Unless you are Nicole Simpson. Remember- all psychopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are psychopaths. Hard part is figuring how deep it goes.
@@bonnielee7134 yes!! He talked trash about exes. It seemed like he was trying to say I was just as bad as them. But it was really him mistreating them🙄
@nicolebeard6051, Yes. Another thing that the psychopath kind's do is call all woman hoes and treat them accordingly. In my opinion, they are justifying doing evil acts on woman by attaching a bad label to them and hence making their wrong treatment right; it’s just evil reasoning really. For instance a pedophile blaming the victim and accusing the victim for flirting with them. It’s just ridiculous. But even more ridiculous is that they actually think that people are stupid enough to fall for it, which, sometimes they are, especially if they’re psychopaths themselves.
I mirrored what he did. Even tho it broke my heart I just did what he did to me. He got cold. So I got cold. He made the breakup all my fault so I did the same. He ignored me so I went no contact. Petty? Maybe but it made it so he went away and I got to heal. It’s been 2 months and not a word from him. Sometimes you gotta suck it up and play their game against them and cry by yourself and heal how you need to but don’t show them you care. Move on and do better. Period.
When you treat them like they’re insignificant. You stop trying to have a relationship with them. Deep down we don’t even like these evil people. We stop people pleasing. We find other interests and they’re not one of them. Replace them with other activities and interests.
@@debracampbell849lol I used to mess with my sister, not my mom though she was head vampire she was scary, but my sister was a gullible narcissist lol
Yeah, my mom used to threaten, “ what goes on, in this house, stays in this house! “ spoken by a true psychopath. Well, she beat us and starved us so… and society lets this be legal. Animal cruelty is illegal but the human animal cruelty, society wants to ignore.
@@bonnielee7134 my mother hated me she still does because I look like my father.I was severely starved and never treated for bad injuries and we wernt allowed friends around due to my father's temper...I left home when I was 12 and noone noticed.
Lmao i told my husband "I'm gonna start treating you like you treat me" ....Before i was able to finish my sentence he screamed/blurted out "I'LL KILL MYSELF!!" My jaw dropped and I just stared at him in silence for a second....before I said "Uhhh so....maybe? Consider that for a moment??? If you'd KILL yourself for me acting the same way.....maybe....stop?" That was hilarious lmao.
My ex husband was shopping for stuff for another woman online. I caught him out and I said on that note watch what I can do. I joined a dating site infront of him and said how do you like it. Later that night he attempted suicide by attempted overdose and I had to phone the police and an ambulance for him. His family to this day thinks I made him do it because I was so horrible to him.
@lovelifexx726 omg I'm sorry that's the absolute worst when other people have the wrong facts. He probably believes the same thing. Im greatful for the fact that my husband at least doesn't play mind games or justify. Like I'll call him out with "If I did that? You'd flip out!!" And he will be like. (Jokingly) "Uhhh . Yea....it's called a double standard. I can. You can't ". He's actually sincerely hilarious and usually once i point stuff like that out he will chill a bit.
Exactly!! They turn around and play victim and call you narcisstic and abusive completely overlooking their role and what they did to elicit your reaction
OMG I thought I was going crazy! I am sorry to see that so many of us have gone thru or are going thru this, but it makes me feel better to see that I am not the only one to have been duped.
That's when you switch it up and become above reproach, over rational, reasonable, calm, logical, they hate when you use logic and reason because their lies and excuses don't hold up to logic and reason
He would never tell me where he was going, or when he was coming home, he would just say “I’ll see you when I see you.” When I stopped telling him where I was going he thought I had a boyfriend 😂
Yes! Mine was, "it's none of your business where I go and who I see! Youre on a need to know bases!" Also would refuse to wear a wedding ring then tell me, "well they didn't ask if I was married." Of course they wouldn't with no ring on.....
Lol mine done the same whenever ask where he was going it was either just down the road, to see a man about some blasted dog, he dont know, or stop watching him. So when he ask me where I was going and when I'm coming home I would reply I don't know and say I'm gonna see a man about some blasted dog too😂😂 he hated it started sulking or going into his pathetic rage and accuse me of cheating😂. When I had proof of his affair he put finger password on his phone although had access to his password for 15yrs so when I put password on my phone he hated that and kept going on about it😂😂😂 what a buffooooooon😂
@@anne8220-o5c Don't be a fng coward and tell him how you really feel, maybe? See a true NPD is a coward and won't break up because they have to emerge "the victim" (at all times, no matter what) so can garner sympathy from others.
@ annenew8220, Quit giving him what he is using you for. Grey rock him. That means give him no access to your life so that he can rile you up and get a reaction out of you and hence, bully supply. “ Grey rock “ means become as boring as a rock. He will look for a better victim, somewhere else and leave. Meanwhile, get your ducks, in a row and prepare to leave. He may like using you as a room mate. Well, you can get a different room mate or rent a room, yourself, to get away from toxicity. Your health is your wealth and he’s taking that from you for sadistic pleasure.
The narcissist has a melt down by having a temper tantrum, so they regroup, and come back with something worst. I ignore and move on as if they do not exist. Poof be gone. This particular person gets mad and frankly I could care less. Enough is Enough already. Grow up!
I’ve recorded & played it back & watched him confused since he’s not aware of himself He has a different reality so the recording is bizarre 😮 It Is A Disorder (Not a choice to be NPD)
Oh- my! I had forgotten about the voices, the mocking! The muttering under his breath, then denying it. The staring at me...... 10 weeks no contact. Forgetting his crap is good- but the reminder also good!
@@RebeccaLynn-w4m my ex would bite his lip and close his eyes if I asked a question .They don't like questions.It was like he was shutting reality out.
@@ReneemfennYes it is a disorder but they are aware of right and wrong Doing bad things and ilegal things are a choice they are chosing to do.I have also seen her laughing at me right after she hurt my feelings or hurt me deeply and got pleasure from hurting me.Even when I tried to convince her over and over that she needed psychiatric help she chose not too.I still care about her some but I probably don't mean anything to her.
They double down to try and take you down when you stand your ground using logic without showing any emotion because they are so illogical and king’s and queen’s of drama.
I did that and the pouting was intense. Didn't work. I left as soon as I could. I also ratted his side chick out to her husband, so she dumped him because she can't afford to get divorced.
I remember being in shock at my ex was treating me....and then i remembered he TRAINED me for this very situation. His mistreatment trained me to shut down. His behavior showed me exactly how to handle him. Your enemies train you to defeat them if you pay attention.
Your video is SPOT ON! my exCN absolutely hated when I matched his energy/behaviors toward the end of our marriage. When I filed for divorce, he said to me "I didn't think you'd do it." He underestimated my strength.
They call you bitter, crazy, jealous, etc. when you match their energy. If they see you doing something they don't like the vindictiveness and games happen. Be careful!
I stopped showing emotions when he went to silent treatment. Then acting like nothing happened. I set my boundaries in an assertive cold way, like to a robot. I stopped letting him know where I was or about feelings, success, anything, I texted back with the same energy. I kept it superficial as he treated me. He discarded me saying I was invalidating him 😅😂
My therapist got frustrated that nothing she was suggesting I try with him worked so she eventually said well just mirror him. Oh he did NOT like being treated the same way he treated me. It got UGLY.
The covert narcissist I lived with for 26 years yelled at me one day when I said something to him. I don't remember what it was, but he yelled "What did you say to me?!?!?!?!?!" And I repeated it in the exact same tone I said it the first time. He left the room. His intimidation tactics never worked with me. I was never intimidated by him. I was never afraid of him. His guilt tactics didn't work either. I don't guilt well. Because I live my life in a way that I never have to say I'm sorry, so I don't do anything to feel guilty about.
lmao. my ex used that line over and over as well. as though it took away all his accountability or something. also implying that we were both hurting each other equally ://
No, you can’t reach the narcissist behaviour as if that’s a higher standard, but you can lower yourself worth to match their energy level. After you go down to that level it’s you the one that is going to feel disgusted about yourself because you had become like them… eeew!!! And yet, they dare to hate you because you now are their mirror.
I got accused of being mean, evil and manipulative. With a mental issue. I also got told dont do it again. Unfortunately mirroring was not good on my mental.
That's about as good as some one flipping out because I asked them to hand me a sippy cup, 6 years later we are still hearing about it, because how dare I ask him to hand me a sippy cup so I can wash it. 😂
Yes he yelled, name called and cheated. I mirrored the behavior and I was called “abusive.” He said he yelled and name called because he is frustrated, cheated because it was just sex and wasn’t hurting me because it was “about him and not me.” I was the problem because it was the intent behind it 😒 So, I flipped it and said by his logic, I could do it too because my intention wasn’t to hurt him. I did it because it felt right to me. I am happy that chapter of my life is finished and I hope I don’t ever encounter anyone like that again.
The only reason he stopped talking to me is because he knows I'm right. I turned the tables and he doesn't like it. I challenged him to be better. I don't think anyone challenged him before. So he's avoiding me to avoid accountability, which is just so sad. They'd rather hide than step up to have a better life. If he talks to me it probably means I'm right and he hates that. So he keeps company with 1,887 random half naked chicks on TikTok doing the same destructive patterns he's been doing for years. You can tell me I'm wrong but that's how I see it. Escaping to random chicks online to avoid shame is easier than putting in the work I guess. Sounds lonely to me 🤷🏼♀️😔
Yep. I don’t think they can put in the work. I think that, deep down inside, they are selfish, screwed up, two year olds, who just want to do what they want to do, no questions asked! Funny, how they can manage, for the most part, to stay out of trouble, in society, but walk all over naive people, like the people are a free handout or a free toy for them to play with and do whatever they want with them, because there’s no laws against it. Society is going to need to learn how to date better and start vetting people out, first, before putting their heart into it.
You are absolutely right. They know whatever they have done in their past is wrong. And they don't have the guts to face it. So they distract themselves with social media, porn and chatting websites.
@@nadiakhan2332 absolutely it's the p*** addiction. They struggle with the diction issues including that. They have a very lonely life and then they say "oh I'm having fun being single" to other girls they talked to online LOL no they're not it's all lies they are lonely and miserable dude. They're not comfortable with themselves and they suffer from high anxiety so they get into p*** I guess following random chicks online because they're low maintenance and they don't ask a lot from them
I’m matching the silent treatment 😂I’m at peace and happier and when he tries to argue with 😂 me I just respond by saying’ok’ we still stay in the same house.
You are so right. I thought I was losing my mind, he keeps calling me the victim and calls me the narcissist... I didn't even know what that was until I met him... I am trying to extract myself from him in a safe manner, as the behavior just keeps ramping up to be more and more erratic because I will not play his mind games. Thank you for your videos, they give hope in knowing it isn't me in what feels like a hopeless situation
instead of putting your precious energy into hate, why not better put that same energy into figuring out where to go, pack your belongings and move out and stay away! Let him go rotten on his own!
@AmericanDreamer we never lived together and I left him 9 months ago. Hate is a strong word and that's why I used it. After what he said and did to me, I have every right to hate him.
@empressb1107 thank you, I didn't know a relationship could be so toxic. I was constantly under stress, cheated on and lied to everyday. It really sucks when you're in love with a psychopath and have to leave them. I am still single and working on myself. Going to school, working out and meeting new friends 💪
When you’ve been through so much in 54 years that you become unfuckwithable. He thought he was so special, he thought that I wouldn’t know what to do when he tried me. lol 😂
The Silent Treatment or "OK" - says the Narcissist (who knows they can't possibly deny what they've done to you as they'll only look as crazy as they've tried to make you look, and we know appearances mean the most to Narcissists).
It is just amazing how interlocked we all are, the stuff I’m going through I thought no one would understand this and most still can’t but the info you and people in the comment sections of these narcissist videos have are mind blowing that this is a personality type that many suffer from
I absolutely love Lee!!! This man deserves all of his flowers! He’s so spot on EVERY time! But I have to say, his impersonations are just as good and keeps you entertained while educating you on these evil people! Thanks Lee! Keep pushing forward, because I don’t think that you truly know how great that you are or your higher potential! You need your own TV show!!
Hahaha I warned mine that if they chose to believe that they wouldn't be upset with how they treated me and they wouldn't be offended... So I said 'okay you will get what you give, and see how long before you hate it' then took about 2 mins
Yes! I told one, let me do to you, what you are doing to me so that you can feel what it feels like to be treated this way and the baby looked down and with a stubborn, sad, cry, in his voice, he said, I can take it! Bull shit! Boy they can dish it but they sure as shit can’t take it.
Speaking some facts Lee! When I started hollering back at my soon to be ex she’s stated in a text “I don’t like when you talk to me like that!” Me looking puzzled at phone screen thinking, “ma’am you opened this door, I have always spoken to you with respect, especially with knowing your history of growing up in abusive home, even when disagreement was present I presented respect and love” Preparing to match the energy even more in courts soon……HOPEFULLY IT DOES NOT BECOME A CATEGORY 5 STORM 😬
I acted up toward my narc ex and behaved exactly as he did - He responded with violence every single time! Last time he did it, he called police on me and it backfired…. He now lives with a DVO that renews every year on May the 4th - He’s a massive Star Wars fan, I delighted in knowing his “special day” is tainted for a good year after the fact and then I began healing
I blocked him and he kept leaving voice-mails for 2 months. Talking to me sweet, crazy and then sob stories. I contacted his ex wife and told her he won't leave me alone (intentional narc injury to go away). She said she told him to leave me alone and that he did the same things to her. I changed my phone number and kept it pushing.
Thanks for adding humor to the subject. Becoming healthier is a very good thing, and your dog is adorable and well cared for. I will buy your book for my boyfriend’s son. He’s having a lot of problems because his divorced father and mother both have selfish tendencies. I also want to read it for myself, it will help me too (34 year old lady trying to learn and not let another child be hurt so much).
I started to behave the way my narc parent behaved towards me for 12 years.... she couldn't handle even 15 minutes of it. Now I'm matching my ex narc friends energy by focusing on anything but her
So sorry I missed your live . Watching your videos helped me get away from a narcissist and help me realize I wasn't the bad person. Still healing he still haunts my thoughts. I could share so much to help others. It's been a year🎉
They threaten you, call you names , lie about health issues they say you caused, adopt out a dog we had together told me put to sleep cause he knew it would hurt me etc.. turns out he was married the whole time too
In the Shannon Sharpe interview, Katt Williams said toxic people are getting something from you and when you learn what it is and turn it off, they'll leave. Worked for me! I matched his energy, silent treatment, dismissiveness, lack of attention and affection. I gray rocked him and cut off all my supply. Eventually, he took himself right out of the equation with his new supply.
You know what when this happened I was so disgusted with myself for stooping that low and for treating another human that way. Like you say in some of your previous videos "nark fleas" you start to act like the narcissist in your life. The grief, denial, anger, depression, difficult and painful. Trauma changes the way you interact with the world... So does healing 😢.
Yeah totally true. When I was standing over him with a chair held up he finally cried like a little b*tch. I’m pretty sure I’m glad I stopped, it’s creepy that I only know I did because the cops showed up from the noise of our fight. He would’ve had the last laugh then. After 9 years I was almost dead I didn’t care then I guess……Hope none of you have ever been or will be pushed THAT far by anyone…it’s not a good place.
U r cracking me up on this one. But so true. I found out he was trying to cheat and I kicked him out. He tried to scare me but I stood my ground and grey rocked him. All he could do was leave. He knew I had a thang and didn’t know if I had it on me or not so he got on. U should talk about that too.
When I matched her energy it drained everything out of me.. What made it bad I started doing it naturally almost subconsciously... I caught myself then realized I don't want to be like this at all it's exhausting... Luckily I know myself, and I ended it before I turned into her and ruined myself....
I went no-contact with my mom and her husband in my 40s, finally. They told their friends and my little brother I had “issues” and abandoned them. But really, they didn’t give a shit. My mom died from alcoholism. Her husband is mostly alone now, he drove away most of the people who tolerated him. I looked forward to not taking care of him for years. It was difficult, but the right thing for me and my mental health. Thanks for your POV. I agree 💯
Anything I did that was healthy. Like asserting boundaries, saying less or reacting calmly I was accused of using my 'therapeutic tactics' on him as im a therapist by profession.
When a narcissist is treated the way they treat others, it becomes a game changer. They can’t handle it at all. It’s like shock and awe. I know it’s the fastest way to get rid of one!
I just told him after 7yrs of the of that ish, I went on a date,when I tell you that he got so mad because I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant, Hung up on me blocked me, so I took the opportunity to get rid of that toxicity I blocked and deleted that devil, haven't heard a word, I tell you I'm happier than 10 clowns 😂😂😂,
I slowly got the major discard when he went on my phone and seen some male interactions and he still thought I would hang around and for the next 6 years I gave him a complete silent treatment until he married someone else. I made a mistake reconnecting with him and doesn’t matter whether it 1 week no contact or 6 years they still come back with the same shenanigans
I have treated him like he treated me for five months. He was furious. For him his 13 years of lying, using me and neglecting me was nothing compared to my lying to him for five months. No he admits he has treated me badly and he is in therapy. It will not help him
You are the first youtuber talking about this. As you said, others always say to never make the narc mad. As a man, I grew up in Brooklyn and had to fight growing up. Like you said, sometimes you have to fight or else be run over or get destroyed. I have been in 12 step groups for many years and I have a lot of patience and compassion for people. However, there are some people out there who simply will not stop until you let them know that you will beat them to death, or at least try to, unless they back off. Like you said though, you have to be careful because this is not a good idea with a narc who is built like a bodybuilder and is into martial arts at the same time, for example. I still want to get to a point where I have better ways to deal with them because even feeling that I might have to fight them takes away from my dignity and feeling of safety. At that point, I feel that I might as well be on the front lines in a war where you survive by either killing or being killed. I'm also getting too old for this shit as Danny Glover says in the Lethal Weapon movies. It's not a way to live. Thanks for bringing this issue to light.
They really do translate your outrage and hurt as a way of showing that you actually do care about them cause if you didn’t then why would you be so angry 😁😵💫🫠 the mental gymnastics is incomprehensible
I'm thousands of miles away from my narcissist and last night we were talking about me visiting him and how he'd help me out financially, and next minute, I asked him to get a STD test, he called me to scream at me about how I should "know my place". I actually don't feel safe now, for real.
It’s a beautiful day when a narcissist meets his match 😂
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Unless you are Nicole Simpson.
Remember- all psychopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are psychopaths. Hard part is figuring how deep it goes.
I love it .People should get a taste of their own medicine in order to improve.
😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯
Got me thinking I might be a little narcissistic too 😂😂
My ex-husband said “I thought you were different!” when I matched his energy 😂😂😂
My ex would say "you changed" 😂
Yeah, in other words he thought that you were a sucker, surprise, surprise!
@@bonnielee7134 yes!! He talked trash about exes. It seemed like he was trying to say I was just as bad as them. But it was really him mistreating them🙄
@nicolebeard6051,
Yes. Another thing that the psychopath kind's do is call all woman hoes and treat them accordingly. In my opinion, they are justifying doing evil acts on woman by attaching a bad label to them and hence making their wrong treatment right; it’s just evil reasoning really. For instance a pedophile blaming the victim and accusing the victim for flirting with them. It’s just ridiculous. But even more ridiculous is that they actually think that people are stupid enough to fall for it, which, sometimes they are, especially if they’re psychopaths themselves.
@@nicolebeard6051Yep, when all of the exes are crazy... ok are they crazy or did you make them crazy by how you treated them?
I mirrored what he did. Even tho it broke my heart I just did what he did to me. He got cold. So I got cold. He made the breakup all my fault so I did the same. He ignored me so I went no contact. Petty? Maybe but it made it so he went away and I got to heal. It’s been 2 months and not a word from him. Sometimes you gotta suck it up and play their game against them and cry by yourself and heal how you need to but don’t show them you care. Move on and do better. Period.
However he has not retaliated. He just disappeared. No hovering. I think I cracked the code on how to keep them to stay away.
Amen 🙏 💪🏽👏🏽💯
This is very gud.
"don’t show them you care. Move on and do better. Period." BECAUSE THEY DON'T CARE!!!! NEVER DID!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!
what you did is called reactive abuse. its not petty.
Matching behavior and staying in the relationship is not smart. It will never end. Leave and don’t give them the energy they crave from the games.
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So true.
"Two rights don't make a wrong" - says the Narcissist (who continues to proceed to do you wrong).
Yes this was the Ex favourite line he’s has always been a hypocrite
@Denzella2154 oh most definitely! A grade hypocrits.
Two wrongs don't make it right but it damn sure makes it even 😂😂😂
@@I_z_ya 😂😂😂
LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!
When you treat them like they’re insignificant. You stop trying to have a relationship with them. Deep down we don’t even like these evil people. We stop people pleasing. We find other interests and they’re not one of them. Replace them with other activities and interests.
I think their intentions are to make you as cold as they are and I always try and have hope some will get help and change
They can’t take the heat. Did it to my ex and now I’m a “horrible person “ 😂
better be a horrible person than a dumbass that he took a piss on
But they can dish out. My quote: If you dish out you also have to take in.
RIGHT
Oh no. They can dish it but can’t take it. 😂 mine was the same way
They will have a meltdown.
If they're yelling and you're calm, that makes some of them mad as hell too!
Also VERY true.
Definitely they get mad lmfaoooo 😂
@@debracampbell849lol I used to mess with my sister, not my mom though she was head vampire she was scary, but my sister was a gullible narcissist lol
They say you’re not in love with them anymore because you’re not arguing with them, sick
Exactly. I went to sleep and that made her get up and get in my face and start swinging and screaming 😆😆😆
My dad used to say " dont do as i do , do as i say". Spoken from a true psycopath.
Sameeee
Yeah, my mom used to threaten, “ what goes on, in this house, stays in this house! “ spoken by a true psychopath. Well, she beat us and starved us so… and society lets this be legal. Animal cruelty is illegal but the human animal cruelty, society wants to ignore.
@@bonnielee7134 my mother hated me she still does because I look like my father.I was severely starved and never treated for bad injuries and we wernt allowed friends around due to my father's temper...I left home when I was 12 and noone noticed.
yup. my "mother" or the person who birth me, ALWAYS said that!!!
PEACE!!!!!
@@ItsSoarTime nothing wrong with us just our parents where shit.
They get mad as hell and the discard or reverse discard happens almost instantly
yesss!! This is what just happened to me
Truth
It just happened to me. She lost it and discarded immediately
Lmao i told my husband "I'm gonna start treating you like you treat me" ....Before i was able to finish my sentence he screamed/blurted out "I'LL KILL MYSELF!!"
My jaw dropped and I just stared at him in silence for a second....before I said "Uhhh so....maybe? Consider that for a moment??? If you'd KILL yourself for me acting the same way.....maybe....stop?"
That was hilarious lmao.
Lol! 🤣😂
My ex husband was shopping for stuff for another woman online. I caught him out and I said on that note watch what I can do. I joined a dating site infront of him and said how do you like it. Later that night he attempted suicide by attempted overdose and I had to phone the police and an ambulance for him. His family to this day thinks I made him do it because I was so horrible to him.
Omfg😩😭 that’s wiiilllddd.
@lovelifexx726 omg I'm sorry that's the absolute worst when other people have the wrong facts. He probably believes the same thing.
Im greatful for the fact that my husband at least doesn't play mind games or justify.
Like I'll call him out with "If I did that? You'd flip out!!" And he will be like. (Jokingly) "Uhhh . Yea....it's called a double standard. I can. You can't ". He's actually sincerely hilarious and usually once i point stuff like that out he will chill a bit.
They know exactly what they're doing!
Exactly!! They turn around and play victim and call you narcisstic and abusive completely overlooking their role and what they did to elicit your reaction
Yeah, why do they do that? It looks completely insane?!
OMG I thought I was going crazy! I am sorry to see that so many of us have gone thru or are going thru this, but it makes me feel better to see that I am not the only one to have been duped.
That's when you switch it up and become above reproach, over rational, reasonable, calm, logical, they hate when you use logic and reason because their lies and excuses don't hold up to logic and reason
Yes lee I just went through that
He would never tell me where he was going, or when he was coming home, he would just say “I’ll see you when I see you.” When I stopped telling him where I was going he thought I had a boyfriend 😂
Yes! Mine was, "it's none of your business where I go and who I see! Youre on a need to know bases!" Also would refuse to wear a wedding ring then tell me, "well they didn't ask if I was married." Of course they wouldn't with no ring on.....
Lol mine done the same whenever ask where he was going it was either just down the road, to see a man about some blasted dog, he dont know, or stop watching him. So when he ask me where I was going and when I'm coming home I would reply I don't know and say I'm gonna see a man about some blasted dog too😂😂 he hated it started sulking or going into his pathetic rage and accuse me of cheating😂.
When I had proof of his affair he put finger password on his phone although had access to his password for 15yrs so when I put password on my phone he hated that and kept going on about it😂😂😂 what a buffooooooon😂
omg my ex said the same phrase often - I'll see you, when I'll see you! 🤦🌴 Are you from US? 🤔
@@StrongSurvivor-pl3yk Indeed,he is a jerk who absolūtu disrespects you! Why don't you leave him? With men like that, women dont need no enemies, fr
SMH!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!
When I treated him like he treated me he went nuts!! He could not take it!! Things got really scary
humph!
PEACE!!!!
This is so true, I am a testament to this.
me too, I am going thru this now, with no contact, blocked on all measures. hugs!
Yes it can definitely get scary!
He moved out, haven’t heard or seen him since,👏🏽👏🏽
Stay safe
Good! He can keep his raggedy-ass gone! 😆
How did you get him to move out? Been waiting for his disappearance since 2024.
You have been blessed.
@@anne8220-o5c Don't be a fng coward and tell him how you really feel, maybe?
See a true NPD is a coward and won't break up because they have to emerge "the victim" (at all times, no matter what) so can garner sympathy from others.
@ annenew8220,
Quit giving him what he is using you for.
Grey rock him. That means give him no access to your life so that he can rile you up and get a reaction out of you and hence, bully supply.
“ Grey rock “ means become as boring as a rock. He will look for a better victim, somewhere else and leave. Meanwhile, get your ducks, in a row and prepare to leave.
He may like using you as a room mate. Well, you can get a different room mate or rent a room, yourself, to get away from toxicity.
Your health is your wealth and he’s taking that from you for sadistic pleasure.
The narcissist has a melt down by having a temper tantrum, so they regroup, and come back with something worst. I ignore and move on as if they do not exist. Poof be gone. This particular person gets mad and frankly I could care less. Enough is Enough already. Grow up!
It's the voices and mimicking for me! So on point! The stomping, raging, pouting, silent treatment, blame shifting...amazing!🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I’ve recorded & played it back & watched him confused since he’s not aware of himself
He has a different reality so the recording is bizarre 😮
It
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Disorder
(Not a choice to be NPD)
Oh- my! I had forgotten about the voices, the mocking! The muttering under his breath, then denying it. The staring at me...... 10 weeks no contact. Forgetting his crap is good- but the reminder also good!
@@RebeccaLynn-w4m my ex would bite his lip and close his eyes if I asked a question .They don't like questions.It was like he was shutting reality out.
@@ReneemfennYes it is a disorder but they are aware of right and wrong Doing bad things and ilegal things are a choice they are chosing to do.I have also seen her laughing at me right after she hurt my feelings or hurt me deeply and got pleasure from hurting me.Even when I tried to convince her over and over that she needed psychiatric help she chose not too.I still care about her some but I probably don't mean anything to her.
They double down to try and take you down when you stand your ground using logic without showing any emotion because they are so illogical and king’s and queen’s of drama.
"You want to be right!" - says the Narcissist (who proceeds to tell you "you're wrong").
"If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right" it's. A song 🎵 😅
I did that and the pouting was intense. Didn't work. I left as soon as I could. I also ratted his side chick out to her husband, so she dumped him because she can't afford to get divorced.
perfect!!! 🎯
The "I can't believe you're yelling at me" and playing victim is way too real.
I remember being in shock at my ex was treating me....and then i remembered he TRAINED me for this very situation. His mistreatment trained me to shut down. His behavior showed me exactly how to handle him. Your enemies train you to defeat them if you pay attention.
Your video is SPOT ON! my exCN absolutely hated when I matched his energy/behaviors toward the end of our marriage. When I filed for divorce, he said to me "I didn't think you'd do it." He underestimated my strength.
They call you bitter, crazy, jealous, etc. when you match their energy. If they see you doing something they don't like the vindictiveness and games happen. Be careful!
I stopped showing emotions when he went to silent treatment. Then acting like nothing happened. I set my boundaries in an assertive cold way, like to a robot. I stopped letting him know where I was or about feelings, success, anything, I texted back with the same energy. I kept it superficial as he treated me. He discarded me saying I was invalidating him 😅😂
👍 nice job
My therapist got frustrated that nothing she was suggesting I try with him worked so she eventually said well just mirror him.
Oh he did NOT like being treated the same way he treated me. It got UGLY.
My narc disappeared when I treated him the way he treated me. It was perfect!!!! 👍🏾 😂😂😂
So true. My ex initiated the breakup but never thought I would divorce him and get him to leave the house .And also get sole custody of the kids.
The covert narcissist I lived with for 26 years yelled at me one day when I said something to him. I don't remember what it was, but he yelled "What did you say to me?!?!?!?!?!"
And I repeated it in the exact same tone I said it the first time.
He left the room. His intimidation tactics never worked with me.
I was never intimidated by him.
I was never afraid of him.
His guilt tactics didn't work either.
I don't guilt well. Because I live my life in a way that I never have to say I'm sorry, so I don't do anything to feel guilty about.
My ex used to say, “Hurt people hurt people”, over and over, he HATED when I
disagreed with his only core value. Everything else was copying me. 💀😂
lmao. my ex used that line over and over as well. as though it took away all his accountability or something. also implying that we were both hurting each other equally ://
Mine used to say you hurt those closet to you.
My ex said that all of the time too lol
No, you can’t reach the narcissist behaviour as if that’s a higher standard, but you can lower yourself worth to match their energy level. After you go down to that level it’s you the one that is going to feel disgusted about yourself because you had become like them… eeew!!! And yet, they dare to hate you because you now are their mirror.
Precisely 💯
Thus ... Checkmate!
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Exactly. They need you to mirror themselves back to them, but will hate you when you do it.
EXCELLENT!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!
I got accused of being mean, evil and manipulative. With a mental issue. I also got told dont do it again. Unfortunately mirroring was not good on my mental.
Text has more letters ... can't stop laughing 😂😂😂
That's about as good as some one flipping out because I asked them to hand me a sippy cup, 6 years later we are still hearing about it, because how dare I ask him to hand me a sippy cup so I can wash it. 😂
Mine called me a swindler when I wouldn't let him financially abuse me.
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Remember everything they accuse you of is actually a confession of themselves
They get mad and leave you to heal. Its better than trying to reason with them.
Yes he yelled, name called and cheated. I mirrored the behavior and I was called “abusive.” He said he yelled and name called because he is frustrated, cheated because it was just sex and wasn’t hurting me because it was “about him and not me.” I was the problem because it was the intent behind it 😒 So, I flipped it and said by his logic, I could do it too because my intention wasn’t to hurt him. I did it because it felt right to me.
I am happy that chapter of my life is finished and I hope I don’t ever encounter anyone like that again.
'No' really works like a charm. Natural narc-repellant 😂
The only reason he stopped talking to me is because he knows I'm right. I turned the tables and he doesn't like it. I challenged him to be better. I don't think anyone challenged him before. So he's avoiding me to avoid accountability, which is just so sad. They'd rather hide than step up to have a better life. If he talks to me it probably means I'm right and he hates that. So he keeps company with 1,887 random half naked chicks on TikTok doing the same destructive patterns he's been doing for years. You can tell me I'm wrong but that's how I see it. Escaping to random chicks online to avoid shame is easier than putting in the work I guess. Sounds lonely to me 🤷🏼♀️😔
Yep. I don’t think they can put in the work. I think that, deep down inside, they are selfish, screwed up, two year olds, who just want to do what they want to do, no questions asked!
Funny, how they can manage, for the most part, to stay out of trouble, in society, but walk all over naive people, like the people are a free handout or a free toy for them to play with and do whatever they want with them, because there’s no laws against it.
Society is going to need to learn how to date better and start vetting people out, first, before putting their heart into it.
You are absolutely right. They know whatever they have done in their past is wrong. And they don't have the guts to face it. So they distract themselves with social media, porn and chatting websites.
I think the random online chicks thing is part of the narcissism. Do you? I saw the same behavior. And, was then gaslit and told I'm too sensitive!!!
@@nadiakhan2332 absolutely it's the p*** addiction. They struggle with the diction issues including that. They have a very lonely life and then they say "oh I'm having fun being single" to other girls they talked to online LOL no they're not it's all lies they are lonely and miserable dude. They're not comfortable with themselves and they suffer from high anxiety so they get into p*** I guess following random chicks online because they're low maintenance and they don't ask a lot from them
I’m matching the silent treatment 😂I’m at peace and happier and when he tries to argue with 😂 me I just respond by saying’ok’ we still stay in the same house.
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@@Kberry_ this is me too ❤️ trying to get well to get a job, plan,plot, strategies, hope u r ok ❤️
Radical acceptance is very freeing.
Indeed.
The voices crack me up. That’s exactly how whiny my ex would sound trying to shift the blame
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Lee you were cracking me up with the narc voices of whining and crying!!!! 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂they really act like a big child😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 they're lame as hell. Whole children in adult bodies
@@Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat FOR REAL!!! Sissy pants cowards!!!!
But the whole town would hear both of us YELLING! 😂
same lol
You are so right. I thought I was losing my mind, he keeps calling me the victim and calls me the narcissist... I didn't even know what that was until I met him... I am trying to extract myself from him in a safe manner, as the behavior just keeps ramping up to be more and more erratic because I will not play his mind games. Thank you for your videos, they give hope in knowing it isn't me in what feels like a hopeless situation
He started recording me. After he told me I was speechless. I knew then what he was and I hated him after that day.
instead of putting your precious energy into hate, why not better put that same energy into figuring out where to go, pack your belongings and move out and stay away! Let him go rotten on his own!
@AmericanDreamer we never lived together and I left him 9 months ago. Hate is a strong word and that's why I used it. After what he said and did to me, I have every right to hate him.
@TheBossLady2885 that's right you have every right to your feelings, sorry you went through that with such a low life bed bug
@empressb1107 thank you, I didn't know a relationship could be so toxic. I was constantly under stress, cheated on and lied to everyday. It really sucks when you're in love with a psychopath and have to leave them. I am still single and working on myself. Going to school, working out and meeting new friends 💪
When you’ve been through so much in 54 years that you become unfuckwithable. He thought he was so special, he thought that I wouldn’t know what to do when he tried me. lol 😂
Anyone who comes up with the word unfuckwithable, is nothing but! 👏👏👏
My new favorite word! ❤
Someone is working on themself in a good way. Good job on your workout regimen and healthy vibe. 🎉
I appreciate it
@@MentalHealness Earned, my dude! Keep up the good work!
You’re such a BLESSING!!!!!
Thank you for telling the truth.
The Silent Treatment or "OK" - says the Narcissist (who knows they can't possibly deny what they've done to you as they'll only look as crazy as they've tried to make you look, and we know appearances mean the most to Narcissists).
😆 🤣 😂 They can't stand it 😅😂
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It is just amazing how interlocked we all are, the stuff I’m going through I thought no one would understand this and most still can’t but the info you and people in the comment sections of these narcissist videos have are mind blowing that this is a personality type that many suffer from
I did that and they became loud and irate. All I could do was laugh. The more I laughed the angrier they became, it was funny to me.
That Narc voice was hilarious!!!😂💯
ALWAYS IS!!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!
I think the best way to get back at a narcissist is to go completely no contact and mean it. Let's call it a permanent discard
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Very true! 💯
I absolutely love Lee!!! This man deserves all of his flowers! He’s so spot on EVERY time! But I have to say, his impersonations are just as good and keeps you entertained while educating you on these evil people! Thanks Lee! Keep pushing forward, because I don’t think that you truly know how great that you are or your higher potential! You need your own TV show!!
Hahaha I warned mine that if they chose to believe that they wouldn't be upset with how they treated me and they wouldn't be offended... So I said 'okay you will get what you give, and see how long before you hate it' then took about 2 mins
Yes! I told one, let me do to you, what you are doing to me so that you can feel what it feels like to be treated this way and the baby looked down and with a stubborn, sad, cry, in his voice, he said, I can take it! Bull shit! Boy they can dish it but they sure as shit can’t take it.
WE SO GLAD U WANT US TO GET THRU THAT MESS
This is so true. They can’t stand when u stand up too them.
Speaking some facts Lee! When I started hollering back at my soon to be ex she’s stated in a text “I don’t like when you talk to me like that!” Me looking puzzled at phone screen thinking, “ma’am you opened this door, I have always spoken to you with respect, especially with knowing your history of growing up in abusive home, even when disagreement was present I presented respect and love”
Preparing to match the energy even more in courts soon……HOPEFULLY IT DOES NOT BECOME A CATEGORY 5 STORM 😬
I acted up toward my narc ex and behaved exactly as he did - He responded with violence every single time! Last time he did it, he called police on me and it backfired…. He now lives with a DVO that renews every year on May the 4th - He’s a massive Star Wars fan, I delighted in knowing his “special day” is tainted for a good year after the fact and then I began healing
Sigma Empaths do this from experience it’s called MIRRORING THEIR BEHAVIORS lmao 😂
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Yeah I learnt the way I am is sigma empathy, but I prefer traumatised autistic bitch lol❤(I am autistic, wasn’t being nasty about autism )
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Sigma empaths?
I got a kick out of contacting his x wife and exposing him,homie went into labour with anger.dont play with this empath.
I blocked him and he kept leaving voice-mails for 2 months. Talking to me sweet, crazy and then sob stories. I contacted his ex wife and told her he won't leave me alone (intentional narc injury to go away). She said she told him to leave me alone and that he did the same things to her. I changed my phone number and kept it pushing.
"homie went into labour with anger." GOTTA USE THAT LINE!!!!!!!
"dont play with this empath." YOU BETTER F'ING KNOW THAT!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!
😂😂😂😂Brother, you are telling the truth!👑📖🙏🏾
They complain to their friends that I'm a bully and all im doing is matching vibes. 😂
Thanks for adding humor to the subject. Becoming healthier is a very good thing, and your dog is adorable and well cared for.
I will buy your book for my boyfriend’s son. He’s having a lot of problems because his divorced father and mother both have selfish tendencies.
I also want to read it for myself, it will help me too (34 year old lady trying to learn and not let another child be hurt so much).
This conversation brings back memories. It makes me laugh. 😅
I started to behave the way my narc parent behaved towards me for 12 years.... she couldn't handle even 15 minutes of it.
Now I'm matching my ex narc friends energy by focusing on anything but her
"Why would I want to do that?" - says the Narcissist (who expects you to explain to them why they behave the way they do)
I just don’t want a battle; only to be free.
So sorry I missed your live . Watching your videos helped me get away from a narcissist and help me realize I wasn't the bad person. Still healing he still haunts my thoughts. I could share so much to help others. It's been a year🎉
They threaten you, call you names , lie about health issues they say you caused, adopt out a dog we had together told me put to sleep cause he knew it would hurt me etc.. turns out he was married the whole time too
Going thru this right. Not a good at alllllll.... i was sick as a dog. Lord, Pray for me to stay away from him 😢😢
In the Shannon Sharpe interview, Katt Williams said toxic people are getting something from you and when you learn what it is and turn it off, they'll leave. Worked for me! I matched his energy, silent treatment, dismissiveness, lack of attention and affection. I gray rocked him and cut off all my supply. Eventually, he took himself right out of the equation with his new supply.
You know what when this happened I was so disgusted with myself for stooping that low and for treating another human that way. Like you say in some of your previous videos "nark fleas" you start to act like the narcissist in your life.
The grief, denial, anger, depression, difficult and painful.
Trauma changes the way you interact with the world...
So does healing 😢.
Im always being accused of controlling his phone from mine. He gets advertisements that i never heard of but im responsible for them.
"What you said can't be unsaid."
Yeah totally true. When I was standing over him with a chair held up he finally cried like a little b*tch. I’m pretty sure I’m glad I stopped, it’s creepy that I only know I did because the cops showed up from the noise of our fight. He would’ve had the last laugh then. After 9 years I was almost dead I didn’t care then I guess……Hope none of you have ever been or will be pushed THAT far by anyone…it’s not a good place.
"You like to play tit for tat/ want revenge" - says the Narcissist (who continues to play mind games in a passive aggressive manner)
My ex pouted when the remote control on the TV wouldnt work right😂😂😂.and if he couldnt find. His football game he will thrown a tampering 😂😂😂
Hide it for good. MF’s. That’s the bs they do.
U r cracking me up on this one. But so true. I found out he was trying to cheat and I kicked him out. He tried to scare me but I stood my ground and grey rocked him. All he could do was leave. He knew I had a thang and didn’t know if I had it on me or not so he got on. U should talk about that too.
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Your awesome Lee you made me laugh so hard. Don't let others mistreat you. That's definitely not true love. Thanks Lee❤💪
When I matched her energy it drained everything out of me.. What made it bad I started doing it naturally almost subconsciously... I caught myself then realized I don't want to be like this at all it's exhausting... Luckily I know myself, and I ended it before I turned into her and ruined myself....
I literally repeated the same sentence back no lie he went crazy I have to say it I never thought anybody went through this like me
I went no-contact with my mom and her husband in my 40s, finally. They told their friends and my little brother I had “issues” and abandoned them. But really, they didn’t give a shit. My mom died from alcoholism. Her husband is mostly alone now, he drove away most of the people who tolerated him. I looked forward to not taking care of him for years.
It was difficult, but the right thing for me and my mental health.
Thanks for your POV. I agree 💯
Anything I did that was healthy. Like asserting boundaries, saying less or reacting calmly I was accused of using my 'therapeutic tactics' on him as im a therapist by profession.
I witnessed this first hand when I had a girls night out without telling him.
The way your acting it out is halarious 😂😂 im dying ova here 💯👍
They hate being treated the way they treat you.
When a narcissist is treated the way they treat others, it becomes a game changer. They can’t handle it at all. It’s like shock and awe. I know it’s the fastest way to get rid of one!
Or not
I just told him after 7yrs of the of that ish, I went on a date,when I tell you that he got so mad because I wouldn't tell him the name of the restaurant, Hung up on me blocked me, so I took the opportunity to get rid of that toxicity I blocked and deleted that devil, haven't heard a word, I tell you I'm happier than 10 clowns 😂😂😂,
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I slowly got the major discard when he went on my phone and seen some male interactions and he still thought I would hang around and for the next 6 years I gave him a complete silent treatment until he married someone else. I made a mistake reconnecting with him and doesn’t matter whether it 1 week no contact or 6 years they still come back with the same shenanigans
I have treated him like he treated me for five months. He was furious. For him his 13 years of lying, using me and neglecting me was nothing compared to my lying to him for five months. No he admits he has treated me badly and he is in therapy. It will not help him
lol the cheating and crying “yours is worse, you felt something”, I am dying…round of applause 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
You are the first youtuber talking about this. As you said, others always say to never make the narc mad. As a man, I grew up in Brooklyn and had to fight growing up. Like you said, sometimes you have to fight or else be run over or get destroyed. I have been in 12 step groups for many years and I have a lot of patience and compassion for people. However, there are some people out there who simply will not stop until you let them know that you will beat them to death, or at least try to, unless they back off. Like you said though, you have to be careful because this is not a good idea with a narc who is built like a bodybuilder and is into martial arts at the same time, for example. I still want to get to a point where I have better ways to deal with them because even feeling that I might have to fight them takes away from my dignity and feeling of safety. At that point, I feel that I might as well be on the front lines in a war where you survive by either killing or being killed. I'm also getting too old for this shit as Danny Glover says in the Lethal Weapon movies. It's not a way to live. Thanks for bringing this issue to light.
Yes indeed
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It’s all right for me but not for thee .
The thought process of every narcissist. Motto they live by everyday
I love your therapist!!! That is true support!!!
He said he didn’t want it no more and I said ok. He got mad at me. I’m not understanding.
he wants you to 'care'
They really do translate your outrage and hurt as a way of showing that you actually do care about them cause if you didn’t then why would you be so angry 😁😵💫🫠 the mental gymnastics is incomprehensible
I'm thousands of miles away from my narcissist and last night we were talking about me visiting him and how he'd help me out financially, and next minute, I asked him to get a STD test, he called me to scream at me about how I should "know my place". I actually don't feel safe now, for real.
maybe that was a sign for you to REMAIN "thousands of miles away" and stop dealing with him at all! PEACE!!!!
So true, they will still switch it around, regardless of the situation. Controlling at its Best. I Thank God I’m out of it 😊