How to stop your ruminating thoughts about the narcissist TODAY
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2024
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I think I have PTSD and keep having flashbacks. I don't wish I had fixed it but I ruminate about the red flags I missed or that I didn't get rid of certain people sooner.
I think I have ptsd also. I feel like I can never under any circumstances handle another brush off or patronizing look from that person even though I miss what I thought was real.
You’ll get them with each reminder. Always be aware of what triggered it and why. They trauma bonded you ao you don’t forget
Want to tell you PTSD from attachment trauma that stems from an experience with someone who has these traits is real. Take it easy on yourself, time will heal.
Love the 777
I love your content Danielle radin, you provide gender neutral information to us individuals who have been through these traumatic cycles and relationships, keep the information coming.
They like to cross people's boundaries and don't understand the concept of respect and self respect. They never understand why they are alone!
I guess, but my ruminations is less about what I could have done in the relationship, and more about how i wish I had stood up for myself better and called out her specific lies.
Me too.
I remind myself: toxic people are likely to invent problems that they can blame and put on me in order to put me down.
You are the best Danielle. I love your voice, your tone of speaking, so strong and just on point! Thank you!
I love this lady, she is amazing!
Thats what i am so mad about-being cheated out of a loving relationship and having 8 years of ny life wasted jumping through hoops trying please someone who was sabotaging my efforts and cheating on me. When they lose interest in you they will subtly try and causes problems in the relationship to break it up. But they HAVE to look like the victim. Thats why they drag it out waiting for you to cheat on them, hit them, say hurtful things. And rest assured, they will have their phone recording you losing your patience and finally snapping.
That's Amber Heard
I find it neat how deep & well versed your understanding of psychology and the human mind are & function. You are a huge help.
I think narcs should
Marry each other
So as to make
Only 2 people misrrable
Instead of 4
I think my narcissistic niece did just that!
I think mine did just that after she discarded me. She's playing the grand victim to her new supplies now.
This applies to all negative thoughts…don’t fuel these thoughts with attention …attention prompts emotions.
No fuel, no fire.
Focus on gratitude and wholeness.
These thoughts are emotions, reletiive in an attempt to change something they get stored in short term memory scans and activated by our senses, tactile, smell, sound, vision, hearing and taste...they are drive by neurotransmitters like dopamine, cortisol, adrenalin, serotonin.and stored in cells by dendrites. The key is to relearn retrain our senses to lower transmitter surges vis a behavior that affects all our senses that is not intrusive, like our vision our taste..we Have to couple our ne behaaviors with pleasant joyful thoughts simultaneously and create ritiuals, it retrains neural path ways and bring surges of brain chemicals to a trickle as we are hard wired at birth to experience joy
So conflict, high drama, yelling, fight or flight has to stop..no ultimatums..walk, smell flowers, drink and eat pleasurable things, exercise..cause if you move a muscle you will change a thought..you've virtually made it thru a combat life or death situation..now live, be kind, laugh..laugh at yourself, hug someone, feed a stray cat, skip don't run..smile at strangers.
You've made it..sorry Danielle not trying to over run your channel..I'm.justbspreading the word..we all.need to read, write by hand in cursive..
Very helpful. Thank you for putting together 3min videos that get right to the point.
"I now have all the wisdom and knowledge I need to make my life better moving forward"
I thought I was in a true relationship, but it was a lie and a trap. I thought she was the love of my life, but she was a textbook case of narcissist. She abandoned me to married with someone else in secret. I spent 5 years rumiating what I did wrong, the clues I missed to know the truth, everything. After 5 years I reached the same conclusion as you are telling us. Thank you for the video.
Smh Danielle, how did you become so intelligent regarding narcs and their tactics?…and how to manage our disastrous association with them…TY, excellent as always…❤
VERY, VERY, VERY, VERY, VERY VERY GOOD! Ms. Danielle I have been watching your videos for a couple of weeks now? I enjoy them SO much and they have been so helpful, this one is the very best so far! I usually prefer videos from academics or licensed practitioners on this but their videos on rumination, while great, are not as succinct or as helpful in terms of actual action steps. YOU are giving concrete action steps. Listen I left my narc in 2007 and married a total sweetheart but I still ruminate from time to time. Thank you!!! I am so impressed and SO grateful! ~Amanda H
Ditto. Totally believe Danielle is the real deal, a true God send gift.
The meter is running when they meet us..keeps running until they tire of us which is inevitable not long after meeting us.
You did everything, you are not the fault, distraction can also be drawing, read look at a movie
It's like falling asleep when your mind goes over and over again. Concentrate. On your breath, or go to read a book
When runinating thoughts happen I put on a song and cry out loud, feel everything I'm feeling at the maximum level -I work from home thankfully and when the song is over I go back to working. Everyday the point when I turn off the song gets shorter and shorter and eventually I stopped crying. These days yes thoughts come back but I don't have any emotions left around it I do Eckart tolle's spiritual work to rise above thoughts and keep working. It is a lot of strenth and self awareness, self forgiveness that takes in this process but you become your own safe place that you never received from your narcissist.
It’s they, it ain’t just one person.
All follow the same playbook
I ruminate about the amount of shit I've taken from one, and many I've known in my life, and get resentful and pissed off because I didn't stand up for myself the way I know I should have. They kept me in a state of me believing I was the problem so I lowered my defenses to appease and couldn't win no matter what good I did. I now know it is them and not me.
You're a very intelligent young lady and your advice is good. The exception to your mentioned narcissist cycle in my case was there was no hoovering. My ex covert narcissist of 7 years is very pretty and she is like a honey pot to bees when it comes to men. I'm a little smug about leaving her because I know I am the best by a country mile that she will EVER have or had. I woke up to what she is and what she does and I pulled the mask off her, she'll never want me back. She had a new man in just days but like I said, my satisfaction is that no one will do all the beautiful little soulful things I did for her and her kids for 7 years. And the money she will have to spend to get everything done that I used to do for her, will break her. I'm not a spiteful person but for what she did to me for 7 years, LOL I just might be!
This is good. Healing will start with re-programming our minds.
I will have to memorize the Gettysburg Address! Look forward ro something new!
ThanksD.
Love the jacket.
The conclusion to red flags is 2 different realities can never merge and remain happy..ever
How to stop ruminating about the narcissist?? Just think about Danielle ;)
I'm still thinking about her 14 months on 😢
❤Ive been viewing your advice and wisdom on narcissism for months now.
I noticed also that you've always advertised your book each post....YOUVE JUST SOLD ANOTHER BOOK TODAY!!! This tactic is a gem....Danielle, you're a genius!
Upon viewing your knowledgeable
It took 9 months but the spell is broken. It really is a radical acceptance that absolutely nothing I could have done would have changed the outcome. Absolutely nothing. You cannot disagree with anything they say or challenge them in any way. Once you do, it’s only a matter of time. They’re looking in another direction. You’re not serving their agenda.
This helps me a lot in these minutes of darkness. TY
Excellent Daniella , I'll apply that to my tormented mind.
Thank you for the help you have given me and everyone who follows you.
Needed to hear this
Thank You
You sure put
Things into
Proper
Perspective❤
N's under give so you over give, over do and overwhelm yourself.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐.....Outstanding Video. Danielle, of the myriads and plethoras of similarities between Abraham Lincoln and JFK what 1 Everest-Sized change did they both initiate and begin that led to their demise? What 1 task did they both attempt? They both even got started and well underway...
Thank you Danielle,your advices are so helpful, i wish i would have a girl like you❤🎉
I am learning to play guitar.
Write a song about your narcissist experience
When you're rich and famous I want free tickets to your show
Keeping my day job
it's difficult when you have ADHD because it turns into a hyperFocus
Its a learning journey, stop getting in way of progrszs.
N's always blame shame others while taking all the credit 🙄
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That is the reason as to why....Speed and distance are the best strategy to getting away and ending being in their orbit. Get away to start thinking logically and know that the problem is their....Never yours! Peace