughter once a week. He still sometimes will send a long string of angry/sad/pity messages and I’ll block him til he stops going nutty and reaches out with another number. That seems to work 😂
I wish I could block him, we have young kids together. I have gotten so much better at ignoring him. He tries to randomly bait me into Arguments and I don’t fall for it anymore. He bought a house right around the corner from me and keeps tabs. I have remarried and he is losing his mind. I can always tell when he is single because he randomly text to try and start a fight. If I could never talk to him again that would be awesome.
As a non cluster B sufferer I can’t imagine how annoying it is for them to be ignored , I hate being ignored via text, for me it’s not very different then if someone were to walk away from me In the middle of a conversation or choose to stare and leave when I know they saw me talking to them . There are some people who are always on their phones and you know they just don’t care to respond, what’s more disrespectful than ignoring someone’s existence? This is actually what a borderline girl did to me all the time. She felt free to pretend I didn’t exist
I was blocked by my narc ex because any time he reached out, I wanted to discuss what happened, and he would tell me to get over it and let it go . He told me "you have my word" that he wasn't moving on, just moving forward .... and I would say that exact thing, I hope she makes you happy, I knew there was someone else , and he told me I was crazy,, when in reality he WAS CHEATING . I wasn't crazy . It was like reverse psychology, making me think that I even wanted him anymore. I was fighting for something I didn't want..
Lee, you don't know the positive impact you have and how many lives and dreams you've saved. I can't imagine or seem to understand what keeps you going. Some days are hard as hell. I was involved with a narc and it's worse than any addiction.... I appreciate you. God bless. Everytime I find myself questioning my decision I play your videos and they change I'm seeing in my life is amazing 👏🏽 South Africa 🇿🇦
Well, after I escaped the narc exes house, I had to come back to my narc mom’s house, to start all over…. Again. But there’s a lesson here. You said “how can you heal in the same environment that got you sick?” Well, this was the original environment that got me sick. I don’t believe most ppl will ever be FULLY FULLY FULLY healed of anything. But that’s just me, idk. But, I look at it this way, she did condition me to fall into traps like this later in life, but it was dealing with him that really woke me up. He’s a whole male person. So him being physically stronger than me, was really the main issue. She’s my elderly mother. I got her number by now also. She’s pulled mad shyt out of her hat since Ive been here too. And what I needed FINALLY was to FULLY get down that she does not care about me. So my heart can stop hoping she does sometimes. She doesn’t. I needed that for real. So how do I heal in this environment now??? Well my stay here is only temporary anyway, but my biggest hurdle of course, is believing in myself and my abilities. I don’t need her to do that. That’s all me. That’s an inside job. That bytch is the soil, the RESISTANCE I need to grow! Okay! Phuck that bytch! I been USING everything happening as the mirror I need to use to unlearn and change old mindsets, unlearn patterns that are sabotaging me. Using it to step up and open my mouth and say what MY boundaries are PERIOD!!! Exercise! But after this….. that’s it. I gotta get myself in the position to stay gone, and go into MY future!!! And stay THERE!
TODAY is the second day that i blocked the narc being sitting around for the last 4half months waiting when he want to be in contact me!!!!!! Not any More i have to go on. He discarded me being Unfaithful with his exwife. But has the cheek to say i have changed.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
I needed to hear this today. Valentine's Day week. Lots of tears, but still NC for over a month after years of gaslighting, 'It was an accident' ... affairs I learned of for half a dozen times that I know of? Divorce is in store.
The most important thing is to NEVER unblock once you block. Don’t play with it, don’t play with him, and don’t play with yourself.
Great advice
Which is so hard as an empathetic person because I always want to forgive everyone ughhhh
@@LucidLuciASMR Forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things.
@@samanthaspeaks9667speak out sis
King Solomon said it best, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
Proverbs 4:23
Once they show u no respect let go..block..unsubscribe..dont give them your energy or time.Theres no love there.
I don't want revenge, I don't want them to feel bad and I don't want to teach them a lesson. I just want to move on with my life, become immune to narcissistic behaviour and fix the damage they caused in my brain. I don't want to behave like them.
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The best revenge is when it happens you don’t even care ❤
SAAAMMEEEE!!! My therapist, my parents, friend is all wanting me to "STAND" but I'm just tired and want to just move on!!
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Blocked 🚫 ignored, deleted!! He contacted me on some nonsense and I shut everything down no access AT ALL from him or his flying monkeys... Yay me 🎉🤗🙌
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Girl not flying monkeys lol 😂 😆 🤣 😅
Imagine blocking them on 10 apps but they message you on reddit ☠
WELL DAYUM 💀💀💀
😂😂 Omg lol.
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That is hilarious 😂😂😂😂
You can still block them on reddit and who uses ten apps? 😂
Blocknored 🎉
He’s blocked so I can easily ignore him …. It shows my commitment to having no further involvement
I blocked him. Did not answer the door when he was banging on it. Then he started in with my friends. He would try to get info on me through my friends. He even wrote me letters wanting to know what he did to hurt me so much. They went unanswered. I kept a log of everything in case I had to take legal action. Glad he’s gone .
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. MAKE SURE that close trusted friends KNOW everything that he is doing in case something goes REALLY wrong (I pray that it doesn’t but escalating behavior can turn into violence). Make sure others know about his behavior.
I keep a log as well. I had to sue him at one point to get my property back and reported him to Facebook because he was harassing me through messenger. FB got in contact with him and when he got the paperwork for the lawsuit he stopped then. He doesn’t like the law and I think that scared him off. It’s been a quiet 7 years. But I still keep a log of everything just in case and to remind me of what not to go through again.
Not opening the letter and putting it on a envelope and send it back
@@isabellavalencia8026 sending it back will make him think lines of communication are opening and playing a game. I flat out ignored him. Because of if I tried to talk to him, he’d just manipulate me to come back to him.
Wow!
My ex was irritated by being ignored. When I blocked him his world shifted and I felt it.
Wow. Same words. 😮
One and only way
Bars.
I got my doors kicked in when i ignored him
How do they know if they were blocked? Do they get a message?
I think my ex blocked my number from calling my child
But my call would go straight to voicemail, I got no msg. And my text would appear to go through as normal from my end.
So I didn't know I was blocked
I'm not on any social media like Facebook
They truly hate them both, but you are right "blocked" seems to impact them more, However, they can keep you blocked until they want to unblock you to toy with you.
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Why would you want them back is my question? I'm ignoring the covert narcissist and I don't care anymore. It's like how many times do they have to hurt you before it's enough? I'm done I'm not going back.
Because we are still addicted to them like a drug and havent detoxed yet from the toxic cycle and biochemical bond...
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@@basicinfo2022 I have 100% done and I've healed from the covert narcissist bs.
If they aren’t contacting you, they won’t even know if you blocked them…so you just gotta move on and forget how they “feel.”
Being blocked is more intentional; ignoring gives a little more wriggle room
Celibacy, meditation, and spiritual prayers work wonders when healing and learning yourself. Power of ignoring the bs...the access is there but you make a conscious choice to ignore each and every time they try reach out. Absolutely block if they continue incessantly contact you.
I have tried so hard to ignore the bs, but I find it entertaining now 😅 I think I may be toxic. I was told I have been poisoned and need to detox. You're correct, prayer does work. I'm hoping this fast will be a tremendous help.
Amen fasting and prayer, Jesus is a healer and deliverer of evil
@@GracedToWini felt the same for years. But I was still in survival mode, and assumed there was something wrong with me. A lack of self esteem/respect/love was a good enough explanation. I wanted to believe he didn’t impact me any more and would minimize any concern. I was in deep denial that I feared him. In reality, I loved and protected myself from memories of violent reactions for 15+ years. The grooming started at 14 - I had this breakthrough at 31, when my brain was safe enough to process it
Perfect recipe !
Being ignored and blocked hurts a narcissistic person. My narcissist blocked me due to me standing my ground and telling him that you have no respect for me and that this is not a dictatorship. I want peace of mind with a fullfillness of happiness in a relationship with no trauma, so you are free to do whatever you need to do. I have better things to do with my time and life.
Oh he will unblock you. Most def. Better block him back. They have short memory
From the narcs perspective (no I'm not a narc I'm just very experienced in dealing with this personality) being blocked is better because it allows them to create all kinds of drama (stalking, door banging, window banging, etc.). Narcs thrive on drama so blocking gives them supply. Ignoring neutralizes them more and is far worse to their psych. So, if you really want to win this war, full fledged ignoring is the name of the game. The opposite of love is not hate, it's disinterest.
This has been my experience as well.
Full-fledged ignoring is the key 🔑 🔑 😅😅
Interesting perspective! I tried ignoring but mine uses the knowledge that he is being ignored to keep triggering and for me blocking actually made me stop cyberstalking he social media because of trauma bond. So I needed to block for my own mental health. But good perspective
@@rtco769 even with a career and education in psychology we all get fooled and manipulated by narcs. It’s how we choose to handle each one as they are all different. For me, doing a smear campaign doesn’t bother be because everyone who does love and knows me would look at the narcissist and ask them why they feel so comfortable talking about poorly without me present to defend or why does they feel they can confide in them about me at all? (It’s happened before and I didn’t lose friends or family). He gave away my financial info/spending habits, sexual info, and while for other it can cause turmoil my friends who mostly work in my hospital will not entertain that as they feel it’s not their business nor the narcs to share. Plus people forget and move on with their lives and eventually narcs will too. :) Still love ur perspective though
The message was always, "I hope he enjoys you." 😂
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Always!!! 🙄🙄
“ Enjoy your life with your boyfriend. You think I don’t know, I know everything”😂😂
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The whole time its them with the new supply smh lol
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Right now my husband is losing his mind. We still are in the same house together and I've gone no contact and blocked. I even walk past him like we're not married. I have nothing else left for him. He continues to say things to me and I ignore him. I was just gonna file for separation but I changed my mind to just divorce. I SEE HE'S NOT GONNA CHANGE AND HE BELIEVES HIS OWN LIES!
Divorce him!
Please sleep with one eye open, these things can turn deadly once they know you’re leaving. And… if there’s children involve, be careful with them too, they won’t hesitate to use the children as a means to get to you.
Careful sweetie, I waited, and then he tried to shove me out of a moving car.
They're like quicksilver. Things can escalate to violence faster than you can imagine. Getting away MUST be a priority for you!
Yeah be smart , don't make it too obvious they crazy
Don't eat or drink anything from him. Be careful. Pray about everything. Be alert. Say no. Be in your spirit to evaluate him. That's where you get your answers.
Keep in mind, if you block on Facebook, and you have a weakness in a moment and unblock them, you can't reblock for 48 hours. My ex played this game - he'd block me then unblock me all in the same day (yes I was weak and kept checking), but remained no contact (no communication). Him blocking me and unblocking me became a laughing matter on my behalf (him doing it). I finally got to the point where he's blocked now, 100% on my end, and my heart doesn't hurt anymore. Every few days or so I'll think of him and be like "oh ya... I forgot he exists". This makes me happy :)
I agree the blocking on social media and all apps made healing speedier....much more self focus after the block.
You deserve to be happy! Now he is the one who keeps checking to see if you unblocked him.
YOU GO GIRL !! 🎉🎉😊👏👏 pre swrving your energy..
@@Mushroom321- Thank you! I still miss him but I would miss me more as the song goes 🙂
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Great advice, healing begins when we are able to completely separate from the abusers.
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This one guy who was toxic and he attacked me and he I saw his true colors. A month later I emailed him and told him how I feel the next month I block him in every way I can and post a message and explose him.
Being blocked made mine more violent more so than just being ignored. He still won’t leave me alone even after ignoring and blocking. And actually blocking him makes him escalate
Yup! Waited in a dark parking lot to tell me to unlock him. Hand in my car while I’m driving away. I had to drive slowly and keep repeating the word NO
@@JoyTBarnum oh my goodness. That is so scary. I’m glad you got away from him unharmed! He has threatened to rape me and then kill me but so far he hasn’t been able to find me. I’m hoping he never does but I won’t hold my breath and I’m not letting my guard down.
@@Xen-AM no way! Thats horrible!! I’m so sorry this is your reality. May they NEVER find you nor gain access to you.
Me too I'm just waiting to get another restraining order, I'm constantly looking over my shoulder
@@JoyTBarnum thank you so much. I hope so too. Same for you
Im keeping myself busy so i don't think about my ex. I have new puppy, gym, work, im part of hiking grup and so on..always busy no time for drama 😂
Blocking a narcissist is the best thing to do, I have so much peace of mind since I blocked the narcissist, I pray and ask God to keep me strong 💪 it’s a journey but I know I can do this and stay free with God. Everything u talked about on this video is 💯 Lee, and I want to thank u and tell u I appreciate all u do.. ❤❤❤❤
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Yes, listening to Lee has helped me a Lot!
Our daughters called him by his 1st name and told him they dont want to call him dad anymore as he didnt deserve it. They wrote him a final letter expressing their feelings and told me they want nothing else to do with him
My daughters made the decision to no longer communicate with their father. They are teens and know how they feel. At one point I would say they should communicate with him because he's their father. But when their father continues to disregard, deflect, and project onto them, and say the most hurtful things. I had to support them in their decision. I don't know if they have any idea of the negative impact they have on their children or if they even care. Ultimately I feel they use children as an access point to the mother to attempt to manipulate and spew their hatefulness.
@@dcanes5720My condolences that must have been a tough decision (at least for me it would defintiley be) do not walk to their death-bed. Really I don´t know what I would do... (I am thinking about that one)...
My adult kids are now considering doing the same. It's the guilt that they can't get over.
It is really hard but try to remain neutral with regards to the children. I find that, given time, the children you have together will figure everything out on their own.
@@dcanes5720completely understand you choice. Just had to make the same choice with an in-law. Have gone no contact with both my ex and his parent (they are both narcs). The parent was dying and Finally passed late last year. I had to ask myself if they were capable of delivering a final narc shot (some effed up comment) and then dying OFF the scene, leaving me with that trauma?
The answer was “YES” they are capable of that. I also had to ask myself did I really want to tangle with BOTH of them at the same time? Nope, didn’t like doing it when we were married and I am damn sure not wanting to do it NOW. I decided to stick to my no contact rule and not respond about the death at all. I thought I would have more guilt but when it happened and they passed, I felt a tinge of sadness (for the sad life they led) but felt NO GUILT whatsoever.
That was when I knew I had made the right decision.
Never let guilt be the deciding factor when dealing with narcs. Remember: they weaponized EVERYTHING concerning you. You will not “win” by showing up. They will find a way to make your showing up a problem. You might as well maintain your peace of mind and remain no contact. Is a no-win situation. Whatever you choose to do, it will be flipped and WEAPONIZED.
Side step the entire exchange and stay no contact. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself and your safety and health.
Lee...you have me laughing sooo hard when you say "blah,,,blah,,,blah,,,boo,,boo boo,,,bee bee bee...😂
Keep up the good work of informing us of the tragic personality traits.
Thank YOU ❤
He's quite cute too 😊
You’re welcome ☺️
Great topic. Block and move on, ignore them too.
And stay safe
Sometimes they create fake profiles and comment on their own posts to try to hurt you or make you jealous. Freaking crazy as hell.
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I ignored mine and then blocked him. I think he saw that it was coming but didn’t believed it would happen because I always came back. It has been almost 20 months. Blocked him on everything lol 😆 Every now and then I receive a text from an unknown number saying hello. I automatically block it lol 😆
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"I know you abused me here is some ass." That gave me a good laugh! Thank you for all your content bud!
you’re welcome 🙌🏾
Right, when he puts it like that, it sounds stupid but so many of us fall into it. Whether it's out of misplaced obligation, sympathy, or our own carnal weakness.
Isn't a restraining order worse? 😂
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You are THE FUNNIEST narcissist ever. You make it clear what I feel and you make me laugh. I spit my coffee. My Buns are in the freezer.
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Down at the bottom on the left hand side 😂❤
Something I did before blocking my brother and going no contact with him was ask him to write messages to me, not sending voice messages. He hated it! Manipulating in writing is much harder! and it obliges the narc to be clear and concise, which is pretty hard when intentions are bad.
Sometimes you need to change your phone number, they’ll ring you from a public phone box and leave a voicemail. They’re relentless. 😢 thanks Lee ❤
They are relentless,mine has been gone 5 months & she still wants to try to control me.un- real.
I ignored mine for over a year and when he hoovered me for 3 months, I blocked him. I also blocked everyone he knows that I know of.
I'm currently living next door to a pair of narcissistic ex-friends. They're a couple. I've effectively blocked them both on every app there is under the sun. But they still know my every movement and they're constantly saying and doing things to provoke me. It's horrible and i feel constantly watched over. This has been my situation for 2 years and, it's taking a toll on my health, mentally and physically. I'm considering moving houses because, even when there is no more interaction, i can feel the heavy and oppresive energy from them. Lee's words are true: blocking them and moving on is the best for you, for your freedom and your peace.
Oh my goodness. Living that close to
@@MentalHealness yes Lee, it is a living nightmare, i'm living like a recluse in my own home. I'm no coward, but thanks to your channel i learned that confrontation is not the best strategy, but to break free. So, I'm saving money for my escape to freedom. Thanks and God bless 🙏✨
And when you do escape, and you will if you are determined enough, be sure not to leave a trail so they can find you again. Just disappear to them...become invisible...and live your life the way you want to. Wishing you the best. @@ddtz6253
"Lord, please cool down my privates." 😂 I love Lee and I definitely love the Lord 🙂
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Free yourself permanently. BLOCK AND IGNORE…..Period.
and stay safe
To me being blocked and ignored are the same.
I blocked and ignored my ex narc and this bird sent me a fictitious dental bill😂
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I’ve been meaning to send my therapy and medical bills
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They are weird af.
I blocked for me! My recovery, my peace of mind. Cause I love me!
I blocked him because, I was addicted to him and I got fed up. And it's been five months and he was still texts and calling. Not because, I have somebody
That prayer is so relatable 😂😂😂😂. I did that prayer as soon as he left and God has been faithful for the past two years to keep me from falling into temptation.
Being blocked is more final 💯
“ dear God please cool down these buns”😂
I’m cryin😂 Thanks for another healing video with humor
I ended up blocking my now ex-husband once I filed for divorce. I realized that it was pointless to communicate with him. I used to take the bait and react to him, arguing and yelling with him. His mother talked me into co-signing a loan with him in 2020 so I was trying to communicate about him about that when we first separated. But I realized he would lie when he said he would pay. He used that as a way for me to reach out to him. It was pointless. I know he was just lying. So I blocked him. It helped me heal by not talking to him. I was also afraid that he would text/call to harass me once the court served him divorce papers. 😅
I am so grateful that social media wasn't a thing when I got away from mine. But because he knew the last city I lived in, I didn't have a home phone for years.
This video deserve a million likes... I hope everyone that is trying to heal comes across this video.
SO MANY WOMEN AND MEN NEED THIS GREAT INFORMATION. FYI I AM NOT YELLING TYPING IN CAPS, ITS DUE TO MY VISION, IMPAIRMENT. NO DISRESPECT SIR. GOD BLESS💜
If you go to the settings on your phone or computer, you can change the font size so you can see it better 😉.
Mine cut up when he thought he was blocked, then blocked me after attempting to pick a fight. Unhand me fool. Thank you for your generosity, sir,😂😂😂😂😂 It was the cutest thing seeing this grown ass man having a lil feminine fit.
Nothing would dry my nether region up quicker than seeing that.
I agree, I blocked a narcissistic sibling that discarded me for over a year and they showed up at my work and showed out to the point that I had to call the cops. It felt good for the first time to set boundaries and enforce them and I kept them blocked.
Once you know, block them, change your mobile/cell number, delete social media. Stop talking to mutual friends, family and get some Domestic Abuse/Violence support/counselling. If you have children together, create an account on a parent app for communication and document everything! Focus on YOU and leave them to get on with their disordered nonsense…most narcissists are NOT self aware so you can’t help them. Thanks Lee 🙏🏼
You are absolutely right! Its toxic and its hard to hold back those urges even though they are not good for us! I recently blocked my ex after 2 years on and off trying. I have never blocked him before and im not going back! Im embarrassed to even discuss how shitty he was to me, yet i still took him back many times. Im so over it! Starting my own healing and trying to help others also heal themselves! I appreciate your videos. Thanks
I had to get a restraining order for my narcissistic ex to leave me alone
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My narc texted me I replied saying they have the wrong number. I’m not blocking because I want to see how much I live in their head rent free. Blocking is good for when you can’t control yourself and still care. But when you don’t it’s entertaining to see them going crazy lol
Mine just messaged me this morning and said “I think I left my hat there”..
I’m sitting on that text.. it’s not here
But I’m with ya.. I’ve been back and forth whether to block or not.. but I’d rather know if he’s just gonna pop up so I can be prepared ..
They try to throw the guilt bomb after u go full no contact.
I know my family did that to me when I departed.
It's sad. Do I love my family? Normally I'd say yes. I WANT to love my family. I recieved no love from them as a child and my inner self wants that respect and love from my parents and siblings. However, I know they won't change. So i remain dead towards my feelings with them. It's so rare for a narcissist to try changing. If I allowed even a tiny sliver of a opening for them to talk to me or see me, it would most likely set me back into their control again, abuse and manipulation, snide remarks and judgements. I still have nightmares of them abusing me when my depression is hitting me. I'm definitely still healing day by day.
I get scared because my dad is into guns and got my lil sis into them also. Both of them have anger issues and extreme narcissism.
My mom is the kind of narcissist who threatens, manipulates, and makes others do her dirty work to try and make her hands seem clean
It's so hard when it's both your parents. And then if you're like me, it was your partners because people usually model their partners after their parents.
I get triggered like once a week. It used to be every day. So, I am grateful for baby steps. But, I definitely would prefer to be happy lmao.
Well, at least know you are not alone.
Wow I’m reading this and I’m in the same situation my mother and my sister are narc and sister bpd I was always the black sheep abused as a child I moved out 2020 and got in relationship with 1st narc I never knew what narcissists were but I educated myself for years upon moving home I realized my mothers ways much more and seen what it was why we always had disagreements I started to speak up for myself noticing her passive aggressive ugly remarks my sister she is a covert she hides my things rips important papers steals my stuff she always denies her wrongdoing and my mom backs her up and uses my mental illnesses on me when she caused them and I only wanted her to trust me moving home was the worst mistake made my health worse I ran back to my ex narc my mom scared me she hit herself with plates pretending to stab her self to dress me out she is scary as I grown older she used her sickness for us to feel bad as I do I feel she hates me I’m working on getting out she only uses me to get paid off my autism child while I work it’s crazy how as we get older we see our family real ways although I’ll never tell her I lost a lot of respect for my mom and my sister pulled a knife on me twice it’s no need to tell them they know it affected me my mom even bit me 😂 I’m working on quite leaving and getting all tied cut from them I may visit on holidays or for my son to come by but when I leave I have to separate myself I will build my own dream family and I hope you do to your not alone ❤
Just ignore them, remain invisible and don't draw attention to yourself in any way and they will find someone else to gang up on.
I deleted mine from social media a couple months ago, and I was blocked at lightening speed. In person, as we shared the same gym, I ignored him but he continued to disrespect no contact. I've now physically blocked him (I. E. with the support of my gym owners). I think this will be significant.
They hate it more when you have a partner 😅
You have to block them in your mind... But that needs time. It is not enough to block them on the social platforms - it is just playing with them like kindergarden. You don´t need to block them if you are clear with how you handle them. Just don´t play Tom and Jerry or any games. You have to be clear it is over and you just communicate most important things with them (about you child-support or such cases). Personally I am very clear and I don´t let a snake bite me twice. With time you will realize more and more that you are sure better off without that person. Focus on yourself and your life (and let that circus behind!)...
Being blocked (from my experience with my ex narc... Talk about narc rage out the whazoo... Just relieved I was out of range. Who knows what would've happened in his presence)
Everything he subjected me to took place in 1 year but felt like a decade. I think if he wasn't afraid of those in my life who care(d) about me & defend(ed) me (including the cops), he'd've "eliminated" me given half the chance. I know he contemplated "taking care of me" on at least 4 occasions. I believe prayers saved me each time.
It would be great if you also talk about narcissist family members!
Of all the prayers I’ve heard, “Lord, cool down these buns” is my absolute favorite.
MY NARC EX SENT ME HIM AND HIS NEW SUPPLY ENGAGEMENT PIC...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, I WAS LIKE THIS CLOWN ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO SEND ME THIS MESS. ME AND MY NOW HUSBAND WAS CRACKING UP!!! MY HUSBAND TOLD ME KEEP YOUR HEAT WITH YOU, THIS KNEE GROW CRAZY. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. MADE THAT CALL LIKE JOHN WICK AND THAT IS ALL I WILL SAY. YOU ALL BE CAREFUL, PROTECT YOURSELF BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. 💜
Woooow
See! I’ve been telling the guy I didn’t want him. He sent me a pic of him with a new woman. I told him trying to press on me knowing he has a woman is crazy. It turned into him trying to guilt trip me for not wanting him, then it turned into him saying I have a mental illness for not wanting him. Girl!
CLOWN NARCISSIST WILL BE JUST LIKE THAT. ONLY GOD CAN SAVE THEM. 🙌🏿✨🙌🏿✨🙌🏿✨🙌🏿✨
Thank you for the advice. Even when you ignore the abuser he still tries. I've gotten off suicidal media. He doesn't have my number, but he does have my email and it's irritating. He doesn't know where I work, but he knows where I live and I hate it cause I have to watch my surroundings when I leave or of my front door. I just want to be left alone. It's scary and I pray for him to be safe but for God to keep him away from me. And I ask God that he doesn't hurt anyone else. 😢
Social media he always say he's going to kill himself if I don't respond and I still ignore him.
@@tiffinyharrington667he has threatened suicide on email and phone I ignored him completely the times he did Caz I knew it
Was a manipulation tactic.
And yet he hasn't killed himself yet, has he.... Try responding with, "Do what you want to do. You are no longer my responsibility." @@tiffinyharrington667
I ghosted her for over 24 years and she found me on FB 4 years ago, still not contact but she tried to hoover a year ago, I didn't answer the phone... 😂
Oh wow
33 years ago this year and after 5 years of a relationship that was good, yip! There was no signs absolutely none! I was treated good. He married another and I turned up at the wedding just as a spectator as he was Asian and I had never seen a Asian wedding.. I started recognising certain people and out pops him from the car as the groom. What a moment that was. The end. I did not wallow in the months proceeding, I fully accepted my responsibility of me in this relationship and put every ounce of energy into knowing my-cellf. I have lived a loving life and at peace with my inner life.Educated on the mind the thinking though, All personality disorders.All is well. 33 years pass and I received a FB request. The rest is history. 👍
I enjoy ignoring my ex! I’m not gone lie. I think it takes a strong person not to answer or respond especially when they know you know they called or texted. It’s definitely a risk but for me I feel like it’s a sign of strength. I feel empowered when I don’t answer or feel some type of way when he send a F’d up text just to get a response from me
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Fantastic work mate! I just broke away from a covert narcissist. She love bombed me hard in the beginning. I thought she was the one. We went out for 1 month before she discarded me. I was numb and unable to function for days! I went back to her as FWB for a total of 6 months this went on with all the head games in between. Even trying to drive a wedge between me and my family. I called her out in the end after a second discard in a letter i sent her. I haven't heard from her for over 3 months now. But i noticed she has done something she swore she'd never do.....she has created a facebook page! 3 days after my birthday. She would tell me she doesn't have any social media as she leads a very private life. And now she has created this profile so i can see her and be tempted to reach out. Not gonna happen! These people are genuinely sick in the mind. The pain she caused me i cannot describe or compare with anything else.
I really appreciate your content my man. It has helped me a lot in my recovery.
I had to block mine,sad thing is she was my HIGH SCHOOL love 45 years ago love bomb for about 2 weeks then nothing but hell for 24 months she still trys to control me,I have her blocked but she uses a private number to get messages thru,I never listen to much of them.dhe is a Christian covert narc. All a facade. So phony
14 months,24 months I would of died
I think that if you have a choice, and you don't 100% block, then that's codependent narcissism. I think people get off on playing a game, and they like knowing that the narcissist still thinks about them. You're presented with a choice to be better; to grow. Does make you feel good to receive the messages, or does it make you feel good to never hear from them again? If you feel good from getting the attention, then you need to look inward. (Of course there are exceptions like proof of abuse. I just mean on average)
In regards to prayers to cool my buns (😂), I had to call my mom to convince me not to respond to the narcissist that was also *the* *best* s** I've ever had. She told me to put the phone down and ignore that message like it would give me herpes if I read it again. I blocked him and haven't had to face that "thinking of you" message since. I'm so grateful for the wisdom of my mother.
Good on you! Good on your Mom! Like the message has herpes...😂
@@lilyluxuria2871 as it turns out, wisdom doesn't have to sound like it's coming from Confucius! ...Unless Confucius knows the guy you like is sleeping with twelve other women, and finds an eloquent way of telling you to cut all contact, or else.
I just wonder, though, why can't any of the nice guys move their hips like that?! 😩
I've seen shadows of this trait when it comes to comments on videos about creepy texts women receive on dating sites. Some comments will say how they enjoy stringing the creep along for a while and telling him no. They clearly enjoy the attention and the power of no. But a person who just wants to be free of the situation is not going to play that game. They want it to stop altogether and immediately.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin So true. It's like narcissists in denial, or stealth narcissists. I guess, inheritently, a narcissist would never recognize, or admit, that they're the problem...Either way it's codependent, gaslighting, and toxic. I feel that way when people people post "I'm *so* over all of this drama!" ....Why TF are you posting then? Just be over it, and don't beg for comments and attention! 🤦♀️
@@libbybeliveau7506 I totally get this. Because they're too busy learning how to be nice 😩😂 lol jk jk.
I honestly have no idea 🥺😢,
I'm waiting for VALENTINES EVE DAY to block him. 🚫 We are in different STATE'S. He's on every social media vibing. 😅😅
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😂😂😂😂omg I did that! Last time he heard from me was Sunday!😂😂 he was calling and texting and on valentine day he was LIVID & told me to have a great life! Still haven’t responded 😂😂😂😂 booyyy byyeee
No time 4 block ! Change your cell 📲 number ☺️ have blessed day everyone
That’s what i did .
I had to put a physical post-it note on my phone where I wrote in all caps DO NOT TEXT HIM! when I was in no contact in case I got weak. It worked!! And got so much easier with each day of not connecting with his energy. Love your Channel, Lee....I've been narcissistic free since 2018. Yet a long time friend we mutually took it to the next level a month ago...all was great until my dad died unexpectedly last week. 😪😪😪 Ghosted me...then your vids began to pop up...I've liked and subbed....top notch advice
IGNORING them is more painful than blocking.
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Yes Lee. Made the mistake. My worth was nothing in his eyes. Too insecure,confused and codependent. I wasnt before I met him. Balsy as all get out. Idk what happened to me. I do and yet I dont. Better now. Free and at peace..kudos on getting the word out. This abuse is horrible. No contact is the key.
😂😂😂 "Please cool down these buns."
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I blocked mine. He dropped me a 4 minute long voicemail of him at a bar taking shots with girls. I unblocked to ask if he needed something he said it was a pocket dial.
What about ignoring face to face? Passing by on the street and acting like he does not exist even if he says hello?
Ignore them. No eye contact. Keep moving. FAST!
😂 I ignored him ONCE and he *immediately* thought I blocked him, showed up at my house, texted craziness to my roommates being mad too faced, trying to be sweet with them while texting me nasty stuff. It was crazy and scary at the time but I'm glad it happened and I was able to see his true colors.
That's obsessive behavior. Sounds scary to me.
I think its "BOTH" i knew u were going to say both. I was with a Woman Narcissistic for 6yrs. I was sleeping with the Enemy next to me we had kids etc. Now i have BLOCKED & IGNORE her no communication at ALL💯 GOD Bless everyone that has got OUT & AWAY🙏🏽🥰✌🏽💚💕
A narcissist starting a support group.
Like Mc Donald's offering a healthy heating course
I'm glad you answer such questions. Some ppl say " who cares" but we.need to know this info to defend ourselves
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I was raised by one and married one. I was in a relationship with one and he lost his temper. Called the police and the bail conditions put on him were very strict. Accessed his phone while he was in jail and wiped it clean. Then phoned and canceled his phone so I wouldn't have his number either. Five months of peace now.
Before he left he asked me to shred all evidence of him i had. For the sake of argument, i said shred? He said yes. I didn't respond. I have all the txt, audio and its all been written down in the form of a book.
As ALWAYS...GREAT INFORMATION ❤ My narc has been ignored and has been trying so hard to figure out if I’m "still in the area" 😂 New job/schedule, different vehicle, no known social media accounts... I think I got off pretty decent 😂
You got this!
You're right, sir. I ignored her and she sent some very bad IG texts. Blocking was the only solution, but it hurt me to do so. It was necessary.
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Yup I blocked my ex on everything but WhatsApp where he talks to his daughter once a week. He still sometimes will send a long string of angry/sad/pity messages and I’ll block him til he stops going nutty and reaches out with another number. That seems to work 😂
Why do I block and unblock the narcissist??
I block him and then I have the urge to unblock him bc I miss him!
I need to break this cycle
YOU😂 CRACK ME UP WITH THE CHEEKS TO CLAP LINE AGAHHAHAHAHAHAH🤣😂🤣😂🤣
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I wish I could block him, we have young kids together. I have gotten so much better at ignoring him. He tries to randomly bait me into Arguments and I don’t fall for it anymore. He bought a house right around the corner from me and keeps tabs. I have remarried and he is losing his mind. I can always tell when he is single because he randomly text to try and start a fight. If I could never talk to him again that would be awesome.
Firm parenting plan, specific drop off location, only communicate in parenting app or text only, limit to 1x a week- don’t speak at drop off
Both but they hate exposure more than anything ✨️🙏🏻✨️
Mine knows I actually have video and picture proof of some of the BS he did to me..
“Go pray!” 🙏 amen
As a non cluster B sufferer I can’t imagine how annoying it is for them to be ignored , I hate being ignored via text, for me it’s not very different then if someone were to walk away from me
In the middle of a conversation or choose to stare and leave when I know they saw me talking to them .
There are some people who are always on their phones and you know they just don’t care to respond, what’s more disrespectful than ignoring someone’s existence? This is actually what a borderline girl did to me all the time. She felt free to pretend I didn’t exist
I am approaching the point of changing numbers and deleting them forever. I'm close, and it's more and more freeing everyday.
Can be freeing
I was blocked by my narc ex because any time he reached out, I wanted to discuss what happened, and he would tell me to get over it and let it go .
He told me "you have my word" that he wasn't moving on, just moving forward .... and I would say that exact thing, I hope she makes you happy, I knew there was someone else , and he told me I was crazy,, when in reality he WAS CHEATING . I wasn't crazy . It was like reverse psychology, making me think that I even wanted him anymore. I was fighting for something I didn't want..
Yes they get frustrated when you block or ignore them but always another supply to work on
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Lee, you don't know the positive impact you have and how many lives and dreams you've saved.
I can't imagine or seem to understand what keeps you going.
Some days are hard as hell.
I was involved with a narc and it's worse than any addiction....
I appreciate you. God bless. Everytime I find myself questioning my decision I play your videos and they change I'm seeing in my life is amazing 👏🏽 South Africa 🇿🇦
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Well, after I escaped the narc exes house, I had to come back to my narc mom’s house, to start all over…. Again. But there’s a lesson here. You said “how can you heal in the same environment that got you sick?” Well, this was the original environment that got me sick. I don’t believe most ppl will ever be FULLY FULLY FULLY healed of anything. But that’s just me, idk. But, I look at it this way, she did condition me to fall into traps like this later in life, but it was dealing with him that really woke me up. He’s a whole male person. So him being physically stronger than me, was really the main issue. She’s my elderly mother. I got her number by now also. She’s pulled mad shyt out of her hat since Ive been here too. And what I needed FINALLY was to FULLY get down that she does not care about me. So my heart can stop hoping she does sometimes. She doesn’t. I needed that for real. So how do I heal in this environment now??? Well my stay here is only temporary anyway, but my biggest hurdle of course, is believing in myself and my abilities. I don’t need her to do that. That’s all me. That’s an inside job. That bytch is the soil, the RESISTANCE I need to grow! Okay! Phuck that bytch! I been USING everything happening as the mirror I need to use to unlearn and change old mindsets, unlearn patterns that are sabotaging me. Using it to step up and open my mouth and say what MY boundaries are PERIOD!!! Exercise! But after this….. that’s it. I gotta get myself in the position to stay gone, and go into MY future!!! And stay THERE!
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I don't understand why anyone would be on social media telling the world what they're doing I just don't get it
Everything isn’t meant for you to understand
TODAY is the second day that i blocked the narc being sitting around for the last 4half months waiting when he want to be in contact me!!!!!! Not any More i have to go on. He discarded me being Unfaithful with his exwife. But has the cheek to say i have changed.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
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The prayer lol but you are spot on. I’m so glad you’re giving healthy advice
My past narcissist friend never saw it coming when I ended our so called friendship
I needed to hear this today. Valentine's Day week. Lots of tears, but still NC for over a month after years of gaslighting, 'It was an accident' ... affairs I learned of for half a dozen times that I know of? Divorce is in store.