Why? Korea’s Gender Wars Explained: Man vs. Woman

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  • @carlanakamura9917
    @carlanakamura9917 2 місяці тому +7

    I am loving your videos, travel scenarios and also comments about Korean society and culture. My adopted Korean son and I visited Korea last year and I am studying the language now. Your content is very genuine and insightful. Thank you for all your efforts and enjoy your journey!

  • @raysabor3413
    @raysabor3413 2 місяці тому +4

    I lived in South Korea for two years, I have seen the Very Hard Working, respectable, and responsible people, that brought South Korea from the ashes of the Korean War to the Great Country it is now. I Respect, and Appreciate their Culture .

  • @dyhppyx
    @dyhppyx 2 місяці тому +4

    It's great that Jin speaks Korean comfortably and you subtitle her.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, thanks to your interest and support, Jin's enjoying it as well:)

  • @potato6658
    @potato6658 2 місяці тому +12

    I actually disagree with the numbers for domestic violence, my reasoning is for one if the police do not take the assault seriously and ignore the female victims then those numbers go are unreported. Secondly if allegations get settled out of court it doesn’t go on the record. For example in Canada we had a doctor raping his female patients, but nobody knew because it got settled out of court. Thirdly many people do not report being assaulted either out of shame or fear or even just leaving the situation after the first offence. Abuse is abundant in every country and it’s usually done by someone you know. It’s much worse than statistics show. I think if you were a victim of abuse you would realize how big of a problem it actually is. Like when a woman has a miscarriage she discovers that so many other women have lost a baby too, it’s like it opening up a floodgate, and abuse is the same once it happens to you and you talk about it you find out how un alone you really are.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +2

      Yes, you're right. Stats may not reflect the exact numbers. Thankfully, though, people's perception and 'normal' men's attitudes continue to change in a poilsitive way. We'll see better:)

    • @winexhd9373
      @winexhd9373 2 місяці тому +2

      It is the same thing on men's side as well. In the documentary on this, the Korean anti-feminist group was challenged by the reporter that "Why they think courts are unfair to men, when less than 5% of SA cases against women found to be false, according to this statistic found from the courts" - but the 5% doesn't account for all the cases where the women lied about SA. Again, there have been many women (Korea or wherever) who have used false allegations of SA to demote a man, and they have been successful. On top of this, we are already aware of the bias that men and women have in terms of harshness of punishment. So it's not just "women" who are just the victims here, men are too in many cases.

    • @potato6658
      @potato6658 2 місяці тому

      @@winexhd9373 I agree.

  • @lisaj.917
    @lisaj.917 2 місяці тому +5

    Very important, useful info and well explained! Thank you. And also I love the dress!

  • @melissa-cu3uw
    @melissa-cu3uw 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you very much for your video. It was very informative.
    I am following you from Greece. I thought you were describing the situation I was in in my country....From start to finish....I was surprised and impressed by the similarity...Unfortunately we are all experiencing the same troubling situations....Be well! If it is not inconvenient for you I should like, in the future, to hear about the war that tore your country in two, and how you feel about your brothers in the North. We lived the same in my country, except we didn't split up...Members of my family fought with each other...This happened to everyone and then we had to live together...It was tragic.Of course the young people almost forgot...Thankfully or unfortunately...I don't know....

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Welcome to our channel~ In fact, I'll cover North Korea in my upcoming video, but in the meantime, you can refer to this: ua-cam.com/video/JtZr2wW_ssg/v-deo.htmlsi=Yomb1X9TnFcrU_te

  • @deborahgerhardt1001
    @deborahgerhardt1001 2 місяці тому +1

    Really liked this video, we have much of the same issues here in the U.S.. We have and it seems to me that when people who have been discriminated against get to a point and then fight for their rights to get laws changed to receive equality. We had slavery here and even though that ended there was not equality so that fight has been going on. The same for women's rights and equal pay for the same jobs, and LGBTQ rights as well. I agree that hopefully some day we will all be able to love and respect each other for our good character, not our color or gender or religion.

  • @dirkbaeten6949
    @dirkbaeten6949 2 місяці тому +19

    The reason I started feeling very much estranged from my own country (Belgium) for +20 years already, is because of same sex marriage becoming legal. It enforces acceptance of homosexual intercourse as a good thing, even pretending that there's no significant difference with the romance between man and woman. It leads to people believing that children don't need a mother and father, because marriage is the only institution which emphasizes the bond between mother, father and children. And then it also erases the difference between man and woman, because homosexuality can only be considered as equal with heterosexuality when you ignore the physical complementary difference between man and woman. In some Western countries, so called acceptance of sexual minorities in practice also now leads to parents losing custody over their children when they don't agree with their child wanting to transition to the other gender. I consider LGBT+ as similar to having a certain fetish. We should respect the fact that people can have all kinds of inclinations, but we don't have to accept everything they want when it affects social norms and values, morals being taught in schools and promoted through media, views on the objective identification of man and woman. In my culture, things like BDSM and polyamory are also becoming increasingly popular (which is also included in pride events). I am sure that all this is a bad evolution and I hope Korea will certainly not imitate such examples from Western countries.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +6

      Thank you for your thoughtful insight! Yes, many Christians and people who cherish family values stand against it in Korea.

    • @nijtucpac
      @nijtucpac 2 місяці тому +2

      Absolutely agree.

    • @dirkbaeten6949
      @dirkbaeten6949 2 місяці тому +2

      @@abitdifferentkoreans Thank you for replying to me also. I appreciate it very much.

    • @李珊-f2r
      @李珊-f2r 2 місяці тому +1

      I agree and I also lived in Belgium before and many countries and in Korea as well.

    • @chcc3934
      @chcc3934 2 місяці тому

      You seem to be so ignorant about what homosexuality is. But regardless, the gay community in Belgium is so small, that I cannot believe it can be such a huge issue in society. You are probably the one having personal issues with it. I wonder what are also your view on other minorities, or about immigration in Belgium for example. Actually, I would rather not know.

  • @sigrids.d4099
    @sigrids.d4099 2 місяці тому +1

    Muito interessante todos os assuntos abordados, conhecer um pouco do funcionamento da vida na Coreia é realmente interessante. Acredito que vivemos mais ou menos os mesmos problemas aqui no Brasil, com relação a violência doméstica e a questão de gênero. Tenho que comentar que vocês dois a cada vídeo estão melhores, no sentido de estarem com ótimas fisionomias, alegres, abertos e mostrando muita sintonia. Hoje no supermercado aqui em Porto Alegre, tinha kimchi hehehehe. Primeira vez que vejo por aqui. Gostaria de saber sobre as relações de trabalho e também sobre a importância da comida na vida dos coreanos. Um grande abraço para vocês.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for watching. I'll cover what Korean food means to us and work culture in my later video as well~

  • @dubravkabelogrlicdubravka
    @dubravkabelogrlicdubravka 2 місяці тому

    This was indeed very interesting topic and realy apreciate your in depth analysis . Although us interested in Korea as a country conversation like this always help to understand underlying issues in a society. From some points you mentioned I do beleive Korean society is moving forward but some acceptance and changes of such a deep rooted traditions take time. One thing I would be interested to hear your opinion on is education systems as I beleive that Korean children from a very young age are overloaded with studying and performance. I have understanding to some degree from a friends that use to teach English in Korea but also Korean young people that live here are living under lot of pressure to preform. Keep well and be happy. Safe travels. Cheers

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you. Yes, education system and mental aspects of both parents and students will be covered in my later video, so stay tuned!

  • @NJT9418
    @NJT9418 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for those informations. Have a nice day!🌸

  • @leonardoaguilerahonduras2067
    @leonardoaguilerahonduras2067 2 місяці тому

    I love this couple! So interesting video.

  • @dshyon
    @dshyon Місяць тому +1

    By the time Korean men have finished military service, graduated, and get their first real job, they are nearly 30 years old. In any other OECD nation, men have at least 4-8 years of real working experience when they approach 30. This is the exact opposite in Korea. With the abolishment of the point system, this completely unbalanced job market in a highly competitive environment is definitely a huge factor in the misogyny we see today with Korean men in their 20's. This is why you hear Korean men always talk about military service when gender equality is mentioned. However, the issue here is that women on the other side usually scoff at the military issue by talking about how women have to give birth to kids. I don't think this argument holds merit for women anymore considering Korea has the world's lowest birth rate and women openly talk about not wanting kids in current Korean society. It would make a lot of sense for women to use this argument if they were actually having kids but this isn't the case anymore. It's also very common for women to break up with their boyfriends while they are in the military as well, so this is a deep rooted societal issue that plagues both genders.

  • @worldview730
    @worldview730 2 місяці тому +1

    Jin is so feminine & sexy, she makes this video worth watching! 💋💋

  • @ominga
    @ominga 2 місяці тому +2

    Glad to see talk about this though topic,seems like can use Chinese, from inside china korean lov.

  • @McQueenPaul
    @McQueenPaul 2 місяці тому +2

    Like Jin said, it is all about fairness. Homosexuality is not going to go away and it is a fact of life which should be accepted if not embraced. A lot of people here in the UK find it hard to accept Trans men to women being in women's sports because it is patently unfair to all the women who have worked so hard for their competitive places to just then be taken away by a guy in a frock. I don't know of a single instance where a Trans man has entered into the world of mens sports, as let's face it, they would have no competitive chance. Personally I think some of the Korean dramas have handled the Trans situations well.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +4

      Thank you for your insights! Yes, it was pretty disturbing to see this Paris olympic gender issue in the boxing game. I fully agree with you.

    • @FrederikEngelmand
      @FrederikEngelmand 2 місяці тому

      Homosexuality is a natural occuring thing in nature. However trans people are NOT. And pushing for trans acceptance as its being done now is nothing more than child abuse. Imagine mutilating your CHILD because they are being taught they are a girl trapped in a boys body because they like to play with dolls. I think its important for Korea to learn from the wests mistake in being too tolerant

  • @MissGardenGG1
    @MissGardenGG1 2 місяці тому +2

    Very interesting content.
    * I'm French an , as you know, the Olympics games were held in Paris next July. Some parts of the opening ceremony were criticized .The drag queen performance sparked controversy (some interpreted the scene as a mockery of Jesus' last meal with his apostles, the Last Supper, which the organizers denied.) It's hard to be an "open" country when it comes to gender issues.
    * Do you think that this gender war is at the origin of these behaviors like the "molka" or the interest of thousands of men in these "Nth rooms" that we hear about at the moment? It's really shocking!
    * BTW: I discovered Korea thanks to the drama "Extraordinary attorney Woo" and I felt like Alice in Wonderland: I fell into the rabbit hole and I don't want to come out. Since then I don't watch any Western fiction anymore, because there are too many sex scenes and it disgusts me. There is no need to show this kind of scene to show love between two people. So, I hope that Korea will not give in to the sirens of the Western world and try to gain visibility with the public by also integrating this kind of scenes in dramas: I am worried because the drama "The glory" has precisely fallen into this pitfall! Now that I have found my happy place I don't want it to be tarnished!🙂

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      thanks for your interest and welcome to our channel. Such hidden camera or Nth room incidents were simply done by perverted men, which had low correlation with gender issues. Because such incidents became huge controversy in Korea, the perpetrators were indicted and the law now was amended to prevent such crimes.

    • @아리-t3p
      @아리-t3p 2 місяці тому

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  • @robertopadilla5348
    @robertopadilla5348 2 місяці тому

    Nice video!! Cheers from Spain!

  • @jmhamiltonesq
    @jmhamiltonesq Місяць тому

    Just found your channel and really enjoyed this video. I am a U.S. K-drama watcher and have a few questions about the accuracy of K-dramas and a comment. First, do Korean men really cry as much & as easily as they do in K-dramas. Second, how would you describe a "flower boy" and is it still a "real thing" in Korea? Lastly, I hope that Korea doesn't become too westernized! The U.S. & western societies are currently a complete mess and the more conservative nature of K-dramas is in my opinion why so many Americans have foregone U.S. cinema/television and are watching Korean dramas.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  Місяць тому

      We'll address related questions in the later video, but to give you a quick answer:
      - It's not manly to cry in public in Korea, so it's not common
      - "flower boy" was trendy like 20 years ago, but clean-cut guys are always loved (like BTS)
      - sadly, Korea is becoming westernized quickly

  • @joshdan007
    @joshdan007 2 місяці тому +2

    Hello! Could you write down your names please? This would be helpful for us foreigners. Since you raised the issue of domestic violence, it allows me to ask about it. In the dramas, I'm never so impressed about men being violent with their wives. But I'm struck about interpersonal "violence" in general. Often we see grown men slapping their grown up son accross the face, a mother slapping her grown up son or daughter accross the face, men pinching their girlfriend on the forehead, men or women hitting each other for any form of disagreement. In a drama, I saw a hospital director enter a body fight with a head surgeon over some silly disagreement. It may not be violent in general, maybe even gentle at times, but nevertheless, in every drama we see such of this. In the same line of thought, Koreans raise their voice consistently, every time they need to make a point. So I wonder if it is because the public demands this or if it is really a custom for Koreans to "hit" each other and scream at each other in general in case of disagreements. It gives me the impression that Koreans are a "violent" people. Being Canadian, I never saw any such kind of violence first in my upbringing and in general in society. Now I live in Switzerland; it is even less the case, if ever. That being said, I love the Korean culture in general, for a lot of other reasons. I think of moving there sooner or later. Thanks for your reply.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому

      Hi there, my name is Sean and my wife is Jin. The violent scenes you see in dramas are a bif off from reality. Any violent gestures are crimes in Korea. Then why do you see so much of violence in dramas? It's for the views and very intuitive to interpret one's emotion. It's just like Neflix is full of provocative contents.

    • @joshdan007
      @joshdan007 2 місяці тому +1

      @@abitdifferentkoreans Sean & Jin! Thank you so much for your reply 😊 Daniel

    • @Hilmi_Fox6263
      @Hilmi_Fox6263 Місяць тому

      @2.13 mins..can't help laughing..great video content. Learning about Korean cultures through your videos. Keep it up!
      Subscribed and a new fan from Malaysia ❤👍

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  Місяць тому

      Welcome!

  • @hartmut2910
    @hartmut2910 2 місяці тому +2

    why does this hostility towards women or people of a different gender arise? in my opinion, it has a lot to do with the fact that we have tabooed people in the past, so it has never been talked about. in another video, i mentioned that we communicate human values too little in public. Why are the 10 commandments (religious or social) not placed enough at the centre of living together?

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +2

      Yes core values should be cherished more indeed.

    • @anwa6169
      @anwa6169 2 місяці тому +1

      Good points. The moral values are the key to humans survival. If everyone treats others the way he wants to be treated, we are fine.

  • @shawnburke-lm7gp
    @shawnburke-lm7gp Місяць тому

    Thank you for the information. The world is becoming a weird place to live in.

  • @loretta6089
    @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +14

    Great video 😊. While I believe grown adults should be free to express themselves as they see fit the government should not be involved in teaching children about sexuality. That should be left to the parents . We are having the same issue here in the states. As far as the k dramas I'm noticing the newer ones putting the females in the alpha role and the males being more submissive especially on Netflix.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +5

      Yes agreed.

    • @evesanchez2157
      @evesanchez2157 2 місяці тому +2

      I respect your opinion. I assume that by government, you mean courses in schools. Moreover, I’d like you to consider how many parents do not teach or explain on that topic to their children, I’m willing to bet it’s the majority. School teaches almost everything parents don’t. Sexuality is an important topic which should be taught by someone. School is the most plausible. While I feel specific sexual material should be off limits and taught by parents or physicians, it’s seen as taboo as part of a curriculum in schools. It’s a positive thing to teach children healthy hygiene, self protection, and emotional/physical development which might not be spoken of elsewhere, including their homes. And, if you are a responsible parent who does/will teach them at home, you have the option of opting out. That should always be provided to those parents and guardians as well as those who also believe in not teaching about such topic to their children.

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +7

      ​@@evesanchez2157 I was talking about LGBTQ+++ and giving young children explicit books about sexual acts. None of that belongs in schools. They are trying to sexualize children at a very young age which is extremely dangerous and harmful. I don't know where you live but things have gotten out of control in the U.S. No matter what anyones opinion is the fact is that the children belong to the parents and its up to them to decide what they want their child to know about sex.

    • @evesanchez2157
      @evesanchez2157 2 місяці тому

      @@loretta6089 I too am in the US. Can you clarify what you mean by LGBTQ+++? Are you indicating those preferences shouldn’t be taught in schools or are those related to the explicit books you referenced?

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому

      @@evesanchez2157 Well unfortunately the board of education has put all of it in one giant basket. If you give the left an inch they take a mile. I also don't think 5 yr Olds need to learn about homosexuality. We clearly are on opposite sides of this coin . Are you in favor of children being brought to drag shows which is also happening. I don't even have children and I can see how destructive this situation is

  • @MissCoco2109
    @MissCoco2109 2 місяці тому

    I think this happens in many Asian countries

  • @marianikolopoulou2986
    @marianikolopoulou2986 2 місяці тому

    Same in my country Greece 🇬🇷

  • @imdee9024
    @imdee9024 2 місяці тому +2

    I love that she said she let's you take the lead. I read up a month ago on what God expects from a husband and what God expects from a wife and I was extremely surprised. Love your videos.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, it's biblical. I always ask for Jin's opinion before making a decision though:)

    • @imdee9024
      @imdee9024 2 місяці тому +2

      @@abitdifferentkoreans she's a lucky woman. I wish you both a fruitful and fulfilling journey ahead.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you!

  • @joicemelchers3767
    @joicemelchers3767 2 місяці тому

    😘😘

  • @loursfloral5409
    @loursfloral5409 2 місяці тому +1

    Different cultures are fascinating. Things are getting better everywhere for minorities. It must be terrible to not be able to be free to be oneself just to fit the society. We have just one life.

  • @welshcelt9406
    @welshcelt9406 2 місяці тому

    There's a couple an American woman who's married to a Korean man she's now living with him in Korea,she works and and he lazes around all day he nags her as soon as she gets home also his mother nags her, the American looks absolutely shattered. They have a Y Tube channel. He's so lazy.

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому

      Oh that's disappointing.. he should also help out his wife in all things!

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +3

      @@welshcelt9406 I don't think the fact that he is Korean has anything to do with it and the American woman has a choice whether or not she wants to put up with it. I knew an American couple where the man lost his job and then never got another job and became lazy. Nationality has nothing to do with it.

    • @jamin-r4k
      @jamin-r4k 2 місяці тому +1

      so there many non korean couple displaying the same laziness. has nothing to do with being a korean man. its just an individual thing that can happen everywhere. no need to emphasize the korean

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому

      @@jamin-r4k Exactly, Agree 💯

  • @hartmut2910
    @hartmut2910 2 місяці тому

    You are addressing a very sensitive topic. the "Federal Report on Domestic Violence" in Germany states that 70.5 % of cases of domestic violence were affected. The development of gender roles in Germany is probably similar to that in your country.
    In the dramas, the boys always get punches. I was very surprised at first. But I don't think it has anything to do with violence in this case, does it?

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +1

      Maybe the stats of your country include emotional or verbal violence looking at such high number. Again, Kdrama does not reflect the reality, rather exaggerates to get more views.

    • @hartmut2910
      @hartmut2910 2 місяці тому +1

      @@abitdifferentkoreans the federal criminal police office has been recording homicides in partnerships since 2015. more than 100 women are killed at the hands of a partner or ex-partner every year. many acts of violence are not reported by the women out of shame. sorry to bring up this sad topic again.

    • @rainermuller4699
      @rainermuller4699 2 місяці тому +2

      Germany has problematic immigration, Korea doesn't.

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +2

      @@rainermuller4699 Yes exactly. Thank you for saying what I was going to. Germany is a mess and has serious problems.

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +1

      @@hartmut2910 Germany has serious problems and I would not compare it with Korea.

  • @عبدالله-ن6ه2ص
    @عبدالله-ن6ه2ص 2 місяці тому +1

    In Islamic law, the situation is completely different because both men and women know their rights and duties in marriage, in the family, and in society. Therefore, we are not influenced by the agendas of the extreme leftists who try to convince young boys that they are girls and destroy their future.
    Many family laws are subject to the laws of the state, whether liberal, communist, socialist, etc. In Islamic countries, the law is the law of God.
    We believe that marital, social and economic justice is what God commands for us.

  • @travelswithminky246
    @travelswithminky246 2 місяці тому

    It is very well known within the scientific community that homosexuality is not a learned behavior but rather one is born with a mismatched body and sexual orientation. And that is why parents can tell very early on in their child's development if they, the parents, are astute and open minded.

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому +3

      @@travelswithminky246 I think most of us are aware of how inaccurate the "scientific community" can be

    • @travelswithminky246
      @travelswithminky246 2 місяці тому +1

      @@loretta6089 well if you have better scientific data, we would like to hear it?

    • @loretta6089
      @loretta6089 2 місяці тому

      @@travelswithminky246 Not everything has to be scientific. Gay men themselves have admitted that it is a result of sexual abuse at a very young age. Either way I don't believe they should be discriminated against but at the same time when they achieved equal rights it didn't seem to be good enough and now it's to the point that they should have all the rights and the rest of us have none. Like I said in my original comment I don't care what consenting adults do in their private lives but it has increasingly been shoved down our throats. Oh and FYI the scientific community consists mostly of progressive leftists

  • @soloman747
    @soloman747 2 місяці тому +1

    Sean, I recently read an article that said that South Korea has had many extra boys born than girls since the 1980s, leading to "extra boys" in the population. When those extra boys become marriage age, they are unsuccessful.
    I hope you and Jin are very fruitful with many boys and girls! 🫰🏿

    • @abitdifferentkoreans
      @abitdifferentkoreans  2 місяці тому +3

      Haha yes we hope so:) As for more boys phenomenon, it's now being reversed in 2024 as people prefer girls over boys. Interesting, isn't it?