BTT #65 - Should I Take My Ex Back?
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Topic suggestion from "Sebastian" who said: Women that try to suck you back into their life once you’ve left them and why it’s never a good idea. They will make all kinds of claims, use the most convincing forms of manipulation once they see you doing better/not giving them your attention, then when you do take them back, it’s the same as before. And men wonder why they keep having the same problems.
During this show I will cover:
Why it's generally a bad idea to take an ex back
When you absolutely shouldn't take an ex back
How to get her out of your house & life for good
When it might be appropriate to give her a second chance
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I was making 6 figures before I retired… now my ex wife has cost me greatly. I need to make it back.
"Should I take my ex back?"
Short answer: No
Long answer: Nooooooooo
I'd say only if you're the one who dumped her and not the other way around. And if you want to make her a fuck buddy and nothing more while you're also banging others.
If she's your alpha widow, she'll accept that even if she whines about it at first.
Very creative banter there dude. Mic drop
If you’re old enough it was definitely because you dumped her . Don’t go back you’ll just find the same shit storm as before
Bill Burr: Fuckin' nooooo!
If you're still in love with your ex you're really only in love with the person you THOUGHT she was not the person she ACTUALLY was.
Well said. It is the truth
Quite often our exe's are "Pod People", a creation they morphed into to attract us and maintained as long as it was useful to them. My wife of 24 years actually researched the new guy to mimic his hobbies, political leanings and favorite sports team.....found our all that shit on a computer she left behind.
Deep wisdom expressed in a few words. Mic drop is yours
@@LA-wv7gf You've described the classic "put in the friend zone". He's become her back-up just in case it doesn't work out for her. She's probably after a specific unrealistic criteria in her men and while he's good, he's not quite good enough to seal the deal for her, in other words he's being "strung along". Try and help him see that, be gentle though because when he figures it out it will hurt when he see he's being taken for a mug. Tell him it's "a right of passage" for most men so he's not alone and then tell him to view Rich's videos for education.
You're more in love with the security you had rather than the person. It's easier to live in the past because the future is terrifying.
Fellas ALWAYS remember there was a night where you were crying and longing for your ex. That same night she let another guy inside her, he slipped out, and she reached down to put it back in. LET HER GO.
hahahahaa
Bruhhhh lol. Not gonna lie that visual hurts…but yeah…it’s true.
Brutal, but true.
Lmao and there's probably a video of it all too
This is the perfect visual to help slam the door and never look back.
Never take her back. You broke up.for a reason. Focus on your money, health and move on.
Oh yes. Mic drop
I am glad my ex-wife is gone. And since my three teenage kids decided to live with me, she is basically dead to me . DEAD TO ME.
😃👍
literally dead? Sounds like this option would be best. I agree with your disdain toward exes...
Good Job Buddy 👍👍
@Omar Q its a process ...we're human
🤘 slow mo mic drop
Never take them back. It is always a waste. I was with my exe for 2 years when I decided the relationship needed to end due to so many red flags that I identified. A week later my ex visited me in the state I was doing an internship in at the time. She said she was over me already and just wanted to visit. The entire visit she played "men aint crap" music in my car and pulled out all the moves in the bedroom during the 4 days she visited. At the end she hit me with the "so what are we?" My incredibly stupid self did not stick to my guns. We got back together. We were fine for a couple of months and then everything that was a problem before popped up again, and this time more problems came up as well. Long story short, she became withdrawn. The sex stopped because she "didn't feel comfortable having sex" with me. She had no problem sleeping with me on the first date. After 9 months of being back together she suggested we break up and I agreed. This was my out. Low and behold, she was cheating. Guys, getting back with an ex is a total freaking waste of your time and money. I certainly complicated my life and then justified why I did it. DO NOT DO IT!
Every woman deserves a second chance. That’s why God made other men.
Amen brother, plus why worry about a problem that was already solved.
Mic drop in slow mo. Dude you rocked this clap back. Hahaha
Amen!!
Best thing I ve read all week =))))
Praise the lord brother!
Never take an ex back. Especially if they were with someone else after the breakup. Because almost all of the time there is someone else involved. Never become someone else's backup plan or second option. If you take them back they will never respect you and they will leave you again.
Preach. Hahaha 😂
Dr.'sorders strong words is wisdom there. Respect
Wokeupz you woke up got up and walked away. Great 👍 man. Legend
Look at the ex as tainted.. because they are.
This video should have been 3 seconds long honestly.
The answer is no.
Thanks man. Men like straight answers.
@Muzzy337 Ha?
@@Arcyamen 👍
you're helping more than any other guy in my life
It's all common sense stuff but sometimes we all need to just hear the truth from someone other than friends or our inner voice
My ex asked me where I'm moving I said onto better things
Epic
Good shit
Good Answer
Bruh, did you just quote Drake lol?
@@MrFlightman00 10 bands
Twice in my life I have broken up with girlfriends which took me almost as long to get over the break ups as the relationships actually lasted. In both of those cases I looked back years later and had no idea what I ever saw in either those girlfriends.
🙏🏼
Same here brother. Still recent but I developed ONEitis for a girl that never had (and still doesn't have) anything going on for her life
Absolutely!
Deep down I really miss the sex
Relationship 101. Never get back with an EX no matter what the relationship or dating experts say.
Ex: What's up?
Me: My standards, bye!
When you create options you don't have time to look back
It’s like trying the same parachute again,….when it didn’t work the first time!!!
Absolute madness! Move on and don’t look back!!!!😎
What a gut wrenching video but necessary to hear. The last 20 minutes I listened to 4 times so far. Rollo really put together some pieces that I couldn't figure out by myself. You guys are God sent. Thank you
Thank you very much Rich for helping me change my life. Ever since I've been watching your content about red pill, my life shifted dramatically for the better. I have read most of your recommended books and am continuously learning more. I feel more at ease with life now. Keep up this amazing work and hopefully more lost and confused men will also find sanctuary like I did from you.
I’m currently going through one-itis. I plan on watching this at least once a week to help me move beyond her. Thank you, Rich, for your excellent content and wisdom. Your channel has been the most cathartic thing I found. “She’s not yours. It’s just your time.” So true. And my time has ended with her.
You have to listen to this content everyday.
Red pill every day.
@@The88Nomad that’s what I’m discovering with this one.
Did you go crawling back, begging for forgiveness?
I too have to listen. I catch it in my mind in the moment but after I leave (kids mom) after dropping them off I come back to this. She wants me. But she wants her new found freedom at the same time
Men need to learn how to be ruthless like women, I let an ex get back into my life because she made me feel guilty about saying no.
Guarantee that if the roles were reversed she'd have kicked me to the kerb.
Wow... Described word by word exactly what my narcissistic ex did, I also felt guilty like a MF because she always said I am a manipulator, toxic, misogynistic, Weak masculinity man... She manipulated the s**t out of me and made me feel every kind of guilt and sense of self doubt that is humanly possible... She broke up with me 3 months after we moved togheter from Europe to Mexico... Literally one month in and she met a guy for "dinner" but he was just "an old friend that she met during the erasmus", she lied to me, she said she wouldn't go meet him and then she went anyway... Couple of months later and she left and came back to Europe, I went no contact and she freaked out and she recontacted me to come back togheter, I refused and I dodged a bullet... 2 weeks in now and I feel PTSD symptoms, anxiety and almost 0 self esteem after 3 years of intense relationship... Fellas, never ever depends on her, be the mental point of origin and never trust her words
"Women don't take ownership of their decisions!"
Just brilliant ❤!
To young guys out there Rollo and Rich are on key on this one. Guys once it is over it is over. Leave. Don’t make an ass of yourself.
Thank you very much Rich and Rollo. Men helping men. Iron sharpen iron. 😊👍😊👍👍👍
I will never take an ex back. Once she leaves that’s it. They only ride the cc and don’t improve and work on themselves.
I can’t tell you how much I respect and appreciate you guys. Excellent work, thank you!
Long story short I dated a girl when I was 23 she was a train wreck very narcissistic cheated on me we cross paths when I was 33 she swore she was different and a better person gave her another chance it was even worse this time so many girls are narcissistic psychopath’s master manipulators never take back an ex Took me years to get my life Back in order
damn they always come back hey!
Literally dealing with the same damn thing currently, best fuck I’ve had but boy it ain’t worth the trouble
@@MrM0NKEYZER0 Not all of them, but if you were a very good supply they will try,I was stupid though you should never take someone back that Miss treats you
@@dl6043 Yeah that’s how most of them Get you with the crazy sex and love bombing At first it seems like it’s worth it but as things get worse you say to yourself fuck this
I had an ex narc. She would hit me up off and on for over 2 years. Finally I had it during this pandemic. Even when I gave her ample time to own up to her crap she still refused. When I confronted her with her drinking habits and lack of maturity she didn't inquire, oh no. She blocked me. Rich is right, tell your EX to kick rocks. They seldom come back a different person. They don't work on themselves like you did. They've been riding the CC this entire time.
Great stuff guys! My ex lied to me, was texting orbiters and I caught her and then she had the audacity to put the blame on me lol needless to say... I bounced & never looked back. But she still won't leave me alone today... lol
pump and dump
It's like reading the same book and expecting a different ending.
Crazy how my ex fiance left me after i bought a house for her and stood up for myself because she crossed my boundaries. Now she has to move back home 4 hours away and live in a cramped apartment with her sister. I dont get how she thinks she can do “better” when I literally couldve offered her everything. She was a single mother, so I didnt really lose anything by losing her yet she would rather lose everything and start all over than be with me. If thats not a kick in the balls idk what is.
Fate did you a favor. Sometimes it gives you a front row to the s**tshow that is the ex's life..all you have to do is grab a beer, popcorn, and enjoy.
Same is happening to me now. She has to start over and nobody will ever give her everything like I did.
What did you expect? A f*cking single mother. You deserved it, but at least now you learned something
@@shadowtail4063 femalesdont think like men... they dont need this "everything I coul have offered her blah blah". They need a jerk, who wont give them even a peace of what you would. They dont appreciate this- sad, but facts
I think deep down inside they know, they just don't want to admit it because it makes them look bad.
Women never forget anything you do that pisses them off. A few major 'relationship ending' arguments poisoned the remaining few months of our relationship & my ex made my life miserable. It was a big 'red flag' & I didn't take the hint because I thought Ioved her & let fears control me. We both would have been miserable.
I was in a relationship with a girl for about 8 months and we could both tell it wasnt going well towards the end. I was overly attached to her which lead to myself feeling like I needed her and thinking that she was going to help me with all of my problems. We came to the mutual conclusion to take a break however, she ended up walking away from the relationship. It broke me. I was worried and would constantly try to call and text her asking if and when we were going to get back together and she was just not interested anymore. Eventually we broke up and were on good terms. We would talk like friends a bit after we broke up until one day she got rude an ugly with me over something insignificant. I was still very attached to her and I realised that. At that point I cut her out of my life and completely walked away. I havent spoken to her in about 4 months and dont plan on it any time soon. It is the best thing I could have done for myself. I ended up with so much clarity and self empowerment in the wake of it. I still suffer from a bit of “one-itis” but I am fully aware that there are plenty more out there and I’m commited to making myself the best version of me that I can. Thanks for the videos Rick! Love your input!
That bit at the end from Rollo about the new alpha imprinting on the female's psyche and thus going back to the beta being hamstered as cheating on HIM is pure GOLD. Holy shit I never really saw it that way.
Thank you Rich. I needed this today. Pursuing Excellence, leveling up is the only option.
I have a few ex’s who are Facebook friends of mine. I’m 55. The wall has been very evil to these women. One of them doesn’t look like she hit the wall. She looks like the Great Wall of China fell on her 😂
😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆
Taking ex back is like breaking In To Jail 😂😂😂
This was one of the best videos I've seen on this channel.
One of the best channels I ever discovered thank you Richard Cooper
Guys respect from the UK now going through divorce, age 46 getting in shape etc spin plates at my age? don't want another LTR amazing how many woman pop up now! Cheers guys
The bio chemistry aspect is such a difficult bond to break, especially after 11 years and 3 kids.
Oh bro, are you better?
I'm going thru withdrawals now
Yess it is, but I think itt may be easier for me, only have one child with this gurl,and we were only together for 4 years, was hard in the beginning, but watching these, it's getting easier
Had an ex break up with me because I called her on her BS. (Legit tried to have a genuine conversation to get to the bottom of what was going on) Instead of owning it and growing, she chose to avoid the topic and told me that I kept saying I wasn't happy with her, and that I would be happier elsewhere.
When I accepted the break up and went cold Turkey, she got stalkerish. Had to scorched earth her out of my life. One of the best decisions I've ever made, I can think clearly again, I have a peaceful life free from drama.
DO NOT fill up her cup. If she refuses to fill her own, get out!
Rocking the vending machine analogy is from a Seinfeld episode lol
I have never taken a X back in my 38 years of life. I also have never been married. I burn bridges and never cross them again. I’ve really dodged the bullet by being the way I am. People often wonder what’s wrong with me because I’ve never been married and stay single all the time while I’m also a tall good looking guy. There is nothing wrong with me…I just don’t like the idea of being divorced like everybody else. It’s a nightmare I knew from a young age i never wanted to experience
Unles she’s Amish I will likely never get married or live with a woman again. I’m cool with that
This is a great episode. Thanks, Rich.
Juice ain't worth the squeeze, it never was.
Ex boss, ex job, ex lover.. all have the same thing. Ex = past tense. Ex means it is over. Why look back? Did work the first time. No! Why do you want to look or go backwards? It is over!
It’s always interesting hearing the theory & reading the comments. ‘Do The Work’ is surely the key. On the job learning counts the most. Make the mistakes, assimilate the lessons, live thru train wrecks, account for your losses...then you will be bulletproof.
Too much other shit going on in the world to be concerned about female behaviour. I feel for the younger chaps who seek the advice to try & circumvent the crashes...but are still going to be moths to the flame in reality.
You have to live the experiences to learn & become Iron Man!
I’m surprised it wasn’t “no” *roll credits*
Lol. Nice one! 😁
Great episode Señores! Could not agree more and for that, I continue to be a fan. Just got out of a 8 month relationship and the Rules of Rollo started to kick in immediately!
Great video Rich! Puts a lot of your book and Rollos into focus as to “WHY” the machine is what it is. 👍
Love the flag on the wall, God bless our two nations 🇺🇸🇬🇧
Absolutely not. Did anything good ever come from that?
Spot on as always brother. My most recent ex, who you literally "wrote the book on", (tattooed single mom) lol checked every red flag you listed when it came to that.
I broke up with her twice, and as you described in this video, she really turned it on and "fought for us". 🙄 Waited till I was 100% emotionally reinvested, then like she flipped a switch, she just went completely cold, broke up with me, and being empathic, I could really feel she meant it!
Bahh well, lesson learned. I'm on to better things and she can enjoy being alpha widowed.
So true...we are suckers for the rubber band. After I left my marriage and reconnected with a girl I was engaged with from 27 years ago...we had an awesome time for 9 months and she imploded from guilt and we had to part ways. I thought she was a unicorn and we did try to get back again, and again....I finally said enough was enough and went my own way. I needed to find my new self and glad I did. She has tried to get back and I have refused her efforts. I'm soooooo beyond that nonsense now and it's thanks to your show and others that have helped me. Thank you brother!
Nailed it! You can't eat or sleep after a break up when you have oneitis
Some relationships are doomed from rhe beginning and the woman will know sooner when that is the case.
Then why not end it sooner? Or if it's literally from the beginning as you say, then why start a relationship in the first place?
I think that's not an uncommon thing with women, and it's pretty messed up!!
Because sometimes both are ypung, stupid and "in love" . It takes more rhan love to maintain a relationship.
It has to be good intention, support and even humor.
I hope you feel better now after you used that kind of language. Maybe i am maybe I am not who you said i am buy at least I am honest.
@@stevenmacintyre5912 I hope you feel better now after you used that kind of language. Maybe i am maybe I am not who you said i am buy at least I am hones
Begone Moby-Dick
I don't even have to watch this to know the correct answer!
Absolutely gems, appreciate you both
Rich, As always very good show. Thanks for all you do for the betterment of men.
I am 46 and just learning this. I thought I had a unicorn, but now after 20 years, 4 kids etc. She wants to move on.
I'm addicted to her and having a hard time letting go.
Going through all these feelings.
LoL so tough
Knight. For your soon to ex. She wants to have fun and is not thinking of the consequences.
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Same here, 15 years and 2 kids. Thanks to listening to these guys while married. When she announced she was divorcing me, It took me 3 days to get over Oneittis. I ditched the wedding ring and moved on
It's peri-menopause, a hormone induced midlife crisis nobody wants to admit exists because it negates 90% of the feminist argument for women in positions of authority. Trust me brothers, the woman who has it hit hard is not worth keeping, it's why in many cultures men had multiple wives...the original became intolerable.
The Red Pill brought me out! 46 and three kids! Child support!
48 here bud 🙄😂
I was young, stupid, selfish etc.. I was 21 got my 18 year old girlfriend pregnant, was having sex even though I didn't want to be with her anymore, we broke up and got back together multiple times, we wasted 23 years on a horrible, horrible relationship, went sexless after 7 years, I would get sex once, maybe twice a year for the last 16 years, I was considered an 8-8.5 even by her friends, I'm 5'9'' 195lbs 8% body fat at the time, she was a 6 at best, 5'6'' 230lbs for the last 16 years, I had one-itis for her, she cheated after 23 years and I was finally free, Don't ever get back together you will lose yourself and maybe never find yourself ever again
You’re killing me! “Teaching slaves to read” 🤠
It always ends up like you never split up after about a week or so. The same problems and feelings that caused the split rear their ugly head.
You tend to remember the good and forget the bad. For example, in the USA a lot of guys played football in high school. They remember the good times but forget that for 6 months a year they were in pain, sometimes a lot of pain. Bangs, bruises, pulled and torn muscles and ligaments, sometimes broken bones and concussions. By the time they are 50 years old, all those old injuries show up again. Taking back an ex is just like trying to continue to play the game. The cumulative effects of something bad takes its toll the longer you pursue it. In sports it's physical problems. In relationships it's emotional damage, financial problems and sometimes psychological abuse. Just ain't worth it. Even in the 1960s and 1970s the pop psychologists would always ask "What makes you think anything is going to change?" And for people with behavioral issues, 85% never resolve them.
I would never let my kids play football.
Nothing is worth lifetime injuries.
I loved what you said about breaking up for a woman was final but not for the man. There's a episode of Seinfeld where George was trying to break up with a woman and the woman wouldn't let him saying that breaking up was like launching missiles where both people had to turn their keys. Then him and Jerry were talking and Jerry said that breaking up was like tipping over a soda machine. You couldn't do it at once it took a few times of rocking it back and forth
Its like stepping in dog shit, washing it off your shoes, then purposely going back and stepping in the same pile again, its called INSANITY
Rich your laying down some priceless knowledge i have become a new man since watching your content
my favorite videos to watch while i workout
Short answer NO!
Long answer, never the same, what ever the issue was 1st time it will always be an issue, One of you will never really feel the same about it. Save your heart ache and just learn from it and move on.
Got your Tshirt DO THE WORK delivered today..Level Up, Stand Firm, Maintain Frame, Your Own Man..
My own mother broke up with my father when they were in college because my father refused to ask her to marry him. She started dating another man and months went by. My father finally found her and challenged her new boyfriend to a fight. Long story short they married and stayed together for over 50 years until his death. So that is that.
My girlfriend and I split up a few months ago because I still have not divorced my (ex) wife. She said she would come back when I divorced my wife. I am not sure what next move is with my ex-girlfriend but I think after 4 years of separation I need to finally once-and-for-all divorce my wife.
With my separated wife I left her after many years of staled loveless passionless marriage and went back 10 months later due to guilt from my children etc. I was never so miserable and hopeless. I left again after a year of that.
Relationships end because there are problems. The same problems that ended the relationship will still be there. In the interest of story time- 8 year marriage that ended two years ago with the discovery of an affair surrounded by heavy drug use. She was always a heavy drinking and when I stopped tagging along the affair started. When the party ran out, she knocked at my door wanting "to try again". 9 months into the "try again" the drugs/substance abuse and looking for other guys started again. One of the guys was a good friend of mine. She played nice until the need to return to those problems overtook her and I became the enemy again. Had to learn the hard way there was nothing wrong with me after working on myself. She was missing something inside and refused to seek help. As he said, if you're not seeing a genuine change in the problems, don't waste your time.
Sounds like a great party
My cousin once told me, if you take a drink of milk, and it’s sour, and put it back in the fridge, do you think it won’t be sour when you go back to it in a week?
Rich and Rollo dynamic reminds me of Spock and Kirk.
Real food. Not just stuffing your face with random fast food & mass gaining shakes. Props man
Keep them at arms length and only as a FWB unless they have violent history and victim mentality then keep far far away. Taking an ex back is showing you do not have healthy boundaries.
Man this content is beyond fantastic...TRUTH spoken to a T!!!
This is excellent as usual, but one thing with always spinning plates is that when do you know it's time to just take a break and go Monk Mode for a while and not deal with women? Like when would you say is a good time to take a break and for how long? I think now would be a good time for me personally to take a break, but when I come back I don't want to have regressed as far as game or sexual skill in the bedroom.
For me if I go longer than 2-3 months I find my game to be a little off, but not for too long. Anything up to 6 months or a year and it feels like I’m starting from the beginning and have no idea what I’m doing at all.
But the hardest part I’ve found is taking off again, it’s harder to move an object at rest. So “finding leads” and creating prospects is actually more difficult than any problems you might have from diminished game, because game comes back pretty quickly.
Either way it’s not that important so long as you don’t stretch it for too long. Women notice when you’re working on yourself anyway, and the more you “go monk” while being busy the more they want what they are perceiving they can’t have.
Can you do a show topic on healthy diets/proper exercise for parents so their kids don’t turn obese. It really jut baffles me how most parents lack this crucial education.
Basically all humans need to move and eat less. Easy.
Nowadays, in most cases, you will not even have a chance to get her back because of TikTok pop psychology according to which you are apriory "abusive" and "narcissist".
So it's not really about "taking" her back. Such option is absent.
The MBTI types may not be the be-all, end-all but it has often times helped me simplify the vetting process of my plates.
It’s just one of the tools that you incorporate with the grand scheme of TRP praxeology instead of a stand-alone filter.
Like if you’re an INTJ man in his early 20s without strong LMS, even an ESFJ in her late 20s would be a total nightmare for you.
Hi Rich another great episode . If your looking for new topics to discuss. I have a thought., with a lot of men now taken the pill . And are improving the frame life choices and money. I would like you to cover some ways to combat loneliness as all the above pursuits are solo improvement. Human nature tells us to socialize and dependent on personalities some more than others. Your thoughts your ideas thanks Rich .
In some ways seeing an x again after a period years is nearly always a good thing, it reminds you how lucky you are to have escaped. ..None of them improve with age. l've had women that in the space of less than five years have become unrecognizable ham planets or crypt keepers.
They can morph into their tru self and actual real stable weight in 45 days !!!
@@johnpick8336 😂😂
Generally agree with the never take an ex back. But if kids are involved does that make it different.
This is absolutely essential stuff after breakup. Guys, listen to Rich!
.SHE'S BEN GOING OUT THE FRAM...NEVER TAKE HER BACK...
If it's only going to be a repeat of the last couple of break ups... Don't take the witch back.
Great video. Most guys, myself included, don't learn all this stuff til its too late.
No. Next question.
Great episode fellas! Thanks!
I find the women who play the damsel in distress the most difficult to break up with because they act like you are destroying their entire life and they will never ever be okay again. And if you really love them but its just not working out, it's so hard to move on when they won't let you.
I did this 3 years ago, my one ex girfriend i really valued because i loved her and i still had underlying feelings for her, we had a relationship in our 20s it was the most beautiful relationship i loved all my girlfriends but this women i really valued the most, i was being pragmatic this time and wanted a more serious relationship and possible marriage and children, this had passed and she chose not to go out with her ex boyfriends as much as it really hurt me because i wantied more im single now at 35 this april 2021 and i let her go and i believe she found someone else but im happy for her as long as shes happy only thing i wanted for her, is her happiness, im just keeping preocupied with my work, home upkeep my gym and lifestyle in cape town ive moved on and just learning to become a better single bachelor and improve on my life. I have my qualities, my principles and values, and to grow as a better man and enjoy my life.
Thanks Rich this was very insightful 👍
Is was upset about ending a relationship, then my 17 year old son said “ dad your such a Fing Beta”
I was flipping mortified but the cold hard truth hurts.
Why does my wife (soon to separate ) still want to spend family vacation and camp and work out together? We have 3 kids and says she cares but not in that way and I know she has a “boy toy”….I feel like it’s good for dignity for the marriage we had for 18yrs and not be enemies and good for the kids…. But I am starting to think it’s not good for my integrity?
The answer is almost always nooooooo.
There may be a few (very few) exceptions, but I can only think if the both of you are more mature. Ex-es who've had problems/addictions, don't get back with them, ever.
Exs are called Exs for a reason.
Pretty much. Ex noticed I was making some serious money, contacted me after 5 years out of nowhere, we spent the night together and then I found out she was cheating on the guy she was with. I had some serious oneitis with this one so the whole deal hurt me badly. Never again.