How To Make Your Ex Miss You (From A Psychotherapist)
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- How to make your ex miss you. Do you want to make your ex miss you? Learn how!
If you are looking for REAL answers on how to make your Ex miss you, watch this video. Psychotherapist, Breakup Coach and Dating Coach Craig Kenneth explains exactly what you need to do.
This video goes into detail in why the No Contact rule MUST be used. I explain exactly what to do and why you must do it.
My Masters Degree is in Mental Health Counseling and I've been in the field since 2002. I also worked as a Behavior Analyst for almost 4 years.
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Wow u are literally the best relationship coach here on UA-cam 👍👏👏👏❤💕
Thanks Andrea! I've worked very hard to figure this out :)
agreed!! just discovered him 3 days ago and my mind has been blown
@@CoachCraigKenneth What if there are young children involved and you have to contact the person in order to arrange visitation, etc? Obviously ZERO contact is not entirely possible but could this method still be made to work somehow?
Yes he is the best
I want you andrea i dont want my ex
Dont be afraid to loose someone who is not grateful to have you...........amen
What if they were grateful to have you but you made mistakes that pushed them away
@@-1nterruption-960 yes I feel I did the same. She was really into me but between her deep insecurity and me making mistakes which undermined her trust, it started a slippery slope that ended with her cutting me off
You're not on their situation so shut up.. you know nothing.
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This is the truth
They only come back if they care, If they broke up with you and you never hear from them again, Move on and show them what their missing, They'll regret it someday!
Is this guy still posting do you know?
@@philipzanoni I have no idea, Sorry I couldn't help
@Love Family huh?
@Love Family No never message him
Right. I was dumped in my twenties by this girl who thought she had the world by the balls. In my thirties I saw her getting drunk in this cheap tavern and inebriated she walked over to me and expressed her regret for having left me. She said she was never able to find a better looking fellow after me. That was a shallow comment, but it gave me a picture of what she valued. I could imagine she was working up the totem pole of what she thought was good-looking men and when she had me-a fellow who was maybe an 8 or 9-she was convinced she could capture Brad Pitt. Number 10 never came along and so now she's regretting her choices alone in a bar getting drunk to forget the pain. So you're right, they do sometimes end up regretting it.
"The quickest way to get someone's attention, is to remove yours."
Spot fucking ooooonnnn!!!!
Just do the no contact. If they contact you, then they care. If they don’t, then you know it wasn’t worth giving a crap about them and move on. You guys have lots of value, and you guys don’t deserve to care for someone who doesn’t. Best of luck to you guys ❤️
So hard to let someone you love go💔
We just call it love but it’s probably just the vibration of trauma from our childhoods.
I totally agree vile time tbh
So so hard😭😭😭
until you meet the better one
Aggree but also if you loved that person you forgive his or her mistakes bring the communicstion together to table and move back together but be honest open for everthing....
I think the no contact period only works if the person really loved you and you shared a strong emotional and physical bond . Which would get them thinking if it was worth letting go .
Yeah, they have to have formed some form of attachment in the first place.
AMEN so true
And if it "doesn't work" then look at how much pain and suffering you saved yourself by not mooning over someone that couldn't care less)))
...and if they're not in another arms already
I think it's the opposite- when my ex n I split it was like a piece of my soul went with him. We were best friends- but after we split I honestly couldn't stand the pain to still be his support. I told him so. I know he loved me all way.
Oh, man... i did it all. Cried, begged, called her friends and mom. That was month 1. Didnt work. 2 months in no contact and I do miss her, yes. Do I want her back? Not really. Theres someone better out there. You'll be fine folks. Love yourself!!!
I'm going through thud myself.2 questions...1 was there abuse? 2. If you get back wth her.can you post that?
@@sithblackmore7631 1. No, there was no abuse. 2. Will do if that will ever happen. But I doubt it.
I'm in it myself man..... 5 weeks no contact. She sent me a bill to pay. I cut the begging when I took a no contact course. But still nothing.
@@sithblackmore7631 do what you always wanted to do. You have so much spare time! I went sky diving and visited friends I havent seen in a long time. I met lot of great people! Week ago Id say Im too depressed to do anything. But you have to take that leap of fate. Force yourself to explore outside your sadness. Put all the photos of you and ex in a disk. Clean up you phone,pc, stop stalking social media. I know it sounds stupid but it helped me. Past week I did check her profile few times but why? Only things I could see there would be a false hope or a false bad scenario I'd make up in my mind. I said it once and Ill say again - love yourself! Stop punishing yourself for someone elses choice. Set yourself free :)
I'm going through all the things you posted Today.....It hurts but not as bad as the first marriage!!!
Who else just watched this and was like "Dang I already screwed it up"
I did on many occasions!
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Lmaooo
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Haahahha
Doing this with my wife right now she said she wanted to leave I helped her pack
Good on u mate out with the rubbish 👍
jabari thomas Keep the dog, let her go!! Lol 😝
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Lol
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If they leave, move on with your life. Don't chase them, it will only hurt you even more... Focus on you, get fit, go out and socialize, save money, change your job, do the things that you couldn't do before, if you have to then go and see and a psychologist (they help alot). I know its friggin hard because I have been there recently, you just move forward and never ever look back. It may take years to feel confident again, but its something to look forwards to :-)
Never stay with anyone who doesn't want to be with you because if it's forced that someday they will leave .At a point that you will understand .But will still feel broken about. Awm
what if they want but dont know it, or what if they dont know what they want?
So true
Jade Monde lol,Yes using logic. Awm
Do you believe in meeting the right person at the wrong time?
Jesse Boggis Yes
Jesse Boggis yes
No
I did. And we both fucked up. we both love eachother but it went so bad at the start we can't repair. fuck life, right? Naaaaaaaaaa
Definitely. I found in my case as soon as stuff gets them down like family problems or work your the one who gets pushed away. It's worse when all the drama goes away and they end up dating someone else.
I like how he mentions anxiety makes us lose empathy, and we should keep track of that. Many other coaches also recommend going NoContact, but they usually focus on what YOU can get out of it, and never mention about respecting other's feelings (or in general don't be an asshole).
Oh, I get it. During this "free time" it allows God to work on us and spend that time with him. So, in essence this is the time to work on us. 😉
I was wondering when someone was going to mention the Lord. I'm just giving it all to God and allowing him to work on my heart and mind. Letting him fulfill the voids I have and heal my brokenheart. If it's God's will then ok if not ok. Because I know either God will save him and make him a greater person or the Lord will send a greater person who's ready.
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Amen Sister.
LaTasha Ursin God to work on us? God doesn’t work on us! God already did that when creating us! It’s nothing to do with him. It’s up to us to work on ourselves coz it’s our bad behaviour that we’ve learnt along the way, it’s not his fault! Jesus, I take it youre a yank? You’re all bible bashing nuts aren’t ya? Lol.
LaTasha you're so right!! Thank you so much for your encouragement. That's like counseling. I have anxiety.
I'm happy I found your videos Coach Craig. Was in a relationship for 9yrs then faced a breakup for the last 11 weeks. Did all the wrong things getting her back before watching your videos. After watching your videos went "no contact" for last 6 weeks. I had given up all hope and thought it was over. She might have been also seeing other people. It was hard going no contact but I followed your advice in self improvement. Yesterday got a call from her and I went out dinner/dating and hanging out at her home again. We are slowly getting back together again. Thanks to you and Margaret. I will still continue to look at your videos on how to improve the relationship.
Follow up we are together again living with each other . I have realized as you said for continued improvement and always working on the relationship. Coach Craig & Margaret you'll are the best hands down.
Congrats that's great to hear you got to work things out! Did you ever get coaching or did you mostly just watch the videos? I can't afford to do any coaching but any tips or any resources that were helpful?
@@CozzyBoy any update?
@@nycrich425nice bro
It's not the Breakup that's diffucult. It's the Memories that Follow.
Talk to other people, exercise with music, and hang out with other girls. Post about how “good” you’re going.
Best advice I can give
Women have deep intuition and we can feel when the man is cheating or has someone new in the guys life.
Some of us men have that intuition as well. Mine was correct.
Kim Green, I agree and some of us men are good at intuitions as well. Believe it or not. Good point though lady.
I'm so happy to have my ex back truth doctor Lawrence you can contact him on whatasApp +2348115358008
Especially us empaths! I have always been an INFG and love learning about Psychology but I would never want any of my ex’s back. Being and empath and Psychology goes hand and hand. I love learning more and more from it. I believe that if a relationship is bad and one or both people in a relationship, (if it’s toxic, never feels right, or just doesn’t work) you just have to learn from them, always love yourself first if you want to be in a good/real/stable/happy relationship/truly love another, and always trust your instinct. Obviously this doesn’t apply to people who were in a healthy relationship and maybe it just wasn’t the right time in life for that relationship…if this video helps those that’s great. Just saying some people look to these because they loved a toxic person and if that’s the case I just wanted to share the hard lesson I learned myself so maybe it could help. Female or male never stop learning, trust yourself, trust your intuition, and your subconscious over your heart if it’s telling you things aren’t ok. Most importantly people will only treat you badly if you allow it. From one empath to others I hope this helps.❤️🙏🏽
Has nothing to do with gender. Men have same intuition. This is where our anger enters and some get violent.
This is absolutely incredible... He described exactly why my 7 years relationship ended up. Step by step I did all of these "mistakes" caused by anxiety
Me too
Going through this right now. We are 4 weeks into having broken up. It's so hard to work, and stay positive, when it feels half of you is missing. My only prayer and wish, is to get another chance with this incredible woman. I've done well with no contact and I've made major changes in me, to be a better man and love myself more then I've ever done.
It's ok buddy. Same here. I am 5 weeks in. I only just found Coach Craig a few days ago. I broke contact several times and sent rejection/mean texts. Now I'm blocked from everything. They will come to miss us. Give it time. Might take months. We got this.
Man I am exactly there with you. Exactly. We broke up a month ago. Saw her for the first time yesterday and she wants to stay committed to this breakup. Dang, I don't know what to do. She's my soulmate haha
@@fiercemillionaireproject3824 Bro just hang in there. I am now at over 2 months NC. I am working in the workbooks. Starting to see a gal I kinda like (I get it - it's likely a rebound) but I've come out of the darkest times. You will get through this. Just stick to the NC and get the workbooks if you can. It's a nice distraction.
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Absolutely true stop communicating with your ex completly, do what makes your life happy focus on yourself because past relationship is a sign that you've given a chance to look forward of the new things in life.
This man has given the greatest piece of advice on love/breakups ever.I have lost count how anxiety related insecurity breakups I've had.This and learning to love yourself are the keys.
Great advice. Going through a break-up now. The anxiety issues you spoke on are “spot on!” 👏🏽👏🏽
The Catt Chronicles Food Fun Fitness IMO you have Anxiety because of the unknown!! I was once like that.
106FM Catt hi update please
It seems like he's talking about me
Who’s here after a breakup??
My ex left me for some random guy online she doesn’t even know I know her in real life fuck her
@@WOOFxSTYLE bro same here 5 years
Who isnt
No, I'm just here for the shits and giggles bro
Me
Going through this right now. I'm reading everyones comments and its good to know there are others feeling the same thing. The video gave me such a good perspective. Its hard, especially when you didnt know how strong your feelings were until the break up. The advice here is so crucial. For me reading scripture and prayer has been so fulfilling and for as bad as I feel emotionally, spiritually my soul feels so satisfied. I love how he says about how an ex will back and look over how you are doing. Its so important to take the time to improve, reconstruct, and straighten out areas of our lives that were lacking. It has helped me so much to look forward to a positive future and not sit in sadness. Thanks for the video!
Man did she come back?
@@gowthams3723 You know its actually a crazy story, she did actually. We met again at a baby shower with a group of friends sitting at a table and soon enough it was just the two of us. The story doesnt really have a happy ending for me as we got back together in July and then broke up again in December but it was on my end that it didnt work, it just didn't feel completely right, which really sucks and honestly I regret the decision of not ask her to marry me. She was ready to marry me and we actually talked about it for a while and I have some benefit in that she had deep feelings for me before which helped. That being said what I did worked completely, so Ill tell you in hopes that if your in the same situation it works out for you. One working on myself helped a lot. She was so encouraged that I was reading scripture and spending time with God, this also gave me insight into her own flaws which I was able to be honest and tell her about. She actually appreciated, that, be very tactful here, because I could never see her flaws clearly asI wasnt paying enough attention to them, I wasn't really wise enough to see them and I think she saw that as being an unequal partner. Girls want to be challenged more than you think and they want a spouse who will help them improve as well. I also told her generally that I really missed her in my life, that there are things I wanted to do in life but then realized I mostly wanted to do them with her and that I had been saddened that she wasn't there to do them with. I told her I believed we were good for each other and that God had revealed that to me in the past months. Which in my defense I really believed at the time. We then agreed to get counsel over whether getting back together was wise and both came up with a list of how we had grown and improved during our breakup. She was very encouraged by my list and the conclusions I had made during our time apart which helped put her at ease that things would be different. We then set out a plan of what barriers and differences there were and how we would change or address them and we set physical boundaries to prevent physical attractiveness from distract us from our issues because that was a problem in the past. I also met with her dad one on one for dinner together to get his advice on everything, he always loved me though so that was not a hard thing to mend. With all this we were back to were back to where we were within a few short months of dating. Like I said it didn't work out in the end because it didn't feel entirely right in the moment and I struggled to get a ring and its honestly really painful looking back, I don't have much assurance now that I made the right decision in not marrying her, and I do miss her alot but I know how I felt at the time. That is life you make decisions and then you have to walk in them, you don't always get the clarity you thi with your ex or the next girl, in which case both will greatly appreciate the effort you put into yourself. If your in this situation I pray God will bring you back together if it is right. Thanks.
@@justinhetrick968thanks man this honestly gives me hope 🙏
Never gets any easier no matter how old you get or how many times it happens to you. Just remember never give up - time heals
Thank you so much Craig! I never thought about how my anxiety was the root of my relationship problems. Keep making these videos you're doing a great job and helping a lot of guys including me.
Thank you for the kind words Steven. It took many years and a lot of hard work to figure this stuff out! Every day I look to learn and share new things with you guys. If you ever want my coaching personally I'm here for you!
My ex lives life like a baseball game three strikes ur out
Good advice man. Anxiety is horrible. Always played it down when my friends got there heart broken. But damn since it happening to me it sucks. Really hurts man. NEVER LOVE ANYONE again
I don't think I'll ever LOVE another woman EVER AGAIN either. I want to do what I want
Hahaha, teaches empathy. Now you know how much others are in pain, you oughtn't look down upon them anymore.
One problem is breaking up with someone you loved. Another thing is breaking up with the Love of your life. That sucks. The one that seems irreplaceable
OMG. This is so spot on. I thought my bf didn't care about me (irrational thought)so I broke up with him but it was 100% anxiety!! He was hurt and totally cut me off. I miss him all the time but all I can do is learn from my mistake and hope that he might miss me and if he doesn't, then I learned a valuable lesson and my next relationship will be more successful.
I did the same thing. I hope you're feeling ok now
You should have apologized for your error and then asked for him to call you if ever wants to give you guys a chance again.
@@LifelessonsHurt I have tried but he's already blocked me on everything he felt betrayed apparently I guess what will be in the future will be.
Zehra Emin lol fast response, still have the anxiety, staying close to your phone? I’m going thru it now and I’m a life coach and know better haha. It just sucks. In time the bad memories will fade and he will unblock you and miss you. I’m 90% positive.
@@LifelessonsHurt yeah I agree well I work in mental health so I should know better too but you know they say we're always better at hekoijgbothers and rubbish when it comes to our selves and yeah probably I have been on my phone a lot lately I wish the best for you too time is the best of healers and trust in th universe what is meant to be will be. :)
My ex “lost interest” then stalked my social media for 2 months after no contact. I blocked her-had to help her out lol. I ain’t got time for the games. Onto the next one✌🏾
Too savage
How do u know she stalked u
“Had to help her out” 🤣
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Here while in quarantine and it’s touuuuuuugh🥵
gurl tell me about it. I just want to get dolled up, go out with friends an take my mind off it all but I'm stuck at home looking at the walls getting lost in my head about it all
Me too!
@@angeladelrio8865 We're all in this together. My ex broke up with me yesterday, been together for eight WONDERFUL months. And here we are. It literally came from nowhere, like rain from clear skies. I wanted to resolve our issues since this was our very first fight, but she refused to give it a single try to repair all this. Thankfully I live in Sweden, and you know. Here in Sweden, we have no enforced restrictions. I can literally go out this friday and get wasted and party. Is it smart to do so? Hell no. Will I do it? I don't know...
I hear you. 😔
6yrs doing it all together to a total stranger unable to even contact them. The worst to see them acting like nothing and flirting with others. How? Why?
...Damn.
I really want to make my ex miss me but I don't have an intention to start with him all over again. I just want him to feel what I felt when I was dumped by him. It's better to start a new chapter of my life because a life with him was like hell.
LoveMe,com we need to hook up you're pretty hot
start with me hahahah
That’s not a good way of moving on. Let it go, so you can heal. Anger, revenge, does nothing for you, forgive them, so you can be good to the next one you meet.
trust me sweety, if a guy dumps you, your done for it.
You probably lying, you probably treated him like shit. All women lie, I think your ex was a decent man. You say you even want to give him a payback. To make him feel like you felt. Smh. You no better.
"A disturbance in the force." Hahah that's exactly it!!
My ex reached out to me on the 2nd day I started watching your videos, after I had stopped caring so much about hearing from him. It was incredible. It was like there was a shift in the universe and he responded to it. I'm not sure how else to describe it.
I ended up giving him an answer that was a soft rejection: it communicated my needs and expectations without telling him that he needs to be the one to fulfill those expectations. If he sees a future with me, that's cool. If not, that's also cool.
when you ignore someone that has hurt you for 30 days and work on your mind to know your worth then you will understand this person is not in their right mind and they need to learn their worth as well.
Amazing! It feels like you’re coaching me personally, all the advices you’ve said, goes straight to me,. I have an anxiety/separation anxiety, (i think i have an intense one), so all of my exes just leave me. Thanks so much for your talk, such an eye opener,. I will do what you have said.. i think i’ve made a wrong decision when i’ve tried to force some things, actually makes the scenario worst. I know now. Thanks.
Look into local therapy. Also look into borderline personality disorder and see if you relate to any of those traits. If you do, there is still hope but it takes a lot of self work starting with seeing a psychiatrist or going to therapy to work on yourself before you can be with anyone else. Let me know how you were doing 😊
Well I got my ex back it took a month and 2 weeks!! Only time will tell after I thought he never wanted me again
Update? What did you do please reply
She dumped me for the 1st and last time.....
You lose a bit of yourself with her going....
I will never be that same person to her again
In return she can never be that same person to me again.
I am changing as I heal and keep lightyears between us.....
I Still feel for her..........but will not give her that energy.....
Indifference is my goal, its safe there.
Focus on yourself........
Anxiety is the worst feeling in the world, your brain is trying to bring logic and tell you not to text but then anxiety is like no don’t listen he miss you text him ........🤦🏼♀️😫 my advice take 5 hide your phone or call a friend but don’t text him.
I’m only 1 month plus in. I’m doing the work to work on myself! I feel so great listening to this video. I’ve been watching many videos dealing with getting over break ups. Writing, talking with friends and family, and now I will pick up a hobby and learn other things. Surely I have days where I actually feel my emotion. Many videos have said you NEED to feel it and not try to avoid it. O have I felt it! And now I’m ready to shift my life! Thank you Craig!!!!! You’re awesome!
It's crazy how girls just break your heart and leave you 💔😭
Yeah.. My girl just left me for another guy. Fuck love
Take each day as it comes. Keep walking forward, with each step, you become better. I’m in the same boat, I know how much it hurts but in time, you’ll feel better.
What goes around, comes around.
Bro im with you.. move on ,keep working on yourself ..she might come back to you .
It is fucjed up man.. I'm in the same boat too bruh. Lost and lonely. Everything seems depressing and keep wanting to message them and getting all those fucked up thoughts.
Guys break girls hearts too fellas!
Everything he says is the most amazing shit I've ever heard.... I've been with her for a year and a half,and I lost myself too,I developed general anxiety disorder while I was in the relationship and just left because it was too much for her.
Same here. It just happened. Are you okay now?
I don't expect her to come back to me but I want her to know how much I've loved her. That's the only reason why I want this to work. Getting her back would make me happy though
God damn... I'm having a goosebump hearing you speak for just a few seconds about anxiety because that is what exactly happened to me and my ex-girlfriend. Our relationship failed because of anxiety. All the words you've said are what exactly happened to us. Lashing, criticizing, withdrawing etc are the exact things that happened to us.
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through break up I know of someone who will help you fix your relationship issues
I never thought of the anxiety angle until you mentioned it. So true. Thanks for the enlightenment and for helping me (and everyone else) get through this.
Everyone seems to watch this after messing up...
Not everyone. In my case, she messed up. Cheating, lying, etc. I'm just the stupid idiot who was in this "forever", and willing to forgive. How do you even deal, when she says she regrets everything, still loves you, but keeps on doing it with the same guy? It's all very confusing to me. She says she can't forgive herself for what she's done to me, so keeping on doing it doesn't make sense to me.
i didnt messed up and i want it to work anyway
There can be many different tips and tricks to get your ex back. The majority of individuals are interested in doing this because they want to restore a previous relationship. Willingness to admit the mistakes that a person has made in the past is the first step to success. When people are willing to admit their mistakes it shows a sign of emotional maturity. Visit *MyExLove. info* If you want to get back your ex back
By the time they want you back you won't have feelings for them anymore and you will be in a new relationship or not attracted to them anymore
I did the same thing as this guy in the email. At first, she just said, let's take a break. Let's not talk for a while, but I didn't care about what she felt. I just thought to myself, no, I can't lose her. I have to have her in my life. I didn't care about her and what she needs at all. I thought if I let her go, I might lose her forever, so the next day, I texted her. She got so frustrated that she ended the relationship.
I'm heartbroken that it happened, but I'm also glad that she ended it. I needed the break up to realize what I was doing wrong. She may never come back, but it's okay. I respect her and her decision.
I am grateful that as painful as it was for her, she did the breakup. I'm grateful that again, as painful as I'm sure it was for her, she didn't give me any breadcrumbs to confuse me and slow down my healing process.
I wish her nothing but happiness. She made me a better person and I'm always thankful that.
Currently going through a breakup now that we both mutually agreed on. Since the split, it’s been really tough, but you just gotta keep your head up and focus on your purpose in life. Occupy your time and mind because an idle mind is the devil’s playground. If it’s meant for both of you to get back together, it will happen. If not, then life goes on. Time heals and time reveals.
So what happened mate did she reach out to you again
@@josephconradie5935 she did
@theoriginalone9030 wow mate nice to hear that,I went through a similar situation 3 months ago And I was a mess afterwards,she got into a relationship just a month after and told me she was unhappy she is still in a relationship now with this dude and I love her very much but time healed my wounds so I'm in a no contact now she also told me she will never take me back and the break up was mutual so confused
I just read the 'I see things coming to an end. I'll bring you your things' text. That was sent and unopened since 6 hours ago. Havent replied yet, glad I came here. 🙏🏽 sub for that
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He can also help you out too,,,
I have just recently split from the mother of my child after 6 years of being together , my son is now 13 month old and all i want is my life back , cant help but think that its too late as i have made her so numb to it all , it's hard for me to process atm but listening to advice and hopefulky whats for you wont go by you , love you forever ❤💙❤
My anxiety has shot right back up this week. Thanks for this video, Craig. Much needed.
Cmon man. I feel this pain. I hope you healed bro and are happy. We love you we are in this together
Wow Craig everything your saying about that guy is exactly what I’ve been doing
Messaging my ex, calling him , and mins started feeling like a lifetime.. till he got completely fed up of me despite him asking me for space .. he was unsure to let me go I knew because he would avoid either keeping me but would tell me don’t go .. however now my anxiety reached its peak and we broke it off completely but I would try this and I’ll let you guys know if it worked ❤️ I hope we all stop suffering and feeling this crucial pain inside of us
Craig Man I’m seeing success in my Relationship right now and I’m taking it slow. And letting her come to me. Because I was broken up with. No contact works !!!!
Like this guy. He's like Corey Wayne but doesn't insult those that email him and not constantly pushing his book (which is overrated).
I like Corey Wayne though he can be a bit crass at times.
Man when he read the “I thought if I took her to an antique shop she would see how much I love her” I laughed out loud so hard. I thought I was a mess when I got dumped lol
I was in a relationship with my best friend and because I was insecure I thought I was losing feelings but now she doesn't want to get back. I know I need to figure myself out but I can't stop contacting her. I won't contact her no more until she tells me she's ready to talk to me again. I really love her and I especially don't want to lose friendship. Thank you, Greg. You're so sweet and say not what I want but need to hear. You're awesome. And Coach Margaret too!
I was in no contact with my X for over 10 months now. We ran into each other at two parties in between but did not talk much other than acknowledge each other. About 1 hour ago, I came to know that she has started dating a common friend of ours. Thanks for all these Videos Craig, it did keep my spirits up and I worked on myself. Too bad I did not get what I wanted but I understand that I cannot control things. I'm a bit sad at the moment but I do believe time will heal me and I will look back n laugh at myself for being so melodramatic(and posting this). BTW, I just found a Humvee that I always wanted to buy, I will talk to the seller tomorrow. Humvee project has been in pending state in my mind for over 15 year, time has come to get that started.
Brilliant, I wish someone told me this when I was young. I had to learn the hard way. I would say that we go back because it seems like the easiest way to get rid of the hurt. Yes, we do it subconsciously and many of our behaviours have always been there, but nobody told us.
my ex got married 2 months after our break up. I can't believe how quick she moved on
imran khan I know exactly how you feel. I'm going through something similar right now.
In my case, and I'm sure in yours as well, the partner moves on long before the break happens. It's not that they got over you quickly, it's just that they had more time than you think to get over you! Don't worry about it. Even if they did move on quick, it doesn't affect how much they may have loved you in the relationship. It depends from person to person, and how often they've moved on before. Best of luck :)
That's what upsets me, behind closed doors this was going on. Thank you for your advice. Best of luck to you and I hope things work out for you.
imran khan I usually don't hate on the "bad person" in the relationship but that person obviously wasn't worth having to begin with if she would do something like that. I would definitely correct what you can by listening to Craig but Try not to beat yourself up. You should be grateful you aren't with someone like that. :)
Thank you:) we were meant to get married, thank god i broke it off.
imran khan Yeah that does suck to know. I can't even begin to say how much I sympathise with you. This is definitely one of the most painful things I've had to go through. Make sure you're filling your days with things to do so that your mind doesn't wander.
I feel like dying this hurts so much :(
I got news for you.. you are dying- to self. You are being broken and are being taught that you cannot control your own heart's desires. You can control NOT getting into a situation that the Word of God condemns or prohibits i.e. entertaining pursuit of a person that does not know God. God is greater than the human heart. The perfect God will give you rest if you are His child. It is God's peace what He saves us from when we heed, trust, and do what His Word commands.
Hang in there. It gets better.
@@AlexG-tp2ik It hurts. It hurts bad but remember Christians are not to be unequally yoked. By the grace of God, I will never again ever pursue a woman that does not have a genuine love and fear of God. If you build every relationship knowing that God values honor, integrity, honesty, servitude, and character AND also, that we were not to pursue a woman for marriage that does not know Christ as God her Savior----- It saves us A TON of hardship and fiery darts penetrating our hearts. I've failed twice in this and am just now coming to a place of acceptance that this woman does not know nor want Christ. She only acted like it to woo me and swoon me. I am hurting bad but God is still God. God is still good and still sovereign. I am not good and my heart is wicked and deceitful above all things. I trusted in my heart and am now suffering for my own unrighteousness when suffering for righteousness is what is expected of His people. Oh God forgive me for pursuing with my fleshly eyes and heart.
@@AlexG-tp2ik thank you ...your rite cuz it just did 5mins ago i now have a friend to talk to ...this girl just asked me for my number out of nowhere at the store lol ...thank you
I'm with you. I feel the same way!
Hi all, I just want to give hope to everyone, I know a lot of you almost feel in despair and lost the zest for life, and think it is the end of the world. I thought when we did not work out, I felt that too.
Many years passed feeling hopeless and low. But I met this amazing guy and we are so much more in sync, and I am head over heels in love with him and definitely a much better partner than my ex. I cannot even compare!
So what I am saying is, when the previous one did not work out, you will know why when THE ONE comes by. DO NOT SETTLE. Now I understand why and even if my ex comes back, no way! Just be your best self, and the right one will come to you. Believe in yourself. In the meantime continue finding solace in Craig Kenneth's videos. Thank you, Craig!
This is so true and anxiety can cause a huge rift and a ripple effect bringing on so many other problems and attitudes. Good points!!
Thank you so much for these videos I’m going through a hard break up right now and i have been in contact with her, your words have made me realise that’s not what I should be doing, I need to back off and live my life and if she misses me and wants to talk then so be it, if not hopefully enough time will pass that I’ll be over her anyway. Thank you you’ve give me great comfort. Peace ✌🏻
What happened
Thanx for making me realize how pathetic i behaved ha ha xD
Jorge Anibal same
I feel you...I been acting like a little bitch lol
I feel the same way
Sadly,,, I "out-pathetic'd" you ))))))
I was one whiney , needy little he-bitch ))))))
~. Hahaha wish i seen this video a week ago after these past few days i been pouring my heart out to someone who possibly been doing the "no cantact" thang to Me. Lol. Womp womp wommmp.!!! 😂
I feel stupid but glad i found this to stop being a sad lil pussy. Lol
Great stuff Craig, my ex GF asked for Space in January, she was in and out of contact with me, she would reach out and then disappear again and kept saying she would talk to me soon and explain why she had been so distant,
I finally decided not to reach out any longer and it's been 5 weeks now since I totally stopped and I still do not know why she asked for Space ! But im going to stay strong and not reach out and let her reach out to me.. not an easy thing to do as you know !
Modern day Dating and Relationships, are way to hard and complicated to deal with anymore
It's almost impossible to please a Woman, I'm 70 yes old and I have learned two things about woman over the years
1. Anything and I Mean ANYTHING can happen at any minute and it's most Probably not going to be good and a Woman is never Accountable , sorry but that is the truth.
2. A Womans feelings change like the wind, they are up and down like Mercury and I've seen their feelings change in a Split Second
One minute they are in love with you and the next minute, they just love you and dont want you,
Furthermore, these breakups usually come when everything in the Relationship is going really well., things are flowing and Solid
and then Boom... their gone
I have finally learned you can never give your heart to a woman, only a very small piece and you can NEVER EVER Drop your Guard, because once you do that, you are done !!!
The funny thing is I have a lot of woman friends in the 50 and over group where I live, always asking me why men are Afraid to Commit
Why wont men Commit in a Relationship.
Because they are committing to Insanity !!
All I can say is Good Luck and just know you never Truly have a woman, ita just your turn !! Stay Strong Guys
Focused on myself and after a month he came back. I thought he never would due to his pride and just idk. He was constantly shit talking me (I guess that was a sign of heartbreak and him not being over me) You were right about everything! Thank you!! We’re just friends for now but he mentioned wanting to get back together when he feels like he’s stable enough for it and has his life together. He wants to focus on bettering himself like I’ve been doing. I said I’d try being friends and see how I felt cuz I really wasn’t sure but I feel like Im slowly opening up to him again and he seems to really care about me again. He’s been so nice :’) I picked up skateboarding and hes been helping me a lot. Toughest thing is he’s 10 hours away in GA so there’s really no physically seeing and being with eachother (why the relationship fell in the first place) But hoping to see him when I visit Georgia for graduation! I’ll update again in the future! 😊 thank you again!! You’re my favorite dating coach! 💕 You’ve always eased my anxiety and got me back up on my feet confident and empowered. I’ve gotten my life together and become a really happy person without my ex. Now he wants to be a part of this happy life :)
This is incredibly helpful. I can't tell you how much pain and anxiety I was going throuth with this one girl. I've been obsessively trying to figure out what I did doing and how to win her back for a long time. The separation anxiety was probably so obvious to her. Thank you.
Have you managed to get her back? :/
I watched a lot of videos after my breakup to gain more understanding and I really appreciate yours and got the most from it
I've listened to this video so many times, it never gets old. Time & Space!!
I just went across this video and I want to tell you my story. An eight years relationship happy for a very long time with a little difference sometimes that lead to augments. Little by little he kept detaching from me and I use to notice, talk about it with him but for him was not truth, I just got tired of trying to keep the relationship going so I let him go he didn’t call me for two weeks and I just let it be so after to weeks he wanted to see me and I say no thank you. Until today my anxiety is gone I am happy and I am not looking for him to miss me. He make me so sick.
I listen to your video because is always good to know but if everything
Thanks for your video
Man, I wish I watched this about 4 days ago... I feel like such an idiot.
Its ok. All of us in some point idiots. Just let it go
Me too dude. I wish I discovered this channel a month ago before the argument with my ex started.
Never too late to do the right thing!
Yes exactly 😖 anxiety is the main cause I am going through hell😞😖 you are so cool every word you say is so true
Simon Magic tysm for your suggestions 😊
I relate to much...... I begged... I cried....i ask him other chance but everything failed...... He said he wanna see his life with out me....... Im here cnt focused my work n everything..... Now i really give up what he told me the last is if we meant to be if we hve faith then we are if not then we cn find better one.....
24 yr relationship, were “staying together for the kids” but she has expressed she has no love for me and wants space. Man I’m loosing it.
My wife said the same.. found out she cheated on me and divorced months later.. i had the chance on taking her down but was more worried about the kids.. still going through shit till this day.. shes with the Home Wecker and Loving herself.. found out her dude been with other ladies, just waiting to see what happens.. but dont think i want her after this mess..
My kids are my focus and cant wait to move on with them..
Good Luck Man..
Craig,
I am a straight male and yet I would like to say you are such a sweet heart angel.
Thanks Narayan
Anxiety can be caused because a one way love is a no no . There must be give and take equal. I have walked away all I wanted was to hear don’t worry I care for you. It took six years to wake up. Be strong . Don’t be used and have self worth.
Wow.. this Guy is good. U jst decribed they way I'm feeling right now. I'm seriously broken but I don't want to lose control over myself...😭😭😭
How are you feeling now?
It's the worst horrible feeling you can have I don't even wish it on my worst enemy ,which I don't think I have . When I found out 14yrs that my husband then was with someone else I had the same feelings that a lot of people feel I wanted to go crazy. I end up getting a divorced which I think literally broke my heart and now I have trust issues I try but have never been able to get passed it. I have had boyfriends but do not want commitments or wa nt anyone living with me. Afraid of making wrong choice and then feeling obligated. Those are my issues
I totally agree with you craig just let go guys. Stop communicating completely find yourself. Do something that make yourself happy and contented
I'm sorry. Sounds terrible.
Rebuild my friend. That's all I can say. You'll find your way again.
You won't always feel this way
Same thing happenin to me .. I’m scared of getting hurt again
Hello, Coach Craig I think that we in this situation let our hearts cloud our judgement. As always a good insight to breakup problems.
Video suggestion: When your ex gets back with her ex during no contact
Coach Craig, I have been listening to you since my break-up of a nine-year relationship (living together & engaged). I found you end of July 2019 and also purchased the 1st Knowledge book. Can we make the emotional changes we need by just doing the workbooks and watching your videos (repeat and repeat both) without needing a Skype coaching? This is possible, yes? Honestly, you have already made such an impact on me and I will say what so many others have said, I wish I would have sought you out when still with my man who I love so much. I did No Contact immediately and it has been 7 weeks now. I am going to be relentless in my personal growth as my break-up was a wake-up call as it cost me everything. I hope to be able to email you a success story although he is an Avoidant! I am staying disciplined 100% and I am Houdini. Your community is so blessed to have you and your channel.
Michele oconnell I can relate to your story. Also dating an avoidant (I’m an anxious) of nearly 13yrs, though didn’t live together nor engaged.
I too have purchased the workbooks - they’re excellent! Currently strictly 5 weeks of NC. Changed all my usual exercise/shopping locations, have lost 10kg/22lbs and booked an overseas holidays in 3 months time.
Very different to my usual style of begging and pleading. Very difficult, but it’s the only way.
Might add, perhaps I did try to ‘run into him’ a couple of times; THANKFULLY, it didn’t happen, and I had a reality check (DO NOT want to ruin all this work!); super important to renew our mind daily with these videos.
Keep us updated. 😊🇦🇺
Any update? And I think I know but what is an avoidant?
Update?
Wow this is sooo spot on. I had so much anxiety being with him. I didn’t feel secure later on in the relationship. Different things that he did added to my anxiety AND insecurities. So when I felt that he was pulling away, I would point out things he was doing wrong. I always had something to criticize him for, but that was really just my own anxiety and insecurities taking over my mind. It was nothing he really did to me directly. More so just things that he stopped doing throughout the relationship
I'm so glad I found your channel Coach Craig. This is the best advice I've gotten on UA-cam for this sensitive topic. Your advises are therapeutic and workable. Thank you so much👍
True
That email I can relate to so much. My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me last week and for the whole day I practically begged her to give me a second chance etc, but it just doesn't work. I should point out that this is an LDR, so the chances of us getting back together are less likely, but I will try my best! So I've just started out on the No Contact rule thing for 30 days, and instead of feeling stress or sadness of a breakup, I feel relieved. I am guessing it's because I know that there's a chance I can win her back and just feel positively motivated by the thought of us two being together again soon! Thanks for this video! :)
Like big distance does make it tough. Unless there was a real chance of the relationship progressing to when you could be together I would really consider just moving on.
Tom, did she come back?
Well, she did, but then I found out that she'd cheated on me with someone. So we split and I'm happy now :)
Ohhhh, sorry to hear that! At least it's working out for you now. But out of curiosity, how long did it take her to contact you from the day you stopped talking to her?
About 3 weeks :)
Hey Craig just wondering if there children involve and you have to talk or txt what you do in that senarios.....???
I totally agree that anxiety makes it difficult to feel empathy. But if you really love the other person, you will respect their desire/need to pull away. I am in this situation now, and the single greatest source of comfort is knowing that this is what he wanted, and that letting him go is the right thing to do. I respect that and can honor it, and eventually I know I will accept it and be at peace with it. After all, if he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me, coercing him to do so (even if I'm successful) isn't going to make me feel good about us. With that said, I still feel a tremendous sense of loss. Thank you for giving sound advice, if not a glimmer of hope....
I totally agree with you. I'm trying my best to make peace with the decision and be respectful about it, also give the dignity of myself as well.
You described me thank you...I am in need of dealing with my anxiety and behavior. I feel like I ruined my relationship with my anxiety of feeling disconnected with my boyfriend...
I'm a huge fan coach and Ive spend last month watching your videos since my breakup they've taught me so much! There are days where thats the only thing thats got me through the day! I just wish I had the available funds for coaching options as I'm really struggling with the anxiety of being apart from my babygirl.
All you have to do is go No Contact! And I mean act as if they dont exist anymore unless they really don't love you anymore other than that they will contact you trying to get back with you.
My ex told me he needed time and space so I reluctantly agreed. When I gave him the space he oh so wanted, he got upset and spazzed out on me within a week. I texted him back saying "I just gave you what you wanted." and he called me saying he just wanted to be friends, I refused to be friends with him and he got so upset he hung up in my face. I'm not sure what he expected ?
Yup!
Can't have it both ways.
If they're trying to have their cake and eat it, and keep all the power showing them that you have your own power will frustrate the other person like hell!
He just wanted to be " chased " lol but then regretted it and got frustrated and just counted his loss
Do you want to be with him?
The "let's be friends" is a cop out. How can someone expect you to be friends with them if you still have feelings for them or they were nasty to you?
That is so nasty. Im sorry you had to hurt like this. You’re same situation just happened to me last month; it’s been hard. I hope you were able to grow through the pain and you are better now. If so, please let me know 🙏🏾 it would be such a great achievement.
ure the best. this is my first day after breakup and i was experiencing physical and mental pain. first hrs feel like being a month. but after i found this video. everything just make sense now i understand what i felt how i got these feelings and u really helped me. I plan to do more research about these and focus on building my life. whether he come back or not eventually. I’ll be strong to love myself and embrace others in the world.
Got a heartwarming success story for you guys
Highschool sweethearts, started dating at 14/15. Dated for 3 1/2 years, she broke up because of many personal issues and communication errors (many my fault). We went no contact for 3 weeks because i trusted in craig kenneth and what people told me. I took a trip to jamaica with my family. We talked in jamaica and agreed to talk in person once we got back (we play sports together so when the season started again contact was unavoidable). She wanted nothing but friends and I respected that. Fast forward a month she cracked and told me she saw a future for us together, we've been talking through our errors and improving as people. We're casually dating right now but keeping thing spontaneous to experience the high school/university life while being exclusive.
Trust me, trust Craig. Work on yourself and become a better person and she/he will see that. If they don't want you once you improve then they aren't worth it.
Craig, I JUST found you on here a few days ago - GREAT WORK!!! Actually, a lot of what you say is similar to that other coach on here.. you know, that guy who uses the "F" word a lot however, I LOVE your personality and approach. :) I'll be booking a phone session soon!
Thanks for the kind words! I think once you begin to explore the depth I go into in my videos (attachment styles, trauma, etc) Youll see that I'm very different than any other break up coach :)
Look forward to working with you!
Thanks Craig! I do recognize the depth in your videos. I WILL be booking a session with you but I'm sending you an email shortly to consider for a video :)
Love and hate hearing this stuff. Learn so much but some of it is hard to hear because it is so true. Definitely learning alot about myself through this process
Pretty much went through this entire scenario exactly and ignored the warning signs. She asked for space and I was going through a rough time and needed some comforting and was focused on myself and my pain. Her response to it all was my feelings did not matter at that point because she was dealing with a lot herself...and I felt very neglected. We both needed opposite things from each other. it really caused us a lot of frustration and ended up pushing her away.
Wow Coach! man this so resonated with me! Made me reasses my behavior and working on my anxiety! Really started to tear up ! I deserve to follow you.
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I keep thinking Craig is wearing an earring on the right ear 😂 with background stuff.
Great video though. Thankyou
Craig, you’re the best relationship coach I ever seen in you tube.
Wow, now i understand why i had the anxiety with him weeks before we broke up, i thought i am sick.