The ultimate KRYPTONITE to a narcissist
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- Опубліковано 12 сер 2023
- Put up strong boundaries #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
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Kryptonite to the narc ... you stare into their dead eyes once they know you longer give one s**t about them. Priceless.
The first time somebody shows you toxic, believe them, that's who they are.
I used to believe that all people had some good in their character, I was a fool. Many people are stupid, selfish, and uncaring.
Yes they're really full of themselves aren't they, they'll even go so far as to insult us, a way to antagonize, get a dual going but too bad for them we see them for the stupid fools that they are and it suits us to ignore them knowing it's their loss not ours, we were glad to help them along but have wasted enough time and brain cells!
@@alexs5405or those jokes might be because some people know better and that's a fact or they're laughing because of other meaning. Not all laughing is a form of mockery 🙂
I used to believe that all people had some good in them too.
@carmenbrown3437 we can only do what we can do. Legally and morally. For myself personally, I cannot do certain things my ex should've done from the jump, like sign their name for example.
What will keep you up at night is how narcissists don't believe they are bad people rather they're convinced everyone else are narcs.
True. Narcisists prey on the targets innocence and willingness to give second chances. Putting up stron boundaries, not engaging, explaining and not putting up with the abuse by walking away is a way to get to be immune to their abuse. You have nailed it Danielle. Thank you❤
Omgosh, you are so right. My ex-husband would say to me "You used to be so nice". My response "Imagine how that changes when someone has been lying, running me down to anyone that will listen, breaking, stealing or throwing out the things that were mine". Never in my life have I seen a supposed to be a man, be such a "Nasty B**ch".
Oof, that had to hurt!! Before I left, my ex-husband said I will never find anyone like him, that will do all the things he did for me. I said, "That's the point! There was life before you, and there will be life after you!". The contempt on his face made me beam with joy!! 😁
I know a narcissist who does that. He cries for sympathy, and then uses that against his wife for further sympathy later.
Spot on. You walk away from abusers.
Good one I needed to remind myself of this every day I deal with one of theses people NO is a complete sentence.
Especially if they assume sex, money and "things" is the basis of a relationship. You'd think they were grown up enough to work with others than against others.
Hubby dictated pop out another one when my premie daughter (they're so much work) was 10 months, I obeyed, have since learnt pregnancies best at least 18 months apart, kept nursing her all through my second pregnancy and kids get along wonderfully but you'd better believe I never worked again, he can pay for everything and does so quite well, I wasn't born yesterday!
@joseenoel8093 some people use their kids that way. This is why kids aren't and should never be used. I have 2 children myself and struggled with both pregnancies. Nearly obtained pre-eclampsia with my first so I had to give up work shortly before the birth. Some people should be grateful to even have kids in the first place.
100% spot on. Once you realize you're with a narcissist there's no way to unsee it. The only solution- get the f@ck outta there! It would take years of self-reflection and therapy for them to change. Go no contact and move on!
The damage for them is too deep. They never change.
@@carmenbrown3437 Unless a miracle occurs, you are correct.
Never seen one change. They love themselves as they are.
How do I get away from the narcissists in government, media, education and business? Asking for 7 billion friends.
Try saying " I love you and I wanna hug you", they be like "😡 why you so soft" 😂❤
I ended up going cold back at him, 4 yrs no sex, together 35 yrs, wonder how that's working out for him, 😅
@@joseenoel8093 Try to educate yourself on the subject and how it affects your physical & mental health. Make sure you take care of yourself ✌️
Yes they deflecting look at empathy as a weakness
I would think that his behaviour was a result of his culture and upbringing. Kept using that as an excuse. My mother even asked me recently if I was just not being considerate enough of his background. No culture includes abuse as part of their traditions! Thanks, Danielle, for this reminder! I am done with this abuse and have realized my self-worth!! ❤
What normally healthy person would blame you for their unhealthy actions. The narc wants you to think that your reaction to their action is the problem. In fact it is not what they do it's how you perceive what they do that's the problem. Always stay away from mental people!
Yep, what most people that have never encountered this don't understand is that the covert narc is playing a long game unlike any other long game. Just like your analogy of the lobster getting gradually boiled, the female/or male narcissist sets their sites on someone that is subtlety challenged and has weak boundaries because of their willingness to do whatever is needed, and gradually manipulates the situation and their target to where the target is accepting the abuse because they love the other person (or think they do) and years later when the abused person starts to fall apart because of the slow erosion of self-esteem, self-worth, they often find themselves married and with children and not sure how to get out of this situation. If the abused decides to stay because of the children, it just gets worse and sometimes the children will wind up against them as well. This is insidious.
Now I'm convinced this is definitely the kryptonite. He cut me off out of the blue shortly after him wanting a second chance. So I also cut him off as devastated as I was. A couple months later, he was looking for me because the other supply did not work out but I maintained absolute no contact this time. I soon found out that he definitely crumbled. He quit his job and checked himself to Rehab for substance abuse. No wonder he couldn't commit to me. He knew he had nothing to offer.
Almost 10K subscribers! You deserve it Danielle!❤🎉
Top notch.I don't fall for the BS anymore now that I know what I'm dealing with which I did not for many years. No contact all the way for me and never looking back. Good video.
Not always easy. It is so easy to get pulled in during the heat of the moment and then say damn it how did I let that happen … AGAIN!?
Vulnerability of any kind. The narcs predatorial instincts do indeed kick in with a dopamine and adrenaline boost to act. Free supply is the sign we post that no junkie will refuse. Nowadays however previous targets are now a sting.
Though it is only reminder for me, I thank you... You just now empowered me. Thanks again
Very much the same situation here. Cut me off after wanting a 2nd chance. This time I am really done. Got hoovered again after this and I went no contact.
You r amazing. ❤❤❤❤ please keep posting. You are a life saver.
love you, gurrrl
My life . I feeling put up these
Boundaries. It took way too
Long.
That was me❗️😃
Thank you. God bless you!
Truth be told you should get so educated about narcissist that they were already cutoff before they could even get toxic. By now I have so much experience with them and so much education that their asz would be long gone before the grand finale and the mask full drop.
Thank you very much another great video
100% perfect from our experience. God's witnesses and servant 👀👀👂👂🔥🔥
You are so right on❗️
But how can they do it to their own family,(loved ones?)? Oh yeah.. they push you to the limit where you show 'em up for what they're for and that becomes their excuse..but still they're as unnoticed as the devil. God's witnesses and servant.👀👀👂👂🔥🔥
This sounds very interesting ❤
Yes Danielle, right on, what a pathetic sad thing to constrive for! Too bad it only takes them only so far and not very long for us to catch on, up to them to change their tune or it's "If your phone's not ringing (and it keeps ringing you call here) then that's me not calling!"
And because you are their parents and can’t fathom how anyone you love can be so abusive ... parents please get therapy ❤
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Oh other note, your hair always looks on pont ❤
Innocent or naive??
Their problem 😊 Not mine, or anyone elses. Play them at their own game. I did with Jehovahs witnesses and supervisors with poo penises and having to clean them off cubicle walls, etc, because these people think its okay to push boundaries 😂
The best way to play them is to drop them and focus on doing your best. If they keep staking? Harrasing? Try to record it and of nothing else? File a report at your local police station. Get something on file so when they cross a line? U have historically documentation
@@cherobinson6371they lie just like with everything else. Sometimes doing nothing about them is the best way. Already had questioned a parcel that arrived at a family address instead of mine 😂 At the end of the day, selective hearing is required. Much rather not go around in circles more often than needed. Hard enough dealing with my autoimmune disease and the hospital lol. It's like you're talking to yourself.
@cherobinson6371 I also had judgmental therapists before. I went to a Therapist ages ago and they judged me the first session. Never went back. Nobody should judge someone from the jump, not even therapists.
I was sure she had brain damage for the longest time.
Frog Danielle. It's a Frog. haha lol. If you use that killer analogy example strictly as a metaphor a Lobster or other Animals from the Kingdom may be substituted for the Frog just fine, but the scenario has big big big science behind it. The Lobster is a Crustacean while the Frog is an Amphibian and they're as different as East from West is from Peas and Carrots. Momma Lobster gives birth to 700,000 little live "Snowflake" Larvae Miniature Lobsters while Mrs. Frog births a string only containing about 5,000 eggs that yield Tadpoles that Metamorphosis into Frogs. You make so few mistakes in your sound doctrines why not make the small and intricate details Everest-Sized and be as flawless as you are feminine? Lobsters are often associated with death and boiling water because the method assures they don't turn poisonous. Just a constructional suggestion in the box from your...."Favorite Lousy Neighborhood Troll." KUTGW And yes Alice Cooper Alice in Chains and Molly Hatchett are your conformational clues...like you didn't know already.
Frog is more accurate, but you can still get the point across by using Lobster.
@@johnmaurer2035 "a Lobster or other Animals from the Kingdom may be substituted for the Frog just fine." No doubt over the years Danielle has told a fellow reporter "It's the Elephant. Not the Zebra that never forgets."
@@ImnotyourdoormatEverybody else understood what she was saying.
@@johnmaurer2035 You the same 1 that accused me 1 of her 1st subscribers and supporters of trolling her on her live show? You realize of course 1 of the #1 billboard big identifier Narcissistic Traits is they love to speak for "Everybody Else." You gotta red phone hooked to "Everybody Else?" Does "Everybody Else" report directly to you minutes after Danielle's latest video is released? Have you seen the new "Nefarious" Movie? Maybe Taylor Swifts "Anti-Hero" and "Blank Space" videos? How much do you know about Amber Heard and her BPD jealousies? You wanna lock antlers with me bub you've made a bad mistake. I'm popping my knuckles right now and ready. Come on. Come get some. I live to be..."trolled." "Are you sure about that 5 MINUTES!!!?" Vincent Gambini quote "Honey get in here quick it's been months but another 1 of em just took the bait we got the game on again!!!"
@@ImnotyourdoormatYou must have very high blood pressure.