Get Your Ex Back (5 Important Strategies)
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How To Get Your Ex Back ( 5 Important strategies )
If you are going through a break up it can be one of the most painful experiences of your life. If not THE most painful experiences.
No matter what kind of relationship you were in. If it was 3 months, 3 years or 3 decades. You find yourself at the potential end of that relationship.
Trying to get your ex back is not easy. scary, confusing.
It is absolutely terrifying. Many of you have spent hours every single day trying to figure out what to do.
Today’s video I thought I would do something a little different. I had some recent questions that came up from various people that thought would go together for a video
Hey Coach, Just had a quick question for you. My girlfriend and I broke up last week. I came online and found you with a few other coaches. I love that you actually have a psychology degree and experience. Nobody else seems to have that. I also really like the way you talk with people. I can tell you really care. I’m really confused and scared about one thing. Some people say I should ignore my ex if she reaches out. Is that true? Should I ignore her for the 30 days.
1) Do NOT ignore your ex: This is absolutely one of the worst mistakes you can make.
Why would you ignore someone that you are wanting to repair things with.
If your sister and you got into a fight and she wanted to talk with you about it and work things out. Would you ignore her? Of course not!
She would get more angry and then say screw him then. I tried. Now of course in that case, she would be family. But with an ex, why would they keep reaching out if they are going to get rejected… That doesn’t make any sense.
If someone tells you to ignore your ex, you should ignore their advice. Because it sucks.
I had a guy I did a Skype coaching with a few months ago who tried that advice. He was walking in the park near his house. And guess whos there. His ex walking her dog. The dog sees him and runs to him. He doesn’t know what to do.
I had a woman I just a coaching ask me this question:
2) Should I be friends with an ex? I feel like if I am their friend I can eventually win them back.
I wouldn’t. You are lying about what you want. You aren’t being authentic to yourself and to them.
Do you want to listen to stories about someone new you are dating?
Nelly sent me a question recently:
Hi Craig! Thank you for all your hard work and incredibly insightful videos. I have a question I was hoping you could answer.
I have been having a very difficult time during my break up and spent a lot of time talking with my friends and family. It’s so confusing. Everyone tells me different things.
3) Talking to friends and family to get advice
Have them as an outlet to talk and spent time with them. Be very careful about taking any advice. I cannot think of anyone who has had a good strategy to reattract someone.
After watching your videos on attachment styles, I realize I have an anxious attachment style and mistreated my boyfriend. I screamed at him all the time. I put him, his friends and his family down. I feel terrible. My mom said I should send him a handwritten letter to him and mail it. Do you think this would help?
4) The handwritten letter does not work
Absolutely not. I hear people tell me all the time how they did the handwritten letter. It doesn’t work.
5) Learn about Love and Attachment. Attachment styles.
Someone’s attachment style is their blueprint for love.
Would you use the same blue prints to build two different things.
Would you use the blueprints for Yankee stadium to build The Golden Gate Bridge. Of course not!
Every day I put out videos to teach you about love, attachment, attachment styles, trauma.
Let me help you figure out what attachment style you are and your ex is.
Someone’s attachment style is going to make a HUGE difference in what they are attracted to and how to re attract them. - Навчання та стиль
When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; when I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great wisdom here for anyone who can grasp it.
Im 2.5 month NC..... and going strong. Just know that when something bad happens in your life. Something great is right around the corner. If she was ment to be your girl the universe will bring her back in your life. Just remeber all the great things this person has taught you about yourself. We all meet different people in are life on purpose. Some people come and go in are life. Stay strong and keep moving
Update?
Ment to be don´t exist.
@ Jay Fountains- completely agree with the comment. I felt better reading that
Thank you for the words, Jay! Really helped me find a bit of peace.
fuck yeh
After 8 months of NC. We finally talked.
What was said? Did it work out?
Wow. How'd it go? And who spoke first?
???
You are wasting your time.
Any updates on what happened to you guys?
I wrote a hand written letter ONLY as therapy to heal. But I did not send it. If you want to write a letter, do it that way. I find journaling is extremely helpful. But by all means DON'T send a letter.
This is an old comment but reminded me of something recent and sad. My girlfriend kept journaling and writing letters every night before going to bed. It was about her changing feelings towards me that she first didn't want to face at first, until she couldn't sleep unless she wrote them out crying. She felt guilty for "roleplaying" throughout the way when she talked to me as if nothing was wrong. This went on for weeks, before she finally broke up with me.
I'm going to try that,, I will not send either but will write it out. Thanks for the advice.
Not bad, that's a good idea!
Onur Böle that’s painful
You should definitely not ignore them when they reach out. It’s juvenile. Do not however, respond to them within seconds. Although we are aching for them to reach out, to throw ourselves at them when they reach out would go against the discipline that no contact is supposed to build.
after over 30 days of no contact . i met my ex in a store and i isked her how shes doing and stuff ... but she was shy couldnt look at me in the eyes and barly answerd me and we wallked off in 20 sec . and i wasnt nervous at all and nothing happend after that its very sad when some people became strangers after being the closest to us
Extremely sad!!!!!! I spent 3 years with my x and for him to walk off like i NEVER existed feels like he is stabbing me in the heart!
@@Fonzi79
Sometimes they are on guard because of the decision to break up. Id avoid my ex 100%
@@Luminous.Dynamics yes so true...but still I was good to him for 3 yrs
@@Fonzi79 I know exactly what you mean. If you don't feel like moving on yet, you will at some point, but you don't want someone like that in your life.
@@Fonzi79
Keep your head up, you are worth alot more than that. Its hard I know. Feels like a rollercoaster ride, ups and downs all the time
my breakup was so bad, i felt my a piece of my soul split. I was in agonizing spiritual pain for five months. I am spiritually bonded to her. :-/
That's how I feel with my girl. Theres a connection on a whole other level. Did she ever come back?
Same
in my case, it is getting back to the month before i met my ex, because i had a feeling i was going to meet a new girlfriend soon, when i hadnt been with a woman for six years! It was the expectation feeling that got me to where I wanted, law of attraction, whatever. I had started approaching women i was interested in and got super close to getting a girlfriend, but weeks later i met this girl on cupid and we broke up a little over a week ago (it was 8 months long). So yeah, I totally agree, and also think you can add that feeling of expectation if you want to feel better about yourself since you had this feeling maybe you were going to succeed
It hurts . Going thru it now
@@riz1a1 It will pass, I promise.
afer 10 months i feel much better, do i miss her? yes, i still get sad from time to time, but i now understand that because of how important she was for me its normal to feel that way. do i want to get back together? i have my doubts now, i see things that i couldn't see because of my anxiety and depression. but im definitely much better now. i remember those late nights at 3am crying watching your videos. but listening to what you say and all your knowledge helped me so much. thank you coach.
Thanks for the kind words Emilio :)
Emilio Hernandez I can totally relate to what you wrote. Also the same duration of time.for me since my breakup. wish you the best
Emilio Hernandez what was her complaints about you ?
carlos cabrera well they usually won't tell you the real problem when they're breaking up with you, but I do agree with the whole neglecting her for a long time, I got caught up with just being a father and I forgot to flirt with her, make her feel wanted, having date nights, just the two of us for many years. and for Women that's very important. it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm not the type of guy that do all those things, I was actually kind of an asshole too, I never hit her, or cheated but many times I'd get mad for anything and wouldn't talk to her for few days, that's childish. so people gets tired of a treatment like that.
Crystal Callaghan thank you, how's your situation as for now?
Your advice has been really helpful, and even if old relationships are never rebuilt, these videos are very great. There’s humour, knowledge and just enjoyable moments. Thank you 🙏
Brilliant video Coach....thank you for your passion in helping us poor souls. Cheers, Rob
I feel so much better because of your coaching skills Craig I never felt better when I was watching Dan Bacon or Corey Wayne because your better Craig I'am grateful I found you Craig thank you 😊
You are saving a lot of lives with your videos and personally with your videos my life is clear and is making sense . I’m embarrassed of my past handling of my life . You and Margaret gave me tools to be happy and enjoy life after decades of pain, depression,insecurities and failed relationships. God made you both and I’m forever Thankful.Whatever life will throw at me and my family we are equipped by you two how to handle them ♥️💖💕Happy New Year
Suggestion for a future video: I understand that not every situation is a one size fits all; however, you mention that re-attracting someone who has anxious attachment is different from someone who has an avoidant attachment. I love psychology, but the scholarly articles I have read explain the fear of abandonment vs. aloneness, respectively-speaking. Would you please consider making a video of how re-attracting an anxious person differs from re-attracting and avoidant person? Thank you for your insightful videos.
Lol I just posted the exact same comment. Seeing that this one is 2 years is some sort of a brick wall. Did you get any wiser in the meantime dude?
Yes please my my wife is the same and it would help, thanks
Thankyou so much for your advice and insight Craig. I think my situation is hopeless but your videos have helped me understand the breakup better and cope with it. It has been the hardest thing I've ever been through, it's felt like dying. Your videos are my lifeline!
How are things? Noticed you commented this 2 years ago
this is so true. thank you for saying that local therapists can give baf advice. i am a therapist and know i have a long way to go in learning about relationships.
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Hello Craig and Margret. I have been watching your videos for over a year now. I was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease and it has been a great tole on my marriage.y wife now wants to separate. You have been so helpful for me with all your information. Love the both of you dearly.
Jesus Christ Im happy I found your channel. The portion of anxiety you touch on makes me feel human. I just recently had such bad anxiety off a split that I embarrased myself.
U ain't alone bub
Ditto. Now I'm in massive therapy and it's helping. However, the real question is, how do any of us know after months in therapy, if not longer, if it's working if we're not dating someone and getting the feels again to know that we're able to lower our anxiety? That's my biggest fear. I'm working on my childhood attachment pain and releasing it as I process all of it for the first time in my life, but how will I know unless I walk the walk? Right now I can talk the talk, but what about putting it into practice?
I'm unsure about anyone else, but I'm on all of the dating apps and I go on dates, I go to events, I talk to people, but I'm not connecting with anyone. They connect with me and want to date me, but I'm just not feeling anything for new people, even if I spend time with a new person I know this is because, I'm still attached to my ex. Ugh.
@@jauntydopamine4752 im in the same boat as you, believe my ex is in the same boat as well since she appears to be single still after 7 months apart
Thank you Coach
I cannot afford you at the moment but I’m learning a lot and all your videos are my lifesaver . Thank you for your priceless generosity .I was tempted all the time to contact my ex but I can hear your voice and Margaret’s in my mind “Do not do it !” I was sure half of the time that you’re wrong but I held on to no contact . After 6 months he texted me . All my anxiety dissolved but it was short lived the reason is that I texted back . He sent a picture of him fishing. I texted back and I didn’t hear from him again. My anxiety resurfaced but your voice is stuck Do not do it. I could barely control my anxiety so I blocked him to stop my obsession of checking my phone. Before I found you,I would be sending bullets of texts from my anxiety. Coach Craig and Margaret you are both angels of the heartbroken .
Your right about not taking advice from family. My sister suggested I ask an ex to meet up even if she broke up with me. I stuck with no contact....this is the best strategy to take
You are my favorite coach! I love watching your videos.
I’m so happy that I found your channel ❤️
Aug 15, 2020, he left home. He had another girl. He said he is looking for something he doesn't know what. He just knew that he was not happy anymore. For two weeks, I cried chase, and beg. Until the time I saw this video. I did NC. After a week of no contact, Sept 7, 2020, to be exact, he sent me a message that he will visit us for his birthday, Sept 8. He went here until the next day. When he left, he said that he will never visit us again. I did no NC again for another week. He contacted us again ( we have a 4-yr old boy). Since then, almost every day he was calling though he was just talking to our son. To cut the long story short, after 2 months, on Sept 14, we were talking until he said he wants to see me. We will have a date tomorrow.
Thank you, Coach Kenneth. Not just I have my ex back, but I learned a lot from your videos. You are right about self-love, self-improvement. I did. I become a better person, I know he is, too. I trust NC, I trust the divine timing, I trust God. Who am I not to trust.
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Coach I think you should make a part 2 to this video! I think strategies on how to deal with your ex parter being in a new relationship soon after the break up is needed. Not only because it's a tricky situation in which we can easily ruin chances of any reconciliation , but we also need strategies on how to be able to move forward and work on ourselves while dealing with that pain and wanting to be reunited with them at the same time. Friends and family also mess that up because they encourage you to hate the person and cut them off completely. There's not much information on how to handle that
I second this !!!
You helped me so much Craig! Thank you!
Just made a comment on one of your other videos. If I feel I'm not getting the same feedback I've learned to just leave it alone and move on it hurts but it is what it is. I move on. It still hurts but I will no longer ever, ever beg again.
So how would you attract your ex back if they have an avoidant attachment style?
Don't be too clingy or needy and keep your distance. I have avoidant attachment style and I do get really interested whenever woman keeps her distance. But ever start contacting too often, sending too many messages etc. Let them come to you on their own pace. This of course can be a challenge if you want/need totally different things and can't cope with the distance. Trying to learn away from this kind of attachment style as I don't consider it healthy for myself or my ex or my future gf.
@D V NC actually happens to be quite topical for me as well as my ex contacted me after 1 year and couple of months. Just called this monday out of the blue and wanted to talk about my email address being the contact info on her son's PS4 ;). Talk about indirect contact.
@D V Honestly I don't think it makes any difference if you are avoidant or not in the case of no contact. In my opinion you have to stay in no contact no matter what. Also as far as I understand and how I feel it is that avoidant have the urge to connect just like anxious ones but I guess the difference is that in the long run avoidant personalities simply do not need as much attention, closeness etc. as anxious ones.
Craig, you are TRULY this generation’s relationship Plato!! (Marg is definitely Aristotle!)
I can’t wait for my email coaching with you.. you are brilliant!
These strategies, and your professional advice, has truly changed MY LIFE.. and because of that change, my children’s lives have been changed. In result, you saved my family, and many others, for generations to come 🙏🏻♥️💯
Hi Jennifer,
I’m curious to know what you are going through & what you have learned from the coaching?
@@franklivingston4858 also.. forgot to mention.. I’m beginning a ministry.. and a lot of how I will help people, will come from how THEY HELPED ME!
Isn’t that world changing? 🙏🏻♥️🕺🏻
@Adriene Smoldttl nahh.. I’m good lol. My relationship with my Heavenly Father is pretty solid. Thanks for the offer tho!
Good job buddy!
Hey Coach Craig I'm back my phone had messed up on me so I wasn't able too listen too your videos I still thought of yall
I can't what for a video next weekday
Hey Coach Craig, very helpful video. What are some books that you can suggest reading about attachment styles?
I have to look. I have entire playlist called Understanding attachment styles traumas and injuries :)
My girlfriend broke up with me just 4 days ago, we were together four months.. Im having a real hard time not much because of guilt (it was my fault) but because of memories of her, of what we used to do, moments, etc. Craigs videos have helped me a lot but sometimes I can't help thinking of her and that really puts me down. Sorry about my english, is not my native language.
Hey Craig, we've Skyped several times. I'm going back through your videos yet again. I was always doing my own research about attachment styles and for months I've been convinced my ex has an Avoidant Attachment style. After what we talked about in our last skype and my reading I'm starting to think she may possibly have a Disorganized Attachment style. I don't think you've really gone in depth into that Attachment style. I would love your input via a video. Just a suggestion/request. You're the man and have helped me so much. Hope you are well.
Nice video coach
I've done no contact and yes it works but tbh narcissists will always come back. If they are not narcs, you don't want to ignore the person you love for long (three weeks works) and you can only do it once otherwise you become the one perpetuating a toxic cycle...no contact is for your health, not the reunion.
Hey Craig this is James if things you have told me on this seems to be working but I want to learn more about attachments thank you so much
I am adopted but I think I am anxious because I need to hear from the person all the. When I don't, it hurts
Great advice! Thanks for videos (they gave me hope when I was devastated) I used no contact and it worked just like you said!
Hi. I did those mistakes last week. Will the no contact rule still apply after I pleaded and begged? Thank you. I stopped talking to that person for 5 days now since I went to their place and pleaded for forgiveness.
Hey coach I'm new to yur channel and im going to say that yur channel does make me feel pretty good about myself I just started listening to yur channel lastnight.
Can yu help me with this, me and my ex girlfriend broke up 3 and a half months ago and she tells me that she wants me to do better for myself and that she's alot happier with out the stress of me that she can breathe again does this mean that she's over me I found out that she went to Vegas and she had courtside seats to a laker game does this mean that she was cheating or did she really move one please coach help me I just want to know. I miss this woman so much we lived with each other for 3 years how can she just drop all feelings for me. Was she over me along time ago or what?.
Are they really wanting to get back together or they’re just testing the waters? They have to
say something significant and not just “I miss you, I’ve changed, I love you.” People need to know there are consequences for their actions and they need to make it up to you and regain your trust and make sure you both meet in person to ask them questions to really make sure that they won’t break up with you AGAIN! You have to be serious the second time around.
What do you do if you thought they made an indirect approach and you asked to hang and they rejected you saying they already have plans.
Thank you for what you do.
Hey Coach thanks for all your help. I was a total mess after the break up. I watched a bunch of your videos right after the breakup. It funny listening to your videos with a clear head now. I did the email apologizing for everything I did and even sent a text that said I still love you. That didn't work lol. I did no contact. Its been a few months since the break up and I didn't see or text her for just over a month. I seen my ex at work for the first time in months. I was in a much better place in my head. I smiled and said hello. About 30 minutes later i got a email from her asking me to give my dogs a big hug for her. I emailed her back and chatted with her for a few min and I told her I had to go get some work done. I didn't bring up the break up or ask her to come back. That was a few days ago. Im not really sure what to do at this point. The no contact helped me heal. Now what lol
Update?
Same. We cant be friends with them and can’t ignore them. Where do we go from this point?
@@andrewg6372 you mirror their actions!
it;s amazing how many things you can learn from your videos...
and i am not even paying for all those tips!
a few months ago i went to a therapist (really famous in my country)
i was really sad beacause i had a bad break up, i didn;t know what to do...
i said that i was missing him, that my ex decided to break up with me and when i texted him he didn;t even answer..
well the therapist told me to visit my ex to the place that he was working and try to talk to him...
i said (to the therapist) i can;t do that, he didn;t answer to my text, why would i go to his place unanouned????
the therapist said that i must follow my heart... and i remember saying to him 'im sorry, am i paying you to tell me to follow my heart??? !
i never went back to this therapist, i wanted to send him a link with ur channel so he could learn some things...!
still here coach...to your channel after 7-8 months!
Therapists are not trained in break UPS and friends and family give terrible advice!
If you like my videos you'd love my Skypes ;)
i would love to ask some questions directly to you, to be honest i was thinking for a skype talk with you,
i would love it
You would love it :)
Well do it :)
Coach Craig Kenneth what is they keep contacting u even tho u broke up with them & they always reach out every 2-3wks & keep making excuses to text u yet doesn’t come bk even when u give them a geeen light because u know they are insecure yet disappears & keeps coming bk especially when drunk pouring their feelings. I’ve never reached out to them even tho yes I miss them & regret myself breaking up with them.
i love all your videos but!!! i have been with my ex- frp 17 years and we still live together. he told me he was not happy 1 month ago and the same day he was out dating and sleeping around. Is hard to move as is very expensive. hes dating girls 25 years younger, now one of them is been calling me and telling me awful tings. he said he broke up with them but was reluctive. I am still moving out.... i cant stay there I hate it and is hard
You said, if he contact me, I should NOT ignore him... what about if he has a new relationship now
Can you make video on easing anxiety after breakup?
Is your advice applicable only to men whose wife/ girlfriend has left them or can this also be applied by women to get their boyfriend back?
As someone who IS adopted, I'd be interested to hear your insight into how that may effect attachment.
I lost my ex a year ago. we were together 6 years and got engaged at the end of our relationship. I loved her very much. I became depressed and she said she had enough and I needed to work on myself and live my life. it hurt really bad hearing that from the woman I love. is it to late for me to get her back. I'm just now getting better my career is going great. haven't talked to her in months. should I text her?
Does this work for long distance relationships?
Craig how do u keep the ballance between analyzing people u date n evaluate their behavior? after 3 years of therapy, reading books n watching videos I sometimes catch myself analyzing.. N guys don't like tht at all.....
Hi Craig, i just want to know for how long should i stay away from her to make her miss me
Hey Craig☺ i was in a relationship for about two years.My ex girlfriend broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks I cheated on her but then I never cheated on her .Out of my anxiety I made a mistake in pleading her to be like a friend which she rejected.She said shell never get back to me.so I maintained no contact. After few days of no contact she started texting me saying she wants to be like a friend just like i asked her in the past. But then I realised being friends is more painful and I gently said no to her . Do you think I made the right move.? Will she come back to me? How long do you think I should stick to my strategy?
My ex broke up with me two weeks ago. After several times getting back together she now says she has no feelings for me. For the first time ever she has blocked me everywhere. Do you think it is really over this time?
I was in an abusive relationship. She was emotionally, psychologically, verbally and physically abusive. We have a daughter. We had an argument that turned physical, where she gave me permanent scars... I held her wrists and because of that she used the event to have me arrested. The crown withdrew the charges because they see what happened. It’s been two months no contact, and yet even now, I still wish that my family was together again.. of course without the abuse, but I miss her even despite everything. Having a tough time with all of this.
God, that is truly horrible. I'm really sorry you went through that, I hope things turn around for u. I had somewhat of the same thing happen to me but I threatened to leave my ex if she didnt seek help and get treatment and she did and things got much better but unfortunately she broke up with me recently and I really don't understand why
Hello Craig! I would like to sign up for 1 hour of call coaching, but I do not have Skype. Can you do the session via phone without Skype? Thank you! Lois D.
Hi craig where I can hear your applebee´s story ? I hear you talked about that in your videos
You know i'm very lucky that i've seen this video on the right time !!!!!!!!! my ex just reached out to me saying that she miss me and it've been only 4 days after dumping me like i had no value but i saw all your videos and i kinda understand her because i had too much anxiety of losing her and made it too obvious so i can't really blame her after all but i'm really confused right now i don't know what to do
How did that go
Hello, what is the way to contact you and have a conversation and ana advice? Thanks
Good advice
Hey I'm rlly scared. We were together 17 months and outta no where she lost feelings. What do I do
Hello Coach Craig,
Was dating this girl for 2 months but she dumped me stating she doesn't want a relationship because she isn't ready for one. I'm sure I rushed into the relationship with her. She seemed to lose interest all of a sudden. I've talked to her since breakup about her snapchat story (a week later) - car broke down. She talked fine for that day and became cold and distant again two days after. Since then, I've deleted her from my social media (fb, messenger, snapchat, IG). It's been a couple of days but no response yet.
What are my chances?
Thanks.
My x unfollowed to me on Instagram while I was not contacting her almost from last 9 days. Though she didn’t block me and I am still following her. But she unfollowed to me. What do you suggest why she did?
What should I do if I ignored my ex when they texted me? I made this mistake and now I'm in complete panic.
how did it turn out ?
I already tried to get them back, 2 times, still got rejected. At this point I don't want him, I've tried so hard for the past 3 years wasting my time/thinking of him. I feel like it's time to move on (He has a girlfriend now, which is really when I made my decision about moving on. I feel like I lost him for good).
what if your ex sends you a letter even tho he broke up with you? what should you do?
I’m so confused on the not ignoring the ex. I mean what do u do if u feel like ur ex is stringing u along and calls when they feel it’s convenient for them in the sense that they use u for their benefit. Then u start to feel like a doormat, so when do u close the door to them to let them feel what it’s like to not have u. Cuz I feel like my ex knows that I will always let him in my life and he knows how much I love him but he wants to have his cake and eat it to. I feel like he has not felt the loneliness that I feel. What do u do?
i need help. my break up happened many times before but this time she looks more stron about her decision. we were together for 2.5 years. i exactly dont know wat to do. i am following a no contact rule since past 11 days and i am still no able to control my pain. days i get up with dry tears in my eyes. now her family is also not contacting and and she has blocked in on all social sites and ignored me completely.
Hi Coach Craig. Can you recommend us any good books for learning about love, attachment, & attachment styles? Thank you. Best wishes.
The hand written letter is supposed to be sent once you have done the growth and it is basically just for accountability not to get an outcome
Hi Craig,
My ex and I broke a week ago because he was too tired of the multiple breakups that I've caused. He also said that I was disturbing his study. I want him back so I decided to go on the no contact rule. It's been a week, and today my ex suddenly saw my snapgram which was an unsual thing. He never interested on seeing others' snapgram when we were in relationship, but now he sees mine. Is is a good sign? Help me cause I want him back. And what do I need to say to him after the no contact rule? I am looking forward to hear your advices. Thank you
Did your ex ever reach out to you??
My fiancé and I broke up after a huge fight. We didn’t talk for about 3 weeks even though we lived in the same apartment. We started speaking again and we both moved to our own places. We have been talking and hanging out often but no hooking up. I want her to want me back which I think she does. My question is, how do I need make anxious thus leading to attraction even though we have been hanging out.
I broke up with my ex for about 2 months now. We still see each other and talk in person as we are colleagues. It was a hard month after the break up as she has an avoidant commitment style and she showed no feeling about it. She talked to me as per usual but gets irritable and seems to hate me at times. This definitely drove me crazy and I could not place myself to which pathway I should go (move on, or win her back). I do love her very much and I definitely wanna win her back but, she told me she does not wanna be with me anymore. Despite, whenever we meet, things are just as per normal and it confused me. After watching the NC video and trying it, it did work and she did miss me and finally, she said she loves me still. However, NC is a huge challenge for me as we see each other every day and sometimes spend our breaks together(as per schedule). In addition, I have an anxious attachment style, so you can imagine how difficult it is for me. I am pretty much satisfied with where we are right now with my ex, but she also laid out a line to me that she is not coming back to me anymore. I have a ray of hope that we might be together again but, with the stage I am right now I do not want to be too confident and end up be friend-zoned.Please advise about this. Any advice would be a take away for me. :) Thank you
Me and my ex spoke after I did 3 weeks of NC, she said I can talk to her all the time and she told me are still thinks of me loads and sends me hugs and kisses even still called me beautiful, I replied and said thank you so much for your words, I think lots about you too, even tho she’s says this I’m still feeling anxious
What happened after
Ryan we are now back together and it’s even better than it was first time around
Damn, I tried that letter from advice from another UA-cam channel🤦🏽♂️ didn’t work
my boyfriend wants to "take a break" broke up after dating for 2 years bc of my bad behavior. he loves me s much that he spoiled me to the point i feel like a take control over him and that's the reason he cant take it anymore. but he still want to be friend and we stiil texting each other but not like we use to any more. i feel really sorry and realized that i was wrong. so what should i do? no contact ?
I wrote a letter on the next day after break up, I was lost and she asked if I wanna day something else so I did. She didn’t hate me, actually she cry and said I deserve someone better. It didn’t make her to change her decision and it wasn’t my aim, no after 2 months she is reaching out again.
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I left her due to my frustrations with our misunderstandings. I regretted it. Did no contact for a month. Reconvened in July. If I wanted her trust back, I was told to prove that with actions by showing her how much I care about her, how worthy she is, how much I want to be with her, etc. I did all of that and she tells me I'm the first man to show her she's finally more than enough for someone. But she can't get over the past of me leaving her. She has struggled with many people leaving her because of her anxiety. Last week, she broke it off even though she said this would be her biggest loss. Is there any hope?
I'm going through something very similar.we were together for 5 years and I regret taking her for granted and still want to make things right but I don't think I'll ever get the chance.Its been 3 weeks and I still dream about her.
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So if she stops by, and text's me the next day after and I don't respond and still haven't since yesterday, is that bad?
So if you've indicated you don't want to be just friends but they are now talking to you but it seems you are more friend and not advancing back to lovers what do you do? State again you don't want to be just friends then avoid them for a while or keep trying? That's the confusing part.
exactly... after a short period of no contact my ex started hitting me up often and we've hung out a few times but idk if she just sees me as a friend or shes testing the waters
I've tryed all of this. its not helping me at all. I thought I've been hurt before from pass gf but nothing comes close to the pain im in now. I would rather have broken bones than a broken heart and a broken home. I feel like im being gutted like a fish! No man will ever love my ex the way i love her.
Sounds like a worthless girl tbh.
My ex broke up with my right after our 6 month anniversary saying that he felt too strongly for me and it was distracting him from some business decisions. A month after he broke up with me, he did reach out with the excuse that he was changing our amazon account and going to sign me out, but just wanted to let me know. I wasn't overly friendly, but just matter of fact and to the point and didn't try to continue the conversation going. He's been seen in my office sitting in a meeting room next to my desk and then a week later he found a way to run into me coincidentally on his last day as a contractor in my office building. He also hasn't signed me out of his Amazon account and he has left things at my house. We haven't spoken for about a month since I ran into him on his last day at my office. Should I reach out? I was totally the shiny new me when I ran into him last that has worked on herself, but I feel he should be the one to reach out...I don't want my anxiety to take over and try to control things. He should reach out right? It's been almost 4 months since we broke up and I haven't initiated any contact at all. Help!
So, um, I had a fucked up childhood, because of that I have anxious attachment style. I think everybody can agree that the secure attachment style is the best, the most ideal, no questions asked. How do I completely change my attachment style from anxious to secure?
Yes it’s work with me and I’m not sure now I want that man in my life again .he text and call to apologize and see what I’m doing in my life .but I don’t know what he really WANT
Going through this right now & this is the second time she did it
Craig...my ex moved out 2 months ago..we we were together for 3 years and had overcome huge obstacles to be together. we've been communicating everyday whether positive or negative since he left and I admit started because I reach out due to anxiety which I've learned from you. I want to know if it's too late to start no contact? Do I still have a chance of reconciling this far after the breakup?
I wouldn't want to speculate on how to handle the situation without more info. Just sign up for a coaching so I can really help
Tracey Sacco-Paz who initiated the break up ?
My breakup with my ex 2 years a ago..... Recently I met him.. N he said ll be a frnd... But I need him as a lover not frnds.. I cannot live without him... I need him back... I dono wht to do!!!!! I know tht he have some feelings on me... But he doesn't show.... He is not in relationships with anyone... I was the first n last love for him... I need him... Can u plz help me.. To get him back into my life!!!!
I need help don't know where to start been with my girl for 18 years with 3 kids we never got married she told me she loves me but she's not in love with me anymore please help I want it to work been out the house for three months now I have to come down here to sit with the baby while she goes to work every 4 days out of the week so I have to see her (she keeps saying get myself together) she says she remembers all the bad times more than the good times
What I should now because after 4 months of separation I realized to adopt no contact rule and it’s been only 12 days since I have stopped emailing and leaving him voicemail messages. Do you think it would help me to bring him back? Thanks
update?
I sent a letter after a couple weeks of NC. Did I just screw myself? Did i lose any separation anxiety I may had in her?
12:05 Boy this sounds like my ex GF... She did exactly all those things and when I cut her off she sent me a letter. Though nothing would've made her come back, she was just incredibly abusive.
In regards to not ignoring an ex, what if they reach out while they're dating someone new? Would it make sense to ignore then?
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What if you ve already ignored them? Does it mean you lost them for good?😿I was hurt ,and I coudn't reply to his msg! I was trying to protect myself .
Tell them that. It will be attractive that you could self regulate enough.
hand written letter equals also the long text messages (10+) explaining why you should be together
oh my i laughed so hard with that guy in the park
So does no contact include not looking at their Snapchat story?? Not commenting on it just looking at it. Please help really need to know