Is it ADHD or Anxiety?
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- Is it anxiety or ADHD? You probably already know the answer to this question. Deep down you know. any specialist you go to see whether it is a medical doctor or a mental health professional, they are the experts in their profession... But YOU are the expert of yourself. No one knows you like you do. If a diagnosis doesn't feel like it fits and you feel like the specialist isn't listening to you concerns, then go find someone who will listen. We have to advocate for ourselves to make sure we are getting the proper care.
Thank you @christopherhartline3297 for asking this questions. I hope this video gives you a better understanding to help you.
I’m so sorry. Your family is beautiful. I found this channel the other day and have already watched every single video. You have such a talent for this. Stay strong. This has GOT to be what you were meant to do. Take your time and release these gems when you’re ready. Quality is so much more important than quantity. We don’t need a schedule. ❤
Steve,
I just recently got diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD. Im 34 with 3 kids and a wife. I have watched all of your videos. Your videos have helped me navigate being a father and a spouse with ADHD. I am sorry for your loss. I know she would be proud that you are still making videos. You have given me a lot of clarity. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your support in both my life situation and watching my videos. I'm so glad that my videos are helping especially with navigating the family. I have to admit that your comment today took me by surprise. As you can imagine, I have ADHD times 10 right about now. This video was supposed to publish tomorrow morning. Apparently I have no clue what day it is. LOL
In your absence from UA-cam, you've helped me with your videos by finding relatable topics and driving me closer to finding out what it is that makes my life so tough.
So I'm deeply sorry for your loss, but I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart and I believe she must've been really proud of you helping a lot of people in finding peace in their lives, and finding your own peace in doing what you like doing and are passionate about.
Sorry for your loss! Take care
Thank you for watching and your support during my time of grief. It really means a lot to me
So sorry to hear about your wife. I lost my best friend in December of 2023. He was the one that made my world feel less horrible and he was a father figure to my kids. I know how the heart aches when going through something like this. Just know you have people rooting for you. Sending love to you and your family. I know this was a year ago but it takes a long time to heal. I hope your doing well
My deepest condolences to you and your family! 🙏🏽
So so sorry for your loss, Steve. Thanks for not giving up. You are helping a lot of people by sharing your experience.
I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, I cannot even imagine losing my spouse. I am hoping you find peace as you navigate this new phase of life without her. I am sure she would be very proud of you for continuing to do something that brings you joy.
I only did the meds for a short time but the most amazing thing was how it just settled the storm inside me I never knew was there. Weirdly I could sleep or early on I would take the meds and a few hours later go and have the most restful long naps. Because I’m 48 I have anxiety and complex ptsd but the anxiety was barely there. It would have been nice to not stare out the window most of the time at school. Or only being able to do schoolwork if my leg was shaking or spinning the pen around my fingers. But I was essentially happy go lucky and not afraid to go into new situations because I could crush things at first but just start losing interest and zone out as usual. People all my life would say I can actually do anything I want, I just couldn’t stay on task . Intelligent, capable but no sustainable focus.. And my man , the internal conversations. I’ve probably solved what’s wrong with the world but then something has distracted me and it’s out the window.😅 peace my good man , you wife picked a good one and no doubt she knew that you’ve got this. ✌️ . 🙏👈 that’s a high 5 as far as I’m concerned.
Steve, I just found your channel not long ago period I am ADHD just diagnosed late last year at 49 years old. I wanted to tell you I appreciate your channel, and your personal relatable approach to addressing ADHD but especially the thoughtful way you describe how you're impacted, your family is impacted, and how you're doing your best under the circumstances to improve your lives under the ADHD umbrella. This video in particular really hit me because I lost my wife in 2014 at 41. I feel like this is a undesired select community we find ourselves in. It's hard enough to lose your wife, the person that loves you and fully accepts you, flaws and all. But to have ADHD and lose your wife I imagine hits like nothing else. Appreciate you, your work, and your diligence. Feel free to reach out. James
I can't imagine the amount of strength it took to make this video. I feel like everything would be gray and shitty all the time after that. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you're finding peace.
So sorry to hear about your wife. So glade you back though i really missed you i often wondered when you are going to come back.
I'm so sorry for your families loss. Your videos have been such a huge help to me (diagnosed last week at 32 and already watched the majority of your videos)
Every so often over the last few months I would search your channel wondering if you were putting up new videos, and then wondering what happened. This morning you popped up and I was happy to see you back and with a new video. When you mentioned your wife though that just broke my heart, I’m so sorry for your loss and for the loss of your boys. 😔 If making your videos and being in this community helps you (and in turn your boys) then that’s great. I think everyone here is a supporter of you because you’ve shown yourself to be a supporter of us, so put out your videos in the manner that’s beneficial for you guys, not us. We’re here either way, remember, we’re ADHD so we’re used to things not happening in a timely manner anyways. 🙃 You know, one of the reasons we love your channel is not only because of the subject matter, the good practical information your relate, and the great AV quality you produce it in, but it’s also because you come across as a genuinely all around good guy and that’s what’s needed these days for anyone dealing with any mental health issues, or any issues at all. Don’t lose that, keep it up and hang in there. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys. 🙏🏼 See you in the next video brother.
So sorry for your loss, Steve. There are "5 stages" of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression & acceptance. I have ADHD inattentive type. I lost my husband (soul mate) to Hodgkin's Lymphoma when we were 31 years old. I think I went through the first four stages of grief simultaneously, but I also went through another "stage" of grief- extreme episodes of anxiety. No one warned me about the anxiety and it didn't start until a few months into my grieving process. I got professional counseling for that without anti-anxiety meds, but I feel that if I had been told that anxiety was a part of the grieving process then I think that I would have gotten through this stage much easier. Instead, I didn't know where the anxiety was coming from, or when it would hit and therefore I didn't know how to cope with it or if it would ever end. As I worked through the stages of grief towards acceptance, though, the episodes of anxiety gradually became less intense and less frequent and eventually went away all together. 25 years later one of my best friends lost her husband to cancer, and she also said that "anxiety" was the worst part after losing her husband. She does not have ADHD. I shared with her my experience with anxiety and told her that she was not going crazy and that the anxiety would get better with time. She said that advice helped a lot. She is about 5 years out from that loss and she says that the episodes of anxiety are rare, mild, and brief now.
So sorry about your wife. I randomly see your video then decide to start from the beginning. I so relate to everything you talk about. I enjoy your videos and hope you are still doing them. I don’t have a diagnosis, but I have known I have ADHD since my granddaughter got diagnosed in 2020. I research to help her and discovered I have the same things along with other family members. You have helped me to understand better. Thank you for all you do. My condolences to you and your family. I am 56 and not sure if I need to get diagnosed if it’s going to make a difference
It will- getting diagnosed means the right medication.
Keep going. I just found your channel today and am working to get control over my ADHD in my late 30s. It's always good to have perspective and I think you will help more people. There's alot of people out there who don't think it's a serious thing. You don't realize the slow kill not getting ahold of this does to your life. The more people like yourself who speak on it and give perspective will give others the courage to understand who they are and seek the power to change.
Just found your channel. I'm 48 and about 100% sure I have adhd and never diagnosed. Kind of known for several years since my wife see's it and i'm finally looking into it It is now affecting my relationship as all my little and big projects (except her) and not listening well and not completing tasks is a problem. I'm very smart and successful but need to be diagnosed and either get medication or good systems to implement asap. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss man. Brought a tear to my eye. My wife was born in 1977 and can't even imagine. I want to get better and make thing right before its too late. Your video production is fire man! Be strong and keep moving forward. Keep it up and hope your channel takes off.
So sorry for your loss. Your videos are great and very relatable. In my case, anti-anxiety meds do the exact opposite of what I need - they slow my brain down so much that I can't even function. At least without them I am semi functional.
Well done on surviving such a loss. Am so sorry. Grief is horrible. Crying is important.
Stop cuttin onions n here. Hugs 🫂 🥹 I’m so sorry for your loss
Steve, thank you for making these videos. Keep making your wife proud in all possible ways that feel right to you! God bless you
Wow. That hit like a ton of bricks-I can only imagine how it hit your family...very sorry for all of your loss.
Y'know, if you'd ever want to or be ready to talk about it, I'd really like to hear your take on ADHD and loss/grief. Not that I haven't heard anyone talk about the two in tandem-I've experienced an unusually high amount of loss over the past few years, so I've sought out what some have said. But you have such a unique and insightful presentation and perspective that I'm learning to quickly value.
In your own time, of course. And no worries about having a time schedule-a needs/ability schedule will do just fine. I agree with your wife in that you're doing some great work here, and I hope your craft can support you as much as you support us through your work. _And,_ of course, the community is here for you also.
Take care.
Big Hugs Man. So Sorry. Beautiful family. Brilliant videos mate. The aesthetics are very 'subconscious satisfying'. Thankyou.
Your video came up in my feed. The topic highly relevant, so I watched. I am so sorry for your loss. Alison rest in peace. Such loss is beyond words for you and your children. The greater the love, the greater the grief. It’s Easter Sunday, I will say a special prayer for you and your beautiful children. I’m a parent on my own with 2 children and they both have additional needs. They need us and they give us so much. Your family photos, the love and light shines through. Keep going and keep making your videos.
Yeah, and it can be even more hard when you have ADHD and have developed anxiety through being untreated all your life as well as other forms of trauma. I struggle with mood disorders that stem from ADHD symptoms but have developed into bigger and more complex issues because of the wash of neurochemicals from years of distress. Life experiences can have a real impact on how our brains work, and mood disorders and other psych diagnoses that are secondary to ADHD present differently than in patients who don't have ADHD. They may have developed into their own disorderd but they stem from a neurodivergent brain and our life experiences.
Managed to finish the video. I really appreciate the great audiovisual quality as well as the content. I'd say they're definitely can be both but it's good to see how they're connected and how they're separate things. I see ADHD and ASD mainly as diversity in our setup and anxiety of course is a symptom from not quite fitting in society and having issues with that society not accommodating is. Sure there are other things that would cause most anyone anxiety as well.
Sorry for your loss brother! Thank you for sharing and being transparent! You are helping others so much more than you know!
Whoa man … I am beyond so sorry for you and your families significant loss . I hope light and love has enveloped you tightly and is still helping you and your kids to find your footing and ground on this new path you find yourselves traveling. I’m holding space for your beautiful wife as I write this.
Love & Light to you and your family ❤ Your videos about ADHD are super helpful for those of us deep diving about ourselves and our kids.
Over a year after the posting, I had flagged these to watch when I first started my ADHD journey, both the accepting myself as ADHD and going through diagnostic process.
Let me just first say my deepest condolences, I know I can only offer just words, but please look after yourself, and your kids.
For me its a case of why not both, i'm not sure if the ADHD cause of my anxiety, or if they are both me just being me. But either way they both seem to be there, I was diagnosed years ago with anxiety and/or depression ( the doctors seemed to be taking an each way bet there i think), but it never seemed quite right, and no medication ever seemed to work.
15 years later, and now have ADHD diagnosis, life seems better, and for the first time in memory, I feel like I am functional.
Thanks Steve, very informative, keep going and commiserations. I can only imagine how much you are feeling ❤
That is extremely sad. I'm praying for you and your family
Dude, I’m so sorry to hear about your wife, my condolences
Your channel popped up when I opened UA-cam this morning. You had me sobbing at the beginning for the memory of your wife then you had me laughing with your imaginary ‘team’. Then crying again when you showed your beautiful family photos. Brilliant video. My husband died of cancer 4 years ago. Everyone says I’m coping really well but I’m like the proverbial swan, gliding calmly on the water and peddling like hell under the water! Keep on trucking my new found friend 😘❤️🇬🇧
Oh no! So sorry to hear that! My heart goes out to you and your family! ❤
Thank you for sharing. I feel I’m not alone.
@stevewesley7907 so sorry for you and your family's loss❤
I only found your channel a few months ago, thought your content was amazing, and recently shared it with my wife. Both of us were diagnosed with ADHD within the last year and are going through the bumps and bruises of adjusting our lives accordingly and your videos have been helpful and inspiring.
Looking forward to your new content and on those days where you doubt if what you do makes a difference, don't; it does.
stay blessed my friend!
I’m really sorry for your loss ❤
I’m 42. Just starting out on Adderall from an urgent care prescription. Real diagnosis appointment next month. Trying to “chicken or egg” anxiety or ADHD has been tough to discern.
I appreciate your videos so much. So sorry about your wife. The loss of support and addition of responsibility and inner turmoil must be tremendously overwhelming. By chance I watched your perfectionism video with her in the background and shortly after this video. Broke my heart to hear when I was just getting to know your channel.
I can say that I appreciate your personal accounts for ADHD, the awesome brevity of your speaking messages. I value your channel and will check out any video that I see comes out. Love how you shoot / produce these. Your work is just amazing.
If 1-2 videos a week I think you would be 100-200k subscribers. IMO 1M+ subscribers needs more than one person. You have the quality of product to allow the numbers. Not sure if numbers are your biggest goal. If not, again, someone like me is going to checkout your content regardless of frequency.
I suggest weighing out what the channel does for you versus the cost. If the altruism fuels you, that is awesome, but don’t let us weigh you down and negatively impact your family. If this really does allow self-discovery, that seems pretty great too. Just so that is a real thing and not a time pit that does not yield the result. It is all about what you want from this. I didn’t mention you doing this in honor of your wife and her support of you because that is a no-brainer good valid reason. Anyways, hope every day is a little easier and that you are managing. ✌️
Helpful video, thanks. In my case I think it’s both at the same time, and they kind of feed on each other. Justice sensitivity leads me to be really worried about things like the climate crisis, and the adhd leads me to ruminate about things I’m anxious about because I can’t control my attention. And before I cut myself off from social media, the adhd quest for dopamine led me to spend way too much time on it, getting angry and anxious about all the the things going on in the world. now that I’ve finally gotten a diagnosis in my fifties, I do feel less anxious, because I can now accept the adhd behaviours and no longer fight my brain and no longer agonize over why I can’t learn to correct them. It’s still new though, so it’s a work in progress. Also in progress is figuring out how to accept the negative consequences of adhd mistakes and not use adhd as an excuse. If you have advice on that one I’d love to see a video on it.
For me it’s both at the same time- also had a very abusive upbringing and other stuff so the criticism was hard wired.
I’m so sorry 😢
im really sorry for your loss . im new to your channel. im having some issues like you described in a video. i hope everythings going to be ok.
wow dude this is such a good video honestly. you're brave for being able to talk so openly about your feelings.
my condolences to you and your family
So sorry for your loss, Steve🌹
An increasing number of young healthy people are suddenly dying (after 2020) leaving kids behind. I see it happening a lot and it’s very sad to see.
Let's pray for each other and support investigative journalists and brave scientists who dare question the main stream narrative.
Don’t you dare make his situation about your conspiracy theory. It’s horrible what you’re trying to do. Do better
My response to seeing just the title of the video. "YES."
I legit didn't know I had anxiety until I started on adderall. I thought that ever present feeling of anxiousness I felt was just because I was dumb, lazy, inept, etc. Not a chemical imbalance. The meds just stopped it....all of those feelings. Its the most unreal feeling I've every felt.
Uh oh! There are some pictures changing on the screen in the background. On, that out of the way, let's watch the video 😅 I just watched another great one from you. Thanks for creating these! I'll have to see if you have anything about AuDHD as that particular overlap is closest to my heart.
Edit: So sorry for your loss.
My heart breaks for you man. Wow…
:( my man... im so sorry...
High Anxiety is similar like ADHD
I’m so sorry
😢 🤗 ❤
Short interest span … I have attention span if it’s interesting
I was finally diagnosed with adhd this week . And as they were testing I was like . .hmm this sounds like anxiety 😂.
So I was diagnosed by two doctors same day and I asked both what would happen if I take the meds and it’s not adhd what will happen?
One said you will get super hyper .. I told the other doc what he said and she said no that’s not true lol . Who do I believe lol
Just a comment- to help me not be so self critical, I started calling it my bouncy brain.
Sorry about your wife.
Fuck. I'm sorry mate but this is a video I can't watch. I lost my wife also. It destroyed me. I admire your ability continue with making content. But this is a little too close to home for me. But I look forward to seeing some other content from you. Take care mate ❤