The DELUSIONS of a narcissist explained
Вставка
- Опубліковано 26 жов 2023
- They don’t see reality as it is #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
For 1-on-1 narcissistic abuse recovery coaching email me: danielle.radin@gmail.com
More on my podcast “Call Them Narcissists”: open.spotify.com/show/7CRhRYM...
My new ebook on communicating with narcissists is out now: a.co/d/5vOlvof
the narc I was with, would literally make things up, stories and reasons for things, and use them to verbally abuse me about the lies he made up in his mind. He'd also completely rewrite history at times. He'd even talk about things he saw, that never existed. It became very scary. I knew I was in danger. The delusions and pathological lying, is extremely scary.
It's amazing how they convince themselves that their delusional reality is the truth. Glad you're out of that, and hopefully moving on and recovering from the experience.
Same. For awhile I thought the narc was just teasing but as time progress - he really believed in all his disillusions. It's so trippy because you hear about people like this bit when you really encounter them, they seem so unreal. 😢 that was the hardest part for me - being content to leave him in his disillusions 💔
Their grandiosity doesn't match reality.
It's so silly to think that I can fix them and solve all their problems. Like you said, I am mortal. I can barely stay on top of my own problems. And while they expect me to fix all their problems, they are sure not interested in fixing any of my problems. And even if you try-try-try to fix all their problems, they will just want more: like the man who had the goose that laid the golden egg. The more she laid for him to make him happy, the angrier he got that she was only giving him ONE a day. So he killed her in order to get ALL the eggs. but she was empty. And what did he mourn? That he killed the goose loved him so much and tried to make him happy? No, he mourned that he no longer had a supply of golden eggs.
This is deep!
Narcism is at an all time high… people literally want to use you for all sorts of reasons out here.. be careful Danielle, stay prayed up. You need Gods help to protect you from all the evil.
Has *always* been existent at a high level, but there was no known term for this. Wrong is wrong and in most cultures, people are made believe through generations that you shall conform.
Think it's just 'The way to Go' for many people.
We raise our children to be narcissistic today.
We give them everything without working for it, require no chores, and don't teach them empathy or respect for others. When they misbehave, we blame others. How did we think they would turn out?
Plus, it's generational, from parent to child.
Yes, modern society is a fertile breeding ground for narcs. They're a manifestation of our decadent side.@@davidm4566
@@davidm4566oh please! Every generation loves to blame the younger generation for problems in the world. It's a tale as old as time. Maybe take accountability for your own actions instead of judging people you clearly know nothing about!
If its not love, its just not worth anymore of your time.
Yes but how are we to know if it is or it isn't.
Absolutely, they are delusional, overthinking and think they are entitled.... 🥰🥰
Ok, so I'm like a bland TV dinner. Thank you;-)
I like you're angle in this -
don't stick around to pity them .. empaths! Yes I agree they are constantly bored all the time and even their food tastes bland. They need constant distractions.
I will admit, I've been the sucker empath for too long. Guess I have to tell myself that it's not the right thing to do.
The narc is a disaster.These creatures are sneaky disturbing and toxic They lie and manipulate and deceive to get the things they want.They don't care about anyone. Stay away. God bless.
"You empaths, don't do that!" 😂 Danielle, i felt that in my core! Quit it! 😂
A three minute video.... And probably THE best one out there anywhere. Absolutely hits the nail RIGHT on the head. The ruminating that happens after an encounter is absolutely crippling, going over 'but I TOTALLY didn't mean that how it was perceived' going over and over it trying to make it make sense..... It wont
I save this 💯 spot on short video to play it repeatedly so as I can finally get to forgive myself for the exhausting rumination on the unforgivable treatment of the Narcs of my life... Thank you soooooo much!!! 🙏🙏🙏💖
That is what is crippling me the ruminating over and over.... Thinking how, why. It it so exhausting.....
My wife and I had a child. We tried for years. She is older than me. We had the baby. I started to drive truck over the road, to help alleviate financial stress. She has a great job, software engineer, and as soon as I started making a good living she started taking that as a threat I guess. My plan was a year or two to pile up money so she could slide into part time or early retirement. So she could spend more time with the baby and relax as she works tirelessly at a very difficult job. So about 8 months into the endeavor, she cuts me off from intimacy and starts saying shes not in love with me anymore. After 15 months of this behavior and couples counseling, she finally told me yesterday what I knew after 1 month of cutting off intimacy. I stayed because I needed to hear it from her. After hearing what I knew all along, still don't feel better. And its not just a blame game, I'm stubborn, I have started over half of our disagreements throughout the years. But I've always loved her and wanted to grow old together. When she no longer felt the same, she said WE aren't in love. She always says WE and im guessing its to absolve herself of the guilt if being the one who switched up Idk. She has called me a narcissist a few months ago. Since then I've been on a mission to see if I am. But besides being a stubborn guy sometimes IDK what to think. IDK if she is, but I know everyone can show some narc traits at different times.
It sounds as though she is the narc. Not you. You are reflecting on the past with remorse and some regret. Narcs cannot and will not do that. My ex did the same thing she got her 2 babies from me.
Then for no reason, she moved on to the Devalue phase then Discarded me. She's been going through the same relationship cycle since we divorced 15 years ago. She's now on her 13th boyfriend after me. Crazy world.
Your message is too long.
My ex frequently went to a psychic. She would dismiss real events and other elements of reality because it wasn't told to her by John White. She's been living the last 15 years believing she has some sort of fairy tale life in ahead. Then she goes to church on Sundays and takes pictures of herself with her golden cross necklace for her facebook. She has over 40 solo pics of just her in her photos. Her image is still all she cares about. She's been narcissistic since childhood.
"You make me feel young again."
- said the narc who is 14 years my senior.
THEN, I had his first and only child, also my first and only child- I became a MOTHER. I became DIFFERENT to him.
By the time our baby boy was 6 months old, he was acting completely differently, though his words and behavior had never really been consistent, there was a coldness that's difficult to describe...he started hating me more and more and more, and the passive-aggressiveness got more insidious as the years went on, stonewalling, cruelty, comparison, judgment, an 180° turn in terms of political and moral views, this of course based on what HE TOLD ME, AND ACTED LIKE, and portrayed to me in the first few years. I think it was just another premeditated game to be able to suddenly throw me off track outa the blue to shock, confuse, and most importantly, DISTRACT(!), (and thereby premeditatively and quite consciously) CHOOSE to emotionally and psychologically abuse me, and seeing NOTHING wrong about their choices and taking ZERO accountability. All this (consistent!) emotional and psychological mind-fuckery, not having the ability to see clearly, think clearly, or constantly seeking something, but you don't even know WHAT you're looking for specifically, but just hoping find some piece of new information or something that would just make it make sense- I then actively starting to seek out ANY information resources I could, and reading anything relevant to the issue that I could get my eyeballs on. That's when it FINALLY started to piece together in a more sensible, logical manner; I had something to call it. That in itself gave a refreshing spark of validation.
Public awareness, and for ONCE, some transparency about the REAL estimated (key word: "ESTIMATED") percent of the population has high narcissistic tendencies is CRUCIAL. It is NOT the low percentage we're being led to believe.
How come? 🤔
Because then there would be more focus and attention on those that are trying to divert the focus and attention in the first place see.
It's nothing short of proof that our society as a whole is extremely toxic, and HIGHLY narcissistic- because those that are "the powers that be" are highly narcissistic people themselves. Narcissistic people usually seek positions of authority and power over others in their career of choice. This is not a coincidence. In fact, capitalism builds its very BASE principles on getting ahead at all costs, regardlessof who you "have" to step on "climb that ladder of success", right?
We're "trained" to aim for better, then better, then better...never being satisfied with our given blessings. We are a narcissistic society of highly narcissistic and sociopathic people because it's instilled in us that's the only chance we'll have to succeed in society.
Messed up.
I agree. It's like our society is a monster eating itself to death because it's what it's been trained to do.
Oh my God you're like sent from heaven or something.
I hope you realize how important you are for sharing your extremely important knowledge.
That really helped me to understand, delusional, absolutely, I agree.
Very good word to describe them.
And some of them are high functioning I guess.
Spot on, Danielle! All your videos are excellent. Congratulations on your new book 📖 👏 ❤
Sounds like someone I know to a T!
Very well explained and extremely helpful! Thank you!
Thank you very much, ❤️
Great content as always👍👍👍
Hi Danielle. These videos are helpful, they seem very personal and great to give to a kid, to educate them.
My daughter doesn't really follow longer ideas, so little bits like these are tha bomb!!
Forgot to mention, before she knew your name, she called you "The Pretty Woman who talks about Narcissists".
My co worker got rejected by a girl, this girl even complained to the management about his moves. Listen to this, when I told him he that he should not contacted her so many times, and he should respect her boundaries. He said no she wanted to have sex with him that’s why she did what she did. They can’t take accountability, they can’t face reality, they can’t think that there is something wrong with them, because they think they are perfect. They are really delusional. When a girl rejects him, he says oh she lost something great, I don’t even want her anymore.
Wow it is explained so eell. I felt like the other perdon was buying a theme park ticket and expecting me to perform.
Thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank You For 🔯
Your Service 🌞🌈
Shalom, Sister ❤️🔥
So
Here is my mistake
Pitty
I pitted one
And refused to be available empathicly to two others
And I tried to be nice to the third
I have to own it
The first tried at the spot to be controling
Second couple assumed that I will be understanding like year ago, and allowed themselves behave as they wish at my place
The third... The third thought that I will allow him insult me, forgetting that I'm twice older then him...
Those people are unhealthy at best, and worst - beset by .... that they brought from their home......
i didn't cause it; i can't control it; and i can't cure it;
So true
Only God has the right qualifications to help the narcisist😊
He has done enough for them. Im pretty sure most narcissists inner spirit are dwelling places for demonic beings.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
🌹🌿❤
Delulu
They dont live in our world at all😂
Narcissists are so pathetic.
You are so right. It’s exact! Thanks. 💕💕
643 likes💚💖❤💛