When I lived in Korea two years ago as a foreign exchange student I got warned by fellow foreign exchange students about all dangers pretty much every night I went out. I even got invited to Facebook groups dedicated to specific parts in Seoul, for example Hongdae, in which pictures and information of Korean men were shared who were known for abusing women so that women knew to avoid them. It honestly blew my mind at the time. It was such a huge issue that all foreign women did their best to make everyone they met aware and to provide them with the tools to remain safe. It felt like such a tight knit community because everyone was so protective of each other. However, the community only existed because such a large portion of us had been hurt at one point that we did our best to protect the others.
You last statement is so heartbreaking, but makes me believe in humanity that you turned that pain into something good in the world. I wish I at least had this community when I was going through some things, so lots of respect to you and that community.
If you're ever sexually assaulted, don't wash ANY parts of your body or clothes and preserve all evidence, such as condoms and toothbrushes. Do not use the restroom. Report to the police as soon as possible and get a sexual assault forensic exam within 72 hours of the assault.
True but in Korea it doesn't matter if you are a foreigner. The korean police mostly stays with their own citizens. I know some cases where a girl got chased at night and she called the police. They did nothing..
Depends on how good the country is at handling it. In some countries the police will just think it was consensual and you regretted it and just want to hurt the guys reputation.
@@CanopusLux oh my, i hope shes okey,.. Nobody help her? I love korea, my first time visit the country, i was all alone. Walking even in the night. I though it was safe because im confident about there CCTv.. I
This is an eye opener... Never knew that in such a modern country and with the great number of tourists they have, this is happening to foreign women... So disappointing...
Foreign woman are human beings NOT sex toys. Woman in general deserve respect and dignity. Korea really needs to teach the youth about consent and sexual health.
At least it isnt stone age were man and woman got ever killed or raped on numbers if a Country or villiage was attacked the primitive days to this modern days were dangerous in some countries you still have worldwide the stone age thinking not evolved at all
This is a Problem indeed woman and man died in history to be equal to the rich woman got imprisoned or tortured for their rights so man since believe it or not were was a time were the poor people had no rights at all in history
We still didnt evolved to stop violence the Problem is the diffrent personality of people were are agressive and non agressive people drugs and alkohol can change that too the Problem is kind natured people are always harmed on the oppiside people and fall to be victims thats a Problem humanity has
That is correct. Many Korean guys, especially those who are attracted to foreign women, behave in this manner. Some even despise foreigners for not being able to communicate in their language. They have the mentality that they can do whatever they want to anyone, which can be nasty and harassing at times. South Korea's true dark side.
Completely agree.. many cases as well of Korean husbands beating and abusing their foreign wives (many who are from Southeast Asia) because of the language barrier, cultural difference, feeling of superiority, etc… it’s really sad and unfortunate how this isn’t always talked about enough *and* don't even get me started on the issues that their half Korean children tend to face Even recently, there was a case where a kid was relentlessly bullied because his mother was from SEA; and this is just one case out of *many* ... reoccurring theme here...
@@dhaton2314 For sure~ it's not a surprise that many foreigners, especially those who haven't yet been to Korea before, end up having very unrealistic expectations and a one dimensional view of Korea when at the end of the day it's a real country dealing with actual problems, like anywhere else. Raising valid social critiques of the country aren't always listened to, especially if its raised by foreigners, and some Koreans also tend to have a hard time taking those critiques and instead equate it to "attacking the entire country and its people." Almost as if it's unpatriotic to point out such issues... no wonder change & progress is as slow as it is in Kr smh
@@Nini_Peris if these men get bullied, they should take revenge out on the BULLY. They should Not go around assulting random innocent women they have never met before. These men traumatized and ruined the lives of these ladies
As a Korean man, I feel embarrassed and horrible but I am glad it is talked about. I also want to commend these women for their courage. I can only imagine how hard it must have been. I've heard about it and I believe it exists but this is the first time I am witnessing that it is well put together and talked about on the public platform. I am not sure how to fix this because Korean society is men-centric and women's opinion is often ignored. This is a good start and very well put together. hope there will be more protection for these women and the future generations such as my two little kids. I hope many people including men will stand up for this and say no to unjust.
Thank you for your support it means a lot to us women, more than you know. The more men we have as our allies to fight such injustice and such issues not only in Korea but globally the more chance we have of decreasing gender inequality and femicide. I really believe it comes down to societies educating their men from a young age about respecting women and the importance of consent in all forms. We also need to help empower women. Especially in Korea where local women themselves find it so hard to speak up about such issues and standing up for themselves. I believe men fighting by our side and calling out the bad guys is what will ultimately lead to things changing. I have almost been here 10 years and I have yet to see any drastic change in the system. If Korea wishes wishes become this global country and promote the culture to the world they have a LONG way to go when it comes to gender equality and human rights and they will have to do a MUCH better job of protecting ALL women. The entire justice system needs to be re evaluated , Korea needs more good women in leadership, the justice system and the police force to handle such cases. Again thank you for your support.
@@dhaton2314 Thanks for your reply. I worked in China and that's my thought exactly - no way it would happen in China. I've been hearing horror stories about Korea from various sources and it's really making me reconsider visiting the country, let alone working there.Yes, it seems Confucianism has no subtance underneath all the ''philosophy.'' Please share as much as you think you can here on this open line.
@@dhaton2314 Yeah. I know the UK well and what is going on in Korea deefinitely doesn't sound like the UK to me. Cheers, kind stranger somewhere on this planet!
I'm writing this as a foreigner currently in Korea. One month ago I was followed by a man while walking home. He kept trying to grab and kiss me but when I moved away, he pushed me to the ground, got on top of me, and began to strangle me. At that point I just felt like I was dreaming. It wasn't until I looked up and watched people pass by and ignore the situation that I truly felt scared and hopeless. Fortunately in my case, somebody eventually called the police but they only took me home and let the man go, telling me that it's up to me to make a police report. When I tried reporting it to my school, the advisor looked at me and said "are you really going to report it to the police and make a big deal about this?" It felt very isolating and invalidating. I havent slept in weeks and im failing all of my classes now. Im just waiting to go home. Edit: I genuinely want to thank every single person for your kind words, prayers, and support. I wanted to get my story off of my chest but I didn’t think anyone would read it. I’m back in my home country now and I’m doing better. Thank you💛 Also when I wrote I felt like I was dreaming, I meant in the sense that I was paralyzed and wasn’t able to react because I was in shock, it didnt feel real
Go to the embassy and tell them ur situation!! I’m sorry that happened to you 🥺 planning to study there in fall 2022 and I’m scared of a situation like this.
@@angelflorence thank you so much. Im trying really hard to continue my studies because i was supposed to graduate this year. Im going home soon fortunately but its just so hard to focus on anything lately
That's terrifying... to first go through that then have people tell you it wasnt a big deal?? You could've died, jfc! Hopefully when you get home you can confide in people close to you, maybe go to therapy and begin healing. Don't worry about the studies rn, you're a human not a machine, it's okay to be "unproductive" after traumatic events! Wishing you everything good
No matter which country you're in, as long as you're a female, always be cautious about your surroundings and the people around you. Never ever let your guard down. Because predators literally exist everywhere.
Korea MUST do more to protect women. If they want to be seen as a leading country, then they must ensure that ALL people have access to their human rights. Not just men. No excuses.
Unfortunately, the president-elect has decided to shut down the ministry of gender-equality in order to get votes from privileged 20 something men. Women's right is expected to regress
I don't see that happening any time soon. The majority of young Korean men are against feminism. I've heard that this year's Korean presidential election is hugely influenced by anti-feminist voters. There is a reason for Korean women to avoid marriage to Korean men. Even, I've decided not to get married to a Korean man since I've seen my dad's possessive and verbally abusive behavior towards mom so many times. I wish I can give advice to those who are planning to marry Korean men that they should meet their fiance's parents and observe the fiance's fathers' behaviors towards mothers beforehand and that they should ask what the fiance's ideal marriage life is. Especially, they should make sure that the men they are marrying to are emotionally independent of their parents. There are still quite a lot of men in South Korea who depend on their mothers to make decisions for their lives. Wives get really miserable when they are on bad terms with their husbands' mothers and when their husbands put their mothers first over them.
@@Holiday-qu8vu I heard the opposite the women is someone that control men and man cant really say shit this is why men are trying to marry forenoon women they are not that demanding
Women internationally are being sold this image of the Korean man and South Korea by the hallyu wave which is a fake image. Please stop romanticizing SK. It is a very xenophobic and patriarchal society. Westerners who think they can practice their equal rights rhetoric there should just stay home. The foreign women here as much as I sympathise for their ply was whining about the lack of English speakers blah blah blah. The Koreans speak Korean. Pick up the language skills or remain in your country. Korea has improve economically by leaps and bounds but their country was pretty xenophobic. Korea war did not help that. When I went to South Korea in the 90s, they do not allow foreigners into their night life establishments even if you are with a Korean friend. You will get a sideward glance when you take public transport because you speak in a foreign language which is English.
Remember guys when you are in any foreign country and you face discrimination by locals and law authorities. The embassy of your country is your best friend.
Women in general seem like second class in Korea. I'm half Korean and think the justice system in general is trash. Also the "don't get involved " mentality is gross. You see someone getting harassed or attacked you must step in. Get help. Do something. I'm sure it's not just foreign women but also Korean women are being sexually harassed daily and assaulted often. The mentality needs to change towards women. The judicial punishments must me more harsh. I'm in no way saying everyone in Korea is like this because that's not the case. If you see something, say something. Be safe everyone.
As a Korean female, I’m glad these issues are coming to light. People see Korea as a perfect kdrama fantasy land, when in fact, it’s a harsh patriarchal society that doesn’t value the opinion of women. Ever since I was little I’ve been told how much sons were preferred to daughters. How sons get away with doing anything, but I get scorned at the tiniest mishap. How my grandma keeps telling my mother how much she wanted a grandson. How my uncles and male cousins and to an extent my dad ignore every comment I make and input I try to give - just because I’m female, and I wouldn’t know better apparently. I hate the consumerism, I hate how much beer, soju and makgeoli they drink - becoming rude, annoying, horrible people but no one bats an eye (saying that it’s normal for men to essentially drink themselves to death… literally every Korean ahjussi I know has liver issues), I hate how close minded some people are, and I hate how all women - especially foreign women as shown in this video - are treated as second class, and their issues are not taken seriously. Korea is a beautiful place to travel, eat lots of food, and meet amazing, kind people. But it’s a horrible place to be a woman, and clubbing is not a safe activity with all these creeps! I’m truly sorry that this is the norm. I wish I could change it, but changing the mindset of a whole society is a difficult thing to do.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and true experience. I think they r really helpful to people who have gone through such grievous pain. God bless you and us, female!
Wow sounds like Korea is similiar to other Asian countries in terms of their mindset and culture. India and China also generally favour males over females. Even though the media makes Korea appear Liberal, modern and glamourous. Also as a fellow woman, I just wanted to say, I'm here for you, don't feel like you are alone and no one cares.....
When I reported my SA case to the police (mind you I'm fluent in Korean), one of the questions the police asked me was "How did you seduce this guy? What did you do to make him come onto you?".... I felt extremely disrespected and humiliated that this fifty-something year old officer asked me such questions. And on top of that, in front of multiple other officers. I don't think it's 'only a language' problem. I think it's a 'how police treat foreigners in general' problem. They have all these stereotypes and make wild presumptions on the fact that we are not Korean. Even thinking about it now makes me feel sick. Edt: a lot of y'all are making assumptions about me and my reason for being in Korea. One, I was there for school and, two, who cares why I was there? The fact of the matter is something out of my immediate control happened to me and I should not be faulted for someone else's crime. Victim blaming at it's finest smh get a life
@@zackwang9314 "fantasizing" about traveling to a cool new country doesn't make her deserving of being r4ped. Why would you say "lol" after she just said she was SA'd?
Alhamdulliha we are you Muslim if someone did anyone like this we hung him and kill 😎😎😎 if you rape a woman so then he ready for die this is a law of our islamic country because of this we have no big rate of rape in our country
I've seen a lot of story times of foreign girls telling their experiences in South Korea and it's scary. Not only cases of SA, but also harassment, stalking, being mistreated at work and not being able to complain etc etc. I even remember watching a video of a girl (she was a foreigner) and her Korean husband beat her in a bar and no one did anything to stop him (only one woman "tried" to stop him, but you see people passing by the girl's side ignoring the situation and when the man left another woman tried to help the girl, in total two people from the bar). I don't know how they can ignore something like that when it happens in front of your eyes.
yes people need to know korea is not all rainbow and happiness. I went to korea in 2016 and I stayed at a hotel. Not a motel. A proper well known hotel (an higher end hotel) and I noticed a small red light from the TV at first I thought it is just the TV light because TV in the front have that light but I look closer to it and touch and and sure enough there was a spy cam on the TV. Nothing happened to me be I felt violated and disgusted as I change in front of the TV many times so I went to the police right away and report it and the police say they will look for it. And I ask who will be held responsible for it and they say the hotel is not held responsible because there is not much evidence who put the camera there. So I ask then nothing will be done to it? And they said yeah nothing can be done. And I ask then should other hotel guest know about it? And the police assured me saying they want to other guest to know about the situation. Then I went back to the hotel to collect my things, the hotel managers pretended nothing happened and didn't say anything and didn't look me in the eye. There was no compensation or anything. I paid the 5 night hotel fee and left. But I still want to make sure of the other guest know about it because I don't believe the hotel so the very next day I wore a black cap and went back the hotel and stayed there then I waited for a guest on the same floor and when they open the door I ask if they know about the situation and the guest said "No! No one told me anything!" And she was shocked and disgusted then both of us went down and confront the hotel but the hotel called the police and called me trespassing and somehow I was sent to the police and I didnt pay anything or go to jail or anything but they slap me with a warning that if I go there again I will have to go to jail. And I was like for real? Not only you lied to me saying you will tell the guest because thats the least you can do and I'm trespassing? To this day the hotel is thriving and no news of it being on the news and I'm disgusted. This is speculation but I feel like the hotel know something about it as it is in the TV I don't think someone can easily put it in the TV because it was specifically put there
@@fosh9936 Not getting involved should be the least of the bystanders concern. You’ll never know when someone pushes it over the edge and it ends up in murder. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
@@jvang1111 I don't think they are taught empathy and to treat others the way they want to be treated. They go by Confucian teachings of seniority and rank. This has led to a culture of bullies that lack empathy for others' suffering.
The laws in Korea is a joke…even if you’re convicted of murder you’ll get 20 yrs or something ridiculous like that. If you’re rich, you’ll literally get away with murder, prosecutors and police are often bribed. It’s sad….
@@user-bu6to4so2y it's so funny that Korean govt loves the money they are earning from foreign tourists but on the other side they give them zero protection
If you think the laws in Korea is a joke. I'm not going to mention the laws in the Netherlands. A country where you can murder someone and get less then 10 years. Or rape minors and get a jail sentence for a few months. I wish our laws were like yours. It's way better than ours.
Well in germany we dont have the death order sentance germany is not like russia jail were the jailers suffer indeed for their crimes USA is strict top but not as strict as China or arabic jail or whatever alkatraz was harsh but thats in the past
I wish they could reveal the names of the rapists, their jobs, city they live in, etc so people would know who they are and publicly shame them or something. At least that would be some justice for the victims. These victims and women in general deserve better.
I get why you would b mad. And ofc, the rapist should be justly punished, lose job and put in prison. But public shaming is too far even for them. Consider this, alcohol is one of the biggest causes of rape, so a lot of guys lose a lot of self control when drunk. Imagine it was your father, brother, or son, who got drunk one night and raped a woman, and then it was publicly announced so not only would his entire life be destroyed over a stupid mistake, he would also bring great shame to the rest of his family. You would be known as the daughter of a rapist, the sister of a rapist, the mother of a rapist. How would you feel, when you done nothing wrong?
Well they don't reveal their personal information, because the moment they do, the very next day, the dude would have disappeared, without a trace and no one will know if they are alive or not, and if they are, where they are, what's happening to them and how long will it be happening. Basically, the law is protecting the criminals from the people in this case
@@naturelover6588 I mean yeah a liberal democratic republic is built around the idea that you are innocent until proven guilty and not guilty until proven innocent
This is one the saddest comments section I had to read that almost every girls here had their own assault story to share which goes to show how bad the situation is in reality. It’s like a hidden can of worms and still unknown to many while K-pop kdrama continues to romanticise South Korea men and its culture.
Yep I don't get shocked easily and this film and comments section truly shocked me . Who would have known . If their government wants tourists to come to Korea they better sort this and fast.
I was in Korea for 7 years and I experienced a lot. I was stalked, raped, and groped on subways, and I had many friends who had similar experiences. I never talked about it and never went to the police because I was ashamed. I am just realizing how bad it was. I am so glad you women had the courage to talk about it. I really hope Korea can offer these services in the near future.
To think that I was planning to marry a Japanese or Korean girl when I was younger. Holy crap with the justice system in Korea. The Japanese justice system is somewhat better than Korea from my experience when I was serving in the U.S. military bases in Japan. My current wife is a Asian American but to think had I married a national Korean born woman; I would probably be laying cans of woop that butt street justice style if my Korean lady was sexually harassed by some Korean sexual predator. Guess that's the good thing about us Americans is that we ain't no push over.
Unfortunately this happens everywhere there are entitled men in the world. I live in Montreal Canada, Im in my 40s, and rarely use the metro, much prefer buses, because of one experience being gropped by a man when I was 16 yrs old, coming home from high school, on the metro. Never again in a closed off space, with nowhere to run to for help.
Why didn't you keep paper spray with you? Everytime when it's happened you should have at least make them pay what happened with you...why men behave in this way? Because we as society failed to teach them morals and good upbringing.. we do opposite we serve them content like porn which is more materlised woman in more animalistic ways and it's what they fantasies and now they want that in same porn manner
@@Srshree124 In some countries pepper spray for personal use is illegal, like here in Canada. Must always protect the criminals (eye roll) Not sure about Korea.
I'm a Korean, born and raised here. Police here are often awful at dealing with these problems. They're notorious for being indifferent about the victims and don't know what to do at all. Prosecutors and judges are the same or even much worse. They do these awful things to Korean victims, too. Except for the language barrier, everything is the same with Koreans. I know this because I'm so used to hear these things that happen to Koreans. If you check the news, soon you'll realize. The pushiment by law is considered to be too weak in the first place. Many cases end up with no punishment, or only 1-2 years in jail. The judges (mostly men) even "forgive" the criminals even though the victims cannot forgive. Even sexual assaults to children, the punishment is weak. This country doesn't even consider stalking as a crime. So if you were chased in the street by a stranger, the police will not do anything when you report because it's not a crime. There is no protection system for victims here about that. And many will not care enough to protect your personal information. So girls, if you are planning to come to this country, please think twice. If Koreans read my comment, some of them may be like I'm against this country and blame me. But really, I'm against the problem not the country. If they don't fix this problem, they're the ones to be blamed on downgrading the country. If you want to be a patriot, what you should do is not to blame people who righfully critize the problems but to actually make the society better. And if someone speaks up about this problem, I've seen many guys be really offended and complaint she is making every man a "potential criminal." If you just talk about raising the jailtime for sexual assaults, you can see some people are offended. This is what is happening here, and what I've said is just a part of the reality.
Oh wow thank you for the information, and I could just imagine living there and seeing people who are actually Korean not get justice, so imagine a foreigner… and I agree, I say if a man gets upset when you bring up REAL problems with men as a Society, they also like to partake in those sick things.
Growing up in Korea (up until 10 yo), I used to always hear of stories of how my aunts met their husbands. If I remember correctly, I think all of them met their husbands by their men stalking them until they gave in. Men stalking women was part of the culture there. The legal system needs to change dramatically to uphold very basic human rights especially pertaining to women.
😦 OMG. Well, I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I'm not sure about other countries, but here in the US, in the 1980's "romance" novels on the shelf were about 90% rape fiction, meaning the hero often initially raped the heroine and she eventually fell in love with him. I grew up reading that, and I have zero doubt it skewed an entire generation of girls and our perception of rape and sex. Also, as a young woman in my twenties, my best girlfriends and I went out to celebrate one of our birthdays. We rented a hotel room that night, and as we were going to sleep, talk turned to experiences we had had. Out of seven of us, every single one of us had, at one point or another, been raped, molested, or sexually assaulted. It was shocking to share those stories and know that. However, something to keep in mind is that one pedophile or rapist usually has multiple victims. I know many truly wonderful men, including my husband and many friends, who would NEVER hurt a woman like that. The problem is that one single predator can hurt an enormous number of women, especially when we often don't report it for a variety of reasons. He gets to just get away with it and repeat the behavior.
I am always single female traveler, especially because of KPOP concerts. I never had any bad experiences. I could see this scenario in some Kdramas. The man stalks the girl until she gives in. But also vice versa. I always think that does the girl have no pride, when she stalks the man. Even though she has been xx times refused? Or does it really work in real?
it is almost culture, i would say. sadly. means, it's frequent and police don't think it's very seriously. and it's causing many problem. korea is not safe for women at all. speaking as native@@michaelashby9654
it happened with me too but i'd rather be dead than to be SA so i took a chance n lied to him that i have HIV +ve..he was so afraid to even touch me after that and left me on side of an alley bleeding( he punched me in face and i had broken nose). i left the country next day . i was so scared and ashamed of myself even though i did nothing wrong, i could not faced myself and run away. But these women are so strong, God bless you all.
Don't feel like you run away, you are brave an you took a smart decision. I will also leave as soon as I finish my studies and never never never comeback.
I'm speechless. And so many people think Korea is heaven like it's not a normal country with problems. It's also a shame that the police only cares about their own citizens in the most cases. I know a few of these cases and the police believed the offender.
They don't do jobs well for their citizens either. I've seen quite a few Korean news that women get murdered by ex-lovers because Korean police let abusive men go without any capital punishments.
@@Noor.nsw123 True. Someone i know lived in SK, for some exchange program. And then she had a stalker in her neighborhood, who used to follow her around. This man tried to break in once, and she called police. Guess what, the police made her apologize to the man. Police shamelessly said "It's a misunderstanding. He just wanted to be your friend. Don't waste out time for such silly misunderstandings".
This is horrible. As a foreigner once myself in Korea I remember once I was on the subway and there was this old korean man who grabbed my hand. He tried 3 times by the 4 time I hit him hard with my purse and everyone at the subway were staring like what had happened. That old fart ran out at the next stop. Just that itself was seriously traumatising. Can't imagine what victims of rape must have gone trough.
@@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587 of course how would people notice if someone holding someone hand I wouldn't hear them or pay attention but a hit with probably some yelling well get everyone attention also what do you want people to do ? to intervene and defend women ?? why women are strong and independent
I had a similar situation. I went on the subway in korea and I was together with a friend of mine. There was a man who looked very confused and he grabbed my wrist. I thought he needed help at first but he didnt respond. I tried to break free of the grasp but his hold was really strong so I couldnt. My friend was frozen and I was quite scared too, but luckily some korean high school boys smoothly moved inbetween the man and I, making him let go of me. I tried to thank the students but they pretended they didnt do anything, which made me feel even more thankful. Edit: Also, afterwards, a korean woman approached me and apologized for what happened (even though she had nothing to do with it). She didnt want me to have a bad image of Korea because of that man, which I think is really sweet. Personally I never went to any clubs in Korea and I experienced Korea as a very safe country. (Apart from some situations like the one above, I felt really safe) however I heard many stories from friends, similar as the stories in this video. Its sickening, and it's very true. Please be safe people!
I lived in S. Korea for 3 years and was shocked at the number of foreign women who were sexually assaulted. It was a real problem. As the stats in this program show, it's an even bigger problem for Korean women.
Over three thousand comments and almost everyone has a story to tell about their worst experiences in Korea. This is quite serious they should do better. Its really a shame.
Did it occur to you most of them are bots or fake? You would be one of those people who believe the girl who wrote fanfiction about being gangraped in an elevator by a Korean boyband was real. Kek.
@@microangels how do you come into a comment section and call people experiences fake when you haven't even met anyone of them how could you possibly tell if it's fake or not. "One of those girls.." please 😒😂
This is a nightmare. I knew it was bad in SK with all the sexual harassment, sexual assault, sexual violence, digital sex crime, rape, stalking, spycams and more.. but following new statistics it’s now 1 out of 2 women in SK who experience at least one of the named sexual crimes. HOW can women protect themselfs? How? When they just want to go on with their lifes and do their thing? Just live? HOW? SK feels very hostile towards women and with their new elected president.. I don‘t know how to feel while applying for my exchange year in SK. I‘m scared ngl. Thank you for making this video and at least bring some awareness or light on this matter.
My mother doesn't allow my sister who works in SK to live alone because of this. My sister is living with the grandparents in a condo that has 2, 3 security guards at the front entrance desk to check who's entering, and the grandma always makes sure she returns home after work. If you don't have a family in SK, make sure to find a safe place to live in though it might cost you more. You can also get a roommate if you feel unsafe living alone. Especially, DO NOT GO CLUBBING in SK. I've heard so many nightclub rape stories from my Korean friends that men drug women in nightclubs, drag them to hotels, and rape them, but they don't get charged with their crimes because police lighten charges when they say they are drunk and don't remember what they did.
I was only there for about 4 weeks (I was alone) and was followed back where I was staying by 3 men and also had a guy rub on my thigh while on the subway (while other people were watching but nobody said anything). Luckily I wasn’t wearing shorts that day 😔. So just be careful and it’s not just ajeossis you have to look out for in both these cases they were all Korean men in there 20s.
@@gummiehobi8032 I had something similar happen. I traveled alone to Seoul for a week and was walking from Namsan Tower to Seoul Station (midday) and a guy was following me. He even kept yelling "I love you" in English as he could clearly tell I was a foreigner. Thankfully, he stopped following me when I got near to the station where there were more people. Yeah, in my case, the guy looked like he was in his late 20s or 30s.
Yep. Korea is something else. When I was there, I definitely can say the club experience is eye opening. A lot of the men think foreign women are easy. I experienced being touched intimately, without my consent. Never say, "Not all Korean men are like that", because that's a given, and it really doesn't matter if every, single Korean man isn't like that. A Korean man doesn't get a cookie, for not being a rapist, and not being a rapist doesn't mean he advocates for women and challenges other men to be better. The cultural attitudes towards women are shameful, which is why it's an uphill battle. Men are often slow to hold other men accountable, but spend a lot of time trying to govern the behavior of women - that's true all over the world. But in the US we have better laws..not better men, just better laws to protect women. Korea has shitty laws, and that must change. It's easy for a man to think he's special, when he compares himself against the worst his society has to offer. But being a decent human being isn't special.
Tbh both genders are slow to hold each other accountable over a variety of issues including stuff like this, and that’s coming from my own personal experience as well…
"A Korean man doesn't get a cookie, for not being a rapist, and not being a rapist doesn't mean he advocates for woman and challenges other man to be better." THIS 👏👏👏
As a native Korean woman, I am deeply sorry for victims. I love my country, but I can't deny that this country still regard women-no matter if you are native or foreign woman-as some sexual objects or basically the existence for men. Even to native Korean women, sexual harassments/assaults/even rapes are dealt as trivial things to police. Korea has still long way to go. If Korea can't solve this problem, this country can't be leading country at all.
The thing is in South Korea, if you get raped, molested, sexually assaulted, etc, you're the one to blame. The victims are blamed and not the perpetrator. Incredible. The authorities clearly do not understand the meaning of 'victim'.
@@blackwing7459 That's where you're wrong. They did report but, not much has been done and maybe because this happened often, the authorities blame the victim for not being careful. Unacceptable and shameful. Even foreign women were victims, and obviously they are not fluent or don't speak Korean, so that's even tougher. When they report, it ain't easy and they ultimately have to live with the guilt. Because they're foreigners, things are much, much tougher. Translations are required, your visas need to be viewed, evidence is needed, judgment is needed, etc. It's a waste of time, effort and resources. Why can't people and countries just be direct and straightforward? I have no idea.
@@colinloh6427 and I think that's what I mean when there will not be a solution for the victim's problem then, they will report in less no. Cause of society pressure and thins like that.
I went to Korea multiple times. When I went with my parents or a male friend I wasn't harassed. When I was 17 I went alone to study and I was harassed and followed every day. It was honestly so exhausting. One much older guy coerced and raped me and I was too afraid to fight back because I was really just a naive young girl and he knew where I was staying. I wish it was different because I like Korea, but I find Korean men despicable and straight-up dangerous.
Sorry that that happened to you but I don’t want to say all Korean guys are bad. I met this one guy on Facebook and he scared me. He only talked to me a few times and kept on sending me his naked photos and all that... I told him to stop but he kept sending them so I finally blocked him. He said he loves me which is BS as he hardly knew me.
In the middle of the day a Korean guy choking a foreign girl outside and everybody's ignoring her??? What kind of people does Korea have. They will just tolerate their own kind just as long as the victim is a foreigner.
It's actually the law of SK that sucks If you try to harm that guy who was choking the girl then you may be sued or charged by the guy.. Korea is a male dominated country.. All the cops and authorities side with men and women are often blamed and classified as weak
They do that to women of their own too. A lot of the crime cases I read about, bystanders don't seem to care and the police are Barney Fife levels of incompetent
In Asia, in general, women are looked down upon. But the root of these problems are not how people view women, but in the justice system. All kinds of crimes go unpunished. Even inhumane crimes. I’m sure many people have already heard about how serious bullying is in Korea-some bullies literally disfigured their victims permanently-yet no justice was carried out. Just like any employee in any companies, you have some incompetent or lazy employees that don’t want to do their jobs. Or they simply don’t care. Look at America, even when a case has ample evidence, the justice system just let criminals go too because they don’t really care. Look at how many times the person that just go around hurting random people are arrested, but never charged and just let go. Sad thing is there is really nothing you or I can do about it except complain.
A toxic notion that needs to change! We need to protect womens rights! I’m sick of hearing cases like this. I will always take my stand to those women who were treated unjustly that probably thinks that the world is against them! I’m a man and I wish more of us are vocal when it comes to this type of social issues! 💯
I went to Korea as an exchange student to do my practical training about four years ago. I remember I was doing several things in Seoul and then I went to one of the university's campuses in a different city. I found out a girl was raped around that time and the assailant used a letter signed by a doctor to justify his actions, saying "he was unable to control his impulses" and they just swept the girl's case under the rug. I was extremely shocked.
Do not blame women for being alone! Do not blame women for being a women! Do not blame women for going to a fun club! Do not blame the victim you awful people! We have lives and are human too! We can walk alone if we have to or choose to do it! Women should not be called stupid for walking alone! I hate people that blame us for things we didn’t commit!!!
You to have understand one thing properly❗We are all animals, not humans entirely. No matter what a women does, right or wrong, the male genders don't care about anything but s..x. Women are viewed as prey by the male community. Rape case is happening all around the world but never stops. So women should know what to wear, what to show, where to go, everything calculated. Stop thinking and believing all men are not the same, this is where Women are making huge sinful mistake, Never trust a male for whatever action it could be, always have 10 steps back and back up plan. Why? Because for your own safety only. You cannot change men, but through punishment and penalty, yes but not all countries are ready to punish the males who commit crimes against women. So, knowing that, Don't go alone, don't go to bar alone, don't make friends with guys u met in online, don't be near unknown guys in public, wear modest and covered dress in places with many men. Protect yourself, because this world no longer bothers women except for needed times. The truth.
I think that conservativity is important for both men and women..I mean what kind of idiot wants to marry a man/woman who like to go to FUN clubs. Leave the trash behind.
let's be real as a man I wouldn't just walk in midnight in a dark alley why ?? cuz we shouldn't blame?? nope cuz we should be realistic thus being said I do agree victim blaming is dumb and this entire documentary it's against it
Ok you're rigt but can you take responsibility can protect yourself in every situation ? Do women have courage to fight against anyone in any situation ?. Do women have brain to think to make right decision Where when which time with who can you go or can trust ??? In my experience women is very easy target to make fool
I have met a guy in Korea who was my online friend for the first time,then he was talking to me in unappropriate sexual way on the street and I just left him and blocked him. He made me scared and I cried.
@@ellaspring1933 not only in Korea in every country ... 👍.... When you are meeting any stranger be careful .... Because in 21st century people are Selfish... Only few are kind and hard to find 👀
I had a foreigner friend who studies in Korea was assaulted and she made a complain in police station cops were mocking at her for being Muslims and accused her for this and that. I felt so bad hearing her story. She said Koreans are so racist in general 😢
Was your friend from South East Asia? Because to be honest they don’t say anything about Arab Muslims. Maybe they know we have no chill and will flip out idk what is it. Sorry for what happened to your friend regardless. South Korea in general are the worst xenophobic society. They act like they never seen people before
That's why , if Korea becomes nation without women, it won't be surprising. Bullshit people as Korean police just think if a person rapes after drinking, he isn't even a rapist. What a logic ! Shame upon these people those who are blinded by beauty.
As a Korean woman who just turned 20 in Korean age, this angers me so so much, and reading the comments doesn't do me any good- it only deepens and worsens the bitterness. A lot of horrible men in Korea think they are in control when they face women. And, being a foreigner shouldn't be a factor that drives this ridiculousness worse. They came here because they wanted to know more about the country, or because of their interest in Korean culture, and so on. They are visitors. And Korean people, including me, and including men who sexually assaulted and left so many scars on the victims’ minds and bodies, should not be treating them like this.
Thank you. I’m an English teacher wanting to come back to Korea (I visited once before I was a teacher) and hearing so many women come out with their stories breaks my heart. It also reminds me to pray for my Korean friends, I miss them and worry a lot! We have to be aware though, if people don’t share, those who visit don’t know to be on guard. Please stay safe!
i think many korean men have this internalized fetish towards foreign women especially caucasian women. mainly from c0rn. i've been observing about this for quite a while. girls, you have no idea. it's horrible, you have 'names' amongst korean men i don't have to talk about or mention about it in the slightest. not just korea in general tho. pretty much everywhere where the ethnicity are mainly non-white (caucasian). you guys white girls are their 'fantasy' i'm telling you. do not travel alone. please do not go out alone if you happen to travel this particular region. especially at night. this should be a no-brainer. anyways, you know the rules. stay safe!
I never went to the club in Korea even with friends. I never walk alone as well on the streets of Korea alone more likely at night. Whenever I am approached I often been civil but not friendly as my korean friends told me the danger of me being kidnapped or being raped. I may not experienced that saddest part of their society but living in Korea for years where I experienced bullying and racism made me think not to go back anymore. I moved to Thailand and experienced the safety belt of their society.
My daughter studied in Korea and she faced racism there too. She left as soon as she finished her studies and now happy furthering her education in another country.
@@nawaar3239 I'd been told too by my korean friends the reason why one of them religiously pick me up and go along with me to wherever I needed to go and bring me home after. I'd been stalked once that became a grave concern among my friends why they alternately going along with me back then. These korean friends of mine to whom I had met on travels in europe are more than open minded, more intelligent than the ordinary koreans. I don't think typical locals even if they are your friends will take concern to guard your safety for years unless they are westernized already. Korea is like a yummy looking cake but the inside of it is nothing you expect from that surface.
@@dchinthreewe actually been fooled by what we have seen on their kdramas. I must admit living in a 4 season country is a beautiful experience as I also been an expat in Japan for almost half of my life but I never experienced bullying and racism not even stalking how much more rape. I even been friends with yakuzas but instead of being afraid I am being glad to know they were not as what others potrayed them. The politeness and some ways I adapted from Japanese I still am practicing up to this date. Korea gave me the horrible nightmare that I will never forget the rest of my life. It made me feel outcasted. Being humiliated and degraded that no other races done to me (not even in Europe) I experienced in SoKor hence I really don't want to come back anymore. Their coldness, the rudeness of many and aloofness made me felt much alone. Thing is I might came from a country where manners and ethics, kindness and humility is a part of our everyday life probably the reason why I am triple shock of what I experienced while I am there. Sad really
This is the reason why I turned down the job offer in Korea. Discrimination and sexual assaults against foreigners are the true face of SK, I don't feel comfortable at all when I'm there. It's funny how people watch kdrama and kpop and think Korea is the "perfect place"
@@zackwang9314 actually i don't blame them because korean media market themselves really well and unfortunately teenagers who have never been to korea are easily fooled by this media perception
In Korea the problem lies with the position of women in society, Korean women themselves don't get justice, so I can only imagine how awful it is for foreign women. Thank you for these survivors for telling their stories, especially what happened with the police and court systems. Hopefully things change. I don't hold out much hope though.
I live in Seoul and have been assaulted multiple times, but I was 'lucky' enough to never experience what they had experienced. I'm a strong woman with an attitude so whenever some man has tried to touch me or force himself on me, I'd punch him in the face or threaten him, hoping that the law won't end up working against me. Been here for a while and you'd think it's getting better with more foreigners coming and going... nope. These men only have a bigger pool to choose from. Try any foreign friendly dating application and you'll see that 'open minded' is the one thing Korean dudes there are up for. It's disgusting. I've also saved drunk Korean girls from being dragged to DVD bangs by strangers multiple times. If you're seeing someone being harassed on the street, don't hesitate and take action. Law won't help them, but you can. If not you, nobody else will.
To all the victims of sexual assault: I'm sorry you went through that and you didn't fail, you survived and you are very precious. Thank you for telling your story.
I really hope kpop fans and drama fans watch this video me my own self was so naïve thinking that Korean men were so innocent like in dramas but I grew up and things started revealing I’m glad I’ve learned this before traveling anywhere this is such a horrible experience to live….I feel so sorry for these women really hope they will be able to live happily after such a horrible thing
I mean I knew some atrocities that go on in that country even before I was a Kdrama and kpop fan and still is right now. Ik the red flags and pressure on what goes on there such as suicide, cults and superficial ideals especially in the entertainment industry of kdrama and kpop in there. I mean it still safe to fo there but just beware of the red flags in that coutnry or basically any country you visit . You can still enjoy the visit but beware of red flags. I mean I like South Korea but I dont like to live there because of its superficialty there
I don’t want to sound disrespectful or pick a fight but I am a Kdrama fan but I am not ignorant to what is happening all over the world…It can seem as if Anime fans etc are glorifying a country and think it’s Paradise..but don’t get fooled…they just like the good things which the country stands for....it is the same reason why people are visiting big cities like Paris or New York dreaming of a romance or stuff..wanting to see the city, eat Hot Dogs and croissants etc… People are not stupid but just don’t want to be constantly in fear and reminded of what sick people live in that country and what happens there. Yes I will inform myself prior to the travel but as saidthat happens in EVERY country in this world..even in Germany where I grew up.. So please stop accusing Kdrama watchers, Anime fans of ignorance..if you want to do that do the same to Bollywood lovers, Oktoberfest Tourists, Dubai enthusiats, American tourists etc
@@fsmithh well, K-pop and Kdrama kind of idealize Korean men. So I do think social media plays a part. I do believe many ppl go to Korea with high hopes but facts are Korea is not a paradise like the Kdrama depicts.
I went to school in the states as an international student. Among us students, we were warned that korean guys often bragged about how many girls they had sex with and it was some kind of a competition among them. I had had a lunch or a coffee with my Korean classmates and almost always they wanted to be invited to my apartment after the casual meal. I always said no but I was appalled how persistent they were and didn’t take a no for an answer.
I want to say this I'm American and my first time was by rape I was 17 years old and never had a rape kit or help in my personal experience I was assaulted for three hours made to shower and the rapist called my mom to pick me up this can happen to anyone anywhere in the world
When I lived in Korea for 7 years, one time a guy followed me home and tried to enter my house. The second guy stopped his car next to me as I walked home and demanded I get into his car, so I fled. Guys would come up to me every other day and ask "how much" because they assumed I was a prostitute because I was foreign. My last experience was the most frightening: a guy broke into my apartment and sorted my underwear by color and left it on my bed while I was away. I'm so glad that these women are brave enough to say something. There seems to be a perception in Korea among men that foreign women are promiscuous
friend of mine show me a raw video from Korea, white lady get train by bunch of Korean guys the video was 10 hours long they recorded them self kidnapping a foreigner & dragged her into van & humiliated tf out of her. tied her hands brought her to empty abandoned buildings start doing things to her it was messed up couldn’t finish watching it 🫣🤦🏽♂️
Working in Korea left a bad taste in my mouth. The groping, photos, and nasty sexual questions were not foreign to me while living there. Korean women were very unhelpful as well, looking annoyed when trying to explain the situation to them. I will never set foot in that country ever again.
anyone who grew up with koreans woulda told you that easily. its amusing to me seeing all these women with these kdrama fantasies going to korea and getting a rude awakening.
@@stuka80 Agreed no more. Based on their fantasies from K Drama, they will even advocate that Korean language is the most beautiful language in the world. None other languages that can be compared with the beauty of Korean language. I mean their comments are simply disgusting to my eyes.......
@@The_EclecticSkepticno it’s not a lot of these women go with the delusion that Korean men are perfect only to find out they’re worse than men from their own countries
It’s so frustrating to me to see how apathetic South Korean society seems to be towards human rights violations and how much Koreans and foreigners alike suffer for it.
Yea you should see how the families are. Society is reflected by the family and vice versa. Never talking about things that are uncomfortable. Mental health is an absolute JOKE... As in "I'm the doctor [insert hierarchy bs seen in every aspect] take these meds and come back next week". Next week same bs. TALKING ABOUT YOUR ISSUES EVEN WITH MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS ARE PRACTICALLY NON-EXISTENT. Be aware there is NO HIPPA (PATIENT/MEDICAL PRIVACY) and your company gets your yearly physical health exam results before you do. Yes that includes psychological issues which is why many would don't go. Main point is Korea's has a SERIOUS problem with uncomfortable situations, and as such, the true concept of dialogue and transparency are just words without any substance. Even worse, the men are incredibly insecure as a good majority of their boomer fathers were abusive, overworked while coming home intoxicated, and of course openly visiting massage parlors. Is this a generalization? Yes. But tell me why it's never talked about at a societal level. I lived there for 8 years and worked in a Korean company. The avoidance culture is an epidemic. And the next worst thing is this social hierarchy. What may sound great as respecting elders becomes the gateway to a world where one has an unearned sense of superiority while another has an acceptance of subordination. What some Koreans say is "jeong" or a 'unique' sense of familial warmth may seem great but the reality is that it COMPLETELY ARTIFICIAL hierarchy which prevents an opportunity for an open dialogue on equal footing. Simply because of ones age, position, and as we see here gender and race. This also creates an environment where one always has to have the situational awareness "noonchi" that often encourages someone to actually NOT speak up, stand out, or just be different. This of course leads to a society which will not tolerate diversity. And NO it's not just race..so just because they curiously touch a black persons hair doesn't mean it's innocent and pure curiosity. There are LARGE fragments of citizens in Korea who are ostracized but barely anyone would acknowledge because they just do not have the capacity to know or accept these issues. It may sound harsh but I assure you that those single mothers, single N Korean refugee mothers, migrant workers, SE Asian women,... Hell might as well include the young girl without the right padding, or (heaven forbid) have dark skin, or (GASP*) choose NOT to be so obsessed with looking in a mirror. At one time I heard a NK refugee woman tell me that although in her home, it was the govt that forced her to look and dress a certain way , in SK the culture/society forces this plus much more and here the people willingly do this. For this woman it was just an observation as we were walking in Seoul...but it really reinforced my view that Koreans (and greater society) seems to wear a mask and not even know what it is to be without one. I often used to hear that Westerners (particularly Americans were more selfish). While that may be true, I often would tell them not to fool themselves. Many signs of consideration and "concern" are not one of altruism, but rather the need to prey and manipulate those vulnerable. Such devastating things have shown by plenty of perverted "oppas". In the end one should NOT be respected more simply bc of when and what they were born as. PERIOD.
You would think in a country where their own women were used as “comfort women” they would be more aware and willing to protect women, but it’s like the complete opposite there. You can’t even mention the word feminism over there it seems without being socially isolated and blackballed. Korea is nice to visit but I learned that I would never want to actually live there as a woman if I were single
Exactly. They really be blaming Japan's younger generation that have nothing to do with the sins of their ancestors to cover up their own mistreatment of women.
feminism is even worse look how it destroyed the western society created more anger and hatred with all the false rape accusations also would you please tell us your country would love to look at the stats of this crime free
@@merleevan4505 Completely separate topics. Japan doesn't teach their youth about the atrocities they've committed. They had our fucking statue dedicated to our country's comfort women taken down. But my people are so annoyingly patriotic though they're just as misogynistic.
@II Excuse me? I was talking about the hypocrisy of your people, just like what OP mentioned. If you know how terrible it had been for your ancestors then WHY, pray tell, do your people still treat women like this today???
@@SOA_yt Good that you're self aware. That trait is pretty rare to see on the internet. There are bad people no matter in which country, but that doesn't justify antagonizing a whole population for the sins of a few.
It's a piece of advice for you as a Korean man. Please don't go to clubs or bars in places like Gangnam, Hongdae, Itaewon, and Konkuk University! Etc... Not all the men who go there are bad guys, but all the bad guys in Korea gather there.
I still remember that case were a man raped a little girl basically everywhere, even the ears, and his prison time was reduced because when that poor girl was interviewed by the police she made the error to say that she smelled alcohol. From someone that was in Seoul only for six months: never NEVER say that you smelled alcohol on someone if they assault you, their sentence will be reduced, this only if the police will listen to you.
@@youxfail yeah it was fuckin terrible...they were ready to put him in prison for life until that poor little girl said thst she felt like she smelled alcool and in south korea being drunk is like an excuse fo everything, most cases are dismissed. The man got only 12 years...and the absolutely disgusting part is that he's already out and bought a house in the same neighborhood and the girl family doesn't have money to move.
My Chinese friend and I interned with a massive global firm in Korea, and she was breathtakingly beautiful. Her supervisor immediately started sexually harassing her - inviting her to office parties that turned out to be just him, touching her, pressuring her for sex, and it progressively worsened. We asked several different Korean team members in her office and mine privately what the process was to report this. Almost twenty separate Koreans (100% of those asked) told her to just ignore it. The reasons given ranged from 'it's just for a short time, you'll leave soon' and 'what if it effects your career' to my favorite - 'you might cause your teammates to feel uncomfortable and it will effect the team relationship.' Not one person offered support for stopping it. I got angry and called our program supervisor in the US and he immediately moved her to a new program and canceled the agreement with that firm for interns. But I was shocked. . . Even the women told her to just put up with it. **I should say that my persobal experiences were different. I lived and traveled in and out of Korea for almost a decade and the worst I got was a couple of taxi drivers cheating me. Most locals were absolutely lovely to me.
They literally believe that majority of women who “cry rape” are just using it as a weapon against men. And they think rape is not a big problem and that it’s the “feminists” that are overreacting.
Unfortunately it’s the media that painted the feminists as evil by showing the radical feminist movements and there’s a wide misconception as to what the true intentions of feminism is.
I'm a Korean girl and I know there are sick criminals out there. The police act as if they are NPCs of a game and you have to find all the avidence by yourself, unless it's murder or some. If you are all alone in here I suggest not going out until too late just because everyone's out. I bet they look for foreigners because they know non-Koreans can have trouble reporting them to the police. It's so disgusting but just be safe ;-;
My daughter was teaching English .first in Degu then seol . She had a problem in a club in seol with a man following her,shoving his phone in her face . In the end she snatched his phone and threw it across room . Some AMerican guys helped and she ran away to get a cab .the guy following her gave chase and had hold of her leg trying to pull her out . She ends up getting prosecuted for damage to his phone .she couldn’t understand what was going on ,she ended up paying a fine but had no idea what she was signing .Told she would be kicked out country if she put a foot wrong . They don’t care that these girls don’t understand what is being said . They treat foreign teachers badly
It's unfortunate that happened to her. It's more unfortunate that the creep wasn't punished. I'm curious on why your daughter decided to leave the company of the American men who helped her? You said the creep actually followed her after she left. I think she would have been safer with the guys who helped her.
@@Constellasian I think the American men held him and told her to leave . There will be more to story but I know she said that she got charged for breaking his phone ,she didn’t know what the police said ,the English teachers are not treated well
I came to Korea for temple stay in 2014, n while I was there, I shared a room with a Canadian woman who taught English. She told me not to go clubbing alone, not to drink soju with someone I don't know well, not to accept drinks from strangers (especially men), if using public washrooms, always be careful to check toilet cubicles for hidden cameras before pulling down my panty, not to leave my food/drinks unattended in a cafe if I need to use the washroom (better to just ditch your coffee than to risk having someone drug you)... She said South Korea has a very patriarchal culture n unlike in K-drama, many men don't respect women, so rapes, sexual assault n spousal battery are common even if under-reported. She told me to always be on my toes if I want to make my stay as pleasant as possible. Scared the shit out of me, but in a way it's good b/c I stayed vigilant throughout my visit to Korea. Then on a bus ride in Gwangju, I got scolded by an ahjumma for wearing body-fitting yoga pants b/c my sweater was not long enough to cover my hips. I was so angry at her meddling then... But looking back, she's advising me for my own good, b/c on bus n subway rides, there may be men who would try to grope my butt/groin if I didn't dress "conservatively" enough according to Korean standard. Funny... B/c K-pop girl groups often dress provocatively n wear very short skirts, which can be misleading to foreigners not familiar with Korean culture
Good tips that we should remember wherever we go. I plan to go there but will not go out and will just work, go out when necessary and then just stay home. Sounds boring but is a lot safer.
@Maxim Musa I think you are confusing "respect" with "admiration". EVERYONE deserves to be respected as a person (not hurt or harrassed in any way, treated politely and with dignity). Those who are exceptional deserve admiration (given special treatment like Olympic athletes and Nobel Prize winners). 🙂
I’m a Korean girl who lives in abroad now. While I watching this video, I was so surprised and feel sorry for my ignorance. Korea is the country which I had lived for more than 10 years but I have never heard about these cases.. It hurts my heart to imagine how difficult it must have been for a foreigner who has a language problem to go through the irrational investigation process that even Korean victims of sexual violence cannot understand. I really.. really hope that our country to recognize this problem so that every victim can don't let this happen again regardless their nationality.
According to the presentation at the Korea Women’s Development Institute’s 119th Gender Equality Policy Forum, 8 out of 10 South Koreans aged 19 to 34 viewed South Korea as “a hell,” while 7.5 out of 10 said they hoped to leave. A particularly large disparity between females and males was observed for fear of being victimized by crime: young women had a crime anxiety index rating of 2.66 out of four points. Young females were also the angriest with their average rating of 2.79.
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I live in Seoul currently and it’s gotten to the point where I basically refuse to go out with Korean men. Better safe than sorry. Women don’t matter in Korea, and foreign women are especially sexualized-to the point where Korean men will say being “sexually open minded is western culture.”
Unfortunately that’s the impression our media ,celebrities and Film industry have given. Basically western women are always up for a good time . This is really horrendous.
@@Lakeslover1 What you say is so wrong it seems like you try to excuse these guys by saying well it’s our fault because of western movies. No, movies are just movies they are not reality that why we call them movies and not reality shows. And also I’m pretty sure Korean people know that as they know that their country it’s not what kdramas portrayed to be,like first kiss after 5 months but they obviously play it dumb.
@@danaeddd2051 the media plays a rule but to give it 100% is dumb it's like saying those guys are brainless and just media controls them the problem is bigger than what westerns think or believe solution looks like but look into how western women are is 100% western media felt the rape issues is something else media plays part in it with sexual culture but not the whole image
@@danaeddd2051 Believe it or not, Kathleen isn't wrong. It's not an excuse. It's exactly right. This isn't a foreign idea, media plays a much larger role to developing these kinds of thoughts. Ever seen 21&Over? Super Bad? And all other college party films? Back when I was in college in America, the way guys viewed college girls went to extremes due to these films. It still does today. Pretty much the goal for guys in college is to get laid. Not all guys sure but many have this idea ingrained to their minds. Frat culture and toxic masculinity continues to plague in American colleges; especially party schools. For Koreans in this context, Hollywood films portray women as "sexually open" or "easy" hence many Korean men are brainwashed with that idea. Not all men, but it still creates a fantasy in their minds that they can lay with "easier western women who flaunt their bodies" before they get married. But this isn't just a Korean thing, you see this in other cultures too. I really wish to say that Korea is a great country. It has its charms. But we cannot have false ideas that it is a utopia. Even in countries that are rated as "the safest in the world" like Japan and Canada, you're never truly safe.
Korea seems a hell for woman. The justice system is not worthy of a democracy and treats victims like perpetrators and perpetrators like victims. My image of Korea has completely changed. Even as a man, I wouldn't want to live there.
I am Korean British and I always warn female British friends who visit Korea. They tend to travel with completely warped perspectives on romantic relationships due to K-Drama and K-Pop's propaganda.
Yup. During my first year in Korea, a guy I was on a date with dragged me into a motel. I kept trying to pull away and told him to let go. People passing by did nothing, they just kept walking. I later learned that Korean people don't normally get involved in domestic issues- even if they happen in the middle of the street. I later passed by a couple in the middle of an altercation- both were Korean. The guy was yelling and hitting his girlfriend and the girl just stood there crying. A crowd surrounded them, but no one did anything, they just watched.
@@bluemoon4944 South Korea does not have any Good Samaritan laws. If the people mentioned above intervened and ended up hurting the guy, they could get sued or have criminal charges up against them. They’re not sick, their legal system is.
Also there were cases of the girlfriends hitting the boyfriend's but boyfriend's couldn't do anything cuz police would protect them. I remember as female when i talked to some female and male Korean friends who told me these. Maybe four years ago? Not sure how it's now.
I've heard many stories about domestic violence issues among Korean men, but I was shocked to find out that it's actually true. In Japan, we've had serious problems with some Korean visitors (mainly men) being rude and disrespectful at shrines and temples. It got so bad to the point that one Shinto priest finally ended up putting up a sign saying, 'No Koreans on this property.
To make the victim reenact the whole crime is like putting them again on the same crime scene. I don't even want to imagine how much trauma it would have caused. I didn't expect this from such a developed country, especially people witnessing this much cruelty and ignoring because it's happening to a foreigner. How do these people face the mirror???
It's the same here in Japan, and the police is similar to South Korea's. There's a lot of victim blaming and they often side with the Japanese national. If you defend yourself and physically attack your aggressor, they can go against you and sue you instead. 🤷🏻♀️🙄
And they always say respect is top in the korean society the junior senior relationship the respect they have for strangers whats the point for all that if they cant even help someone out.
The first time I met a Korean guy was in Japan when I was studying there. We would casually hang out and I starting feeling that something was off when we started drinking together. Once while playing a game, we made a bet and I said jokingly that I’d do anything he’d ask me for. Little did I know that he would very seriously ask for a sexual favor, which I obviously declined. He got extremely angry and verbally abused me publicly. A few weeks later he brought this talk back, slammed me against a wall and tried to force himself onto me. Scary bastard. Overall the guy had no respect towards women, and what shocked me the most was that he had many female friends who all saw him in a positive light. I tried warning them but they would remain as his friends, even when he’d call them w**res in public for no reason.
@@elodieelvira7913 We used to live in the same school dorm, I bumped into him in the corridor. I don't think there's anything wrong with me. No need to be agressive.
@@Khaphoo hey, i wanted to tell you that I feel very sorry for what happened to you and especially for the comments here, wtf is wrong with these ppl victim blaming you??? You did NOTHING wrong and you are NOT AT FAULT for what happened to you, please don't let these sh*tty people here influence you! Sending love ❤
I'd like to add that the statement "I'd do anything you ask me for" could easily be interpreted as an invitation or confirmation when the guy was looking for that. I don't know how the situation was, so I'm speaking more generally. What I mean is, that when someone is interested in another person, they don't directly ask for sex. Instead, they probably approach the situation gradually, making attempts to get closer and interpreting signals to see if the interest is mutual or not. Given that, especially if the guy was filled with hope, the quoted part could be seen as confirming all hopes only to shatter them right after. That doesn't excuse anything, of course. It is however important to be aware that with the unequal relationship between men and women in this regard misinterpreted signals, even without any ill intend, can lead to bad or even horrible experiences. So it would be good to always be aware that the other may be trying to interpret everything you do in hope of a confirmation. He may even misinterpreting the slightest possible hint if only he is desperate enough. I hope my intention is clear - I'm not victim blaming you or anyone. The guy is an a*hole and you are not at fault for anything. I just think it's important to be aware that a guy may try to interpret any interactions between you for a confirmation to get closer. While it may be very clear for you that you have never done anything to indicate interest, in the guys head that may be different and he may not be aware of how much his mind tricks him to think you did. Nothing can turn you back into a hormone driven animal like the sex drive. Of course one should work against that, but you never know how much someone is successful, or even willing to do so. If anyone disagrees feel free to free to share your thoughts. :)
@@PedoThaBear I get what you mean and it explains certain issues we have in our society very well. Only part missing IMO is maybe a solution to the problem.
I have been raped and molested in my own country and I felt like I was the one at fault but after I felt so upset and this was a co worker that was offering me a ride home. And it turned into a nightmare. Women please, keep safe an please, speak out about it.
@@StaryzHeliosNo thanks dude ...who said they are safe ?? We have not seen cases because girls have no rights there just like in Korea police administration is not registering the cases of girls that's why in Korean society cases are not highlighted same happens in Islamic countries or worst . They get married with their own sister WTH.
In 2019, I got sent to the police station in Seocho because I drunk man in the street tried to attack me. They let him go and kept me at the station until the following day. Not one person spoke English. A complaint was made by my company and the following week, they made a formal apology and advised they would get employ English speakers. I went back in 2022 and once again another issue and got sent to the same police station, where they locked me up for 14 hours. Nearly four years later and still not one English speaker working there. I don’t believe a word of what this guy says!
Till now July 2024 still don't have English translator but offer Chinese speaking translator instead. recently My family and i are victims of crimes. Made a police report and wait for their prosecutor to contact us.
20 years ago when I was traveling in Europe I was at the same room at the youth hostel with a group of Korean girls my age. I asked them what they love most about Korea and they said food, family, places they like... I asked them what they hate most about Korea and they all said together - the guys!!!!!
same tbh. I've always thought that Korea was a beautiful country, still do, but this video also changed my view on the country as well. (mostly the men) I am aware that not every single Korean man is like this, but I don't wanna be on guard 24/7 in a place where I wanna visit if yk.
My first visit to Korea, I was seated on a bus and had an ahjussi sit beside me. He kept moving closer until I was squashed up against the wall and suddenly he was groping my chest - it was painful and unexpected, I was so shocked. There is this unspoken rule that foreigners are looked upon as noisy and troublesome and that we shouldn't make a scene because it will piss people off, so I got off the bus but he followed me. I'm lucky it was my actual stop and I was meeting a friend, her son called out my name and ran towards me so the ahjussi took off. I told my friend what happened and she said, 'If that happens again, scream. Make a noise. The bus driver will be forced to hold the guy until the police arrive.' As a foreign resident, sadly, I don't have much faith in the police here. They always blame the foreigner. Besides, people on the bus saw it happening. Except for one middle school student who looked scared, the rest looked at me like I was filth.
I had a similar experience at a bus stop, an old man kept coming closer to me and like licking his lips at me and I just like, kept taking steps in the other direction. Luckily, an ahjumma screamed at him and told him to go away so he did. I was lucky that this lady didn't just ignore the situation.
@@beasttitanofficial3768 i had that to in germany i random dude looked my way i looked him in the eye he smiled creepy sat himself to me grabed my chest i was scared he known that i told him nicely to remove his hand i grabed his from my chest a older woman saw this stood up ad sayed to that asshole to leave me alone since im a nice person the bus driver than stood up asked me if everything was alright they guy akward left the next Station in the bus and left i was glad for the older woman to interfere help me out i invited her to cake and cofee as thank you she was brave for stood up for me
@@beasttitanofficial3768 i keeped calm and didnt Made a drama out of it but i dont like it if someone touch my chest it friggin hurts and is uncomfortable but i was teached not to slap others or hit be agressive do i dealed peaceful with it and i had luck the universe did helped me out but deciding the nice older lady to help me
This takes me back to a popular club in Seoul where men dragged me and my friend around like we were just ‘objects’ despite us saying we weren’t interested they kept literally pushing us around and nobody listened to us when we asked for help.
I'm more irritated when certain 'influencers' travel to Korea and push this idea that everyone NEEDS to move to Korea if they want a better life. These are dangers these influencers are aware of, but don't speak about to their viewers because they would rather sell the aesthetic than the reality. I heard one of those travelers on TikTok say, 'well, yeah, sexual assault is there but women have separate spaces they can go to so it's not that bad'. My blood pressure was through the roof!
I know a few yt channels where girls are European and their husbands Korean and they always talk so highly about Korea. I was following these channels for 2 - 4 years until this moment and not EVEN ONCE did I hear by any of them mention this problem. They even brought their families to show how Korea is cool, modern and safest place of all where even burglary isn't happening. British girl, Macedonian girl, Russian girl and Ukrainian girl... There are more that I don't follow, but for these ones, I can tell because I watched tons of their content through years.
Unfortunately it seems that at this point in time there is NO support for the (foreign) women who are victims of sexual assault. It is my understanding the even the organizations listed in this video are simply collecting data rather than providing the important and necessary services victims sorely need. Doctors are not always willing to see them - why? Are they afraid to become involved in court cases to provide evidence of rape? Psychologists, lawyers and such are costly. Victims cannot afford them. Female police officers, detectives, investigators - where are they and why do they seem to look down on the victim as if it's her fault? Why are the rapists being freed after investigation only to become repeat offenders? Is it because of the delay in reporting of the incident therefore there is scanty evidence of a crime? Korea is sorely behind the times in helping victims. Is it because of a general attitude that women are less than men? There is MUCH that needs to be improved in Korea to help ALL women victims of sexual assault.
Don’t forget as a foreigner the embassy has power to press them chin-ups who act as if they don’t want to do there job but don’t sit back and not say anything speak up I need to hear the volume hold those chumps accountable
The Embassy should get made aware of crimes committed on women in foreign countries.The Military has MPs and Shore Patrol to keep their people in line.
yes people need to know korea is not all rainbow and happiness. I went to korea in 2016 and I stayed at a hotel. Not a motel. A proper well known hotel (an higher end hotel) and I noticed a small red light from the TV at first I thought it is just the TV light because TV in the front have that light but I look closer to it and touch and and sure enough there was a spy cam on the TV. Nothing happened to me be I felt violated and disgusted as I change in front of the TV many times so I went to the police right away and report it and the police say they will look for it. And I ask who will be held responsible for it and they say the hotel is not held responsible because there is not much evidence who put the camera there. So I ask then nothing will be done to it? And they said yeah nothing can be done. And I ask then should other hotel guest know about it? And the police assured me saying they want to other guest to know about the situation. Then I went back to the hotel to collect my things, the hotel managers pretended nothing happened and didn't say anything and didn't look me in the eye. There was no compensation or anything. I paid the 5 night hotel fee and left. But I still want to make sure of the other guest know about it because I don't believe the hotel so the very next day I wore a black cap and went back the hotel and stayed there then I waited for a guest on the same floor and when they open the door I ask if they know about the situation and the guest said "No! No one told me anything!" And she was shocked and disgusted then both of us went down and confront the hotel but the hotel called the police and called me trespassing and somehow I was sent to the police and I didnt pay anything or go to jail or anything but they slap me with a warning that if I go there again I will have to go to jail. And I was like for real? Not only you lied to me saying you will tell the guest because thats the least you can do and I'm trespassing? To this day the hotel is thriving and no news of it being on the news and I'm disgusted. This is speculation but I feel like the hotel know something about it as it is in the TV I don't think someone can easily put it in the TV because it was specifically put there
Like Flower I was raped and am pregnant. I’ve decided to keep my baby. I had a previous abortion and almost lost my life. Figured I’m damned both ways.
Can you talk about this more because unfortunately these Democrats want to act like abortion is just the answer to everything when they don't talk about the health risk that come along with getting an abortion and also the mental problems that you will have from having an abortion please share your story on UA-cam because getting an abortion is not the f****** answer not always
This is horrible. As a Korean, I am so upset with how Korea is such an advance in technology, yet the social structure and view on women is just so antiquated and mysogynistic. Wake up Korean men! My Korean dad was a terrible abuser of me and my mother, also.
Well you can't do anything when your society still believe a stupid ideology like Confucianism, for Korea to move forward they have to say fuck off to Confucianism.
I know SO many Korean people who have horrible abusive fathers😭 i have never met a Korean who has a good father. Everyone seems to have disgusting fathers I am so sorry for that…omg why is it like this
@@roselamoure I also know someone although who grew up in the U.S. is ethnically Korean. This person's father treated his wife like a slave just because she is female and traditionally, women are expected to serve the husbands in Asian Confucian culture. This person is super progressive and I imagine that witnessing this blatant gender power imbalance in the household growing up prompted her to shift left socially...which makes complete sense.
“Not all Koreans are rapists.” “Every country has its bad apples.” FFS THIS IS FREAKIN' RIDICULOUS! Nobody said ALL Korean men are rapists BUT rape cases in S.Korea is getting worse! People needs to talk about it more! This comment section giving me headaches... Even Korean people I know kept telling us to not trust KDramas and KPop wtf.
But how South Koreans react is the main problem. They think of themselves very high and discriminate against people from another country. This is true that Not all Koreans are same but recognising and admitting the problems with them and their country is very important. Being shameless is the main problem.
Don't think Korea is perfect and safe believe us believe the people who lived in Korea when they say it's not safe no place is 100 % safe. It's actually dangerous for foreigners. Be safe be careful
@@Scho-penhauer Other countries is broad. Is Korea safer than Afghanistan, yes it is. Is Korea safer than Belgium? I don't think so. To be safer than Belgium, it would mean no crimes are committed in Korea..That people are not running up and down shooting like US is probably what qualifies as safe. Try telling that to someone stabbed to death in Korea.
@@Whiplæsh Your link proves that South Korea has the highest rape rate in East Asia. It is nearly ten times higher than other East Asian countries. There is a Western woman commenting in the comment area. She said that all countries in the Confucian cultural circle are like this. Just so I can quote your link to fight her back. Obviously South Korea, and Christian countries have the highest rape rate (South Korea is also a Christian country). 😂
@@淮阳子 It's because of k-pop and kdrama people are defending them...That imaginary "too good to be true"stuff shown in the movie actually makes people believe that it is the reality there....i am myself a k-pop fan but not a blind one...And btw every country has problems...I can't name a single country where women are completely safe...
How can the public see what was happening to one of the ladies and not intervene I think that’s disgusting…. On any level you can’t excuse that behaviour….. foreign or not you don’t have the right to touch anyone with out their consent…
With the popularity of kpop, there are tons of people who hold an idealised vision of South Korea and want to visit for that very reason. I hope this helps raise awareness of South Korea’s reality, there’s dark side to everything. I hope there’s progressive change where victims - both men and women - of sexual abuse and sexual assault can get their rightful justice. sexual assault and sexual abuse is never taken seriously in the court of South Korea. The disgusting misogyny that runs deep is sadly a reality of many nations. Praying for the victims, they’re so brave to speak up about this. I only wish and pray the best for you all. So heartbreaking to hear and read the abuse you all went through. You’re not alone🫂
I know a girl who is American who moved to Korea around 8 years ago. She has posted several times about the sexual harassment and SA she’s dealt with while leaving there. Mind you she’s an Asian. Definitely was eye opening the stories she mentioned, and making it aware Koreans will grab at you.
My friend told me she was raped when she’d studied abroad in Korea. I thought it was a one off case but i would’ve never thought it was so wide spread.
It happened to me 2 weeks ago. I went to a very tiny pub in front of our university with my friends. We didn't drink much but while sitting next to an unknown guy i left my drink unattended for a few seconds. After just 1 drink I slowly stated, losing consciousness. after which he starting touching my hands and brought me closer to him. My male friend saw this happening and immediately asked me to leave the pub (which i have no memory of, i was already out of consciousness). Suddenly that guy started pushing my friend strongly and held his hand. Seeing this my female friend rushed to stop him and along with her two unknown korean women who were also looking at us came to stop him. He got startled and left my friend's hand. The two unknown girls warned him and took me to my home along with my friends. Immediately as we left the pub, that guy kept calling my phone 15 times until the korean girls scolded him and blocked him(even though I didn't give him my number, i just gave him my phone for a moment to use Google translate before I had my drink as I couldn't understand what he kept saying to me in Korean. He acted very respectfully in the beginning). I literally have no memory of the night, i am very thankful to the unknown girls who saved me that night. This really made me feel it was up to me to be carefull because such assholes will always be there.
@@blackwater7183 Why do you think that it happened to her after watching this video? She just told her story and nothing more. Are you one of these disguasting Korean maniacs?
@@elenamedvedeva3684 What if I was a Korean but not a maniac you racist bastard. So you think Koreans are disgusting? Wow! wooow! Are we back in the 1940's? Should I go sit at the back of the bus now? Sorry ma'am I didn't know this was a white only drinking fountain.
@@blackwater7183The Korean men defending the pr3det0rs is gross. Have you read the comments? This has nothing to do with the 1940s/the sensitive topic of r@c!sm, you are taking Elena’s comment too far and I say this as someone from Germany. The previous comment you made sounded like you were defending the bad Korean men who did this to foreign women.
@@Ludwig_Himmler I'm not Korean or a maniac. I've been to Germany and it seems like you guys never learned anything from WW2. Your people are still xenophobic racist bastards. You will never know what's it's like to be discriminated just because of the color of your skin! Time will come when your people get punishment exactly what's due to them.
I'm very ashamed as a Korean, but also!! Since I am a Korean, I will do my best to prevent incidents such as violence against foreigners. once again! As a Korean, I would like to express my apology on behalf of you.
Truly sickening. The victims are so brave & courageous. If saying a word of "sorry" is enough to help a tiny bit of their trauma to be vanished, Im so sorry. Their presence show of how great they are as victims (and warriors) holding themselves together with a hope of justice and not only for themselves, but for the sake of other women/men too. Hopefully the systems will fix and prevent things like this ever happen again. Horrifying, absolutely horrifying.
Unfortunately this doesn’t surprise me even a tiny bit! Sexual harassment is extremely common in Korea, it‘s also connected to the fact that sexism is still very big in Korea and there is low respect for woman. Men think they can do whatever they want to females and there are many creepy and perverted guys in Korea. They are actually exactly like animals nothing less. Not trying to say that they are all bad but I would be extremely careful. In Korea having male friends who are actually kind and good is kinda rare and they always want to date you. I can’t imagine how terrifying the nightlife is there but I will never ever experience the nightlife in Korea anyways. I‘m glad that I have anxiety and grew up in a strict and conservative family where I was never really allowed to do anything. I‘m so sorry that this happened to these woman it must be incredibly disgusting and horrible to go through this but I applauded their bravery and that they bring this issue up more to the surface and that this will be talked about! The police is really shitty in Korea and as a foreigner they will absolutely do nothing when something like this happens to you since they don’t care much about foreigners! All I can say is be careful everyone. Korea is not what you see in dramas and don’t get fooled. The men there are exactly as shitty as the men in other countries. Be careful where you go, with who you go and who you befriend. I personally will definitely not go to any club or club district when I visit Korea. It‘s to dangerous and not enjoyable anyways because they just want seggs and nothing else. Be careful ladies.
That's too bad that they have such an issue with perverts. I've heard stories from friends that many Korean guys just wanted to sleep with them. And they love to ghost you. BTW what are seggs?
pollice is shitty? shut up I was like in 2019 3am in korea and I had a guy who was chasing me I start running he start running to likely in high school I was sprint runner and very active so I was faster I encounter pollice and asked hem help me places and they sad something to the guy and he left they even drive me to my house with was pretty far so Korean police is very good
@@allenk6373 calm down. Everyone's experience is different . Meanwhile Korean friends tell me police has no power . So everyone has different opinion on that it seems
I love Seoul and I have been living on and off there since 2011. But living there changed a lot of my behavior because of sexual harassment or things I got taught from my Korean friends to keep myself save. I heard from every single foreign girl I know (and in 11 years you get to know many girls) that they have been followed/stalked by at least one Korean guy. I was followed home at night (but decided to go to a 24h coffeeshop near my home instead , to not show that person where I live), I was stalked online for over 2 years (I got daily messages from the same person, trying to figure out what I was doing and where I was - I didn't respond once, but he still keeped going). In 2011 I went to a really crowed club and a guy grabbed me from behind and put his hand down my dress. I elbowed him really hard and got free that way. Since then I never wore a dress or skirt to a club again. There were a few situations were guys tried to get me to go home/ to a Hotel with them, but I luckily could escape safely. I'm pretty tall and I also speak Korean almost fluently, that also helped me in many situations. Some things I learned while living in Seoul that might help people there: - My korean friends always make sure to write each other the plate number of the taxis they take and they make sure that they message/call each other when they arrive home. A lot assaults are happening in taxis. In order to keep save try to do something similar with your friends. - Watch your drinks. Honestly this is sadly a thing you should do in every country in the world if you are female. - Always go clubbing with reliable friends, that will watch you and help you if needed. - Never show anyone you barely know where you live. Many Korean guys offer to take you home, it's a polite thing to do, they wanna make sure that you get home save most of the time. But still be careful who you show where you live. - Watch out for 물카s(hidden cameras) in public bathrooms and Motels. Even through many public bathrooms are super clean in Korea, I try to avoid using them. There are a bunch of videos on UA-cam on how to spot these Cameras. - When you are spending more time than a short holiday in Korea, try to get to know basic Korean that helps you to call for help and call out people directly so they can't ignore you. - Speaking Korean will also help you to ask your Korean friends for advice in some situations you are not sure about. Koreans tend to word things different and less direct then some western country's do. If you are unsure of someones intentions, try to ask a Korean friend about it. There are also a many Koreans that are fluent in English. Its a bit harder to find them, but there are ways (like meet ups and so on). It took me a lot of time to find good friends that will always be there for me and stand up for me no matter what, but it is definitely possible. - Be also aware of foreignes in Korea. I have experienced quite a lot of harassment from foreign guys living in Korea as well. In one situation my friend and I had to ask some Korean guys to pretend to be with us in order to get away. - Be careful where you go out at night. I used to avoid certain areas and clubs ( for example I learned to avoid many itaewon clubs, because a lot of Koreans are looking for foreigners in these clubs). Speaking Korean I try to go to clubs where people wouldn't necessarily look for foreigners. - Also be careful with Koreans that are obsessed with foreign girls. There is still this idea of "riding the white horse" in Korea and foreign women are often fantasized by many Korean man (same for western guys who have this idea about asian woman). They think foreign girls are easy going and easy to get. So if there are any red flags, rather stay away. - If anything happens to you, call the police right away! Also if you have friends that speak englisch and Korean try to get them to help you translate! Everyone has different experiences, but I so far had only good ones with the Korean police. Calling the police is always scary (especially if its you first time - I never had called the police before, even in my home country-.-), but often they are friendly and try to help you.
@@tellallyourfriends27 Because its fun going dancing with your friends. I had many fun experiences (for example: one time I ended up on a private party of GDragon) and I only had one really bad experience in a club in Korea, the one I described before. Other than that, nothing super bad ever happened to me. A few situations made me feel uncomfortable, but I made sure to leave before anything could have happened. My mom always made sure to teach me what to look out for when I go out and how to protect myself (like going with friends that will look out for me, watching my drink all times, knowing self-defense and how to say no directly and so on) + I barely drink alcohol and therefore never get really drunken. The problem with Korea is, that it feels pretty safe and the image of KDramas and Kpop Idol behavior makes many foreigners be less careful. There are many nice and decent guys in Korea, not everyone is bad. Just be careful like you would in any other country or place as well when you go out and try to avoid people that specifically are looking for foreigners.
Thank you for your advice dear ❤ it's sad that things are like this way... it's exhausting to be a woman sometimes because there is no country were we aren't 100% safe... we have to take care 😢 btw when you say that some korean men have fantasies with foreign women you mean like any kind of foreing women or white women? I read the thing about "to ride the white horse" but that's directed to white women I think?
한 남자로써 말하건데. 우리 들의 부끄러운 이야기지만, 자꾸만 묻어둘것이 아니라, 많이 양지로 끌어내서 공론화 되서, 약자를 보호하는 사회가 됐으면 합니다. 그리고 이런얘기를 제가 한 20년전부터 들었었거든요, 그런데 아마 많은 사람들이 당하고 있을겁니다. 부당한 것들에 'No' 라고 말할수 있고 약자를 보호할수 있는 용기가 있는 남자들도 많기를 바랍니다. 저를 비롯해서요. 참 비디오도 좋고 내용도 좋네요. 이렇게 많은 피해자들이 나와서 얘기하는 용기에 박수를 보냅니다. 그리고 너무 너무 맘이 아픕니다.. 앞으로도 이런 약자들을 보호 할 수 있는 많은 사람들이 있기를 바래요. 법제화도 되고요. 약자를 보호해야죠.. 이 가부장적인 남성주의 사회도 문제구요. 여성을 존중할수 있는 사회가 만들어지기를 바랍니다. 어렸을때부터 교윳을 해야죠. 여자가 '싫다' 라는 말을 존중하는 것부터요.. 아 맘아픕니다.
You are right. I will add that Korean society must protect all individuals, as any civilized country would. It's crazy to see that Korea considers people differently because they come from a foreign country. A woman or a man is a human being. The problem of rape exists in all countries. Every man who rapes someone should feel ashamed. Countries should differ in how they deal with victims. Victims are currently considered guilty. It is shameful.
No somos débiles Somos personas Y lo que hace falta es respecto Un no es un NO!! Una mujer no se toca si ella no quiere Como te sentirías sobre manosea un hombre a ti en el bus? O si te besa?? No es cosa de debilidad Es respetar límites No quiero que se me proteja como una débil mujer Quiero mis derechos y punto
As a Korean woman, I am so ashamed how men from my country could ever do such things to women, even if they’re not Korean. I am so sorry to all of the people to go through something like this. I remember going to a night club for the first time on my friend’s birthday. I was 19 years old going to a hongdae club with bunch of my friends. I just wanted to have fun. But some random dude started to hug me behind and slowly tried to lift up my shirt. I tried to prevent him from going too far and next thing he tried to do, he tried to kiss me. He kept saying to my ear saying ‘it’s ok. It’s ok.’ I was not ok. I avoided the kiss and I typed in the notes saying ‘I don’t speak Korean’ to him. He saw that and took off. I felt so scared and my anxiety started to go up little by little. My girl friend took me outside for some fresh air. She told me that ‘random men will come up to you and touch you whichever club you go to.’ This was the first and last time I ever went to a night club. I told my 2 closeted friends about this incident and they comforted me. Now I’m 26 and it’s been 3 years since I left Korea. My co workers and friends from Korea would always ask me why I don’t have a boyfriend and my answer is ‘I don’t want one because I like being single.’ My co workers would tried to take me to bars and find a guy for me but I told them that I just wanted to go home and sleep. It’s gets annoying but I don’t want to cause any problems since they are all older than me.
Yeah even when drunk in Mexico and dancing with drunk American college guys wearing a bikini and shorts, I wasn't even groped so I'm astonished at the absolute lack of shame those dudes in clubs have.
도대체 무슨 일이 일어난건가요?? 길거리에서 당하고 있는데도 아무도 도와주지 않았다니.. 너무 슬픕니다.. 같은 한국인으로서 정말 미안하다고 말하고 싶어요.. 많은 시스템이 바뀌어야 한다는 것을 느낍니다. 한국에서 지내고 있는 외국인 여성분들이 안전하길 바라고 2차 가해가 일어나지 않길 바랍니다.
Start the change yourself. Live by the saying, "See something, say something, do something." It's heartbreaking the way korea deals with these cases and the lack of respect for victims.
When I lived in Korea two years ago as a foreign exchange student I got warned by fellow foreign exchange students about all dangers pretty much every night I went out. I even got invited to Facebook groups dedicated to specific parts in Seoul, for example Hongdae, in which pictures and information of Korean men were shared who were known for abusing women so that women knew to avoid them. It honestly blew my mind at the time. It was such a huge issue that all foreign women did their best to make everyone they met aware and to provide them with the tools to remain safe. It felt like such a tight knit community because everyone was so protective of each other. However, the community only existed because such a large portion of us had been hurt at one point that we did our best to protect the others.
I’ve lived in Korea and never heard of this Facebook community
You last statement is so heartbreaking, but makes me believe in humanity that you turned that pain into something good in the world. I wish I at least had this community when I was going through some things, so lots of respect to you and that community.
@@beaniies now you have
@@LeenSeoh 🍪
@@beot-kkot keep it for yourself. looks like you need it more than me 😊
If you're ever sexually assaulted, don't wash ANY parts of your body or clothes and preserve all evidence, such as condoms and toothbrushes. Do not use the restroom. Report to the police as soon as possible and get a sexual assault forensic exam within 72 hours of the assault.
True but in Korea it doesn't matter if you are a foreigner. The korean police mostly stays with their own citizens. I know some cases where a girl got chased at night and she called the police. They did nothing..
Depends on how good the country is at handling it. In some countries the police will just think it was consensual and you regretted it and just want to hurt the guys reputation.
@@CanopusLux oh my, i hope shes okey,.. Nobody help her? I love korea, my first time visit the country, i was all alone. Walking even in the night. I though it was safe because im confident about there CCTv.. I
Don't report to the police. It's better to go to an Emergency Room in a hospital and get urself a rape kit
This is an eye opener... Never knew that in such a modern country and with the great number of tourists they have, this is happening to foreign women... So disappointing...
Foreign woman are human beings NOT sex toys. Woman in general deserve respect and dignity. Korea really needs to teach the youth about consent and sexual health.
At least it isnt stone age were man and woman got ever killed or raped on numbers if a Country or villiage was attacked the primitive days to this modern days were dangerous in some countries you still have worldwide the stone age thinking not evolved at all
This is a Problem indeed woman and man died in history to be equal to the rich woman got imprisoned or tortured for their rights so man since believe it or not were was a time were the poor people had no rights at all in history
We still didnt evolved to stop violence the Problem is the diffrent personality of people were are agressive and non agressive people drugs and alkohol can change that too the Problem is kind natured people are always harmed on the oppiside people and fall to be victims thats a Problem humanity has
Animals get abused aswell so other humans etc the Problem is human we can be both good or evil or inbetween hmm
Because they see that in western media and that's how they interpret it.
That is correct. Many Korean guys, especially those who are attracted to foreign women, behave in this manner. Some even despise foreigners for not being able to communicate in their language. They have the mentality that they can do whatever they want to anyone, which can be nasty and harassing at times. South Korea's true dark side.
Yes that's right...
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Completely agree.. many cases as well of Korean husbands beating and abusing their foreign wives (many who are from Southeast Asia) because of the language barrier, cultural difference, feeling of superiority, etc… it’s really sad and unfortunate how this isn’t always talked about enough *and* don't even get me started on the issues that their half Korean children tend to face Even recently, there was a case where a kid was relentlessly bullied because his mother was from SEA; and this is just one case out of *many* ... reoccurring theme here...
@@blue3374 Nothing is talked about.... ever. That is the problem. This is why tv is full of banality and mukbang
@@dhaton2314 For sure~ it's not a surprise that many foreigners, especially those who haven't yet been to Korea before, end up having very unrealistic expectations and a one dimensional view of Korea when at the end of the day it's a real country dealing with actual problems, like anywhere else. Raising valid social critiques of the country aren't always listened to, especially if its raised by foreigners, and some Koreans also tend to have a hard time taking those critiques and instead equate it to "attacking the entire country and its people." Almost as if it's unpatriotic to point out such issues... no wonder change & progress is as slow as it is in Kr smh
Girls, Don't let the kdrama/kpop fool you. I mean this is beyond disgusting. My heart aches for these women. 💔
@@darthvader1793 most korean men are not rapists
@@darthvader1793 They are not stupid. Every country has bad and good sides.
A lot of foreign girls go to Korea under the influence of kdrama/pop thinking the men there are all act
like the protagonists in the dramas. 😅
@@Nini_Peris horrible excuse. leave women alone
@@Nini_Peris if these men get bullied, they should take revenge out on the BULLY. They should Not go around assulting random innocent women they have never met before. These men traumatized and ruined the lives of these ladies
As a Korean man, I feel embarrassed and horrible but I am glad it is talked about. I also want to commend these women for their courage. I can only imagine how hard it must have been. I've heard about it and I believe it exists but this is the first time I am witnessing that it is well put together and talked about on the public platform. I am not sure how to fix this because Korean society is men-centric and women's opinion is often ignored. This is a good start and very well put together. hope there will be more protection for these women and the future generations such as my two little kids. I hope many people including men will stand up for this and say no to unjust.
I've never been to Korea but a sober assessment - such as yours - tells me there is hope for Korea.
Thank you for your support it means a lot to us women, more than you know. The more men we have as our allies to fight such injustice and such issues not only in Korea but globally the more chance we have of decreasing gender inequality and femicide. I really believe it comes down to societies educating their men from a young age about respecting women and the importance of consent in all forms. We also need to help empower women. Especially in Korea where local women themselves find it so hard to speak up about such issues and standing up for themselves.
I believe men fighting by our side and calling out the bad guys is what will ultimately lead to things changing. I have almost been here 10 years and I have yet to see any drastic change in the system. If Korea wishes wishes become this global country and promote the culture to the world they have a LONG way to go when it comes to gender equality and human rights and they will have to do a MUCH better job of protecting ALL women. The entire justice system needs to be re evaluated , Korea needs more good women in leadership, the justice system and the police force to handle such cases. Again thank you for your support.
@@dhaton2314 Is it because of Confucianism? I've heard it again and again that Korea is the most Confucian nation in the world.
@@dhaton2314 Thanks for your reply. I worked in China and that's my thought exactly - no way it would happen in China. I've been hearing horror stories about Korea from various sources and it's really making me reconsider visiting the country, let alone working there.Yes, it seems Confucianism has no subtance underneath all the ''philosophy.'' Please share as much as you think you can here on this open line.
@@dhaton2314 Yeah. I know the UK well and what is going on in Korea deefinitely doesn't sound like the UK to me. Cheers, kind stranger somewhere on this planet!
The more and more I watch documentaries about South Korea the more I am convinced I don’t want to visit the country.
stay in your country , you are safe
Honestly js boycott SK because atp supporting a country that doesnt give a shit about half of its populace is crazy
Horrible misogyny hides behind the K-drama facade.
It's a beautiful place to visit for a couple of days but not live.
LOL! If your inclination is to judge an entire country by the crimes of a few, it is probably better off you do not visit.
I'm writing this as a foreigner currently in Korea. One month ago I was followed by a man while walking home. He kept trying to grab and kiss me but when I moved away, he pushed me to the ground, got on top of me, and began to strangle me. At that point I just felt like I was dreaming. It wasn't until I looked up and watched people pass by and ignore the situation that I truly felt scared and hopeless. Fortunately in my case, somebody eventually called the police but they only took me home and let the man go, telling me that it's up to me to make a police report. When I tried reporting it to my school, the advisor looked at me and said "are you really going to report it to the police and make a big deal about this?" It felt very isolating and invalidating. I havent slept in weeks and im failing all of my classes now. Im just waiting to go home.
Edit: I genuinely want to thank every single person for your kind words, prayers, and support. I wanted to get my story off of my chest but I didn’t think anyone would read it. I’m back in my home country now and I’m doing better. Thank you💛
Also when I wrote I felt like I was dreaming, I meant in the sense that I was paralyzed and wasn’t able to react because I was in shock, it didnt feel real
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Go to the embassy and tell them ur situation!! I’m sorry that happened to you 🥺 planning to study there in fall 2022 and I’m scared of a situation like this.
U better leave that country…the comment section is the biggest proof.
@@angelflorence thank you so much. Im trying really hard to continue my studies because i was supposed to graduate this year. Im going home soon fortunately but its just so hard to focus on anything lately
That's terrifying... to first go through that then have people tell you it wasnt a big deal?? You could've died, jfc! Hopefully when you get home you can confide in people close to you, maybe go to therapy and begin healing. Don't worry about the studies rn, you're a human not a machine, it's okay to be "unproductive" after traumatic events! Wishing you everything good
No matter which country you're in, as long as you're a female, always be cautious about your surroundings and the people around you. Never ever let your guard down. Because predators literally exist everywhere.
Thats true but some men become rape victims to
So i say for any gender be careful outside
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Not if the man in question has more brute force, no
Sadly, the difference in strength between both genders is what makes woman more vulnerable to sexual violence in this society.
@@xavier6887 hmm depends
Korea MUST do more to protect women. If they want to be seen as a leading country, then they must ensure that ALL people have access to their human rights. Not just men. No excuses.
Unfortunately, the president-elect has decided to shut down the ministry of gender-equality in order to get votes from privileged 20 something men. Women's right is expected to regress
I don't see that happening any time soon. The majority of young Korean men are against feminism. I've heard that this year's Korean presidential election is hugely influenced by anti-feminist voters. There is a reason for Korean women to avoid marriage to Korean men. Even, I've decided not to get married to a Korean man since I've seen my dad's possessive and verbally abusive behavior towards mom so many times. I wish I can give advice to those who are planning to marry Korean men that they should meet their fiance's parents and observe the fiance's fathers' behaviors towards mothers beforehand and that they should ask what the fiance's ideal marriage life is. Especially, they should make sure that the men they are marrying to are emotionally independent of their parents. There are still quite a lot of men in South Korea who depend on their mothers to make decisions for their lives. Wives get really miserable when they are on bad terms with their husbands' mothers and when their husbands put their mothers first over them.
@@Holiday-qu8vu I heard the opposite
the women is someone that control men and man cant really say shit
this is why men are trying to marry forenoon women they are not that demanding
Women internationally are being sold this image of the Korean man and South Korea by the hallyu wave which is a fake image. Please stop romanticizing SK. It is a very xenophobic and patriarchal society. Westerners who think they can practice their equal rights rhetoric there should just stay home. The foreign women here as much as I sympathise for their ply was whining about the lack of English speakers blah blah blah. The Koreans speak Korean. Pick up the language skills or remain in your country. Korea has improve economically by leaps and bounds but their country was pretty xenophobic. Korea war did not help that. When I went to South Korea in the 90s, they do not allow foreigners into their night life establishments even if you are with a Korean friend. You will get a sideward glance when you take public transport because you speak in a foreign language which is English.
@@Holiday-qu8vu very valid questions and not just for Koreans but all future marriage prospects too!
Remember guys when you are in any foreign country and you face discrimination by locals and law authorities. The embassy of your country is your best friend.
if you face violence and discrimination don't be nuts and back to where you belong, in your country where you was born, right?
Not my embassy as they are well known that they do nothing and you need to fend for yourself.
Embasy doesn't help in anything, they are the worst ever..they never listen or deal with anyone or any problems.
@elenabob4953 which embassy what happened to you? Just put it out here,It can help some of us.
nah embassies don't do anything
Women in general seem like second class in Korea. I'm half Korean and think the justice system in general is trash. Also the "don't get involved " mentality is gross. You see someone getting harassed or attacked you must step in. Get help. Do something. I'm sure it's not just foreign women but also Korean women are being sexually harassed daily and assaulted often. The mentality needs to change towards women. The judicial punishments must me more harsh. I'm in no way saying everyone in Korea is like this because that's not the case. If you see something, say something. Be safe everyone.
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@Z Citizens don't carry guns in South Korea.
@Z …in korea? Bruh, be serious
Child rapists walk away free so, why would you think they would take women being raped seriously?
As a Korean female, I’m glad these issues are coming to light. People see Korea as a perfect kdrama fantasy land, when in fact, it’s a harsh patriarchal society that doesn’t value the opinion of women.
Ever since I was little I’ve been told how much sons were preferred to daughters. How sons get away with doing anything, but I get scorned at the tiniest mishap. How my grandma keeps telling my mother how much she wanted a grandson. How my uncles and male cousins and to an extent my dad ignore every comment I make and input I try to give - just because I’m female, and I wouldn’t know better apparently.
I hate the consumerism, I hate how much beer, soju and makgeoli they drink - becoming rude, annoying, horrible people but no one bats an eye (saying that it’s normal for men to essentially drink themselves to death… literally every Korean ahjussi I know has liver issues), I hate how close minded some people are, and I hate how all women - especially foreign women as shown in this video - are treated as second class, and their issues are not taken seriously.
Korea is a beautiful place to travel, eat lots of food, and meet amazing, kind people. But it’s a horrible place to be a woman, and clubbing is not a safe activity with all these creeps! I’m truly sorry that this is the norm. I wish I could change it, but changing the mindset of a whole society is a difficult thing to do.
May the Lord bless you you have such a kind heart! 🫶🏻🩵🙏🏼 let’s pray these issues get resolved!
Only woke, immature, and naive people think Korea is a fantasy land. Well adjusted people know the truth.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and true experience. I think they r really helpful to people who have gone through such grievous pain. God bless you and us, female!
Very sad! But saving grace is the amazing kind people you speak of are your women❤️
Wow sounds like Korea is similiar to other Asian countries in terms of their mindset and culture. India and China also generally favour males over females. Even though the media makes Korea appear Liberal, modern and glamourous. Also as a fellow woman, I just wanted to say, I'm here for you, don't feel like you are alone and no one cares.....
When I reported my SA case to the police (mind you I'm fluent in Korean), one of the questions the police asked me was "How did you seduce this guy? What did you do to make him come onto you?".... I felt extremely disrespected and humiliated that this fifty-something year old officer asked me such questions. And on top of that, in front of multiple other officers. I don't think it's 'only a language' problem. I think it's a 'how police treat foreigners in general' problem. They have all these stereotypes and make wild presumptions on the fact that we are not Korean. Even thinking about it now makes me feel sick.
Edt: a lot of y'all are making assumptions about me and my reason for being in Korea. One, I was there for school and, two, who cares why I was there? The fact of the matter is something out of my immediate control happened to me and I should not be faulted for someone else's crime. Victim blaming at it's finest smh get a life
Really shameful their society is
well, you fantasized about korea before going there. lol
@@zackwang9314 wtf are you saying
@@jhonhoppins522 he's victim blaming and laughing at her for getting SA'd. common of men
@@zackwang9314 "fantasizing" about traveling to a cool new country doesn't make her deserving of being r4ped. Why would you say "lol" after she just said she was SA'd?
I started crying when she said she had all the evidence but still the case was put down as lack of. Same as mine. God damn it. Damn it. God damn it.
These countries are reticent to prosecute their own citizens when they commit crimes against foreigners. They just don't care.
Alhamdulliha we are you Muslim if someone did anyone like this we hung him and kill 😎😎😎 if you rape a woman so then he ready for die this is a law of our islamic country because of this we have no big rate of rape in our country
oppa gangnam style.
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I'm sorry you went through that. Men that rape deserve to have their private parts removed.
Her blaming herself for not reporting is truly heartbreaking. The system failed her, and not the other way round.
I've seen a lot of story times of foreign girls telling their experiences in South Korea and it's scary. Not only cases of SA, but also harassment, stalking, being mistreated at work and not being able to complain etc etc. I even remember watching a video of a girl (she was a foreigner) and her Korean husband beat her in a bar and no one did anything to stop him (only one woman "tried" to stop him, but you see people passing by the girl's side ignoring the situation and when the man left another woman tried to help the girl, in total two people from the bar). I don't know how they can ignore something like that when it happens in front of your eyes.
yes people need to know korea is not all rainbow and happiness. I went to korea in 2016 and I stayed at a hotel. Not a motel. A proper well known hotel (an higher end hotel) and I noticed a small red light from the TV at first I thought it is just the TV light because TV in the front have that light but I look closer to it and touch and and sure enough there was a spy cam on the TV. Nothing happened to me be I felt violated and disgusted as I change in front of the TV many times so I went to the police right away and report it and the police say they will look for it. And I ask who will be held responsible for it and they say the hotel is not held responsible because there is not much evidence who put the camera there. So I ask then nothing will be done to it? And they said yeah nothing can be done. And I ask then should other hotel guest know about it? And the police assured me saying they want to other guest to know about the situation. Then I went back to the hotel to collect my things, the hotel managers pretended nothing happened and didn't say anything and didn't look me in the eye. There was no compensation or anything. I paid the 5 night hotel fee and left. But I still want to make sure of the other guest know about it because I don't believe the hotel so the very next day I wore a black cap and went back the hotel and stayed there then I waited for a guest on the same floor and when they open the door I ask if they know about the situation and the guest said "No! No one told me anything!" And she was shocked and disgusted then both of us went down and confront the hotel but the hotel called the police and called me trespassing and somehow I was sent to the police and I didnt pay anything or go to jail or anything but they slap me with a warning that if I go there again I will have to go to jail. And I was like for real? Not only you lied to me saying you will tell the guest because thats the least you can do and I'm trespassing? To this day the hotel is thriving and no news of it being on the news and I'm disgusted. This is speculation but I feel like the hotel know something about it as it is in the TV I don't think someone can easily put it in the TV because it was specifically put there
I heard about this as well. They don't help because they don't want to get involved.
@@fosh9936 Not getting involved should be the least of the bystanders concern. You’ll never know when someone pushes it over the edge and it ends up in murder. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
@@jvang1111 I don't think they are taught empathy and to treat others the way they want to be treated. They go by Confucian teachings of seniority and rank. This has led to a culture of bullies that lack empathy for others' suffering.
@nct angel same
The laws in Korea is a joke…even if you’re convicted of murder you’ll get 20 yrs or something ridiculous like that. If you’re rich, you’ll literally get away with murder, prosecutors and police are often bribed. It’s sad….
No way, nobody can get away with murder
@@roshnik5137 rich in korea can get away
@@user-bu6to4so2y it's so funny that Korean govt loves the money they are earning from foreign tourists but on the other side they give them zero protection
If you think the laws in Korea is a joke. I'm not going to mention the laws in the Netherlands. A country where you can murder someone and get less then 10 years. Or rape minors and get a jail sentence for a few months. I wish our laws were like yours. It's way better than ours.
Well in germany we dont have the death order sentance germany is not like russia jail were the jailers suffer indeed for their crimes USA is strict top but not as strict as China or arabic jail or whatever alkatraz was harsh but thats in the past
I wish they could reveal the names of the rapists, their jobs, city they live in, etc so people would know who they are and publicly shame them or something. At least that would be some justice for the victims. These victims and women in general deserve better.
The bad thing is that they protect criminals over there if there is no evidence because one can get sued for defamation
I get why you would b mad. And ofc, the rapist should be justly punished, lose job and put in prison. But public shaming is too far even for them.
Consider this, alcohol is one of the biggest causes of rape, so a lot of guys lose a lot of self control when drunk. Imagine it was your father, brother, or son, who got drunk one night and raped a woman, and then it was publicly announced so not only would his entire life be destroyed over a stupid mistake, he would also bring great shame to the rest of his family. You would be known as the daughter of a rapist, the sister of a rapist, the mother of a rapist. How would you feel, when you done nothing wrong?
Defamation laws in Korea are crazy :/
Well they don't reveal their personal information, because the moment they do, the very next day, the dude would have disappeared, without a trace and no one will know if they are alive or not, and if they are, where they are, what's happening to them and how long will it be happening. Basically, the law is protecting the criminals from the people in this case
@@naturelover6588 I mean yeah a liberal democratic republic is built around the idea that you are innocent until proven guilty and not guilty until proven innocent
너무슬픕니다 가해자들이 평생 고통 받으며 죽길 바랍니다
This is one the saddest comments section I had to read that almost every girls here had their own assault story to share which goes to show how bad the situation is in reality. It’s like a hidden can of worms and still unknown to many while K-pop kdrama continues to romanticise South Korea men and its culture.
Korea is such a sugar coated country.
I second that. I passed the same in Japan for the same reasons.
Yep I don't get shocked easily and this film and comments section truly shocked me . Who would have known . If their government wants tourists to come to Korea they better sort this and fast.
white men are the most romanticized in existance
sad to see womens issues weaponized against men of color
@@mochiluara9686 I felt very safe in Japan. Korea, on the other hand...
I was in Korea for 7 years and I experienced a lot. I was stalked, raped, and groped on subways, and I had many friends who had similar experiences. I never talked about it and never went to the police because I was ashamed. I am just realizing how bad it was. I am so glad you women had the courage to talk about it. I really hope Korea can offer these services in the near future.
To think that I was planning to marry a Japanese or Korean girl when I was younger. Holy crap with the justice system in Korea. The Japanese justice system is somewhat better than Korea from my experience when I was serving in the U.S. military bases in Japan. My current wife is a Asian American but to think had I married a national Korean born woman; I would probably be laying cans of woop that butt street justice style if my Korean lady was sexually harassed by some Korean sexual predator. Guess that's the good thing about us Americans is that we ain't no push over.
Unfortunately this happens everywhere there are entitled men in the world. I live in Montreal Canada, Im in my 40s, and rarely use the metro, much prefer buses, because of one experience being gropped by a man when I was 16 yrs old, coming home from high school, on the metro. Never again in a closed off space, with nowhere to run to for help.
Why didn't you keep paper spray with you? Everytime when it's happened you should have at least make them pay what happened with you...why men behave in this way? Because we as society failed to teach them morals and good upbringing.. we do opposite we serve them content like porn which is more materlised woman in more animalistic ways and it's what they fantasies and now they want that in same porn manner
@@Srshree124 In some countries pepper spray for personal use is illegal, like here in Canada. Must always protect the criminals (eye roll) Not sure about Korea.
You stayed there after all of that??? I would have been terrified to continue living there tad a foreigner!
I'm a Korean, born and raised here. Police here are often awful at dealing with these problems. They're notorious for being indifferent about the victims and don't know what to do at all. Prosecutors and judges are the same or even much worse. They do these awful things to Korean victims, too. Except for the language barrier, everything is the same with Koreans. I know this because I'm so used to hear these things that happen to Koreans. If you check the news, soon you'll realize.
The pushiment by law is considered to be too weak in the first place. Many cases end up with no punishment, or only 1-2 years in jail. The judges (mostly men) even "forgive" the criminals even though the victims cannot forgive. Even sexual assaults to children, the punishment is weak.
This country doesn't even consider stalking as a crime. So if you were chased in the street by a stranger, the police will not do anything when you report because it's not a crime. There is no protection system for victims here about that. And many will not care enough to protect your personal information.
So girls, if you are planning to come to this country, please think twice.
If Koreans read my comment, some of them may be like I'm against this country and blame me. But really, I'm against the problem not the country. If they don't fix this problem, they're the ones to be blamed on downgrading the country. If you want to be a patriot, what you should do is not to blame people who righfully critize the problems but to actually make the society better.
And if someone speaks up about this problem, I've seen many guys be really offended and complaint she is making every man a "potential criminal." If you just talk about raising the jailtime for sexual assaults, you can see some people are offended. This is what is happening here, and what I've said is just a part of the reality.
@@tobefrank851 You read everything they said and you still think it’s a good idea…?
Oh wow thank you for the information, and I could just imagine living there and seeing people who are actually Korean not get justice, so imagine a foreigner… and I agree, I say if a man gets upset when you bring up REAL problems with men as a Society, they also like to partake in those sick things.
Have Koreans not tried to set up an awareness/campaign charity for this problem? I’m sure they could easily raise funds from other countries as well.
That's crazy, I can't imagine what woman suffer there
Nah this is just turning into bashing a country
no one ever says this about white countries
Growing up in Korea (up until 10 yo), I used to always hear of stories of how my aunts met their husbands. If I remember correctly, I think all of them met their husbands by their men stalking them until they gave in. Men stalking women was part of the culture there. The legal system needs to change dramatically to uphold very basic human rights especially pertaining to women.
😦 OMG. Well, I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I'm not sure about other countries, but here in the US, in the 1980's "romance" novels on the shelf were about 90% rape fiction, meaning the hero often initially raped the heroine and she eventually fell in love with him. I grew up reading that, and I have zero doubt it skewed an entire generation of girls and our perception of rape and sex. Also, as a young woman in my twenties, my best girlfriends and I went out to celebrate one of our birthdays. We rented a hotel room that night, and as we were going to sleep, talk turned to experiences we had had. Out of seven of us, every single one of us had, at one point or another, been raped, molested, or sexually assaulted. It was shocking to share those stories and know that. However, something to keep in mind is that one pedophile or rapist usually has multiple victims. I know many truly wonderful men, including my husband and many friends, who would NEVER hurt a woman like that. The problem is that one single predator can hurt an enormous number of women, especially when we often don't report it for a variety of reasons. He gets to just get away with it and repeat the behavior.
Omg
I am always single female traveler, especially because of KPOP concerts. I never had any bad experiences. I could see this scenario in some Kdramas. The man stalks the girl until she gives in. But also vice versa. I always think that does the girl have no pride, when she stalks the man. Even though she has been xx times refused? Or does it really work in real?
What? LOL, that is just not true. "men stalking women" is not part of the Korean culture.
it is almost culture, i would say. sadly. means, it's frequent and police don't think it's very seriously. and it's causing many problem. korea is not safe for women at all. speaking as native@@michaelashby9654
it happened with me too but i'd rather be dead than to be SA so i took a chance n lied to him that i have HIV +ve..he was so afraid to even touch me after that and left me on side of an alley bleeding( he punched me in face and i had broken nose). i left the country next day . i was so scared and ashamed of myself even though i did nothing wrong, i could not faced myself and run away. But these women are so strong, God bless you all.
You are very smart and brave.
Actually I was thinking about this when I watched the video.
That’s the first thing I would’ve shouted at them.
I’m so sorry this happened to you…. but I’m also proud of you for being so resourceful in that situation
Don't feel like you run away, you are brave an you took a smart decision. I will also leave as soon as I finish my studies and never never never comeback.
Good idea telling him that!!! About being HIV positive.
I'm speechless. And so many people think Korea is heaven like it's not a normal country with problems.
It's also a shame that the police only cares about their own citizens in the most cases. I know a few of these cases and the police believed the offender.
The Korean police stand with the Korean even if he is wrong
Some police officers seemed too bothered to handle foreign victims' cases. And Korean men are well aware of that fact
They don't do jobs well for their citizens either. I've seen quite a few Korean news that women get murdered by ex-lovers because Korean police let abusive men go without any capital punishments.
@@Noor.nsw123 True. Someone i know lived in SK, for some exchange program. And then she had a stalker in her neighborhood, who used to follow her around. This man tried to break in once, and she called police. Guess what, the police made her apologize to the man. Police shamelessly said "It's a misunderstanding. He just wanted to be your friend. Don't waste out time for such silly misunderstandings".
Yess ... Broken dream here also .
This is horrible.
As a foreigner once myself in Korea I remember once I was on the subway and there was this old korean man who grabbed my hand. He tried 3 times by the 4 time I hit him hard with my purse and everyone at the subway were staring like what had happened. That old fart ran out at the next stop. Just that itself was seriously traumatising. Can't imagine what victims of rape must have gone trough.
depressing. they only paid attention when the creep got hit.
@@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587 yes..haha
This can happen anywhere so we all must be careful.
@@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587 of course how would people notice if someone holding someone hand I wouldn't hear them or pay attention but a hit with probably some yelling well get everyone attention
also what do you want people to do ? to intervene and defend women ?? why women are strong and independent
I had a similar situation. I went on the subway in korea and I was together with a friend of mine. There was a man who looked very confused and he grabbed my wrist. I thought he needed help at first but he didnt respond. I tried to break free of the grasp but his hold was really strong so I couldnt. My friend was frozen and I was quite scared too, but luckily some korean high school boys smoothly moved inbetween the man and I, making him let go of me. I tried to thank the students but they pretended they didnt do anything, which made me feel even more thankful.
Edit: Also, afterwards, a korean woman approached me and apologized for what happened (even though she had nothing to do with it). She didnt want me to have a bad image of Korea because of that man, which I think is really sweet.
Personally I never went to any clubs in Korea and I experienced Korea as a very safe country. (Apart from some situations like the one above, I felt really safe) however I heard many stories from friends, similar as the stories in this video. Its sickening, and it's very true. Please be safe people!
I lived in S. Korea for 3 years and was shocked at the number of foreign women who were sexually assaulted. It was a real problem. As the stats in this program show, it's an even bigger problem for Korean women.
Over three thousand comments and almost everyone has a story to tell about their worst experiences in Korea. This is quite serious they should do better. Its really a shame.
The comments are now over four thousand and every 2 or 3 of them are stories of what people experienced related to this. This is literally scary 😟
@@CalypsoKnow over 5k
Did it occur to you most of them are bots or fake? You would be one of those people who believe the girl who wrote fanfiction about being gangraped in an elevator by a Korean boyband was real. Kek.
@@microangels how do you come into a comment section and call people experiences fake when you haven't even met anyone of them how could you possibly tell if it's fake or not. "One of those girls.." please 😒😂
Me too!
This is a nightmare. I knew it was bad in SK with all the sexual harassment, sexual assault, sexual violence, digital sex crime, rape, stalking, spycams and more.. but following new statistics it’s now 1 out of 2 women in SK who experience at least one of the named sexual crimes. HOW can women protect themselfs? How? When they just want to go on with their lifes and do their thing? Just live? HOW? SK feels very hostile towards women and with their new elected president.. I don‘t know how to feel while applying for my exchange year in SK. I‘m scared ngl.
Thank you for making this video and at least bring some awareness or light on this matter.
My mother doesn't allow my sister who works in SK to live alone because of this. My sister is living with the grandparents in a condo that has 2, 3 security guards at the front entrance desk to check who's entering, and the grandma always makes sure she returns home after work. If you don't have a family in SK, make sure to find a safe place to live in though it might cost you more. You can also get a roommate if you feel unsafe living alone. Especially, DO NOT GO CLUBBING in SK. I've heard so many nightclub rape stories from my Korean friends that men drug women in nightclubs, drag them to hotels, and rape them, but they don't get charged with their crimes because police lighten charges when they say they are drunk and don't remember what they did.
I was only there for about 4 weeks (I was alone) and was followed back where I was staying by 3 men and also had a guy rub on my thigh while on the subway (while other people were watching but nobody said anything). Luckily I wasn’t wearing shorts that day 😔. So just be careful and it’s not just ajeossis you have to look out for in both these cases they were all Korean men in there 20s.
@@gummiehobi8032 I had something similar happen. I traveled alone to Seoul for a week and was walking from Namsan Tower to Seoul Station (midday) and a guy was following me. He even kept yelling "I love you" in English as he could clearly tell I was a foreigner. Thankfully, he stopped following me when I got near to the station where there were more people. Yeah, in my case, the guy looked like he was in his late 20s or 30s.
@@Holiday-qu8vu even worse if you end up pregnant than what
@@Holiday-qu8vu i guess sue the one to at least care of the Made child with Police force hmm
Yep. Korea is something else. When I was there, I definitely can say the club experience is eye opening. A lot of the men think foreign women are easy. I experienced being touched intimately, without my consent.
Never say, "Not all Korean men are like that", because that's a given, and it really doesn't matter if every, single Korean man isn't like that.
A Korean man doesn't get a cookie, for not being a rapist, and not being a rapist doesn't mean he advocates for women and challenges other men to be better. The cultural attitudes towards women are shameful, which is why it's an uphill battle. Men are often slow to hold other men accountable, but spend a lot of time trying to govern the behavior of women - that's true all over the world. But in the US we have better laws..not better men, just better laws to protect women. Korea has shitty laws, and that must change.
It's easy for a man to think he's special, when he compares himself against the worst his society has to offer. But being a decent human being isn't special.
Yeah, it's completely right. Thank you.
Innit
Tbh both genders are slow to hold each other accountable over a variety of issues including stuff like this, and that’s coming from my own personal experience as well…
Yes white person..please teach the world of the feminazi ways that make western women so pleasant
"A Korean man doesn't get a cookie, for not being a rapist, and not being a rapist doesn't mean he advocates for woman and challenges other man to be better." THIS 👏👏👏
As a native Korean woman, I am deeply sorry for victims. I love my country, but I can't deny that this country still regard women-no matter if you are native or foreign woman-as some sexual objects or basically the existence for men. Even to native Korean women, sexual harassments/assaults/even rapes are dealt as trivial things to police. Korea has still long way to go. If Korea can't solve this problem, this country can't be leading country at all.
It's just the fault of foreign women who think sleeping with a korean boy is a blessing for them
@@chemophile14🤦
@@NoideaClips right
@@chemophile14sick
@@Commentator488 thanks
The thing is in South Korea, if you get raped, molested, sexually assaulted, etc, you're the one to blame. The victims are blamed and not the perpetrator. Incredible. The authorities clearly do not understand the meaning of 'victim'.
They understand, they just don't care. very sexist, misogynistic, disrepecctful, non-empathic, sick country
That's why the country getaway with one of the safest countries for women cause women don't report about the assault happened to them. It's sad.
@@blackwing7459 That's where you're wrong. They did report but, not much has been done and maybe because this happened often, the authorities blame the victim for not being careful. Unacceptable and shameful.
Even foreign women were victims, and obviously they are not fluent or don't speak Korean, so that's even tougher. When they report, it ain't easy and they ultimately have to live with the guilt.
Because they're foreigners, things are much, much tougher. Translations are required, your visas need to be viewed, evidence is needed, judgment is needed, etc. It's a waste of time, effort and resources. Why can't people and countries just be direct and straightforward? I have no idea.
@@colinloh6427 and I think that's what I mean when there will not be a solution for the victim's problem then, they will report in less no. Cause of society pressure and thins like that.
@@blackwing7459 Still, it's wrong.
I went to Korea multiple times. When I went with my parents or a male friend I wasn't harassed. When I was 17 I went alone to study and I was harassed and followed every day. It was honestly so exhausting. One much older guy coerced and raped me and I was too afraid to fight back because I was really just a naive young girl and he knew where I was staying.
I wish it was different because I like Korea, but I find Korean men despicable and straight-up dangerous.
😭😭😭
praying for more strength to you, that breaks my heart 😢
I wish I could hug you
Sorry that that happened to you but I don’t want to say all Korean guys are bad. I met this one guy on Facebook and he scared me. He only talked to me a few times and kept on sending me his naked photos and all that... I told him to stop but he kept sending them so I finally blocked him. He said he loves me which is BS as he hardly knew me.
Please stand tall and remember you did nothing wrong. Karma has its way!
In the middle of the day a Korean guy choking a foreign girl outside and everybody's ignoring her??? What kind of people does Korea have. They will just tolerate their own kind just as long as the victim is a foreigner.
Sickening. To watch someone be hurt and do nothing makes you a terrible human being.
It's actually the law of SK that sucks
If you try to harm that guy who was choking the girl then you may be sued or charged by the guy.. Korea is a male dominated country.. All the cops and authorities side with men and women are often blamed and classified as weak
A very sickening, cold-hearted society with no empathy. Korea is a sick place. Some other Asian countries act the same way
Crazy right
They do that to women of their own too. A lot of the crime cases I read about, bystanders don't seem to care and the police are Barney Fife levels of incompetent
In Korea, victims of sex crimes are rather bullied
This is especially true of the feminazy's actions towards male victims
In Asia, in general, women are looked down upon.
But the root of these problems are not how people view women, but in the justice system. All kinds of crimes go unpunished. Even inhumane crimes. I’m sure many people have already heard about how serious bullying is in Korea-some bullies literally disfigured their victims permanently-yet no justice was carried out.
Just like any employee in any companies, you have some incompetent or lazy employees that don’t want to do their jobs. Or they simply don’t care.
Look at America, even when a case has ample evidence, the justice system just let criminals go too because they don’t really care. Look at how many times the person that just go around hurting random people are arrested, but never charged and just let go.
Sad thing is there is really nothing you or I can do about it except complain.
A toxic notion that needs to change! We need to protect womens rights! I’m sick of hearing cases like this. I will always take my stand to those women who were treated unjustly that probably thinks that the world is against them! I’m a man and I wish more of us are vocal when it comes to this type of social issues! 💯
I went to Korea as an exchange student to do my practical training about four years ago. I remember I was doing several things in Seoul and then I went to one of the university's campuses in a different city. I found out a girl was raped around that time and the assailant used a letter signed by a doctor to justify his actions, saying "he was unable to control his impulses" and they just swept the girl's case under the rug. I was extremely shocked.
Wtf
@@chanyeolbaekhyun2195 you look like dome die hart korean fan, why don't you try korea
This is just a normal day in south korea. The more you live there the more you know
Men are extremely generous towards other men in Korea. I am Korean and I am very sorry that it happened to you.
@@sophieca6906 nothing happened to him, the victim was a woman he's speaking about
Do not blame women for being alone!
Do not blame women for being a women!
Do not blame women for going to a fun club!
Do not blame the victim you awful people!
We have lives and are human too!
We can walk alone if we have to or choose to do it!
Women should not be called stupid for walking alone!
I hate people that blame us for things we didn’t commit!!!
You to have understand one thing properly❗We are all animals, not humans entirely. No matter what a women does, right or wrong, the male genders don't care about anything but s..x. Women are viewed as prey by the male community. Rape case is happening all around the world but never stops. So women should know what to wear, what to show, where to go, everything calculated. Stop thinking and believing all men are not the same, this is where Women are making huge sinful mistake, Never trust a male for whatever action it could be, always have 10 steps back and back up plan. Why? Because for your own safety only. You cannot change men, but through punishment and penalty, yes but not all countries are ready to punish the males who commit crimes against women. So, knowing that, Don't go alone, don't go to bar alone, don't make friends with guys u met in online, don't be near unknown guys in public, wear modest and covered dress in places with many men. Protect yourself, because this world no longer bothers women except for needed times. The truth.
I think that conservativity is important for both men and women..I mean what kind of idiot wants to marry a man/woman who like to go to FUN clubs. Leave the trash behind.
let's be real as a man I wouldn't just walk in midnight in a dark alley why ?? cuz we shouldn't blame?? nope cuz we should be realistic
thus being said I do agree victim blaming is dumb and this entire documentary it's against it
Spot on.
Ok you're rigt but can you take responsibility can protect yourself in every situation ?
Do women have courage to fight against anyone in any situation ?.
Do women have brain to think to make right decision
Where when which time with who can you go or can trust ???
In my experience women is very easy target to make fool
I have met a guy in Korea who was my online friend for the first time,then he was talking to me in unappropriate sexual way on the street and I just left him and blocked him. He made me scared and I cried.
@@user-bu6to4so2y Thank you for your nice advice and message.
I am very careful now
@@user-bu6to4so2y is everyone like this is bullying very common there
@@ellaspring1933 not only in Korea in every country ... 👍.... When you are meeting any stranger be careful .... Because in 21st century people are Selfish... Only few are kind and hard to find 👀
@@sujuktachoudhury1003 True
that's meeff haha, don't make friends unless he has Instagram,
I had a foreigner friend who studies in Korea was assaulted and she made a complain in police station cops were mocking at her for being Muslims and accused her for this and that. I felt so bad hearing her story. She said Koreans are so racist in general 😢
Was your friend from South East Asia? Because to be honest they don’t say anything about Arab Muslims. Maybe they know we have no chill and will flip out idk what is it. Sorry for what happened to your friend regardless. South Korea in general are the worst xenophobic society. They act like they never seen people before
This is bonkers...what has religion,caste or colour have to do with reporting of sexual assaults,rapes,harrassments,etc.
That's why , if Korea becomes nation without women, it won't be surprising. Bullshit people as Korean police just think if a person rapes after drinking, he isn't even a rapist. What a logic ! Shame upon these people those who are blinded by beauty.
No one is more racist than the muslim community though. Just go to Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, etc to experience it first hand
Stinks of lie
As a Korean woman who just turned 20 in Korean age, this angers me so so much, and reading the comments doesn't do me any good- it only deepens and worsens the bitterness. A lot of horrible men in Korea think they are in control when they face women. And, being a foreigner shouldn't be a factor that drives this ridiculousness worse. They came here because they wanted to know more about the country, or because of their interest in Korean culture, and so on. They are visitors. And Korean people, including me, and including men who sexually assaulted and left so many scars on the victims’ minds and bodies, should not be treating them like this.
Thank you. I’m an English teacher wanting to come back to Korea (I visited once before I was a teacher) and hearing so many women come out with their stories breaks my heart. It also reminds me to pray for my Korean friends, I miss them and worry a lot! We have to be aware though, if people don’t share, those who visit don’t know to be on guard. Please stay safe!
Korean men hate feminism too, they have a lot to learn. Stay safe
Yes, it's not your fault. It's just the fault of foreign women who think sleeping with a korean boy is a blessing for them
i think many korean men have this internalized fetish towards foreign women especially caucasian women. mainly from c0rn. i've been observing about this for quite a while. girls, you have no idea. it's horrible, you have 'names' amongst korean men i don't have to talk about or mention about it in the slightest. not just korea in general tho. pretty much everywhere where the ethnicity are mainly non-white (caucasian). you guys white girls are their 'fantasy' i'm telling you. do not travel alone. please do not go out alone if you happen to travel this particular region. especially at night. this should be a no-brainer. anyways, you know the rules. stay safe!
Do yourself a favour and look up the definition of "Due process"
I never went to the club in Korea even with friends. I never walk alone as well on the streets of Korea alone more likely at night. Whenever I am approached I often been civil but not friendly as my korean friends told me the danger of me being kidnapped or being raped. I may not experienced that saddest part of their society but living in Korea for years where I experienced bullying and racism made me think not to go back anymore. I moved to Thailand and experienced the safety belt of their society.
A lot of sexual assault happens in broad daylight too..
My daughter studied in Korea and she faced racism there too. She left as soon as she finished her studies and now happy furthering her education in another country.
@@mariasimone1231 Is Japan safe for foreign women if they live alone?
@@nawaar3239 I'd been told too by my korean friends the reason why one of them religiously pick me up and go along with me to wherever I needed to go and bring me home after. I'd been stalked once that became a grave concern among my friends why they alternately going along with me back then. These korean friends of mine to whom I had met on travels in europe are more than open minded, more intelligent than the ordinary koreans. I don't think typical locals even if they are your friends will take concern to guard your safety for years unless they are westernized already. Korea is like a yummy looking cake but the inside of it is nothing you expect from that surface.
@@dchinthreewe actually been fooled by what we have seen on their kdramas. I must admit living in a 4 season country is a beautiful experience as I also been an expat in Japan for almost half of my life but I never experienced bullying and racism not even stalking how much more rape. I even been friends with yakuzas but instead of being afraid I am being glad to know they were not as what others potrayed them. The politeness and some ways I adapted from Japanese I still am practicing up to this date. Korea gave me the horrible nightmare that I will never forget the rest of my life. It made me feel outcasted. Being humiliated and degraded that no other races done to me (not even in Europe) I experienced in SoKor hence I really don't want to come back anymore. Their coldness, the rudeness of many and aloofness made me felt much alone. Thing is I might came from a country where manners and ethics, kindness and humility is a part of our everyday life probably the reason why I am triple shock of what I experienced while I am there. Sad really
This is the reason why I turned down the job offer in Korea. Discrimination and sexual assaults against foreigners are the true face of SK, I don't feel comfortable at all when I'm there. It's funny how people watch kdrama and kpop and think Korea is the "perfect place"
"Discrimination and Sexual Assaults are the true face of South Korea". Exactly, foreign women should avoid Korea at all costs
Don't worry North Korea will destroy them I hope this will happen soon
Those people who fantasize about south korea will learn their lessons. lol
@@zackwang9314 actually i don't blame them because korean media market themselves really well and unfortunately teenagers who have never been to korea are easily fooled by this media perception
@@zackwang9314 fantasizing about a foreign country isn't deserving of r4pe. its not a crime to be excited about travelling, leave women alone
In Korea the problem lies with the position of women in society, Korean women themselves don't get justice, so I can only imagine how awful it is for foreign women. Thank you for these survivors for telling their stories, especially what happened with the police and court systems. Hopefully things change. I don't hold out much hope though.
I live in Seoul and have been assaulted multiple times, but I was 'lucky' enough to never experience what they had experienced. I'm a strong woman with an attitude so whenever some man has tried to touch me or force himself on me, I'd punch him in the face or threaten him, hoping that the law won't end up working against me. Been here for a while and you'd think it's getting better with more foreigners coming and going... nope. These men only have a bigger pool to choose from. Try any foreign friendly dating application and you'll see that 'open minded' is the one thing Korean dudes there are up for. It's disgusting. I've also saved drunk Korean girls from being dragged to DVD bangs by strangers multiple times. If you're seeing someone being harassed on the street, don't hesitate and take action. Law won't help them, but you can. If not you, nobody else will.
you are wonderful
If everybody was as brave as you and had your high morals…..help a woman in distress. 💪
God bless you!❤️
I admire your courage and thank you for your kindness.
You're so brave! be careful though!
To all the victims of sexual assault: I'm sorry you went through that and you didn't fail, you survived and you are very precious. Thank you for telling your story.
I needed this
Tq
I was 8
I really hope kpop fans and drama fans watch this video
me my own self was so naïve thinking that Korean men were so innocent like in dramas but I grew up and things started revealing I’m glad I’ve learned this before traveling anywhere this is such a horrible experience to live….I feel so sorry for these women really hope they will be able to live happily after such a horrible thing
I mean I knew some atrocities that go on in that country even before I was a Kdrama and kpop fan and still is right now. Ik the red flags and pressure on what goes on there such as suicide, cults and superficial ideals especially in the entertainment industry of kdrama and kpop in there. I mean it still safe to fo there but just beware of the red flags in that coutnry or basically any country you visit . You can still enjoy the visit but beware of red flags. I mean I like South Korea but I dont like to live there because of its superficialty there
When media puts that much effort to convince you that men are such angels you know something is wrong...
@@bluemoon4944 exactly, if everything is sugarcoated what media portaus to people you can tell there is a dark side behind close doors
I don’t want to sound disrespectful or pick a fight but I am a Kdrama fan but I am not ignorant to what is happening all over the world…It can seem as if Anime fans etc are glorifying a country and think it’s Paradise..but don’t get fooled…they just like the good things which the country stands for....it is the same reason why people are visiting big cities like Paris or New York dreaming of a romance or stuff..wanting to see the city, eat Hot Dogs and croissants etc…
People are not stupid but just don’t want to be constantly in fear and reminded of what sick people live in that country and what happens there. Yes I will inform myself prior to the travel but as saidthat happens in EVERY country in this world..even in Germany where I grew up..
So please stop accusing Kdrama watchers, Anime fans of ignorance..if you want to do that do the same to Bollywood lovers, Oktoberfest Tourists, Dubai enthusiats, American tourists etc
@@fsmithh well, K-pop and Kdrama kind of idealize Korean men. So I do think social media plays a part. I do believe many ppl go to Korea with high hopes but facts are Korea is not a paradise like the Kdrama depicts.
I went to school in the states as an international student. Among us students, we were warned that korean guys often bragged about how many girls they had sex with and it was some kind of a competition among them. I had had a lunch or a coffee with my Korean classmates and almost always they wanted to be invited to my apartment after the casual meal. I always said no but I was appalled how persistent they were and didn’t take a no for an answer.
There is also sometimg called hunting
only korean man or every man?
@@nononoo356every man bby
I want to say this I'm American and my first time was by rape I was 17 years old and never had a rape kit or help in my personal experience I was assaulted for three hours made to shower and the rapist called my mom to pick me up this can happen to anyone anywhere in the world
tf that is crazy but you did manage to avoid them?
When I lived in Korea for 7 years, one time a guy followed me home and tried to enter my house. The second guy stopped his car next to me as I walked home and demanded I get into his car, so I fled. Guys would come up to me every other day and ask "how much" because they assumed I was a prostitute because I was foreign. My last experience was the most frightening: a guy broke into my apartment and sorted my underwear by color and left it on my bed while I was away. I'm so glad that these women are brave enough to say something. There seems to be a perception in Korea among men that foreign women are promiscuous
That's scary, please stay safe.
@@hatehumans9206 Thanks! Actually, after the guy broke into my apartment. I decided to leave Korea.
friend of mine show me a raw video from Korea, white lady get train by bunch of Korean guys the video was 10 hours long they recorded them self kidnapping a foreigner & dragged her into van & humiliated tf out of her. tied her hands brought her to empty abandoned buildings start doing things to her it was messed up couldn’t finish watching it 🫣🤦🏽♂️
It the reason why I’m watching this yt video 🤦🏽♂️
@@stonergee420 Are you sure about that? Where's the evidence?
Working in Korea left a bad taste in my mouth. The groping, photos, and nasty sexual questions were not foreign to me while living there. Korean women were very unhelpful as well, looking annoyed when trying to explain the situation to them. I will never set foot in that country ever again.
Where did you work? Any advice for others who work in a similar area?
Bye Felicia
@@slee2695 that’s not funny
@@mika.8063 you need a tissue?
@@slee2695 do you need a dose of empathy?
I been to S Korea three times; it's an extremely sick society. Avoid at all costs.
anyone who grew up with koreans woulda told you that easily. its amusing to me seeing all these women with these kdrama fantasies going to korea and getting a rude awakening.
@@stuka80 Agreed no more. Based on their fantasies from K Drama, they will even advocate that Korean language is the most beautiful language in the world. None other languages that can be compared with the beauty of Korean language. I mean their comments are simply disgusting to my eyes.......
@@stuka80 it's amusing!!?? It's amusing they become victims!?? that's a craaazzy thing to say.
@@The_EclecticSkepticno it’s not a lot of these women go with the delusion that Korean men are perfect only to find out they’re worse than men from their own countries
Japan is like that too although I feel somewhat safer in Japan than SKO
1년이 지나 우연히 보게 된 영상이네요. 한국은 이런건 숨기려 하지 말고 과감히 수면 위로 드러내고 잠재적인 피해자들에게 위험성을 알려야 합니다. 숨기고 덮으려 할수록 더 깊히 썪어들어가고 언젠간 터지게 돼 있습니다. 더이상 정보를 통제할 수 있는 세상이 아닙니다.
It’s so frustrating to me to see how apathetic South Korean society seems to be towards human rights violations and how much Koreans and foreigners alike suffer for it.
And they are shown as one of the safest countries for women.
I lived in Korea for 2 years. They do not care about foreigners AT ALL!
You mean western rights violations?
Yea you should see how the families are. Society is reflected by the family and vice versa. Never talking about things that are uncomfortable. Mental health is an absolute JOKE... As in "I'm the doctor [insert hierarchy bs seen in every aspect] take these meds and come back next week". Next week same bs. TALKING ABOUT YOUR ISSUES EVEN WITH MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS ARE PRACTICALLY NON-EXISTENT. Be aware there is NO HIPPA (PATIENT/MEDICAL PRIVACY) and your company gets your yearly physical health exam results before you do. Yes that includes psychological issues which is why many would don't go.
Main point is Korea's has a SERIOUS problem with uncomfortable situations, and as such, the true concept of dialogue and transparency are just words without any substance. Even worse, the men are incredibly insecure as a good majority of their boomer fathers were abusive, overworked while coming home intoxicated, and of course openly visiting massage parlors. Is this a generalization? Yes. But tell me why it's never talked about at a societal level.
I lived there for 8 years and worked in a Korean company. The avoidance culture is an epidemic. And the next worst thing is this social hierarchy. What may sound great as respecting elders becomes the gateway to a world where one has an unearned sense of superiority while another has an acceptance of subordination. What some Koreans say is "jeong" or a 'unique' sense of familial warmth may seem great but the reality is that it COMPLETELY ARTIFICIAL hierarchy which prevents an opportunity for an open dialogue on equal footing. Simply because of ones age, position, and as we see here gender and race.
This also creates an environment where one always has to have the situational awareness "noonchi" that often encourages someone to actually NOT speak up, stand out, or just be different. This of course leads to a society which will not tolerate diversity. And NO it's not just race..so just because they curiously touch a black persons hair doesn't mean it's innocent and pure curiosity. There are LARGE fragments of citizens in Korea who are ostracized but barely anyone would acknowledge because they just do not have the capacity to know or accept these issues. It may sound harsh but I assure you that those single mothers, single N Korean refugee mothers, migrant workers, SE Asian women,... Hell might as well include the young girl without the right padding, or (heaven forbid) have dark skin, or (GASP*) choose NOT to be so obsessed with looking in a mirror.
At one time I heard a NK refugee woman tell me that although in her home, it was the govt that forced her to look and dress a certain way , in SK the culture/society forces this plus much more and here the people willingly do this. For this woman it was just an observation as we were walking in Seoul...but it really reinforced my view that Koreans (and greater society) seems to wear a mask and not even know what it is to be without one.
I often used to hear that Westerners (particularly Americans were more selfish). While that may be true, I often would tell them not to fool themselves. Many signs of consideration and "concern" are not one of altruism, but rather the need to prey and manipulate those vulnerable. Such devastating things have shown by plenty of perverted "oppas". In the end one should NOT be respected more simply bc of when and what they were born as. PERIOD.
You would think in a country where their own women were used as “comfort women” they would be more aware and willing to protect women, but it’s like the complete opposite there. You can’t even mention the word feminism over there it seems without being socially isolated and blackballed. Korea is nice to visit but I learned that I would never want to actually live there as a woman if I were single
Exactly. They really be blaming Japan's younger generation that have nothing to do with the sins of their ancestors to cover up their own mistreatment of women.
feminism is even worse look how it destroyed the western society created more anger and hatred with all the false rape accusations
also would you please tell us your country would love to look at the stats of this crime free
@@merleevan4505 Completely separate topics. Japan doesn't teach their youth about the atrocities they've committed. They had our fucking statue dedicated to our country's comfort women taken down. But my people are so annoyingly patriotic though they're just as misogynistic.
@II Excuse me? I was talking about the hypocrisy of your people, just like what OP mentioned. If you know how terrible it had been for your ancestors then WHY, pray tell, do your people still treat women like this today???
@@SOA_yt Good that you're self aware. That trait is pretty rare to see on the internet. There are bad people no matter in which country, but that doesn't justify antagonizing a whole population for the sins of a few.
It's a piece of advice for you as a Korean man. Please don't go to clubs or bars in places like Gangnam, Hongdae, Itaewon, and Konkuk University! Etc... Not all the men who go there are bad guys, but all the bad guys in Korea gather there.
Well said.
Konkuk university? even for study there?
Wait, university? Even there?
I still remember that case were a man raped a little girl basically everywhere, even the ears, and his prison time was reduced because when that poor girl was interviewed by the police she made the error to say that she smelled alcohol. From someone that was in Seoul only for six months: never NEVER say that you smelled alcohol on someone if they assault you, their sentence will be reduced, this only if the police will listen to you.
God that case still haunts me to this day. Did you know they released him and he’s now being protected?
The public was so damn angry at him. That poor little girl.
Ears?!
@@youxfail yeah it was fuckin terrible...they were ready to put him in prison for life until that poor little girl said thst she felt like she smelled alcool and in south korea being drunk is like an excuse fo everything, most cases are dismissed. The man got only 12 years...and the absolutely disgusting part is that he's already out and bought a house in the same neighborhood and the girl family doesn't have money to move.
@@hanayanah yeah hes protected because he had the audacity to buy a house in the same neighborhood and the family doesn't have money to move
My Chinese friend and I interned with a massive global firm in Korea, and she was breathtakingly beautiful. Her supervisor immediately started sexually harassing her - inviting her to office parties that turned out to be just him, touching her, pressuring her for sex, and it progressively worsened. We asked several different Korean team members in her office and mine privately what the process was to report this. Almost twenty separate Koreans (100% of those asked) told her to just ignore it. The reasons given ranged from 'it's just for a short time, you'll leave soon' and 'what if it effects your career' to my favorite - 'you might cause your teammates to feel uncomfortable and it will effect the team relationship.' Not one person offered support for stopping it.
I got angry and called our program supervisor in the US and he immediately moved her to a new program and canceled the agreement with that firm for interns. But I was shocked. . . Even the women told her to just put up with it.
**I should say that my persobal experiences were different. I lived and traveled in and out of Korea for almost a decade and the worst I got was a couple of taxi drivers cheating me. Most locals were absolutely lovely to me.
Yeah that is so fucked up, sad when woman are so conditioned they start putting up with the bs. Time to start fighting people atp
Unfortunately being beautiful was one huge reason she should have never gone to work in Korea.Chauvinistic society way behind others on womens rights.
looks like the koreans condone to rape culture...keep most of the cases under the carpet.
And then what happened?
as a Korean I totally believe you. I know things like this happen often espeicaly if the female worker is very attractive.
Even though countless women (both foreigners and Koreans) fall victim to sexual crimes, Korean men believe they're the ones being discriminated.
what a bunch of hypocrites
They literally believe that majority of women who “cry rape” are just using it as a weapon against men. And they think rape is not a big problem and that it’s the “feminists” that are overreacting.
Korean men by majority are very against any feminist steps for better rights for women
Unfortunately it’s the media that painted the feminists as evil by showing the radical feminist movements and there’s a wide misconception as to what the true intentions of feminism is.
How delusional can they get. This is so sad.
I'm a Korean girl and I know there are sick criminals out there. The police act as if they are NPCs of a game and you have to find all the avidence by yourself, unless it's murder or some. If you are all alone in here I suggest not going out until too late just because everyone's out. I bet they look for foreigners because they know non-Koreans can have trouble reporting them to the police. It's so disgusting but just be safe ;-;
My daughter was teaching English .first in Degu then seol . She had a problem in a club in seol with a man following her,shoving his phone in her face . In the end she snatched his phone and threw it across room . Some AMerican guys helped and she ran away to get a cab .the guy following her gave chase and had hold of her leg trying to pull her out . She ends up getting prosecuted for damage to his phone .she couldn’t understand what was going on ,she ended up paying a fine but had no idea what she was signing .Told she would be kicked out country if she put a foot wrong . They don’t care that these girls don’t understand what is being said . They treat foreign teachers badly
It's unfortunate that happened to her. It's more unfortunate that the creep wasn't punished. I'm curious on why your daughter decided to leave the company of the American men who helped her? You said the creep actually followed her after she left. I think she would have been safer with the guys who helped her.
@@Constellasian I think the American men held him and told her to leave . There will be more to story but I know she said that she got charged for breaking his phone ,she didn’t know what the police said ,the English teachers are not treated well
I came to Korea for temple stay in 2014, n while I was there, I shared a room with a Canadian woman who taught English. She told me not to go clubbing alone, not to drink soju with someone I don't know well, not to accept drinks from strangers (especially men), if using public washrooms, always be careful to check toilet cubicles for hidden cameras before pulling down my panty, not to leave my food/drinks unattended in a cafe if I need to use the washroom (better to just ditch your coffee than to risk having someone drug you)... She said South Korea has a very patriarchal culture n unlike in K-drama, many men don't respect women, so rapes, sexual assault n spousal battery are common even if under-reported. She told me to always be on my toes if I want to make my stay as pleasant as possible. Scared the shit out of me, but in a way it's good b/c I stayed vigilant throughout my visit to Korea. Then on a bus ride in Gwangju, I got scolded by an ahjumma for wearing body-fitting yoga pants b/c my sweater was not long enough to cover my hips. I was so angry at her meddling then... But looking back, she's advising me for my own good, b/c on bus n subway rides, there may be men who would try to grope my butt/groin if I didn't dress "conservatively" enough according to Korean standard. Funny... B/c K-pop girl groups often dress provocatively n wear very short skirts, which can be misleading to foreigners not familiar with Korean culture
lol kpop groups are made to generate money for owners, they don't pick what they want to dress
Good tips that we should remember wherever we go. I plan to go there but will not go out and will just work, go out when necessary and then just stay home. Sounds boring but is a lot safer.
I am glad that that kindly Canadian woman and that ahjumma looked out for you.
@Maxim Musa I think you are confusing "respect" with "admiration".
EVERYONE deserves to be respected as a person (not hurt or harrassed in any way, treated politely and with dignity). Those who are exceptional deserve admiration (given special treatment like Olympic athletes and Nobel Prize winners). 🙂
THIS. Korea is a very conservative country... Don't let K dramas and Kpop fool you.
I’m a Korean girl who lives in abroad now. While I watching this video, I was so surprised and feel sorry for my ignorance. Korea is the country which I had lived for more than 10 years but I have never heard about these cases.. It hurts my heart to imagine how difficult it must have been for a foreigner who has a language problem to go through the irrational investigation process that even Korean victims of sexual violence cannot understand. I really.. really hope that our country to recognize this problem so that every victim can don't let this happen again regardless their nationality.
a lot of what you watch is feminist propaganda to push for certain agenda there's no way to fact check any of this
What you call your ignorance is caused by the patriarchy inside of the root of your education
Guess the foreign girls are much easier targets for your men..
According to the presentation at the Korea Women’s Development Institute’s 119th Gender Equality Policy Forum, 8 out of 10 South Koreans aged 19 to 34 viewed South Korea as “a hell,” while 7.5 out of 10 said they hoped to leave. A particularly large disparity between females and males was observed for fear of being victimized by crime: young women had a crime anxiety index rating of 2.66 out of four points. Young females were also the angriest with their average rating of 2.79.
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I live in Seoul currently and it’s gotten to the point where I basically refuse to go out with Korean men. Better safe than sorry. Women don’t matter in Korea, and foreign women are especially sexualized-to the point where Korean men will say being “sexually open minded is western culture.”
Unfortunately that’s the impression our media ,celebrities and Film industry have given. Basically western women are always up for a good time . This is really horrendous.
@@Lakeslover1 What you say is so wrong it seems like you try to excuse these guys by saying well it’s our fault because of western movies. No, movies are just movies they are not reality that why we call them movies and not reality shows. And also I’m pretty sure Korean people know that as they know that their country it’s not what kdramas portrayed to be,like first kiss after 5 months but they obviously play it dumb.
@@danaeddd2051 the media plays a rule but to give it 100% is dumb it's like saying those guys are brainless and just media controls them the problem is bigger than what westerns think or believe solution looks like
but look into how western women are is 100% western media felt the rape issues is something else media plays part in it with sexual culture but not the whole image
@@danaeddd2051 Believe it or not, Kathleen isn't wrong. It's not an excuse. It's exactly right. This isn't a foreign idea, media plays a much larger role to developing these kinds of thoughts.
Ever seen 21&Over? Super Bad? And all other college party films? Back when I was in college in America, the way guys viewed college girls went to extremes due to these films. It still does today. Pretty much the goal for guys in college is to get laid. Not all guys sure but many have this idea ingrained to their minds. Frat culture and toxic masculinity continues to plague in American colleges; especially party schools.
For Koreans in this context, Hollywood films portray women as "sexually open" or "easy" hence many Korean men are brainwashed with that idea. Not all men, but it still creates a fantasy in their minds that they can lay with "easier western women who flaunt their bodies" before they get married. But this isn't just a Korean thing, you see this in other cultures too. I really wish to say that Korea is a great country. It has its charms. But we cannot have false ideas that it is a utopia. Even in countries that are rated as "the safest in the world" like Japan and Canada, you're never truly safe.
also, being sexually open minded doesnt negate consent. just bc a woman likes sex doesnt mean her consent can be overridden
Korea seems a hell for woman. The justice system is not worthy of a democracy and treats victims like perpetrators and perpetrators like victims. My image of Korea has completely changed. Even as a man, I wouldn't want to live there.
I am Korean British and I always warn female British friends who visit Korea. They tend to travel with completely warped perspectives on romantic relationships due to K-Drama and K-Pop's propaganda.
Yup. During my first year in Korea, a guy I was on a date with dragged me into a motel. I kept trying to pull away and told him to let go. People passing by did nothing, they just kept walking. I later learned that Korean people don't normally get involved in domestic issues- even if they happen in the middle of the street.
I later passed by a couple in the middle of an altercation- both were Korean. The guy was yelling and hitting his girlfriend and the girl just stood there crying. A crowd surrounded them, but no one did anything, they just watched.
They are sick
@@bluemoon4944 South Korea does not have any Good Samaritan laws. If the people mentioned above intervened and ended up hurting the guy, they could get sued or have criminal charges up against them. They’re not sick, their legal system is.
Thank god I live in the usa
Also there were cases of the girlfriends hitting the boyfriend's but boyfriend's couldn't do anything cuz police would protect them. I remember as female when i talked to some female and male Korean friends who told me these. Maybe four years ago? Not sure how it's now.
@@yolobro983 usa isn that safe lol
What scares me the most in these situations is that nobody will come in and help you. Everyone minds their own business.
result of korean culture and the world's collective individualistic society
I've heard many stories about domestic violence issues among Korean men, but I was shocked to find out that it's actually true. In Japan, we've had serious problems with some Korean visitors (mainly men) being rude and disrespectful at shrines and temples. It got so bad to the point that one Shinto priest finally ended up putting up a sign saying, 'No Koreans on this property.
To make the victim reenact the whole crime is like putting them again on the same crime scene. I don't even want to imagine how much trauma it would have caused.
I didn't expect this from such a developed country, especially people witnessing this much cruelty and ignoring because it's happening to a foreigner. How do these people face the mirror???
They don't bother. Most of them only care about themselves or their fellow Koreans.
I just wanna say;
God bless them!!!
It's the same here in Japan, and the police is similar to South Korea's. There's a lot of victim blaming and they often side with the Japanese national. If you defend yourself and physically attack your aggressor, they can go against you and sue you instead. 🤷🏻♀️🙄
@@coralie288 I feel like we need to rethink what real development means both at individual and global levels.
Take care of yourself 🌠
And they always say respect is top in the korean society the junior senior relationship the respect they have for strangers whats the point for all that if they cant even help someone out.
The first time I met a Korean guy was in Japan when I was studying there. We would casually hang out and I starting feeling that something was off when we started drinking together. Once while playing a game, we made a bet and I said jokingly that I’d do anything he’d ask me for. Little did I know that he would very seriously ask for a sexual favor, which I obviously declined. He got extremely angry and verbally abused me publicly. A few weeks later he brought this talk back, slammed me against a wall and tried to force himself onto me. Scary bastard.
Overall the guy had no respect towards women, and what shocked me the most was that he had many female friends who all saw him in a positive light. I tried warning them but they would remain as his friends, even when he’d call them w**res in public for no reason.
@@elodieelvira7913 We used to live in the same school dorm, I bumped into him in the corridor. I don't think there's anything wrong with me. No need to be agressive.
@@Khaphoo hey, i wanted to tell you that I feel very sorry for what happened to you and especially for the comments here, wtf is wrong with these ppl victim blaming you??? You did NOTHING wrong and you are NOT AT FAULT for what happened to you, please don't let these sh*tty people here influence you! Sending love ❤
Koreans are horrible people. Their culture is garbage.
I'd like to add that the statement "I'd do anything you ask me for" could easily be interpreted as an invitation or confirmation when the guy was looking for that. I don't know how the situation was, so I'm speaking more generally.
What I mean is, that when someone is interested in another person, they don't directly ask for sex. Instead, they probably approach the situation gradually, making attempts to get closer and interpreting signals to see if the interest is mutual or not.
Given that, especially if the guy was filled with hope, the quoted part could be seen as confirming all hopes only to shatter them right after. That doesn't excuse anything, of course. It is however important to be aware that with the unequal relationship between men and women in this regard misinterpreted signals, even without any ill intend, can lead to bad or even horrible experiences.
So it would be good to always be aware that the other may be trying to interpret everything you do in hope of a confirmation. He may even misinterpreting the slightest possible hint if only he is desperate enough.
I hope my intention is clear - I'm not victim blaming you or anyone. The guy is an a*hole and you are not at fault for anything. I just think it's important to be aware that a guy may try to interpret any interactions between you for a confirmation to get closer. While it may be very clear for you that you have never done anything to indicate interest, in the guys head that may be different and he may not be aware of how much his mind tricks him to think you did. Nothing can turn you back into a hormone driven animal like the sex drive. Of course one should work against that, but you never know how much someone is successful, or even willing to do so.
If anyone disagrees feel free to free to share your thoughts. :)
@@PedoThaBear I get what you mean and it explains certain issues we have in our society very well. Only part missing IMO is maybe a solution to the problem.
I have been raped and molested in my own country and I felt like I was the one at fault but after I felt so upset and this was a co worker that was offering me a ride home. And it turned into a nightmare.
Women please, keep safe an please, speak out about it.
I am sorry that happened to you. Hope karma hits that guy like a truck someday
@@bsame I just leave them to the gods. And thank you
go to islamic country alot more safer, country with religion they have more moral value.
@@StaryzHeliosNo thanks dude ...who said they are safe ?? We have not seen cases because girls have no rights there just like in Korea police administration is not registering the cases of girls that's why in Korean society cases are not highlighted same happens in Islamic countries or worst . They get married with their own sister WTH.
@@StaryzHeliosNice joke dude. Islamic country and safety in a same sentence? 😂
In 2019, I got sent to the police station in Seocho because I drunk man in the street tried to attack me. They let him go and kept me at the station until the following day. Not one person spoke English. A complaint was made by my company and the following week, they made a formal apology and advised they would get employ English speakers. I went back in 2022 and once again another issue and got sent to the same police station, where they locked me up for 14 hours. Nearly four years later and still not one English speaker working there.
I don’t believe a word of what this guy says!
Why don’t you tell your brothers, uncles and make friends to stop abusing women?
Till now July 2024 still don't have English translator but offer Chinese speaking translator instead. recently My family and i are victims of crimes. Made a police report and wait for their prosecutor to contact us.
20 years ago when I was traveling in Europe I was at the same room at the youth hostel with a group of Korean girls my age. I asked them what they love most about Korea and they said food, family, places they like... I asked them what they hate most about Korea and they all said together - the guys!!!!!
I've heard American women say this about their men too though
@@sambolife2764greek women for greek men too ...
just deal with American men,
we're the best.
Every country's women hate their men lol, nothing new
I think thats what most women say about the men of their country too
This actually blew my mind and changed my view on Korea.
same tbh. I've always thought that Korea was a beautiful country, still do, but this video also changed my view on the country as well. (mostly the men) I am aware that not every single Korean man is like this, but I don't wanna be on guard 24/7 in a place where I wanna visit if yk.
My first visit to Korea, I was seated on a bus and had an ahjussi sit beside me. He kept moving closer until I was squashed up against the wall and suddenly he was groping my chest - it was painful and unexpected, I was so shocked.
There is this unspoken rule that foreigners are looked upon as noisy and troublesome and that we shouldn't make a scene because it will piss people off, so I got off the bus but he followed me. I'm lucky it was my actual stop and I was meeting a friend, her son called out my name and ran towards me so the ahjussi took off. I told my friend what happened and she said, 'If that happens again, scream. Make a noise. The bus driver will be forced to hold the guy until the police arrive.' As a foreign resident, sadly, I don't have much faith in the police here. They always blame the foreigner. Besides, people on the bus saw it happening. Except for one middle school student who looked scared, the rest looked at me like I was filth.
I had a similar experience at a bus stop, an old man kept coming closer to me and like licking his lips at me and I just like, kept taking steps in the other direction. Luckily, an ahjumma screamed at him and told him to go away so he did. I was lucky that this lady didn't just ignore the situation.
@@beasttitanofficial3768 i had that to in germany i random dude looked my way i looked him in the eye he smiled creepy sat himself to me grabed my chest i was scared he known that i told him nicely to remove his hand i grabed his from my chest a older woman saw this stood up ad sayed to that asshole to leave me alone since im a nice person the bus driver than stood up asked me if everything was alright they guy akward left the next Station in the bus and left i was glad for the older woman to interfere help me out i invited her to cake and cofee as thank you she was brave for stood up for me
@@beasttitanofficial3768 i really had a Guardian angel in my luck this time
@@beasttitanofficial3768 that man was sadly to say a pervert
@@beasttitanofficial3768 i keeped calm and didnt Made a drama out of it but i dont like it if someone touch my chest it friggin hurts and is uncomfortable but i was teached not to slap others or hit be agressive do i dealed peaceful with it and i had luck the universe did helped me out but deciding the nice older lady to help me
As a guy, I find rapist are fcking disgusting. My heart goes out to all the wonderful women who has been through this horrible experience.
This takes me back to a popular club in Seoul where men dragged me and my friend around like we were just ‘objects’ despite us saying we weren’t interested they kept literally pushing us around and nobody listened to us when we asked for help.
Damn I’m sorry that happened to y’all, what happened afterwards did you get away?
It's just the fault of foreign women who think sleeping with a korean boy is a blessing for them
@@chemophile14clown
@@chemophile14 get reality check dude, touch some grass
@@spareofhappiness 😄
I'm more irritated when certain 'influencers' travel to Korea and push this idea that everyone NEEDS to move to Korea if they want a better life. These are dangers these influencers are aware of, but don't speak about to their viewers because they would rather sell the aesthetic than the reality. I heard one of those travelers on TikTok say, 'well, yeah, sexual assault is there but women have separate spaces they can go to so it's not that bad'. My blood pressure was through the roof!
yea and when people live in trailer homes up the mountains. its so cringe but sad that people actually believe them
I know a few yt channels where girls are European and their husbands Korean and they always talk so highly about Korea. I was following these channels for 2 - 4 years until this moment and not EVEN ONCE did I hear by any of them mention this problem. They even brought their families to show how Korea is cool, modern and safest place of all where even burglary isn't happening.
British girl, Macedonian girl, Russian girl and Ukrainian girl... There are more that I don't follow, but for these ones, I can tell because I watched tons of their content through years.
Unfortunately it seems that at this point in time there is NO support for the (foreign) women who are victims of sexual assault. It is my understanding the even the organizations listed in this video are simply collecting data rather than providing the important and necessary services victims sorely need. Doctors are not always willing to see them - why? Are they afraid to become involved in court cases to provide evidence of rape? Psychologists, lawyers and such are costly. Victims cannot afford them. Female police officers, detectives, investigators - where are they and why do they seem to look down on the victim as if it's her fault? Why are the rapists being freed after investigation only to become repeat offenders? Is it because of the delay in reporting of the incident therefore there is scanty evidence of a crime? Korea is sorely behind the times in helping victims. Is it because of a general attitude that women are less than men? There is MUCH that needs to be improved in Korea to help ALL women victims of sexual assault.
Yes I agree with you
Don’t forget as a foreigner the embassy has power to press them chin-ups who act as if they don’t want to do there job but don’t sit back and not say anything speak up I need to hear the volume hold those chumps accountable
The Embassy should get made aware of crimes committed on women in foreign countries.The Military has MPs and Shore Patrol to keep their people in line.
yes people need to know korea is not all rainbow and happiness. I went to korea in 2016 and I stayed at a hotel. Not a motel. A proper well known hotel (an higher end hotel) and I noticed a small red light from the TV at first I thought it is just the TV light because TV in the front have that light but I look closer to it and touch and and sure enough there was a spy cam on the TV. Nothing happened to me be I felt violated and disgusted as I change in front of the TV many times so I went to the police right away and report it and the police say they will look for it. And I ask who will be held responsible for it and they say the hotel is not held responsible because there is not much evidence who put the camera there. So I ask then nothing will be done to it? And they said yeah nothing can be done. And I ask then should other hotel guest know about it? And the police assured me saying they want to other guest to know about the situation. Then I went back to the hotel to collect my things, the hotel managers pretended nothing happened and didn't say anything and didn't look me in the eye. There was no compensation or anything. I paid the 5 night hotel fee and left. But I still want to make sure of the other guest know about it because I don't believe the hotel so the very next day I wore a black cap and went back the hotel and stayed there then I waited for a guest on the same floor and when they open the door I ask if they know about the situation and the guest said "No! No one told me anything!" And she was shocked and disgusted then both of us went down and confront the hotel but the hotel called the police and called me trespassing and somehow I was sent to the police and I didnt pay anything or go to jail or anything but they slap me with a warning that if I go there again I will have to go to jail. And I was like for real? Not only you lied to me saying you will tell the guest because thats the least you can do and I'm trespassing? To this day the hotel is thriving and no news of it being on the news and I'm disgusted. This is speculation but I feel like the hotel know something about it as it is in the TV I don't think someone can easily put it in the TV because it was specifically put there
And the fact that they can sue you for defamation EVEN IF THEY ARE FOUND GUILTY. Smdh.
Like Flower I was raped and am pregnant. I’ve decided to keep my baby. I had a previous abortion and almost lost my life. Figured I’m damned both ways.
Hey l hope you are feeling better day by day. I am extremely sorry u had to go through all of that❤️❤️❤️
I am so sorry that you have gone through that.
May God give you all the strength you need. ❤❤❤❤
You’re not damned
Can you talk about this more because unfortunately these Democrats want to act like abortion is just the answer to everything when they don't talk about the health risk that come along with getting an abortion and also the mental problems that you will have from having an abortion please share your story on UA-cam because getting an abortion is not the f****** answer not always
You are not dammed
This is horrible. As a Korean, I am so upset with how Korea is such an advance in technology, yet the social structure and view on women is just so antiquated and mysogynistic. Wake up Korean men! My Korean dad was a terrible abuser of me and my mother, also.
Well you can't do anything when your society still believe a stupid ideology like Confucianism, for Korea to move forward they have to say fuck off to Confucianism.
21st Century tech with 18th/19th Century social development. An odd pairing.
I know SO many Korean people who have horrible abusive fathers😭 i have never met a Korean who has a good father. Everyone seems to have disgusting fathers I am so sorry for that…omg why is it like this
I am so sorry about what you've been through. God bless you and I hope you'll heal and become stronger day by day.
@@roselamoure I also know someone although who grew up in the U.S. is ethnically Korean. This person's father treated his wife like a slave just because she is female and traditionally, women are expected to serve the husbands in Asian Confucian culture. This person is super progressive and I imagine that witnessing this blatant gender power imbalance in the household growing up prompted her to shift left socially...which makes complete sense.
“Not all Koreans are rapists.”
“Every country has its bad apples.”
FFS THIS IS FREAKIN' RIDICULOUS! Nobody said ALL Korean men are rapists BUT rape cases in S.Korea is getting worse! People needs to talk about it more! This comment section giving me headaches... Even Korean people I know kept telling us to not trust KDramas and KPop wtf.
But how South Koreans react is the main problem. They think of themselves very high and discriminate against people from another country. This is true that Not all Koreans are same but recognising and admitting the problems with them and their country is very important. Being shameless is the main problem.
Do not believe European women, they will try best to bring oriental Asian down. Malicious
It's getting worse because their justice system is a joke!
India is even worse!
@@adwitiyayadav9971India is the worse! Free free women in India!
Don't think Korea is perfect and safe believe us believe the people who lived in Korea when they say it's not safe no place is 100 % safe. It's actually dangerous for foreigners. Be safe be careful
Compare Korea to other countries and tell us which safer than Korea! Put a link if you have!
@@Scho-penhauer Every country has good people and bad people
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@@Scho-penhauer Other countries is broad. Is Korea safer than Afghanistan, yes it is. Is Korea safer than Belgium? I don't think so. To be safer than Belgium, it would mean no crimes are committed in Korea..That people are not running up and down shooting like US is probably what qualifies as safe. Try telling that to someone stabbed to death in Korea.
@@Whiplæsh Your link proves that South Korea has the highest rape rate in East Asia. It is nearly ten times higher than other East Asian countries.
There is a Western woman commenting in the comment area. She said that all countries in the Confucian cultural circle are like this. Just so I can quote your link to fight her back. Obviously South Korea, and Christian countries have the highest rape rate (South Korea is also a Christian country). 😂
@@淮阳子 It's because of k-pop and kdrama people are defending them...That imaginary "too good to be true"stuff shown in the movie actually makes people believe that it is the reality there....i am myself a k-pop fan but not a blind one...And btw every country has problems...I can't name a single country where women are completely safe...
Bro I almost started crying when the girl said she had all the evidence but he was still founded innocent
How can the public see what was happening to one of the ladies and not intervene I think that’s disgusting…. On any level you can’t excuse that behaviour….. foreign or not you don’t have the right to touch anyone with out their consent…
I was planning to visit South Korea. I just changed my mind! Thank you for these videos.
don't let kdramas fool us. korea is a developed country with very close minded people. i feel so much for the victims.. i've been a victim too 😔💔
I feel so sorry to hear this😖More power to you❤
No one cares. They're not close minded if they don't support feminism or LGBT propaganda.
It's just the fault of foreign women who think sleeping with a korean boy is a blessing for them
@@chemophile14men ☕️
@@capivarapassando1159 thanks
Korea is really a scary and depressing country to live in I hope that these brave women have strengh and power to get over the shock.
你这是什么意思？你上次不是说你不会忘记天安门而且必定找回民主主义吗
With the popularity of kpop, there are tons of people who hold an idealised vision of South Korea and want to visit for that very reason. I hope this helps raise awareness of South Korea’s reality, there’s dark side to everything. I hope there’s progressive change where victims - both men and women - of sexual abuse and sexual assault can get their rightful justice. sexual assault and sexual abuse is never taken seriously in the court of South Korea. The disgusting misogyny that runs deep is sadly a reality of many nations.
Praying for the victims, they’re so brave to speak up about this. I only wish and pray the best for you all. So heartbreaking to hear and read the abuse you all went through. You’re not alone🫂
It is not just Korea but don’t idealize any country. All countries have problems and issues.
@Lilly What the hell??? That is my real name not a nickname and I want to use a nickname as I have been harassed several times on UA-cam.
Yeap. Women that fan towards K-pop are too much delusional
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj not like Korea and Japan. They have serious problem regarding crime against women
K dramas are scam. Everything in Korea is packaged to duped people like their plastic surgery industry
I know a girl who is American who moved to Korea around 8 years ago. She has posted several times about the sexual harassment and SA she’s dealt with while leaving there. Mind you she’s an Asian. Definitely was eye opening the stories she mentioned, and making it aware Koreans will grab at you.
My friend told me she was raped when she’d studied abroad in Korea. I thought it was a one off case but i would’ve never thought it was so wide spread.
It happened to me 2 weeks ago. I went to a very tiny pub in front of our university with my friends. We didn't drink much but while sitting next to an unknown guy i left my drink unattended for a few seconds. After just 1 drink I slowly stated, losing consciousness. after which he starting touching my hands and brought me closer to him. My male friend saw this happening and immediately asked me to leave the pub (which i have no memory of, i was already out of consciousness). Suddenly that guy started pushing my friend strongly and held his hand. Seeing this my female friend rushed to stop him and along with her two unknown korean women who were also looking at us came to stop him. He got startled and left my friend's hand. The two unknown girls warned him and took me to my home along with my friends. Immediately as we left the pub, that guy kept calling my phone 15 times until the korean girls scolded him and blocked him(even though I didn't give him my number, i just gave him my phone for a moment to use Google translate before I had my drink as I couldn't understand what he kept saying to me in Korean. He acted very respectfully in the beginning). I literally have no memory of the night, i am very thankful to the unknown girls who saved me that night.
This really made me feel it was up to me to be carefull because such assholes will always be there.
After seeing this video you still went? 😅 Are you the type of person who thinks it only happens to somone else but never you?
@@blackwater7183 Why do you think that it happened to her after watching this video? She just told her story and nothing more. Are you one of these disguasting Korean maniacs?
@@elenamedvedeva3684 What if I was a Korean but not a maniac you racist bastard. So you think Koreans are disgusting? Wow! wooow! Are we back in the 1940's? Should I go sit at the back of the bus now? Sorry ma'am I didn't know this was a white only drinking fountain.
@@blackwater7183The Korean men defending the pr3det0rs is gross. Have you read the comments? This has nothing to do with the 1940s/the sensitive topic of r@c!sm, you are taking Elena’s comment too far and I say this as someone from Germany. The previous comment you made sounded like you were defending the bad Korean men who did this to foreign women.
@@Ludwig_Himmler I'm not Korean or a maniac. I've been to Germany and it seems like you guys never learned anything from WW2. Your people are still xenophobic racist bastards. You will never know what's it's like to be discriminated just because of the color of your skin! Time will come when your people get punishment exactly what's due to them.
I'm very ashamed as a Korean, but also!! Since I am a Korean, I will do my best to prevent incidents such as violence against foreigners. once again! As a Korean, I would like to express my apology on behalf of you.
Thank you
nobody wants to go to korea .
Oppa Gangnam Style!
@@jjfu301 🤣
@@AnishTigga836 Are you Japanese? Lmao 🤣
Truly sickening. The victims are so brave & courageous. If saying a word of "sorry" is enough to help a tiny bit of their trauma to be vanished, Im so sorry. Their presence show of how great they are as victims (and warriors) holding themselves together with a hope of justice and not only for themselves, but for the sake of other women/men too. Hopefully the systems will fix and prevent things like this ever happen again. Horrifying, absolutely horrifying.
Salam where are you from?
Unfortunately this doesn’t surprise me even a tiny bit! Sexual harassment is extremely common in Korea, it‘s also connected to the fact that sexism is still very big in Korea and there is low respect for woman. Men think they can do whatever they want to females and there are many creepy and perverted guys in Korea. They are actually exactly like animals nothing less. Not trying to say that they are all bad but I would be extremely careful. In Korea having male friends who are actually kind and good is kinda rare and they always want to date you. I can’t imagine how terrifying the nightlife is there but I will never ever experience the nightlife in Korea anyways. I‘m glad that I have anxiety and grew up in a strict and conservative family where I was never really allowed to do anything. I‘m so sorry that this happened to these woman it must be incredibly disgusting and horrible to go through this but I applauded their bravery and that they bring this issue up more to the surface and that this will be talked about! The police is really shitty in Korea and as a foreigner they will absolutely do nothing when something like this happens to you since they don’t care much about foreigners! All I can say is be careful everyone. Korea is not what you see in dramas and don’t get fooled. The men there are exactly as shitty as the men in other countries. Be careful where you go, with who you go and who you befriend. I personally will definitely not go to any club or club district when I visit Korea. It‘s to dangerous and not enjoyable anyways because they just want seggs and nothing else. Be careful ladies.
Very good statement. Thank you.
That's too bad that they have such an issue with perverts. I've heard stories from friends that many Korean guys just wanted to sleep with them. And they love to ghost you. BTW what are seggs?
pollice is shitty?
shut up
I was like in 2019 3am in korea and I had a guy who was chasing me
I start running he start running to likely in high school I was sprint runner and very active so I was faster
I encounter pollice and asked hem help me places and they sad something to the guy and he left
they even drive me to my house with was pretty far
so Korean police is very good
men exactly as shitty as men in there countries?
that sound like you hate man
@@allenk6373 calm down. Everyone's experience is different . Meanwhile Korean friends tell me police has no power . So everyone has different opinion on that it seems
I cry for every girl that spoke. My heart goes to them. What a horrible thing to experience and how painful the journey to recovery is ever truly is.
I love Seoul and I have been living on and off there since 2011. But living there changed a lot of my behavior because of sexual harassment or things I got taught from my Korean friends to keep myself save.
I heard from every single foreign girl I know (and in 11 years you get to know many girls) that they have been followed/stalked by at least one Korean guy. I was followed home at night (but decided to go to a 24h coffeeshop near my home instead , to not show that person where I live), I was stalked online for over 2 years (I got daily messages from the same person, trying to figure out what I was doing and where I was - I didn't respond once, but he still keeped going). In 2011 I went to a really crowed club and a guy grabbed me from behind and put his hand down my dress. I elbowed him really hard and got free that way. Since then I never wore a dress or skirt to a club again.
There were a few situations were guys tried to get me to go home/ to a Hotel with them, but I luckily could escape safely. I'm pretty tall and I also speak Korean almost fluently, that also helped me in many situations.
Some things I learned while living in Seoul that might help people there:
- My korean friends always make sure to write each other the plate number of the taxis they take and they make sure that they message/call each other when they arrive home. A lot assaults are happening in taxis. In order to keep save try to do something similar with your friends.
- Watch your drinks. Honestly this is sadly a thing you should do in every country in the world if you are female.
- Always go clubbing with reliable friends, that will watch you and help you if needed.
- Never show anyone you barely know where you live. Many Korean guys offer to take you home, it's a polite thing to do, they wanna make sure that you get home save most of the time. But still be careful who you show where you live.
- Watch out for 물카s(hidden cameras) in public bathrooms and Motels. Even through many public bathrooms are super clean in Korea, I try to avoid using them. There are a bunch of videos on UA-cam on how to spot these Cameras.
- When you are spending more time than a short holiday in Korea, try to get to know basic Korean that helps you to call for help and call out people directly so they can't ignore you.
- Speaking Korean will also help you to ask your Korean friends for advice in some situations you are not sure about. Koreans tend to word things different and less direct then some western country's do. If you are unsure of someones intentions, try to ask a Korean friend about it. There are also a many Koreans that are fluent in English. Its a bit harder to find them, but there are ways (like meet ups and so on). It took me a lot of time to find good friends that will always be there for me and stand up for me no matter what, but it is definitely possible.
- Be also aware of foreignes in Korea. I have experienced quite a lot of harassment from foreign guys living in Korea as well. In one situation my friend and I had to ask some Korean guys to pretend to be with us in order to get away.
- Be careful where you go out at night. I used to avoid certain areas and clubs ( for example I learned to avoid many itaewon clubs, because a lot of Koreans are looking for foreigners in these clubs). Speaking Korean I try to go to clubs where people wouldn't necessarily look for foreigners.
- Also be careful with Koreans that are obsessed with foreign girls. There is still this idea of "riding the white horse" in Korea and foreign women are often fantasized by many Korean man (same for western guys who have this idea about asian woman). They think foreign girls are easy going and easy to get. So if there are any red flags, rather stay away.
- If anything happens to you, call the police right away! Also if you have friends that speak englisch and Korean try to get them to help you translate! Everyone has different experiences, but I so far had only good ones with the Korean police. Calling the police is always scary (especially if its you first time - I never had called the police before, even in my home country-.-), but often they are friendly and try to help you.
Thank you for this detailed advice, Lala.
Why go to clubs at all there?
@@tellallyourfriends27 Because its fun going dancing with your friends. I had many fun experiences (for example: one time I ended up on a private party of GDragon) and I only had one really bad experience in a club in Korea, the one I described before. Other than that, nothing super bad ever happened to me. A few situations made me feel uncomfortable, but I made sure to leave before anything could have happened. My mom always made sure to teach me what to look out for when I go out and how to protect myself (like going with friends that will look out for me, watching my drink all times, knowing self-defense and how to say no directly and so on) + I barely drink alcohol and therefore never get really drunken. The problem with Korea is, that it feels pretty safe and the image of KDramas and Kpop Idol behavior makes many foreigners be less careful. There are many nice and decent guys in Korea, not everyone is bad. Just be careful like you would in any other country or place as well when you go out and try to avoid people that specifically are looking for foreigners.
At this point, its better to leave. The culture and the men there are horrible
Thank you for your advice dear ❤ it's sad that things are like this way... it's exhausting to be a woman sometimes because there is no country were we aren't 100% safe... we have to take care 😢 btw when you say that some korean men have fantasies with foreign women you mean like any kind of foreing women or white women? I read the thing about "to ride the white horse" but that's directed to white women I think?
한 남자로써 말하건데. 우리 들의 부끄러운 이야기지만, 자꾸만 묻어둘것이 아니라, 많이 양지로 끌어내서 공론화 되서, 약자를 보호하는 사회가 됐으면 합니다. 그리고 이런얘기를 제가 한 20년전부터 들었었거든요, 그런데 아마 많은 사람들이 당하고 있을겁니다. 부당한 것들에 'No' 라고 말할수 있고 약자를 보호할수 있는 용기가 있는 남자들도 많기를 바랍니다. 저를 비롯해서요. 참 비디오도 좋고 내용도 좋네요. 이렇게 많은 피해자들이 나와서 얘기하는 용기에 박수를 보냅니다. 그리고 너무 너무 맘이 아픕니다.. 앞으로도 이런 약자들을 보호 할 수 있는 많은 사람들이 있기를 바래요. 법제화도 되고요. 약자를 보호해야죠.. 이 가부장적인 남성주의 사회도 문제구요. 여성을 존중할수 있는 사회가 만들어지기를 바랍니다. 어렸을때부터 교윳을 해야죠. 여자가 '싫다' 라는 말을 존중하는 것부터요.. 아 맘아픕니다.
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You are right. I will add that Korean society must protect all individuals, as any civilized country would. It's crazy to see that Korea considers people differently because they come from a foreign country. A woman or a man is a human being. The problem of rape exists in all countries. Every man who rapes someone should feel ashamed. Countries should differ in how they deal with victims. Victims are currently considered guilty. It is shameful.
No somos débiles
Somos personas
Y lo que hace falta es respecto
Un no es un NO!!
Una mujer no se toca si ella no quiere
Como te sentirías sobre manosea un hombre a ti en el bus?
O si te besa??
No es cosa de debilidad
Es respetar límites
No quiero que se me proteja como una débil mujer
Quiero mis derechos y punto
As a Korean woman, I am so ashamed how men from my country could ever do such things to women, even if they’re not Korean. I am so sorry to all of the people to go through something like this. I remember going to a night club for the first time on my friend’s birthday. I was 19 years old going to a hongdae club with bunch of my friends. I just wanted to have fun. But some random dude started to hug me behind and slowly tried to lift up my shirt. I tried to prevent him from going too far and next thing he tried to do, he tried to kiss me. He kept saying to my ear saying ‘it’s ok. It’s ok.’ I was not ok. I avoided the kiss and I typed in the notes saying ‘I don’t speak Korean’ to him. He saw that and took off. I felt so scared and my anxiety started to go up little by little. My girl friend took me outside for some fresh air. She told me that ‘random men will come up to you and touch you whichever club you go to.’ This was the first and last time I ever went to a night club. I told my 2 closeted friends about this incident and they comforted me. Now I’m 26 and it’s been 3 years since I left Korea. My co workers and friends from Korea would always ask me why I don’t have a boyfriend and my answer is ‘I don’t want one because I like being single.’ My co workers would tried to take me to bars and find a guy for me but I told them that I just wanted to go home and sleep. It’s gets annoying but I don’t want to cause any problems since they are all older than me.
Sk people and government should have to speak about this too.
Oh god thanks for God we are Muslim and I live in safest country
Yeah even when drunk in Mexico and dancing with drunk American college guys wearing a bikini and shorts, I wasn't even groped so I'm astonished at the absolute lack of shame those dudes in clubs have.
make sure u marry a korean
@@alishaan2417 ... right. Especially for women.
도대체 무슨 일이 일어난건가요??
길거리에서 당하고 있는데도 아무도 도와주지 않았다니..
너무 슬픕니다.. 같은 한국인으로서 정말 미안하다고 말하고 싶어요..
많은 시스템이 바뀌어야 한다는 것을 느낍니다.
한국에서 지내고 있는 외국인 여성분들이 안전하길 바라고 2차 가해가 일어나지 않길 바랍니다.
Are u really korean or some obsessed cringe kpop kdrama fan trying to be korean
Start the change yourself. Live by the saying, "See something, say something, do something." It's heartbreaking the way korea deals with these cases and the lack of respect for victims.
Si ces femmes étrangères vivent en Corée c'est parce qu'elles aiment la langue, la culture et les mecs, right?